Why we no longer aspire towards kids 🪴

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  • If you really want them, then of course you should 🤗 but you’re not sure, you don’t actually have to. It doesn’t matter what others think. This is just our story.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 526

  • @reginesinatra8213
    @reginesinatra8213 Місяць тому +90

    The people who judge. Have pieces missing within themselves. When you are so happy and full , you are too busy being happy to judge. Thank you for your inspiration.

    • @tatiananugent8434
      @tatiananugent8434 Місяць тому +5

      Yes, yes and yes! People who are on an authentic journey are often more focused on their own growth and fulfilment, which leaves little room for judgment of others. They recognize that happiness and fulfillment come from living in alignment with their true selves, whether that involves having children or not. This mindset fosters a sense of respect for the diverse paths others may take in their lives. Embracing authenticity means understanding that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, and that everyone’s journey is unique and valid.💖

    • @reginesinatra8213
      @reginesinatra8213 Місяць тому

      @@tatiananugent8434 beautiful x

  • @ronnyb9416
    @ronnyb9416 Місяць тому +121

    We have NO kids... retired at 47... we have lived overseas and we have been traveling the past 15 years... No money issues and we have good health....... best decision ever with no regrets at all.

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому +11

      happy to hear you are happy with your choices and no regrets. Thanks for sharing with me 🙏

    • @kathleenwang
      @kathleenwang Місяць тому +6

      that's my goal as well!!!!!! retire early is what I look forward to. im not into kids, like other people's kids, but children is not my thing maybe..

    • @jade-oh5wn
      @jade-oh5wn 26 днів тому +3

      It's not too late. Have some kids!

    • @ljkoh20052000able
      @ljkoh20052000able 21 день тому +4

      Great life!

    • @wordsw
      @wordsw 14 днів тому +11

      ​@@jade-oh5wn have some respect. It's not on everyone's path.

  • @beaulieuc8910
    @beaulieuc8910 16 днів тому +15

    I am 58 and childfree. No regrets. I have lots of hobbies and I volunteer. I don't have pets but I love my wildlife in my garden. I am learning to be alone as one day I will be

  • @drnicolebeaumont7884
    @drnicolebeaumont7884 Місяць тому +81

    I don’t have any children and never thought l would. I am 54 now. Happily married for now 14 years.

    • @shapeoftimes
      @shapeoftimes Місяць тому +6

      Same here, we're both 54 and don't have children. We did try though, for a number of years, but I think it was more due to the pressure of society and parents, but it didn't happen. We've been married for 31 years and have no regrets. Maybe everything does happen for a reason 🙂

    • @asavannah7439
      @asavannah7439 Місяць тому +6

      My husband and I are 46 and 49 and happily married for 19 years without children.

  • @LordFlashheart1
    @LordFlashheart1 Місяць тому +82

    Summed up perfectly, I never envisaged kids, I'm 46 now (man) I like a simple life, camper, motorbike, surf when I want, work minimally

  • @BeingHumane173
    @BeingHumane173 9 днів тому +9

    Fellow Childfree by choice person here. Well said, marriage and Motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Stay strong and stay happy !

  • @2622Valerie1
    @2622Valerie1 Місяць тому +74

    I do not have children. I am 48- 49 ( in August). I do not regret.. in contrary… ! Good luck

    • @asavannah7439
      @asavannah7439 Місяць тому +4

      I am 46 and definitely also do not regret not having children.

  • @MazGun
    @MazGun Місяць тому +54

    Me and my older sister choose to child free too. For her it's because she doesn't like children to begin with, and for me because i enjoy living single. More freedom and i can take care my true self properly. Being people pleaser in the past making me forget to love myself. This world is already jam packed too, making younger generation hard to live. Bless for you all.

    • @KatAsp312
      @KatAsp312 Місяць тому +4

      This is true for me too. At 37 it’s now time to start looking after myself well and enjoying my life, and I’m actually grateful I didn’t go down the kid-road or it’d all be about that right now, and I’d still be neglecting myself. Best wishes to you 🙂

  • @genniepoon2189
    @genniepoon2189 Місяць тому +48

    I didn't want to have kids, a decision since I was really young. My friends think I will regret it. Today, most of my friends regret having kids and wish they have my life. I know, being honest to myself is the best gift I can give myself.

  • @ilap381
    @ilap381 15 днів тому +6

    this was a beautiful, reasonable, compassionate perspective of a childfree woman, thank you.

  • @sansan838383
    @sansan838383 Місяць тому +21

    “You are called crazy or worse, for dancing because they don’t hear your music.”

  • @simpelminimalistischleven
    @simpelminimalistischleven Місяць тому +53

    People like to judge everything that is not standard. We have four children and that is regarded strange and selfish by many. Just as having none. You do you 🤍 People will always judge when you deviate fromthe norm whatever that may be. Our job is to not be bothered and live our own beautiful lives 🌸

    • @rod1424
      @rod1424 Місяць тому +2

      4 is strange and selfish? Where you from?

    • @erikt1713
      @erikt1713 16 днів тому

      ​@@rod1424Here in Switzerland it's the same. If you have more than two kids you are seen as promoting climate change.
      One thing is sure - if everyone globally had 4 kids it would be unsustainable. However, it balances nicely with the childfree.

  • @michellehuynh8451
    @michellehuynh8451 Місяць тому +55

    My partner and i dont have kids and we totally agree on everything you said. We feel like we are having an amazing time and life goes by soo fast, we just dont want to be bogged down with kids. Cheers to a well-made decision. 😜 🍻

  • @Johanneslol11
    @Johanneslol11 Місяць тому +20

    I am 33 and my wife is 30. We both dont feel the need for a child. We are happy together, we enjoy going out together. My mother always says "don't create a new life until you have lived your own life" you meaning do the things you want to do first and then you can have childeren if you choice. And if you don't, that is fine to. 😊

  • @chadguindon6909
    @chadguindon6909 6 днів тому +2

    I’m single/unmarried and childfree all by choice at 40 years old. I’m NOT financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fit. Best decision I’ve ever made and I have zero regrets.

  • @Mike-qo8nm
    @Mike-qo8nm Місяць тому +38

    I'm 46 been with my wife for 18 years both kinda late bloomers with no children and the straight up hostility we get from so called friends and family is so beyond ridiculous it's actually sad. This coming from people who are out right miserable with their situations.

    • @Jungleman707
      @Jungleman707 Місяць тому +9

      They are jealous.

    • @Mike-qo8nm
      @Mike-qo8nm Місяць тому +3

      @@Jungleman707 seems like it

    • @Childfree_Jerra
      @Childfree_Jerra Місяць тому +8

      Like the saying goes, "Misery loves company..."

    • @abbiealverez2960
      @abbiealverez2960 Місяць тому +6

      They say these things to you to justify them having kids and obviously still not being content

    • @someawsomeguy100
      @someawsomeguy100 17 днів тому +1

      Some people just cannot see outside the box. I’m glad you have the courage to make choices that are right for you, despite the comments from the peanut gallery. 🙌🏻💫

  • @phooongtion
    @phooongtion Місяць тому +7

    Same here: no kids, a nice investment and retirement portfolio, time, hobbies, healthy relationship! I've got a great life that works for me and I'm happy :)

  • @jessicapodbielska3817
    @jessicapodbielska3817 17 днів тому +5

    Such a refreshing take!
    Im now 31 and for as long as I can remember I have never wanted kids but whenever I say this I am always welcomed with unsolicited opinions/"advice" that 'you'll change your mind one day'. Well my mind hasn't changed yet and I really don't see it changing either. I respect peoples decision to have kids if that is what they want and I wish people would give the same respect back with my decision to not have them.
    Everyone should live a life they want without judgement.

  • @jaredheymann
    @jaredheymann Місяць тому +11

    Thanks for sharing, Jean! I'm very happy to have found your channel. My wife and I also decided not to have kids, and we've been married since we were 23. Each year, we had "the vote" if this was the year. As time went by, we looked at our life together, and decided it wasn't right for us to interrupt what we had, and we continued to grow and be fulfilled with our relationship. We've had some amazing opportunities to travel and gain experiences that wouldn't have been possible if we made other choices. We celebrated 20 years married this week! No regrets! Live YOUR life!

  • @dukey4771
    @dukey4771 Місяць тому +28

    Everything comes down to the same thing, so long as you're happy and not harming anyone then that what's right for you and your life.

  • @angelwings5705
    @angelwings5705 Місяць тому +20

    I’m turning 43 only child never been married. I think finding the right partner with similar values is Crucial. To grow old and have friendship with. Having a child it is a blessing and not everyone can have one.

  • @bumblebee_mrs
    @bumblebee_mrs Місяць тому +51

    I'm the same, childfree for now. Selfish are those who have kids and abuse them.

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому +21

      yeah i'm with you. Nothing sadder than having kids only to neglect them and resent them for wanting your attention.

    • @anewcreature7
      @anewcreature7 Місяць тому +4

      @@JeanVoronkova that’s right. most can’t even take care of themselves (financially and also mentally/physically) yet they want to bring an innocent baby into this world thinking they can ‘take care’ of them?

  • @garymiles4075
    @garymiles4075 Місяць тому +38

    Your story was very moving. I made the choice to become a parent as a 53 year old in need of a succession plan. I was so terrified of the prospect of raising a baby to an adult that I cried uncontrollably when my partner told me she was pregnant. I am not fond of babies in general but I got used to sleep dep and diaper changes. Now my 17 year old son is my best friend and my life has been unimaginably enriched with him around to teach and learn from. In a year he will be off to university to study engineering and I will be making my way to Bali to retire. I got lucky.. There is no guarantee as to the outcome. You are wise to consider this life-altering choice carefully.

    • @Dot21234
      @Dot21234 23 дні тому +1

      How old are you now? How old was your gf

    • @Dot21234
      @Dot21234 23 дні тому +1

      How old are you now. How old was your gf

    • @garymiles9609
      @garymiles9609 23 дні тому +1

      @@Dot21234I was 53 when my son was born and my partner was 40 at the time of giving birth. I will be 70 years old in July.

    • @Dot21234
      @Dot21234 23 дні тому +1

      @garymiles9609 oh gosh. My partner is 63 and I'm 25 I'm thinking about having a baby with him

    • @garymiles9609
      @garymiles9609 23 дні тому +1

      @@Dot21234My partner breastfed at night and I did the diaper changes so she could rest. It is important to be honest with yourself as to your energy levels. A 63 year old who is fit and vibrant could pull it off. If not, you might find yourself doing a larger part of the work. Kids start sleeping through the night after 6 months so the stage of parental exhaustion doesn’t go on indefinitely. Sometimes families will help in the early stages.

  • @christineflygirl
    @christineflygirl Місяць тому +15

    Having kids is a 20 year commitment (or more...!). I have two sons in their twenties now, I have no regrets, they are my pride and joy, but many of my friends have chosen not to have any, and I totally respect that. It's a harsh world out there to raise good and compassionate human beings. Enjoy your life the way you choose to live it. And ignore people who would want you to change it!

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому +2

      I love that you have kids and they light up your life but you don't think everyone else must be poppin out some and can see that it's just different life paths

    • @Bav92
      @Bav92 29 днів тому

      20 years out of 75 honestly doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m not a parent but I would be happy to spend what is probably less than 1/3 of my time with kids. Especially because they can also enrich your life and bring out traits you never knew you had.

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz 7 днів тому

      ​@@Bav92Having kids into this over populated world is doing a crime to the children Born, they have to fight for basic necessities like food, Water due to high inflation.

  • @rohitk9429
    @rohitk9429 Місяць тому +17

    Great video and message. Main takeaway is that there are many ways for us humans to live a meaningful, fulfilling mortal and brief life in this eternal reality, and it needs inner reflection to find our own paths. Also, not caring about conventional thinkers is important as they are living an outdated reality and will project their own misery/toxicity onto you. There's only one way to live a miserable life - and that's not living the authentic life meant for you.

  • @rmvl2000
    @rmvl2000 Місяць тому +23

    I absolutely respect people with no children, indeed I have some close childless friends, they live more exciting lives for sure….. I have 4 kids myself, and I am damn busy every day. My childless friends are happy, and I am happy too, in our own ways. I love your videos Jean, gives a completely different perspective of life

  • @amazingredox
    @amazingredox Місяць тому +7

    You are living an authentic life, same goes for everyone who is living their best life. Much love from North Borneo

  • @hellotinashe
    @hellotinashe Місяць тому +34

    I’m 39 and my husband is 51, we had our son 2 years ago. I never grew up vision boarding kids and instead was such a career woman (and still am, just with tremendous balance) but boy, having that little guy has been my biggest life reward.

  • @migracion.la.gran.leccion
    @migracion.la.gran.leccion 4 дні тому

    We felt the same way at the beginning. Then we decided to adopt. It is not easy, but we are so happy with our decision.

  • @dalaov5258
    @dalaov5258 Місяць тому +7

    Nobody's Business what you do with your life. And you are contributing and having a valid Life by sharing your experiences with this video and channel. Keep up the great work

  • @tanyarenaissance8829
    @tanyarenaissance8829 7 днів тому

    I think having kids is about having them with the right person.❤

  • @RA-ot6yr
    @RA-ot6yr Місяць тому +4

    I feel the same. Always think about it but don't see a big enough reason have have myself right now despite the pressure from others. Your content really resonate with me!

  • @patriciaavery9001
    @patriciaavery9001 Місяць тому +1

    This is just SUCH a good video. Calm, measured, thoughtful, intelligent. Thank you. for making it. It is my first time seeing your channel.

  • @taloweryus
    @taloweryus Місяць тому +1

    Totally agree! Thank you for saying this so eloquently.

  • @martinatravers330
    @martinatravers330 Місяць тому +6

    Thank you for sharing something so personal. Nobody as a right to judge you. It's your life. You only get to live once so life your life not the life others think you should live. ❤❤

  • @ART-kp9cn
    @ART-kp9cn Місяць тому +2

    Great video. I have a two year old and while I love being a parent and have absolutely no regrets, I can see where having kids is not for everyone- the sleepless nights, the time commitment, the seemingly constant tantrums. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, so people should always respect other's decisions. We all take different paths in life and the route to happiness is different for everyone.

  • @AbreTuMente
    @AbreTuMente Місяць тому +5

    Thank you so much for sharing your view, I really feel connected to everything you said.

  • @wordsw
    @wordsw 14 днів тому +1

    Thanks for sharing. I am 51 no kids. Love the freedom.

  • @IslandGal96816
    @IslandGal96816 16 днів тому +2

    I don't have kid, either, and don't want to have one because I know I am selfish, I want free time, do what I want with my own time ... like if I want to sleep/watch TV, I just go sleep/watch TV any time and in peace ☺️
    Hubby is with me. He once told me, better to have niece/nephew, they come and they go home 😂

  • @gloval5187
    @gloval5187 10 днів тому +1

    So lovely that you feel the way you do.

  • @Debbiesdilemmas
    @Debbiesdilemmas Місяць тому +7

    It’s everyone’s right to do what’s right for them as a couple. The sad thing is if you want and cannot have. My husband and I tried for years with no success. Long story short we adopted and that was the right choice for us. I believe you can be equally fulfilled with or without children depending on the lifestyle you choose and that both partners agree. I see Jean and her husband living this amazing life and obviously it is the right thing for them. I’m sure many people would be jealous of this beautiful life and I think I would have been very happy living this life up to a certain point. I am so grateful that my husband and I pursued parenthood to the point of adoption as I know in our hearts we would have regretted it had we not.

  • @ringotan5244
    @ringotan5244 Місяць тому +3

    Wow! At last, an overdue question and answer! 👌

  • @desmonddass764
    @desmonddass764 Місяць тому +8

    Personal choice. As long as you are comfortable n happy with it 🙏🌺

  • @zhannakryukova8676
    @zhannakryukova8676 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you so much!!!!!! It is not the easy topic for us! But you are so right! Thank you!!!

  • @shannonchristopherphotography
    @shannonchristopherphotography 23 дні тому +1

    I've watched your videos for years and have gotten great value, but this resonated above all the others. To top off no kids I'm also single and very content. Ironically my career as a family photographer gives me great purpose. Thank you Jean for posting a video I'm certain many will grateful for. I know I am.

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  21 день тому +1

      thanks for leaving us this kind note. It is a very fortunate thing to be as we are, content & living each day with purpose 🌻😍 so happy you're in this place

  • @jasonjason1196
    @jasonjason1196 Місяць тому +5

    Beautiful video Sis 💯💯 Totally agree with all the messages.. and really love the peaceful theme and feeling your videos always bring with it.
    Wish ❤️❤️ You and Hubby V ❤️❤️ have a very meaningful and happy life together 🙏🙏💫💫❤️❤️✨✨🙏🙏

  • @LeydiKatheryneRamirezLopez
    @LeydiKatheryneRamirezLopez 29 днів тому +1

    Thanks so much for your videos! ❤

  • @sjcobra84
    @sjcobra84 9 днів тому

    Single. Childless. Never been married. Living the merc life and that's how I like it.

  • @irinayes
    @irinayes 17 днів тому

    Thank you for the video! 😊 I totally agree here

  • @jessiquilla1
    @jessiquilla1 Місяць тому

    I fully admire you for living your truth and choosing the right path for you and your husband!! You said it all beautifully

  • @shamekabenjamin8010
    @shamekabenjamin8010 Місяць тому +1

    Great video! Thanks for sharing. Being purposeful/intentional about all of my choices has lead me to be child free. In a sense I feel I live more deeply from the core of my soul, I’m free to continue unraveling “me”. This factor has enriched my life more than words could describe. ❤❤

  • @SuiGenerisAbbie
    @SuiGenerisAbbie Місяць тому +16

    People do not need to have kids.
    It is not legally mandated after all!

    • @anewcreature7
      @anewcreature7 Місяць тому

      Even if it is ‘legally mandated’, why would you just listen to them? Stand up and fight.

    • @SuiGenerisAbbie
      @SuiGenerisAbbie Місяць тому

      @@anewcreature7 Fight? With whom, pray tell?
      My comment was meant to reassure Jean that choosing not to have kids, aka ankle biters, is a wise choice and nothing to feel guilty about. That's all.

    • @anewcreature7
      @anewcreature7 Місяць тому

      @@SuiGenerisAbbie I’m an agreement with you, just saying even if it is ‘legally mandated’ that shouldn’t be a reason to have kids, if you don’t want to.

  • @kristalangel
    @kristalangel 29 днів тому +3

    I have 5 kids yet I agree with what you said. All of it. Lol. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Love your videos. Hugs to you 🤗

    • @philippkrueger4410
      @philippkrueger4410 10 днів тому +1

      I deeply respect you as you respect the choices of others opposite to your own. I wish you and your growing family all the best. Very refreshing to read these

  • @anthis4297
    @anthis4297 Місяць тому +5

    Wonderful video, thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤

  • @mamaliping
    @mamaliping Місяць тому +1

    Brave and introspective sharing!!! And often a topic I deep think about. It's the same thing concept as being married or being single - no one is actually better than the other. We choose what we suits us and bring us the best in us. To me the worst is really just doing something because everyone is doing it. ❤❤❤

  • @yourteacher_anna
    @yourteacher_anna Місяць тому

    Like your point - people should have kids if they really want them! Life is great anyway. Thanks for sharing your family story, Jean ❤❤

  • @jordanmbrock
    @jordanmbrock 18 днів тому +1

    “EEEEEEEVERYONE knows parenting sucks balls, right?”
    Yes! Haha - best line of any video ever. Even parents agree. 🙌

  • @tubeEseen
    @tubeEseen 7 днів тому +1

    Beautiful and intelligent couple❤

  • @xdoriandanger
    @xdoriandanger 3 дні тому

    This was beautiful!

  • @christineskeen7252
    @christineskeen7252 Місяць тому +3

    Jean, love your honesty. It is my belief that children should always be wanted by both parents as they're a life long commitment. Even when they are adults, as parents, you still worry. I wish our world would allow people to be childless and not place judgement on them. It's not for everyone. I love how you explained this topic and wish you and your husband all the best!

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому

      Hi Christine thanks for the kind note. I'm 100% with you. I hate that some children are here in this world and not gettin the attention they would like to have from their parents. We should be allowed to be different when necessary without facing judgment.

  • @nihandinisanti3420
    @nihandinisanti3420 Місяць тому +1

    Jean, what a beautiful content you make… it’s about contentment, fulfillment and satisfaction in life that you eloquently elaborate.
    I agree that each individual has a different purpose in life that makes them content.
    And boy how lovely to see those who are content outside the societal boundaries.
    Best wishes to you both!

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому

      thanks for this very kind note Handini :)

  • @paulrobertclayton5352
    @paulrobertclayton5352 Місяць тому +8

    Not to mention the price tag they bring along with them ..
    You also must be financially stable and 90% will probably have to work your ass off until 68..
    It’s a huge responsibility to have kids ..choose wisely..

    • @uyouhaveyou
      @uyouhaveyou Місяць тому +1

      Society does not support families well enough. Parents struggle to get time with their children for having to work all hours. Yes, it's a tough call and one needs be brave or loaded to think of raising children.

    • @arthurshannon1851
      @arthurshannon1851 23 дні тому +1

      "Kids are a fortune, and it's gonna cost you one"

  • @JazzyLou18
    @JazzyLou18 24 дні тому +1

    I’m 39 and spend time supporting my friends going through divorce with kids. It’s hell on earth for them. Kids are great when it all goes well.

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  23 дні тому

      i do think the saddest is when they get saddled with adult issues that they had nothing to do with...

  • @RomanVarl
    @RomanVarl Місяць тому +2

    Agree with everything, no urge to have kids here (44 now). You are a wonderful couple! Hello from Moscow ))

  • @xotomw
    @xotomw Місяць тому +5

    May you continue to live the awesome and fulfilling life! :)

  • @SagaJohanna
    @SagaJohanna Місяць тому

    SUCH an amazing video, and so eloquent and well put! I recently interviewed Cathrine Forner who said that biologically, only around 25% of people in a community had kids, and the rest of the society were makers, and hunters, and gatherers and helped raise the children or helped the community in one way or another. I love this kind of thinking!

  • @britniandben
    @britniandben Місяць тому

    Well said! We have the same mindset about this topic and we are very happy with our child free marriage/lifestyle. We love that our friends and family who have kids are enjoying their life as well! All about focusing on what true happiness looks like for each individual.
    Thank you for sharing these thoughts and points on this topic. Have a wonderful day!

  • @michaelamuro
    @michaelamuro Місяць тому +3

    We have same life perspective as yours. I support you. From Taiwan.

  • @DE6553
    @DE6553 Місяць тому +2

    A big THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts so honestly and reflected. I am 59 and have raised my son (32) as a single working mum. I got married and had him because everyone else around me did so. But my marriage failed within one year and raising him was hard and challenging, but also brought out the best in me. I love him very much and wouldn't want to miss him. However, he does not want kids, his girlfriend neither - it was difficult for me to accept and part of me still hopes they will decide to have kids because I would love to have grand kids. But I know, this is one of the not-so-good reasons you mention. It's them who should WANT and FEEL it to be able to cope with the challenges kids bring along. Yes, they might regret it later on, but I also regret a couple of decisions in my life that are irreversible, and yet I am a happy person, so what's the point.

  • @MN-wg8qd
    @MN-wg8qd 22 дні тому +1

    Never was too interested in kids, but was open to it and we had twins without really 'trying' and its great. Its hard work, but brings a lot of joy. I am not trying to convince anyone of anything, I think that people should follow their hearts.
    I'm glad to have busted ass in my 20s and saved a lot before them. I can absolutely see how having kids really locks you in and kills plans. We are still going to retire/be FI in our 30s though which is the exception and are going to make our travel plans work too, but we will be restricted.
    I think that if people want them and FI then they need to make adjustments to make it all work. But I think its absolutely fine if you don't want them. I know its a common saying, but I find it true that YOUR KIDS are different. I know its bad to say, but I don't really give a fuck about other kids or my non-blood nieces/nephews, but I love the hell out of mine and love watching them learn and grow.

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  21 день тому

      Thanks for this note I'm really glad you shared your view without making us feel pressure about our choices. I'm really in love with my furkids and they make me wonder if I should reconsider about children, but at the same time I feel like my cup is so full with the 2 of them and our family as it is already and everything is good as it is. It's wonderful that you have twins and you're so in love with them! And fab job with the FI for 4 😍👍

  • @kristina4395
    @kristina4395 Місяць тому +1

    So sweet ❤️

  • @hannapineda6292
    @hannapineda6292 20 днів тому

    Hi Jean- thank-you for sharing your opinions.

  • @LamNguyen-qb4ic
    @LamNguyen-qb4ic 23 дні тому +2

    No kid is much better and give you lot of freedom to retire early. Enjoy your life and whatever make you and your man happy that's all matter. Good luck to you.

  • @zxia6096
    @zxia6096 Місяць тому +2

    Thanks!

  • @kent4786
    @kent4786 Місяць тому +5

    At the end of Life, it’s all about how you’ve lived YOUR LIFE. Living it to the fullest in your own terms. It’s not selfish at allll. You owe it to you and only you. 90% of the people on this planet cannot even fulfill half of their life’s dreams. Not their fault, that’s just life. It’s challenging. So feel blessed n be proud that you are that tiny percent of happiness and bliss on earth. You do you and God Bless. Embrace it, No regrets ❤

    • @shamekabenjamin8010
      @shamekabenjamin8010 Місяць тому +1

      Loved this.. thank you 🙏🏾

    • @kent4786
      @kent4786 Місяць тому

      @@shamekabenjamin8010 I lived my life to the fulliest. Traveled more than 25 different countries multiple times. Did everything on my bucket list before getting married and starting a family at 40. That way I have no regrets and don’t feel like I missed out on life. Now With that being said, now that I have two kids, a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Being a parent is the toughest, most exhausting, stressful, NO SLEEP AT ALL for past 5 years. My health took a huge huge dive, aged 10 years in past 5 years. I went from my best version in life to now my worst version in life. Ever. I take really good care of my kids but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting kids. It’s truly truly sacrificing and it’s not for everyone. I speak for millions of parents out there and trust me I talk to everybody. I’m very outgoing and social. One main thing I get from other parents is that I feel constantly exhausted and completely drained. So please be nice in life and don’t judge others 🙏 be understanding and have empathy

  • @tatiananugent8434
    @tatiananugent8434 Місяць тому +2

    Absolutely! You get to live your life, not someone else's. We are all different and enjoy different things, and that's the beauty of our world. We each have a unique purpose in life, and discovering that is essential. Keep enjoying your authentic life because that's how you illuminate the world.🙌 ❤

    • @JeanVoronkova
      @JeanVoronkova  Місяць тому +1

      thanks for this sweet note Tatiana 🙏🌻

  • @robertmangan6501
    @robertmangan6501 Місяць тому +1

    Brilliant Fantastic ❤

  • @victoriatorcolini4410
    @victoriatorcolini4410 Місяць тому

    Very well said.
    Beautiful and true video.🥰🙏

  • @chinedunnadi258
    @chinedunnadi258 Місяць тому +39

    To be honest, having kids or not having is fully a couple decision.... But having a little son or daughter call you dada or mama just feels magical, i can't really explain it.... I am sure people will be alright 🙏

    • @goose0701
      @goose0701 Місяць тому +11

      you also need to realise, that for some people its completely opposite. those words spoken can be the worst. everyone different. good luck to everyone in their choices.

    • @chefse5442
      @chefse5442 Місяць тому +3

      I think people who have no children have no imagination on what they are missing out. And people who don't have children I assume have some underlying issue.
      I was always very uncertain; and if it takes away my freedom etc etc..but having it there is nothing comparable. It's just another chapter in life; which is so amazing.
      You will probably never be sure; you must be brave. But you shouldn't not fade the biggest miracle in life.

    • @China786
      @China786 Місяць тому +13

      @@chefse5442 I guess you also don't know what you are missing by having kids and no personal life or freedom, I have seen many colleagues who are so tired of kids that they don't want to go home or don't even want holidays because they fear of taking care of kids

    • @godfather1962
      @godfather1962 Місяць тому

      ​@@chefse5442it's a miracle I can travel everywhere I want every month

    • @seniri610
      @seniri610 Місяць тому +3

      @@chefse5442 You know, some people just don't want the responsibility to raise a child since it's the biggest and longest responsibility you can have in life. Not everyone who can have children is able to be a good, healthy parent for the child. It is much more complex than just this "biggest miracle in life". I'd personally much more rather regret not having children than having children, plus: you can't regret something you never wanted in the first place.

  • @david_starsky
    @david_starsky Місяць тому +5

    I am 45 years old and child-free. This allows me to take financial risks, to make investments and continuously focus on self-improvement and education. I enjoy spending a lot of time outdoors, engaging in training, and practicing meditation. I have complete freedom to live and do as I please, wherever I want. For me, life is so much more enjoyable without children.

    • @shamekabenjamin8010
      @shamekabenjamin8010 Місяць тому

      Exactly the same.. right down to the meditation and self improvement.. ❤️

    • @JC-dt7rn
      @JC-dt7rn Місяць тому +1

      All those things above are achievable with Children as well, some people want it ALL !

    • @david_starsky
      @david_starsky Місяць тому +1

      @@JC-dt7rn That's for sure. Many successful people have big families, so it's definitely possible. Personally, I am just not keen on having kids.

    • @user-jc8jc5tp2z
      @user-jc8jc5tp2z Місяць тому

      ​@@JC-dt7rn Agree! Finding dedicated time to commit to adult endeavors and passions is definitely harder with kids, but not impossible. Business travel is hard for the partner staying a home and the guilt for me personally has been hard. Also once the kids are independent you get your time back as well. Either path with or without children has its own set of challenges and rewards. But if you know you really don't like spending time with kids and building a lifelong relationship with them, that's okay too. There is meaning and value to life regardless of you having kids or not.

  • @user-of2co3ke5p
    @user-of2co3ke5p 11 днів тому

    Intelligent and want to live life completely untethered and on your own terms💪🎯.

  • @angelm1112
    @angelm1112 Місяць тому

    Jean, thank you for your honesty. Not everyone is supposed to have kids and I think if most people were honest about their reasons for having kids, those reasons are mostly selfish. That responsibility is not the path for everyone. 🙏🏼 Being child free is such a blessing 🙏🏼

  • @svetla1star
    @svetla1star Місяць тому

    Jean, I love your energy and your videos. Thank you!! Also, can I ask if you can recommend Bali locations with less tourists and good for surfing? You may have a video on that, but I am not sure. Thank you!

  • @fatalframer87
    @fatalframer87 Місяць тому

    Fantastic video. You really have to be honest with yourself whether children are for you or not. I'm 46 and all my life so far I was never once interested in children. If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. With lots of hobbies, as well as being a world traveler, I feel very fulfilled as a person with no children

  • @MS-ge2jb
    @MS-ge2jb Місяць тому +6

    It is the government and politicians who need kidz. They need sustainable taxpayers. They want the state to remain because that is where their salaries and benefits come from.
    They need national health insurance to remain in place. Without kidz, the national health and pension system would collapse, and the country could not survive.

  • @simpleflylife8189
    @simpleflylife8189 Місяць тому +2

    I am 47 and have always been child free. I now realize I missed a big blessing by choosing not to be a mom. Overall, I am very content with my decision and I wouldn't undo it. But as my friends are turning into grandparents, I realize I forfeited something huge in life. I wouldn't go back and do differently though. Just make sure you are clear about your why - why you have kids or why you don't. All the best to you and your hubby!

    • @nikiedewael3766
      @nikiedewael3766 Місяць тому +2

      I think it is the fantasy you are craving now. Years ago when my colleges had (young) kids I was never jealous. I never wanted kids, the responsibility, cost, risks, no freedom. Now these colleges are becoming grandparents and that is a whole different dynamic. Sometimes I feel left out and that is a strange experience but still I can not say I want kids!

  • @adammorra3813
    @adammorra3813 Місяць тому

    Beautiful video and message.

  • @suzannewhittaker9751
    @suzannewhittaker9751 Місяць тому +1

    The fact this is controversial says everything and deserves collective reflection, so thank you for (hopefully) getting us to do just that.

  • @hannapineda6292
    @hannapineda6292 11 днів тому

    Hi Jean thanks for sharing your knowledge - goodluck!

  • @thesarahstory
    @thesarahstory Місяць тому +1

    I would never have a child for many reasons. I‘m 33 and married and I‘m very happy without a child. I‘ve so many other plans for me, so many dreams. I live for me and my dreams and that‘s okay.

  • @keepingitreal618
    @keepingitreal618 Місяць тому +1

    I knew from 17yrs old I would never have children it’s something I didn’t want to do. Purely selfish reasons, certainly not because I thought the world was an awful place. I have always admired parents. I’m 64 and no regrets. I am midwife. 😊

  • @corporatebreakoutcouple
    @corporatebreakoutcouple 29 днів тому

    Before we started our hawker stall in 2018, we made a decision to not have kids. The hawker business took all our time, attention and energy literally 24/7.
    Now that we are early retired, we are living our best lives sans kids. Thanks for making this video. We totally resonate with all your reasons ❤

  • @uhnschlek8827
    @uhnschlek8827 29 днів тому +2

    A child was never asked for their consent to be pulled into this world. So, I imagine, whoever is pulling that soul into this realm better have a darn good stack of resources to provide for the child to make amends for the kidnapping.

  • @ManifestGirl7811
    @ManifestGirl7811 Місяць тому +1

    To me your life is soooo beautiful and envious. I’ve always wanted a boy and girl which I got, my life would be incomplete without them
    Regardless how hard it has been to raise them and I hv 5 grandchildren that are the loves of my life. Honestly I wish my life looked more like yours just with my grown kids and grand kids nearby. Thanks for sharing your beauty life with us 🥰

  • @shaheemgirling3972
    @shaheemgirling3972 4 дні тому

    Great video.

  • @Uloma2024
    @Uloma2024 Місяць тому

    Well sàid. I can't agree any less

  • @floydschrock2761
    @floydschrock2761 Місяць тому

    Amen, Amen. Life is always about a choice, I am 62 this year and always taken care of my parents, I never had children or been married, I believe the happiness I hear in your voice, your married life gave you many blessings without children, Amen, Amen.

  • @woofmeow247
    @woofmeow247 Місяць тому +2

    It's all in the mind. Fear of missing out. Ego.

  • @siaec3094
    @siaec3094 28 днів тому

    😀 Brought back precious times! Just be happy, always. ☺

  • @bordercollieluxi
    @bordercollieluxi Місяць тому

    I Love your honesty