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@@mahaliahoyte6038 yes! I learned that when my Ex was stealing money from my children’s bank accounts while I was undergoing chemotherapy to save our lives. And, I found out when I was pregnant with my youngest when I just got a cancer diagnosis for one of my twins…Between the devastation and what we had been through, plus the fact the money was compiled from gifts from family and friends… this betrayal was inconceivable. And when people ask me if I would ever reconcile, my reply is “I have no use for anyone like that, I don’t care who it is!!!!” - and he still hasn’t made good on it! He definitely will see court papers on this!!! He has no conscience, but Momma Bear will make it right legally…
I just became Christian recently and I finally been able to put up the boundary of no sex. I’ve never been able to make that boundary before and always felt awful. Wow does it filter the users out!!! I totally recommend it! Thank you for this video you are on point! Xox God bless 🙏
I agree if a man says he doesn't want anything, you have to hear what he says the first time...trust me, you won't change his mind or him or have that certain something... sure, talk to him but pull away and protect yourself. When they do want something, you may be on their radar, maybe not, but at least you have protected yourself. Trust me, it does hurt, but at least you don't feel used...
I just ended a long term connection with a man (I have been watching his movements) who came back here in late 2022 after ghosting me for 16 months...when he came back he came back very humble and different...then he acquired the high paying position and wham the real him came back...each time he stepped closer I shield my heart...thank god I did...after trying to get a status from this man he pulled the last game card and I fired the gun....I told him were friends...he is now gone and I am free from the BS...my heart in tact my ego together and healing and my motive to go forward in life...we talking about folks over 60 years of age here...for me I am done and if he play crazy and come back here we will have it out...
Dating for 2 months now, I met his parents and he has met mine. Right after that he said the idea of a relationship/the label sounds 'heavy' and a bit sufficating? Even though it was his idea to invite me to see his family. I declined earlier invites (going to his birthdayparty, his sisters' wedding party) because I found it all too soon... I really tried to take it slow, over these past weeks we had alot of fun dates outside of the house. And now it's getting more serious (his sister said that they haven't met the last girl he was seeing..?), he's getting doubts? Even mentioned an open relationship.. because he feels he can't look at other women now? So feels like doing it secretly because I won't like that.. I asked if I did or said anything that makes him feel trapped in any kind of way? He said no, it's just fear of commitment.. On our fist date I said I find it a beautiful thing to be with 1 person only and go deeper & deeper with them.. (I tried poly, it's not my thing). I dont know how to go about this? Any thoughts?
I miss that teammate 😰 My Ex was like that when we first met. It was necessary because when we first started, while we lived together, my life was still long distance (work & school, friends& family)...during the week I was only home for a short period of time. after work & school...this worked for the first 8 years of our relationship...things changed after I graduated and we got married and I found work in state...I sometimes think that long distance dynamic despite living together, doing things together, still delayed our relationship...
Thank you Jonathon for your suggestion. I am flattered, however I would be happy to talk about my ‘growing up. As an adult’. However I m going to try to do volunteering with a group of really kind men which y psychiatrist told is a rarity these days
I understand the need to get more intimate than "hi how's your day, great how's yours" over and over again, can you please point me to a or some resources on how to move past that? Thanks!
I was in a dating site. Lasted two weeks lol but I would also consider it a tennis match. A back and forth ..so I would answer their question and the last sentence I wrote asked them one in return. Sometimes it worked and other times the person would just be shallow in their conversing and they weren’t brave enough to make a call . The Pickins are slim I tell ya. I lasted two weeks. lol lol 😂
I don’t understand many people when someone show u or tell u who they are believe that. A man told me I went on a date many years ago, he wants an open relationship. I didn’t want that. We were cordial we finished eating and went our separate ways. Be glad he told you many will lie. So don’t complain about his actions you decide to be with him think it something else when it not.
So why do men start friends with benefits when they going to lose their woman when she walks for good? Are we creating a society filled with men and women who don't have a mindset and honesty when dating or just meeting each other?
Good advice Jonathan i don't think the political one is as much of a worry in other countries we don't run around screaming im a republican or democrat my ex had different ideas than i did it wasn't an issue really it certainly wasn't the reason we broke up after 20 years
Brain study has been done. Women with high body count can no longer be emotionaly connected to men. Now the question is the number of sexual partners woman had at different age 40s, 50s. What number is too high?
Hmmm that's interesting well for me I feel like that's what I'm attracted to but I had a great relationship with my Dad he raised us up great only thing I remember when was little he was always leaving to go to national guard I always hated when he left maybe it traumatized me lol idk Define Daddy issues ?
Because bad guys are good at cosplaying good guys. They act like soulmates and seem to resonate with you like no one before just to get what they want. While good guys just act like themselves and if it's not a match, you see it right away. I don't think you would reject your true soulmate just because he's a good guy, you just don't have time to meet him while dealing with all those confusing narcs who acted like the one at the beginning then made 180 degrees.
It took me decades to accept that chemistry is, I’ll say, just the ignition switch. It doesn’t at all indicate that the engine - compatibility - is sound. In fact I had to face that I was somewhat addicted to the thrill of “falling in love:” the early intensity. And it took me just as long to accept that sex does NOT generate love. It’s embarrassing how long it took me, but at least, at last, I’m dead sober about sex. It’s mostly just scratching an itch. Except for the oxytocin flooding that makes us women batshit about a guy we just met. Which is why I don’t do early sex anymore, and avoid dinner dates for days, preferably weeks. Coffee and lunch keep the hormones at bay, somewhat. I’m also experiencing “Widow’s Fire,” a heightened sex drive. I’ve learned both women and men can develop this after the death of a loved one, and it doesn’t help you stay rational. But if you’ve ever experienced a worthwhile relationship after taking it mindfully and slowly, you know it’s so worthwhile to slow down. In 70 years, I’ve had exactly one of those. We were wonderful together.
Another great show, Jonathon. I love "How I Met your Mother." My favorite character is Ted. I binge watched it a few months ago. 4000weeks, this guy is bsing you. Are you ok with him sleeping with other women and you? Probably not. This won't go anywhere good.
Chemistry and nothing else will help successful relationship that takes two people. Nothing else will determine that it’s just the two people. The other issue I have with this is I’ve talked to a therapist and they said you can heal these wounds in a relationship so you’re saying everybody has to be completely healthy to have a healthy relationship and you can have insecure or avoidant issues but they can also be worked in the relationship if you’re ready for that that’s the thing people have to be ready to work on it And be aware of it and they must want the relationship so much so that they’re able to realize that these are unhealthy coping mechanisms that must be destroy!!! And if you know so much, why aren’t you healthy? I wonder that you know it’s amazing no offense but seriously.
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We feel totally used ... When we discover his intentions weren't geniune and we've been deceived !!
Earnestly working through the spender phase. I'm working hard on getting to secure attachment and establish a real relationship
Some men have no conscience.
True...
@@mahaliahoyte6038 yes! I learned that when my Ex was stealing money from my children’s bank accounts while I was undergoing chemotherapy to save our lives. And, I found out when I was pregnant with my youngest when I just got a cancer diagnosis for one of my twins…Between the devastation and what we had been through, plus the fact the money was compiled from gifts from family and friends… this betrayal was inconceivable. And when people ask me if I would ever reconcile, my reply is “I have no use for anyone like that, I don’t care who it is!!!!” - and he still hasn’t made good on it! He definitely will see court papers on this!!! He has no conscience, but Momma Bear will make it right legally…
I just became Christian recently and I finally been able to put up the boundary of no sex. I’ve never been able to make that boundary before and always felt awful. Wow does it filter the users out!!! I totally recommend it! Thank you for this video you are on point! Xox God bless 🙏
I agree if a man says he doesn't want anything, you have to hear what he says the first time...trust me, you won't change his mind or him or have that certain something... sure, talk to him but pull away and protect yourself. When they do want something, you may be on their radar, maybe not, but at least you have protected yourself. Trust me, it does hurt, but at least you don't feel used...
This is 100% true. It works. Dignity stays intact.
I just ended a long term connection with a man (I have been watching his movements) who came back here in late 2022 after ghosting me for 16 months...when he came back he came back very humble and different...then he acquired the high paying position and wham the real him came back...each time he stepped closer I shield my heart...thank god I did...after trying to get a status from this man he pulled the last game card and I fired the gun....I told him were friends...he is now gone and I am free from the BS...my heart in tact my ego together and healing and my motive to go forward in life...we talking about folks over 60 years of age here...for me I am done and if he play crazy and come back here we will have it out...
Dating for 2 months now, I met his parents and he has met mine. Right after that he said the idea of a relationship/the label sounds 'heavy' and a bit sufficating? Even though it was his idea to invite me to see his family. I declined earlier invites (going to his birthdayparty, his sisters' wedding party) because I found it all too soon...
I really tried to take it slow, over these past weeks we had alot of fun dates outside of the house. And now it's getting more serious (his sister said that they haven't met the last girl he was seeing..?), he's getting doubts? Even mentioned an open relationship.. because he feels he can't look at other women now? So feels like doing it secretly because I won't like that.. I asked if I did or said anything that makes him feel trapped in any kind of way? He said no, it's just fear of commitment..
On our fist date I said I find it a beautiful thing to be with 1 person only and go deeper & deeper with them.. (I tried poly, it's not my thing).
I dont know how to go about this? Any thoughts?
Sounds like he'd be happier with a friends with benefits
Loved this broadcast Jonathon, so spot on. I've saved this link to remind me of the content for future reminders 😅❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
I miss that teammate 😰 My Ex was like that when we first met. It was necessary because when we first started, while we lived together, my life was still long distance (work & school, friends& family)...during the week I was only home for a short period of time. after work & school...this worked for the first 8 years of our relationship...things changed after I graduated and we got married and I found work in state...I sometimes think that long distance dynamic despite living together, doing things together, still delayed our relationship...
Thanks!
Awe... thank you 😊
My movie repeat is Moonstruck. It's a great fantasy. And it has so much insight into relationships among all the characters.
Indeed
Thank you Jonathan Coach for Your Suggestions Advices being Honest Straight- Forward.
WOW, thank you 😊
Thank you Jonathon for your suggestion. I am flattered, however I would be happy to talk about my ‘growing up. As an adult’. However I m going to try to do volunteering with a group of really kind men which y psychiatrist told is a rarity these days
I understand the need to get more intimate than "hi how's your day, great how's yours" over and over again, can you please point me to a or some resources on how to move past that? Thanks!
Me too!!!! Almost 2 months and still not past that phase!!! Not sure what he wants. Need to do some studying up too ‼️‼️
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I was in a dating site. Lasted two weeks lol but I would also consider it a tennis match. A back and forth ..so I would answer their question and the last sentence I wrote asked them one in return. Sometimes it worked and other times the person would just be shallow in their conversing and they weren’t brave enough to make a call . The Pickins are slim I tell ya. I lasted two weeks. lol lol 😂
So true 😂😂😂
Totally and completely loved your guesstimates you very bright and careing. Thank you.
Thank you so much!
I don’t understand many people when someone show u or tell u who they are believe that.
A man told me I went on a date many years ago, he wants an open relationship. I didn’t want that. We were cordial we finished eating and went our separate ways.
Be glad he told you many will lie. So don’t complain about his actions you decide to be with him think it something else when it not.
I agree
Superficial talk is phatic
Indeed
Why does it mean when a guy knows he’s in trouble he starts with the name calling. Besides being immature why do many guys do this?
Helpful content today concise and clearly presented. Another good show. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Enjoyed the Video Tonight.. Really things to process..
Might listen again..
🤩🤗✌️
Please do!
I don't understand why a guy would introduce a woman to his family if he's just using her ????
It's a tease...
@@JonathonAslaycan you explain what you mean by tease ? 😬
I am a new viewer, please post your live schedule so I can try to make the next one! Thanks!
Monday Tuesday and Thursday at 5pm PST and Saturday at 8am PST
@@JonathonAslay thanks!
sacred is what sex is .......
We Woman have THE POWER.
PLEASE LADIES STOP GIVING AWAY YOUR PUNAMI FOR " NOTHING " IS SACRED TO PROTECT YOURSELF.
Thank you!❤
You're welcome 😊
So do I have to react angrily to him when a man has done wrong and never talk to him again?
So why do men start friends with benefits when they going to lose their woman when she walks for good? Are we creating a society filled with men and women who don't have a mindset and honesty when dating or just meeting each other?
No, you don't have to.
Good advice Jonathan i don't think the political one is as much of a worry in other countries we don't run around screaming im a republican or democrat my ex had different ideas than i did it wasn't an issue really it certainly wasn't the reason we broke up after 20 years
Yes, it's an American thing
Watching the same movie is a Leo trait 🦁 I can relate lol
Really?
@@JonathonAslay yes I once watched it in a Leo video the lady said we listen to the same songs and watch the same movies
The rebound people
Yes
Brain study has been done. Women with high body count can no longer be emotionaly connected to men. Now the question is the number of sexual partners woman had at different age 40s, 50s. What number is too high?
Interesting question
Jonathan why do women sometimes pick the bad boy over the good guy ?
Daddy issues???
Hmmm that's interesting well for me I feel like that's what I'm attracted to but I had a great relationship with my Dad he raised us up great only thing I remember when was little he was always leaving to go to national guard I always hated when he left maybe it traumatized me lol idk Define Daddy issues ?
Because bad guys are good at cosplaying good guys. They act like soulmates and seem to resonate with you like no one before just to get what they want. While good guys just act like themselves and if it's not a match, you see it right away. I don't think you would reject your true soulmate just because he's a good guy, you just don't have time to meet him while dealing with all those confusing narcs who acted like the one at the beginning then made 180 degrees.
I need some magic fairy 🧚♀ dust! ✨
Me too!! Lol 😆
You have good advise.
Thank
Smartest?? I have been a Geriatric Nurse for twenty years and I know what I see. As a former Democrat, you guys keep reminding me why I left
Thank every very much I have learned a lot with your wisdom advice, my problem is i don't trust this person.
You are very welcome
You are very patient Jonathan. I wish when these women are lucky enough to have your time on air they would get to the freakin point. Lol. 🤪😘
Haha! Nah, it's just typical women rationalizing and thinking they still have a chance.
It took me decades to accept that chemistry is, I’ll say, just the ignition switch. It doesn’t at all indicate that the engine - compatibility - is sound. In fact I had to face that I was somewhat addicted to the thrill of “falling in love:” the early intensity. And it took me just as long to accept that sex does NOT generate love. It’s embarrassing how long it took me, but at least, at last, I’m dead sober about sex. It’s mostly just scratching an itch. Except for the oxytocin flooding that makes us women batshit about a guy we just met. Which is why I don’t do early sex anymore, and avoid dinner dates for days, preferably weeks. Coffee and lunch keep the hormones at bay, somewhat. I’m also experiencing “Widow’s Fire,” a heightened sex drive. I’ve learned both women and men can develop this after the death of a loved one, and it doesn’t help you stay rational. But if you’ve ever experienced a worthwhile relationship after taking it mindfully and slowly, you know it’s so worthwhile to slow down. In 70 years, I’ve had exactly one of those. We were wonderful together.
Another great show, Jonathon. I love "How I Met your Mother." My favorite character is Ted. I binge watched it a few months ago. 4000weeks, this guy is bsing you. Are you ok with him sleeping with other women and you? Probably not. This won't go anywhere good.
Exactly
I am not okay with it, but fear losing him. Still feeling so torn. Thank you.
Chemistry and nothing else will help successful relationship that takes two people. Nothing else will determine that it’s just the two people.
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All humans use each other
❤
Chemistry and nothing else will help successful relationship that takes two people. Nothing else will determine that it’s just the two people.
The other issue I have with this is I’ve talked to a therapist and they said you can heal these wounds in a relationship so you’re saying everybody has to be completely healthy to have a healthy relationship and you can have insecure or avoidant issues but they can also be worked in the relationship if you’re ready for that that’s the thing people have to be ready to work on it And be aware of it and they must want the relationship so much so that they’re able to realize that these are unhealthy coping mechanisms that must be destroy!!!
And if you know so much, why aren’t you healthy? I wonder that you know it’s amazing no offense but seriously.
Yes, further healing and growth can happen in a relationship.
is 4000 a week thick??? I have my moment but this is too crazy
Dumb and Dumber 😂
Exactly!
Hello Sweet Johnathan 😊
Hello 😊
I love watching your podcast. @@JonathonAslay
I am a Sagittarius, the hunter lol
Yay
I have been vetting my guy for 5 yrs, now I am ready to let him in. He has proven himself worthy😊
LMAO and he's still alive....
5 years
@@JonathonAslay Yes Sir, I have learned from you 🤗
5 years!!😂😂. They could change and leave you almost 30 years later! No gaurentees ever ladies and gents! We really never know people
Jeez 5 yrs seems too long to keep somebody at bay
Did you say, Radical republican .... You revealed so much about yourself by that statement, which had nothing to do with being a Republican...
I said Radical Democrat too... I meant extreme beliefs
He’s talking about misalignment Diane….. if you listen properly 😂
@@JonathonAslay Many of us understood what you meant.
Thanks!
Awe... thanks