1) insatiable curiousity 2) learn a new skill 3) travel/ cultural immersion 4) finding interest/ passions 5) be a good story teller 6) don't be lazy 7) become well read
and remember, women don't need to feel obligated to do any of these things because we're just guys and we don't deserve an interesting partner. Don't be a simp. This channel should be called Simp Training 101.
My thing is to guys who hear this; don't do things just to impress girls or people in general. Do things to make you feel fulfilled and happy that you are curious about. Sometimes some girls may not be into that; but if she likes your character; she will wanna know what interests you. This is why i like smart, talkative women and people like that in general. I appreciate you trying to help broaden our horizons Courtney. My new skill i learned recently was cooking salmon on the grill and new ways to edit my UA-cam videos. Not as challenging but fun 😄
Nice - GEORGIO! Lol If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person. Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about. And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 ohh i totally know what you mean. I can resonate with what Courtney said. I'm a storyteller naturally in a way because i been through a lot of shit in my 31 years on this earth. So i have a lot to say and i try to share my experiences whenever the time is right. I appreciate you taking time to type this. Have a blessed day 😊🙏
I really like Jordan Peterson's 9th rule in 12 Rules for Life: "assume the person you're talking to knows something you don't." This is such a useful outlook to have when engaging in a conversation with someone. Instead of trying to score points by making the interaction contentious, go into it with an open mind and be willing to have your pre-existing positions challenged.
Simple answer: Get out of your comfort zone for trying new things and develop communication skills..which is also putting your self out 😂..nice points tho
@@moon-0 i didn't mean to just go do sky diving even if you are afraid of heights... just little exposure and small achievement that counts and like you said expanding those boundaries
I locked myself up for decades and only left my home for work until I was so bored by myself that I decided to start travelling to at least one new country every year. 21 counties later I'm a little less boring. Maybe I try talking to someone next year...
Good point - webs t! Lol If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person. Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about. And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
The top three ''characters'' in women's fantasies: #1. A Vampire. This explains why movies like Twilight are so popular. #2 A Werewolf. What was Bella's second love interest in Twilight? That dude in ''Beauty and the Beast " sure looks like a werewolf also. #3. A millionaire/billionaire. Think 50 Shades of Gray. My point is or actually my theory is: Women are more attracted to men that have an air of danger, mystery, or darkness. Women never get over their Bad Boy phase.
I'm guilty of always responding with "nothing" when asked about "what's going on.." and would only respond differently if I'm doing something immediate or extraordinary. Now I recognize how that can come across.
Storytelling is difficult for me because I get straight to the point. When I speak or address something, I don’t BS. Unfortunately this leaks over to story telling. It’s something I’m constantly working on.
What has worked for me is focusing on my thought process + how I felt during the event. That's essentially what storytelling is. The event + thought process + emotional process. Even more engaging when the story you're telling has a problem or conflict so it becomes like a movie where the protagonist has to defeat the evil villain
@@chamber1083 agreed^. Also Op try to be a little bit more animated with your story telling. Give obvious exaggerations, and put emphasis on things that are important to the story.
I take improv classes and even acting classes since it helps you to express yourself more. I've grown up socially anxious and I'm very logical so the problem was that I forgot how to express myself. So I relearned to express by taking those classes
I have found that in general, people LOVE talking about themselves With a passion. Can't tell you how many conversations I've have where I am curious and ask lots of questions, which gives the other person lots of opportunities to talk further about themselves. At the end of those conversations, they are excited about me and about the conversation, not even realizing what just happened. How can they be excited about me, when they did not learn a thing about me during the entire conversation? They are just ecstatic that they got to tell me all about themselves. I do not mind doing this for one or two conversations, because I do want to learn about people, but as the relationship develops, it becomes a turn off, because self centered-ness is revealed in their personalities. And I cannot be around that, long term.
I read math and stats and computer science books because I’m a nerd and it interests me, I know it won’t be a topic of conversation with all women but I enjoy it so I keep doing it
Learn how to explain it to a 9 year old. Be excited about it and what it means to the rest or the world, and learn to convey that excitement. OR, (preferably AND) take that same excitement and GET CURIOUS about her life and interests. Women's favorite topic? Themselves. Women will fall into YOUR frame, if it's strong enough.
The best thing you can ever do is just practice and don't give up until you loose all your fears and get comfortable. Every thing is about not giving up. After all that you can surely achieve what you want, it might be in life or relationship, just don't give up.
You're a breath of fresh air in the often toxic world of dating and personal development. Just subscribed, and I'm looking forward to learning more about your points of view. Thanks Courtney!
Can I just throw some appreciation out for how perfectly clear your speaking is? Every word is spoken with clear cadence and pronunciation, great tone etc. It's not very often you come across that even in "professional" spoken entertainment settings. Bravo 👏
I’ve always said, “To be interesting, get interested.” I’m an introvert (INFJ), but I’ve hiked up the back of Half-Dome, piloted a 60ft ship under the Golden Gate Bridge three times, been in a flying helicopter and hot air balloon twice each. I’m an English major, with a focus on 19th century romanticism and ancient world literature, and also love going to the theatre, taking acting classes, and constantly study anything artistic. I enjoy martial arts and playing games of all kinds. One of my favorite moments was rowing a boat out in a bay during a thunderstorm, also the first time I held my niece is still at the top of the life affirming moments. I have never run out of topics at a conversation, and people keep asking me for more stories. So my advice is do things that make you interested and people will take an interest in what you do.
On your point about passions, it doesn't have to be the coolest thing ever. For example I love customizing and building keyboards, is that the most exciting thing for a woman? Probably not, but the passion that I put into it is enough to impress them
Monday morning 25 October 2021. Seven rules to becoming more interesting: 1. Insatiable curiosity. 2. Learn a new skill. 3. Travel/cultural immersion. 4. Finding your interests/passions. Try new things. 5. Be a good storyteller. Men who are good storytellers are more attractive to women. 6. Don't be lazy. 7. Become well-read (not just books). Cut out all the negativity.
Travel: One thing I learned was that you can pick what appears to be a rather boring uninteresting area, but then do some research and then go visit that place. Everywhere has a story and history. Smelterville Idaho? Why of course! Mining processing history. (I love that name for a town.) ;-) People are open to hearing about unusual areas you've visited and what you've learned.
Took me a while to understand that listening to audiobooks or podcasts while I drive makes me a more calm and understanding driver without even taking into account the content that can make me a better person.
If you are dating someone you already like them so there really isn't a need to look out for "green flags" people may naturally gravitate to a "red flags" video not necessarily because they are drawn to negativity but because being able to spot red flags is more useful and actually needed. The risk of missing a red flag is severe while missing green flags has little impact because the person tossing up the flags has already shown enough green flags to draw in the attraction already.
With many persons it's more a problem of not being willing to truly understand another point of view. Intolerance and an unwillingness to understand and RESPECT points of view that disagree with their own is a major challenge that many humans face at this time. But this is the way to greater peace and harmony. Understanding and respect helps problems to be solved and creates inner and outer peace.
Courtney doesn't only impress with her advice she also impresses with her fashion keeps me more interested in what she has to say big thumbs up Courtney
Travel, hobbies, reading and general curiosity and ability and drive to learn. All great attributes - plus the ability to talk about your work with passion and excitement that makes people understand the challenges of what you do. p.s My wife has always been a great sewer, crafter etc. It was one of the most attractive things early on for me, that she always had "projects" even as a 20yo student, a real girl "nerd" in fact. And as I had my passions too that was cool because she understood that that took time and energy and we could naturally give each other space to pursue these. She even made her own wedding dress and continues to make cocktail and evening dresses for herself, and always looks fantastic. Home furnishings also - lots of cross stitch, embroidery etc. Plus it's rubbed off onto our daughters. Our youngest in particular is really into jewelry making for her and her friends.
I've been perfecting my imaginative artwork and I'm proud with the results, I've also given my created characters a backstory, a goal & a compelling ending which I am confident will get a lot of innovative heads turning and learn much more about them.
Great advice as always - Courtney! If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person. Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about. And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Great topic!!! Read something outside of your regular interests. Try new things, try new foods, try new everything. Learn some old school skills from seniors. Most importantly - "Be Curious, Not Judgmental" - Walt Whitman
Lol big sister Courtney with advice I discovered last year and this year. Once I learned to achieve what I want without a focus on girls my quality of life has improved significantly.
As long as I can remember, even as a small child of 5 year old, I have always had a burning curiosity about almost everything! Today, my family, friends, exes, former employers, etc., know me as "the guy who has answers." It seems I can always come up with a way to solve problems, fix broken things, find new uses for old things, answer a question about a wide range of topics, etc. I have devoted most of my life, even while in college, to learn something new about different subjects, every day. I read a lot, watch documentaries, attend seminars, and yes, even attempt to do things I have never done before, and succeeded at doing it well. I learn by doing and by failing. I love solving problems for and helping people. I have participated in at least a couple dozen different kinds of hobbies (some I am still doing) and I never know when I will come across another one that I will want to take up. My hobbies have included sports and fitness activities (baseball, tennis, weight lifting, archery, pistol & rifle marksmanship and bullet reloading), programming, auto mechanics, writing (short stories and non-fiction articles), reading (fiction and non-fiction), artistic activities (drawing, airbrush painting, wood working, wood carving, ballroom and Latin American dancing, both instrumental music and singing), cooking new and different foods, mycology (mushroom hunting, growing and eating) and intellectual games of skill. I have traveled to multiple major cities in 28 of the 50 states and have made more than 90 airline flights (with some very exciting and scary incidents on some of them). I always have been and will continue to be open to learning new skills and gaining new knowledge until the day I die. I am teachable and am willing to learn from men, women, those younger than me as well as those older than me. I am always interested in hearing about what others like to do and what they know about it, why they like it, etc.
I’m new here, the sum total of all your videos (and others) made me realize why I gave up dating… all I need to do is change me. My problem is if I can’t crank up my feelings for a woman, I don’t have the motivation to pursue her. When I did my thing and made an intense connection on my first meeting a woman, they cut and ran in fear of their feelings. My feelings were deeply hurt by rejection, so I could never take them back even when they were later very forward friendly.
When I was in college I had a job as a salesperson selling major appliances (stove, refrigerators,..). I didn't mind showing off the product, hated selling service contracts, but what I LOVED about the job is all of the interesting people I got to meet. I met people from all walks of life, and everyone had an interesting story to tell! I've discovered that even the most silent person will open up once you find what they are passionate about.... ... great video Courtney!
Courtney, this was a great video. Gaining life experience, learning new skills and hobbies, taking a genuine interest in other people's lives is a great way to enrich one's life and create interest for others.
I get so much out of your content, and some of it really steps on my toes but I appreciate that. You put out there some things that are hard to swallow, but you do it in a kind, compassionate, caring way. Keep doing what you're doing. Much love. Just wanted to drop some encouragement
Great tips, Courtney. I am a person who likes reading, music, and keeping up on current events as well. And you're correct; the do help in the field of conversing, but also as you said to be a good listener as we also learn from those around us. BTW, the half white, half black outfit you were wearing in the video was very becoming on you. You are already an attractive woman and that enhanced your look.
This is why I've been saying I'm excited for my 30s. I've been a Homebody for most of my short life, but I really want to Learn and Grow over time. I will be a Homebody(Because I wanna to have some Comfortability)but moving on, I have taken interest in some of the things in this video. I've actually done a few things that was said in this video.
While I'm reading less regularly now, one thing I wanted to mention that is I didn't start reading with big advanced books, and I started with manga and comics. I got into the habit of tuning out the world while focusing on the book. From there, I was able to read both fiction and nonfiction books in no time. Start with something small. Consistency and progress are what ultimately matter🙂
This is one topic that drives me crazy. The message in the video is spot on, but these days if you aren't entertaining the room then you are "boring". People don't have any respect for people with quiet, more reserved energy who listen before they ramble on about their lives.
Negativity is weakness and leads to bad things especially feeding yourself too much of it most people already struggle with negative mindsets so feeding yourself positive things can make some feel uncomfortable and out of place but feeding yourself positive energy through hard work and good goals even if they're small ones can be beneficial.
Thank you for sharing Courtney Ryan, today I am not interested in learning how to be more interesting to entertain others. The truth is that l do my best to be a better form of my original self, and be of service to the people who need my ability. JUST TO BE A BETTER PERSON, THAN I WAS YESTERDAY. I DO NOT CONCERN MYSELF WITH BEING MORE INTERESTING OR ENTERTAINING TO OTHERS, l HAVE WITNESSED HOW WELL THAT WORKS FOR THE HOLLYWOOD FASHION SENSITIVE CROUD, THEIR TOTAL LACK OF PRIVACY AND PERSONAL SPACE, PRISONERS OF THEIR FAME, AND FORTUNE. Have a nice day little miss high fashion sense.
My favourite superhero's long been "The Most Interesting Man In The World" and he always has babes clinging to his arms! Good to know that real world surveys back this up. Nice video, Courtney! Now you mention it, I could work to remove some "lazy" from my life.
I think all of the keys to being a more interesting person which you covered in this video really go hand in hand with one another. A person who is lazy would never even think about doing things such as getting out of their bubble and seeing a world that they are not familiar with, learning a new skill, being a good storyteller, and so forth. I'm a fairly attractive guy physically but being the interesting person I believe I already am is what will ultimately make me a catch. Your videos are awesome, Ms. Ryan! Many thanks.
Yeah I've had to humble myself and grow on this point. It's a good point. My problem was sometimes I was funny and interesting, and then I assumed "okay I'm funny and interesting". Yeah, no. Sometimes I am. Often I'm just rambling. Like now. Moving on.
All very well coming out with these points Courtney, but life is full of routine, commitment and responsibility. These things are generally unchanging. Much depends whether you have the money and time to make your life more interesting. Most people work full-time hours and some people, like myself, work seven days a week. This doesn't leave much scope or wiggle-room for developing interests and passions, travelling, learning new skills, etc. Living a happier and more fulfilling life (as you point out) comes from the money and time available at your disposal - to make the best of your own situation. Becoming a more interesting person isn't really a defining question or consideration for most people. Most people are stuck in a life-long work-filled routine and by the time they get home - are generally too knackered or indifferent to really care about making themselves more interesting.
I'm so glad you brought up audio books. I for one hate the actual act of reading something, and much rather prefer to listen to audio or watch a video if I want to learn something new.
the secret to being a good story teller is to cut out all the boring details and get to the point pretty quick. if it's engaging they will ask for more details. you can tell a story completely out of order, like "yeah.. i was going to work and i threw a jar of pickles out the window at some jackass" and usually they'll go "what were they doing?" and from there you can tell the whole story or give more details. but also bail on it if you can sense they're getting bored.
These are great points, especially the one when someone asks you "what's going on?", and you say "nothing much.." I can't count the times I had that boring answer.
I just got done watching another video where she says I should be myself. Now here she says don't be boring, but I'm just naturally boring, that's me. Should I be myself or should I try to be interesting? I'm confused . . . . . . .
It's difficult to do when a woman is boring. You use up all talk and activities quickly as she offers little (if anything) to a relationship. Ladies, you need to stop being boring as well -- and a lot of you are. A man is not there for your entertainment and to start dancing when you appear for a date. You need to offer something as well, and it's time men begin to hold women to a standard of being interesting, just as women hold men.
I'm not disparaging anything Courtney brought up, here.... It didn't work that way for me. A lot the reason these things never worked for me is because I am not a typical person in a very specific way. 1. I am insatiably curious, sure. What am I curious about? Let's just say subjects that are not interesting. I build things. I create them from the top to the bottom. I used to be very interested in cars until working on them was a bigger pain in the ass than it was worth. Jet propulsion... something I had intended to be one day, for the Air Force, before I was informed by the desk of Slick Willy Clinton that because of my color-blindness I was ineligible for service, even as an aircraft designer or mechanic. I had scored perfect on the ASVAB in 9th grade, and was constantly bombarded with opportunities in all branches of the service, and then, just like that, disqualified. I still have an interest in our military to this day, in all sorts of manners. I am a machinist and welder, got the degrees and everything for it. I can use many forms of AutoCAD 2 dimensional and 3 dimensional software packages, and liked designing things and then building them. 2. Learning a new skill? I know many skills. Skills men typically do. Electronics (despite colorblindness, I taught myself electronics by the time I was 16. The internet didn't exist yet, and would be a full 10 years away), plumbing, carpentry, how to be a rifleman, hunting, auto mechanics, HVAC.... I never took to softer things like dancing, playing a musical instrument, painting, sculpture, portraits photography.... But that said, I CAN make a wicked moonshine from scratch. I built the equipment for personal use myself.... I cannot bootleg it in mass quantities, and I never sell the jars for any price, anymore than I sell deer steaks (I don't like jerky, myself).... In my teenage years, I wanted to be independent, and really wasn't interested in relationships. 3. Travel. I am not a huge fan of other cultures. Nothing wrong with other cultures, but it was not something i was interested in. I always longed for the mountains, particularly the Rockies, because the mountains are beautiful ANY time of the year. 4. Finding interests and passions. Anything I've ever done has never been half-assed. If it's worth my attention, it is worth doing right. That tends not to equate well to people, though. I can help others, but they can also disappoint me through selfishness. When that happens, I lose the passion for helping others. 5. Being a good story teller. I was writing a fantasy novel when I was 16. I had help, because I wanted the book to be full of life, and not just mine. At 22, my then wife threw the books out. 3 months later, I kicked her out of my house and began proceedings to divorce her. Those people I had consulted with about the characteristics of the people of the novels that corresponded to them, well, they had moved on, and getting together with them, well, we've never all been in the same place again at the same time. Life happens... 6. Don't be lazy? Well, that's definitely not me. 7. Become well-read? Most people I know, they will tell you, I am one of the most intelligent people they know. It also made me difficult to approach. My physical attributes made me a popular person to many, in the sense that I was marked with the beast (In my case, 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs, 6 inch member). I was surrounded by people, and I never felt more alone. Without sounding like Scar from the Lion King.... I never thought of those people as idiots, but compared to me, they would be. While I could hold their interest, they couldn't hold mine. These days I can admit fully, I am not an interesting person to most. As time has passed on, the intermediate intelligence of the people at large has gone drastically downward. No one strives for excellence anymore, and it's not entirely their fault. They're not encouraged to be good people, smart people, skilled people.... instead opting for more libertine desires and interests like hooking up, being drunkards and drug-addled dipshits, having immense student loan debt in career fields that really don't exist (The emergence of Starbucks degree should terrify the entire nation), becoming freaks, feminists, LARPing as would-be revolutionaries, all of these things have made the majority of the people I encounter not just less interesting, but whatever the antithesis of interesting would be. These people have taught me contempt. I am fully aware, it serves as people repellant, and the more time that passes, the less I'm inclined to care. So there you have it. Maybe my problem is not exercising moderation in my younger years. That said, if I had to do it all over again, I would have done it all as i did, and even possibly went even more in.
Don’t let people tell you you’re boring. I’ve had a couple girls tell me “you’re so boring” I don’t say much or get offended I just observe what makes them fun. Typically (at face value) they drink on weekends or spend too much time with friends. I wanted to take a girl to go watch James Bond No Time To Die. But she left me to go hang with friends. Whatever, I’ll just go take my niece to learn how to ride a horse and then read a book later.
Yeah! Another awesome video Courtney! So I just got back from flying my remote control plane, my mate and I were slope soaring, which is when your plane rides the updraft of wind hitting a slope giving you free lift (you don't need to use the motor much), it's so much fun, and sort of meditative! The place we go is a seasonal lake in a valley, it's called "Lake George", often we fly from the lakebed, but since it's spring and it's been raining a lot there is heaps of water so we were flying from the top of the hill, perhaps 75m up from the lake surface. I am hoping to start a UA-cam about my hobby, and then get set up to tour getting amazing videos of beautiful locations from the air! so stay tuned for updates on that. Love your channel, keep up the good work ;)
Don't wear a mask to appear to be something your not, being boring is mainly a judgement coming from a person who has a very good possibility of having a very different personality trait to yourself and has come from an environment which could be very different to yours. For example you may like to talk about music but that person isn't finding your music choice interesting or appealing which leads to her finding your music choices boring. You may crack a joke that you know of which seems funny to you but she may not even get it or have the same sense of humour. The right type of person with the right personality type will find your interesting. So be yourself and don't overdo it and be something which your not. When your in the present of the right individual you will KNOW it. You don't need to say I've done this this and this , I have achieved this in my life and gone all these amazing places etc. Be mysterious and don't give to much away so quickly.
Oh give me a break, most people in reality are boring ordinary people living ordinary lives! For us to strive to be more interesting just to impress someone or always looking for something fresh and new isn’t the best way to approach life and relationships! Honestly we should be happy even with the simple things in life! Even for the breath of life in our lungs that we have from the Lord! Let us all be happy and love one another whether they be rich or poor, fun or boring! Each and every person is special and unique in they’re own way! God bless you all!
I think the fact that you seem so positive is already fairly interesting. This video should really be titled "don't be negative". Girls wanna believe everything is sunshine and rainbows so if a guy acts all gloom and doom all the time she's not gonna wanna be around him.
You're preaching to my choir with that last point about the attraction of negativity. It's so exhausting hearing about negative things all the time, and by and large it does seem to be the sort of thing that draws the most aggregate attention. Seems like a lot of folks would rather roll in the mud than escape the pen.
If you ever watch a full segment of your local news...the "feel good" stories are at the very end of the broadcast. Like the last 15 seconds. Bad news gets the ratings. The news game is to be the first with the worst.
My grandfather would read books all the time, in fact whenever he traveled he carried an attache case full of books. When he had a stroke he recovered for the most part, the doctor told us the recovery was a result of the amount he read. That allowed his brain to find alternative routes to send brain signals.
Conversation should be reciprocal. Lotta gals though at least in my area, my experience spend so much time on vanity and gossip, they have no hobbies or talents or personal passions to even mention or speak of and they just expect to be spoon fed everything and its your job to entertain, shits exhausting.
Oh and regarding reading. I love it but seldom have time to so I stopped listening to music at the gym and started listening to audiobooks. Exercise the body, exercise the mind. That enables me to "read" 2 books a day, and most are free on UA-cam
Point #7 is the best one. For years, I've made a habit to read at least fifty pages from a book every night before I go to bed instead of watching some mindless sitcom or an inconsequential sporting event. I've read almost forty books this year! Most women are much more interested in someone who can discuss a great book he's just read at the dinner table as opposed to talking about "muh football."
I read so much stuff I don’t want to read at work (Doctrine, pubs and regulations) it sometimes kills my drive to read the things I want when I’m not at work. So I find myself listening to a lot of podcasts
If you're someone constantly learning, pursuing your passions, reading and creating life experiences, but a woman still ghosts you for being 'boring', chances are it's not you but them. Maybe they're the ones who aren't doing anything fulfilling with their lives and putting the responsibility of making their lives interesting onto their matches.
I am alway trying to learn something new what I found is (especially last year) is the more you know/learn people don’t want to hear it (some people see that as the “know it all”). They stick to what they know. They see it as you don’t have in common what they want you to have in common. That being said you weed lit the ones who are set in that mindset and bring like minded ones who also want to grow.
The lady is correct. I've multiple times had 2 to 4 women around me at certain times and venues, that were intent on listening to specific subjects I raised. I kept the convo VERY interesting talking about things most men NEVER or rarely do. I received quite a few phone numbers after that. 😁
@Natu Health most amusing. I "diss" whom I choose. Regardless of what you just shared. I don't date unattractive women. Not even in the slightest. I don't have to, they come to me, not me to them. I've an amazing single, lone wolf life. BTW, women compliment my world, they don't define it. Heh, heh, heh, 😁.
Lmfaooooo I swear I can’t tell stories , only in a txt but I’m a good listener & always show that I’m interested . So that really helped me in the past .
Reading multitudes of technical documentation/requirements/contracts helps your vocabulary but does not improve your conversational skills. It also simultaneously shifts your written and spoken sentence structures heavily to passive voice
Rule #1 in becoming a happier and more interesting person. Get rid of your TV. Its been 3 years since I watched TV and my life is so much more fulfilling.
Find your purpose and stay on it. Read the classics because it is equally important to fortify your mind as well as your body. Do the things you are passionate about. We are what we do. If you want to be interesting, go do interesting things. If you want meaning, go do something meaningful. What's interesting? I dunno. We went to the Grand Canyon this year. People seem to find it interesting and want to listen to me tell the stories. Is that interesting? Maybe not to some, but to others it is. I dunno. But either way, get your arse moving and go do stuff. You'll be better and happier.
For being a good storyteller, take some improv classes. It can really help you to learn to think on your feet. Write some short stories and share them with friends. Ask them for feedback. Read a lot of good novels. You can read for enjoyment on the first run, but read it again and try to map out the story beats. Think about what works and why.
1) insatiable curiousity
2) learn a new skill
3) travel/ cultural immersion
4) finding interest/ passions
5) be a good story teller
6) don't be lazy
7) become well read
Thanks !You saved me a ton of time.
@@techboomer9716 np man
ty timestamps buddy!
Hell I'm none of those things lol
and remember, women don't need to feel obligated to do any of these things because we're just guys and we don't deserve an interesting partner. Don't be a simp. This channel should be called Simp Training 101.
My thing is to guys who hear this; don't do things just to impress girls or people in general. Do things to make you feel fulfilled and happy that you are curious about. Sometimes some girls may not be into that; but if she likes your character; she will wanna know what interests you.
This is why i like smart, talkative women and people like that in general. I appreciate you trying to help broaden our horizons Courtney. My new skill i learned recently was cooking salmon on the grill and new ways to edit my UA-cam videos. Not as challenging but fun 😄
Also much love and blessings to your grandma too 🙏💛💫
100% ❤️ ooooh look at you learning new things! Love that. Thank you Georgio 😊
Nice - GEORGIO! Lol
If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person.
Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about.
And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 ohh i totally know what you mean. I can resonate with what Courtney said. I'm a storyteller naturally in a way because i been through a lot of shit in my 31 years on this earth. So i have a lot to say and i try to share my experiences whenever the time is right. I appreciate you taking time to type this. Have a blessed day 😊🙏
@@GEORGIOARCADE I see! Lol I’m sure you do! I appreciate you bro - keep it up!
I really like Jordan Peterson's 9th rule in 12 Rules for Life: "assume the person you're talking to knows something you don't." This is such a useful outlook to have when engaging in a conversation with someone. Instead of trying to score points by making the interaction contentious, go into it with an open mind and be willing to have your pre-existing positions challenged.
Jordan Peterson often tells a lot of crap. Conservatives like him master that skill very well.
Jordan Peterson also attacks a lot of positive political ideas out of pure hatred. Only fools believe in his manipulative and fallacious speeches.
@@jastermereel9773 Quiet fool no one asked how you feel. Plus I have read this novel as well and it has helped me in life.
interesting. my rule of thumb is to assume i'm the dumbest person in the room instead of the smartest (like a lot of people do).
@@badrequest5596 If you’re the smartest in the room, you’re in the wrong room :)
Simple answer: Get out of your comfort zone for trying new things and develop communication skills..which is also putting your self out 😂..nice points tho
I think it is more so of expanding your comfort zone. If you get out then you will inevitably come back to your comfort zone
For sure man, challenge yourself physically and intellectually
@@moon-0 i didn't mean to just go do sky diving even if you are afraid of heights... just little exposure and small achievement that counts and like you said expanding those boundaries
I locked myself up for decades and only left my home for work until I was so bored by myself that I decided to start travelling to at least one new country every year. 21 counties later I'm a little less boring. Maybe I try talking to someone next year...
Good point - webs t! Lol
If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person.
Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about.
And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
The top three ''characters'' in women's fantasies: #1. A Vampire. This explains why movies like Twilight are so popular. #2 A Werewolf. What was Bella's second love interest in Twilight? That dude in ''Beauty and the Beast " sure looks like a werewolf also. #3. A millionaire/billionaire. Think 50 Shades of Gray. My point is or actually my theory is: Women are more attracted to men that have an air of danger, mystery, or darkness. Women never get over their Bad Boy phase.
Being well read also will go a long way toward learning how to be a story teller. The best writers are some of the best story tellers out there.
100% true.
Facts
I'm guilty of always responding with "nothing" when asked about "what's going on.." and would only respond differently if I'm doing something immediate or extraordinary. Now I recognize how that can come across.
Storytelling is difficult for me because I get straight to the point. When I speak or address something, I don’t BS. Unfortunately this leaks over to story telling. It’s something I’m constantly working on.
What has worked for me is focusing on my thought process + how I felt during the event. That's essentially what storytelling is. The event + thought process + emotional process. Even more engaging when the story you're telling has a problem or conflict so it becomes like a movie where the protagonist has to defeat the evil villain
@@chamber1083 agreed^. Also Op try to be a little bit more animated with your story telling. Give obvious exaggerations, and put emphasis on things that are important to the story.
I take improv classes and even acting classes since it helps you to express yourself more. I've grown up socially anxious and I'm very logical so the problem was that I forgot how to express myself. So I relearned to express by taking those classes
Same
I don’t know if this would help but maybe talk about how it made you feel and have fun with how you describe things?
I have found that in general, people LOVE talking about themselves With a passion. Can't tell you how many conversations I've have where I am curious and ask lots of questions, which gives the other person lots of opportunities to talk further about themselves. At the end of those conversations, they are excited about me and about the conversation, not even realizing what just happened. How can they be excited about me, when they did not learn a thing about me during the entire conversation? They are just ecstatic that they got to tell me all about themselves. I do not mind doing this for one or two conversations, because I do want to learn about people, but as the relationship develops, it becomes a turn off, because self centered-ness is revealed in their personalities. And I cannot be around that, long term.
I read math and stats and computer science books because I’m a nerd and it interests me, I know it won’t be a topic of conversation with all women but I enjoy it so I keep doing it
Learn how to explain it to a 9 year old. Be excited about it and what it means to the rest or the world, and learn to convey that excitement. OR, (preferably AND) take that same excitement and GET CURIOUS about her life and interests. Women's favorite topic? Themselves.
Women will fall into YOUR frame, if it's strong enough.
@@williamclayton9566 that’s true. Thanks for the advice.
The best thing you can ever do is just practice and don't give up until you loose all your fears and get comfortable. Every thing is about not giving up. After all that you can surely achieve what you want, it might be in life or relationship, just don't give up.
I've given up chasing women 😉
You're a breath of fresh air in the often toxic world of dating and personal development. Just subscribed, and I'm looking forward to learning more about your points of view. Thanks Courtney!
Can I just throw some appreciation out for how perfectly clear your speaking is? Every word is spoken with clear cadence and pronunciation, great tone etc. It's not very often you come across that even in "professional" spoken entertainment settings. Bravo 👏
I’ve always said, “To be interesting, get interested.” I’m an introvert (INFJ), but I’ve hiked up the back of Half-Dome, piloted a 60ft ship under the Golden Gate Bridge three times, been in a flying helicopter and hot air balloon twice each. I’m an English major, with a focus on 19th century romanticism and ancient world literature, and also love going to the theatre, taking acting classes, and constantly study anything artistic. I enjoy martial arts and playing games of all kinds. One of my favorite moments was rowing a boat out in a bay during a thunderstorm, also the first time I held my niece is still at the top of the life affirming moments. I have never run out of topics at a conversation, and people keep asking me for more stories. So my advice is do things that make you interested and people will take an interest in what you do.
Earlier this year, I've been teaching myself how to play guitar. I also take up writing because I express way better than speaking.
Love it!
Play wonderwall
@@webst4698 thanks for the suggestion
@@tommygunn6901 your reply tells me you are very very new to playing guitar..😂 but it's a nice song to learn
@@webst4698 great guess lol! I started at 13 and just beginning to relearn it again, so you're not far off
On your point about passions, it doesn't have to be the coolest thing ever. For example I love customizing and building keyboards, is that the most exciting thing for a woman? Probably not, but the passion that I put into it is enough to impress them
Monday morning 25 October 2021.
Seven rules to becoming more interesting:
1. Insatiable curiosity.
2. Learn a new skill.
3. Travel/cultural immersion.
4. Finding your interests/passions. Try new things.
5. Be a good storyteller. Men who are good storytellers are more attractive to women.
6. Don't be lazy.
7. Become well-read (not just books). Cut out all the negativity.
Travel:
One thing I learned was that you can pick what appears to be a rather boring uninteresting area, but then do some research and then go visit that place. Everywhere has a story and history.
Smelterville Idaho? Why of course! Mining processing history. (I love that name for a town.) ;-)
People are open to hearing about unusual areas you've visited and what you've learned.
Took me a while to understand that listening to audiobooks or podcasts while I drive makes me a more calm and understanding driver without even taking into account the content that can make me a better person.
If you are dating someone you already like them so there really isn't a need to look out for "green flags" people may naturally gravitate to a "red flags" video not necessarily because they are drawn to negativity but because being able to spot red flags is more useful and actually needed. The risk of missing a red flag is severe while missing green flags has little impact because the person tossing up the flags has already shown enough green flags to draw in the attraction already.
Everyone living in their own ‘echo chamber’, mostly online, and never hearing another point of view is a major problem these days. 👍
With many persons it's more a problem of not being willing to truly understand another point of view. Intolerance and an unwillingness to understand and RESPECT points of view that disagree with their own is a major challenge that many humans face at this time. But this is the way to greater peace and harmony. Understanding and respect helps problems to be solved and creates inner and outer peace.
Courtney doesn't only impress with her advice she also impresses with her fashion keeps me more interested in what she has to say big thumbs up Courtney
I think the best way to be interesting is to not worry about it, be yourself and ignore opinion polls.
Being authentic. Pursue ur passions Everyone is different n no one will please everyone. Live for urself
11:56 You are totally right. The worst enemy and obstacle of anyone is yourself. That's what I especially learned through my depression.
Listening sincerely is one of the best ways to become more interesting
Travel, hobbies, reading and general curiosity and ability and drive to learn. All great attributes - plus the ability to talk about your work with passion and excitement that makes people understand the challenges of what you do.
p.s My wife has always been a great sewer, crafter etc. It was one of the most attractive things early on for me, that she always had "projects" even as a 20yo student, a real girl "nerd" in fact. And as I had my passions too that was cool because she understood that that took time and energy and we could naturally give each other space to pursue these.
She even made her own wedding dress and continues to make cocktail and evening dresses for herself, and always looks fantastic. Home furnishings also - lots of cross stitch, embroidery etc. Plus it's rubbed off onto our daughters. Our youngest in particular is really into jewelry making for her and her friends.
You're a lucky man.
@@Diego-Designs She's a lucky girl too 😃
I've been perfecting my imaginative artwork and I'm proud with the results, I've also given my created characters a backstory, a goal & a compelling ending which I am confident will get a lot of innovative heads turning and learn much more about them.
Thank you, Courtney for feeling comfortable sharing about your grandmother, because I also have a vision problem.
Great advice as always - Courtney! If you want to become Interesting - it’s important to try to be a well-rounded person.
Meaning, become knowledgeable in different subjects - that way, when you’re among people, you can pitching in about whatever is being talked about.
And if you want to take it to the next level - then you need to learn the Art of Storytelling - like Courtney suggested!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Always enjoy your videos,great advice about life and how to get the most out of our lives in all that we do.Bigg thumps up Courtney!! Thank you.
Great topic!!!
Read something outside of your regular interests.
Try new things, try new foods, try new everything. Learn some old school skills from seniors.
Most importantly - "Be Curious, Not Judgmental" - Walt Whitman
Love this!!
Ok I get it, I'm dying alone. No need to keep rubbing it in.
Well that makes two of us then 😂
Lol big sister Courtney with advice I discovered last year and this year. Once I learned to achieve what I want without a focus on girls my quality of life has improved significantly.
As long as I can remember, even as a small child of 5 year old, I have always had a burning curiosity about almost everything! Today, my family, friends, exes, former employers, etc., know me as "the guy who has answers." It seems I can always come up with a way to solve problems, fix broken things, find new uses for old things, answer a question about a wide range of topics, etc. I have devoted most of my life, even while in college, to learn something new about different subjects, every day. I read a lot, watch documentaries, attend seminars, and yes, even attempt to do things I have never done before, and succeeded at doing it well. I learn by doing and by failing. I love solving problems for and helping people.
I have participated in at least a couple dozen different kinds of hobbies (some I am still doing) and I never know when I will come across another one that I will want to take up. My hobbies have included sports and fitness activities (baseball, tennis, weight lifting, archery, pistol & rifle marksmanship and bullet reloading), programming, auto mechanics, writing (short stories and non-fiction articles), reading (fiction and non-fiction), artistic activities (drawing, airbrush painting, wood working, wood carving, ballroom and Latin American dancing, both instrumental music and singing), cooking new and different foods, mycology (mushroom hunting, growing and eating) and intellectual games of skill.
I have traveled to multiple major cities in 28 of the 50 states and have made more than 90 airline flights (with some very exciting and scary incidents on some of them).
I always have been and will continue to be open to learning new skills and gaining new knowledge until the day I die. I am teachable and am willing to learn from men, women, those younger than me as well as those older than me. I am always interested in hearing about what others like to do and what they know about it, why they like it, etc.
I’m new here, the sum total of all your videos (and others) made me realize why I gave up dating… all I need to do is change me. My problem is if I can’t crank up my feelings for a woman, I don’t have the motivation to pursue her. When I did my thing and made an intense connection on my first meeting a woman, they cut and ran in fear of their feelings. My feelings were deeply hurt by rejection, so I could never take them back even when they were later very forward friendly.
@@theredgem President Roosevelt did say “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.” I’m still working on it.
When I was in college I had a job as a salesperson selling major appliances (stove, refrigerators,..). I didn't mind showing off the product, hated selling service contracts, but what I LOVED about the job is all of the interesting people I got to meet. I met people from all walks of life, and everyone had an interesting story to tell!
I've discovered that even the most silent person will open up once you find what they are passionate about....
... great video Courtney!
Sales/retail is a great way to break down natural social awkwardness. It’s amazing how fast it can do it.
Courtney, this was a great video. Gaining life experience, learning new skills and hobbies, taking a genuine interest in other people's lives is a great way to enrich one's life and create interest for others.
I get so much out of your content, and some of it really steps on my toes but I appreciate that. You put out there some things that are hard to swallow, but you do it in a kind, compassionate, caring way. Keep doing what you're doing. Much love. Just wanted to drop some encouragement
I’m so glad I can help. Thank you for the kind comment! 🤍
Great tips, Courtney. I am a person who likes reading, music, and keeping up on current events as well. And you're correct; the do help in the field of conversing, but also as you said to be a good listener as we also learn from those around us. BTW, the half white, half black outfit you were wearing in the video was very becoming on you. You are already an attractive woman and that enhanced your look.
you're killing it with these videos.
This is why I've been saying I'm excited for my 30s. I've been a Homebody for most of my short life, but I really want to Learn and Grow over time. I will be a Homebody(Because I wanna to have some Comfortability)but moving on, I have taken interest in some of the things in this video. I've actually done a few things that was said in this video.
While I'm reading less regularly now, one thing I wanted to mention that is I didn't start reading with big advanced books, and I started with manga and comics. I got into the habit of tuning out the world while focusing on the book. From there, I was able to read both fiction and nonfiction books in no time. Start with something small. Consistency and progress are what ultimately matter🙂
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This is one topic that drives me crazy. The message in the video is spot on, but these days if you aren't entertaining the room then you are "boring". People don't have any respect for people with quiet, more reserved energy who listen before they ramble on about their lives.
For your homework suggestions from the fall style video I got a denim jacket and leather jacket. Hopefully that helps with the boring aspect as well
Negativity is weakness and leads to bad things especially feeding yourself too much of it most people already struggle with negative mindsets so feeding yourself positive things can make some feel uncomfortable and out of place but feeding yourself positive energy through hard work and good goals even if they're small ones can be beneficial.
Thank you for sharing Courtney Ryan, today I am not interested in learning how to be more interesting to entertain others. The truth is that l do my best to be a better form of my original self, and be of service to the people who need my ability.
JUST TO BE A BETTER PERSON, THAN I WAS YESTERDAY.
I DO NOT CONCERN MYSELF WITH BEING MORE INTERESTING OR ENTERTAINING TO OTHERS, l HAVE WITNESSED HOW WELL THAT WORKS FOR THE HOLLYWOOD FASHION SENSITIVE CROUD, THEIR TOTAL LACK OF PRIVACY AND PERSONAL SPACE, PRISONERS OF THEIR FAME, AND FORTUNE.
Have a nice day little miss high fashion sense.
Interesting and inspiring! I needed this message today. Thanks, Courtney!
You are lovely. Thankyou for being good person. Shines through.
Read books on anything. It will not only benefit you as a person but its a great conversation for women.
Be mature but sophisticated. Loving the Ying Yang shirt Courtney ❤ ☯️
Thank you John! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan You're welcome Courtney!
My favourite superhero's long been "The Most Interesting Man In The World" and he always has babes clinging to his arms! Good to know that real world surveys back this up. Nice video, Courtney! Now you mention it, I could work to remove some "lazy" from my life.
Your audiobook story with grandma was so sweet it sounded like a audible advertisement
I think all of the keys to being a more interesting person which you covered in this video really go hand in hand with one another. A person who is lazy would never even think about doing things such as getting out of their bubble and seeing a world that they are not familiar with, learning a new skill, being a good storyteller, and so forth. I'm a fairly attractive guy physically but being the interesting person I believe I already am is what will ultimately make me a catch. Your videos are awesome, Ms. Ryan! Many thanks.
Yeah I've had to humble myself and grow on this point. It's a good point. My problem was sometimes I was funny and interesting, and then I assumed "okay I'm funny and interesting". Yeah, no. Sometimes I am. Often I'm just rambling. Like now. Moving on.
All very well coming out with these points Courtney, but life is full of routine, commitment and responsibility. These things are generally unchanging.
Much depends whether you have the money and time to make your life more interesting. Most people work full-time hours and some people, like myself, work seven days a week. This doesn't leave much scope or wiggle-room for developing interests and passions, travelling, learning new skills, etc.
Living a happier and more fulfilling life (as you point out) comes from the money and time available at your disposal - to make the best of your own situation.
Becoming a more interesting person isn't really a defining question or consideration for most people. Most people are stuck in a life-long work-filled routine and by the time they get home - are generally too knackered or indifferent to really care about making themselves more interesting.
I'm so glad you brought up audio books. I for one hate the actual act of reading something, and much rather prefer to listen to audio or watch a video if I want to learn something new.
To be interesting, you have to be interested... love it!
the secret to being a good story teller is to cut out all the boring details and get to the point pretty quick. if it's engaging they will ask for more details. you can tell a story completely out of order, like "yeah.. i was going to work and i threw a jar of pickles out the window at some jackass" and usually they'll go "what were they doing?" and from there you can tell the whole story or give more details. but also bail on it if you can sense they're getting bored.
These are great points, especially the one when someone asks you "what's going on?", and you say "nothing much.." I can't count the times I had that boring answer.
This was exceptional Courtney!
Thank you. Seriously!
I just got done watching another video where she says I should be myself. Now here she says don't be boring, but I'm just naturally boring, that's me. Should I be myself or should I try to be interesting? I'm confused . . . . . . .
It's difficult to do when a woman is boring. You use up all talk and activities quickly as she offers little (if anything) to a relationship. Ladies, you need to stop being boring as well -- and a lot of you are. A man is not there for your entertainment and to start dancing when you appear for a date. You need to offer something as well, and it's time men begin to hold women to a standard of being interesting, just as women hold men.
Brilliant video. You're getting better and better as time goes on. Also love your passion and sincerity. Keep the videos coming.
I'm not disparaging anything Courtney brought up, here.... It didn't work that way for me. A lot the reason these things never worked for me is because I am not a typical person in a very specific way.
1. I am insatiably curious, sure. What am I curious about? Let's just say subjects that are not interesting. I build things. I create them from the top to the bottom. I used to be very interested in cars until working on them was a bigger pain in the ass than it was worth. Jet propulsion... something I had intended to be one day, for the Air Force, before I was informed by the desk of Slick Willy Clinton that because of my color-blindness I was ineligible for service, even as an aircraft designer or mechanic. I had scored perfect on the ASVAB in 9th grade, and was constantly bombarded with opportunities in all branches of the service, and then, just like that, disqualified. I still have an interest in our military to this day, in all sorts of manners. I am a machinist and welder, got the degrees and everything for it. I can use many forms of AutoCAD 2 dimensional and 3 dimensional software packages, and liked designing things and then building them.
2. Learning a new skill? I know many skills. Skills men typically do. Electronics (despite colorblindness, I taught myself electronics by the time I was 16. The internet didn't exist yet, and would be a full 10 years away), plumbing, carpentry, how to be a rifleman, hunting, auto mechanics, HVAC.... I never took to softer things like dancing, playing a musical instrument, painting, sculpture, portraits photography.... But that said, I CAN make a wicked moonshine from scratch. I built the equipment for personal use myself.... I cannot bootleg it in mass quantities, and I never sell the jars for any price, anymore than I sell deer steaks (I don't like jerky, myself).... In my teenage years, I wanted to be independent, and really wasn't interested in relationships.
3. Travel. I am not a huge fan of other cultures. Nothing wrong with other cultures, but it was not something i was interested in. I always longed for the mountains, particularly the Rockies, because the mountains are beautiful ANY time of the year.
4. Finding interests and passions. Anything I've ever done has never been half-assed. If it's worth my attention, it is worth doing right. That tends not to equate well to people, though. I can help others, but they can also disappoint me through selfishness. When that happens, I lose the passion for helping others.
5. Being a good story teller. I was writing a fantasy novel when I was 16. I had help, because I wanted the book to be full of life, and not just mine. At 22, my then wife threw the books out. 3 months later, I kicked her out of my house and began proceedings to divorce her. Those people I had consulted with about the characteristics of the people of the novels that corresponded to them, well, they had moved on, and getting together with them, well, we've never all been in the same place again at the same time. Life happens...
6. Don't be lazy? Well, that's definitely not me.
7. Become well-read? Most people I know, they will tell you, I am one of the most intelligent people they know. It also made me difficult to approach. My physical attributes made me a popular person to many, in the sense that I was marked with the beast (In my case, 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs, 6 inch member). I was surrounded by people, and I never felt more alone. Without sounding like Scar from the Lion King.... I never thought of those people as idiots, but compared to me, they would be. While I could hold their interest, they couldn't hold mine. These days I can admit fully, I am not an interesting person to most. As time has passed on, the intermediate intelligence of the people at large has gone drastically downward. No one strives for excellence anymore, and it's not entirely their fault. They're not encouraged to be good people, smart people, skilled people.... instead opting for more libertine desires and interests like hooking up, being drunkards and drug-addled dipshits, having immense student loan debt in career fields that really don't exist (The emergence of Starbucks degree should terrify the entire nation), becoming freaks, feminists, LARPing as would-be revolutionaries, all of these things have made the majority of the people I encounter not just less interesting, but whatever the antithesis of interesting would be. These people have taught me contempt. I am fully aware, it serves as people repellant, and the more time that passes, the less I'm inclined to care.
So there you have it. Maybe my problem is not exercising moderation in my younger years. That said, if I had to do it all over again, I would have done it all as i did, and even possibly went even more in.
When I think about being more interesting vs maximizing my value to others, the answer is obvious.
Don’t let people tell you you’re boring. I’ve had a couple girls tell me “you’re so boring”
I don’t say much or get offended I just observe what makes them fun. Typically (at face value) they drink on weekends or spend too much time with friends.
I wanted to take a girl to go watch James Bond No Time To Die. But she left me to go hang with friends.
Whatever, I’ll just go take my niece to learn how to ride a horse and then read a book later.
This really opened up my eyes
Courtney is the friend i would go to for advice on everything while grabing a cup of coffee 😀😂
This is the third video of yours that I have watched and enjoyed. I had to subscribe.
Thank u Courtney, I couldn’t believe I was a victim of negativity views and didn’t realize it
Yeah! Another awesome video Courtney!
So I just got back from flying my remote control plane, my mate and I were slope soaring, which is when your plane rides the updraft of wind hitting a slope giving you free lift (you don't need to use the motor much), it's so much fun, and sort of meditative!
The place we go is a seasonal lake in a valley, it's called "Lake George", often we fly from the lakebed, but since it's spring and it's been raining a lot there is heaps of water so we were flying from the top of the hill, perhaps 75m up from the lake surface.
I am hoping to start a UA-cam about my hobby, and then get set up to tour getting amazing videos of beautiful locations from the air! so stay tuned for updates on that.
Love your channel, keep up the good work ;)
Double thumbs up for this video. Thank you much👍🏾👍🏾
Don't wear a mask to appear to be something your not, being boring is mainly a judgement coming from a person who has a very good possibility of having a very different personality trait to yourself and has come from an environment which could be very different to yours. For example you may like to talk about music but that person isn't finding your music choice interesting or appealing which leads to her finding your music choices boring. You may crack a joke that you know of which seems funny to you but she may not even get it or have the same sense of humour. The right type of person with the right personality type will find your interesting. So be yourself and don't overdo it and be something which your not. When your in the present of the right individual you will KNOW it. You don't need to say I've done this this and this , I have achieved this in my life and gone all these amazing places etc. Be mysterious and don't give to much away so quickly.
Oh give me a break, most people in reality are boring ordinary people living ordinary lives! For us to strive to be more interesting just to impress someone or always looking for something fresh and new isn’t the best way to approach life and relationships! Honestly we should be happy even with the simple things in life! Even for the breath of life in our lungs that we have from the Lord! Let us all be happy and love one another whether they be rich or poor, fun or boring! Each and every person is special and unique in they’re own way! God bless you all!
I think the fact that you seem so positive is already fairly interesting. This video should really be titled "don't be negative". Girls wanna believe everything is sunshine and rainbows so if a guy acts all gloom and doom all the time she's not gonna wanna be around him.
Amém, we need to just enjoy life and make the best out every situation and circumstance! God bless you man!
I actually love that I found this channel
You're preaching to my choir with that last point about the attraction of negativity. It's so exhausting hearing about negative things all the time, and by and large it does seem to be the sort of thing that draws the most aggregate attention. Seems like a lot of folks would rather roll in the mud than escape the pen.
If you ever watch a full segment of your local news...the "feel good" stories are at the very end of the broadcast. Like the last 15 seconds. Bad news gets the ratings. The news game is to be the first with the worst.
I agree with you; and I add that your channel is one of the good ones that make people be better. Thanks.
My grandfather would read books all the time, in fact whenever he traveled he carried an attache case full of books. When he had a stroke he recovered for the most part, the doctor told us the recovery was a result of the amount he read. That allowed his brain to find alternative routes to send brain signals.
Conversation should be reciprocal. Lotta gals though at least in my area, my experience spend so much time on vanity and gossip, they have no hobbies or talents or personal passions to even mention or speak of and they just expect to be spoon fed everything and its your job to entertain, shits exhausting.
"Can you imagine living your life without doing anything you like?"
That's my life right now. I'm miserable.
Interesting
I know that feeling and you can overcome it. It's about baby steps to put yourself out there.
Oh and regarding reading. I love it but seldom have time to so I stopped listening to music at the gym and started listening to audiobooks. Exercise the body, exercise the mind. That enables me to "read" 2 books a day, and most are free on UA-cam
Courtney I found your channel just when I found the love of my life that just hits different…
tbh i don't think anyone is really that boring, your not gonna be everyone's cup of tea, and it's all about preference
Point #7 is the best one. For years, I've made a habit to read at least fifty pages from a book every night before I go to bed instead of watching some mindless sitcom or an inconsequential sporting event. I've read almost forty books this year! Most women are much more interested in someone who can discuss a great book he's just read at the dinner table as opposed to talking about "muh football."
Sorry to hear about your grandma, and your right we all need to have a look at ourselves and find ways that we can be interesting
Yes! How to be a good story teller, or be a good joke teller or comedian.
“if you’re just a bump on a log!” 😅 gosh, thank you for choosing to use clean language, so wholesome, rebel.
I read so much stuff I don’t want to read at work (Doctrine, pubs and regulations) it sometimes kills my drive to read the things I want when I’m not at work. So I find myself listening to a lot of podcasts
I love your content. Very useful for young men.
If you're someone constantly learning, pursuing your passions, reading and creating life experiences, but a woman still ghosts you for being 'boring', chances are it's not you but them. Maybe they're the ones who aren't doing anything fulfilling with their lives and putting the responsibility of making their lives interesting onto their matches.
I am alway trying to learn something new what I found is (especially last year) is the more you know/learn people don’t want to hear it (some people see that as the “know it all”). They stick to what they know. They see it as you don’t have in common what they want you to have in common.
That being said you weed lit the ones who are set in that mindset and bring like minded ones who also want to grow.
The lady is correct. I've multiple times had 2 to 4 women around me at certain times and venues, that were intent on listening to specific subjects I raised. I kept the convo VERY interesting talking about things most men NEVER or rarely do. I received quite a few phone numbers after that. 😁
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@Natu Health most amusing. I "diss" whom I choose. Regardless of what you just shared. I don't date unattractive women. Not even in the slightest. I don't have to, they come to me, not me to them. I've an amazing single, lone wolf life. BTW, women compliment my world, they don't define it. Heh, heh, heh, 😁.
Lmfaooooo I swear I can’t tell stories , only in a txt but I’m a good listener & always show that I’m interested . So that really helped me in the past .
Reading multitudes of technical documentation/requirements/contracts helps your vocabulary but does not improve your conversational skills. It also simultaneously shifts your written and spoken sentence structures heavily to passive voice
Rule #1 in becoming a happier and more interesting person. Get rid of your TV. Its been 3 years since I watched TV and my life is so much more fulfilling.
Find your purpose and stay on it. Read the classics because it is equally important to fortify your mind as well as your body. Do the things you are passionate about. We are what we do. If you want to be interesting, go do interesting things. If you want meaning, go do something meaningful. What's interesting? I dunno. We went to the Grand Canyon this year. People seem to find it interesting and want to listen to me tell the stories. Is that interesting? Maybe not to some, but to others it is. I dunno. But either way, get your arse moving and go do stuff. You'll be better and happier.
For being a good storyteller, take some improv classes. It can really help you to learn to think on your feet. Write some short stories and share them with friends. Ask them for feedback. Read a lot of good novels. You can read for enjoyment on the first run, but read it again and try to map out the story beats. Think about what works and why.
What if your a quiet person. Love your videos.