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"Help him open up, this sets you apart from Every Other Woman ". At my age, been there and tried that, it didn't work. I didn't even want to watch the video just because of the title . Are you kidding ? At our age those things should be figured out. Been through enough trying to get somebody to do something so basic. Not my job anymore. How about telling men to grow up and get some EQ about them. That would be nice.
Thank you for posting this comment I am 100% going to say this to the man I am getting to know. I'm not going to be mean when I say this, I will ask him if he knows what an EQ is and that I hope he will learn how to improve his EQ.
I’m new here; a very spiritual and authentic person. I’m filled with magic (literally) 😂. Totally digging your original approach… especially that the coaching isn’t only based on how to please a man. Thank you for offering advise based on finding my own personal happiness.
I have question, I have a tendency to meet men online for coffee or a casual bite to eat. And this has happened on more than one occasion... The man will text me immediately after, saying " I had a great time, I'd really like to see you again", but not call me again. One recently even asked me if I'd be interested in going to a place where there is live music, but I have never heard from him again. Why do men do this? Better to just not say anything, then to make a gal feel like you really like them.
Jonathon, there are many of us women who are possibly one pay check away from homelessness. I know as I was there and had a daughter too. God put a dear wonderful friend in my path and we got an apartment together and shared our expenses. Maybe there is someone out there that could be a friend and share expenses for an apartment? My friend and I were acquainted for a couple of weeks and she suggested that we share an apartment. Btw, she was in a wheelchair with osteoporosis disease. What a wonderful blessing she was. God was truly in our meeting.
Great video! Touched a few of the issues that I have experienced with men lately. The chats! Oh my goodness. One liners, no punctuation and emojis! NEXT...😊
OMGosh...thank you you so much for this video Johnathon. Totally resonated with what you were saying. Please keep your videos coming. AWESOME insight and very powerful points that can help women and men alike!
If someone is flaky that is a clear indication they are not interested, you are a convenience, keeping g there options open. I don't do flaky either way. 😊
true!!I agreee! Once I got golden status on tonder ( or sth. like that)liked by 100% of guys.Ok I have a good body also, that helped photos, but I have passion ( at that tiem working with dogs)Some photos where with them.But I stoppped using tinder and when I wanted to returned tinder blocked me :P
I think your explanation about remaining friends after marriage or relationship whilst being in another relationship was excellent thank you 😊 I liked that you said if someone has a problem with a friend in your life then they’re not the one for you ❤
Jonathan, I wanted to clarify the narcissist statement had to do with an ex and others wanting to keep you as a placeholder until they find someone better that’s what narcissist do I was saying that’s what I experienced with my x and it hurts, especially when I gave him all of me.. I didn’t know anything about that, until we were over and he discarded me I think you are getting better as a coach. Because I keep coming back to you. Thank you Jonathon
Jonathon Did you understand that Stacey stated she is homeless and living in her car? Goodness. How can we help her? Obviously she is working and trying. She seems like a good and lovely person.
My guy is terrible about not asking specifics. He will always send me a text “hope you’re having a wonderful day.” I want him so much to have specifics like, “have you heard from the kids or wasn’t that sunrise cool.” I feel like it’s so shallow to give those blanket statements
What about someone who is widowed for 2 years and 4 months now and I’m 61 and was with him since I was 24. Dating is so difficult and different now. It seems guys are mostly just looking for hook ups.😌
Thank you Jonathan this was wonderful. And by the way, I’m a Gemini. I don’t take a lot of stock in astrology aligning with each other, as you referenced. I appreciate what you said. I don’t date people based on what sign they are if I did, the dating pool would be very small. Relationships are so much more than all of that. Your dating profile was amazing. Hugs. ❤
I know exactly who I can and cannot date based on their sign. It never fails, I know it's silly but the positive and negative attributes seem to be spot on.
I told my man looking into his eyes feels like coming home… he hasn’t said anything like that to me. Last night I told him with everything going on in my life that even on my worst day, as long as im with him im still living my best life. He said,”Well good, baby “….. not sure if perhaps he simply doesn’t feel the same way or if he’s being a man and that perhaps his language is different 🤷🏻♀️
I’m in my late 50s and feel the same way with the man I’ve been seeing for about 6 months but I’ve hesitated verbalizing my feelings for fear that I’m sharing too much too soon.
If it bothers you …his lack of reciprocity …tell him. If you feel He isn’t really into It 100 percent than that’s a whole Other thing. Is he able to Show His love in other ways and he’s just not fluffy? Do you trust him?
She offended him. He lost respect for her when she called him a p….not off to a good start. Looks like a tit for tat. She called him the name no he gives her short notice for a date. My advice: move on and next time think before you speak. He is not any more to blame than you.
I think the one-up-manship, with a man at the top, is in many religions. As far as Christianity, I believe the verses were construed to suit a European patriarchy, and are still misunderstood today by many good and sincere people. I think the perspective in the Bible might be better comprehended as a team of differing roles, not one better than the other. (And everyone has a choice of what they will consider cooperating with: cooperation being key but none of this brutal slavishness. This is about intimate love, not who gets the most power. Honestly, Women, you can just say no to what you are uncomfortable with and his power has just sunk to the floor.) Christian men in the Bible are instructed to care for women "as Christ cared for the congregation and gave himself up for it," as in 'Jesus gave his life up.' I can think of friends and family I would give my life to help and those I have already sacrificed much for...out of love not duty. Jesus is also quoted as saying, "He who is the greatest, must be your servant." So, folks, the reason the man gets respect, is for his deep sense of responsibility and service, and he must earn that respect. Women, you must give respect, if you want love. One beef I have with the feminist movement is women weren't even thinking of how a lack of respect immasculates a man, and they lose their love for her and their desire for her. I understand that the sense of responsibility might scare some men, but if you don't have that sense of responsibility (and, ladies, let's face it: our hormones drive our brains batty a lot of the time. Yes, we have good qualities, too, but guys usually have this wonderful ability to see the bigger perspective.) if guys don't take that sense of responsibility, (and she doesn't encourage him in it) she will have a hard time giving him the admiration, encouragement, respect he needs, as well as love. Guys, you do not have to be perfect. It would be so intimidating to have a partner who is perfect, don't you think? I'd rather have someone who has empathy and understanding when I make mistakes. "Cherish her" the verses say. That means cherish her by what? giving her what she needs not what you imagine she needs? Women, you have got to speak up about your needs and quit the "mysterious woman thing" in that way if your togetherness is to work: honest communication. If a man cherishes a women is he not going to respect her point of view? Will he not respect her feelings? Is he first self-serving, and then considers her? And, ladies, you must, you MUST be brave and be assertive and communicate your own needs and wants, too, or the man will be clueless to your inner world and you will be lonely. He'll feel lonely, too, not connected with you. People are scared off by the Bible because of those who have abused it for centuries. What would you give your life for? Can a person become so precious to you, you'll do everything within your power for them? Do you already have people you show self-sacrificing, unselfish love to? friends, family? Good, then if you've exercised your "love muscle"-your heart- you're ready for some serious love. (And sex being more intimate, more precious to you both, more connecting-sex being sacred!-now has a chance. God created sex, he wants you to enjoy it.)
Jonathan, great content as always! You can be his “PEACE” or a good follow-up: how to be just a “PIECE” to him, an acronym of what NOT to be lol! Love your stuff‼️✊🏼
I really enjoyed your show today. I am relatively new to watching your show, however, I find you to be rather informative and like the excellent advice you give to your viewers. I loved your dating profile, and you are 100% accurate. It was rather long, and so was mine. I got criticized by a couple of guys for having a long profile. I must agree that if someone is not interested in reading what you wrote, then they are not the right person for you. It is an excellent way to weed people out, and a good way to hopefully find someone you are looking for. I took myself off all dating sites for now; however, if I do decide to go on them again, I am going to write one similar to yours describing exactly the type of guy I am looking for and what I want in a relationship.
@@JonathonAslay I wish I could share with friends, but most of them are men. The few female friends I have are either married or not looking. If I think of anyone, I will share. Hope to catch you live one of these days soon!
Some men if given the opportunity will meet out same treatment to all women.They just don't care about their feeling. Only concerned with what they could get.
He was offended by her comment. It was negative, very judgmental and very putting off. He didn't respond immediately so as not to react to her negative comment.
What if the person is stuck in the past- but it is mostly all wonderful experiences! I am thankful for the wonderful experiences that he has had for his past two serious relationships over the past 10 years. It’s just that he constantly talks about them and the things they did were so wonderful. I have mentioned that that is great -so let’s make new experiences. Am I wrong in feeling this way?
I got resting bastard face twice on a date. I didn’t catfish them, they catfished me. Like both were only tolerating me. Introduced to them from the Internet so that is why I don’t believe anything except real life.
Do you know some will be in a relationship but will be looking for the highest bidder.as soon as someone whom they think they will benefit more from..as soon as they come along ,they are gone.How will you describe such ones?
Whenever I read some of the comments during live, I keep thinking about the amount of nerves UA-cam presenters (you Jonathon!) need to have in order not to get upset by some people. In this case, KtVix or Spread the Gospel, talking about your photos or Paltry Flowers and Lisk saying "profile should not be that long"...my God, women! Seriously??? Are you happy in love? Life? I highly doubt so. But you are so ready to judge others. And then people ask why they don't have luck in anything ... Sorry, I know I should have more understanding for people, but sometimes it is really really hard. So, again, kudos to you Jonathon!
You’re a Leo too 🎉🎉 🦁🦁🦁🦁 Leo woman here ! No man is above me lol. We are a team but I am swimming in a pool of hyenas in this dating world keeping my head up 😊
@Net Detective, The Universe does not distinguish ( yes ) or ( no) . That’s why we have to just make affirmations and ignore what you don’t want . By mentioning the negative, you are calling it , vibrating to it and giving it power. Is temping to do it tho lol 😂
She told him to “don’t be a pussy”. I’d say that’s disrespectful. So for her to tell him she felt disrespected by him is almost hilarious. It’s something a crazy gaslighter would say 😂
My experience was that men truly didn't read the profile. Literally used to ask me questions that were already addressed in my profile when they messaged me. Just saying...
I like Jonathon and learn a lot from his videos, but I think he is wrong about having light conversation. I think conversation in the beginning needs to be light and sometimes a "Hope you have a good day." is enough to let someone know you are thinking of them ... especially early on. I'm not sure having deep conversations (e.g., insecurities, flaws, childhood wounds, sex ) early in the relationship is necessarily a good thing. I'm not sure I want to know or share all that messy "stuff" immediately.
I just started the video but I have to tell you this. I once told a friend that my ex felt like home. It didn't stay that way though. Things changed and he showed his true colors.
I thank you are wonderful I really appreciate you helping us crazy woman we are fickle . At time's. Hey I am moving on I have the rest of my life I am going to have fun fun fun. I'll be watching more your the real thing . I'm 61 and want to live. 😊😊
Been talking an texting with a guy I went to school with and communicated through FB, he posted a car he just bought and I commented I ready to ride. So he private messaged me his number so I called him and we talked, then we met at the high school and rode for a while. Very polite, went to Dairy Queen and got a ice cream. Then we went for another ride to star gaze with the T-tops off, nice ride, next time I let him pick me up at my home. Rode and got a bite to eat. Been talking checking on each other…. Yesterday on the phone I said something about not wearing a bra,,,, his comment was “I’m sexually interested in you….. what does that mean??? I just l giggled. Just want to know what that means and what I should say and do…
I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s comments about this because this is the situation most of us ladies find ourselves in. I suppose you need to work out what you want and communicate this to him. Are you happy to progress to sex now or would you like more dates, are you hoping for short term or long term, so many questions. Keep us posted.
I would be offended if he said that to me. Seems a shallow comment when you spent so much time together. I would pay attention to his behavior closely and assess if he is genuine or just in it for hoochie koochie….
@@auntie44m I’m not seeking sex, he has made a couple of sexual jokes which were funny but then I was like hummm, where is he going with this. I’m 59 he is 60, we just starting talking 6 months ago. We were not friends in school he played football and I always thought he was good looking. He had back surgery bout 2 years ago and I followed him and prayed for him and he had a girlfriend then that helped him and I’m friends with her on FB, when they broke up she blocked him now he is about to have surgery again and they are back friends. When he and I talked about going for a ride to star gaze I ask if he any girlfriends in the picture cause I don’t want any drama and he said no. I have noticed that on some of his posts comments are hidden and I blocked a girl that put a mad face 😡 on one of my post about love,, she and I are not friends but him and her are, so I ask him about that an he said that it’s not like that with her! He has not invited me to his house to meet his kids and grandkids. Doesn’t say anything about my 17 year ole son which is a red flag 🚩 to me. So at this point I’m going to ask him what his intentions are since the comment. Thank you for your advice.
@@Tbn48ibp I was thinking that same thing. He has been married 4 times and he has told me about them,was like hummm what’s her side of the story. If he want sex he can go on. Thank you for your support!
We aren't always ready and need patience on doing al of tbe necessary self improvements before dating or end up unravelling and reverse engineering our lives after failing in relationships but the end results beinf the same...fix yourself first and then love ❤️ should be easy
That was the largest "Whoa" i ever heard.. a horse could hear it! Yes, your profile was very descriptive and l hope you will find a good match. What zodiac sign are you anyway?
Gamer..I would respond to that guy with something like this..”oh I didn’t hear a response back from my message so I figured you were busy and I made some other plans but thanks for asking.” This gives him the chance to step Up and know he needs to respond more timely to your message as Well as Tells him you’re out there with other plans and he needs to step up his game And attentiveness or he’ll miss the boat
Amen! You we're on fire tonight - so Fun!! Love your profile Johnathon. I resonate with everything except the "plant consciousness exploration". Been there done that. Plant & shroom energy resonates at a certain frequency and one can actually outgrow this level or rise above these frequencies at some point. After many, many exploratory workshops and a two year deep dive into spiritual studies in Transformational Psychology and becoming a Transpersonal Hypnotherapist & Reiki Master Practitioner, one becomes aware that Enlightenment can be reached at higher levels without extemporaneous psychoactive substances (IMO). Their use in Ceremony is something different, it can have a place for some Practitioners and Participants, but so many don't respect the plants and psychotropics in this manner. One may get stuck at a certain frequency or level if one doesn't journey beyond simply using substances to reach enlightenment. One can do a deep dive and explore the meaning of life with other methods...❣️💫😁
You would if cracked up at my husband and my first date!! I karaoke d he was like😳 I really did not care! I’m married to this guy😅, I love him, lots a work, but🤪
@@JonathonAslay oh, you were talking about your friend and her long distance relationship. I was just thinking about how we jump into things sometime before we are sure of our relationships. My perspective at the time was it would have been better if you had kept your relation private for a while longer. I could tell she was not all in...another female can tell these things sometime. I was just wondering if you regretted that in retrospect?
I love your show, unfortunately I turn to you and other dating channels when I'm having difficulty with the boy I like, He's a man but is acting like a boy right now lol Thank YOU! I may dump him we'll see.
Jonathon. I so agree. Asking. Hows- your day going. Hows the weather , How did you sleep. No depth to the conversation. You are dropping gems' here as always .
Well I have to unsubscribe and I cannot listen to you anymore because I believe in what the Bible says, it is OUR INSTRUCTION MANUAL according to Romans 15:4 it says that it is "for our instruction so that we might have hope." The Bible does speak of women being in subjection to a husband. There is nothing wrong with that. Christ Jesus is in subjection to his Father, God Jehovah. The Christian congregation is in subjection to Jesus. And children are in subjection to their parents. It only makes sense that a woman / wife is in subjection to her husband. Just like every CHEF knows more than one cook spoils the soup. There has to be headship, it's just organized, it's structured and its disciplined, and it works. Personally I want a relationship that I'm in subjection to my husband. NOT that he will Lord it over me. He will listen to my input and my suggestions and if they are better than his he will humbly take my suggestion. It doesn't always happen, but sometimes he finds out later that he should have listened to his wife. Because of imperfection that's the way it goes.😂😮😊 I am getting that this advice from you is for people having sexual relationships outside of marriage, so this is definitely not for me!! Sincerely TAMI
Regarding submitting to a man. There is this coach out there that does videos with his wife. Its truly nauseating. All about what a WOMAN can do to please a man. No thanks lol
@JonathonAslay Hopefully he's not a friend or something. His advice and his wife's has not been anything I would ever follow. I literally laugh out loud at the absurdity of it.
@JonathonAslay Magnetize your man. That alone should say it all. That's why I love when you say us women aren't off the hook either. They make it sound like everything you're against. Submitting to men or anyone for that matter. I'm sure he's nice but I will stick with you. Matt is also very good, however, he doesn't crack me up like you. The best is the texting "how's your day? Are you having a great day? Hope you had a great day." Cracks me up, you're too funny. I love your passion and I like when you swear 😁
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Excellent presentation
Embracing the present moment = Mindfulness, not focusing on the crap from the past nor becoming anxious about the future. This is a nice place to be.
I agree with Jonathan. Don’t text Prefer
A
Call
Texting means nothing. A pen pal Artificial intimacy. .
"Help him open up, this sets you apart from Every Other Woman ". At my age, been there and tried that, it didn't work. I didn't even want to watch the video just because of the title . Are you kidding ? At our age those things should be figured out. Been through enough trying to get somebody to do something so basic. Not my job anymore. How about telling men to grow up and get some EQ about them. That would be nice.
Lol love it 😂 Absolutely agree!!! 🙌🏻
Thank you for posting this comment I am 100% going to say this to the man I am getting to know. I'm not going to be mean when I say this, I will ask him if he knows what an EQ is and that I hope he will learn how to improve his EQ.
Amen sister! Radical honesty. EQ. Wisdom does not correlate to IQ.
I agree with your concept of having meaningful conversation. I hate superficial bullshit talk.
Indeed.
I’m new here; a very spiritual and authentic person. I’m filled with magic (literally) 😂. Totally digging your original approach… especially that the coaching isn’t only based on how to please a man. Thank you for offering advise based on finding my own personal happiness.
Awe... thank you 😊
I have question, I have a tendency to meet men online for coffee or a casual bite to eat. And this has happened on more than one occasion... The man will text me immediately after, saying " I had a great time, I'd really like to see you again", but not call me again. One recently even asked me if I'd be interested in going to a place where there is live music, but I have never heard from him again. Why do men do this? Better to just not say anything, then to make a gal feel like you really like them.
On rotation, or they're in a relationship. Next! No integrity. Talk is cheap.
Jonathon, there are many of us women who are possibly one pay check away from homelessness. I know as I was there and had a daughter too. God put a dear wonderful friend in my path and we got an apartment together and shared our expenses. Maybe there is someone out there that could be a friend and share expenses for an apartment? My friend and I were acquainted for a couple of weeks and she suggested that we share an apartment. Btw, she was in a wheelchair with osteoporosis disease. What a wonderful blessing she was. God was truly in our meeting.
I’m a recovery room nurse. The medication you’re referring to is Versed.
Gotcha ✔️
A guy cried to me, asked me to hold him and said I made him feel safe. He dumped me 2 weeks later.
He wssnt ready for you. So he ran he will come back guaranteed as they always do
The idea that someone could be experienced as "a home," dates back at least as far back as 1961 in Tennessee Williams' play 'Night of the Iguana".
Great video! Touched a few of the issues that I have experienced with men lately. The chats! Oh my goodness. One liners, no punctuation and emojis! NEXT...😊
Thanks for sharing!!
OMGosh...thank you you so much for this video Johnathon. Totally resonated with what you were saying. Please keep your videos coming. AWESOME insight and very powerful points that can help women and men alike!
You are so welcome
YES Peace is exactly it.
If someone is flaky that is a clear indication they are not interested, you are a convenience, keeping g there options open. I don't do flaky either way. 😊
Indeed.
true!!I agreee! Once I got golden status on tonder ( or sth. like that)liked by 100% of guys.Ok I have a good body also, that helped photos, but I have passion ( at that tiem working with dogs)Some photos where with them.But I stoppped using tinder and when I wanted to returned tinder blocked me :P
I think your explanation about remaining friends after marriage or relationship whilst being in another relationship was excellent thank you 😊 I liked that you said if someone has a problem with a friend in your life then they’re not the one for you ❤
Thanks for sharing!
Home feels safe and right. it feels right.
Jonathan, I wanted to clarify the narcissist statement had to do with an ex and others wanting to keep you as a placeholder until they find someone better that’s what narcissist do I was saying that’s what I experienced with my x and it hurts, especially when I gave him all of me.. I didn’t know anything about that, until we were over and he discarded me
I think you are getting better as a coach. Because I keep coming back to you. Thank you Jonathon
Ahhh gotcha 👌
Consider it a blessing. You deserve to be safe.🫂
Alignment is the magic word❣️🪄💫✨
Exactly
Jonathon Did you understand that Stacey stated she is homeless and living in her car? Goodness. How can we help her? Obviously she is working and trying. She seems like a good and lovely person.
Jonathon is astrology important in a relationship? I’m a December 15 girl.
Be present...no judgment
My guy is terrible about not asking specifics. He will always send me a text “hope you’re having a wonderful day.” I want him so much to have specifics like, “have you heard from the kids or wasn’t that sunrise cool.” I feel like it’s so shallow to give those blanket statements
I know exactly how you feel. It doesn’t feel authentic :/
Ive been waiting to feel "home" with someone for a very long time. Matt Boggs is pretty cool too. I love you both!
Love your work! Keep it coming. Thanks and blessings.
Thank you so much!
What about someone who is widowed for 2 years and 4 months now and I’m 61 and was with him since I was 24. Dating is so difficult and different now. It seems guys are mostly just looking for hook ups.😌
Majority of the population.
I agree when something is true it’s universal
Indeed. I'm a truth seeker.
In this world verify everything.
I hope you're well Margaret.
Thank you Jonathan this was wonderful. And by the way, I’m a Gemini. I don’t take a lot of stock in astrology aligning with each other, as you referenced. I appreciate what you said. I don’t date people based on what sign they are if I did, the dating pool would be very small. Relationships are so much more than all of that. Your dating profile was amazing. Hugs. ❤
Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome.
I know exactly who I can and cannot date based on their sign. It never fails, I know it's silly but the positive and negative attributes seem to be spot on.
I told my man looking into his eyes feels like coming home… he hasn’t said anything like that to me. Last night I told him with everything going on in my life that even on my worst day, as long as im with him im still living my best life. He said,”Well good, baby “….. not sure if perhaps he simply doesn’t feel the same way or if he’s being a man and that perhaps his language is different 🤷🏻♀️
I’m in my late 50s and feel the same way with the man I’ve been seeing for about 6 months but I’ve hesitated verbalizing my feelings for fear that I’m sharing too much too soon.
If it bothers you …his lack of reciprocity …tell him. If you feel
He isn’t really into
It 100 percent than that’s a whole
Other thing. Is he able to
Show
His love in other ways and he’s just not fluffy? Do you trust him?
Do you trust him is the issue.
She offended him. He lost respect for her when she called him a p….not off to a good start. Looks like a tit for tat. She called him the name no he gives her short notice for a date. My advice: move on and next time think before you speak. He is not any more to blame than you.
Quality people plan in advance.
Some men should live by themselves and vice versa.
Yes I understand what you mean by “this feels like home” that is the best way to say it. I know exactly what you mean
I think the one-up-manship, with a man at the top, is in many religions. As far as Christianity, I believe the verses were construed to suit a European patriarchy, and are still misunderstood today by many good and sincere people. I think the perspective in the Bible might be better comprehended as a team of differing roles, not one better than the other. (And everyone has a choice of what they will consider cooperating with: cooperation being key but none of this brutal slavishness. This is about intimate love, not who gets the most power. Honestly, Women, you can just say no to what you are uncomfortable with and his power has just sunk to the floor.) Christian men in the Bible are instructed to care for women "as Christ cared for the congregation and gave himself up for it," as in 'Jesus gave his life up.' I can think of friends and family I would give my life to help and those I have already sacrificed much for...out of love not duty. Jesus is also quoted as saying, "He who is the greatest, must be your servant." So, folks, the reason the man gets respect, is for his deep sense of responsibility and service, and he must earn that respect. Women, you must give respect, if you want love. One beef I have with the feminist movement is women weren't even thinking of how a lack of respect immasculates a man, and they lose their love for her and their desire for her. I understand that the sense of responsibility might scare some men, but if you don't have that sense of responsibility (and, ladies, let's face it: our hormones drive our brains batty a lot of the time. Yes, we have good qualities, too, but guys usually have this wonderful ability to see the bigger perspective.) if guys don't take that sense of responsibility, (and she doesn't encourage him in it) she will have a hard time giving him the admiration, encouragement, respect he needs, as well as love. Guys, you do not have to be perfect. It would be so intimidating to have a partner who is perfect, don't you think? I'd rather have someone who has empathy and understanding when I make mistakes. "Cherish her" the verses say. That means cherish her by what? giving her what she needs not what you imagine she needs? Women, you have got to speak up about your needs and quit the "mysterious woman thing" in that way if your togetherness is to work: honest communication. If a man cherishes a women is he not going to respect her point of view? Will he not respect her feelings? Is he first self-serving, and then considers her? And, ladies, you must, you MUST be brave and be assertive and communicate your own needs and wants, too, or the man will be clueless to your inner world and you will be lonely. He'll feel lonely, too, not connected with you. People are scared off by the Bible because of those who have abused it for centuries. What would you give your life for? Can a person become so precious to you, you'll do everything within your power for them? Do you already have people you show self-sacrificing, unselfish love to? friends, family? Good, then if you've exercised your "love muscle"-your heart- you're ready for some serious love. (And sex being more intimate, more precious to you both, more connecting-sex being sacred!-now has a chance. God created sex, he wants you to enjoy it.)
Jonathan, great content as always! You can be his “PEACE” or a good follow-up: how to be just a “PIECE” to him, an acronym of what NOT to be lol! Love your stuff‼️✊🏼
My lady and I both thought your bio read a bit like a classified ad on ‘shrooms! I got your back bro!
I appreciate that
I like that HOME… each letter… perfect explanation!! So true!!
Thanks so much!
@JonathonAsley Great video lol, loved your energy ✨
Glad you enjoyed
I do not remember having a date even once in my entire life.
I really enjoyed your show today. I am relatively new to watching your show, however, I find you to be rather informative and like the excellent advice you give to your viewers.
I loved your dating profile, and you are 100% accurate. It was rather long, and so was mine. I got criticized by a couple of guys for having a long profile. I must agree that if someone is not interested in reading what you wrote, then they are not the right person for you. It is an excellent way to weed people out, and a good way to hopefully find someone you are looking for. I took myself off all dating sites for now; however, if I do decide to go on them again, I am going to write one similar to yours describing exactly the type of guy I am looking for and what I want in a relationship.
WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you share this video with friends?
@@JonathonAslay I wish I could share with friends, but most of them are men. The few female friends I have are either married or not looking. If I think of anyone, I will share. Hope to catch you live one of these days soon!
@Jonathon, Stacy called the guy a ‘pussy’ … how is that rude he didn’t respond for 12 hrs after that … So who offended who ?… 😅
They were having a conversation... that's rude I my book
@@JonathonAslay Not after what she said … When someone is disrespectful on a text is appropriate not to answer 🙌🏻
Some men if given the opportunity will meet out same treatment to all women.They just don't care about their feeling. Only concerned with what they could get.
Mete out.Device error.
Yes, Players- users, spenders. Self centric men.
He was offended by her comment. It was negative, very judgmental and very putting off. He didn't respond immediately so as not to react to her negative comment.
What if the person is stuck in the past- but it is mostly all wonderful experiences! I am thankful for the wonderful experiences that he has had for his past two serious relationships over the past 10 years. It’s just that he constantly talks about them and the things they did were so wonderful. I have mentioned that that is great -so let’s make new experiences. Am I wrong in feeling this way?
Nope... you are not wrong. He sounds stuck in the past. 😞
I got resting bastard face twice on a date. I didn’t catfish them, they catfished me. Like both were only tolerating me. Introduced to them from the Internet so that is why I don’t believe anything except real life.
It happens
Do you know some will be in a relationship but will be looking for the highest bidder.as soon as someone whom they think they will benefit more from..as soon as they come along ,they are gone.How will you describe such ones?
Whenever I read some of the comments during live, I keep thinking about the amount of nerves UA-cam presenters (you Jonathon!) need to have in order not to get upset by some people. In this case, KtVix or Spread the Gospel, talking about your photos or Paltry Flowers and Lisk saying "profile should not be that long"...my God, women! Seriously??? Are you happy in love? Life? I highly doubt so. But you are so ready to judge others. And then people ask why they don't have luck in anything ... Sorry, I know I should have more understanding for people, but sometimes it is really really hard. So, again, kudos to you Jonathon!
Dorothy: there's no place like home!
You’re a Leo too 🎉🎉 🦁🦁🦁🦁 Leo woman here ! No man is above me lol. We are a team
but I am swimming in a pool of hyenas in this dating world
keeping my head up 😊
Love it! Hyenas.
Wow electromagnetic yo find the needle instead of burning the haystack.That's pretty good and smart.
Thanks... I think so too. :)
God's blessings to all Amen 😇🙏😇🙏🙏🙏🙏
@Net Detective, The Universe does not distinguish ( yes ) or ( no) . That’s why we have to just make affirmations and ignore what you don’t want . By mentioning the negative, you are calling it , vibrating to it and giving it power. Is temping to do it tho lol 😂
Exactly
She told him to “don’t be a pussy”. I’d say that’s disrespectful. So for her to tell him she felt disrespected by him is almost hilarious. It’s something a crazy gaslighter would say 😂
I agree 💯 … I think it made him spin and he didn’t even know what to say … poor guy.
My experience was that men truly didn't read the profile. Literally used to ask me questions that were already addressed in my profile when they messaged me. Just saying...
Yes, that’s frustrating and annoying … That’s how interested they are in something serious… go figure . They just want the connection and the energy …
I like Jonathon and learn a lot from his videos, but I think he is wrong about having light conversation. I think conversation in the beginning needs to be light and sometimes a "Hope you have a good day." is enough to let someone know you are thinking of them ... especially early on. I'm not sure having deep conversations (e.g., insecurities, flaws, childhood wounds, sex ) early in the relationship is necessarily a good thing. I'm not sure I want to know or share all that messy "stuff" immediately.
Light has it's place too... I agree.
I just started the video but I have to tell you this. I once told a friend that my ex felt like home. It didn't stay that way though. Things changed and he showed his true colors.
I understand
You can yell...sometimes we need it. 😂❤
But we all submit all the time. To the law, to our employers. Submitting to a man is similar. Your opinion, please. 💕 I love listening to you.
I thank you are wonderful I really appreciate you helping us crazy woman we are fickle . At time's. Hey I am moving on I have the rest of my life I am going to have fun fun fun. I'll be watching more your the real thing . I'm 61 and want to live. 😊😊
Been talking an texting with a guy I went to school with and communicated through FB, he posted a car he just bought and I commented I ready to ride. So he private messaged me his number so I called him and we talked, then we met at the high school and rode for a while. Very polite, went to Dairy Queen and got a ice cream. Then we went for another ride to star gaze with the T-tops off, nice ride, next time I let him pick me up at my home. Rode and got a bite to eat. Been talking checking on each other…. Yesterday on the phone I said something about not wearing a bra,,,, his comment was “I’m sexually interested in you….. what does that mean??? I just l giggled. Just want to know what that means and what I should say and do…
I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s comments about this because this is the situation most of us ladies find ourselves in.
I suppose you need to work out what you want and communicate this to him. Are you happy to progress to sex now or would you like more dates, are you hoping for short term or long term, so many questions. Keep us posted.
I would be offended if he said that to me. Seems a shallow comment when you spent so much time together. I would pay attention to his behavior closely and assess if he is genuine or just in it for hoochie koochie….
@@auntie44m I’m not seeking sex, he has made a couple of sexual jokes which were funny but then I was like hummm, where is he going with this. I’m 59 he is 60, we just starting talking 6 months ago. We were not friends in school he played football and I always thought he was good looking. He had back surgery bout 2 years ago and I followed him and prayed for him and he had a girlfriend then that helped him and I’m friends with her on FB, when they broke up she blocked him now he is about to have surgery again and they are back friends. When he and I talked about going for a ride to star gaze I ask if he any girlfriends in the picture cause I don’t want any drama and he said no. I have noticed that on some of his posts comments are hidden and I blocked a girl that put a mad face 😡 on one of my post about love,, she and I are not friends but him and her are, so I ask him about that an he said that it’s not like that with her! He has not invited me to his house to meet his kids and grandkids. Doesn’t say anything about my 17 year ole son which is a red flag 🚩 to me. So at this point I’m going to ask him what his intentions are since the comment. Thank you for your advice.
@@Tbn48ibp I was thinking that same thing. He has been married 4 times and he has told me about them,was like hummm what’s her side of the story. If he want sex he can go on. Thank you for your support!
He didn’t send a dick pic 🤷🏻♀️I mean are you sexually interested in him? He might just be saying what you both are thinking…
We aren't always ready and need patience on doing al of tbe necessary self improvements before dating or end up unravelling and reverse engineering our lives after failing in relationships but the end results beinf the same...fix yourself first and then love ❤️ should be easy
Yeah, so funny, first date, I have childhood trauma, do you? Omg I feel so connected 🤣
That was the largest "Whoa" i ever heard.. a horse could hear it! Yes, your profile was very descriptive and l hope you will find a good match. What zodiac sign are you anyway?
I hope so too! Thank you. Leo ♌️
Not our job. His Daddy should of taught him this
Pity you live in USA. I understand all of what you stated there. The deepest conversations one could have are endless but there is so few hours......
Gamer..I would respond to that guy with something like this..”oh I didn’t hear a response back from my message so I figured you were busy and I made some other plans but thanks for asking.” This gives him the chance to step
Up and know he needs to respond more timely to your message as
Well as
Tells him you’re out there with other plans and he needs to step up his game
And attentiveness or he’ll miss the boat
Love this!!
Absolutely right there. Thank you. 🌸💯
You are so welcome
Wao i agree with jonnathan on 99 if not 100 💯 of what he sayin
Love your energy, and emphase the F 💣 's 🤭
I try lol
Woah the language !
His connection complicated
How so?
yes bravoooooo
Amen! You we're on fire tonight - so Fun!! Love your profile Johnathon. I resonate with everything except the "plant consciousness exploration". Been there done that. Plant & shroom energy resonates at a certain frequency and one can actually outgrow this level or rise above these frequencies at some point. After many, many exploratory workshops and a two year deep dive into spiritual studies in Transformational Psychology and becoming a Transpersonal Hypnotherapist & Reiki Master Practitioner, one becomes aware that Enlightenment can be reached at higher levels without extemporaneous psychoactive substances (IMO). Their use in Ceremony is something different, it can have a place for some Practitioners and Participants, but so many don't respect the plants and psychotropics in this manner. One may get stuck at a certain frequency or level if one doesn't journey beyond simply using substances to reach enlightenment. One can do a deep dive and explore the meaning of life with other methods...❣️💫😁
Thanks for sharing
Help to communicate
Yes
Happy
Optimistic
Memorable
Enthusiastic Excitement
Unique Special Safe
Feel like home for each other.
Johnathan 🙌😉
This is me❤
Yikes, the woman seems out of touch with realistic social norms and expectations
You would if cracked up at my husband and my first date!! I karaoke d he was like😳 I really did not care! I’m married to this guy😅, I love him, lots a work, but🤪
your swearing and blunt honesty is TOOO good!!! Hahahaha love it!
I try 😁
are
LOL! Awesome!
Hi Jonathan, it reminds me of you putting your ex-girlfriend on your videos too soon. Would you agree?
Can you elaborate?
@@JonathonAslay oh, you were talking about your friend and her long distance relationship. I was just thinking about how we jump into things sometime before we are sure of our relationships. My perspective at the time was it would have been better if you had kept your relation private for a while longer. I could tell she was not all in...another female can tell these things sometime. I was just wondering if you regretted that in retrospect?
I love your show, unfortunately I turn to you and other dating channels when I'm having difficulty with the boy I like, He's a man but is acting like a boy right now lol Thank YOU! I may dump him we'll see.
Versed
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Jonathon. I so agree. Asking. Hows- your day going. Hows the weather , How did you sleep. No depth to the conversation. You are dropping gems' here as always .
Awe... thanks ☺️
I love that alien, sex, what keeps you up at night, favorite smell quote. Its me!
Well I have to unsubscribe and I cannot listen to you anymore because I believe in what the Bible says, it is OUR INSTRUCTION MANUAL according to Romans 15:4 it says that it is "for our instruction so that we might have hope."
The Bible does speak of women being in subjection to a husband. There is nothing wrong with that. Christ Jesus is in subjection to his Father, God Jehovah. The Christian congregation is in subjection to Jesus. And children are in subjection to their parents.
It only makes sense that a woman / wife is in subjection to her husband.
Just like every CHEF knows more than one cook spoils the soup.
There has to be headship, it's just organized, it's structured and its disciplined, and it works.
Personally I want a relationship that I'm in subjection to my husband. NOT that he will Lord it over me.
He will listen to my input and my suggestions and if they are better than his he will humbly take my suggestion.
It doesn't always happen, but sometimes he finds out later that he should have listened to his wife. Because of imperfection that's the way it goes.😂😮😊
I am getting that this advice from you is for people having sexual relationships outside of marriage, so this is definitely not for me!!
Sincerely TAMI
I understand... all my best to you. 🙏
@@JonathonAslay Thank you,..Best to you also!!💖
Stacey …I agree. Weed them out when they are rude. If he ghosted you in middle of a conversation ….for 12 hours…I’d say pass…next …..
Regarding submitting to a man. There is this coach out there that does videos with his wife. Its truly nauseating. All about what a WOMAN can do to please a man. No thanks lol
What is the name of that person or channel?
@JonathonAslay Hopefully he's not a friend or something. His advice and his wife's has not been anything I would ever follow. I literally laugh out loud at the absurdity of it.
@JonathonAslay Magnetize your man. That alone should say it all. That's why I love when you say us women aren't off the hook either. They make it sound like everything you're against. Submitting to men or anyone for that matter. I'm sure he's nice but I will stick with you. Matt is also very good, however, he doesn't crack me up like you. The best is the texting "how's your day? Are you having a great day? Hope you had a great day." Cracks me up, you're too funny. I love your passion and I like when you swear 😁
Gotcha 👍🏼@@jennyrenaud2411
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Yes Jonathan 👍
Yes Jonathon, i agree with you.
WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you share this video with friends?
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Excellent video Jonathon!!! Alot resonated with me. Your profile is outstanding!!! I'm a leo as well. 👊 ❤
Thank you! 🙂
Stacey you’re adorable !!
Agreed!
You crack me up 😊
Thanks ☺️
Alignment so so important 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Exactly 💯
Absolutely.
Dear Mr Ashley,
U are so intelligent & u have it going on & totally get it!!!!! When it comes to life.
So how come u can't find a genuine, decent lady to share your life with?
It doesn't make sense!!??
My kind regards, Rita🙏
His name is Aslay, not Ashley.
Love your story about colonoscopy. I have one next month.
Good luck!
Yeah right!
you are so quirky