Why Men & Women Aren't Dating In 2025

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  • @k_the_squid3136
    @k_the_squid3136 2 дні тому +256

    Social media ruined dating and relationships as a whole

  • @anthonycanales3060
    @anthonycanales3060 2 дні тому +131

    Turning 32 tomorrow, I haven’t had a friend or a girl in over 5 years. It’s eerie how you just get numb to the loneliness.

    • @anthonycanales3060
      @anthonycanales3060 2 дні тому +19

      @@inker1972it is what it is. I can’t relate with people, a lot of people are so fake and I can’t be around that. I only work and go to the gym. I don’t drink or go to clubs.

    • @xDarkpenance
      @xDarkpenance 2 дні тому

      I can massively relate in 30 it seems to me that a lot of people about looking great in groups and an act rather than being genuine ​@@anthonycanales3060

    • @Integrationist
      @Integrationist 2 дні тому +3

      Have kids

    • @MrWinMrWin-qr2bn
      @MrWinMrWin-qr2bn 2 дні тому +3

      @@anthonycanales3060 yeah I envy people that can be happy alone. Disconnecting this idea that you should have relationships and friendships is perhaps a source of comfort. Some people are simply destined to be alone

    • @friendlyfox2189
      @friendlyfox2189 День тому +8

      Im 32 and I have never had a gf nor touch a girl. I dont know what it feels like to kiss a girl. 😢

  • @Hawtload
    @Hawtload 2 дні тому +189

    Q: why aren't men approaching women anymore?
    A: they never get a return on their investment

    • @tk1576
      @tk1576 2 дні тому

      they are full delusional

    • @JerseyGrove
      @JerseyGrove 2 дні тому +39

      The only winning move in a rigged game is to not play it.

    • @Adrian-zu6tm
      @Adrian-zu6tm 2 дні тому +17

      fr Denmo always blames the movid years, video games or social media but not the actual root cause of the problems. also it is not just that men aren't approaching or dating anymore, they do not even desire to go for modern women.

    • @bljtgill
      @bljtgill 2 дні тому +8

      This is so accurate

    • @gianplays9524
      @gianplays9524 2 дні тому +9

      Cannot forget unbelievably high standards that some men just can't attain (yes you can grow muscles but you can't grow taller or have facial symmetry)

  • @SilverWave64
    @SilverWave64 2 дні тому +178

    I want the society from 60 years back, where marriage and family actually meant something. When there was actually a sense of community in the population, and not millions of isolated individuals who are drowning in loneliness and dying alone because they can't have a family and children. I wasn't made for what we have now 😭

    • @NoNameWillBeGiven778
      @NoNameWillBeGiven778 2 дні тому

      Be quiet with that nonsense trolll

    • @NoNameWillBeGiven778
      @NoNameWillBeGiven778 2 дні тому +9

      @@SilverWave64 considering how society was back in 64, this comment dont make you sound good at all

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  2 дні тому +9

      60 years back in which country/part of the world?

    • @sunny3907
      @sunny3907 2 дні тому

      60 years ago you were racist and sexist.
      Women couldn't open a bank account singly in her name. It's usually white MEN, who want to go back to the "good old days".
      Literally no one else does.
      .
      What you want is control. You don't want to evolve.
      You sir, are a pu**y, and you will forever be miserable.

    • @Moriningland
      @Moriningland 2 дні тому +16

      You do realize black people had to drink out of separate water fountains back then? You live in this reality, you don’t know how life actually was back in the 60s brother

  • @TheStonedsanta
    @TheStonedsanta 2 дні тому +43

    I’m not paying full price for a product that dozens of other guys got for a bourbon and Coke.

    • @godsbruh
      @godsbruh 2 години тому

      the girl bought bourbon and coke

    • @yungmentalproblems
      @yungmentalproblems 2 години тому

      ​@@godsbruhbruh what are these hypotheticals 💀

  • @janfg1578
    @janfg1578 2 дні тому +89

    During this year I dated 5 girls from dating apps, and all first meetings failed, despite we always talked and had fun for hours. In retrospective its just impossible to know what a complete stranger desires or wants to hear on first try. As someone who had dozens of job interviews over my life, dating is much more difficult and emotionally draining.

    • @TheAcumenn
      @TheAcumenn 2 дні тому +14

      That's because dating isn't for getting to know strangers but can be used to do so besides dating is supposed to enhance sexual tension leading to intimacy within a month and half max, if not in most cases it's best just to cut your losses because most women are active with men they don't require commitment from.
      Most importantly dates are rewarded to young ladies you've built rapport with that have shown choosing signals, high interest, respect, attraction, affection, attention and genuine desire for you? If not you've no incentives to be dating let alone be intentional with her.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 День тому +4

      At least they failed just on the first date. I've come across women where we dated for several months only for them to betray me by going back to an ex or getting with another guy else where. Or they were just using me.

    • @cruiser6260
      @cruiser6260 День тому +2

      ​​@@TheAcumenn replace the jargon 'choosing signals' to 'choosy', 'with intention' to 'with no intention' and 'dating' to 'internet dating'. That will reflect what's going on

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  День тому +8

      meet people irl brother. this is the way

    • @GoldCODMyt
      @GoldCODMyt День тому +2

      @@Denmosocial100% I’m at the point where it’s irl or nun

  • @C_Ma__S
    @C_Ma__S 2 дні тому +37

    I actually prefer being single. Its way less stress. Plus I can be me and focus on my own life without dealing with some woman who is going to be a headache about everything.

    • @Horatio1886build
      @Horatio1886build 8 годин тому +4

      I think the internet is waking a lot of men up to the hazards of marriage or even LTRs. I’m 65 ,widowed , and enjoying my freedom. ( I loved my wife but man , people have issues )Marriage was a tremendous responsibility as one has to handle and accept the fact that you simply do not have control over your life or finances , future or time anymore. In the “ good old days” we had no idea what we were getting into.🙀

    • @ButteredPecan17
      @ButteredPecan17 4 години тому

      @@Horatio1886build You loved your life but you are talking about your marriage with a sense of regret, what gives?

  • @The-One-and-Only100
    @The-One-and-Only100 День тому +39

    Not to mention but it's impossible to tell if a girl is single or not

    • @cincomiranda478
      @cincomiranda478 День тому

      I never ask. I would say 95% of all good looking girls will have SOMEONE in their life. Assume they all do. Become her best option. Be her funnest option. Clap her cheeks the best lol. When you don’t give a damn about anything except being your best self towards others, you become a stud

    • @Texasno420
      @Texasno420 День тому +16

      A woman is never single

    • @The-One-and-Only100
      @The-One-and-Only100 День тому +1

      @Texasno420 then dating is impossible

    • @BS_Profile
      @BS_Profile 23 години тому

      Each one has 1,000+ men right in their pocket 24/7. They're never single. They're either in a public relationship with someone or they're either seeing a friend with benefits on the down low. They're never actually single.

    • @0111-k9m
      @0111-k9m 21 годину тому

      Ask her what she did the weekend, if she has a bf she likely sees him during the weekend

  • @DubyaWDubya
    @DubyaWDubya 2 дні тому +64

    40 yrs old, own my own business, own my own home, am relatively decent looking and relatively fit and active.
    I find that older women are wonderful. They are friendly/sociable and I am legitimately friends with several older married women. Speaking with women is not an issue.
    I've found that most women my age never leave the house and the few that I do encounter walk around looking miserable and angry at the world. I find myself being scowled at for smiling at a lady while holding the door for them at a coffee shop haha
    It's bonkers.
    I'd love to meet a good match, but I'm not interested in being treated like trash or pursuing someone who is going to bring me down.

    • @THEOvERSiZEDMeATBALL
      @THEOvERSiZEDMeATBALL 2 дні тому +15

      I'm 31, I have notice this aswell, I smile at lots of woman and alot of the times they look angry when making eye contact at me😅.

    • @sunny3907
      @sunny3907 2 дні тому +5

      Goated comment
      Live your life on your own terms sir.

    • @ZenPepperClub
      @ZenPepperClub 2 дні тому +1

      Older women are probably much better in bed and more eager to get to know you, if you could overlook those wrinkles😂😂😂

    • @mesv3567
      @mesv3567 День тому

      Try hagmaxxing, its not the definitive solution but it works.
      If young women want to be treated as godly beings just look for a woman who is old ebough to realize she is just one more of the fishes in the ocean.
      Im average looking and i have a crappy job but old ladies 46-47+ dont care that much about it, they realize their prime is gone and just want somebody who gives them some attention and validation. Im 34 y.o though, it might be different for you and you probably dont want to date a 60 y.o woman but give it a try with the 50+ woman, you'll be surpised.

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 День тому +6

      Older women have an older software. Less feminists.
      Women your age are harcore feminists and manhaters.
      Total waste of time.

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 День тому +23

    I have to work 10x harder than my grandfather just to have the chance of attracting women who are 10x less than my grandmother.
    Honestly tell me Jack, how is it worth it?

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  День тому +8

      I had to work hard to achieve financial freedom. Took me years of construction jobs & failure. Same thing applies to everything in life.. if you really want it, you can get it

    • @DAVID.PRINCIPE.DURAN.
      @DAVID.PRINCIPE.DURAN. День тому

      Its a scam, it's better paying for a scort

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 День тому

      ​@@DenmosocialFinding a woman shouldn't be as hard as building up a successful career.
      The level of effort requested is insane, those women are not worth it at all. High body count, feminist software, high maintenance.
      A basic woman is not worth all that effort.
      If I were successful, I wouldn't even consider getting a woman, I would just play the field and dump the women. Successful men don't take the risk of losing it all, because once you have success, you have a target in your back.
      Women want top tier, and most can't even be nice or cook and clean or even screw a lightbulb.
      95% Women are not worth it anymore 😅

    • @CHman712
      @CHman712 День тому

      ​@@Denmosocial depends on where you live and how old you are. If you live in the West, you better get you one of the good ones by the time you are 20. The good ones get taken and married pretty young leaving all the rejects and broken toys behind.

    • @Kumari_44
      @Kumari_44 День тому +2

      @@DenmosocialBINGO!!! I hope he’s listening well!!!

  • @ModernDatingMastery
    @ModernDatingMastery 2 дні тому +32

    *Dating in 2025 is complicated by social media expectations and fear of rejection; focusing on real-life connections could change the game.*

    • @Texasno420
      @Texasno420 День тому +1

      In our dreams ain’t gonna happen

    • @Robodude_0528
      @Robodude_0528 18 годин тому +1

      Even IRL it’s rough. Lots of damaged people out there

  • @Ljtheog12
    @Ljtheog12 2 дні тому +25

    Yes, the ‘golden age’ of pickup (2000s) was amazing. I made really good friends, had some amazing girlfriends, and most of all learned about who I am underneath. I never learned magic tricks or lines - just how to understand the way people interact socially and how to become a better version of myself. People who throw shade at that culture never took the time to truly understand it. You had some weirdos too, but a lot of us were just regular, shy, good guys, and this was our rite of passage. Guys like David D and Zan were my heroes. Great times.

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  День тому +4

      interesting perspective- thank you for sharing that

    • @DavidG2P
      @DavidG2P День тому +4

      I'm almost 60 and terribly late to this game, but I went and met Zan in Miami couple years ago. My life has changed by almost 180° since then🕺

    • @Ljtheog12
      @Ljtheog12 День тому +3

      @@DavidG2P he’s the man! I’ve spent some time with him and the other old school guys long time ago.

    • @Ljtheog12
      @Ljtheog12 День тому +3

      @@Denmosocial it was awesome, man! We were a small group of guys, all became good friends, would go out 1-2x/week together to meet girls and just spend time together as friends and learning how to become better people. It was a whole movement. We were mostly good guys and had a great time! Sooo many memories. Dating sucks now.

    • @geraldrozen1797
      @geraldrozen1797 17 годин тому

      A serious PUA.The ME TO/We To movement caused FODA.Fear of dating again ☠️

  • @AndrewBeezy91
    @AndrewBeezy91 День тому +9

    Damnit Denmo! You got me. I've only been watching you for a month though.
    You've helped my confidence enough to ask a girl out for the first time in years. I was rejected but it didn't sting as bad as I thought it would.
    I also just deleted all dating apps this week.
    I've lost 20lbs in just a few months, started dressing better and found a new group of friends that aren't low lifes sitting around watching UA-cam, playing video games and smoking weed all day.

  • @timmorisma4800
    @timmorisma4800 20 годин тому +5

    Both men and women need social skills. Women are socially awkward too and most women get away with being socially awkward by being antisocial, mean and uninterested. Just because you see a woman talking to her friends doesn't mean she knows how to be sociable with other people outside of her circle.

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 15 годин тому

      True. If there’s any area where women have an advantage over men is in the burden of performance . All a woman has to do is smile and listen to what the guy is saying and it doesn’t even really matter what she says back to him. The guy needs to be on point and say the right things and act the right way .. very few women will ever understand what this is like for the average guy

    • @brianmeen2158
      @brianmeen2158 15 годин тому

      Oh most women have terrible game - they don’t need it as guys are fine with putting in all the work

    • @timmorisma4800
      @timmorisma4800 11 годин тому

      @@brianmeen2158 yes, women have terrible game, that's why they can't keep a man.

  • @JTDyer21
    @JTDyer21 2 дні тому +16

    I no longer have an opinion on dating. I just don't.

  • @S3aCa1mRa1n
    @S3aCa1mRa1n 2 дні тому +14

    Shared interest and mutual friends is GOAT. Cold approach sometimes. I don’t think men should shy away from using a little bit of everything. What I think works the best is the mindset of being open to connection, like good vibes and have no fear.

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  2 дні тому

      Solid advice my friend. Keep it up.

    • @Figgs101
      @Figgs101 2 дні тому +3

      That’s the problem people go from connecting and vibing with each other to hating each other and never talking

    • @spikestoyou
      @spikestoyou 2 дні тому +3

      There is no formula. Good vibes are temporary until things go sideways, then people disappear

  • @Robodude_0528
    @Robodude_0528 18 годин тому +4

    I just don’t bother anymore. I have hit every major milestone in life except dating and I don’t have any hope for it at this point. Social media has got 6’s acting like 10’s and there’s too many damaged people out there

  • @tonydiesel3444
    @tonydiesel3444 2 дні тому +43

    All women go from guy to guy to guy their entire lives that means they leave all the guys and go to a different guy that means there's no such thing as dating this entire neighborhood I live in is divorced twice over

    • @spikestoyou
      @spikestoyou 2 дні тому +6

      Yeah it’s impossible nowadays, just stay single and stay away from lust. Literally impossible to have a real relationship, do not bother.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 День тому +9

      "She's not yours it's just your turn"

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 12 годин тому

      Exactly. You dont take as good of care of things you're just borrowing....

    • @tonydiesel3444
      @tonydiesel3444 11 годин тому

      @Canadian_Eh_I it's just our turn it's not like she's not trying to replace us with the bigger and better deal every second of every day or some guy at her job

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 11 годин тому

      @@tonydiesel3444 Yup women dont love YOU they love what YOU give THEM

  • @psnisy1234
    @psnisy1234 День тому +4

    14:19 Bullshit
    There's plenty of guys who have good social skills, but STILL get bad results with women. We keep putting all the burden on guys and many of us have done the work already. The problem here mostly falls on the women in that society tells women they are perfect the way they are so they refuse to change and if no man is willing to accept their bs then they are better off being by themselves. We've gone too far left in our values which makes relationships so difficult. If we were in a society that prioritized more traditionalist values, communities & support for families, and men and women going towards more binary roles then we would have more/better relationships on top of improving the birth rate. The pop the balloon series is the perfect example of this and I think at this point its just best for us to accept that this shit isnt going to work nor is it worth pursuing long term.

  • @Moriningland
    @Moriningland 2 дні тому +12

    Maybe it’s just time for people to start rethinking life, what works and what doesn’t. Dating, marriage and relationships are just too exclusive for many people and it requires a skill set that isn’t achievable for many people.
    Some people have difficulty attracting even friends let alone mates. The meaning of life is to be alive. Just enjoy the one life you’re ever going to have. Society tells you you MUST experience romance to have a fulfilling life but the reality is that most won’t.
    Everyone is different.

  • @mesv3567
    @mesv3567 День тому +3

    Denmo, this has been a year for change and improvement and you were part of what made me change, im just a random guy on the comment section for you but i really appreciate what you do, thanks.

  • @wagner9527
    @wagner9527 2 дні тому +47

    Denmo, we are worried about you bruh. Cheers from Brazil, you rock.

    • @CaioMarcelino-g3x
      @CaioMarcelino-g3x 2 дні тому +1

      Sou do Brasil também, o que aconteceu com ele?

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  2 дні тому +29

      I'm doing fine lads. Appreciate it tho will share more in future

    • @wagner9527
      @wagner9527 2 дні тому +4

      @@Denmosocial Thank you man, good luck with everything

    • @wagner9527
      @wagner9527 2 дні тому

      @@CaioMarcelino-g3x Eu vi uma reportagem aqui no UA-cam, ele está sendo acusado de assédio por um caso de 5 anos atrás, a menina consentiu e aí no meio ato nao consentiu mais 🤦🏻‍♂️ That's what she said.

    • @wagner9527
      @wagner9527 2 дні тому

      @@CaioMarcelino-g3x Foi acusado de assédio man, coisa de 5 anos atrás, a menina consentiu mas depois se arrependeu,coisa assim

  • @joebeta1837
    @joebeta1837 2 дні тому +28

    Don't listen to this guy. Since the caveman era, just like today, women go for the best man possible who could take care of her and her babies. If there were 10 available caveman, just like 10 available guys at the bar, she'll choose the best one. Knowing that, guys like me with flaws won't even try to ask a woman out. I'm 50 and 5'8". Women go for guys who are taller. I know.

    • @danb5944
      @danb5944 2 дні тому +3

      They do go for the best one but who wants too be that guy with her kids married leave that for someone else you just want her for fun nothing serious a average guy can still do that ..she will probably upgrade quick but u can still have fun

    • @joebeta1837
      @joebeta1837 2 дні тому

      @danb5944 Wish me (us all) luck to even get the opportunity to have fun with a woman like that. I'll accept that.

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  2 дні тому +17

      miserable old guy clicking on videos like this to leave negative comments. seriously man 😂

    • @Will-fr9hg
      @Will-fr9hg 2 дні тому +22

      Denmo is willfully ignorant. Serving false hope to the desperate.

    • @the_exegete
      @the_exegete 2 дні тому

      your short guy gene came from a thousand generations of short men who got laid, what you're saying just clearly is not true

  • @officialkoby
    @officialkoby День тому +3

    Fellas, put your phone down, get in the gym, learn a remote skill, preferably in IT, practice cold approach with outcome independence and eventually get a passport.

  • @astralisodyssey-i9n
    @astralisodyssey-i9n Годину тому +232

    this video was really helpful. i’ve also been reading the book celestial soulmate by lentlish.
    it has tips on talking to girls, flirting, and even a cold approach guide.
    together, this video and the book are amazing.

  • @midragga
    @midragga День тому +9

    Why buy the cow when chad got the milk for free 200 times before meeting her

    • @HateBear-real
      @HateBear-real День тому

      Brutal, but I laughed just the same. Get your passports bros.

    • @SeanT-i9k
      @SeanT-i9k День тому +1

      chad hasnt been a thing since 2014, its been chadrone for over 10 years now.

    • @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93
      @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93 14 годин тому

      I love breast milk so much one of my ex has Galactorrhea

  • @bgdnptr
    @bgdnptr 2 дні тому +8

    You are a good man Denmo.

  • @nathanm2993
    @nathanm2993 2 дні тому +15

    I’m 24 and never dated because I still live with parents. My goal is to get more certifications so that I can get a solid job in marketing, communications, or maybe something related to web3 or AI. With my job as a part-time retail stocker, most of my money is saved. I have no money to socialize and go on dates with women.
    Plus, TBH I’m too boring for women my age. My interests are content creation, going to the gym, NASCAR, and learning about making more money. Most of these are masculine, solo hobbies. I’m also not into the partying and drinking that a majority of the women my age are into. I don’t want these low quality women. And no, I don’t want to be the beta provider guy that settles for fat girls, single moms, and promiscuous older women. I’m good.
    Seems like dating is a catch 22 for me, but I can’t just mope around and do nothing.

    • @rahathasan819
      @rahathasan819 2 дні тому +3

      what does living with your parents have to do with it

    • @BxingOT.M
      @BxingOT.M День тому +5

      I’ve lived with my parents and have dated several women and brought them back home. It all depends on the girl you get though

  • @victordove9891
    @victordove9891 День тому +7

    Giving up is a cowardly way out, of course it’s going to be hard and stressful. It’s not excuse to no go after what you want.

  • @cyborggaming6961
    @cyborggaming6961 2 дні тому +12

    Changed? More like nonexistent I don’t see myself getting married

  • @johnthomas753
    @johnthomas753 22 години тому +1

    Not being relationship material is a blessing financially and mentally. Yes!

  • @Texasno420
    @Texasno420 День тому +3

    Nope it’s about looks. Get rejected all the time it’s all about looks

  • @brennen4830
    @brennen4830 День тому +5

    Imagine life without a phone.

  • @flee78
    @flee78 17 годин тому +2

    All my girlfriends are on instagram. they don't talk back. They don't spend money. And they look great all the time!

  • @DeadLift-y9v
    @DeadLift-y9v День тому +1

    "men are too scared of rejection to approach." this is mostly true, however, every time i hear people say this, i think they scapegoat young men instead of acknowledging that women have spent the past seven years saying that they hate when hit on them. This obviously isn't always true, but the way consent works now is that you must always take women's word at face value. People didn't stop approaching out of fear, but out of misplaced compassion.
    As for loneliness in general, carl jung says that loneliness isn't just a factor of having no one else around, but more so comes about when people feel like they aren't really allowed to talk about what they feel is important to them. Society does not let young men talk about anything candidly. Voicing thoughts about dating, sex, finances, mental health or culture really does not go over well in circles with women for the most part.
    I think your videos are well intentioned, but don't scapegoat young men just to try to sell your course. Both genders need to heal and meet each other halfway

  • @michaellamont2605
    @michaellamont2605 День тому +2

    You ain't Rich
    You ain't Dating

  • @maxiver808
    @maxiver808 7 годин тому +1

    Even if you do approach AND get numbers it usually goes know here. This is drastically different than how it was a decade or more ago. If you got a number it wasn't hard to get a woman out on a date. Now its near impossible no matter what you do. If you are my age (40) you know the difference is night and day.

  • @paulschell2712
    @paulschell2712 12 годин тому

    By far the best video on modern dating I have ever seen. I agree with your analysis. Men watching too many red pill videos get jaded, no different than women getting jaded. Great work!

  • @MX-CO
    @MX-CO 2 дні тому +10

    The juice isnt worth the squeeze anymore

  • @jkgzjhp1705
    @jkgzjhp1705 2 дні тому +10

    Simple answer is technology

  • @RealHomeRecording
    @RealHomeRecording 12 годин тому

    Great video as always but those captions are distracting! UA-cam already has a feature that allows people to turn closed captioning on or off and it works pretty darn well.

  • @micahp.4356
    @micahp.4356 2 дні тому +7

    Man Denmo, I thought you got grilled! Glad you are okay.

  • @FreedomOnALeash1776
    @FreedomOnALeash1776 День тому +4

    Uh oh, let's hear what the guru has to say.

  • @guitarman813
    @guitarman813 2 дні тому +21

    I've never used dating apps. Meeting someone organically and in-person is (and always has been) the best way of achieving results in love and dating in my opinion. That said, approaching the opposite sex is hard and takes a lot of courage. It's even more challenging if you're like me and are on the autism spectrum. Because people like us have to work extra hard in understanding people's feelings and emotions. As well as knowing what are interest and flirtation signals that are given to us. Instead of just the platonic signals that we get more often than not.
    While dating and love remains a challenge, I'd rather do it the hard way and just accept that the results are more likely to take longer to achieve than using dating apps and social media. But at the end of it all, the results are also more likely to be better than using the above technology. Pros and cons to everything in life. And this subject is no exception! 😅

  • @JerseyGrove
    @JerseyGrove 2 дні тому +18

    No reason for me to. I know I won’t get anyone I’m attracted to and the game is basically rigged against guys who look like me.

    • @nathanm2993
      @nathanm2993 2 дні тому

      Bruh you look like a 7/10 minimum. Unless you’re like 5 feet tall, you have a shot.

    • @JF-xm6tu
      @JF-xm6tu 2 дні тому +3

      Bro you look good. We all have dryspells

    • @Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese
      @Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese 2 дні тому

      @@JF-xm6tudry spells are still painful.

    • @JF-xm6tu
      @JF-xm6tu День тому +1

      @@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese im in one right now of 3 months. mostly beause i stopped putting effort into meeting women

    • @JerseyGrove
      @JerseyGrove День тому +1

      @@JF-xm6tu Appreciate that. I think I'm in the same boat. I could be putting in a little more effort but sometimes I don't have the mental or emotional stamina.

  • @ferrattesdaniel
    @ferrattesdaniel 15 годин тому

    In 2015 I used to join girls in a table . After 2020 this is impossible. Talking from experienced dating guy . Dating isn't the same anymore .

  • @lambo2655
    @lambo2655 День тому +4

    That's nothing I'm 59 haven't been on a single date nor approached any woman after being rejected by every woman I asked out in my 20's so go on tell me it's my fault.

  • @chrisomalley1105
    @chrisomalley1105 День тому +1

    Thanks I needed to hear that!
    And yet all I do is " socialize"- dancing - dance lessons - church groups. Friend zoned, social zoned. Women want me for social entertainment, no openness, no commitment, no intimacy. And they are small communities. Ask a women for a date, not just a dance and your labeled as desperate for a date.

  • @Bryanleefit
    @Bryanleefit 9 годин тому

    in my experience the best girls to deal with are the ones who either come up to you, or dm you first. I've had many failed encounters with myself approaching, some of them leading to dates, and a few leading to a relationship, but none ever worked out cause it seemed I was always more interested than the girl I was approaching. This creates an opposite dynamic of hypergamy and honestly its a real thing. The energy from girls who approach me or hit me up is a complete 360 to the girls I approach. The high interest females bring out their feminine side, the ones I end up shooting my shot at just walks around like her shit doesn't stink. Remember to stay away from the 10s and wife up a 7 or 8, those imo are the best ones to choose.

  • @12Mparry
    @12Mparry День тому +1

    too real. I gave up on dating after my last breakup. I'm 26, I just don't see myself having a long-term relationship with any of these manipulative/fake women. Social media ruined everything. Have a good looking girl in your town? too bad she has an Instagram with 25K+ followers and random guys 100 miles away willing to fly them there and back without a second thought.

    • @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93
      @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93 15 годин тому

      Why do you want to date gl girls why not some average or below average girl that have a good heart.

  • @oblivious_rob1273
    @oblivious_rob1273 2 дні тому +7

    I left my house just so I could comment this.

  • @cincomiranda478
    @cincomiranda478 День тому +4

    Fortunately I learn a lot about pick up cold approach when I was young. And I recommend everyone learn how to cold start relationships. I had great experiences with awesome women. Had a lot of bad experiences too. And the reality is, it’s just nature. Men will do what men do and women will do what women do. It’s like getting upset at a dog that barks. It’s just nature. Learn to have fun with the small window we have called life. You’re not going to make it out alive. Go get laid 😂

  • @abrahamrlopez
    @abrahamrlopez День тому +1

    Hopefully you have another "top 5 youtubers you need to follow" video coming up soon

  • @xrdan
    @xrdan 2 дні тому +21

    Nah I’m cooked😔

  • @Jacob-py9mx
    @Jacob-py9mx 2 дні тому +5

    Hope you are doing well Jack!

  • @morkoblooper7991
    @morkoblooper7991 2 дні тому +6

    I'm pretty much done with all this stuff thanks to all these mind games and nothing mature when it comes to dating

    • @maximusneal2642
      @maximusneal2642 2 дні тому

      Why do you think that way? And give evidence for your second statement.

    • @HiTechMonkey
      @HiTechMonkey День тому

      Some girl was flirting with me, I asked her out and she said no. It makes no sense.

  • @charliefox9573
    @charliefox9573 2 дні тому +3

    I'd rather meet someone in real life than through an app, but when approaching a woman there should be some context around the approach/conversation, observing something about the environment/situation you're in etc. Maybe younger guys can pull off cold approaching, but in middle age for 99% of guys randomly walking up to a woman to tell her she looks cute is painfully lame and will mostly come across as cringy and desperate. If there is no context other than she's hot, I'll just walk up and tell her, especially if you're hanging around a location with that specific purpose in mind, you may as well be choosing a woman from a catalog. It removes any sense of fate or destiny about meeting someone and becomes akin to winning a game, achieving an objective, and moving on to the next 'mission'.
    Not saying don't approach, just helps to have some context, otherwise you're just an approach machine which at worst, can turn guys into sociopaths with no ability to sense or discern when a genuine connection is happening.

    • @maximusneal2642
      @maximusneal2642 2 дні тому +1

      Shshhh, don't think.... just see and do, be in the moment, be present in the moment and only then youll find opportunities to display your personality & escalate... lean on to your senses not in your head, never listen to fear, always listen to confidence, be adaptable.. like water, always shifting with its environment and place its in.. good luck, be water my friend 👍🏾

  • @Vse_yob
    @Vse_yob 2 дні тому +1

    Wishing you all the best bro. For real, I hope the justice system does the right thing.

  • @learnbetter3324
    @learnbetter3324 День тому +1

    Also $$$. A dinner for 2 used to be $100 now its like $160 including the tip. People are broke due to recession, sky rocketing rent increases, so they just chill at home play video games or watch a movie and maybe once in a while they will hit a bar with some friends at a lower cost expense.

  • @rjflores438
    @rjflores438 2 дні тому +5

    There is too big a disparity between the feeling of romantic desire man have for women and the desire given back, and it just makes many men feel like an imposter for showing women interest as a result as if it is just a iven that we are not attractive enough or good enough to date.

  • @Didirunsitall
    @Didirunsitall День тому +3

    Free up bro, I know you innocent😂✊🏽

  • @FonuhYT
    @FonuhYT 2 дні тому +3

    Respect for that Romania Sticker on your laptop! 🤘

  • @Lindemanchannel
    @Lindemanchannel 16 годин тому

    Until we stop treating women like they are the most special, amazing people that can never do anything wrong and giving them money merely for existing, this will continue to get worse and worse.

  • @yeahrightbear8883
    @yeahrightbear8883 2 дні тому +1

    The reason I don't talk to random women is because most of them hate that shit. Some don't mind, but the overwhelming majority of women I have met say they do not like it when strange men approach them. This is because most men suck at approaching. They say weird and creepy shit to them and scare all of the women. Women literally are not going out in public anymore, specifically because men won't leave them alone. I can't even count the number of times I've been in an innocent conversation with a woman, and she just keeps repeating the words "my husband" in every other sentence. And I'm like, lady, I get it you're married. Do you want me to help you load this shit in your car, or can I please go back inside to finish my job?

    • @Wanderer2035
      @Wanderer2035 2 години тому

      How are guys supposed to start relationships with women without cold approaching? You can’t always hit on a girl at your job you can risk getting fired. Most guys can’t join some random club, they’re busy working and maybe taking some college courses. Honestly college classes is the only legitimate way I can think of

  • @TraxisOnTheLines
    @TraxisOnTheLines День тому

    The issue I ran into many years ago (I'm 29), and kind of had the full realization a couple ago - I don't know what to do in life because I don't know what exists. If I turn off my computer and walk out of my bedroom, I can eat and exercise. That's it. I have a group of friends I see once or twice a week, but I can't fill up my entire life with them. My town has nothing in it to do, so the only option is driving 40+ minutes to a nearby town and then not knowing what exists in that town as something to do. How do I expand my life if I don't know what I'm expanding into?

  • @Matt-uy8tw
    @Matt-uy8tw 19 годин тому

    The problem with dating as a man is that it's like paying your boss for you to show up on time and tell you what to do. If I'm fixing problems, my financial investment in this relationship will be net negative, and her investment will be net positive. My opinions need to be seen as equal at a minimum

  • @Masculinechivalry
    @Masculinechivalry 2 дні тому +3

    I am not dating because I am not earning now as 22 year old guy I have approach anxiety. Yeah I can socialise very good in gym but with girls it's difficult for me . I have not problem in socialising with people . What should I do ?

  • @DaYoungBlackMaleGS47
    @DaYoungBlackMaleGS47 2 дні тому +14

    Never approach her if she's not giving you choosing signals

    • @T8terN8tor
      @T8terN8tor 2 дні тому +13

      Even then, she could just do that and all she wanted was your attention for an ego boost.

    • @DaYoungBlackMaleGS47
      @DaYoungBlackMaleGS47 2 дні тому +3

      @T8terN8tor not if they're showing true signs like blushing staring etc..

    • @the_exegete
      @the_exegete 2 дні тому +2

      @T8terN8tor oh no, that would mean you talked to a pretty lady and got nothing out of it but an enjoyable conversation. that would be so terrible, oh no

    • @mohit.vaishnav10
      @mohit.vaishnav10 2 дні тому +1

      @T8terN8torSame happen to me one girl keep on glancing at me for more than 3 months each and every time when I am at gym and one day I wanted to genuinely show her one exercise with good technique so when i was about to approach her she basically saw me coming towards her she acted like she didn’t knew i was beside her trying to say hello, she keep on looking way back on right side i was worried her neck should have fallen apart soon but after 6 to 8 seconds of standing beside her she finally looked towards me, she saw me coming as i mentioned but acted she didn’t knew so then i quickly shown her exercise without even asking her name i went back to my workout.

    • @T8terN8tor
      @T8terN8tor 2 дні тому

      @@the_exegete Actually, I encountered a few girls that are like that. Of course not all have the same motive behind it, but some do just like the attention from guys.

  • @9lHETbl
    @9lHETbl День тому

    Jack, don't give up. You'll get through any shit.

  • @scientia49
    @scientia49 23 години тому +1

    another alternative to dating is legal prostitution (if you're not looking for relationships and just want to get laid) - there are many countries in the world where it's legal

    • @LakersParadise
      @LakersParadise 19 годин тому

      yup thats exactly what I do

    • @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93
      @presidentjoebiden46thpresi93 15 годин тому

      What about emotional needs you missed the part there because men can't live without women by their side

  • @andrewmohar3613
    @andrewmohar3613 День тому +1

    just one long sales pitch if you cant even have a conversation and socialize how could you possibly be a busy professional?

  • @blakekogut3045
    @blakekogut3045 21 годину тому

    19:20 you just crawled into my mind with that one Denmo thanks man i actually didn't think about that until you said it

  • @savioartwork
    @savioartwork 2 години тому

    for gay people extra challenge: extra risky to approach a random guy
    (what if people do not like gay clubs or events, but wish to live NORMAL life)

  • @jbone9900
    @jbone9900 2 дні тому +11

    Its over time to go overseas

    • @danb5944
      @danb5944 2 дні тому +2

      Go too Thailand is the best advice you can give anyone

    • @JerseyGrove
      @JerseyGrove 2 дні тому

      @@jbone9900 No attraction to foreign women. Hard pass.

    • @dark_nightwing_xl2797
      @dark_nightwing_xl2797 2 дні тому

      @@danb5944its nog for longterm lmaooo

  • @min1gun97
    @min1gun97 16 годин тому +1

    Because its not 2025 yet bro

  • @zoxialmoss6312
    @zoxialmoss6312 2 дні тому +1

    Damn it Demvo you got me again, but honestly after my divorce i just shut down and am unable to get back up for socializing

  • @Oran2811
    @Oran2811 2 дні тому

    Great video Denmo!

  • @smithdave712
    @smithdave712 День тому +1

    Hey bro are you from Germany?

  • @dinguswiffle1866
    @dinguswiffle1866 День тому

    It’s interesting that all the big changes happen later now. Moving out, getting married, having kids, all happening at an older age than usual. That’s not good, especially with how much smaller this next generation will be.

  • @linkuriboh471
    @linkuriboh471 7 годин тому +1

    Gen Z men aren't dating because the dads are getting divorced at this point.

  • @edvarez
    @edvarez День тому

    Damn it denmo you got me

  • @gunnerbither7786
    @gunnerbither7786 2 дні тому +2

    3:32 so you’ve never lived in a small town 😂😂

  • @allynflinchbaugh4570
    @allynflinchbaugh4570 3 години тому

    3:05 I don't feel enough emotion to actually feel shame towards approaching a female. At the same time, I care so little about females that I don't see much of a need to approach one.

  • @SDSmith-nu4oi
    @SDSmith-nu4oi День тому

    Denmo you have no idea how happy I was to see this video pop up! You're ok! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @Ljtheog12
    @Ljtheog12 2 дні тому +2

    The world, dating, and even online dating, was perfectly fine until the late 2000s. It was when the smartphones, social media, and dating apps came in… and oh, that little ‘social justice gender wars’ thing… and we are in an awful place these days in love and life.

  • @moneylineparlay105
    @moneylineparlay105 День тому

    Cold approaching is a modern concept, there was no cold approaching 100 years ago. Everything was arranged.

  • @BlazePizzeria
    @BlazePizzeria 2 дні тому +6

    Because unless you want kids this very moment (which most of us don't since we're still in our 20's and early 30's), It's a huge waste of time. Focus on your goals and career first, rest of the glory comes after.

    • @novadream1184
      @novadream1184 2 дні тому +6

      ok but you are you willing to be 30, and miss out on having someone for those 10 years, or wanting to be someone in their early 20s while your like in your 30s?? A lot of people regret not pursuing connections in their 20s, when they did focus on their career

    • @BlazePizzeria
      @BlazePizzeria 2 дні тому +1

      @ I would rather have my career set and be able to fully provide for my family then have to rush into a relationship and have kids only to find out I cant fully provide for them. I would hate for my wife and kids to go through what I had to go through when I was a kid. Deciding to have kids is a massive responsibility and a gift. I shouldn’t allow my selfishness of entertaining kids and having an early relationship, just for my own pleasure. Now if you already happen to be well off, stable career, and are able to provide, then by all means do so.
      Further you make it seem as if 20’s and 30’s is a massive gap, when in reality its not. Perhaps in the context for a women due to her biological clock (assuming she wants a family), but for men they are generally entering their prime in their 30’s. I would also argue a women in her 20’s wouldn’t mind if a man is in his 20’s or 30’s, and would rather choose the one that could provide and is more stable in all fields.
      But my original context is for the majority of the people who are not stable financially, mentally, physically, and emotionally. And lets be honest thats for most men in their 20’s.

    • @the_exegete
      @the_exegete 2 дні тому

      you have time for both, and as a young man more importantly you have he energy for both and more. now's the time

    • @maximusneal2642
      @maximusneal2642 2 дні тому +1

      ​@@BlazePizzeriaWomen also don't mind if you aren't stable, they look for potential, you both can still work together and go through that, I can understand if your a structured person but there is no step by step approach to it

    • @spikestoyou
      @spikestoyou 2 дні тому +2

      Don’t let anyone pressure you into settling with a woman. I promise if you try to pursue a woman in her 20s right now, it is a total crapshoot. The odds of you completely destroying your life over picking the wrong girl are much greater than some happily ever after story where you find the right one and she loves you and follows you to the ends of the earth, never cheats on you, never seeks attention outside of the relationship, etc etc.

  • @Ok.I.Pull.Up.420
    @Ok.I.Pull.Up.420 21 годину тому

    I’m 39 but look 30 and am trying to change things I approached a woman and introduced myself in the gym a couple weeks ago. I also asked out a bartender the other day. I wouldn’t say that either went well but I needed to after years of complaining that I wasn’t getting any girls.

  • @TheRadFire
    @TheRadFire 2 дні тому

    That's a sick textured Polo you got Jack. Where did you get it from?

  • @er132er
    @er132er День тому

    The only real reason is that everybody has standards that are way too high. I am just a 5/10 guy but I too would rather not be in a relationship at all than date someone average or slightly above average. Thus I am alone.

  • @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385
    @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 День тому +1

    29 and never dated or had a relationship. I'm attractive and have been told so and people have gotten angry when I deny it and say I'm phishing for compliments, I'm not. I guess I'll really never have a chance now.. just wanted to see if I would've appreciated dating and relationships then maybe I find out it isn't for me and move on but I never got the chance 😔..

  • @Masculinechivalry
    @Masculinechivalry 2 дні тому

    I want to start youtube channel. But I am confused in my niche . I don't know how to write script and editing and making thumbnail . What should i do denmo any suggestion . Do you write script for your videos ?

    • @Monkofthecaribbean
      @Monkofthecaribbean 2 дні тому +1

      Use ChatGPT and other AI tools for thumbnails etc to start

    • @Denmosocial
      @Denmosocial  2 дні тому

      check my video 3 or 4 back on youtube

  • @tonydiesel3444
    @tonydiesel3444 2 дні тому +6

    What am I supposed to date a single mother

    • @the_exegete
      @the_exegete 2 дні тому +4

      ...yes? If you like each other then sure? Is this a trick question?

    • @tonydiesel3444
      @tonydiesel3444 День тому

      That garbage will never be near me

  • @jrdonaldson2053
    @jrdonaldson2053 2 дні тому +4

    Hey Jack !

  • @Canadian_Eh_I
    @Canadian_Eh_I 12 годин тому

    They arent worth it anymore. Women today use men like toilet paper and so we've stopped jumping through pointless hoops.

  • @Butt-mk4wx
    @Butt-mk4wx День тому

    It's like .. why the hell would I go out to a bar and approach women when there's a 99% chance I get rejected? I could just get rejected from the comfort of my own home on dating apps 🤷🏾‍♂
    Also aren't the women at bars and clubs just there to 'hang out with her girls' anyway? So going out is a waste of time for the vast majority of men.

    • @HateBear-real
      @HateBear-real День тому

      I never really saw it that way. My concern was always what venues were likely to promote bad behavior because I don't want a 304. Even churches are full of 304s. I never even considered bars. My biggest problem is I don't know where I could go where 304s are not allowed, and that's the only type of space I would want to operate in.

  • @americancapitalist9094
    @americancapitalist9094 2 дні тому +2

    Maybe it’s just another excuse, but it’s also that we see everyone who did successfully find someone and had the life go through a horrible divorce or breakup.
    Socializing is important regardless, but we (men and women) have to learn how to make relationships work.

  • @tomk5238
    @tomk5238 День тому

    Damn it Denmo you got me.

  • @SergenK
    @SergenK День тому +1

    i just can't be bothered with their validation needs and feelings. simplest example: they have a problem; i say a solution. no they don't want a solution. They want to feel that i get them. like bro i don't want to spend time on bullshit when nothing even gets solved or changed.

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 День тому

      Yes, women are very annoying at that, they don't want to solve problems but just rant about it. One of the main reasons I don't want a woman in my life.
      Men are problem solvers, not psychologists.

  • @WaldregTheGreat
    @WaldregTheGreat 2 дні тому +1

    where are you getting those opening statistics from?

    • @the_exegete
      @the_exegete 2 дні тому +2

      lol he totally made that shit up. Man's wrong about "caveman" times too, because population exchanges between communities would have been pretty common. Man were in no sense limited to 4 or 5 chances in their entire lives. Evopsych pap.
      The advice is still good though.