- 0:19 Choose systems rather than goals. - 0:40 A goal is a specific objective you achieve or not sometime in future. What is waiting to be achieved someday, is a goal. - 0:45 A system is what is done on a regular basis that achieves odds of overall happiness in long run. What is done everyday, is a system. - 1:00 A goal is a result to achieve, a system is the process that brings those results. System is the practice, while goal is performance. ===== - There are 4 steps to change outputs by changing systems of inputs (each step is numbered in order). 1) 2:09 Identify the why. Reflect on where you are and where like to be. To learn this, a great framework to try is current state vs desired state gap analysis. 2:44 1st in this analysis, find where you are currently in situation, answer questions like "how am I feeling?", "how do I spend time?", and "what is currently driving me?". 3:13 2nd in this analysis, find where you are desired to be in situation, answer questions like "how would I like to be living in an ideal world?", "why do I have this desired state?", and "is my desired state rooted in my values?". 3:48 3rd in this analysis, looking into the gap in between by answering questions like "why does the gap exist?", "why close it?". Also set up systems for your desired state, what makes the desired state work. 2) 6:04 Identify the how. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state. You might try a system to help you get there (the video doesn't provide much more info). 3) 6:57 Execute the what. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state but much more detailed. What actionable steps, where make adjustments, and what small incremental changes can you commit to. 4) 8:03 Assess and adjust. Take a step back and make adjustments to the system. Celebrate small wins. Build systems that best suit you. 8:53 If you desired to build deeper relationships with friends, build a system. Leave phone out of sight during meals, listen during conversations, and ask deep meaningful questions. ===== Likes are appreciated so more people can read this.
Your first video on this literally changed my life. I know people say that loosely but I mean it. I saw the first systems, essential, etc video. I watched it 3 times. Then listened to it REPEATEDLY for three days straight. I went out and bought atomic habits and essentialism. And read a section a day. It has truly been a blessing. Also as I move about I consistently mumble “two minute rule” when I try to push off doing an easy task haha my room has STAYED CLEAN! With depression/anxiety keeping a clean room is an accomplishment worth crying over. Either way I am grateful for you. I am always self reflecting/taking on self development. Your video(s) help me pair my self reflection with ACTION. Thank you!!!
My boyfriend and I always say “no way of knowing” when one of us asks a question, which means that we don’t Google it until we decide on an answer ourselves & give a reason for our answer. It’s just something silly we do, but it’s so fun!
that'S REALLY intelligent! I hate that people google everything before trying to find it out. And then feel so clever because they "know" it but forget about it 1 minute after
Yesterday i realised that I need to change my evening routine and go to bed earlier in order to make my morning more productive and finally stop being late everywhere And it feels like you read my mind tysm💜
I've been taking James Clear's advice and writing down my intended actions, and the time and place in which I will perform them. It seems to be working so far. One thing I've noticed that's crucial for an effective system is to focus on one thing (which Rowena mentions a lot). The moment I give attention to other things time flies and before I know it I've made no progress on what I really want to do. Focusing on one thing is like dancer pose in yoga. In order to maintain your balance in dancer pose, you have to pick one spot on the floor and stare at it, if you look away you lose your balance. EDIT: I want to be 100% honest with everyone here and say that LITERALLY the day after I left the above comment I TOTALLY failed to follow through on the intention I had written down for that day.
Hahaha I read “James clear” as “James Charles” and was really surprised/impressed by his insight. I was like damn the beauty community is getting deep😂
*ADVICE FOR YOU, ROWENA* !!! You should have a catch-all basket when you come in for all of your skincare from work... so you don´t put the skincare all over your apartment... then all you have to do, is sort through said skincare basket at some later time... hope this helps :) XX
Too add to your point. If she built her own tribe of ppl or friends who can follow a checklist she provides for reviews. She can get through all of them and save Space and Time :)
I came back to watch this video. I watched it about 6 months ago and accomplished everything I wanted by following your directives. I learned open -water swimming, started a brilliant new lifestyle, and met the love of my life. I will now integrate a system to save money. I'm ever-grateful to you, not least because I love how you present information. Bless you. Love from Croatia.❤️
Rowena, Using your video today I identified that the current me is a person who is too tired to clean on weekdays, and spends a big chunk of weekends tidying up and secretly hating my family for not helping me (they work on weekends while I'm the only one at home). What you helped me do is the following: 1) I made a list of chores, dispensed them within family members and made a schedule who does what & when. 2) Also I will change my input by doing my best to return things back to their places after I've used them. 3) I will spend 15 min in the a.m. & the p.m. on weekdays, and 30 min in the a.m. & p.m. on weekends to keep the place clean. 4) I'll create a to do list to remind myself of the things I committed to. 5) I realized I might have to get up 15 min earlier. Thank you for your wonderful content. That's a like, a subscribe and a bell. Have a wonderful day!
I’ve realized that in the previous year I was setting systems ; I was studying while taking care of myself by doing wht I really like and wht makes me feel better ,but now due to the importance of my school year I’ve been watching so much vids to find the best way to get high grades and all the videos were about setting goals ,this wht makes me sad I’ve transformed to a goal setter person for ‘bout 7 months, I set everyday hard goals and promise to myself to take care of my happiness after achieving them, but I’ve realized that I’ve achieved 50% of them but in a vry boring process ; I’ve never enjoyed the process of studying during those months,so I didn’t last long and at the end I gave up my health. But now I’m so grateful to find ur channel ,And I’m making progress in my self care/ studying systems ! Thank u so much for saving us, love ya ❤️💫
Yesterday when I saw the words "keeping a tidy space" I got up off my lazy butt, did my physical therapy, cleaned my room, got ready, and actually finished my list of to-dos for the day plus more. I'm not sure what kind of sorcery you're using but keep it up because I have never been that productive in my life.
I came here to say the same, it's a lot. I don't mean to sound negative but Rowena should donate some of the products. Minimalists how are ya'll doing? lol
Being solely focused on the goal can literally ruin you life. A lot of people deny the value of building processes by creating habits done every day that lead to the end goal, and it's one of the things that I talk about in my channel a lot.
this is really coming to me in a positive way right now! i've spent the last few days thinking i want to do better by myself and be healthier all around, and this made me sit down and really consider ways to achieve that. thank you always for your thoughtful content, rowena! 💝
I feel blessed right now 🤭💚 Organization, decluttering and having a tidy place is something I am born with. I just can't start my month or year without cleansing and letting go of the things that I don't need or don't use anymore. Honestly my closet and everything that is mine is a symbol of organization as it comes naturally for me. Thank u universe for giving me this amazing strength, that gives me more clarity and a feeling of refreshing 🍀💚
I look forward to my voice hugs every week, also i swear i forget to breathe sometimes when you mentioned it i was like oh crap have i been breathing *takes deep breath*
*You are Worthy of everything your heart desires.* Make a Decision of what you want, Back it with Burning Desire and take Aligned Action. Your Life will transform before your eyes ♡ Adores this Rowena! You can really tell you put a lot of effort into your Videos, the aesthetic is on point!
I’ve rewatched this video so many times and finally created my system. Thank you so much for your content! Nothing has ever made more sense. I’ve been too focused on the smallest of details and so focused on perfection. I have watched you, Lavendaire, and Muchelle B for years and always get great lessons. Now kind of “zooming out” to focus on the long term ways I can still have the life I am excited about while crushing goals. Figuring out what was working and what wasn’t.... I’m actually in awe. Thanks again Rowena! 💓
Thank you so much. This was such a timely video for me. I've been going to therapy for the last years and made significant progress mentally. but I have trouble implementing change in the day to day and it's been frustrating. So the idea of separating goals from systems makes so much sense and this video is just the extra little nudge i needed to get started. Which is what I will do now. Thank you.
This is incredibly healing, especially for those seriously changing their life. This is one of those videos that changes you, at least for me, because it is exactly what I need ❤️
I've been feeling like a mess lately, feeling that there's so much things to do, yet there's 'nothing' to do. Sounds confusing right?😆 Overall, I'm feeling overwhelmed lately due to the transition of being a postgraduate student to a person looking her first permanent job. And I'm glad you shared with us this system, Rowena. I'm gonna try to re-evaluate my life using the system and hopefully will feel better. 💖
I am in the same exact boat as you rn. I just graduated back in December and now I am in the process of just applying to jobs and waiting to hear back. It is a lot of waiting and I am just wishing for the wait to be over. I have been trying this new system rather than goals method to get more clarity in my life and focus on personal goals but it has been hard. I am cheering you on and hope you get your first permanent job soon!
That bit towards the end about wondering... 👏🏻 I reach for my phone right away for any little wonder that goes through my mind - I should just let my mind wonder more and slow down on seeking the tiniest bits of knowledge
Dear Rowena, your advice and method inspired an aunty of 50yrs old like me so much. So helpful and useful. Sending you loads of HAPPY blessings and 💖 ... keep up the GREAT WORK. From your senior fan/aunty here.
I love ur "untidy" space. It looks lived in and real. It's perfect for videoes. Sometimes I hate organizing videos where there's barely a mess to begin with
Watching your videos have become part of my favorite weekend morning routines- I love how informative they are, the editing- and most importantly when I finish watching a video I feel like I really learned something. I almost immediately want to implement it! Thank you so much for your hard work~~!
My boyfriend judges me because I binge watch this kind of content but these tips along with others have helped me so much! I’m not sure about anyone else, but these kinds of videos get me motivated and put me in a positive mood
Kinda dark but just a metaphor. In my understanding Goal is like; Doctor: you have three months to live. Patient: I gotta find a cure within three months, I'll put my focus and every effort I have to find it. Three Months: thinking and doing nothing but to find a cure. You may not find cure and die exhausted and heart broken. System. Live everyday with love and do everything you wanted to do but didn't have time for. Be around your loved ones. Do your things. You may even survive those three months.
I think with the toiletries/beauty products I would store it at work. Then shop from work, I need more shower gel, face cream etc, then you bring that home from work as you need it. I also wonder if you bring them home then try them to see if you like it, I would test at work first then only bring home my first choice. You could keep 2 massive plastic no see into boxes with lids under your desk at work to store it all. Great video 😊😊😊
Randomly came across this video yesterday. I never really had goals and so this make more sense to me. I love systems, a systems thinking class during my masters changed my life honestly. I made a list last nigh on how my days were going to look like and today is Day 1 and I already see a major difference. I was already kind of on this path but this video made it seem more tangible and helped me organize my ideas. Thank you!
I love seeing people organize their stuff lol , i also like organising my own stuff but sometimes i also procrastinate . Also your voice is so calming for some reason and it helps me relax at night when I've done everything that i had to do on that day .
your videos, especially these system vs. goal videos are so helpful to me! also, i'm an elementary school teacher and this i use often: clean desk/work space means clear mind. the students really benefit from a tidy learning space.
I’ve found Atomic habits to be sooo inspiring and enlightening and I love that you are creating content on these topics that are so important to me at this stage in my life. I find your videos to be sooo relatable but more specifically so raw and so real and open and thought provoking. It is so great to have your videos to learn from and get inspiration from to help me on my own journey. I wonder if you have any plans to do videos on mental health topics and therapy ( anxiety, cognitive behavioral therapy etc) because I suspect you would be great at helping people in those ways too.
I dont now how, but every week Rowena puts out a video with the element that I'm missing from my life. When I saw the title of this video i felt like my prayers were awnsed and that even tho this week was hard it was going go learn and improve from it especially by seeing this video. Thank u so much 💙💙
This is fantastic Rowena. I was wondering how to reset and restart everything about my life and this video came a rescue. So thoughtful and doable system. A billion thanks!!!
This is such an amazing video, I feel motivated instead of overwhelmed! Usually when people talk about goals it just feels to me like an endless cycle of feeling that I'm not doing enough but I can understand the process and the idea that the systems are always adjusting is such a good mindset thank you so much!
can you do a video on your entire skincare collection in depth and talk about your longtime faves and the ones that didn't work out for you in the long run? that would be sooo interesting... youtubers always show their makeup collections but skincare is way more interesting to me! felicia could do the same in a seperate video, i think it would be also interesting to see how some of the same products work for your different skin types
Wondering - what a wonderful point to make about how important it is to 'wonder' in a world that provides instant answers. Wondering could help to develop one's own intuitive abilities/clair senses - which are important for areas of a person's life that has nothing to do with being a professional psychic, etc. Intuitive abilities are such an important gift that can be used by lawyers, doctors, the social work field, marketing, business, and the list goes on.
Everytime I watch your videos, I always have my notes with me because I don't wanna miss any words of wisdom from you hehe. You inspired me to be better. Thank you for existing.
Im aware of my goals but I haven't been able to get my systems in place for a while. Its time to develop systems that will guide me towards the things I want for my life!
I'm going to use this video to help rethink my system I want to make to be more present in the morning. I tried taking morning walks, but it seems to not be quite the "how" that works best for me... Also, your videos convinced me to start reading Atomic Habits and I'm finding it so helpful too!! So glad that your channel is promoting these kind of positive thoughts towards having the well-being and being purposeful.
Rowena, this came at a very needed time in my life. I’ve been “meaning to” really track and evaluate my habits and now I have the perfect guide! Shared this with a few of my close friends. Amazing as always
Hi Rowena ✌🏾Just discovered your channel today:) I appreciate how much work you put into your videos. From 2014-2018 I was mostly goal/outcome oriented, and lately have been trying to be more process/system oriented. I’m currently in the process of reading Atomic Habits. Great book. Great work Rowena!
I have been binging your videos all week I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this I was so excited to watch it! Your videos came to me at the perfect time in my life. I'm so grateful.
My favourite part of this video was the emphasis on having a powerful enough "why" to motivate you in the toughest times. That really is the key to everything, isn't it? All the best tips and tricks will not work if you are not motivated, because at the end of the day, you are still the one that has to do the work; the systems, goals, and tips won't do it for you. My sister-in-law has a tough time staying motivated. I think I'll talk about this with her and see if we can't find a better "why" to keep her going. :)
👌 second time I’m listening to this one. I totally agree with this and do my best to keep it in mind. I’m not perfect at it but practice definitely makes perfect. Viewing it like this makes it so much more obtainable.
This is more for people who want to just focus on having a clean space rn: the KonMari Method is an additional detailed step by step method for this video. Her book The Life Changing Magic Of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo essentially says the same thing Rowena suggests! (visualize and write down your ideal space and lifestyle/routine, finding homes for things etc.) The Main Ideas: * You have to decide you want to change the way you live your life and envision what your ideal life looks like (implement Rowena's current VS desire or Lavendaire's current me VS future me) * Follow the KonMari method (buying her book or watching the show is worth it or just google KonMari method), discard EVERYTHING from all the categories (clothing, books, papers/documents, komono/miscellaneous, and sentimental items) that don't make you happy, that aren't necessary, or that are just taking up space in your life/space FIRST before you start putting anything away !!![IMPORTANT, it will get super messy before it gets better so set aside a day or two to do this, she recommends doing it all in one go if you can]!!! * THEN go through the rest of the method and start "finding homes" or permanent locations for things you do decide to keep like Rowena said There are small things that Marie Kondo believes that I disagree with (like thinking you shouldn't have lounge wear to wear around the house) but for her actual tidying method, it's really imperative that you do it exactly the way she says and finish it completely. It keeps you accountable to do it the way she details Just my 2 cents and what's worked for me :)
Thank you for making this video and helping us to keep a tidy space and peaceful mind. These two areas of life are so important for overall happiness, and using systems is a great way to live full out!
OMG 😳 I would have a panic attack with that amount of skincare alone. My mom was a hoarder so clutter really still triggers me. I still had a stack of papers and I ended up just throwing them all out one day in a state of rage cos it was on my To Do and the task itself was daunting. If it were me, you should pick your top 10 favorite products (even tho most of them are full of toxic chemicals that mess with the body’s nature immune system) but 10 is MORE than enough and then throw out the rest. I can’t tell you how liberated I felt when I just THREW IT ALL OUT of my papers. Having space around you allows so much more creativity and clarity to flow around you like feng shui style
I just want to say this was one of your best videos yet, in my opinion. I wanted to write almost everything you said down, your voice just perfectly emphasized each word and turn of phrase (so jealous of that amazing reading voice). Also really appreciate your detailed description box, as always. Top tier content, you should be proud of yourself, and thank you. Sincerely, a fellow sweet potato. That should be a thing
I watched the first video about this yesterday and was excited to see this one today! I actually spent an hour watching as I was pausing to take notes. I think this will be so beneficial for me as I'm working to change my outlook on life, and create a calmer environment in myself and around myself. Thank you so much for this!
Comentario en español aquí 😂 Cuantas cosas, es normal que se desordene. Mi sistema para poder ordenar en minutos mis espacios fue...dejar ir. Pero como esto no es una opción para todos, diria: sistema de almacenamiento. Separar que productos, accesorios y objetos vas a utilizar durante una semana, esto hara que haya menos cosas para guardar, menos cosas a la vista y por lo tanto menos estrés mental. Buen video 😁
Very helpful Rowena! Thanks for this video.. I just realized, systems not only enable us to continue playing, but effective systems will help us continue WINNING the game. ;)
Thank you for this video. How to create system is something I have been wanting to learn. I have had systems but they seem to fail after a while. I loved the knowledge you have shared in this video. Thank you ❤
Hi Rowena. You're truely inspiring. I love the way systems and goals are compared w/ journeys and destinations. You really put new ideas into my brain to work upon. I also want to build a system for my skincare and inner reflection as well my spiritual practice. Thank you so much, have a wonderful day 💜
@@matheusminto I practice Taoism and Zen Buddhism as my spiritual practice. Although I don't label myself with any religion, but Taoist and Buddhist principles and practices are very fruitful to being for me. Since I don't follow any religion, I feel free to practice what my energy resonates with 😊 It's basically meditation, mindfulness, positive affirmations, silence and respecting and loving all beings and believing in gratitude. I hope that answers your question.
Thanks so much, Rowena! I was waiting for the right time to open this and just had my breakfast and I feel so relaxed on this Sunday morning :) ready to take on the day! "I'm just wondering/thinking/curious" is what I think and say out loud the most to the point where it annoys me and I'm like - can you be LESS curious? Consumption overload is a real struggle I've discovered these past few weeks! 😅
New Subscriber here! I’m so happy I found your videos when I did. I have been trying to live with more intention lately and have been doing alright so far but watching this really helps to give it more structure(I thrive w/structure lol) which makes it seem so much less scary. Definitely going to get these books you mentioned. Keep going! Love your videos
If you need someone to give the skin care products to I’m 👏🏾your👏🏾 girl!!! 👏🏾 love this video. Cleaning up my kitchen now so I can fill it up with groceries!!
- 0:19 Choose systems rather than goals.
- 0:40 A goal is a specific objective you achieve or not sometime in future. What is waiting to be achieved someday, is a goal.
- 0:45 A system is what is done on a regular basis that achieves odds of overall happiness in long run. What is done everyday, is a system.
- 1:00 A goal is a result to achieve, a system is the process that brings those results. System is the practice, while goal is performance.
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- There are 4 steps to change outputs by changing systems of inputs (each step is numbered in order).
1) 2:09 Identify the why. Reflect on where you are and where like to be. To learn this, a great framework to try is current state vs desired state gap analysis.
2:44 1st in this analysis, find where you are currently in situation, answer questions like "how am I feeling?", "how do I spend time?", and "what is currently driving me?".
3:13 2nd in this analysis, find where you are desired to be in situation, answer questions like "how would I like to be living in an ideal world?", "why do I have this desired state?", and "is my desired state rooted in my values?".
3:48 3rd in this analysis, looking into the gap in between by answering questions like "why does the gap exist?", "why close it?". Also set up systems for your desired state, what makes the desired state work.
2) 6:04 Identify the how. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state. You might try a system to help you get there (the video doesn't provide much more info).
3) 6:57 Execute the what. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state but much more detailed. What actionable steps, where make adjustments, and what small incremental changes can you commit to.
4) 8:03 Assess and adjust. Take a step back and make adjustments to the system. Celebrate small wins. Build systems that best suit you.
8:53 If you desired to build deeper relationships with friends, build a system. Leave phone out of sight during meals, listen during conversations, and ask deep meaningful questions.
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Likes are appreciated so more people can read this.
Thanks!
God bless you lol
Your amazing
Thx
thank you!
Your first video on this literally changed my life. I know people say that loosely but I mean it. I saw the first systems, essential, etc video. I watched it 3 times. Then listened to it REPEATEDLY for three days straight. I went out and bought atomic habits and essentialism. And read a section a day. It has truly been a blessing. Also as I move about I consistently mumble “two minute rule” when I try to push off doing an easy task haha my room has STAYED CLEAN! With depression/anxiety keeping a clean room is an accomplishment worth crying over. Either way I am grateful for you.
I am always self reflecting/taking on self development. Your video(s) help me pair my self reflection with ACTION.
Thank you!!!
Thats amazing. Good Job!!
happy for you!! :-)
what is the link of the first video
So proud
Yay !!! I recommend “The Power of Now” by Elkhart Tolle after you read atomic habits
GIRL, Im gonna go take a shower, then come back and rewatch this and take notes. IM GETTIN MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER❤️
You got this ;) wishing you the best
Forever Never felt that
Wow❤
Go girl!
How'd it go?
My boyfriend and I always say “no way of knowing” when one of us asks a question, which means that we don’t Google it until we decide on an answer ourselves & give a reason for our answer. It’s just something silly we do, but it’s so fun!
meganeff 😊♥️
that'S REALLY intelligent! I hate that people google everything before trying to find it out. And then feel so clever because they "know" it but forget about it 1 minute after
Very good! Generating Effect will help you remember the right answer. AsapScience Channel has a resent video about it.
that is so cute, what a great idea
I love that! I bet that helps with critical thinking and feels amazing when you surprise yourself with having the right answer
Yesterday i realised that I need to change my evening routine and go to bed earlier in order to make my morning more productive and finally stop being late everywhere
And it feels like you read my mind
tysm💜
I've been taking James Clear's advice and writing down my intended actions, and the time and place in which I will perform them. It seems to be working so far. One thing I've noticed that's crucial for an effective system is to focus on one thing (which Rowena mentions a lot). The moment I give attention to other things time flies and before I know it I've made no progress on what I really want to do. Focusing on one thing is like dancer pose in yoga. In order to maintain your balance in dancer pose, you have to pick one spot on the floor and stare at it, if you look away you lose your balance.
EDIT: I want to be 100% honest with everyone here and say that LITERALLY the day after I left the above comment I TOTALLY failed to follow through on the intention I had written down for that day.
Please my dear remind me the name of the book
Hahaha I read “James clear” as “James Charles” and was really surprised/impressed by his insight. I was like damn the beauty community is getting deep😂
@@khadidiatou1980 Atomic Habits
Aamanda Zittlau lol literally me too
@Josh Shorty This is great suggestions, thank you. I will definitely jot this down 🤗
Honestly if you’d write books they’d be the only books I’d buy from a youtuber and I’d buy all of them I’ve learned so much from you
Heyy, do you like to start a podcast? Cause your topics are so interesting omg. And how about writing a book? You are very inspiring
Really nice idea.
*ADVICE FOR YOU, ROWENA* !!! You should have a catch-all basket when you come in for all of your skincare from work... so you don´t put the skincare all over your apartment... then all you have to do, is sort through said skincare basket at some later time... hope this helps :) XX
Too add to your point. If she built her own tribe of ppl or friends who can follow a checklist she provides for reviews. She can get through all of them and save Space and Time :)
I came back to watch this video. I watched it about 6 months ago and accomplished everything I wanted by following your directives. I learned open -water swimming, started a brilliant new lifestyle, and met the love of my life. I will now integrate a system to save money. I'm ever-grateful to you, not least because I love how you present information. Bless you. Love from Croatia.❤️
Who else got distracted by the video and the voice over?
So many tubes of skin care 😱
I can say that I enjoyed watching the cleaning up process😅
Currently reading Start with Why, Atomic Habits was one of my fave books from last year and I live by the 2 min rule now and it helps so much!
Rowena,
Using your video today I identified that the current me is a person who is too tired to clean on weekdays, and spends a big chunk of weekends tidying up and secretly hating my family for not helping me (they work on weekends while I'm the only one at home). What you helped me do is the following:
1) I made a list of chores, dispensed them within family members and made a schedule who does what & when.
2) Also I will change my input by doing my best to return things back to their places after I've used them.
3) I will spend 15 min in the a.m. & the p.m. on weekdays, and 30 min in the a.m. & p.m. on weekends to keep the place clean.
4) I'll create a to do list to remind myself of the things I committed to.
5) I realized I might have to get up 15 min earlier.
Thank you for your wonderful content. That's a like, a subscribe and a bell. Have a wonderful day!
I’ve realized that in the previous year I was setting systems ; I was studying while taking care of myself by doing wht I really like and wht makes me feel better ,but now due to the importance of my school year I’ve been watching so much vids to find the best way to get high grades and all the videos were about setting goals ,this wht makes me sad I’ve transformed to a goal setter person for ‘bout 7 months, I set everyday hard goals and promise to myself to take care of my happiness after achieving them, but I’ve realized that I’ve achieved 50% of them but in a vry boring process ; I’ve never enjoyed the process of studying during those months,so I didn’t last long and at the end I gave up my health.
But now I’m so grateful to find ur channel ,And I’m making progress in my self care/ studying systems ! Thank u so much for saving us, love ya ❤️💫
Yesterday when I saw the words "keeping a tidy space" I got up off my lazy butt, did my physical therapy, cleaned my room, got ready, and actually finished my list of to-dos for the day plus more. I'm not sure what kind of sorcery you're using but keep it up because I have never been that productive in my life.
I know it’s your JOB but the sheer amount of products gave me anxiety ): makes me want to declutter my own beauty products
There's no way only one person can thoroughly test that amount of products
Millennial Stray I felt that too
Millennial Stray Sameeeee
I came here to say the same, it's a lot. I don't mean to sound negative but Rowena should donate some of the products. Minimalists how are ya'll doing? lol
I was wondering how I can trust her recommendations when her face/skin goes tru so much work!
Whoa! You have a whole drugstore going on there. I've never seen a larger home collection then yours!
Being solely focused on the goal can literally ruin you life. A lot of people deny the value of building processes by creating habits done every day that lead to the end goal, and it's one of the things that I talk about in my channel a lot.
this is really coming to me in a positive way right now! i've spent the last few days thinking i want to do better by myself and be healthier all around, and this made me sit down and really consider ways to achieve that. thank you always for your thoughtful content, rowena! 💝
"thinking less, doing more". Hits me hard
Omg she talked about lavendaire!!! My two favourite youtubers right now. 🌸
I'm a guy but I learned many things from both of them. I really love Lavandaire and Rowena Tsai! ♡♡♡
I feel blessed right now 🤭💚
Organization, decluttering and having a tidy place is something I am born with. I just can't start my month or year without cleansing and letting go of the things that I don't need or don't use anymore.
Honestly my closet and everything that is mine is a symbol of organization as it comes naturally for me.
Thank u universe for giving me this amazing strength, that gives me more clarity and a feeling of refreshing 🍀💚
I look forward to my voice hugs every week, also i swear i forget to breathe sometimes when you mentioned it i was like oh crap have i been breathing *takes deep breath*
*You are Worthy of everything your heart desires.* Make a Decision of what you want, Back it with Burning Desire and take Aligned Action. Your Life will transform before your eyes ♡ Adores this Rowena! You can really tell you put a lot of effort into your Videos, the aesthetic is on point!
I’ve rewatched this video so many times and finally created my system. Thank you so much for your content! Nothing has ever made more sense. I’ve been too focused on the smallest of details and so focused on perfection. I have watched you, Lavendaire, and Muchelle B for years and always get great lessons. Now kind of “zooming out” to focus on the long term ways I can still have the life I am excited about while crushing goals. Figuring out what was working and what wasn’t.... I’m actually in awe. Thanks again Rowena! 💓
Thank you so much. This was such a timely video for me. I've been going to therapy for the last years and made significant progress mentally. but I have trouble implementing change in the day to day and it's been frustrating. So the idea of separating goals from systems makes so much sense and this video is just the extra little nudge i needed to get started. Which is what I will do now. Thank you.
This is incredibly healing, especially for those seriously changing their life. This is one of those videos that changes you, at least for me, because it is exactly what I need ❤️
Rowena: zooming in on the messy parts
me, an actual hoarder: man i wish that were me
I've been feeling like a mess lately, feeling that there's so much things to do, yet there's 'nothing' to do. Sounds confusing right?😆 Overall, I'm feeling overwhelmed lately due to the transition of being a postgraduate student to a person looking her first permanent job. And I'm glad you shared with us this system, Rowena. I'm gonna try to re-evaluate my life using the system and hopefully will feel better. 💖
I am in the same exact boat as you rn. I just graduated back in December and now I am in the process of just applying to jobs and waiting to hear back. It is a lot of waiting and I am just wishing for the wait to be over. I have been trying this new system rather than goals method to get more clarity in my life and focus on personal goals but it has been hard. I am cheering you on and hope you get your first permanent job soon!
my, my. same sentiments
Hey how'd it go? Don't stress if you didn't hit your target the first time, keep going :)
Hi Anne Amy
Sometimes, it’s ok to decluter our lives from people too
That bit towards the end about wondering... 👏🏻 I reach for my phone right away for any little wonder that goes through my mind - I should just let my mind wonder more and slow down on seeking the tiniest bits of knowledge
Dear Rowena, your advice and method inspired an aunty of 50yrs old like me so much. So helpful and useful. Sending you loads of HAPPY blessings and 💖 ... keep up the GREAT WORK.
From your senior fan/aunty here.
Andddddd 2 years later I’m back still watching this video. Thank you so much for your wisdom and creativity!
I love ur "untidy" space. It looks lived in and real. It's perfect for videoes. Sometimes I hate organizing videos where there's barely a mess to begin with
Watching your videos have become part of my favorite weekend morning routines- I love how informative they are, the editing- and most importantly when I finish watching a video I feel like I really learned something. I almost immediately want to implement it! Thank you so much for your hard work~~!
Unrelated but your new rug 💕
Facts
Right! I was thinking that too! Her aesthetic is so gorgeous 😍😍
I knew it it was you~ yay! I love both of your vlogs! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
My boyfriend judges me because I binge watch this kind of content but these tips along with others have helped me so much! I’m not sure about anyone else, but these kinds of videos get me motivated and put me in a positive mood
Kinda dark but just a metaphor.
In my understanding Goal is like;
Doctor: you have three months to live.
Patient: I gotta find a cure within three months, I'll put my focus and every effort I have to find it.
Three Months: thinking and doing nothing but to find a cure. You may not find cure and die exhausted and heart broken.
System.
Live everyday with love and do everything you wanted to do but didn't have time for. Be around your loved ones. Do your things. You may even survive those three months.
I think with the toiletries/beauty products I would store it at work. Then shop from work, I need more shower gel, face cream etc, then you bring that home from work as you need it. I also wonder if you bring them home then try them to see if you like it, I would test at work first then only bring home my first choice. You could keep 2 massive plastic no see into boxes with lids under your desk at work to store it all. Great video 😊😊😊
Randomly came across this video yesterday. I never really had goals and so this make more sense to me. I love systems, a systems thinking class during my masters changed my life honestly. I made a list last nigh on how my days were going to look like and today is Day 1 and I already see a major difference. I was already kind of on this path but this video made it seem more tangible and helped me organize my ideas. Thank you!
I love how open you are to us, we feel so connected to you. There's no such thing as perfection, so f*** haters👏🏼
fuck u I am a hater
I love seeing people organize their stuff lol , i also like organising my own stuff but sometimes i also procrastinate .
Also your voice is so calming for some reason and it helps me relax at night when I've done everything that i had to do on that day .
i agree! Ive been trying out my own systems the last few months and its been easier than I thought it would to keep doing them.
I was tired when I clicked on this video so when I read the captions I mixed the name Rowena with potatoes into “rowtatoes” 😂😂 great video as always 💖
I've never seen so many products outside a store!
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I legit took out my notebook and wrote everything you said. Truly valuable points you have mentioned.
“two minute rule” really brings out the best in me. Works. every. time xx
your videos, especially these system vs. goal videos are so helpful to me!
also, i'm an elementary school teacher and this i use often: clean desk/work space means clear mind. the students really benefit from a tidy learning space.
I just live for u, ur voice, ur motivation, ur mindset, JUST YOU
This channel was such a blessing to find
I’ve found Atomic habits to be sooo inspiring and enlightening and I love that you are creating content on these topics that are so important to me at this stage in my life. I find your videos to be sooo relatable but more specifically so raw and so real and open and thought provoking. It is so great to have your videos to learn from and get inspiration from to help me on my own journey. I wonder if you have any plans to do videos on mental health topics and therapy ( anxiety, cognitive behavioral therapy etc) because I suspect you would be great at helping people in those ways too.
I dont now how, but every week Rowena puts out a video with the element that I'm missing from my life. When I saw the title of this video i felt like my prayers were awnsed and that even tho this week was hard it was going go learn and improve from it especially by seeing this video. Thank u so much 💙💙
This is fantastic Rowena. I was wondering how to reset and restart everything about my life and this video came a rescue. So thoughtful and doable system. A billion thanks!!!
Watching you organize your house is soo relaxing. It feels like you’re putting together my mind.
This is such an amazing video, I feel motivated instead of overwhelmed! Usually when people talk about goals it just feels to me like an endless cycle of feeling that I'm not doing enough but I can understand the process and the idea that the systems are always adjusting is such a good mindset thank you so much!
can you do a video on your entire skincare collection in depth and talk about your longtime faves and the ones that didn't work out for you in the long run? that would be sooo interesting... youtubers always show their makeup collections but skincare is way more interesting to me! felicia could do the same in a seperate video, i think it would be also interesting to see how some of the same products work for your different skin types
I have a great sense of happiness after watching this video it has given me hope , great tips but most importantly it brought me to your channel 👏🏼
Wondering - what a wonderful point to make about how important it is to 'wonder' in a world that provides instant answers. Wondering could help to develop one's own intuitive abilities/clair senses - which are important for areas of a person's life that has nothing to do with being a professional psychic, etc. Intuitive abilities are such an important gift that can be used by lawyers, doctors, the social work field, marketing, business, and the list goes on.
You reminded me to review all my goals and resolutions for this year!! Thank you for always inspiring me to improve myself!!
Everytime I watch your videos, I always have my notes with me because I don't wanna miss any words of wisdom from you hehe. You inspired me to be better. Thank you for existing.
A lot of powerful advice and tips thank you so much for creating this in going to go check out the rest of the series now 🙏🏽
Im aware of my goals but I haven't been able to get my systems in place for a while. Its time to develop systems that will guide me towards the things I want for my life!
I don't think i've ever commented on any youtube video before and i'm 27.... Bless you, you total game changer!! xxx
I'm going to use this video to help rethink my system I want to make to be more present in the morning. I tried taking morning walks, but it seems to not be quite the "how" that works best for me...
Also, your videos convinced me to start reading Atomic Habits and I'm finding it so helpful too!!
So glad that your channel is promoting these kind of positive thoughts towards having the well-being and being purposeful.
Rowena, this came at a very needed time in my life. I’ve been “meaning to” really track and evaluate my habits and now I have the perfect guide! Shared this with a few of my close friends. Amazing as always
Hi Rowena ✌🏾Just discovered your channel today:) I appreciate how much work you put into your videos. From 2014-2018 I was mostly goal/outcome oriented, and lately have been trying to be more process/system oriented. I’m currently in the process of reading Atomic Habits. Great book. Great work Rowena!
I have been binging your videos all week I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this I was so excited to watch it! Your videos came to me at the perfect time in my life. I'm so grateful.
My favourite part of this video was the emphasis on having a powerful enough "why" to motivate you in the toughest times. That really is the key to everything, isn't it? All the best tips and tricks will not work if you are not motivated, because at the end of the day, you are still the one that has to do the work; the systems, goals, and tips won't do it for you. My sister-in-law has a tough time staying motivated. I think I'll talk about this with her and see if we can't find a better "why" to keep her going. :)
👌 second time I’m listening to this one. I totally agree with this and do my best to keep it in mind. I’m not perfect at it but practice definitely makes perfect. Viewing it like this makes it so much more obtainable.
This is more for people who want to just focus on having a clean space rn: the KonMari Method is an additional detailed step by step method for this video. Her book The Life Changing Magic Of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo essentially says the same thing Rowena suggests! (visualize and write down your ideal space and lifestyle/routine, finding homes for things etc.)
The Main Ideas:
* You have to decide you want to change the way you live your life and envision what your ideal life looks like (implement Rowena's current VS desire or Lavendaire's current me VS future me)
* Follow the KonMari method (buying her book or watching the show is worth it or just google KonMari method), discard EVERYTHING from all the categories (clothing, books, papers/documents, komono/miscellaneous, and sentimental items) that don't make you happy, that aren't necessary, or that are just taking up space in your life/space FIRST before you start putting anything away
!!![IMPORTANT, it will get super messy before it gets better so set aside a day or two to do this, she recommends doing it all in one go if you can]!!!
* THEN go through the rest of the method and start "finding homes" or permanent locations for things you do decide to keep like Rowena said
There are small things that Marie Kondo believes that I disagree with (like thinking you shouldn't have lounge wear to wear around the house) but for her actual tidying method, it's really imperative that you do it exactly the way she says and finish it completely. It keeps you accountable to do it the way she details
Just my 2 cents and what's worked for me :)
You should deffo consider doing audiobooks/ voice stuff your voice brings me the most amount of peace joy and serenity ❣️
Thank you for making this video and helping us to keep a tidy space and peaceful mind. These two areas of life are so important for overall happiness, and using systems is a great way to live full out!
OMG 😳 I would have a panic attack with that amount of skincare alone. My mom was a hoarder so clutter really still triggers me. I still had a stack of papers and I ended up just throwing them all out one day in a state of rage cos it was on my To Do and the task itself was daunting. If it were me, you should pick your top 10 favorite products (even tho most of them are full of toxic chemicals that mess with the body’s nature immune system) but 10 is MORE than enough and then throw out the rest. I can’t tell you how liberated I felt when I just THREW IT ALL OUT of my papers. Having space around you allows so much more creativity and clarity to flow around you like feng shui style
I just want to say this was one of your best videos yet, in my opinion. I wanted to write almost everything you said down, your voice just perfectly emphasized each word and turn of phrase (so jealous of that amazing reading voice). Also really appreciate your detailed description box, as always. Top tier content, you should be proud of yourself, and thank you. Sincerely, a fellow sweet potato. That should be a thing
I watched the first video about this yesterday and was excited to see this one today! I actually spent an hour watching as I was pausing to take notes. I think this will be so beneficial for me as I'm working to change my outlook on life, and create a calmer environment in myself and around myself.
Thank you so much for this!
i love ur videos about creating systems and finding peace with urself! I think this is something everyone needs rn in the midst of pandemic:)
Please upload more than once a week! I seriously can't get enough of you!
Comentario en español aquí 😂
Cuantas cosas, es normal que se desordene. Mi sistema para poder ordenar en minutos mis espacios fue...dejar ir. Pero como esto no es una opción para todos, diria: sistema de almacenamiento. Separar que productos, accesorios y objetos vas a utilizar durante una semana, esto hara que haya menos cosas para guardar, menos cosas a la vista y por lo tanto menos estrés mental. Buen video 😁
Soo much to unpack you did your thang here. God bless you for the wisdom you’ve released today.🙌🏽
I loved how practical this video is. Truly helpful, it inspires to take effective steps towards our goals! 🌞
My most fun takeaway from this video is that I now need a blowtorch for my candles. Great content as always Rowena! 🔥
Your content has such a concise/logical flow but still impactful. Thanks for making this!
You and another youtuber are literally changing my life for the better.
Atomic Habits is life changing as is Outwitting The Devil! Thank you for both, Ro. All the love!
S. R. Kanai yes! It makes me so excited when I see someone mention Outwitting the Devil.
Such a life changing book!
I just finished watching Essentialism because of you and it was incredible. You are such a bright light 💕
Been referencing this video over the last couple months to make sure I'm setting up systems for my life. Thank you for sharing this info ❤️
Omg i've been waiting for this video!!!
Very helpful Rowena! Thanks for this video..
I just realized, systems not only enable us to continue playing, but effective systems will help us continue WINNING the game. ;)
Its crazy how all your videos are helpful and worth watching.
That blows my mind. Thank u for the beautiful content.
Easier said than done, but that's not going to stop me from trying. Thank you for this!!!
Thank you so much Rowena✨ feeling refreshed over here!!!!
Thank you for this video. How to create system is something I have been wanting to learn. I have had systems but they seem to fail after a while. I loved the knowledge you have shared in this video. Thank you ❤
She’s like Ariel for skin care 💕
What an incredible video! Thank you for making those with so much effort ✨
Seriously, thank you for this. Concise with just the right amount of details. This can be a gamechanger for me!!! 🤗🤗🤗
Hi Rowena. You're truely inspiring. I love the way systems and goals are compared w/ journeys and destinations. You really put new ideas into my brain to work upon. I also want to build a system for my skincare and inner reflection as well my spiritual practice. Thank you so much, have a wonderful day 💜
what u do in your spiritual practice?
@@matheusminto I practice Taoism and Zen Buddhism as my spiritual practice. Although I don't label myself with any religion, but Taoist and Buddhist principles and practices are very fruitful to being for me. Since I don't follow any religion, I feel free to practice what my energy resonates with 😊
It's basically meditation, mindfulness, positive affirmations, silence and respecting and loving all beings and believing in gratitude. I hope that answers your question.
Thanks so much, Rowena! I was waiting for the right time to open this and just had my breakfast and I feel so relaxed on this Sunday morning :) ready to take on the day! "I'm just wondering/thinking/curious" is what I think and say out loud the most to the point where it annoys me and I'm like - can you be LESS curious? Consumption overload is a real struggle I've discovered these past few weeks! 😅
I'm seriously so grateful to have found this video and your channel in general. Thank you!
New Subscriber here! I’m so happy I found your videos when I did. I have been trying to live with more intention lately and have been doing alright so far but watching this really helps to give it more structure(I thrive w/structure lol) which makes it seem so much less scary. Definitely going to get these books you mentioned. Keep going! Love your videos
Skincare, Skincare and even more skincare.. Is that heaven??? I'm so glad I found your channel haha
If you need someone to give the skin care products to I’m 👏🏾your👏🏾 girl!!! 👏🏾 love this video. Cleaning up my kitchen now so I can fill it up with groceries!!