I have fibromyalgia, and I believe it’s a result of decades of narcissistic abuse. How would such intense terror and suffering, over such a long period of time not knock your brain off it’s axis? You cannot learn when you’re in a state of heightened vigilance, and all the energy you have is devoted to situational awareness. It’s an absolute miracle that I have a college degree.
I was a hardworking, smart, high performing kid up till the end of middle school High school is where the abuse got most terrifying and I failed repeatedly Got through college with great difficulty
It is so true. I have been in toxic relationships almost my entire adult life. and I can tell you, from 2005 all the way up to 2020 it has caused many problems including a 5 centimeter large brain tumor that developed over the course of 10 years due to domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. I am currently in recovery. My tumor was removed March 18th 2021. To be in a constant fight or flight state is pretty detrimental to your health.
Sugar is a huge issue for people in chronic pain, and the nasty part is that the more you hurt, the more sugar you consume to soothe yourself. The only way out is to learn to soothe yourself, and that takes some work. That’s why I’m so grateful for these videos.
I spent my whole life thinking I needed to be stronger because I finally realized that I never forgave myself for not defending myself against my brother when I was a kid. Only now I started to realize he was older, bigger, stronger- I couldn’t POSSIBLY habe sefended myself
This is very weird, I was hanging out with my friend yesterday and it seemed like every time I would talk, it always came out different then what my brain really wanted to say. Every time this happens to me (a lot) I just describe myself as feeling “brain dead” because it’s like my thoughts get stuck. But it’s from a place of fear because I’ve noticed it happens when I feel anxious or am just really in my head. Anyways I questioned yesterday why that happens to me and now I’m here. This is on point how it is.
Woww.. What a huge relief for me after watching this! Helps me so much to understand why i kind of lost my ability to make decisions. I felt bad about myself before and questioned myself a lot about that. Especially after graduated from college (class of 2020 here) where i have to start making decision for my life in general. I felt like i forgot how to do it! Even for something soo simple. Smh. Grateful to know that i am not crazy or stupid. Turns out it's because i was dealing with this abuse. Anw. I remember searching info about learned helplessness, because i felt stuck and anxious. Thank God it lead me to your channel, Michele! Grateful for that! Thank you for helping me understand myself better. I have a hope again for my better future. I will continue to study and train my brain ability again with the tools you gave! Keep doing what you're doing!💕
It s a relief to know that all the fear, or guilt, or ruminating has a root. And the pains in the body. And that all is healing!! These breathing from the stomach (diaphragmal breath) video you made helps also to keep in the present moment. I also recommend green juices, (chlorella, or supergreens in general), and bcomplex vitamins. Thanks, dear Michelle! 😁🤗💕
Struggling so much with recovering and getting myself back on track. I’ve had traumatic and unhealthy relationships since birth, then the person I was with for 10 years who has lots of narc traits left me and tells me he never loved me. I don’t even know how to gather myself together some days. I’m just existing but not living.
I am only 6 months no contact. I feel like I have my brain back after so many years. I clean, organize, work, and can do other things. Only in 6 months. I can't wait for the next 6 months. It's heartbreaking that I was born into that environment. And have always been around such people.
Thank you for this. I mived home to try and save my family money on going to school almost 6 years ago… Destroyed my grades. My relationships. My hobbies. My morality, decisions, will to live. I miss who I was, thank you for telling me how I can bring them back
Amazing michele you are so validating and soothing And you’re so beautiful and understanding.. why would anyone lose a catch like you who deserves to be treated wonderfully
Can’t heal in the same environment that broke me. I would never hurt someone on purpose. I wanted to hide. Attacks, constant attacks. Once things got calm a storm was created. Trust God and do not rely on your own understanding.
Yes, yes and yes! I can relate to all you shared in this very informative video Michelle. Thank you! With regards to the guilt, "I learned that, "I did what I thought was best,at the time". Acknowledging this, taught me not to be angry with myself. Accepting it, helped me unlock the path to healing, on an emotional, physical and spiritual level. It was a defining moment on my journey to freedom.
“A long a as term relationship with someone who is actively creating a tremendous amount of stress…” this was normal for me my entire childhood from my brothers physical and emotional aggressions. Now I’m Fifty and beginning to understand why it’s so normal to be in horrible relationships. It’s just sooooooo normal to feel unsafe, wonder why someone hates me so much, and have no escape, ability to fight back, or get comfort or protection from anyone.
I remember always worrying and being so scared what my parents were discussing behind closed doors. I don’t know consciously what I feared but fear is definitely a default.
Listening to this, I can only blame myself and lament having done this to myself. Life didn't have to turn out this way. Now, I'm worried about an early death due to CPTSD-related health problems.
It is clearly seen in this video that you are progressing in your healing journey. There's more peace, glow and confidence in you. Plus I am loving these long and detailed videos. Also the voice quality was better.
Hello, I have been wondering how are you doing and hoping you are well. What happend to you? I haven't seen your videos in a long while, I hope you dedicated your time to yourself or your family and nothing bad happend. Your videos helped me in the past.
Thank you for all the information with all your videos. Not sure if you’ll read this but is it possible for you to maybe make a video that deals with wartime PTSD and having CPTSD from a female narcissist after that? Thanks again. I feel worse after this relationship mentally than I ever did returning from war.
wow. that's profound statement. i used to say: PTSD happens to soldiers, grownups who know they go into extremally difficult, challenging situations. Child does not know it. If there's no mother in the room she is gone forever. You can have flashbacks, but i'm from narcissistic family and have 'emotional flashbacks'. no memories, no images. Narcissist can be exhausting. Knowledge of the subject helps a lot. God bless you
God bless you. You have helped me so much have heard you before divorcing , 4 years ago,… now a new separation again from a sick nonviolent narc who sucked me in and i just jumped in…. I was lured , i bit the bait… it was so wonderful…. And again i feel like you describe. But now i am older, maybe next time i wont..
You are not alone. After a few years of being single and relatively happy I also jumped into a relationship with both feet. I bit the bait also because I like the love bombing and the attention. Then I was discarded and given silent treatment for a few months. Only to have her turn up post alcohol rehab with her wanting to be friends inly on her terms. I felt duped and used. Like putting her finger in all of my wounds for her benefit. Don't beat yourself up about it. You went into the situation with good intentions. Forgive yourself. Wear down a new path of self love and compassion. It is not easy, but you are worth it! Do not let another human being roll over your boundaries. Man or woman. Do not make their problem, your problem. Peace, love and harmony to you! 😁
Hi Michele: I have surfed many videos as you mention in a video before landing at your channel where I feel very comfortable and am learning a lot from you. I am the scapegoat of two narcissistic parents. I am 68 and my life has been basically ruined by them. If I hadn't have found AA 32 years ago and ACA I would be dead by now. Can you please address CPSTD vs. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. I only very recently was told that I had BPD which explains a lot but I also have symptoms of CPTSD. I wonder how many other people on your channel have both as well...Thank you for your input....a comparison of both Dawn Keeler
Please, be careful. Kinesiologist seems to be more of a shaman. If he 'knows' something he is not supposed to know may know it from demons. It's occult, nuances of it are taken to absurd level, sounds like pure snake oil. And you may expect another misery, diseases, problems in your life.
I always wondered why I had a poor short term memory since I was a child. I was diagnosed as having a learning disability due to traumatic brain injury at birth, but I find that my memory is often worse when I'm under stress. When I'm relaxed, my memory works so much better. I developed eye pain in 2013 which I'm not sure if it was due to stress from my aunt dying of leukemia and my family not really talking about their grief or some other factor. I try to de-stress as much as possible now.
Yes it's possible to over come cptsd and brain fog i look more attractive and handsome than before ...i know I'm a good looking dude now that alot of people are hitting on me etc.......i wish y'all the best re
Brain fog is a side effect from unapproved FDA mood stabilizers. The next best thing is to unplug from tv and social media and no contact from the narcissist. Get some CBD or low grade t ThC gummy bears and finish that hobby you never got to start. Be a better you !!!
've never done one of your workshops before. Will I receive an email to log into a specific type of software or how does it work? Thank you. Kevin Maloney
I have fibromyalgia, and I believe it’s a result of decades of narcissistic abuse. How would such intense terror and suffering, over such a long period of time not knock your brain off it’s axis? You cannot learn when you’re in a state of heightened vigilance, and all the energy you have is devoted to situational awareness. It’s an absolute miracle that I have a college degree.
I was a hardworking, smart, high performing kid up till the end of middle school
High school is where the abuse got most terrifying and I failed repeatedly
Got through college with great difficulty
It is so true. I have been in toxic relationships almost my entire adult life. and I can tell you, from 2005 all the way up to 2020 it has caused many problems including a 5 centimeter large brain tumor that developed over the course of 10 years due to domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. I am currently in recovery. My tumor was removed March 18th 2021. To be in a constant fight or flight state is pretty detrimental to your health.
Speaking of diet sugar has a direct influence on depression and inflammation in the body.cut back on sugar during recovery love and blessings to all🥰
Sugar is a huge issue for people in chronic pain, and the nasty part is that the more you hurt, the more sugar you consume to soothe yourself. The only way out is to learn to soothe yourself, and that takes some work. That’s why I’m so grateful for these videos.
I spent my whole life thinking I needed to be stronger because I finally realized that I never forgave myself for not defending myself against my brother when I was a kid. Only now I started to realize he was older, bigger, stronger- I couldn’t POSSIBLY habe sefended myself
You are so lovely and wise. I wish I knew this 40 years ago.. So much help for younger people who don't need to drag on trauma like us old Boomers.
I was diagnosed with RA 5 years ago. I absolutely believe it's a result of living with my mother's covert narcissistic abuse.
This is very weird, I was hanging out with my friend yesterday and it seemed like every time I would talk, it always came out different then what my brain really wanted to say. Every time this happens to me (a lot) I just describe myself as feeling “brain dead” because it’s like my thoughts get stuck. But it’s from a place of fear because I’ve noticed it happens when I feel anxious or am just really in my head. Anyways I questioned yesterday why that happens to me and now I’m here. This is on point how it is.
So validating!! I’m so grateful that you are sharing this on such a clear fashion
I am watching this later 💖 I have FINALLY been healing! Also with thanks to people like you Michele! 🥰😊💖🙂
hey, do you remember what’s worked to you to heal?😊
I am experiencing this right now, in a cycle for a few weeks now and I'm exhausted.
Woww.. What a huge relief for me after watching this! Helps me so much to understand why i kind of lost my ability to make decisions. I felt bad about myself before and questioned myself a lot about that. Especially after graduated from college (class of 2020 here) where i have to start making decision for my life in general. I felt like i forgot how to do it! Even for something soo simple. Smh. Grateful to know that i am not crazy or stupid. Turns out it's because i was dealing with this abuse.
Anw. I remember searching info about learned helplessness, because i felt stuck and anxious. Thank God it lead me to your channel, Michele! Grateful for that! Thank you for helping me understand myself better. I have a hope again for my better future. I will continue to study and train my brain ability again with the tools you gave!
Keep doing what you're doing!💕
It s a relief to know that all the fear, or guilt, or ruminating has a root. And the pains in the body. And that all is healing!! These breathing from the stomach (diaphragmal breath) video you made helps also to keep in the present moment. I also recommend green juices, (chlorella, or supergreens in general), and bcomplex vitamins.
Thanks, dear Michelle! 😁🤗💕
I have been waiting for a video like this. I can completely resonate with this. Thank you so much for your help!!! You are amazing 👏❤
Struggling so much with recovering and getting myself back on track. I’ve had traumatic and unhealthy relationships since birth, then the person I was with for 10 years who has lots of narc traits left me and tells me he never loved me. I don’t even know how to gather myself together some days. I’m just existing but not living.
I am only 6 months no contact.
I feel like I have my brain back after so many years.
I clean, organize, work, and can do other things.
Only in 6 months. I can't wait for the next 6 months.
It's heartbreaking that I was born into that environment. And have always been around such people.
Thank you for this. I mived home to try and save my family money on going to school almost 6 years ago…
Destroyed my grades. My relationships. My hobbies. My morality, decisions, will to live.
I miss who I was, thank you for telling me how I can bring them back
This was so helpful for me. Best podcast Ive listened to yet in the past six months!!
Amazing michele you are so validating and soothing
And you’re so beautiful and understanding.. why would anyone lose a catch like you who deserves to be treated wonderfully
Excellent content, as always, Michelle and luv your nail color in this video, too! 💜
continue Michele
Can’t heal in the same environment that broke me. I would never hurt someone on purpose. I wanted to hide. Attacks, constant attacks. Once things got calm a storm was created. Trust God and do not rely on your own understanding.
God saved me. when i started saying pompeian rosary my life (with narcs) started changing.
Yes, yes and yes! I can relate to all you shared in this very informative video Michelle. Thank you! With regards to the guilt, "I learned that,
"I did what I thought was best,at the time". Acknowledging this, taught me not to be angry with myself. Accepting it, helped me unlock the path to healing, on an emotional, physical and spiritual level. It was a defining moment on my journey to freedom.
“A long a as term relationship with someone who is actively creating a tremendous amount of stress…” this was normal for me my entire childhood from my brothers physical and emotional aggressions. Now I’m
Fifty and beginning to understand why it’s so normal to be in horrible relationships. It’s just sooooooo normal to feel unsafe, wonder why someone hates me so much, and have no escape, ability to fight back, or get comfort or protection from anyone.
I remember always worrying and being so scared what my parents were discussing behind closed doors. I don’t know consciously what I feared but fear is definitely a default.
Thank you Michele. You have blessed my life. I relate to your personality and your messages are lovely. Love. God Bless you.
Ty for addressing the topic of brain fog. Once I figured out it was part of my c/ptsd I stopped making excuses and drinking too much coffee!
Listening to this, I can only blame myself and lament having done this to myself. Life didn't have to turn out this way. Now, I'm worried about an early death due to CPTSD-related health problems.
Thank you!
It is clearly seen in this video that you are progressing in your healing journey. There's more peace, glow and confidence in you.
Plus I am loving these long and detailed videos. Also the voice quality was better.
Hello, I have been wondering how are you doing and hoping you are well. What happend to you? I haven't seen your videos in a long while, I hope you dedicated your time to yourself or your family and nothing bad happend. Your videos helped me in the past.
Thank you for all the information with all your videos. Not sure if you’ll read this but is it possible for you to maybe make a video that deals with wartime PTSD and having CPTSD from a female narcissist after that? Thanks again. I feel worse after this relationship mentally than I ever did returning from war.
wow. that's profound statement. i used to say: PTSD happens to soldiers, grownups who know they go into extremally difficult, challenging situations. Child does not know it. If there's no mother in the room she is gone forever.
You can have flashbacks, but i'm from narcissistic family and have 'emotional flashbacks'. no memories, no images.
Narcissist can be exhausting. Knowledge of the subject helps a lot. God bless you
God bless you. You have helped me so much have heard you before divorcing , 4 years ago,… now a new separation again from a sick nonviolent narc who sucked me in and i just jumped in…. I was lured , i bit the bait… it was so wonderful…. And again i feel like you describe. But now i am older, maybe next time i wont..
You are not alone. After a few years of being single and relatively happy I also jumped into a relationship with both feet. I bit the bait also because I like the love bombing and the attention. Then I was discarded and given silent treatment for a few months. Only to have her turn up post alcohol rehab with her wanting to be friends inly on her terms. I felt duped and used. Like putting her finger in all of my wounds for her benefit. Don't beat yourself up about it. You went into the situation with good intentions. Forgive yourself. Wear down a new path of self love and compassion. It is not easy, but you are worth it! Do not let another human being roll over your boundaries. Man or woman. Do not make their problem, your problem. Peace, love and harmony to you! 😁
Hi Michele: I have surfed many videos as you mention in a video before landing at your channel where I feel very comfortable and am learning a lot from you. I am the scapegoat of two narcissistic parents. I am 68 and my life has been basically ruined by them. If I hadn't have found AA 32 years ago and ACA I would be dead by now.
Can you please address CPSTD vs. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. I only very recently was told that I had BPD which explains a lot but I also have symptoms of CPTSD.
I wonder how many other people on your channel have both as well...Thank you for your input....a comparison of both Dawn Keeler
The hippocampus is not in the prefrontal cortex, but love the analogies though!
Thank you so much, your doctor sounds amazing! What kind of tests did he do? I would love to get them done aswell.
Please, be careful. Kinesiologist seems to be more of a shaman. If he 'knows' something he is not supposed to know may know it from demons. It's occult, nuances of it are taken to absurd level, sounds like pure snake oil. And you may expect another misery, diseases, problems in your life.
A wonderful healing based video
NueroStar therapy helped me alot
Thank You Michelle!!
I always wondered why I had a poor short term memory since I was a child. I was diagnosed as having a learning disability due to traumatic brain injury at birth, but I find that my memory is often worse when I'm under stress. When I'm relaxed, my memory works so much better. I developed eye pain in 2013 which I'm not sure if it was due to stress from my aunt dying of leukemia and my family not really talking about their grief or some other factor. I try to de-stress as much as possible now.
Yes it's possible to over come cptsd and brain fog i look more attractive and handsome than before ...i know I'm a good looking dude now that alot of people are hitting on me etc.......i wish y'all the best re
For me I THINKnit wasn’t my parents so much as physical and emotional abuse from my brother . Of course to that point I ask “where were my parents?”
The 'brain damage' from narcissistic injury must be similar to the pros and cons of electric shock therapy.
No no no, naughty narcissist ☝️⚡🤕
Brain fog is a side effect from unapproved FDA mood stabilizers. The next best thing is to unplug from tv and social media and no contact from the
narcissist. Get some CBD or low grade t ThC gummy bears and finish that hobby you never got to start. Be a better you !!!
Michele :)
Tolaret ..I did not, I fought for my life and it nearly cost me my life
Gluten can also affects the brain and the thyroid.
This!
've never done one of your workshops before. Will I receive an email to log into a specific type of software or how does it work? Thank you.
Kevin Maloney
Michelle is an earth Angel ❤
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Bruhh....😪
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What time is the live workshop on July 31? (Balancing Nervous System & Brain After Trauma JULY 31, 2021) And what time zone please?
1:00 EASTERN - it will be recorded for those that purchase a seat but are unable to attend live!
Does anyone know what the other letters of F.O.G.G. are?
I got down that F was for fear.
Fear, obligation, guilt. The way narcissists control their victims.
The second G is grief.
O. is for Overwhelmed mind