first off, I MISSED YOUUUU. next, let's talk about anxious thoughts and where i've been. i keep it very light and joyous, so grab a snack and treat this like a facetime call. sending you all some summer love, and i'll see you again soon ❤❤❤
Welcome back. Try being bi-polar with hypomania. I get medium to long amount of normal days, then BAM! Down the rabbit hole. Sometimes just because the sun goes behind a damn cloud. A stupid little cloud.....like 20seconds and now I'm shattered.shattered over nothing. NOTHING! Or the shoes I want I can't get because of a surprise bill. Same result, shattered!! For a day, a week, three weeks..who knows? No one.😂😂😢😮😮🎉
@@adamsmith4787 gahhhhh sir big huge ginormous hugs to you. I think my man may have this. You poor things. Please go outside and try to find pretty things to look at it helps. Also screaming in the car......... I've personally done that one a lot. You need to let yourself feel it and keep going. You'll get through it I promise. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 we're here for you.
@@JuicyPricklePeach I was on anti-depressants for a few years. Since 2016 I'm off meds and using cognitive therapy skills to get through. It's not as bad as before. But, the meds took all my energy away and felt like I was dying all the time.
I'm sure the chances of you ever actually reading this are basically none, but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through that. I very much appreciated all the things you said, however, and hope things continue to improve for you. ❤️ Also, 100% agree with you how silly it feels to gratitude journal. 😅
The hardest part about trying to overcome anxiety is being aware of your patterns and triggers and being patient with yourself as you're unlearning everything that that nagging voice in your head has taught you for years and years. It's also choosing everyday to let go of all the irrational fears you have, despite still being very attached and absolutely terrified of the potential consequesces of letting them go that have been completely etched inside your brain. And it's also ignoring and not allowing your thoughts to continue to control every single decision you make in your life, even during the moments that feel unbearably uncertain.
You put it so perfectly. It is a daily choice to keep progressing and growing instead of regressing. Like the anxious thoughts fester if you don’t take care of yourself ❤
This upload literally made my whole day. As someone who got their first anxiety attack out of nowhere, not really knowing what it was, I was so horrified. Not being able to breathe, feeling the air getting sucked from my lungs, feeling lightheaded and all around, ya know, TERRIBLE. It was not easy to go through alone. All the points you brought up in this video are so so true, and something I would have loved having by my side then, and will love having by my side now. Happy to say Im in a much better place than I was 2 years ago, when I had that first attack, and hope you're doing well too. Connor or anyone else reading this. Nothing matters n' allat, have a good one :)
Seeing this video felt like running into an old friend and having a conversation about life and just catching up over coffee. Thanks for being a friend, Connor.
anxiety is so fucking annoying, like, i should not be feeling like the world is ending, and like i’m dying, over something that most normal people would just be able to do without any struggle, yet, here we are. this was nice to watch! you are so funny 😭 i love you sm ❤️ would it be ironic to say this helped me through an anxiety attack? possibly, but it’s true :) thank u for all that u do 🫶🏻
As someone with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, I can totally relate to all of this. And the anxiety doesn’t even have to be based on anything real. It sometimes comes irrationally of nowhere, and it’s helpful to remind myself of that. When I get really stressed about something, even if it’s about a real problem, I remind myself that being anxious isn’t going to help the problem, and sometimes that will help. And yes, it does help to know that everyone struggles, and that the people who seem to have it all together probably don’t. They’re just good at hiding it.
I've experienced anxiety attacks and panic attacks since I was in elementary school. One thing that helps me get through it is knowing that I am able to help my friends who are developing anxiety later on in life. I've basically become an expert at this point and its nice to know that I can empathize with others and be there for support.
"you are not a burden" is exactly what i told my boyfriend the other day because he's really struggling with talking openly about his feelings, not wanting to put more struggles on someone elses shoulders... I've been with my therapist for 3 years and talking to her has helped me learn so much about how to be more open about my anxiety to others. today I'm feeling really good and proud of myself.
connor i''ve been waiting for a video about anxiety from you for SO long! it's the one thing i struggle with the very most and since you are my comfort youtuber it just made everything better
the anxiety has been VERY present in the chat recently, so appreciate this video and being reminded that I am not a burden 💖 also I felt the need to share that the get ready with me to have a mental breakdown section of the video really attacked my current hyperfixation on asmr grwm videos lmao, so thanks
i love that you shared this with all of us. also, it's my birthday today, so thank you for making my day. i am grateful that i get to hear someone talk about this and that you're so open about your feelings with all of us.
I´ve been struggling with anxiety for as long as I can remember, and ever since covid and all the lockdowns it got 10 times worse. Luckily I´m working on it with a professional, but the journey is long and hard so seeing a video like this really helps me realise that I´m not alone in this struggle. Thank you Connor for being so open and vulnerable with us
ANXIETY SUCKS! Back in 2019, I ended up in the ER over 24 times that year. I finally found out why. I suffered blood clots in 2018, DVT, and 2 PEs. I could have died. I spent 9 days in the hospital. After that, my life was never the same. I built up SO much anxiety. I had a lot of shortness of breath, chest pain, etc. Because I was obese at that time, I was terrified, day in, day out. I could not relax, I was afraid to go to sleep because I was afraid I might not wake up. ANXIETY crippled me but come to find out, 2 of my medications caused the anxiety because I was taking them together. Since I started taking them at different time intervals, pooph no more anxiety. I have, thankfully been well since then. But ANXIETY can be CRIPPLING. It's horrible. My condolences to those of you who suffer with it day to day.
I feel good today, it's been a pretty good day except for one minor hiccup. I appreciate you having conversations like this, Connor. These are such important conversations to have right now. Also, common humanity is the concept you mentioned that's basically "we're all struggling and that's part of the human experience."
This summer has been a rough summer and I’ve been feeling so awful about feeling bad when I’ve got so many exciting opportunities and I cannot thank you enough for the reminder that bad times happen and that trying to fight myself for how I’m feeling is not going to make it go away. Here’s to the good times ahead for all of us❤️
I’m so glad you put this video out. I was in a constant state of panic, and thinking I was dying for the better part of a year (it was 2020) I can’t remember hardly any of it, but I learned so much from that time. The most important being that, even after a year long panic attack and all that anxiety and dread, I can still use the tactics that I learned to get out of that deep, dark, panicky cave. Take care of yourself, you are FAR from your thoughts. You are not a failure or selfish for asking for help, or for taking care of yourself 💛
Thank you so much for posting this, Connor! Recently I have been having a mental health crisis where my anxiety has been truly awful for a couple different reasons. It was soothing to hear you talk through your thoughts around how you deal with your anxiety. Solidarity through the panicking! It will be okay eventually. Hugs from Canada 💜
Currently I am struggling with OCD. And I haven't been able to pull myself out of it. But you are right! Having someone express their real selves including their struggles can make us feel not alone. Thank you for this video, Connor. I hope you feel better!
I didn't know how much I needed to see this video in this exact moment! currently trying to battle yet another anxiety attack; its debilitating but you represented it so well. Also - I still think about Note To Self almost every day... some of those chapters hit so insanely hard and its one of the most relatable and transformative books I've read. Its mad how I, as a 21yr old female from england, can relate on such a deep level to someone i've never met on the other side of the world with a completely different story. Anyways, its just cool to me how such polar opposite humans can connect with such similar emotional experiences. Ramble over, I jist wanted to say how much that book changed things for me
Hey Con, I really needed this. I’ve been having the worst anxiety lately. You always feel like you are being over emotional or super irrational (which sometimes I am tbh) but it’s nice to know someone else feels the same. I was recently hospitalized because I thought I was having a heart attack, turns out it was just anxiety, but let me tell you I really thought I was dying. I needed this today 💕
I just bought your third book, and I have been watching your videos since the first one. You’re so relatable, you speak out your mind, and keep it real. Thank you for all the words you put out there, you have no idea how much you have helped my mindset-especially through your books.
this resonates LOUDLY with me, and i greatly appreciate the insight as well as the reminder i’m not the only one who feels absolutely ridiculous for deeply understanding my anxiety and STILL HAVING IT. as someone who has been going to school for psychology for almost half a decade, i’m constantly telling myself “you literally know better” so definitely gotta try being nicer to myself 😂
not me wanting to cry in this mcdonald’s about how much it means to me that you’re so open and honest about your feelings. i really do look up to you and have for the past 8 years and to know someone i basically grew up with goes through the same things that i do it makes me feel like i’m not alone. i love you connor thanks for helping me through this crazy life.
Connor, you’re an incredible human. Let’s start there! As a former counselor and someone who experiences all of the above, I just want to say thank you! Thank you for being real and using your social platform as a way to start a damn conversation! 😘 Much love!
Connor, i'm a ball of anxiety. I wake up with existential dread, have a few breakdowns at work, & go to bed with more dread. This video couldn't have come at a better time, thank you ❤
Anxiety feels like excessive overthinking, with chaotic thoughts that make me feel afraid and trapped. It's difficult to escape this state, even when I try to be kind to myself. Sometimes taking a walk helps a little, but it doesn't always work.
Connor, I FEEL YOU. U just described me. I got to the point where I'm like, okay it feels like I’m gona die, I don’t want this but ig it is what it is, okay I’m gona die rn 🤔 and then it’s just stops ✨
Love your videos..sometimes we forget we are humans living in the same world dealing with almost the same struggles...this video was a reminder of that..truly thank you 😊
Connor I just wanna say thank you for everything you were to me growing up I loved you so much and I loved watching your videos and thinking about them, connecting with who you are and trying to learn from you as someone ~5 years younger It really became power and it cheered me up when I was sad about where I grew up, about not having good people around me, about not being understood. Even in the sea of youtubers who didn't mean much to me there was one who could give me the feeling that I'm not alone and that there is someone out there who would understand me and make me spend fun days around him And yeah just thank you so much. It essentially gave me confidence, fun days, things to look forward to, a more positive view of my life, fun things to come to when the days were dark, self love in the places that I realized we're similar to you. Your presence allowed me to step into a lot of things and specifically it was channeled mainly through YOU because you were the most well suiting so I think you so so much for everything for all the time and effort you put in and for the emotions you sustained doing this. If not for you maybe I'd end up channeling this though someone else, who knows, but nevertheless thanks to it being you, you are the one who is important to me, and thank you for being there and allowing me to If I try to think about it, simply your videos ARE fun to watch..always edited percisely and with your humor. And then you're an actually good person who speaks truthful and vulnerable things. Looking back was there even someone else who could offer me a quality like this one? I doubt there is even one more person who is also coincidentally alike to me, who would offer me this type of quality. Thank you so much for being vulnerable, good, and fun, and putting effort in order to be with us, by our side, and connect to us (every Monday! Haha) it made Monday my favorite day even though it was supposed to be a bad one. Just 10 minutes of Connor. Isn't that wonderful and absolutely mind baffling? I'm already in Japan surrounded by friends and people who love me right. I'm all good and it's also thanks to you!! 🥺😆😊🥲 I wanted to take this chance to thank you from my heart and spill out these feelings that raised when I remembered you!
@@ConnorFranta You actually replied. That's so thoughtful! I got into therapy again, waiting for an psychiatrist appointment. Doing much better, thank you
That's so spooky... I had the exact same thing with being aware of my heartbeat and thinking I was dying. It happened during COVID so I endured that for about 6 months. Gone through my own reactive 'wave' more lately too, so this video was helpful to see and hear. Thank you, Connor
I relate so much to everything in this. Overthinking is genuinely the worst, and almost every time, is why I get depressed and shut down. Then when I come out of it I’m annoyed I once again let overthinking ruin my day/week lmao🫣 I’m glad you made it out of those 10 days to be comfortable sharing it with others. have a great week! :)
This was so helpful! It's really good to listen to someone experience anxiety, because it makes me feel way less alone. Also, therapy is a blessing. Also, having a meditation instructor as a boyfriend is a very good move, his voice calms me down a lot. And, reminder everyone: you are not a burden ❤
Thank you for sharing your innermost thoughts. Today I'm feeling guilty for having free time because it's summer and I'm a private music teacher with students who are mostly on vacation right now.
as someone with a chronic illness thats prone to complications, all it takes is one issue with it to think "this is it. i'm dying" especially when i'm prone to getting random anxiety attacks anyway. you were so real about the whole "feeling your heartbeat and overthinking" part, that's exactly how mine always start. and a lot like you, i find going on nature walks may not cure my problem, but they really do help me calm down. as you said, lots of people are going through this with you. some even at the same time that you are! there's even been times when i'm in the midst of one and i've actually thrown on some of your videos to calm down, funny enough. most importantly though, remember we see you. we hear you. and we'll always support you 🤍
late to the party but just wanted to say loved the video, love to see more on this topic on the internet, just showing my support here i guess x sending lots of lovee
I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I have ADHD. And rather than being upset about finding out so late I’m embracing it and making changes to my life!! Everything really does get better and gratitude is so important. Thanks Connor ❤
Boy do I relate to this, especially the 10-days part bc I've definitely experienced anxiety attacks in the past that were just as long, if not longer. It's still something that affects my day-to-day life, I'm definitely a lot better about it now than I was before I started seeking help around 3 years ago. It's people like you, who are open and vulnerable about mental health, that have helped me a lot too! 💜 Also, the "loopy-loopy-de-lulu" bit got me 😂😂
Such a great message. I've struggled with anxiety since middle school, and now at 26 years old, I experienced panic attacks for the first time. Doom just suddenly took over me and I felt light-headed as I thought I was going to die. It's ironic, as this is happening as I'm making my dream of moving abroad come true. But I think the pressure I've put on myself to "perform" and to overly prepare for anything from job interviews, to making a good first impression with my new partner's friends were the triggers that tipped me over the edge
I can definitely understand what you went through...I've also had those multiple-day anxiety attacks where I was just convinced I was dying and it's indescribable really :( It's beautiful that you create a setting with your videos where people can openly confess that they feel this way, especially in a society that likes to gaslight anxious people into thinking they're overreacting or aren't taking them seriously :/
I am in a very not good mental state right now. I did take a day off today and ran 22k under the rain. And I feel substantially better. I also might have impulsively bought a new running watch(it’s a great deal). This video brightened up my day. The harmonies, they, honestly, would have been enough, but you over delivered ❤
A day late, but here I am. Commenting on the first tip (talk to a friend, 5:38) and it also ties with the “you are not a burden” phrase (9:20). Yesterday I saw this tik tok of 2 friends on their podcast, talking about sharing problems with loved ones. So one of them says (I'm paraphrasing): “I'd get mad if a friend didn't tell me how they feel, what they were going through. So how dare I keep my problems and my anxieties, to myself and from them. They are probably just as worried as I would be”. I mean, we all have the right for privacy, you don't have to share everything with everyone. But why not trust a little and see what happens. At the very least, they'll just comfort you and you'll probably feel listened. If you were a burden, they would have left you a long time ago.
i don’t have huge panic attacks or something but my emotional state is not so good for most of the time because i have this permanent feeling of anxiety when i need to perform basic routine like work or just talk to people. sometimes it’s hard to deal with because i’m shaking and feel scared but when it’s gone it’s such a relief
I once did congnitive therapy with a nurse and she taught me a breathing exercise for anxiety - breathe all the way in, and then slowly all the way out. And then she said "it’s as easy as that! And some people struggle with anxiety for years and years!" 😂😂 I eventually stopped going to her, I dreaded seeing her so much the cognitive therapy had close to no affect 🥲 (sidenote, I didn’t go to her for anxiety, but I do sometimes get it)
gosh i love your videos, they truly feel like a deep breath of fresh air, like a tiny break from this world to remind me that it is okay to not be okay. my feelings have been mixed lately, my birthday is in 5 days and i've always disliked my birthday, but i could never really explain why. the explanation i came up with this year is this; birthdays make you think about like, "wow i've been alive for 23 years already" and then you think about everything you've gone through already but my life has been incredibly shit so i don't ever want to think about that, and my birthday does remind me of how shit my life has been in the past. it feels off to celebrate a life that i've always been incredibly unhappy with. but i'll get through it again this year, just like every year. thank u connor for the positive and real vibes♥
This is so comforting to watch from someone you've admired for so long. Last year I was in a constant anxious state and every freaking article I read said that panic attacks lasted only a few minutes. I didn't know what to do. Everyday I was just waiting for my heart attack lol. I'm on medication and taking care of myself now. Love ya, thanks for always being this open with us
this is what i needed in this exact moment. i’ve been having one hell of a month and yesterday i had a full on mental breakdown at the office and while people cared and tried to help me it just felt like they were pitying me. when i have an anxiety episode my brain works in the most irrational ways and doing so in public just felt so embarrassing. you gave me some comfort, thank you💕
I missed you too, Conner! I'm drinking a Yoohoo. Last year I decided to finally go to a therapist (for anxiety) and he really helped. I had anxiety about germs and getting people sick, but I'm doing better now. I can't handle the news it makes me uncomfortable, like when I was a teenager/younger adult (I'm 25), I was scared to do things because I was scared that something bad was going to happen. But now that I live in a small town (the town I grew up in was bigger than where I live now), I feel a lot more comfortable. I can walk in town (my dad is one of the owners of the local brewery ((and he told me I could park in the parking lot because I tried to park in town and that gave me anxiety with all the traffic). You are so right, Conner anxiety is ridiculous. Sometime nearing the end of last year, I started writing in a journal that my friend gave me back in high school (I guess it's my realization journal). I figured out that I was nonbinary (demiboy he/they), trans (ftm), and gay and I'm a lot more happier now I have ever been. When it gets warmer I'm gonna go on more walks and I will hopefully try skateboarding again (I tried it once when I was a kid and watching SK8 the Infinify reignited that passion). I write and read fanfiction (character x character) and I love reading hurt/comfort and angst fics because the characters seem more real, especially if your reading about a character going through the same thing you are. Thank you so much for the advice, Conner 💙
guilt is an emotion we feel when we believe something wrong that goes against our own values, shame is an emotion we feel when we believe not that we did something wrong, but that something is wrong with us. healing comes first with awareness.
This was refreshing to watch, thank you for being real with us!! I feel very seen here. I have also experienced the 'heart pounding, this is the end' anxiety attack and boy was it n o t f u n. Took myself to the ER because I was CONVINCED it was the end for me. (thankfully it wasn't) I'm sorry to hear that yours lasted for so long, that must have been awful but I'm so glad you made it through. Proud of you! Proud of all of us anxiety fighters. ALSO I had the same experience of petting grass and feeling ridiculous doing so but it /actually/ helps to *go touch grass* LOL WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED. anyway thank you for this video, I hope you're doing okay and even better now.
Thank you for the real talk, really appreciate you ❤️ late last year I had what sounds like a somewhat similar anxiety episode (really bad psychosomatic symptoms that triggered extreme health anxiety and I got stuck in that loop). I'm doing a lot better, but it's still have to actively put in work every day to prevent episodes, and it can be a tiring and isolating experience sometimes. Appreciate you sharing your own journey. makes it all feel a bit less isolating. We all got this ❤️
i experienced the same thing last october and my anxiety attack lasted roughly a full month. i was freaking out about the concept of death, and feeling like i’m dying while freaking out about death was extremely traumatic. learning to know i can’t control everything including my own mindset and thoughts is horrible! therapy has been so helpful, hearing the perspectives of friends with healthy outlooks on life, and honestly just breathing through all thirty days was the only way i got through it. it will likely happen again but it’s temporary and that’s the most comforting thing to know. i hadn’t heard anyone experience what i had so i’m thankful for you to speak about this, us anxious ass bitches have to validate others experiences
I just discovered you today,omg you resonated with me it literally like you were talking about me I can't stand when I get a full blown panic attack,today I am good I hope everyone else is doing good ❤
Connor hi, suddenly remembered your channel after many years, you know, I usually don't write comments at all, but seeing you now, felt like I owed you a thank you. I was 12~~? When I stumbled upon you, your videos shed light on what I was so afraid of... ahhh, I didn't even understand English, but thanks to you I started to learn it, and you helped me accept myself, for which I am insanely grateful! Now I'm 20, I'm happy with what I've become and I'm still growing and developing. It's really good to see you, you've "grown" too ahah, it's nice to see you still as beautiful, wise, cheerful:)❤
what I struggle with is wanting to validate the feelings I'm having, but the feelings Im having can be overthinking/ analysing situations so sometimes theyre things I don't even need to give a second thought.... ahhhhh. Going for a walk now to feel better, thanks Connor :)
I have both depression and anxiety. Those love to fight it out many days usually the anxiety wins. It’s so nice to hear I’m not alone and that what I wore to the party does not matter 😂 I have spent days thinking about what to wear to something specific before and panicking about it.
No this is so real as someone who also struggles with anxiety (and depression), I’ve been struggling a lot with anxiety lately because I’m starting my student teaching in the fall and even though I’m excited I’m experiencing a lot of anxiety and dread at the same time but anyway sometimes it feels like it’s just me struggling but it’s nice to know I’m not the only one even though I’d never wish this feeling of dread on someone 💖
This really helped me. I’m studying abroad right now and my anxiety is the worst it’s been in months and trying to find comfort has been hard but taking it one step at a time
the way i needed to hear this today my day has been a roller coaster so much emotion just feeling shitty just not a good day. thank you for this video it might help me with everything going on right now. i just love your videos so much they make me so happy and put asmile on my face everytime i watch them. i freakin love you so much you mwan a lot to me
i had an anxiety attack for 7 days straight once and can completely empathise, i’m so sorry you had to deal with that! thanks for sharing this stuff with the world and I hope you’re feeling a little more solid now 💖
Connor thank you for always being so honest with us as if we were able to be a part of what it would be to be in your thoughts. This upload was really something I needed today. Had a therapy session recently where we talked about how anxiety was healthy until it reaches the point of hindering your ability to do things or retain information. Thank you for your open nature and your honesty (again) but I've missed seeing your videos, I appreciate you king 💗
I’ve been avoiding watching this video because, I, myself have been experiencing anxiety for the first time within the last couple weeks. Having to find a new job and leaving my current one has been sending me down a spiral of crying and nearly passing out. But I’m happy I did watch this cause it honestly helped a lot. Obviously I know I’m not alone but this made me feel a little bit more seen. So as of right now, I’m doing okay. I can’t speak up for how I feel in an hour or even later today. But right now, I’m okay.
I understand every bit of this. Just like Chester Bennington (Linkin' Park) said in an interview, "I shouldn't be left alone inside my head." My last anxiety attack lasted the entire month of June. It ain't no walk in the park. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Thanks for being open enough to share your experience.
You came in like a surprise as ive been having an anxiety attack since last 6 months (that's only recent that i can remember). After getting off from work for 2 months, I've been really depressed and became more anxious with my own thoughts and as u mentioned, guilt and shame, which had led me to lock myself in my room thru out summer break. Ive become more introverted as a result and i feel im not doing anything. The recent trigger ive discovered is that my anxiety is rooted with my mom. Whenever shea near, i am frightened that shell yell and argue with me which will lead me to more depression and anxiety. I cant move out because of the capitalist economy :/ ( i don't earn much) in the process of being with myself in my room, had made me more anxious to go out and mingle with the people.( And start working again coming August). Im deepening into my own little rock with no exit around me. Thanku for this video, i agree related and felt heard thru your experiences. I wish i could be that strong to come out of my cycle and face the world with some courage
Omg Connor your back I've been waiting for you to post a new vlog,,You and Kurtis Conner are one of my favorite persons on the internet and I hope you'd make a collab together, cuz I love watching your vlogs and I'm a big fan of yours!! 😊❤❤❤
I suffer from anxiety tied to agoraphobia, so sometimes I can’t take a walk, because it’s scary for me. However, I will comment on spiraling thoughts. I’ve learned that when I recognize that my thoughts are spiraling, I will audibly say “STOP!” There’s something about the recognition, along with hearing yourself say “stop,” that helps pause those spiraling thoughts long enough for you to consciously start thinking of something else. Distraction is another method of taming those thoughts. Listening to a book on Audible is my go-to way to distract my mind with a lovely story, instead of thinking about whatever I’m thinking about that is causing anxiety. And my final piece of advice; if you feel too uncomfortable to talk to someone about your thoughts/anxiety, talk to yourself. Again, there’s something about being able to take your thoughts out of your head, putting them out into the world, and being able to hear them, that sometimes triggers your brain to recognize that those thoughts sound really silly or irrational.
first off, I MISSED YOUUUU. next, let's talk about anxious thoughts and where i've been. i keep it very light and joyous, so grab a snack and treat this like a facetime call. sending you all some summer love, and i'll see you again soon ❤❤❤
Missed you moooooore!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Welcome back. Try being bi-polar with hypomania. I get medium to long amount of normal days, then BAM! Down the rabbit hole. Sometimes just because the sun goes behind a damn cloud. A stupid little cloud.....like 20seconds and now I'm shattered.shattered over nothing. NOTHING! Or the shoes I want I can't get because of a surprise bill. Same result, shattered!! For a day, a week, three weeks..who knows? No one.😂😂😢😮😮🎉
@@adamsmith4787 gahhhhh sir big huge ginormous hugs to you. I think my man may have this. You poor things. Please go outside and try to find pretty things to look at it helps. Also screaming in the car......... I've personally done that one a lot. You need to let yourself feel it and keep going. You'll get through it I promise. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 we're here for you.
@@JuicyPricklePeach I was on anti-depressants for a few years. Since 2016 I'm off meds and using cognitive therapy skills to get through. It's not as bad as before. But, the meds took all my energy away and felt like I was dying all the time.
I'm sure the chances of you ever actually reading this are basically none, but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through that. I very much appreciated all the things you said, however, and hope things continue to improve for you. ❤️
Also, 100% agree with you how silly it feels to gratitude journal. 😅
we love you connor, thanks for being real with us.
always ❤
The hardest part about trying to overcome anxiety is being aware of your patterns and triggers and being patient with yourself as you're unlearning everything that that nagging voice in your head has taught you for years and years. It's also choosing everyday to let go of all the irrational fears you have, despite still being very attached and absolutely terrified of the potential consequesces of letting them go that have been completely etched inside your brain. And it's also ignoring and not allowing your thoughts to continue to control every single decision you make in your life, even during the moments that feel unbearably uncertain.
You put it so perfectly. It is a daily choice to keep progressing and growing instead of regressing. Like the anxious thoughts fester if you don’t take care of yourself ❤
‘A brick in a washing machine’ - brilliant! That really made me chuckle!
"the aliens are coming and the orcas are sceaming so yet again nothing matters" is a whole fucking mood
This upload literally made my whole day. As someone who got their first anxiety attack out of nowhere, not really knowing what it was, I was so horrified. Not being able to breathe, feeling the air getting sucked from my lungs, feeling lightheaded and all around, ya know, TERRIBLE. It was not easy to go through alone.
All the points you brought up in this video are so so true, and something I would have loved having by my side then, and will love having by my side now. Happy to say Im in a much better place than I was 2 years ago, when I had that first attack, and hope you're doing well too. Connor or anyone else reading this. Nothing matters n' allat, have a good one :)
it's HORRIBLE and i'm sorry you're going through it as well. sending you nothing but peace and love ♥
Seeing this video felt like running into an old friend and having a conversation about life and just catching up over coffee. Thanks for being a friend, Connor.
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there’s something so comforting about your videos I can listen to you talk for so long
this is so sweet of you to say ❤
anxiety is so fucking annoying, like, i should not be feeling like the world is ending, and like i’m dying, over something that most normal people would just be able to do without any struggle, yet, here we are. this was nice to watch! you are so funny 😭 i love you sm ❤️ would it be ironic to say this helped me through an anxiety attack? possibly, but it’s true :) thank u for all that u do 🫶🏻
As someone with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, I can totally relate to all of this. And the anxiety doesn’t even have to be based on anything real. It sometimes comes irrationally of nowhere, and it’s helpful to remind myself of that. When I get really stressed about something, even if it’s about a real problem, I remind myself that being anxious isn’t going to help the problem, and sometimes that will help. And yes, it does help to know that everyone struggles, and that the people who seem to have it all together probably don’t. They’re just good at hiding it.
I've experienced anxiety attacks and panic attacks since I was in elementary school. One thing that helps me get through it is knowing that I am able to help my friends who are developing anxiety later on in life. I've basically become an expert at this point and its nice to know that I can empathize with others and be there for support.
"you are not a burden" is exactly what i told my boyfriend the other day because he's really struggling with talking openly about his feelings, not wanting to put more struggles on someone elses shoulders...
I've been with my therapist for 3 years and talking to her has helped me learn so much about how to be more open about my anxiety to others. today I'm feeling really good and proud of myself.
connor i''ve been waiting for a video about anxiety from you for SO long! it's the one thing i struggle with the very most and since you are my comfort youtuber it just made everything better
from the bottom of my heart thank you for mental health video, very much needed, love you Connor
always happy to keep it real with y'all ❤❤❤
@@ConnorFranta❤❤❤
the anxiety has been VERY present in the chat recently, so appreciate this video and being reminded that I am not a burden 💖 also I felt the need to share that the get ready with me to have a mental breakdown section of the video really attacked my current hyperfixation on asmr grwm videos lmao, so thanks
i love that you shared this with all of us.
also, it's my birthday today, so thank you for making my day. i am grateful that i get to hear someone talk about this and that you're so open about your feelings with all of us.
happy birthday ❤
I´ve been struggling with anxiety for as long as I can remember, and ever since covid and all the lockdowns it got 10 times worse. Luckily I´m working on it with a professional, but the journey is long and hard so seeing a video like this really helps me realise that I´m not alone in this struggle. Thank you Connor for being so open and vulnerable with us
Thanks for sharing
ANXIETY SUCKS! Back in 2019, I ended up in the ER over 24 times that year. I finally found out why. I suffered blood clots in 2018, DVT, and 2 PEs. I could have died. I spent 9 days in the hospital. After that, my life was never the same. I built up SO much anxiety. I had a lot of shortness of breath, chest pain, etc. Because I was obese at that time, I was terrified, day in, day out. I could not relax, I was afraid to go to sleep because I was afraid I might not wake up. ANXIETY crippled me but come to find out, 2 of my medications caused the anxiety because I was taking them together. Since I started taking them at different time intervals, pooph no more anxiety. I have, thankfully been well since then. But ANXIETY can be CRIPPLING. It's horrible. My condolences to those of you who suffer with it day to day.
I feel good today, it's been a pretty good day except for one minor hiccup. I appreciate you having conversations like this, Connor. These are such important conversations to have right now. Also, common humanity is the concept you mentioned that's basically "we're all struggling and that's part of the human experience."
I love how open you are with us, nothing ever feels scripted and it genuinely helps a lot of us feel better 💕
This summer has been a rough summer and I’ve been feeling so awful about feeling bad when I’ve got so many exciting opportunities and I cannot thank you enough for the reminder that bad times happen and that trying to fight myself for how I’m feeling is not going to make it go away. Here’s to the good times ahead for all of us❤️
Thank you for being so open, so real and so transparent. You are appreciated Connor and loved by so many.
I’m so glad you put this video out. I was in a constant state of panic, and thinking I was dying for the better part of a year (it was 2020) I can’t remember hardly any of it, but I learned so much from that time. The most important being that, even after a year long panic attack and all that anxiety and dread, I can still use the tactics that I learned to get out of that deep, dark, panicky cave. Take care of yourself, you are FAR from your thoughts. You are not a failure or selfish for asking for help, or for taking care of yourself 💛
Thank you so much for posting this, Connor! Recently I have been having a mental health crisis where my anxiety has been truly awful for a couple different reasons. It was soothing to hear you talk through your thoughts around how you deal with your anxiety. Solidarity through the panicking! It will be okay eventually. Hugs from Canada 💜
sending you love, maddie ❤
Currently I am struggling with OCD. And I haven't been able to pull myself out of it. But you are right! Having someone express their real selves including their struggles can make us feel not alone. Thank you for this video, Connor. I hope you feel better!
I didn't know how much I needed to see this video in this exact moment! currently trying to battle yet another anxiety attack; its debilitating but you represented it so well. Also - I still think about Note To Self almost every day... some of those chapters hit so insanely hard and its one of the most relatable and transformative books I've read. Its mad how I, as a 21yr old female from england, can relate on such a deep level to someone i've never met on the other side of the world with a completely different story. Anyways, its just cool to me how such polar opposite humans can connect with such similar emotional experiences. Ramble over, I jist wanted to say how much that book changed things for me
Hey Con,
I really needed this. I’ve been having the worst anxiety lately. You always feel like you are being over emotional or super irrational (which sometimes I am tbh) but it’s nice to know someone else feels the same. I was recently hospitalized because I thought I was having a heart attack, turns out it was just anxiety, but let me tell you I really thought I was dying. I needed this today 💕
I've been watching you for over a decade! I love your videos, Love you Connor!
thanks for watching :)
I just bought your third book, and I have been watching your videos since the first one. You’re so relatable, you speak out your mind, and keep it real. Thank you for all the words you put out there, you have no idea how much you have helped my mindset-especially through your books.
this resonates LOUDLY with me, and i greatly appreciate the insight as well as the reminder i’m not the only one who feels absolutely ridiculous for deeply understanding my anxiety and STILL HAVING IT. as someone who has been going to school for psychology for almost half a decade, i’m constantly telling myself “you literally know better” so definitely gotta try being nicer to myself 😂
not me wanting to cry in this mcdonald’s about how much it means to me that you’re so open and honest about your feelings. i really do look up to you and have for the past 8 years and to know someone i basically grew up with goes through the same things that i do it makes me feel like i’m not alone. i love you connor thanks for helping me through this crazy life.
LITERALLYYYYYYY WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING AND I GUESS STILL GOING. AND LITTERALLY WOULD GIVE THE SAME ADVICE.
Connor, you’re an incredible human. Let’s start there! As a former counselor and someone who experiences all of the above, I just want to say thank you! Thank you for being real and using your social platform as a way to start a damn conversation! 😘 Much love!
His videos are like a warm hug
Connor, i'm a ball of anxiety. I wake up with existential dread, have a few breakdowns at work, & go to bed with more dread. This video couldn't have come at a better time, thank you ❤
Anxiety feels like excessive overthinking, with chaotic thoughts that make me feel afraid and trapped. It's difficult to escape this state, even when I try to be kind to myself. Sometimes taking a walk helps a little, but it doesn't always work.
Connor, I FEEL YOU. U just described me. I got to the point where I'm like, okay it feels like I’m gona die, I don’t want this but ig it is what it is, okay I’m gona die rn 🤔 and then it’s just stops ✨
Love your videos..sometimes we forget we are humans living in the same world dealing with almost the same struggles...this video was a reminder of that..truly thank you 😊
the being aware of your heartbeat!!! i literally went to the doctor bc i swore i was having palpitations and was on the verge of dying
thank you so much for this connorrr!!!
Connor I just wanna say thank you for everything you were to me growing up
I loved you so much and I loved watching your videos and thinking about them, connecting with who you are and trying to learn from you as someone ~5 years younger
It really became power and it cheered me up when I was sad about where I grew up, about not having good people around me, about not being understood. Even in the sea of youtubers who didn't mean much to me there was one who could give me the feeling that I'm not alone and that there is someone out there who would understand me and make me spend fun days around him
And yeah just thank you so much. It essentially gave me confidence, fun days, things to look forward to, a more positive view of my life, fun things to come to when the days were dark, self love in the places that I realized we're similar to you. Your presence allowed me to step into a lot of things and specifically it was channeled mainly through YOU because you were the most well suiting so I think you so so much for everything for all the time and effort you put in and for the emotions you sustained doing this. If not for you maybe I'd end up channeling this though someone else, who knows, but nevertheless thanks to it being you, you are the one who is important to me, and thank you for being there and allowing me to
If I try to think about it, simply your videos ARE fun to watch..always edited percisely and with your humor. And then you're an actually good person who speaks truthful and vulnerable things. Looking back was there even someone else who could offer me a quality like this one? I doubt there is even one more person who is also coincidentally alike to me, who would offer me this type of quality. Thank you so much for being vulnerable, good, and fun, and putting effort in order to be with us, by our side, and connect to us (every Monday! Haha) it made Monday my favorite day even though it was supposed to be a bad one. Just 10 minutes of Connor. Isn't that wonderful and absolutely mind baffling? I'm already in Japan surrounded by friends and people who love me right. I'm all good and it's also thanks to you!! 🥺😆😊🥲 I wanted to take this chance to thank you from my heart and spill out these feelings that raised when I remembered you!
the heartbeat thing is so real, im dealing with this rn and it stresses me out so much...thank you for making me feel somewhat better ❤
legit had this for like a month... thank you.
ugh im sorry, hope you're feeling better now
@@ConnorFranta You actually replied. That's so thoughtful! I got into therapy again, waiting for an psychiatrist appointment. Doing much better, thank you
That's so spooky... I had the exact same thing with being aware of my heartbeat and thinking I was dying. It happened during COVID so I endured that for about 6 months. Gone through my own reactive 'wave' more lately too, so this video was helpful to see and hear. Thank you, Connor
Love the whole video BUT the “you are not a burden” harmony OMG Connor that was so tasty for my ears
I relate so much to everything in this. Overthinking is genuinely the worst, and almost every time, is why I get depressed and shut down. Then when I come out of it I’m annoyed I once again let overthinking ruin my day/week lmao🫣
I’m glad you made it out of those 10 days to be comfortable sharing it with others. have a great week! :)
This was so helpful! It's really good to listen to someone experience anxiety, because it makes me feel way less alone. Also, therapy is a blessing. Also, having a meditation instructor as a boyfriend is a very good move, his voice calms me down a lot. And, reminder everyone: you are not a burden ❤
Thank you for sharing your innermost thoughts. Today I'm feeling guilty for having free time because it's summer and I'm a private music teacher with students who are mostly on vacation right now.
Omg!! You're so handsome!! I apparently read your book 'A work in progress ' It's great to read and watch the living author as well♥️♥️
as someone with a chronic illness thats prone to complications, all it takes is one issue with it to think "this is it. i'm dying" especially when i'm prone to getting random anxiety attacks anyway. you were so real about the whole "feeling your heartbeat and overthinking" part, that's exactly how mine always start. and a lot like you, i find going on nature walks may not cure my problem, but they really do help me calm down. as you said, lots of people are going through this with you. some even at the same time that you are! there's even been times when i'm in the midst of one and i've actually thrown on some of your videos to calm down, funny enough.
most importantly though, remember we see you. we hear you. and we'll always support you 🤍
late to the party but just wanted to say loved the video, love to see more on this topic on the internet, just showing my support here i guess x sending lots of lovee
I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I have ADHD. And rather than being upset about finding out so late I’m embracing it and making changes to my life!! Everything really does get better and gratitude is so important. Thanks Connor ❤
Boy do I relate to this, especially the 10-days part bc I've definitely experienced anxiety attacks in the past that were just as long, if not longer. It's still something that affects my day-to-day life, I'm definitely a lot better about it now than I was before I started seeking help around 3 years ago. It's people like you, who are open and vulnerable about mental health, that have helped me a lot too! 💜
Also, the "loopy-loopy-de-lulu" bit got me 😂😂
Such a great message. I've struggled with anxiety since middle school, and now at 26 years old, I experienced panic attacks for the first time. Doom just suddenly took over me and I felt light-headed as I thought I was going to die. It's ironic, as this is happening as I'm making my dream of moving abroad come true. But I think the pressure I've put on myself to "perform" and to overly prepare for anything from job interviews, to making a good first impression with my new partner's friends were the triggers that tipped me over the edge
I can definitely understand what you went through...I've also had those multiple-day anxiety attacks where I was just convinced I was dying and it's indescribable really :( It's beautiful that you create a setting with your videos where people can openly confess that they feel this way, especially in a society that likes to gaslight anxious people into thinking they're overreacting or aren't taking them seriously :/
oh my favorite online therapist youtuber is back /j
please welcome back to the stage.... ✨me ✨
Thank you for this, we love you 🥺💜💜💜 it's wild how you never fail to appear when life is crazy
I am in a very not good mental state right now. I did take a day off today and ran 22k under the rain. And I feel substantially better. I also might have impulsively bought a new running watch(it’s a great deal).
This video brightened up my day.
The harmonies, they, honestly, would have been enough, but you over delivered ❤
A day late, but here I am. Commenting on the first tip (talk to a friend, 5:38) and it also ties with the “you are not a burden” phrase (9:20). Yesterday I saw this tik tok of 2 friends on their podcast, talking about sharing problems with loved ones. So one of them says (I'm paraphrasing): “I'd get mad if a friend didn't tell me how they feel, what they were going through. So how dare I keep my problems and my anxieties, to myself and from them. They are probably just as worried as I would be”. I mean, we all have the right for privacy, you don't have to share everything with everyone. But why not trust a little and see what happens. At the very least, they'll just comfort you and you'll probably feel listened. If you were a burden, they would have left you a long time ago.
i don’t have huge panic attacks or something but my emotional state is not so good for most of the time because i have this permanent feeling of anxiety when i need to perform basic routine like work or just talk to people. sometimes it’s hard to deal with because i’m shaking and feel scared but when it’s gone it’s such a relief
my god this was so vindicating and comforting thank you for making me laugh through the painnnnn
I once did congnitive therapy with a nurse and she taught me a breathing exercise for anxiety - breathe all the way in, and then slowly all the way out. And then she said "it’s as easy as that! And some people struggle with anxiety for years and years!" 😂😂 I eventually stopped going to her, I dreaded seeing her so much the cognitive therapy had close to no affect 🥲
(sidenote, I didn’t go to her for anxiety, but I do sometimes get it)
gosh i love your videos, they truly feel like a deep breath of fresh air, like a tiny break from this world to remind me that it is okay to not be okay. my feelings have been mixed lately, my birthday is in 5 days and i've always disliked my birthday, but i could never really explain why. the explanation i came up with this year is this; birthdays make you think about like, "wow i've been alive for 23 years already" and then you think about everything you've gone through already but my life has been incredibly shit so i don't ever want to think about that, and my birthday does remind me of how shit my life has been in the past. it feels off to celebrate a life that i've always been incredibly unhappy with. but i'll get through it again this year, just like every year. thank u connor for the positive and real vibes♥
This is so comforting to watch from someone you've admired for so long. Last year I was in a constant anxious state and every freaking article I read said that panic attacks lasted only a few minutes. I didn't know what to do. Everyday I was just waiting for my heart attack lol. I'm on medication and taking care of myself now. Love ya, thanks for always being this open with us
this is what i needed in this exact moment. i’ve been having one hell of a month and yesterday i had a full on mental breakdown at the office and while people cared and tried to help me it just felt like they were pitying me. when i have an anxiety episode my brain works in the most irrational ways and doing so in public just felt so embarrassing. you gave me some comfort, thank you💕
I missed you too, Conner! I'm drinking a Yoohoo. Last year I decided to finally go to a therapist (for anxiety) and he really helped. I had anxiety about germs and getting people sick, but I'm doing better now. I can't handle the news it makes me uncomfortable, like when I was a teenager/younger adult (I'm 25), I was scared to do things because I was scared that something bad was going to happen. But now that I live in a small town (the town I grew up in was bigger than where I live now), I feel a lot more comfortable. I can walk in town (my dad is one of the owners of the local brewery ((and he told me I could park in the parking lot because I tried to park in town and that gave me anxiety with all the traffic). You are so right, Conner anxiety is ridiculous. Sometime nearing the end of last year, I started writing in a journal that my friend gave me back in high school (I guess it's my realization journal). I figured out that I was nonbinary (demiboy he/they), trans (ftm), and gay and I'm a lot more happier now I have ever been. When it gets warmer I'm gonna go on more walks and I will hopefully try skateboarding again (I tried it once when I was a kid and watching SK8 the Infinify reignited that passion). I write and read fanfiction (character x character) and I love reading hurt/comfort and angst fics because the characters seem more real, especially if your reading about a character going through the same thing you are. Thank you so much for the advice, Conner 💙
I loved "you are not a burden" chanting so much haha✨
✨harmonizing ✨
Watching this a year later and it's still so relevant and so needed today🥹❤️
this upload coming right as i keep getting anxious over my impending 21st birthday, perfect timing connor honestly
Well timed. Thanks for cheering me up x
no problem!
guilt is an emotion we feel when we believe something wrong that goes against our own values, shame is an emotion we feel when we believe not that we did something wrong, but that something is wrong with us.
healing comes first with awareness.
this video felt like having someone level with me on mutual experiences. thank you for this
This was refreshing to watch, thank you for being real with us!! I feel very seen here. I have also experienced the 'heart pounding, this is the end' anxiety attack and boy was it n o t f u n. Took myself to the ER because I was CONVINCED it was the end for me. (thankfully it wasn't) I'm sorry to hear that yours lasted for so long, that must have been awful but I'm so glad you made it through. Proud of you! Proud of all of us anxiety fighters. ALSO I had the same experience of petting grass and feeling ridiculous doing so but it /actually/ helps to *go touch grass* LOL WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED. anyway thank you for this video, I hope you're doing okay and even better now.
Thank you for the real talk, really appreciate you ❤️ late last year I had what sounds like a somewhat similar anxiety episode (really bad psychosomatic symptoms that triggered extreme health anxiety and I got stuck in that loop). I'm doing a lot better, but it's still have to actively put in work every day to prevent episodes, and it can be a tiring and isolating experience sometimes. Appreciate you sharing your own journey. makes it all feel a bit less isolating. We all got this ❤️
i experienced the same thing last october and my anxiety attack lasted roughly a full month. i was freaking out about the concept of death, and feeling like i’m dying while freaking out about death was extremely traumatic. learning to know i can’t control everything including my own mindset and thoughts is horrible! therapy has been so helpful, hearing the perspectives of friends with healthy outlooks on life, and honestly just breathing through all thirty days was the only way i got through it. it will likely happen again but it’s temporary and that’s the most comforting thing to know. i hadn’t heard anyone experience what i had so i’m thankful for you to speak about this, us anxious ass bitches have to validate others experiences
This is really nice ❤ touchin grass is one of my favorite pass times
this video went from "its okay to take a break and be kind to yourself" to "you have anxiety as an adult ugh grow up" such a mood
Bear hugs and cuddles are the perfect antidote for anxiety…
I just discovered you today,omg you resonated with me it literally like you were talking about me I can't stand when I get a full blown panic attack,today I am good I hope everyone else is doing good ❤
Welcome! Glad my words hit home for you :)
Connor hi, suddenly remembered your channel after many years, you know, I usually don't write comments at all, but seeing you now, felt like I owed you a thank you. I was 12~~? When I stumbled upon you, your videos shed light on what I was so afraid of... ahhh, I didn't even understand English, but thanks to you I started to learn it, and you helped me accept myself, for which I am insanely grateful! Now I'm 20, I'm happy with what I've become and I'm still growing and developing. It's really good to see you, you've "grown" too ahah, it's nice to see you still as beautiful, wise, cheerful:)❤
what I struggle with is wanting to validate the feelings I'm having, but the feelings Im having can be overthinking/ analysing situations so sometimes theyre things I don't even need to give a second thought.... ahhhhh. Going for a walk now to feel better, thanks Connor :)
thank you so much for this 😢 it’s been hard lately but your words made me feel better
I have both depression and anxiety. Those love to fight it out many days usually the anxiety wins. It’s so nice to hear I’m not alone and that what I wore to the party does not matter 😂 I have spent days thinking about what to wear to something specific before and panicking about it.
No this is so real as someone who also struggles with anxiety (and depression), I’ve been struggling a lot with anxiety lately because I’m starting my student teaching in the fall and even though I’m excited I’m experiencing a lot of anxiety and dread at the same time but anyway sometimes it feels like it’s just me struggling but it’s nice to know I’m not the only one even though I’d never wish this feeling of dread on someone 💖
This really helped me. I’m studying abroad right now and my anxiety is the worst it’s been in months and trying to find comfort has been hard but taking it one step at a time
Be gentle with yourself ❤
5:31 that tiny detail of words not being perfectly aligned horizontally
this is peak comedy (as someone who also has anxiety and depression)
stress but make it ✨watchable✨
as someone who goes through phases of thinking I have a heart disease for several days straight, i feel you
the way i needed to hear this today my day has been a roller coaster so much emotion just feeling shitty just not a good day. thank you for this video it might help me with everything going on right now. i just love your videos so much they make me so happy and put asmile on my face everytime i watch them. i freakin love you so much you mwan a lot to me
My life would have been so much easier without the insane anxiety I had growing up. Sending good vibes your way Connor!
i had an anxiety attack for 7 days straight once and can completely empathise, i’m so sorry you had to deal with that! thanks for sharing this stuff with the world and I hope you’re feeling a little more solid now 💖
Connor thank you for always being so honest with us as if we were able to be a part of what it would be to be in your thoughts. This upload was really something I needed today. Had a therapy session recently where we talked about how anxiety was healthy until it reaches the point of hindering your ability to do things or retain information. Thank you for your open nature and your honesty (again) but I've missed seeing your videos, I appreciate you king 💗
I’ve been avoiding watching this video because, I, myself have been experiencing anxiety for the first time within the last couple weeks. Having to find a new job and leaving my current one has been sending me down a spiral of crying and nearly passing out.
But I’m happy I did watch this cause it honestly helped a lot. Obviously I know I’m not alone but this made me feel a little bit more seen. So as of right now, I’m doing okay. I can’t speak up for how I feel in an hour or even later today. But right now, I’m okay.
I understand every bit of this. Just like Chester Bennington (Linkin' Park) said in an interview, "I shouldn't be left alone inside my head." My last anxiety attack lasted the entire month of June. It ain't no walk in the park. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Thanks for being open enough to share your experience.
You came in like a surprise as ive been having an anxiety attack since last 6 months (that's only recent that i can remember). After getting off from work for 2 months, I've been really depressed and became more anxious with my own thoughts and as u mentioned, guilt and shame, which had led me to lock myself in my room thru out summer break. Ive become more introverted as a result and i feel im not doing anything. The recent trigger ive discovered is that my anxiety is rooted with my mom. Whenever shea near, i am frightened that shell yell and argue with me which will lead me to more depression and anxiety. I cant move out because of the capitalist economy :/ ( i don't earn much) in the process of being with myself in my room, had made me more anxious to go out and mingle with the people.( And start working again coming August). Im deepening into my own little rock with no exit around me.
Thanku for this video, i agree related and felt heard thru your experiences.
I wish i could be that strong to come out of my cycle and face the world with some courage
we love you
Omg Connor your back I've been waiting for you to post a new vlog,,You and Kurtis Conner are one of my favorite persons on the internet and I hope you'd make a collab together, cuz I love watching your vlogs and I'm a big fan of yours!! 😊❤❤❤
I suffer from anxiety tied to agoraphobia, so sometimes I can’t take a walk, because it’s scary for me.
However, I will comment on spiraling thoughts. I’ve learned that when I recognize that my thoughts are spiraling, I will audibly say “STOP!” There’s something about the recognition, along with hearing yourself say “stop,” that helps pause those spiraling thoughts long enough for you to consciously start thinking of something else.
Distraction is another method of taming those thoughts. Listening to a book on Audible is my go-to way to distract my mind with a lovely story, instead of thinking about whatever I’m thinking about that is causing anxiety.
And my final piece of advice; if you feel too uncomfortable to talk to someone about your thoughts/anxiety, talk to yourself. Again, there’s something about being able to take your thoughts out of your head, putting them out into the world, and being able to hear them, that sometimes triggers your brain to recognize that those thoughts sound really silly or irrational.
This really helped me thank you for being you ❤️
no problem!