Why Reframing Beliefs DOESN'T Work (And What DOES)
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- Опубліковано 14 бер 2024
- In this video, I will explain why cognitive and mindset-based attempts to reframe painful, negative or deficient beliefs simply DO NOT work, why this is the case and how you can actually get to the root of the issue.
I cover:
🔥 Why 'reframing' painful and deficient beliefs misses the root issue
🔥 How we are unconsciously creating and holding onto these beliefs
🔥 How to unhook these beliefs where they are created: in the survival physiology of the body and nervous system
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Drunken Buddha: Somatic Healing
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The analogy of ‘no judgement’ around tying shoelaces triggers such a craving in me! I want so desperately to be done with constant value judgments. I am consistently clocking my own worth and it’s exhausting. Great video, deepest thanks! Always a pleasure when you grace my inbox or notifications bar! 💜
You're welcome :) and yes I hear you - it's absolutely knackering! A huge amount of energy goes into it.
nothing is easy. life is not a given / gift. i am not good enough to even survive. Thank you for opening the path to go look for where these wounds originated for me.
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When we are dependent on the care-giver, who is telling us we're bad, it's in our interests to play along. One useful thing, in my experience, is to run the thought experiment of what we and our lives might look like or be if we didn't hold those beliefs; we can learn a lot about ourselves through doing that, I've found.
Yes good one - thanks for sharing!
But IME we do also need to do the emotional work alongside visioning alternative ways of being
I have the intuition that CBT will be remembered in history as a complete waste of time, but I may be wrong of course
hi drunken buddha . i’m wondering if you have any advise on emasculation trauma
Hi, could you tell me a bit more about what you mean? (Or email me: ben@drunkenbuddha.net). In principle, however, all trauma is dealt with in the same way, regardless of the content: resourcing yourself to feel safe in the body, being able to explore the sensations involved, unwind the defences to feeling and help the trapped pain and emotion to be felt and move through. That's a very high level description though - there are important nuances depending whether the trauma is overwhelming or whether it's very repressed and so on. Tell me a bit more about what you're experiencing and hopefully I can be more useful. Thanks. Ben