This video is so refreshing and really highlights what it’s like to be a “new adult”? or at least being a young human with responsibilities. I appreciate you speaking truth.
YES. Everyday I literally feel so pressured to live well that I don’t try to change anything I’m not satisfied with because it’s too overwhelming to even start. There’s just too many things
Hey Connor, Wikipedia tells me you are in your late 20s. I'm way older (72), but thinking back, for me, each decade of life has been an improvement. Yes, there were pressures, mostly from myself and my parents. It was tough for me being an only kid, then add being a closeted gay kid. Life -- family, self, career, jobs, friends -- all can be a struggle at times. Yet, life is still wonderful, and it really does get better. Maybe I've just been lucky, but each decade of life has been the best yet. Do what you need to do for yourself, whether that's taking a disconnecting vacation, Zen Buddhism, some kind of change, whatever. Best to you, and take care.
Thank you, I'm nearing the end of my teen years and I'm about to be an adult. I'll try not to let it overwhelm me so much. As you and many others say, it will get better
as a “new” adult, i really needed this. this felt like therapy and i admittedly started crying at the “go easy on yourself” because there IS So Much pressure in growing up. thank you for this.
Feeling this pressure all the time.. It makes up so much of my everyday anxiety. Constantly having to find the balance between am i working enough and am i over-working myself, it is exhausting :(
It's so nice just to hear someone talk about these things, especially being overwhelmed by everything because we are forced by peer or self pressure into needing to know everything thats going on in the world just to be a good or interesting person. Like I want world peace and all that stuff but I also just wanna be able to focus on myself and make sure that I get a good life. Like I'm only 21 and I feel like I need to somehow band with my generation to solve the war ourselves, when in reality I just want to ignore it cus I have exams coming up. I feel good for being aware of all the terrible things going on in the world, but it also makes me not want to live in it and feel so hopeless. I have to purposefully seek out good things that are happening world wide because the few good things that happen to me aren't enough to stop this overwhelming feeling of dread and anxiety of just growing up. Even when those I love are telling me the news or something else serious, I just want to ignore them or run away because it's too much, but I can't because thats rude and selfish not to educate myself on these matters. Like, knowing that climate change will soon be irreversible and I can't do shit about it because its the big companies that are ruining it, knowing there is plastic in our bodies that could one day kill us, it just can't cross the brain barrier yet, knowing how pretty much every country is corrupt and will probably stay corrupt for a very long time still, or even just knowing that there is a possible chance for me to have a brain aneurism and just die at any time... Like wtf life, why do I need to know all this shit? Why can't I just be clueless and happy instead of riddled with anxiety and a forced feeling of acceptance. I just want to be able to afford a house (laughable since I live in the UK), be able to pay my bills, feed my pets and enjoy my life; then when I'm in a comfortable state I can focus more on helping others... but the internet and my well-educated friends and advocats leave this dread in me that if I don't support, acknowlede and talk about these things, than I'm a horrible person. I really want things to change, I want everyone to be happy and be a good, kind person... and I also just want to curl up in a ball, watch anime and pet my cats. Young people got it rough man. Therapy session complete, I shall retreat to a hole now. But thank you
this video couldn't have come at a better time! I'm burnt out and overwhelmed by life at the moment, and it's been hard to keep going. so, your words have really resonated with me and I'm so grateful for your existence! thank you always, Connor! 💖
As an anxious overthinker, and an insomniac, I relate to so much of what you said here. Existing can be exhausting and overwhelming, and so many things when you’re young feel monumental and full of pressure. I feel like you really captured what it’s like to be a young adult at the moment. It’s exhausting. But I try to be optimistic as well! I still struggle with anxiety but it’s been better since I finished university (and worse in a way, because of the whole post-grad existential crisis thing lmao). There are still many things about living that are joyful though, like music, friends, and my kittens. In the end I think all of the struggle is worth it. Listening to this helped, thanks Connor. Much love! 💜
you translated my thoughts. never in human history we had this much information being handed into our lives, so many new standards and so many people being able to connect at the same time. i get overwhelmed by the fact that many people can see what i post and criticize me lol. i love how useful the internet is but it terrifies me at the same time. i hope despite that we can go a little bit easier on ourselves and be reminded we have each our own pace, and mental health should be prioritized!
Definitely relating to your swim meet story. I did competitive gymnastics for 25 hours a week from age 8-17 and god I didn’t realize till a year or two ago the insane amount of pressure I’d been putting on myself. One thing I do miss, however, is that that sport gave me a physical outlet for all the stress I felt.
What I've started to realize about some of this is that sometimes you gotta stop giving a f*ck. Easier said than done and not always the best solution, but incredibly freeing in some cases. For example I stopped wearing makeup years ago and the amount of time and money, not to mention emotional energy I'm saving is crazy.
27 and never been more lost. Still think about what I ended up choosing to study in college and the thoughts that lead me down that path. I was the most depressed in life during high school and yet I was the most successful then, too. Truth is, we made our choices, we learn lessons when we’re supposed to, and all we can do is keep trying.
I just started a new job and every time I'm there I feel a ton of pressure to do everything right and my manager is literally the sweetest person and I don’t have any reason to be nervous but I am anyway. I needed to hear these words. Thank you.
'Existing is Exhausting" - I said something similar to myself sadly like a couple minutes ago and am kinda crying rn as things r sooo f****ing horrible 🥺 so, thanks Connor u get me man ! ❣❣❣
Thank you for the therapy session! My biggest takeaway: "Just the desire is enough." I put so much pressure on myself because I want to do everything, walk every possible aspect of life it can offer, but the fact is, just wanting those things is enough and I needed to hear that so thank you
Honestly I had forgotten to watch your videos and then you popped up on shorts. And now I remember why I used to watch your videos - the reliability and honesty is so refreshing 🧡
Thank you for making this video. You’re doing all the right things. Everyone has a struggle and knowing that it’s okay to feel the pressure of life intensely at times helps lift the stress a bit.
this video just explained why I feel mentally better after walking over hills with no internet despite getting literally stuck in the mud a few times yesterday despite my legs still feeling like jelly.
This video helped me so much. I hope you do more of this style of video or maybe consider a video based podcast on here- much like what a lot of the other comments have said- I can relate to this so deeply it’s like you took the words out of my mouth. I love the way you did the FaceTime audio like we were really calling because it truly did feel like that and a lot of us need that, even you I presume. This and the lying to myself and the 20s video have all spoken to me so deeply. It feels so good to feel understood and to see everyone else feeling the same way. It makes me feel sane.
i missed ya con!! not gonna lie, i have had a really stressful past couple weeks in college. i’ve been tryin’ to not overwork myself, it’s just been hard not to recently with the workload we are given + i’m transferring colleges at semester… so this video really made me smile and take a deep breath and know it’ll all be ok! 🥺 i love you! i hope you are doing well too!!
Connor, I cannot explain how much I needed this. I got sick randomly and I realised it's because I was anxious without even realising it. I don't really have people around me who can comfort me. This video helped so much. Thank you so much. I don't know you personally but you mean a lot to me. I always think about you when I'm feeling low and it always helps. So please don't think you're not making a positive impact.
Feeling like this all the time, I also feel like 2 years of my youth self has been taken away from me because of the pandemic, and I don't really know how to give this a place yet, and how to move forward in growing as an adult when I still feel like a 19 year old lol. This video gives me comfort in knowing I'm not alone in feeling overwhelmed about growing up and having to deal with all these responsibilities all of a sudden. This video reminds me that I don't have to be to hard on myself and that being alive and doing the best that I can is enough, Thankyou Connor
VIBES. ALL OF IT. it's recently comes to my attention that I can live between two realities: grateful and unsatisfied. Grateful for my experiences but also pressured and overwhelmed and unsatisfied with my current quality of life... So Preach, Connor!
*I really enjoy this conversation Connor . . . LIVING IN PRESENT DAY IS A HUGE TASK; but being a senior citizen, I've learned to adapt . . . consciously distance myself from reality for just a half hour daily (quieting my mind with meditation) and also not to take life so seriously. "F" everything . . . live for the moment! Through this, I've been able to remain joyful and mentally calm/relaxed as I age.*
I have come to realise it takes very little to keep me happy. Just one person who likes to play video games with me. I used to feel like that was me settling instead of career, social life blah blah, but now see it’s a blessing
Honestly I am just so glad you posted, but I feel what you said pretty deeply. As I get older I feel more choosy about everything because it's all SO EXHAUSTING and I need more breaks than I ever have. I hope it gets easier for you and everyone reading this. You're never alone, babes!!
I agree that go easy on yourself is probably the best way to handle pressure but also by looking after yourself by focusing on what makes you happy even the smallest, and the things that keeps you going that makes you greateful (such as your hobbies or those who do a lot for you). I guess that life can be overwhelming even for me at times but we can take responsibility for it by responding to what we can control and make our own decisions than letting life define us or at least leave our own head as I've heard myself a while back.
The fact that the baseline is not wanting to game over is relatable. The fact that I've been at a point in life for at least 2 years where I don't want to chronically game over is monumental and I'm taking that as a win. Even if existing is exhausting and having student loan debt is crippling
as a college student who just transferred to a new school in a new state with absolutely ZERO friends (yes i’m like three months into the semester with zero friends, it’s rough out there), i needed this pep talk connor, thank you
yeah, i’ve definitely been feeling the pressure lately :/ sucks but you keep going! i just remind myself it’s good as long as i’m happy and fuck everyone else’s opinions
CONNOR OMG....... in am two minutes in and i 100% believe the universe sent me to my subscriptions page to stumble across this video. I have been caught up in the vicious cycle of working to live and living to work. I am finally hitting a wall after working full time with no time off throughout the entire pandemic. I was sent home early from work today due to the sheer amount of stress that has finally taken a toll on my emotional well-being; I am so utterly exhausted from existing. I am too exhausted to even elaborate further but this video wad EXACTLY what I needed. It's so reassuring knowing someone I used to watch religiously throughout my adolescence (and to this day, clearly), dealing with the exact same human struggle as I am.
This is very accurate. As an artist, it's been a struggle to focus, and be motivated to create things. Also to add on top of that, there are now more expectations being put on future generations.
Not knowing what the future holds is both thrilling and terrifying. Sometimes that makes me feel trapped or pressured in what choices to make. I've been trying to, rather, channel that energy into gratitude for the present. Things are going to happen, times are going to change, and therefore I'll try to fully appreciate what is good about right now and be fully present
I watched a hindi tv show called little things and there is one scene that has stayed with me since. One of the leads is in a small village listening to local people tell stories of their lives and one older woman shares hers. She shares that she is about to turn seventy four and that this is such a big achievement for her because she has tried to take her life thrice. I remember watching that scene and feeling tears prick at my eyes because even at my tender age of almost twenty I understand that feeling. I was convinced for most of my early teens that I wouldn't live past eighteen and now I have and am. It's beautiful to feel grateful to feel and experience life, all the beauty, pain and general overwhelmingness. I hope to one day be turning seventy four and to be able to have that same reflection. I find that the gratitude of life is the best anchor in allll the many challenging times and I am grateful you shared it amidst your reflections :)
the way ur videos always come when im going through shitty times and just when im feeling overwhelmed by something and u just happen to talk about it and its so refreshing and i love u so much thank u for these soft videos:(
very relatable. life is intense and it's exhausting to be a sensitive person. especially when people just think you're being dramatic. honestly YES i love drama but when i complain about life i mean it!! YES i actually feel overwhelmed almost every day!!
It's true, we are voices in a choir. small by ourselves but powerful when together. We haven't all figured it out yet, and a lot of people are in the same boat. We may not have a clear direction in the beginning, but it could mean we are still developing. I wouldn't shortchange yourself though, Connor. You put yourself out there, and share your thoughts and heart with the world. I personally do not have the courage, and you are a bright, handsome, intelligent person that thinks for himself. You never know who's heart you will touch, so keep shining that light, keep exploring your own journey, and may the Lord bless you on your way :)
Tysm for your truth here Connor 🙏❤️ I haven’t watched your videos in a hot sec but this one I got notified then the time jumped to the next minute right after so that always tells me something’s important so I click on your video and wow so relevant and helpful for everyone watching 🥰 Bless you and to everyone reading this, we got this. It’s completely alright to have down days and give yourself breaks during this major hustle time we’re feeling. This rollercoaster called life is a ride and every lower point only means there’s another climb and a beautiful view point coming along shortly after! MUCH LOVE 💗
You're so true about college. I got my bachelor's and a job afterwards only to realize how miserable I was in that career and that I can't do it for the rest of my life. I ended up finding my passion later and went back to school, but the change was hard especially after people expecting me to stay with my old one
I broke up and it’s been weird trying to maintain being friends. We ended it in good terms…I shouldn’t force myself to talk, especially if the other isn’t as responsive. But it’s just so weird not talking to the person that was part of your daily life for a year. That’s my update and it’s just been ups and downs while maintaining a good college academic life 😅
thank you for this video!!! i’m almost done with student teaching and i’m thinking about the overwhelmingness of the rest of my life and being young and fitting everything into young adulthood. thank you for putting this feeling into words
I've really rewired my brain during corony and I'm just grateful and give attention to the good things (acknowledge bad things, of course, but good things are my focus)
I feel it. Especially "we can´t do it all, can´t be it all, can´t know it all", bc u want to know and be and do it all, or, as much as possible. Ten years ago, I´m 28 now, turning 29 in june, and I didn´t know where I wanted my life to go. Been bouncing around. Only just recently decided between a few options. But it is still hard. I can see myself go this way, but also the other few ways and u just wish to do it all. As u say "Existing is exhausting" :O
these past few weeks have been tough with my thesis and wanting it to be the best since it’s my work but feeling the pressure of not wanting to fail makes me anxious every time 😭
I just bought/finished your book at a small bookstore and was reading some reviews when I saw someone say you’re from UA-cam and now .. I’m obsessed lmao this whole video is literally all that goes through my brain at all times. Also, wonderful book 💛
1. Acknowledge your current routine (even if it’s staring at your phone constantly) 2. Try to change one thing at a time, if you want to change anything at all. Routine is SO KEY to preventing burn out!! On bad days you just follow the routine. You don’t gotta make choices. You don’t gotta make an impact. You just gotta live one day at a time.
As someone who is gay, it took me what felt like forever to come comfortable with who I was and am. So Connor, I salute you for your amazing work and hope you're doing OK. Best of luck!
I read note to self years back and loved it. just tonight having kinda a panic attack on what should be one of my only days off (this week, like many, were just utterly painfully exhausting) and I just wanted to cry. As I cried I saw this on my recommended and at least it brings me a sliver of peace to know I'm not completely alone in feeling just... sad.
I am that 18(almost) year old trying to figure everything out and make sure I don't doom myself. Growing up is so scary. It's cliche but its true. Everything feels like so much and at the same time I'm learning more about all the terrible parts of life. But this video was a glimmer of something calm and nice. It's true, I may be experiencing some pretty rough things but at least I'm still here experiencing.
i love to come back here in this channel and it's always a calm slow paced video. I hit subscribe so much time ago, I saw a beautiful out of the closet video that inspired me to be myself unapolegetically, and it all felt right for me at the moment. And then I come back and see a full blossomed person and fresh content. I'm so happy to be here as well...
Listen. I was that kid that went to college. Got my degree. Shit. I worked all the way up to where I have my Masters. Why? I wanted to be a teacher my whole life. Then. Almost a full school year in, and I realized I HATE it. And guess what? Thats okay. I have debt. Like 40,000 in school loans. Thats okay. But what is not okay? Sticking with something just because you made a life changing decision at a ripe old age of 18 (when you sign up for school loans). The lesson here guys is to learn how to pivet. If you have the opportunity to chase new dreams, go for it. Life is not meant to be spent working our ass off without any sort of happiness.
im a big procrastinator and just constantly pumped full of doubt and anxiety so whenever i actually manage to get some work done and can relax afterwards i always start thinking of more things i could be doing and most of the time relaxing just feels like i'm being lazy TT
I keep me contained by reminding myself that 100 years from now, nobody is going to know or care about any decision I made today. I just try not to hurt anyone.
love how he contradicts himself freaking out about being told everything all the time and knowing whats going on in the world so easily then wanting people to have a voice and everyone to be heard, watching people get their stress out about life is always fun
Hi Connor. You are correct. so much going on, the world spinning off its axis, I just turn everything off. I don't do news on the phone, I got rid of Twitter and FB, over a year ago now. I watch an hour of news a day, if even that. I go to bed after dinner to sink into a good book for a couple hours, or listen to a pod cast, then I sleep. Rinse and repeat. I have a house to run, people to visit on a weekly basis, friends to talk to when possible. (all my friends are parents now) I keep it very simple. The less I know the better. The only social participation is my IG. I cannot take in everything. Information overload !!
Thank you for this video Connor!! I've been so stressed out lately to point where for the first time in my life I can't sleep properly (which is a massive privilege to have been able to sleep easily for so long but this has been really stressing me out). But this video was like a breath of fresh air tbh so thank you
Pertaining to swimming, I’m a diver and y’all have so many more opportunities for medals than we do. You can be in so many events but diving has 2 maybe 3. All those hours def do play with my head. 6 out of 7 days of the weeks we practice, divers have 2 doubles w lifting and dry land, and swimmers have 5 doubles
Tyty this video cheered me up and lifted a weight off my shoulders just hearing someone else talking about it. Existence is exhausting but its still pretty cool. I went to my first concert yesterday (it was cavetown) and had an amazing time. Meanwhile just a second ago I was watching UA-cam to cope with stress when I remembered you uploaded a video and I hadn't seen it. I decided to watch it and it helped clear my head a bit. Now I'm vibing again having a grand old time (mostly). So yeah its pretty cool.
your videos always come out and I'm like.... were you reading my journal from yesterday? I value your perspective and rumination of these types of things more than I can say. basically, you always end up saying exactly what I need to hear in that moment, so thank you
I have definitely had similar thoughts especially about social media… I have often feel like everyone else has figured out something that I don’t know about how to use it. How to be be yourself and also be a professional with social media l and also be someone who cares about justice but doesn’t feel capable of being aware or present to every situation… well recently I’ve been off all sm except for UA-cam, and it’s been liberating. It’s not possible or practical for everyone, but for me I have just so much more brain space to experience feelings about my real life and less about what strangers think about me; and even what’s going on in the world. I learn news through reading (avoiding sensationalized media), and talking with people in my life who are impacted by stuff (ie teacher strikes in MN). Everything is really… bearable for me right now.
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"Existing is exhausting" - felt that deeply
I agree! Right now I have so much going on in my life, work related, acquiring a new property, medical conditions, etc. It all is exhausting to me!
I agree!!!!!!
This video is so refreshing and really highlights what it’s like to be a “new adult”? or at least being a young human with responsibilities. I appreciate you speaking truth.
My 62yo mamma says the exact same thing, existing is completely, endlessly exhausting
YES. Everyday I literally feel so pressured to live well that I don’t try to change anything I’m not satisfied with because it’s too overwhelming to even start. There’s just too many things
so many choices. everywhere. all the time.
Ong I feel literally the same way
Hey Connor, Wikipedia tells me you are in your late 20s. I'm way older (72), but thinking back, for me, each decade of life has been an improvement. Yes, there were pressures, mostly from myself and my parents. It was tough for me being an only kid, then add being a closeted gay kid. Life -- family, self, career, jobs, friends -- all can be a struggle at times. Yet, life is still wonderful, and it really does get better. Maybe I've just been lucky, but each decade of life has been the best yet. Do what you need to do for yourself, whether that's taking a disconnecting vacation, Zen Buddhism, some kind of change, whatever. Best to you, and take care.
I love this!! Thanks for sharing, i hope you are indeed having the best decade ever
Thank you, I'm nearing the end of my teen years and I'm about to be an adult. I'll try not to let it overwhelm me so much. As you and many others say, it will get better
I repeat that Jenna quote almost daily 😂
I’m glad you get it. I’m glad we all feel it. It makes things feel a little less isolating
as a “new” adult, i really needed this. this felt like therapy and i admittedly started crying at the “go easy on yourself” because there IS So Much pressure in growing up. thank you for this.
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i'm in the middle of the biggest exams of my life and it's all so much 😭
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Feeling this pressure all the time.. It makes up so much of my everyday anxiety. Constantly having to find the balance between am i working enough and am i over-working myself, it is exhausting :(
It's so nice just to hear someone talk about these things, especially being overwhelmed by everything because we are forced by peer or self pressure into needing to know everything thats going on in the world just to be a good or interesting person. Like I want world peace and all that stuff but I also just wanna be able to focus on myself and make sure that I get a good life. Like I'm only 21 and I feel like I need to somehow band with my generation to solve the war ourselves, when in reality I just want to ignore it cus I have exams coming up.
I feel good for being aware of all the terrible things going on in the world, but it also makes me not want to live in it and feel so hopeless.
I have to purposefully seek out good things that are happening world wide because the few good things that happen to me aren't enough to stop this overwhelming feeling of dread and anxiety of just growing up.
Even when those I love are telling me the news or something else serious, I just want to ignore them or run away because it's too much, but I can't because thats rude and selfish not to educate myself on these matters.
Like, knowing that climate change will soon be irreversible and I can't do shit about it because its the big companies that are ruining it, knowing there is plastic in our bodies that could one day kill us, it just can't cross the brain barrier yet, knowing how pretty much every country is corrupt and will probably stay corrupt for a very long time still, or even just knowing that there is a possible chance for me to have a brain aneurism and just die at any time... Like wtf life, why do I need to know all this shit? Why can't I just be clueless and happy instead of riddled with anxiety and a forced feeling of acceptance.
I just want to be able to afford a house (laughable since I live in the UK), be able to pay my bills, feed my pets and enjoy my life; then when I'm in a comfortable state I can focus more on helping others... but the internet and my well-educated friends and advocats leave this dread in me that if I don't support, acknowlede and talk about these things, than I'm a horrible person.
I really want things to change, I want everyone to be happy and be a good, kind person... and I also just want to curl up in a ball, watch anime and pet my cats.
Young people got it rough man.
Therapy session complete, I shall retreat to a hole now.
But thank you
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this video couldn't have come at a better time! I'm burnt out and overwhelmed by life at the moment, and it's been hard to keep going. so, your words have really resonated with me and I'm so grateful for your existence! thank you always, Connor! 💖
Thank you, Connor, for always talking about and being transparent about mental health and other existential problems 🙏😊
I've grown to learn the "truth" is a strange thing to hide from
As an anxious overthinker, and an insomniac, I relate to so much of what you said here. Existing can be exhausting and overwhelming, and so many things when you’re young feel monumental and full of pressure. I feel like you really captured what it’s like to be a young adult at the moment. It’s exhausting. But I try to be optimistic as well! I still struggle with anxiety but it’s been better since I finished university (and worse in a way, because of the whole post-grad existential crisis thing lmao). There are still many things about living that are joyful though, like music, friends, and my kittens. In the end I think all of the struggle is worth it. Listening to this helped, thanks Connor. Much love! 💜
you translated my thoughts. never in human history we had this much information being handed into our lives, so many new standards and so many people being able to connect at the same time. i get overwhelmed by the fact that many people can see what i post and criticize me lol. i love how useful the internet is but it terrifies me at the same time. i hope despite that we can go a little bit easier on ourselves and be reminded we have each our own pace, and mental health should be prioritized!
Definitely relating to your swim meet story. I did competitive gymnastics for 25 hours a week from age 8-17 and god I didn’t realize till a year or two ago the insane amount of pressure I’d been putting on myself. One thing I do miss, however, is that that sport gave me a physical outlet for all the stress I felt.
Totally relatable, I done competitive gymnastics from 6-18 years old. The physical outlet is definitely missed, the pressure however is not
this entire video is painfully relatable
What I've started to realize about some of this is that sometimes you gotta stop giving a f*ck. Easier said than done and not always the best solution, but incredibly freeing in some cases. For example I stopped wearing makeup years ago and the amount of time and money, not to mention emotional energy I'm saving is crazy.
27 and never been more lost. Still think about what I ended up choosing to study in college and the thoughts that lead me down that path. I was the most depressed in life during high school and yet I was the most successful then, too. Truth is, we made our choices, we learn lessons when we’re supposed to, and all we can do is keep trying.
What did you study in college and why didn't you like it ? What do you expect doing in the future ?
I just started a new job and every time I'm there I feel a ton of pressure to do everything right and my manager is literally the sweetest person and I don’t have any reason to be nervous but I am anyway. I needed to hear these words. Thank you.
This definitely helped me and I needed to hear this!! Thank you Connor!! Much love!! 🥹✨
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This made me feel so less alone to a level I didn't know could exist. Not to be the sappy guy, but I gave my phone a hug, you're a gem Connor.
'Existing is Exhausting" - I said something similar to myself sadly like a couple minutes ago and am kinda crying rn as things r sooo f****ing horrible 🥺 so, thanks Connor u get me man ! ❣❣❣
Legit, same!
Thank you for the therapy session! My biggest takeaway: "Just the desire is enough." I put so much pressure on myself because I want to do everything, walk every possible aspect of life it can offer, but the fact is, just wanting those things is enough and I needed to hear that so thank you
Honestly I had forgotten to watch your videos and then you popped up on shorts. And now I remember why I used to watch your videos - the reliability and honesty is so refreshing 🧡
this is my favourite video of all time, thank you. SO much.
Thank you for making this video. You’re doing all the right things. Everyone has a struggle and knowing that it’s okay to feel the pressure of life intensely at times helps lift the stress a bit.
this video just explained why I feel mentally better after walking over hills with no internet despite getting literally stuck in the mud a few times yesterday despite my legs still feeling like jelly.
Always posting at the right time Connor, needed that today! Thanks 🙏🤗
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This video helped me so much. I hope you do more of this style of video or maybe consider a video based podcast on here- much like what a lot of the other comments have said- I can relate to this so deeply it’s like you took the words out of my mouth.
I love the way you did the FaceTime audio like we were really calling because it truly did feel like that and a lot of us need that, even you I presume.
This and the lying to myself and the 20s video have all spoken to me so deeply. It feels so good to feel understood and to see everyone else feeling the same way. It makes me feel sane.
i missed ya con!! not gonna lie, i have had a really stressful past couple weeks in college. i’ve been tryin’ to not overwork myself, it’s just been hard not to recently with the workload we are given + i’m transferring colleges at semester… so this video really made me smile and take a deep breath and know it’ll all be ok! 🥺 i love you! i hope you are doing well too!!
The couple of minutes at the end felt like a warm and calming hug from someone who understands you and have been there with you through it all.
this video came at the perfect time during a busy season in my life as a first-year college student. thank you connor:,)
Connor, I cannot explain how much I needed this. I got sick randomly and I realised it's because I was anxious without even realising it. I don't really have people around me who can comfort me. This video helped so much. Thank you so much. I don't know you personally but you mean a lot to me. I always think about you when I'm feeling low and it always helps. So please don't think you're not making a positive impact.
Glad you're back, angel. Missed you ❤
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Highlight of my day was seeing a new video from you!!
favorite video of all time. Super well said Connor. You da best~
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This came at the perfect time, I could relate so much to everything you said. Thank you for giving us a bit of a mental reset 💛
You just saved my ass from an anxiety breakthrough, thanks Connor ily
Feeling like this all the time, I also feel like 2 years of my youth self has been taken away from me because of the pandemic, and I don't really know how to give this a place yet, and how to move forward in growing as an adult when I still feel like a 19 year old lol. This video gives me comfort in knowing I'm not alone in feeling overwhelmed about growing up and having to deal with all these responsibilities all of a sudden. This video reminds me that I don't have to be to hard on myself and that being alive and doing the best that I can is enough, Thankyou Connor
i somehow felt so comfortable watching this. yes to all of this, connor
VIBES.
ALL OF IT.
it's recently comes to my attention that I can live between two realities: grateful and unsatisfied. Grateful for my experiences but also pressured and overwhelmed and unsatisfied with my current quality of life... So Preach, Connor!
Istg whenever I hear Connor speak, I just melt away into peace and serenity.
I love your videos and I feel like I'm watching a friend. Thank you 💕
aw, that makes me happy
*I really enjoy this conversation Connor . . . LIVING IN PRESENT DAY IS A HUGE TASK; but being a senior citizen, I've learned to adapt . . . consciously distance myself from reality for just a half hour daily (quieting my mind with meditation) and also not to take life so seriously. "F" everything . . . live for the moment! Through this, I've been able to remain joyful and mentally calm/relaxed as I age.*
I have come to realise it takes very little to keep me happy. Just one person who likes to play video games with me. I used to feel like that was me settling instead of career, social life blah blah, but now see it’s a blessing
Honestly I am just so glad you posted, but I feel what you said pretty deeply. As I get older I feel more choosy about everything because it's all SO EXHAUSTING and I need more breaks than I ever have. I hope it gets easier for you and everyone reading this. You're never alone, babes!!
I agree that go easy on yourself is probably the best way to handle pressure but also by looking after yourself by focusing on what makes you happy even the smallest, and the things that keeps you going that makes you greateful (such as your hobbies or those who do a lot for you). I guess that life can be overwhelming even for me at times but we can take responsibility for it by responding to what we can control and make our own decisions than letting life define us or at least leave our own head as I've heard myself a while back.
The fact that the baseline is not wanting to game over is relatable. The fact that I've been at a point in life for at least 2 years where I don't want to chronically game over is monumental and I'm taking that as a win. Even if existing is exhausting and having student loan debt is crippling
as a college student who just transferred to a new school in a new state with absolutely ZERO friends (yes i’m like three months into the semester with zero friends, it’s rough out there), i needed this pep talk connor, thank you
yeah, i’ve definitely been feeling the pressure lately :/ sucks but you keep going! i just remind myself it’s good as long as i’m happy and fuck everyone else’s opinions
CONNOR OMG....... in am two minutes in and i 100% believe the universe sent me to my subscriptions page to stumble across this video. I have been caught up in the vicious cycle of working to live and living to work. I am finally hitting a wall after working full time with no time off throughout the entire pandemic. I was sent home early from work today due to the sheer amount of stress that has finally taken a toll on my emotional well-being; I am so utterly exhausted from existing. I am too exhausted to even elaborate further but this video wad EXACTLY what I needed. It's so reassuring knowing someone I used to watch religiously throughout my adolescence (and to this day, clearly), dealing with the exact same human struggle as I am.
This is very accurate. As an artist, it's been a struggle to focus, and be motivated to create things. Also to add on top of that, there are now more expectations being put on future generations.
Not knowing what the future holds is both thrilling and terrifying. Sometimes that makes me feel trapped or pressured in what choices to make. I've been trying to, rather, channel that energy into gratitude for the present. Things are going to happen, times are going to change, and therefore I'll try to fully appreciate what is good about right now and be fully present
I watched a hindi tv show called little things and there is one scene that has stayed with me since. One of the leads is in a small village listening to local people tell stories of their lives and one older woman shares hers. She shares that she is about to turn seventy four and that this is such a big achievement for her because she has tried to take her life thrice. I remember watching that scene and feeling tears prick at my eyes because even at my tender age of almost twenty I understand that feeling. I was convinced for most of my early teens that I wouldn't live past eighteen and now I have and am. It's beautiful to feel grateful to feel and experience life, all the beauty, pain and general overwhelmingness. I hope to one day be turning seventy four and to be able to have that same reflection. I find that the gratitude of life is the best anchor in allll the many challenging times and I am grateful you shared it amidst your reflections :)
Thanks for the therapy session!
I cried today cause I have no idea what to do with my future and I feel so stressed but you're right. tomorrow might be better
the way ur videos always come when im going through shitty times and just when im feeling overwhelmed by something and u just happen to talk about it and its so refreshing and i love u so much thank u for these soft videos:(
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very relatable. life is intense and it's exhausting to be a sensitive person. especially when people just think you're being dramatic. honestly YES i love drama but when i complain about life i mean it!! YES i actually feel overwhelmed almost every day!!
It's true, we are voices in a choir. small by ourselves but powerful when together. We haven't all figured it out yet, and a lot of people are in the same boat. We may not have a clear direction in the beginning, but it could mean we are still developing. I wouldn't shortchange yourself though, Connor. You put yourself out there, and share your thoughts and heart with the world. I personally do not have the courage, and you are a bright, handsome, intelligent person that thinks for himself. You never know who's heart you will touch, so keep shining that light, keep exploring your own journey, and may the Lord bless you on your way :)
Tysm for your truth here Connor 🙏❤️
I haven’t watched your videos in a hot sec but this one I got notified then the time jumped to the next minute right after so that always tells me something’s important so I click on your video and wow so relevant and helpful for everyone watching 🥰
Bless you and to everyone reading this, we got this. It’s completely alright to have down days and give yourself breaks during this major hustle time we’re feeling. This rollercoaster called life is a ride and every lower point only means there’s another climb and a beautiful view point coming along shortly after!
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that philosophy quote 💯💯💯❗️
You're so true about college. I got my bachelor's and a job afterwards only to realize how miserable I was in that career and that I can't do it for the rest of my life. I ended up finding my passion later and went back to school, but the change was hard especially after people expecting me to stay with my old one
I broke up and it’s been weird trying to maintain being friends. We ended it in good terms…I shouldn’t force myself to talk, especially if the other isn’t as responsive. But it’s just so weird not talking to the person that was part of your daily life for a year. That’s my update and it’s just been ups and downs while maintaining a good college academic life 😅
You're oh so very relatable omg. Glad you don't wanna unalive king. We win these 💪
you just vocalised my feelings! thank you. I needed to articulate this, thanks you for helping do that.
The amount I needed to hear this without knowing I needed to hear it until after I heard it -- exponential. Thank you.
thank you for this video!!! i’m almost done with student teaching and i’m thinking about the overwhelmingness of the rest of my life and being young and fitting everything into young adulthood. thank you for putting this feeling into words
I have been feeling this title a lot lately
I've really rewired my brain during corony and I'm just grateful and give attention to the good things (acknowledge bad things, of course, but good things are my focus)
I feel it. Especially "we can´t do it all, can´t be it all, can´t know it all", bc u want to know and be and do it all, or, as much as possible. Ten years ago, I´m 28 now, turning 29 in june, and I didn´t know where I wanted my life to go. Been bouncing around. Only just recently decided between a few options. But it is still hard. I can see myself go this way, but also the other few ways and u just wish to do it all. As u say "Existing is exhausting" :O
these past few weeks have been tough with my thesis and wanting it to be the best since it’s my work but feeling the pressure of not wanting to fail makes me anxious every time 😭
I just bought/finished your book at a small bookstore and was reading some reviews when I saw someone say you’re from UA-cam and now .. I’m obsessed lmao this whole video is literally all that goes through my brain at all times. Also, wonderful book 💛
thank you for sharing these ideas with us love you con🥺
I remember watching your videos years ago, I’m just so glad I found you again!! Glad you are thriving and making content you love!
1. Acknowledge your current routine (even if it’s staring at your phone constantly) 2. Try to change one thing at a time, if you want to change anything at all. Routine is SO KEY to preventing burn out!! On bad days you just follow the routine. You don’t gotta make choices. You don’t gotta make an impact. You just gotta live one day at a time.
As someone who is gay, it took me what felt like forever to come comfortable with who I was and am. So Connor, I salute you for your amazing work and hope you're doing OK. Best of luck!
I read note to self years back and loved it. just tonight having kinda a panic attack on what should be one of my only days off (this week, like many, were just utterly painfully exhausting) and I just wanted to cry. As I cried I saw this on my recommended and at least it brings me a sliver of peace to know I'm not completely alone in feeling just... sad.
I am that 18(almost) year old trying to figure everything out and make sure I don't doom myself. Growing up is so scary. It's cliche but its true. Everything feels like so much and at the same time I'm learning more about all the terrible parts of life. But this video was a glimmer of something calm and nice. It's true, I may be experiencing some pretty rough things but at least I'm still here experiencing.
i love to come back here in this channel and it's always a calm slow paced video. I hit subscribe so much time ago, I saw a beautiful out of the closet video that inspired me to be myself unapolegetically, and it all felt right for me at the moment. And then I come back and see a full blossomed person and fresh content. I'm so happy to be here as well...
couldn’t have come at a better time, thank you for this.
glad i could help and or validate your feelings ❤️
I loved this so much. So comforting. I was laughing. And I realized if you started a podcast I would listen to that so hard.
Listen. I was that kid that went to college. Got my degree. Shit. I worked all the way up to where I have my Masters. Why? I wanted to be a teacher my whole life. Then. Almost a full school year in, and I realized I HATE it.
And guess what? Thats okay. I have debt. Like 40,000 in school loans. Thats okay. But what is not okay? Sticking with something just because you made a life changing decision at a ripe old age of 18 (when you sign up for school loans).
The lesson here guys is to learn how to pivet. If you have the opportunity to chase new dreams, go for it. Life is not meant to be spent working our ass off without any sort of happiness.
im a big procrastinator and just constantly pumped full of doubt and anxiety so whenever i actually manage to get some work done and can relax afterwards i always start thinking of more things i could be doing and most of the time relaxing just feels like i'm being lazy TT
i dont know but watching connor's videos just feel like hanging out with a life long friend
I keep me contained by reminding myself that 100 years from now, nobody is going to know or care about any decision I made today. I just try not to hurt anyone.
this video helped me tremendously thank u sm Connor. feeling seen, understood and also a bit more hopeful than before the video.
no worries angel
love how he contradicts himself freaking out about being told everything all the time and knowing whats going on in the world so easily then wanting people to have a voice and everyone to be heard, watching people get their stress out about life is always fun
I may/may not have said this before but Connor is my comfort person 💛
thank you connor for this!
i am living the busiest year ever basically.
and i feel the pressure.
so thanks for this.
happy to echo your thoughts and feelings
Hi Connor. You are correct. so much going on, the world spinning off its axis, I just turn everything off. I don't do news on the phone, I got rid of Twitter and FB, over a year ago now. I watch an hour of news a day, if even that. I go to bed after dinner to sink into a good book for a couple hours, or listen to a pod cast, then I sleep. Rinse and repeat. I have a house to run, people to visit on a weekly basis, friends to talk to when possible. (all my friends are parents now) I keep it very simple. The less I know the better. The only social participation is my IG. I cannot take in everything. Information overload !!
Thank you for this video Connor!! I've been so stressed out lately to point where for the first time in my life I can't sleep properly (which is a massive privilege to have been able to sleep easily for so long but this has been really stressing me out). But this video was like a breath of fresh air tbh so thank you
Pertaining to swimming, I’m a diver and y’all have so many more opportunities for medals than we do. You can be in so many events but diving has 2 maybe 3. All those hours def do play with my head. 6 out of 7 days of the weeks we practice, divers have 2 doubles w lifting and dry land, and swimmers have 5 doubles
Connor, i have to say this... i love, love, love your videos! They always make me feel calm and happy. You're amazing, no joke.
Tyty this video cheered me up and lifted a weight off my shoulders just hearing someone else talking about it. Existence is exhausting but its still pretty cool. I went to my first concert yesterday (it was cavetown) and had an amazing time. Meanwhile just a second ago I was watching UA-cam to cope with stress when I remembered you uploaded a video and I hadn't seen it. I decided to watch it and it helped clear my head a bit. Now I'm vibing again having a grand old time (mostly). So yeah its pretty cool.
your videos always come out and I'm like.... were you reading my journal from yesterday? I value your perspective and rumination of these types of things more than I can say. basically, you always end up saying exactly what I need to hear in that moment, so thank you
I've been your viewer for 6 years now and this video is why i love you
Going through a breakup right now and this video is the only thing maintaining my self restraint 🥺
I hope you are way better today
I have definitely had similar thoughts especially about social media… I have often feel like everyone else has figured out something that I don’t know about how to use it. How to be be yourself and also be a professional with social media l and also be someone who cares about justice but doesn’t feel capable of being aware or present to every situation… well recently I’ve been off all sm except for UA-cam, and it’s been liberating. It’s not possible or practical for everyone, but for me I have just so much more brain space to experience feelings about my real life and less about what strangers think about me; and even what’s going on in the world. I learn news through reading (avoiding sensationalized media), and talking with people in my life who are impacted by stuff (ie teacher strikes in MN). Everything is really… bearable for me right now.
Me seeing the title:
"Pressure... like a drip drip drip?"
Connor, I'm so glad you're back on this video and I miss you so much!!