This is actually my first UA-cam comment ever - but I have been watching you for some time. I’m 21, and recently got out of a 5 year relationship and have struggled so much the past year with learning to be single and happy, and appreciate myself as an individual - without a man to validate me. I have found it so hard to love myself being that I am a little bigger, but time alone has allowed me to focus on my anxieties and clean up my eating (I’ve lost 25 lbs so far!) This video could not have had better timing. Keep being you, and being an awesome lady to look up to 💛
I had to learn to love me first. Losing weight was not just enough. I found out to love anyone you first have to love yourself. Im praying for you and you anxiety.
Love yourself. I have been celibate for almost 10 years. Not that I hate men, but since retiring l like having my own time. No one to tell you what to eat, when to eat, what to wear, where to go, how to act. Not to mention questioning you about phone calls and phone numbers you have in your phone. And not having to worry about about people transmitting diseases to you, and failing to tell you, is the biggest plus. Men don't care about what a body looks like when they're horny. Most likely however, They're going to talk about the woman regardless, if it was just a fling.
I LOVE hearing you talk about being secure in your self and body positivity. Your message is always on point. I hope you continue to take your own excellent advice.😘😘😘 The world needs more women who are willing to be honest and share their struggles and successes.Thanks for being one of mine🤗🤗🤗
Candid Kandys are my favorites! You are SO inspirational and instill strength in everyone that watches your videos so that they can go out and be a better version of themselves. What an angel on earth! 💜💜💜
I think it is different being a bigger woman, or man when dating - and not based just on looks. I am a big, big girl. If my male and female friends and I have ever discussed relationships/dating etc, being over weight only really comes up when we consider quality of life - not really our 'types', as such. A couple of my close family members have told me they worry about my weight, so what would a partner do? What if he wants to travel and worries I won't be comfortable on a plane? Does he sacrifice seeing the world for me? What sort of pressure would that put on our relationship, would I feel guilty? Yes. Would going out for a 5k walk be too much to ask for me after a long day at work? I don't get a period anymore, what if he wants kids? Even if I did, how does my body cope through pregnancy and child birth? How long am I going to be around to be a part of his life? If I stay this fat, I will probably die young. Men do consider these things, as do women. If anyone, any sex, is seriously dating, they are looking for someone they see a future with. I am generally happy in my body, I accepted being fat a long time ago. Most of the time I feel confident, and I certainly don't need to be in a romantic relationship to feel complete and validated. But I do know that some men don't want to date me, not just based on looks, but because they want someone healthy, it's less hassle and less to have to worry about. I think this is a harsh reality. And I don't judge them for that, or get angry. That's up to them to decide what they want out of life and a partner, and it's not for me to be concerned with, particularly if they don't want to get to know me. I also don't consider this to be 'fat shaming'. Of course I do not speak for ALL men and women, I am just giving another example of conversations and opinions that I have experienced. I truly apologise from the bottom of my heart if this hurts anyone's feelings. Love you always Kandy xxx
I am in a happy relationship , and never had problems dating as I guess I am the "acceptable" kinda fat. But I have never considered that part of dating and it is a very interesting point. ( I study psychology so it is even more interesting for me). Do you think that people also decide not to date someone who smokes , not just because of the unpleasant smell but also because they might develop health problems? This is very intriguing, thank you so much for putting it in a different perspective.
@@bernadettszilagyi4529 Thank you for the response, I do think you are right about your smoker example. It makes me sad that there is an 'acceptable' fat but you are right about this. Even in the media, where apparently we accept women and men in all sizes now, there is definitely a line we don't cross in terms of body shape and size. Sadly I think that there are several groups of people who are bunched into an 'undateable' category, by the average person - frighteningly perhaps due to a disability or disease. I do think it's because certain people don't want to carry the emotional pressure of it. Not at the beginning of a relationship anyway. Relationships are tough enough as it is without what people might consider extra baggage. I suppose the same could be said for dating someone with children, or someone who has a questionable history. Again I want to reiterate that this isn't everyone's, or even my opinion. My ex boyfriend had a daughter and was overweight when we met (he was at a healthy weight by the time we split up due to a lot of hard work on his part!), and it never bothered me. I loved every second with them. I guess it's down to what you want out of a relationship and your own life. It's personal.
Bernadett Szilagyi personally Health is inportant to me. Be it smoking or weight I want someone who will be a good role model for our children. Someone who can run around and play tag with kids and go on long walks. From what I found dating a few non healthy people if they don't feel to need to care for themselves they won't be able to care for others. I'm not talking strictly about weight. One was an alcoholic one was a smoker... bad habits are just signs of bad personalities to me now. just throwing my opinion in 😂 I'm happily engaged now. I'm very active I'm a ballet dancer and he is active too so we aRe balanced. I think it is no big deal for some but for others health definitely matters. Y'all have to be on the same page or one will be left feeling inferior.
Kassi Beal I get where you’re coming from and I can see your reasoning however I think saying that bad habits pretty much equal bad personalities to me is too far. There are so many reasons why people develop bad habit and sometimes it is out of their control. For example mental health problem and no professional help can easily lead to substance misuse as people try to self medicate... I’m glad you’re happy and engaged to a man with similar values to your own and I wish you all the happiness:)
Bernadett Szilagyi your right that part was too far. Of course there are circumstances that cause exceptions. I’m sorry that was ignorant of me thank you for bringing it up lol
I was so brutally honest with my partner of 17 years, I was basically trying to talk him out of being interested in me. That’s how low my self esteem was, but honesty is great. 😊💜
I'm going through the dating thing right now myself. It is tough! Sometimes I look at first dates as "practice".. if It doesn't pan out, at least it was a practice run. Almost 2 weeks in dating one particular guy, so far, so good, wish me luck!
Hi sweetheart so good to see you back. Love your talk, I have been a big girl all my life and never been without a boyfriend or husband but the saying goes girls can get it! Right? I think being happy with yourself is the biggest hurdle to jump first. But I can’t stand being alone so that my insecurity. And I had to stop taking the first person that shows any interest. I’m 57 now an invalid and very fat. But I have a loving husband that adores me. Guess I’m the lucky one. You Rock GF . Love Sandy from down under xoxo xoxo
Love this video. I had to learn to love me first, before i could love anyone else. I always thought i was not good enough nor pretty. But i realized it was my past keeping me from going after what i wanted in life. Learn to love and live life for yourself
Thank you Kandy, this is what I needed to hear after a insecure and humiliating experiences🙈, due to my weight, body, and people opinions of it. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
As a big girl, the one thing that pisses me off is all these that can't be real with their photos, because they facetune everything on their face & even their body. This is one thing that will keep guys second guessing looking at or wanting to really meet with you(not you) even if they are into bigger women. They are really no different than us as a lady, if were burned by a guy saying one thing and turns out their something else. I decided dating wasn't my cup of tea and I like being single better than dealing with jerks or only out for one thing. I love myself far more than anyone else can. I am am a widow with no family, no kids only my 2 dogs and the best man ever lived or walk on this Earth my Heavenly Father. I do always wish those who are looking the best of luck, but just watch out for the abusers and/or just looking to take you out for a 10 dollar meal and expect you hop in bed in return for it. Sorry so long. Much Love, Sherry
I've come to realize that I'm ok with who I am I'm a big girl and I've always been that way and if people like me fine and if they don't it's ok also I would hope they try and get to know me for who i am and not what I look like.
Hi Kandy ! I know that this is not directly connected with the aim of your channel but I want ask one question. Would you consider doing vlog from the town you living in ? I've been watching you for so long and observed you live in a such beautiful place. A lot of green areas, mountains, many trees etc. I have read that near your town there is a volcano which eruption was quite destructive. Thank you for revealing your dating experience ! It was very interesting and educational.
You are an amazing woman. A complete inspiration to me . Your personality and self confidence is just inspiring. I am a fairly new subscriber and find myself drawn to your videos... You make me laugh. You make me think . And you are just beautiful inside and out .
Kandy.. I used to be heavy & lost weight and now I’ve got excess skin & it has stopped me from dating. The line you said about your kindness and warmth shining through.. as simple as that thought is.. that really is helping shift my perspective.. I’m not just my loose skin. THANK YOU! And thanks for equating it to job interviews.. SO TRUE.
I'm a big girl like you Kandy, been single for a couple years. I did try online dating when my marraige ended 6 yrs ago, but Pof and Tinder were brutal. Men on there only wanted sex not dating. Men here in Ireland don't want to be seen with a big fat girl even if they do like them, men get embarrassed I think and worry about peers teasing them.
Dating is hard! It's tough for me to put myself out there when I'd rather just snuggle with my dog and watch Netflix. But I'm trying. You have some great points! I think it is definitely important to value yourself first and not look for that in another person. You seem really cool :)
As a plus size woman I have never been on a date. I have been asked once but it was by another woman. I politely declined because that's not my thing. After awhile I thought "ugh, omg I should've just said yes because I could've had a good time and made a friend." Lol Anyway I was in an on and off again relationship for almost 13 years. I was so shy when we first started seeing each other. As I've become older I'm finally gaining some confidence, finding my voice and that so called relationship was not something I wanted for the rest of my life. I want more. Thanks to you and several other youtubers I'm becoming more accepting and comfortable in my own skin. ☺
I was told by a lady who worked in a lingerie shop and helped ladies with the right sized bras. She said that both man and women have one side of the body bigger than the other. Which ever side is the dominant, is the larger. I’m right handed and have a much larger breast on the right. She said with men, they have a lager testicle on the dominant side. I used to be very self conscious about it but now it doesn’t bother me.
I have been online dating for a very long time. Used to use Craigslist before they shut down the personals.. thank god they did. 98% of men on there were walking red flags!!! After a LONG 2 year year relationship which ended badly i tried Okcupid again for the first time in 3 years. I had 3 shitty dates before i met this amazing man in Missouri! I am shocked at how well it has gone. 3 months in and still seems to be going great. We are about 2 hours apart, but see each other for 2 days every week!
YOU are a beautiful person xx I haven’t been asked on a date for years but most of my past boyfriends have been walking red flags 🚩 so better that I haven’t I guess as my judgement historically has sucked x these days it would be nice to just be asked! Xx
Sounds like me I was with my husband at the age of 15 married at 19 with two kids with him till I was 32 with four kids till he cheated on me once again and we end up having a huge crazy break up and when I broke up when I started to date like I didn't want anything serious I didn't want to deal with anybody on a one-on-one basis so it's like really really hard to trust people again I found a really great guy now that I'm super happy with and I just hope everybody else can do that also it's nice to have someone that is just generally nice to you also and I hope everybody gets to experience that I had a really hard life with my husband
I don't think it matter what size you are, dating for anyone is daunting. Unfortunately when it comes to looking for acceptance off people we are all guilty of that, every day we choose what to wear, put on make-up etc, all to look and feel good and hope other people think we do to.. Hence everyone loves a compliment. To know any potential partner takes time, people are different at the beginning of a relationship... And it's so easy to accept a situation/ relationship as being 'that's it' because it seems the easiest solution, it's not it leaves you less of a person for accepting that's your lot
my opinion on dating..is i love myself and i dont care if i am not skinny or perfect..and i say if you dont like me for the way i am then dont bother your an amazing soul kandy youll find love soon..but being single and independant aint that bad either
Did you know they have you on marketplace on face book? They are advertising some weight loss products and they have you on the beginning of the video turning around like when your doing your try on’s. I don’t know if you gave them permission to do that. Just wanted to let you know in case you didint know.
You say that we must learn to love ourselves but..what do you do when you start excepting yourself and others bring you down by saying that your ugly💔? What do I do? When they say that to me I start hating myself again 😟🥺
I know you are looking for Kandy's advice but here's some of mine. I don't have a picture but I'm a 35 year old very fat woman, who believed for years that I was ugly because I was fat. As I got older I realized it doesn't really matter (I'm not saying your feelings do not matter they are very valid). It does still bother me a bit when I know people don't find me attractive but I had to realize that's because I'm always looking for outside validation. If someone you aren't interested in doesn't find you attractive it doesn't matter, if it's someone you were interested in I can understand that's a let down but now you know you won't waste anytime with them. Looking for people to find you beautiful is a waste if your prescious time. Also @fatgirlflow talked in a video recently about how she got more confident, and it was by working on your judgements of others. Now if it's family talking down to you about how you look that's a completely different situation and harder to deal with. Try to remember that there are so many more interesting things about you than how you look (and people will find you attractive irregardless of what you think of your appearance). I hope this helps some.
You may expect that type of conversation from a child but any adult whether it be a stranger or a family member that don't have common decent courtesy and respect for another human being that would talk that ignorant and disrespectful to another person is not someone you want in your life you must realize this is your life you will never get another you you either live for yourself are you live for someone else
I am on the bigger side as well and I do the same thing.. I post full body photos because I want to be transparent. I don’t want to trick anyone. To me it’s like when people only out photos of themself from 5+ years ago.. it’s just deceitful. What’s the point? I’d rather someone be pleasantly surprised to see me in person than disappointed. I also make sure to verbalize to them that I am absolutely plus size. I have been amazed at the amount of men who are not only not turned off by my size, but so many actual prefer it (and not in a fetish way). I have to say I’ve been surprised to learn from my personal experience that guys are not nearly as shallow as I assumed lol. Every guy I’ve met from dating apps has made me feel attractive without question.
That's crazy it's hard to date as a bbw, all of the men in family ,especially my brother loves big women. They wont date women under 250lbs. Of course they are beautiful, well dressed and still feminine, it's just more to love!
Kandy, you are a beautiful woman. Please never forget that. And all women (unless they've had implants) have a size difference in the boobs including me. But back to my comment.... You are a remarkable woman.
My last relationship lasted 4 years, 2 weeks and 5 days and I left him March 2009. I am still exhausted from that relationship. He was so toxic, abusive and mean. Just thinking of dating again shoots my anxiety way high.
I just got to ask like cuz I never went on dating sites just because of like Facebook and such even with messenger I have like random guys like sending me dirty pictures or asking to hang out where I would never go chill with somebody like that just because I feel like all they want is sex and a lot of the sites are like that to Garrett up to like just do hookup I'm like you don't even know me please don't send me that little tiny thing that you think is so ginormous LOL like it's kind of embarrassing for them you know where I mean I have never randomly like look through Facebook and be like oh let me hit this one up to see if I can chill with today so pretty much everything on mine is private now and you can sue send a message but then a set of it just popping up in my feed I can reject it right away I don't know I just feel like today's generation is very very different than us that I would never just text somebody for sex like so I've never tried a dating sites because of that
I think the full body pictures discloses the weight. as far as std's, ive seen people on craigslist disclose in title (no longer personals on craigslist though). I haven't seen it on PoF though.. I think ppl should disclose at least in messages though. quite unfair not to.
I had more action fat, than I probably would have been skinny lol. Fat girls don't have that brat personality as most thin women do, or so I was told. Not to mention, we have the wettest 😺 & are more attentive to our men.
This is actually my first UA-cam comment ever - but I have been watching you for some time. I’m 21, and recently got out of a 5 year relationship and have struggled so much the past year with learning to be single and happy, and appreciate myself as an individual - without a man to validate me. I have found it so hard to love myself being that I am a little bigger, but time alone has allowed me to focus on my anxieties and clean up my eating (I’ve lost 25 lbs so far!) This video could not have had better timing. Keep being you, and being an awesome lady to look up to 💛
Well done, you're doing fantastic. Stuff happened and you fought right back. You should be really proud of yourself ❤❤
I had to learn to love me first. Losing weight was not just enough. I found out to love anyone you first have to love yourself. Im praying for you and you anxiety.
WhisperSparkles ASMR Since 2010 thank you! 💘
Lavender Watkins so true! Thank you, I appreciate it :)
Baby girl... you'll learn to LOVE being without him. Takes a different amount of time for every person
Would love to hear about the job search and struggles. I'm in the market right now and boy it's tough!!
Love yourself. I have been celibate for almost 10 years. Not that I hate men, but since retiring l like having my own time.
No one to tell you what to eat, when to eat, what to wear, where to go, how to act. Not to mention questioning you about phone calls and phone numbers you have in your phone.
And not having to worry about about people transmitting diseases to you, and failing to tell you, is the biggest plus. Men don't care about what a body looks like when they're horny.
Most likely however,
They're going to talk about the woman regardless, if it was just a fling.
I LOVE hearing you talk about being secure in your self and body positivity. Your message is always on point. I hope you continue to take your own excellent advice.😘😘😘 The world needs more women who are willing to be honest and share their struggles and successes.Thanks for being one of mine🤗🤗🤗
Candid Kandys are my favorites! You are SO inspirational and instill strength in everyone that watches your videos so that they can go out and be a better version of themselves. What an angel on earth! 💜💜💜
I think it is different being a bigger woman, or man when dating - and not based just on looks. I am a big, big girl. If my male and female friends and I have ever discussed relationships/dating etc, being over weight only really comes up when we consider quality of life - not really our 'types', as such. A couple of my close family members have told me they worry about my weight, so what would a partner do? What if he wants to travel and worries I won't be comfortable on a plane? Does he sacrifice seeing the world for me? What sort of pressure would that put on our relationship, would I feel guilty? Yes. Would going out for a 5k walk be too much to ask for me after a long day at work? I don't get a period anymore, what if he wants kids? Even if I did, how does my body cope through pregnancy and child birth? How long am I going to be around to be a part of his life? If I stay this fat, I will probably die young. Men do consider these things, as do women. If anyone, any sex, is seriously dating, they are looking for someone they see a future with. I am generally happy in my body, I accepted being fat a long time ago. Most of the time I feel confident, and I certainly don't need to be in a romantic relationship to feel complete and validated. But I do know that some men don't want to date me, not just based on looks, but because they want someone healthy, it's less hassle and less to have to worry about. I think this is a harsh reality. And I don't judge them for that, or get angry. That's up to them to decide what they want out of life and a partner, and it's not for me to be concerned with, particularly if they don't want to get to know me. I also don't consider this to be 'fat shaming'. Of course I do not speak for ALL men and women, I am just giving another example of conversations and opinions that I have experienced. I truly apologise from the bottom of my heart if this hurts anyone's feelings. Love you always Kandy xxx
I am in a happy relationship , and never had problems dating as I guess I am the "acceptable" kinda fat. But I have never considered that part of dating and it is a very interesting point. ( I study psychology so it is even more interesting for me). Do you think that people also decide not to date someone who smokes , not just because of the unpleasant smell but also because they might develop health problems? This is very intriguing, thank you so much for putting it in a different perspective.
@@bernadettszilagyi4529 Thank you for the response, I do think you are right about your smoker example. It makes me sad that there is an 'acceptable' fat but you are right about this. Even in the media, where apparently we accept women and men in all sizes now, there is definitely a line we don't cross in terms of body shape and size. Sadly I think that there are several groups of people who are bunched into an 'undateable' category, by the average person - frighteningly perhaps due to a disability or disease. I do think it's because certain people don't want to carry the emotional pressure of it. Not at the beginning of a relationship anyway. Relationships are tough enough as it is without what people might consider extra baggage. I suppose the same could be said for dating someone with children, or someone who has a questionable history. Again I want to reiterate that this isn't everyone's, or even my opinion. My ex boyfriend had a daughter and was overweight when we met (he was at a healthy weight by the time we split up due to a lot of hard work on his part!), and it never bothered me. I loved every second with them. I guess it's down to what you want out of a relationship and your own life. It's personal.
Bernadett Szilagyi personally Health is inportant to me. Be it smoking or weight I want someone who will be a good role model for our children. Someone who can run around and play tag with kids and go on long walks. From what I found dating a few non healthy people if they don't feel to need to care for themselves they won't be able to care for others. I'm not talking strictly about weight. One was an alcoholic one was a smoker... bad habits are just signs of bad personalities to me now. just throwing my opinion in 😂 I'm happily engaged now. I'm very active I'm a ballet dancer and he is active too so we aRe balanced. I think it is no big deal for some but for others health definitely matters. Y'all have to be on the same page or one will be left feeling inferior.
Kassi Beal I get where you’re coming from and I can see your reasoning however I think saying that bad habits pretty much equal bad personalities to me is too far. There are so many reasons why people develop bad habit and sometimes it is out of their control. For example mental health problem and no professional help can easily lead to substance misuse as people try to self medicate... I’m glad you’re happy and engaged to a man with similar values to your own and I wish you all the happiness:)
Bernadett Szilagyi your right that part was too far. Of course there are circumstances that cause exceptions. I’m sorry that was ignorant of me thank you for bringing it up lol
Very cool that you were honest and open and i agree with your statement of not settling we dont need to settle. hugs, jo anna
You hit the nail right on the head. It was like you were talking to ME and at the same time it was like you were talking about ME THANK YOU SO MUCH
I was so brutally honest with my partner of 17 years, I was basically trying to talk him out of being interested in me. That’s how low my self esteem was, but honesty is great. 😊💜
I'm going through the dating thing right now myself. It is tough! Sometimes I look at first dates as "practice".. if It doesn't pan out, at least it was a practice run. Almost 2 weeks in dating one particular guy, so far, so good, wish me luck!
Hi sweetheart so good to see you back. Love your talk, I have been a big girl all my life and never been without a boyfriend or husband but the saying goes girls can get it! Right? I think being happy with yourself is the biggest hurdle to jump first. But I can’t stand being alone so that my insecurity. And I had to stop taking the first person that shows any interest. I’m 57 now an invalid and very fat. But I have a loving husband that adores me. Guess I’m the lucky one. You Rock GF . Love Sandy from down under xoxo xoxo
Keep the candid Kandy videos coming! We love hearing your thoughts! 💜
Love this video. I had to learn to love me first, before i could love anyone else. I always thought i was not good enough nor pretty. But i realized it was my past keeping me from going after what i wanted in life. Learn to love and live life for yourself
Thank you Kandy,
this is what I needed to hear after a insecure and humiliating experiences🙈, due to my weight, body, and people opinions of it. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Yes your happiness is your responsibility!
As a big girl, the one thing that pisses me off is all these that can't be real with their photos, because they facetune everything on their face & even their body. This is one thing that will keep guys second guessing looking at or wanting to really meet with you(not you) even if they are into bigger women. They are really no different than us as a lady, if were burned by a guy saying one thing and turns out their something else. I decided dating wasn't my cup of tea and I like being single better than dealing with jerks or only out for one thing. I love myself far more than anyone else can. I am am a widow with no family, no kids only my 2 dogs and the best man ever lived or walk on this Earth my Heavenly Father. I do always wish those who are looking the best of luck, but just watch out for the abusers and/or just looking to take you out for a 10 dollar meal and expect you hop in bed in return for it. Sorry so long.
Much Love, Sherry
I've come to realize that I'm ok with who I am I'm a big girl and I've always been that way and if people like me fine and if they don't it's ok also I would hope they try and get to know me for who i am and not what I look like.
Patricia Munoz yes!! Exactly!! 🙌🏼❤️
Good call
How did you know I needed this video?
Im going for a breast reduction consultation Thursday. I've wanted this for so long.
KrispyKremeMcDonalds oh wow! Best of luck!! ❤️🥰❤️
Prayers for a successful surgery! 😇 It is great that you are doing this for yourself. Take Care! 😇🌟
Thanks everyone. I really hope my insurance fully covers it because that's the only way I can get it done
Good luck!! Best thing I ever did!
I went from a K to a D. And I agree, best decision I ever made :) good luck!
Hi Kandy ! I know that this is not directly connected with the aim of your channel but I want ask one question. Would you consider doing vlog from the town you living in ? I've been watching you for so long and observed you live in a such beautiful place. A lot of green areas, mountains, many trees etc. I have read that near your town there is a volcano which eruption was quite destructive. Thank you for revealing your dating experience ! It was very interesting and educational.
You are an amazing woman. A complete inspiration to me . Your personality and self confidence is just inspiring. I am a fairly new subscriber and find myself drawn to your videos... You make me laugh. You make me think . And you are just beautiful inside and out .
Thank you for always being so transparent. Love you girl 💕 ❤️
Kandy.. I used to be heavy & lost weight and now I’ve got excess skin & it has stopped me from dating. The line you said about your kindness and warmth shining through.. as simple as that thought is.. that really is helping shift my perspective.. I’m not just my loose skin. THANK YOU! And thanks for equating it to job interviews.. SO TRUE.
I'm a big girl like you Kandy, been single for a couple years. I did try online dating when my marraige ended 6 yrs ago, but Pof and Tinder were brutal. Men on there only wanted sex not dating. Men here in Ireland don't want to be seen with a big fat girl even if they do like them, men get embarrassed I think and worry about peers teasing them.
Yipeeeeeeee......saving you for later...my time. My new favourite channel. 😊
Love starting my day with one of your videos ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
Dating is hard! It's tough for me to put myself out there when I'd rather just snuggle with my dog and watch Netflix. But I'm trying. You have some great points! I think it is definitely important to value yourself first and not look for that in another person. You seem really cool :)
As a plus size woman I have never been on a date. I have been asked once but it was by another woman. I politely declined because that's not my thing. After awhile I thought "ugh, omg I should've just said yes because I could've had a good time and made a friend." Lol
Anyway I was in an on and off again relationship for almost 13 years. I was so shy when we first started seeing each other. As I've become older I'm finally gaining some confidence, finding my voice and that so called relationship was not something I wanted for the rest of my life. I want more.
Thanks to you and several other youtubers I'm becoming more accepting and comfortable in my own skin.
☺
I was told by a lady who worked in a lingerie shop and helped ladies with the right sized bras. She said that both man and women have one side of the body bigger than the other. Which ever side is the dominant, is the larger. I’m right handed and have a much larger breast on the right. She said with men, they have a lager testicle on the dominant side. I used to be very self conscious about it but now it doesn’t bother me.
I have been online dating for a very long time. Used to use Craigslist before they shut down the personals.. thank god they did. 98% of men on there were walking red flags!!! After a LONG 2 year year relationship which ended badly i tried Okcupid again for the first time in 3 years. I had 3 shitty dates before i met this amazing man in Missouri! I am shocked at how well it has gone. 3 months in and still seems to be going great. We are about 2 hours apart, but see each other for 2 days every week!
YOU are a beautiful person xx I haven’t been asked on a date for years but most of my past boyfriends have been walking red flags 🚩 so better that I haven’t I guess as my judgement historically has sucked x these days it would be nice to just be asked! Xx
I'm a midsize girl but I love your advice and all your candid kandys!!!
Great Advice Kandy!! Love ya :)
Thank you for this!!!
Sounds like me I was with my husband at the age of 15 married at 19 with two kids with him till I was 32 with four kids till he cheated on me once again and we end up having a huge crazy break up and when I broke up when I started to date like I didn't want anything serious I didn't want to deal with anybody on a one-on-one basis so it's like really really hard to trust people again I found a really great guy now that I'm super happy with and I just hope everybody else can do that also it's nice to have someone that is just generally nice to you also and I hope everybody gets to experience that I had a really hard life with my husband
I LOVE your attitude, Kandy! ❤️🥰
I don't think it matter what size you are, dating for anyone is daunting. Unfortunately when it comes to looking for acceptance off people we are all guilty of that, every day we choose what to wear, put on make-up etc, all to look and feel good and hope other people think we do to.. Hence everyone loves a compliment. To know any potential partner takes time, people are different at the beginning of a relationship... And it's so easy to accept a situation/ relationship as being 'that's it' because it seems the easiest solution, it's not it leaves you less of a person for accepting that's your lot
I love you Kandy, always enjoy your videos❤️❤️❤️
"A big deal"...no pun intended? 🤣LOL
You have the greatest videos...
Will u be doing a clothing haul
my opinion on dating..is i love myself and i dont care if i am not skinny or perfect..and i say if you dont like me for the way i am then dont bother
your an amazing soul kandy youll find love soon..but being single and independant aint that bad either
Did you know they have you on marketplace on face book? They are advertising some weight loss products and they have you on the beginning of the video turning around like when your doing your try on’s. I don’t know if you gave them permission to do that. Just wanted to let you know in case you didint know.
Omg I have the same issue with my breast . My left one is much smaller then right one 🤣😪😅
Thank you kandy!!!🧡🧡
This is right on time luv
good advice kandy !
Hi Kandy.I think your beautiful inside n out!! Hope you have a good week!! 😊❤🌻
Love this! And love you ❤
Your an inspiration kandy🤗🤗🤗❤
Always great to see your smiling face.😊😊
Thank you 🙂, 🌳🍃🍂🍁🍂🍁🍊
Missed ya! Hope you are well!
You say that we must learn to love ourselves but..what do you do when you start excepting yourself and others bring you down by saying that your ugly💔? What do I do? When they say that to me I start hating myself again 😟🥺
I know you are looking for Kandy's advice but here's some of mine. I don't have a picture but I'm a 35 year old very fat woman, who believed for years that I was ugly because I was fat. As I got older I realized it doesn't really matter (I'm not saying your feelings do not matter they are very valid). It does still bother me a bit when I know people don't find me attractive but I had to realize that's because I'm always looking for outside validation. If someone you aren't interested in doesn't find you attractive it doesn't matter, if it's someone you were interested in I can understand that's a let down but now you know you won't waste anytime with them. Looking for people to find you beautiful is a waste if your prescious time. Also @fatgirlflow talked in a video recently about how she got more confident, and it was by working on your judgements of others.
Now if it's family talking down to you about how you look that's a completely different situation and harder to deal with. Try to remember that there are so many more interesting things about you than how you look (and people will find you attractive irregardless of what you think of your appearance). I hope this helps some.
You may expect that type of conversation from a child but any adult whether it be a stranger or a family member that don't have common decent courtesy and respect for another human being that would talk that ignorant and disrespectful to another person is not someone you want in your life you must realize this is your life you will never get another you you either live for yourself are you live for someone else
I am on the bigger side as well and I do the same thing.. I post full body photos because I want to be transparent. I don’t want to trick anyone. To me it’s like when people only out photos of themself from 5+ years ago.. it’s just deceitful. What’s the point? I’d rather someone be pleasantly surprised to see me in person than disappointed. I also make sure to verbalize to them that I am absolutely plus size. I have been amazed at the amount of men who are not only not turned off by my size, but so many actual prefer it (and not in a fetish way). I have to say I’ve been surprised to learn from my personal experience that guys are not nearly as shallow as I assumed lol. Every guy I’ve met from dating apps has made me feel attractive without question.
Thank u 😘
I loveeee candid kandyyyyy
That's crazy it's hard to date as a bbw, all of the men in family ,especially my brother loves big women. They wont date women under 250lbs. Of course they are beautiful, well dressed and still feminine, it's just more to love!
How about a plus size lingerie haul preparing for a honeymoon
This video has great messages. Thanks kandy 😊
Hello Kandy
I think anyone would be lucky to date you Kandy. You have such an amazing, positive personality and you're so pretty on the inside and outside ♡♡
I can't stop thinking about you .... you are like the sun, wait for it every morning..you are so beautiful
You eyes are so lovely Kandy...♡
amen sister 👍🏼🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌💜💜
Kandy, you are a beautiful woman. Please never forget that. And all women (unless they've had implants) have a size difference in the boobs including me. But back to my comment.... You are a remarkable woman.
, Love you too Kandy 🦊 Foxx
I love your videos so much I wish you can post more often!
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My last relationship lasted 4 years, 2 weeks and 5 days and I left him March 2009. I am still exhausted from that relationship. He was so toxic, abusive and mean. Just thinking of dating again shoots my anxiety way high.
I'm sorry you went through that
very well articulated ! love yourself first and let it fall where it may if others dont like it ... jog on ! you are perfect just the way you are xxx
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I just got to ask like cuz I never went on dating sites just because of like Facebook and such even with messenger I have like random guys like sending me dirty pictures or asking to hang out where I would never go chill with somebody like that just because I feel like all they want is sex and a lot of the sites are like that to Garrett up to like just do hookup I'm like you don't even know me please don't send me that little tiny thing that you think is so ginormous LOL like it's kind of embarrassing for them you know where I mean I have never randomly like look through Facebook and be like oh let me hit this one up to see if I can chill with today so pretty much everything on mine is private now and you can sue send a message but then a set of it just popping up in my feed I can reject it right away I don't know I just feel like today's generation is very very different than us that I would never just text somebody for sex like so I've never tried a dating sites because of that
No shame in our game , you're beautiful honey!!
candy do you think that you could do a video on gay rights and views on religion and politics and violence in our day and age k
I love watching u. And. I think your beautiful
You are very sweet.
Yeah you wouldn’t disclose by the way I’m fat anymore than you would say by the way I have herpes!😉👍
I think the full body pictures discloses the weight. as far as std's, ive seen people on craigslist disclose in title (no longer personals on craigslist though). I haven't seen it on PoF though.. I think ppl should disclose at least in messages though. quite unfair not to.
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I had more action fat, than I probably would have been skinny lol. Fat girls don't have that brat personality as most thin women do, or so I was told. Not to mention, we have the wettest 😺 & are more attentive to our men.