Me coming out to my Dad part 2

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  • @ughUSERNAME
    @ughUSERNAME 12 років тому +2

    "Your self-esteem comes from you, not from other people. And if you live your life with your self-esteem based on what other people think about you, you'll never fuckin' be happy." My favorite part. Your dad is awesome. :)

  • @towermoss
    @towermoss 10 років тому +8

    after seeing how badly some families handle this situation, it's nice to see a family sit down and discuss it openly and honestly. my best wishes to you and your family.

  • @jedknutson8373
    @jedknutson8373 10 років тому +16

    I'd be more worried about all of the cigarette smoking going on.

  • @danielgrondahl4172
    @danielgrondahl4172 10 років тому +6

    I am very proud of you. You DIDN'T chose to be homosexual. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. They don't know and they don't understand. I came out at 15 years old back in the 80s and it was the hardest thing and best thing that I ever did for myself. It is always best to be true to who you are. I am so glad that the America of today is a better place then it was when I came out, and that younger homosexuals will find it easier to be out. It makes me overjoyed that someone like you can even get married when you find love. I hope that you can learn to truly love this aspect of who you are and find someone to love and grow old with. Open your heart to the right man and be the very best loving husband to him that you possibly can be and the rest will fall into place. May all your journeys be filled with love and passion. I wish you the best.

  • @fayezahara2218
    @fayezahara2218 10 років тому +2

    Great last sentence from dad
    Basically saying don't let anyone vindicate who you are

  • @luisabieber40
    @luisabieber40 10 років тому +2

    supportive father and brothers thankful to god that they are not like others and good job david you always make things positive

  • @davidwm
    @davidwm 9 років тому +6

    Congratulations David, that took a lot of courage!

  • @123benny4
    @123benny4 10 років тому +22

    I hate when they use the 'God' reference. Well 'God' obviously had a different plan for the dude.

    • @sirplz1
      @sirplz1 10 років тому +2

      Amen

    • @hgrunt100
      @hgrunt100 10 років тому +2

      Preach.

    • @sirknightcape
      @sirknightcape 10 років тому +1

      are you a hater or am i miss understanding your comment?

  • @NovelNovelist
    @NovelNovelist 10 років тому +5

    Seriously, you handled that so well!

  • @BattleRogue
    @BattleRogue 13 років тому +1

    Wow, an authentic live coming out vid. I'm impressed. Your dad obviously needs a little time but he'll come around eventually. Clearly he loves you. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I hope you have a wonderful life.

  • @alfredonova6344
    @alfredonova6344 10 років тому +19

    I love the fact that his dad, even when he goes with the "God didnt make people gay" argument, he is trying to be a good father, just a father, by reminding him that self esteem comes from what you think of yourlsef, not others. He is trying to cope with a reality so new to him, and hes doing it very well. This guy is so lucky

    • @MrTucan13
      @MrTucan13 10 років тому +4

      Agreed. People are thinking the dad is wrong, but he actually took this WAY better than any of religious father would. I respect him about it,

    • @alfredonova6344
      @alfredonova6344 7 років тому

      Spider man I fail to see how you can't understand what I wrote. It is indeed a reality new to him. Either right or wrong, it is still challenging for him as a father. What I highlight from all of the situation is his putting his children first, before any idea (again, right or wrong) about homosexuality that he may have. It is not about me judging those ideas as false and wrong, it is about a father being a father rather than a bigot. Too much?

  • @HoraceGold333
    @HoraceGold333 11 років тому

    his brother is the key in this video. SUCH A SUPPORTIVE AND OPEN MINDED DUDE. listen to what he's saying. so good.

  • @MauriceRyder
    @MauriceRyder 12 років тому

    Great video dude. And fair play to your family. You've got an awesome brother there, standing up for you when it was needed. And fair play to your dad too. He was honest but still gives his love. It will always take folk a while to accept new situations. Hope you get to bring a guy home to meet them all at some stage.

  • @brennawalsh-newell5658
    @brennawalsh-newell5658 11 років тому

    I really want to give your Dad a hug. For a religious person, in the South, who is devout (and a little old fashioned) this had to have been difficult. But I can see him TRYING and listening! I really hope he's changed his mind since then. You're awesome, Dixie Boy, you handled something super difficult with SERIOUS grace and aplomb. Your parents raised you SO RIGHT! Your father will look back on this moment, someday, and be SO PROUD of both YOU and HIMSELF.

  • @xart23x
    @xart23x 10 років тому +2

    Good job David. You seem to have a loving father and brothers. You keep growing and being positive, and I bet that's all that matters in the end to your family. Gob bless you guys.

  • @kittenforbunny
    @kittenforbunny 10 років тому +3

    you're awesome, man. hope things just get better and better.

  • @zeek72358
    @zeek72358 12 років тому

    Good job presenting the new information to your family. As you know now, it takes time for each prson to absorb the news. Your dad did a great job! Please know how fortunate you are. In time you may be able to let the myths go too - but if not, it looks like you're making good progress finding a way to live your life despite it.

  • @mathewheninghem883
    @mathewheninghem883 10 років тому

    dude i think your a strong person for coming out and you have a supporting family and you have nothing to be ashamed of. i dont believe in god but if he does exist. then i think he's be more proud of you having the courage to tell your family and to be who you truly are :) much love to you brother

  • @zingalom
    @zingalom 11 років тому

    I saw this video about a year ago, and commented on it telling you how much of an inspiration you were. Well, since then, I've come out to my mother. My approach was different than yours. I knew i'd be dealing with a very dramatic, high strung, dominant personality. But the outcome was surprising. She basically said she still loves and accepts me, but doesn't agree with it. I just wanted you to know that you were part of my courage to do that. Just wanted to say thanks, man

  • @witterly
    @witterly 13 років тому

    Dad just hit the nail on the head when he quipped "That's the way God made us" BINGO!

  • @all4aching
    @all4aching 12 років тому

    I am so, so proud of you dude! I can see how difficult this was for you. I'm also really proud of your dad and your brother. I think that they handled your coming out very well. I'm sure they still love you very much. Stay strong dude. You are loved.

  • @user-dq9rr9mv3f
    @user-dq9rr9mv3f 8 років тому +2

    This is what luv looks like. Awesome vid..thx for sharing. I know it took a great deal of courage to do.

  • @ronMchannel
    @ronMchannel 8 років тому

    I just watch the 2 videos and I was really thought that it's a prank. Anyway, the reaction of your family caught my attention. Just wow.

  • @crybirb
    @crybirb 10 років тому +3

    Well, your family looks ok with it. You are lucky man, best of luck.

  • @MRBBJC
    @MRBBJC 12 років тому

    Thank you for sharing such an intimate moment. Your family is very lucky to have such a courageous guy who wants to be honest and sincere.

  • @TZ2OurLittleDogToo
    @TZ2OurLittleDogToo 12 років тому

    David, I loved your comment to your dad when he said he thought it was your choice, and you asked him if he CHOSE to love women. -- that was a perfect comment to show how we are wired is not something we choose. (And don't worry about the hell thing. That's what we go thru here on earth.) You were incredibly brave to have this talk with your dad, and it was great to share it for others who are in similar situations.

  • @aerbkn3
    @aerbkn3 13 років тому

    David ,
    This incident you filmed was very intense and must have taken a lot of courage .
    You and your brothers must be close to your Dad and are lucky to be able to be so open with each other. That 's so important.
    Your Dad loves you very much and you can tell that he wants what is best for you and your life. He supports you and you were upfront with him. I'm sure that made a difference to your Dad. He knows that you can talk to him about anything. In your life this is just one instance tha

  • @MikeBrochu1234
    @MikeBrochu1234 12 років тому

    You alright well said and your Dad`s pretty cool and i liked what he said in general about you. Im glad he has a open mind. Congrats!!

  • @RichardKhalil
    @RichardKhalil 12 років тому

    I'm proud of you, David! I'm 29. I came out to my family when I was 20. You were so articulate and courageous. I believe that every single person who comes out, does the world wonders. So, I thank you.

  • @twildabuckingham
    @twildabuckingham 12 років тому

    THIS IS AWESOME! i am from canada where coming out is an issue for a lot of kids, but in general, it is not. every country has it's ups and downs, but america can be viewed in the media as very extremist ("the most hated family in america" is the top recommended video), so I love to see you be able to say with a southern drawl "I am gay" and the way you put it was just perfect! congratulations
    and that was a good message from your father: self esteem should come from what you believe of yourself

  • @mario7dmd
    @mario7dmd 12 років тому

    Really nice to watch you take control of your life and be proud of who you are!

  • @kristenander2009
    @kristenander2009 11 років тому

    wow...that's family. Even though your family doesn't quite understand it yet that will come in time but all through this you can tell they truly care about your happiness. This made my day better to see an authentic look at what coming out is like. It wasn't gushy and all fairy tale "i dont care at all thats fantastic your gay" stuff. it was real and tense and showed how great your family is at keeping in perspective that this is only one part of your life. it was inspiring to see your bravery.

  • @outgiff1
    @outgiff1 10 років тому +1

    All in all I think it went really well. Your father wasn't trying to change you. He may need some time to be fully accepting, but if you stick to your guns, I don't foresee any problems. You should be proud of your dad, and he definitely has a lot to be proud of in you!

  • @GayGHvain87
    @GayGHvain87 13 років тому

    I think it was super brave of you, and you said pretty much everything that needed to be said. Also, I'm not a religious person at all, but I think you handled the religious aspect pretty well ! I liked the way he reacted, and then you had an actual conversation, very interesting to watch =) I wish my dad would've said more than 5 words to me when I came out.

  • @alwaysfallingshort
    @alwaysfallingshort 12 років тому

    Your dad's response towards the end is so encouraging. I love how he thinks about self esteem. This was really special, and I'm really glad you posted this online. It isn't only important for gay kids, but for people in general. You show people what a good, genuine family is.

  • @hiltonmorris5973
    @hiltonmorris5973 10 років тому

    im so proud watching this video clip, im proud of how this family is talking and dealing with this.... you go dad, for listening and giving his opinion.

  • @khaledsayyed2559
    @khaledsayyed2559 10 років тому

    good job .. and now you are full free of everything .. congratulations :P .. but i like your Dad .. he is very open minded .. and he loves you so much :D wish my dad was like yours ;)

  • @TruAgape123
    @TruAgape123 12 років тому

    Glad the family as a whole accepted you!!! Nice family connection here.

  • @acejs223
    @acejs223 13 років тому

    You have a good family and dont forget that even when things are hard. I have hope thanks to your video.

  • @quickdrawMMX
    @quickdrawMMX 13 років тому

    It took you over ten years to accept it, it may take your Dad that long too.
    But don't worry, he will.
    These two videos are the most compelling, articulate, intelligent and REAL coming out videos on UA-cam.
    I'm not religious, but the way you presented your views in a mature, researched way was absolutely awesome. You didn't beat down your Dad for having opposing views, you discussed it like modern adults. If only the rest of the world's table conversations had this amount of openness...

  • @peacefrog1916
    @peacefrog1916 13 років тому

    I can never imagine having a discussion like this with my family. Well done.

  • @peajay81
    @peajay81 13 років тому

    I think you all did very well. and it was cool that you are all so close that you can be that open with each other. also im sure in time he will get more used to it and be even more excepting of it. imagine how some parents have reacted to it. this is great probably compared to some. can you give us an update on how things are going for you? I hope well. and good luck to you and your family in all your future endevures.

  • @LeGette88
    @LeGette88 13 років тому

    i love when you said " i smoke weed", and your dad turns his head like "oh really?!?" lmao

  • @suzbone
    @suzbone 12 років тому

    YOU abstain, Kentonckaz. YOU abstain for your whole life, to please others. YOU spend your whole life alone, without love, without partnership, without making your own family for yourself, to please others. You go decade after decade alone, watching all your family and friends live their lives with love and family, until you die. YOU DO IT. The rest of us are busy living the only lives we get, the best we know how.

  • @Topher1286
    @Topher1286 12 років тому

    Well, this may not have been a fully ideal outcome, but your father obviously loves you and he was spot on when he talked about self-esteem. I hope everything is working out, bud.

  • @trevortrevortsr2
    @trevortrevortsr2 13 років тому

    David you did well - I'm amazed you went into future maybe situations - Your family are fairly grounded they will warm to the idea of you getting a b/f - they just want you to be happy

  • @Estio
    @Estio 12 років тому

    I'm very happy for you. You have shown a lot of courage and I am very thankful for sharing that with us. I wish you the very best friend =D

  • @pdcub5
    @pdcub5 12 років тому

    Congratulations!! Your courage and level of maturity are admirable. Your dad's comment about self esteem towards the end of the video is so true. I see that its been almost a year since you posted this video I hope that you are now more comfortable with your feelings and with who you are as a gay person.
    P.S your brothers are pretty awesome as well.

  • @AnimeFanOmega
    @AnimeFanOmega 12 років тому

    Thank you for this video, although I'm a little late on commenting. :P I came out to my parents and one brother not that long ago and I know exactly how you felt in this video. If you have any tips on coming out to friends it'd be much appreciated. Lol.

  • @poodlestyle33
    @poodlestyle33 13 років тому

    Thank you very much for sharing, that was a very real video and I appreciate being allowed to watch it. Hopefully I'll be able to tell my Christian parents and family someday.

  • @chasef89
    @chasef89 13 років тому

    This is probably the single most uncomfortable family conversation I have ever witnessed.

  • @TheYipedo
    @TheYipedo 12 років тому

    For a religious father, he's not too bad. I'd still go far away from them if I were you, just so you can be who you are without fear of consequences. Stay strong, my friend. Remember, millions of people are going through that, and have been through that. You're not alone; and more power to you! P.S. come to Canada if you want freedom =)

  • @jamesid2846
    @jamesid2846 8 років тому

    Absolutely epic. You had a tough audience there and absolutely fucking owned it. So happy for you mate. Well done. I hope you're happy as fuck and things are working out for you x

  • @alfre3000
    @alfre3000 11 років тому

    good Job man! you have a big pair! ... congrats :)

  • @erauprcwa
    @erauprcwa 13 років тому

    dude stay strong, it'll be a year for me in May of my coming out to my parents. Glad your dad took it well. Just be prepared for these religious conversations. I've read the bible front to back on several occasions, when people quote Leviticus, I continue with other bible quotes of things that people don't follow anymore. It's hypocrisy, just call people out on it and for the most part (in my cases) they take a step back and realize, oh, maybe the bible isn't 100% right

  • @CMIKE9783
    @CMIKE9783 9 років тому +2

    Great video!! I think you have a great/open minded dad. He isn't hateful. More like ignorant. Which can be easily changed. Thanks for sharing :)

  • @jarmstrong1931
    @jarmstrong1931 8 років тому +1

    Don't bother with ancient fairy tales...I do think this shows a lot of love and understanding...hopefully with time it will get easier for everyone💚

  • @me52
    @me52 12 років тому

    Tell your Dad I think he's a real cool dude. I can tell he really loves you.

  • @brunolima789
    @brunolima789 12 років тому

    i'm really glad that you accept who you are david! :D

  • @ashval08
    @ashval08 12 років тому

    Finished your videos, where the hell was this video when I was coming out!?!? :)

  • @blak3ck
    @blak3ck 11 років тому

    Being gay is natural, judging people based on a book written by a community of ancient sexists is not. Your explanation to your Dad couldn't have been better. I wish I could high five you for having so much courage. :)

  • @chasef89
    @chasef89 12 років тому

    I just noticed the end. Did you wear a tie just for the occasion?

  • @TheDavidcalle
    @TheDavidcalle 10 років тому +1

    i saw the bout parts im happy for you

  • @raisinhead2
    @raisinhead2 13 років тому

    There aren't many 'Live' coming out vids of this length. I think it will help kids who have religious parents.

  • @jhnwllms47
    @jhnwllms47 10 років тому +1

    It is really good to see a loving family. I know some father have a hard time with his subject. His father is a wise man and I feel he loves all of his sons. Men are going to do what they want to do.sexually. I hope and prey that God bless that family. It is really good to see men talking about this subject and not use such nasty words.

  • @lifeasacouponjunky
    @lifeasacouponjunky 12 років тому

    i really liked this !!

  • @zingalom
    @zingalom 12 років тому

    I know i'm late in seeing this. But dude... you're fucking awesome!!! I wish I had the opportunity to sit down and have a civil conversation like this with my family at 20yrs old about my sexuality. I've still yet to tell my mother. I've told other members of my family individually and most are ok with it. But my mother's the one i'm worried about. She's not the most logical thinker. I've been planning on telling, just waiting for the right moment. Your vid's definitely an inspiration.

  • @chasef89
    @chasef89 13 років тому

    I like how your dad says that being straight is "SUPPOSEDLY the way God made us". It sounds like he doesn't believe it himself.

  • @toutmoncoeur
    @toutmoncoeur 12 років тому

    i love that u dont look gay, at all :) keep it up
    ur dad was very sweet

  • @mikedm01
    @mikedm01 12 років тому

    Great conversation here mate hope it all works out for you.

  • @sknywhtboy88
    @sknywhtboy88 12 років тому

    That was very interesting, thank you. I've never seen a real, non acted coming out before, it was pretty cool. And for a guy who has some dumb ideas about gay people, you're dad is sort of awesome. Props to him for being accepting even if he isn't fully supportive. I think it's even more commendable actually that he accepted you despite not having such a great outlook on homosexuality.

  • @73mail
    @73mail 2 місяці тому

    Well done mate and I hope you're proud of your Father and your brothers for their very honest and caring reaction. You're Dad, a straight talking hetrosexual man emphasised how he loves you, he, in that moment, was struggling to understand how this would play out, what this would look like in terms of introducing partners, but this man is a hero. His love for you was not in dispute, not changed. Your brothers listened, they also had little time to form their real opinion. So well done you, very brave and I hope your family have grown to accept this as part of their family life.

  • @david195335
    @david195335  12 років тому

    omg i love your response! i couldnt put it any better then that! :)

  • @Tommyrazor
    @Tommyrazor 10 років тому

    From what I've seen they seemed to take it well, my only question, is did they truly take it well?

  • @sblake1989
    @sblake1989 12 років тому

    I certainly hope you don't have children.
    I'd be like:
    "You're my child. I love you. I will always love you. As long as you're happy and you're not hurting anyone, then I will always support you and your choices. I cannot wait for you to fall in love with someone who loves you back as much as you deserve. I cannot wait to attend your wedding if you choose to get married. You deserve pure happiness no matter who you love."
    And THAT'S how God intended it.

  • @PhilipJesus
    @PhilipJesus 11 років тому

    This is a great family

  • @RoxinRoxf
    @RoxinRoxf 13 років тому

    Actually the Bible never says it's a sin, it states it as an "abomination". The Biblical definition translates it as "taboo" or "unclean", but not sin. It's not really the same way we use the term since it was written some 2000+ years ago (go figure lol)
    Awesome vid, and your bros are hilarious! xD

  • @madtingz2288
    @madtingz2288 6 років тому +1

    The dad is so ignorant, some kinda fragile masculinity going on. Hope this boy is more comfortable and accepted by people now. He deserves it! He had a lot of balls to say it to them knowing how hard it would be.

  • @TobiStarGaming
    @TobiStarGaming 12 років тому

    I don,t know why i just watching these...coming out videos.....i feel weird now.

  • @AngloAm
    @AngloAm 12 років тому

    Okay, your family is sooo much more open than my family. We DO NOT TALK about masturbation AT ALL EVER. In fact we don't ever talk about anything below the neck. And that's how it should be. That said, you did REALLY REALY WELL!!!!!

  • @Face_Reality
    @Face_Reality 11 років тому

    if i was that dad i would feel REALLY awkward.. like i don't get a father vibe from him at all... he's more like just his sons' homeboy.. like wtf

  • @sblake1989
    @sblake1989 12 років тому

    I think it's cute that you think you're getting a rise out of me darling

  • @arturoamador3058
    @arturoamador3058 12 років тому

    Dont worry so much about what "the Bible says" remember that it is a book meant to humble the proud,inspire the defeated,console the grief stricken,andteach you the most important fact that God Loves you and is always,always,always with you no matter what remember that when you feel alone and unwanted by society. you are very brave I give you props for that. Now go and Live Your Life TO THE FULLEST AND REMEMBER IT IS WHAT IT IS. YOUR LIFE!!!!!

  • @sarutobib
    @sarutobib 12 років тому

    it was a nice video!! My family is extremely religious do you have any point you can give to me??

  • @peajay81
    @peajay81 13 років тому

    isnt it weird that the romans were very homosexually active and then when jesus and the jews and egypt stuff came about it was looked down upon? your convo just made me think of that and wanted to put that out there.

  • @david195335
    @david195335  13 років тому

    @salsburyp Thank you and yeah my dad is an old goon haha

  • @tdc19851106
    @tdc19851106 11 років тому

    My coming out was prettying the same way but we didn't choose to be this way and I may not no you but if you need someone to talk to or need support I'm here for ya

  • @Animagladius
    @Animagladius 11 років тому

    Dude, your profile picture is fucking SCARY. But I completely agree with your comment. :)

  • @leosmel
    @leosmel 12 років тому

    I was wondering whether it would be good for your father to watch a video clip of the series The West Wing. if you type in, ``The West Wing- Bible Lesson,`` it will be the third video on the list.
    You are an incredibly brave and smart man.

  • @JayAlfordElementJMusic
    @JayAlfordElementJMusic 12 років тому

    He can still have kids. Being gay doesn't stop someone from having kids.

  • @ElterribleMrKevins
    @ElterribleMrKevins 13 років тому

    Dude that was awesome

  • @iHollowinside
    @iHollowinside 11 років тому

    Gosh, you presented yourself great! Hahaha It's ok to like being gay. I definitely love it and I don't want to change that.

  • @leosmel
    @leosmel 12 років тому

    "That's how god made us." Can everybody see how dangerous religion can be?

  • @sblake1989
    @sblake1989 12 років тому

    Each generation is becoming more tolerant than the last. When your kids bully my kids, other kids will stand by my kids' sides. Hatred will NEVER win. Ignorance, prejudice, & discrimination are LOSING this battle. I'm proud to know that this is the case and I am truly sorry that you are either so pathetic as to troll videos on the Internet or are even more pathetic as to actually believe the hatred you spew. I hope that one day you find true peace, happiness, and acceptance. Have a splendid day!

  • @JostleCubed
    @JostleCubed 12 років тому

    3:18
    was that... mlp?

  • @Sciencedude011
    @Sciencedude011 12 років тому

    Your father handle it very well.

  • @sblake1989
    @sblake1989 12 років тому

    I am inviting love and acceptance into my home. If you choose to perceive that in a negative way, it's your prerogative. However, your prejudicial comments only make me more excited to teach my children of the love and beauty in this world and to preach them AGAINST the kind of hatred you're spewing. You are the reason why gay rights organizations exist and are flourishing. They work to combat talk like this. Please keep this conversation going and give them more power.

  • @neelp3078
    @neelp3078 10 років тому

    Humph... Why can't there be more people of his built coming out. I'm sick and tried of only hearing these skinny/fit guys coming out on UA-cam. -_-

  • @YaliAle
    @YaliAle 11 років тому

    Strong

  • @WWE4life25
    @WWE4life25 12 років тому

    is your dad ok? like are you treated the same as your bro