Candid Tell-All Interview About Life as an Inter-abled Couple//How I Found Love in a Wheelchair
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- In honor of our 10th wedding anniversary I decided to sit down with Joe and talk all about how we met, what it was like when we first started dating and what our life is like as an inter-abled couple.
Grab a drink and some popcorn my friends because it's a long video!
#interabled love
#findingloveinawheelchair
#interabledcouple
Check out these other videos for some of the things I mention in the interview:
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• Wheel Life Stories: Th...
My Toyota Sienna
• Wheelchair Accessible ...
Timecodes:
0:00 Into
1:12 How did we meet?
3:19 What was my Joe's first impression of me?
5:10 When did Joe realize that he had feelings for me?
6:35 Did Joe ever think of dumping me because of my wheelchair?
6:45 Was Joe nervous to tell people about me?
7:11 What did Joe's family an friends think about him dating a woman in a wheelchair?
8:37 How did Joe react when he found out how I have to go to the bathroom?
11:55 Is Joe grossed out by anything that I have to do because of my SCI
15:26 Intimacy with a spinal cord injury
19:24 How does Joe react when people tell him he is amazing for marrying someone in a wheelchair?
23:31 Dating advice for other people with disabilities
26:27 Playing the newlywed game
You might think he's a wonderful guy for marrying you, but I think he's a very lucky guy to be with someone as open and solid as you.
They both bring love and joy and respect too the table , regardless of disability isn’t that the point , foot note , I’ve been married to my darling for 31 years , I had a traumatic brain injury 8 years ago and I now have cancer , but my darling girl still loves me the same even if I’m not as fit as before , that’s love ❤, that’s marriage 😊
@@petrus666love Aww that's nice!
I finally got to the end of this video, and please thank Joe - and you - for discussing the supposed fragility of your body. I had similar worries/fears with my wife too. A lil different for CP vs SCI, as it is more about stiffness of parts of her body, but certainly the same fear of popping a shoulder/elbow/wrist out of joint, and worrying about how her arm was placed. I love my wife, and it’s been 42 wonderful years of marriage. Thanks Brittney and Joe!
Wow, love Joe, hes honest, articulate and has a good sense of humour.
You saying he's better than me haha?
So cute! Congratulations on 10 years and many more to come. Yes I did watch all the way through...your so real and honest how could you not watch it all.
Thanks! Love to you for being a great subscriber! You're in the favorites club:)
You two are awesome! You two have true love and respect for each other and it shows in both your glowing personalities! Congratulations on your 10 year Anniversary! I am a new subscriber to your channel and YES! I watched the whole video through. I am learning so very much from your videos Brittany. Thank you for being candid, honest and caring to help others. I am a senior citizen and going through changes in my life as aging can bring on serious health issues and you have helped me face them more courageously! Thank YOU! Abundant Blessings to you and your family.
Why thank you! Glad to have you as a subscriber! Aging is hard and seniors are the largest group of individuals with acquired disabilities. It's difficult to loose independence after years of being capable of doing things without help. Hang in there! You are stronger than you think!
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I'm a handicap man age 42, walk with cruches, life has it's up and downs, but we all must plow forward in life, so the corn can grow behind us, I grew up on a farm, God bless you both 🙏 ❤
Such honesty….this works for any relationship! Confidence is key……this works for any relationship.
Confidence ! 100%
1 my first time watching. Like your honesty about your inter-abled life. We face challenges all our life. I am dealing with aging and I complain loudly. Then I remember how precious the gift of life is. There is always joy to be found in each day.
He said it's no big deal, I say it's Love. Real simple true Love ❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘
Yep I found my person for sure! ❤
So nice to meet Joe. He’s very secure and confident in himself. Exactly who I would have pictured u with.
Stay tuned for another video with Joe coming soon:)
Enjoyed the chat, congrats on having such an amazing relationship! You both are awesome!!
Really appreciate how honest this video turned out. Good luck!
You two are outstanding! This is the best part of the internet, people like you sharing your stories!
Lucky guy to have such a smart, kind & attractive wife😊
Still one of the most enjoyable of all of your videos! So great to hear your hubby talk so honestly and openly about all the things that lead to a successful and long-lasting marriage!
Stumbled on to you guys. Great video. Yes I watched the whole video!
Great video you two!! Answered lots of questions I didn't even know I had!
Awesome ... what a BLESSED couple ❤! Thank you for sharing xxx
Watched from start to finish. Awesome!
I loved this video! Y’all are so cute together!!! Loved hearing about how y’all met and the struggles of getting to know one another. #1 for making it all of the way through! Much love from Oklahoma, USA 💗💗💗
Thanks for sharing your journey of life and love with us, beautiful family.
You two are just beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your story and journey, and for doing so in such a candid, engaging and loving way. Truly inspirational and heartwarming.
What a great video. I suffered a SCI 54 years ago as a young child. You have described almost exactly what my wife (who is able-bodied) went through as we established a relationship and ultimately married. Even little comments like keeping the house warm and the Toyota Sienna SE being a vehicle of choice.
Things that only interable couples understand lol!
Just stumbled across this video and I am so impressed with you both and appreciate all the openness that you share. You guys are the real deal!❤ I've been married for 26 years and I have a mental illness. My husband is my biggest fan 💓 it doesn't matter what our obstacles are, if someone really loves YOU, you can get through anything together! Mental or physical❤
totally!!
Appreciate the honest commentary. Thanks for sharing.
You two are the absolute best. Congratulations on your 10 yr anniversary.
Thanks John!
I thought the thing that draws us in and keeps us subscribers coming back to watch every video was your expressive eyes, but I think that it is also how animated you are when you are describing things. You are unique!
Hi , watched a couple of your 10min vids and was surprised how interested I was in wanting to watch more. I am a healthy 61 y/o guy from Australia , just curious to have a look and congrats to you on the way you do your vids. The way you openly answer questions and not just skirt around the edges so to speak. I did watch this vid all the way to the end and was not bored or wanting it to finish so great work. Also congrats on your 10th wedding anniversary , great to see the way you too are so happy together. Cheers.
I eatched alk the way through. Thus is ny first videi ive seen of u guys and i will be watching more
Its been so lovely hearing your stories. I watched it all as I didn't want to miss anything but I did watch it in 2 sections. You are very pretty and he is spunky. And I liked how he spoke so positively about his parents. That tells me why he treats you so respectfully.
Thanks for watching the whole video!
Watched all, you guys are awesome!
You two are so cute together!!! Thank you both for opening up and sharing as you are helping more people than you realize. You are truly seem to be a very very close couple
We don't want to kill each other after 15 years so we must be doing something right lol! Thanks for watching!
you guys are great and I hope more people follow their heart as you two have. I have cp and lived with my parents until I was 47. I met a girl through a friend that was also handicapped due to an auto accident. She got me on my own after a few, "dates." Unfortunately, she lost her legs from lymphedema . Gradually she required more assistance and I just jumped right in. My parents thought I was crazy but if it wasn't for her, I would have ended up in a group home or something. she taught me a lot.
1- watched the whole thing. I loved this video!
This direct, clear, frank communication is very informative and important. A lot of social issues and stigmas can be dispelled by demystifying subjects like this. Thank you both.
You're welcome!
You two are awesome! Thanks so much for your honesty and letting us know some of the taboo issues. So cool 😎
lol we are definitely always honest! Sometimes too honest!
my wife and are going on 15 yrs together so i could relate to most of your questions/concerns....she is a T10 para 35 yrs. Love your openness and honesty. Hope it helps someone find true love!
I hope it helps someone find love too:)
As I've been a subscriber to Zack's YT channel for awhile (Zack's a quadriplegic), I became curious as to what other interabled-couples may be on YT. When I searched on YT, this video came up as one of the results. I'm glad I decided to click itl^^ Appreciate both of you guys being open and candid (as much as you could legally^^)
Congrats on your 10-year anniversary!
Thanks for the kind feedback! It is my goal to be as honest and relatable as possible! I am so glad you appreciate it!
Wow! Love the honesty Joe. Well done!
Thanks! He is an open book for sure. Definitely keeps me in check on many occasions with his down to earth outlook:)
You to are amazing! Thank you for sharing with us!
You're welcome! Thanks for watching!
I watched it all the way thru. You guys are awesome.
Well your my favorite then! Thanks for watching!
Amazing workout! Thanks for making theses videos, you are really inspiring 😃
Thanks!
absolutely watched to the end and enjoyed it very much. you must be a wonderful teacher based on you teaching me so much at 70 years old.
I have my good days as a teacher lol. Some days not so much!
Loved how honest you both are. Watching this is like having you in my house beer in one hand band just chatting.. keep up r
Th good work.
You and Joe would get along lol! Beer makes for good conversation lol!
I saw one of your other videos and wondered how you were travelling through life. I am delighted to see how complete your life is, a beautiful part of a loving family. Every one has ups and down, your 'down' was far deeper than most people's, but your personality won. No wonder, your husband is a lucky man, and knows the fact. Most people have lucky breaks and bad breaks, I was lucky my spinal issues were treated in time allowing me to walk unaided again; my wife's cancers were twice treated in time, the third time not so lucky, but we had nearly 48 years of married life. With your attitude, personality, and energy, you look set for a bright future together. People often dwell on what I shall politely term the 'biological consequences' of eating and living, they should remember those consequences are part of being alive and deal with the matter. You eloquently showed how perfectly you accepted the need for solutions, preventing needs from being a problem. Live life to the full, seek out, and employ solutions to avoid problems, the alternative is worse.
awesome, and I did watch all the way thru!!!!
Yay! That means you're my favorite lol!
I loveeeeed that
So honest and open conversation
Was fascinated by this😍
Thanks! You are a great example of a beautiful family making it work with a disability!
I am so impressed by both of you god bless you and your beautiful family ❤
Great video. Watched it to the end.
This was so fun to watch!!
Thanks!
What an amazing couple,so open and both so lovable,, although you may not know it but you bounce of each other almost comically,,, just keep on doing what you do together and in life 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧regards and respect John 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧UK
I really appreciate the candidness!
That's all I know how to be! I spent so many years not being candid and it was exhausting 😪
Very honest. Love these two. Xo from Boston Mass
You two are so special! Incredible! Many more things :)
thanks!
I love you two! Excellent video - Jamie LOL! she is precious.
Thanks! Jamie is trying to be stealth lol
1 ... all day long. Nice to meet you both. For some reason UA-cam pointed me to your How I Go To The Bathroom video the other day, so that was the first one I watched. Really interesting. Being married to a man with two bags, we have had our experiences with accidents over the years, but we've learned to take everything in stride. A good attitude goes a long way.
Thank you for your transparency ❤️.
😊❤
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🙃😎🤘❤️awesomeness guys. Happy anniversary🙌
Thanks!! You made the favorite subs club with that number 1!!!
A serious video with comedy relief. Parts of this video had me dying of laughter. I love you guys congratulations on making the video together that's so cool.
Thanks! It only took me 6 months to convince him to show his face lol
@@EmpoweredPara well I'm glad he finally did it you can see that he really loves you guys.
@@coltonmorgan3610 yeah he's a great guy ❤. Most days he ticks the boxes lol
I just found your channel... have to say you are a great couple and I LOVE your hubby... what a real guy! I'm a subscriber now... look forward to your downloads!
Welcome! Yeah I have a pretty great husband!
You two are awesome! Love the way you look at each other.
Awe thanks!
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What a great way to get to know you both! You have a great relationship. Keep doing what you are doing. There are always a few bumps in the road, maintain your trust and you will make it through the good times and the challenging times. Wishing you both lots of love from a couple of geezers who have been married 49 years. And yes, we would do it all over again!!!
49 years! That's amazing! Any great advice?
LOVED this video
I love your honesty...
1!!! I'm a new subscriber and I enjoyed every minute of this video!!! God bless u and ur family!!!!
Thanks! Welcome! So glad you decided to stick around!
I stumbled upon this video while searching for your stretching video but I couldn’t remember the name of your channel, but now I am a subscriber!! This May will be three years I’ve been in my wheelchair and I find your videos are Great including today’s video!!!
Thank you:) I am so glad that you like my videos! I don't want anyone to ever feel as lost or alone as I felt when I was first paralyzed. If you have any suggestions for videos I'd love to hear them!
Happy 10 year Anniversary !
Thanks!
Just subscribed. IDid watch the entire video. You'll are amazing ♥️♥️
Thanks for subbing! Welcome!
1: Cause I watched all the way through and loved it. I just saw the video you did with Freddie 😍.
Thanks for watching! Fred's awesome!
You two are wonderful always wish you a happy life
Thanks!!!
1 ❤ watched all the way through!
Thanks for watching the whole video!
Honestly it’s refreshing to find someone that treats you like a normal human. I don’t think I’ll ever find that, but it’s alright I’m fine with being alone. Sometimes though I want to find what others have.
I forgot to say happy anniversary, I realize it’s been six months but I only found your channel a couple of months now. Love you guys.
@@Jaggededge112 thanks! I hope you find someone! It was so scary at first to tell him about how I poop! Just had to rip the bandaid off!
@@EmpoweredPara I can imagine that it was scary. People are usually very private about bathroom stuff and are taught to not talk about it, that all goes out the window though when you have to cath and do your bowel program.
My sci isn’t complete but I think it’s getting worse because my legs will go dead and then I cannot feel them for a few hours. When feeling returns it hurts worse that before. I’m probably not explaining it well.
@@Jaggededge112 it would be weird to be able to feel my legs lol. I hope you don't lose any feeling. Is it painful to cath?
@@EmpoweredPara I had to have a bladder sling put in and was told to wear depends for a while so no cathing right now. When I go back to doing it I hope it won’t hurt.
Great vlog, guys!! 👍🙂🇮🇪❤️
thanks!
I love this video. 🎉
Blessings to you and your family from sunny south Africa God bless
1 , first time watching, but I look forward to watching more.
Thanks for watching to the end! You rock!
Good job dude she is a catch!
My 37 year old daughter was fell out of a tree about a month ago and is now an asia a complete paraplegic. I know she has benefited from watching your videos and so have I ! Just wanted to send a quick thank you to you and Joe and send you and your famiky wishes for a very happy holiday season. Appreciate you!! ❤
Good luck with the recovery! If there are an videos your daughter would like me to make let me know!
There a things you can do to recover. I know it's much much easier to just say Doctor told me I will never walk again. I woke up completely paralysed hut I refused to listen to doctors and went my own way. And I am walking now. Yeah sure very badly but I broke free from quadriplegia. Repetition is the key reconnecting disconnected nerves. BTW I dont have a SCI.. probably worse part of my brain was removed.. thus the quadriplegia.. but I largely reversed it
I love this video because I can relate to so much of it! Congratulations on your anniversary! My wife and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last August. We had dated for almost four years when I was injured racing motocross in June of 1995. She supported and encouraged me during my recovery and never once thought of leaving me. She is a true blessing! If we ever had an opportunity to meet you and your husband, I'm sure we would have some fantastic stpries to share!
I love that! Your wife sounds like a gem! I'm sure we would have lots to talk about and could relate to each other in many ways! Where do you live?
@@EmpoweredPara We live south of Indianapolis in Indiana, so unfortunately not close :(
@@matthewrodenbeck2235 lol. Yeah that's a bit of a treck for a visit lol. Well happy belated anniversary!
@@EmpoweredPara Thank you, and wishng many more years of wedded bliss to both of you!
@@matthewrodenbeck2235 thanks!
Hey! Just discovered your channel 😆 what a great couple & it is obvious who wears the trousers lol. There is somebody out there for everybody! ❤️💙💖💗💘 & I can also relate to the part where people assume because you have a disability you require alot of care wich is rarely the case as most love to have independence 😆
Yes I watch the whole thing through till the very end😊
Yay! you're my favorite lol!
Thanks guys. Tell you more later but I’m a cripple now, and I’m just learning how to navigate. These videos are a huge help.
Feel free to email me if you want to share your story with me!
empoweredpara@gmail.com
1. It was easy watching the whole video, because it was all about genuine love and respect. The topic was interesting, but the underlining theme of your love was what I really needed today. I needed to know that even though I never found my soulmate, it does exist. I would’ve been miserable if I settled for less. You made my day❤.
Feeling worthy of love with or without a partner is the biggest battle! So glad you were able to value yourself enough not to settle!
@@EmpoweredPara thank you, so sweet of you!
Ok Thanks for the answer , I worked out in Alberta for a few years, I know the Area you are from, I live in the Province of New Brunswick, You found yourself a good man
Great video as usual. I love her attitude, openess, and confidence. In response to a wheelchair being an issue in deciding to start a relationship, I can see that it's something that both people would have to discuss as you both said. But when you think about it, or when I think about it, your not dating the chair, your dating the person in the chair. If you have feelings or love that person the chair should not matter. What if the injury occurred after marriage. I would hope the other person wouldn't leave because of the chair. And as we get older we are all going to have some condition that will require our spouse to help out. That's just part of aging being married. Hope this makes sense.
Makes complete sense! I think you're right, the chair shouldn't be a factor. The difference with dating and marriage is that if the injury happens after you're married you have already made those vows. With dating the person gets to decide if they want to make the vows. I would hope that the wheelchair wouldn't scare someone away but in reality it does. luckily there are good people out there that don't get scared away.
I'm 63 and would never have had a problem with a girl with this disability. If I'd loved them, that's all that would have mattered. I've been with able bodied women that have grossed me out with their ways. I've been married but have never found true love. I feel really sad about it. I'm alone now and doubt I'll ever find it now. You two clearly love each other. That's wonderful x. I watched the whole episode too.
You are an adorable and completely honest couple.😍
Always honest lol, not always adorable!
1 - just discovered your channel. Love your content and your energy😀
Welcome! Thank you!
Truly amazing couple! Very honest
Thanks! I feel like we're a pretty cool couple too!
1- yup, I watched it all the way to the end; because your words are worth hearing.
Thanks! You da best!
@@EmpoweredPara aww so sweet. As are you! Hope you are having an amazing weekend. Hugs.
1 honest & eye opening :) love it, here in the uk
thanks for watching until the end!
God bless you both 🙏🏾
1, I watched it all, love you guys
Thanks for sticking it out to the end!
Great video!
Thanks 😊
Looking at my own situation and experiences, worrying about what to do 30-40 years down the road is useless. You can both start out perfectly healthy and “able” but, as we all know, excrement occurs and before you know it one of you is in special circumstances.
A friend of mine who is not very healthy to begin with, fell down some stairs, shattered her knee and has had her leg amputated above the knee. Her husband is a really great guy who loves her to bits and he now has a lot to deal with but love conquers all (more or less).
AWESOME number one
I know this video is a year old, but I just found your channel and have been watching a ton of your videos. I really appreciate how open and honest you are. I was born with Spina Bifida. I am 36 and married now, but went through some of the same things you talk about in many of your videos(I get out of bed at night to pee though haha). Thank you for your channel, and keep oversharing to strangers asking if you can have sex. It's the number one question I get as well. It amazes me that people have the gall to ask that, especially when they first meet me. Take care!
I'm kinda thankful that people are dumb and brave lol. I've had lots of interesting conversations that way haha
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“Like YES! That is my favorite part about you!” Hahahahhhaa THAT was funny!!
(I’ve had paraesthesia from the chest down twice and spine fusions) (I work in Occupational therapy).
I'll tell my husband someone else out there thinks I'm funny 😁! And now I can feel normal laughing at my own jokes!
I think you guys are an amazing couple God bless you and this is my very first time watching your video
Welcome! Hope you stick around!
What a great love story! And how this all led to a great marriage and life together! What a perfect family!
I'm pretty blessed to have found such a great guy!
And he was so blessed to find you at that party!