"Watch this before getting into a relationship.." - Matthew Hussey
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- "Watch this before getting into a relationship.." - Matthew Hussey #shorts
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People tell you who they are without you asking. You just have to listen.
This so true !!
Truth💯💯💯💯💯🖤
Yes. The problem is we hear through ears that hear what we want to hear.
@@LKMNOP Agreed because the human side of us is yearning for a beautiful relationship.
Listen... though comprehension is required... that is the hardest part
“When they tell you who they are - believe them” Maya Angelo
…believe them the first time
The person I was seeing told me they could not say I love you anymore because “ they were not sure” and the communication started to wain daily. I decided to close the door because as much as I loved them I was feeling so hurt. I’m disappointed and feel hurt but they were not ready to give me what I needed and deserved. Thank you for all your positive relationship advice videos ❤
Yeah same happened either me and i closed the door, it sucks 🙃
This is a very mature outlook. I'm always more emotional when it comes to matters of the heart, even though I'm a rational person. Women just have this affect on me.
I did exactly the same recently, it sucked but it’s increased my self respect because I walked away from a person I adored who couldn’t see my value.
I don't want to be rude to all of you but if you give it up to men that don't want to commit to you, then you guys are terrible judges of character. I don't get how women say men play them when they make it so easy lol.
Deserved? You don’t deserve another person’s time and affection, it’s not something you deserve
Several months after me and my ex broke up he told me he’s not sure he can be the man I need him to be any time soon. I told him I’m not going to give him the opportunity to tell me twice he doesn’t want me and I know my worth and if he can’t see that it’s his loss not mine because I deserve more than lukewarm love. He got in a relationship a few months after that and I went to therapy for the severe anxiety he gave me from stonewalling me when we were together. I often hear “if he wanted to he would” it’s half true in this case because the only thing he did was get in a relationship and avoid working on himself. Choose yourself at the end of the day and don’t settle for someone isn’t sure about you. You’re worth it.
It doesn’t sound like it was about you. It sounds like he was insecure that he could’ve give you what you wanted. For fear of losing you. Maybe think other than yourself and maybe you’ll get a better understanding
Not another girl thinking they deserve another man’s time and affection, it’s not something you deserve, you can’t decide that only they can
Im sorry but this wasnt an appropriate answer to someone who tries to express himself. Its not all about you, the world doesn't revolve around you and you dont sound like queen more like spoiled princess. You could have said "i understand and that's okay if you dont feel ready i wont push you into a relationship with me because i dont want to stress you and i dont want to doubt my worth and making you feel guilty about that". That's how a woman answers
Maybe the way you act is why he didn’t want to be with you. NO ONE can force them self to love someone they dont. We don’t choose who we love - you should respect that he was honest with you, not belittle him for it. It doesn’t matter if it was a day after you two break things off - when the right person comes along, it changes everything
But 99.9% of them don't say that to the face. They assume that they will be ready in the process but end up messing things up. I respect people who knows what they are thinking and why they are thinking, they know themselves in and out. They respect their emotions along with that of their admirers which is a really really excellent gesture.
truth.
he doesn't mean that they are a bad person, but he is saying, they are telling you I AM NOT READY... if you push them, and they cave, and it doesn't work out, it really is on you.
don't be the car salesman pushing a car on someone who can't afford it, even though you know they like it. they will buy it when they are ready, when they know they can handle the work, upkeep, and responsibility.
My god this car metaphor is the best!
I said this before and all that I meant was that I was too scared to get hurt by others. By the months I fell in love stronger than ever before! You can't assume what people are going through
Yeah that's very true. Actually I think it's very important to be honest when it comes to relationships. I once said this at the very beginning because I wasn't sure if I could love again since my heart was still healing and very hurt and the other person said it because they were never in a relationship before, but with time and the more I got to know this person, i saw that my heart is safe with that person and before I knew it, a very healthy and beautiful relationship was formed. We both gave each other the time we needed and took it slow. Trust is very important and that can only be established when both partners are honest, committed, loyal and patient.
@oliverdeal8444 are you a woman or man?
lol .me.too. I was typing but then deleted it. I'm glad I dove in.
That's understandable, I've said that before as well for the same reason, but it's also understandable for the other party to not want to risk getting hurt either, so I understand if they want to stop after hearing those words, because I would 😖
Sure... but the best way to avoid stepping on landmines, is to avoid the minefield. If you show someone a fence with the triangle placard, dont be surprised if they decide to go somewhere else.
What a Godsend this man is. So young and so much wisdom and truth comes out of his mouth. I wish I’d known these things long ago. I hope and pray to meet and Be in love, friendship, transparency and true commitment with an amazing man like this one day!
But this godsend man has no girlfriend or wife ...!
😳🤔
How is this possible with all his knowledge, experience, wisdom?
Why doesn't it work in his own life?
Somehow strange...
@@beatewagner7.2934 howd you know he has no gf though, and besides, it really isnt any of you’re business no offence
@@beatewagner7.2934 no girlfriend or wife. He has a fiance
This common sense stuff.
@@beatewagner7.2934 Some people don't get married just be married. Some of us wait for the one that ticks all the boxes
Wish I had let go the first time they clearly said that but I tried and continued because I loved him so much, but eventually, yes he broke my heart. So I completely agree Mathew! Facts💯
Sameeeeeee
well mine almost killed me 😂 when he left he played victim but was who stalked me and people left me on the street but gossip all over...
@@lisacranmer8005 protect your peace girl. That's important. God bless.
Girl I am going through the same thing it rlly sucks sometimes when the person you want just isint ready
Biggest lesson I've learned is that you actually CAN NOT blame people for not being where you are in life. Cycles and stages are different. Not fair to just slap a red flag on someone just because of that. You can make your own choices. Take accountability like a grownup. ❤
It's a red flag for relationship's sake. A red flag simply means that "that person isn't what you're looking out for to have a committed and healthy relationship." Most times, people like that may even be the ones leading you on, and then tell you that. So why were they being all over you but not wanting to be committed and be held accountable?
@@o_m8717 I really like what you're saying and I 100% agree - I suppose I was referring to the folks who genuinely are in a different stage of life and can't be what you need them to be. Appreciate the response!
Basic main normal requirements fr love / marrg both n all truths life's Every second based Both, else not even frndship possible. N how so calculation? Why so testing? Why so complicated?
True, all dont got same bfre born after born same life. So stages, phases, issues, pain sufferings, capabilities incapabilities, infos r nver same copy. That's why all truths based all basic main normal requirements fr love/marrg based botj lover/marrg else no. Why Blaming? Why complicated? Why using? Why hating? Why comparison wth othrs? Why competition? So love/marrg etc in matched places, community, Circle, connected based sourced ppl, compatible ppl
Good when at least they tell u directly and not pretend for many years as they give a f@ about u like my ex...
Same here :(
I wish I had heard this last year before my terrible, full of lies relationship with my ex. I'm doing better now, am now happy with a new person as of 3 weeks ago. And she actually asked me out!
Are you inside my head? Always, just the thing that I need to hear.
I wish I had seen this earlier. Got my heart broken yesterday
If you're into faith, pray for peace and comfort.. They'll find you, trust me. I've been exactly where you are and some battles are just too big and deep for us to fight.
That's true however I ask myself, why would you come to me from the first place yet your certain that you not ready?
That's the question I want to know as well
I told someone today that I'm not ready for a relationship. Because I'm not. I think I did a fair thing by saying "please stop the flirtatious behaviour, I'm not ready for a relationship, I don't want a relationship". I have told him this before and I never flirt back but some people can't accept what they are being told
I feel u sis! Men are never ready to hear it and they never accept it....well, until they move on to someone else
@@AR-do2ob true that!
I asked a guy to date exclusively. He was afraid of commitment. Then eventually he answered my question with he thought about it, he decided, he wants an open relationship. That was the last time we spoke. Still hate his guts for the way he knowinly took advantage of me.
That’s what game players do. Probably should not have bed time before a relationship or someone always gets attached before the other one.
Did he take advantage of you though or were you just neglectful to ask his intentions from the beginning
No sex until you're both sure about each other. Lasting love grows from a deep friendship, not sex.
I’m the one saying that 😅 I was 10 years into relationships and feel like I need to be on my own now for some time to get to know myself without a partner.
I don't think they are always out to hurt people by saying that. Sometimes it's one-sided where one falls for the other, but its not mutual. Or they thought they were ready, but realize they aren't and have the decency to let you know right then and there. It ain't black and white. It's OK for people to not wanna date others if they aren't ready to jump in.
Wow, he well explained a simple fact that confused so many women out there! Me being one of them before. I thought I could change a person; turned out I can only change myself to be stronger and wiser.
He told me this. I didn't think twice what it could mean. Because he was back with all grand gestures n asking me out. I gave in 4 years. Only helping him develop. While dreaming about a future. He never helped me progress. When his efforts died down. I kept fighting. He finally broke up. Saying it took a toll over his mental health. Now I am left with nothing. Just empty promises. And guilt of not investing in myself.
Projects? How mixing freely wth all men women d super Shop grocery shopping d planwise projects? Yak. Only one n wth all truths all issues frst time fully clear both. Why drowning into men women? Yak
That's what is necessary for everyone wether a men or women take enough time to understand each other, spending time with some one tells you everything. Love is not physical or mental exploitation of anyone. Love is not demanding. Love is total surrender it has no ego. Love is limitless it can't be defined by anything. Sorry I commit a sin to describe Love it is indescribable. Love is the most sacred thing of the universe 🙏🙏❤️
On spot. Just got dumped this week by someone that told me they will love me forever and always were scared on whether I will leave them all alone like everyone else did or not. Their depression of their abusive past took over.
I just started talking to someone and already I feel like I'm not ready for a relationship. I've been single for way too long and I'm not willing to let go of my independence and start compromising, which is what's needed in a relationship. Not sure how to break the news to her though. And yes, I do not want to hurt her because she seems like a very nice person that I probably don't deserve.
Tell her politely. It can be hard to accept but she'll move on and be fine. And let her be too.
Maybe avoidant attachment style
I say give it a shot if you just started talking with her. She may end up being a great person in your life and sometimes it's nice going through life with a great person. Even if it's a short distance.
@@jaasynergy8 i think thats how you turn into the bad guy who took advantage of her. By taking a shot becuase youre hopeful, only for her feelings to grow stronger and you realize its not something you want or can do.
Please listen to this advice folks… hurt people hurt people
Romancing someone (S)who has some else in their heart (and told you in your face at the book signing in NY and went back to his girlfriend C several times and even wrote it to you G in a letter in February 2021) is a waste of everybody 's time..
Some people are meant to be friends some lovers/partner s.
When one(S) tells another(G).. they wants to be friends and care about you as friends... That's what it is.... Pushing, financing and stalking someone who only see you as a friend and is not attracted to you is going to turn you into a pest after a while...
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Hi! what do u mean by "is going to turn u into a pest after a while?
If they made it clear that nothing's gonna happen between you two romantically then leave them alone and stop wasting your time. Most importantly stop simping for people who don't care for you.
I just wish I saw this video two months ago, too late now. At least I saw it 🤷♀️
Breakups are a lot more respectful and easier to end if you haven't had sex. Stop having sex with strangers and you'll stop getting disrespected through heartbreak.
My last relationship was her perusing me & telling me how amazing I was compared to the abusive exes she had & it was ok until she met my circle of friends & then before 3 & a half months asking me to use my truck for a loan & when I was hesitant as I’ve been used & lost too much to relationships she changed, was always engaged with her phone or tv shows & I seen it coming with other signs & luckily was prepared to loose her & when word got out why we broke up or how her attitude, the cruel gossip about people was & more which got back to her she put a restraining order on me to save her pathetic manager job at Logan’s which she complained or broke rules & talked down about people yet needed help to be a manager so met the GM for drinks & for hours would complain. Sad i had to watch her reveal herself & still cared. Smh Be careful men.
Sorry bout that
Some of us are gluttons for punishment 🥺
They are being honest. If they aren't ready, or they don't want that with you. So move on. Doesn't mean they are mean or trying to hurt you.
Someone just said this to me without taking a second to realise… I never once asked him for a relationship. In the short time we were dating I had already decided he wasn’t what I wanted and didn’t qualify.. I had removed all my energy from him already. It was a bit odd.
Just break up already.
@@o_m8717 what are you taking about,? My point was I already had when he decided to tell me he didn’t want a relationship!! He was telling me when I was already gone
@@zoedixon5274 Nice. I'm glad you're gone from him, and you were able to see the end ahead. I subscribe to breaking up in clear words. Letting them know they are NOT wanted.
That’s true one important thing learnt today…thanks
I am not ready for a relationship, let's just go with the flow means I have no future plans for you. Why invest in someone who has no plans for you? They just want th benefits of having you around but they are not taking you anywhere? That's not even a red flat, that's a abig, red duvet!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂
saying, "I'm not ready for a relationship." really isn't always a red flag. There are so many reasons someone might not be ready for a relationship. My and one of my friends have both had long lasting feelings for each other, its really obvious, I know it, he knows it. But he has established that he does not want to date until he is older. i agree with him. We may not be tiny little pre-teens who know nothing about life but we still are so young and really shouldn't be focusing on a relationship. That being said we are both ready to wait. Or maybe, someone is just in a really bad part of their life. They are drowning in collage debt and struggling to stay afloat in their classes. They are not ready for a relationship because they know they do not have the time or energy to get into a committed relationship and give their partner the love they need. Someone being able to admit that they are not in a good spot right now, and a relationship would not be a good idea, is definetly not a read flag. if anything it shows signs of maturity.
I've tell it to people who, wants me to pursue them, the things is i said it cause i know and i truly know that i wasn't really. I want to have many so i can buy what she wants, i want to have a car or a motor bike cause i want to go where she would like to; that's the external reason. As for my personal reason i can't manage my time skillfully and my bad habbits are still lingering within me.
What about , I'm busy? 😆 But I still want to see you..?
And call you when I want to talk.....😂
I'm sure this is to make sure I'm committed, not to tell me she is going to hurt me. But we need more then every to have the talk and work it all out
Damn, this hit me deep in my core. Literally heard my man said this to me a month ago. We broke up few days ago. I'm devastated, I wish I had read this red flag💔🥺😢 I'm definitely hurt💔
Your worth more angel! Hold your head up high cause he made room for your TRUE LOVE ❤️
Hello beautiful ❤
How are you doing
I don't think I'll be ready ever I enjoy being single.....
And that’s okay 😊
@VictoriaFoxy1 yes it is 😊
OMG! YES! The odds of this working out are slim (like 2%). But the chances of you getting hurt are 100%, no matter which way it goes. They are trying to love you, by telling you this. it'll hurt much less to leave now
Im not sure means no
A beautiful truth we all must learn, got burned because of this when I didn't know better
Yes, as they said in the film Shop Girl, hurt now rather than later. Later is much more painful.
So true .. I did ignore that red flag and I got hurt
Me too
Well said
Yes. Yes I do because every other guy in the past 2 years broke his heart not because he is bad or cold but because he feels so worthless and genuinely believes he has nothing to offer
I'm investing in him to show him he is worth waiting and working. I'm struggling with it immensely but when he comes over he cuddles up and he seems so much happier in person. He is not ready for a relationship and I'm aware of that. He us not ready for a heart break on top of another break.
It's my greatest honour to sit in the mud with him and just hold his hand until he is ready. And one day if it never happens than I will not regret trying.
I can say for certain I would regret not trying. Red flags are part of the package you sign up for
Update?
@@Diana-bd7zh we are in a very happy relationship now
This will be novel’ish
As someone who is currently in the midst of such a situation. I often find myself researching and trying to learn about a mindset and certain emotions a special girl might posses that I am not used to. Even though I came across this as a search to find answers. I see certain comments and I feel like I can actually share a little to maybe help.
First of all…… Don’t give up.
Second……. Don’t listen to respond, listen to reinforce your understanding and your stance.
After my 10 year marriage ended, I was in a very dark place too. I was afraid of sharing my heart because it wasn’t whole. It was shattered. Suddenly I was a single dad. Something I had never asked for. Tough place to be.
But I met someone very special about 9 months ago and after hearing just pieces of her story I began to realize that my heartbreak couldn’t compare to the tragic and painful past she was sharing with me. As I stood there listening to her, I knew completely and without question. If I wanted to pursue this woman (and I was certainly feeling that way) I would have to face things that I had no idea how to face. There was so much pain, so much doubt, so much fear, loss, devalued self worth, guilt, etc….. But here’s the thing. Although I saw all of that on the surface. What I saw inside was what grabbed my heart. She was strong. Stronger than she knew, stronger than I had ever seen. I am a man of faith. I try to focus on God and seek his plan. So I cried out and asked for direction. The answer was tenderness not romance. Compassion not lust. Respect not impatience. No way, would I ever crack this shell by thinking for myself. I had to think with her emotions. Learn triggers. See the pain and take some of it upon myself to truly understand. Sure I could do and say many things to teach her how special she is. Remind her of her beauty, her worth, value, and rarity. All of those things are great but without respect for her boundaries and what she needs to process. All would be wasted. Not long after we met. Circumstances changed and the friendship was forced into a long distance connection. To maintain the “vibe” I became attached to talking daily. But she needed help and a time came that I could no longer provide that. When she began therapy to overcome the trauma she had endured. She slowly started pulling away. I saw it coming and knew what was happening. But I still tried my best because I was desperate to see my continued impact. Then she got new advice. The Therapist advised her to distance herself from any emotional pull from others. I was clearly in that category and I completely understood it.
So recently (the better part of two months) we haven’t had much communication. Her mother reached out to me and explained what was happening very softly and respectfully asked for space. Not just from me. From all outside connections. She had to take time to focus on herself and fall in love with herself again. So as confusing and hard as it’s been. That is what I am doing. She didn’t pull away out of anger towards any pressure I created. She just needed to focus and allow the therapy to take its place in her healing.
I tell you all of that so I can give the advice that I intended. The idea of running away from her is mind boggling to me. That’s terrible advice and it should be ignored. Ask yourself how many people have already done that to her. I can give you the answer. If she has pain in her past, trust issues, or fear of a relationship. The answer is EVERYONE. Everyone has run from her at some point. That’s why shes here. If she knows your feelings. She knows your desires. Let it be and don’t go away completely until you are asked to do so.
People ask me everyday how long I will wait for this girl. That question has two answers.
As long as it takes.
or
Or until I am told that I shouldn't.
Try to remember these things.
RESPECT (no elaboration needed)
Don’t give up when she expects you to. Remember its probably her past that makes her feel like you will.
You are not the cause of her wounds.
If you love her, love her without apologizing for it.
If space is needed. Only you can provide it. Shes not going to beg for it. She will ask once, maybe twice. Failing to understand its importance will morph your fears into reality.
She will never ask you to wait. But you will do it if you think shes worth it.
She feels guilty that you’re putting your life on hold for her. Ignore that. She feels guilty about things you will never understand. Guilt is probably her most painful emotion to overcome.
You are not a band aid, so don’t act like one. Hookups are band aids. Affairs are band aids. True friends are not.
Encouragement is still valuable while giving space. Send periodic messages that she doesn’t need to respond to. Do not burden her with the guilt of “ignoring” you. Remind her that you’re proud. Do what you can to leave love out of it. Just tell her she is strong and you are thinking about her. praying for her etc. Remind her that you are always there “IF” she needs you not “WHEN”. Don’t come across as assuming. (space these messages out. Don’t think daily right now, think weekly)
Remember that she is probably less in love with herself than you are with her. She has to get there in order to give you or anyone the best version of her. She cannot give the broken version away. The fear of sabotage is too much. If you are good, she fears ruining you.
She wants to be heard but she will never beg for your ear. You just always have to be listening.
Take the time to work on yourself. If you have fear and doubt about her. Take the time away to rid yourself of those emotions. Uproot your own darkness that is causing them.
She likely wasn’t looking for you when you arrived. You showed up out of nowhere. There are probably feelings that confuse her from the very first conversations you had. No matter how much time has passed since. Those confusing emotions still run through her mind. That’s ok. That’s likely good or she would have cut you off completely before letting you into her circle to begin with.
Remember that the confusion you feel right now does not compare to hers. The time that goes by will suck. You will miss her. But there is nothing else you can do. Tell yourself everyday that you deserve her. Tell yourself that she deserves your patience. Focus on what makes you special to begin with.
She is worth it. Or you wouldn’t be here asking this question.
That’s most important thing I can say. When you tell a girl that she is worth it or she’s worth the wait. I promise you shes heard that song before. So far no one has made that true to her. No one has actually finished the song, recorded it, and gave it to her to keep. Be the guy that that completes her playlist. She has a wall that you will never completely tear down. You will remove a few bricks from time to time. But if you really like whats on the other side of that wall. You will try again and again to climb over it. When that person decides to love you she will love you so completely and faithfully that you will be glad you waited. She will not give her love away casually.
Stay focused. Keep climbing.
The man on top of the mountain didn’t just fall and land there. (Not my quote)
God Bless You
I was told “I’m confused about what I want” after being with someone for 9 years! Oooh the hurt…
Damn!
That's not a big red flag as long as both are on same page.. especially in this day n age and what comes with it and expecting
I would tell my bf all the time when we first started dating… but he kept trying to I gave in .. now I’m healing and in a relationship I still feel like I shouldn’t be in one. But my bf is awesome so supportive and loving that I just couldn’t find the heart to leave and be alone. So I’m up and down about it
A guy asked me to dating to him...
I told him, " I am not ready for this, and I don't want to hurt you because you will be expecting to give you something that I can't..." but him didn't listen to me, and I repeat him twice .
"I'm not sure if I'm ready for a relationship" always comes up when they've fucked up and have to change/learn/grow. relational rupture and repair can only be learned hands-on and dead *impossible* for those who aren't "ready"
Or they're just not ready, period! Let their therapists do their jobs and move on with your life
If someone is telling you they're not ready for a relationship, believe them.
😢 he didn't say directly but he had shown me in thousands of ways, I wish I would have stopped, now I am divorced, heart broken, lost confidence and have gone through so much humiliation 😢😢.
Girls or boys if they don't love u plz walk away or one day they will and that pain is never going away ❤️
“Never” is a long time… if you’re feeling pain for a lost relationship forever, you need to do some self healing. Shouldn’t be that way.
Don't take this personally...they may be telling u the truth.
You GO FORWARD TO FIND SOMEONE SAME AS YOUR TALK TOO MUCH😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉
Yeah expect I said this exact thing because I was in middle school and not ready for the drama. I didn’t want them to get involved in any and get rumors spread about them. That’s why.
"...With you" That's the unspoken, fine print caveat at the end of statements such as those.
But here’s the thing, when you’re wearing rose-tinted glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
We are not in right circumstances yet
RUN!!!!!! 10yrs 3kids and he still wasn’t ready to be a husband. Just a bum! A 40yr old bum. I’m 31 and enjoying my youth now.
Thank you! Simple and brief! ❤
Guys here's some game for u. When a woman says to you I'm not ready for a relationship doesn't mean she's not ready for a relationship..she just doesn't want to be in a relationship with YOU. But I will go out with you and waste your time and money until I meet the guy I truly want or the guy I'm not in communication with comes back.
Its not like this.. i told my bff that i wasn't ready for a relationship because i was scared and not sure if i'll be able to handle it or not. I have some bad experiences and ongoing issues and i was scared of bad treatment by others again. Broke up with him last month.
He wasn't sure too. He left me in confusion for a long time. His behaviors were very unstable. He didn't understand me and the responsibilities of this relationship. He even flirted with other girls and stayed close to them and letting them flirt with him at the sake of friendship. It was toxic
And what should we do when they are ready and give the commitment and later say they are not ready...
Six years..... and he says
bakit para pakiramdam ko minamadali nya ang pakikipagrelasyon? I feel pressured? 😒😕🙁
Matthew is so handsome
I’m so happy he’s married and found true love 💕💕💕
At your job, try telling your boss "I'm not ready* what do you think happens?
Boss picks somebody else.
And, you end up in a dead end job.
Think about it ladies
I thought you meant something different and first I thought you were saying ready for s*x like one of those Andrew Tate wannabes which isn’t a red flag. Now I get mb. But you’re completely correct carry on😂
How to stop him Jeet Madnani from chasing me 🤷🤷 yes he hurts me for 3 years already brocked me crushed all world 💔😥 just destroed me totally. I don't want to be with such husband 😳😱 what then are you doing with Mohona in Europe? What for you went there?🤷🤔 What kind of husband is this ok to go with other woman Mohona to have a few and far between when brocken life health and family thrown in tears cant celebrate New year Christmas birthday.. what kind of man is this love or love with Mohona 🤔🤔 What was a mood to show her nacked woman infront to mother and daughter and largest Mohona and whole world to have fun with sadistic pleasure to destroy me totally alone with sadistic Navanya.
Mohona Swastika others is his everything. 🤷🤷What else stolen from me at home my pH my health and brocken life health brocken family brocken family phsyho doctor after Jeet Madnani i donn know if i will be able to be normal again.
he asked mw to be her gf very quickly, but then he said he doesnt want to live with someone again and no marry again...its so confusing
A guy just told me that. I liked him so much, and he surrounded me with all that manly curtesy like opening doors and taking me out every day, texting every night and morning, and then suddenly he said: that feels like a relationship, I am still not ready for it, let’s be friends. I said ok, if you say so, I don’t want sex from you, just some good time is enough.
And he answered: oh no please want me or I’ll have to find someone else who will”
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What genre is this, really??
No, why are you speaking garbage. If a person is truly not ready to commit, then you should wait. Do not rush things
I am seriously in a delusion cuz one of the girls whom i like straightway said me “Just cuz u miss someone, you should not enter a toxic relationship”
Its not the way she looks but i just felt a sense of connection but after observing few things, i am having repercussions.
Wow that’s my ex boyfriend say that for me. He said to me just go with the flow.. 16 years we’re together as boyfriend and girlfriend then he just gone in the wind he left me and dumped me for Another woman it’s really hurt I just follow what he say I thought his not gonna leave me cause we’re together for 16 years. But he found someone else 😢
I was asked on a date with a girl. I heard some gosip and rumours about her breaking peoples hearts Ive been used for money and broken thinking they truly. Wanted to be together. No, i was so far away from the truth i find it amusing. I gave up on trying to find somebody. So i told her im sorry no thanks. She walked away like nothing happened. How. Why.
I was in this situation. I understand him... because I'm sick. I gave time the time to think about it. I would be his first girlfriend and H
he is 30. I don't put pressure or stress on him. Than he came to me and he was sure about me. He really want me as the one I am no matter what. He needed only the time to understand the feelings he experienced the first time... I know that.
To go all in and to love someone the very first time is a very dangerous thing if you don't want to play games.
He don't wants to testing or trying out something with me to see if it works or not also if he could be with me not always been worried about me... which wound Not be healthy for him. He wanted to be sure about me.
I think a bit different about this Red flag.
Oookkkk fine...if they hurt me then i sccept it i eill gight my heart to be real..don't like then don't lah🤨🤨may be i didn't find thr real for me at sana nman masaya ang mga lalaki na ganon dahil masaya cla na mahihirapan ang babae.e kung cya nman ang maging ganyan na situasyon ano tin kaya ang feelings nya ano..kaya ang mas mabuti hindi ang ganyan na lalaki if he dont luke the woman why he must dating her its better hr dating the woman that he like not he don't like right bcoz he break with others!🧐🤨
That's what my ex should have told me 💔
Hes the one who also hurt himself by casually dating me and i stopped taking him serious. He wanted relationship benefits but i cut it off. These men dont know what they want until a woman makes it a challenge for them with high standards.
What if you both like each other but are in a transition period? I’m starting a new college semester and job position and he’s in between jobs interviewing for a new one. We both like each other but are just staying friends for now. What’s your take on that?
Jeez I did that.
Left crushed afterwards nothing against the girl.
Truth
I was engaged to someone like this. Absolutely toxic
Was ready long time ago you Jeet choosed Mohona same like now 🤷🤷 second round choosing beautiful girls around the Globe
Handsome men also are there
And all paid by me and my son 😥💔😥
Liked him my whole childhood and 2 years later I'm still on the road to getting over him
Not even. My situation, I'm not ready for a relationship with this chick cause I really seriously hate her. I got my own stuff to work on and I need to fix my reactions to things before we even begin to have a relationship together. I'm not going to hurt her, we both need some time to work on ourselves
There was a guy I liked and I wanted to get to know him more and more and spend more time with him but he said himself that he wasn’t looking for a relationship, so now I started to elsewhere and found someone who is a lot more serious about it want to invest the effort and time into me
Make them fall in love with you..easy...no metter if they say aim not ready if they fall in love then they will ready to be with you...change the pattern bro... Cut that red flag to a green flag
those who trying to hurt me continueosly do not know them selves how much hurt themselves just because their hard intention in doing so. finally they themselves become heartbroken that's the biggest red flag they face themselves. finally who wins by doing tit for tat do you understand that reality being against ? trying to take revenge just for fun or as a truth ? let me ask you this question how much you invest your thinking in reality of the theory of Theravada Buddhism?
Move on
I've been in that situation.
Left seconds after that.
He is soooooo true, I just broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago after we have been together for almost one year, we were soooo intimate. We loved each other, but he kept saying that to me over and over again, and the biggest mistake that I did! is I was ignoring that completely, and eventually, he chose to break up with me right before my trip to visit my family.
Thank u for ur advice it's happen to me he using red flags playing games on me i cut off my life bec he is not trustworthy person 😢
What if I'm not ready for certain steps? Guys always leave. I just wanna take it slow and work up to that stuff. So when I say I'm not ready for sex yet, no one stays.
Maybe they recently got out of a relationship and they don't want to hurt someone because they have healing to do
Tbh I don’t think it’s a giant red flag per say but u just have to take what they say face value and respect that and walk away for your own good ! However I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag . I feel at least they are being honest so isn’t that a green flag ? I mean it doesn’t mean we can change them but their honesty is what really defines their character right ?