35-Year-Old Refuses To Change After BANKRUPTCY
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0:00 PARTY STARTS
01:10 WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON?
05:15 THE BANKRUPTCY STORY
11:40 SHE IS OUT OF THE SYSTEM
14:07 INCOME & ASSETS
20:31 EXPENSES & DEBT
24:30 MONEY CASE
27:30 YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN!
33:07 INTERVENTION: REALITY CHECK
36:44 SHE CHALLENGES EVERYTHING!
43:37 YES, I CARE!
47:20 DID SHE TAKE ACTION?
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Romain was frustrated with Rebecka. I was frustrated listening to her.
Im 6 minutes in and this is tough to listen to haha
I really struggled listening to “mm-hmm” over and over knowing full well she really stopped listening to him when he advised her to drive an Uber. I feel bad for her, she got dealt a shitty hand in life but at some point you have to put on your big girl pants and power through, even if it’s just to avoid poverty.
When she said 36 I did a double take. How at 36 are you blaming your poor finances on your mother finally asking you to move out…
The story that she tells herself. She told the story 100 times minimum. Chinese immigrant here. All immigrants have their own stories. Sometimes, you just have to get over it.
😂❤ oof I feel your pain , growing up my parents just told me their stories EVERY DARN DAY, it was too much
My parents: tell me traumatizing stories about how much they struggled as refugees
Me: charges my refugee tenants under market value for rent
My parents: WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THE IDEA TO DO THAT DUMMY
Not wanting to be in the system is a bad sign of mental health issues. This is what many homeless folks say (who choose to be homeless). Rebelling against reality is not helpful. I was a homeless single mother 25 years ago, not by choice. It was hell. I am 63 now and am so grateful that I pulled myself out of that hole. As you get older and your body starts letting you down, you need to be able to rely on savings, social security, a paid for home, etc. Homelessness and poverty in old age would be terrifying.
While you're absolutely right, I think this guest only wants to be out of system in terms of not following rules, formal or informal, and contribute to society consistently, while she'd be happy to use all the support from system. She wants to be around people, yet don't want to live like everyone else, basically.
Unfortunately for us there will be no social security to rely on. Hope y'all appreciate it.
@@Violet._.PhoeniX Yes there will. There HAS to be !!!!
@@user-lf2lf6wy4z social security is going to run out in 2035.... wake up
@@user-lf2lf6wy4z social security will have run out by 2035. That's what the experts are saying.
So much trauma here. She could do online counseling instead of paying Uber drivers to listen to her. That would be an INVESTMENT in her emotional health, which she desperately needs first. She probably qualifies for food stamps. She won't be able to listen to practical advice until she learns and implements tools for increasing her sense of worth. As she speaks, her story isn't about money, it's all about her horrible childhood which she is trying to heal. Romain, thank you for trying to help her.
Agreed. Well said. He provided excellent advice.
Yes and one can be still pretty screwed up in their thirties , I was but found my forties to be way better.
I was hoping he would suggest therapy to her.
My friend desperately needs the same type of help.
Probably the craziest level of codependency I’ve ever seen. To the point where she doesn’t want a car so she can talk to people.
Yes it was contradictory :(
That last statement just broke my brain.😵💫
She'll be 60, living in a tent, and still blaming her parents.
I hope not. I hope she’ll watch this video of herself and maybe try to change her attitude and behavior sooner than later.
@@lyndapham4022 I hope for that too. She still young enough where she can change this scenario.
The American Dream!
Yes
@@Bianca-yt7pd
She isn't changing her situation
She explicitly stated this.
In the final few minutes, she even bragged about getting 200 free dollars.
That's her, in a nutshell.
Romain I like that you communicate with kindness and empathy - unlinke other channels watching you actually feels helpful
thank you man!
A different approach, variety is key :)
Agreed.
She talked about her mom as if she was not there for her. But her mom looked after her untill age 36!! What in the world!
I love how you tried to connect with her and give her a concrete advice but from the beginning you could tell she was going to hear your advice to disagree with you. She's not ready to change
Maybe not today, but again, for a moment she had an objective perspective on her situation
35 year old, unemployed, bankruptcy to avoid 30k in nonsense debt, living in a car with her boyfriend (and still doesnt think she should contribute financially), still blames her parents for her own failures...
The whole burden thing is ironic because she has been a burden on her mother.
She filed bankruptcy for $28,000?!?!?! Thats laziness right there. She could have worked to pay that off
She was living with her mother in LA, working a minimum wage job 40 hours a week would have paid that off in 6 months
Im disappointed they let her file for that, she needs to get another job and be a big girl for 28k 😂
I think it was $ 38,000.
File bankruptcy is fine consider she is not planning to buy a house or car. She can work and save money instead of paying it back.
@@eile4219exactly
This had to be an emotionally exhausting conversation. I hope she finds her way to accountability.
I would say that this wasn’t an easy interview on my side due to the swing of emotions on both sides. I often need some time to digest the information post interview.
@@itsRomainFaure you maintain your composure well on camera. I hope you take good self-care after these more difficult conversations.
@@Emilymk97 there is some coming content (not sure if we release this week or next) that is next level intense and we had to put a disclaimer. It took me days to recover from this one …
@itsRomainFaure oh my. I watch your channel to identify with others as I'm working on my own financial situation and learn from you. I guess I assume those who go on the show do the same. It's unfortunate when that isn't the case.
literally all she has to do, per Romain's suggestion (if she doesn't want to grow up and get a real job), is to get a cheap car, drive lift/uber and hang like a laminated piece of paper from the back of the front head rests with the current clinical trials that month, their payouts, and to simply ask her, or provide an email address, if they are interested for her to sign them up. She doesn't even have to utter a single sales pitch. Then she would make uber money + the trail commissions, and probably a lot of her trail clientele overlaps into needing ride shares. It's a no brainer... Honestly, anyone doing ride share should consider doing something along those same lines.
This poor woman is all over the place, I know it's outside of your purview on this channel, but this is one I would have really like to see you set aside a therapy budget for. I think it would help a lot if she could untangle why she wants marriage and kids so badly, but at the same time, a car is way too much responsibility. Kids are like 100 times harder than car ownership, so examining what she's really seeking before she dives into marriage and kids I think would be really healthy. Good luck Rebecka!
Solid point on the budgeting point for therapy! Good insight!
She needs therapy before a session with Romain will be truly impactful.
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She will give the therapist the same excuses she gave Romain.
It's amazing to see the damage a parent not being present can cause. She would benefit from some counseling for sure.
I would agree! I hope you are able to stay till the end of the video as there is a break through
Or... the damage caused by being stuck with a mom that's bitter and unhealthy mentally.
I've never met a single person without any childhood trauma. Part of growing up is learning how to grow past it and do our best to not perpetuate it. Without taking ownership of our actions and their outcomes we can never learn to make better ones.
Yeah but she keeps using it as an excuse instead of trying to be a better person. Many of us have had similar lives to hers and still came out on top.
She sure has a lot of excuses for not wanting to work lol
Victim mentality.
I don’t understand the coddling of this behaviour. Get up and work. That simple.
My siblings and I grew up in the same environment as this girl. Except our cheating dad did not leave our mom. He just stayed and physically beat us all whenever he was drunk. But as working class adults now, we knew our parents did the best that they knew how and we just left it at that. No blaming no excuses. I hope she will do some inner self reflection and just do better for herself financially. It is possible.
Rebeka needs to dump her boyfriend, start therapy and get a real job. Do not get married or have kids until you do all that, my friend.
I am lost, why did she went to the show if she didn't want financial guidance. She stated that she doesn't like to compare herself with other people but she ends up comparing herself to others. At the end is like she said FU.
Same here, it was a total waste of time on both sides. She shouldn't have gone on the show and just stayed in her car and be homeless for life. She clearly doesn't want to change anything and is just looking to be coddled and pitied.
She wanted to talk to somebody just like those Uber rides
She's a nice person but she's too full of excuses. No accountability so she's unlikely to move forward.
She might be a victim all her life.
She will wake up too late.
omg this girl…. i can’t… 😂 she’s frustrating. Romain has a lot of patience. love him
I hope you are able to go through the end of the video!
She’s has a lot of childhood trauma that I hope she can seek help for. The story she told is valid and will lead to the behaviors she took. But that’s not the only way and there is a path forward towards healing. I hope she takes that path to heal her childhood wounds.
You have to be part therapist to do this job
I had to be very considerate of my approach on this one
@@itsRomainFaure And you were
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She needs mental health help before even attempting to get married and have kids. Trauma can affect all facets of your life.
i can relate to her, i want to stop making excuses... thank you romain
She doesn’t want to improve her life, and that is her choice.
What is not clear is why she is asking for financial advise to improve her life
I can relate deeply to feeling like a burden and the guilt that comes with it. Its almost as if your life is not yours because all of your decisions are filtered by scarcity and hearing the parents voice in your head that the things you want, you cant get. Or the dreams you have, you cant do. Im glad to recently come out of this...
Thank you for sharing!
It's nice that you take a sympathetic calm approach and not an aggressive one like caleb
Can’t even watch Caleb anymore- and his guests? It’s almost like they aren’t real lol
I used to like Caleb but his becoming a far left judgemental and his guest are a joke.
@@carieyoung1111 Me neither. I had to unsubscribe. It sucks because his content started out very good. I really enjoyed his street interviews and early financial audits. Now, it's a complete circus. Entertainment at the expense of clearly mentally/emotionally unstable people with very little helpful financial advice.
He calls children “spawn”..
No cap! Tell me why I click right off of Caleb’s now because it’s just super aggressive for no reason now. Almost as if he’s irritated of doing it.
All of Romain’s recommendations went in one ear and left out the other. She’s clearly not ready or doesn’t want to change.
Maybe not an immediate change - but potentially a seed.
Toxic codependency at its finest. She’s finally been left on her own with no family so now she’s clinging to her boyfriend. When she said she travelled by herself, she knew she had her mom still, now she’s alone.
She doesn’t want to take responsibility for anything, she’s not going to change until she gets professional help.
she really needs therapy. lots of denial and defensiveness about even allowing herself to have stable income and a place to live. she keeps saying its not about money, when that's not even what Romain is saying. also she might be bipolar, I'm just noticing some similar traits and expressions between her and a bipolar person I know.
her denial and self-inflicted struggles are a clear sign that she has some unresolved rejection and abandonment patterns. her family abandoned her and now she's abandoning her future self by excluding herself from the workforce. she's acting like someone on the fringes of society. not a good path once she hits 40s.
Omgggg yes bipolar. I thought the same when she started talking about her dad this her dad that, when it was about how she ended up filing bankruptcy. Then she went on about her mom. Show she asked her friend to sign a lease with her, total red flag. Luckily the friend said no. This person can be very dangerous and scary I just had the same experience with a girl I only met after a year. She gave me a sob story how she never got to travel on a girl trip and mind you she’s 38. I went to Paris with her and it was the worst experience, bipolar, narcissistic, scary, blaming her family, then a minute later she’s like oh I should bring my mom here to Paris. Then she told me she’s a communist (china) and so are her whole family in china and how she hates America and Europe (I’m American living in Finland). From the outside you would think she loves the west, she is married to a Finn and buy all these Finnish brands and all about Chanel, Hermes, etc, but says how much she hates LV (I ❤ my 2 LV SPEEDY) 😂I don’t care what she thinks at all about it but she said it so much as if to get me mad.
Anyway this girl is red flag through and through
Yes! My sister has BPD. But at least she's not as delusional as this chick. This chick is more like my mother. She's 72, still blames her long dead mother, and is broke and destitute living with her brother. For now. Because she is now blaming my Uncle for all her problems, even though hes paying for her medical bills and food. So he's about to kick her out and if he does, she will be living on the streets.
Listen, everyone has childhood trauma. As adults, we have to learn how to work through that and have healthier relationships. The fact that she’s 36 and still heavily blaming her parents and not even willing to take steps that will improve her lifestyle bothers me. She needs counseling but there’s also some self-accountability that needs to happen.
Not everyone has childhood trauma. I grew up around many friends whose parents were ideal, loving, kind, supportive. This lady has been rejected over and over again, and now her mother has rejected her in adulthood. She was also bullied and humiliated in school. This is severe trauma. She needs counseling and she should do it now while she still has her health.
@@eileenhetherington3704 Everyone I know does, including myself and it’s a never ending battle. Regardless, it’s hard work pushing through and she is letting it get the best of her.
There are varying degrees of childhood trauma. She was neglected and emotionally abused, which likely impacted her brain and nervous system development.
A nonserious leg injury might impact its function for a few weeks. A serious and repetitive injury could cause the leg to be nonfunctional long term.
People aren't machines.
I have only watched the start of this so far, but what she experienced is something I experienced when I was younger. When my parents started the divorce process all they'd talk about is how much we (the children) were a burden financially anytime we went out or did anything. Since the divorce process took 8 years (a lot of fighting) it became so ingrained that I often thought that maybe their lives would be easier if I removed myself from the picture. I now know that this isn't the solution to the problem, but I didn't know that until I finally found a therapist who was able to pull it out from me. I understand how awful it can be and unlike her horrible situation, my parents changed and I now have a great relationship with my father. I can't imagine how much of a slap in the face it is for her to have both her parents abandon her. She needs to drop them (which I know will be difficult), find a new social group, and move on. Hopefully, she can make some new friends that will support her and motivate her to improve her situation. Since she doesn't like 9-5s maybe she can find two part time jobs (one remote/one in person) that ='s 40 hours so she can use the in person job to meet new people/socialize and the remote job to chill. This way, she can save up while also building a new social circle!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I am hoping Rebekka sees it!
35 yo filed for bankruptcy this is gonna be a good one Romain!
*I am back after watching the entire video. She would benefit immensely from weekly therapy. There are so many families that have separated from each other 😢it’s damaging to all family members!
How long is her and her mate going to live in his car😢 that has to be a miserable lifestyle. Also what if he parts ways with her then what? No woman should put herself in that position bc nothing last forever.
It seems like young ppl don’t want to work anymore 😢. I worked a full time corporate America tech job for 30 years and a side gig for 24 of those years so i could pay off my mortgage and car. I DID NOThave a mothers love either bc my mom was mentally ill my entire life, but it taught me to stand on my feet and work my ass off knowing I had no one to fall back on but me and God. She is gonna be sorry when she ends up on the streets which will make her depression and anxiety worse 😢. I worked 12 hours a day for decades so that I would not put myself in her position and if I can do it and be very successful, anyone can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She must stop using excuses and get herself into weekly therapy like I did and work hard. IT CAN BE DONE. Rebecca, if you’re reading this all of us are not afforded the same family opportunities so therefore we have to pick ourselves up and continue to move forward!!!!!!! I did and now I own my home outright, I own my car outright and no credit card debt with plenty in my 401(k), IRA, savings, money market account and 100% equity in my current home.
She and the guy in the car were on a reality show, alledgedly they are engaged 😮
Romain brings us the stories of many young people who want to work and are doing quite well. There are people who reject society in every generation, it's not particular to any age group.
@@user-tq5ez3ox6v So I guess she made some good money.
The trouble is that isn't therapy expensive ?
Can be frustrating helping someone who won’t even help themselves.
I disagree with this gal getting a car. We have way too many uninsured drivers on the road & she is the poster girl for irresponsibility.
I also pause when I hear her complain about how she was raised and her circumstances. My mother would have recommended that she volunteer with folks with handicaps. She could find contentment in realizing that she had it easy compared to the everyday suffering of others. It also disturbs me that $1,500 seems to be ok with her, while the debt that she racked up visiting the 30 countries that she is so proud to share was the reason she went bankrupt, which is incredibly irresponsible. So the health care, and probably food stamps that she seems to feel she is due is just an FU to the taxpayer, who is US.
To me, her constant complaining about everything except her own stupid choices will be the hardest thing to shake, yet a negative attitude will put the fire out of the best intentions. I waitressed through college and, while I didn’t love every moment, I focused on the positives… nice customers, a great tip day, or how it kept me in shape. Therapy could help, but not if she spends her time dumping on her family… she feels way too sorry for herself as it is.
Even though she may feel this is harsh, I pray it is the wake up call that she needs. She can continue to live a welfare life, but it gets worse as you get closer to retirement & time is not kind to the elderly. She needs to buck up.
PS. I thought the episode was complete and later saw the after episode chat. It’s so hard when you see a huge train coming and you have plenty of time to warn the person to get off the tracks. So heartbreaking that she is stuck in the rebellion of a teen. In life that does not typically end well. I think the thing that shocks me the most is that she got $200 cash from a credit card that she’s calls “free money”. Thank you, Romain. I’m afraid I see a lifetime of homelessness for this young person if she doesn’t have a reckoning with herself.
You did try & it’s important for us to see both successes and the larger challenges. I refuse to call her a failure, as she controls her destiny with every word she speaks.
You were very kind. This person seems like they are happy with their life and doesn’t want any help. She is just arguing every reasonable suggestion for a better financial future and just thinks being loved and happy is all she needs. I hope she doesn’t wake up under a bridge one day regretting her stupid choices.
She’s stuck in victimhood. Maybe she would be better off outside the US in a more community type environment that is less expensive. You really have to be mentally and physically healthy and financially secure with at least a few hundred thousand saved before thinking of parenting successfully. I wish her well.
Agree if she has kids it would be a disaster. What does she think they’re all going to live in a car?
I agree , Im from Australia . But she could do well in Mexico or Bali or somewhere like that . I only know places over my way like Asia , if you want to live cheap .But over there maybe south America etc
There is a sales strategy here of going back to her Why. She wants to be around others and have a sense of community. I can see her in a team oriented job working with patients. She is more emotionally invested rather than money oriented.
Please honey do not have a child until you have your life together you don’t want to bring a kid into those conditions. Please 🙏🏻 a child will not safe you - is not their job.
Love the longer videos!! I listen to it while im working 😊
You are such a kind soul!
Romain ! your videos are helping me so much, I am learning a lot. Greetings from Canada, from a Peruvian eager to learn about finance.
Ok my last comment did come off a bit too much criticizing her and i do apologize for that. And Romain, i do enjoy your compassion and understanding. Sometimes people need yelling, other times, i do feel like yelling is not necessary because it's just too much and too pushy.
Childhood trauma is definitely painful. I do hope she can get the therapy she needs to better herself.
I relate. Had a hard upbringing however I had to suck it up and work.
18 k subs! wow, look at the channel growing!
Amazing, learning about finances and how to communicate with others you may not agree with. Thank you !
I planted a seed, it might no grow now but it might be food for thoughts :)
Why did she go on the show? I’m confused. She seems to be immature with her magical thinking. Of course everyone can decide how they want to live their lives, and if she wants to be broke in car and that makes her happy, that’s her prerogative. I know a few people like that, but they are truly happy being homeless. The freedom that life offers is more important than financial security to them, so they wouldn’t feel the need to go on a finance show. She thinks she’s independent but as long as she’s living in someone else’s car or under someone else’s roof, she not independent. She doesn’t want the responsibility of a car but is fine w/ her boyfriend having the responsibility and her benefitting from it? She just makes no sense. Aye Romain, you are more gracious than most.You handled this with so much class, you truly have a gift.
She went on the show to talk to someone.
Idk what the point of her coming on if she was already prepared with a rebuttal to a recommendation she “thought he was going to say”
Romain great job!
Always great content Helping people romian sallad😊
man this dude is one nice guy.
Hard one to watch. So many things are happening here. First, her family issues led her to being emotionally dependent, it looks like it really f her up and she needs therapy. Now, she’s ED of her partner and that’s not healthy! So scary actually, she basically settle for less because of him. 💀 Second, she completely lacks accountability, I understand her situation but let’s be ffr, she’ll make any excuse out there to not work. It wouldn’t surprise me if one of the reason for not working that much is to spend more time with her partner.
That’s pretty much what she said during her follow up at the end.
she's a walking red flag
I wouldn't judge too fast, and I hope that you were able to go through the end of the video for a breakthrough
I haven't watched the full video but maybe she's just neuro-divergent and a little stuck in the past from her family situation.. that would explain things.
@@teragram8006 yea she has a lot of trauma.
she never changed her attitude in the follow up
@@randomdude3646 I saw nothing different in the follow up either. Am definitely looking forward to her next interview. I hope something clicked.
“I dont want the responsibility of a car” “I want kids and marriage” Oof girl, you’re all over the place. She’ll have a different tone about being plugged into the system when it’s time for social security
She didn’t take any changes from this conversation….
Not all interviews lead to drastic changes, and I want to provide this transparency ...
If life is not about money, why she went to Romain ??? Life is so difficult for everybody but we can't do only things we like. Romain is so kind and patient, bless him
It’s about balance I agree !
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When they say some people won't be successful she is who they were talking about.. her old age is going to be rough
Ohhh ... I wouldn't judge too fast, every individuals have different priorities!
@itsRomainFaure you're right but certain habits produce certain results
Your face in the thumbnail is 100% the face I am making right now (just still within the first 10 minutes so far).
''to feel normal'' is such a TERRIBLE reason to create humans or get married. She seems...immature for 35. I was more mature and aware at 19. Sheesh. 😂 I relate to the childhood poverty/struggle though. :/
I agree she’s extremely immature.
Was about to comment this. Marriage and kids are wonderful but require so much work. I don’t think she’s ready for that.
There's definitely some arrested development going on here. She acts and sounds like a teenager.
I am her age... I have 2 kids and am still finding trauma and things I need to work on because having kids uncover it alllllllll. If she cannot handle a 9-5... kids are 24/7. My 9-5 is a breeze compared to a day home with my kids. I LOVE being home with them, they're amazing, but the energy required is immense.
@@chloecrawford5426 Well, I think people who choose to create humans whom will inevitably suffer (potentially greatly) and become deceased are a already a bit...narc/psychot1c lol....
The road to 20k is getting closer and closer
Yes and I want to tell you that I really appreciate you as a member mate 😊
Nice and long podcast/interview.
I really wish the best for Rebekka. It seems her whole life, her family disconnected from her and didn’t have a solid relationship with them, so she found someone that gives her that comfort and love, but also has formed a codependency with, which is actually toxic. What happens if they break up? Hopefully she has a plan set aside, but a lot of people that are codependent on their partner do not think like that. At the end of the day, it’s up to her to makes changes. Thanks for Romain for the video. You always keep it professional.
Thank you for your comment, I present a path, it is up to the individual to take it or not.
Her family probably disconnected from her because, according to this interview, she seems abusive and toxic. They were probably tired of her taking advantage of them.
Well, I hope she finds the help and clarity she needs (maybe IFS or inner child healing or other types of counseling) so she can unbind her family of origin shame from her finances. Then she can properly address her relationship with money. ❤ wish her all the best.
Omg I feel like this is a theory session rather than a financial. Romaine you are so patient and well done steering her back to finances. she needs theory big time. I also think that she needs to understand that her mum was trying to keep a roof over head, so she shouldnt be blaming her mum. I raised 3 on my own by my x walking out on us. She needs to be forgiving to her mum who was doing her best
Girl, you are 35. Time to see a therapist and work through that trauma so you can move forward. You’ve gotten yourself trapped in the stories you keep telling yourself about how you deserve to not take responsibility because of your trauma. You can heal!
41:00 Your relationship is never guaranteed and your fxcked if he cheats or does something you dont like. You're closer to being homeless than ppl living paycheck to paycheck.
She is homeless but for her it doesn't seem to be traumatizing, as it is for most people.
Love the content bro!
Cheers mate !
She needs some therapy to work through her childhood issues. I think once she does that she could be more accepting of the assistance. Right now she is stuck in the baggage she is carrying. She isn’t ready. But, great job Romain. You were trying to break through.
Stunted growth. This is the most immature 35/36 year old on this show.
I was having a hard time at that age . Some people can have it rough in their thirties . And Iv seen it in others . But forties was a great decade for me .
I don't know why people have kids if they don't want to look after them. I know her mum was probably too exhausted to be present when she was a kid, but what's the excuse for not answering the phone these days?
Honestly I feel sorry for Rebekah. I imagine it's difficult to strive for anything if you haven't seen a decent life modelled. She just seems aimless. I worry for what would happen to her if she and her boyfriend broke up, it seems like she has no safety net at all. Hopefully she'll keep a bit of a cash buffer in case something like that happens.
Great content though, I love hearing people's stories and am glad that you give your guests time to speak. I would love an episode with the brother and one with the mum!
Her mum is paying her phone bill though
@@Truth-fk3vp you caught that too! I thought I was the only one.
There was a journalists (Jacki King) from LA who became homeless in the 1980's. She created a documentary about herself and others experiencing homelessness. I remember her stating, " If I knew I was going to become homeless, I would have bought a van".
p.s. Caleb would have been sooooooooo frustrated with her. Could you imagine??!?! I can see his look into the camera now. Lol!
Yes but my concern would be that she would have blocked everything
Watching this, I felt sorry for her, but much sorrier for you. It must have been so frustrating. However, not all is lost. Your friend has time to see the ways in which she could get want she needs and wants while remaining within the particular lines of life she is opting for. Hopefully it all turns out for her. Thank you for the video!
A tough episode, but you excelled, Romain.
I appreciate, yes not all of them are easy
Sad for her.
I appreciate the way you spoke to her emotional needs and addressed that financially. You gave sound advice. It’ll be hard for her to receive this advice unless she also is in therapy.
I agree with your comment!
I can relate to some of her experiences. I get where she’s coming from.
Same here, but that doesn't give us a pass to avoid responsibilities
I'm just getting the feeling that she's lazy... but hey to each their own. If she really wanted to improve her life, she would have done it rather than just brushing it off.
I agree with Rebecca about life not being all about money. Growth is done in so many other ways. Breakthroughs are hard emotionally just as much financially. U can't connect with someone through money. It was admirable to see y'all try to connect with each other b/c y'all are both coming from good intentions and honesty. Sometimes chasing money makes u just see the ugliness in people. Letting it go helps u see people for who they really are. Deep episode. But I'm happy for Rebecca. She has something that I don't have, which I've always craved.
Im willing to try anything but also no i wont do that
If she was in my family, I'd disconnect from her too. Shes toxic. They are probably tired of her playing victim and taking advantage of them. Shes abusing her family but has no idea why they dont want to be near her.
Real talk from Romain! He is the voice of reason!
My life is horrible. Let me see if I can make it much worse and then just blame everyone else. 🤔
I’m always curious as to why some ppl come to these shows when they are not ready to change
They come on to complain and to justify to themselves and everyone else that all their problems are not their fault.
Wow Romain! You handled that so professionally. I wanted her to change so badly but she has to want it for herself.
Only her can take actions - I am here to present a path
Why did she come on the show if she doesn't want to listen to the recommendations?
Most people would find it traumatizing to be living in the car, and be motivated to get in to some kind of housing. It's got to be uncomfortable, but there's something in her mental state for her that values her freedom from working a regular job beyond her comfort. People have to want to get out of the car, and hopefully some day she will be motivated to do that. You gave her a great gift of caring and listening. Hopefully you planted a seed that will bear fruit some day.
Exactly, I planted a seed, time will tell
If you aren't completely loaded you have no business living in LA.
LA is one of the most expensive City in the WORLD!
And if you’re completely loaded you have no business living in LA.
The thing with the 'system' is you're always going to be in it one way or another, like it or not. This is why, personally, I'm trying to free myself WITHIN the system, rather than FROM it. And a huge part of this is a positive net worth that grows, as money is one of the biggest drivers within modern human societies.
Romain your great 👍 keep up the work. The other channels they are either boring or jerks.
*you're*
Her plan to financial security is to marry her boyfriend and rely on him. If he bales, and nothing she said indicated they pool resources, i think she’ll be in serious trouble.
Romain you're a treasure
May she can work on a cruise ship. She can travel, be around different people and build her retirement. It does deeply hurt when your family does not show emotional connections. Live in an RV?
Sorry but this woman is so frustrating and so immature. I would have pulled my hair. You are being just so kind. Don't know how you do it. I would have been screaming.
If Romain was my father and talked to me like this, I would feel truly blessed. Her story reminded me of myself when I ran away at 18yrs old, feeling nothing and focusing on my boyfriend and not taking care of my future self. Unfortunately, it didn't get through to her to understand that "making money with Uber" was learning how to "take care of future self so you can have a family".
You are too kind :)
She practically came to the show to complain aboit her screwd childhood, and was not gonna make any changes in her life. She really needs therapy.