Can you have an orgasm when you're paralyzed? (and other questions that I get asked a lot!)

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  • When I was in my 20s, I would get at least one question about sex every single time I went out to a bar with my friends. Most of the questions were from guys after they had gotten drunk enough to get the courage to come ask me.
    Even though the drunk guys were annoying, I knew that the questions they had were from a place of genuine curiosity. What I have realized over the years is that EVERYONE wonders about sex with a disability.
    And because my channel is ALL ABOUT authentic vulnerability I decided to take the time to answer some questions about my sex life that EVERYONE is wondering but is too afraid to ask!
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  • @tripple_x_panda2906
    @tripple_x_panda2906 2 місяці тому +105

    Weird YT recommendation but I'm glad to see the comments showing support to everyone.

  • @eladlutz
    @eladlutz Рік тому +858

    As a registered nurse i just want to applaud you for opening up yourself to personal questions. We are all different in so many ways. Love your videos, take care.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +65

      Love answering ALL the questions lol. TMI is my super power haha!

    • @dogfoot1874
      @dogfoot1874 Рік тому +3

      Can she get pregnant?

    • @sjonnieplayfull5859
      @sjonnieplayfull5859 Рік тому +10

      @@dogfoot1874 They mentioned two kids, so...

    • @pacificcoastpiper3949
      @pacificcoastpiper3949 Рік тому +1

      @@EmpoweredPara what an episode to discover your channel

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +17

      @@dogfoot1874 yep! Fertility and reproduction are not affected by a SCI in women

  • @King_Fred_II
    @King_Fred_II Рік тому +985

    I shared 19 years of my life with a woman with a muscular disease and she was afraid she would lose me on several occasions: (1) when she just met me, (2) when she needed extra oxygen and (3) when she needed medication that was pumped into her vein 24/7.
    She never lost me, but I lost her: she died in April 2021.
    And by the way... we had a wonderful sex-life. She had full sensation, so she could enjoy it as much as I did.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +156

      I'm sorry for you loss. 😔 Sounds like you had a beautiful love story.

    • @michaelg5587
      @michaelg5587 Рік тому +50

      Im too sorry for your loss.
      Having known love is pretty much the most we can ask of life.

    • @SFbayArea94121
      @SFbayArea94121 Рік тому +8

      Dats sum KANGZ & QUANES SHIET FOO FROM WACKANDA. PROUD YALL HIT DA GROUND ROLLIN

    • @noahjones9242
      @noahjones9242 Рік тому +20

      They ask if husband is satisfied. LOOK at her. She's lovely. Of course he is satisfied. And it gives me strength to hear all of your stories. On a deep level. Ok people do a lot of complaining instead of living life (I'm guilty of it).

    • @patriciakeats1621
      @patriciakeats1621 Рік тому +12

      My sister understands these issues because she has Spina Bifida, and she has the full capacity to have orgasms by using her brain!!!
      I am an able-bodied female who previously had full function up until my mid forties, but now I am nearing menopause, and I am struggling with loss of feeling and function…Now, It feels as if my entire sensual body has died already. I feel grief, and I miss the good feelings, and menopause hasn’t even happened yet.

  • @hopelessly.hopeful
    @hopelessly.hopeful Рік тому +236

    I'm not paralyzed, don't know anyone who is... but I loved this video!! So informative & I absolutely love how candid and confident you are. Thank you for sharing such intimate details ☺️

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +10

      Thanks!!!

    • @timbeussink9196
      @timbeussink9196 2 місяці тому

      I am a disabled person who was disabled from birth and thank you I was so unconfident that I have not got married yet because of that.

  • @linjoy9627
    @linjoy9627 Рік тому +113

    I'm a retired anaesthetic nurse from Scotland. I think your an amazing young woman. To have become paralysed at just 13 years of age it would have been completely understandable if you'd just withdrawn right into yourself. You've obviously had amazing parents to have encouraged you to become a positive role model for paralysed people, especially young ones. I adore your sense of everything is to be laughed about especially embarrising accidents. I'm betting your an amazing mum and I think your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful wife. There's a saying I don't know if you know it but it most certainly describes you, "your a breath of fresh air". Carry on enjoying life, it passes us by so quickly.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +18

      thank you so much!!

    • @joeb4142
      @joeb4142 2 місяці тому +5

      What a lovely comment 💕✨😊

  • @michaeld8980
    @michaeld8980 Рік тому +50

    Holy cow, you take "living your authentic self" to a whole new level I can only wish more people in this world had half of your strength! Thank you for your insights, Live well!!

  • @allieeverett9017
    @allieeverett9017 Рік тому +64

    You are a doll!! I'm over 60 now and have Asperger's... been without intimacy over 20 years and can't really say I miss it, or ever knew if I really had it. Your story touches my heart and sharing it with us all is very brave and I'm proud of you!

  • @babsycassidy5300
    @babsycassidy5300 Рік тому +273

    Thank you for being so open and honest about this topic, I think alot of people are just genuinely curious about stuff like this, and there's not many people who will be so open about it 🙂

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +34

      Yeah I wanna help educate people who would never be brave enough to ask. I was too shy to ask these questions and it took me WAY too long to figure stuff out!

  • @stevevaughn2040
    @stevevaughn2040 Рік тому +52

    My shipmate in navy met a woman in wheelchair from accident. He absolutely adored her, still does over 40 years later

  • @annaschlager1390
    @annaschlager1390 10 місяців тому +56

    Thank you for being so honest! That helped me, I am still a wheelchair baby, just 2 years in. I have trouble finding people to date, but to see someone is married and it's possible to cope with sexuality is really inspiring and comforting.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  9 місяців тому +21

      My best advice is to never apologize for your disability. Own all parts of it and set the tone going into a relationship that these things are part of your life (wheelchair, bowel, bladder), and they can take it or leave it!

  • @icare6076
    @icare6076 Рік тому +121

    So genuine and honest. You are a breath of fresh air.

  • @historymaven
    @historymaven Рік тому +107

    Your forthcoming answers are going to help so many people. Because a lot of folks won’t talk about lack of sensation post paralysis, (which is their right) it can cause those experiencing it to feel self-conscious or ashamed. You are amazing! ❤

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +16

      Thank you! I hope my honesty is helpful!

  • @therecycledpirate
    @therecycledpirate Рік тому +28

    Thank you so much for discussing this openly. I have a spinal cord injury, and eventhough I learned to walk again, I deal with many physical challenges. It feels overwhelming at times. Your video showed me there is a "normal" life I can dream of.

  • @Ozzie4Para
    @Ozzie4Para Рік тому +448

    No spouse is worth having or keeping if you have to worry about him/her cheating. That's a fact.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +75

      You got that right!

    • @charles8801
      @charles8801 Рік тому +14

      I so agree.

    • @merchillio
      @merchillio Рік тому +4

      Yes, when that trust is gone, it doesn’t matter if the cheating is real or imagined

    • @ianjohnson3770
      @ianjohnson3770 Рік тому +18

      Sometimes the worry comes internally however, and that’s something that needs to be worked on personally

    • @josephahner3031
      @josephahner3031 Рік тому +12

      That depends entirely on whether or not the worry is grounded in reality. If you meet someone and you start worrying before you even know that person there's a good chance that's a you problem. Granted by the time you're considering marriage that should be already worked through.

  • @TheAlixour
    @TheAlixour Рік тому +14

    I worked as a certified nurse assistant for a couple years and these sorts of questions crossed my mind, so I appreciate your candor.
    I specifically love the way you talk about how the whole experience is set free by your imagination.

  • @dakaodo
    @dakaodo Рік тому +4

    I can appreciate your last point about what's within your control to affect, and the self-fulfilling nature of the thoughts and attitude you choose to hold. It's within a context completely foreign to me, but seems like it could feel insurmountable.
    Your positivity is really strong, robust. Your worldview and sense of self are amazing. I had not expected this from my YT reccs, but thank you for sharing a perspective I had never seen or thought about much.

  • @danharrold8011
    @danharrold8011 Рік тому +16

    Thank you for sharing your most inter-personal experiences with us. I have spent 30 years and countless hours in the Operating Room working with surgeons as a trained RN and now a consultant for a major healthcare company helping patients with spinal injuries. I see the patients when they arrive to the OR in need of serious care, but I rarely get see the outcomes on how well these patients do long term. We all take our jobs very seriously in the OR and we want to provide the best possible care to give patients the best chance possible. It is so rewarding to see someone like yourself, positive, energetic and such a uplifting person.
    Thank you so much for sharing your strong spirit , awesome attitude and your
    personal experiences.
    God Bless

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +7

      I'm lucky that I have lots of support and people that push me to be better all the time. I think it would be a pretty miserable life if I spent it being angry!

  • @milowadlin
    @milowadlin Рік тому +22

    I don't think my wife was ever able to have an orgasm. It was quite a few years before we were able to talk about it honestly. She was diagnosed with MS about a year and 5 months after we were married. Of course, then we were able to trace symptoms to back before we met, and I suspect failure to reach orgasm was one of them, if I had known. I pride myself on being a non-selfish lover, and so the situation is hard to understand, but I think your video has contributed to my understanding.
    My wife was always an enthusiastic sex partner, though she didn't masturbate or enjoy sex toys. I just thought she was a "quiet" orgasmer, which I had seen before. I inquired after her satisfaction, and she declared herself satisfied. As her feeling diminished, she complained I wasn't giving her enough foreplay, so it seemed she was getting something out of it. Eventually, it became obvious that no amount of foreplay could compensate.

  • @rafaelgarcia3865
    @rafaelgarcia3865 Рік тому +19

    You are amazing. I had many talks with my Mom whom had MS and was full on needing a wheelchair. Thank you for letting people know that even though you are “less abled” you still are ALIVE. Love you!❤️

    • @streaming5332
      @streaming5332 2 місяці тому

      My sister is in a wheelchair with MS. She's nightmare.

  • @Jaggededge112
    @Jaggededge112 Рік тому +161

    I love how positive you are. Confidence is very important to a fulfilling life.

  • @johnwilkinsoniv1746
    @johnwilkinsoniv1746 Рік тому +6

    Britany, I felt I had to react to your brave and awesome video. You are Amazing! God bless you and the experiences you have had and how you took them and turned yourself into such great person. The way you approach your challenges and carefully consider your emotions and attitudes and your relationships is one of the most advanced and healthy examples of someone being truly masterful and in control of their life that I have encountered. It's brilliant! You diagnosed a negative feedback loop, dug into it to gain understanding, and then had the moral courage to make corrections to your own perspective and reactions to turn it into a positive thing. This positive thoughts approach was very inspirational and, sadly, is something that is beyond what most people would have found themselves capable of conceiving, let alone being able to follow through with. Keep on inspiring the world with your brilliance, beauty, and wisdom! Cheers!

  • @georgeclark6629
    @georgeclark6629 Рік тому +6

    I am really lost for words. Your amazing positive attitude portrays what the mind can overcome. Your outlook on life encompassing a strong dertermination to function and be positive with this disability is amazing. Rehabilitators/paralegics and just everyone battling with a disorder or disability would benefit so much from your story. Thanks for telling it!

    • @unimpressed..
      @unimpressed.. Рік тому

      That was awesome. You found the words I wish I had.

  • @DavidMcbrady
    @DavidMcbrady Рік тому +13

    I love your open and honest videos. The reason you are so successful is because you answer questions that everyone wants to ask but are too afraid to, openly that is. So thankful. You , your life and physical situation in life is very interesting. Thanks!

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +4

      Thanks! That's exactly what I aim to do so I'm glad it comes across that way!

  • @Drewg351
    @Drewg351 Рік тому +12

    Big props for coming out and discussing these topics. I'm not going to lie, I've wondered some of those questions but would never feel comfortable asking someone in your situation these types of questions.

  • @pennysargent9557
    @pennysargent9557 Рік тому +4

    What a delightfully honest Frank & beautiful young woman you are. You will probably never know how many people you have helped over all these 'unspeakable ' situations & making them all so normal.
    May your God bless you

  • @tossed_about
    @tossed_about Рік тому +75

    I was involved with a woman who was paraplegic when I was young. She was very quick to have an orgasm, I think because we were very keen on each other at first, so she was sort of 'fired up' even before we started ! She had a lot of muscle wastage in her legs. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but she was a lovely person. I think if we had talked as openly as you do, it might have gone better.

  • @andybelcher1767
    @andybelcher1767 Рік тому +19

    I'm not sure how this got suggested to me but I was curious as I am interested in people. I really admire your frank and honest outlook and understand how much support you are giving to others. Well done you

  • @keyup2626
    @keyup2626 Рік тому +39

    Brittney thank you for always being so honest and opened. You’re one fantastic educator, I can’t start to thank you for all you’ve shared here, it been so informative.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +10

      just out here making sure people get their weekly dose of TMI lol

    • @keyup2626
      @keyup2626 Рік тому +6

      @@EmpoweredPara LMAO Brittney you’re to funny, my sides are splitting from laughing.

  • @jchurch556
    @jchurch556 Рік тому +33

    I was sooo amazed how open and confident you spoke on this subject. Your doing a great service for people who struggle with disabilities thank you for your strength and courage.

  • @gregmartin1757
    @gregmartin1757 Рік тому +9

    I admire your courage and willingness to openly discuss these topics .many people are curious about these topics but probably are either misinformed or unsure about how to ask these questions because of fear of accidental offending someone. Your a very inspirational and courageous woman.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +8

      thanks! It took me a while to gain the courage to share such personal things but you guys make me feel really great about doing it! I hope it helps educate people!

  • @JohnOskay
    @JohnOskay 7 місяців тому +2

    I actually genuinely was curious about this whole topic. I was doing a little bit of a research on the internet , came across a couple of articles. But honestly , the fact that I had a chance to listen to you as a person who first handedly experiences it , you made things much more cleaerer. I respect you so much for having the courage to educate and inform people on such a sensitive and personal topic. I have been an internet user for almost 20+ years and I mustn't have posted more than 10 comments on UA-cam my entire life. I just had an urge to express my appreciation to you :) God bless you and your family

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  7 місяців тому +2

      Took me a few years to get brave enough to share such personal things! Thanks for taking the time to tell me how important yoy think my content is! Definitely reassuring knowing I'm not just sharing gross stuff no one cares about lol!

  • @lifewithjosef
    @lifewithjosef Рік тому +4

    The algorithm brought me by, and I'm happy to subscribe. My wife is in a chair, your content will help me.
    I admire and respect your honesty, thank you for this.
    Happy New Year!

  • @blackdog850
    @blackdog850 Рік тому +29

    A very brave and well-done explanation of your situation. Having two kids, and being a Mom and wife makes you the Beautiful catch!!! Best wishes to you and the family! Positive prayers as well!

  • @johnnylawson69
    @johnnylawson69 Рік тому +2

    It's great that you open up. I could go into detail, but there is no reason. You are great.

  • @EJCMunyard
    @EJCMunyard Рік тому

    Your video's are going to help so many people who are not able bodies and who are in a relationship with someone who is not able bodied person. Thank you for being vulnerable and through that help others xxx

  • @ItchyBurrito
    @ItchyBurrito Рік тому +3

    Super cool of you to enlighten people's curiosity with such honesty and class. Your husband is a lucky man.

  • @jlvandat69
    @jlvandat69 Рік тому +16

    What an amazing attitude, and something we can all learn from. It sounds like you took the fear that your husband might be unfaithful and turned into a strength by being more self-affirmative + looking for ways to make the sexual portion of your relationship even better. This is how we all need to deal with burdensome fears! Thanks much for sharing your story.....it's inspiring! 👍👍

  • @thiccle1160
    @thiccle1160 Рік тому +7

    Your views on self confidence in relationships is so relevant to my life. Thank you for your inspiring words ❤

  • @edthorne4806
    @edthorne4806 Рік тому +7

    Love how honest you are.

  • @Thomas-lk9ok
    @Thomas-lk9ok Рік тому +4

    Thank you so much for this honest video on topics too many people are afraid speak about!

  • @brucekerl5139
    @brucekerl5139 Рік тому +18

    Awesome, thank you for your honesty! I've been a subscriber for some time. I don't comment much. I'm new to the disabled community with nerve disease that is taking away the use of my legs. I have watched many of your videos. They're very informative and much appreciated! Having been able bodied and now disabled, my thought process has obviously changed a bit. While there have been a few rude people, I have found that most people are kind and helpful. Thanks again for your help along the way!

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +4

      My pleasure!

    • @heofthebee
      @heofthebee Рік тому

      You are a great teacher--so much great knowledge to help us face challenges.

    • @talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426
      @talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 Рік тому

      @@EmpoweredPara I have wondered this for awhile and felt like I could ask you because you seem like such a forthright, honest and helpful person. Does earning money from your channel affect your SSDI or SSI benefits. I know SSDI and SSI are not enough to live on but having Medicare is a huge help and not something disabled people can do without. I see quite a few disabled people with YT channels so I was curious.

    • @heatherdavis7397
      @heatherdavis7397 Рік тому +1

      @@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 I don't have the answer, but I'm replying because I'm not sure Brittany does either. She's Canadian so I don't know if they have SSI/SSDI there. I know the Healthcare system is different. I don't know what their equivalent is to our SSDI or Medicare.

  • @garystroud6153
    @garystroud6153 5 місяців тому +2

    I came across your post by chance. I found it informative and I admire your honesty. Your husband is certainly a lucky man, long may you both enjoy life's journey

  • @ThisNameWasTooLon
    @ThisNameWasTooLon Рік тому

    very very cool that you are able to share such personal things. I think it is an example of the mental/emotional fortitude that you chose to develop over the years. There is not a single person I know that is confident and comfortable enough with themselves to open up like that. It is utterly fascinating to get a small glimpse into the world of a para. It is something that iv never previously put serious thought into. The though process was usually.. if I get paralyzed, life would be pretty much over and I couldnt deal with it. Id think off the top exclamations like "im so happy i can walk, or see, or hear. And to some extent, of course its ok to be greateful for those things. But they are not everything. Your videos are a real wake up call to the often overlooked but meaningful stuff like relationships, connections, love, resiliency, and im assuming mental health (it couldnt have been easy to get to the place where you are now)... meanwhile theres so many people that have everything a person could ever want, and end up madly depressed. So ya.. your superpower is clearly mental health and emotional intelligence. probably other things too.. but hey, im only watching a 10 min video.

  • @jennjeffs4893
    @jennjeffs4893 Рік тому +10

    I LOVE that u answered these questions!
    There is SO much more to sex than just being able bodied. If u have A strong connection, love, safety, trust and compassion between u and your partner your sex life will be amazing no matter what your body is capable or not capable of doing.

  • @michaelwilliams5234
    @michaelwilliams5234 8 місяців тому +3

    You are a very brave woman! Thank you for sharing such a personal story. Wish you and your husband a wonderful life!

  • @spangi91
    @spangi91 3 місяці тому

    The fact you came out to answer the most asked questions to you is highly commendable.

  • @rw3899
    @rw3899 17 днів тому

    I didn't search for this video, but it did answer some longheld questions of mine that I would never dare to ask someone in your position. Thank you for your frankness!

  • @markdam
    @markdam Рік тому +4

    I applaud your candor and bravery these are questions I've had about people paralyzed for many many years but never really asked thank you so much for sharing so much personal stuff I applaud you and I'm glad you and your husband are good!

  • @originalalienone
    @originalalienone Рік тому +3

    What an amazing video with an awesome perspective. I especially love your points about choosing to trust and not worrying about the little things as long as you love your husband. Such a great and wholesome thing to put out there for people that need to hear it.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +3

      Took me a while to settle into a good headspace so I hope what I've learned helps others!

  • @fernando651
    @fernando651 Рік тому +1

    you are incredibly open and honest. thank you

  • @anuraagt
    @anuraagt Рік тому +2

    Wonderful video, thank you for the honesty and insight. Brilliant.

  • @inmamartin8334
    @inmamartin8334 Рік тому +51

    It is so brave and kind to share this topic, as you always do! Sexuality is still something that I have not been able to cope since my injury two years ago. It's something I need to do, but body acceptance first is being hard and libido seems to have dissapear..I imagine is a matter of time.I didn't know about the nerve vagus, though. I will look into that!

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +16

      You'll get there! Work on body acceptance first:)

    • @luchts4547
      @luchts4547 Рік тому +2

      Don't be afraid to talk with a sex therapist if it's something you want to address, they could probably offer a lot of guidance and help you process these concerns in a healthy way.

  • @balticstain7150
    @balticstain7150 Рік тому +5

    Glad to hear how you cope with this and your openens about it..🙏💜

  • @angelsspirit335
    @angelsspirit335 Рік тому +2

    I am new to your channel. I am a doctor of Psychology and in a wheelchair due to last stage kidney failure. Recently retired i find i am always looking for interesting people. Well I found you. Your content is interesting. thank you for being open and sharing your life. You have courage . You have a beautiful soul and that is wonderful no matter any other limitations you may have...

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому

      I try to be informative and entertaining! Nothing worse than boring, very serious disability related content lol. I got enough of that in the hospital lol

  • @NickM-jv8zk
    @NickM-jv8zk Рік тому

    Thank you for being so open and sharing!

  • @andrewrivera190
    @andrewrivera190 Рік тому +21

    You know, at the end of the day, even though you can’t “feel it” I think you have down what is important and that’s the intimacy with your husband. Some people chase the physical pleasure and completely overlook the emotional connection.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +6

      Yeah I guess I have the opportunity to be more emotionally connected through sex!

    • @lilalizzard
      @lilalizzard Рік тому +4

      @@EmpoweredPara my boyfriend and me have been working on this for years and it‘s a delight to hear stuff from your perspective!
      Society is SO weird about sex and spreads so many false „information“ and often prioritizes the physical act, especially for men, so it‘s hard to dismantle all of that false stuff and find out the real information for my boyfriend and me.
      I wish we would hear about the emotional part of sex way more often, it‘s so overlooked and people spend years figuring that out because there is just not enough awareness.

  • @titaniumman_22
    @titaniumman_22 Рік тому +31

    I love your honesty and complete answers. Your husband is a lucky man.

  • @CarlosNunez-bm4hr
    @CarlosNunez-bm4hr 3 місяці тому +1

    I want to commend you for being so brave to tackle these questions, and answer them with the candor and truthfulness that you did. I also congratulate you on your outlook on life and your positive attitude.

  • @alanhoyt9453
    @alanhoyt9453 3 місяці тому

    That was so brave of you to share all of that. Thank you for your courage.

  • @samueleasterling476
    @samueleasterling476 Рік тому +5

    Hello, enjoyed your video. 39yr old male. I have a broken back and I have difficulty with sex and can not organism offen. I get embarrassed and had been criticize for not being able to or lose all interest because pain is to much. It's been 2 years and I'm still learning but makes me not even want to leave the house. Feels good to share. Thanks.

  • @jimmark5639
    @jimmark5639 Рік тому +3

    so brave and so educational .... never really knew all this that you explained ... ty

  • @dustinhughes5034
    @dustinhughes5034 Рік тому +2

    One of the rare people on the internet who is actually stunning and brave. I learned something from you.

  • @Rick-S-6063
    @Rick-S-6063 5 місяців тому

    It really took courage for you to open up and tell it like it is. I salute you!

  • @thecorrectoification
    @thecorrectoification Рік тому +173

    I had a girlfriend who had two poop accidents during sex and without any disability being involved whatsoever. She was more upset about it than I was. And told me a few weeks later that she cried about it afterwards when she was alone and I was no longer around(I don't know if that was the first time or the second time.) It didn't really bother me too much because I don't have a weak stomach for stuff. We cleaned it and she did laundry, no biggie. If anything I kind've thought of it as a compliment, like I sent her to Neptune to the degree that she pooped herself lol🤙 And this actually happened two different times!

    • @Words-of-encouragement.-.
      @Words-of-encouragement.-. Рік тому

      Jesus dude...and I thought I had good 🍆 lmaooo.

    • @sorenjensen3863
      @sorenjensen3863 Рік тому

      Brings whole new meaning to the phrase "fucked the shit outta her" 😆

    • @thecorrectoification
      @thecorrectoification Рік тому +14

      @@sorenjensen3863 I remember making that joke to try and make her feel better. I think she felt too embarrassed to laugh about it.

    • @pedazodetorpedo
      @pedazodetorpedo Рік тому +8

      Bro, that's disgusting. The fact that it didn't faze you at all is just weird

    • @sorenjensen3863
      @sorenjensen3863 Рік тому +55

      @@pedazodetorpedo shit happens 🤷‍♂️

  • @delphinium5555
    @delphinium5555 Рік тому +9

    Such a sweetheart. I'm so glad to hear that you have a family just at the point I was wondering if you would be able to have children. Love and prayers x

  • @truthseeker803
    @truthseeker803 10 днів тому

    Thanks for your bravery and sharing.. so encouraging.

  • @RidiculousRocketry
    @RidiculousRocketry Рік тому +1

    Wow. You are doing amazing things with this platform. You mentioned your mother in a previous video. I only recently discovered your content. As a parent of 5 kinds I know that your mother (perhaps both parents) deserve a lot of credit for raising such a confident, smart, self-sufficient and inspirational young lady.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому

      They do! My mom always made me feel grateful about the life I get to live no matter how challenging. They were slso an amazing source of support when I needed it most!

  • @Liz-Biz
    @Liz-Biz Рік тому +9

    Thank you for the information! So so appreciate your honesty and openness to share your experience.

  • @sarahstrong7174
    @sarahstrong7174 Рік тому +8

    That is such a good point we all need to remember. If we do not try we cannot do anything.

  • @arthouston7361
    @arthouston7361 Рік тому +1

    Interesting insights. Thanks for sharing these things that are typically not known.

  • @alexanderantoninsommerkamp4714

    Thank you for this informative and honest insight. I am a medical resident and I learn from your videos things that I have not learned during my education so far. 👍

    • @garystroud6153
      @garystroud6153 5 місяців тому +1

      External experience is a great teacher

  • @Dzeroed
    @Dzeroed Рік тому +6

    Thank you for being cool enough to make this and answering questions I have asked myself in my head, but more just for being you. People like you make disabilities seem like normal life, it's hard as hell but we can manage, physical or psychological 🤘♥️

  • @t00short
    @t00short Рік тому +14

    I love your channel and I think it's awesome how open you are with answering questions like this. My brother in law was in a relationship with a woman who became paralyzed and they both were able to enjoy sex because she said a lot of it was imagination based as well. She also could enjoy other physical things during sex like the touching part. I think a lot of people forget that intimacy is a major thing that is so important and it's not all about actual intercourse. I can definitely see how if I ever were to be involved with someone who was unable to feel that specific thing that it probably wouldn't be a huge deal because there's more to it than just that.

  • @mandst5466
    @mandst5466 Місяць тому

    I admire you enormously as a person, so open, so honest, so much nicer than many able bodied people ❤❤

  • @miguelp4812
    @miguelp4812 Рік тому +1

    This was really cool and interesting. Thank you for being so honest and patient.

  • @hjisagirl
    @hjisagirl Рік тому +6

    Your candour is amazing and your direct,comfortable approach in sharing your experiences is really wonderful. I applaud you!!

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +3

      Thanks! I try my best to make touchy subjects easy to talk about!

    • @Godwinpounds4333
      @Godwinpounds4333 Рік тому

      👋i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world! Happy New year 🎆 🙏🌍
      I'm originally from Canada currently living in California ☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭😊

  • @bubble3434
    @bubble3434 Рік тому +5

    So I just happened to randomly come across this channel, and I'm super glad I did. I am also paralyzed and insensate from the waist down, and think about this topic far too much. I'm 39, and still have never really been in a serious relationship, and have little (sober) experience in this area. I don't mean to put you on the spot, but are there any steps you would suggest to get past the initial fear of rejection, and fear of rejection because of misconceptions about libido?

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +4

      Honestly the best way to get over the fear of rejection is to put yourself out there. Be honest, be yourself, don't apologize for your disability, and don't assume what people are thinking. I had to fake confidence for years, even during my marriage for many things until I truly found the confidence. But faking it actually helps you build real confidence .

    • @charlesgray3810
      @charlesgray3810 Рік тому

      Can you feel down there.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +2

      @@charlesgray3810 I answered that question in the video

  • @samjames1253
    @samjames1253 Рік тому

    Gotta say thankyou for answering these questions. A lot of people, including myself, are curious about these questions but can't ask them without being insensitive or offensive

  • @petrus666love
    @petrus666love Рік тому +2

    Bless you for being you , such an honesty in you , and I’m sure your breaking down barriers that need to be broken .❤

  • @LoriBeth428
    @LoriBeth428 Рік тому +3

    Love how open and honest you are in answering and telling all those (including me) with questions. So if you cannot feel anything from the chest down (meaning your legs) what does it feel like to touch your legs is it numb feeling or you just don't feel anything? Does it feel weird?

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +7

      I just don't feel anything.

    • @a.evelyn5498
      @a.evelyn5498 Рік тому

      @Empowered Para
      Do you have phantom limb sensation though?

  • @pascalehaller-jahn5513
    @pascalehaller-jahn5513 Рік тому +7

    Thank you so much Brittney for your honesty ! I'm amazed and think I can learn from you and your attitude ! go on like this !

  • @valnauffts9965
    @valnauffts9965 3 місяці тому

    I just came across your video and I am amazed at your openness and honesty . I see why you are so loved by him you have such a lovely personality ,enjoyed your video very much . All the best

  • @Pjvenom1985
    @Pjvenom1985 Рік тому +2

    Love the honesty lass, fair play to you.☘️

  • @kellyjarrett1408
    @kellyjarrett1408 Рік тому +6

    Brittany you are beautiful and amazing!! I'm an above knee amputee and I've had all kinds of questions throughout my life. Thank you for sharing and being so open.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +1

      You're welcome Kelly! Always happy to answer ANY questions.

  • @BobG127
    @BobG127 24 дні тому +3

    Wow. Such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful attitude... There are a lot of women without physical impairments who are much more handicapped. Your husband is a very, very lucky man to have found you. Apparently, he is also a very good man, to have won your affection. Thank you for sharing.

  • @michaelt3308
    @michaelt3308 Рік тому

    Thank you for your honesty..I learned something new today....

  • @brokenmedic9133
    @brokenmedic9133 Рік тому +2

    Very honest and brave Q & A from you. Much ❤️ to you and your family.

  • @peterfusco8461
    @peterfusco8461 Рік тому +4

    First, yes, you are quite beautiful and your outlook is unquestionably healthy. Second, when it comes to whether or not your husband is fulfilled, I don't think many people have given much thought to the fact that he would be a fool not to be fulfilled. He's under no pressure to "perform", so sex is without the pressure therefore extremely liberating. More to the point, if he's any kind of man, sans performance anxiety, his concentration is now freed to be on you, not on himself. From a man's perspective, your husband is in one of the best positions a married man can be in. He gets to sleep with a beautiful woman, doesn't have to worry about her cheating on him, can use his imagination to make her happy sexually, and most important, he gets to take care of her in a way that expresses his boundless love. In short, he's a very lucky guy. And God bless you M'am, you're an example of greatness in womankind.

  • @mogdor
    @mogdor Рік тому +5

    If you were paralyzed when you met, all through dating, and he married you, pretty safe bet it's not a problem for him lol. Plus being a knockout helps too, I'm sure he has some jealous friends! That was really interesting, thanks for sharing.

  • @dtc989
    @dtc989 7 місяців тому

    I'm a very quiet person myself .... I could never talk about being differently abled like you do. I want to thank you for being so brave about your physical condition and openly talk about it. You are definitely a strong person and blessed to have a wonderful spouse who loves you. Not many disabled have that blessing.

  • @robphoenix1182
    @robphoenix1182 Рік тому +2

    Awesome attitude with everything. You can tell you have overcome a lot and your strength has grown because of it. Your husband is a very lucky man.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +1

      Thanks Rob! My disability has definitely made me resilient and resourceful!

  • @jamegumb7298
    @jamegumb7298 Рік тому +4

    Another paralysed individual on YT answered some questions and was offended that she would be asked this kind of thing on the 2nd or 3rd date.
    But if someone really likes you and potentially signs up for monogamy resulting in a life of celibacy, that would be quite important I'd say.

  • @paulkitchen1300
    @paulkitchen1300 Рік тому +23

    This was quite interesting. (I'm still mulling over the ability to feel the need to urinate but nothing else in that area.) Your ability to show that sex/intimacy is much more than physical genital pleasure is a great lesson in true intimacy.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +10

      The genitals are over rated lol. Just make sure you have a good imagination and you'll be fine!

    • @paulkitchen1300
      @paulkitchen1300 Рік тому +6

      @@EmpoweredPara I'm also certain you are married to a good man who has been freed to love you beyond the sexual.
      As a man, that can be a true blessing.
      God bless you both.

    • @skeptical_citizen
      @skeptical_citizen Рік тому +3

      I believe the vagus nerve is also partly responsible for bladder fuction

    • @paulkitchen1300
      @paulkitchen1300 Рік тому +3

      @@skeptical_citizen what if nerves could be spliced into active nerves? What do we actually know about nerves? Or is much of what we 'know' only based on what has been observed and then accepted for decades?

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +2

      @sabihasungur9416 yep I think so!

  • @simonbland1783
    @simonbland1783 Рік тому +2

    Wow. 😳 you answered questions most people are to afraid to ask. Young lady, you are one of a kind👍

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +1

      It's natural to be curious and I'm tired of all the stigma surrounding disability. Silence grows stigma, honesty and information helps remove stigma I believe!

  • @jeh9999
    @jeh9999 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for being so honest and sharing, even though of course it is none of our business but I am sure it helps empower you and others. Prayers over your life and your husband.

  • @p.j4545
    @p.j4545 Рік тому +4

    sexual intercourse is only a small part of sex, I think for play starts from when you awake in the morning and by that i mean being kind and loving towards each other. lets face it if you have had bad words in the morning with your partner don't expect that person to want to be intermate with you at night. you are very beautiful, intelligent, funny, brave and a great mother and a great wife, your husband thinks the world of you. you two have so much love for each other and that is something very special as not everyone finds that in their lifetime. Hugs from Manchester England xox

  • @howiroll740
    @howiroll740 Рік тому +4

    Keeping it Real! Love ya Babe 🥰
    Pee accidents in the shower are called Watersports!

  • @adamantiumknot
    @adamantiumknot Рік тому +1

    This randomly popped up in my feed. Fascinating and thanks for sharing!

  • @BradMorrisKA3YAN
    @BradMorrisKA3YAN 2 місяці тому

    Geez you seem like such a beautiful person, both inside and out. This was such an inspirational video. Thank you.

  • @idadho
    @idadho Рік тому +5

    Go to the pet store and get some Vetricin Gel to apply to potential contact wounds. My amputee wife uses it each night before bed for pressure spots from her prosthetic. It also works on inflamed hair folicles, too. Some paras use it when they cath. It is very safe. Hypochlorous acid is a naturally occurring substance in the body.
    Love your channel.

    • @EmpoweredPara
      @EmpoweredPara  Рік тому +2

      thanks for the tip, but I can't feel my urethra so don't need numbing cream:)

    • @idadho
      @idadho Рік тому

      @@EmpoweredPara It is not a numbing cream. It is a wound healing liquid/gel that can also prevent infection. It is anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and can defeat MRSA, Covid, staph, strepp, yeasts/fungus, and more. Women use it on infected eye lash follicles. When you get those contact wounds on your skin, apply it. It can help reduce UTIs, too. It is far better than antibiotics ointments. It does not cause microbes to develop resistance/tolerance to it. Google hypochlorous acid.
      Contact/pressure wounds can be so hard to heal.