Same. All of it. On me like white on rice until we got engaged. Once we got married and had kids, there was nothing. He didn’t reject me. He just ignored me. Treated me like I was the wallpaper. I just convinced myself he was disgusted by me (and that I was disgusting) and so I didn’t even initiate. And I died inside. Then I ended the marriage before it ended me. Now I’m with a man who can’t keep his hands off of me. And I now know that it was never about me. It was about disparity. It was about a lack of connection. It was about a mismatch. And that was all it was. I wish you, and everyone else who has endured this (or continues to), the love and passion you deserve.
"We all have our inner struggles." Such a simple and yet super complex statement. And just so true. This is one of my favorite videos. So very honest and open. And helpful. My inner struggles/demons hold me back a lot. Sometimes I fight them, but mostly I let that voice in my head control my life. Knowing that others have these inner conflicts makes me very happy and very sad. Happy to know I am not the only one, and sad that someone else has to experience the struggles as well. Kind of a bad case of 'misery loves company'. Thank you for sharing Kandy.
you have no idea how much I can relate to what you said. I get rejected all the time and it really messes with my emotions. I’m not happy in my relationship & I hope I can find the strength to move on one day soon.
Kim Basciano am in the same boat with you. Am so unhappy we always argue, if we ever have sex it's obvious he is not into it. Doesn't touch me no oral no kiss just bang bang. I am 28 and he is 39 We have two kids. I hope to find the strength to move on sooner, cos it's not getting any better.
I had kind of a similar situation. I was with this guy for 4 years. I was 17 when we got together he was 19. Of course I’m the beginning we had sex all the time. As the years went on I was lucky if I got anything maybe once a month. He would always turn me down. I would try something and he would just shrug me off literally. I then found out he was cheating on me a lot and I was confused at first because he seemed to have no problem sleeping with other girls. I of course being young forgave him and continued on with the relationship even though he was still cheating. It finally all came to an end last year when I had a girl message me and tell me how to slept with my boyfriend in my bed. I asked him why and he finally gave me the answer I knew but was regretting for the past 4 years, he just wasn’t attracted to me anymore. I am a bigger girl so of course that made me feel like shit thinking I was too fat for anyone to love. However the story gets better. I have not talked or seen my ex for almost a year now and I have found the man I was looking for for so long. He appreciates me and loves my body, he tells me everyday how beautiful I am etc.
Amanda Coble This happened to me too. I was with my ex since I was 15 so we were high school sweethearts and married young at 21. He went into the Coast Guard and was gone every three months the first couple years of our marriage. We had tons of sex and sadly I didn't know this was bad that our relationship was largely based around sex to bond. Gaming too but nothing else. A year after that we moved and he was stationed at a station where he could come home every night like normal instead of going out to sea on the ship every three months. I got to see him more and we didn't really know what to do together so it was awkward and sad. I had already gained weight from being 19 and trying to get healthier instead if too skinny. I was always a too skinny girl but was never able to manage it well with calories and I wasn't educated in that enough. I also didn't know how birth control and other pills could mess with weight and also mess with my liver and enlarge it. I was 130 when he was gone every three months and then when he was home more I climbed all the way to like over 250 I think and was diagnosed with non alcoholic fatty liver disease. He said I got that disease from being fat and lazy but the doctors all confirmed even then it was a pill I was on for misdiagnosed bipolar disorder and I went on that experimental new drug to be less awful to him but no respect was given to my efforts of healing and I even went to counseling too. So he didn't touch me for a long time maybe a whole year and couldn't even get aroused and I was really hurt. I started to not care because we just weren't right for each other. He left me after 3 years of marriage (since teens we were together for 9ish years and I felt I wasted by best youthful years on him because I invested so much of my time and me I to him and such a big chunk of my life) and said I was fat and he wasn't attracted to me. He left me for other reasons too but I think it's awful he had the nerve to say that and bring looks into it. That means he was shallow and only wanted me for my looks partially or why he tolerated me anyway. I really believe he was cheating because I heard not long after leaving me he was dating a Coast Guard woman he had been working with at that station who was athletic which he liked in women. But I ended up getting with my first boyfriend ever at 14 who I didn't get to be with more than just a couple months because of a misunderstanding (my bitch friend at the time told me he broke up with me and wasn't going to say it to me and let me figure it out and I believed her because at first I like barely could talk to him and had to hide I was dating him from my guardian so we found out no one actually broke up and he was so confused but stayed away thinking I didn't like him). So sad but we reconnected and had a beautiful surprise baby girl and got married. We adore each other and he got with me when I was big and I lost weight but he loved me just the same whichever weight I'm at and even was sexually wonderful with me when I was pregnant. He's an Aries man and I'm a Cancer woman. The old fashioned pairing in astrology. We're so happy and I'm glad I am not with my ex husband and he promised me he wanted kids but never gave me any but I'm so thankful we never had any because he'd be a terrible parent and then I'd be tethered to him by a child. My current husband is a wonderful gentle father to my baby girl who's three years old now. Oh and not to sound full of myself but my ex used to say he wanted such model type ladies and when I was thinner he admitted I was close to that in my face but my current husband says a face rarely changes a d bodies do with weight easily so he left me stupidly because I can always lose the weight and my face would still be beautiful too. He's saying logically if he was into my looks he missed out but didn't deserve me anyway. Now my ex got engaged to that military lady but they broke up and each woman I hear hes with through people laughing at him from our school I still talk to say hes not with very attractive women or they're less attractive than I am. I hoped it was because he learned looks shouldn't matter in a relationship so much but if it it truly is he had the best looking woman through me then it's just irony and kind of makes me say "Hah serves you right you bastard" lol. I'm beautiful inside and out. When I was pregnant I had to make sure we were divorced personally because I had declined agreeing to divorce back then and I wanted to move on and my ex was so mad and jealous sounding and I was so much thinner. He also saw my pictures way back and said one time "yeah you lose it when you're with him but not with me". He realized he lost a great catch lol. Thanks for sharing your story and reading mine. Sorry it's so long. I felt I wanted to share details.
sumrsolo that’s crazy. I just don’t understand why everything is always about looks anymore. I’m glad you found someone who appreciates you, everyone needs that. And no worries on it being long lol
THANK YOU KANDY!!! I dont care what anyone says - these are my FAVORITE videos you make. You are so wonderful and brave to be able to talk so candidly with us.
Intimacy is very important in a marriage it's not just sex but the intimacy is how you stay bonded together. I know being overweight has a lot to do with sex drive and performance, maybe it was hard for him with his weight issues as well.
Melinda Kerley That's exactly what I was going to say! It was probably more about his self esteem and health/weight, and not because he wasn't attractive to his beautiful wife.
I love the way you are so great at facing these subjects that need to be discussed openly, but which a lot of people have difficulty talking about. You handle each of these subjects with such grace, wisdom and honesty and I truly respect you for tackling some of these more sensitive topics. Thanks for today's video and for just being you!!! 😊✌👍
Good morning lovely !! I love your channel and all of your videos, but candid Kandy is my most favorite !! Feels like I'm hanging out with a good friend, your a beautiful lady inside n out !! I hope you have a great day !! xx Always !!
Thank you for sharing your experience with this issue. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 years, and we’ve had a few different periods of time where we went through this, and I’m grateful that in our circumstance we could get back in sync with one another. It’s was crushing when I felt as if he didn’t want me. I’d go to sleep crying right next to him in bed, feeling like trash. With us it turned out to actually be a result of him being too tired or stressed out, and I’m grateful we never stopped talking, so I could tell him how distant I felt and he could reassure me his desire still burned for me. I also think it’s important for women to hear that there’s nothing wrong with being sexual and having a strong libido. We are all different, and we deserve to feel attractive and to be satisfied sexually. Sometimes that means dolling up for yourself, and taking care of your own needs. 💜
Why am I sitting here crying 😭. Love ya girl!!! I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. I like the end of the video the best. Love yourself. Such an important message that people seem to lose site of in this day and age. ❤️
Good morning! I'm a new subscriber. I love ur All ur videos, the clothes hauls, cooking videos and of course Candid Kandy. I love the honesty that u bring to candid Kandy. The things u talk about are things all women go through. We need more honestly in this world. Thanks keep up the great work!!🙂🙂
I'm going through this right now. I feel rejected unwanted and he doesn't understand at all. He says sex just isn't a big deal to him. But to me it is. It's how I feel that you connect and become closer with your partner. It makes me feel unattractive and it hurts. I am 40 years old and he is 28. I really thought with him being younger he would have a higher sex drive. My self esteem is shot. Thanks for sharing and making me realize that I'm not being selfish in my needs.
Deidre Bishop I once went with a guy who was 10 yrs younger than me (I was 30) and my father said I looked like a old cow next to him LOL. I'd find someone closer or older to your age, you'll like it better...
Veronica Helms your dad sounds kind of like my dad! 😂😂 I was in a similar situation, where I was dating a guy who was 10 years younger than me. I was 32, and he was 22. Lol. I know, I know....but hell I had the time of my life! However my dad used to tell me, “that young man is just gonna use you for sex, and eventually he’ll move on to a woman that’s much closer to his own age.” Of course I didn’t want to hear it, but deep down inside, I knew that more than likely it was the truth.
TypeAAA You are absolutely correct in what you said, no doubt. Does not however change the fact that u look like a old cow next to him, ha ha. (And I was a looker.) Also, who wants to look as if they are dating their son? Not me. And then also hetting jealous when THEY look at girls even 5 years younger than them! Ha! NO THX!
Hi Kandy thank you for sharing , this is a topic that is probably more experienced than shared. You deserve to be loved in it's entire meaning of being loved and desired. 😉 from your south Texas friend
Good morning Kandy. I have a feeling that this discussion is going to help more people than you realize. Thank you for doing these episodes and putting these real life incidents out here to help people to deal with. And to help many of us to know we are not alone. Hugs & good vibes to you XOXO.
Im binging on you the last few days because i really need to see that i dont have to look perfect to be happy or worthy of love. You're such a great role model and im encouraged by watching you. This made me cry because im still going through it. Thank you for sharing so openly.
Your beautiful inside and out girl,any man that has you should count himself lucky because people like you are hard to come by,your a 💎and dont ever forget that💗💙💕💞💜💚
I stumbled across your channel a few months ago and I absolutely adore your videos Kandy! You are such a strong woman and I really admire your drive to live an authentic life. Sending lots of love!! Xx
Thank-you for sharing things like this. You are very relatable and it helps to know that other people have the same feelings and insecurities. I wish I was able to be so open and discuss things.
Thanks for sharing such a private experience. I often felt that same way with my last relationship, but he was not very nice or caring like your former husband sounds. Not only did he neglect me in every which way possible, he was often hateful and abusive verbally as well as physically. I was able to get away from that abusive life and still remember the awful moments I spent alone crying and feeling unattractive, unloved and unwanted. You and I lived two different scenarios, I know. However, the emptiness is quite similar. I am now just recently learning to love me again and rebuilding my self-esteem. God bless you Kandy and I wish you all the happiness in the world; you deserve it. Sharing is a major step in the healing process. Keep on strong and continue loving yourself. :-) ~ Hugs
Hey Kandy! I'm so grateful for the consistent uploads and these candid Kandy talks help get me through my day and ponder about myself and my perspective on things❤️ keep up the amazing work 😁👍
Thank you so much for this Kandy. I truly appreciate your honesty in this series. It seems like you always come out with just the right topic when I need it. Love you Kandy!
This is such a big issue for me... My husband and I have been together for 24 years. He is 10 years older than me but this is our only issue... He is a good man.. Takes care of me and my kids all together good person but he never wants to be intimite.. I've heard it all... I'm tired, I have to go to work, I'm dirty, I haven't showered.. It makes me so depressed and I don't know what to do?....thank you for talking about it...
I agree with Sissy, you should tell him. Have you considered that maybe he could have an erectile dysfunction and be too embarrassed, ashamed etc to talk about it? I truly hope you can knit back together with him and feel wanted and fulfilled in your marriage.
This really hit home for me. Only I was the one saying no to sex for three years. First I said, when I lose the weight, then I lost the weight, it was then, when I had skin removal. I have struggled and continue to struggle a lot with intimacy.
I hate hearing that anyone had to go through this but also glad I am not the only one that is. This is the great thing about Kandy, she tells it like it is and it helps so many. I use to suffer alone until and thought I was the only one. So thank you so much, Kandy, for helping so many of us. Please keep it up.
Wow. This was the most honest I have ever heard someone be about a relationship/marriage. I really needed to watch this video and I'm so glad I did. I'm a sensitive person and in past relationships, I was declined affection/closeness. In my most recent relationship I felt the majority of the time he only was "affectionate" when he wanted sex. This video made me cry because we shared all the same feelings and inner thoughts we had. It's nice to know I was not alone in this kind of situation. It's comforting to know that other plus sized women have went through this struggle as well. Thank you for posting.
I have been in the same situation with my ex husband. I was totally rock bottom, no confidence, low self esteem. I knew he wasn't in love with me anymore because of how I looked, he had even told me that. He ended up divorcing me. I'm now much happier now because I found out what I'm made of. I don't need to rely on someone else for my happiness, I need to find happiness in myself! Thank you for this video, I so needed to hear this today!! ❤
You are so pretty and feeling unloved and unwanted can feel excruciating. I'm experiencing this right now with a guy I was with for 18 years. It's like I'm a stranger to him now.
OMG!! If only I had the wisdom that you have when I was 20-30 years old, life would have be so different. Whenever you speak on a subject, we can tell you are so honest and clear of what you are saying. Kandy, be confident because you are really one of a kind, a gem. Also, your family reminds me of my family. You all stick together. We always do sister weekends once a year. Thanks for being you!!
Just going through some of Kandy’s old videos ( always worth a second look ) and I really miss these kind of videos . I know she is busy with her job , fella and family and I appreciate that but even so ….😢
Your content is always so relevant and interesting. You are my very favorite UA-camr. I am so glad you are on here sharing your life with us. 💗 love you, Kandy!
This was such a good Car Chat. Loved this topic and your openness about your feelings. You spoke in such a way that was honest and yet let us see both sides and didn’t come off as blaming on side or another. So true that there can be such a deep love and caring for someone yet that doesn’t mean that you should be partners. I’m glad that you and Roger have each other, and every one needs a person that they can have true and honest friendship with.
I always watch your videos especially candid kandy when i drive work ;) i feel then like i'm in a car with best friend i listen to. I don't feel alone. Thank you for that. Hugs & love for you !
I would feel exactly as you did. We all need to be loved or wanted especially in a marriage. And good for you for helping yourself feel better. Kandy I am so glad you decided not to go back with Roger...xx
My story is different. I was a hot potato and my husband cheated the 7 yrs we were married. By the end of the marriage I felt ugly, undesirable, stupid and worthless. The truth is we use our bodies to get around but the spirit of who we are dwells inside. People get cruel and judge, spitting vomit at you because your machine (body) doesn't look one way but they're hurting the real living force inside, the part that's really important. No one has the right to damage anyones spirit.
I’m a relatively new viewer and working my way through all your wonderful videos. Your life story in this video could be mine I feel unloved and unwanted everyday. After 36 years of marriage I’m a shell. My weight has fluctuated so much but I’m now a disgusting fat slob and 18 stone. I don’t wear makeup or do anything for myself anymore and Spend most of my day stood in the kitchen, cooking, washing up, cleaning, ironing and generally being available to fetch and Cary. I don’t think I will live much longer because inside I’ve already given up. I’m tied to my husband financially and frightened of him. I’ve been battered in the past and choked and the threat is always there. I’ve no family or friends to lean on. I used to have a good friend but wasn’t allowed to go out with her at all and if she came to my house would leave prematurely feeling insulted and embarrassed by my husband. I’m not really allowed out alone now so as I said I’m a shell. Thankyou for these very honest videos x I love watching them x
This was an excellent vid. This is completely relatable for me. We have been struggling for a while now with sexual compatibility and all my feelings that come along with that issue which is so very similar to what you described. There are many reasons why we find ourselves in this current situation. It’s difficult to navigate through them all; but we are trying! I’m still trying to learn to love myself, all of myself. Some days are really hard. Thanks for this, Kandy. Many positive vibes sent your way!!!
I truly love how open you are with your personal life and I love the fact that you do these kandid kandy videos you have no idea how much you inspire me I love you I hope you had a good day you are f****** amazing and you are f****** beautiful thank you so much !! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I can relate so much. My marriage was similar. 18 years of a 27 year marriage was completely sexless. Thank you SO much for being so open. I'm so glad you're in a much better place. I am too! Love you!
I always go to my partner if something is up. He is the only one for me. And sex is a different thing for me. I have mood swings so sometimes I want to have sex 3 times a day and sometimes I don't want anything for a week. Sometimes more. And that's okay.. communication is so important.
Hi Kandy 🙋🏻 I love Candid Kandy and this subject is dear to my heart , I can't leave a comment , it's too personal. Suffice it to say I know EXACTLY where you are coming from . Rejection is the worse feeling in the world ... I honestly can't remember the last time I felt good about myself . 💕💕💕💕💐
Thank you for sharing this with us. It makes a lot of sense how it all went down. I totally understand what you went through, and how its a chain reaction, with rejection, weight gain, t-shirts , etc...(everything you mentioned) I'm so sorry you went through it.. My partner doesn't easily open up either, but it's incredible when we do connect. Affection is so important in a relationship.. with or without sex.. Makes us feel loved and wanted as a woman. Love you.
Thank u for sharing this with us I know how it feels to be turned out But do not lose hope maybe he is not the one for u Maybe u will meet the right man some day Like love is possible U ARE beautiful funny kind and fun And he doesn't deserve u So thank u for taking time of your day to share this with us 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
That was very courageous! Thanks for sharing ❤️ I’m a new subscriber, I’ve probably watched 30+ videos this week. I think you’re an incredible person and I pray God with bless you every day!!!
This was definitely helpful. But what if you’ve had those discussions numerous times and each time it’s that your partner doesn’t see it or believe it. For me it’s not showing affection as often as I’d like and also when it comes to intimacy he only wants to do it when HE wants to. If I try to initiate 9 times out of 10 he’s too tired and pushes me away. But if I’m too tired and don’t feel like it, it’s a different story and I basically have no choice. I feel like, I might as well give in since I’m usually wanting sex and not take this moment for granted type of thought process. I’ve told him about these feelings and he doesn’t agree, doesn’t believe it’s true, etc. Also, thank you for being so open with us. Love you! 💜
Thank you for talking openly about this. I'm going through something similar and it makes me feel alone and sad. I just wish I was good enough. It's coming up to our 14th year together. We hadn't had sex for over 2 years. We do have a lot of stressors and we have fought a lot. About 10 years ago I started drinking and overeating after certain events. I put on weight so rapidly that I ruined my skin. Stretch marks everywhere. I've since lost quite a bit, but my body shape is fucked. Everything's saggy, lumpy, malformed. I try to block it out because it's so hard to accept I caused it by not caring about myself. Anyway, I feel disgusting. I am disgusting. I don't have a pretty face to fall back on or feel excited about putting make up on, because it doesn't help. I'm still yuk. Anyway, recently I brought it up with my partner (the no sex thing) and I could tell he was uncomfortable and got the impression he wished I had just left it alone. He basically rejected me after I said I thought we should start being intimate again and that I felt alone, and I wanted us to be closer. He said something along the lines of "but we are close..." Ouch! When he saw that it upset me he became annoyed, and said "well go on the fucking pill again and we will." Punch to my gut. I wish he had instead of saying that.
I love these videos Kandy! I’m sorry to hear about your experience, but thank you for sharing. My ex flat out told me she wasn’t interested in me sexually after seven years of being together. I’m still messed up and sensitive about needing sex in my current relationship. Thank you for sharing your healing process and thank you for the message of taking control of your own self worth!
This is SO spot on!! Will have to add you to my Fitbit Hun! (I’ve never been married, however, my last ex was not pleasant and he was constantly putting me down)
When my husband started medication for depression and anxiety, he had concerns about his sex drive being effected because the med had some of those sort of side effects. I knew they could possibly happen and it could make his drive tank. Still the times he just wasn't in the mood if I tried to initiate, hurt so much. I had to constantly remind myself. "He's on a medication that can effect it. It's not you. it's not about you." Still constantly asked him "Are you okay? Are we okay? Is there something I'm doing that turns you off." I'm sure I annoyed the hell out of him. It's been about a year since then. He's leveled off and gotten his drive back. What I found helped was a lot of flirting and kisses and constant "I love you." Non-sexual intimacy and communication. I wanted to be supportive and just let him know that even if he wasn't feeling into it, it wasn't something for him to stress about because that wouldn't help him get it up either.
I’m asexual and unfortunately had a long term relationship where I found out in the middle of it. I try to understand how sexual people think they’re unattractive to their partner when sex isn’t wanted; and what all it does in the relationship. This topic is just interesting to me in general. I really enjoyed this video it’s nice seeing a different perspective that I don’t have. Thanks Kandy! 🍃 I’m glad you started focusing on yourself and that you know you don’t need anyone else’s approval. 🖤
Proud of you that you chose "change" . Knowing you having choices rather than subject yourself any further in an unhealthy co-dependent relationship. At the time I'm not sure you can see this now about Roger, his super obesity, that too must have also affected his mental health thus libido as it did yours. Only through the hard work being doing now the many years to come of healing and being aware do we get to a place where it's ok to not be ok. I hear you
This video really hit home for me. I had the same issues with my ex-husband and I stuck around for longer than I should because I didn't want to disappoint others and hurt him. In the end I likely hurt him more by dealing with issues the wrong way.
This hits home with me so much... I've talked with him but he keeps making excuses. He won't go to the Dr about it gggrrrr I have to tell him when I want attention. This year he's may be touched me 3 times and he's never in to it so it takes longer. I love him but the love isn't their anymore but I don't want to divorce him. I've been dealing with this for 7yrs :(
frogloverlora girl, I feel you. I've been in my relationship over 9 years. First 2 years everything was perfect then out of no where he starts the excuses. He doesn't like morning sex or day sex anymore, he always has a headache or ate too much or has to get up early or is too tired. After 4 years of constant rejection I stopped initiating. The last 3 years have been pretty miserable for me. He refused to acknowledge that anything is wrong or to go to therapy whether it is personal therapy or couples therapy. This summer I finally started my own therapy for my PTSD. I came to the realization I don't want to get married to him. He refuses to call off the wedding though and I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I'm in grad school full time and can't move out on my own.
Your candid kandy’s are my favorite videos that you do. You’re so real & authentic. And I think a lot of women can relate to you. Thank you for helping us all ❤️
Thank you for your honesty this hit home for me on so many levels i had issues like this with my ex hubs and always putting me down about my weight then the not being intimate but he also went a bit further and was abusive. I wasnt happy our kids werbt happy so i left. Fast fwrd 3yrs and im feeling unwanted and unloved again and no sex for almost two mnths while i point it out. I feel extremely alone depressed i now have anxiety and panic attacks. I have been open and honest with my parnter now its a waiting game to see if things change. Our conversation went as far as me sayin if i dont get what i need id get it elsewhere. Its been a roller coaster ride especially since i relaises ive gained 60lbs in less then a year this is now the biggest ive been ever and not feeling good about it. Im glad im not the only one with issues like this we all need to fight the fight together. Hugs n much love you are beautiful
Same. All of it. On me like white on rice until we got engaged. Once we got married and had kids, there was nothing. He didn’t reject me. He just ignored me. Treated me like I was the wallpaper. I just convinced myself he was disgusted by me (and that I was disgusting) and so I didn’t even initiate. And I died inside. Then I ended the marriage before it ended me.
Now I’m with a man who can’t keep his hands off of me. And I now know that it was never about me. It was about disparity. It was about a lack of connection. It was about a mismatch. And that was all it was.
I wish you, and everyone else who has endured this (or continues to), the love and passion you deserve.
"We all have our inner struggles." Such a simple and yet super complex statement. And just so true. This is one of my favorite videos. So very honest and open. And helpful. My inner struggles/demons hold me back a lot. Sometimes I fight them, but mostly I let that voice in my head control my life. Knowing that others have these inner conflicts makes me very happy and very sad. Happy to know I am not the only one, and sad that someone else has to experience the struggles as well. Kind of a bad case of 'misery loves company'. Thank you for sharing Kandy.
you have no idea how much I can relate to what you said. I get rejected all the time and it really messes with my emotions. I’m not happy in my relationship & I hope I can find the strength to move on one day soon.
Kim Basciano am in the same boat with you. Am so unhappy we always argue, if we ever have sex it's obvious he is not into it. Doesn't touch me no oral no kiss just bang bang.
I am 28 and he is 39 We have two kids. I hope to find the strength to move on sooner, cos it's not getting any better.
I had kind of a similar situation. I was with this guy for 4 years. I was 17 when we got together he was 19. Of course I’m the beginning we had sex all the time. As the years went on I was lucky if I got anything maybe once a month. He would always turn me down. I would try something and he would just shrug me off literally. I then found out he was cheating on me a lot and I was confused at first because he seemed to have no problem sleeping with other girls. I of course being young forgave him and continued on with the relationship even though he was still cheating. It finally all came to an end last year when I had a girl message me and tell me how to slept with my boyfriend in my bed. I asked him why and he finally gave me the answer I knew but was regretting for the past 4 years, he just wasn’t attracted to me anymore. I am a bigger girl so of course that made me feel like shit thinking I was too fat for anyone to love. However the story gets better. I have not talked or seen my ex for almost a year now and I have found the man I was looking for for so long. He appreciates me and loves my body, he tells me everyday how beautiful I am etc.
Amanda Coble
This happened to me too. I was with my ex since I was 15 so we were high school sweethearts and married young at 21. He went into the Coast Guard and was gone every three months the first couple years of our marriage. We had tons of sex and sadly I didn't know this was bad that our relationship was largely based around sex to bond. Gaming too but nothing else. A year after that we moved and he was stationed at a station where he could come home every night like normal instead of going out to sea on the ship every three months. I got to see him more and we didn't really know what to do together so it was awkward and sad. I had already gained weight from being 19 and trying to get healthier instead if too skinny. I was always a too skinny girl but was never able to manage it well with calories and I wasn't educated in that enough. I also didn't know how birth control and other pills could mess with weight and also mess with my liver and enlarge it. I was 130 when he was gone every three months and then when he was home more I climbed all the way to like over 250 I think and was diagnosed with non alcoholic fatty liver disease. He said I got that disease from being fat and lazy but the doctors all confirmed even then it was a pill I was on for misdiagnosed bipolar disorder and I went on that experimental new drug to be less awful to him but no respect was given to my efforts of healing and I even went to counseling too. So he didn't touch me for a long time maybe a whole year and couldn't even get aroused and I was really hurt. I started to not care because we just weren't right for each other. He left me after 3 years of marriage (since teens we were together for 9ish years and I felt I wasted by best youthful years on him because I invested so much of my time and me I to him and such a big chunk of my life) and said I was fat and he wasn't attracted to me. He left me for other reasons too but I think it's awful he had the nerve to say that and bring looks into it. That means he was shallow and only wanted me for my looks partially or why he tolerated me anyway. I really believe he was cheating because I heard not long after leaving me he was dating a Coast Guard woman he had been working with at that station who was athletic which he liked in women. But I ended up getting with my first boyfriend ever at 14 who I didn't get to be with more than just a couple months because of a misunderstanding (my bitch friend at the time told me he broke up with me and wasn't going to say it to me and let me figure it out and I believed her because at first I like barely could talk to him and had to hide I was dating him from my guardian so we found out no one actually broke up and he was so confused but stayed away thinking I didn't like him). So sad but we reconnected and had a beautiful surprise baby girl and got married. We adore each other and he got with me when I was big and I lost weight but he loved me just the same whichever weight I'm at and even was sexually wonderful with me when I was pregnant. He's an Aries man and I'm a Cancer woman. The old fashioned pairing in astrology. We're so happy and I'm glad I am not with my ex husband and he promised me he wanted kids but never gave me any but I'm so thankful we never had any because he'd be a terrible parent and then I'd be tethered to him by a child. My current husband is a wonderful gentle father to my baby girl who's three years old now. Oh and not to sound full of myself but my ex used to say he wanted such model type ladies and when I was thinner he admitted I was close to that in my face but my current husband says a face rarely changes a d bodies do with weight easily so he left me stupidly because I can always lose the weight and my face would still be beautiful too. He's saying logically if he was into my looks he missed out but didn't deserve me anyway. Now my ex got engaged to that military lady but they broke up and each woman I hear hes with through people laughing at him from our school I still talk to say hes not with very attractive women or they're less attractive than I am. I hoped it was because he learned looks shouldn't matter in a relationship so much but if it it truly is he had the best looking woman through me then it's just irony and kind of makes me say "Hah serves you right you bastard" lol. I'm beautiful inside and out. When I was pregnant I had to make sure we were divorced personally because I had declined agreeing to divorce back then and I wanted to move on and my ex was so mad and jealous sounding and I was so much thinner. He also saw my pictures way back and said one time "yeah you lose it when you're with him but not with me". He realized he lost a great catch lol. Thanks for sharing your story and reading mine. Sorry it's so long. I felt I wanted to share details.
sumrsolo that’s crazy. I just don’t understand why everything is always about looks anymore. I’m glad you found someone who appreciates you, everyone needs that. And no worries on it being long lol
No offense Kandy but did you say that you had gastric bypass.whatever happened. It did not work out? Or was it reversed.
sumrsolo ???? girl u need some kind of help...
Amanda Coble Good for you girl! More power to both of you! ❤️ 👍
THANK YOU KANDY!!! I dont care what anyone says - these are my FAVORITE videos you make. You are so wonderful and brave to be able to talk so candidly with us.
Leana_ya'know I agree. This was very interesting.
Intimacy is very important in a marriage it's not just sex but the intimacy is how you stay bonded together. I know being overweight has a lot to do with sex drive and performance, maybe it was hard for him with his weight issues as well.
Melinda Kerley That's exactly what I was going to say! It was probably more about his self esteem and health/weight, and not because he wasn't attractive to his beautiful wife.
You don't know how much I relate. Fell unwanted and unloved since forever.....your video spoke to my heart.
Ellemphriem Nil Same 💕
I love the way you are so great at facing these subjects that need to be discussed openly, but which a lot of people have difficulty talking about. You handle each of these subjects with such grace, wisdom and honesty and I truly respect you for tackling some of these more sensitive topics. Thanks for today's video and for just being you!!! 😊✌👍
Thank you for being so open and so honest about your life experiences. I think you are a very brave amazing woman. Sending you big hugs xx
Good morning lovely !! I love your channel and all of your videos, but candid Kandy is my most favorite !! Feels like I'm hanging out with a good friend, your a beautiful lady inside n out !! I hope you have a great day !! xx Always !!
Thank you for sharing your experience with this issue. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 years, and we’ve had a few different periods of time where we went through this, and I’m grateful that in our circumstance we could get back in sync with one another. It’s was crushing when I felt as if he didn’t want me. I’d go to sleep crying right next to him in bed, feeling like trash. With us it turned out to actually be a result of him being too tired or stressed out, and I’m grateful we never stopped talking, so I could tell him how distant I felt and he could reassure me his desire still burned for me. I also think it’s important for women to hear that there’s nothing wrong with being sexual and having a strong libido. We are all different, and we deserve to feel attractive and to be satisfied sexually. Sometimes that means dolling up for yourself, and taking care of your own needs. 💜
Thank you for being so open and honest. You are helping so much more than you know by sharing your story.
Why am I sitting here crying 😭. Love ya girl!!! I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. I like the end of the video the best. Love yourself. Such an important message that people seem to lose site of in this day and age. ❤️
Kandy you're such a nice lady. I wish you all the happiness in the world
Good morning! I'm a new subscriber. I love ur All ur videos, the clothes hauls, cooking videos and of course Candid Kandy. I love the honesty that u bring to candid Kandy. The things u talk about are things all women go through. We need more honestly in this world. Thanks keep up the great work!!🙂🙂
ceeeceee dickson I just found her too and I love how real she is!!
Bottom line is...if your not happy in a relationship GET OUT! Life is wayyy too precious and short to be unhappy!
I'm going through this right now. I feel rejected unwanted and he doesn't understand at all. He says sex just isn't a big deal to him. But to me it is. It's how I feel that you connect and become closer with your partner. It makes me feel unattractive and it hurts. I am 40 years old and he is 28. I really thought with him being younger he would have a higher sex drive. My self esteem is shot. Thanks for sharing and making me realize that I'm not being selfish in my needs.
Deidre Bishop I once went with a guy who was 10 yrs younger than me (I was 30) and my father said I looked like a old cow next to him LOL. I'd find someone closer or older to your age, you'll like it better...
Veronica Helms your dad sounds kind of like my dad! 😂😂 I was in a similar situation, where I was dating a guy who was 10 years younger than me. I was 32, and he was 22. Lol. I know, I know....but hell I had the time of my life! However my dad used to tell me, “that young man is just gonna use you for sex, and eventually he’ll move on to a woman that’s much closer to his own age.” Of course I didn’t want to hear it, but deep down inside, I knew that more than likely it was the truth.
TypeAAA You are absolutely correct in what you said, no doubt. Does not however change the fact that u look like a old cow next to him, ha ha. (And I was a looker.) Also, who wants to look as if they are dating their son? Not me. And then also hetting jealous when THEY look at girls even 5 years younger than them! Ha! NO THX!
Hi Kandy thank you for sharing , this is a topic that is probably more experienced than shared. You deserve to be loved in it's entire meaning of being loved and desired. 😉 from your south Texas friend
Good morning Kandy. I have a feeling that this discussion is going to help more people than you realize. Thank you for doing these episodes and putting these real life incidents out here to help people to deal with. And to help many of us to know we are not alone. Hugs & good vibes to you XOXO.
Kandy, you’re just a Special and Amazing Human being 💕
“ we couldn’t come together .. literally “ 😂 I can’t with you . You are so funny 💕💕
Im binging on you the last few days because i really need to see that i dont have to look perfect to be happy or worthy of love. You're such a great role model and im encouraged by watching you. This made me cry because im still going through it. Thank you for sharing so openly.
Love the Candid Kandys!
Your beautiful inside and out girl,any man that has you should count himself lucky because people like you are hard to come by,your a 💎and dont ever forget that💗💙💕💞💜💚
I stumbled across your channel a few months ago and I absolutely adore your videos Kandy! You are such a strong woman and I really admire your drive to live an authentic life. Sending lots of love!! Xx
Thank-you for sharing things like this. You are very relatable and it helps to know that other people have the same feelings and insecurities. I wish I was able to be so open and discuss things.
Thanks for sharing such a private experience. I often felt that same way with my last relationship, but he was not very nice or caring like your former husband sounds. Not only did he neglect me in every which way possible, he was often hateful and abusive verbally as well as physically. I was able to get away from that abusive life and still remember the awful moments I spent alone crying and feeling unattractive, unloved and unwanted. You and I lived two different scenarios, I know. However, the emptiness is quite similar. I am now just recently learning to love me again and rebuilding my self-esteem. God bless you Kandy and I wish you all the happiness in the world; you deserve it. Sharing is a major step in the healing process. Keep on strong and continue loving yourself. :-) ~ Hugs
Hey Kandy! I'm so grateful for the consistent uploads and these candid Kandy talks help get me through my day and ponder about myself and my perspective on things❤️ keep up the amazing work 😁👍
Thank you so much for this Kandy. I truly appreciate your honesty in this series. It seems like you always come out with just the right topic when I need it. Love you Kandy!
This is such a big issue for me... My husband and I have been together for 24 years. He is 10 years older than me but this is our only issue... He is a good man.. Takes care of me and my kids all together good person but he never wants to be intimite.. I've heard it all... I'm tired, I have to go to work, I'm dirty, I haven't showered.. It makes me so depressed and I don't know what to do?....thank you for talking about it...
Martha Medina Tell him
I agree with Sissy, you should tell him. Have you considered that maybe he could have an erectile dysfunction and be too embarrassed, ashamed etc to talk about it? I truly hope you can knit back together with him and feel wanted and fulfilled in your marriage.
Girl, hitting me in the feels again. Wish I had a friend like you.
This really hit home for me. Only I was the one saying no to sex for three years. First I said, when I lose the weight, then I lost the weight, it was then, when I had skin removal. I have struggled and continue to struggle a lot with intimacy.
Great video!
I loved how through your marriage, you learned how to love yourself vs relying on external factors.
You’re brave and such an inspiration!
I hate hearing that anyone had to go through this but also glad I am not the only one that is. This is the great thing about Kandy, she tells it like it is and it helps so many. I use to suffer alone until and thought I was the only one. So thank you so much, Kandy, for helping so many of us. Please keep it up.
Wow. This was the most honest I have ever heard someone be about a relationship/marriage. I really needed to watch this video and I'm so glad I did. I'm a sensitive person and in past relationships, I was declined affection/closeness. In my most recent relationship I felt the majority of the time he only was "affectionate" when he wanted sex. This video made me cry because we shared all the same feelings and inner thoughts we had. It's nice to know I was not alone in this kind of situation. It's comforting to know that other plus sized women have went through this struggle as well. Thank you for posting.
Right there with you. its truly a journey when you love someone. I still love my partner. I have gained so much more. thank you for keeping it real!
Kandy, I can definitely relate to this...Thank you for being open and honest, being in a sexless marriage can be such a sad place to be.
Thank you for being so honest! You're such a beautiful person! :)
You're wonderful Kandy! Thank you so much for a video like this. You help people more than you could ever know. xxx
I have been in the same situation with my ex husband. I was totally rock bottom, no confidence, low self esteem. I knew he wasn't in love with me anymore because of how I looked, he had even told me that. He ended up divorcing me. I'm now much happier now because I found out what I'm made of. I don't need to rely on someone else for my happiness, I need to find happiness in myself! Thank you for this video, I so needed to hear this today!! ❤
You are so pretty and feeling unloved and unwanted can feel excruciating. I'm experiencing this right now with a guy I was with for 18 years. It's like I'm a stranger to him now.
I love these candid series! Keep them coming! I just adore you, Kandy!
OMG!! If only I had the wisdom that you have when I was 20-30 years old, life would have be so different.
Whenever you speak on a subject, we can tell you are so honest and clear of what you are saying.
Kandy, be confident because you are really one of a kind, a gem. Also, your family reminds me of my family. You all stick together. We always do sister weekends once a year. Thanks for being you!!
It still hurts you, feeling rejected.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I was crying right along with you. I can really relate to your story. ❤️
My favorite new series from you ❤️❤️❤️great video!
You are the sweetest human on YT. Thank you for your inner most thoughts and life stories. We love you! 😘
Just going through some of Kandy’s old videos ( always worth a second look ) and I really miss these kind of videos . I know she is busy with her job , fella and family and I appreciate that but even so ….😢
Your content is always so relevant and interesting. You are my very favorite UA-camr. I am so glad you are on here sharing your life with us. 💗 love you, Kandy!
This was such a good Car Chat. Loved this topic and your openness about your feelings. You spoke in such a way that was honest and yet let us see both sides and didn’t come off as blaming on side or another. So true that there can be such a deep love and caring for someone yet that doesn’t mean that you should be partners. I’m glad that you and Roger have each other, and every one needs a person that they can have true and honest friendship with.
I really admire you for being so open, I would like to hug you to pieces! 🤗
What a great blog! Thank you for your openness and honesty. ❤️
I always watch your videos especially candid kandy when i drive work ;) i feel then like i'm in a car with best friend i listen to. I don't feel alone. Thank you for that. Hugs & love for you !
I would feel exactly as you did. We all need to be loved or wanted especially in a marriage. And good for you for helping yourself feel better. Kandy I am so glad you decided not to go back with Roger...xx
Hey!! I just found your channel! You are awesome! Just so real and down to earth. Thank you for sharing 😊
My story is different. I was a hot potato and my husband cheated the 7 yrs we were married. By the end of the marriage I felt ugly, undesirable, stupid and worthless. The truth is we use our bodies to get around but the spirit of who we are dwells inside. People get cruel and judge, spitting vomit at you because your machine (body) doesn't look one way but they're hurting the real living force inside, the part that's really important. No one has the right to damage anyones spirit.
Thank you so much kandy for sharing like you do i have been married 26 years and I am going thru so much in such a depression.
Thank you for your honesty and for talking about such raw topics.
Kandy this broke my heart to see you cry. Thank you for the advice ❤️
It's sad to see you cry :( but i'm glad you guys can still be friends.
Thank you very much for sharing Kandy 😚💜
I think every woman has felt this way. I have felt this way before. I love this and love you for being honest.
This is my reason for loving u so much, your honesty!!!😍😍😍
I’m a relatively new viewer and working my way through all your wonderful videos. Your life story in this video could be mine I feel unloved and unwanted everyday. After 36 years of marriage I’m a shell. My weight has fluctuated so much but I’m now a disgusting fat slob and 18 stone. I don’t wear makeup or do anything for myself anymore and Spend most of my day stood in the kitchen, cooking, washing up, cleaning, ironing and generally being available to fetch and Cary. I don’t think I will live much longer because inside I’ve already given up. I’m tied to my husband financially and frightened of him. I’ve been battered in the past and choked and the threat is always there. I’ve no family or friends to lean on. I used to have a good friend but wasn’t allowed to go out with her at all and if she came to my house would leave prematurely feeling insulted and embarrassed by my husband. I’m not really allowed out alone now so as I said I’m a shell. Thankyou for these very honest videos x I love watching them x
This was an excellent vid. This is completely relatable for me. We have been struggling for a while now with sexual compatibility and all my feelings that come along with that issue which is so very similar to what you described.
There are many reasons why we find ourselves in this current situation. It’s difficult to navigate through them all; but we are trying!
I’m still trying to learn to love myself, all of myself. Some days are really hard. Thanks for this, Kandy.
Many positive vibes sent your way!!!
Hi Kandy! I love your candid Kandys! I think your a lovely person, I enjoy listening to your videos😌
I truly love how open you are with your personal life and I love the fact that you do these kandid kandy videos you have no idea how much you inspire me I love you I hope you had a good day you are f****** amazing and you are f****** beautiful thank you so much !! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I can relate so much. My marriage was similar. 18 years of a 27 year marriage was completely sexless. Thank you SO much for being so open. I'm so glad you're in a much better place. I am too! Love you!
I always go to my partner if something is up. He is the only one for me. And sex is a different thing for me. I have mood swings so sometimes I want to have sex 3 times a day and sometimes I don't want anything for a week. Sometimes more. And that's okay.. communication is so important.
Hi Kandy 🙋🏻 I love Candid Kandy and this subject is dear to my heart , I can't leave a comment , it's too personal. Suffice it to say I know EXACTLY where you are coming from . Rejection is the worse feeling in the world ... I honestly can't remember the last time I felt good about myself . 💕💕💕💕💐
Thank you for sharing this with us. It makes a lot of sense how it all went down. I totally understand what you went through, and how its a chain reaction, with rejection, weight gain, t-shirts , etc...(everything you mentioned) I'm so sorry you went through it.. My partner doesn't easily open up either, but it's incredible when we do connect. Affection is so important in a relationship.. with or without sex.. Makes us feel loved and wanted as a woman. Love you.
Kandy this was a very good video. You are such a special person. Remember you are uniquely made. Be blessed🙂
Kandi I love your chitchat videos! relationships are a lot of work, it requires both partners to be on the same page or at least the same book.
Thank u for sharing this with us
I know how it feels to be turned out
But do not lose hope maybe he is not the one for u
Maybe u will meet the right man some day
Like love is possible
U ARE beautiful funny kind and fun
And he doesn't deserve u
So thank u for taking time of your day to share this with us 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
That was very courageous! Thanks for sharing ❤️ I’m a new subscriber, I’ve probably watched 30+ videos this week. I think you’re an incredible person and I pray God with bless you every day!!!
Thank you!!
I really needed this video. Thank you for being so open with us ❤
This was definitely helpful. But what if you’ve had those discussions numerous times and each time it’s that your partner doesn’t see it or believe it. For me it’s not showing affection as often as I’d like and also when it comes to intimacy he only wants to do it when HE wants to. If I try to initiate 9 times out of 10 he’s too tired and pushes me away. But if I’m too tired and don’t feel like it, it’s a different story and I basically have no choice. I feel like, I might as well give in since I’m usually wanting sex and not take this moment for granted type of thought process. I’ve told him about these feelings and he doesn’t agree, doesn’t believe it’s true, etc.
Also, thank you for being so open with us. Love you! 💜
Thank you for talking openly about this. I'm going through something similar and it makes me feel alone and sad. I just wish I was good enough.
It's coming up to our 14th year together. We hadn't had sex for over 2 years. We do have a lot of stressors and we have fought a lot. About 10 years ago I started drinking and overeating after certain events. I put on weight so rapidly that I ruined my skin. Stretch marks everywhere. I've since lost quite a bit, but my body shape is fucked. Everything's saggy, lumpy, malformed. I try to block it out because it's so hard to accept I caused it by not caring about myself. Anyway, I feel disgusting. I am disgusting. I don't have a pretty face to fall back on or feel excited about putting make up on, because it doesn't help. I'm still yuk. Anyway, recently I brought it up with my partner (the no sex thing) and I could tell he was uncomfortable and got the impression he wished I had just left it alone. He basically rejected me after I said I thought we should start being intimate again and that I felt alone, and I wanted us to be closer. He said something along the lines of "but we are close..." Ouch! When he saw that it upset me he became annoyed, and said "well go on the fucking pill again and we will."
Punch to my gut. I wish he had instead of saying that.
I love these videos Kandy! I’m sorry to hear about your experience, but thank you for sharing. My ex flat out told me she wasn’t interested in me sexually after seven years of being together. I’m still messed up and sensitive about needing sex in my current relationship. Thank you for sharing your healing process and thank you for the message of taking control of your own self worth!
This is SO spot on!! Will have to add you to my Fitbit Hun! (I’ve never been married, however, my last ex was not pleasant and he was constantly putting me down)
When my husband started medication for depression and anxiety, he had concerns about his sex drive being effected because the med had some of those sort of side effects. I knew they could possibly happen and it could make his drive tank. Still the times he just wasn't in the mood if I tried to initiate, hurt so much. I had to constantly remind myself. "He's on a medication that can effect it. It's not you. it's not about you." Still constantly asked him "Are you okay? Are we okay? Is there something I'm doing that turns you off." I'm sure I annoyed the hell out of him. It's been about a year since then. He's leveled off and gotten his drive back. What I found helped was a lot of flirting and kisses and constant "I love you." Non-sexual intimacy and communication. I wanted to be supportive and just let him know that even if he wasn't feeling into it, it wasn't something for him to stress about because that wouldn't help him get it up either.
I’m asexual and unfortunately had a long term relationship where I found out in the middle of it. I try to understand how sexual people think they’re unattractive to their partner when sex isn’t wanted; and what all it does in the relationship. This topic is just interesting to me in general.
I really enjoyed this video it’s nice seeing a different perspective that I don’t have. Thanks Kandy! 🍃 I’m glad you started focusing on yourself and that you know you don’t need anyone else’s approval. 🖤
Good morning kandy thanks for the video love your onesty your a cool person I hope you have a wonderful day 🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
So hard not to personalise that thanks for this Kandi I think that it’s a really big reason for a lot of breakups.
Nice story .keep smiling kandy youre a lovely person and deserve the world x
Proud of you that you chose "change" . Knowing you having choices rather than subject yourself any further in an unhealthy co-dependent relationship. At the time I'm not sure you can see this now about Roger, his super obesity, that too must have also affected his mental health thus libido as it did yours. Only through the hard work being doing now the many years to come of healing and being aware do we get to a place where it's ok to not be ok. I hear you
This is the first time watching your videos and I can relate! Love you girl!
I really love these candid kandy vids.
This video really hit home for me. I had the same issues with my ex-husband and I stuck around for longer than I should because I didn't want to disappoint others and hurt him. In the end I likely hurt him more by dealing with issues the wrong way.
This hits home with me so much... I've talked with him but he keeps making excuses. He won't go to the Dr about it gggrrrr I have to tell him when I want attention. This year he's may be touched me 3 times and he's never in to it so it takes longer. I love him but the love isn't their anymore but I don't want to divorce him. I've been dealing with this for 7yrs :(
frogloverlora girl, I feel you. I've been in my relationship over 9 years. First 2 years everything was perfect then out of no where he starts the excuses. He doesn't like morning sex or day sex anymore, he always has a headache or ate too much or has to get up early or is too tired. After 4 years of constant rejection I stopped initiating. The last 3 years have been pretty miserable for me. He refused to acknowledge that anything is wrong or to go to therapy whether it is personal therapy or couples therapy. This summer I finally started my own therapy for my PTSD. I came to the realization I don't want to get married to him. He refuses to call off the wedding though and I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I'm in grad school full time and can't move out on my own.
frogloverlora this is so sad, could he potentially be cheating?
No cause he goes to work and comes home at the same time every day. He works a mile from our house and my SIL works there also.
You are a beautiful soul,sweet Kandy...on the inside and out!!!
Kandy dont let other people deyerkine hown you feel. I have been through that before, with feeling unwanted or invalid.. thanks for sharing your life.
Bro I started crying when u did😭😭 I hope u find some one soon babes🌻
Your candid kandy’s are my favorite videos that you do. You’re so real & authentic. And I think a lot of women can relate to you. Thank you for helping us all ❤️
I just have one thing to say.... I love you Kandy
Love you so much, Kandy! ♥️
Beautiful! Ur light shines bright.😘💞
Thank you for your honesty this hit home for me on so many levels i had issues like this with my ex hubs and always putting me down about my weight then the not being intimate but he also went a bit further and was abusive. I wasnt happy our kids werbt happy so i left. Fast fwrd 3yrs and im feeling unwanted and unloved again and no sex for almost two mnths while i point it out. I feel extremely alone depressed i now have anxiety and panic attacks. I have been open and honest with my parnter now its a waiting game to see if things change. Our conversation went as far as me sayin if i dont get what i need id get it elsewhere. Its been a roller coaster ride especially since i relaises ive gained 60lbs in less then a year this is now the biggest ive been ever and not feeling good about it. Im glad im not the only one with issues like this we all need to fight the fight together. Hugs n much love you are beautiful
Man oh man does this hit home
Amazing advice ❤