the one habit you need: how to set systems (vs goals) ft. tidy with me
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
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GIRL, Im gonna go take a shower, then come back and rewatch this and take notes. IM GETTIN MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER❤️
You got this ;) wishing you the best
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Go girl!
How'd it go?
My boyfriend and I always say “no way of knowing” when one of us asks a question, which means that we don’t Google it until we decide on an answer ourselves & give a reason for our answer. It’s just something silly we do, but it’s so fun!
meganeff 😊♥️
that'S REALLY intelligent! I hate that people google everything before trying to find it out. And then feel so clever because they "know" it but forget about it 1 minute after
Very good! Generating Effect will help you remember the right answer. AsapScience Channel has a resent video about it.
that is so cute, what a great idea
I love that! I bet that helps with critical thinking and feels amazing when you surprise yourself with having the right answer
- 0:19 Choose systems rather than goals.
- 0:40 A goal is a specific objective you achieve or not sometime in future. What is waiting to be achieved someday, is a goal.
- 0:45 A system is what is done on a regular basis that achieves odds of overall happiness in long run. What is done everyday, is a system.
- 1:00 A goal is a result to achieve, a system is the process that brings those results. System is the practice, while goal is performance.
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- There are 4 steps to change outputs by changing systems of inputs (each step is numbered in order).
1) 2:09 Identify the why. Reflect on where you are and where like to be. To learn this, a great framework to try is current state vs desired state gap analysis.
2:44 1st in this analysis, find where you are currently in situation, answer questions like "how am I feeling?", "how do I spend time?", and "what is currently driving me?".
3:13 2nd in this analysis, find where you are desired to be in situation, answer questions like "how would I like to be living in an ideal world?", "why do I have this desired state?", and "is my desired state rooted in my values?".
3:48 3rd in this analysis, looking into the gap in between by answering questions like "why does the gap exist?", "why close it?". Also set up systems for your desired state, what makes the desired state work.
2) 6:04 Identify the how. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state. You might try a system to help you get there (the video doesn't provide much more info).
3) 6:57 Execute the what. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state but much more detailed. What actionable steps, where make adjustments, and what small incremental changes can you commit to.
4) 8:03 Assess and adjust. Take a step back and make adjustments to the system. Celebrate small wins. Build systems that best suit you.
8:53 If you desired to build deeper relationships with friends, build a system. Leave phone out of sight during meals, listen during conversations, and ask deep meaningful questions.
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Yesterday i realised that I need to change my evening routine and go to bed earlier in order to make my morning more productive and finally stop being late everywhere
And it feels like you read my mind
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Honestly if you’d write books they’d be the only books I’d buy from a youtuber and I’d buy all of them I’ve learned so much from you
*ADVICE FOR YOU, ROWENA* !!! You should have a catch-all basket when you come in for all of your skincare from work... so you don´t put the skincare all over your apartment... then all you have to do, is sort through said skincare basket at some later time... hope this helps :) XX
Too add to your point. If she built her own tribe of ppl or friends who can follow a checklist she provides for reviews. She can get through all of them and save Space and Time :)
I know it’s your JOB but the sheer amount of products gave me anxiety ): makes me want to declutter my own beauty products
There's no way only one person can thoroughly test that amount of products
Millennial Stray I felt that too
Millennial Stray Sameeeee
I came here to say the same, it's a lot. I don't mean to sound negative but Rowena should donate some of the products. Minimalists how are ya'll doing? lol
I was wondering how I can trust her recommendations when her face/skin goes tru so much work!
Unrelated but your new rug 💕
Facts
Right! I was thinking that too! Her aesthetic is so gorgeous 😍😍
I knew it it was you~ yay! I love both of your vlogs! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Who else got distracted by the video and the voice over?
So many tubes of skin care 😱
I can say that I enjoyed watching the cleaning up process😅
Omg she talked about lavendaire!!! My two favourite youtubers right now. 🌸
I'm a guy but I learned many things from both of them. I really love Lavandaire and Rowena Tsai! ♡♡♡
Currently reading Start with Why, Atomic Habits was one of my fave books from last year and I live by the 2 min rule now and it helps so much!
Whoa! You have a whole drugstore going on there. I've never seen a larger home collection then yours!
I came back to watch this video. I watched it about 6 months ago and accomplished everything I wanted by following your directives. I learned open -water swimming, started a brilliant new lifestyle, and met the love of my life. I will now integrate a system to save money. I'm ever-grateful to you, not least because I love how you present information. Bless you. Love from Croatia.❤️
Rowena,
Using your video today I identified that the current me is a person who is too tired to clean on weekdays, and spends a big chunk of weekends tidying up and secretly hating my family for not helping me (they work on weekends while I'm the only one at home). What you helped me do is the following:
1) I made a list of chores, dispensed them within family members and made a schedule who does what & when.
2) Also I will change my input by doing my best to return things back to their places after I've used them.
3) I will spend 15 min in the a.m. & the p.m. on weekdays, and 30 min in the a.m. & p.m. on weekends to keep the place clean.
4) I'll create a to do list to remind myself of the things I committed to.
5) I realized I might have to get up 15 min earlier.
Thank you for your wonderful content. That's a like, a subscribe and a bell. Have a wonderful day!
I look forward to my voice hugs every week, also i swear i forget to breathe sometimes when you mentioned it i was like oh crap have i been breathing *takes deep breath*
Yesterday when I saw the words "keeping a tidy space" I got up off my lazy butt, did my physical therapy, cleaned my room, got ready, and actually finished my list of to-dos for the day plus more. I'm not sure what kind of sorcery you're using but keep it up because I have never been that productive in my life.
Watching your videos have become part of my favorite weekend morning routines- I love how informative they are, the editing- and most importantly when I finish watching a video I feel like I really learned something. I almost immediately want to implement it! Thank you so much for your hard work~~!
Thank you so much. This was such a timely video for me. I've been going to therapy for the last years and made significant progress mentally. but I have trouble implementing change in the day to day and it's been frustrating. So the idea of separating goals from systems makes so much sense and this video is just the extra little nudge i needed to get started. Which is what I will do now. Thank you.
I legit took out my notebook and wrote everything you said. Truly valuable points you have mentioned.
I’ve found Atomic habits to be sooo inspiring and enlightening and I love that you are creating content on these topics that are so important to me at this stage in my life. I find your videos to be sooo relatable but more specifically so raw and so real and open and thought provoking. It is so great to have your videos to learn from and get inspiration from to help me on my own journey. I wonder if you have any plans to do videos on mental health topics and therapy ( anxiety, cognitive behavioral therapy etc) because I suspect you would be great at helping people in those ways too.
I think with the toiletries/beauty products I would store it at work. Then shop from work, I need more shower gel, face cream etc, then you bring that home from work as you need it. I also wonder if you bring them home then try them to see if you like it, I would test at work first then only bring home my first choice. You could keep 2 massive plastic no see into boxes with lids under your desk at work to store it all. Great video 😊😊😊
*You are Worthy of everything your heart desires.* Make a Decision of what you want, Back it with Burning Desire and take Aligned Action. Your Life will transform before your eyes ♡ Adores this Rowena! You can really tell you put a lot of effort into your Videos, the aesthetic is on point!
I’ve rewatched this video so many times and finally created my system. Thank you so much for your content! Nothing has ever made more sense. I’ve been too focused on the smallest of details and so focused on perfection. I have watched you, Lavendaire, and Muchelle B for years and always get great lessons. Now kind of “zooming out” to focus on the long term ways I can still have the life I am excited about while crushing goals. Figuring out what was working and what wasn’t.... I’m actually in awe. Thanks again Rowena! 💓
Rowena: zooming in on the messy parts
me, an actual hoarder: man i wish that were me
Andddddd 2 years later I’m back still watching this video. Thank you so much for your wisdom and creativity!
Dear Rowena, your advice and method inspired an aunty of 50yrs old like me so much. So helpful and useful. Sending you loads of HAPPY blessings and 💖 ... keep up the GREAT WORK.
From your senior fan/aunty here.
I love how open you are to us, we feel so connected to you. There's no such thing as perfection, so f*** haters👏🏼
fuck u I am a hater
This is incredibly healing, especially for those seriously changing their life. This is one of those videos that changes you, at least for me, because it is exactly what I need ❤️
That bit towards the end about wondering... 👏🏻 I reach for my phone right away for any little wonder that goes through my mind - I should just let my mind wonder more and slow down on seeking the tiniest bits of knowledge
I dont now how, but every week Rowena puts out a video with the element that I'm missing from my life. When I saw the title of this video i felt like my prayers were awnsed and that even tho this week was hard it was going go learn and improve from it especially by seeing this video. Thank u so much 💙💙
I just live for u, ur voice, ur motivation, ur mindset, JUST YOU
i agree! Ive been trying out my own systems the last few months and its been easier than I thought it would to keep doing them.
Hi Rowena ✌🏾Just discovered your channel today:) I appreciate how much work you put into your videos. From 2014-2018 I was mostly goal/outcome oriented, and lately have been trying to be more process/system oriented. I’m currently in the process of reading Atomic Habits. Great book. Great work Rowena!
your videos, especially these system vs. goal videos are so helpful to me!
also, i'm an elementary school teacher and this i use often: clean desk/work space means clear mind. the students really benefit from a tidy learning space.
Randomly came across this video yesterday. I never really had goals and so this make more sense to me. I love systems, a systems thinking class during my masters changed my life honestly. I made a list last nigh on how my days were going to look like and today is Day 1 and I already see a major difference. I was already kind of on this path but this video made it seem more tangible and helped me organize my ideas. Thank you!
You should deffo consider doing audiobooks/ voice stuff your voice brings me the most amount of peace joy and serenity ❣️
I have a great sense of happiness after watching this video it has given me hope , great tips but most importantly it brought me to your channel 👏🏼
Soo much to unpack you did your thang here. God bless you for the wisdom you’ve released today.🙌🏽
My boyfriend judges me because I binge watch this kind of content but these tips along with others have helped me so much! I’m not sure about anyone else, but these kinds of videos get me motivated and put me in a positive mood
Atomic Habits is life changing as is Outwitting The Devil! Thank you for both, Ro. All the love!
S. R. Kanai yes! It makes me so excited when I see someone mention Outwitting the Devil.
Such a life changing book!
OMG 😳 I would have a panic attack with that amount of skincare alone. My mom was a hoarder so clutter really still triggers me. I still had a stack of papers and I ended up just throwing them all out one day in a state of rage cos it was on my To Do and the task itself was daunting. If it were me, you should pick your top 10 favorite products (even tho most of them are full of toxic chemicals that mess with the body’s nature immune system) but 10 is MORE than enough and then throw out the rest. I can’t tell you how liberated I felt when I just THREW IT ALL OUT of my papers. Having space around you allows so much more creativity and clarity to flow around you like feng shui style
I have watched many many many video's like this and your video has been one of the best. Your content is top notch and clear to understand. Your voice and tone is very pleasing and matches the video which makes the video. BRAVO Great job- I subscribed. Look forward to your next video's. PS I usually do not comment but that I did, indicates how great of a job you did on this video. Thank you and much success to you.
This is such an amazing video, I feel motivated instead of overwhelmed! Usually when people talk about goals it just feels to me like an endless cycle of feeling that I'm not doing enough but I can understand the process and the idea that the systems are always adjusting is such a good mindset thank you so much!
Thanks for this video but I am thanking you mainly for introducing to me about the subject of systems. At the end of your video I was still confused on how to make this work, but it made me search for this on UA-cam and I found Alexis Kingsley's video on it and it was phenomenal. In fact, it was so inspiring I am ordering it. She just described it in a way that really motivated me. I still liked your video and the music you were playing and like that you make your bed and do your skin care every morning.
“two minute rule” really brings out the best in me. Works. every. time xx
Your voice is so calming to listen to 😌
Everytime I watch your videos, I always have my notes with me because I don't wanna miss any words of wisdom from you hehe. You inspired me to be better. Thank you for existing.
I don't think i've ever commented on any youtube video before and i'm 27.... Bless you, you total game changer!! xxx
Kinda dark but just a metaphor.
In my understanding Goal is like;
Doctor: you have three months to live.
Patient: I gotta find a cure within three months, I'll put my focus and every effort I have to find it.
Three Months: thinking and doing nothing but to find a cure. You may not find cure and die exhausted and heart broken.
System.
Live everyday with love and do everything you wanted to do but didn't have time for. Be around your loved ones. Do your things. You may even survive those three months.
So much skin care 😅 ❤️
can you do a video on your entire skincare collection in depth and talk about your longtime faves and the ones that didn't work out for you in the long run? that would be sooo interesting... youtubers always show their makeup collections but skincare is way more interesting to me! felicia could do the same in a seperate video, i think it would be also interesting to see how some of the same products work for your different skin types
Rowena, this came at a very needed time in my life. I’ve been “meaning to” really track and evaluate my habits and now I have the perfect guide! Shared this with a few of my close friends. Amazing as always
thank u! I´m so grateful for that. I´ve been feeling stuck and didn´t want to do even the things I like doing... your videos inspired me and now I feel motived ;)
Its crazy how all your videos are helpful and worth watching.
That blows my mind. Thank u for the beautiful content.
New Subscriber here! I’m so happy I found your videos when I did. I have been trying to live with more intention lately and have been doing alright so far but watching this really helps to give it more structure(I thrive w/structure lol) which makes it seem so much less scary. Definitely going to get these books you mentioned. Keep going! Love your videos
Thank you so much Rowena✨ feeling refreshed over here!!!!
Wow that's.. A lot of product. I'd go nuts. I'm constantly de cluttering. I still I feel have too much stuff but I did have a date come over once and asked if I just moved in (I have been there since 4 years lol) I take it as a compliment. I feel I have tons of stuff. Too much still.
I think both are important but the most important is the system since it's the foundation of getting to the goals
I watched the first video about this yesterday and was excited to see this one today! I actually spent an hour watching as I was pausing to take notes. I think this will be so beneficial for me as I'm working to change my outlook on life, and create a calmer environment in myself and around myself.
Thank you so much for this!
This was one of best videos about creating a morning routine, at least for me. I don't want to be "that" and do 75 things before I start my day. I just want to main a system that works. So thank you for this making this informative video! Also, so jelly you have friends that sit and talk about your goals, maybe ill work on this with my friends (-:
Im aware of my goals but I haven't been able to get my systems in place for a while. Its time to develop systems that will guide me towards the things I want for my life!
I love your voice its so calming 🖤 you remind me of what i expected having a big sister is like.. (I have one the age gap is just large enough to where we hardly know each other
I loved how practical this video is. Truly helpful, it inspires to take effective steps towards our goals! 🌞
Thank you for making this video and helping us to keep a tidy space and peaceful mind. These two areas of life are so important for overall happiness, and using systems is a great way to live full out!
I just finished watching Essentialism because of you and it was incredible. You are such a bright light 💕
I was recommended this and your previous video about systems and I can't tell you how much I enjoyed your insights. Absolutely eye opening and your steps make things much clearer and uncomplicated. So it's as important to reflect on why we want certain things as to focus on just those things/goals. That allows us to learn a lot about ourselves. Now I will use your steps to untangle some knots :D certain areas of my life that need a complete reframe and I didn't know how to approach them, but your step system is a good starting point. Basically I need to determine which habits are needle-movers in view of my desired state, plus I'll need to identify and eliminate all the habits that counteract that goal. Often these habits really sabotage everything but are so embedded in our routine we don't even see or question them. I'm glad YT recommended this, I knew I had to do certain things but analysing everything that comes before (the "why") really makes all the difference. 🤗💖
I have been binging your videos all week I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this I was so excited to watch it! Your videos came to me at the perfect time in my life. I'm so grateful.
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Cuantas cosas, es normal que se desordene. Mi sistema para poder ordenar en minutos mis espacios fue...dejar ir. Pero como esto no es una opción para todos, diria: sistema de almacenamiento. Separar que productos, accesorios y objetos vas a utilizar durante una semana, esto hara que haya menos cosas para guardar, menos cosas a la vista y por lo tanto menos estrés mental. Buen video 😁
Love part two! You should do an online course! :)
Thankyou. You sharing you’re thoughts .. sharing you’re life.. has already helped me so much and this is the first day watching you’re videos. Thankyou you’re fascinating. Good life beautiful you’re amazing. The perfect system 😘xoxo ~Jaii G
*rewatching and taking notes*
You and another youtuber are literally changing my life for the better.
I'm seriously so grateful to have found this video and your channel in general. Thank you!
Omg i've been waiting for this video!!!
Thanks so much, Rowena! I was waiting for the right time to open this and just had my breakfast and I feel so relaxed on this Sunday morning :) ready to take on the day! "I'm just wondering/thinking/curious" is what I think and say out loud the most to the point where it annoys me and I'm like - can you be LESS curious? Consumption overload is a real struggle I've discovered these past few weeks! 😅
I love your videos, they have been so helpful, but I do think you should look into minimalism, especially if you have a hard time keeping up with clutter, I know I did. Once you start seeing material things as non essential or lacking purpose, you can either donate, sell or throw out. With time your shopping habits change and soon you’ll realize how much money you can save and most importantly time since there is less to clean up. Minimalism makes you see life differently it helps you focus on what’s really important and gives you a different perspective, more clarity. Best change I have ever made!! Thank you for your videos!!
Been referencing this video over the last couple months to make sure I'm setting up systems for my life. Thank you for sharing this info ❤️
Thank you so much just wanted to say i’ve learnt something in this video x inspired me to start thinking about my systems :))
If you need someone to give the skin care products to I’m 👏🏾your👏🏾 girl!!! 👏🏾 love this video. Cleaning up my kitchen now so I can fill it up with groceries!!
I'm already organized I just need to do something different each day to make my life much better, maybe getting a friend over my house or sm
I love that couch so much
This video and script was sooo good and so packed with valuable content. Worth rewatching a couple of times. Thank you. Would love full book reviews too!
Easier said than done, but that's not going to stop me from trying. Thank you for this!!!
you have such a soothing way of talking! i just discovered your videos and i am loving them!
I just found your videos and honestly I'm so inspired and delighted by your aesthetic. It's extremely relaxing so thank you so much for sharing ✨✨✨
This is by far your best video! You explained this so well, and really helped me incorporate this into my life. I really like your other videos also but this one my mind was blown! Thanks for much for sharing
you should do a book recommendations video abt productivity !!
Omg the west elm dresser that's been on my wishlist forever 😭😭 great video btw! Thank you for always giving me calming motivation 🥰
I’ve gotten lost in your videos. You inspire my entire channel. Like gahlee thank you. Feel kinda a bit overwhelmed like where do I start?!!! My personal life or My content and how long?! Going to purchase those books as well I need details on this mindset lol.
Love this! It's so satisfying watching someone tidy up! Especially coupled with great tips and advice!
You are so pretty. Im glad I found your channel. Shows what real life looks like and how to best handle challenges. I would go crazy with so many different bottles and products. Maybe take a pic so when you go shopping you can remember what you already have. ; )
I loved this. This has helped me change my outlook on growth thank you!
I fucking love your page. I've been following you for years and your content is always so refreshing 💜💜
This is more for people who want to just focus on having a clean space rn: the KonMari Method is an additional detailed step by step method for this video. Her book The Life Changing Magic Of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo essentially says the same thing Rowena suggests! (visualize and write down your ideal space and lifestyle/routine, finding homes for things etc.)
The Main Ideas:
* You have to decide you want to change the way you live your life and envision what your ideal life looks like (implement Rowena's current VS desire or Lavendaire's current me VS future me)
* Follow the KonMari method (buying her book or watching the show is worth it or just google KonMari method), discard EVERYTHING from all the categories (clothing, books, papers/documents, komono/miscellaneous, and sentimental items) that don't make you happy, that aren't necessary, or that are just taking up space in your life/space FIRST before you start putting anything away
!!![IMPORTANT, it will get super messy before it gets better so set aside a day or two to do this, she recommends doing it all in one go if you can]!!!
* THEN go through the rest of the method and start "finding homes" or permanent locations for things you do decide to keep like Rowena said
There are small things that Marie Kondo believes that I disagree with (like thinking you shouldn't have lounge wear to wear around the house) but for her actual tidying method, it's really imperative that you do it exactly the way she says and finish it completely. It keeps you accountable to do it the way she details
Just my 2 cents and what's worked for me :)
You're such an amazingggg person Rowenaa, thank u😭💜
Thank you for sharing your wise words and content! I also find myself so motivated after watching you! May the new year bring you many blessings. I love you!!
Currently journaling and writing down how to change some bad habits... great video as always
Thank you for introducing me to this concept! It makes so much sense why i've not had success with a couple things i've set goals for years!
This is perfect because I’m currently reading atomic habits.
Hi! I'm a new subscriber and I really love your content. Thank you very much! You're an angel and I love you! May God bless you always ☺️💕