Once You've Been Burned Enough, You'll Get It
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Im wealthy and good looking...I have had it easy with girls my whole life...Im older now divorced 2x and a whole list of relationships from beautiful girls that ended in the most crazy ways...now I just do my hobbies...The wreckage from all those women through the years has been insane...my parents were happy and married 50yrs.......I find that impossible today.
You care to explain? I’m good looking myself and have had it pretty easy. I feel you may be relatable for many. What’s the wreckage you speak of?
my parents been married for 70 years...you will be lucky to be married for 7 years today
The problem today is people over estimate the importance of sex. Once the physical attraction wears off and it will, people think that their marriage is over. When it's just normal that you end up like roommates.
I am also good looking and have pretty good Gane and I can attract women fairly easily but even I just find dating/relationships to just not be worth it anymore. I can only imagine how the average guy that struggles with attracting women feels
I wonder why this is? My Parents were married for 56 years until my mom passed. I see a lot of thier generation married for life: but all my friends married, divorced, having difficult times with women, my other buddy was thrown out of his own house via court order and had to get an apt...I mean what happened to people after 1980?
If a girl disrespect me once it is her fault . And if disrespect twice it is my fault
It's still her fault. You just didn't realize it the first time. 😂
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me
@@BREEZYM6015yep we’re in the information economy I been saying this for years. Back in the days it was fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Nah not today you get fooled once it’s on you now.
Or you could communicate your feelings by letting her know how she hurt you.
@@TechReviewTomdoesn’t work either in my experience
Nah
Female beauty doesn't impress me, anymore
Dime a dozen
She needs a brain & good heart
Learn to ignore beauty
“Beauty fades, dumb is forever”
Beauty has diminishing returns.
I like them dumb and good looking
That means You're either gay or your libido is destroyed.
But they're tricky though, man! Mine had me fooled for years & years.... And I'm pretty intelligent and intuitive, naturally. With most people, I pick up on it right away. But she got me man. Bad!
And now I'm in excruciating pain, which I feel like I should've been too smart for. Smart enough not to have fallen for it, or let it happen. And yet, here we are, over a decade + a half later.... And I'm broken. While she keeps skipping along down the street, like nothing really happened. Smfh
I just don't get it. I don't know how we're supposed to know, until it's too late?! 😔
Now I'm in pain, plus I'm ashamed of myself, for falling for it. I don't even know how to tell guys to be careful, atp. She seems/ comes across as the sweetest, kindest/ meekest person you'd ever wanna meet. Yet she's cold inside. Like the devil! So whadaya do??
I just don't know anymore. 🤷🏻♂️
Indifference is the secret sauce gents!
In this day and age even the most basic kindness is instantly seen as weakness. “NO” is powerful as hell for men who learn to use it.
True
Indeed..."no" can reveal toxicity most efficiently!
Yep - I finally stopped getting burned when I turned 37. I wish it didn't take so long.
Dating long term is so exhausting these days.. it's true, they will wear you down over the years.
Can you explain your experience
I agree. It's tiresome going through the whole rigmarole of dating.
They are ultimately boring. 😮
You have helped me out a lot man! I am 50 years old. I haven’t dated or had sex with a woman for over 10 years. I don’t watch porn or masturbate anymore either. I love women but I had to walk away from having intimate relationships with them. These last 10 plus years I have really focused on myself and I have gotten things together financially and emotionally. I’m not saying the door is permanently closed regarding women in the future but for now I’m still gonna fly solo.
@derekrupp- Haven't jacked off or sunk the sausage in 10 years???!!! Are you serious?! How have you dealt with blue balls then?? IMPOSSIBLE I SAY!!!!
You don't miss sex at all?
@@JasonISF Oh yes there are times I think man what am I doing?! But it’s usually just a moment of weakness that passes. I am also doing it to honor God. I made a promise to God that I wouldn’t have sex again unless I get married. I know this is probably pretty mind blowing to whoever is reading this but I have truly turned my life over to Jesus.
@@derekrupp7844Hallelujah
@@JasonISFSex with random wymin is gross. 🤮🤮🤮
I just found you and I’m a woman, immigrant. I was married and my husband passed on. Single mom with two boys . I love listening to you because I’m learning from a man’s perspective even if you center men. I learn things to teach my boys and me navigating dating.
I got burned bad in my early college years. I got so tired with life that I just took a break from politics and women for a bit.
Same, 6years later and I’m still on a break
It’s hard to escape politics these days
I have women in my family and I’ve been trying to get them to correct a fractured relationship and it reminds me just how different men and women are lol
@@Insight-music At one point you need to understand this is a break. You can try and hide from it forever but at one point you need to get out there again. Took like a 1-2 year break.
Ive been burned so many times i just feel like tapping out; feels like a losing game
It is
pick different women, it might be international for you.
Im almost 61. I joined the US Marines right after high school. Worked shit jobs to get myself through college. I got married, bought a home and had two kids. It was a good life sorta until my wife decided she wanted a divorce. Sold the home and I continued to work my high tech job. I saved my money and lived below my means but comfortably . I got laid off last month, working for a company for 25 years. I’m too young to retire and too “old” to continue working in high tech. All that I can think of is from that song “ I tried so hard and got so far….”
@steveos5112
Linkin park. He got molested
Go overseas!!! It's different! Don't go with a woman go by yourself or a good friend who doesn't bring a woman with him...
Your relationship with God comes first. Men must realize that women ultimately have the final choice in who they will partner with. A godly man will walk in the path of righteousness regardless of having a woman by his side or not. Do not forget that God loves you and is waiting for you to repent for your sins. Do not give in to worldly distractions. God bless you all
💯 👊🏼
Women have the final choice in who they partner with, men have the final say when speaking of starting a relationship/marriage.
Amen Jesus is Lord
can you please stop with this god shit under every video?
They didn’t, until now.
This is the best channel for men in UA-cam. It is mature, not profit driven, this man genuinely want to help men from bottom of his heart. You are good and smart man LFA.
And a good lesson for woman
Once I cared to much
Now I just don’t care.
To start off beta and mold yourself into an Alpha is a blessing, vice-versa is a curse. I've seen it play out so many time.
Yes sir I was raised with no father by women. Raised for women by woman. If it weren't for my grandfather who I now understand that I'm 39..... Idk where I would be. I understand why he was so hard stiff and stonewall. That's what I am now and the females don't understand it. I protect. But I was raised for females and made my life for me. Made myself an alpha.
@@Fireslanga1
You chose strength. You chose wisely.
Its called hormesis. Once you get bitten a handful of times you'll start to grow your own venom.
the full hormetic response
Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah- we adapt and grow from adversity- what doesn't kill us.... This is a concept in nutrition. The dose makes the poison. Like vaccines- a little bad stuff in the shot builds your immunity. Even Vit. D in large doses can kill you. Same with sun- even water and now apparently women!
If Tom Brady couldn’t keep a super model happy theres no chance for any man out there to keep a woman happy.
I’m pretty sure Tom Brady got exactly what he wanted.
Tom is a ftm invert a woman. The model is a mannnn
@@LFAwhat do you mean
@@LFA Yeah........... for a while......
Just because he's Tom Brady doesn't mean he's a great husband or good at picking the right woman.
Looks like this is another case of a catch-22 for those types of women:
1. She wants to wear down the alpha male in order dominate him and control him more, but then she loses respects and dumps him for someone else.
Or
2. She wants the alpha male to allow himself to be controlled but he refuses. She ends up bitter and miserable and will tell everyone that she dated a “narcissist”.
Seems like the only way to deal with those sorts of women is to not deal with them at all. They will be unhappy and dissatisfied no matter what; either the alpha male is too “controlling” and “narcissistic” or the beta male is not “ambitious enough” and is not “doing his part”. There’s no winning with corrupted women, stop trying to fix them. In trying to fix them you will become broken yourself. Let them go.
I can relate
This is it in a nutshell. Perfect and succinct.
Your absolutely right man
AWALT, they are. America culture society is a dump trash heap and produced like-minded wahmen. I miss my Golden retriever dogs more than I ever missed an EX GF, she was a s3x doll, not much more.
My sons great granma talks about her late husband, how was always positive and she would get so angry with him. Every evening even after a dispute he would put her hand in his and tell her "thanks for this day". At times she would ignore him and remain angry. She remorses those times and in her own words she was a "devil lady".
They were Christian and the society they grew up in marriage was a duty.
Men and women play games, understanding the duties of husband and wife is the traditional way.
And yes many men also did get worn down back in the day.
20 bucks should be a hummer, no questions asked.
The burn and the school of tears. All part of life and builds your character. I have been though the ringer but it's all good. I would not change a thing! Take it like a MAN! Life is GOOD. GOD is GOOD!
You sound like you haven't learned anything
@@andre1987eph You will not avoid hardships in life. Embrace it!
It's strange, isn't it? How your heart burns and burns and suddenly turns to ice?
Ice is too easy to melt, too weak. Better to turn your heart to stone. Stone, like a perfect jawline chiseled from a mountain, unbreakable. 😎
Yup, it's to the point I find it hard to believe I used to get butterflies in my stomach for women. An older man told me you can either understand women or Love women and never both MAN I think they were right
@@ishyameru6232damn the butterflies in the stomach…man. I haven’t felt that since the 9th grade. I caught on fast.
@@ModelJames13 Medusa agrees.
@@ishyameru6232 The more you understand women, the less you love them. That's why I keep things as casual as possible.
God > Man > Woman > Child. If you get that order mixed up you will suffer. It's not a theory it's a fact.
Big facts
Order for what
Wrong. Man > Child > Horse > Dog > Woman > Rat.
@@-lord1754 DONT QUESTION THE ORDER.
AMEN!
The First Half of this Video Starts off Black Pill but then he always brings a Powerful Message of Hope in the End. Very Unique way of Putting this Type of content
but still just another single guy,
Once you give women your power as a man, no words, back flips, and pick up artistry will make women respect you. At any cost, we can't sacrifice our self-respect and dignity. Never worth it brothers. A good principle to live by, "Do not give thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings." -Proverbs 31:3
A good example of this quote is when Samson lost his power because Delilah cut his hair. She charmed him into telling his secret to his power which is his hair. He became soft for her thus giving the Phillistines the opportunity to subdue him.
Also in Proverbs 5, it talks about the adulterous woman. About women who will destroy your life. We have to have discernment who are good and virtuous women or a Proverbs 31 woman and a woman with a jezebel spirit or the modern day female who will suck the life out of you. Getting close to God and Jesus Christ will help us protect ourselves from evil women. Stay strong brothers. We are living in evil times. And most importantly, pray for wisdom, strength, and protection. God bless
The Bible is very red pilled. I now see why they took it out of schools. To weaken men without this knowledge of women.
I had a girlfriend who threatened me with offing herself constantly. I stayed with her until I couldn’t do it anymore and just left. Ironically she’s still alive years later!
Had a guy tell this to me after I broke up with him and he tried to sabotage everything going on in my life. I told him you really should. It’s probably a narcissist borderline personality disorder.
I needed this now, I thought I had game to the point, but got burned again after years. I hope I learn and keep moving.
If you tolerate disrespect and continue to let people get their way and you don't have the courage to leave the situation, that's on you. You can take the damage and learn that people are AH sometimes. You'll learn eventually
What if it's "family"? LOL 🙂
@@dennisrobinson8008 You move out
@@DragonmasterSK yep. Right away.
I disagree. Sleeping around isn’t healthy under any circumstances. Also, if a man approaches a woman and she quickly devolves into mistreating and/ using him, he’s just met a narcissist. And men think women fall for bad men quickly, but nobody falls for a narcissistic woman as quickly as a good man. 🤷♀️ If men were to begin considering values and belief systems in their attraction scenarios, they’d walk away with better experiences. You cannot appease a narcissistic woman into a healthy relationship. Stop looking at just the external!
all women are narc
This is fucking facts. I lost my best bro of 20 years to a solid 8 he ended up completely changing his personality in our friendship to everything that she wanted him to be and he fell for it. Married her and bought a house with her. Not sure how their relationship is today and I don’t care.
Same here, once my friend got married he fell off the planet..
Yep I call it the rapture here one day gone the next just plucked off the face of the earth once married.
@@Wong-Jack-Man Same, to be honest if I seen him today I’d be silent wouldn’t say a word ignore him.. I understand once in a relationship it changes but don’t cut your friends off.. I reached out been left on read he never returned calls I’m done..
Dude you obviously you care or you wouldn't be sharing this story
@@stevo6891male friendship doesn’t exist
Your videos are so well liked because you're just a regular guy chatting with some bros, not some "coach" who's preaching at us.
You are like a big bro looking out for us
Thanks LFA, you seem like a decent person. Women dont give a shit about me, I feel like they will ruin my life anyway.
I stopped messing around with women when I realized I wasted about 5 years of my life… at the end they gonna be out there sleeping with other dudes and you just end up regretting all the time, money and energy you wasted.. that wasted time will never come back
Now they gonna arrive and try the classic shaming language: “Who hurt you?”
This goes for friendships as well, not just relationships.
I lost a close friend once he got married never heard from him again.. He ignored my texts and calls so I’m done.. I understand it’s different once you find someone but to be tied down constantly up your wife’s ass come on grow a pair.. I told my Ex I love my hobbies and friends so if that’s a problem we can go our separate ways..
Friendship is a relationship. Lol but I get yah
One of my coworker asked me nicely with the beautiful smile let me bring her coffe from machinery wich was on the other side of facility. She is pretty nice and attractive. And I said NO! I was quite proud of my self . :))) 🙂🙃
You knew what was up! Blocked that pretty privilege. Good shit 🙋♂️
What causes a man to get into this situation? A feeling of lack. Lack of love.
We're all gonna make it brahs
👍
Zyzz.🪽
My estranged wife always wanted to dominate me. I would compromise for fairness, but finally went our separate ways. I have seen a number of friends become as deep blue as a saphire. Single lifestyle has its drawbacks, but I make my own decisions.
Just learn quickly to
ignore them.
Easier said than done.
LFA is on point Fellas. Don't Snooze or get too Comfortable
I thing im going to stay alone for the rest of my life with those modern girls today ...crazy
It ain't just the young ones they learned that from the older ones. I'm 56 and it was the same back when I was in school.
The biggest factor is knowing what you're up against and being able to see it coming.
Brother if something is missing from your life i pray you find it and keep on thriving. And if your arent. I pray that you do.
Yup !!! That’s why I stick to myself anymore ! No sense in wasting time on woman isn’t worth the headache or the money everything to expensive now anyways ! If you find something you enjoy you’ll keep busy & stay focused instead of wasting time with woman ! Woman aren’t loyal anyways guys it’s just a game to them! Men want loyalty respect woman wanna play games
I agree, nothing but let downs I got.. Now I ignore them and focus on my hobbies
@@stevo6891 amen to that ! 100 %
Absolutely true
Agreed
@@danielnichols5632 SAD truth
Men really need to stick together more
Thanks for this . For the last 9 months I’ve been obsessed with a girl from work who turns out is not special and just loves the attention. Nearly broke me but now I’ve finally realised I can move on . Very relatable video - new subscriber 💪
Old saying about romance at work.
Don't shit where you eat!
Thanks! I needed to hear it this day.
Thank you for the video LFA ❤
Congratulations on surpassing 100k subs you deserve it Blake. Glad to be here brother.
Thinking with your little head is a dangerous way to live. Rarely benefits anyone in the long run no matter who you are.
Its rough being a man today this video was based.
LFA be speaking facts! Keep the content coming!
You give real, meaningful content in a world that has lost its mind. The average man can learn so much with this channel and how men ought to behave in society. Put you first be healthy, body and mind and don’t let any beautiful little tart take away who you truly are and ought to be as a man. Thanks
Great video man. Thank you.
I’m 25 and I watch your content since high school. Thank you LFA
Thanks brother.
Thanks for the beast content 🙏
I appreciate you for still doing this man. You are impacting more lives than you know. Love from Ghana ❤
LFA, the bigbrother we all need
Real talk. Keep it up
LFA is spitting FACTS!
Great video, man. Well said.
Shout out LFA!!
Watching brother
extremely good video!!! thanks
Great talk
The balls on that girl to roll up and ask for 20 bucks LOL.. You sure it's not his daughter 😂
Another good one LFA. Educating young men one video at a time.
Spot on man you are so right
You speak for many men out there.Thank you!
$2000 for a phone call- Richard Cooper, entrepreneurs in cars
He claims he does things in life with "Integrity".....Yeah...
I like Richard and think he gives pretty good advice most of the time. That said, charging that much for a phone call is absurd. Who or what type of guy is calling him and what secret sage advice is Richard giving him? There’s another red pill guy that charges thousands for his ‘courses’ too. I can’t imagine the guys paying for this shit
His videos on "business" got about 5000 views, he knows nothing about business 😂 He's a debt collector, no-one successful would ask Rich Cooper for his advice.
I use to watch him I don't anymore.
@@brianmeen2158
He is one of the many RedPill con men out there.
He has good points sure, but I bet most his stories he makes up to back up his RP thoughts are purely BS.
He's good at telling things that people in RP want to hear.
Don't be a Paul: My cousin Paul, for the past 40 years has been giving this girl his money, his time, his vehicle. while she screwing around with other guy's, treats him (Paul) like garbage and doesn't even give him a peck on the cheek. Now, Paul is 65 years old in a retirement home with a diaper and she's still hanging on to him for his insurance money. DON"T BE A PAUL.
Sad part about this is his dad was one of the biggest real state moguls in town. Most people don't believe me when I talk about it, but it's true.
65 and in a retirement home?
@@wholefoodplantbasedmama5398 ya he's finished because he put all his time money work into one girl.
@@GodLovesBachelors Good grief! I am 60 and full of life and enjoying my life too. I could not imagine being in a nursing home in five years!
So sad!
@@wholefoodplantbasedmama5398 What's really sad is that 35% of guy's out there are like him, they just don't get it. Paul's dad was a million air, his dad was a real state mogul. Paul was the little rich kid who could never get a girl friend and that's the best he could do. It's hard to believe but it's true.
This is straight facts. I recently split from a 5 year relationship. I found over time my ex got more dominant and disrespectful. I got more and more lost, over weight, turned to gambling and alcohol and then she cheated on me and left. Now 5 months later, I'm smashing the gym, lost 12kgs, feeling and looking a million times better and back to who I really am. I've been burned and I get it.
what do you get? what will you do differently next time?
It happened because women have an artificially created advantage in the romantic relationship market in the West, at the cost of depopulation and replacement theory being a reality. Your relationship with her took place in the context of that environment where no man wins. If your relationship occurred in Russia or Phillipines, the natural relationship between men and women would exist.
Do you fast everyday?
Or eat less ?
12:00 Patrice O'neal summed it up perfectly with his fisherman logic. Saw it first hand, this chick turned a bad thug, a bad man, turned him into a little punching bag. Her punching bag.
Good video! I learned this lesson for me now it just isn't about one woman anymore.
Straight facts
Yeah best way to learn
Like you said women will punish emotionally unstable men
You are right, man
Looking big brother.
That last minute of the video💯 😂
Speaking the fact bro
Idol master. I always learn a lot from you. I hope you make an hours of video so we can make it an audibook
I feel the same. I seem to attract mostly narcissistic men from a mile away and now I'm single and peaceful because I don't want the drama. Refreshing to hear some men are going through the same. I feel for you all. Eventually, something has to give where good people can find peace in this world
If you get burned enough you'll be labelled as insecure
I've had women approach me asking for money. All I have to do is ask "What's in it for me?"... surprisingly I've not been slapped for it, but they go away. I don't owe them nothing.
Having sex ist one of the greatest feelings for every human being, for women and for men. So, why do only women make such a big deal and drama out of it?
Ha...it's the opposite..I find..for woman it means nothing...for men we are looking for loyalty....but sex is all that's left..well whatever..will be ..will be🎉
Older lady here. I think the biggest difference between men and women with sex is women need and want some emotional connection not just physical.
@@IbMomba 100 💯 opposite...we're seeing woman unable to commit..empty vessels..no soul..no heart..not all ...but
98 percent
Excellent real hardcore raw dog 🐕 truth.
I learned it the hard way once now Iv not cared seats 2004 so been single seats and enjoying every minute of it
there is a difference between being blatantly disrespectful and just being playful and jabbing/joking with each other...
Great videos. Can you make one just explaining more what a fling means to a man and a woman?
Cool video, love your newer style of content over the past year. I will expose myself, for the sake of helping young men reading this. Im in my late 30s like LFA, have had it easier than most men as a good looking guy objectively. I personally have been every type of male to a female. Ultimately the most success I have had with modern day women is when I ignored them and acted like they don't matter or treat them like an after thought. They try harder to get your attention.
I also personally allowed myself to be made fun of by females at the office. Basically to lower my ego and sense of self worth. Truth is, I just struggle defending myself against women in the workplace. Yet, when I'm facing other men I'm able to assert my dominance and generally have them submit or concede to me. It's mental block within myself. I sometimes wonder if it's how I grew up as a kid. Watching a violent father abuse my mother on a weekly basis, and somehow they are still together. I never wanted to be that type of man. Watching my mom cry daily I'm sure did something to me.
You’re looking jacked up today brother
I trust only in God.
People have betrayed me one time too many.
🔥
this seems very relevant to yesterdays zoom meeting LMAO
Drunk on her charms until he sobers up dashed to pieces, often never to recover! So goes the foolish man..
Dam u always speak truth ur such a Chad
Ben Affleck is spitting some truth.
Thanks for the reminder. To be honest, I have weakened a little. 😂