@@MentalHealness I’ve been dating One but now I’ve kicked him to the curve he was such a horrible person 😭😭 he wants me back, i love me way to much to deal with such person, I deserve much better as a woman…
I like you man. My future ex is about to find out. This has been exhausting. I just had it hit me like a brick wall tonight and I just can’t do it anymore. I’m drained and I rather just walk away and have my peace. Being a narcissist, are you capable of like liking people or loving people? Like I’m asking you directly, I always wondered this. Psychology is interesting.
@@Precious_Pearl157 I'm alone now, finally broken free from the narcissist. However, I still have my son, and I no longer walk on eggshells. I was far more lonely in the marriage for 8 years.
@@Greatscott24 i so dislike the sound of the cracking of the eggshells.But more so the cracking of his voice.i thought I was alone I see I am not ..Makes my future look a ray of Sunshine beaming from above😔.
100%. I cared even after my boss mentally abused me by ignoring me lol. and was critical of me. She never took my side or stood up for me. i got fed up when she ignored me for days in a row. So now I am giving her the same treatment and gonna leave soon as I can
@@aeptacon That's absolutely what they deserve and seek employment elsewhere so that they lose you altogether. Believe me, once you stop caring and ignoring them, they absolutely hate it. They will try to bait you back by messaging or doing something to grab your attention. This is known as hoovering
@@exsalafi393 when he call. I didn't know it was him bec j got up at 2+ AM in the morning, I was in n the bathroom. I heard she phone ringing. I never thought it was him, bec he had cursed me out the last time he called, and told me to lose his number. When I realized it was him who called. I was so nervous, I was shaking like a leaf. Why, I can't explain, but I was nervous. I never returned his call, bec I know I will never look bck to that. I found out within 6 mths of the relationship. I left him
I didn’t chase. He told me he hated me and to never contact him again. So I never did, I moved on and remarried 🤷♀️. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Been married 17 years now 🙌😬
When you do not chase a narcissist, they try to make you jealous with the new supply. Then stalk and hoover you when the supply doesnt work out. It usually never does
True! My ex did just that 6 months after I left him when I caught him cheating. Showed up, lied about being with the new supply, but I sent him walking to the corner (he didn’t have a car 😂). His ex/ son’s mom picked him up and I heard 6 months later that he left the new supply for her. He was messing with the old supply and baby mama found out and blasted him all over social media. Been free 2 and a half years now and am happy.
@@JayS-w9w Yup when I broke up with him before he tried to date other girls, but they got rid of him pretty fast! And he said to me, I wonder what I did ? Omg no clue !
One thing about them narcs is they are so smart at self assured. I learned that in order for me to exist around them I have to pretend like I don't exist. It's rough 😂😂😂
Y’all they want you to chase cuz to them it “proves your love for them”. It makes them feel “wanted/needed”. When you don’t chase, it triggers their abandonment issues cuz all they want with this is for someone to constantly prove their love for them to keep getting their doses of dopamine and supply. It’s truly exhausting
Im realizing The narcissist existence is very sad. They have such low self esteem and self value that they have to resort to playing games to keep relationships because they are so afraid they are unlovable. Toxic ahh ppl but sad ahh reality
The narc, he was flirting with me for months and giving me the eye. But not asking me out. Then his friend said in front of us one day "How's your wife?". The shame and humiliation on his face. The mask dropped to the ground.
Mine attempted character assassination and tried to play the victim card. 😂😂😂 Lied to everyone that I was the villain. I remembered how much love I showed and cared about and how much I tolerated because i genuinely cared. I am glad I was strong enough to leave. The cycle was too vicious. I was just simply done. I chose me.
He tried to wander back after ghosting me for over 3 months and I just said 'I'm not your backup plan for when sh*t hits the fan with someone else' When he ghosted I asked once for clarity, got nothing then deleted his number, our conversations and all pictures. I didn't even trust myself to have hid number on my blocked list in case I used it at a low point. But in the time he was gone I put myself to work on getting ovet him and it worked, I'm almost 8 months free of him 🙌
Like why would you chase a damn monster. Someone who treated you like dog they never wanted Make you feel like shit everyday. Call you names. Treat you like crap after sex. Why on earth would I chase that. I was alone in the relationship. I couldn’t go thru another cycle and if he knows me in the relationship he knows I’m done with him.
I used to fall for it every single time. Overreacting, always blaming me for his problems, always leaving. Not this time I’m done, I’m walking away and choosing my happiness.
Bro, you being a self aware narcissist and sharing this information with thousands of desperate souls, looking for answers is one of the highest forms of selflessness. We all appreciate you more than you know. Thank you so much you doing gods work. 🙏 🙏 is
Mine did awful things that I wanted answers to. Then did my research on narcissists, like Lee then realised there are none. Wasn't your fault it's all games. Pitying them is the only answer. ❤❤❤
When you don’t chase after them they can generally get worried and they will inquire about you with friends and family , and when you finally get in touch with them , even for a second , they will mistreat you by saying something bad to you or not getting back to you at all😮😢don’t do it!! Stay away from those monsters once you got away,things are not gonna get better, i promise.
@@oboy3817 Thank you🙊🙉🙈❤️‼️, working on it still, not easy,but i focus on myself and work and sports and getting my “stolen” life back and make up for wasted years with a bloodsucker …. ❤️‼️
They love to feel the joy of knowing they're trash while you see something valuable in them, like hoarders see value in their junk. Been on my self love journey 3 yrs now and I absolutely _GLOW!_
The power lies in refusing to chase after them. I'm a testament to standing on boundaries. He really underestimated my cutoff game, and his desperation for attention from me is sad and pathetic. He's blocked, his emails go unanswered, and he's sneaking on his mom's FB page to follow me. Who's also now blocked. He's relentless. Yea, he's gonna have to sit with his shame, his guilt, and the mess he made. It has nothing to do with me.
He still has the keys but he’s also blocked…… yet watches my social media I made a post then he came home out nowhere ff I didn’t give in…. now my wig is missing
I sometimes cannot help but feel embarrassed by being in a situation like this. It’s exactly how you say, the break ups become longer. The breakups were so calculated too.
I personally think that, they lose all the control once you don't care anymore, like no one can betray you if you don't/never trust after spotting one.
My narc ex told me “l will never contact you again” AFTER l done told him l was leaving. Well that was the plan anyway so l told him to have a nice life. He shot himself in the foot. He thought l would break and chase. Five years and counting. He’s not worth wasting my phone bill or leg work. Now his ego is leaving me in peace, and while it’s in place he won’t make a move towards me with his lame love bombing tactics. Yes, it worked in the past, but now l see him for what he is, it will be a cold day in hell before l allow him back, and not even then. Thank you ego for keeping him out of my life. Long may it hold.
@@vitalisakaloyski5758 no, he was not diagnosed. I didn’t know what a narcissist even was or that l was in the hands of one. It took years of a love bombing, idealisation, mind games, ghosting constant hamster wheel before l became aware of a pattern. I grew tired of his antics, and him. Each cycle when he returned, l began to like him less until one night when we was supposed to have met up and he didn’t turn up, l decided that was the end for him. It was UA-cam platforms like this one that connected the dots to what he truly was. I have not looked back since.
She was messing with other dudes and I was begging to work things out. The moment I left I never contacted her ever again. It's going on 5 years no contact. Loving it
I broke it off with someone who was pure narcissistic evil!!! He had absolutely NO empathy, NO remorse or feeling about ever hurting me. He was the ultimate sociopath. I wouldn't be surprised if he had bodies in his basement.
If you chase them, you feed into their sense of superiority, and you are giving them what they want. Playing right into their hands. They have a very twisted way of thinking.
Twisted indeed. This was the most shocking for me when I first encountered it. I thought there was no way he could believe the stuff he was saying. Straight crazy reasoning, twisting, blaming, etc etc I thought he was just really immature and playing some child's game. No. He actually believes the crap he spews. His reasoning is off and he is convinced of whatever he tries convincing me of. 8 years married and idk how to get out. It's lonely. He refuses to leave and I own the house and have no family. So I pray, don't engage anymore, sit silent through the beratings, cut off supply, and hope he gets bored enough to go. I force myself to not remember the good times cuz then I'm sad. I was so much in love. Thought we were soul mates but it was a soul tie and I believe narcs have a demon. I'll miss him when he goes but not all the garbage and abuse that came with him.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
I don’t chase ❤I attract. My narc exes taught me that. I had to be broken down so I could build myself back up ⬆️ and become better and stronger! Thank u Lee!❤
This is so true when I divorced my narcissist and didn't reach out he sat outside my house he drove up and down my alley constantly , I blocked him he looked up the number to. Job and mind you I work in OBGYN he called the office trying to schedule a appointment 🤦🏽♀️ he would park across from my job he cheated I left he crazy
Its messes with your mental! If you chase them they tell you it’s the wrong thing to do and that you need to give them space…then you give them space and start to move on and then they accuse you of never having wanting to be with them and that you never loved them because you are moving forward since they ignored you for days on end. It’s such a mind Fck!
This is exactly what he's been doing to me. I have been chasing, begging him to come back. Been sending him long messages, trying to make him realize how much i love him. But he said i was just guilt tripping him. He even made me feel that i am crazy, insane that needs therapy. He gave me so much trauma. He said he would block me for calling him. I begged him not to do it. After 3 hrs he texted me, saying sorry that he rose his voice at me. And not his intention to make me cry. And he does love me but having mixed feelings about himself. That he needs time. After those text, i never replied. I degraded myself the moment i took him as my boyfriend. He put me throygh hell. And the way he treated me was nasty. He is the most cruel person i have ever met. I was blinded to prioritized him before myself, focused on him, took care of him. Loved him with my purest heart. Choose him over my family. Its been 3 days now that i cut him off out of my life. And he will never fckn feel my presence again.
I've been almost a year no contact with my narc and I still hold anger against myself for times I freaking apologized for nothing. I struggle with anger against myself for staying as long as I did and allowing someone to treat me as poorly as he did. I struggle to forgive myself for not loving for valuing myself. Its heartbreaking. The memories haunt me. I've been through so much turmoil. My narc was also a pe-dee-o-file. Proudest moment was being granted my protection order and even then, it took me months and a lot of gelp from lawyers and therapist for me to understand I was still being manipulated. THANK GOD I am finally free of that mindset.
I’ve been exactly where you are, The hardest part is that people think your mourning the relationship when in reality you are mourning what you wish you’ve would’ve done that you shouldn’t and the humiliation and heartbreak you accepted is the hard part, It gets better every day 🙂↔️
It's okay to have deep compassion for yourself too. You certainly have it for others, so why not for yourself? The old you needs it, alongside forgiveness, from the new wiser you. You did nothing wrong. Low self esteem often comes from childhood trauma, which is not your fault at all. A predator saw that you had been hurt, wormed his way in, and hurt you even more. I'm proud of the stronger you.
@googleuser2480 can agree with that. After the discard I was full of anger for a few months. How could I not see it? Then learning about narcissism, realised it wasn't my fault. Just dealing with a toddler in an adult body.
Don't chase a narcissist that's giving them the green light to treat you even worse cuz now they feel like you depend on them and everything is a power game to narcissist, just let them leave....or even better remove yourself, my ex legit told me "i like it when you obsess over me its hot" after blowing up there phone 10 times on multiple different apps just for them to ignore me and laugh like everything is game to them...
@@KenKanxki this is literally happening to me right now I just realized that he loves when I call him and he purposely ignore my messages. My calls to get me to do it even more
Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, I'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.
Since my 12-year relationship ended, I know how hard it is to say goodbye to someone you love. But I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I finally went to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, and he helped me win back his love.
With a narc, it's always about the chase, control and what you can contribute as their supply... They can't function without their supply... That's why most are never happy and always seeking more.....
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Just went through this like yesterday!!!!!!! Caught myself in the middle of the apology and told him I AM DONE. Gave that fool wayyyy too much of my energy!
You got one shot ! Once you show your true colors Try to body shame me , tell me you have someone the whole time … etc. etc. you gone !!! & You GONE FOREVER !! Life is TOO SHORT to be anything but HAPPY !! ♥️
if i didn't have this toothbrush in my mouth after reading your comment i would have said OUT LOUD what i mumbled and shouted in my head: OW!!! DAMN!!!! yeah. NASTY!!!
Drove semi trucks 15 years. Made the mistake of trying to go teams with my narcissist ex bf. He threw his last temper tantrum, literally kicking the dash of the brand new freightliner we were driving back from Washington state. The next day was his turn to drive and the load we had was supposed to turn south around Missouri. But when I woke up, we were well across Illinois and he was raging still over the argument we had the previous evening. " I'm getting out at the next exit!" He screams at me soon as I came out of the bunk. I just sat down in the passenger seat and said, "ok" He pulled into a motel parking lot and run his mouth the whole time he was getting his stuff. Soon as the last bag hit the concrete, I jumped in the driver's seat and started shifting gears outta there. Found out later that he'd stood in the lobby for two hours thinking I was coming back to get him..... Hahahaha.
He cheated on me with his ex and got her pregnant. He used and abused me. I left him finally and he sent me emails saying that he can’t believe that I left him out there and I don’t check on him to see if he okay or alive and he can’t believe I don’t care about his life. It’s crazy how messed up his mind is. It’s even worse that he sends me messages acting like he’s the victim yet he was the one who cheated, lied, and abused me. I will never chase him but he thinks I should or I owe him that for hurting him for leaving. Pure madness!
going through this now .I went no contact two years ago .I just seen this man pushing the kid down the street.He looked at me and I drove off.Then I get a message asking was that you lol i said nope..Then I noticed he had been sending me happy faces prior too.What a sick man to believe he has space to contact me after beating me mercilessly because his masked slipped after i found out he was cheating with his ex.I guess he thought that enough time would pass that we would switch roles .That i would play the back like his ex and be the sidechick.No I would never in life be such a low person to cause another womans pain purposely.Im worth so much more.I have struggled to make connections since then but I would never give him the satisfaction of having access to me again.Thats his problem his exes let him perpetuate the cycle of abuse but not me baby
@@rlo2021 I went through the same thing it’s crazy how they play the victim I never called and I blocked all of his friends. I seen him recently and he said something rude and nasty like I did something to him. I just walked away.
Yeah, I got tired of that rollercoater ride with my ex narc and I got to a point and got my ssa off that roastercoaster ride. I was done chasing when they were the problem. The on and off turned me cold toward them. Enough was enough. They blocked. I was done trying to fix what I didn't break.
😂😂I tell you what, it’s when you actually start to not give a crap about them, is when they start running after you. I love when they miss the point on something you say, and they reply with such conviction too😂. It’s mad how these people can be.
I chased him during the relationship. But when it was clear that he didn’t care about me and the discard came, I didn’t chase just said ok I will leave. After a month I went for the rest of my stuff and he said : now I know you are never coming back🤣duh you kicked me out with a 5 month baby. Their family is always in it too!
@@soulsounds4575 yes one of his sisters did me very very wrong. Not to mention she was the person I trusted the most during the relationship and she saw the abuse first hand. It was a subtle abuse but she saw me crying a lot. She is on his side while I did everything for her and also for her stupid yes stupid toxic coke head brother
I can tell you without even watching the video. They deflate. The entire "relationship" was nothing but one long manipulation, from beginning to end. The discard is just another manipulation. Maybe we should call it a "manipulationship."
After watching several of your videos it seems I was dealing with a narcissist while being called one. Its crazy how they break up with you, try to come back after all the bs, but when you refuse you become the narcissist smh.
You are hilarious, Lee! During my heartache and exit from a narcissistic relationship - you helped to not only encourage me with your knowledge and perspective, but you also helped me to laugh through the pain!! Thank you for what you're doing 🤗‼️💯
The "fake breakup!" LOL My former narcissist tried to reconcile with me yesterday. When I rebuffed his offer, he said the text had been sent "a long time ago." He then said he was married and that the new wife gave him peace - at the same time trying the "It could've been you." I congratulated him, he hasn't text back.
So trueeee!!! 💯 💯 💯 He attempted character assassination and tried to play the victim card. 😂😂😂 I blamed myself for being so kind and nice, forgiving him every time. I didn't even get when he always tried to pin on me what I was not doing. Lies and Distorted truths to make me out as a villain. I remembered how much love and care I showed and how much I tolerated because I genuinely cared. I am glad I was strong enough to leave. The cycle was too vicious. I was just simply done. I chose me.
Leave and find peace! I finally left after 8 years and i feel so much peace even though im homeless lol id rather be homeless than in that hell any longer.
Heard from the Narc 3 days ago.. and 2 weeks ago. He called like 2:30 in the morning I have nothing to say to him I broke up with him, bec i recognized something was off.. no way.. I didn't heard from him about 3 months and i was like wow. I will ignore him. He didn't leave any message. He has cursed me out. when i asked him not to come back to my place. He called me all kinds of name . He wish me dead and every name in the book. I never thought he would call after he curse me so badly. He told me to lose his number bec i refused to respond to his calls. I just ignore him. I was his main supply. God is Good bec i followed my mind. I dated him for 6 months. That was enough. I got lucky
I left my narcissistic ex 9 years ago. I haven't heard from him in years and he recently tried contacting me! The nerve of that idiot! He tried calling me from jail and left a voicemail saying nonsense that he's sorry for what he did to me, etc... but because he's going to prison, is only reason why he tried contacting me because he wants a buddy. Hell no!! I definitely blocked him from calling me. What on earth made him think that he can contact me after all these years and act like nothing 😡 i need insight because i don't understand at all!
I was ignored 3 days , after we spoke he said he needs time to think if he still wants this relationship. In the last 3 days i have not answered , now every 10 min texting whybim not responding and calls about christmas plans. Each day has been challenging, but realize how i took all accountability for every situation. Thank you for your videos ❤
i’m so happy that i came to my senses with my narcissistic ex. he couldn’t believe it when i stopped chasing him. he crashed out, stalked me and some mo shit once i finally decided for good that i was done. it was so satisfying.
Wow like you can really read them like a book. I had to learn the hard way and listening to your videos just gave me clarity that I wasn’t tripping because I was catching on to him and finally learning him.
I feel so good because when I decided to walk away, I did and never looked back. I purposely didn’t block my Narc on social media so he could see me moving on. I did t block him on my phone neither. After a couple months of us splitting, I post bikini pics on vacay, Pics of me on dates, and just hanging out. I never answered a Hoover or called him. My friend ran into him & he asked how I was doing. She said I was good … busy working & raising my son. She said he said … “Yeah, I know she busy cause she ain’t stuttin me.” HELL NAWL I AINT! Especially, when I learned your strange behavior was that of a covert narc! Screw you! 🖕🏾😂
THIS IS THEEEEEEEEEE BEEEEEEESSSSSSSSTTTTTTTTTT COMMENT EEEEEEVEEEEERRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! talk about NOT settling for less!!!!! or, in thissss instance, settling for absolutely NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE THE FRICKIN' WOMAN!!!!! OF THE FRICKIN' CENTURY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I DID THE SAME!!!!! told dude i would leave him alone when he insisted on talking at me like a fool!!! didn't block him. haven't contacted him. he stays in the building. ignored his text. ignore him when he presses the buzzer (because he thinks he's blocked). saw him twice since i last saw him in dec 2023 and let him pass right on by. and when i relocate out of state this fall...yeah...let's just say...i've been planning to do very similar to what you wrote that you're doing.) WE DON'T SETTLE!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Lee, thanks for making me laugh during these painful times. "Like a light switch"😂 ON OFF ON OFF 😂 I have been watching you for a while now. Thanks for explaining what we already know but can't articulate or couldn't comprehend. I've been watching a video every day for a long time and, I realize now, your words gradually became a part of my way of thinking without knowing it, and gave me skills and ways to get out and rebuild who I want to be. Thank you
All of this is so true, thank you! I chased and chased and got blamed for his many lies and horrible things he did to me, and I apologized. I just broke up and went no contact. It's hard, but i I feel better already. I'm glad im not alone
Thank you for acting it out and showing this. I could cry. I feel so validated. I thought I was misunderstanding. I never realized he was lying so much.
It’s 8 billion souls on this big blue marble so what one won’t do, another one will. I have a lot of faults but I’ve never chased behind anyone…but my goofy ahh has been known to welcome them with open arms when THEY come back. My days of babysitting the back burner are over.
Lee, you are a rare breed! I admire that you admit to being "self aware".👏 I think deep down inside you really want to change, because you know right from wrong,💐 those other demonic narcissists either don't know, or have "selective memory loss", drunk/medicated/etc. You're taking control of those evil spirits, that I think take control of all these types/levels of narcissist's minds, hearts, and eventually souls. You're helping so many folks out there that need to hear this.👍
I did this to my recent ex because I was socially aware of narcissists . He lost his rabbit 🐇 a** mind calling my job and all threatening me!😭 and he also dragged my name through the mud very horridly . I couldn’t believe how insane and evil he was behaving . And honestly this is the best method of cutting ties . Ignore the rage and smear campaign . There is a bright light at the end of the tunnel . Never engage or retort back to them it will never go back to how it used to be . That’s the sad truth but so be it . ❤
Wow, omg Lee!! You couldn't be more spot on. My partner always says "I use to put you on a high pedestal and hold you in high regard, but now i don't". When I told him he shouldn't have had that view of me because I'm not perfect and it's unrealistic. He always repeats this to me.
Mine definitely wanted me gone for good, had me second guessing myself. Those few months with him were miserable I'm sure he will never come back and that's fine too, I forgive him and myself for not leaving sooner
Thank you for explaining this behavior - I'm finally doing the right thing right now and didn't know it - I lived with him breaking up , leaving and threatening divorce about every month ... I feel good now being away from him and not chasing 😊 Whew !
Mad people. They know what they are doing. When you refuse to be their scapegoat they get mad and start bad mouthing you. Be the victim. Who cares? I ran away and did no contact. It's now over 8 years and I have my peace.
I wish that I had known about this valuable information a long time ago. 50 years of heartache anguish undue turmoil. It's going to take a long time for me to heal. Thank you for sharing and educating me and the whole world. You are a God sent.
You are my story king .. every scenario was his exact actions . I’m so grateful i had the strength to let him go .. I send him blessings every time I think about how he made me feel and what I went through with him. And I thank God for every thing no regrets because it made me the person I am today . Thank you and may he continue to heal
Thank You For Sharing This I Was Emotionally And Psychologically Abused By A Malignant Narcissist I Chased This Person For Over 9 Yrs Wanting Acceptance The More I Chased The More I Was Ignored This Person Has Destroyed My Life .I Have A Month Of No Contact.. My Question To You Is Why After Being Discharged Why Is The Narcissists Treating Me Like I Don’t Exist This Is What Broke Me Down!!
They are relying on your trauma bond and codependency and silence from them to "force" (prompt) you to reach out...some have described the ache like coming off of drugs. Hold on to your stillness and peace, pray to Jesus if you have a faith..pray to Jesus if you don't, He will see you through this. Every day you Will gain more strength..
Also, your silence is "starving them from oxygen", their ego is suffering but they just want the control and so they are relying on the damage they have done for you to break the silence. Hold strong. Make a list of the bad times .
@@demigaines5644 be lovely to yourself. “I can buy myself flowers” like Miley Cyrus!! You are an amazing individual and that person doesn’t have to agree for it to be true!
Whenever I chased, the narcissist would actually start lovebombing me. Our dynamic was somewhat different since he has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I have OCPD (the Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder), he told me he never encountered behaviour like mine before (he didn't say that in a lovebombing sense). Narcissists love people who obsess about them and people with OCPD have certain obsessions they act on and can't resist. He did everything for my reaction like he did with other victims but I reacted extremely huge, extremely long and extremely compulsive. Whenever I chased him, he would lovebomb, over and over to 'reward' the chase. The lovebombing wasn't at the beginning in our dynamic. The narc said he never encountered behaviour like mine because it was very compulsive. He loved every bit of it and I couldn't resist. The combination NPD and OCPD is a very weird one. The narcissist likes it very much and the person with OCPD has a hard time resisting because of the disorder.
You have narcissists absolutely down pat. I have to stop sending unanswered texts to my sister. My only sister. I did right telling her BYEBYE! and now I need to stick with it, grieve her loss, finish my life. I know she's loving not answering me. Oh, dear, take care! I feel your vibe.
My ex, who I have had to go silent on numerous times when he shows his narcissism-will say, when we don't talk, I drive by your house to make sure you're okay. How can you tell if I'm ok by driving by the house? I think he was checking to see if another man was at my house.
3 years for me feels good, like I knew that it would.......he married someone else shortly after, harder to get away........when you have all that legal stuff.
I love what you’ve done with your Knowledge.. helping others, and meanwhile being incredibly fun to watch. You really made me laugh at the same time as being very enlightening
I just wanted to say thank you for what you do. It has to be kinda scary to put yourself out there like you do. But if I had had someone like you to listen to when I was married I probably wouldn't have stayed as long as I did and I would be a healthier person psychologically and physically.
I have a co worker friend who stonewalls me instead of dealing with our conflicts. She blocks and un blocks me frequently because of some built up resentment over something I did that I apologized profusely for and owned up to but now it has come back around and she blocked me again. I'm gonna apply your method. Thank you for your videos!
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@@MentalHealness I’ve been dating One but now I’ve kicked him to the curve he was such a horrible person 😭😭 he wants me back, i love me way to much to deal with such person, I deserve much better as a woman…
I like you man. My future ex is about to find out. This has been exhausting. I just had it hit me like a brick wall tonight and I just can’t do it anymore. I’m drained and I rather just walk away and have my peace. Being a narcissist, are you capable of like liking people or loving people? Like I’m asking you directly, I always wondered this. Psychology is interesting.
Love your way ❤@@The_PaleHorseman
Dred.
Mine just txt me saying i made her hate me,and what about the real woman inside am i just gonna abandon her?? absolutely f***kwits pathetic 👉👹🐉
Being with a narcissist is very lonely.
Well said 👏🏼. I felt alone while in the narc relationship AND now I feel so ALIVE without him 🙏🏽
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@@Precious_Pearl157 I'm alone now, finally broken free from the narcissist. However, I still have my son, and I no longer walk on eggshells. I was far more lonely in the marriage for 8 years.
@@Greatscott24 i so dislike the sound of the cracking of the eggshells.But more so the cracking of his voice.i thought I was alone I see I am not ..Makes my future look a ray of Sunshine beaming from above😔.
@@rsj4192 Goals for me.
The best sign of healing is when you no longer care and don't want anything to do with them
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Facts!!
100%. I cared even after my boss mentally abused me by ignoring me lol. and was critical of me. She never took my side or stood up for me. i got fed up when she ignored me for days in a row. So now I am giving her the same treatment and gonna leave soon as I can
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That's absolutely what they deserve and seek employment elsewhere so that they lose you altogether.
Believe me, once you stop caring and ignoring them, they absolutely hate it.
They will try to bait you back by messaging or doing something to grab your attention.
This is known as hoovering
@@exsalafi393 when he call. I didn't know it was him bec j got up at 2+ AM in the morning, I was in n the bathroom. I heard she phone ringing. I never thought it was him, bec he had cursed me out the last time he called, and told me to lose his number. When I realized it was him who called. I was so nervous, I was shaking like a leaf. Why, I can't explain, but I was nervous. I never returned his call, bec I know I will never look bck to that. I found out within 6 mths of the relationship. I left him
They break your heart Every single time you show them love
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@@specialpeanut2ya FACTS!
AMEN!
@@specialpeanut2ya omg this is sooo true! Why is that??
Extremely true!😢😢😢😢😢
I didn’t chase. He told me he hated me and to never contact him again. So I never did, I moved on and remarried 🤷♀️. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Been married 17 years now 🙌😬
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🥰 God moved his ass out the wat
Good for you. Congrats. ❤
When you finally believe in yourself and your own self worth, you let them go.
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This is something I needed to be reminded of. Thank you and God bless you. ❤
@@markjayw666 Exactly.💯
I am working on this
Facts 💯
When you do not chase a narcissist, they try to make you jealous with the new supply. Then stalk and hoover you when the supply doesnt work out. It usually never does
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True! My ex did just that 6 months after I left him when I caught him cheating. Showed up, lied about being with the new supply, but I sent him walking to the corner (he didn’t have a car 😂). His ex/ son’s mom picked him up and I heard 6 months later that he left the new supply for her. He was messing with the old supply and baby mama found out and blasted him all over social media. Been free 2 and a half years now and am happy.
My ex just showed up today bc I didn’t chase and made it a point to tell me that I didn’t answer when he called me
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Yup when I broke up with him before he tried to date other girls, but they got rid of him pretty fast! And he said to me, I wonder what I did ? Omg no clue !
they will hoover and come back when new food not delicious😂
He tried to come back and I told him to enjoy his darkness while missing my SHINE 🤭😁
AMEN🎉😂
That's a good one, true too !
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Dope!! ❤
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IGNORE them until they doubt their own existence 😎
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@@WhatSparksJoy Love this!
Love that 😂
I like that!!!
One thing about them narcs is they are so smart at self assured. I learned that in order for me to exist around them I have to pretend like I don't exist. It's rough 😂😂😂
Them: "Let's break up then..."
Me: "Okay.... let's"
Them: "See....naw, you agreed too fast
YOU CAN'T WIN 😂
Same convo I had 😂😂😂😂
@@diamondonpurpose9145 Crazy!
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Lol definitely let's then
I had that
They use our empathy against us.
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WHEW!!! This the ONE ☝🏾
Yep....all day!!
This the one!! 🫡
Y’all they want you to chase cuz to them it “proves your love for them”. It makes them feel “wanted/needed”. When you don’t chase, it triggers their abandonment issues cuz all they want with this is for someone to constantly prove their love for them to keep getting their doses of dopamine and supply. It’s truly exhausting
@@brookeplifts boy your right about that...they need ten million compliments....
Absolutely
Very exhausting!
Feed food😂
That's deep and makes absolute sense
Im realizing The narcissist existence is very sad. They have such low self esteem and self value that they have to resort to playing games to keep relationships because they are so afraid they are unlovable. Toxic ahh ppl but sad ahh reality
@@LuhRen this is so very true!!
they are the most pathetic ppl to exist.
The covert narcissist will never admit they were with someone else.
So true
They are serial cheaters, liars
@phyllinfree I went on his phone after silent treatment and my intuition was right. So painful 😒
and he was probably leading on his and flirting with his gay best friend too
I found ED pills
The narc, he was flirting with me for months and giving me the eye. But not asking me out. Then his friend said in front of us one day "How's your wife?". The shame and humiliation on his face. The mask dropped to the ground.
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So mad. Thats how my narc husband is out there.
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They’re all disloyal scumbags looking for a fool to fall in the trap
Same happened to me at work.
When you don’t chase them or want to argue … they become a tyrant and try to bother you no matter what
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Mine attempted character assassination and tried to play the victim card. 😂😂😂
Lied to everyone that I was the villain.
I remembered how much love I showed and cared about and how much I tolerated because i genuinely cared. I am glad I was strong enough to leave. The cycle was too vicious. I was just simply done. I chose me.
Fall in Love with Jesus forget A Narc they are crazy
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@@StrengthNLove God bless you 🙏 💯 fold your statement is very true 🙏 AMEN AND AMEN 🙏
“They don’t have a car so they take off running”😂
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Mine didnt either, had to give him rides lol
Mine doesn't have a car, can't for the life of him keep one that is running more than 1 year.
@@princessmandy1757same
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I never once begged or pleaded or apologized NOR chased 😂 told 'em u wanna go then GO & stay gone! ☠
Yass me to actually I’m the one that left ( see u later by chalking up the deuces ) on my way out
I KNOW THATS RIGHT🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
DEUCES💯🙏🖕
DEUCES💯🙏🖕
Hella Strength! I applaud you all the way from here!
He tried to wander back after ghosting me for over 3 months and I just said
'I'm not your backup plan for when sh*t hits the fan with someone else'
When he ghosted I asked once for clarity, got nothing then deleted his number, our conversations and all pictures. I didn't even trust myself to have hid number on my blocked list in case I used it at a low point.
But in the time he was gone I put myself to work on getting ovet him and it worked, I'm almost 8 months free of him 🙌
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Amazing
I married one in 3 months, and he started ignoring me it's been 6 months since I heard from him
7 months free after 4 years
Feels so good to be free of someone so horrible
Like why would you chase a damn monster. Someone who treated you like dog they never wanted Make you feel like shit everyday. Call you names. Treat you like crap after sex. Why on earth would I chase that. I was alone in the relationship. I couldn’t go thru another cycle and if he knows me in the relationship he knows I’m done with him.
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Facts!!! 💯
Sex never gave me sex
Agreed, never go back once you made it out!They will lovebomb you and it is hard to resist but nothing is true😮😢
@@bklynqueen5928 mannnn you just made me screenshot that bc that is what I just went through
Let’s not forget about those narcissistic so called friends
oh i have had a few of those and they hate me hahaha..bcuz i dont stay around long enough for their games
I used to fall for it every single time. Overreacting, always blaming me for his problems, always leaving. Not this time I’m done, I’m walking away and choosing my happiness.
Bro, you being a self aware narcissist and sharing this information with thousands of desperate souls, looking for answers is one of the highest forms of selflessness. We all appreciate you more than you know. Thank you so much you doing gods work. 🙏 🙏 is
I was chasing him for answers and clarity for years. I have finally decided to stop and let it fade. I also won’t go back now either. ❤
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Some S____T never changes
Please do not go back . If you do the abuse will triple . . .
@@Blessed591 Facts! Neverending
Mine did awful things that I wanted answers to. Then did my research on narcissists, like Lee then realised there are none.
Wasn't your fault it's all games.
Pitying them is the only answer.
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When you don’t chase after them they can generally get worried and they will inquire about you with friends and family , and when you finally get in touch with them , even for a second , they will mistreat you by saying something bad to you or not getting back to you at all😮😢don’t do it!! Stay away from those monsters once you got away,things are not gonna get better, i promise.
Amen!
😂so accurate
They don’t want to. Fear!
@@oboy3817 Thank you🙊🙉🙈❤️‼️, working on it still, not easy,but i focus on myself and work and sports and getting my “stolen” life back and make up for wasted years with a bloodsucker …. ❤️‼️
In fact things can get worse for you believe me I know I’ve been there
They love to feel the joy of knowing they're trash while you see something valuable in them, like hoarders see value in their junk. Been on my self love journey 3 yrs now and I absolutely _GLOW!_
@@arhafrench5319 oh my goodness an epiphany!!!
Thank you. 😊
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The power lies in refusing to chase after them. I'm a testament to standing on boundaries. He really underestimated my cutoff game, and his desperation for attention from me is sad and pathetic. He's blocked, his emails go unanswered, and he's sneaking on his mom's FB page to follow me. Who's also now blocked. He's relentless. Yea, he's gonna have to sit with his shame, his guilt, and the mess he made. It has nothing to do with me.
I wish I could give this a thousand thumbs up. I concur with every word you typed!
I LOVE YOU
He still has the keys but he’s also blocked…… yet watches my social media I made a post then he came home out nowhere ff I didn’t give in…. now my wig is missing
Same
I sometimes cannot help but feel embarrassed by being in a situation like this. It’s exactly how you say, the break ups become longer. The breakups were so calculated too.
So They Could Easily Be With Others WithOut Having To Play Games To Keep It Hidden
And it hurts
@@Jellyloaf29 it’s so embarrassing 🤣😭😭😂. Like why does my name have to be attached with this mess?
@@luvospambo6612this, the regret is biggg😂
anything to avoid accountability 💯
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ABSOLUTELY!!!!
Exactly!!!
I personally think that, they lose all the control once you don't care anymore, like no one can betray you if you don't/never trust after spotting one.
True!
My narc ex told me “l will never contact you again” AFTER l done told him l was leaving. Well that was the plan anyway so l told him to have a nice life. He shot himself in the foot. He thought l would break and chase. Five years and counting. He’s not worth wasting my phone bill or leg work. Now his ego is leaving me in peace, and while it’s in place he won’t make a move towards me with his lame love bombing tactics. Yes, it worked in the past, but now l see him for what he is, it will be a cold day in hell before l allow him back, and not even then. Thank you ego for keeping him out of my life. Long may it hold.
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That ego helps 100% I love when a bum has a huge ego it keeps them outta your face FORSURE pride comes before a fall😊
Was he diagnosed?
They’re all idiots
@@vitalisakaloyski5758 no, he was not diagnosed. I didn’t know what a narcissist even was or that l was in the hands of one. It took years of a love bombing, idealisation, mind games, ghosting constant hamster wheel before l became aware of a pattern. I grew tired of his antics, and him. Each cycle when he returned, l began to like him less until one night when we was supposed to have met up and he didn’t turn up, l decided that was the end for him. It was UA-cam platforms like this one that connected the dots to what he truly was. I have not looked back since.
Narcissist will have their final judgement before the lord, they are the blue print of evil.
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Truly they are!!!
You've split and demonised narcissists, just like they do when they devalue people. Try to be more nuanced/empathic and less narcissistic.
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She was messing with other dudes and I was begging to work things out. The moment I left I never contacted her ever again. It's going on 5 years no contact. Loving it
Wow!!! You did the work!!! You rock!!
I slug mines over 4 yr ago 🎉 and he requested to follow me on insta the other night at 2am 🤦♀️ blocked him instantly 🎉
congrats!!!
Congrats !!! Love that for you !!
@moenolisa I don't give up on people easy but when I'm done, I'm done.
The breaking up to cheat. Then claim it wasn’t cheating because we were broken up that night, was a staple with my ex.
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Ross and Rachel shit haha
I broke it off with someone who was pure narcissistic evil!!! He had absolutely NO empathy, NO remorse or feeling about ever hurting me. He was the ultimate sociopath. I wouldn't be surprised if he had bodies in his basement.
Oh, god😮. Same here. No remorse and no empathie.
My narc dad killled my mom. You better check that basement.
If you chase them, you feed into their sense of superiority, and you are giving them what they want. Playing right into their hands. They have a very twisted way of thinking.
Twisted indeed. This was the most shocking for me when I first encountered it. I thought there was no way he could believe the stuff he was saying. Straight crazy reasoning, twisting, blaming, etc etc I thought he was just really immature and playing some child's game. No. He actually believes the crap he spews. His reasoning is off and he is convinced of whatever he tries convincing me of. 8 years married and idk how to get out. It's lonely. He refuses to leave and I own the house and have no family. So I pray, don't engage anymore, sit silent through the beratings, cut off supply, and hope he gets bored enough to go. I force myself to not remember the good times cuz then I'm sad. I was so much in love. Thought we were soul mates but it was a soul tie and I believe narcs have a demon. I'll miss him when he goes but not all the garbage and abuse that came with him.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I don’t chase ❤I attract. My narc exes taught me that. I had to be broken down so I could build myself back up ⬆️ and become better and stronger! Thank u Lee!❤
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This is so true when I divorced my narcissist and didn't reach out he sat outside my house he drove up and down my alley constantly , I blocked him he looked up the number to. Job and mind you I work in OBGYN he called the office trying to schedule a appointment 🤦🏽♀️ he would park across from my job he cheated I left he crazy
Good for you 👍 I'm happy 4 u.
Stay strong ❤
This is hilarious
@@rsj4192 Narcissist people are crazy
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@@Ravenjohnson677 😂😂
Its messes with your mental! If you chase them they tell you it’s the wrong thing to do and that you need to give them space…then you give them space and start to move on and then they accuse you of never having wanting to be with them and that you never loved them because you are moving forward since they ignored you for days on end. It’s such a mind Fck!
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THIS 💥
This is exactly what he's been doing to me. I have been chasing, begging him to come back. Been sending him long messages, trying to make him realize how much i love him. But he said i was just guilt tripping him. He even made me feel that i am crazy, insane that needs therapy. He gave me so much trauma. He said he would block me for calling him. I begged him not to do it. After 3 hrs he texted me, saying sorry that he rose his voice at me. And not his intention to make me cry. And he does love me but having mixed feelings about himself. That he needs time. After those text, i never replied. I degraded myself the moment i took him as my boyfriend. He put me throygh hell. And the way he treated me was nasty. He is the most cruel person i have ever met. I was blinded to prioritized him before myself, focused on him, took care of him. Loved him with my purest heart. Choose him over my family. Its been 3 days now that i cut him off out of my life. And he will never fckn feel my presence again.
@@mtyg-yy8zm It's crazy how this is exactly how I feel as well. Really loved from a pure heart. It's their lost & we will heal!🩷
I've been almost a year no contact with my narc and I still hold anger against myself for times I freaking apologized for nothing. I struggle with anger against myself for staying as long as I did and allowing someone to treat me as poorly as he did. I struggle to forgive myself for not loving for valuing myself. Its heartbreaking. The memories haunt me. I've been through so much turmoil. My narc was also a pe-dee-o-file. Proudest moment was being granted my protection order and even then, it took me months and a lot of gelp from lawyers and therapist for me to understand I was still being manipulated. THANK GOD I am finally free of that mindset.
You're NOW free to no longer direct anger inward. Hope your therapy sessions truly lead you to TOTAL DELIVERANCE! God Bless
I’ve been exactly where you are, The hardest part is that people think your mourning the relationship when in reality you are mourning what you wish you’ve would’ve done that you shouldn’t and the humiliation and heartbreak you accepted is the hard part, It gets better every day 🙂↔️
THISSSSS 🎯 ‼️
It's okay to have deep compassion for yourself too. You certainly have it for others, so why not for yourself? The old you needs it, alongside forgiveness, from the new wiser you. You did nothing wrong. Low self esteem often comes from childhood trauma, which is not your fault at all. A predator saw that you had been hurt, wormed his way in, and hurt you even more. I'm proud of the stronger you.
@googleuser2480 can agree with that. After the discard I was full of anger for a few months. How could I not see it? Then learning about narcissism, realised it wasn't my fault. Just dealing with a toddler in an adult body.
Don't chase a narcissist that's giving them the green light to treat you even worse cuz now they feel like you depend on them and everything is a power game to narcissist, just let them leave....or even better remove yourself, my ex legit told me "i like it when you obsess over me its hot" after blowing up there phone 10 times on multiple different apps just for them to ignore me and laugh like everything is game to them...
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@@KenKanxki bullseye 🎯 !
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@@KenKanxki this is literally happening to me right now I just realized that he loves when I call him and he purposely ignore my messages. My calls to get me to do it even more
feeds their delusional ego and probably is closeted if he wants to be pursued.
Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, I'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.
Since my 12-year relationship ended, I know how hard it is to say goodbye to someone you love. But I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I finally went to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, and he helped me win back his love.
It's fascinating! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor and how can I get in touch with one most effectively?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers and he’s the best spell caster to ever live
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked father obah eze up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
With a narc, it's always about the chase, control and what you can contribute as their supply... They can't function without their supply... That's why most are never happy and always seeking more.....
Yes, they do. You will even see them smirk as you apologize.
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That's why I'll never apologize. I used to be soft and normal and now I'm almost as ugly as he is in self protect mode.
@ don’t let them change the good person you are, just my opinion, that still gives them control! Be blessed
Working on that rt now getting my light back
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Just went through this like yesterday!!!!!!! Caught myself in the middle of the apology and told him I AM DONE. Gave that fool wayyyy too much of my energy!
You got one shot !
Once you show your true colors
Try to body shame me , tell me you have someone the whole time … etc. etc.
you gone !!! & You GONE FOREVER !!
Life is TOO SHORT to be anything but HAPPY !! ♥️
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@@MentalHealness I appreciate all of your videos ! Thank you so much 🙌🏽
When I was running after my narcissist ex husband at the time, he said to me, you are running after me like a dog. Nasty.
Exactly! NASTY WORDS!
if i didn't have this toothbrush in my mouth after reading your comment i would have said OUT LOUD what i mumbled and shouted in my head: OW!!! DAMN!!!! yeah. NASTY!!!
Oh hell no...
My dad told one of his girlfriends that she was his property and started laughing. At least you walked away from the insults 😢
EXACTY!
Any female to lower herself to chase a man, like a dog in heat, IS NASTY!!!
Drove semi trucks 15 years. Made the mistake of trying to go teams with my narcissist ex bf. He threw his last temper tantrum, literally kicking the dash of the brand new freightliner we were driving back from Washington state. The next day was his turn to drive and the load we had was supposed to turn south around Missouri. But when I woke up, we were well across Illinois and he was raging still over the argument we had the previous evening. " I'm getting out at the next exit!" He screams at me soon as I came out of the bunk. I just sat down in the passenger seat and said, "ok" He pulled into a motel parking lot and run his mouth the whole time he was getting his stuff. Soon as the last bag hit the concrete, I jumped in the driver's seat and started shifting gears outta there. Found out later that he'd stood in the lobby for two hours thinking I was coming back to get him..... Hahahaha.
This is by far my favorite story. 😂😂
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😂😂😂😂 YEEEEES!!!
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He cheated on me with his ex and got her pregnant. He used and abused me. I left him finally and he sent me emails saying that he can’t believe that I left him out there and I don’t check on him to see if he okay or alive and he can’t believe I don’t care about his life. It’s crazy how messed up his mind is. It’s even worse that he sends me messages acting like he’s the victim yet he was the one who cheated, lied, and abused me. I will never chase him but he thinks I should or I owe him that for hurting him for leaving. Pure madness!
going through this now .I went no contact two years ago .I just seen this man pushing the kid down the street.He looked at me and I drove off.Then I get a message asking was that you lol i said nope..Then I noticed he had been sending me happy faces prior too.What a sick man to believe he has space to contact me after beating me mercilessly because his masked slipped after i found out he was cheating with his ex.I guess he thought that enough time would pass that we would switch roles .That i would play the back like his ex and be the sidechick.No I would never in life be such a low person to cause another womans pain purposely.Im worth so much more.I have struggled to make connections since then but I would never give him the satisfaction of having access to me again.Thats his problem his exes let him perpetuate the cycle of abuse but not me baby
@@rlo2021 I went through the same thing it’s crazy how they play the victim I never called and I blocked all of his friends. I seen him recently and he said something rude and nasty like I did something to him. I just walked away.
Yeah, I got tired of that rollercoater ride with my ex narc and I got to a point and got my ssa off that roastercoaster ride. I was done chasing when they were the problem. The on and off turned me cold toward them. Enough was enough. They blocked. I was done trying to fix what I didn't break.
You described my experience to a T! They are all the same. Horrible people!
Yup!
😂😂I tell you what, it’s when you actually start to not give a crap about them, is when they start running after you.
I love when they miss the point on something you say, and they reply with such conviction too😂.
It’s mad how these people can be.
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Straight facts!
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@@GA-ik6pi It's mad how mad they can be 😆
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I chased him during the relationship. But when it was clear that he didn’t care about me and the discard came, I didn’t chase just said ok I will leave. After a month I went for the rest of my stuff and he said : now I know you are never coming back🤣duh you kicked me out with a 5 month baby. Their family is always in it too!
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The family is always in on it! It s a given
So true his sister was instrumental in his disappearance good riddance to him and his toxic family
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@@soulsounds4575 yes one of his sisters did me very very wrong. Not to mention she was the person I trusted the most during the relationship and she saw the abuse first hand. It was a subtle abuse but she saw me crying a lot. She is on his side while I did everything for her and also for her stupid yes stupid toxic coke head brother
Don’t leave out the mama it was so weird she didn’t like her son but enabled the behavior and lies.
I can tell you without even watching the video.
They deflate. The entire "relationship" was nothing but one long manipulation, from beginning to end. The discard is just another manipulation.
Maybe we should call it a "manipulationship."
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Wow I like that one. Same type of situation I was in smh
After watching several of your videos it seems I was dealing with a narcissist while being called one. Its crazy how they break up with you, try to come back after all the bs, but when you refuse you become the narcissist smh.
@@williemayo1589 wait until they won't take no as an answer...it gets wild
They might be trying to look like the victim now 😕❤❤❤
@@teresadvorak6145 she definitely is. It makes no sense
You are hilarious, Lee! During my heartache and exit from a narcissistic relationship - you helped to not only encourage me with your knowledge and perspective, but you also helped me to laugh through the pain!! Thank you for what you're doing 🤗‼️💯
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The "fake breakup!" LOL My former narcissist tried to reconcile with me yesterday. When I rebuffed his offer, he said the text had been sent "a long time ago." He then said he was married and that the new wife gave him peace - at the same time trying the "It could've been you." I congratulated him, he hasn't text back.
WOW. And I thought mine was sick...
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No need to chase him let him go ..he has his “friends” to support his ego ?
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@sweetone5096 ...this!!! 100%...a narcissist will always make sure they have someone in the wings before they discard you.
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You mean their FLYING MONKEY'S???
I’ve avoided 17 “No Caller ID’ calls while watching this.
Reached it. I don't care one bit. It took almost 3 years. I'm so grateful. Good things are coming
When you just started to date someone and very soon realised that he is a narcicist. You go no further and tell him, this won't work.
My ex narc hated me for not chasing him. I refused to cuz i ain't chasing anyone.
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When you don’t chase them they stalk you until they find someone else to obsess over.
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He attempted character assassination and tried to play the victim card. 😂😂😂 I blamed myself for being so kind and nice, forgiving him every time. I didn't even get when he always tried to pin on me what I was not doing.
Lies and Distorted truths to make me out as a villain.
I remembered how much love and care I showed and how much I tolerated because I genuinely cared. I am glad I was strong enough to leave. The cycle was too vicious. I was just simply done. I chose me.
Leave and find peace! I finally left after 8 years and i feel so much peace even though im homeless lol id rather be homeless than in that hell any longer.
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❤❤same hun , otw to a different journey now
Sorry you are homeless but glad you are finding peace. Life is too short and there are so many other people and cultures in the world to explore😊
Heard from the Narc 3 days ago.. and 2 weeks ago. He called like 2:30 in the morning
I have nothing to say to him
I broke up with him, bec i recognized something was off.. no way.. I didn't heard from him about 3 months and i was like wow. I will ignore him. He didn't leave any message. He has cursed me out. when i asked him not to come back to my place. He called me all kinds of name . He wish me dead and every name in the book. I never thought he would call after he curse me so badly. He told me to lose his number bec i refused to respond to his calls. I just ignore him. I was his main supply. God is Good bec i followed my mind. I dated him for 6 months. That was enough. I got lucky
I left my narcissistic ex 9 years ago. I haven't heard from him in years and he recently tried contacting me! The nerve of that idiot! He tried calling me from jail and left a voicemail saying nonsense that he's sorry for what he did to me, etc... but because he's going to prison, is only reason why he tried contacting me because he wants a buddy. Hell no!! I definitely blocked him from calling me. What on earth made him think that he can contact me after all these years and act like nothing 😡 i need insight because i don't understand at all!
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I was ignored 3 days , after we spoke he said he needs time to think if he still wants this relationship. In the last 3 days i have not answered , now every 10 min texting whybim not responding and calls about christmas plans. Each day has been challenging, but realize how i took all accountability for every situation. Thank you for your videos ❤
i’m so happy that i came to my senses with my narcissistic ex. he couldn’t believe it when i stopped chasing him. he crashed out, stalked me and some mo shit once i finally decided for good that i was done. it was so satisfying.
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Wow like you can really read them like a book. I had to learn the hard way and listening to your videos just gave me clarity that I wasn’t tripping because I was catching on to him and finally learning him.
I feel so good because when I decided to walk away, I did and never looked back. I purposely didn’t block my Narc on social media so he could see me moving on. I did t block him on my phone neither. After a couple months of us splitting, I post bikini pics on vacay,
Pics of me on dates, and just hanging out. I never answered a Hoover or called him. My friend ran into him & he asked how I was doing. She said I was good … busy working & raising my son. She said he said … “Yeah, I know she busy cause she ain’t stuttin me.” HELL NAWL I AINT! Especially, when I learned your strange behavior was that of a covert narc! Screw you! 🖕🏾😂
THIS IS THEEEEEEEEEE BEEEEEEESSSSSSSSTTTTTTTTTT COMMENT EEEEEEVEEEEERRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! talk about NOT settling for less!!!!! or, in thissss instance, settling for absolutely NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU ARE THE FRICKIN' WOMAN!!!!! OF THE FRICKIN' CENTURY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(I DID THE SAME!!!!! told dude i would leave him alone when he insisted on talking at me like a fool!!! didn't block him. haven't contacted him. he stays in the building. ignored his text. ignore him when he presses the buzzer (because he thinks he's blocked). saw him twice since i last saw him in dec 2023 and let him pass right on by. and when i relocate out of state this fall...yeah...let's just say...i've been planning to do very similar to what you wrote that you're doing.)
WE DON'T SETTLE!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Love this, you go girl! Let him see you shining!!!!
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Hi Lee, thanks for making me laugh during these painful times. "Like a light switch"😂 ON OFF ON OFF 😂 I have been watching you for a while now. Thanks for explaining what we already know but can't articulate or couldn't comprehend. I've been watching a video every day for a long time and, I realize now, your words gradually became a part of my way of thinking without knowing it, and gave me skills and ways to get out and rebuild who I want to be. Thank you
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All of this is so true, thank you! I chased and chased and got blamed for his many lies and horrible things he did to me, and I apologized. I just broke up and went no contact. It's hard, but i I feel better already. I'm glad im not alone
Thank you for acting it out and showing this. I could cry. I feel so validated. I thought I was misunderstanding. I never realized he was lying so much.
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It’s 8 billion souls on this big blue marble so what one won’t do, another one will. I have a lot of faults but I’ve never chased behind anyone…but my goofy ahh has been known to welcome them with open arms when THEY come back. My days of babysitting the back burner are over.
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Lee, you are a rare breed!
I admire that you admit to being "self aware".👏
I think deep down inside you really want to change, because you know right from wrong,💐 those other demonic narcissists either don't know, or have "selective memory loss", drunk/medicated/etc.
You're taking control of those evil spirits, that I think take control of all these types/levels of narcissist's minds, hearts, and eventually souls.
You're helping so many folks out there that need to hear this.👍
I did this to my recent ex because I was socially aware of narcissists . He lost his rabbit 🐇 a** mind calling my job and all threatening me!😭 and he also dragged my name through the mud very horridly . I couldn’t believe how insane and evil he was behaving . And honestly this is the best method of cutting ties . Ignore the rage and smear campaign . There is a bright light at the end of the tunnel . Never engage or retort back to them it will never go back to how it used to be . That’s the sad truth but so be it . ❤
Wow, omg Lee!! You couldn't be more spot on. My partner always says "I use to put you on a high pedestal and hold you in high regard, but now i don't". When I told him he shouldn't have had that view of me because I'm not perfect and it's unrealistic. He always repeats this to me.
“They don’t have a car so they take off running” I am HOLLERING 🤣🤣🤣
Mine definitely wanted me gone for good, had me second guessing myself. Those few months with him were miserable I'm sure he will never come back and that's fine too, I forgive him and myself for not leaving sooner
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Thank you for explaining this behavior - I'm finally doing the right thing right now and didn't know it - I lived with him breaking up , leaving and threatening divorce about every month ... I feel good now being away from him and not chasing 😊
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Mad people. They know what they are doing. When you refuse to be their scapegoat they get mad and start bad mouthing you. Be the victim. Who cares? I ran away and did no contact. It's now over 8 years and I have my peace.
I wish that I had known about this valuable information a long time ago. 50 years of heartache anguish undue turmoil. It's going to take a long time for me to heal. Thank you for sharing and educating me and the whole world. You are a God sent.
You are my story king .. every scenario was his exact actions . I’m so grateful i had the strength to let him go .. I send him blessings every time I think about how he made me feel and what I went through with him. And I thank God for every thing no regrets because it made me the person I am today . Thank you and may he continue to heal
Thank You For Sharing This I Was Emotionally And Psychologically Abused By A Malignant Narcissist
I Chased This Person For Over 9 Yrs Wanting Acceptance The More I Chased The More I Was Ignored This Person Has Destroyed My Life .I Have A Month Of No Contact..
My Question To You Is Why After Being Discharged Why Is The Narcissists Treating Me Like I Don’t Exist This Is What Broke Me Down!!
Cause he knew it would break you that’s why he did it.
They are relying on your trauma bond and codependency and silence from them to "force" (prompt) you to reach out...some have described the ache like coming off of drugs. Hold on to your stillness and peace, pray to Jesus if you have a faith..pray to Jesus if you don't, He will see you through this. Every day you Will gain more strength..
Also, your silence is "starving them from oxygen", their ego is suffering but they just want the control and so they are relying on the damage they have done for you to break the silence. Hold strong. Make a list of the bad times .
@@samia6888 Thank You For Sharing This Your Absolutely Right
@@demigaines5644 be lovely to yourself. “I can buy myself flowers” like Miley Cyrus!! You are an amazing individual and that person doesn’t have to agree for it to be true!
He said they don't have no car so they take off running😂
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Whenever I chased, the narcissist would actually start lovebombing me. Our dynamic was somewhat different since he has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I have OCPD (the Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder), he told me he never encountered behaviour like mine before (he didn't say that in a lovebombing sense). Narcissists love people who obsess about them and people with OCPD have certain obsessions they act on and can't resist. He did everything for my reaction like he did with other victims but I reacted extremely huge, extremely long and extremely compulsive. Whenever I chased him, he would lovebomb, over and over to 'reward' the chase. The lovebombing wasn't at the beginning in our dynamic. The narc said he never encountered behaviour like mine because it was very compulsive. He loved every bit of it and I couldn't resist. The combination NPD and OCPD is a very weird one. The narcissist likes it very much and the person with OCPD has a hard time resisting because of the disorder.
I had the same dynamic but the Narc told me he had never experienced anything this intense. I’ve been holding firm with the no contact since February.
I have that too. I think obsessive compulsive people
This sounds like my situation. I think he hates me but loves to make me suffer with ignoring me or embarrassing me.
You mean obsess like an Narcissist ?
@@JJN-s7j Nope
You're out here saving lives. Bout to binge on your videos.
You have narcissists absolutely down pat. I have to stop sending unanswered texts to my sister. My only sister. I did right telling her BYEBYE! and now I need to stick with it, grieve her loss, finish my life. I know she's loving not answering me. Oh, dear, take care! I feel your vibe.
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My ex, who I have had to go silent on numerous times when he shows his narcissism-will say, when we don't talk, I drive by your house to make sure you're okay. How can you tell if I'm ok by driving by the house? I think he was checking to see if another man was at my house.
Don't chase after a narcissist run go no contact
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I LOVEDDDDD NOT CHASING AFTER HIM 2YRS AGO FEEL SOOOOO GOOD NOT TO CHASE
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Me too . . . 2 years . . . I have never been tempted to break the no contact . . .
It was 2 years for me June 21st 🎉
November makes two years for me 😁
3 years for me feels good, like I knew that it would.......he married someone else shortly after, harder to get away........when you have all that legal stuff.
Thanks!
No problem!
I love what you’ve done with your
Knowledge.. helping others, and meanwhile being incredibly fun to watch. You really made me laugh at the same time as being very enlightening
❤ out of the million narcissist awareness people you are one of my favorites ❤
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it's so funny how angry they get once you stop giving them attention haha
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I admit I'm beginning to find them humorous. I think that's a good thing
@@janeendeluca2662Haha same here. Definitely the best way to deal with it
I just wanted to say thank you for what you do. It has to be kinda scary to put yourself out there like you do. But if I had had someone like you to listen to when I was married I probably wouldn't have stayed as long as I did and I would be a healthier person psychologically and physically.
You’re welcome
I have a co worker friend who stonewalls me instead of dealing with our conflicts. She blocks and un blocks me frequently because of some built up resentment over something I did that I apologized profusely for and owned up to but now it has come back around and she blocked me again. I'm gonna apply your method. Thank you for your videos!