SOLVED 16-Year Old (Jed Hall) Missing 4-years... We FOUND him in Under 20 minutes!

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  • @nordicpink
    @nordicpink 2 роки тому +23573

    To those of you who are speaking negatively about the mom’s reactions, you don’t know how you’d react if you were in her shoes. There’s no telling what’s going on inside her as well as what she endured that last 4 years. She doesn’t have to “act” in a stereotypical manner to please the masses. Everyone grieves differently and shows their emotions differently. However she reacted was appropriate for HER. She’s the one who lost a child, not you all.

    • @RobertMorgan
      @RobertMorgan 2 роки тому +997

      I recently went to a charity fundraiser trivia night for one of the families of the Marines killed in the botched Afghanistan pull out airport bombing.
      Midway through the mother was thankful to everyone, shaking hands, very grateful...by the end of the event she was hitting people, screaming, crying, had to be led out of the event. She was yelling how none of this would bring him back, none of your money matters, I want my son back not your sympathy, it got REAL. And I can't blame her. Her sons death, for no reason, has been politicized, it's all so public I can't imagine having to grieve that way.

    • @gracefulwaters6674
      @gracefulwaters6674 2 роки тому +726

      Also how she grieved in privacy is sacred and may have been another story. The stages of grief hit us all differently as we all are individuals and process our own way. God bless this family and AWP.

    • @jendermer7793
      @jendermer7793 2 роки тому +416

      When you discover shocking news, you can go into shock. You feel it’s not real and you can go through denial. Your brain can make attempts to falsify the truth. During this time, you can appear like you aren’t reacting.

    • @wifeymommy4242
      @wifeymommy4242 2 роки тому +323

      Some people do not show emotions right away. Shook has sent in and then hurt and pain. It's sad another young life. A young man gained his wings to soon.

    • @DemsRinsane
      @DemsRinsane 2 роки тому +103

      Well, I can assure you that g damn wouldn’t have come out of my mouth , but some people say it all the time so she might be one of those people.

  • @dawnagordon2333
    @dawnagordon2333 8 місяців тому +760

    This one really breaks my heart. She really thought he was still alive. Rest in peace. Prayers for his family.

    • @lukasoquinn4137
      @lukasoquinn4137 8 місяців тому +20

      And I was hoping he was still alive too

    • @hamzafarooq4357
      @hamzafarooq4357 7 місяців тому +10

      Rest in peace 🕊️

    • @JulieRushworth-k4w
      @JulieRushworth-k4w 4 місяці тому +11

      I think as a Mother, we would hold on to hope. Rip Jed x

    • @taproom113
      @taproom113 17 днів тому +3

      "God damn you." ... Devastatingly tragic 💔. Thoughts and Prayers to Family and Friends ...

  • @LollipopCandyBoom
    @LollipopCandyBoom Рік тому +2690

    While the "damn you" was directed to the son, I think it was more reflective of her pain. She is projecting her pain as a way to protect herself. Being angry is one of the stages of grief. Remember, he's been gone for a while so she is emotionally and mentally spent. That anger is the only thing protecting her emotions and mental state in that moment.

    • @Raesling1
      @Raesling1 Рік тому +148

      Yup. My dad went missing on purpose like it sounds that this boy did. I was so angry at my dad. Even if he was found dead (he was, two years later) I was angry at him for how he disappeared. Denial is also a thing--there is still a big part of me that thinks he was killed. That he disappeared on purpose, but he would have eventually come back. Maybe that's just denial, though.

    • @Boe-Temeraire
      @Boe-Temeraire Рік тому +33

      I agree. I’d probably react the same if I were in her shoes.

    • @TattedColoradoMama
      @TattedColoradoMama Рік тому +61

      Plus they think he took his own life so I think she's mad that he took his own life. I can't blame her a bit.

    • @Rugelacharugula
      @Rugelacharugula Рік тому +43

      Losing a child is bad enough. But having to face that he “ended” in such a dark, desolate place. I’d imagine anger would be part of that. At everyone and no one.

    • @melov12345
      @melov12345 11 місяців тому +29

      Hopefully, she can go through the stages of grief now. This is the start for her.

  • @alainahall3247
    @alainahall3247 6 місяців тому +273

    That “Damn you” was so incredibly powerful. So many meanings it has… shes angry he left, shes angry her hope is gone, shes painfully angry that her son gave up his life so soon with so much in front of him that he just couldn’t see. This entire video she is trying so hard to protect her feelings and maintain her composure in front of the investigators and the camera. I feel so sorry for the loss this family had to and still has to suffer through. There is never a good enough answer to “why”, someone takes their own life. None that will ease any pain or make for better understanding… so heartbreaking. Thank you for finding this boy, he deserves to be properly laid to rest with love. God only knows the pain inside of him that drove him to this point. Thank you so much for the services you provide these families.

    • @DGARedRaven
      @DGARedRaven 4 місяці тому +6

      Agreed.
      Been nearly suicidal, been in that dark space.
      I forgive Matthew Hall, he did not know what havoc he would cause.
      Its just... pointless that he had to go that way.

    • @RobinRockefeller
      @RobinRockefeller 19 днів тому +2

      Exactly.. And for those saying they had to be bad parents...no, he was a teenager. They aren't emotionally mature yet. Even little things can get blown out of proportion. How many teenagers think their parents are overprotective and strict.And had or have fights with their parents about that?And how Many now grownups now see why their parents were that way and they were right?

    • @lostribe5130
      @lostribe5130 7 днів тому

      Anger is one of the first stages of grief. Perfectly normal.

  • @Jennyann5687
    @Jennyann5687 2 роки тому +2218

    My daughter went to school with Jed. She spoke highly of him and how respectful, funny and intelligent he was. He will be missed by many. Rip Jed. Sending our condolences to his family.

    • @TaylorMae27
      @TaylorMae27 2 роки тому +47

      what did the notes that he left say? if they weren’t suicide notes? that’s the only thing that seems strange to me.

    • @cripplettv1309
      @cripplettv1309 2 роки тому +46

      @@TaylorMae27 This couldn't be just suicide, using the word 'suicide notes' in this case would be an insult since the car clearly shows different. He probably swirved offroad hit a rock or tree and died in the car when it went into the water.

    • @avaloncarlisle1514
      @avaloncarlisle1514 2 роки тому +134

      I went to school with Jed in 7th grade. Seeing this video made me go back and find photos of him in my old yearbook. He had such a bright future and a kind heart. This news saddens me deeply. RIP Jed

    • @boop7313
      @boop7313 2 роки тому +23

      @@avaloncarlisle1514 so very sad and confusing. such a young sweet person. I'm so sorry😥r.i.p Jed

    • @vxcci
      @vxcci 2 роки тому +11

      @@avaloncarlisle1514 So much to live for :(

  • @Beardsandbars
    @Beardsandbars 2 роки тому +1925

    She knew…she always knew, but denial was the only way she could cope. I can’t imagine.

    • @AllAboutPurple
      @AllAboutPurple 2 роки тому +113

      She held on to hope, even till the end she held out for hope. Sad but she was not ready to part ways with her kid, even though he’s been missing for years

    • @josiahdeck8509
      @josiahdeck8509 2 роки тому +3

      U do t know that. Stop acting like u know. What’s wrong with people.

    • @Patricia-lts
      @Patricia-lts 2 роки тому +26

      Yep. At the same time she wanted the answer as soon as possible.

    • @kiminaz
      @kiminaz 2 роки тому +1

      Figuratively they’ve tried to assassinate him in every other way possible. 🤷‍♀️

    • @wendyc1902
      @wendyc1902 2 роки тому +11

      @@AllAboutPurple
      Yeah but that P.I. should have never given her false hope!

  • @oceanstaiga5928
    @oceanstaiga5928 2 роки тому +5634

    I thought about doing what Jed did at 16… many years later now I realise just how young 16 is, there is so much time for things to improve in your life. To anybody reading this: I hope you know how loved you are. It’s always worth it to give life another chance. RIP Jed.

    • @theyuragoon3226
      @theyuragoon3226 2 роки тому +103

      Yeah i'm that age rn. I've been thinking how easy it is for me to do it. Possible pain and possible fear/panic are accounted for. Knife to chest make me wuss out. Same with rope. But the car in river.... There's no backing out in that one. Might be the most peaceful way to go as well. Just to be clear, I just have a strong morbid curiosity about doing it not that I actually will. No need to reply to this reply lol.

    • @L3TITBE
      @L3TITBE 2 роки тому

      @@theyuragoon3226 It's not that you want to kill yourself, you want to kill what's inside you. You already are living your BEAUTIFUL God given life...

    • @kittybonedahliah270
      @kittybonedahliah270 2 роки тому +51

      this!! when i was younger i wish i knew that there would be people someday that loved me, that i love very much. i would have missed so many moments that mean so much to me now.
      when i was in the heat of my depression i romanticized it so much, i probably would've responded to this comment talking about how bad i had it and that i was thinking about it strictly because i wanted attention- genuinely. but wanting attention is normal when you have severe problems like that, but attention seeking doesn't make things better (with that being said the best thing is to not respond to people like that, dont get pissed at them)
      being younger you really have no true ability to understand how many YEARS of life you have to live and grow and change- no one talks about their heartbreaking breakups of highschool- not because they didnt hurt, but because it is such a small part of your life it gets drowned out some day, and that day will come, even when it feels like its been so long, it will happen

    • @kittybonedahliah270
      @kittybonedahliah270 2 роки тому +67

      @@The.Best.Collector i was clinically diagnosed so first of all you are wrong, it is VERY common for people with depression to attention seek as it is a way of asking for help when you do not know to say it directly

    • @kittybonedahliah270
      @kittybonedahliah270 2 роки тому +39

      @@The.Best.Collector this comment frustrates me particularly since you do not know my life and apparently know nothing about childhood depression- i felt i was faking it all for attention because i did those attention seeking behaviors WHICH LARGELY CONTRIBUTED TO WHY IT TOOK ME SO LONG TO GET HELP so its REALLY important to talk about because a lot of people feel the same way

  • @deborahwilliamson5655
    @deborahwilliamson5655 9 місяців тому +157

    I see no reason to criticize this mother!!! The fact that she's present for this tells me that she loves her son. She is bragging about how wonderful he was, and sharing all of his accomplishments!!! I would say that she's very proud of him, as she should be. Sounds like a brilliant young man. I can't imagine what a mother/family goes through when a loved one is just suddenly "missing." My condolences to this family. I salute this amazing dive team for bringing answers to families. I LOVE WHAT YOU DO!!! May God bless you, and keep you safe as you do what you do.

    • @dawnhamon9063
      @dawnhamon9063 6 місяців тому

      I've lost my oldest son 4 1/2 yrs ago unexpectedly. The pain is unbearable. I saw a lot of myself in this mom. Now, the real healing begins. But it will take years.

    • @mandyholmberg5106
      @mandyholmberg5106 6 місяців тому

      Yes that is so very true

    • @craftygirl138
      @craftygirl138 12 днів тому +1

      I haven't seen anyone criticising the mum.

  • @jgpjgp7251
    @jgpjgp7251 2 роки тому +6809

    I am a former cold case homicide Detective. The work you all do is amazing. God Bless you guys for bringing closure to families. Never saw your videos. First time viewer.

    • @amberrobinson13
      @amberrobinson13 2 роки тому +82

      JGP thank you for your service as well 💙 yeah this was the first one I’ve ever watched and it hit me like a ton of rocks. Very hard to watch but at the same time heartwarming to know these families will have a little closure.

    • @jgpjgp7251
      @jgpjgp7251 2 роки тому +41

      @@lindydean5993 I’m sorry for your loss. Are the Fortworth PD, Detectives investigating and is there a suspect that hasn’t been charged? What the name of the case?

    • @datman3416
      @datman3416 2 роки тому +13

      @@NotFalling4it if you’re doing the right thing and coming forward I’m sure they will treat you well. My first thing would be to demand immunity for withholding the information for so long before I start talking

    • @jgpjgp7251
      @jgpjgp7251 2 роки тому +31

      @@NotFalling4it Hi,
      You should ask them the questions and keep it on the record for your own documentation. It really all depends. Are you working off charges? or are you providing information that you obtained from the perp? Since it’s an open investigation, I won’t comment much. You should definitely ask them all the questions you have. Write your questions down and request a sit down.
      I hope your information leads to an arrest. I wouldn’t discuss or mention it on social media anymore. You don’t want to mess up the case they are working.

    • @lindydean5993
      @lindydean5993 2 роки тому +11

      @@shannonsorrels6590 thank you Shannon. I will try to find him.

  • @marionanderson3441
    @marionanderson3441 11 місяців тому +1522

    “I guess he’s not a kid now, because he’s twenty…” Oh I just wanted to hug her

    • @callmeclove
      @callmeclove 9 місяців тому +36

      i literally just got to this part and i can’t hold back the tears

    • @highestpeeqs9532
      @highestpeeqs9532 8 місяців тому +15

      Jesus loves yall, died for us, and rose again! Jesus calls for all of us to repent! He's coming back!!!

    • @5_to_Life
      @5_to_Life 8 місяців тому +3

      Me too,.. very heartbreaking

    • @sunnydispositionn
      @sunnydispositionn 8 місяців тому +49

      @@highestpeeqs9532 not the time dude.

    • @tatertits
      @tatertits 8 місяців тому

      @@highestpeeqs9532bro shut up ab ur sky daddy a kid DIED

  • @eskimo2k
    @eskimo2k 2 роки тому +1204

    Listening to the mom go between, “he is” and “he was” describing her son breaks my heart. That’s a parent struggling to hold out hope.

    • @leeannjohnson1808
      @leeannjohnson1808 2 роки тому +24

      A mother never quits hoping, sometimes even when faced with the facts.

    • @stockdoc9384
      @stockdoc9384 2 роки тому +10

      Thank you for pointing this out.. as sad as it is, it really open the human heart up to understanding and empathy

    • @jeraleewood5969
      @jeraleewood5969 2 роки тому +3

      I did not notice that until your comment. Poor family.

    • @CocoFirenze
      @CocoFirenze Місяць тому

      I was hearing it too 😢

  • @JanisHenderson-d4f
    @JanisHenderson-d4f 9 місяців тому +80

    As a parent who has lost a child, her response is understandable. I feel her loss. I still expect my son to walk in the door 6 years later. Hi Mom, what's for supper? I've been mad, cried, laughed, screamed at the top of my lunges, cursed, begged and just talked to him. We will never really know why this happened to their child. Any number of things could have happened. But now the healing can begin for them. I pray for their peace and wish them white light and calm surround them.

    • @XODanaDoodleXO
      @XODanaDoodleXO 9 місяців тому +8

      This comment just completely broke my heart and brought me to tears, I cannot imagine your heartache. I dont know you but I send prayers and thoughts to you

  • @Killytilly
    @Killytilly Рік тому +234

    You just know that mom went home and cried until she didn’t have any tears left. So much grief.

  • @annettereynolds7457
    @annettereynolds7457 Рік тому +1401

    So you found in under 20 minutes what the police didn't in four YEARS? His parents have spent four years worrying, wondering what had happened to their son, suffering all that time. That's awful. I feel so bad for them. And thank you for all that you do. You're amazing.

    • @jaredriley3417
      @jaredriley3417 Рік тому +137

      Most places don’t have the latest and greatest tools at their disposal. The equipment on Jared’s boats probably runs around 10-15,000$. Also AWP is very very good at what they do. I don’t think this is truly a fault of this department. Just lack of tools and knowledge.

    • @mkb9885
      @mkb9885 Рік тому

      Don’t hold the police in such a high regard! They are more concerned with stuffing our prisons full of non violent or totally innocent people to keep the criminal justice business rolling!

    • @garyross1279
      @garyross1279 Рік тому +44

      Thats because most cops are out there harming people not helping. I think it was said that his father was a cop. That helps me to understand the way his mom responded.

    • @426Studios
      @426Studios Рік тому +89

      @@garyross1279 dont judge all of the police. Yes, while its true that some cops are abusing their powers, many are still genuinely providing service to their people. As for why the police spent 4 years vs 20 mins for AWP, you have to take into consideration that the police have to start from scratch. They have to consider so many factors, add to that the cops are literally jack of all trades, master of none due to budget constraints, as what the comment above have stated.

    • @Watcher413
      @Watcher413 Рік тому +28

      Yeah been watching a lot of this videos and in highly probable areas they find the car really fast and police swear they looked all over in that area etc police probably lied or sent out some guy without proper training and equipment for a few mins and then gave up and the police said we tried and gave up

  • @lucyquinnell3204
    @lucyquinnell3204 2 роки тому +851

    "Do you do hugs?" - an absolute turning point for his mother. It's extraordinary to watch the process over such a short time period of her going from 'stuck' and frozen stiff with uncertainty and denial to that moment of the sudden lifting of all of the tension. When she said that despite it being so awful it was simultaneously all "a little better" - and her light smile as the car was about to leave - it was like watching a great rock being lifted off the back of a tiny butterfly. That's why what you do is so, so important. It's the not knowing that eats people alive.

    • @MissIdolize
      @MissIdolize 2 роки тому +44

      Why no one has responded to your comment so far beats me. You got to me! I found it very deep and meaningful. I picked up on the mum's "hugs" thing too and I get what you say. That was her way of at last knowing, and finally giving in to the inevitable truth. Although I have never been involved in a scenario like this, I so get what you say, what you observed.
      Jed's mum's reaction, your comment to it, my reaction to you - could that be what makes us human with spirit and soul?

    • @crystalinabacteria3430
      @crystalinabacteria3430 2 роки тому +11

      Nicely said♥️🙏

    • @Stetson5903
      @Stetson5903 2 роки тому +11

      Beautifully said, I felt the same thing.

    • @Former11BRAVO
      @Former11BRAVO 2 роки тому +15

      She has a lot of emotions to work through. I hope the family can get past the pain. RIP Jed.

    • @tanishaleach3677
      @tanishaleach3677 2 роки тому +4

      Absolutely. Thank you for this comment. Stated perfectly.

  • @jade7878
    @jade7878 9 місяців тому +83

    I broke down when she said, “do you do hugs?” Those poor parents. I can’t imagine what they were feeling, watching his vehicle pulled out of the water. I’m just glad that they have finally gotten some closure, in that they can start to begin grieving his death instead of not knowing where he is and if he is okay. What an amazing organization to help just out of the goodness of their hearts. Thank you for all you do. Also, your compassion and sensitivity to the feelings and emotions that people are experiencing does not go unnoticed and is so special.

  • @acornozoi1179
    @acornozoi1179 Рік тому +1419

    I'm in the crime scene cleanup business. Too often we come in after the fact and see traumatized families who were not treated with the gentleness, love and respect that you show your clients. Thank you for being sensitive with them. It changes everything.

    • @karens.strickland9634
      @karens.strickland9634 10 місяців тому +41

      ❤ we were treated so poorly when my son was found unresponsive (fentanyl) and the nurses acted like we were a bother. I mean how can anyone actually love this addict 😢 rip my beautiful son Ryan 4ever changed. I was angry, hurt, devastated. His mama has the right to feel any old way she likes ❤❤ I was angry with him for choosing that path and sad that he was no longer here 😢

    • @jade7878
      @jade7878 9 місяців тому +18

      @@karens.strickland9634I am so sorry for your loss and the fact that you were not shown the love and compassion you deserved. The cause of a persons death should have no impact on how we treat a person who is grieving. The bottom line is that you lost the person you love and the last thing you need is to feel judged, or like your son was any less important because of how he died. I am sending you the biggest hug.

    • @highestpeeqs9532
      @highestpeeqs9532 8 місяців тому +4

      Jesus loves yall, died for us, and rose again! Jesus calls for all of us to repent! He's coming back!!!

    • @lorileew2337
      @lorileew2337 8 місяців тому

      ​​@@karens.strickland9634So sorry medical personnel treated you so horribly and for the loss of your child 😢🙏

    • @lady_v_101
      @lady_v_101 7 місяців тому +7

      Denial is a powerful coping mechanism, that unfortunately hurts those around us.. In her mind he was a happy kid, but in reality life was clearly a very different story for this boy, than his mother wanted to believe or will acknowledge. Right up until his remains were found, she still refused to see it any other way but her narrative - a happy kid that wouldn't take his own life.. This is why it's so imperative to be aware of our children's emotional needs and mental health, whether your beliefs acknowledged it, or not... I hope this young man is at peace..

  • @andrewwilliamcampbell4745
    @andrewwilliamcampbell4745 2 роки тому +675

    I think the scene where the mom asked, “Do you do hugs?” and Doug said yes and embraced her is emblematic of all you do. “We do hugs!” Should be the slogan of the AWP community. We mourn with you.

    • @denisef1684
      @denisef1684 2 роки тому +19

      Yes!!! That really touched me as well. "Do you do hugs?" "Well yes we do!"

    • @MikeDillinger
      @MikeDillinger 2 роки тому +28

      Most important scene of the entire episode. I was so relieved and emotional to see her reach out for that hug.

    • @raziahphoenix
      @raziahphoenix 2 роки тому +8

      Omg best comment ever. Great idea.

    • @raquelvlogzz1183
      @raquelvlogzz1183 2 роки тому +6

      Loved this comment. Yes, it should be we do hugs the slogan for AWP.

    • @kathymcmahon5308
      @kathymcmahon5308 2 роки тому +5

      I think you just rewrote their website. That's how it should be. This one was so hard to watch.

  • @jimwebb9328
    @jimwebb9328 2 роки тому +3547

    I would hope that these agencies who "search the area multiple times" have a review process to improve their methods after AWP comes in and finds him in 20 minutes.

    • @danny9639
      @danny9639 2 роки тому +350

      My thoughts exactly and you can even see his submerged car on Apple maps that's horrifying

    • @andyaitken4243
      @andyaitken4243 2 роки тому +120

      Exactly, I was thinking the same thing. Part of me hopes that they tried instead of just walking the bank and thinking there’s nothing to go on and divers are expensive.

    • @wiseman3750
      @wiseman3750 2 роки тому +110

      They were searching in the area where his phone stopped pinging in a different area of Snake River. They followed promising leads; traveling to other states. Tbh, I think if he had been found right away, it would have decimated the mother. Four years there'd be a slight breathing room because the mother so desperately wanted Jed to be alive. Intrusive thinking that he might be dead was possibly present there as well. There's a grace in that I think. 🤍

    • @Ismschism
      @Ismschism 2 роки тому +73

      As mentioned, a hatchback floats further than other vehicles, a fact that our brave and dedicated officers might not have considered.

    • @stephenphillips5523
      @stephenphillips5523 2 роки тому +49

      Alot of these cities and counties are understaffed just dont have the manpower and unfortunately the process of investigation is flawed
      They dont hsve the experience in searching underwater as in this case
      They dont hsve the funds to realy do good extended searches
      they had searched the water yet somehow missed a car in shallow water because they just don't have the right no how
      These guys have the best equipment which helps but their ways of investigation has been honed in such away to be more sucessful at what they do . No little piece if evidence is thrown out. I think alot of detectives just dont understand how the smallest details can make. Difference. No question these guys could step up to the next level and teach other agencies what they are doing right . You must remember though even though these guys have found people their percentages are not real high. Yes they can find out where someone isn't more than where they are but they help narrow down the searches which is a big help . Not everyone missing is in the water somewhere. There are so many reasons why people go missing. My hat is off to these guys
      Because they do give hope to others that thry might find a love one
      If they wasn't doing this these sucess stories wouldn't exist
      I love this team for what they do !!

  • @juliefett
    @juliefett 6 місяців тому +291

    This mother should not be judged for how she behaved. It’s her grief and there’s no wrong way for her to express it.
    She’s been feeling this pain and heartache for years while we only experienced it second hand through a screen for

    • @DGARedRaven
      @DGARedRaven 4 місяці тому +1

      I have questions; plenty of questions.
      But at the same time, it is not my place to judge her.
      May the Hall family find the one thing they most deserve - peace.

    • @keithbrien8929
      @keithbrien8929 Місяць тому +1

      I haven't seen any comments regarding the mom being incentative?.

    • @mpshotattwice3253
      @mpshotattwice3253 24 дні тому

      @@keithbrien8929 Those comments were in the news videos

  • @chookienoot9163
    @chookienoot9163 2 роки тому +586

    The way Amy kept correcting herself in tense, saying "is" and then accidentally reverting back to "was" absolutely broke my heart. I am so sorry for this families loss.

    • @chillichew5712
      @chillichew5712 2 роки тому +7

      I don't think she was correcting herself, she still believed he was very much alive. When she used past tense terms, it was when she was speaking about things he used to do; such as, when he was a student because he no longer is a student. When he was a child because he's no longer a child. I believe she was talking in present tense and putting the past tense where it should be.

    • @EggyEkki
      @EggyEkki 2 роки тому +10

      @@chillichew5712 When my mother died a few months ago, I kept referring to her as "is" and it truly is out of habit. Having to correct myself and say "was" was always devastating, too, so sometimes I'd just say "is" to make it hurt less

    • @Spooky_Stew
      @Spooky_Stew 2 роки тому +7

      @@EggyEkki Same. My mom died over a year ago and I still refer to her in the present tense most times. It hurts less.

  • @andydufresne8269
    @andydufresne8269 2 роки тому +736

    As someone who was suffered and survived depression and suicide. The people who need the most help will almost always be the ones who hide it the best.

    • @Ann-vc1py
      @Ann-vc1py 2 роки тому +16

      @Andy Dufresne, I agree with you totally. Although I do not know you, I understand only too well what you have been through. Thankfully, you are a survivor and you can go on to help others.
      Blessings to you. 🙏

    • @welshreaperscrapandcasting4029
      @welshreaperscrapandcasting4029 2 роки тому +12

      I agree wholeheartedly having been through similar myself. Those who need the help the most I find tend to be those who help others because they no what it's like to be without the help.

    • @potocatepetl
      @potocatepetl 2 роки тому +5

      Hmmm, that is the same as who to help first at an accident site. One goes first to the ones that do not scream...

    • @raregamermom5039
      @raregamermom5039 2 роки тому +26

      When I got the news, my son had died, I was dumbfounded. He never stopped smiling, he never was in any pain or distress, he was always happy, outgoing, and full of life. When he took his own life, we understood his smile hid his pain. His smile and laughter were a mask to make sure no one ever knew what he was suffering.

    • @Pepper75
      @Pepper75 2 роки тому +1

      Hope that struggle is in the past and you are now able to live your life to the fullest... love from Portugal!

  • @ktat01
    @ktat01 2 роки тому +2719

    It’s so sad to hear how hopeful his mother was that he was going to walk into his childhood home at any time for the past 4 years. Not knowing that he has been dead that whole entire time. This one hit me a lot different.

    • @bakerfresh
      @bakerfresh 2 роки тому +49

      I'll be honest. In my darkest tines it was pretty much solely knowing of my parents love that would stop any thoughts of doing something similar to this.
      Its really sad when he also had this and didn't know, and super sad as well to know that there are a lot that don't even have that.
      I had a friend in like her 50s that did it...difficult situations with her ex where everything spiraled after their daughter/son graduated.
      Alcohol for I think both was involved. I felt something was up, but lost my contact with her when she went off Facebook because a family member, in law?!? Got mad at her calling herself family.
      Same time, that Woman wept at her passing. I was a little angry of it. Especially hearing more details of her treatment and knowing it was beyond the alcohol. I also felt bad knowing my friend acquaintances at work went out for drinks with her and had her number.

    • @amazinggrace5692
      @amazinggrace5692 2 роки тому +107

      My daughter died 3 years ago and I still feel like she’ll walk in the door any moment.

    • @daveyhouston
      @daveyhouston 2 роки тому +25

      @@amazinggrace5692 I am so sorry for you!!

    • @selenaannesmith1604
      @selenaannesmith1604 2 роки тому +19

      @@amazinggrace5692 I'm so sorry for 🙏❤your loss

    • @77Scarlet
      @77Scarlet 2 роки тому +11

      @@amazinggrace5692 ✨🙏🏽✨

  • @leigharafn2819
    @leigharafn2819 10 місяців тому +101

    Oh man. This one hurt alot. His mom was so not ready for this. My heart breaks for her. The love and compassion you guys show every video is incredible. 🖤

  • @Vanderring
    @Vanderring 2 роки тому +1337

    When the police came to my home to tell me my husband was dead from suicide, I was numb. Didn’t feel real. My oldest daughter collapsed immediately so I had to be so strong for her and my kids. It wasn’t until days later after the service the grief hit me like a avalanche. Physically I felt like my body was shutting down. I wailed and couldn’t stop shaking, near convulsions, it was torment. I can say time has been my comfort and my friend. But in those first hours, days and months it was brutal. My heart breaks for anyone with those thoughts and the families left behind.

    • @biancadoust8141
      @biancadoust8141 Рік тому +12

      I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope within time you and your babies are able to heal and move forward, never forget, but to be able to live and enjoy life after your loss xx

    • @imsleepy7883
      @imsleepy7883 Рік тому +5

      Rip

    • @NickinFilm
      @NickinFilm Рік тому +5

      Are you Ok?

    • @furiouzzzz
      @furiouzzzz Рік тому +4

      I'm sorry for your loss

    • @Vaul.
      @Vaul. Рік тому +7

      People don’t do that for no reason, and as his wife you should’ve been more perceptive of his emotions, if I HAD to guess YOU weren’t very good as a wife

  • @bethmorzewski
    @bethmorzewski 10 місяців тому +941

    They found my husband who died in the lake when they were searching for someone else. They were both found that day in the same area using sonar. It took a year and a half to find my husband. I am thankful for this technology.

    • @margodphd
      @margodphd 7 місяців тому +46

      I'm so sorry. You must be incredibly strong, to even be able to watch this. I hope you heal as best as you can.

    • @bevcamren1316
      @bevcamren1316 6 місяців тому +12

      I will have you on my prayer list,love

    • @sarahcook8725
      @sarahcook8725 5 місяців тому +8

      I am truly sorry for your loss ❤

    • @jackiekeel3558
      @jackiekeel3558 5 місяців тому +11

      @@bethmorzewski I’m so sorry but I’m so glad you got to bury him and you had your closure.. the not knowing would absolutely kill me. ❤️🙏🏻prayers sweetie.

    • @maryannshubaily1515
      @maryannshubaily1515 5 місяців тому +5

      That’s so sad, but good that they found him. May he rest in peace.

  • @angelaschuurman7264
    @angelaschuurman7264 Рік тому +1420

    The fact that his mom started with "he is" and then went to "was" says so much. Deep in her heart she knew, just didn't want toadmit it. I hope his family is doing okay. R.I.P Jed

    • @arielsea9087
      @arielsea9087 Рік тому +60

      I noticed that. She was hoping she could see, talk, hug him. But it would not end that way.

    • @Calvin-m5n
      @Calvin-m5n Рік тому +12

      At least they had time to adjust for most likely the outcome!!May he rest in peace God bless the family sorry for your loss!!

    • @AirWindFire
      @AirWindFire Рік тому +32

      Hope is debilitating. You just get stuck, thinking any minute now I’ll get the answer and how it will play out. As much as the truth hurts it’s better to find out and deal with the pain than be stuck as life passes you by. I’m just now realising I haven’t really been present in my life for a very long time.

    • @dudemorris7769
      @dudemorris7769 Рік тому +4

      @@AirWindFireso very true. We stop living while waiting and believe the whole time that they will walk through that door & it was all a nightmare.

    • @dragilxcom4176
      @dragilxcom4176 Рік тому +3

      @@AirWindFireYet hope is what sustain us moving forward and hang-on everyday until a certainty becomes a closure of the past.

  • @nataliehunter3097
    @nataliehunter3097 10 місяців тому +55

    I am a 20 yr corrections officer. I often hear the stories from the monster end. So You men are the sweetest angels ever. The work you do is very beautiful and very well done professionally. They broke the mold when they made this team of folks. Thank you for what you do. ❤

    • @Fido-vm9zi
      @Fido-vm9zi 4 місяці тому +2

      Hopefully it restores your faith in humanity a little. I'm sure in that type of position is rough in many ways.

  • @LucindaAKACindi
    @LucindaAKACindi 2 роки тому +1792

    When she realized that her son really was in that car, the look on her face completely changed to a traumatized look. She was in front of many people, as well as on camera, trying to be strong when she had fully believed that her son was still out there somewhere, and would pull in the drive one day. I could see the pain...and shock...very plainly. God bless her, this Momma still holding out hope...then having that hope crushed. I'm grateful AWP found him for her...at least now she knows, and can lay her baby to rest. 🙏

    • @danielferguson2091
      @danielferguson2091 2 роки тому +23

      mane this made me shed a tear she so strong!!

    • @FavAMVs
      @FavAMVs 2 роки тому +44

      You could tell she was feeling it. Her arms were crossed in front of her defensively. Also, when they were talking earlier before they pulled the car, she sounded tearful.
      I feel for this family, I hope they can move on with their grief together.

    • @moniquestewart6752
      @moniquestewart6752 2 роки тому +10

      So well said..

    • @nataliefigueroa1097
      @nataliefigueroa1097 2 роки тому +9

      Yess 😢😭 this hit me soo hard as a mother god bless his soul gone too soon. 🙏❤

    • @faithrenewed3443
      @faithrenewed3443 2 роки тому +3

      Amen

  • @DLK-UnME
    @DLK-UnME 2 роки тому +2134

    No one should ever judge a mother for the way she responds to something so tragic. There would be no greater pain and there are no rules in how one copes with something so devastating and heart wrenching as the loss of a child.

    • @amandaculp5375
      @amandaculp5375 2 роки тому +16

      Beautifully said❤️✅

    • @highestrankingstarrunnamedowne
      @highestrankingstarrunnamedowne 2 роки тому +1

      She never lost jed . Jed is alive IN fact .

    • @tammyblankenship8742
      @tammyblankenship8742 Рік тому +35

      So true and she was probably in a bit of shock. All of her hopes of him coming home were shattered. My heart breaks for her.

    • @gxlxn
      @gxlxn Рік тому +36

      I saw my both parrents in their very last moment. And believe me my reactions were simmilar. You are in some kind of "survival shock". It helps you to stay on your feet, huge wave of emotions came later.

    • @Jelly4rm904
      @Jelly4rm904 Рік тому +20

      Exactly! People do grieve differently. And I can totally see absolutely breaking down on the inside. She may seem to have walls up BUT she’s doing that to protect her heart and to keep from outwardly breaking down. I know her reaction all too well. When my brother was murdered I felt the same.

  • @heatherotis6512
    @heatherotis6512 2 роки тому +651

    Im in tears when she said "I guess he's not a kid now cuz he is 20". In her heart she still had hope that he was alive and coming home.

    • @annak8755
      @annak8755 2 роки тому +6

      My mom's uncle was lost during WW2 and she has spend enormous amounts of money for psychics to tell her how he had lost his memory but is living fine, which of course is BS but she chooses to believe that the uncle who went missing 20 years before she was even born will remember them and return to the family. It just doesn't matter how much time passes as long as she's able to keep the hope alive and it is exhausting.

    • @kehoniawaller1753
      @kehoniawaller1753 2 роки тому +6

      ​@@annak8755 Im sorry to make this about money, but I hope she sued the crap out of that department, the state, and/or those people..

    • @LexitaMai
      @LexitaMai 2 роки тому +3

      @@annak8755 Can I asked if you know why she care so much if she never even met him? Literally everyone has family members who died before they were born, and they have absolutely no attachment to them. It seems strange that she would latch onto a story that came from so long before she was born.

    • @annak8755
      @annak8755 2 роки тому +2

      @@LexitaMai because her mom/my grandma went to a psychic who told her the uncle was alive and all her life they've been talking about him as if he is just living very far. And my mom started going to psychics as soon as she was old enough at this point the story (without any evidence) is that he met a woman in Poland and had 2 sons and a daughter, according to one psychic that "reads the future" on cards, and just 2 sons, according to another that "speaks with the dead". And none of them have said that the uncle should be dead even if he had survived WW2 because my mom still pays them at least twice a year. Heck, she is even paying the first lady's bank loan. And that's why I hate people who lie to the families hoping that their loved ones are ok.

    • @godwins2027
      @godwins2027 2 роки тому +1

      @@kehoniawaller1753 what in the world are you talking about? Sue who? I think you may be losing your mind Karen.

  • @Tarlondwen
    @Tarlondwen 5 місяців тому +46

    Poor momma is so dissociated and still cant accept her child is really gone. I feel for her so much.

  • @catsrockx1995
    @catsrockx1995 2 роки тому +214

    My boyfriend died in my arms when I was 19 and I had a completely blank stare for literally days before I showed real emotion. And I am EXTREMELY emotional and empathic. You just never know how you will react to trauma.

    • @layoramirez4993
      @layoramirez4993 2 роки тому +6

      Hope ur doing well ! Sorry for your loss ❣️

    • @williamlock2984
      @williamlock2984 2 роки тому +2

      Hugs....... I just took a breath for you and hope you heal. Faith we will see them again Just believe 🙏 ❤️ Life's to short

    • @litatorres1989
      @litatorres1989 2 роки тому +6

      My Condolences whether it was long ago or recent. The pain is the same.... This will be my 1st time talking about this. It's not easy. But there's a point to what I'm saying. I'm a very emotional person and when I was 18 my then boyfriend got sick and long story short I would have anxiety attacks when I would think of him dying. I swore I would lose my mind. 3 weeks after giving birth to our beautiful baby boy. He passed away due to another complication, It wasn't even from his sickness. So it was shocking and all I remember was wondering why I couldn't cry. I noticed after that I would lose loved ones, Mother/Father and I wouldn't cry. Year's later I broke down. Maybe it was too much loss, not sure but I'm saying all this because it's NOT that I didn't care. I love my family and friends with all my heart but it's just how I grieve I guess. It's because WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY. It never ceases to amaze me how negative people can be and swear when they say "oh they didn't cry so they had something to do with it" OR "they didn't cry so that means they didn't care" smh. If you've never been in those shoes. Keep your mouth shut! May God bless and heal all those who are hurting. 🙏

    • @RindaJane
      @RindaJane 9 місяців тому

      ​@litatorres1989 so sorry for your loss. I so agree with you. We all grieve in different ways.
      When I lost my mom in December of 21 ( covid) it was a pain like no other. She was black Friday shopping in November of 21 and afterwards went to breakfast. She asked my sister if she felt warm. Not feeling well. The fevers began. In 3 weeks she was gone. I was so angry the 1st year I couldn't grieve ( something that happened in the hospital) once I asked God to help me get over my anger ( He did) the crying was nonstop for months. I can go a day or 2 now without crying and then days nonstop.
      Of course this has me crying. I messaged my own son near 1 am. He's 36. I texted him to tell him I love you son....
      I just needed too.
      Sorry to go on and on.
      Again, so sorry for your loss...
      Stay safe out there everyone 🙏
      Much love from North Carolina 💙

  • @stephaniesparks8022
    @stephaniesparks8022 Рік тому +580

    As a mom who lost a son at 17, I can tell you that you have moments of being able to hold it together, and moments of when you totally lost it! She did very well, for as long as she did. I'm sure she completely fell apart once she was home, and it "hit" her. She had the look of denial and shock, which can mask her responses. You never "get over it." You just learn how to live with it. RIP Jed. God bless his parents and family!

    • @bluv812
      @bluv812 11 місяців тому +5

      same. and you are absolutely right.

    • @tonyacochran777
      @tonyacochran777 11 місяців тому +9

      I lost my daughter at 20. I totally get her response. For the people that are so mean. You tell me how you would react after having some kind of hope for 2 weeks. And then, given no hope for your child . 💔 she's definitely in shock. 😢

    • @leslymarshmallows
      @leslymarshmallows 10 місяців тому +11

      When mama cursed, “Damn you”, it felt like she was speaking to death for taking her son from her.

    • @raymurray3401
      @raymurray3401 10 місяців тому +11

      Personally i feel like that “damn you” was equal parts anger and regret towards Jed for having chosen to take his own life instead of asking for help, and towards herself for not realizing he was struggling and needed help. It’s unfortunately a scene that plays out far to often.

    • @jimmybrown_GT500
      @jimmybrown_GT500 9 місяців тому +5

      The fact is that not 1 damn person has a reason or wright to judge her reactions or feelings about this situation. We are not perfect..

  • @tinydream
    @tinydream 2 роки тому +1025

    Thank you for bringing some sense of peace and closure to Jed’s family. My fiancé committed suicide and was lost under water for 6 months. I knew but I didn’t know, and finally having him found helped give me the answers to start healing.
    It was 10 years ago and, even though I still cry, it does get easier. Time heals, not because we forget, but because we remember. The happy memories, the inside jokes, the way he said “I love you”, those thoughts keep him alive in my heart.
    We may never know why people suffer or the true reason for why their heartbreaks, even though we try so hard to understand. Sending lots of love to the family. Keep an eye out for signs from him, they make come when you least expect it.

    • @azuradawn5683
      @azuradawn5683 2 роки тому +7

      I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @snowtijger933
      @snowtijger933 2 роки тому +8

      U might not know why people suffer… i swear to god if u fucking know somethings wrong w someone than fcking help and ask whats going on

    • @snowtijger933
      @snowtijger933 2 роки тому +4

      @@davidwoermansr man idc even if someone says hes not okay than u know its a lie or if they are rlly happy and stuff man we needa be carefull w eachother cuz suicides go up every minute

    • @snowtijger933
      @snowtijger933 2 роки тому +2

      @@davidwoermansr also i know that its hard to tell someone but u can find out man… u just need to think before its too late

    • @taylord7261
      @taylord7261 2 роки тому +8

      @Blackbrain how is she making it about her by simply sharing her experience from losing a loved one? weirdo

  • @autumnrae4348
    @autumnrae4348 6 місяців тому +37

    For those of you upset about what the mom said, look at the interview. She was so checked out, she firmly believed that her son was alive. She went through all the stages of grief in one instant on camera. Moms who are upset, until you've lost a child you won't understand.

  • @davidplatt4148
    @davidplatt4148 2 роки тому +343

    I am a 76yr old British Army Veteran, and at this moment, I am in Bits watching my heart and deepest sympathy go out to Jedd's Mum & Dad and all those who knew and loved him. Eternal rest give unto him, O'Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him; God bless you, Jedd, May you rest in the arms of our Lord, Amen

    • @clementine9187
      @clementine9187 2 роки тому +3

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @elizabethanderson7433
      @elizabethanderson7433 2 роки тому +7

      Amen🙏🏼🕊

    • @downhomesunset
      @downhomesunset 2 роки тому +5

      I’m not religious but David, thank you for praying for him.

    • @parrot5531
      @parrot5531 2 роки тому +5

      God bless

    • @robotstonka7118
      @robotstonka7118 2 роки тому

      What Lord??🤨 same Lord who sow this poore boy struggle and abounded him when he needed his help the most?? Lord who didn't care about his pain and the pain of his parents!!
      Lord who watched phedophile priests rape little, innocent children for DECADES and did nothing to stop their abuse!!! What a father would watch his children in pain and do NOTHING to sve them, or give them hope??

  • @sharlacunningham5910
    @sharlacunningham5910 2 роки тому +292

    This one really hit home for me. This is my home. My father drowned in this river. I have a horrible phobia about drowning. The river is in the middle of town so there’s no way to avoid crossing it. Every single day is a reminder of how fragile life is and how quickly the river can take it away.

    • @TheGreatLeslie
      @TheGreatLeslie 2 роки тому +6

      you should do a scuba diving course. it would really help conquer that

    • @cathyhughes6115
      @cathyhughes6115 2 роки тому +11

      HUGS!

    • @OutRagaous
      @OutRagaous 2 роки тому +7

      Get help to make that fear rightsize. You matter.

    • @pjk1714
      @pjk1714 2 роки тому +8

      I'm sorry for your traumatic loss.

    • @VirgoKat
      @VirgoKat 2 роки тому +4

      🙏💜🕯

  • @rayt7320
    @rayt7320 2 роки тому +345

    My MIL let me know yesterday that you have contacted her regarding looking for my husband's Grandfather. I just wanted to say Thank you. I've been watching your videos since you brought your first person home and I appreciate so much what you do for these families. Thank you for agreeing to look for Ron.

  • @emmawhite7447
    @emmawhite7447 10 місяців тому +27

    This one really broke my heart. The poor parents. I wish them peace and I hope everyone out there can be supportive and kind. Thank you AWP for everything you do to help families across the states and the world

  • @flowerlotussleepyretrohipp9530
    @flowerlotussleepyretrohipp9530 2 роки тому +839

    'Do you do hugs?' absolutely broke me. God bless Jed, his mum, dad, family and friends. What an amazing team, finally bringing some closure to such a wonderful couple.

    • @fancyme.alter1311
      @fancyme.alter1311 2 роки тому +15

      As a mother of 4, it broke my heart watching this episode Jed's mom was using the present term when she spoke about him just so sure Jed was just gone to become his own man. This is so sad because I know I would feel like I was hit by a massive blow. I am glad Jed is able to have a resting place so his mom can go to.

    • @laurelbenedetti8089
      @laurelbenedetti8089 2 роки тому +2

      @@fancyme.alter1311 p
      =/

    • @DrewciferTek
      @DrewciferTek 2 роки тому +3

      Yup, made it about there and damn

    • @maeelectronics
      @maeelectronics 2 роки тому +4

      They were great huggers. Nice to see people that truly care for others .

    • @bradleysanford6068
      @bradleysanford6068 2 роки тому +1

      What if there is no closure? Just many more questions now.

  • @kimberlieverschoor3814
    @kimberlieverschoor3814 2 роки тому +588

    I cried so hard when his Momma said “Damn you!” I can’t even imagine the pain! I held my daughter tight and reminded her that there is nothing she could do that couldn’t be fixed, nothing that would make me not love her! Remind your children that they can talk to you about ANYTHING and then listen without getting angry.

    • @makersmark1974
      @makersmark1974 2 роки тому +18

      Many would find that a negative. But i too have uttered the same words; nearly everytime i hear the sudden death of a freind or loved one..
      I say "damn you" instead of freaking out or breaking composure. And i truly mean it. It's like a disappointment in destiny that we'll never ever see that person again..
      Many might think his mum's not hysterical or breaking down.. ..and as humans whom are unknown to different emotions, they can just think all they want..
      I appreciate what you wrote.. Thank u...

    • @geebee1983
      @geebee1983 2 роки тому +22

      I took it as all her hope that he was alive shattered and I cried with her

    • @queencerseilannister3519
      @queencerseilannister3519 2 роки тому +15

      Exactly, anger is a part of grief.

    • @brandireneecrosby5361
      @brandireneecrosby5361 2 роки тому +1

      She said " G famed U" as in she cursed her dead son.let that sink in.or check it urself.

    • @LuvBorderCollies
      @LuvBorderCollies 2 роки тому +12

      I'm glad you talked to your daughter and remind her every so often, but not too much. I've seen so many young people commit suicide all because they were afraid of parent's reaction. One of the more common ones is damaging a car. That is so awful on the parents, knowing their kid ended their life forever because they were afraid of your anger/words.
      It happened to a fellow officer and that poor guy doesn't have a day in his life where he doesn't think about his teenage son and what life could have been like if he was still living. Don't be quick to judge or "assess" or comment on another person's grief reaction. Everyone is different. If you can't be compassionate or helpful, then be quiet.

  • @kspen6110
    @kspen6110 2 роки тому +1553

    This was absolutely heartbreaking to watch. Seeing Jed's parents hopes and wishes come to an end.
    You can hear the anger, sadness and love as his car is pulled up. They now know where he's been but still have no answers as to why he would take his own life. Just devastating.
    When I look back on my 54 years on earth and think about the things that seemed so difficult for me at that time, especially as a teen, those times now seem so small and insignificant.
    To everyone who thinks there's no reason to go on because something is too difficult, please seek help.
    I hope Jed's parents, family and friends are all getting the comfort they need.

    • @Megan-rr6qg
      @Megan-rr6qg 2 роки тому +49

      Yes more of this because it’s so very true. My parents used to say sui is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and it’s true. As long as you’re still alive there’s always a chance for things to be better than you could ever have hoped for.

    • @jenniemiller3200
      @jenniemiller3200 2 роки тому +24

      So dreadfully sad. Rest in Peace, Jed.

    • @anitasimaganis5449
      @anitasimaganis5449 2 роки тому +31

      When you are a teen somethings seem insurmountable but they aren't it just your first 'hill' my condolences to his friends & family

    • @doyourhomework.6416
      @doyourhomework.6416 2 роки тому +12

      I agree! I cried like a baby!

    • @michelefred68
      @michelefred68 2 роки тому +24

      My nephew died by suicide when he was 15. It was heartbreaking 💔 😢

  • @debbiejeffries3256
    @debbiejeffries3256 10 місяців тому +19

    This Sheriff was such a sweetheart! He was a true public servant. God bless!
    Answers for Nathan's family!
    That was a hard recovery to watch....Thank you guys for all you do. 😊

  • @CheriL25
    @CheriL25 2 роки тому +418

    Just wanted you to know that healing is happening. I saw Amy at an event recently, for the first time in a very long time. Thank you again.

    • @r-pupz7032
      @r-pupz7032 2 роки тому +2

      💜💜💜

    • @windbreaker57
      @windbreaker57 2 роки тому +21

      Please hug her and give her our love, from us here across the Pacific, especially those who also lost loved ones the same way they did.

    • @sparkytuttle2966
      @sparkytuttle2966 2 роки тому +9

      Thank you so much for a bit of sun in a sad world. Thank you for letting us know.

    • @jesLstout
      @jesLstout 2 роки тому +9

      this is soooooo good to read! thank you for sharing and i an so glad to hear that healing had begun, albeit a difficult journey to start on.

    • @lisa5183
      @lisa5183 2 роки тому +5

      Just heart breaking. Thanks for sharing this bc my mind was saying how is the mother and father doing today give her our love and it don't get better you put on a v smile for everybody but even time doesn't heal the last of a loved one 🙏🏻💙❤️

  • @CheriL25
    @CheriL25 2 роки тому +520

    Thank you so much for finding Jed. I know Alan and Amy through a club we are both members in, have camped at their place, and my kids are the same age as Jed, so they played together. We were devastated when he disappeared, have shared info several times over the years, and always, always wondered. Just such a sad story. But, thank you. What you do is so important, and your finding Jed has prompted me to join the channel to help other families out there.

  • @StrawberrySunday212
    @StrawberrySunday212 Рік тому +2193

    Absolutely disgraceful that the area was searched 'multiple times' yet these guys found the car in less than 30 minutes.

    • @jommisalami
      @jommisalami Рік тому +186

      That's the system for you. They don't care anymore.

    • @kabukidreamboy
      @kabukidreamboy Рік тому +53

      Must've been a pretty cursory search in that case as it wasn't hard to find.

    • @GODBLESSUNKNOWN
      @GODBLESSUNKNOWN Рік тому +42

      You dont know what they used to try find the car, with the sonar is way better...

    • @Alex-xs8tu
      @Alex-xs8tu Рік тому +246

      @@GODBLESSUNKNOWN You telling me the government funded police cant afford a livescope but the youtuber can?

    • @MoetryOfTheVenchy
      @MoetryOfTheVenchy Рік тому +56

      @@Alex-xs8tuDon’t waste ur time arguing with sheep

  • @PatriciaErvin-xt2mj
    @PatriciaErvin-xt2mj 9 місяців тому +13

    These guys are angels for everything they do to help families of missing members.

  • @tikar8982
    @tikar8982 2 роки тому +1829

    I hadn't heard about this group until today in the Kiely Rodni case.... you guys are some of the finest in America. Thank you for what you do ....
    My condolences to Jed's mother and father and to all of his family and friends..... Peace be with you. RIP young man ♥️🙏🏻♥️

    • @greysanatomy
      @greysanatomy 2 роки тому +23

      I’ve been subscribed to them for awhile but forgot about them until I saw her case on the news also

    • @Dutchess0909
      @Dutchess0909 2 роки тому +11

      Just heard of them today

    • @denisea3195
      @denisea3195 2 роки тому +11

      Same, that’s what brought me to this page

    • @NinaBaby210
      @NinaBaby210 2 роки тому +8

      Me too.

    • @kayceejay1488
      @kayceejay1488 2 роки тому +14

      Same here! Amazing people! You don’t see this genuine love for other people anymore.

  • @nicoledoubleyou
    @nicoledoubleyou 2 роки тому +1241

    Having lost a younger brother to suicide, I can feel that family's pain. The mothers reaction made perfect sense to me. I guess a lot of you haven't been through something like that, and thank God, I genuinely hope you never have to. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to learn to cope with, and I'm not even sure I'm coping that well

    • @seankaine2411
      @seankaine2411 2 роки тому +41

      I know that pain too well hits apart of your soul to where you can't even cry

    • @herbielovebug6854
      @herbielovebug6854 2 роки тому +21

      May God bless and heal you and bless your loved one's soul.

    • @lannamama2034
      @lannamama2034 2 роки тому +20

      Agreed my friend. Have dealt with too many suicides and loses in my family. It's extremely hard. My heart is broken forever

    • @ssurfs9900
      @ssurfs9900 2 роки тому +9

      @@cyndytower1263 Sorry for your loss ....lost my cousin the same way....... just out of HS back in 2006.....

    • @suzikelly8835
      @suzikelly8835 2 роки тому +4

      Agree fully!
      A hurt you would never want another to feel..
      closure will help

  • @tomleblanc2190
    @tomleblanc2190 2 роки тому +389

    I've been following this case. We are from Idaho originally. My wife is a reporter who did 2 interviews with the Private Investigator the family hired a couple years ago, and I am DISGUSTED by him now. He said (and told the family, too) he had good proof this kid ran away to join a militia and then went to France to join to foreign legion. Told my wife privately he believed he was struggling with sexuality. Seems very likely this so-called PI had no proof & made things up to keep getting a payday. Explains why the family had such a hard time accepting. THANK YOU ADVENTURES WITH PURPOSE for your dignity and willingness to give answers, and treat families with total professionalism. Id like to say I hope this family is able to find closure, but how can they? They lost their son and dont have answers. My emotions are very mixed. Proud and happy for people like the AwP team, sad as all hell for the family, and disgusted there are people in the world who would take advantage of families like this who want nothing except answers.

    • @blancabriseno9687
      @blancabriseno9687 2 роки тому +66

      U should expose the PI 🕵️‍♀️ so that he won’t continue doing this to other families

    • @hannahdebs4616
      @hannahdebs4616 2 роки тому +37

      Wow, that is so hurtful. Giving a family false hope and false leads. Jared says that sometimes families don't want to deal with AWP as they've been misguided in the past. I'm just glad that AWP are out there helping families to find their loved ones.

    • @susanappleby2414
      @susanappleby2414 2 роки тому +20

      It seemed such a strange option. I’m so sorry they were mislead. It’s not as if trying to get information from France would be ignored.

    • @Mikki44
      @Mikki44 2 роки тому +35

      Several people are looking in to Jim and the laws he's broken.

    • @JH-cf9nn
      @JH-cf9nn 2 роки тому +29

      Now he is slandering another family of a missing son, Dylan Rounds.

  • @mjarboesdf
    @mjarboesdf 6 місяців тому +42

    Losing my cousin who was like a brother to suicide, I felt that "damn you" to my core. There are several stages of grief and anger is one of them. When we lost my cousin my uncle was angry at his son for causing his mother and siblings so much pain. I will never forget after his funeral when my uncle understandably had a few drinks, he broke all the way down letting out his honest raw emotions and explained how angry he was and I vividly remember telling him it's normal to feel that way and he gave me the tightest hug and asked me if he thinks my cousin would be upset with him for being angry with him and it just broke me. I told my uncle to think about just how much pain and suffering he was going through to actually take his own life knowing how bad it would hurt them and to think about how he felt knowing that he knew that would be the only way to end all of his suffering and that his baby boy is God arm's safe and sound and in no more pain. So I sure hope anyone judging this poor mother, takes a moment to put themselves in her shoes and try to understand her emotions at the time. It's utterly heartbreaking. 💔 Rip Jed 🙏🕊

    • @Fido-vm9zi
      @Fido-vm9zi 4 місяці тому

      I'm sure, just as you said, it hurts people deeply when that happens.

  • @japanaissance869
    @japanaissance869 Рік тому +1043

    We lost a daughter three years ago now to a suicide. I am still not able to believe she's gone. I still refer to her as "is" and "likes." The moment my son called us and told us the news was the worst moment of my life. Ever. So, go easy on mom. It's really damn hard.

    • @realrebelli0n
      @realrebelli0n Рік тому +42

      I'm really sorry to hear that. I'm sure her soul is always close to you. I wish you healing and love.

    • @melon7724
      @melon7724 Рік тому +11

      im so sorry. sending lots of love.

    • @jolayneward
      @jolayneward Рік тому +4

      Having once had a missing lab, run in my life, I am incredibly sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. I don’t know if my words will comfort you, but I hope that somehow they will in someway. I understand that you still can’t except that she is gone, but just know that by her having been found, she can now rest in peace, knowing that you all know, and no longer have to live with them not knowing. Much love from Texas.

    • @paprgl
      @paprgl Рік тому +4

      I can't even imagine. I hope you have support. It has to be such a hard road.

    • @gloomxd2204
      @gloomxd2204 Рік тому +3

      wishing you all the best and i am so terribly sorry for your loss

  • @reignsray9686
    @reignsray9686 Рік тому +322

    I feel for you guys. As a former fire fighter I had to cut a dad out of his car that he was pinned in. His wife was DOA but his young son was safe in his car seat. Dad was screaming at me to take care of his family. I also knew the extent of dad's injuries were fatal. So I had to calm dad enough to explain this to him so he could say goodbye to his son. Always hoped I would have the chance to tell his son what he said when his son was grown up. It is never easy to have to tell someone this kinda stuff but it is also the right thing to do. This was the only call I ever think about. Through the pain of truth, you bring peace

    • @steveafanador6441
      @steveafanador6441 Рік тому +15

      Wow that's gotta be so tough. Thank you for what you do my friend 😢🙏

    • @shannonclabaugh7508
      @shannonclabaugh7508 Рік тому +18

      Your brief comment was more heart-wrenching and traumatic than the whole video. 😢

    • @Guy7338
      @Guy7338 Рік тому

      What does DOA mean?

    • @MunkeeFWRrng
      @MunkeeFWRrng Рік тому +6

      @@Guy7338dead on arrival

    • @kattymeow6464
      @kattymeow6464 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Guy7338Dead on arrival

  • @danb4282
    @danb4282 2 роки тому +412

    It’s particularly tragic that his car was so close to the bank and the ramp… four years of agonising not knowing and hope for his parents, all while he was barely 10 feet from the shore. You guys do incredibly important work, both in the diving and handling the emotions of the case. Rest well, Jed.

  • @FliffinsOfDoom
    @FliffinsOfDoom 10 місяців тому +5

    As a mom, I cannot fathom the loss they are feeling. I'm absolutely sobbing for them, and Jed. Is it weird it hurts more as I was born and raised for the first bit of my life in Idaho? I pray for solice and the comfort of the lord for them and Jed. Thank you guys for bringing him home. ❤

  • @salemb.2279
    @salemb.2279 2 роки тому +686

    I grew up next to Jed, he was a few years younger than me but I remember playing in my backyard with him, running around and hitting sticks together. He gave me a rabbit pelt as a gift one time, I still have it and think of him every time I look at it. His disappearance weighed pretty heavy on my mind, even though he went missing a few years after we moved across town.
    I ran into Amy in a thrift store last year, I remember her telling me she hoped that they could find his body. As much as she wanted him to be alive she knew he wasn't. My heart still hurts for her and Allen and I'll always remember pretending to be a princess and a knight with that scrawny quiet lovely kid that Jed was when I lived in the house on the hill.

    • @damarisobonyo677
      @damarisobonyo677 2 роки тому +13

      Sorry

    • @MissTarryn
      @MissTarryn 2 роки тому +38

      Lovely memory you have of your friend, thank you for sharing, I hope all friends and family can now finally have closure xx

    • @wollver2072
      @wollver2072 Рік тому +10

      So sorry to hear that,

    • @lisaadams780
      @lisaadams780 Рік тому +6

      Thanks for sharing.

    • @rubylucylefty
      @rubylucylefty Рік тому +7

      He sounds like an amazing friend, so sorry for your loss

  • @Tamara-id1pe
    @Tamara-id1pe 2 роки тому +102

    What Jed’s mom is showing us, her firm grip on hope, is one of the most heartbreaking yet beautiful pictures of love. I have no doubt that there was a point early on when she knew that Jed was gone, but how do you get up each day and carry on knowing that your baby is gone when you could be wrong? So the pain of uncertainty was covered in hope and optimism, and a thousand scenarios that end with her boy walking through the door one day asking what the fuss is all about.
    My heart breaks for these parents

  • @jackieann6588
    @jackieann6588 2 роки тому +313

    Hearing the Mother changing between “He is” and “He was” signifies that she is hopeful that he may still be alive, but her intuition (The Psychology) knows that he has already passed. Prayers for the Family and RIP Jed Hall💙

  • @neoepicurean3772
    @neoepicurean3772 8 місяців тому +2

    Looking past the tragic subject matter, this is like a great TV show that's not on TV. Really demonstrates how far UA-cam content has come. Great stuff, keep up the great show and the meaningful work.

  • @Liddybug
    @Liddybug 2 роки тому +1071

    This was incredibly difficult to watch because the parents were so sure he wasn't going to be in there. I totally get how Jared was feeling. God bless y'all for everything you do and my prayers go out to Jed's family. How heart-wrenching.

    • @jeyDsixx18
      @jeyDsixx18 2 роки тому +69

      Yea when she looked at the camera and said call ur mom damnit and then chuckled, u could tell she was completely convinced he was still alive, definitely hard to watch…

    • @surefire8568
      @surefire8568 2 роки тому +33

      The parents were dreaming that he was living a crazy life with the French Foreign Legion and learning french. This was so heartbreaking especially when she said that they were never going to get answers. I also felt so bad for Jared and Doug, I can understand why they were so conflicted.

    • @ambergreen6714
      @ambergreen6714 2 роки тому +11

      Im.just glad someone reached out to help them get closure even though they didn't want this ending a life searching I think is even harder then the truth. Nothing he did would gave made anyone love him less. So to bad he felt this was his only option

    • @arielsea9087
      @arielsea9087 Рік тому +2

      She said he had so much to live for. Too bad he didn’t come to that realization on his own. Maybe she can talk privately to the girl he seemed to care for. Just to learn more about his frame of mind. If the girl cares to reveal more to the parents that would be gracious on her part.

  • @chrisbuck2918
    @chrisbuck2918 2 роки тому +140

    I love how the cops actually listened to your recommendations and everything. Very professional people.

  • @TheZengela
    @TheZengela Рік тому +619

    What an absolutely incredible service this is. As the daughter of a mom missing since 1998, nothing is worse than not knowing what happened to your loved one. As painful as this is for mom and dad, I hope they can rest knowing he is at peace and they can lay him to rest. God bless, Jed. Rest in peace.

    • @AngelicMads
      @AngelicMads Рік тому +18

      I know this barely helps but I’m sorry :(

    • @moona_ttv
      @moona_ttv Рік тому +6

      I hope one day ur daughter is found ❤🥹❤️

    • @brendametube
      @brendametube Рік тому

      @@moona_ttv
      Mother 😢

    • @bobwaldman9996
      @bobwaldman9996 11 місяців тому +3

      REALLY REALLY REALLY THOSE MEN ARE THE BEST AT THIS WORK GOD BLESS THEM ALL

    • @TheZengela
      @TheZengela 11 місяців тому +5

      @@AngelicMads That's so nice of you, thank you. It helps ❤️

  • @brittneywilliams753
    @brittneywilliams753 8 місяців тому +33

    You guys should look into the Stacey Peterson case. Her sister found a body with sonar and the police won't help retrieve the body. They have go fund me set up to help her do these searches. Pls help her!!

  • @MurderOfCrows94
    @MurderOfCrows94 2 роки тому +616

    When you told Jed’s parents that you found him my heart broke for them. The pain on their faces when they were told was heartbreaking. I lost my 22 year old son in 2016 I know that pain well, I’ll never forget the moment the police told me that my son had died the pain that I felt at that moment was unbearable. It’s a pain that no parent should ever have to feel. My heartfelt condolences go out to his parents they are in my thoughts.

    • @jazzh2019
      @jazzh2019 2 роки тому +20

      Deepest sympathy for your loss also

    • @cybercat29
      @cybercat29 2 роки тому +12

      Please accept my deepest condolences.

    • @duurnamets9678
      @duurnamets9678 2 роки тому +11

      My deepest condolences to you to sir😘.

    • @paininthebeck7875
      @paininthebeck7875 2 роки тому +7

      I’m so sorry for your loss.

    • @xxg0t3mxx
      @xxg0t3mxx 2 роки тому +12

      I feel your pain and theirs as well my daughter was murdered 10 years ago she was 3 haunts me daily and is a struggle but manage my heart goes out to anyone who lost a loved one your not alone

  • @b.abernathy7980
    @b.abernathy7980 2 роки тому +320

    Jared, finding the car, with the boy in it, is a blessing to this mom and dad, even though they may not be able to say so today. In the long run, you have saved them from years of turmoil and anxiety. They are free from the prison of not wanting to leave home, lest their son arrive there while they are away. You did a wonderful thing for them, and the day will come when they will say so themselves. Take comfort from God who loves you, and Jed. Be at peace that you have done a marvelous thing. There is no reason you should feel bad. You have done a great service.

    • @jamesdean9943
      @jamesdean9943 2 роки тому +23

      Few months ago someone found a young man that went missing in 1976! He was in his car. His mother died early this year. Father died a few years earlier. It’s sad to know they never got closer. Some families never do.

    • @leeannehudson7314
      @leeannehudson7314 2 роки тому +5

      Beautifully said

    • @laurenmay2098
      @laurenmay2098 2 роки тому +5

      I can’t imagine how hard it must to be not knowing, the hurt is even worse. May they grieve and have a place to visit if they buried him.

    • @leolapennington264
      @leolapennington264 2 роки тому +1

      The not knowing is absolutely the worst. The mom was in the same state of denial my sister in law was when my niece went missing. She couldn't believe that anything bad could have happened and that my niece was just being naughty. It caused a huge rift in the family that has not been repaired since the mom kept telling us not to look for Jordan, that she would come home. She completely lost her mind after Jordan's body was found, but it took almost a year for my sister in law to fully comprehend everything because of how much she had convinced herself of her own narrative.

  • @Curious.Badger
    @Curious.Badger 2 роки тому +355

    As someone with depression I can relate to this kid so much. We put on faces and we hide the depression with smiles and jokes. I'm glad Jed has come home. Much love to his family and to AWP. AWP continues to handle things with such grace and dignity that it makes me proud to be a follower of this channel.

    • @justmejenny7986
      @justmejenny7986 2 роки тому +25

      Hope you have a support system. Sending you a hug.

    • @denisef1684
      @denisef1684 2 роки тому +15

      My thoughts are with you and I pray you have the support you need when things get too rough for you. There's always hope. Even when it seems there is none. I'm living proof of that. I'm praying for you.

    • @Curious.Badger
      @Curious.Badger 2 роки тому +31

      @@denisef1684 I have a great support system and I am on medication. I'm doing much better than I used to be. But when I was a teenager it was terrible.

    • @jmeadows8890
      @jmeadows8890 2 роки тому +18

      @@Curious.Badger I my self have depression as well i have good day's and bad day's and i am also on medication and you are right we put on a front that other people don't see

    • @MinaOmega
      @MinaOmega 2 роки тому +15

      I feel like Jed didn't get the help he needed because his parents are really good at pulling on those rose colored glasses. The refusal to accept that he was anything other than a 'happy boy's days a lot about how he may have had his depression downplayed.

  • @mototaco6603
    @mototaco6603 8 місяців тому +11

    the fella talking to Amy must have had some extreme sensitivity training or something when talking to family members about bad news. idk man the whole dialogue with her walking her through the process was just impressive.

  • @NiciLouB
    @NiciLouB 2 роки тому +1037

    Wow, I think we just witnessed his mum go through every emotion and stage of grief right there on camera. I hope they find some closure and begin to process this tragedy.

    • @badboybullterriers4104
      @badboybullterriers4104 2 роки тому +15

      they will im a counselor the funeral will help bring closure, it will have a big turn out and will leave the parents with some happier memories.

    • @cidquakenbush302
      @cidquakenbush302 2 роки тому +3

      Amen.

    • @amcken
      @amcken 2 роки тому +9

      @@badboybullterriers4104 Funerals may bring closure but I'm not confident about the happy memories part. Loss is not easy but if we live long enough, we will go through a LOT of it.

    • @MissTarryn
      @MissTarryn 2 роки тому +9

      I hate to know how much she broke down once the cameras were away. She was holding on so strong.

    • @j.whiteoak6408
      @j.whiteoak6408 2 роки тому +2

      @@MissTarryn
      Indeed. I cried for her several times.. She můst be broken-hearted💔

  • @lostcontrol1981
    @lostcontrol1981 2 роки тому +487

    I have a son almost the exact same age as Jed. He’s now 21 and about to start 4th year university. He’s suffered depression for years, and I can only think that could just as easily have been me in Jed’s mom’s place. My love goes out to her and Jed’s father.

    • @Alondro77
      @Alondro77 2 роки тому +8

      For me, the viral illness, presumably influenza, is the biggest clue. We know an infection in adolescence can activate the autoimmune pathway leading to a major form of schizophrenia in children that have the immune 'priming' due to a prenatal infection. All of a sudden, during that illness, he began to avoid the societal interaction that was natural to him, and wanted to be in a different part of the house. Only a neuropsychatric expert would have possibly recognized the warning sign that a psychotic episode could be about to manifest.

    • @monicanv69
      @monicanv69 2 роки тому

      @@Freeandokay thank you, I was about to post that.

    • @kukiomori403
      @kukiomori403 2 роки тому

      ok

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 2 роки тому +1

      Genesight is a company that runs DNA and tells you which antidepressants work best for you

    • @timwhite4885
      @timwhite4885 2 роки тому

      🙏❤️🙏

  • @numbernine3436
    @numbernine3436 2 роки тому +133

    I love how dad held onto his wife.
    Jed seemed to have the perfect life. Great parents, hobbies most of us could only dream of at his age, a charter school.. we never know what is going on in someone's mind.
    A coworker recently lost her 14 yr old son to suicide. He had a little argument with his girlfriend decided to h@ng himself in his bedroom that night. Mom found him in the morning. How do you function after seeing that? Our children are our worlds. For anyone struggling please reach out. You are loved♡

    • @tebelshaw9486
      @tebelshaw9486 2 роки тому +6

      I think the only thing worse is never finding the loved one. 😪

  • @sammyluvschanel6799
    @sammyluvschanel6799 10 місяців тому +9

    How do police searches miss this yet this team found in 20 minutes🤯 The poor mom was so sure he would not be in there as it had supposedly been searched no wonder she was in shock 😢

    • @sommerjordan2503
      @sommerjordan2503 5 місяців тому +1

      Because most law enforcement don't have dive teams specialized in recovering vehicles and this is all this group does... most General law enforcement would be looking 20 to 30 ft from Shore not 75 yd away from Shore when it likely went off a boat ramp. ....

  • @lauriebarnett5741
    @lauriebarnett5741 2 роки тому +468

    My heart breaks for his parents. His mother wholeheartedly believed he was going to come home some day. RIP Jed.

    • @bellaluv1070
      @bellaluv1070 2 роки тому +7

      Mine too. I really cant find the right words myself. Jed had a wonderful lopsided smile, it was the first thing that stood out to me.
      I wish his parents peace, and strength. Many blessings to them. I hope, in time, they can remember him as he was, and without the crushing weight of loss. God Bless everyone who loved him.
      ⚘💔

    • @valleygirl670
      @valleygirl670 2 роки тому +1

      They will be together again in Heaven.

    • @matthewmosier8439
      @matthewmosier8439 2 роки тому +7

      After watching much of the episode I tend to think that Jed changed his mind about his plan but it was too late. If I remember correctly suicides usually roll the windows down and his were not. I also noted that the remains were close to the back of the car, something which I think also happened in the case of the young man who drove into the lake after a party in a farming community. While they certainly had moved the car enough that remains might have shifted around, I wonder if he didn't regret his devision and try to swim his way out.

  • @craigmayhan4009
    @craigmayhan4009 2 роки тому +114

    I hope Jared and crew see a therapist regularly. This kind of work isn’t really for people with big hearts and Jared is obviously affected by each and every discovery/recovery. He has a talent that always brings conflicting emotions

    • @d6187
      @d6187 2 роки тому +4

      I was just thinking this.

    • @antisocialtroglodyte2321
      @antisocialtroglodyte2321 2 роки тому +3

      I hope therapists see this and volunteer to help AWP and the other groups that do this work!! They all need someone!!!

    • @craigmayhan4009
      @craigmayhan4009 2 роки тому

      @@alexbellington9243 just wondering... how many dead teenagers have you found underwater in a car? Thought so.... There’s this amazing thing you can do with your finger and that is click on something else. There’s another thing you can do with a finger and I’m doing it towards you right now...

    • @craigmayhan4009
      @craigmayhan4009 2 роки тому +4

      @@alexbellington9243 I don’t think I could do it at all to be honest with you. I know it’d be a awkward moment and weird things come out of my mouth in awkward situations. I will agree that Jared used to be how you say he is but he’s gotten much better at giving the spotlight to someone else lately. Don’t forget Dr Phil’s crew was filming him also. He just tries to say things to make people feel better and sometimes it don’t come out right. No need to bust his balls about it. He’s trying to be compassionate

    • @dennisa.brinck5988
      @dennisa.brinck5988 9 місяців тому +2

      As a firefighter, who has seen many persons deceased, and witnessed them as they were in their last moments, we become attached and they become our family member.....yes, each and everyone of these people, remain with us, for the rest of our lives....and just because we are emergency personnel, we react to death too. What used to bother me the most, was the build up to their demise.

  • @melissaford4824
    @melissaford4824 2 роки тому +503

    I feel like this was one you didn’t want to solve for Amy’s sake, but the purpose is to find answers. Jed sounded like a great kid. I admire Amy for her strength, love, and optimism. I pray someday Amy and her family can find peace now that they have answers. I appreciate how you involved Jed’s mom in your discussion about the process. I highly respect the police for really listening to Doug. The emotions were so high here. Jared, your reactions to this case and the fact that you can be vulnerable with your viewers shows how good of a person you really are. All of this and watching all the videos make my belief in what AWP does become stronger. This is why I support and continue to buy and donate. Lifelong supporter here!
    I witnessed the aftermath of a fatal accident where a drunk driver hit the drivers side door. The driver did not make it. He was only 31. I saw the body wrapped up. I cried. I don’t know how you guys do this. It takes a strong mind, loving heart, and great support system. That’s AWP!

    • @melissaford4824
      @melissaford4824 2 роки тому +18

      @@Mayhemffs Completely agree! They’re amazing! I can’t imagine what it’s like being in their position. They never fail to impress me. At the end of the day though, they are people just like us. People that do so much good. We do good by helping them out.

    • @melissaford4824
      @melissaford4824 2 роки тому +21

      @@carriebaker5161 I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s amazing and kind of you to be there for others! I hope you have people there for you!

    • @candicew8674
      @candicew8674 2 роки тому +10

      Well said!! 😢❤️

    • @susiesantino5625
      @susiesantino5625 2 роки тому +1

      @@carriebaker5161 Sorry for your loss

    • @marieblanford3906
      @marieblanford3906 2 роки тому +2

      @@carriebaker5161 I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom lost her youngest son to a car wreck. He was 17 years old. This happened back in 2001. And she is still heartbroken. She still cry’s often. Bless everyone who has lost a loved one.

  • @pushedgold
    @pushedgold 7 місяців тому +10

    My cousin passed away in a lake rescuing about 5 of his friends from drowning. He ended up drowning hisself & they all left him there. It took about a full week for the search team to find my cousin. And the entire time, even knowing they left him in that lake. I didn’t want to believe he was in there. I painted every other picture but him dying in the lake. I appreciate and pray for all of those who work to help resolve cases like this. I’ll never know how you guys wake up and choose your be you and you’ll forever be blessed.

    • @sophie4636
      @sophie4636 4 місяці тому +1

      Your cousin sounds very brave, I'm so sorry he didn't make it out after saving so many others 💔💔💔

  • @BunniBeshara
    @BunniBeshara 2 роки тому +185

    As a mom, I’m glad he’s not all alone down there anymore. How heartbreaking for this family.

    • @rainbowmom7582
      @rainbowmom7582 2 роки тому +6

      I had the exact same thought.

    • @jamesdean9943
      @jamesdean9943 2 роки тому +4

      I cannot imagine, although sad news this brought closer to the family.

  • @saffronredwitch
    @saffronredwitch 2 роки тому +239

    Jared and Doug as an ICU nurse for more than two decades I can completely understand giving families and loved ones the worst news that anyone can imagine. No mother is ready to give up hope that their child will wakeup and come back to them. Children aren't ready to say goodbye to parents.
    We see many people on the very worst day of their lives and so do you. Please be sure to take care of your own mental health for the sadness and grief you carry with you always. They are not just case numbers. I never hear either of you call them by anything but their names. They are real people who had hopes and dreams who took a wrong turn and were lost along the way. Thank you for all you do to bring answers and peace.

    • @danarzechula3769
      @danarzechula3769 2 роки тому +2

      That oxygen mask principle is real

    • @eledatowle8767
      @eledatowle8767 2 роки тому +2

      Thank YOU for what YOU do. Most of us couldn't do it, so we truly appreciate those of you who can, and choose to. Thank you.

  • @cindystrachan8566
    @cindystrachan8566 Рік тому +130

    Regarding your concerns about taking hope away from the family: I was a neuro nurse for six years and dealt on a daily basis with devastating brain injuries and grieving families.
    As time passed and hope for a miraculous recovery faded, I saw families frozen in time because no one spoke candidly (but with compassion) about the condition of their loved one.
    Inability to let go and move on can devastate lives. Honesty is what they need. In the long run it is better.
    It is not easy but it can be done. And you’re not really taking away their hope. You’re giving them the tools they need to move on.
    Bless you and keep up the good work.

    • @sophie4636
      @sophie4636 4 місяці тому +1

      False hope must be the most painful thing, give me reality any day ❤

  • @RebeccaStephens-j8q
    @RebeccaStephens-j8q 6 днів тому

    I'm glad this video was recommended to me.
    I don't think I knew of your channel when this video was originally published, but I've been watching your recent videos. In one of them, you found 20+ vehicles while looking for the one you were originally after.
    I didn't understand why you didn't dive on all of them - people will want to know. Your comment in this video about the family "not being ready to know" gave me the understanding I was looking for.
    Thank you for all that your team does. Best wishes!

  • @firemanforever3000
    @firemanforever3000 2 роки тому +122

    When people figure out their purpose in life. Some people lean towards serving others. A.W.P has definitely found their purpose in their lives. Interconnecting with people when they are their most distraught, and treating them with respect and kindness. The world would be a much better place with more like AWP. Rest In Peace Jed.

  • @YolandaBee
    @YolandaBee Рік тому +727

    There's 5 stages of grief. The fact the Jared knows how to speak to these parents with so much empathy because they're not through the stages completely is amazing to see!!!

    • @lynnhexler-haan3357
      @lynnhexler-haan3357 Рік тому +9

      @yolandabaltaz7768
      There is a " model" for many stages of grief, it's not set in stone. Some people stress more about the application to the model than the loss itself!

    • @Honkshewmimimimimimi
      @Honkshewmimimimimimi Рік тому

      @@lynnhexler-haan3357 this!!!!

    • @christynpassalaqua2661
      @christynpassalaqua2661 Рік тому +3

      He was pretty awesome 😎

    • @Tri.dawg1
      @Tri.dawg1 Рік тому +1

      He must have therapist license lol I was thinking the same thing

    • @helenhodge-croom9635
      @helenhodge-croom9635 Рік тому +8

      He has training in grife councling/sensitivity. A lot of search and rescue people get it when they have a high possibility of dealing with families. If I remember right Jared was a search and rescue guy before he started AWP.

  • @AshleyPlyler
    @AshleyPlyler 2 роки тому +206

    “So we’re still not going to get any answers why.” Broke my heart. I know that sweet family wanted to think the best case possible. I really hate that this was the outcome. My heart goes out to them.

    • @gdhaney136
      @gdhaney136 2 роки тому +2

      That's what broke me too.

    • @mari51685
      @mari51685 2 роки тому +15

      The answer is probably the most common. Poor kid was in teenage hell (no offense to the family) some people think this is the only way out. And if he left notes at home at school, there’s not much left to realize. I’m so sorry for the friends and family.

    • @EMJ_USPSA
      @EMJ_USPSA 2 роки тому +4

      He wrote two letters. I am super curious what they said.

  • @Zhorteye
    @Zhorteye 9 місяців тому +6

    I've now been watching Adventures With Purpose for a few months, after randomly stumbling upon the channel, and as a Vehicle Recovery driver & Deceased Recovery driver myself, These kinds of "missions" are the worst.. Now, i live in Denmark where not too many of these cases happen, Here its mostly car crashes etc, but going home after such a mission, knowing that whoever was in the vehicle, is no longer with us, knowing that the family has lost a loved one too early, is just the absolute worst feeling.
    I'm not sure if Jared and Doug will at any point read this.. But guys, i really hope you guys take care of your mental state, Talk to the people you need to talk to after every mission to ensure that nothing builds up mentally for you guys, 'cause at the young age of 28, it recently just resulted in a long sick period for me having to take care of my mental health..
    You guys are doing an amazing job, and even though i'm not a parent yet, i personally understand how these people feel in these situations, and i really hope that this brought proper closure to Jed's Family.. - I'd love to see an update on some of the families you've helped get answers over the years, Like, has it helped them move on? Are they happy you guys came along, all that stuff, basicly just some interviews with the families, if thats something you guys would ever consider doing i'm sure more people than just me would love to see those videos.

  • @enclavex69
    @enclavex69 2 роки тому +75

    I was holding it all together till she said “Do you do hugs?”
    My thoughts and prayers are with the family and all who have been involved in finding young Jed. Keep up the amazing work AWP.

    • @Redslayer86
      @Redslayer86 2 роки тому +4

      That's exactly where I broke. Instant heart break.

  • @rachelh6826
    @rachelh6826 2 роки тому +186

    This is so tragic. My heart hurts for Jed's family, especially for his mom. You can tell she truly didn't believe (or strongly didn't want to believe) that Jed was in the river. She believed he was still out there when she referred to him in the present tense. She held onto that hope until the very end, and I get what you're saying. Jared, that you don't want to take her hope away. But you and your team were able to end the wondering, the unknowns, the waiting that would have gone on forever. And you were able to do it with genuine compassion for Jed and his family.

  • @chriscollins2619
    @chriscollins2619 2 роки тому +154

    As a fireman in NJ and a new student to water rescue disciplines, I have barely scratched the surface of the level technology, training and compassion this team shows. God bless them for the families they have helped and love they give to unknown neighbors, I can't think of a better embodiment of Patriots!

    • @leahflower9924
      @leahflower9924 2 роки тому +2

      I see cops and firefighters searching Passaic river a lot

  • @almanecer
    @almanecer 7 місяців тому +8

    That mother must have cried so much that she has no more tears to cry. I embrace them from afar, much peace and strength for them.

  • @clarelove3738
    @clarelove3738 2 роки тому +481

    I'm really worried for this poor mom, she's seen it in real time but it's not yet registered with her, she's going to need a lot of help to work through this.
    The AWP crew are also clearly crushed by this one, so please guys, look after yourselves. Much love, and hugs, to each and every one of you.

    • @Hotlips247
      @Hotlips247 2 роки тому +15

      A mental health day for all! Remember guys- Take care of your heads and heart. Seek therapy if you need it.

    • @arielsea9087
      @arielsea9087 2 роки тому +1

      Hard to understand if he really didn’t confide in someone about his innermost thoughts. Enough to prevent this outcome. The money part was troublesome and foreboding to the action he planned to take.

    • @azuradawn5683
      @azuradawn5683 2 роки тому +9

      ​@@arielsea9087 Many people don't give warnings before taking their lives. Someone I love attempted (and thankfully survived) - he didn't tell anyone anything. Not his girlfriend, not his friends, not his family, no one. No one had any idea he was at that point. Yes, many people do seek help in some way before getting to that place, but many others don't. And as for the money - yes, definitely a bad sign, but it was left a few hours prior - it's not like he did that days/weeks before such that someone could have realized and tried to get him help.

    • @wilhelmvg9978
      @wilhelmvg9978 2 роки тому +8

      @@Andrew_kiwi_AF I have spent a lot of time studying suicide and I can tell you it’s definitely *not* true that those who talk about it don’t go through with it. That is simply irresponsible to suggest. Always tell someone if someone you know is speaking of suicide.

    • @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470
      @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470 2 роки тому

      @@Andrew_kiwi_AF that is not true. Many people who talk about it DO commit suicide.

  • @JOMAR3
    @JOMAR3 2 роки тому +467

    To the family and Friends of Jed. Know that we all shed a tear when he was found and that the heart of every viewer sends you our sincere Condolences. As a Parent, I can not ever fathom the depths of despair you folks have been through. Prayers sent for Jed and you all. To Doug And Jarred Good work. God has his hands upon your souls for doing these things that take their toll on your hearts and souls. Thank You for your dedication.

    • @violettheorgangrinder
      @violettheorgangrinder 2 роки тому +4

      Speak for yourself

    • @ramonaweston791
      @ramonaweston791 2 роки тому +7

      Well written.

    • @chordsofgratitude2073
      @chordsofgratitude2073 2 роки тому +7

      Jared, Doug, everyone associated with AWP, no parent to is ever ready to face the loss of child. Take it from a former military medic/EMT and sister of a parent that lost a child....it will never go away, the pain of losing a child. There is no easy way to tell a parent nor is there a way to prepare a parent to handle the loss. Surrounding you all with prayer, love and hugs 🙌🙏♥️🤗🤗🤗

    • @hollanderson
      @hollanderson 2 роки тому +5

      @@violettheorgangrinder How did the video make you feel?

    • @igitha..._
      @igitha..._ 2 роки тому +16

      @@MrSamisue27 That 'nine eleven supporter' account right there appears to be a troll projecting their own insecurities and perceived inadequacies looking for some attention on the back of people who truly and actually deserve it.
      What a pretzel to be so self-involved and callous when the rest of us find such comfort and community in being able to share our genuine and heartfelt support for AWP and the affected families and loved ones.
      I like that you highlighted this person's lack of empathy and hopefully it causes them to reassess their attitude especially in comment sections such as this.
      Trolls used to be so much more witty and comedic in their approach when they surfaced. Unfortunately 'nine eleven supporter' has a LOT to learn both in being any kind of good troll as well as how to emote their feelings in a less toxic manner.
      Peace and blessings to all those who are here in peace and support of AWP and the family and loved ones.
      Prayers and Jesus to the trolls who are yet to discover and hone in their EQ (emotional intelligence).

  • @LadyJ--1
    @LadyJ--1 Рік тому +148

    It's very common when someone takes their own life, for the ones left behind to feel some anger towards that person. It's normal for this mother to lash out in her initial grief, angry and frustrated that her son would take this path instead of call her, talk to someone, reach out... My own family has been there. It's part of the grief, and part of the greater tragedy that ppl who harm themselves don't only end their own life, they drastically affect the lives of all those they leave behind. 💔

  • @tammygreene4202
    @tammygreene4202 5 місяців тому +10

    This one brought me to tears! Suicide sucks! So sad for this teen not feeling like he had anything left to live for!

  • @clareriley
    @clareriley 2 роки тому +240

    Amy, your one hell of a warrior. Guys, ive never seen you react like this before when you find a car. Is the one time ive seen hope for an alternative. I hoped too. I had those dreams when you spoke Amy. RIP Jed. You may never know why... you may never know all the answers but you have him from the murky depths. Well done again guys. Im still crying long after the video ended. This one is something different. If your reading this.. there is always a way to be like a pheonix and rise from the ashes.... its ok not to be ok. Be kind to eachother and remember. Someone always loves you xxx

    • @FightingMECFS
      @FightingMECFS 2 роки тому +12

      Thank you so very much for saying “its okay not to be okay”!! It frustrates me that the message is always if you need help reach out, but yet nobody wants to hear you arent okay ..... even mental health professionals look at me strange when a discussion begins about the growing depression epidemic with those words. There definitely needs to be more conversation along these lines ❣️

    • @roxannerabinovich3828
      @roxannerabinovich3828 2 роки тому +6

      Thank you! What is most important thought to give out children feeling that we love them so much and always will no matter what. ❤️

    • @gabriellafox7948
      @gabriellafox7948 2 роки тому +3

      @@FightingMECFS I agree whole heartedly! Emotional illness isn’t visible to those around us. So many social cues and yet many many family members and friends just don’t want to hear it, they don’t want to hear the truth, they don’t want to hear what you’re going through, they just want you to stiffen up and be “positive.” But emotional health does not heal that way, rather it’s by receiving hugs, it’s by receiving DPT therapy and the biggest one is just plain old LOVE. But families and friends need to understand that love is not a noun it’s a verb. You can say you love one all day long, but at the end of the day you need to show your love the way that person needs to receive it!

  • @jessicasmith9452
    @jessicasmith9452 2 роки тому +210

    In a small way I think I understand what Jared is talking about. I'm a paramedic and it's always harder to deal with when you have to give tragic news to loved ones who are unsuspecting or caught off guard. Thank you for still continuing to do the work and please keep well. Thoughts go out to the whole team and the family of Jed.

    • @crazychase98
      @crazychase98 2 роки тому

      I mean they should have know he was dead 4 years what did they expect

    • @ItzOver9k
      @ItzOver9k 2 роки тому +13

      @@crazychase98 Everyone expects a missing person to come back, or at least hopes and waits, until it is 100% confirmed they won't. That's what.

    • @anitakristensen4679
      @anitakristensen4679 2 роки тому +3

      You can try to prepare for the worst, but denial falls in.

    • @gabriellafox7948
      @gabriellafox7948 2 роки тому +9

      @@crazychase98 Wait until you have a child of your own flesh and blood, or adopted. You never give up hope that they would come back, so obviously in the back of one’s mind you do know that it looks bleak. I don’t think she’s a stupid woman I’m sure she knew this was the likely outcome, nonetheless absolutely brutal for any parent to have to go through. I can’t imagine losing my son he just turned 18, I would be absolutely devastated!

    • @nisaame
      @nisaame 2 роки тому +5

      And I finally understand why he tried to ignore cases that are too early or the family members are too hopeful their missing ones is still alive. It shows how hard the crews feels in this video. And it is extremely hard for the family members too

  • @agirlisnoone5953
    @agirlisnoone5953 2 роки тому +280

    Heart-wrenching. Imagine having 4 years of hope and theories of your son coming back, when you discover the whole 4 years he's been within 5 miles. My heart aches for jed's parents. I hope they're getting through life ok

    • @bosschic39
      @bosschic39 2 роки тому +5

      I pray the AWP team stays strong!! Just the trauma and emotions in their voice is sooooo hard to hear!! Praying for you guys!! Thank you for bring these family closure!!

    • @patriciajrs46
      @patriciajrs46 2 роки тому +1

      That would have to be the worst. Bless you all. Bless the family.

  • @BigAds.
    @BigAds. 8 місяців тому +1

    Beautifully presented and such a great professional team carrying out this recovery I give credit to them, as a father this would be my most nightmare, I'm happy the family have the closure they needed.

  • @krisb8727
    @krisb8727 2 роки тому +164

    What makes this case even more tragic is the demeanor of his mom. You can tell she was thinking, looking in the river was just a waste of time. She was completely blindsided!

    • @bfun4615
      @bfun4615 2 роки тому +5

      I'm sorry but that comment is in poor taste because you cannot tell. She was there for a reason. You can never tell what is going through someone else's mind. People have different demeanors and hers may have been to remain very calm. As a person who works in government customer service capacity you never know what someone is experiencing unless they tell you.

  • @PatPauloMMA
    @PatPauloMMA 2 роки тому +336

    This is incredible. I just found this channel after following the case of Kiely Rodni. I never thought I get to watch you guys work in real-time. Discovering the car and filming it at the same time. This is quality content. I hope the families can have the opportunity to grieve and find an appropriate final resting place for their family members.

    • @carolemerckel3461
      @carolemerckel3461 2 роки тому +3

      When I see a story like what recently happened with Kiely Rodni I usually recommend this video. For people and even the news outlets to watch to get an understanding of what the family members of the missing AND AWP go through emotionally while the search is ongoing is very important. To just report that a missing person has now been found deceased is uncontionable!

    • @patscats2080
      @patscats2080 2 роки тому +2

      Aren’t they astounding? I found them through the Keily case. I’ve now become a member to help as much as I can.

    • @joanneazeez9938
      @joanneazeez9938 2 роки тому +2

      Same kiely Rodni that was the first time I watched this channel now I cart stop watching you all are amazing thanks for sharing X

    • @j4kgang921
      @j4kgang921 2 роки тому +1

      Same here

    • @kwamemusikave9717
      @kwamemusikave9717 2 роки тому +1

      @@joanneazeez9938 me as well I just happened to stumble upon the Kiely case and it led me here

  • @amberhigley7896
    @amberhigley7896 2 роки тому +116

    I grew up with Jed, we used to play night games together all the time. I remember the day he went missing like it was yesterday. Because of the drive by shooting my school was placed on shelter in place, when I found out he was missing I knew it wasn’t good. You’ve given many people answers today, thank you! Rest In Peace to an amazing person!

    • @jenelaina5665
      @jenelaina5665 2 роки тому +3

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and let your friends know you'll be there for them too, and that there's help if you need it. Sending ❤️.

    • @crafterdeidra
      @crafterdeidra 2 роки тому +3

      So sorry for your friend Jed! Hope you find some peace and closure knowing he's not hurting anymore 😌

    • @tmac6586
      @tmac6586 2 роки тому

      Sorry for your loss but I have a question? Your school has a drive by shooting? Was he the one who was a participant in that especially since the gun hustler was found in the car ? If so, that could explain why he did this to himself.. And if he was on medication for something like hypertension,it has actually been found that those pharmaceutical meds being handed out to kids are most causing these gun outbreaks by way of children/ students in schools. But big pharma is not going to allow that information to be broadcasted to the public about theyr medicines so we as a population have wonder why this bad things and shoot out happen in our schools.

    • @tmac6586
      @tmac6586 2 роки тому

      @Nicky L not for high blood pressure. I meant meds for children like Ritalin which is common for conventional medicine educated doctors in America to give children. It has been that was since 1990s. Those meds are actually not good for kids but no pharmacy or pharma corporation will allow the general public in mass to know. Especially when they are funding American Medical schools which educated all conventional medicine practicing doctors

    • @amberhigley7896
      @amberhigley7896 2 роки тому

      @@tmac6586 Niky L is right there was a shooting at a persons house who had been harassing his friend. They couldn’t prove it was him but they suspected it was. He was an amazing guy truthfully and I knew he was never a danger to any of us but they had to be safe.

  • @sydneypresley7987
    @sydneypresley7987 10 місяців тому +2

    These people are such heroes to me. I watch these episodes over and over . Thanks for sharing with us.