YES! I was thinking about how we avoid "bad" feelings often and try to immediately replace them with "good" ones. Which is disingenuous. Being uncomfortable isn't good or bad, it just is. So there is no need to fear it. :)
Every time Connor posts a video I take a break to listen to him, then listen to myself. Kinda like some type of therapy homework lol. Thank you for sharing your experiences! I grew up watching you because you looked like my cousin (I was little and I didn't understand English) and I'm glad I did! ❤
Connor, please know that I love you, and I enjoy your videos the most. That's why I would like for you to research how "sketchy" betterhelp is, that might affect your decision of partnering with them again.
I’ve seen so many more sponsorships from them lately. It really fucking sucks, I want more people to be aware of how terrible this company is, under the guise of helping people, which is such a horrible deception. I’m sure he’s not aware but I appreciate you leaving the comment in hopes that he will become aware.
I'm moving out of my parents' house in 2 weeks, to a city 2000 km away. I haven't even told them yet; I'm so scared that if they say one discouraging thing I'll start panicking and not go. So I'll tell them at the last moment. This video is timely. I'll have faith (blind faith, really) in my ability to handle this.
this is amazing :D what helps me a lot in frightening times is the "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on UA-cam. Maybe this will help you - especially after your move, because sometimes another panick wave hits us after a big step and this might help navigate the wave
Hey Connor, I highly doubt you will see this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. I have been following your videos since I was in high school and albeit I haven’t watched a good handful due to my being in college, followed by grad school, I saw this video pop on, and put it on my TV after getting some work done after work. I sat on the table right in front of it, and it genuinely just felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend that brought me a strange sense of comfort. I thought back to where I was when I first started watching your videos over a decade ago, and have reflected on how much I have changed, and how much I have watched you change sporadically throughout the years. I am now working in the field I have worked my ass off to be in for about 6 or 7 to 8 years, considering all of my time. The messages of being anxious and stressed and what it does to take courage brought me solace, and it was a nice way to, in a sense, touch-in with an old friend. Continue to be well. - 💙
my mission this year is to be brave. i realised recently that a coward was something I hated to think of myself as, but I was kind of acting like one. my main fear is of regretting a mistake i make, or a wrong decision. my inner critic is harsh, and it paralysed me. for me, the mantra of 'i will be okay after' is really 'i will be kind to myself after'. even if i make a mistake i deserve gentleness from myself. thanks for this video :)
As a person with anxiety myself, this is exactly it. Fake it til you make it. I talk myself through so many things that are "easy" for others. And sometimes, I find that I don't have to talk myself through certain things anymore because my body remembers how too.
I’m going through a difficult moment with a situationship where I felt very scared of the future and my healing process. I really needed this video, and I thank you sm for casually post about this. If anyone is going through a bad moment now, think about how much you have left to live and experience new things and that it will be ok
i fear we have once again shared the same braincell. pretty sure the three building blocks to courage just changed the trajectory of my life, so thanks :)
Good for you talking about courage and taking the step to do whatever it is you must do and need to do. Fear is far too consuming on many levels. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
This is real, authentic, charming, and endearing. You created something that is never created anymore in this world of 2024 post covid. You’re gorgeous, friend.
What's so bad about Israel? It's a civilised country that recognises gay rights and fights terrorists in Gaza who kill gays. Of course, it may be controversial, but Israel is not a bad country.
You’re at a point where you’re looking for new experiences and pushing boundaries. I’m 67 and I’m finally doing the unfamiliar and pushing my own boundaries. I’m grateful I’m no longer that naive 22 year old out of college taking the predictable career path. I’ve learned a lot about life, the good, the bad and the ugly and TBH I am a stronger person for it. Whatever doesn’t kill you…I’ll keep tabs on you and how navigate through your day to day. Stay well.👍🙏😎
I can't believe you were not only in the city i live now but also visited the part of the country where i was born (la Patagonia)😭❤️ I'm glad you liked it and i hope you were able to heal at least a little bit with that beautiful view
I relate to this because I am looking to start a master's degree program to become a mental health clinician and it does come with discomfort. I look forward to working through those feelings and get one step further to advance my career!
i can’t tell you how comforting this was! i’m moving to uni later this year and this mindset is so similar to mine and it was really affirming to hear someone i respect talking about something almost like what i’m facing in my own way edit: fixing typo lol
It's a blind faith, Connor. Life has no terminus when we are young and all the world's a wonder. Wordsworth described it well with these lines: There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream, The earth, and every common sight, To me did seem Apparell'd in celestial light, The glory and the freshness of a dream. It is not now as it has been of yore: - Turn wheresoe'er I may, By night or day. The things which I have seen I now can see no more! And in a famous essay from the 19th century, William Hazlett wrote: "No young man believes he shall ever die. There is a feeling of Eternity in youth which makes us amends for everything. Death, old age, are words without a meaning, a dream, a fiction, with which we have nothing to do."
Hey Connor, I can't believe you go to a therapist for advice! Just listen to all of the voices in your head instead. I know that even though you try your hardest to be brave, you just wind up being kinda cheesy! As far as your age goes, it's a matter of beating the grim reaper at his own game by outwitting him each time he goes near you. Just enjoy being yourself and throw caution to the wind. This way you'll wind up being a happy go lucky fellow!🎉❤😊
Connor, if you need a translator; I volunteer as tribute. Less of a joke, more on a serious note: I speak 8 languages (5 fluently, 3 conversationally) and I would die for a chance to work with you✨
what helps me navigate times of the unknown, when I have to be insanely brave, is this guided meditation called "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on youtube.. It has helped me through so many low points of my life already and I plan to use it in the future. But I love your "I was ok before this, I will be ok after this ´" mantra, because it's true :)
All life on this world 🌍 only exists because the sun energized world 🌍 allows it to for a period of time and for any element to exist it needs to come from another so I suppose when we all die it won't be long before the universe produces new copies of us❤ everyone love colin Connor love colin
I like your building blocks of courage. My definition of courage is rising up and facing challenges for the better, not recklessly but with bravery which is true strength even if you don't feel like it and if it's easy to be wary or safe. I say we can gain courage by focusing on our own control with life even if the world tells you otherwise and breaking out from our fixed mindsets for growth (something that even changes can help us to do so). Courage is what we need more for the world and something that is attractive.
Dear sweet Connor...I've been watching your videos since the beginning.... I admire you so much - love your sweet spirit and thoughtful demeanor. I literally laugh out loud. You are not only adorable, but strong and brave. Thank you for being you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made..... truly truly truly...... I love watching your journey and cheer you on at each and every stage. And - if I may comment - you look so much better without the moustache! I am not sure why that is trending so much? My twenty-year old son has one and I just cant get on board! REGARDLESS - you are awesome and I just wanted to send you some positive vibes to make sure you KNOW - you are amazing!
I started watching you when I was maybe 8 or 9 (I know. i agree, i was too young to be on the internet lol). I am now 16 and I like to think that your channel has somewhat shaped who I am today. I really appreciate your new content, and I laugh to myself at how the hurdles you’re finding in your path at your ripe age of…(no comment😅) are so similar to the hurdles I’m facing as a 16 year old today. I have been a silent watcher for so long now and I just want to say how proud I am of myself for how much I’ve matured and grown over the years and how lovely it is to watch someone else do the same. My life right now is how you’d expect any 16 year old girl’s life to be in 2024, but when you post a reflection video like this, i feel like everything stops for a moment. It’s like the universe just knows to let me have 5 minutes of peace to listen to what wise words Connor has decided to grace us with this time.
I can't believe I've been watching your videos since middle school, now I'm graduating college this year. these videos of yours will always be my favorite and I'm so happy that you are indeed just an "anxious girlie" just like the rest of us, much love to you ❤
2am in china now and I have to sleep (don’t worry I put this video in the list and I’ll watch it later)! Don’t know if you’ve travelled to China but I guess it’s worth a try… have a good day!!
You’re very conscious and wise Connor! So glad to see how much you’ve grown since I began watching you in elementary school nearly 10 years ago. If you are down to share your knowledge in other ways, I would love to collaborate with you on public speaking events
🗣the boy is back wandering around his room with a microphone again 🗣
How have you been lately?
love to see it
Favorite content on UA-cam 👏
definitely love to see it, but also missing you in argentina!!! it was so lovely meeting you ❤️ and also so great knowing you had the best time 🤧
Yay! You know what's brave: doing a video in my shirt. Gutsy. Give her back!! LOL
I use, "this will make me uncomfortable, but I'm comfortable being uncomfortable." It helps in remembering discomfort is normal.
YES! I was thinking about how we avoid "bad" feelings often and try to immediately replace them with "good" ones. Which is disingenuous. Being uncomfortable isn't good or bad, it just is. So there is no need to fear it. :)
“I’m jealous of the naive” -
sure, hit me with a poetic line within the first 10 seconds..
🤷🏻♂
Every time Connor posts a video I take a break to listen to him, then listen to myself. Kinda like some type of therapy homework lol. Thank you for sharing your experiences! I grew up watching you because you looked like my cousin (I was little and I didn't understand English) and I'm glad I did! ❤
❤❤❤
aaw this is so cute! What was your language growing up? :)
@@voyance4elle 2 actually! :) Catalan and Spanish.
editing skills never disappoint
aw thanks shannon :')
I think you described the plot of Barbie.
im just ken
😍@@ConnorFranta
Connor, please know that I love you, and I enjoy your videos the most. That's why I would like for you to research how "sketchy" betterhelp is, that might affect your decision of partnering with them again.
Was looking for this. Slightly disappointed he accepted this sponsorship but its probably naivety
@aldenbarnes2179 Yeah, i am sure he just didn't know...
I’ve seen so many more sponsorships from them lately. It really fucking sucks, I want more people to be aware of how terrible this company is, under the guise of helping people, which is such a horrible deception. I’m sure he’s not aware but I appreciate you leaving the comment in hopes that he will become aware.
I'm moving out of my parents' house in 2 weeks, to a city 2000 km away. I haven't even told them yet; I'm so scared that if they say one discouraging thing I'll start panicking and not go. So I'll tell them at the last moment. This video is timely. I'll have faith (blind faith, really) in my ability to handle this.
this is amazing :D what helps me a lot in frightening times is the "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on UA-cam. Maybe this will help you - especially after your move, because sometimes another panick wave hits us after a big step and this might help navigate the wave
Hey Connor, I highly doubt you will see this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. I have been following your videos since I was in high school and albeit I haven’t watched a good handful due to my being in college, followed by grad school, I saw this video pop on, and put it on my TV after getting some work done after work. I sat on the table right in front of it, and it genuinely just felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend that brought me a strange sense of comfort. I thought back to where I was when I first started watching your videos over a decade ago, and have reflected on how much I have changed, and how much I have watched you change sporadically throughout the years. I am now working in the field I have worked my ass off to be in for about 6 or 7 to 8 years, considering all of my time. The messages of being anxious and stressed and what it does to take courage brought me solace, and it was a nice way to, in a sense, touch-in with an old friend. Continue to be well.
- 💙
my mission this year is to be brave. i realised recently that a coward was something I hated to think of myself as, but I was kind of acting like one. my main fear is of regretting a mistake i make, or a wrong decision. my inner critic is harsh, and it paralysed me. for me, the mantra of 'i will be okay after' is really 'i will be kind to myself after'. even if i make a mistake i deserve gentleness from myself. thanks for this video :)
sending you strength and love! ♥
As a person with anxiety myself, this is exactly it. Fake it til you make it. I talk myself through so many things that are "easy" for others. And sometimes, I find that I don't have to talk myself through certain things anymore because my body remembers how too.
Thank you Connor for always having the right words at the right time ❤️
❤!!
"I am Rome. I hope I'm not Ceasar" love
Could be worse: Caligula, Nero.
1:32 my brain at 2 am every night
lol
your videos are always a highlight omfg
that's so sweet of you to say :')
Gay men of all the world together forever 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🌎🌍🌏🌎🌍🌏
I’m going through a difficult moment with a situationship where I felt very scared of the future and my healing process. I really needed this video, and I thank you sm for casually post about this. If anyone is going through a bad moment now, think about how much you have left to live and experience new things and that it will be ok
sending you love ❤❤❤
I've missed you! Been here since the OG Crew videos 🥹 So glad you're doing well, and you'll always have me cheering for you in Michigan ❤
3:34 This Channel has existed for so many years. It launched Twink Discourse.
i fear we have once again shared the same braincell. pretty sure the three building blocks to courage just changed the trajectory of my life, so thanks :)
this makes me so happy, i hope it helps you :)
Time to binge Connor Franta videos, since you know I got locked outta my old profile and after 3 years finally actually made another one.
Connor, I love your videos and always has been! I just wanted to encourage you to research the controversies of Better Help.
watching your videos is like coming home for a nice cup of tea
Good for you talking about courage and taking the step to do whatever it is you must do and need to do. Fear is far too consuming on many levels. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
Connor! Or anyone who wants to answer lol! How did you move on from your first queer heartbreak? Cause ya girl is in the trenches
This is real, authentic, charming, and endearing. You created something that is never created anymore in this world of 2024 post covid. You’re gorgeous, friend.
Love you but please do not say South America is in your backyard
You seem like someone I would like to sit and talk for a while about life
Thank you for this speech
I’m waiting for your Podcast channel like forever
I really do wish to bring it back...
Seriously? better help? A bit disingenuous of you.
Please refrain from getting sponsored by BetterHelp in the future. They have so many controversies, not to mention their connections to Israel
What's so bad about Israel? It's a civilised country that recognises gay rights and fights terrorists in Gaza who kill gays. Of course, it may be controversial, but Israel is not a bad country.
You’re at a point where you’re looking for new experiences and pushing boundaries. I’m 67 and I’m finally doing the unfamiliar and pushing my own boundaries. I’m grateful I’m no longer that naive 22 year old out of college taking the predictable career path. I’ve learned a lot about life, the good, the bad and the ugly and TBH I am a stronger person for it. Whatever doesn’t kill you…I’ll keep tabs on you and how navigate through your day to day. Stay well.👍🙏😎
CONNOR CAME TO ARGENTINA AND I DIDNT KNOW! WHAAAAAAAAAT
I can't believe you were not only in the city i live now but also visited the part of the country where i was born (la Patagonia)😭❤️ I'm glad you liked it and i hope you were able to heal at least a little bit with that beautiful view
cant believe it either and i live in buenos aires
1:35 I love using those words in creative ways. Love it!
I relate to this because I am looking to start a master's degree program to become a mental health clinician and it does come with discomfort. I look forward to working through those feelings and get one step further to advance my career!
It still blows my mind how comforting Connor’s videos are, I hope that made sense
always my goal to provide more peace ♥
i loooooove this type of content! so relatable to what im experiencing in my own life, thank you connor for sharing your words & your art🥰
Just what I needed today. Thank you.
no worries! :)
i can’t tell you how comforting this was! i’m moving to uni later this year and this mindset is so similar to mine and it was really affirming to hear someone i respect talking about something almost like what i’m facing in my own way
edit: fixing typo lol
aw im so glad it resonated with you :)
Ever time I need something I find myself watching Connor’s videos and it’s always perfect timing 😊
Connor, I love all your videos and you're an inspiration to me in my life, I know you're gay, so you're going to South America!!
It's a blind faith, Connor. Life has no terminus when we are young and all the world's a wonder. Wordsworth described it well with these lines:
There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream,
The earth, and every common sight,
To me did seem
Apparell'd in celestial light,
The glory and the freshness of a dream.
It is not now as it has been of yore: -
Turn wheresoe'er I may,
By night or day.
The things which I have seen I now can see no more!
And in a famous essay from the 19th century, William Hazlett wrote: "No young man believes he shall ever die. There is a feeling of Eternity in youth which makes us amends for everything. Death, old age, are words without a meaning, a dream, a fiction, with which we have nothing to do."
You chose to explore Brazil... now... in the midst of a dengue outbreak. 🤦♂️
Hey Connor, I can't believe you go to a therapist for advice! Just listen to all of the voices in your head instead. I know that even though you try your hardest to be brave, you just wind up being kinda cheesy! As far as your age goes, it's a matter of beating the grim reaper at his own game by outwitting him each time he goes near you. Just enjoy being yourself and throw caution to the wind. This way you'll wind up being a happy go lucky fellow!🎉❤😊
Connor, if you need a translator; I volunteer as tribute. Less of a joke, more on a serious note: I speak 8 languages (5 fluently, 3 conversationally) and I would die for a chance to work with you✨
what helps me navigate times of the unknown, when I have to be insanely brave, is this guided meditation called "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on youtube.. It has helped me through so many low points of my life already and I plan to use it in the future. But I love your "I was ok before this, I will be ok after this ´" mantra, because it's true :)
I love this Video so much !!!!
babee new connor franta vid just dropped 🙌
Aesthetic!! Aesthetic!!
it's what i do
I get very confused when people say “The secret to me not aging is good vibes.” like just say you can alleviate your trauma better.
If you're Caesar you don't have long until the 15th... 😇
Call me naive, but if everything doesn't work out nothing will because i sure as hell don't have a plan b lol
Some good quotes that I’m using for inspiration ❤️
All life on this world 🌍 only exists because the sun energized world 🌍 allows it to for a period of time and for any element to exist it needs to come from another so I suppose when we all die it won't be long before the universe produces new copies of us❤ everyone love colin
Connor love colin
Oh damn I didn’t know you dropped another video
This is probably the only UA-cam channel that I like to watch its vlogs. I actually really missed you! ❣️
aw that's too kind of you to say :')
If we only had manageable thoughts, what would the poor therapist find to do?
HI CONNOR I LOVE YOU IM DOING BETTER LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰🥰
not the betterhelp sponsor, c'mon man
Hey 🤗
Mike Heslin has a song called ‘Believe’. You’ll be motivated just by listening to it.
I love you! :) I hope you are aware of Brené Brown? Dare to Lead, Braving The Wilderness, etc...
oh of course. the goat.
Et tu, Brute! I went to Columbia in Jan. 2022 when I was 70! I survived! Yay!!
Colombia!
Strange how you’ve never been to South America but hey, you’ve been to India and we love you ❤
You're not old enough to know this yet...but getting old is extremely painful.
You should do one of those holidays/vacations where UA-camrs go with their subscribers.
Incase u didn't notice, u r young!❤
😂❤😢❤ i miss you welcome back ❤❤❤❤❤
UR AN ANGEL
argentina loves you 🩵
y te amo ♥
You’re inspiring
I love you
I like your building blocks of courage. My definition of courage is rising up and facing challenges for the better, not recklessly but with bravery which is true strength even if you don't feel like it and if it's easy to be wary or safe. I say we can gain courage by focusing on our own control with life even if the world tells you otherwise and breaking out from our fixed mindsets for growth (something that even changes can help us to do so). Courage is what we need more for the world and something that is attractive.
I'm not American so I don't know but I imagine that this is how collage essays are
love you con 💕💕💕💕
♥♥♥
i just came back to ur channel and haven’t looked u up since i was in like middle school, you were my favorite youtuber❤️
your videos are so healing
You should come to Colombia 🩷
Connor, I love these types of videos where you talk about deep thoughts! You should do a TedTalk!
honestly a video I’ve been needing for a while. thank you Connor 🥹🫶🏻
Dear sweet Connor...I've been watching your videos since the beginning.... I admire you so much - love your sweet spirit and thoughtful demeanor. I literally laugh out loud. You are not only adorable, but strong and brave. Thank you for being you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made..... truly truly truly...... I love watching your journey and cheer you on at each and every stage. And - if I may comment - you look so much better without the moustache! I am not sure why that is trending so much? My twenty-year old son has one and I just cant get on board! REGARDLESS - you are awesome and I just wanted to send you some positive vibes to make sure you KNOW - you are amazing!
Jzst listening to you talk about the plances you've been makes my anxiety spike
Meow for engagement 😊
How was your trip??
unforgettable 🥹
I hope I am not Caesar 😂😅
I started watching you when I was maybe 8 or 9 (I know. i agree, i was too young to be on the internet lol). I am now 16 and I like to think that your channel has somewhat shaped who I am today. I really appreciate your new content, and I laugh to myself at how the hurdles you’re finding in your path at your ripe age of…(no comment😅) are so similar to the hurdles I’m facing as a 16 year old today. I have been a silent watcher for so long now and I just want to say how proud I am of myself for how much I’ve matured and grown over the years and how lovely it is to watch someone else do the same. My life right now is how you’d expect any 16 year old girl’s life to be in 2024, but when you post a reflection video like this, i feel like everything stops for a moment. It’s like the universe just knows to let me have 5 minutes of peace to listen to what wise words Connor has decided to grace us with this time.
Loved this video!
I can't believe I've been watching your videos since middle school, now I'm graduating college this year. these videos of yours will always be my favorite and I'm so happy that you are indeed just an "anxious girlie" just like the rest of us, much love to you ❤
a friend of mine has a new word every year which she relates her experiences back to and maybe mine can be courage for 2024 😌
wondering what words in spanish he learnt during the trip
Siri play "Virgo's Groove" by Beyonce
fun fact she wrote that for me
2am in china now and I have to sleep (don’t worry I put this video in the list and I’ll watch it later)! Don’t know if you’ve travelled to China but I guess it’s worth a try… have a good day!!
You’re very conscious and wise Connor! So glad to see how much you’ve grown since I began watching you in elementary school nearly 10 years ago. If you are down to share your knowledge in other ways, I would love to collaborate with you on public speaking events
Just go for it!
Great video as always Con, but please next time come to Brazil!
Missed you so much 🤧🫶🏻
❤
Espero hayas disfrutado de Argentina♥
See, my problem is I was never OK before, so I can't tell myself I'll be better after lol
Enjoyed that video
thanks for watching :)
about to graduate from college next week so this vid couldn't have come at a better time ! thank you always 🥺🫶🏼
you are strong, you are brave, you are capable, and everything will be okay ❤