I sometimes wonder why I don't feel the sting of favoritism. My mother had me at 15. She was a baby herself. So my grandparents decided to take me and let her build her life. She wouldn't have another child for 15 years. I think everyone assumed I would have problems with my baby sister. I would end up spoiling her more than my mom did . I've even had ex girlfriends assume I must hate my mom. I dont because she feels more like my older sister than my mom . My grandmother feels like my mom and what a mom she was. No salt at my actual mom but I couldn't have asked for more loving parents than my grandparents
This is exactly why if you come from a family with some toxic members. It is best to disengage and walk away. You cannot reason with crazy, entitled people. Trust me, follow that voice that has been telling you to get the blank away from them since you were a kid. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
@@Mikenas213 the parent is themselves high-conflict, impulsive and immature or they find purpose in being constantly needed to patch over someone's issues. Either way, it's a giant red flag for some deep-seated issues.
@@powderandpaint14that's not true, one of my 4 nieces is 17 now, and has been an angel. The other 3? Not so much 😂 but it's definitely possible to not be a difficult child. My father tells everyone I was a breeze to raise. My brother and sister? Not so much lol My 3rd sister is somewhere in thr middle
My heart is very heavy whenever I listen to conflicts within families, and this sort of unthinkable actions against a mother is just beyond shattering. At some point in my life, I realized that I’m extremely naive; I really didn’t have any idea that narcissism, sense of entitlement, disrespect, lack of empathy, irresponsibility, greed, etc. are so common in people… it’s so sad for Pamela and Helen😪
How could Helen not call the police for an hour and a half?? Or get out of the house? What happened to Megan's daughter? She was in the house too? After her mom killed her grandma?? Its unbelievable!
Question #1: Fear and extreme anxiety. Some people's first instinct is to call a loved one, not the police, in extreme circumstances. I was wondering about the status of the 8 year old daughter the whole time too. That had to be extremely traumatic.
Probably because she had a gun on her and she couldn’t. Carlos told her to get out of the house and she said, no. She said that she stayed because of the niece. So maybe she wanted to get to the niece and take the niece out of the house but Megan was talking with her and holding a gun on her. Or, sometimes those narcissistic family dynamics makes them feel like protecting their own. Maybe she figured to get the niece out and let Megan have a running start. You never know. Just a thought.
@@mikebrown5191 Oh let's see it's probably the 5 million YT crime vids, (alot made by doctors of psych), 2 million TV shows, that prove it. But if you need 8 million psych papers beyond that, feel free. Narcissim is a touchy subject I understand for those who lean that way, don't understand its many forms & shades, or never experienced the abuse from it😉
Zena - I so much agree with you self-centeredness and lack of empathy are almost always present in murderers! How can they feel it is their right to end another person's life?
@@bthomson Hi friend.😊 Thanks. Exactly. Lack of empathy is narcissistic. We can call it sociopathic or other things but they all fall under that umbrella. How can anyone justify a murder unless 100% self defense (they rarely are). The entitled, rude, sarcastic, uncaring in our society are all too prevalent unfortunately. Hope you have a great wknd!! 💖💛🌵🍁🌻🍨🌜⭐
Maybe the mother did help out Megan when she was younger. She was still helping her out by allowing her and the granddaughter to live in her home. I find it odd that Megan only had $30 to her name when her husband was employed and she had no household expenses. I don’t understand how she thought she was going to get away with using her mother’s financial info to buy a house. It’s not like her mom wouldn’t find out and wouldn’t her own husband question it as well?
Agree. The mother most likely helped out Megan over and over again. That is what usually happens with people that feel entitled, that have mental issues. The mother then had Megan and her granddaughter move in, where the child could get the support (food, clothing, shelter, etc.) she needed. She was supporting them both, and obviously did not realize the lengths Megan would go to to get what she wanted. Megan likely would not accept a "no" from her mother. Helen, being the baby of the family, likely was an empath and felt responsible for her niece too. Plus we have no idea what Megan said to Helen, to make her hesitate. TG Helen did call someone, otherwise this may have turned out even worse.
The good Doctor's humor is absolutely priceless! There's always a clever line that makes me burst out laughing, which is an added bonus since the topics are interesting in and of themselves.
Favoritism is real, but if you grow up even non well-adjusted, no excuse to kill your parents or your siblings! My Dad didn’t like me by the time I was thirteen! All my siblings inherited, but not me!
@Kimberly Hackney no matter what kind of person you were, inheritage should include all members of the family!! .I am sorry for what you have been gone through.
I hear ya. I’m the targeted one in my family. My sister does terrible things while I fight everyday to prove I’m worth, even to myself now. I’ll never be liked as much and I’m learning to separate myself from that thinking. I’m sry you went through that. And no. Of course there’s never ever a reason to kill someone outside of self defense, but inside, I get why it happens. I figure most of the time, escape from the hurt starts, then ways to end the trauma. I think it probably turns into a fantasy for ppl. At that point, all it takes is a trigger or a moment of dissociation. It would be helpful to everyone if we could get ppl help before it’s too late. A LOT less ppl would be dead around the world due to mental illnesses and emotional trauma. Ah well. Here’s hoping one day that society decides to put more emphases on ppls emotional state.
That is awful!! parents shouldn’t never show favoritism ever. One of my children is more responsible than the other but they will get 50-50 of anything I own and while I’m alive it is always 50-50. Favoritism is a sin and it destroys families.
Same here. I'll bet you stand out in some way above your siblings. And no need for us to take revenge; later in life Karma steps in. Just live your best life and watch 😀
She is vulnerable rt now & users will see this & try to take advantage of her by telling her everything she needs to hear. Hope she has someone who really has her best interests for her well being💜🙏💜
Good morning Dr Grande. What a selfish, greedy and all round entitled woman. I'm so pleased the police finally got it right, this enabled liar should spend time in prison. My sympathy goes too the rest of the family and loved ones. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis. Tragic outcome and informative topic.
I like pickup trucks, but my friend who has one told me not to get one, because: "Friends & family constantly ask you to help them move, or pick up a new piece of furniture, etc."
Favoritism sucks. Being rejected by your mother sucks. That type of toxic family dynamic can really do deep and long lasting damage. I would know, sadly... But that's not an excuse for murder. The mother's money was hers to do what she wanted with, period full stop. If your mom/family sucks, the correct course of action is to accept the reality of the situation. Grieve the loss of the family you should have had, and maybe get some therapy to help you with that grief. You can put up some boundaries with your family, or you might even want to go completely no contact with them. But you don't steal money from them, and you sure as hell don't kill them! Honestly, I suspect there may have been valid reasons for Pamela to treat Megan differently. Check out her picture at 3:42 ...that is not the face of a healthy person. That is the face of someone who is either on hard drugs and/or has serious mental health issues. That face, combined with the huge sense of entitlement that needed to be there in order for her to steal hundreds of thousands of dollars, makes me think Dr. Grande's analysis is spot on.
I owned a moving company and did a lot of direct help with womens' shelters. One customer that became a friend for years was a long time heroin addict and said simply: "Addicts are SELFISH people first".
@@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki That is sadly so true. Addicts are selfish people first. Their addiction will eventually take priority over everything and everyone in their lives.
There was a comment about how giving all 3 sisters half a million would have avoided all this. That person should read up on the case of Nathan Carman who murdered his grandfather for a half million inheritance, squandered that in no time then murdered his mother to collect the remaining 7 million (rather than just work for a living, obviously). Some people are just lazy, greedy, etc.
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It’s odd the sister didn’t call the cops, like super odd. I wonder where the grand daughter was during this time. I hope she is ok and manages to deal with all this. Jealousy is such a strong and damaging emotion. My son is with a girl whose mum bought her sister a house and left her homeless. I think I better keep an eye on the situation. 😮
@@anniegaffney8378 her son's girlfriend. I've seen that, too: the "independent one" gets nothing, the clingy one gets taken care of even into adulthood. It's a conditioning process of some kind.
I don't think it is odd at all. Hellen probably though there was 0% chance she was going to make it out alive and that a call to the police would only give her less time to live.
The trial concluded with the jury's recommendation that Megan Hargan must serve life in prison for both murders. Her sentence hearing is slated for October 28 this year.
I can only imagine what it must be like in a family where there IS an obvious favorite. How sad for her, and for the fact SHE was dependent upon her Mother, who may have held Helen as a favorite. I am so sorry for the family remaining behind.
When a parent shows favoritism, that parent is not innocent! The assault that behavior inflicts on a child’s psyche is real emotional abuse!! And to think that abuse is carried out on a child his/her whole life with that parent, it is unbelievable there isn’t more murders! Not all children are strong enough to bear it! 😠
It’s just heartbreaking to see the callousness of Meghan with her own mother and sister. Many families have issues and I think it takes a great deal of generosity and humility to let go of past hurts, but finishing her immediate family in this cold manner is absolutely incomprehensible. Thank you for the analysis, Dr. Grande! Happy Friday and I hope you have a lovely weekend ahead.❤
I can only magine the heartbreak for the other sister, Ashley, who wasn't there that day. She lost her mother and both sisters through this heinous murder.
Scary. I come from a extremely dysfunctional family. I am the scapegoat and I live thousands of miles away from the rest of my family. My mother has used triangulation so everyone is at odds with one another. I have one normal sister, and two dangerous sisters. Their specialty is lying about people usually men and charging them. I fear this type of thing is more common than we realize in that they get away with hurting others.
A few things: Why was Megan so bad off with a husband in the military? Why was she not living in base housing? Why didn’t Helen’s boyfriend call the cops after the first phone call when she said that her mom was dead? Helen had access to a phone why didn’t she call the police or leave? If she had her phone I doubt she was being held at gunpoint. Such an odd case for sure
I love the add with the shot of all your shirts in the background. As always, another brilliant analysis and a great Friday night spent bingeing your videos!
She might have been afraid for herself and her niece, and she called the person she trusted the most - her boyfriend. It turns out there truly was much to fear.
@@darcymoon2109 Some folks REQUIRE speeding tickets to give them incentive to drive SAFELY and OBEY the LAW. Some don't. "Harassing teens"? What the hell are you talking about?!? Never mind. I don't care.
Thank you, Nick Z, for your service. Law enforcement has to be one of the hardest jobs on earth and you don't get the respect, the pay, or the appreciation you deserve.
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I love your videos, Dr. Grande! How do we know that Pamela did not give Megan a house when she was just starting out in her 20s? Megan may have received the same "gift" that Helen received, but may have squandered all that she received. It is likely, however, that Pamela was not yet financially able to give such an expensive gift to her older daughters, 20 years ago.
I think she did help out the oldest daughter that murdered her. That daughter to me looks like she's on drugs. That might be the real reason she did what she did. To get money for her habit. Not for a house. She lived back and forth with the mom and her own husband, she didn't need a house. I think the mom figured she'd somehow squander the money on drugs or whatever. That's why she didn't want to help her out anymore.
@@TheBOG3 that makes zero sense. The facts show she was attempting to purchase a home with her mother's money ...pretty sure if drugs were involved, they would have been brought up. Lol
@@kdaze10 Her family knows about the drugs and escorting she was involved in. It was brought up in the video about the escorting and how her mom was threatening to have her daughter taken away. I don't know why they didn't bring up anything about her drug use though.
I am a long time listener, first time commenting. One day I would love to hear Dr Grande talk about exculpatory and inculpatory evidence by saying something like, “ really, do I need to list the reasons why I think he/she is guilty!? “ and then add some sarcasm to top it off!! Keep sharing Doc!
It looks like Megan also had a problem with the sister’s boyfriend getting to live in the free house. Maybe her being married (and sis not) also contributed to the sense of entitlement, along with her having a child and Helen didn’t.
“Greater love has no one than this - that they lay down their life for another”. Helen truly gave her life because she feared for her niece. Megan not only destroyed her life but that of her young daughter.
Enjoyed the video Dr. Grande. I believe playing favoritism in families is sometimes common. Unfortunately nothing good comes from favoritism. Take a look at Josh Duggar.
Sometimes the situation is complicated ie parents have spent a lot on said child over the years and were tired and they are giving the other child same opportunities. An example is one child went to college and always been on straight path with no issues vs you have bailed out another child numerous times and paid off a lot of debt etc. So it's not that they are playing favoritism it is that one child has squandered their opportunities. If I have bailed you out to the tune of 400k and decide to buy a house for other daughter it shouldn't be an issue.
@@serenity1255 yes, this is an excellent comment, but I still feel guilty that I bought one child a house and not the other two. It didn't work out, of course, and I took a big loss when I sold it.
I just came across your channel and I'm glad I did. I place my phone next to my pillow and listen. Thank you. 🙏🏾 Your new fan and subscriber from Penang Island, Malaysia. On the other side of the world.
"Please blame me?" Who in their right mind would say something like that when being interrogated. This sounds like a grandiose, disconnected personality ... on a lot of creepy levels.
Hi Dr. Grande. Sounds like another, I agree, case of selfish entitlement. Psychotic & Narcissistic people have no empathy or integrity. I hope you see this comment because I usually don't get a reply except for someone saying to post it to another ? Peace, Love, Janine Smiley✌👍☕🍩☕🥧☕🍰🦓🦄💎💍⌚🛁🛋
The lesson here is to not spoil one child and leave the other out, resentment builds up and people snap. It really does cause catastrophic damage to a kids emotional development when they grow up in the shadow of their sibling(s).
Dr. Grande, could you please consider covering the case of Junko Furuta? I'd be very interested to hear your analysis of the crime, as well as your theories as to the mental status of the four men (and countless friends of theirs) who took part in what I, and many others, consider to be one of the most horrific crimes ever committed against an individual. Junko Furuta was a 17 year old Japanese woman who was randomly abducted, held captive, and brutally tortured for 44 days before ultimately succumbing to the countless injuries her tormentors inflicted upon her. It still seems like a lesser known case outside of Japan, and I'd really like to see it get more exposure
Do just one really great feels good story. Like "they married and died of old age together all their kids love them and are successful". You know no pesky murder part
I think that would be a great start to the kind of story where someone makes a chilling death bed confession. Then you find out about the pesky murder!
Greed, jealousy, and self-entitlement. What an all-around waste of life. I can see why mom didn't buy her a house. She wasn't doing anything to improve her life.
Please offer an insight to the idiocracy of the Darrell Brooks trial. I keep losing brain cells but can't seem to turn away. I would love to hear your thoughts on entitled narcissists refusal or inability to accept blame.
It's his "defense" strategy: Act a fool until the judge throws him out of the courtroom, then when they inevitably find him guilty he can later attempt to overturn it because the judge dismissed him AND his lawyer (since he's acting in his own defense). I've seen it before & it's pathetic.
You should do a video on Darrell Brooks.. People are saying he's a psychopath some are saying he's a sociopath.. It would be a good teaching tool to teach the differences.. Just an idea for a future video.
Oops I saw you did a video on DB about a year ago.. But now, with the ongoing case and him defending himself. We know who the real DB is. So it probably would be a good revisit
My parents were not rich so if I wanted a house I had to earn every dollar myself. At 70, I'm living in a condo, still working to afford a detached home.
Dr Grande, I’d like to hear your take on of the story of Ronald Clark O’ Bryan ,”The Candy man killer” that poisoned his son on Halloween night 1974 for insurance money..
I don't understand why Helen didn't call 911. I realize she said it was because of her 7 year old niece. I still don't get why people murder someone they live with because they're going to be questioned. I don't understand murder in the first place. Great one Dr. G.💜
Please can you film an update on the Waukesha driver? He is on trial now representing himself and absolutely bonkers... Would be so interesting to hear your take on it.
Yes PLEASE! This man is so ANNOYING and I feel that his current antics are designed to damage the victims more. IF he has enough intellect to come up with any sort of "plan". It feels like so much energy is being "given" to this man, who has already (not, allegedly), killed a number of people and injured more.
Wow, what a story. I hope Ashley was able to deal with this double murder and destruction of her family. Does wealth diminish the value of human life??
Why was the rifle in the house if this was a spontaneous murder, Dr Grande? Also, I think you have omitted a pertinent fact in Megan's apparent substance abuse issues.
@@eadweard. No, it was her husband's and this was not her family home. She claimed she brought it there because of some strange people hanging around but nobody else saw these men.
Why was Megan driving back, and forth from West Virginia to Virginia? I noticed she did the same thing when living in New Mexico, driving to Texas often.
It’s not favouritism. Wise parents understand that it’s only worth helping adult children financially with things that already have positive momentum as in in put from an adult with their head screwed on and the ability to benefit from the opportunity. Money is just a tool and if someone is a hot mess then letting them waste financial opportunities only adds to their self loathing.
Can’t believe that she immediately after murdering Mum ran to the computer to get her money! Sucks to feel unfavourably treated by a parent but her life wasn’t exactly intolerable. She had a husband, a daughter, probably a home, and she was welcome to stay with mum. She doesn’t look 100% well, wonder if substance abuse was involved. That could also explain why mother didn’t give her any money.
Hello Dr. Grande thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. Could you pls kindly analyse also Matias De Stephano's case?! He's turning in to a big International new age prohet like icon!
I was always the favorite and still to a degree kind of am on a side of my family and I understand the resentment but not enough that I think one of my siblings would kill me.
I am the oldest of three brothers. My youngest brother had my parents hearts. My middle brother had a big problem with that into adulthood. I am grateful that I had wonderful and loving parents, even if I was not the favorite. Now if my parents had built that little shit a house...
I’ve e become a fan of your objective and studied analysis style that occasionally looks at celebs. Here’s an idea for probably a series of videos. The Beatles movie “Get Back” shows very interesting insights into creativity and group dynamics. Would love your opinion about each of the Beatles personalities and perhaps some of the extended families such as Yoko, Linda Eastman, etc. thanks!
A huge number of parents don't realize the importance of treating all their kids equally. This include emotional and financial equity. If a child minutely felt he isn't being treated as his brothers or sisters, we can say that the parents just created their own hell. Consequences will appear years later and the parents will not be able to understand the hard situation because humans forget all the time. No one can live with injustice, especially from parents.!!!
I think the misery was handled really even handed. I left at ,17 and my little sis married at 16. My mother kept telling lies to people about how evil we were until she realized nobody believed her. At 53 she checked in to a mental health facility and never came out. Bet she drove the staff to find other careers to follow.
@@IMWeira well Bonnie, this is how god's laws work. If you made injustice to whomever might be, eventually you will get punished in a certain way!!. It might come late but it will come. What goes around, comes around.!!
@@elisabeth400 I don't agree Monika. Psychopaths are made by bad parenting methods. If you ask a simple question it will become clear as crystal. Why Megan and not Helen became psychopath??. They have the same mom!!. All babies born with innocent souls till they go through life situations which might include some injustices that will eventually influence them to perceive the world as a dangerous place.!!!
Life isn't fair. Everyone needs to get off of their victim pity party, grow up & get a life! There's a narcissist epidemic out there because people refuse to be accountable. This is a hotbed for tyranny. Buckle up, Brandon!
WOW, As I am writing this, March 2024, for the price she paid for her house you would get you a tiny two bedroom old house in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.
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I sometimes wonder why I don't feel the sting of favoritism. My mother had me at 15. She was a baby herself. So my grandparents decided to take me and let her build her life. She wouldn't have another child for 15 years. I think everyone assumed I would have problems with my baby sister. I would end up spoiling her more than my mom did . I've even had ex girlfriends assume I must hate my mom. I dont because she feels more like my older sister than my mom . My grandmother feels like my mom and what a mom she was. No salt at my actual mom but I couldn't have asked for more loving parents than my grandparents
I'm glad all the people involved in making the decision for your long term care had your best interests at heart, including your young mother.
That was very sweet to read. Safe to say, your grandparents did a great job raising you.
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This is exactly why if you come from a family with some toxic members. It is best to disengage and walk away. You cannot reason with crazy, entitled people. Trust me, follow that voice that has been telling you to get the blank away from them since you were a kid. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Amen. I keep in touch just enough to not be detected as a detached member. I call it “small dose” theory
@@2legit2Kwit Smart. Fly under the radar and not be detected. Lol thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Done and done. Happier and happier.
They resort to narcissistic abuse.
I did this, walked away felt sad at the time, happy now 😊
I was the difficult child, but one thing my parents did right: I never felt like they showed favoritism to either one of us.
All kids are difficult in one way or another! I think we should start acknowledging that.
So what does it mean if your parents show favoritism toward the difficult child?
@@Mikenas213 the parent is themselves high-conflict, impulsive and immature or they find purpose in being constantly needed to patch over someone's issues.
Either way, it's a giant red flag for some deep-seated issues.
@@powderandpaint14that's not true, one of my 4 nieces is 17 now, and has been an angel. The other 3? Not so much 😂 but it's definitely possible to not be a difficult child. My father tells everyone I was a breeze to raise. My brother and sister? Not so much lol My 3rd sister is somewhere in thr middle
@@NeeNee_B.- True. One my sisters didn't create any problems for our parents. She had minor asthma, but of course that wasn't her fault.
My heart is very heavy whenever I listen to conflicts within families, and this sort of unthinkable actions against a mother is just beyond shattering. At some point in my life, I realized that I’m extremely naive; I really didn’t have any idea that narcissism, sense of entitlement, disrespect, lack of empathy, irresponsibility, greed, etc. are so common in people… it’s so sad for Pamela and Helen😪
Sadly, I've come to live by this mantra: trust no one, and never be disappointed.
Missy, well you are no longer naive.... you've been enlightened. Good for you.
When you grew up with toxic narcissistic or borderline parent , you tend to be naïve like that.
Consider yourself blessed, as it means you don't have such people in your life.
@@pinktights747 There's nothing good about "losing naivety". And it's not naivety, it's healthiness.
How could Helen not call the police for an hour and a half?? Or get out of the house? What happened to Megan's daughter? She was in the house too? After her mom killed her grandma?? Its unbelievable!
Question #1: Fear and extreme anxiety. Some people's first instinct is to call a loved one, not the police, in extreme circumstances.
I was wondering about the status of the 8 year old daughter the whole time too. That had to be extremely traumatic.
@@sandangels73 not calling the police immediately was in this case fatal
@@joedennehy386 I know, but I was explaining why sometimes people don't.
Probably because she had a gun on her and she couldn’t. Carlos told her to get out of the house and she said, no. She said that she stayed because of the niece. So maybe she wanted to get to the niece and take the niece out of the house but Megan was talking with her and holding a gun on her.
Or, sometimes those narcissistic family dynamics makes them feel like protecting their own. Maybe she figured to get the niece out and let Megan have a running start. You never know. Just a thought.
@@bonnielee316 I'm confused by the last paragraph. What do you mean?
Hard to fathom how people can kill each other, but entitlement/narcissism plays a role in most murders. Great points as always. Thanks Dr G😊💜🤍
Is there any peer reviewed research linking narcissism to most murders? My psych and criminology professors must have skipped that chapter. 😂
@@mikebrown5191 Oh let's see it's probably the 5 million YT crime vids, (alot made by doctors of psych), 2 million TV shows, that prove it. But if you need 8 million psych papers beyond that, feel free. Narcissim is a touchy subject I understand for those who lean that way, don't understand its many forms & shades, or never experienced the abuse from it😉
Zena - I so much agree with you self-centeredness and lack of empathy are almost always present in murderers! How can they feel it is their right to end another person's life?
@@bthomson Hi friend.😊 Thanks. Exactly. Lack of empathy is narcissistic. We can call it sociopathic or other things but they all fall under that umbrella. How can anyone justify a murder unless 100% self defense (they rarely are). The entitled, rude, sarcastic, uncaring in our society are all too prevalent unfortunately. Hope you have a great wknd!! 💖💛🌵🍁🌻🍨🌜⭐
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Maybe the mother did help out Megan when she was younger. She was still helping her out by allowing her and the granddaughter to live in her home. I find it odd that Megan only had $30 to her name when her husband was employed and she had no household expenses. I don’t understand how she thought she was going to get away with using her mother’s financial info to buy a house. It’s not like her mom wouldn’t find out and wouldn’t her own husband question it as well?
Agree. The mother most likely helped out Megan over and over again. That is what usually happens with people that feel entitled, that have mental issues. The mother then had Megan and her granddaughter move in, where the child could get the support (food, clothing, shelter, etc.) she needed. She was supporting them both, and obviously did not realize the lengths Megan would go to to get what she wanted. Megan likely would not accept a "no" from her mother. Helen, being the baby of the family, likely was an empath and felt responsible for her niece too. Plus we have no idea what Megan said to Helen, to make her hesitate. TG Helen did call someone, otherwise this may have turned out even worse.
The good Doctor's humor is absolutely priceless! There's always a clever line that makes me burst out laughing, which is an added bonus since the topics are interesting in and of themselves.
His dry wit is priceless!
The topics are interesting? They are rather tragic!
Don't encourage him. People are dead.
Favoritism is real, but if you grow up even non well-adjusted, no excuse to kill your parents or your siblings! My Dad didn’t like me by the time I was thirteen! All my siblings inherited, but not me!
Were you a bad kid?
Just kidding lol thats fcked up.
@Kimberly Hackney no matter what kind of person you were, inheritage should include all members of the family!! .I am sorry for what you have been gone through.
I hear ya. I’m the targeted one in my family. My sister does terrible things while I fight everyday to prove I’m worth, even to myself now. I’ll never be liked as much and I’m learning to separate myself from that thinking. I’m sry you went through that. And no. Of course there’s never ever a reason to kill someone outside of self defense, but inside, I get why it happens. I figure most of the time, escape from the hurt starts, then ways to end the trauma. I think it probably turns into a fantasy for ppl. At that point, all it takes is a trigger or a moment of dissociation. It would be helpful to everyone if we could get ppl help before it’s too late. A LOT less ppl would be dead around the world due to mental illnesses and emotional trauma. Ah well. Here’s hoping one day that society decides to put more emphases on ppls emotional state.
That is awful!! parents shouldn’t never show favoritism ever. One of my children is more responsible than the other but they will get 50-50 of anything I own and while I’m alive it is always 50-50. Favoritism is a sin and it destroys families.
Same here. I'll bet you stand out in some way above your siblings. And no need for us to take revenge; later in life Karma steps in. Just live your best life and watch 😀
The audacity some people have to think they can get away with such things, blows my mind.
Poor Ashley, losing her mother and both sisters all at once.
She is vulnerable rt now & users will see this & try to take advantage of her by telling her everything she needs to hear. Hope she has someone who really has her best interests for her well being💜🙏💜
It’s a good thing she wasn’t in the house when the killings happened.
Good morning Dr Grande. What a selfish, greedy and all round entitled woman. I'm so pleased the police finally got it right, this enabled liar should spend time in prison. My sympathy goes too the rest of the family and loved ones. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis. Tragic outcome and informative topic.
Good day CT - Always great to see your comments! Hope the family is doing well! 💐
@@bthomson Thank you my friend. Everyone is good 💐💒💒
The evidence was pretty obvious. They would have to be particularly incompetent to not get it right.
"spend time"? You mean from now on right?
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I like pickup trucks, but my friend who has one told me not to get one, because: "Friends & family constantly ask you to help them move, or pick up a new piece of furniture, etc."
On the other side, it's a good way to learn to say no.
@@xminusone1 Or help out friends & family.
Me too!
Favoritism sucks. Being rejected by your mother sucks. That type of toxic family dynamic can really do deep and long lasting damage. I would know, sadly... But that's not an excuse for murder. The mother's money was hers to do what she wanted with, period full stop. If your mom/family sucks, the correct course of action is to accept the reality of the situation. Grieve the loss of the family you should have had, and maybe get some therapy to help you with that grief. You can put up some boundaries with your family, or you might even want to go completely no contact with them. But you don't steal money from them, and you sure as hell don't kill them!
Honestly, I suspect there may have been valid reasons for Pamela to treat Megan differently. Check out her picture at 3:42 ...that is not the face of a healthy person. That is the face of someone who is either on hard drugs and/or has serious mental health issues. That face, combined with the huge sense of entitlement that needed to be there in order for her to steal hundreds of thousands of dollars, makes me think Dr. Grande's analysis is spot on.
I owned a moving company and did a lot of direct help with womens' shelters. One customer that became a friend for years was a long time heroin addict and said simply: "Addicts are SELFISH people first".
@@Dwightstjohn-fo8ki That is sadly so true. Addicts are selfish people first. Their addiction will eventually take priority over everything and everyone in their lives.
Agree with every word
You can’t prove that she was on drugs.
@@Trouble_Bubble36 why would she want to buy a house with the 400k if she were a vagabond, messy type?
It's always so sad, when a person does something like this over money.
Or over anything
There was a comment about how giving all 3 sisters half a million would have avoided all this. That person should read up on the case of Nathan Carman who murdered his grandfather for a half million inheritance, squandered that in no time then murdered his mother to collect the remaining 7 million (rather than just work for a living, obviously). Some people are just lazy, greedy, etc.
Hi Dr grande,hard to believe that in this time and age people still think they could get away with murder.
Some do
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It’s odd the sister didn’t call the cops, like super odd. I wonder where the grand daughter was during this time. I hope she is ok and manages to deal with all this. Jealousy is such a strong and damaging emotion.
My son is with a girl whose mum bought her sister a house and left her homeless. I think I better keep an eye on the situation. 😮
Bought her a house and left who homeless???
@@anniegaffney8378 her son's girlfriend. I've seen that, too: the "independent one" gets nothing, the clingy one gets taken care of even into adulthood. It's a conditioning process of some kind.
I don't think it is odd at all.
Hellen probably though there was 0% chance she was going to make it out alive and that a call to the police would only give her less time to live.
Not clear ! Who bought what to whom! Who was left homeless?
The trial concluded with the jury's recommendation that Megan Hargan must serve life in prison for both murders. Her sentence hearing is slated for October 28 this year.
I can only imagine what it must be like in a family where there IS an obvious favorite. How sad for her, and for the fact SHE was dependent upon her Mother, who may have held Helen as a favorite. I am so sorry for the family remaining behind.
Besides your many talents, Dr., it is amazing how well you know your firearms.
And his pickups.
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When a parent shows favoritism, that parent is not innocent! The assault that behavior inflicts on a child’s psyche is real emotional abuse!! And to think that abuse is carried out on a child his/her whole life with that parent, it is unbelievable there isn’t more murders! Not all children are strong enough to bear it! 😠
1.22M - well deserved - subscribers. Thank you, Dr, Grande for your insigthful videos!
I would add "well deserved" back in?
He was trying to say - well deserved -
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Well deserved 😊 absolutely 💯 correct... Your line is ignorance
I was trying to say "1.22 M - well-deserved - subscribers" but UA-cam automatically read it as -well-deserved-
The middle sister, Ashley, testified for the prosecution against Megan
It’s just heartbreaking to see the callousness of Meghan with her own mother and sister. Many families have issues and I think it takes a great deal of generosity and humility to let go of past hurts, but finishing her immediate family in this cold manner is absolutely incomprehensible.
Thank you for the analysis, Dr. Grande! Happy Friday and I hope you have a lovely weekend ahead.❤
😂 Did you carve a cact-o'-lantern for Dr. G?! That is awesome. You've gotta be his favorite fan now, if you weren't already! 😉
@@annal7364 Lol, thanks Anna! Yes, I did carve it myself.😅😁
Wow! Did not notice the cacto-pumpkin! How cool!
I can only magine the heartbreak for the other sister, Ashley, who wasn't there that day. She lost her mother and both sisters through this heinous murder.
Scary. I come from a extremely dysfunctional family. I am the scapegoat and I live thousands of miles away from the rest of my family. My mother has used triangulation so everyone is at odds with one another. I have one normal sister, and two dangerous sisters. Their specialty is lying about people usually men and charging them. I fear this type of thing is more common than we realize in that they get away with hurting others.
I feel sorry for the sister who was away. She lost 3 loved ones in one go
That's the middle sister. The oldest one is the murderer.
Older sister= megan, the killer.
Love the background of the Upside sponsor bit hehe
My question is why didn't Helen call the police?
I guess it's possible it was to protect Megan's daughter, but...
Real head scratcher.
Good morning Dr Grande. So nice to see your sweet face this morning, I watch you everyday and it's like seeing an old friend. Thank you
A few things:
Why was Megan so bad off with a husband in the military? Why was she not living in base housing?
Why didn’t Helen’s boyfriend call the cops after the first phone call when she said that her mom was dead?
Helen had access to a phone why didn’t she call the police or leave? If she had her phone I doubt she was being held at gunpoint.
Such an odd case for sure
Helen asked her boyfriend not to call the police. For some reason.
He only called when Helen stopped replying to him
That was a story right out of Shakespeare.
Ever though of doing ASMR dr Grande? Your voice is really soothing - very nice to listen to while going to sleep ^^
Yes please, his ASMR channel would get so big
I love the add with the shot of all your shirts in the background. As always, another brilliant analysis and a great Friday night spent bingeing your videos!
Why on earth did Helen not call the police?
She might have been afraid for herself and her niece, and she called the person she trusted the most - her boyfriend. It turns out there truly was much to fear.
@@lisaa.4667 all the more reason to call the police immediately
Carlos should of rang the police after speaking to Helen
@@michellethompson5638 He did several times. LE gave him the runaround because he was calling from Texas.
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I agree
Who needs enemies with a sister like that?
Being a Veteran Police Officer, I can attest to the fact that murder investigations can, indeed, entail a substantial amount of work.
Best to focus on that then and back off the speeding tickets and harassing teens.
@@darcymoon2109 Some folks REQUIRE speeding tickets to give them incentive to drive SAFELY and OBEY the LAW. Some don't.
"Harassing teens"? What the hell are you talking about?!? Never mind. I don't care.
@@NickvonZ I think you triggered Ms. Darcy 😂 I have a feeling she's been " harassed" by the police on more than one occasion 😉
@@kayakingirl7252 I do believe you have hit the nail on the head! 😸👍
Thank you, Nick Z, for your service. Law enforcement has to be one of the hardest jobs on earth and you don't get the respect, the pay, or the appreciation you deserve.
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I love your videos, Dr. Grande! How do we know that Pamela did not give Megan a house when she was just starting out in her 20s? Megan may have received the same "gift" that Helen received, but may have squandered all that she received. It is likely, however, that Pamela was not yet financially able to give such an expensive gift to her older daughters, 20 years ago.
I think she did help out the oldest daughter that murdered her. That daughter to me looks like she's on drugs. That might be the real reason she did what she did. To get money for her habit. Not for a house. She lived back and forth with the mom and her own husband, she didn't need a house. I think the mom figured she'd somehow squander the money on drugs or whatever. That's why she didn't want to help her out anymore.
@@TheBOG3 that makes zero sense. The facts show she was attempting to purchase a home with her mother's money ...pretty sure if drugs were involved, they would have been brought up. Lol
@@kdaze10 Her family knows about the drugs and escorting she was involved in. It was brought up in the video about the escorting and how her mom was threatening to have her daughter taken away. I don't know why they didn't bring up anything about her drug use though.
Interesting point
I am a long time listener, first time commenting.
One day I would love to hear Dr Grande talk about exculpatory and inculpatory evidence by saying something like, “ really, do I need to list the reasons why I think he/she is guilty!? “ and then add some sarcasm to top it off!! Keep sharing Doc!
I can’t comprehend how she could even consider of getting away with it! Yes, entitlement / narcissistic reward and anger apparently
Always love and treat your children equally to prevent any hard feelings
Man thats so scary!!!! I guess the bright side is we can just try to learn from these horrible situations to better prevent them!
I love how Todd is low key absolutely hilarious lol. Such a rare trait amongst someone so technical. Well done Sir
It looks like Megan also had a problem with the sister’s boyfriend getting to live in the free house. Maybe her being married (and sis not) also contributed to the sense of entitlement, along with her having a child and Helen didn’t.
The mother wasn't going to let Carlos move in to a house she'd paid for. Just like I said, the mother was controlling her family via money.
Dr. Grande please tell me that you’re working on a video for Darrell Brooks, the Dunning Kruger King.
“Greater love has no one than this - that they lay down their life for another”. Helen truly gave her life because she feared for her niece.
Megan not only destroyed her life but that of her young daughter.
When people feel entitled and are greedy, they have no love left.
Enjoyed the video Dr. Grande. I believe playing favoritism in families is sometimes common. Unfortunately nothing good comes from favoritism. Take a look at Josh Duggar.
Sometimes common?
Oh eb! Keeping us logical at all times!
Sometimes the situation is complicated ie parents have spent a lot on said child over the years and were tired and they are giving the other child same opportunities. An example is one child went to college and always been on straight path with no issues vs you have bailed out another child numerous times and paid off a lot of debt etc.
So it's not that they are playing favoritism it is that one child has squandered their opportunities. If I have bailed you out to the tune of 400k and decide to buy a house for other daughter it shouldn't be an issue.
@@serenity1255 yes, this is an excellent comment, but I still feel guilty that I bought one child a house and not the other two. It didn't work out, of course, and I took a big loss when I sold it.
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I just LOVE Dr. Grande ! His subtle digs are HILARIOUS ! Most of all, I love his quiet, unassuming way with words.
I just came across your channel and I'm glad I did. I place my phone next to my pillow and listen.
Thank you. 🙏🏾
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"Please blame me?" Who in their right mind would say something like that when being interrogated. This sounds like a grandiose, disconnected personality ... on a lot of creepy levels.
Hi Dr. Grande. Sounds like another, I agree, case of selfish entitlement. Psychotic & Narcissistic people have no empathy or integrity. I hope you see this comment because I usually don't get a reply except for someone saying to post it to another ? Peace, Love, Janine Smiley✌👍☕🍩☕🥧☕🍰🦓🦄💎💍⌚🛁🛋
I'm so grateful none of my siblings killed me 😳
I was not sure Ì wouldn't get shot by my sibling after our mother died. Yet, here I am.
Love your videos. They’re a perfect blend of forensic analysis and dry humor. 💕
The lesson here is to not spoil one child and leave the other out, resentment builds up and people snap. It really does cause catastrophic damage to a kids emotional development when they grow up in the shadow of their sibling(s).
Dr. Grande, could you please consider covering the case of Junko Furuta? I'd be very interested to hear your analysis of the crime, as well as your theories as to the mental status of the four men (and countless friends of theirs) who took part in what I, and many others, consider to be one of the most horrific crimes ever committed against an individual. Junko Furuta was a 17 year old Japanese woman who was randomly abducted, held captive, and brutally tortured for 44 days before ultimately succumbing to the countless injuries her tormentors inflicted upon her.
It still seems like a lesser known case outside of Japan, and I'd really like to see it get more exposure
It's such a heartbreaking crime, I've seen a few videos covering it and it's never easy to hear how those monsters tormented her.
Do just one really great feels good story. Like "they married and died of old age together all their kids love them and are successful". You know no pesky murder part
I think that would be a great start to the kind of story where someone makes a chilling death bed confession. Then you find out about the pesky murder!
But just one!🤣🤣🤣
This story with the background being that beautiful closet of gorgeous shirts!
No wants that, I tune in to seek daily affirmation that my evaluation of humanity is spot on. Dr Grande never disabuses me!!
That's a different channel
Greed, jealousy, and self-entitlement. What an all-around waste of life. I can see why mom didn't buy her a house. She wasn't doing anything to improve her life.
Awesome video doc your the best love your wise crack
Every daily dose of Dr G comes with a hearty chuckle. Thank you and keep em comin!
the dangers of favoritism
How come Helen didn’t call 911 🤦🏻♂️, instead of the boyfriend
Please offer an insight to the idiocracy of the Darrell Brooks trial. I keep losing brain cells but can't seem to turn away. I would love to hear your thoughts on entitled narcissists refusal or inability to accept blame.
It's his "defense" strategy: Act a fool until the judge throws him out of the courtroom, then when they inevitably find him guilty he can later attempt to overturn it because the judge dismissed him AND his lawyer (since he's acting in his own defense). I've seen it before & it's pathetic.
👏👏👏Bravo Dr. Grande! 👏👏👏
You should do a video on Darrell Brooks.. People are saying he's a psychopath some are saying he's a sociopath.. It would be a good teaching tool to teach the differences.. Just an idea for a future video.
Oops I saw you did a video on DB about a year ago.. But now, with the ongoing case and him defending himself. We know who the real DB is. So it probably would be a good revisit
hey Dr Todd Grande!
can u do a bit on Steve Bannon, specially now with the sentencing he got?
Good Day, Dr. Grande. I've Missed your Analyses Immensely! Time to catch up. 👌
Brilliant analysis Dr. Grande!
My parents were not rich so if I wanted a house I had to earn every dollar myself. At 70, I'm living in a condo, still working to afford a detached home.
I’m from Northern VA, just gotta say, it’s pronounced - Mc-Lane
🙏 ma-clean 😂 surprisingly dopey slip up given it’s a well known American city.
Dr Grande, I’d like to hear your take on of the story of Ronald Clark O’ Bryan ,”The Candy man killer” that poisoned his son on Halloween night 1974 for insurance money..
So sad that Helen didn’t leave or call 911. I wonder why she didn’t grab her niece and run.
I don't understand why Helen didn't call 911. I realize she said it was because of her 7 year old niece. I still don't get why people murder someone they live with because they're going to be questioned. I don't understand murder in the first place.
Great one Dr. G.💜
“Perhaps she was wearing socks because her feet were cold.” 12:21 This is another great one for the book of Toddisms. 😂
Dr. Grande: Could you please analyze the case involving Paul & Reuben Flores? Thx!
Absolutely horrific.
Looking good in the red, Dr. G!
I love you Dr. Grande- just a native Virginia tip- we pronounce McLean like McLane :)
Oh my goodness! The judge vacated the conviction due to juror misconduct! Prosecutor says he’ll retry.
I worked with Helen at the time of this incident. We all knew Helen wouldn't have done it. What a terrible thing.
Please can you film an update on the Waukesha driver? He is on trial now representing himself and absolutely bonkers... Would be so interesting to hear your take on it.
Yes PLEASE! This man is so ANNOYING and I feel that his current antics are designed to damage the victims more. IF he has enough intellect to come up with any sort of "plan". It feels like so much energy is being "given" to this man, who has already (not, allegedly), killed a number of people and injured more.
Dr Grande has two videos on the parade killer.
Did she ever hear of 911? Why did Carlos have to call from Texas?
Probably part of her plan
That's a very important question!!!
Why was Helen protecting Megan? An hour and 45 minutes is a long time to be hiding in a closet with a cellphone.
She probably never imagined her sister would actually kill them both.
Thank you Dr. Grande
Could you do a video on Darrell Brooks, id loved to see your take on whats going on inside this mans head
Wow, what a story.
I hope Ashley was able to deal with this double murder and destruction of her family.
Does wealth diminish the value of human life??
Why was the rifle in the house if this was a spontaneous murder, Dr Grande?
Also, I think you have omitted a pertinent fact in Megan's apparent substance abuse issues.
Didn't the rifle belong in the house normally?
@@eadweard. No, it was her husband's and this was not her family home. She claimed she brought it there because of some strange people hanging around but nobody else saw these men.
Why was Megan driving back, and forth from West Virginia to Virginia?
I noticed she did the same thing when living in New Mexico, driving to Texas often.
It’s not favouritism. Wise parents understand that it’s only worth helping adult children financially with things that already have positive momentum as in in put from an adult with their head screwed on and the ability to benefit from the opportunity. Money is just a tool and if someone is a hot mess then letting them waste financial opportunities only adds to their self loathing.
Can’t believe that she immediately after murdering Mum ran to the computer to get her money! Sucks to feel unfavourably treated by a parent but her life wasn’t exactly intolerable. She had a husband, a daughter, probably a home, and she was welcome to stay with mum. She doesn’t look 100% well, wonder if substance abuse was involved. That could also explain why mother didn’t give her any money.
Hello Dr. Grande thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. Could you pls kindly analyse also Matias De Stephano's case?! He's turning in to a big International new age prohet like icon!
I can't help but to think that the mother's action in some infinitesimal way set the stage for Helen's egregious behavior.
That poor boyfriend. I hope he's not still haunted by that phone call. 😔
I was always the favorite and still to a degree kind of am on a side of my family and I understand the resentment but not enough that I think one of my siblings would kill me.
I am the oldest of three brothers. My youngest brother had my parents hearts. My middle brother had a big problem with that into adulthood. I am grateful that I had wonderful and loving parents, even if I was not the favorite. Now if my parents had built that little shit a house...
Was that title supposed to say "favoritism' or is there a joke I'm missing? Thx for the video
I’ve e become a fan of your objective and studied analysis style that occasionally looks at celebs. Here’s an idea for probably a series of videos. The Beatles movie “Get Back” shows very interesting insights into creativity and group dynamics. Would love your opinion about each of the Beatles personalities and perhaps some of the extended families such as Yoko, Linda Eastman, etc.
thanks!
A huge number of parents don't realize the importance of treating all their kids equally. This include emotional and financial equity. If a child minutely felt he isn't being treated as his brothers or sisters, we can say that the parents just created their own hell. Consequences will appear years later and the parents will not be able to understand the hard situation because humans forget all the time. No one can live with injustice, especially from parents.!!!
I think the misery was handled really even handed. I left at ,17 and my little sis married at 16. My mother kept telling lies to people about how evil we were until she realized nobody believed her. At 53 she checked in to a mental health facility and never came out. Bet she drove the staff to find other careers to follow.
Maybe Megan was narcissistic and bad from the beginning? Psychopaths are born not made...
@@IMWeira well Bonnie, this is how god's laws work. If you made injustice to whomever might be, eventually you will get punished in a certain way!!. It might come late but it will come. What goes around, comes around.!!
@@elisabeth400 I don't agree Monika. Psychopaths are made by bad parenting methods. If you ask a simple question it will become clear as crystal. Why Megan and not Helen became psychopath??. They have the same mom!!. All babies born with innocent souls till they go through life situations which might include some injustices that will eventually influence them to perceive the world as a dangerous place.!!!
Life isn't fair. Everyone needs to get off of their victim pity party, grow up & get a life! There's a narcissist epidemic out there because people refuse to be accountable. This is a hotbed for tyranny. Buckle up, Brandon!
WOW, As I am writing this, March 2024, for the price she paid for her house you would get you a tiny two bedroom old house in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.
Loved this analysis 👌🏽