5 THINGS I DONT DO ANYMORE
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I stopped pretending that every person I know is a friend. I think that's because I'm old enough now to know what a real friend is.
Oh this is good!!! Yes!!!
So true!!
I’m gonna double down here and say that I stopped making it a priority to keep in touch with people who I don’t talk to more than 1 per month. The phone works both ways and good friends are hard to find.
@@etaylorw Good tip👌🏾🌼
Ooh I’ve never done that. But good for you. My coworker acts like this and I be like girl stop trying to be everybody friend.
In my 40s....I stopped caring about other people's opinions, stopped letting people dump all their problems on me, and started telling people that I love them before their funerals. :)
FACTS!!!
3 of the best lessons. I'm constantly trying to practice these, and it makes life so much better! 💖
All of that! Yes m'am!
Truth never sounded so good!!! 😉
Oh goodness yes!
Mind games, toxic relatives, explaining myself to people who will never understand and bad workplaces
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Only the chosen ones and annoited ppl understand yr lingo. In order to grow mentally,1st u got to grow up mentally
This comment 💯 🎯
This is the comment for me! ❤️
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I don’t make plans anymore because when the day approaches now I have to manifest a reason to cancel.
Yezzzzz! It's like I get a case of the lazys.
🙋🏽♀️ That’s me! All the time. Be having the best intentions, but when the day comes I’m always trying to cancel.
😆 😆
Too funny 😄
Lol that has been me my hold life 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
1. I avoid those who are addicted to drama.
2. I don't hide the fact that I am a nerd.
3. I eat foods I like and won't try something not to hurt someone's feelings.
4. I don't dumb down my vocabulary when speaking.
5. I don't keep running until I'm exhausted and my body says" Hun, I don't care about your schedule, I am not moving today."
Definitely #1 and #4
#5 lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣
#4 is me all day. Don't get mad at ME cause I picked up a dictionary or a book recently
1 and 4 definitely!!
All of these 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I don’t have a problem cutting ANYONE off anymore...FAMILY FRIEND OR FOE if you causing drama ya got to go PERIOD🤷🏽♀️
I go thru my phone often and just delete numbers...don't care...
Everybody can get the block/delete🤷😂💯
Your profile picture IS THE CUTEST!!!!
YESSSS!
@@Angel-ou1fr Aaaawww Thank you so much 😊 😘
In my 50s more now then ever. I stay in my lane and out of people business.
I love this. This makes sense too. I feel like the older you get you focus on what matters
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Me too. In my 50's and just don't care nor have the energy for other people's business. I've got my grandchildren to spend time with and I do what makes me happy. 😊🙂
1 I don't go to clubs anymore. 2. Buying expensive clothes or shoes is not a priority for me now. I buy what I like. 3. I don't stay up late. I go to bed by 9pm. I have old lady bedtime hours😂😂
You must be my twin!! 🤣🤣
@@shannontidwell5724 hey twin! 👋🏿😂
I can relate to all of that. By 8pm don’t call me because I am sleep and wont answer.
Yep, that bedtime is crucial to my mental stability lol
Sis....that 9pm aint ole lady hrs but "GROWN" lady hrs....okkaaayy!!😉
I don’t cook Sunday dinner anymore. I grew up feeling like Sundays were more special than other days so we had to make a heavy and labor intensive meal. But when I realized these kids and husbands gone complain either way, I stopped caring 🤷🏽♀️
Oooooooh lord.. yeah if they don't appreciate you then Don't burn yourself out ma'am ❤💖
BABYYYYYYYYYY!!
🤣🤣 I grew up on the Sunday dinners and they still have their sentimental value. But, I def have strayed away from feeling like I HAVE to cook a big Sunday dinner. ESP. since it’s just me and the hubs. As long as we eat, then I’m not concerned and neither is he.
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What!?!
I don't do "drama", no drama I just love it calm, lots of laughter but no drama of any kind. I don't want to hear it or, see it.
Yessss!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
None'zit! Ain't got time for drama!
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You have to listen to Ali Caldwell sing “No Drama” on the four search it if you haven’t heard that already!
Edit: “No more drama”
Ain't that the truth. I will kindly remove people from my life with a swiftness if they come with drama. I'm too grown to be stressed over drama that ain't my business and that ain't paying my bills. Lol.
I've kind of lost myself along my journey (terrible marriage), so I'm slowly finding myself again.
Sis, you're gonna find yourself soon❤❤❤
@@ejspeaks Thank you
Take your time took me a year and half. I feel so whole now after all that healing and I didn't rush myself either.
I pray you heal. Marriage can be tough. Sorry to hear this queen.
Take your time, get to really know yourself, enjoy the journey that is you. Don't look to others to fill a void, you are enough :-)
As I’ve gotten older I no longer:
1)confusion of any kind.
2)over give and over share!
3)visit (I stay at my own home even before Covid) if it’s not a housewarming or baby shower, we can facetime! Lol
4)look for things to get into. I now enjoy my own company and time❤️
5) Look for acceptance or validation from anyone but God!
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OMG I checked all FIVE..as far as #3 that part of Covid has not effected me like alot of codependent extroverts who have this NEED to gather!!!
I hear you! To the point!
Hun! 👏🏾🤚🏾
Im working on #2
Things I don't do anymore:
1) Worry about telling someone "no".
2) Fake laugh.
3) Deal with my mother-in law.
4) Go to ANY type of shower.
5) Wear shorts.
Just curious...why don’t you attend any type of shower?
I don’t go to showers anymore either. I just send a nice gift.
@@Nicholereo333 I've just had my fill of them. I just give a card with cash to the mom or bride to be.
2# has always been something that I though shouldn't be forced! Unless I'm being polite, but let people not fake laugh! Girl.
I feel you on the fake laugh 😂👏🏾
I don’t do stupid people; life is much too short.
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🙄 OMG , will not waste a thought or a breath trying to explain something to them , throw it a million times and they still won’t catch it 🙄 got to move on LIFE IS TOO SHORT
Nail polish on the stockings that one took me back. Church Memories! 😂
Running is ova I won't even allow my thoughts to race frfr💃💃💃💃
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DANG! 😂
Haha good one
Bye 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm 29. I'll be 30 next year. I don't feel the urge to go out/be around others anymore. I love being alone or with select company. I don't feel the urge or need to lose weight/be in somebody's gym. I've been called fat and obese by every adult I've ever known in my life. That pressure weighed on me until now. I just listen to my body and do what works for me. And, lastly I don't feel the need for social media. I don't need to share my thoughts or ingest the thoughts of others. I don't need to share what I have going on either. The road rage is slowly leaving me but I just don't be liking folk on the road.
I use to be a FB/IG addict lol drop that 5 years ago! Best decision ever. People doing the most.
Yep, valid points. I stopped social media while completing my undergraduate degree a few years back, and I never returned. People like to over share on social media and then tell people to "mind their business", all while getting giddy for likes. Weird. UA-cam is the only form of social media I am active on. I love being alone, but I am not "lonely". Many people cannot tell the difference for some reason. Sigh, road rage.... I'm getting there. lol. But I am proud to say I don't speed like a mad woman. Ppl go around me and I always imagine the ticket that will soon follow, lol.
I’m the same with social media. Deactivated FB back in 2015, and now, no longer have the desire to check IG daily. UA-cam has become my only source of “social media”.
Off FB for close to five years and best decision ever. I check IG about once a week and don’t accept followers. I’ve gained about 20 lbs in the last year since working from home and realized I don’t care. The older you get things are just not as important as you thought they were.
OMG you just described my life!!
I no longer go grocery shopping without a list. After I became a mom trying to remember what the house needed required brain cells I seemed to no longer have.
I felt this one! Same here!
Omgeee yes!! And I'm only getting what's on that list.. I'm trying to be in and out lmao 😂
This!!!!
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I don’t go out as much anymore. I used to be a $2 Tuesday, wind down Wednesday, Thirsty Thursday, Freaky Friday, Sexy Saturday’s and Sunday Funday type of girl.
But nooooowww with coordinating schedules, finding a babysitter, looking for a body shaper, getting an outfit, getting hair/nails done, etc etc... I’m tired before I even make it out the door... I used to go out at the drop of a dime now I need at least a 30 day notice before I can go ANTYWHERE...
N I’m leaving my midnight..... PERIODT!!!!
Shoot!!!! I’m leaving by 10pm, because I need to be in bed by 10:30.😩😩😩😩
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@@camelialove1426 😂😂😂😂😂
Yes, I need advanced notification to go out as well. I don’t do spontaneity. Also, don’t pop up at my house unannounced either. I need advanced notice for visits too.
She is me...I’m down to do most things, but don’t call me the day of or day before asking if I want to go. I need to plan and mentally prepare. Even if it was something I may want to do, I’d say no for the sheer lack of consideration. 🤣🤣 Gone need about 14-30 days notice depending on how I feel. Please and thanks.
I don’t miss out on my sleep or stay up late anymore. Had a stroke at 43 caused by chronic exhaustion so once my body settled down and learned how to sleep I get it in and won’t miss it for anything or anyone!!!
Oh LORD!! ma'am I'm so glad you're doing better... sound like my mommy 😥
OMG...thank God you are here to talk about it!!! God Bless you..🙌🏾🙏🏾❤
1) I’m so glad you made it through that and are here to tell it!
2) I’m so glad I came across your comment. I’m going to take my butt to bed from now on!
Thank you for your well wishes!!! I had no idea that lack of sleep could cause a stroke. My brain was just exhausted and decided to give up!!!! Please get your rest!!!
@@sherikalockhart3020 Thanks for sharing. I had no idea that exhaustion could cause a stroke! Honey, you are saving lives with your experience. Thank God you are here to tell the story!!
I used to do a mean crip walk...now I'm on my christ walk.. no shame in my game!
Amen Amen!
Deadx
Praise the Lord!
Crippin for Christ! Sorry, had to do it
@@MrsDazl 🤣🤣
I'll be 55 in April. I don't help friends move furniture and appliances anymore! Maybe a box or two and a plant but a couch or refrigerator??? I think TF not!!!
@@BREEDSTYLE Heck. I'll even help put some money on the movers if I some extra for a friend in need. Me and my knees and back are over here resting!
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I don't do long phone calls anymore. Unless we haven't spoken in like 6 months, I really don't want to be on the phone more than 5-10 minutes. And tbh, that's if I even answer.
No lie detected...carry on!! I’m with you sis!!
PERIODDD
Girrrrrl.. long phone calls that you probably didn't make in the first place... Then they ramble on and on about boring shit (that THEY find fascinating), their problems or they give you unsolicited advice with NO real solutions.. just stuff that you already know or tried already!! I look at the name that's calling and determining whether I have the tolerance to listen to their ramblings...
I feel like you deserve some type of UA-cam Best Comments award for this comment 😉
Thanks y'all, for letting me know I'm not alone lol
1. Stopped clubbing in my late 20s , now in my 30s I like to travel.
2. Avoid negative people, life is too short to be unhappy and complaining all the time.
3. I avoid drama and I don’t care what people say about me . They don’t pay my bills, then they don’t matter. Periodddd 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
4. I’m calmer, and will walk away from an argument. ( would still whoop their ass if pushed tho 🙄🙄🙄🙄)
1. I don’t get upset when drivers pass me going 25 miles over the speed limit. (It’s their ticket, not mine.)
2. I don’t go to clubs anymore since being told “I’m not attracted to daddy types.”
3. I don’t travel unless my bills are paid first. I’m too old to ask mom to deposit some money in my account when I get back.
4. I don’t grow out my mustache or beard because it’s all grey.
5. I stopped letting my hair grow out...my El Debarge days have been over for decades. Besides, if’s almost all gone. 😭
New subscriber lol
Rethink #4 --The grey look is attractive! ☺️
Damn Boo @ #2. 🤦♀️😲😁
All facts here
😂😂 #GrownFolksUnderstand ✅🎯
COGIC in the house over here too. 🙋🏾♀️ Christian Skating on Fridays while wearing stocking. It was HOT. 🔥 Now if I see stockings I experience PTSD 🤣
@Nichole M I was a praise dancer and in the beginning when dancing was new to the church, we had to dance in choir robes. 🤦🏾♀️🔥 We left EVERYTHING to the imagination. 🤣
PTSD 🤣🤣🤣 I hated stockings too.
COGIC 🙋🏾♀🙋🏾♀ My Family Founded The Church, So You Already Know What It Was Like 🤦🏾♀
The Mothers Had Sheets and Safety Pins In The Overflow Room Waiting For You To Come In Looking Like You Were Going To A Club and Don't Come In There With Makeup On, Ooh You Got Called Out Or The Ushers Came Up To You And "Suggested" You Go Take It Off. I Still To This Day Don't Wear Makeup & I'll Be 50 😔 Talking About PTSD
@@BossLadii71 😀😁😂😂
Yes ma'am! Lord Help Us.😊
😨That's all I'm sayn on COGIC.
Same here. 😂😂😂
1) drama and gossip
2) social media
3) don’t care what other people think off me or what they think in general
4) say what’s really on my mind, never sugar coat it and say it straight
5) I don’t do people crying over the smallest stuff
6) I don’t give my energy to people, who wants to bring everyone around them down
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I've stopped social media too! I'm so much more at peace
Exactly!
I do not try to balance on one foot to put my shoes and socks on. (You fall one time and you learn)
I don't let my friends tell me how to handle any aspect of my life. (My life, my decision, my victory or defeat)
I don't let others rush me. (Your poor planning is not my emergency)
I don't let what others do in their relationships effect how I move myself in mine.
I don't put pressure on myself to do things I don't have to do.
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I need to give up on trying to balance while putting on my shoes, because I am one hop away from learning that lesson, lollll
Love #3...your poor planning is not my emergency. Touching and agreeing!
Amen
I’m only 23 and I don’t over work... not about to stress myself where I can be easily replaced 🤷🏾♀️
I don't stay up late anymore. I used to be able to stay up til 3 am and still get up for work at 6... but now 9pm is the new 3am for me. 😴
My life!
Facts!!!!
As you get older (I'm 60) you'll stay up till 3am again trying to find a comfortable position in the bed, LOL.
@Chantell Lassiter oof same, and I love my bed 🛌
Yup, this is me. I try and watch evening sports or shows and fall asleep lol
I'm 35 & don't care what other people think of me anymore. When I was young I used to really be a people pleaser and cared so much about others opinions and wanted to be liked. Now I really just don't care. If you like me cool, if not okay too.
Same here. It gets exhausting to try to please everyone. I had my birthday party yesterday and my mom asked me if my friend eats the food I make. I said I told her what I am cooking and there is enough to choose from. I am not going out of my way to please everyone. Especially not at my birthday party.
@@babe8917 I hear that. They need to be satisfied with what they are offered. Otherwise they can eat before they come or after they leave. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
My mom would do that passive aggressive judgy thing whenever I didn't wear stockings or a slip the few times I would wear a dress. I finally realized why my friends would tease saying I looked liked somebody grandma when I was in high school. The epiphany finally came and it dawned on me that my mom was buying me clothes that she would wear and instead of stuff that I would wear. Never again. I gladly endure her judgment cause I don't get grandma comments anymore, lol.
Asia.....Totally relate 😊👍🏽👍🏽
Oh yeah that's another one...slips. 😩 So glad we've been delivered from those.
Yeah idk why moms be doin that 🙄 I stopped entertaining that in my teens lol I am an individual not ur mini me
I was Christened Pentecostal and transferred to A.M.E. Went to an old school Pentecostal church during my A.M.E. years and wore pants. My boyfriend at the time nearly had an attack because his mom and aunt were big on the church lifestyle and felt like them and everybody at the church were going to judge. I told him God accepts you as you come and they should too. I understand the Pentecostal way and yes everybody wore skirts at the church I went to growing up, but I moved on because I didn’t want to be in church all day, I didn’t want nor need to sit through six services and Sunday school to show God I loved him and I didn’t want to wear long skirts and big hats to church every daggone Sunday!
@@bknatural_e preach ma'am
Being in my 40’s I no longer feel the need to give my opinion.
I no longer judge people’s life choices, if something moves my spirit I offer help or pray for them.
I only give my time to things or people that aid in my happiness. I protect my vibe at all across.
I don't stay up as late as I use to and I have a very low tolerance for nonsense.
I dont iron ALL my clothes before putting them on anymore.
FACTS ON FACTS
I stopped ironing at least 20 years ago. I'll be 65 this year; I don't have the time or energy for ironing. 😄
I can’t believe it, I no longer like driving after dark. I have two little ones and I just want to make sure I make it home to them. I feel like the roads get crazier after dark.😔😂. I stopped wearing stockings too in my 20’s.😂.
The driving after it gets dark...hunty,that is one of my "I get why my mom used to say it when she hit 40" thoughts.
I have a one year old I feel the exact way. .
I don't drive after dark either. I'm only 30 but the new halogen headlights are vicious. Unless it's a family or medical emergency I'm gonna wait until morning.
I don’t do arguments! I jus’ turned 40, and I’m tired.
I do press on nails to save on money.... And I'm more financially responsible can go out unless my bills are taken care of and I don't go out unless I have money.... But when I was younger none of that mattered life will change you
yes to the press on nails!
I don't....
1. Wear stocking
2. Ignore classmates when I see them in passing
3 feel like I have to 'at least show my face' at places I don't want to go to
4 look at prices on a menu
5 save my 'good dishes and glasses' for a specific day
6 slave over a hot stove every Sunday. They can eat nachos on a Sunday!!!!
I don't seek out new friends. Not that I'm not friendly, because I am, but my circle of friends are real ones and I like things just the way they are. I don't feel the need to go out and be seen. I'm a married woman and all the comforts of home are always my first choice. I don't put in just a few dollars of gas anymore; just fill it up! No time to keep going to gas station after gas station. When I come home from work ( before 'rona ), I don't go back out. I don't concern myself with celebrity news or the latest drama; my life is enough for me.
Purchase gifts, Gift cards only, you do your own shopping. Purchase heads of lettuce, now I buy a pre mixed salad. Send greetings cards, now I send a text.
Yes, I second this!
I'm so w/you on the gift cards, They know what they want🤣😂
I don’t call and check on my friends like I used to hell the phone goes both ways I also don’t rush while driving I’m definitely more cautious
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Haven’t wore shocking since 84. Coffee was the color. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾♀️
COME ON COFFEE!!
I don’t get bent out of shape when my clothes are perfectly matched up like it’s okay to mix “magenta” with “hot pink”
- I don't do toxic relationships of any kind... Bye Felicia!
- I dont do fake nails, acrylic or press on, it's just not for me
- I don't go to bed late, 9pm... I need my beauty rest
- I don't dumb down my intelligence to make people feel better about themselves.
- I don't tolerate negativity. Personal peace has become extremely important to me. I need my spirit healthy
1. I am not sugarcoating how I feel. 2. If you didn't call before you come, go back home. 3. Dealing with BS and Drama. 4. I am in charge of my own happiness. 5. I don't do crowded places
Around the holidays I was near the Galleria approaching an intersection. The lady in the truck in front of me got into a honking and shouting match with a man in a car already in the intersection. Then he pulled out his glock. Yeah, I typed the word glock. He did not point it at her. He held it up and asked her what she wanted to do. I thought “what I wanna do is not witness a murder or get hit by a stray bullet today.” I also thought she might pull out her own gun. That day, whatever little bit of road rage I had in me passed away. It died. 💀 And I was just trying to pick up some modular containers from the Container Store. I never get angry behind the wheel anymore. And I was not at all surprised when a week or so later more state troopers were deployed to my city in response to road rage.
See
WOW!
Oh, slips - that's a solid NO!! My mom and all her 77 years still be looking for them. She had slips that are 35yrs old that she always fixing the elastic.
Tracy.....OMG 😮 my Mom too, 😂😂😂
I forgot about slips....I think I stopped wearing them before EJ was born.....
Slips and stockings... stopped wearing those in my teens. Too much work for usually an ugly outfit
@@laniwalks2470 oooh lord where is the lie?!
@@Yeah_You_Thought 😅😅😅
1. I don’t entertain toxic people
2. Stop needing makeup. I’m finally comfortable with the face I was born with
3. Stop caring if people like me- was this way in my 20’s as well.
4. No problem cutting people off. No matter who you are. ( Scorpio ♏️)
5. Over criticizing myself
I am in my 40s.
1. I don't care about what people say about me.
2. I don't do drama.
3. I don't wear high heels.
4. I don't give rides
5. I don't eat when it's late at night.
6. I have to sit up in bed for 15 minutes when I wake up before moving around.
7. I don't lend money or my clothes to anyone.
30’s: Club of “Uh oh, no one is asking for my ID”
40’s: Club of daily surprises.
50’s: Club of “WHAT NOW!!!???”
60’s: Club of retirement countdown
Oh yes, the club of daily surprises...it's fun to get a new (unwanted) birthday gift every year. That started when I hit 40 😑
Or actual retirement.
I can't do all nighters any more. When I was in college I would stay up until class the next day. Not anymore. I don't understand how I ever did that.
I don't dye my hair anymore. Just got sick of having damaged hair. And I don't get angry anymore. Such a waste of emotion.
I don’t say yes often. (Especially for free)Before I’m like yes I can help you, yes I’ll babysit, yes I’ll make it. But now if it doesn’t give me peace or if I don’t want to make the time, it’s a flat....”No.I can’t.”
Teach me your ways!!!
This. I had to teach myself to say no and realize that there's nothing wrong with telling someone no. My mind is so much more at peace now.
I swear I'm gonna get to that point. I don't have enough people in my life to really put this to the test so I guess that's a blessing in itself
Glad you’re ok with saying No. More people should learn how. I give a flat No and people get butt hurt. I may say cause I don’t want to if you ask why, but usually a hard no without an explanation is all I give. A long-term friend and I are not on speaking terms because she asked for help with something she knows I don’t like doing and I said no. She got an attitude and told me she didn’t want to talk I’m the moment. That was the last time we spoke. If that’s a reason for you not to want to speak in the moment, then we don’t need to speak period. Respect my boundaries and what I don’t feel like doing.
@@bknatural_e yes. Same with my friend. Oh well!
Run, chile I wish I would. The way I am setup that's not happening. I can't even watch TV shows and someone falls. I feel it in my stomach, you know how u can "feel" the hill when watching Rollercoaster videos. I feel that 🥺. The thought of scraping my knee- flesh coming up off my body. Shiii... I am about have a panic attack thinking about it🤣😂
I know exactly what u mean😂
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On that same note, I can't stand anyone getting or about to get a needle stuck in them (been seeing more of that since people getting covid shots are sometimes shown on TV), anyone about to get fake stabbed or fake shot on a TV show, or the fake blood you see on crime shows.
I feel like stockings are uncomfortable and in the 90s we freed ourselves from stocking oppression.
Lol stocking oppression lol plus mem didnt have to do nearly as much as women in just trying to look as what society says is appropriate. Or acceptable
I hated wearing stockings! My local corner store still has a bunch of Brown Suga stockings and they all dusty too😂😂😂😂
I want to stop wearing them too. How do you keep your legs warm in the winter when wearing dresses?
@@Love-dc5tq Because no one wants to wear that uncomfortable mess anymore. Lol.
I let my granny girdle go too. I need to be free.
I waste very little time on people now. I use to worry and wonder about everybody...no more. People will give you cardiac arrest!
I grew up COGIC, that’s why your comedy feeds my soul! Oh and I don’t by shoes that aren’t comfortable anymore.
I don’t get my hair done no more!!! I just wear my natural hair it’s been 10 years I don’t miss it, I used to get nails done also no longer care about them things
I stopped believing ppl worried about what I'm doing. I'm not worried about them. Why should I assume they worried about nothing I'm doing.
this!
Before I even finish watching, it’s the “NO RUNNING” for me! 🤣 🥴 my knees didn’t even try to make it to the 30’s with me - they did an early checkout!!
Yup, my 22 y.o. son laughs at my cracking and popping. My grunts and sighs lol. I tell him, just wait...it's coming! We all have a few good decades before we start sounding like the sheets of big bubble wrap when we move 😂😂😂
I no longer drop it like it's hott... Now I let it down like it's room temperature 🌡️
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I don’t hem and haw. You know, tarry or wait around, linger. Socialize. Whatever the reason is that I’ve come to a place, I do that which I intended to do and then I LEAVE. No hemmin and hawin for me.
Come on tarry!
OMG same!!! I don't socialize in the parking lot with coworkers after work..I go straight to my car and outta there!!!
For me the same goes for shopping or going to a restaurant to get food. I know what I need to buy before I go to the store, don't hang around looking at extra stuff. I'm not looking at clothes, shoes, and electronics if I came there to only to buy certain groceries for my lunch and hand soap. I'm not interested in holding conversations with other customers or the employees either. I'll say a polite greeting or polite goodbye but that is it. I use self checkouts too. I know what I want to eat at the restaurant before I get there, order that, pay, and get it to go. I was even that way when I used to go to church. "I've been here long enough. I'm hungry. I'm not that close to these people to be hanging out trying to talk to them."
@@kaylawaters2691 Why sont u go 2 church anymore?
The way my insurance is set up I don't run at 52!!😂😂😂😂
Looking so old. . ., "like I had four grand babies and a child care center in my home." You are a comedic genius EJ👏 . Thanks for getting me through this pandemic with some laughter, a merry heart ❤
🎭 Five things I don't do anymore:
💅 1. I don't date different types of guys in the hope to finding that perfect match!
🛍2. I don't complain about the amount of friends I have in my life because I rather have a few trustworthy friends.
👜 3. I don't eat as much junk food because it takes to much effort to get the extra weight off! Also, I really love "Law & "Order" and I can't afford to miss an episode!
👗 4. I don't like trying different hair 💇 styles due to saving for retirement & arthritic pain in both hands!
👠 5. I'm not as agreeable - because I'm realising that I'm almost half of a century! 🙁
#2 for me!!
I just turned 26, but I’m looking forward to my 30’s. I feel like you get wiser. You rid yourself of a lot of the BS
I'm now in my 40s and I no longer have the patience to fuss and argue. I just let the issue go.
i don’t get my nails done anymore. i personally think it’s a waste of my money, it ruins my nails & i find it very therapeutic to do them myself lol
Same. I use clear nail polish that strengthens my nails.
@@i_treasure_u_forever3523 i need to start using a strengthener for my nails. i’m sure it helps breakage a lot!
@@kelceynicole it really does
Just do press ons
@@BriaBarrowspress ons don’t stay on & i use my hands a lot so that wouldn’t work out well either lol
Wow, I didn’t even notice that I stopped eating in the car all the time like back in the day. Lol. But for me, I stopped allowing others to alter my mood or energy, like, I just remain unpressed lol. I stopped allowing family members to get away with speaking to me disrespectfully, which I have never allowed others to do. I am more open with my feelings because life is short.
Just turning 50:(two months ago)I have plenty of things BUT my top 5..
1. A “don’t give a fuck” attitude to everything. Do what YOU want!
2. I don’t entertain stupidity or rudeness!
3. I can say “NO” without a thought!
4. My bills will be paid 1st before I do anything else!
5. My rest & peace of mind is my main focus!
That part🙏🏾 and you can tell from the comments each age 30, 40, 50 etc difference
I stop caring about what people think and just do me!!!!
“My bones, my knees, my insurance.. all tells me not to” 😂😂😂
I have never been one for drama in my life; I'm not giving in to manipulative behavior, regardless to who it's from; I'm not settling for less than I desire; I work first & diligently, to play has to be earned; I am adapting to celebrating victories & accomplishments more
1. I no longer wear underwire bra’s (nor thongs-I know that was TMI but see #2)
2. I no longer make myself feel uncomfortable to make others feel comfortable!
3. I no longer say “yes” to accommodate others if it’s going to put me “out.” No is a complete sentence!
4. I no longer allow the “opinions” of others to influence my life decisions. I do what is best for me!
5. I no longer allow people to hold me “hostage” in their “box” of who they think I am or want me to be. This especially applies to my understanding and walk with God! (Grew up traditionally Pentecostal). I live my life according to God’s plan and NOT man-made, religious tradition!
I😒 wasn't gonna say #1 but Im glad you did. 👍😁
Amen to your #5
Cook!
When my kids went off to college, I hung up the apron. If by chance they ask me to cook, I will need a month of rest afterwards. What do I eat you ask? A sandwich or takeout.
This is a thing! I told my mom half the reason I come home is for her cooking. But she refuses, lol. I'm a few years past my college days. It makes me sad, but I get it. 😂
YESSSSSSS
Yesss. I can make a meal off a sandwich
1) NOT sugarcoat things. Now that I have a truck load of nieces and nephews I've learned that my momma was right; I didn't know how to talk to people. I'm much more careful with the words I choose. "I've got some deodorant in the medicine cabinet" conveys the same message as 'Boy, you stank"
2) Need to have the last word.
3) Trying to save money instead of time. I will buy watermelon already cut up.
4) Make dessert for holidays. I let Sam's Club handle most of that.
1. don’t jump hurdles trying to impress anyone
2. The pace in which I move, is the pace I move. I’m not about to be speedy Gonzalez trying to rush
3. I don’t explain myself to appease anyone conclusions of me, speculations & opinions.
4. I’m not jumping into your fist fight just because we friends and family.
5. I’m only doing the job that pays me at work. Nothing more, nothing less.
6. I don’t loan out money. I’ll pray for you and your electricity bill. God will provide all your needs according to his riches and glory, in Jesus name. Amen
1,5 and 6 🙌🏾💯
1,2, and 5 especially for me.
I need to start doing all of this
I've learned to put self first and not rush for anything nor anyone like I did when I was young
Amen 🙏🏾
#3, #3 and #3
1) I don't worry about what other people think about me.
2) I don't dress up for church no more.
3) I don't deal with Toxic people no more.
4) I don't be like someone's instead of being myself. If they don't like for me, they going be alright.
5) I don't depend on others to take care of me.
My purse no longer matches my shoes, actually it's big enough to put an outfit or two in it, so no more special tiny purses that can only hold a stick of gum. Also I put on lipstick one time for the day, and somehow I still have some on when I get home, so I'm not at the cosmetic counter every month, more like once a year. One more thing, tweezing any chin hair is now considered a spa day, so I don't be spending money like that no more, love it or leave it, retirement here I come!
Girl.......my homegirls great grandmother used to say that women who had chin hairs has good coochie lol....I told my grandmother that and she confirmed lmao!
@@raemin-laanmcneil8449 really? First time I’ve heard that, 😂
@@KV-mz8ro lol yes chile...I guess it's an ol skool thing
@@raemin-laanmcneil8449 WELL THANK U HONEY. IM HERE 2 CONFIRM IT 😆😆😆
I dont :Wear a slip, go to bed with makeup on, freely lend money, Get in other grown folks business, let other grown folks in my business or buy the tall high heels! I was delivert from that a long periollically time ago!!!🙌
Amen and Amen....
Arthur (arthritis) graduated me from the 6 inch heels...I tried to hang on but it was a no win battle.
1. Care. 2. Give a F! 3. Tolerate any form of disrespect. 4. Downplay my growth and prayer. 5. That i need my stimmy to be on the way. Monybagg Joe!?
Sis.. On everything...Its coming!!
The mall was packed today with stimmy recipients...Yours is on the way. Go on and put a few items in ya cart😆😅🤣
@@latonyataylor5919 all my carts are ready lol
Aw, bet!!! You are almost there!!
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I don’t entertain negative toxic people. I do not allow family or others to stress me out, upset me, or cause any type of confusion in my life. It’s not worth it. I had to learn that if I’ve done all that I can do to try to get along with these people and they still cut up, that it’s perfectly fine to love them from a distance.
Amen
I'm 45 and I don't get on roller coasters anymore. Had a panic attack about 6 yrs ago while at 6 flags and never got on one again🤦🏾🤷🏿
The things I don't do just happens to be things I've never done. (I guess I was born old and set in my ways)
1. Don't care who likes or dislikes me
2. Don't like drama and messy people
3. Don't like nosey people. I'm a private person
4. If I like and trust you, you will know. If I don't, you will know.
5. I love charity work and helping the less fortunate.
6. I love Jesus Christ but I will not force my beliefs on others and don't want other's beliefs forced onto me.
1. I don’t run anymore and I used to do it 4-5 times a week. 2. I don’t get my nails done anymore. 3. I don’t jump out of bed anymore. 4. I don’t skip dinner anymore. I used to have a bag or microwave popcorn as dinner often. Now I have a kid so I have to make dinner.
"Im in my thirties...I've been here for a long periololically time." LMAO!!!!!! LOVE EJ!!!!!
I'm in my late 40's now, the list gets even higher. All of those things you said plus. No drama in my life, I like my peace. Also I would have to say, I love staying home more. I love the comforts of my home.
Ooooo can you do an advice video for 20 somethings or things you learned in your twenties or things nobody tells you about your 20s
Please
Cosigned by me ✔✔✔ .... ☝🏿☝🏿 What they said
I just turned 34 and what I don't do anymore is:
- Stop hanging around people that I know don't like me! (At work we sit and eat together I don't do that anymore)
- I stopped putting my job (patients) first. My family is first!
- I stopped holding my anger and frustration in! I grunt it out!!!! Exhale the stupid out Inhale the peace and tranquility IN! AMEN
-I’m in my 40’s now and I no longer have FOMO...but that can also be because I don’t have social media. Either way I’m at peace.
-I also have no type of notifications on my phone... I figure I’ll get to it when I get to it.
First the quality of the video is just A1 you’ve really grown as a creator and I bless God for you praying you continue to grow and prosper ‼️
The stockings got me!!!😂😂😂 I stopped telling people my schedule so they can stop planning stuff to do because they think I don't have nothing to do with MY time.🙄😕😂
I don’t get drunk anymore. I will take the whole next day to recover and it’s not worth it.
PRESS ON NAILS GURLLL! U will never catch me at the salon EVER again🤣🤣🤣
I don't prep my hair the night before anymore. I just have wash day n protective style until the next wash day. (And I've been wearing head covering since COVID popped off-- for my hospital job), sooooo...
I’m 26 and all these are FACTS!
Me too! Yes they are
Same 😂
I'm the opposite with pantyhose, my 30+ year old self loves that extra support!
Things I don't do anymore:
1. I don't do high heels (maybe 1 inch)
2. I don't go to cubs with people under 40
3. I don't do multiple liquor drinks (long islands, blue motorcycles, etc)
4. I don't argue and fight with ppl
5. Not really A don't, but I take naps now
Sounds relaxing
Amen! sis ,I don't do road rage either.
I don't do OPP'S ( other people opinions of me), drama, explaining myself, buying unnecessary clothes, weaves, high high heels. I'm definitely More into comfort and most importantly PEACE. I like and wear WHAT I, like to do.... that also may include people. 💁🏾