When I was a child my grandmother would say... "Men are incredibly jealous of Women. Which fuels their hate of us." I remember a guy downplayed my years of military service....a accomplishment and sacrifice that I'm incredibly proud of. My response: "Ummm, but you couldn't even make it past basic training, right?" The silence was epic. Needless to say we never spoke again.
Yeah, bringing up my military service makes a lot of people mad, especially men. But I’m always going to be proud of it, I’m glad you are too. Never let them dull your shine.
Yes no wonder they say we ladies should date up because these riffraff men try to downplay us everytime and will work hard to bring you down to their level by any means....most men are very insecure
I remember a man I was in relationship with broke down & told me he wished he was as strong as me. He was a big strong man but they’re intimidated by our inner strength. Oh & thank you for your service.
The sad part is trying to get away from the actor and the judge keeps denying your petition for a divorce because his act is so good. No escape is scary.
Mmkaaaay- my dad always says “be able to stand on your own”. They’ll call you masculine but want you to split everything. They’ll surely throw it in your face if you’re “feminine” and not paying for anything. And they’ll abandon you with children or worse. It pays to be paid chile.
Word of advice: if he hates his mother or has an unhealthy relationship with her = he will also hate you/ or have an unhealthy relationship with you also
He can also love her the most and hate you.. bewitchment..goes both ways..someone women=the mothers- like being your BF's girlfriend even though they have husband's...
My ex had the sweetest mother (I miss her 🥺) and she told me that he never really hugged her. I remember being like “If you don’t hug her! Give your mother some affection!” A few weeks later, she told me that he’d been hugging her a lot more ☺️❤️
My ex husband *HATED ME,* and hated himself. He tried to extinguish my inner light. He had no clue I would actually leave him, but I did!! 😂❤ It was so strange to be married to someone who _said_ they "loved me" but treated me like absolute 💩💩💩💩!! 6 years out from 14 years of a living hell on earth and I am SO happy!! I'm remarried to a man who truly, fully, authentically loves me and it's incredible! Don't stay with men who hate you. It's not worth it.
My ex and I were COMPLETELY different! It didn't help that he mirrored me to get me to fall for him. Narc. 😅 It got to the point where we talked about both compromising what we wanted/needed to meet in the middle....but in actuality, I was the ONLY one who compromised....and I was being erased. We did everything he wanted and he still claimed he didn't get "his way". Also, he'd always make snide comments when I'd be doing my makeup when we went somewhere... like, why do you care?!?? Yeah, he hated me.
I've been with a man 10 years ....& He's always been an asshole unless I have something he wants....he has lived with me in a house my family owned & he has NEVER had to pay a bill and when I got tired of the constant DISRESPECT I called the police he had a warrant so he went to jail for 2 days came back promised to b BETTER.....WAS good for a week and the mask fell ....like always being in a relationship with someone who LOVES Yu BUT HATES YU to it's like dealing with a bad child every time they say there gonna be BETTER but there only good for a week then go back to there normal self....
My hubby left me the night before I graduated with my associates. The kids spent the day super sad and down. I felt upset and pissed. Right before I walked the stage, like seconds before. he was texting me if we’re going to the court that day to figure out child support, like yes I’ll meet you there with my cap and gown on 🙄 I almost did too to rub it in his face. But stayed with fam to celebrate. He said he realized when I picked my cap and gown that I was going places and he wasn’t 🤦🏽♀️
He's not lying though. He did you the biggest favour. Some parasites will refuse to leave you and suck the life force out of you until you have nothing left. My ex was one such parasite. I quite literally had to run away from him. 2 years later I own 2 properties fully paid off and have an incredible man for a partner. You too will heal, flourish and thrive!
You got more of a TRUE explanation than most women ever get when it comes to perceived inferiority. Him admitting this (albeit terrible timing) is actually commendable. The alternative is extremely dark. He could've spent the rest of the time you gave him attempting to devalue and humble you out of envy.
4 years, we're engaged, never got Christmas or birthday presents or anything. Thank God I'm really starting to see it. I was young when we got together, but I am learning and I am bettering myself
@@MusicAddict2213 at least you are noticing sweetheart. You deserve better. I would even take it a step further they should not make you wait until a holiday to show you are special with tasks or simple gifts that alleviate things on your plate. Most men get with women to alleviate their responsibilities. Go with your gut you don't have to get married or have kids you decide 💕.
I've had quite a few people give underhanded comments about my associates degree One person gone say "oh that's all I thought you would have a masters" I'm 1 year away from having my bachelor's and I'm proud. Other people at work would say "oh I already have a degree" this is after I shared that I was pursuing my bachelor's and had started self studying tax laws. Needless to say I learned to keep my business to myself.
When I bought my first car and everyone congratulated me, he said “I could never get into that small car, none of my ex ever drove that Chinese brand”🙃 Whole time he was okay with me using taxis… That’s when I knew it’s time to leave.
I remember getting dressed nice and meeting my man at the Metro. I walked up to his car and got in smiling and feeling great about myself. He said " Ahhh, I see why nobody likes you, you think you cute" I decided right then and there it was over. Turned around and got back on the train
Imagine the man that wants to isolate you, destroy your self-esteem, calls you fat, calls you stupid, and keeps you financially dependent on him is your father. This is why I'm single.
My ex husband was like that. My father used to pin me and my siblings against each other. If it's your father and your an adult, get a job that'swalking distance. If your in the city use public transportation. You may be eligible for federal assistance.
I work in retail/customer service and my ex came to my job to break up with me halfway through my shift. I was so pissed because he literally could have waited 3 hours to tell me. What a loser
It's all about what works for him. He wanted a drama free break up, and didn't care what it did to your day. Doing it at work ensured you couldn't really say anything.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 He could've done it right before the end of the shift to avoid drama. Show up 5 min before the working day ends, break up and leave. I'd want to be able to be alone after being broken up with... imagine having to deal with colleagues and having to be polite and pleasant :(
@@tee_1999 It sounds like a nightmare break up. Maximum damage for sure. He could have maliciously did it on purpose, but I never underestimate a selfish man's ability to just think only of himself. He didn't want drama and he wasn't thinking of her well being at all. So mid shift means she can't go chase him down and start a fight, since she's off in 5 anyway. If you've had to struggle through your shift, you probably just want to go and be alone and finally get to cry. So whenever he does have to deal w/ her, she's probably more subdued.
Some men are in competition with their women. They have an entitled inflated ego in general and always feel competitive with anyone that's better in certain aspects.
My ex stopped taking me around his friends because they complimented me, listened to me, supported my dreams, and made me feel good about myself. I had to ask to come to his friend’s wedding instead of being invited. When I came over, we did absolutely nothing, but when I was away, he went on all kinds of fun outings and never invited me.
@@JamaicanToast Yes, imagine she could find people who truly value her and finally see that her partner is the worst thing ever. That would be SO infortunate.
I had an associate of mine’s flat out told me a long time ago that though he likes sleeping with Women he doesn’t particularly like Women.. I literally heard it from the horses mouth..
I don't particularly like men either (their nature). Unfortunately, I'm hetero, so my only 2 options are to either tolerate sharing my life with a demographic that I don't like, or remain single by choice. I chose the latter (10yrs and counting). Since their testosterone gives them a high smex drive, their only 2 options are to pay for smex, or fake relationships with women they don't like (just for the free smex). They usually choose the latter.
Read the book “what men dont want women to know” by Smith and Doe. it’ll humble you. Men don’t like women, the 2 authors (who are men themselves) say if they could reproduce among themselves they’d just reduce us to slaves or something. They only need us to have their babies. It’s an eye opener. They also tell women to never have mercy on men.
I'm single because of men like this. Everyone thought I would be miserable. To my pleasant surprise, I'm truly living my best life! I am flourishing! Society casts me out because I'm a single mom but yet I feel very blessed with everything I've been given. So if single moms are supposed to be "bad people" why does our God keep blessing my family and I? 🤔 Exactly!
Girl, there are PLENTY of women who are married and STILL single mothers because those dusty husbands don't pick up a finger to help them in any way. They might as well leave him and be like you-FREE and happily single, with a bonus family member lol Keep your head up, boo 💯❣️
I'm not talking about pretending. The difference in a man when he doesn't HAVE to pretend is what I mean. The difference is astronomical. You can't fake that kind of funk. They will go beyond out if their way for you. And show you off as much as they can. Taking you around his friends will be one of his favorite hobbies, etc @@cierrabennett206
My cousins girlfriend was discussing their relationship and he told her "Imma do you worse than I did (First baby momma) cause wtf you leaving me for?" Now we trynna save her 😢
Guilty b/c I knew that's all he could afford. I thought it was for the love shiiid I didn't even get that I got 10yrs worth of worry, headache amd dick 💯 lesson learned frfr
The lady whose ex was mean to her for no reason on her birthday and now she is married to her husband I am glad she is in a loving relationship now. She is so right don't waste your time with a man who don't respect or love you.
They damn sure don't notice. That's why I tell women make an exit plan. Get a therapist and all of that... Emotionally disattach. What's funny is, during that time of preparing to leave, they swear the relationship is so good. They are super happy. You can definitely make a clean break if you plan it out.
sis at the 10 minute mark helped me realize these situations have one thing in common: they take the time to study you to figure out how to harm you. Then they try it at different degrees until they ruin the relationship. Ig thats why my relationships last a year at minimum. I take forever to open up, so when i do and you use the info to hurt me? Logic tells me it’s on purpose
17:51 this woman is 💯. The man that breaks up on your birthday or holiday or other important wants to see you suffer and hurt your celebration-hates you
I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news. Him: How’s your day? Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion. Him: That would make anybody’s day great. No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Accused me needing validation. When he was the most validating seeking person I’d ever met.
Thank you so much 😊 that was when I learned that men be jealous of you because they’re doing things to hinder you but the universe will keep blessing you in their faces!
@@belindaperry9555Mine was like that. It was so many things she could have done to help my sister and I that didn't even involve money but she would never lift a finger, our success came from us alone and she always seemed baffled that we didn't fall apart or become bums. As I've thought about it over the years I've come to the realization that she didn't think very highly of herself and she couldn't imagine something that came out of her could be anything so it's so much darker probably than I could ever understand.
It's biblical y'all...if u believed and u just truly didn't know why understand that in the Bible it talks about how a man can lay with u and give u children but absolutely hate u...when u start looking at life and reference the scripture im telling u u will learn from the fables that is there that is what they are....Leah and Rachel look it up 🙏🏽 but it's okay be strong 💪🏽keep going forward
You can’t lean on Leah & Rachel and forget about how Eve is allegedly responsible for all the sin in the world because she was curious. Or forget about Lilith who was cast out for wanting equality. The Bible is not your friend, and as a woman, all religions hate you. In solidarity❤
@@sandras.9312 It's literally true though. I've read the bible and it is mysogynistic front to back. King Solomon and all those women he had? Esther ? Sarah? Leah and Rebecca ? Come on now.. Esther didnt win the king.. she was a back up wife he didnt even know all because Vashti refused to attend an event. Sarah wasn't given a child til 90??!! How cruel is that? Mary Magdeline almost got stoned to death. Women were "cursed" because of Eve as if Adam didn't have a mouth to say no. Meanwhile all men have to do is "work" which they still don't do? PLEASE !
They like the benefits; they hate that they're dependent on you for those benefits, whatever those are. If you're doing better than they are, they'll take what you offer as long as it's free, they'll hate you even more. THESE are the types who're Beasts and Monsters!
My expiry date for a relationship is 6 months. After 6 months I take a mental assessment of all the aggravating things I feel in the relationship. If they’re more than the positive things I end the relationship bam💥 … & it don’t matter if I feel love for the person. As long as I feel he’s not fighting for me I’m DONE. Life is too short to waste.
The more a woman heals, the better quality men will approach them..... When you love yourself, men who are healed and ready to love you will be the ones who come to you and the ones you pick. The quality of men you attract and what you will even entertain changes drastically (speaking from experience ❤).
Luke 6:22 says, "Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man". However, Luke 6:27-28 also says, "But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you".
My ex repeatedly tried to cheat on me after a whole year of dating. After a year of building him up, he got entitled (what's funny is that he never actually got any, haha). I finally broke up with him after SIX MONTHS of giving him chances and tolerating his treatment and, when a mutual friend and I started getting close, he pitched the biggest hissy fit. He was so mad that I almost immediately found someone better than him and it was a mutual friend of all people. A mutual friend who ditched him as well. Avoid ANYONE who just wants to see you miserable, y'all. Like. The. Plague.
I am in medical school and I just go into a Doctorate in Public Health program. I remember I got invited to celebrate my acceptance and a guy knowing i'm going to this celebration wanted to go out and I told him I couldn't because of the celebration and he literally told me, "its not like you're Oprah. continues to berate me." Then when I curse him out, he tells me, "you misunderstood me" when I tell you, the way I told this man his mom's greatest mistake was not swallowing him. Never talked to that man again
When I started my business my ex would do little things to ruin my work. I would ask him for help with smaller things I would ask him to load the car he would leave some of the most important things. I started to realize I did a much better job alone than with help. That’s when I chose to leave. He wanted me to fail. He wanted me to just go to work be miserable and come back home to clean up after him. He hated that my business took my time. I would have never started my business if he had started one. I would have helped him with his. But he had no ambition. Always late on rent. Always playing his damn video games while I worked my ass off to go 50/50 😅. It was never 50/50. Maybe on the bills but never the labor at home.
My ex use to bring up my achievement too. I got a summa cum laude bachelor's degree and had to hear about how I think I am better than everyone else. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
"You think you're so special? You think you're better than everyone? You never made a mistake before!? You think you're perfect!?" Oh my god. Those are common questions from jealous miserable people. They really want to you to humble yourself...to make you shrink yourself.
@@Ohkay5613 _"You think you're ____!"_ 😩 Those are a crybabies jealous _accusations of fact about YOU_ in their minds. Simply AGREE with them and smile😁 Hopefully, they will get ticked off and realize they've lost the game they're playing and leave you alone. If they insist on hanging around then they are ready to unleash even more evil wrath. Run!
Another sign that he doesn't like you is when he starts throwing your insecurities in your face as a insult. I had an ex who started talking s*** about the way I looked physically the things he knew that made me so self conscious . He did this Infront of his whole family too
Here's my experience. I wasn't dating the guy, but once I stopped giving him access to me, he started stalking and harassing me. He hacked into my phone and email. He was bashing me online with other people. He put my pictures on dating sites, pretending to be me. He even sent stuff to my address whenever he signed me up for something. He had people helping him stalk and harass me. All because i didnt want him in my life anymore.
@@roselynholloway7863 it's more like a community effort. Too many people. This is Jamaica. I'm stressed and harassed so when they trigger me they video my reactions to build a case against me saying I'm mad. Classic narcissistic attack only they have money. Money talks in Jamaica. And it's just me against a whole community
@@jmariew Totally block and ignore him forever. Hopefully he'll go away. Document anything he does in case you need the cops to help you. They will call him and give him a warning if you ask.
I the 60s women used to go to each others houses to say how unhappy they were with marriage and other unfair things because of their sex. It was called an awareness group. So women who thought it was just them gas lighted told to put up shit up realised it was a universal issue and it started the 70s feminist activism of things like child support. unfair pay gap. And expectations in relationships marriage motherhood . These podcast are doing the same for women internationally , making women girls more aware more empowered snd want better in the now and future.
It's very hard for most women to understand how deeply a man can hate, be jealous, not like you, etc and still be married to you or in a relationship. And that's because most women will not stay. The only time we come close is for our children. And that has an expiration date.
Yeah that right there is super crazy. Then he got the audacity to be mad at her for having a crush on someone smdh sick ass men out here. Y'all be safe ladies and choose wisely.
As a women myself I don't understand it...We should b trying to lift each other up we go through the same struggles....only we know what we go through...& Every time one of these dogs break out hearts we run to another woman ♀️to talk to ....
He sounds crazzzzy. Almost married a similar man except this dude waas in church 3 times every weeek. I made it clear I was not religious. I dont believe being religious makes u a good person. Turns out his church going was just a cover for his wiiicked heart. I wont go into details, but I dumped him eventually. He is still stalking me all over social media 5 yrs later talking about how “i was so patient”. D dude has not learnt anything in 5 yrs. He took my kindness for Weakness. And thought he could come back to use me. I do hope he finds watever he is looking for.
Girly, I had a guy who ghosted me 3 years ago after a 2.5y relationship. He called me out of the blue last month because he was in my town, and wanted someone to hang out with. I was like, nah, boy 😅
Lol what!? They must be out of their rabid ass mind lol!!! One time the weirdo called me retarded and bomarded my ig with 'hateful comments' then a week later texts me and says hey come eat with me and watch football. Gross! I didn't even respond, btws i told him prior that i absolutely hate watching football. 😂😂 i don't know what in the malignant narcissisim was wrong with him.
Sis, we know they always always come back😅 Ladies, I RENAME them in my contacts by their offenses: "Chronic Liar. Broke. GotMarried. Moocher. Bi-WeirdFreak" Your ex's name should've been _"Casper or Ghost"_ 👻 Yes, block them, but until you're certain its really over over NEVER delete an ex in your contacts. You don't want to mistakenly give them unworthy access by taking their calls/texts. Last, sis, you do know that male still hated you. He was calling to ego stroke himself with the "Bet I can have her anytime I want" bull💩 Glad you gave him the middle finger.
Possessive. My x I just broke up with, may very well hate me for having boundaries. I had at least one x who flat out said he hates women over the dumbest triggers. For curmstances that could be in a man's life. Another one who displayed jealousy over a pretty woman who had a expensive bag going into a restaurant that he called cheap. Men may respect difficult women because they know. My recent guy tried to offer lots of help but turned around to complain about what he volunteered to do because I had nice nails. The same nails I had when we MET. YEP He disrespected me for asking questions like a normal person. Implied I sounded stupid. Didnt want to give a genuine apology. So I kindly left. He tried to offer to 'hang out' Issa Hell no for me.
I never understood negging but I always saw it with couples so I figured it was a form of endearment. Glad to know that it didn’t sit right with me for a reason. That sarcasm is a passive aggressive means to insult the other person.
Bingo. A lot of people think this is normal but it’s not. Women let things go for the sake of not wanting to be considered “too sensitive” or not being able to take a joke…there’s lots of truth in those “I’m just playing”
what's worse is frankly I think women can neg without wanting to hurt others. I mess around with my girlfriends and we "neg" each other but I noticed men CANNOT HANDLE IT!!! men aren't joking, their girlfriends neg them back but a lot of them are totally oblivious that to the guy, it's not actually a joke. I have noticed that women have a better sense of humor in general which I think really, really pisses men off.
This would be even better if they showed pics of what the ex who hated them looked like, resume and social media posts so we can get a better sense of these type of men.
My ex husband asked for a divorce while I was at a Ronald McDonald’s house our daughter was 10 days old born at 23 weeks having PDA litigation to save her life. He said it was because our older children one his one mine didn’t get along. This man chased me for years throughout high school got me married me gave me a child and treated me like gum on the bottom of his size 15 shoe. Smh I forgave but I didn’t forget I moved on with my life and left him to it. 💯
Such things are very triggering....most men will chase you for years just to ruin your life...its the only thing they get pleasure from TBH....so so annoying...glad you moved on...what an insensitive jerk
I had an ex that held the biggest grudge for not meeting his (uninvited) dad & family on my birthday because my friends came over to my house to cheer me up from a medical issue I was having (allergic reaction). But I was the bad guy for not coming to speak while looking tore up 🙃🙃🙃 I told him he could go to he||.
I knew my ex hated me when we were friends with someone that was deleted. The deleted person's bf wrote this really heartfelt social media post about her. I asked him if that ever happened to me, what would you do. He said nothing. I'd would go to your memorial just because but don't expect anything else, no fb memorial, no picture collage. At that point, I was done 😒
So many people say "the love and passion fades". Nah, usually they DO NOT. What you experienced then was no love and passion. It was lust and some sort of infatuation or high on the concept of dating someone, neither love nor passion. True love and passion are really durable and they may change slightly, but they are usually not altered completely to the point of feeling non-existent by everyday life and by time.😅
My dad has never liked my mom and I saw that since I was 9 years old. He would always down her. Yet use her. She worked double shifts to pay the bills for years. He was unemployed for a whole decade. Till this shes still married to him smh
Baby I had two of them like that. One told everyone he paid for a lot more than what he was paying for. He tried to ruin my bachelors degree graduation party and he was mad I didn’t give him credit for me finishing school. But he didn’t support me any of the way with it. The other was jealous when I got a promotion, when I got a new car and a new apartment. It was so weird.
They enjoy it. I remember after my c-section, my son's dad looked at me, annoyed when I started walking to the bathroom slow and in pain. He was there sitting down, just eye rolling at me. I said, "This man hates me."
My ex husband stood up at my college graduation to open his mouth and say "without him I wouldn't be here". He didn't read no books, do no paper, pay for zero classes or books, I would still have to come home from working 10 hours per day to cook dinner for our children. Our children that he was left "babysitting". Getting a divorce was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. ❤
My ex was extremely jealous of me he couldn't stand for his family members to compliment me and say nice things about me. He took a whole bunch of pride in seeing me depressed and struggling I grew tired and left his miserable ass ! Why should I want to be with a man who doesn't want to see me happy and successful nope not wasting my energy on dusties and lames anymore I'm done with that I deserve better ❤
I thank God for ALL of you. The strength that it’s took for you all to be honest in the truth is heroic. These are the things we have to face, it’s humbling hopefully 🤞 it’s an awakening because Everyone you date DOESNT ALWAYS CARE OR LIKE YOU. Every woman no matter what race or creed needs to know this. Thank you 🙏 for having the courage. You are definitely loved and appreciated ❤ thank you again ❤🙏
I wfh as a software engineer. I was dating a guy who was a bus driver. On his off days he stayed at my place because we had different off days it was hard to see each other. I would take long lunches so I could be with him and watch movies with him. I didn’t go shopping or run errands or anything, I spent an extra hour of the work day in bed with him watching tv.. one day this mf gone say “I’m going to tell your boss you sleep on the clock” he assumed my coworker I complained about was my boss, I never told him my boss name. My real boss told me I could take a break whenever as long as it wasn’t over 4hours. Anyway we aren’t together anymore because I knew only a jealous person would say or do something like that. Someone saying they would contact your job about you is not anything to take lightly, they trying to ruin your life
This is crazy my son‘s father offered to take our son for the summer so I can get a little more money possibly go to school and do a one week vacation to Alaska and this Wednesday. He called me claiming a mental health scare and to get our son by the time I’ve got my kid he mentioned leaving the states maybe going to Maine or Alaska and he don’t know if he’s ever coming back. Not to mention my cruise to Alaska is next month .Our son is 10 and the past five years. I’ve been fighting depression and anxiety, trying hard to get back to my natural state of mind and now he doesn’t want to be a parent anymore. He’s not on child support and I don’t keep our kid from him. and cuss me and my mom out yesterday. SMH I’m so unbothered all I can do is pray for the best and be the best I can for our kid. Because I don’t have time to argue or the energy to start one.
Even though I was shown (from the beginning) how my ex really felt about me, I ignored ALL of the flashing, red signs. But...one day...I asked GOD to help me see to clearly and for the strength to handle what I saw...and...HE gave me the backbone to walk away without any regrets.
I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news. Him: How’s your day? Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion. Him: That would make anybody’s day great. No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Never paid me any compliments. It was horrible because he never tried to hide it. And this was a guy a turned down for a date at least half a dozen times. I guess he showed me.
That woman at 1:37 is so right. When you have a man who is a good person and treats you right, that's when you truly see and understand the extent of shit all your previous experiences have been. I regret every man that has crossed my path on my way to my current partner. I wish I'd been wise enough to not even look their way. The way you heal when you are with a good man is truly remarkable. I wish that for all women.
To the girl that has her Masters degree…Congratulations sis❤❤ So proud of you. The first attempt to break you down, you got out and humbled him in the process. Funny how he was trying to humble you and got served a cold dish of Not today 😂❤
I have had some bum a$$ dudes associate as my friends ( I ended all those friendships once I caught on) and one thing I have noticed about all of them. They will avoid the healed woman like the plague. When they see you are smart, emotionally intelligent and have standards they will try to bring you down or "humble" you but the minute you call them out, in private they call you a b*tch. I say this to illustrate that self growth, reflection and introspection is a natural repellent to most bums. Do with that information what you must
The woman speaking at the start of the 15 minute mark, I can relate. I had a "best" friend during secondary school/college. We fell out many times - mainly because of her, for silly reasons but then I drew the line. When I finally turned my back on her toxic friendship, she used a mutual friend at the time, to pry for information about how well (or not) I was doing. Thankfully the mutual friend told me or I would never have known. Saw her in a completely different light after that.
i don’t understand dudes who are confused by your standards when you DON’T want a man without a job/career… they’re so used to doormats, they’ll claim you’re “crazy” when you don’t want to be one!
I cared for someone so much, and on my birthday I was invited to where this guy would be aka (a home/studio) This man made sure to have loud intercourse on my birthday for absolutely no reason. The most hurtful thing. Til this day, months later it still hurts. This is after escaping a dv relationship, only to meet a man who wants to humble me cause he saw I overcame that deadly obstacle. I’m no longer lying to myself about someone’s feelings towards me. Some men really get off on causing you some kind of anguish this same guy actually said he likes stealing women’s serenity
But you know this is why I love the song green eyes, by Erykah Badu because it expresses the scope of emotions that comes with heartbreak, but she says "you can't be what I need you to, and I don't know why I f*** with you" like fr because after the guy locked me out on his birthday and all that he likes sweet talk to me and you know I was younger so I was like dumb like he was actually able to sweet talk me into hanging out with him after the way he was acting that day
When I was a child my grandmother would say...
"Men are incredibly jealous of Women. Which fuels their hate of us."
I remember a guy downplayed my years of
military service....a accomplishment and sacrifice that I'm incredibly proud of.
My response:
"Ummm, but you couldn't even make it past basic training, right?"
The silence was epic.
Needless to say we never spoke again.
Epic 😂
Yeah, bringing up my military service makes a lot of people mad, especially men. But I’m always going to be proud of it, I’m glad you are too. Never let them dull your shine.
Yes no wonder they say we ladies should date up because these riffraff men try to downplay us everytime and will work hard to bring you down to their level by any means....most men are very insecure
@@Blaquebarbgamer Thank you, Beloved! And the same to you!
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I remember a man I was in relationship with broke down & told me he wished he was as strong as me. He was a big strong man but they’re intimidated by our inner strength. Oh & thank you for your service.
A man will show you how he feels about you by how the way he treats you.
But women refuse to see this they feel they can change him
@@venda1008women think their love will help them heal.
Women need to stop being a saviour to people who are hell bent on destorying them.
@@vikki8699 Completely agree.
Especially when we are expecting their baby. My ex treated me so badly, he had me crying all the time. Listen to your intuition, ladies.
Women expect the man to be perfect. 😐
Women please please stop letting men move in with you!!! That dynamic is off! Only move in with your husband.
Truth!!! 💯
THIS!!!!
Dont! He’ll kick you out
Preaach👏👏👏👏👏
Learned my lesson
The sad part is never knowing the man you're with because he's an actor the whole time. That's so scary.
Yes. & they can play along for 10 years 😅
@Key-Key444 ohhh YES YES YESSSSSS they will literally act over a decade! I've seen it w my own eyes its scaryyyyyyy! 😢
The sad part is trying to get away from the actor and the judge keeps denying your petition for a divorce because his act is so good. No escape is scary.
@@noahaliya8193 terrifying
This part…
Some men can’t stand successful women. They call us masculine because we make money. My parents didn’t raise me to bum sir.. 😂
Mmkaaaay- my dad always says “be able to stand on your own”. They’ll call you masculine but want you to split everything. They’ll surely throw it in your face if you’re “feminine” and not paying for anything. And they’ll abandon you with children or worse. It pays to be paid chile.
We can’t win. If we make money, we’re masculine. If we don’t, then we’re gold diggers.
we make money & pretty!!! they hate that
So if a woman being ambitious, independent and successful makes her masculine and he's not any of those things. What does that make him?...
@@kaylam8707 jealous
Word of advice: if he hates his mother or has an unhealthy relationship with her = he will also hate you/ or have an unhealthy relationship with you also
He can also love her the most and hate you.. bewitchment..goes both ways..someone women=the mothers- like being your BF's girlfriend even though they have husband's...
Or if his mother coddled him and never held him accountable
Learned this the hard way
Facts!
My ex had the sweetest mother (I miss her 🥺) and she told me that he never really hugged her. I remember being like “If you don’t hug her! Give your mother some affection!” A few weeks later, she told me that he’d been hugging her a lot more ☺️❤️
My ex husband *HATED ME,* and hated himself. He tried to extinguish my inner light. He had no clue I would actually leave him, but I did!! 😂❤
It was so strange to be married to someone who _said_ they "loved me" but treated me like absolute 💩💩💩💩!!
6 years out from 14 years of a living hell on earth and I am SO happy!! I'm remarried to a man who truly, fully, authentically loves me and it's incredible!
Don't stay with men who hate you. It's not worth it.
My ex and I were COMPLETELY different! It didn't help that he mirrored me to get me to fall for him. Narc. 😅
It got to the point where we talked about both compromising what we wanted/needed to meet in the middle....but in actuality, I was the ONLY one who compromised....and I was being erased. We did everything he wanted and he still claimed he didn't get "his way".
Also, he'd always make snide comments when I'd be doing my makeup when we went somewhere... like, why do you care?!?? Yeah, he hated me.
I'm glad you got out of it ❤️
I love to read such stories 😘🔥😍happy for you queen❤️
I've been with a man 10 years ....& He's always been an asshole unless I have something he wants....he has lived with me in a house my family owned & he has NEVER had to pay a bill and when I got tired of the constant DISRESPECT I called the police he had a warrant so he went to jail for 2 days came back promised to b BETTER.....WAS good for a week and the mask fell ....like always being in a relationship with someone who LOVES Yu BUT HATES YU to it's like dealing with a bad child every time they say there gonna be BETTER but there only good for a week then go back to there normal self....
@LisaMireles-rb7tm you're married to this clown? 10 years???
My hubby left me the night before I graduated with my associates. The kids spent the day super sad and down. I felt upset and pissed. Right before I walked the stage, like seconds before. he was texting me if we’re going to the court that day to figure out child support, like yes I’ll meet you there with my cap and gown on 🙄 I almost did too to rub it in his face. But stayed with fam to celebrate. He said he realized when I picked my cap and gown that I was going places and he wasn’t 🤦🏽♀️
He's not lying though. He did you the biggest favour. Some parasites will refuse to leave you and suck the life force out of you until you have nothing left. My ex was one such parasite. I quite literally had to run away from him. 2 years later I own 2 properties fully paid off and have an incredible man for a partner. You too will heal, flourish and thrive!
All seem to.
Growth is so hard for men.
You got more of a TRUE explanation than most women ever get when it comes to perceived inferiority. Him admitting this (albeit terrible timing) is actually commendable. The alternative is extremely dark. He could've spent the rest of the time you gave him attempting to devalue and humble you out of envy.
Verrry underrated statement.
The birthday and even holidays will definitely show you how they feel about you
Yep
4 years, we're engaged, never got Christmas or birthday presents or anything. Thank God I'm really starting to see it. I was young when we got together, but I am learning and I am bettering myself
@@MusicAddict2213 at least you are noticing sweetheart. You deserve better. I would even take it a step further they should not make you wait until a holiday to show you are special with tasks or simple gifts that alleviate things on your plate. Most men get with women to alleviate their responsibilities. Go with your gut you don't have to get married or have kids you decide 💕.
Yep
Omg this touched my soul
Some dude tried to downplay my Masters degree also....I blocked him with a quickness!😅😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I've had quite a few people give underhanded comments about my associates degree
One person gone say "oh that's all I thought you would have a masters"
I'm 1 year away from having my bachelor's and I'm proud.
Other people at work would say "oh I already have a degree" this is after I shared that I was pursuing my bachelor's and had started self studying tax laws.
Needless to say I learned to keep my business to myself.
Both of you have done so well ❤
Msw gangggg 👩🏻🎓
@@bonkersalldaywhat are you studying
As you should
When I bought my first car and everyone congratulated me, he said “I could never get into that small car, none of my ex ever drove that Chinese brand”🙃 Whole time he was okay with me using taxis… That’s when I knew it’s time to leave.
His nuts😂 i hope you left him
Kunini ngiti yo! 😮
Wow! Just jealous.
Bitter men
I remember getting dressed nice and meeting my man at the Metro. I walked up to his car and got in smiling and feeling great about myself. He said " Ahhh, I see why nobody likes you, you think you cute"
I decided right then and there it was over. Turned around and got back on the train
Imagine the man that wants to isolate you, destroy your self-esteem, calls you fat, calls you stupid, and keeps you financially dependent on him is your father. This is why I'm single.
My ex husband was like that. My father used to pin me and my siblings against each other. If it's your father and your an adult, get a job that'swalking distance. If your in the city use public transportation. You may be eligible for federal assistance.
Well that's the government against your people
I was almost in that situation.. he was slowly working on breaking me down. THANK GOD 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Woooow! This destroys all men for you. This is unbelievable. Peace by unto you
Same
I work in retail/customer service and my ex came to my job to break up with me halfway through my shift. I was so pissed because he literally could have waited 3 hours to tell me. What a loser
What? His soo petty
They love to ruin your day
It's all about what works for him. He wanted a drama free break up, and didn't care what it did to your day. Doing it at work ensured you couldn't really say anything.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 He could've done it right before the end of the shift to avoid drama. Show up 5 min before the working day ends, break up and leave. I'd want to be able to be alone after being broken up with... imagine having to deal with colleagues and having to be polite and pleasant :(
@@tee_1999 It sounds like a nightmare break up. Maximum damage for sure. He could have maliciously did it on purpose, but I never underestimate a selfish man's ability to just think only of himself. He didn't want drama and he wasn't thinking of her well being at all. So mid shift means she can't go chase him down and start a fight, since she's off in 5 anyway. If you've had to struggle through your shift, you probably just want to go and be alone and finally get to cry. So whenever he does have to deal w/ her, she's probably more subdued.
Some men are in competition with their women. They have an entitled inflated ego in general and always feel competitive with anyone that's better in certain aspects.
Narcissism or just basic toxic men
Exactly 💯 I realized this too. Especially if they do not celebrate your successes when you're advancing in your career or education
My husband
or they are GAY and don't know it yet.
Oh they know it😂!!!
That too!
No. They are gay and they do know it.
This the one 💯
or they know any their caribbean roots wont allow for expression in any form other than abuse :-/
this place is f’d
My ex stopped taking me around his friends because they complimented me, listened to me, supported my dreams, and made me feel good about myself. I had to ask to come to his friend’s wedding instead of being invited. When I came over, we did absolutely nothing, but when I was away, he went on all kinds of fun outings and never invited me.
Wow, I'm sorry you went through that
You over stayed
Stop getting comfy with your partners friends,
@@JamaicanToast why not?
@@JamaicanToast Yes, imagine she could find people who truly value her and finally see that her partner is the worst thing ever. That would be SO infortunate.
Always listen and analyze what a man is saying when he’s angry at you. Some men just truly hate all women, and you can’t change that.
Thank you 😊. It's a shame and disgrace 😔. I'm blessed to have had wonderful men in my family growing up! This new generation is 🗑....
They all gay😂😂
Most men like variety. They’re nice to see how much they can get out of you. Male nature is violent. No more acting shocked
Feminine energy needs to surpass it
Real talk CHAOS AND WAR is what you invite to your life when involving self with one
Sobering
Facts on their true nature!
I had an associate of mine’s flat out told me a long time ago that though he likes sleeping with Women he doesn’t particularly like Women.. I literally heard it from the horses mouth..
I don't particularly like men either (their nature). Unfortunately, I'm hetero, so my only 2 options are to either tolerate sharing my life with a demographic that I don't like, or remain single by choice. I chose the latter (10yrs and counting).
Since their testosterone gives them a high smex drive, their only 2 options are to pay for smex, or fake relationships with women they don't like (just for the free smex). They usually choose the latter.
One of them told me the same thing. This is truth!
I don't like XYs either which is why I've been single by choice for the past 10yrs. I don't bat for the other team, so single by choice it is!
Yes I think it’s very strange. Like just admit you like men and move on
Read the book “what men dont want women to know” by Smith and Doe. it’ll humble you. Men don’t like women, the 2 authors (who are men themselves) say if they could reproduce among themselves they’d just reduce us to slaves or something. They only need us to have their babies. It’s an eye opener. They also tell women to never have mercy on men.
I'm single because of men like this. Everyone thought I would be miserable. To my pleasant surprise, I'm truly living my best life! I am flourishing! Society casts me out because I'm a single mom but yet I feel very blessed with everything I've been given. So if single moms are supposed to be "bad people" why does our God keep blessing my family and I? 🤔 Exactly!
Girl, there are PLENTY of women who are married and STILL single mothers because those dusty husbands don't pick up a finger to help them in any way. They might as well leave him and be like you-FREE and happily single, with a bonus family member lol Keep your head up, boo 💯❣️
@@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha Exactly! 🤗
Yep this me currently. I was scared and shameful but I’m so blessed and happy. He’s suffering and was living a double life.
👏 👏 👏
It’s the bad fathers who are out making more kids they can’t afford.
A lot of women would be heartbroken if they seen how the man who mistreats her treats a woman he actually LIKES❗❕
They are good at pretending to like others, too. Same script, different cast.
@@cierrabennett206exactly it be a phase
I'm not talking about pretending. The difference in a man when he doesn't HAVE to pretend is what I mean. The difference is astronomical. You can't fake that kind of funk. They will go beyond out if their way for you. And show you off as much as they can. Taking you around his friends will be one of his favorite hobbies, etc @@cierrabennett206
Doesn't change anything. They're still horrible...no woman he ends up with wins.
Until he gets bored with her as well and starts to treat the next woman😀
He only liked the idea of you
This hits hard.
Honestly I wish I never let my ex into my life. I deeply regret that
It’s okay. The best revenge is to love a great life. One that will make you say, “I can’t believe I was upset over him.”
Don't regret, you learned a lot of things about male nature.
This is so true. When my ex broke up with me, I cried for months. Now it’s seven years later, and all I can think is “why was I upset again?” 😅
Feeelt
@@trulykey8106 me too but those bad experiences have been a blessing in disguise
My cousins girlfriend was discussing their relationship and he told her "Imma do you worse than I did (First baby momma) cause wtf you leaving me for?"
Now we trynna save her 😢
Omg that is evil!! I hope you save her.
@@vikki8699 She has to want to be saved. Some women stay and some women leave
Move in silence 🤫
@@afrocentric23 THAT!!!
Omg my supervisor who is a pastor was trying to save a girl from her son. Thank You for your efforts we really have to look out for one another.
Please someone send this video to the girl who was pleading with her man to buy her a Walmart ring. 🤦🏿♀️😞
Don't settle for a Walmart ring. The gold rubs off.
Guilty b/c I knew that's all he could afford. I thought it was for the love shiiid I didn't even get that I got 10yrs worth of worry, headache amd dick 💯 lesson learned frfr
😮😢
Yep it’s evil
Downplaying of accomplishments seems to be a common one. I get so sick of that crap.
The lady whose ex was mean to her for no reason on her birthday and now she is married to her husband I am glad she is in a loving relationship now. She is so right don't waste your time with a man who don't respect or love you.
Bros don't even care If she mentally checks out. They normally don't even notice.
They damn sure don't notice. That's why I tell women make an exit plan. Get a therapist and all of that... Emotionally disattach. What's funny is, during that time of preparing to leave, they swear the relationship is so good. They are super happy. You can definitely make a clean break if you plan it out.
FR
Some "bros" do care that's y they committ n be jealous.. and dish out what they can't take
sis at the 10 minute mark helped me realize these situations have one thing in common: they take the time to study you to figure out how to harm you. Then they try it at different degrees until they ruin the relationship.
Ig thats why my relationships last a year at minimum. I take forever to open up, so when i do and you use the info to hurt me? Logic tells me it’s on purpose
Yep
Narc
You all are giving me strength. After 8 years, I am ready to leave. Almost a decade of my life wasted. Never again
Do it sister!🤌🏽♥️
Make an exit plan so you can have a clean break.
You can do this!!! ❤
Get up outta there ma'am ❤❤
Don't tell him him you're leaving! Make a plan and only tell him when you are already gone
17:51 this woman is 💯. The man that breaks up on your birthday or holiday or other important wants to see you suffer and hurt your celebration-hates you
Like getting divorce papers on Christmas Eve🙄STILL had a good holiday and he STILL hate me😂oh well
15:23 What’s worse is when those people are your “family” members.
THAT PART!
This the comment right here this is the one. I felt this and lived this with my own sister and granny!!
Majority of my immediate family. I think they never had good expectations for me.
Yes
Family for some people is simply a noun, while for others it is a verb. Know who are the nouns and verbs in your family
I have nobody in my life like this. Its a blessing i cant relate to this anymore
To any women reading this, you are a strong, capable, amazing, beautiful woman. Never ever forget that.💕💖🌷
I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news.
Him: How’s your day?
Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion.
Him: That would make anybody’s day great.
No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Accused me needing validation. When he was the most validating seeking person I’d ever met.
Congratulations 🎉 On your promotion. I know it was a while ago but keep moving on up!
Thank you so much 😊 that was when I learned that men be jealous of you because they’re doing things to hinder you but the universe will keep blessing you in their faces!
Congratulations on your promotion, are you still with him?
IT'S NOT JUST MEN. ITS FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS TOO😂
Those ones especially
Yes, let's talk about your mother hating you and sabotaging your whole life, because you surpassed her.🙄
@@belindaperry9555Mine was like that. It was so many things she could have done to help my sister and I that didn't even involve money but she would never lift a finger, our success came from us alone and she always seemed baffled that we didn't fall apart or become bums.
As I've thought about it over the years I've come to the realization that she didn't think very highly of herself and she couldn't imagine something that came out of her could be anything so it's so much darker probably than I could ever understand.
It's biblical y'all...if u believed and u just truly didn't know why understand that in the Bible it talks about how a man can lay with u and give u children but absolutely hate u...when u start looking at life and reference the scripture im telling u u will learn from the fables that is there that is what they are....Leah and Rachel look it up 🙏🏽 but it's okay be strong 💪🏽keep going forward
Yes yes 🎉🎉🎉🎉
You can’t lean on Leah & Rachel and forget about how Eve is allegedly responsible for all the sin in the world because she was curious. Or forget about Lilith who was cast out for wanting equality. The Bible is not your friend, and as a woman, all religions hate you. In solidarity❤
@@mambisa2690you literally have no idea what you’re talking about.
@@sandras.9312 It's literally true though. I've read the bible and it is mysogynistic front to back. King Solomon and all those women he had? Esther ? Sarah? Leah and Rebecca ? Come on now.. Esther didnt win the king.. she was a back up wife he didnt even know all because Vashti refused to attend an event. Sarah wasn't given a child til 90??!! How cruel is that? Mary Magdeline almost got stoned to death. Women were "cursed" because of Eve as if Adam didn't have a mouth to say no. Meanwhile all men have to do is "work" which they still don't do? PLEASE !
so true, good point sis ❤
First things First...Ladies!!! Narcissist out.. Gaslighters out...
Then when you leave them they will still try to get with you.🤣🤣
👍🏾 Can't let all of your FREE labor and *groceries* get away. 😏😏
They will literally dispise you but they refuse to leave. I dont understand it.
Literallly I’m 29 and have never been broken up with. THEY WILL ALWAYS STAY 😂 they’re weak
@Blankspaceb I really wish a man would weigh on this and tell us why. If you're so unhappy just leave! It makes no sense
@@oneandonly1990 they would have to sit alone with their own thoughts. They can’t handle it
They like the benefits; they hate that they're dependent on you for those benefits, whatever those are. If you're doing better than they are, they'll take what you offer as long as it's free, they'll hate you even more. THESE are the types who're Beasts and Monsters!
@@WhateverLibraThen, young woman.... Pay attention ❤
My expiry date for a relationship is 6 months. After 6 months I take a mental assessment of all the aggravating things I feel in the relationship. If they’re more than the positive things I end the relationship bam💥 … & it don’t matter if I feel love for the person. As long as I feel he’s not fighting for me I’m DONE.
Life is too short to waste.
I like this.
Make it 1 month for me… and that’s me being generous 😂
U gone know when they hate u cause they ain't going to hide it
Facts
The more a woman heals, the better quality men will approach them..... When you love yourself, men who are healed and ready to love you will be the ones who come to you and the ones you pick. The quality of men you attract and what you will even entertain changes drastically (speaking from experience ❤).
Can you share what you did to heal?
Luke 6:22 says, "Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man". However, Luke 6:27-28 also says, "But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you".
Amen. However, Bible says not to hang around sinners and evil people.
@@cjpark1461yes! Pray for them and free yourself by forgiving them and moving on to live your best life.
Amen
@@cjpark1461true, still need to forgive them but not let them back in our lives.
@@aleks_with_k Right...minimize interaction and still be as Godly as possible which is difficult with toxic people. It takes self control from God.
My ex repeatedly tried to cheat on me after a whole year of dating. After a year of building him up, he got entitled (what's funny is that he never actually got any, haha).
I finally broke up with him after SIX MONTHS of giving him chances and tolerating his treatment and, when a mutual friend and I started getting close, he pitched the biggest hissy fit. He was so mad that I almost immediately found someone better than him and it was a mutual friend of all people. A mutual friend who ditched him as well.
Avoid ANYONE who just wants to see you miserable, y'all. Like. The. Plague.
Good for you! F he thought!
I am in medical school and I just go into a Doctorate in Public Health program. I remember I got invited to celebrate my acceptance and a guy knowing i'm going to this celebration wanted to go out and I told him I couldn't because of the celebration and he literally told me, "its not like you're Oprah. continues to berate me." Then when I curse him out, he tells me, "you misunderstood me" when I tell you, the way I told this man his mom's greatest mistake was not swallowing him. Never talked to that man again
When I started my business my ex would do little things to ruin my work. I would ask him for help with smaller things I would ask him to load the car he would leave some of the most important things. I started to realize I did a much better job alone than with help. That’s when I chose to leave. He wanted me to fail. He wanted me to just go to work be miserable and come back home to clean up after him. He hated that my business took my time. I would have never started my business if he had started one. I would have helped him with his. But he had no ambition. Always late on rent. Always playing his damn video games while I worked my ass off to go 50/50 😅. It was never 50/50. Maybe on the bills but never the labor at home.
My ex use to bring up my achievement too. I got a summa cum laude bachelor's degree and had to hear about how I think I am better than everyone else. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
"You think you're so special? You think you're better than everyone? You never made a mistake before!? You think you're perfect!?"
Oh my god. Those are common questions from jealous miserable people. They really want to you to humble yourself...to make you shrink yourself.
Congratulations on your accomplishments ❤
@@Ohkay5613 _"You think you're ____!"_ 😩
Those are a crybabies jealous _accusations of fact about YOU_ in their minds. Simply AGREE with them and smile😁 Hopefully, they will get ticked off and realize they've lost the game they're playing and leave you alone. If they insist on hanging around then they are ready to unleash even more evil wrath. Run!
same here, he did absolutely same. He told me "who gives a fuck that you have a degree" 😂
Another sign that he doesn't like you is when he starts throwing your insecurities in your face as a insult. I had an ex who started talking s*** about the way I looked physically the things he knew that made me so self conscious . He did this Infront of his whole family too
Here's my experience. I wasn't dating the guy, but once I stopped giving him access to me, he started stalking and harassing me. He hacked into my phone and email. He was bashing me online with other people. He put my pictures on dating sites, pretending to be me. He even sent stuff to my address whenever he signed me up for something. He had people helping him stalk and harass me. All because i didnt want him in my life anymore.
This is my current life.
Did you report him
@@roselynholloway7863 it's more like a community effort. Too many people. This is Jamaica. I'm stressed and harassed so when they trigger me they video my reactions to build a case against me saying I'm mad. Classic narcissistic attack only they have money. Money talks in Jamaica. And it's just me against a whole community
@@jmariew Totally block and ignore him forever. Hopefully he'll go away. Document anything he does in case you need the cops to help you. They will call him and give him a warning if you ask.
I got a lawyer for my stalker. Been stalled for 10+ yrs n I was over it. My lawyer set him straight!
I the 60s women used to go to each others houses to say how unhappy they were with marriage and other unfair things because of their sex. It was called an awareness group.
So women who thought it was just them gas lighted told to put up shit up realised it was a universal issue and it started the 70s feminist activism of things like child support. unfair pay gap. And expectations in relationships marriage motherhood
. These podcast are doing the same for women internationally , making women girls more aware more empowered snd want better in the now and future.
The lady in the bed w the glasses on read my entire life😂😂outsmarted him badd
Mine too. Word for word.
It's very hard for most women to understand how deeply a man can hate, be jealous, not like you, etc and still be married to you or in a relationship. And that's because most women will not stay. The only time we come close is for our children. And that has an expiration date.
Imagine your boyfriend is sleeping with your friend and during their pillow talks they gossiping about you 🙆🏾♀️🤮 that's wild
Yeah that right there is super crazy. Then he got the audacity to be mad at her for having a crush on someone smdh sick ass men out here. Y'all be safe ladies and choose wisely.
Two fools😂
Nasty work
4:07 why grown women call women the "B" word? Yuuuk!!
Exactly! I couldn’t hear beyond it..and the unnecessary use of the N word..ugh!
You must be about 45 😅
Right?!
Even WORSE a Coward that has the NERVE to call a woman out her name Infront of her children....
As a women myself I don't understand it...We should b trying to lift each other up we go through the same struggles....only we know what we go through...& Every time one of these dogs break out hearts we run to another woman ♀️to talk to ....
Yeah. He do hate me. Ladies the only thing you can do yourself a favour is leave him.
45 seconds in I realized it’s not me he hates, it’s himself 😮💨
My ex-husband literally hid my textbooks and car keys during finals week...DIVORCED HIM IMMEDIATELY! He's still checking for me 18 years later ✌🏽🙄
Let him check all he can sis....🥴🥴mine ruined my whole graduation so whenever I look back I have no good memories I'll have to redo it again
He sounds crazzzzy. Almost married a similar man except this dude waas in church 3 times every weeek. I made it clear I was not religious. I dont believe being religious makes u a good person. Turns out his church going was just a cover for his wiiicked heart. I wont go into details, but I dumped him eventually. He is still stalking me all over social media 5 yrs later talking about how “i was so patient”.
D dude has not learnt anything in 5 yrs. He took my kindness for Weakness. And thought he could come back to use me. I do hope he finds watever he is looking for.
😮 the heck?! That's diabolical
@@mupeM most men will do anything to ruin you
I'm not friends with any exes and my last exes mom can't stand me because both of them couldnt control me 😂😂😂
2 birds 1 stone🤣🤣🤣
Block + Delete! Why do you feel a need to keep any open lines of communication with abusive or narc exes?🤔🤔🤔
Girly, I had a guy who ghosted me 3 years ago after a 2.5y relationship. He called me out of the blue last month because he was in my town, and wanted someone to hang out with. I was like, nah, boy 😅
Lol what!? They must be out of their rabid ass mind lol!!! One time the weirdo called me retarded and bomarded my ig with 'hateful comments' then a week later texts me and says hey come eat with me and watch football. Gross! I didn't even respond, btws i told him prior that i absolutely hate watching football. 😂😂 i don't know what in the malignant narcissisim was wrong with him.
Woah 🤯 what?!
Sis, we know they always always come back😅 Ladies, I RENAME them in my contacts by their offenses: "Chronic Liar. Broke. GotMarried. Moocher. Bi-WeirdFreak"
Your ex's name should've been _"Casper or Ghost"_ 👻
Yes, block them, but until you're certain its really over over NEVER delete an ex in your contacts. You don't want to mistakenly give them unworthy access by taking their calls/texts. Last, sis, you do know that male still hated you. He was calling to ego stroke himself with the "Bet I can have her anytime I want" bull💩 Glad you gave him the middle finger.
Possessive. My x I just broke up with, may very well hate me for having boundaries. I had at least one x who flat out said he hates women over the dumbest triggers. For curmstances that could be in a man's life. Another one who displayed jealousy over a pretty woman who had a expensive bag going into a restaurant that he called cheap.
Men may respect difficult women because they know.
My recent guy tried to offer lots of help but turned around to complain about what he volunteered to do because I had nice nails. The same nails I had when we MET. YEP
He disrespected me for asking questions like a normal person. Implied I sounded stupid.
Didnt want to give a genuine apology. So I kindly left.
He tried to offer to 'hang out'
Issa Hell no for me.
I never understood negging but I always saw it with couples so I figured it was a form of endearment. Glad to know that it didn’t sit right with me for a reason. That sarcasm is a passive aggressive means to insult the other person.
Bingo. A lot of people think this is normal but it’s not. Women let things go for the sake of not wanting to be considered “too sensitive” or not being able to take a joke…there’s lots of truth in those “I’m just playing”
@jaslyn5501 this is what I've always said!!!
what's worse is frankly I think women can neg without wanting to hurt others. I mess around with my girlfriends and we "neg" each other but I noticed men CANNOT HANDLE IT!!! men aren't joking, their girlfriends neg them back but a lot of them are totally oblivious that to the guy, it's not actually a joke. I have noticed that women have a better sense of humor in general which I think really, really pisses men off.
This would be even better if they showed pics of what the ex who hated them looked like, resume and social media posts so we can get a better sense of these type of men.
They don't have a look. You have to listen 👂🏽.
Good idea
My ex said I was collecting degrees for wall 😂😂 he doesn’t even have a birth certificate 😇😇 I EARNED MY MASTERS DEGREE
😂😂😂 no birth certificate. Congrats on your degrees. Amazing accomplishments 🎉
Not”no birth certificate”😂😂😂😂 don’t make me embarrass myself laughing like I have COPD.
My ex husband asked for a divorce while I was at a Ronald McDonald’s house our daughter was 10 days old born at 23 weeks having PDA litigation to save her life. He said it was because our older children one his one mine didn’t get along. This man chased me for years throughout high school got me married me gave me a child and treated me like gum on the bottom of his size 15 shoe. Smh I forgave but I didn’t forget I moved on with my life and left him to it. 💯
Such things are very triggering....most men will chase you for years just to ruin your life...its the only thing they get pleasure from TBH....so so annoying...glad you moved on...what an insensitive jerk
They not giving out Masters cause its not in your tax bracket...YEEEESSSS SIS. 😂😂😂
Right 😂
Omg listening to all this it’s like some of these ninjas need to just leave women alone & date each other 😂.
They basically do. If you are with men all day and only come home to sleep, eat and shower 🚿...... Nevermind.
13:06 "my type to the T" ... he didn't financially provide for u, but he took your time by staying on the phone for hours. 😢
But, looks matter.
All of these women are gorgeous & speaking from the heart.
My tboughts!!!
I had an ex that held the biggest grudge for not meeting his (uninvited) dad & family on my birthday because my friends came over to my house to cheer me up from a medical issue I was having (allergic reaction). But I was the bad guy for not coming to speak while looking tore up 🙃🙃🙃 I told him he could go to he||.
TheFirst Lady with the glasses, read us the new Declaration of Independence
I knew my ex hated me when we were friends with someone that was deleted. The deleted person's bf wrote this really heartfelt social media post about her. I asked him if that ever happened to me, what would you do. He said nothing. I'd would go to your memorial just because but don't expect anything else, no fb memorial, no picture collage. At that point, I was done 😒
WTF!!!! Yet we deal with tgem
Yep
Wow
So many people say "the love and passion fades". Nah, usually they DO NOT. What you experienced then was no love and passion. It was lust and some sort of infatuation or high on the concept of dating someone, neither love nor passion. True love and passion are really durable and they may change slightly, but they are usually not altered completely to the point of feeling non-existent by everyday life and by time.😅
My dad has never liked my mom and I saw that since I was 9 years old. He would always down her. Yet use her. She worked double shifts to pay the bills for years. He was unemployed for a whole decade. Till this shes still married to him smh
Not good
We're all living the same lives😂
different guys .... same behavior .....note taken
“if he’s a financial burden & play video games all day” * vanishes * 😂 she ain’t even have to finish the sentence, we KNEW!!!!
Baby I had two of them like that. One told everyone he paid for a lot more than what he was paying for. He tried to ruin my bachelors degree graduation party and he was mad I didn’t give him credit for me finishing school. But he didn’t support me any of the way with it. The other was jealous when I got a promotion, when I got a new car and a new apartment. It was so weird.
It was actually..... QUITE normal behavior for them. Pay attention ladies.
@@RobinZipporah you are so right! All the signs were there I was just dumb lol
18:38 More than likely she didn’t do anything, he just wanted to watch her hurt.
Exactly 😢😢some men are evil ASF....
They enjoy it. I remember after my c-section, my son's dad looked at me, annoyed when I started walking to the bathroom slow and in pain. He was there sitting down, just eye rolling at me. I said, "This man hates me."
@@Lala89856 so sorry you had to go through that
@@mskabue Thank you. :)
My ex husband stood up at my college graduation to open his mouth and say "without him I wouldn't be here". He didn't read no books, do no paper, pay for zero classes or books, I would still have to come home from working 10 hours per day to cook dinner for our children. Our children that he was left "babysitting". Getting a divorce was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. ❤
My ex was extremely jealous of me he couldn't stand for his family members to compliment me and say nice things about me. He took a whole bunch of pride in seeing me depressed and struggling I grew tired and left his miserable ass ! Why should I want to be with a man who doesn't want to see me happy and successful nope not wasting my energy on dusties and lames anymore I'm done with that I deserve better ❤
Yes you do boo yes you do❤🎉
Facts
I thank God for ALL of you. The strength that it’s took for you all to be honest in the truth is heroic. These are the things we have to face, it’s humbling hopefully 🤞 it’s an awakening because Everyone you date DOESNT ALWAYS CARE OR LIKE YOU. Every woman no matter what race or creed needs to know this. Thank you 🙏 for having the courage. You are definitely loved and appreciated ❤ thank you again ❤🙏
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I wfh as a software engineer. I was dating a guy who was a bus driver. On his off days he stayed at my place because we had different off days it was hard to see each other. I would take long lunches so I could be with him and watch movies with him. I didn’t go shopping or run errands or anything, I spent an extra hour of the work day in bed with him watching tv.. one day this mf gone say “I’m going to tell your boss you sleep on the clock” he assumed my coworker I complained about was my boss, I never told him my boss name. My real boss told me I could take a break whenever as long as it wasn’t over 4hours. Anyway we aren’t together anymore because I knew only a jealous person would say or do something like that. Someone saying they would contact your job about you is not anything to take lightly, they trying to ruin your life
Stop dating down pls. How r u a software dev but dating a bus driver? Stop it pls? Stop dating down
This is crazy my son‘s father offered to take our son for the summer so I can get a little more money possibly go to school and do a one week vacation to Alaska and this Wednesday. He called me claiming a mental health scare and to get our son by the time I’ve got my kid he mentioned leaving the states maybe going to Maine or Alaska and he don’t know if he’s ever coming back. Not to mention my cruise to Alaska is next month .Our son is 10 and the past five years. I’ve been fighting depression and anxiety, trying hard to get back to my natural state of mind and now he doesn’t want to be a parent anymore. He’s not on child support and I don’t keep our kid from him. and cuss me and my mom out yesterday. SMH I’m so unbothered all I can do is pray for the best and be the best I can for our kid. Because I don’t have time to argue or the energy to start one.
Even though I was shown (from the beginning) how my ex really felt about me, I ignored ALL of the flashing, red signs.
But...one day...I asked GOD to help me see to clearly and for the strength to handle what I saw...and...HE gave me the backbone to walk away without any regrets.
Same. I'm SO proud of you!❤🎉
Don't be afraid to date outside of your race ladies. There are millions of good men out there.❤
Yes love knows no race
Men of all races can do these things and many many men cheat 70% at work
I started a job 7/31/23 and was promoted a month later. He picks me up for lunch and I’m telling him the great news.
Him: How’s your day?
Me: I’m having a great day; y supervisor just recommended me for a promotion.
Him: That would make anybody’s day great.
No smile. No congratulations. No “wow, already?!” Just straight faced and like, duh. Never paid me any compliments. It was horrible because he never tried to hide it. And this was a guy a turned down for a date at least half a dozen times. I guess he showed me.
That woman at 1:37 is so right. When you have a man who is a good person and treats you right, that's when you truly see and understand the extent of shit all your previous experiences have been. I regret every man that has crossed my path on my way to my current partner. I wish I'd been wise enough to not even look their way. The way you heal when you are with a good man is truly remarkable. I wish that for all women.
To the girl that has her Masters degree…Congratulations sis❤❤
So proud of you. The first attempt to break you down, you got out and humbled him in the process. Funny how he was trying to humble you and got served a cold dish of Not today 😂❤
I have had some bum a$$ dudes associate as my friends ( I ended all those friendships once I caught on) and one thing I have noticed about all of them. They will avoid the healed woman like the plague. When they see you are smart, emotionally intelligent and have standards they will try to bring you down or "humble" you but the minute you call them out, in private they call you a b*tch. I say this to illustrate that self growth, reflection and introspection is a natural repellent to most bums. Do with that information what you must
The woman speaking at the start of the 15 minute mark, I can relate. I had a "best" friend during secondary school/college. We fell out many times - mainly because of her, for silly reasons but then I drew the line. When I finally turned my back on her toxic friendship, she used a mutual friend at the time, to pry for information about how well (or not) I was doing.
Thankfully the mutual friend told me or I would never have known. Saw her in a completely different light after that.
My thing is a man getting comfortable with just getting by. I choose to always want to better myself. I want a partner with that same mentality!
i don’t understand dudes who are confused by your standards when you DON’T want a man without a job/career… they’re so used to doormats, they’ll claim you’re “crazy” when you don’t want to be one!
I cared for someone so much, and on my birthday I was invited to where this guy would be aka (a home/studio)
This man made sure to have loud intercourse on my birthday for absolutely no reason. The most hurtful thing. Til this day, months later it still hurts. This is after escaping a dv relationship, only to meet a man who wants to humble me cause he saw I overcame that deadly obstacle. I’m no longer lying to myself about someone’s feelings towards me. Some men really get off on causing you some kind of anguish this same guy actually said he likes stealing women’s serenity
Happy Birthday ❤ I'm sorry this happened ❤
You were gifted Clarity ❤yes it hurts but sometimes Rejection is God's protection 😊he sounds like A heartless 😈
But you know this is why I love the song green eyes, by Erykah Badu because it expresses the scope of emotions that comes with heartbreak, but she says "you can't be what I need you to, and I don't know why I f*** with you" like fr because after the guy locked me out on his birthday and all that he likes sweet talk to me and you know I was younger so I was like dumb like he was actually able to sweet talk me into hanging out with him after the way he was acting that day
I'll check it out
This‼️ Erykah broke down the highs and lows of love so damn good on that track. “I don’t love you anymore…yes I do I think 🙃”
These men ard envious of ambitious women. I haven't come across one who wasn't a hater since 2007.
I have two masters and it’s a lot of hard work so Big Congratulations To You 🎉🎉
I’ve had exes that tried to call/text to ruin my healing but I changed the number. 😂 😜
""YOU WANT TO BE THAT EX THAT HE TALKS TRASH ABOUT TO EVERYBODY! 😂💃💃💃💃💃💃""
Name and draw amino acids😂😂😂😂.