Sometimes they don't talk! they just bombard you with flattery and oddities and questions. The last date two days ago tried to get me to drink his coffee when I had ordered tea. No, I don't want to drink from your cup and also I'm not mixing your coffee flavour with my tea flavour.....smh....
Bruh.. you just reinforcing the reasons I just don't date.. I'll just keep walking by the Spirit of God.. He's ALWAYS let me know if I should even deal with the person.. I'll keep following my inner GPS
Some good questions to slip into conversations during early dates: 1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us (partnership/ marriage)? 2. Do you have any kids - and what are their age? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities? 3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it. 4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one? (To less likely be his rebound woman). 5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests? 6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry? 7. What do you think a good man is? 8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself? (such as working on your impatience, procrastination, fitness level, building on finances, anger management etc). 9. What are you afraid to lose? (a way to see what's on his mind daily, are they material things, or people?) 10. What can't you live without? (very telling of his character).
The best thing you can do on a date is observe and let the other person be who they truly are. If you make the mistake of letting them know beforehand all your likes and dislikes, you may end up in a few months puzzled by this person's real character, wondering why did they change, how can they be so different now from the beginning. The answer is they didn't change, they just presented you with their best representative based on the treasure map you drew for them, they knew exactly what to do and not do to get you, then once they had you, they reverted to their real persona. Don't play yourself like this, the whole point is to meet someone who genuinely deep down is the one you are dreaming of, NOT to find a good actor !
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
@@renettaburley6620 AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT!
You must check everything and everybody at the door. When a man is interested in me, I go to the Lord about him first before I go on a date with him, I ask the Lord who is this before me, show me they intentions and spirit.
Its so funny I went on a date with this guy and it was at first a fun situation but then he just spilled all his guts and I realized we were not a match. I politely texted him after that we wouldn't work. He said " sorry for scaring you off". I just said "good luck to you". I feel very empowered to leave situations so thank you for these videos they actually help me quite a bit.
@Priscilla I had to reject a man two days ago. In-person, face to face. Now, on the surface, he seemed like a nice man but we literally had nothing in common. And some of his views and the language that he used was triggering for me. I'm in therapy so I work a bit harder at how I treat people trying to balance my safety and integrity with their safety and integrity. I felt safe enough to tell him to his face that I felt little to no connection emotionally to him at all and I didn't see that changing and I didn't think it was fair to him to be with someone who didn't like him as much as he liked them. I said you should be free to date other women. Then he asked me if I was a jealous person. smh. To be fair I felt a bit like tony said "48 hours" he cornered me in the conversation asking how I really felt about "us"? And I just lost patience and thought if you don't say this now that there is little to no connection, you are leading him up or down the garden path. Lol! he was very upset and I went home and slept like a log. Woke up to him asking for a second chance the next morning. I mean he was an attractive man to me and if I was looking for a fling fair enough but not a life partner. A lot of men just want a woman/ women so that they don't have to be alone but they have no concept of how to make a relationship work or even how to make life work. They need to go on a mentorship course indeed. us women are sometimes no better.
Once again..Uncle Tony Is absolutely correct. But. Since watching these gems 💎 , I'm more on point.. I went on a first date.. I met him at the restaurant. I didn't allow him to pick me up or know where I live . When I got to the restaurant, he was irritated. I asked what was wrong. This man said "I find it funny you didn't allow me to pick you up. What you have something to hide ? I use to be a cop, you know how easy it is for me to find out where you live " He also said " if you're dating other guys, you need to cut them off and focus on just me " Ya'll when that date was over, I was so done with him. His aura was so off. Thank goodness I never told him my last name etc . Uncle Tony be on POINT .
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! Yes INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I've learned to talk less and listen more. Being cool,calm and collected helps you to get just enough information to decide if you want to keep seeing a person or not. Thank you for this message TG
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
It is rough in these streets. I'm taking a vacation from dating for my 40 birthday! Lol! I have stayed single for 7.5 years after leaving my former husband.
Kayla, Make a list bucket list of all the things you want to do like it is your last chance and focus on it and be joyful and look your best and be out on your own so guys are not intimated by you. Life to short love yourself and it will happen. I got approached and I was not looking. Have fun for you. Spoil yourself girl.
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Mmmm thank you Tony have been waiting for a video like this ...you're right on time😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 I'm 24 and have been listening to you for a year now and have applied all your advice and now l have met a Godly man ...now I'm going through the videos again to make sure l don't make any mistakes .
Speak one listen twice always. Put yourself on your feminine energy, listen, smile be nice,ask questions here and there listen more than talk, LISTEN for real what they are saying; people love to talk about themselves you will know the real intentions of someone by listening them. Thank you for the advises Tony!btw the roles playing are making me rollliiiiin 😂😂😂
“You know Barack Obama say he used to smoke you see his lips purple” 😂😂 when I tell you I almost spit my juice out everywhere in my car!! This man a whole fool out here lol
“Im gonna try & tip toe around this… am gonna try to be a little easy with ya, but one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of single people, is that some of y’all is crazy.” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Oh my word! Thank you, Mr. Tony Gaskins. I thank God for preordaining and using you as a vessel of godly wisdom for healthy, loving, Christ -centered dating and marriage 💫! Also, your sense of humor and personality is so endearing 🤣!! Ladies, he is spot on ! I went on a five year inner healing journey seeking therapy, self-love, and physical and mental transformation, and it was painful and hard. I sought God's face, and it was worth it ! Now I am happy and whole and rotational dating (dating 3 men, while celibate) for marriage. I am having so much fun❤! On my dates we have fun! It's light and fun, and I bring my soft feminine energy and natural playful, cute nature! Men will let their walls down, and they feel so calm and trust me! I am defenseless, and I listen. If you're in your head before a date, do a few calming exercises like dancing, playing soft music, lighting candles, journaling, etc! You’ve got this lovelies 🌸🌹❤️🌷!
Observant, When you focus on evolving you will see what a person not doing for themselves. Which make the process of elimination much smoother. No harm no foul.
I was on a date like this. He was very surface level and all he did was ask questions so I felt like I was working the entire time. It was draining and I felt used. Definitely felt like an interrogation.
me two days ago. I could not find out who he really was. Dude even wanted to order the same thing as me. Thank God on the second and final date the waiter got the hint and suggested things for him to order. On the first date, I thought it was first date nerves to be so closed off....nope.. I still have no idea who he is as a person. despite speaking to him every day like Tony said to do after the date. He even said he was willing to change for me....which just gave me the ick. What 49-year-old man should be changing himself for a random woman?
Good teaching, I thank God for 2yrs Christian counseling which was one of my saving graces after my Sep and 'D' which ended 10/2019, Blessings Bro Gaskins to you and your family
You got me laughing. I just heard a new terminology, "lazy daters". Men and women not wanting to invest much into dating; money or time. This whole world is crazy. You have to be careful. Help me Lord!
I just know they ain't putting in the effort for whatever reason. I'm a person who put effort into everything unless there is something wrong with my spirit. Heck if I'm not putting in the effort, then I stop dating because something in my money body and soul is not in alignment. I practice mindfulness and I go to support and therapy group to get different perspectives. Even if I don't think something in my head intentionally, they know me well enough to pick up on my energy.
I love Single and Ready videos :) I will love to see video about peoples energy on dates . Many singles today are in they head, very nervous, and in the rush to leave a good impression.
Questions on a first date are important, but it's more about listening than just asking them. Don't make the other person feel interrogated - be mindful and get out there to meet people!
The fact I’m seeing this two years later !! God knows my man is coming and prepping me .. I wanted to tell you how well you articulated what I have been doing when talking to not just men but women too for friendships ! I would get called I’m too nice but I literally feel like I have mastered this so well people don’t even know I’m reading them and ask why I’m so nice 😂
Man the last date had the waiter order for him. lol! he wanted to order what I ordered. lol! I had the risotto....the waiter told him to go for a manly steak. lol! *Tears*
I appreciate your advise all the time. Since you give of yourself to advise people by keeping us on track and don’t let the loneliness get to us by over thinking to much. Great advise today. May God continue to shower you with blessing…..
I'm coming Tony if you do the seminar lol. ATL is only 3 hours away lol Charlotte would be closer haha. But we definitely need a 25 and under session bc it's a lot of us now in here during the seminar.
Thanks Tony!!!these are some great points for first dates because I always wondered on the first date what to wear , what to order at dinner, breakfast, or lunch. I am definitely using these tips Tony!!! Please keep these first date tips coming!!
Wear what you want and order what you want. Lol! Sometimes I wear a dress, if it's freezing outside I'm wearing thermal layers, pants/trousers and boots!! I make myself comfortable.
Tony you are so funny lol. I don’t know what people be tripping about. I been listening for a little over a year. This video series has been very helpful.
Have a check list of non negotiables in your head but play it off without showing any emotions that you're not interested once they tell you that they are not what you want Always allow them to feel comfortable & be themselves
My boss drinks the whole bottle. Lol! She's a woman. lol! Man it messes with your weight when you do that! She was a size 4 at the beginning of the pandemic and now she's like a 10! I gained 10 pounds but I'm back to my pre-pandemic weight and still losing. Yes, I drank wine every day the first 12 weeks locked in my home. smh. I couldn't walk up a hill I used to run up in Summer 2020. November 2020 I said no more and I got myself a personal trainer outdoors in any weather we train! No excuses.
Thanks for this tony! I’m guilty of coming across as too judgmental and talking to much 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ i have to keep it flowing and natural with direct undertones bc I do need to find out all the car fax over time but not in a rushing way (date after date) lol
Tony this video has been so informative. 😂You are so funny which makes the video even more interesting to watch. Thank God for for wisdom and knowledge. God bless.
This video was sooo good...totally who-larious. Lol! 😁Tony my question is this, u teach us that we shouldn't talk too much and expose too much too soon, but what are we suppose to discuss when ur dating a guy and we're supposed to talk everyday for an hour? P.S. Can u please consider doing a live zoom Q&A for the 40 to 60 yr old age bracket? That would be nice. Thanks.
When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Hey Tony, what are your thoughts on a man who will speak about his ex? Like why they broke up, etc. Is this appropriate on first date? When, how should such things even be shared? BTW your hilarious 😁
I just went on a date and Tony’s advice is on point…dude got cut of with the quickness he asked What are you looking for? Me: passed that one What qualifications do you want in a man? thanks Tony
Spot on❣️😩 I prefer to ask questions when get to where we’re going, but they blurt it all out in the first phone call. 🤚🏾Hold up, playa. What happened to natural conversation? It’s like flashing cash to me. Slow down ⚠️
Omg!! Yes!!!! These are the exact questions that are asked and being ran down just like that too lol..no causal convo over time to get these answers.just right away and upfront. It's important to know but learn as you go..body language and other details can tell you just as much on if it's even worth proceeding to learn all of that info.
Dating is not for mating, it is for collecting data - he talking 🗣️, and I'm listen👂🏽
Sometimes they don't talk! they just bombard you with flattery and oddities and questions. The last date two days ago tried to get me to drink his coffee when I had ordered tea. No, I don't want to drink from your cup and also I'm not mixing your coffee flavour with my tea flavour.....smh....
@@marleyhill34 wtf?
Right!
That part ☝🏽
Bruh.. you just reinforcing the reasons I just don't date.. I'll just keep walking by the Spirit of God.. He's ALWAYS let me know if I should even deal with the person.. I'll keep following my inner GPS
Some good questions to slip into conversations during early dates:
1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us (partnership/ marriage)?
2. Do you have any kids - and what are their age? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it.
4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one? (To less likely be his rebound woman).
5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests?
6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry?
7. What do you think a good man is?
8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself? (such as working on your impatience, procrastination, fitness level, building on finances, anger management etc).
9. What are you afraid to lose? (a way to see what's on his mind daily, are they material things, or people?)
10. What can't you live without? (very telling of his character).
The best thing you can do on a date is observe and let the other person be who they truly are. If you make the mistake of letting them know beforehand all your likes and dislikes, you may end up in a few months puzzled by this person's real character, wondering why did they change, how can they be so different now from the beginning. The answer is they didn't change, they just presented you with their best representative based on the treasure map you drew for them, they knew exactly what to do and not do to get you, then once they had you, they reverted to their real persona. Don't play yourself like this, the whole point is to meet someone who genuinely deep down is the one you are dreaming of, NOT to find a good actor !
So true!!!🎯🎯🎯🎯
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
You on point!!
@@renettaburley6620 AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT!
When I get asked on a date about my likes and dislikes I always say for you to be yourself that’s all!
You must check everything and everybody at the door. When a man is interested in me, I go to the Lord about him first before I go on a date with him, I ask the Lord who is this before me, show me they intentions and spirit.
Its so funny I went on a date with this guy and it was at first a fun situation but then he just spilled all his guts and I realized we were not a match. I politely texted him after that we wouldn't work. He said " sorry for scaring you off". I just said "good luck to you". I feel very empowered to leave situations so thank you for these videos they actually help me quite a bit.
I’ve had a guy do that but he pretty much ran off himself lol
@Priscilla whatever feels good for you. If you want to call you should. I just knew text was the best option for me.
@@mariahconklin4150 lol!
@@Musicfreaklolduh lol! he did scare you off. Lol!
@Priscilla I had to reject a man two days ago. In-person, face to face. Now, on the surface, he seemed like a nice man but we literally had nothing in common. And some of his views and the language that he used was triggering for me. I'm in therapy so I work a bit harder at how I treat people trying to balance my safety and integrity with their safety and integrity. I felt safe enough to tell him to his face that I felt little to no connection emotionally to him at all and I didn't see that changing and I didn't think it was fair to him to be with someone who didn't like him as much as he liked them. I said you should be free to date other women. Then he asked me if I was a jealous person. smh. To be fair I felt a bit like tony said "48 hours" he cornered me in the conversation asking how I really felt about "us"? And I just lost patience and thought if you don't say this now that there is little to no connection, you are leading him up or down the garden path. Lol! he was very upset and I went home and slept like a log. Woke up to him asking for a second chance the next morning. I mean he was an attractive man to me and if I was looking for a fling fair enough but not a life partner. A lot of men just want a woman/ women so that they don't have to be alone but they have no concept of how to make a relationship work or even how to make life work. They need to go on a mentorship course indeed. us women are sometimes no better.
Once again..Uncle Tony Is absolutely correct. But. Since watching these gems 💎 , I'm more on point.. I went on a first date.. I met him at the restaurant. I didn't allow him to pick me up or know where I live . When I got to the restaurant, he was irritated. I asked what was wrong. This man said "I find it funny you didn't allow me to pick you up. What you have something to hide ? I use to be a cop, you know how easy it is for me to find out where you live " He also said " if you're dating other guys, you need to cut them off and focus on just me "
Ya'll when that date was over, I was so done with him. His aura was so off. Thank goodness I never told him my last name etc . Uncle Tony be on POINT .
Very scary 😨
Wow 😮
Glad you made it out safely! Luckily you can't hide crazy for too long.
Him being a cop is a red flag enough...
@@shirlsshirls8594 I guess you missed the part where you should reserve judgement 🙄
Good points. Let that person speak, and don’t show judgmental responses. Allow them to be themselves, several times over.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! Yes INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I've learned to talk less and listen more. Being cool,calm and collected helps you to get just enough information to decide if you want to keep seeing a person or not. Thank you for this message TG
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Amen! It has truly helped me to eliminate nonsense and walking away feels like a super power.
Listening more to men than talking has completely changed my life lol. I
No sir, the WORST is when you're single after 17 years and don't even know to ask these questions....Please Lord show me the way.
It is rough in these streets. I'm taking a vacation from dating for my 40 birthday! Lol! I have stayed single for 7.5 years after leaving my former husband.
Kayla, Make a list bucket list of all the things you want to do like it is your last chance and focus on it and be joyful and look your best and be out on your own so guys are not intimated by you. Life to short love yourself and it will happen. I got approached and I was not looking. Have fun for you. Spoil yourself girl.
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
"I gotta hit me 3 glasses of wine, because stress is so workful." 😂😂😂 Humor mixed with great advice! Thanks, TG!!
😂😂😂😂 Tony’s humor is the best!!
Thought I was the only one that caught that 😂
I love the “don’t get picked up from your house part” thank you 🙏🏽 this is gold!
Mmmm thank you Tony have been waiting for a video like this ...you're right on time😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I'm 24 and have been listening to you for a year now and have applied all your advice and now l have met a Godly man ...now I'm going through the videos again to make sure l don't make any mistakes .
The role plays give me life lol! It’s real and so informative but hilarious all at the same time! Thank you for this truthful comic relief😂🤗🙏🏽
😂😂😂😂
Listening is humility. Answer the questions but don’t overshare. 💯
This video had me screaming! 😂😂😂
Tony, the predators hate you! Keep going! 💪🙌
Speak one listen twice always. Put yourself on your feminine energy, listen, smile be nice,ask questions here and there listen more than talk, LISTEN for real what they are saying; people love to talk about themselves you will know the real intentions of someone by listening them. Thank you for the advises Tony!btw the roles playing are making me rollliiiiin 😂😂😂
Tony is funny 😆
“You know Barack Obama say he used to smoke you see his lips purple” 😂😂 when I tell you I almost spit my juice out everywhere in my car!! This man a whole fool out here lol
“Im gonna try & tip toe around this… am gonna try to be a little easy with ya, but one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of single people, is that some of y’all is crazy.” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmbo
I LAUGHED SO LOUD LOL
@@ShesAbsurd me too!!!!! 😂🤣
😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂
🤣😂🤣😂 the role play is hilarious
For real🤣🤣🤣
Right! Lol 😂
It was "stress is so workful" for me😂
Oh my word! Thank you, Mr. Tony Gaskins. I thank God for preordaining and using you as a vessel of godly wisdom for healthy, loving, Christ -centered dating and marriage 💫! Also, your sense of humor and personality is so endearing 🤣!!
Ladies, he is spot on ! I went on a five year inner healing journey seeking therapy, self-love, and physical and mental transformation, and it was painful and hard. I sought God's face, and it was worth it !
Now I am happy and whole and rotational dating (dating 3 men, while celibate) for marriage. I am having so much fun❤! On my dates we have fun! It's light and fun, and I bring my soft feminine energy and natural playful, cute nature! Men will let their walls down, and they feel so calm and trust me! I am defenseless, and I listen.
If you're in your head before a date, do a few calming exercises like dancing, playing soft music, lighting candles, journaling, etc! You’ve got this lovelies 🌸🌹❤️🌷!
I bout spit out my drink when I realized "which relationship coach" 👀her date listens too!😂😂😂
Lol! Dead.
Ahh, thank you Tony!
I went on a date last night and just listened. I learned so much and the date went well.
“Episode off first 48” I am hollering laughing 😝 I love your examples LOL keep feeding & educating us 💪🏽🙏🏽😇
Observant,
When you focus on evolving you will see what a person not doing for themselves. Which make the process of elimination much smoother. No harm no foul.
I'm done with Tony after this...I was laughing the entire time!! I promise you the crazy men be rocking back and forth too
AAAAAAHHHHHHAAAAA !!!!!
I done hit the floor. TONY stop!!!
" See I need to just go on and get up!!!!"
Grateful for the laughs.
It was the Oprah expose for me. Lol!
@@marleyhill34 absolutely hilarious right!!!? Just rethinking about it, I'm laughing!
"Some of y'all a little crazy". Lmbo!! 😭😭🤣😂🤣😂🤣
I was on a date like this. He was very surface level and all he did was ask questions so I felt like I was working the entire time. It was draining and I felt used. Definitely felt like an interrogation.
me two days ago. I could not find out who he really was. Dude even wanted to order the same thing as me. Thank God on the second and final date the waiter got the hint and suggested things for him to order. On the first date, I thought it was first date nerves to be so closed off....nope.. I still have no idea who he is as a person. despite speaking to him every day like Tony said to do after the date. He even said he was willing to change for me....which just gave me the ick. What 49-year-old man should be changing himself for a random woman?
Lol he is so funny it’s the facial expressions for me ! Been listening to him for years though and he is always truthful and right on point
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i swear I love this man so much. Aside from the commentary thank you for the wisdom! Much needed. ❤
😂😂😂😂😂… this might be THE FUNNIEST (yet informative) advice video ever!…. “Cmon ma’am. You couldn’t have got a grilled chicken salad 🥗?!?” 💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣
Good teaching, I thank God for 2yrs Christian counseling which was one of my saving graces after my Sep and 'D' which ended 10/2019, Blessings Bro Gaskins to you and your family
You got me laughing. I just heard a new terminology, "lazy daters". Men and women not wanting to invest much into dating; money or time. This whole world is crazy. You have to be careful. Help me Lord!
I just know they ain't putting in the effort for whatever reason. I'm a person who put effort into everything unless there is something wrong with my spirit. Heck if I'm not putting in the effort, then I stop dating because something in my money body and soul is not in alignment. I practice mindfulness and I go to support and therapy group to get different perspectives. Even if I don't think something in my head intentionally, they know me well enough to pick up on my energy.
It’s the re-enactments for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love Single and Ready videos :) I will love to see video about peoples energy on dates . Many singles today are in they head, very nervous, and in the rush to leave a good impression.
I'm out to have a good time and relax when I go on dates! lol! Maybe I'm too old so not in a hurry to find someone.
Thanks!
Questions on a first date are important, but it's more about listening than just asking them. Don't make the other person feel interrogated - be mindful and get out there to meet people!
“Listening is humility” TG. Yes.
The Role Play🤣🤣🤣.. He telling the truth
I’m rolling 😂😂😂
The fact I’m seeing this two years later !! God knows my man is coming and prepping me .. I wanted to tell you how well you articulated what I have been doing when talking to not just men but women too for friendships ! I would get called I’m too nice but I literally feel like I have mastered this so well people don’t even know I’m reading them and ask why I’m so nice 😂
So MUCH PRACTICAL wisdom…. and aooo funny !!!--“Feel-let mig-none”-- I cannot !!!
Decency
How they treat the waiter
Communication
Man the last date had the waiter order for him. lol! he wanted to order what I ordered. lol! I had the risotto....the waiter told him to go for a manly steak. lol! *Tears*
“Stress is so workful “😂😂😂 that’s what happens when you drink that 🍷
A lovely way of changing a complaint to a positive way of thinking. Loved this Analogy.
Yesss...."not an interrogation, having a nice conversation getting to know someone makes the atmosphere relaxed
Nice Tony....👍🏼
I appreciate your advise all the time. Since you give of yourself to advise people by keeping us on track and don’t let the loneliness get to us by over thinking to much. Great advise today. May God continue to shower you with blessing…..
“This question is gonna make you or break you” 🤣
The worst question, “Why are you single?” 🤦🏽♀️
Yessss 🤣 or when someone says “You’re too pretty to be single”
I’m like there’s a season for everything, it has nothing to do with my looks! Lol
@@Authenticleatrice Lol, yes seems like everyone asks that question.
I answer questions with questions.😉
That's easy for me. Because my last relationship didn't work out. lol!
@@deliteful1991 Nah don't do that. if his head is on straight, he gonna be gone. When men do that to me, I bounce.
This was good. I sometimes be dumb founded on what to discuss on first dates. You're the real MVP Tony
I live in London England.. The weather is a safe gray topic. Lol! It's always gray!
He said stress is so workful 🙋🏾♀️ we get you though. Thanks for all your hard work and advice we really appreciate it
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I'm coming Tony if you do the seminar lol. ATL is only 3 hours away lol Charlotte would be closer haha. But we definitely need a 25 and under session bc it's a lot of us now in here during the seminar.
So true Tony you hit the nail on the head 🤣🤣 I laughed because I was asked once whether I work with the Police as a detective 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yessssss 🙌🏽😆
yes you do but don't let him know that. lol!
I love your videos because I know these are serious matters , but you have me crackin up at the same time! Thank you for all the good info.
This man is hilarious!! “Ya hear me?” *tony voice* FILEETTT MINONN SENT ME 😂😂😂😂
Bro Tony you are right on it with the impression of the woman verse the man voice 🤣🤣🤣. This is so good am Lmbo.
Tony should do like a first date etiquette: like how and what to order out, breakfast, lunch, dinner, should you take home leftovers, etc.
😭😂😂 this was hella funny how he was impersonating single females and males asking questions lmao
Awesome video…would love to attend a seminar for the women over 35. Thank you Tony!
Thanks Tony!!!these are some great points for first dates because I always wondered on the first date what to wear , what to order at dinner, breakfast, or lunch. I am definitely using these tips Tony!!! Please keep these first date tips coming!!
Wear what you want and order what you want. Lol! Sometimes I wear a dress, if it's freezing outside I'm wearing thermal layers, pants/trousers and boots!! I make myself comfortable.
Tony you are so funny lol. I don’t know what people be tripping about. I been listening for a little over a year. This video series has been very helpful.
Have a check list of non negotiables in your head but play it off without showing any emotions that you're not interested once they tell you that they are not what you want Always allow them to feel comfortable & be themselves
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What happens when you’re the talker and you already know they’re more quite and less outspoken. We’re both gonna sit there in silent! 😂😂🤣🤣
THIS!! I went on a date & I got so sick of talking & asking the questions that I just got silent thinking he would spark something up. Nope! SMH
🤣 stress is so workful Lol 😆 we need the tshirt Tony!
My boss drinks the whole bottle. Lol! She's a woman. lol! Man it messes with your weight when you do that! She was a size 4 at the beginning of the pandemic and now she's like a 10! I gained 10 pounds but I'm back to my pre-pandemic weight and still losing. Yes, I drank wine every day the first 12 weeks locked in my home. smh. I couldn't walk up a hill I used to run up in Summer 2020. November 2020 I said no more and I got myself a personal trainer outdoors in any weather we train! No excuses.
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Thank you Tony. Needed to hear how to take care in dating without pouring myself out and where to put the spot on. Thank you
It was the adjustment in the chair for me !! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 YOU CRAZY !!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for this tony! I’m guilty of coming across as too judgmental and talking to much 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ i have to keep it flowing and natural with direct undertones bc I do need to find out all the car fax over time but not in a rushing way (date after date) lol
Tony this video has been so informative. 😂You are so funny which makes the video even more interesting to watch. Thank God for for wisdom and knowledge. God bless.
LMAO, you're making some good points. I have to try to create a poker face because I am very blunt. 🤣
Me too, I’m just honest and it can be a lot for finaglers lol😂
Minute 1 is Gold: socialization, mental health, and meetups.
Tony, your role play as both men and women is HEEEELARIOUS 😂 and IMPACTFUL 🙏🏾😎✊🏾
Getting ready for work, twisting my hair, I'm glad I found you.
Thank Tony. Needed confirmation on some of these things. I am 👂🏽.Continued blessings to you.
That scoff after the credit score question has me CRIIIIIIIIIINE!!😭😭
Im glad I watched this before I went out 😭😭😭😂😂😂 I swear the woman to man list of questions is what I get asked by men. I feel like Im on first 48!
I swear Tony a trip!! 😂😂 the way he pronounced Filet Mignon !! Please do a tour or Meet n Greet!!
Scream.....Fil-let Mig-none. dead.
“This one is gonna make you or break you” 🤣🤣💀💀💀🤦🏻♀️ I’m guilty of this LOL.
Man he is funny but real 😂😂😂 “you got high before the date?!” Lol
This video was sooo good...totally who-larious. Lol! 😁Tony my question is this, u teach us that we shouldn't talk too much and expose too much too soon, but what are we suppose to discuss when ur dating a guy and we're supposed to talk everyday for an hour? P.S. Can u please consider doing a live zoom Q&A for the 40 to 60 yr old age bracket? That would be nice. Thanks.
The role playing lol 😂 so on point
the questions portion of the video had my dyin laughin 😂😂😂😂😂
When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Hey Tony, what are your thoughts on a man who will speak about his ex? Like why they broke up, etc. Is this appropriate on first date? When, how should such things even be shared? BTW your hilarious 😁
I RUN from men that talk about their ex
I just went on a date and Tony’s advice is on point…dude got cut of with the quickness he asked
What are you looking for?
Me: passed that one
What qualifications do you want in a man?
thanks Tony
Will take this knowledge with me moving forward!🤓📝
This was good!!! Hilarious 😂😂😂. Gems dropped!
Watching this video for the umteenth time til this is all just second nature. Dating today is wild. Thank you!
Thank Mr. Gaskins for all you do. You are my second Father.
God Bless you Coco! Keep growing 🌱
Tony gives the best advice for dating. Thank you ❤
Let me tell you:
If the man has another date tomorrow - that's a red flag, too!!!!!!!
Not necessarily. He’s dating around. That’s the purpose dating, even you are single and not in a relationship 🤷🏽♀️
Raw Truth Here... Some people just can't handle the Truth dear!
You’re funny! But so educational at the same time!
😂😂😂😂😂.. Some of y’all or crazy.. TG.. you ain’t neva lied..
Tony be having me cracking up every video 😂 like a big brother
I am over here rolling at those enactments Tony!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Great video!! 😉
If someone starts interrogating me on a date, I am getting up and taking myself home.
Thats how I need to be on dates. The more I smile the more they want to mold me into the perfect dummy.
I try to be the dummy more but I do not have a poker face. Lol!
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Spot on❣️😩 I prefer to ask questions when get to where we’re going, but they blurt it all out in the first phone call. 🤚🏾Hold up, playa. What happened to natural conversation?
It’s like flashing cash to me. Slow down ⚠️
I love it “whaaaaaa! You lyyyyin.”’ 😂😢
This is good for new friends too.
Sooo funny 😂😂😂… so insightful too. Thanks Tony
Omg!! Yes!!!! These are the exact questions that are asked and being ran down just like that too lol..no causal convo over time to get these answers.just right away and upfront. It's important to know but learn as you go..body language and other details can tell you just as much on if it's even worth proceeding to learn all of that info.
I needed this video. I go on a date with a guy I’m getting to know next week! It will be our first date.
The pink house at the end of street! LOLLLL