4 things you must do if you like a guy
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This video is about 4 things you must do if you like a guy. If you like a guy and you want to give yourself a chance you have to follow these rules to protect yourself and maintain your self respect. Trying to get a guy to like you can be hard when you sacrifice your own dignity. If you have a crush on a guy don’t let it cause you to lower your standards. It won’t make him like you. So many women lose control over themselves when they like a guy and want him to fall in love with them. Remember these 4 rules.
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1.Detach your emotions from your standards
2.Know why you like him
3.Stay out of your own head
4.Immediately set the rules and standards for YOURSELF
Thank you. This information is useful at any age. I love it.
I came to this epiphany last week. I love myself lol
Thank you 🙏🏾
Thanks for the recap!
Goat
Ok but real talk- the fantasy/imagined men and relationships are actually the hardest to get over. 😂😂😂
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Facts sis
I totally agree!!
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It is hard getting over an illusion
"It's just something about him."
"You know why there's something about him? Because you made it up!" 😄
I hollered!! So sad but true!!
Lmfao
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Man! I thought I was the only one who does that! 😆
Girl!! I literally laughed out loud. No emoji needed.
“You wasn’t thinking. You was imagining.” 😂
I HOLLERED❗😫🤣😂
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That’s too funny 😂😂
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“Your standards and your emotions must be separate”
“There is a difference between what you FEEL and what’s REAL”.....
Not always easy. Standards & emotions do fight for position. Often potential partners play on the position struggle 2 the tune of.... "What's the least they can get away with" exhausting anothers emotional intelligence in the process.
That part
@@darcycaramunford4200 you have a point!🤔
Amen
I feel so called out 😔
Just because I like a guy, that doesn’t mean that he likes me back. My feelings have no bearing on how he acts, so I just watch what he does. If he doesn’t act like he likes me like I like him, I feel sad, but I don’t do anything about it. I cry alone and move on. I don’t want to get attached to someone that I love and doesn’t love me.
Facts same here
Respect RESPECT! I adore your confidence and boldness
It happened to the best of us
That's right sweetheart 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
For real!👏
I love how he’s just calmly rebuking me😂
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🥴😩 yes!
Right!!?? 🤣🤣
For real! 😂
same😂
Creating a whole love story in your head, this is true.
I do it all the time!
Yeah .. it happened wid me recently .. 5 years back , there was a guy who used to follow me ..bcoz of shyness or hesitation we did not talk ... In lockdown we met again on FB we started talking .. I confessed my feeling .. he is still talking to me but he did not say anything abt liking n dating .. he never initiates conversation but he replies me within 5 mins .. he is a doctor .. dunno y he is like this ?
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I’m so happy it’s not just me. I need to get it together😳
I plan out the wedding and how we visit my family in my head. When I talk to the guy in reality I see him as the same guy in my imagination. Needs to stop
"You made it up"! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Bruh all this time we have been in love with ourselves 🤣
yassss!!! self love all the way hahaha
Maybe WE are the narcissist🤔 Into ourselves too much!
Yet hoping we enough for the one that we get dreamy about lol im married to self now lmao
So damn true 😍😂🤣🤣 that's what I told myself I love me so much I'm trying to put me in another's body ....preach sis
There's just somethin about him, there's just somethin about him........."cuz you made it up" 😂😂😂😂😂oh my god it's so freekin true. Do I laugh or do I cry. Love you man. Thanks for keepin it real.
😂😂 I relatively relate with" there's just sth abt him" phrase
@@daizysanya9918 sadly I'm in the same boat girl.
I watched him 2× and its ALWAYS refreshing to gear the TRUTH of reality to REMOVE the blinders . and in acting like we don't see the red flags.KEEP GIVING IT TO US RAW KEVIN. straight no chaser babee
@@shelanel5348 worry not ,you're in the best space ever to know better for yourself 😌 you're bold, you're enough and you're the best
Excuse me sir, you in my business. Don't do that. 😂😂🤣 Do you know me? I be planning the wedding and he only liked a pic. 🥴 I need help lol
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Me too lol We gonna be at our fake weddings together
@@LuvMiwrite LoL 😂
Lmfaooooo 😂 stop
@@LuvMiwrite 🤣
I realized once I overextended myself....the disrespect started... Smh. Wish I seen this video 2 months ago. Lol.
Same 🤦♀️
Same here. This is so frustrating.
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Foreal!!
Yes, the moment you become to available or easily accessible that’s when everything will go to shits.
“There’s just something about him” LMAO I feel attacked 😂
Me toooo 🤦🏽♀️😂😭😭
Same!
Yes, We All Been There!
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"Far too many men and women create damage in moments of insecurity that they can't repair" - Kev Hicks
Kev just shredded my whole desire to text this man that I’ve been digging so much. He hasn’t made time for me, so what am I doing even considering texting again? What kind of nonsense is in my head? And yet i have another suitor who is consistent even though he owns businesses and keeps me focused on my goals. But I want the hot guy. Argh!
Me too I need to stop
Same here
Your videos has made me delete the guys number even
Girl same.. wtf
Gurl same!!!! I feel u!!!! Hahah
Thank you Kev. I'm always falling in love too quick because I started imagining things😔😔
Me too! Hug♥️!
My main problem and it never ends well
Same 🙄
I was same like you but now i know to control
Me 2
I should remind myself this sentence more often... "there's a difference between what you FEEL and what is REAL". Thank you! 🙏
Me too
Me too
I SCREENSHOT IT😂👍🏽
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@@cynthiamorley1873 👍🏽
That’s where I messed up. I acted with my emotions and not with my standards.
@UMN Mode she’s a black Barbie
“BECAUSE YOU MADE IT UP IN YOUR HEAD “ 🗣🗣🗣🥴🤕
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"Don't create shame by letting your insecurities get in front of you." This is probably the most important video (to me) that you've ever done.
Agreed.
I agree
Hardest lesson I am continuously learning: Don't assume that any time, money, emotion or efforts given to others will be reciprocated. Once you give it away, know it's gone, so be cautious who you give it to.
"Stay out of your own head"
*now time to put it into practice ❤
Hey member 🙌🏾
@@KevHick ❤👏
Why did I not see this when I was 18? 🤦🏾♀️ Thanks you Kevin, simple FACTS. It’s a fantasy in your head...
Same!!!! Ugh 2 years later still trying to get over that “situation “
"sometimes the best thing you can do, is nothing." Great advice 😊
Idk how the algorithm got me here but this is more than relationship advice, this is just good life advice.
So True , esp overgiving and its consequences with people in general
#2 😭😭 I'm guilty asf. I start imagining how our life would be great together 😭😭😭
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I'm guilty too 😩 with a guy I like a lot right now 😭😭...
@@erinkristin6536 it’s ok miss! Are you still on date with the guy?
@@richardrivas3294 yes, he is still around.
@@erinkristin6536 where are you from n how old?
'Most wars are won or lost in the mind.' I felt that. ♥️♥️♥️
“It’s because you made it up” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 this whole video cracked me up. The straight face made it even funnier. But big favtssss this video helped me make a decision I been fighting ❤️❤️❤️
I know right 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that line was funny
That line killled me too 🤣
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Omg😂😂😂😂
"you know why it's just something about him? because you made it up!" 😂😂😂😂 Kev you did not need to come for my neck like this!
It’s really hard for most people to be mad at themselves. Often times it’s easier to be a victim, but often times there are no victims, just volunteers. We don’t want to admit we ignored that little voice warning us. you keep trying and giving, but getting no results. You can only control yourself so don’t waste time waiting for someone to change, or trying to change them. They will change when they put in the effort. It hurts because you wanna be that girl they put in the effort for… But if it’s not happening then do yourself a favor and walk
@ Kay Dukes
I ❤❤❤ This!! ... Speak on it!! ... Preach!!
.... Thank You!💕
Greatest Advice?
Don't Walk...RUN
Excellent explanation. I love it. Bravo.
“There is just something about him” this sentence ruined a lot of women’ lives....indeed we are Toxics 🤦🏻♀️
Guilty... it hurt me worse than my divorce.
Detach your emotions from your standards
Know why you like him
Stay out of your head
Immediately set the rules and standards for yourself
Wow this is just the best I’ve ever heard. Thank you Kev
1. Detach your emotions from your standards.
2. Know why you like him( e.g tangible reasons like how he may treat you, stop imagining and start paying attention so you know real reasons of why you might like him. You might be liking only what you're imagining.
3. Stay out of your own head. Women end up imagining things and start social media stalking etc. What you feel is not always real. You don't have to act out of insecurity and start sending someone a lot of texts because of what you're thinking or imagining. Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing, people cause irreparable damage.
4. Immediately set the boundaries and the rules when you're dealing with him. Keeping YOU in check is the most healthy thing you can do for yourself in the relationship. Know what you will and won't do for love, to impress a guy. Make sure you know what you're willing to do and what you're not willing to do. Make sure that you hold yourself to your own standards.
Notes taken sir, thank you.
With love from South Africa. 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Wow every woman needs to hear this !!!
"You wasn't thinking, you was imagining". 😂 That hit home.
THE FREE CHIPS PART 🤣🤣🤣😭 DAMMIT
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Whew child! Some women are going to feel attacked ...it's me I am some women. Because I have done all of these things and I had to learn. But the way you said it opened my eyes to some different aspects!
you’re right it’s not these guys, it’s me.... im the toxic one 😭😭
Emotions and standards. you choose one for the relationship to work out.
Have a reason why you fell in love with that person. Stop imagining
There's a difference between what you feel and reality
Set up your standards.
I have loved everything. thanks so much. I have picked a leaf
“Detach your emotions from your standards”
“...because you’ve made it up”
WELL GAHD DANG, that hit me 😭😭
if im being honest, 99% of the time we make it up ahah
I was just telling my friend this earlier. I really like a guy, but I’m realistic about how things can end up, since he’s thinking of moving cities. about an hour and a half a way. Not far, but still a transition. I’m not expecting anything. If the guy is willing to go through with a relationship, I’m down. If not, then I have no reason to invest. I’m willing to let him go. This is the first time I’ve really liked someone, while simultaneously knowing the reality of a potential outcome. I’m happy with myself, I don’t need him, love so many thing about him. Never caved into sex, either. We’ll see where it goes.
What’s interesting about both of you ladies experience I’m in that exact space as we speak. Except I’m the one that moved to another state. The reality for me is!!! we were friends first, then we bonded, and after 3 yrs of celibacy on my end I shared my most intimate self with him, all the while knowing I was relocating to another state. We said we would keep in touch although no commitment or committed relationship was established, and we’ve talked about visiting and keeping the lines of communication open, but after a month of being in a different state. I realize I simply just want more, but I also know my reality is it’s not going to happen. I’m heartbroken because I allowed myself to become emotionally attached knowing ultimately we were on two different paths I was moving away... Spare yourself the hurt if you can and if no commitment is made don’t invest anything further emotionally , it hurt waaaay to bad...💯💯💕💕
Thank you ladies for your feedback, it is MUCH appreciated. I’ve been down the same route before and it left me fucking broken, so definitely protecting myself this time around. That’s why I haven’t had sex with the dude, which he’s been incredibly respectful of. But he’s just not pursuing the same, so I’m gonna take a step back. If he pursues, I know where he stands. If he doesn’t, then I know where I stand. ❤️
Gosh, same here. I’m really digging a guy who isn’t putting forth any kind of effort to pursue or date me. It’s disappointing but I refuse to put myself on the line emotionally like how I used to do. I value myself, peace of mind, and body too much to allow a man to toy with my emotions. I really like how Kev said we have to respect our OWN BOUNDARIES first. That’s what I’m doing now. It’s tough, but, it starts with me first and foremost. The right one will eventually cross my path.
My ex ex non boyfriend: the only thing I could say about him "there's just something about him" SMH 🤮
I made all 4 mistakes 😅 when I fell in love for the first time in my life at the age of 29 🚂 💥 Man do I hope this never happens to me again
You are brilliant Kev!! ♥️
I just made this mistakes I hope I can fix them now 🤣🤣🤣.
Muna hahaha you should be able to. In my case the guy had a girlfriend, who had moved away for a year and they got back together when she returned.
If there is no drama like this, you can do it! ☺️🤜
I was in the exact situation. Oh it hurt had... Lol. We live and learn !
Ask Sis Podcast I guess a lot of us go through it in their lifetime. Hope you’re over it now ✊
@Shade oh yaaa.. such a late bloomer 😂😂it’s not all bad 💪
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"There's a difference between what you feel and what is real"
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Yup... professional line drawer here.🙄🤚🏼 Thank you, Kev... I expected something totally different from this video... but I admit, I like the reality way better, even though it hurts a little.🥴🙈
I like him because he’s a man of God, family oriented and he’s there for me when I need support or encouragement.
Yay. Here early today. Love the ad too. Love to see our brother secure the bag🙌👌
1. Detach your emotions from your standards. These two must be kept separate at all times. There's a difference between what you feel and what is real. Don't let your emotions win over your standards, if you do, it will most probably end in tears. Let your standards remain in place no matter how strongly you feel about him.
2. Know why you like him. When a dating coach asks why you like him, you should be able to say why. If you can't list why you like him, it is probably because you made him out of your head. Sorry, not sorry. If it's real, you know why you like him or liked him even if you break up.
3. Stay out of your head. Don't act on your insecurities. Don't be emotional, beg a man, text him, stalk him, etc. out of insecurity because most times your insecurities aren't based on reality. Don't act on your insecurity or anxiety,or you will regret it. Sometimes doing nothing is the best thing.
4. Immediately set rules and boundaries for yourself. Sometimes it's not them it's you in your pursuit to win him over. Your over extensions. What you give freely. And why would a man turn down what you offer for free? People love free s÷!t. Keep yourself in check. Have standards for yourself and uphold them. 😘🙌
Take a bolt😂lol
Yessssss sys its such a joy fo Kev we luh u big bro queen if all queens brown gyrls
And that's the real truth...
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Yesss thaaaaaank u!!! You're so smart and well spoken 💋💚💋
I've listened to tons of your advice but this was totally fabulous. I wish I had access to your advice ages ago it would have saved me a whole lot of heartbreak and tears.
Phenomenal information 👏🏾. Helping us women to be accountable to ourselves
This is exactly what I needed to hear, at the perfect moment!!
Lord, I needed to hear this 👏🏾
Keep YOU in check. Thanks Kev.
Thank you Kev Hick for being in my life. You are speaking FACTS! Much love from Barbados 🖤🦋
I wasn't thinking, I was imagining😂😭
I've learned that self-love includes protecting myself totally...If what I want to do or give a man is going to make me feel bad about myself or possibly harm me emotionally in any way, I can't do it...I must keep me safe at all times...Get some boundaries...draw the line somewhere...
Lol number two... so true.
Man dude. You’re a walking talking quote machine. Very good.
OMG!!! You nailed #2....I fully conscious I imagine a lot of things and love to be in that "feeling" I created about the person.
Wow.. so so deep!! Very good advice.. thank you!!🙌🏾🙌🏾
You the realest everrr! Damn I didn’t realize I lived in my imagination so long !
I like this!! Especially the commercial at the beginning. Thank You for all of it.
Thank you so much Kevin! Excellent coaching and advice. Millions of women need your videos. It is helping me. " Detach your emotions from reality" was profound to me. Much success to you and your family!
Wow...I needed this
I was about to text a guy about my feelings for him then I saw this😂😂
I think am gonna take a step back💯...thanks kev
Kevin Hicks, this was really powerful. Thank you.
You kept it so real. Thank you. One of the best videos I've ever watched.
Great video! I’ve been preaching “self check” for years!
You're a gift to us all. Some of the best advice I've EVER heard. Thank you💜
You have just summarized every video I've listened to from you! I will still keep listening however. If you never make another video, you will forever be remembered for this one. Maybe because it has instantly set me free because have intentionally let it. Not only does it speak to female /male relationships but relationships with everybody, everywhere at all times. Wisdom prevails, thank you!
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i needed to hear this..
This is a good video!!!!”Stay out of my own head” that’s the key for me lol
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾💓
U are wise. I have to remember to " stay out of my head!"
I wish I knew about this channel a long time ago. I am still learning and I know for sure I would have saved myself heartache and suffering if I knew Kev Hick awhile back. I feel kinda dumb...
We live and learn....not dum much 🙏
You’re not dumb my dear, we’re in constant learning and evolving…life never stop teaching YS until we learn!!🙏🤭
You are hitting the nail on the head with this one!!! So true!!!
You are TEACHING!!!!! I luv this!!
Thank u Kev I’m gona put this on repeat until ur 4 points is my new lifestyle
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I am in a relationship and I always have to check myself and not get carried away by my fantasies. I try my best to keep myself grounded and it’s helped a lot ❤️
It was tip number 3 and 4 for me! The whole video is 🔥🔥 tbh
Kev, I have followed you for a very long time now but at this point in my healing journey... I needed THIS right here RIGHT NOW!!! Thank you so much for all of your advice & also for being a coach that seems genuine, gives it to us straight, & is never biased!
Am here for this.
Thank you for the tips, really helpful
This is defo on point. Made me think about the emotions vs standards thing and made me realise I’m guilty of advising others against the stuff I freely allow at times! Great point 👏🏾
You are right on this topic
You just gone read us like this?? 😫😂 Luckily I've learned but this was spot on. Thank you for these honest videos. Women have to know their standards and stick to them. You will not be happy in the long run if you keep allowing people to give you mediocre treatment.
Hey Kev, thank you so much for your channel! I'm not even in a relationship right now, because your videos have taught me how to love myself, set better boundaries and standards for myself... I'm able to recognize my old insecurities and behaviours now that I'm done repeating. I'm starting to feel that from leveling up I'll be much more prepared when the right guy comes along. Much respect and love. I really appreciate your videos 🙏🏼💗✨
Right on Kev, thank you so much for this information. I'm so happy you are doing these videos. A lot of women in this world including myself really need and appreciate you. God bless you!
Had to come back to this one. Very helpful
I feel sooo attacked 😂😂 but man thanks for this video, very eye opening
This should be shown in high school. I always believed relationship 101 should be taught to children.
Thank you for this.....we need to hear this
Amen to the free chips analogy!!
hey kevin hick I appreciate this information it helps knowing what it is then not knowing.
"Free Chips!" 😂😂👏🏽👏🏽🤣 I love this video! You always have great advice! 🙌🏽
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Love that I stumbled upon this & your channel. I’ve shared! I love your wisdom. Yes, volunteering over-investing then we get offended feeling “used”. He didn’t ask lol you are so right.
Extremely important advice 👌👌👌!
This video is 🔥. So helpful.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
First of all, I feel like you was out here reading me. Secondly, I'm over dying at "...or something stupid like that." 🤣🤣🤣 I love that you keep it a hundred always. Definitely needed this video
Good stuff Kev and thank you for sharing you gift/words of wisdom with us. God bless and keep you.
So much truth in what you said.