HOW 2 HANDLE THE PRESSURE OF BEING SINGLE & FEELING LEFT OUT W/ MARRIED FRIENDS! I KNOW, I WAS BOTH!

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 368

  • @danemahinga3801
    @danemahinga3801 Рік тому +182

    I am single and in my 40s. in my early 30s I had a boyfriend to whom once I confessed my frustration about being single.That boyfriend actually asked me one question" Do you think all married people are happy?" That REALLY made me think and helped me deal better with my status.

    • @britjj5126
      @britjj5126 Рік тому +4

      True but more and more it's about the stigma of being single especially past a certain age. I know a lot of married women who knowingly or unknowingly exclude single gal's from the social activities. And in today's world when everyone is so busy being single can shine a light on just how alone one is. Not everyone gets married purely for romantic reasons some do it for companionship or for opportunities... sometimes it's easier to accomplish certain goals with a husband. Unpopular opinion but it's a man's world. Think of any women who has reached pinnacle of success. She had the backing of a man in some way shape or form. Whether it's was an executive who gave her a chance, a book publisher etc. Heck Beyonce wouldn't be the Beyonce she is without her Daddy or Jay Zs influence. Not to take away from any individual talent or hard work but it is what it is. A man's/husband's influence can really put you on in various spheres.

  • @thelmaallen1440
    @thelmaallen1440 Рік тому +23

    Fumi I'm 63. I got married at age 55. Me and my hubby have been going strong for 8 years now. My hubby and I were boyfriend/girlfriend from age 20-26. We kept in touch over the years. He never married , nor did I. Ladies, I didn't think I would ever get married after 50+ but I did. KEEP HOPE ALIVE!

  • @TR_writing
    @TR_writing Рік тому +96

    At 46, never married, no kids, but have been wanting both since my 30s, I needed to hear this. Thank you Fumi.

  • @ArtemisUnderscoreJ
    @ArtemisUnderscoreJ Рік тому +63

    Too many single married folk for me to believe I’m missing out. Seeing healthy marriages is more of a pleasant surprise than something be “envied” in modern Western society.

    • @AS-tb2mo
      @AS-tb2mo Рік тому +3

      Fact. They're married but that's about it oftentimes. Nothing to be envious of from what I'm seeing.

    • @firststar2
      @firststar2 Рік тому

      100 💯 👌👌👌👌👌👌

    • @jksmith9161
      @jksmith9161 Рік тому

      🎯

  • @demekonrn
    @demekonrn Рік тому +91

    I'm 45. I knew motherhood wasn't my God-given calling when I was 12. I'm unmarried & I've never felt that longing that single women feel when they see married people. I am scarred from the trauma of having unhappily married parents, siblings and friends who stayed together long after they should. I already talked to God about it & he agrees that marriage & kids aren't for me; if he didn't, I would know it😂

    • @judithsakala4944
      @judithsakala4944 Рік тому +1

      YANA ! 😉😃 Am 55 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @romae6182
      @romae6182 Рік тому +3

      I had the unhappily married parents and still got married. I hated it and will never do it again. Those married women can keep their headaches to themselves.

  • @lumilabiyi
    @lumilabiyi Рік тому +73

    I'm grateful for women like Fumi on UA-cam and TikTok who have spoken so much life to me, since I was 22 (now 26) I don't feel the pressure to be in a relationship or have kids at ALL! I don't know how that'll change in the next 10 years but for now I'm content being alone. PS I love the look Fumi, it looks so classy ❤

  • @l.a.w.79
    @l.a.w.79 Рік тому +22

    I’ve always wanted a family. I’m your age now and never married no children. My friends’ children are in college and some are young adults. It’s tough. I feel like I spent so much time on my career and that was a waste on many levels because having a family, you leave a legacy that’s different and more meaningful. Now I don’t care one iota about my field/profession. I wish things were different.

    • @a.r.tavares1322
      @a.r.tavares1322 9 місяців тому +3

      I feel you, but please don't be sad. I'm 47. I always wanted kids (the mariage part, not so much... bad male figures early in life). I have 6 siblings, they all have children. I don't (and I'm the one who loves kids the most!). But at the same time I see them struggle with the children. It's tough. There are positives and negatives to every situation. I say to myself we are all threads of the great fabric of life, all intertwined. If you think about it, the legacy does not really last long... who remembers his/her great-great-grandmother? Not many of us. Also we can leave a legacy in many other ways: adopt, mentor youngsters, write, etc. I wish you all the best.

  • @misscarol3771
    @misscarol3771 Рік тому +48

    "your supposed to be where you are"this words are deep.Thanks fumi always here for your nuggets of wisdom

  • @simro8067
    @simro8067 Рік тому +40

    This video came right on time as I’ve been feeling this way recently. Every time I go on social media, someone I know is getting engaged, married or having children. I’m still a virgin in my late 20s with minimal dating experience. With how dating is now, it’s so hard to find someone genuine. Guys have always told me that I’m marriage material, but they typically say they aren’t ready for that level of commitment or they ghost me for women with more sexual experience. Also, you’d be surprised that a lot of women and men settle for the sake of having a title and warm body. A lot of people are in relationships by themselves. So I don’t idolize people’s relationship, but I do always ask God when will my time come?

    • @ruthnne
      @ruthnne Рік тому

      Girl…we should chat! I’m a girl in your shoes sort of…by the way.

    • @eyethumfazwe
      @eyethumfazwe Рік тому +1

      I relate so much! Waiting on God isn't easy but it's going to be worth it.

    • @nowthen6389
      @nowthen6389 Рік тому

      I relate to this as well. If you all chat let me know! 😂

  • @grettag228
    @grettag228 Рік тому +72

    Fumi❤❤❤ I’ve been watching through so many stages in my life. You’ve been a counsellor for me when I needed one. When I was single and needed someone to remind me I’m worthy of the world I came to you. When I was dating and didn’t know how to handle guys, I came to you, etc. And now I just got married Aug 1st to the best guy in this world 🥰🥰 and so I will keep coming to you. I just love you and Ole and Adrian. I can see through my screen your happiness, thank you for showing us that it is possible. From the bottom of my heart, much love❤

  • @carolynfrink5569
    @carolynfrink5569 Рік тому +60

    Fumi, thank you for this topic. I am 59 and single due to divorce. I love my life and focus on the next chapter of my life as I am pursuing my PhD. and other goals. You are so right to work on yourself, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. I would love to marry again (to the person God has for me), but right now, I am enjoying this time of preparation and reinventing myself! I live and love you, Fumi!❤

  • @nickyb8089
    @nickyb8089 Рік тому +9

    This video was on time. I learnt a long time ago, never compate your self to other people . 9 times out of 10 what you see is not the reality. People save face. Focus your energy on yourself. And prepare for his arrival ❤

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 11 місяців тому +1

      "Thou shalt not covet."

  • @excellencecheberurjoie6452
    @excellencecheberurjoie6452 11 місяців тому +7

    Single, childfree and happy @45. It is people like Fumi that are inspiring us to live bravely and blissfully 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @zeebabi5198
    @zeebabi5198 Рік тому +47

    I lost my best friend for the same topic she's married and I'm not, and she make me feel like I'm missing out because I'm not married

    • @ArtemisUnderscoreJ
      @ArtemisUnderscoreJ Рік тому +14

      I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this in your friendship. Growing apart is never easy nor fair.

    • @romae6182
      @romae6182 Рік тому +3

      She’s lying.

  • @rbraxton00
    @rbraxton00 Рік тому +73

    Yeah, I never wanted to get married. Had a child out of wedlock, and I wasn’t concerned about getting married. I did get married, was Married for 14 years. I got divorced, I’m not interested in marriage, but never against it. I have never had any peer pressure after 15, that’s when I realized people don’t really like you. Yeah, you have people that like you, but the majority of people are living their own lives, we have a million things to think about. Children, spouses, careers, family, no one has time to worry about what other people are doing. It’s life! Great video 😊

  • @franciscamitchell4674
    @franciscamitchell4674 Рік тому +20

    This actually brought tears to my eyes.. felt that you were talking about my single life.. still single at 66 and feel that I have so much to give the right partner…🥺

  • @momzilla9491
    @momzilla9491 Рік тому +22

    Number three was just right for me, but--- I never had the same timing as my single or married friends.
    New widow. I have no idea where to start life on my own. Just looking forward to being a grandma now.
    Things will work themselves out.
    Good advice... Don't put yourself in a position where you are not happy with the company you keep.

  • @lafleurbleue8936
    @lafleurbleue8936 Рік тому +38

    Thank you so much Fumi for this video❤. I'm 32, always wanted to be married and a mom but still single. I've never been in a relationship actually even though i try to meet men... It's so painful sometimes feeling like I'm missing so much in life. Your videos give me hope❤

  • @patriciatolliver4057
    @patriciatolliver4057 10 місяців тому +3

    Patty-I am single, in my 70S, and I've never been married. I physically had no children, but I had many children and young people cross my path with whom I still have contact. One of them said they were children of my heart. They really are. I am facing retirement alone. However, I am currently going down a new path of creativity, and so many things are surfacing I never dreamed of. I believe God knows whom I will be with and when he will appear in my life. I feel he's coming, I just don't know when. That is kind of exciting. Thank you, Fumi, for the reinforcing words.

  • @jst6r
    @jst6r 11 місяців тому +4

    I’m 37 and people make cruel comments. I am not in a rush to get married as I want to marry the right person! Thank you for this viseo

  • @fadekealabi2894
    @fadekealabi2894 Рік тому +45

    This video is so timely. I was feeling so sad today about deciding to cut off a situationship that was headed nowhere and started to feel the blues of being single and lonely at nearly 32 especially when I thought this man was the one. The Universe always finds a way to comfort us and I am so grateful Aunty Fumi for allowing yourself to be used. As you have said, it is not a race and I trust that it will happen for me the way and time it is meant to ❤

    • @catenimo6965
      @catenimo6965 Рік тому +9

      Same case here darling...we shall pull through

    • @fadekealabi2894
      @fadekealabi2894 Рік тому

      @@catenimo6965 ❤️

    • @korynkoryn6052
      @korynkoryn6052 Рік тому +3

      Trust the Lord. He will NEVER fail you❤

    • @traceyrichardson9550
      @traceyrichardson9550 Рік тому +4

      Oh my darlings, you have so much life ahead of you! Really. Focus on yourselves, do what pleases you. Travel, climb, caving, career or even write a book - get to know yourself as a person and the right partner will come to you. Much love xxx

    • @cedesley7296
      @cedesley7296 Рік тому

      Girl I would’ve thought that someone hacked into my account and wrote this on my behalf…omg I relate with this 💯% !!! Everything you mentioned is me but seeing how dating in society currently looks like, I end up feeling secure and at peace in being single. I’ve come a VERY long way because in my early 20s I would cry and get so depressed about being single. God sees how big the desire to be in a loving committed relationship and I believe that he will come through at just the right time! Keep your Faith 🙌🏾😌❤️✨

  • @susanthobekilencube71
    @susanthobekilencube71 5 місяців тому +2

    Thank you Fumi. I am enjoying your videos. I am 43, never married, no kids, I can't have kids because I had a hysterectomy because of fibroids. I am still healing, I have been believing God for a husband since I was 20. I've decided to love myself and do the things I love, live life to the fullest. I am so liberated from expectations of African society about what it means to be a woman!!!

  • @manningviralmedia
    @manningviralmedia Рік тому +68

    People can be very unkind towards unmarried women.

    • @eleniprovia7667
      @eleniprovia7667 Рік тому +2

      Absolutely!

    • @lalaheart76
      @lalaheart76 Рік тому +4

      When i tell people I am single with 0 kids people feel pity for me. I don't understand. It makes me question what am doing wrong. I was with a guy who let me down and started cheating with another woman while I was busy getting my life together. How pity!

  • @yonelasjourney
    @yonelasjourney Рік тому +19

    I'm 30 single no kids and starting to give up. This gives me some hope ❤

  • @monabrown101
    @monabrown101 Рік тому +34

    This was SOOOO POWERFUL❤❤❤... such more an any "singles" sermon or message I've heard in churches my whole life. I'm crying and shouting because this has set me COMPLETELY FREE🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @DorinaAcevedoAcevedo
    @DorinaAcevedoAcevedo 11 місяців тому +2

    Thank you Fumi for your special words. I have been feeling pressured as well by a few people at work being I'm single. They say I'm needing a man. I always say I'm good Alone right now, I don't need a MAN TO COMPLETE ME.

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 Рік тому +5

    I’m so happy for you Fumi ❤❤ may God continue to bless you and your family. I’m 45 and single. This video is encouraging. While sometimes I moan about singleness, couples romancing in front of me, people asking me if I want marriage and children, I enjoy the drama free life. I enjoy organising my life the way I want it.

  • @Kimberly-ks6uu
    @Kimberly-ks6uu Рік тому +15

    Thank you Fumi, nobody talks about this, ppl always focused on relationship goals, n single ppl are overlooked, this made me feel seen

  • @tanzaniandonnainitaly9905
    @tanzaniandonnainitaly9905 Рік тому +14

    God bless you aunt Fums, I have been troubled lately because all my friends even younger sisters have had all they wished, be it marriage, the dream career and many more, and I have been feeling like I have not achieved anything, my dream mostly, which is to become a medical doctor, I thank you for the encouraging message, I got the strength to pick up my books again and continue with my medical doctor entrance exam preparations. Love love from a Tanzanian lady 🇹🇿 in Italy. Un bacio a te😘.

  • @julieenelson9199
    @julieenelson9199 Рік тому +21

    Awesome video Fumi I'm 56 been single for over 10 years and I feel bad when I see some of my friends married and in relationships most times I question myself whether I am ugly and or I have these negative thoughts sometimes and wonder what I'm doing wrong. Luckily I'm god fearing and I pray a lot and sometimes exercise when I get the chance. I'm glad I watched this video you have given me hope.

  • @mwila1879
    @mwila1879 Рік тому +17

    This video is so timely. I have been feeling so tired of the wait. This is the fuel I need to keep on the hope and enjoy my present. I should count my blessing, 31 and unmarried, no child yet is not so bad. Thank you so much Fumi! Love from a Zambian in NYC.

  • @Rachel-ze8ne
    @Rachel-ze8ne Рік тому +32

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability Fumi! This video will help so many women in a similar situation

  • @kasyatababra8119
    @kasyatababra8119 Рік тому +6

    Thank you aunt Fumi, I have been home for now 6 years after graduation babysitting my cousins. They are now old and I feel left out on everything. I'm 28 and I have no idea where to start from

  • @clotere82
    @clotere82 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for this content! I am single in my very early 40s and I have hope for marriage and kid(s). I hope because that is what I want. Your story is an inspiration!

  • @Xo_Chante__
    @Xo_Chante__ Рік тому +22

    The wait will be worth it ten folds! Thank you for this video Fumi! It is right on time. ❤

  • @ashleycunningham751
    @ashleycunningham751 Рік тому +24

    I'm so happy you recorded this chat. It is so helpful. Thanks for remembering us single ladies.😉

  • @EstherAivinhenyi
    @EstherAivinhenyi Рік тому +4

    Lesson learnt " marriage is not a race." God Almighty thank You for giving me the STRENGTH , Patience, and Spiritual insights about marriage. 🙏

  • @aclark1197
    @aclark1197 Рік тому +10

    Fumi I don't even know what the video entails as a Single Woman who absolutely loves being single and finally understanding this isn't an issue it's a blessing . I wish I knew that a long time ago. Marriage is beautiful should you find someone to spend the rest of your life with happily wholly but if. Not live happy and single and it's ok to be happy single and saved. #If I keep My Last Name I think I'm going to be just fine.

  • @MzelleShona
    @MzelleShona Рік тому +13

    Just from the title alone that brought back a memory to me. I felt left out for the first time a couple of weeks ago, just after turning 30 when I heard (I believe I wasn't meant to hear the conversation just by the look my friends gave each other) that my friends (all married) were planning a party with their spouses without informing me to celebrate one that just bought her new apartment. That was a weird feeling as I am okay being single even though I am looking for the one. I'll watch the video and hopefully I'll get some good advice by you aunty Fumi ❤

    • @happy4life265
      @happy4life265 Рік тому +13

      Those are not your friends. They should Atleast tell you

    • @nightwishisthegreatestband6355
      @nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Рік тому +10

      Ditch them. Some married think they are superior and treat their single friends differently after they get married. Then if divorce happens they start looking for you again.

    • @Heyu7her3
      @Heyu7her3 11 місяців тому

      I say go off on them...

  • @veec4153
    @veec4153 Рік тому +7

    Your pictures are amazing… wow you’ve travelled so much. Defo a blueprint I’m waiting on God I was hurt in my last relationship but now I’ve healed this is a beautiful life to aspire to… thank you for sharing Fumi, it really helps soo many beautiful women feeling lost, lonely and helpless out there ❤❤

  • @tiffanyblount7560
    @tiffanyblount7560 Рік тому +6

    Celebrate life, longevity and peace. Reality, women out number men, therefore all of us won't be able to get married but for those who desire that, I pray you find the desires of your heart. But while waiting learn to marry yourself first. Give yourself permission to be in love with you first.

    • @VivSees
      @VivSees Рік тому +4

      Women dont outnumber men. That’s the narrative that males push. Marriage minded Women outnumber “marriageable” males.
      Globally, more male babies are born than female babies.
      In reality, straight women want the man they’d wish to marry to be mature minded, straight, financially capable, mentally stable, protective, loving, faithful, honest, etc. How many males do you know who fit that criteria?
      Few, if any! Plenty of males but very few have the qualities that women seek.
      For a woman to be proposed to by a male wanting marriage, he basically just wants a physically attractive, loving, loyal, honest woman. How many women do you know like that? Unlimited!
      You are correct though, many women will never get married. Period. Not because of the quantity of men but because of the quality of men available. Women are much pickier than men and we HAVE to be because we bear the offspring.

    • @nightwishisthegreatestband6355
      @nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Рік тому

      It's actually the opposite globally

  • @mimikenya2021
    @mimikenya2021 Рік тому +5

    I Love your Channel so much Aunty Fumi!!! I listen to all your videos and you're preaching to us sisters. I'm turning 32, and I can't wait to be married. But while i patiently wait. I am focusing on being the best I can be in this single hood season. One thing I don't want to do is marry wrong, so I will wait for the very very best from God. I am so happy for you, Ula and Adrian ❤. May you be blessed with the very best years for all the years of waiting ❤❤

  • @portiawatkis4772
    @portiawatkis4772 Рік тому +15

    This episode brought tears to my eyes. You educate me everyday but today you educate me. I love you auntie Fumes

  • @kiskibella
    @kiskibella Рік тому +3

    It's been a long time since I've commented on your videos 😔. This one touched me a lot because I am on the eve of my 48th birthday and still single. Thank you my sister Fumi for your words. Very encouraging and inspiring.
    May God bless you and protect your family! You are true a beautiful soul! You're like a friend in my head!
    Please, Fumi, I have a question: you often say you met Ola in LA. But how did your meeting go? Did he approach you? Was it an immediate love at first sight? I'll understand if you don't want to share the details. Merci! Sending you love & blessings from Paris. Bizoux🇫🇷🌸😘

  • @hilarityco
    @hilarityco Рік тому +5

    I needed this, I am 33 years old an only child and my mom is dead. I have no family and all I want is my own family but I lose hope everyday because I don’t see love in my future sometimes. I am the last one in my friends group that is single with no kids so sometimes the pressure is there. But, at the same time I look at their lives and say I don’t want it. They never have time for themselves and work themselves to the bone. I don’t know, I’m blessed to be single but sometimes I think about having my own family but I’m stingy with my love.

    • @nightwishisthegreatestband6355
      @nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Рік тому

      Just go to a sperm bank. Or adopt if you can.

    • @joylm9108
      @joylm9108 11 місяців тому

      You don’t need marriage to have kids. Go ahead and have kids now because time isn’t kind to us women.

  • @portiawatkis4772
    @portiawatkis4772 Рік тому +4

    You're a remarkable individual handmade by God. The Bible says covit good gifting and I truly aspire to be somewhat like you, I'm in my mid 30's and still not sure what God has in store for me but I trust him.

  • @agbaya1000
    @agbaya1000 Рік тому +5

    This video was so spot on with everything I am feeling especially the financial aspects! It was so comforting to learn that I am not alone. It's something I have shame about but I guess I am not alone.
    I turned 30 this year and I am not quite where I want to be financially and this has got me down. I sometimes look at married people who seem to have it all. Nice big apartments or houses, seem to have their finances together while I am struggling to make ends meet.
    I am working towards being better with my finances and hearing your story about how things were for you when you were younger is comforting and encouraging to know my life could definitely improve for the better.
    Thanks so much for sharing your story.

  • @anarahmafe
    @anarahmafe Рік тому +2

    I’m not going to lie this episode to me feels like an actual sign from God because today out of all days, I have been crying my eyes out feeling like I just want to no longer exist… but then I get this episode

  • @Gabekhp
    @Gabekhp Рік тому +14

    Your videos are so encouraging. Over time your healthy and uplifting mentality influences my life, I'm grateful for you.

  • @edithstomer3315
    @edithstomer3315 Рік тому +11

    Good morning World!❤❤❤ I really love to hear you laugh❤❤🇱🇨🇱🇨

  • @audreymulowa2126
    @audreymulowa2126 Рік тому +5

    Aunt Fumi, you are so cute❤😍🤗thank you for always being there as an auntie, big sis and counsellor. I am 38 single mommy and enjoying every moment with my daughter. I struggle sometimes but my goal is to enjoy every single moment of being single and working hard towards giving my girl a decent life🙏🙌

  • @RoyallyHis
    @RoyallyHis Рік тому +3

    I join the community of so many of these here who are completely satisfied & content as a single (widowed) with no desire to remarry. My sweet husband left big shoes that will never be filled & I honestly believe there is no match to the love he had for me. I gave him all of myself & have no more to give to another man. I'm too selfish now. I give my love to my children, grandchildren, friends (married & single) & more importantly, to the things of God. Not a jealous or envious bone in my body towards my married fam & friends. Not 1 day of longing, loneliness, looking or lusting for a man. Love is a beautiful gift. I still cry at weddings (I don't avoid them) & love the idea of marriage...but for someone else😂

  • @janayalaude4722
    @janayalaude4722 11 місяців тому +1

    You are such a beautiful woman inside and out! I pray to be this poised, elegant and vibrant as I grow older. Thank you for your wisdom. There are women (and men) who often become bitter due to life's circumstances and it takes away from them enjoying each stage of life. They often think "Well if I had to go through this hardship then so do you" rather than sharing lessons and teaching moments. I can tell you are a wonderful person to the people around you because you are giving us such caring and attentive advice. You don't know us personally yet you are sharing with a heart that really cares for our growth and wellness. Many people close to us probably have the same experiences and wisdom as you but would not share it generously because they are harboring pain and do not wish to see others happy. Love you Aunty Fumi!

  • @AndromedonThanks
    @AndromedonThanks Рік тому +14

    I love these moments with Fumi ❤

  • @ItsWhittlove
    @ItsWhittlove Рік тому +7

    This was FIRE 🔥 I have children but I’m not married. I can’t wait to be but I’ve experienced a lot of what you mentioned! The rubbing it in..people being intimidated by me. But God sent you as a messenger..I will stay fabulous ❤

  • @winnieboateng5334
    @winnieboateng5334 Рік тому +9

    Awwww thank you so much Mama Fumi for responding and your Advice❤❤️🎉 💃🏽 You are the best. God richly bless you. Love you.

  • @chidychyk5741
    @chidychyk5741 Рік тому +2

    I swear I can't love you any less. You give the BEST, I mean ABSOLUTE BEST Advices all the time. You're Indeed Our Own Fairy god mother on the internet. I Love You Aunty Fumi & God Bless You Richly for always being a ray of positivity, kindness, sunshine, & Love. ❤❤❤

  • @tizifadaka9283
    @tizifadaka9283 Рік тому +3

    I can never thank you enough Fumi. Keep doing what you do.
    I pray that God continues to bless you with a long and happy life 💕

  • @oluwaseyelolaajeigbe
    @oluwaseyelolaajeigbe Рік тому +4

    Thank you so much Aunty funmi, I'm 40,single, no kids and confused. I really need this video

  • @happyngulube1871
    @happyngulube1871 Рік тому +6

    Thank you Sis Fumi, I am 46 now and really needed to hear this. ❤😊

  • @mjmidnight9
    @mjmidnight9 Рік тому +12

    Fumi, I absolutely love who you are! ❤️ I am a new subscriber (about two weeks ago) and have been loving your channel ever since! Please keep giving us the raw and real you! ❤️😘

  • @laurenfrancesguerraphd8310
    @laurenfrancesguerraphd8310 Рік тому +6

    FUMI!! Thanks so much. I really needed to hear this today. I'm 41 and I think about this often. You are amazing

  • @lenahchama
    @lenahchama 11 місяців тому +2

    Thanx's fumi for these words of wisdom❤

  • @MathyLisikaMinsende
    @MathyLisikaMinsende Рік тому +3

    Thank you big sis Fumi. I've had the hardest time losing all my close friends who are now married as they were my whole world. The loneliness that I have felt and the feeling of failing hit me hard. And trying to make a circle of new friends is hard too. I'm a better now but this message really spoke to me. Thank you and loads of love.❤❤❤

  • @beverlycraigg9067
    @beverlycraigg9067 Рік тому +8

    Amazing episode Fumi. Love the travel photos. You are enjoying and living your best life later. God has blessed you with an amazing husband and son
    I got married in my twenties and divorced in my late thirties with three kids. I would love to travel and enjoy life now that I am in my fifties. So for the young ladles please enjoy your life..travel and have fun, so please don't settle
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sheilalofton2145
    @sheilalofton2145 Рік тому +5

    Fumes, you always have the best advice, those life lessons have served you well. Gurrrl, that hair is glamorous to distraction ! Yes you look fire 🔥🔥🔥, I love your look !

  • @jenrn120
    @jenrn120 11 місяців тому +1

    Powerful!!! I love those travel pictures, you look beautiful FUMI sis! 🫶🏽

  • @SianaRepmad
    @SianaRepmad Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much. I’m 34 and still single and I’m the last of my friends to be single. I have struggled with feeling hopeless/worthless and gave up on dating. I have been praying for years for a spouse and have been trusting God but it’s a struggle, but I also know what I need to do to be in a relationship (self care, self love, and making more friends ). Anyways thank you for the encouragement.

    • @a.dlamini
      @a.dlamini 11 місяців тому

      Me too sis same age

  • @FavourFAjayi
    @FavourFAjayi Рік тому +5

    Gosh
    I can totally relate with this video, right in this phase at the moment, of giving space to my married friends. Mainly, I am doing that to reflect on my feelings, why I feel how I feel & how I can sort it.

  • @classybrassy5
    @classybrassy5 Рік тому +2

    Yumi, thanks so much for this video.Although I'm divorced, I still have moments of fearing that God will send my last and final husband.Your video touched my ❤️ it came at the perfect time. I'm reorganizing jewelry clothes shoes purses and wigs 😅yes I live wigs, too.I ordered Julianne in 2 colors. I'm not giving up on love again.Gonna dressed to impress as I used to do before COVID.
    When my husband arrives, I'll be mentally physically and stylishly chic ready.
    Your content is like food for the soul,a total addiction for me now.Continued Love Happiness and Blessings to you Ola & Adrian❤

  • @TruPoetic
    @TruPoetic Рік тому +12

    Looking great Fumi! ❤

  • @Lydia_m
    @Lydia_m Рік тому +2

    “It’s not a race “🥹🥹. I needed this. I’m turning 31 next month and I’m still single. I’m not necessarily longing for marriage or feeling as though I’m missing out on that. I do yearn for a companion, someone to pour in me as much as I’m ready to pour into them 🥹. I’m staying single though until God does his deed in my life. I’ve set standards, boundaries and expectations for my next relationship ,therefore I will not operate from a desperate place and settle. It doesn’t make the yearning for a relationship any less though . Thank you for this video Auntie ❤️❤️

  • @santi7470
    @santi7470 5 місяців тому

    YESSSSSSSSSS - I believe your child comes to you - chooses you to be their mother ❤❤

  • @theonejanaviya
    @theonejanaviya Рік тому +1

    I’m a 28 yr old newly single mom of 2 beautiful children but I trust God

  • @_molebogeng6281
    @_molebogeng6281 Рік тому +1

    This advice landed especially because it's coming from someone who walked the journey!!! You really understand the struggle and I'm glad you didn't trivialize it

  • @djqueenchampion7791
    @djqueenchampion7791 Рік тому +3

    I lost my husband in 2009 my Soul Mate I am single not dating or seeing anyone, it gets very lonely sometimes not having a male companion to talk too, Travel with, laugh with cuddle with ect. I am very cautious.of people because after 30 years of friendship with some I found out they were fake friends that only looked out for self, which has made me feel more lonely. However I rather be alone than to waste anymore time with fake people. Much Love ❤️ Fumi Peace ✌🏾 and Love 💕

  • @WhittyHutton
    @WhittyHutton Рік тому +7

    I’m staying single for life and never having children. I wish my family and friends leave me alone about it. I been traveling the world and living life. 🙌❤️

  • @Daakie9362
    @Daakie9362 Рік тому +4

    Thanks for this video. I think this video was made for me . Hmmm it’s not easy but thanks for this. I’m in my late 30’s still single 😢

  • @iam_trinikimmy
    @iam_trinikimmy Рік тому +8

    Sister Fumi, this is so relevant to my life right at this moment. All my love to you and your family. Blessings! Love from T&T!

  • @chinweaniche-hall3895
    @chinweaniche-hall3895 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for this video. I only had one friend that got married when we were 18 and of course that marriage ended in divorce. She's happily remarried the last time I heard from her. I did get married to a much older man whose health started failing a couple years into our 5yr marriage. I spent a lot of time caring for him as well as being a new mom. Well he passed away during the pandemic and now I am a single mom to a wonderful and rambunctious 5yr old boy. I take care of myself and look good but know it's not just about me anymore. I just wanted to know if you can advice on how I can approach dating again after dealing with the trauma of seeing my ex husband pass away and having to bury him and all. His relatives are still there but I am ready to move on with my life. How do I relate to them due to having a child with their deceased brother but also how do I date now as a widow and single mom approaching 40 in a month. Help me fumi!!

  • @yaniquewilson8362
    @yaniquewilson8362 Рік тому +2

    Thank you auntie fumi for not leaving us out....without or without a man i am enought with or without a child i am enough as a woman 😊

  • @Macch2275
    @Macch2275 Рік тому +8

    This is such a beautiful video with a beautiful message! Fumi, you are amazing ❤️ with a wonderful family!

  • @nichelleregister0416
    @nichelleregister0416 Рік тому +4

    I just want to say I love you my sister Fumi I’ve learned a lot from you
    Your family is beautiful and your laugh gives me life I love your laugh

  • @Hiding_in_the_Light
    @Hiding_in_the_Light 10 місяців тому

    Fumi you are the friend that every girl/woman needs❤

  • @henriettasamuel7386
    @henriettasamuel7386 Рік тому +1

    I'm single and in my 40's.. yes at times I feel left out and also feel like something is wrong with me.. but also most times I see God at work and that gives me the assurance that God is aware of my situation and I believe that is a matter of time. At the moment I just want to work hard to accomplish so much in this life😍😍.

  • @MsRewaFranklin
    @MsRewaFranklin Місяць тому

    I so so so needed this. I'm 53 and thank you. I'm doing everything you said. I do desire my husband, but I can also wait for him. Thank Fumi ❤

  • @AITrademarket
    @AITrademarket Рік тому +3

    Err Funmi, you look 30 something. Best advice and balanced view. You’ve made me feel so much better about myself.
    Kind regards Yemi

  • @eleniprovia7667
    @eleniprovia7667 Рік тому +6

    Keep those awesome videos coming Fumi! You are so good to us.

  • @SoTappedOut
    @SoTappedOut Рік тому +1

    As a divorced, single 45 yr old; I approve THIS message! #LoveYaFums

  • @annlalsingh619
    @annlalsingh619 Рік тому +13

    Fumi Omg you look so beautiful today. Love the hair. Have a good day.❤

  • @jennymichellelewis2982
    @jennymichellelewis2982 10 місяців тому

    Thank you so very much Fumi. I am 35 years old. I am a nurse.
    And I still believe that I will be able to married and have children I would be extremely happy just like you are you are a inspirations ❤❤❤we love you so much. May God bless you and your beautiful family 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @aurelieb7353
    @aurelieb7353 Рік тому +1

    I just want to give you a big hug and kisses. Thank you for giving us single women hope. You’re an inspiration. I love you ❤💕🙏🏽

  • @kadiangraham4450
    @kadiangraham4450 Рік тому +4

    It's not a race) i love that... And thank you Suzanne for looking out for our auntie fumi... You look so beautiful auntie.. Thanks for the advice

  • @mjay0019
    @mjay0019 11 місяців тому

    This video brought tears to my eyes.

  • @aupz23
    @aupz23 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for your advice! I love your channel and you are a blessing from God! I am 42 and just graduated with my PhD! You are truly an inspiration - I look forward and thank God in advance for my future husband and children.

  • @ppinnock4725
    @ppinnock4725 Рік тому +2

    To be honest I did not want to be single or be a single parents. I never thought I would have children at an older age. I was always feeling like the third wheel when I have friends that are married and yes always get the questions when are you getting married. But now I dont care, I now can say with age and independent, finding peace within myself is what matters.But now those married friends are now divorce. If you are single take your time to live your life and in doing so enjoy yourselves. Marriage is not always easy and it is not for everyone. Thank you Mrs Fumi.

  • @patricialowe3290
    @patricialowe3290 11 місяців тому

    I am just now commenting, have been catching up on all my videos….i am 56 and still praying and waiting for that time to come for me. But for now, just taking care of my parents and their health. But I have always felt the same….so many of my friends are married with kids, not all have kids, but most do. I can totally relate.

  • @wandeabisoye
    @wandeabisoye Рік тому +1

    This video was so apt. Thanks so much for the words of wisdom

  • @queen900
    @queen900 Рік тому +2

    Aunty Fumi, your channel literally feels like home to me. Thank you for this❤❤

  • @Esther-im2yi
    @Esther-im2yi Рік тому +8

    I love you woman you are beautiful in your own skin❤ you said everything truthfully and in reality and it is very uplifting to me. I am a single woman of 48. I am in your place you had. I occupy myself at church, work and I am a professional woman. I travel and love myself but a vaccum is still there like every woman else to get married. I know my Jesus will do it as He promised. It is not easy but with the help of God I enjoy everyday and try to touch someone's life everyday. Thanks for your advices you brought tears to my eyes❤❤🙏🙏