The realization that relationships never provided lasting peace & joy for me was a clear sign that I had to work on self. It's been challenging but highly rewarding. I now know what parts need to be healed, what I bring to the table and what's required of me.
I just came across this quote last week "People attend therapy to resolve trauma caused by people who do not want therapy" and honestly it made me realize that everyone needs to seek therapy because there is always something to work on and improve.
Everything you ladies have talked about is true. There’s always a price to pay once you start negotiating what were once non negotiables. It’s basically selling pieces of yourself. Men never negotiate , they want what they want and if not they leave. I’ve observed this in many men and it’s about time more women stood their ground. Whoever is meant for you will not pass you by. Thanks ladies xx
@@KiKi-cx5rv marriage in Christianity, which I subscribe to, is based on the teachings of the Bible. Given the Bible spans over 2000 years ago, I concede that it is primitive. So If you want to be in a "modern" relationship where men and women are equally yoked, get married outside the church.
@@kijana2030 but even biblically there are rules of engagement for both husband and wife. Corinthians talks about treating your wife like a church the way Jesus did... Meaning serve your wife. As much as it talks about serving your husband. The Bible isn't primitive, YOU are primitive
@@kijana2030 and even biblically husband and wife are infact equally yoked so wherever you buy your bibles should be put to question. Man is the head, woman the neck... Equally yoked because one cannot function without the other. Marriage is a SERVICE to your spouse. That is what my very Christian parents have subscribed to for 21 years
Being single has taught me to learn what my non negotiable are, having talking stages has helped me point out what I want in a partner and its been very informative journey
i have several talked abt them in my channel too. 1.He treats you like trash 2. Communication reduces 3. Giving excuses for not doing things 4. He starts random fights 5.Switches situations on you when he is on the wrong last but not least he just doesnt care
😂😂😂😂Julz with the eye roll. Hahahaha.... Congratulations to Lorna on her new level, it's a big step to get married. I wish you nothing but love. I have a suggestion, could you guys talk about how this channel has affected your relationships, with parents, spouses, children, friends and work colleagues
21. Measuring your worth by how much hustle you take your partner through to make sure you are pleased. Then the envelop keeps getting pushed further till they don't care anymore. ADD TO LIST
Hi guys😀 Mimi I run for the heels whenever I encounter red flags usually between 3-6months nakuanga nishaona hakuna mahalo tunaenda😅 but tbh I don't think I'm ready for a relationship I want to take my time and grow me love me be the best me. My non-negotiables> God fearing (I love my spirituality and God is a big part of my life I want so badly to share that with my partner) confidence, financial stability, goal oriented, kind and generally good vybes 😍
Thank you over 25, awesome content as usual. Congratulations Lornzie, God bless your union. Just an observation, the sound keeps flactuating. Kindly look into it. Thanks.
Fighting/ Conflict can also be toxic if you never come to a resolution. You just fight, then you walk away because it has become too heated. Then you remember you didn't finish the fight then you fight again and it's always just a perpetual fight! With good conflict, you have to come to some sort of agreement afterwards. My two cents.
Am I the only one who did not want this conversation to end?? currently @ 21 and single, if I do say so myself and you guys feel like that elder sister that I clearly do not have .
@@kijana2030 Even those that have valued those things you deem "deep",.have been lost solo without a care from their partners.So let people value whatever they feel is important to them.Simple
Great job guys. The topic is 💯💯💯. You all look gorgeous. Congratulations Lorna. Have a blessed and happy marriage. Julez you'll get your person in due time.
Definitely more complicated than the list but your "non-negotiables" should not be negotiated on. Be flexible ONLY about things that you can accept on a long term basis...
A great discussion as always ladies 👏 👏 Just to add on Lorna’s point about ‘don’t forget about who you are’ .. this can also mean changing yourself to fit your spouse’s/partner’s mould ie dropping your friend’s, family, religion etc just because they are not up to your partner’s ‘standard’, and before you know it you are someone even you don’t recognise! It happens more often than we think…
I always find my self being requested to give advice to both singles and married but am still single af 😂😂😂. But am happy to help when needed. Am able to detect red flags from a mile..and most important advice.. try not to get married because of circumstances rather marry because you 2 are compatible and you choose to be life companion. At this day and age don't let society expectations pressure you to unhealthy marriage.
Hi Jules...remember yiu could also br jobless and have to relearn to rely on someone else without jisdging yourself harshly that you are 'kudoeaing' someone else...
Jules tupe lessons you have learnt in your singlehood....as far relationship is concerned...invite other single ladies to share experiences dos and donts..thanks ladies am loving your channel..#newbiehere
I think the frequency and multitude of fights doesnt affect two people that want to be together. The longevity of a relationship can only go as far as the two people want it.
I have fought enough in relationships. Not settled. I am in a space where I just want and value peace of mind. Plus trying to intentionally staying away from negative energy. I know it is inevitable in human relations but let it be a small percentage of the relationship. Not ati fighting every time over everything
The realization that relationships never provided lasting peace & joy for me was a clear sign that I had to work on self. It's been challenging but highly rewarding. I now know what parts need to be healed, what I bring to the table and what's required of me.
I like this...and i completely agree.As cliche as it may sound happiness starts from oneself.You can only pour from a cup thats full
@@Tata-bd9nx ww
I love this and i can totally relate. We need to deal with the skeletons in our closet before we bring someone else into the picture.
And a big congratulations to Lornzie, We cant wait for Jules to also find her perfect soulmate
I'll just congratulate Lornzie.
Tongue ring is the secret 😉
No pressure though💞
I just came across this quote last week "People attend therapy to resolve trauma caused by people who do not want therapy" and honestly it made me realize that everyone needs to seek therapy because there is always something to work on and improve.
Everything you ladies have talked about is true. There’s always a price to pay once you start negotiating what were once non negotiables. It’s basically selling pieces of yourself. Men never negotiate , they want what they want and if not they leave. I’ve observed this in many men and it’s about time more women stood their ground. Whoever is meant for you will not pass you by. Thanks ladies xx
Don't forget that a woman's role in marriage is to help her husband. If this is maintained, the marriage will thrive.
@@kijana2030 a marriage is a partnership. A wife is not less than her husband just because she’s a woman. Your view is skewed and primitive.
@@KiKi-cx5rv marriage in Christianity, which I subscribe to, is based on the teachings of the Bible. Given the Bible spans over 2000 years ago, I concede that it is primitive.
So If you want to be in a "modern" relationship where men and women are equally yoked, get married outside the church.
@@kijana2030 but even biblically there are rules of engagement for both husband and wife. Corinthians talks about treating your wife like a church the way Jesus did... Meaning serve your wife. As much as it talks about serving your husband. The Bible isn't primitive, YOU are primitive
@@kijana2030 and even biblically husband and wife are infact equally yoked so wherever you buy your bibles should be put to question. Man is the head, woman the neck... Equally yoked because one cannot function without the other. Marriage is a SERVICE to your spouse. That is what my very Christian parents have subscribed to for 21 years
Another red flag: When your partner is not concerned about your safety e.g when its late at night and he isn't concerned about how you get home etc
Why are you out late at night without him?
@@kijana2030 I do not always move with my significant other. I have a social life outside our union. He does too.
@@mwaahdimejanet Maybe I'm too protective 😔
@@kijana2030 Maybe you are.
@@mwaahdimejanet I think it's another red flag. When your partner is too concerned about your safety.
Shangwe NA vigelegele Lorna🥳🥳🥳 May your marriage be filled with love, laughter and adventure NA mbarikiwe hadi mshangae 💕
THE GIRLS:18+ ARE DATEPOINT.UNO
UA-cam: THIS IS FINE
SOMEONE: SAYS "HECK"
UA-cam: BE GONE
однако я люблю таких рыбаков..
Being single has taught me to learn what my non negotiable are, having talking stages has helped me point out what I want in a partner and its been very informative journey
Wait until you get kids and then try and have that discussion with them. You'll learn that EVERYTHING in life is negotiable.
@@kijana2030
No it's not.
You're all over the comments spreading negativity. How idle are you?
Shikies earrings😍😍
i have several talked abt them in my channel too. 1.He treats you like trash 2. Communication reduces 3. Giving excuses for not doing things 4. He starts random fights 5.Switches situations on you when he is on the wrong last but not least he just doesnt care
Are we just going to ignore Lonrnzie's posture. 🤐😎
I mean she doesn't slouch at all!!
I love it so much.
A wifey is glowing ...sending lots of love,lornzie
😂😂😂😂Julz with the eye roll. Hahahaha....
Congratulations to Lorna on her new level, it's a big step to get married. I wish you nothing but love.
I have a suggestion, could you guys talk about how this channel has affected your relationships, with parents, spouses, children, friends and work colleagues
On a lighter note:
Akianza kuongea vibaya kuhusu Avocado. Run my sister, run! 🚩🚩
😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Avocado is bae
😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
I agree love is a skill people need to learn
Love that you said that you have to stay true to yourself. We need to not loose ourselves in relationships.
Lornzie is literally glowing!!!
Lornzie congratulations on your marriage🎉🎉God bless your union.
Can I say you all look so damn pretty this morning❣️❣️. And to our new Muhiki💞💞 congratulations.
loved this episode! Red flags should not be ignored...
Lorna!! Congratulations 🎊🎊🎊👏🏽
Congrats Lornzie, you will be having twins🤗🤗
Congratulations Lornzie!
This video was much needed, thank you ladies.
I really love you ladies, you've no idea how you've helped me. Things I go through ave realized uve gone through some. Congratulations to Lornzie
Lornzie the body goals is coming thruuuu😍😍😍😍 I'm in love.
Lornzie, I loved your smokey eye during your wedding. Very bedroom eyes manenoz.
21. Measuring your worth by how much hustle you take your partner through to make sure you are pleased. Then the envelop keeps getting pushed further till they don't care anymore. ADD TO LIST
Feels like 'The talk' from big sisters with so much love and care.🥰
Hi guys😀 Mimi I run for the heels whenever I encounter red flags usually between 3-6months nakuanga nishaona hakuna mahalo tunaenda😅 but tbh I don't think I'm ready for a relationship I want to take my time and grow me love me be the best me. My non-negotiables> God fearing (I love my spirituality and God is a big part of my life I want so badly to share that with my partner) confidence, financial stability, goal oriented, kind and generally good vybes 😍
No one:
Jules:These streets have shown us dust 😂😂😂
Thank you over 25, awesome content as usual. Congratulations Lornzie, God bless your union. Just an observation, the sound keeps flactuating. Kindly look into it. Thanks.
I need to rewatch this at home again
Congratulations to Lonzie...
Aki can't wait for harusi ya Julez
Hearty congratulations to Lornzie
Praying for Jules as well
Her dawn in marriage is now almost
Congrats Lornzie .... Wishing you all the best in your journey
You guys are so beautiful.. and today lornzie is looking extremely gorgeous
It's the beauty of marriage/significant other 😺
Jules skin complexion is to die for! 😍
BRUH! 😍
I feel like your videos on love, sex and relationships catch more of my attention 😁 kudos guys
Fighting/ Conflict can also be toxic if you never come to a resolution. You just fight, then you walk away because it has become too heated. Then you remember you didn't finish the fight then you fight again and it's always just a perpetual fight! With good conflict, you have to come to some sort of agreement afterwards. My two cents.
That is the description of relentless fighting
This is so real
Congratulations Lorna 🥂🎉🎉
Am I the only one who did not want this conversation to end??
currently @ 21 and single, if I do say so myself and you guys feel like that elder sister that I clearly do not have .
Congratulations Lornzie
And pray for Jules ❤️to find her perfect match❤️
To Jules....focus on how the guy makes you feel...more than what he has to offer...you get my point?
If you value money more than anything else, stay single.
@@kijana2030 Even those that have valued those things you deem "deep",.have been lost solo without a care from their partners.So let people value whatever they feel is important to them.Simple
True100%
Totally
Great job guys. The topic is 💯💯💯.
You all look gorgeous.
Congratulations Lorna. Have a blessed and happy marriage.
Julez you'll get your person in due time.
Am I the only one who struggled with the audio? Even with earphones, the volume was still too low.
Me too, shiks voice is soo low
Made worse by crunching on cookies I have no business crunching on at 11.00 p.m.... SMH 🤣🤣😭😭
@@Nimzy254 Sis 😂😂😂😂😂
Me too🥲🥲🥲
Me too
Me: sounding like Jules advising my siblings
Me also:🙊 gosh I sound like my mother
Me also also: guys live your life 😆🙌
You people 😂
Congratulations Lornzie
Definitely more complicated than the list but your "non-negotiables" should not be negotiated on. Be flexible ONLY about things that you can accept on a long term basis...
A great discussion as always ladies 👏 👏 Just to add on Lorna’s point about ‘don’t forget about who you are’ .. this can also mean changing yourself to fit your spouse’s/partner’s mould ie dropping your friend’s, family, religion etc just because they are not up to your partner’s ‘standard’, and before you know it you are someone even you don’t recognise! It happens more often than we think…
I love Jules!!!!😂😂😂😂dust!😂😂.Congrats Lornzie!!!!!
Jules you pretty. I love your vibe❤️
Congratulations lonzie
Thank you lovely ladies...what a good way to start the week...love-love-love
I always find my self being requested to give advice to both singles and married but am still single af 😂😂😂. But am happy to help when needed. Am able to detect red flags from a mile..and most important advice.. try not to get married because of circumstances rather marry because you 2 are compatible and you choose to be life companion. At this day and age don't let society expectations pressure you to unhealthy marriage.
I agree 100%,, and why is it that single people have the best advice? 😂😂
@@marionakinyi8570 probably we use logic? 😂. I have very short term talking stages with guys but my friends rely on me to give them advice
@@itsme_Andi it's crazy 😅
Hello Linda where can I find you for that advise
Love is a skill..wow that's my take home.I need to learn this skills.thanks ladies
Wow! Harusi ilishafanyika😄Congratulations #Lornzie now Mrs👏🏾🎊🎉💐💐❣️❣️wish you mob blessings and all the happiness in your marriage. Interesting topic.
Hi Jules...remember yiu could also br jobless and have to relearn to rely on someone else without jisdging yourself harshly that you are 'kudoeaing' someone else...
Y'all are looking so beauriful!!😍😍❤️
Blushing coz Lorna smizing 😍 congratulations!
Jules tupe lessons you have learnt in your singlehood....as far relationship is concerned...invite other single ladies to share experiences dos and donts..thanks ladies am loving your channel..#newbiehere
Aren't they just amazing❤️
😂😂😂😂😂 I just love Jules' vibe always
there's always that one thing for sure,great talk .
My all time big sisters🤗
Congrats Lornzie waiting for Julia's wedding
Is it just me,,,or the volume is a bit low?🤷♀️
Yes it is
It is
I love you guys❤️, I just relate to every conversation you post... don't leave us hanging for long again,my notification bell missed you sana😊
can you do a live episode so as you can answer some of our questions in relationship
Congratulations Lorna and Dee guys you make a beautiful couple.. and you all ladies respond to my dms thank!!!❤️❤️
Jules skintone😍😍 i love it
Congratulations Lornzie❤
I think the frequency and multitude of fights doesnt affect two people that want to be together. The longevity of a relationship can only go as far as the two people want it.
Shukran...highly insightful
great episode guys!! @shikie kindly share the lipstick brand you have on
Congrats lornzie,you gal's looking fabulous as always... loving the topic.which hairdo is shikies I really love 💕
Congratulations sis
First one on the comments ☺️ 🥂 lemmi grab my coffee n keep watching 💕.
N congratulations Lorna 🥂
I love the advice on here.
ya'll looking sooo cuuuuuute
I have fought enough in relationships. Not settled. I am in a space where I just want and value peace of mind. Plus trying to intentionally staying away from negative energy. I know it is inevitable in human relations but let it be a small percentage of the relationship. Not ati fighting every time over everything
and the week begins👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 asanteni!
100k subscribers goal tunayo, tunayo!!! Almost there ladies!!!
Thank you luvies 😘😘😘😘
Never been this early, proud subbie🤗
The audio quality is down……idk if its just me🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️
Always looking forward to your videos 🥳
Today the sounds is alittle bit low
I used to start fights every time because I wanted this man to break up with me.
You're on a another level😂
OMG I love shikie's earrings. Where can I get them? Or such long beautiful… Anyone?
Dubois
@@gathonimwangi5949 any contact?
@@patiencewambua6571 sina any but najua any beauty shop on that lane utapata si ni hapo near tea room.
Could you guys talk about being in a relationship but with a guy who's got a baby mama
Ciku's earrings are extremely nice. paste the link to the source kindly
Question: What happens when a deal-breaker for one partner is not a deal-breaker for their significant other, resulting in constant fights?
I want to know this too
The relationship ends or the one who doesn't have that deal breaker respects and compromises on it if it is not too great a cost to them.
🎉🎉🎉🎉the first and enjoying the topic
Loved this episode ❤️💯👏🔥
The Jogoo was cheering Julz :)
For me, when I'm indifferent, I'm done with the relationship
Who still hasn't subscribed! Button iko pale...
hi guys,great video but is there a problem with the sound on this video or maybe its just me
You guys are just Amazing
Am atleast early today....always loving it ❤
On going for therapy... Have you guyz watched the Blue Therapy series on youtube... If so whats your take?
I was game until I found out their ain't real couples, I swiped left so first 😕😕