I knew the friendship was over when...💔 - Ep 95
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2023
- Friendship heartbreaks can leave you wrecked ❤️🩹 and no one's ever really ready for it. Today, we're looking at examples of how people knew their friendships were over so that we can all learn about what to look out for.
How did you know your friendship was over and how did you deal with it? Tell us in the comments below👇🏽
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I knew the friendship was over when there was no favorable environment to share good news or challenges. When all conversations felt like walking on eggshells
I agree
Word
Same
Been there too
@@Nyumbazetumgt😊
I knew the friendship was over when she kept speaking fear into a big goal I was about to execute
Rule to lending money :only lend a specific amount of money you can afford to lose.. as simple a that
My thing with friendships, I categorize people as FRIEND or FRIENDLY. We could be drinking buddies for years but I do not consider you a friend. You are a good time, but we are not friends. I have seen many people confuse the two and then get dissapointed when people don't meet their expectations. Also, throwing around this friendship tag explains why people are so quick to conclude a friendship is over over petty reasons
Yup! Co-sign on this. Many people confuse who's a friendly acquaintance and an actual friend
I agree.
I don’t put all my friends in one basket,that way I know who to go to according to what I need.
The friend I call for mimosas at 11:00am can’t be the friend I’m being vulnerable with.That way,you avoid the petty stuff and you learn to manage expectations.
Okay, i know Lydia said no one likes introverts 😂 but let me tell you there is nothing better than being comfortable in your own tu little space.
@Lydia K.M. Love to see it babes 🔥❤️
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So True there is always something about enjoying your own company 😊
@Lydia K.M. I am soo introverted, I literally have only one friend a travel mate and we don't really meet that much, so this friendship conversation kept feeling so mentally tiring for me but I really enjoyed the show.
Great insights TMI. Here’s a suggestion, there should also be an episode of “I knew this truly my friend when… “
true, this would allow us to understand who we should categorize as friends
I knew friendship was over when she would react differently when i return back the energy and vibes she poses to me🤦🏽♀️
I knew the friendship was over when they only show up for you when you are wining and ghost you when things are going wrong in your life.
Maybe you ask for too much??? Coz ladies wueeh!!
A friend sleeping with your boyfriend or your husband is the same. They both got to go. A husband sleeping with your friend is like sleeping with your sister. It matters WHO a husband cheats on you with
I knew the friendship was over when she was consoling my man after the breakup and them making me to be the bad without hearing my side of the story.... The betrayal still hurts
I totally see how Lydia and Jo's friendship is God-ordained. Its so deep and unique. More like a divine gift honestly. ❤️
I love this duo
It’s truly beautiful….I was looking for this comment
I feel like you guys brushed off that money comment so quickly but its valid. I guess it could be because both of you are doing well financially and rarely borrow from each other. Borrowing among friends shows you a lot about people's characters. It reveals a lot about patience, respect, and communication. My friend of 10 years+ and I had to decide we wont be lending each other money unless its really really really necessary cause it almost ended our friendship multiple times
I totally agree!
Yes. Money issues are heavy. If the 20k you lent a friend was your last cash, it can really mess you up when they don't pay up.
It's weird how people hear different things
This was one of the comments that took too much airtime and murugi said they would talk about it more
@@carolinewainaina4426 and thats okay. we all interpret things differently as long no one is abusing the other, it expands a conversation
I agree. I work hard for my money and I budget it carefully. You can't just be playing games with my blood and sweat.
Ended a 20 year friendship due to disrespect and jealousy on her part. She was the kind of friend who would rejoice when things weren’t going well for me. And went ahead to make false allegations about my life. Good riddance to bitter friends. So much peace and positive energy surrounds me now.
Sorry about this. We hope you find the friendships you deserve.
I knew the friendship was over when she told me her hubby didn't want us to be friends anymore because I was at that moment,single..I had just gotten out of a 9yr abusive relationship.
😢
Sadly women we will always choose a man over female friendships. That also shows she has a very insecure man.
Why am I thinking that she was just hiding behind her hubby! Just come out clear and say that you wanna call it quits. Leave that hubby alone. It is not him who is his friend. It is you!
I got the same vibe too
I can relate
I might as well qualify for TMI ambassador at this point. Always the first to tune in. Telling as many people as I can to subscribe... Crossing my fingers for that Uganda live experience🎉
This is so true Shammah am here because of you. Big love
same here, namesake!!
Not everyone deserves a break-up conversation, they know what they are doing. Let it go and move on
👌🏾👍🏾!!!!
True
True
Spot on 👌
Personally, I firmly believe in that saying of if am not invited I will not go,if am not told I don't ask,coz I feel if I was really meant to be there,as in, am not an afterthought, they would have straight up asked me,or told me if I was meant to know!
Let's be honest, if you are being ignored or excluded,someone is feeling some type of way about you...I am not one to force issues!!This is me matching the energy 👊
This is the hill I’m willing to die on! Just like that saying “ if they wanted to they would “
This one I agree
Mine was a few years later than I should have, but it was over when I had the difficult conversation about how she did a hurtful thing and she said if she had to do it all over again she wouldn't change a thing 👀 🚮
This episode has made me really want to reevaluate my friendships 😭
Please do
I knew my friendship was over when it became emotional draining where i was there for her kinda like I acted like her therapist but when I was emotional down she was always busy cooking, talking to the people around her and I had cut her off twice and she came back and asked what went wrong and i explained how i felt and she was so sorry and asked for another chance only for her to do just the same exact things where when she was emotional down she would even have airtime to call and vent but when i call when I'm emotionally down she would say she's cooking, she is talking to someone random person next to her and when I told her she tried her best to justify and I realized she will never change so I decided it was time for a "girl bye" moment.
We’re sorry you went through this
@@tmipodcastke thank you
I knew our friendship was over when i was the one was constantly checking out if we were okay. My friend was felt like am the one who needed her as a friend more that she needed me. It was emotionally draining.
Girl, been there
Again with the one-sided relationships
I really appreciate this episode, You've literally voiced our experiences over and over and probably saved us from impending dangers with toxic friendships.
I love this; kindly do one more episode about friendships❤
Am really learning, happy to hear you'll do more of this🎉🎉
I have been impatiently waiting for this ‼️
About cutting off communication with your ex boyfriend, we need to realize that some people are great humans on their own merit, outside of a relationship. You could have dated someone who had great connections (as a friend) with your friends. This is called adulting and we are not in high school
The issue is not the ex was a monster per se. They could've been soild and the breakup cordial. Ultimately, it boils down to which relationship outweighs the other in terms of importance. If it's the friendship, an honest conversation ought to be had on how to proceed.
Most often than not, though, even the most cordial breakups need SPACE and TIME for both parties to move on. So, as the friend, centering onself and deciding it's now about you and how both parties have to remain your besties equally does not help either, as now you remain the one that keeps them stuck, reminding them of the ex they are trying to get over.
Adulting is understanding not everything is about you and sometimes, you have to take a backseat; pick a side; allow matters to simmer down; people to heal.
Thoroughly enjoyed this topic🤌🏽 I have truly laughed 😂😂😂I'm down for the friendship segment
Who is hitting anyone in this day and age? Also on moneyand friendships, we have a friend who never lends us money regardless what you need it for, we came to a conclusion that she doesn't want to cost the friendship over failure to pay it back, so we also stopped asking from her. It's totally understandable.
I finally put a finger on the one thing I totally couldn't figure out about your friendship. It is God-ordained. That's deep!
I knew the friendship was over when it was only me who had to be understanding , support them, trust them but when it was my turn to receive that back I only got jugded .
This topic was so relatable💯friendship breakups😢. Appreciate the consistency warembo👏🏾👏🏾💐💐. Definitely TMIIII🎶
It's definitely TMIIIII♪🎉❤
I knew we were done when a friend pretended to not have seen me twice even after waving at her like crazy
Love the conversation.... mambo ya friendships.. Wueh 😅
I think some friends use the words "Lend me money" but deep down they believe you should just give it to them. That's why some give you attitude when you ask to be paid.
So true!
Been waiting for this one !
Another one... I knew the friendship was over when I was sick and she was working in a certain hospital in Nairobi and my mum took me there. My mum asked her to check up on me before she left for her shift she declined. She was mean to my mum. My mum asked me" hao ndiyo marafiki wako?"😢😢
That and that moment I lost her number and she had the audacity to send me a congratulatory message on my wedding day. 😏
Maybe she had a bad day? Did you check with her after that?
@@kuiskitchen4356 She actually told my mum she didn't have time she was in a rush. I was literally a few metres away from the reception she would not have died checking on me. Halafu huyu ni mzazi. How would you feel your mum being treated like that. Afadhali angesema let me talk to someone to check up on her as I am in a hurry.
You treat my mum or even my dad like that I have no business being your friend.
For me feeling like am being taken for granted. The moment I start feeling like our relationship is not valuable to you. I am out. Being taken for granted is the worst feeling😢😢
So true!
I loved this episode, just wow❤❤
so am 18 and i know maybe am still young and i havent figured it out but i felt the part where you guys were talking about the other persons character and values.....honestly sometimes friends guage themselves in situations( like you said fighting and all that)and expect you to be part of it!which at the end of the day drains your energy and you just dont feel like being part of whatever is going on.....idk if all ot this makes sense but i wish i would elaborate further...
I liked the episode. So much to learn!
Loved this ❤❤!
I would love to see also ..I KNEW THE RELATIONSHIP WAS OVER WHEN..😅😅we could share alot
oh yes! we definitely need a part 2 of this.
We do!
These ads are so well timed😂😂Murugi talks of the former friend who said their ideal man was her man. Then an ad comes on😂It's like let's all just pause and internalize the level of audacity the friend had bc it's too shocking to move on😂😂
😂😂😂😂
People got a lot of audacity ...😅😅😅😅😅
This conversation came in soo handy
The conversation i just needed to hear👏
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I am Lyd's mom when a friendship ends. You're completely out of my mind, to me you don't exist. So yes, we'll sit in the same room and I'll be completely fine with it. Completely at peace. We both deserve to here. Rightfully so. Truth is when i leave the room, I can't tell what they wore, make-up they had on or whatever. This comes with healing from that particular transition though. Infact you feel damn empowered after leaving the room😅😂😂 Healing feels so good you'al 😂😂😂
Thankyou for the commitment, actually my most serious commitment right is btwn this podcast and I ,we all in a while blown healthy rshp.
❤️❤️❤️
Am watching this talk and realizing that I have the best friendship circle
My two role models,i love you both so much!!!!!❤
Waiting for finances talk. Thanks for this 😊
I loved this 😁💖
I knew friendship was over when i moved towns and communication ended. I know distance can do a number...but check up here and there should suffice you know
Love from Melbourne ❤️❤️❤️ u make my Wednesday evenings 😍
Samee❤😊
Yes please on the money and friendships episode
Totally enjoyed this! Please keep the friendship series coming!❤️
Will do!
I knew the friendship was over when I brought up the conversation of the way she hurt me when I needed help and she always turned he back from my need ,,and during the conversation she said very mean things I was so hurt and that's when I let her go
I knew our friendship was over when she tried to pimp me to her male friends...then I confronted her and she said she didn't do that
I knew the friendship was over when she cropped me out of a celebratory post which 70% referenced a Project that I initiated and build up together with her and another lady. Anyway, we move ❤, we grow , we learn ❤.
This is brutal! We hope you managed to get credit for the work and we also hope you went ahead and found amazing friendships.
I don't know why this video has triggered me so much. I felt bad for losing a certain friend but this video makes her such a huge red flag😢gosh
I always wait for the “It’s definitely TMI” part😂🥰
Me you same whatsapp 😅
My best friend got drunk and started talking to me condescendingly infront of her boyfriend. She implied that am a hypocrite coz am introverted and I don't warm up to strangers as fast as her.
Your best friend is a she?
@@nyawiish.2303 Yeah. Am female too.
Well this is alot
Gosh am so so sorry ,hugs
I loved this♥️♥️
Thank you!
😂😂😂😂😂How was kilifi? You've tanned!! Good night! This is a very good conversation, I value my friends alot. They are sisters I never had. They are Very supportive and fun to be around. Loved the conversation!! Great tips as well.
24:06 PTSD😭😭😭😭😭
30:29☠️no pllllleeeeaassseee
35:07 Yessssssssssssssss‼️
For some reason this episode is deep😢 can't wait for the next two💜
Some friends are seasonal and that’s ok. Some friends are like super glue and that’s ok. Learn to embrace both…
I knew the friendship is over when i was pregnant with my first child , she was pregnant with her second i was really excited we were going through the journey together, she gave birth first to a beautiful baby girl i visited encouraged her and what not tell me why when she came to see me and my baby her mood instantly changed, and she left my house a few hours calling to check if she had reached home i was blocked!!!
That's weird.
This is strange…
Jo, call Lydia, she is giving you details on her every move!😂😂
Ooooooooh l got triggered... I knew the friendship was over when l was really praying she shouldn't text me or call me.
This is definitely a sign to end things 🫠
I know my friendship is over when somehow I feel like a third wheel..nd when you want to outshine me in almost everything we do together rather than being neutral..I believe if we really friends we don't have to compete but embrace each others strengths nd weakens...
So true! Their win should be your win and vice versa😊
Please we need a full episode of friendship and money!
We’ve covered this in previous episodes but it’s a good idea!
I knew the friendship was over when I realized I was the one giving in a lot and most times calling, texting, looking for her while she never appreciated any of my efforts. 😂😂
One sided relationships are a no!
I am like LYD once am done with you we can be in the same room but in different world as far as I am concerned.
Keeping it respectful but distant
You can tell the growth with Joan
Lydia! Looking Trim 😻
Thanks sis!
Hi, it would be nice if the podcast dropped on podcast platforms at the same time as UA-cam.
Yeah, for babes who are on the go.
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Some relationships are just meant to be for good reasons.
It's always nice to have at least one great friend in a lifetime.
So true!
Totally true! I don't like crowds myself. Others are just acquaintances but one or two real friends.
I knew the relationship was over when she took a loan which I guaranteed as a friend and she defaulted and ran away.
I knew the friendship was over when they were not there to support for my wedding literally no interest whatsoever.
i knew the friendship was over when i could nolonger talk about my good moments or evn my bad moments. i was at a point i would block the amount of information i give.
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I knew the friendship was over the moment i got pregnant and after delivery our conversations become less also she started to make not so good comments about my daughter. I knew we were done been friends
I never miss any of their episode❤❤❤❤❤....
Thank you!
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Anytime you lend money, you risk to loose either:
1. The money ( You forget about it and you keep the friend)
2. The friend ( You get your money but in such bad terms and you loose the friend)
3. Both ( They never pay back and you are done with them)
Unpopular question?
What if this friend with no values same as yours is the one friend that really holds you down when you are low and there for your highs.. like thru thick and thin 😮.
I think I'd keep them as one.
That one's a keeper♥️
Shadeee....lakini I still love you both
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My friend pushed me because she felt entitled to my life!onces i refused to follow her orders😢. Thats day the friendship died it was toxic
A proud in betweener and I must confess I love how u guys are just genuine with your friendship. Well most guurl- friendships nowadays ain't genuine, just fake and plastic bitches waiting for your downfall...
There are some really amazing people out there. It’s just a matter of finding people who’s values you align with ❤️
The refusing to pay back my money, is something that would make me cut someone off
i knew the friendship was over when me and my boyfriend did for her a service .. that she was supposed to pay for and she didn't pay half of the money. and later she says i am disrespectful for asking for it😊
Am in🎉
Premier gang...❤
I knew the friendship was over when i had just lost my phone at an event we had gone for, i was crying and her very first instinct was to get her phone, record me crying and then post it on social media.
Friends who post their friends in compromising situations are the worst😡
“Sometimes in friendship you can tell when someone goes out of their way to exclude you from a plan” one of the reasons why I’m ending the friendship
Must you be included in everything just because you are friends with someone???
@@ichooseviolence2532 what’s everything? I’m not included in anything!
@@ms.Waldorf do you include them?
@@ichooseviolence2532 I had a side hustle so every time I got money I always want to spend time with her, or want to take her out but the energy is not reciprocated, I talked to her more than once about it. Actions speak louder than words!
@@ms.Waldorf most women never reciprocate energy even to their men. Y'all know just to consume
😅😅Not me relating to the Michael and Paul wedding
I cut Shelby off immediately when Paul met her before the wedding..
I knew our friendship was over when she accused me of robbing a piece of land that we had bought as a group....yet the land is intact.
I knew the friendship was over when she was not truly happy when something good happened to me.
If there is a condition for the "friendship" to end, then it was never a friendship in the first place.
Can we talk about business and friendships, do you guys advocate being in business with your friend, I was called bossy just because I handled business differently
I think alot of this could be avoided if y'all stop throwing the word "friend" loosely.
Some are just family,acquaintances,collegues, school mates period,someone you used to know not FRIENDS..
When you throw in the label friends,you have expectations and when they are not met y'all start labeling them as Toxic friends..they warent friends in the first place hunnie!!
Right?
Louder 🗣️
Your right!