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Wow Jonathon. U rock! ❤ My “mistake” was letting an ex come back & clearly I had forgotten what a “lame” he is. He love-bombed me & I believed him. Then I became a pump-n-dump four months later… when I finally let him back into my bed. And so I suffered a crushing blow.💔 BUT guess what? I’m recovering now & although I don’t do dating sites… I met someone organically playing a sport… and I’m in my mid 60’s. So your advice is sound! It’s best to get out & find something u like to do that includes men. That’s key. Plus of course one must have a well-rounded life that includes taking care of yourself. Physically, mentally, & so on.
@@JonathonAslaywhich I have done! ❤ I really appreciated our talk years ago and focused on clarity. Due to misunderstandings albeit a seemingly serious relationship frought with difficulties, I sent a clear message only years later after work done on both ends... positive vibes. I keep going my path. During bad times, we can support each other. Yet the paths must be cleared to move ahead.
Agree and so many men in the dating world are passive and expect women to do the chasing. This is why I actually don't like the dating app Bumble. Women have to reach out to the man. I don't find it empowering at all but more like we have to chase them.
@@JonathonAslayI thought about the good days & recalled that Israeli culture has the man in control & leading to be happy & the woman is supposed to trust him. Of course, after some ❤ to ❤ talks... so it was understandable that mom's was was ok... till trouble reared its head... ex.
Isn't it sad that we have to label a guy a quality guy when he keeps his word and treating us with mutual respect, which just should be the normal way anyways? ❤ Your video
Spot on for me today, thanks! Just came out of a relationship that was so demeaning but yet I learned so much about myself and my patterns that I can’t be mad and I really learned my value!
Very very good podcast Jonathan. You’re absolutely right on and all this needed to be said!! So often we compromise our standards, we justify tolerating behavior we don’t like …truth is we must question ourself…why the hell do we tolerate what we don’t want?? Self esteem, self love, inner strength, lack of faith ….we should blame Our damn self!! I think I’d rather be alone , maybe get a cool Medium size dog to walk with, rather than take any more shit from a man!
Confusing indeed! I follow your very helpful advice, remain in my power and so far, I've been meeting men who expect me to integrate their existing life. Ah well, no choice but to keep going until the right one comes along. Your insight on the vetting process has been ô so precious in the circumstances. Thank you 😊
When someone rejected me yes I did not feel worthy not valued anymore and his friends treated me differently as well. hurt so much! BUT I am on my journey with this and trying to grow and love myself and know I am worthy.
Unpopular truth: I still feel like it is a man's world and women have to confirm to their life for the most part. My way or the highway is so many's men's mantra. I live in New York City and majority of the men think like this -- especially successful ones.
@@michellegagne540 I feel like most women feel like this - I love Jonathon's advice to empower women but it really is still a man's world (ego) and we have to bow down to their needs and desires.
Really good content today, especially drawing attention to giving up pre-relationship life. I have friends who have done this and now they are lost. I did it in my last relationship. It took me a long time to find myself again. I’m reticent to get back out there because I don’t want to lose myself this next time around. How can someone else love us if we allow ourselves to get lost? I hope I stay grounded in my own power the next time around. 🙏🏼
Excellent timely advice Jonathan. 20yr relationship break up last year and straight into a relationship with a younger man. Been on and off for a year. Had enough now and off from yesterday. No more!! This video has helped so much with the way forward. One I will save and put on repeat!! 👍🙏🤗💖🌹
This was so amazing to hear today Jonathan! Finally ordered your "self love" book today X 2. My love of my life is moving back to his hometown in CA. So am making him a care package to take with him. Will keep listening to you & your love advice whether this works out or not, you're definitely preparing me for a healthy happy relationship! Thank you!!! ❤️
Been there.mine went back to Florida 10 yrs a GB o.i have strings here so what can I say.we still talk after all this time and noone has come in either of our lives to change vb our feelings.its weird.
My daughter had a new man grill her on her past relationships and dug into everything, now 4 years later he uses that information to attack her and tell her she’s cheating when he comes back from being on the road for 6-10 weeks at a time, when that was what he did to his ex. I told her going forward it’s ok to talk about failures in her marriage but a lady doesn’t kiss and tell about details of flings etc. I don’t think it’s appropriate to tell all or be expected to tell all or else “you’re keeping secrets.”
@@JonathonAslay I think a man can ask about your past in a less hostile way - not attacking/grilling a person. I find when someone attacks or grills me about the past, it is turn off and makes me think the person is extremely INSECURE, jealous and a self-absorbed narcissist. The man wants to make sure you are going to be his servant.
I had a guy talk like he was really interested in me and had plans to meet for coffee on a Friday. It was Monday so there was time to really talk to him. He wanted me to come over to watch Netflix and cuddle and I told him I would like to meet in a public place before doing that. The next day I said good morning and never heard from him. About lunch time I got a text from him saying “I won’t be moving forward with this because I’m seeing someone now”. What the heck happened? He invited me over yet he’s now seeing someone and he blocked me on messenger.
Appreciate your time, energy, and effort to provide yourself the gift of finding your way through to becoming the best you that you can be. It's truely refreshing, and inspiring to know that guy's can check themselves before wrecking themselves. You've recharged my views on the opposite side of the coin of humanity. Thank you! There's hope...😅
That was me Jonathan a very long time ago…I’ve aged, am still hot as fuck! Accomplished Woman who Love Myself more now than Ever! I have a 24 Year Old son who has suffered greatly thru his father’s abandonment of us when he turned 21…We r both Better Off! Thank U 4 this One! ❤
I was told by the man that I was dry and like a pilgrim, at one point he event mocked/mimicked my boy language. It felt like contempt. He was not very warm and didn’t smile
If two are really knowing eachother both individuals have to trust the other enough to speak up and be honest about how they feel . Women have to speak up or lose our for not speaking up . More than none if a woman speaks up then the problem can be resolved if it's going to .
It’s not going to be a two way street with men so distant and void of communications and connection. That really happens to us and it’s real. Nobody learns! 😡
Hello Jonathan. I just started listening to your podcasts today. I am a 60 year old sober (one year 1month) woman. I was married 33 years now divorced 7 years. I have not dated since my divorce. My Wasband was the only man I have ever had an intimate relationship with. I am emotionally/ relationship ready to begin dating. What would you suggest as a venue for meeting relationship ready men. I am also curious of what your fees are for coaching. Thank you Mary Alice ❤
He won't change. Unfortunately some people won't settle and won't work on the relationship they have. Sometimes that relationship will never be enough, let them go and work on yourself and you'll meet someone who is right for you when the time is right
I’m just thinking that it’s time for women to just be friends with other women, and enjoy their lives together rather than being in search of a man all the time. So if you live in Greensboro North Carolina, and you’re looking for a best friend to do things with movies, drinking sky, diving bowling, whatever I mean, let’s just lived and life to the fullest. Embrace being single and enjoy it.
What Ehen a man has seemingly un érection proplem? He sends hot Texts full of désire. No proposal for a meeting.i think it is related wirh this problem.
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Wow Jonathon. U rock! ❤
My “mistake” was letting an ex come back & clearly I had forgotten what a “lame” he is. He love-bombed me & I believed him. Then I became a pump-n-dump four months later… when I finally let him back into my bed. And so I suffered a crushing blow.💔
BUT guess what? I’m recovering now & although I don’t do dating sites… I met someone organically playing a sport… and I’m in my mid 60’s.
So your advice is sound! It’s best to get out & find something u like to do that includes men. That’s key. Plus of course one must have a well-rounded life that includes taking care of yourself. Physically, mentally, & so on.
Amen sister. Amen!! You gooo girl!!
Not easy when women are raised to believe it is up to the man to show interest & take the lead.
That's why you have to be in charge of your destiny and not leave it up to men.
@@JonathonAslaywhich I have done! ❤ I really appreciated our talk years ago and focused on clarity. Due to misunderstandings albeit a seemingly serious relationship frought with difficulties, I sent a clear message only years later after work done on both ends... positive vibes. I keep going my path. During bad times, we can support each other. Yet the paths must be cleared to move ahead.
Agree and so many men in the dating world are passive and expect women to do the chasing. This is why I actually don't like the dating app Bumble. Women have to reach out to the man. I don't find it empowering at all but more like we have to chase them.
Are you meeting anyone healthy?
@@JonathonAslayI thought about the good days & recalled that Israeli culture has the man in control & leading to be happy & the woman is supposed to trust him. Of course, after some ❤ to ❤ talks... so it was understandable that mom's was was ok... till trouble reared its head... ex.
We give our power away when we let either desire or fear run our lives.
Exactly
Right In my case it was the desire
Isn't it sad that we have to label a guy a quality guy when he keeps his word and treating us with mutual respect, which just should be the normal way anyways? ❤ Your video
Spot on for me today, thanks! Just came out of a relationship that was so demeaning but yet I learned so much about myself and my patterns that I can’t be mad and I really learned my value!
You are so welcome
It is important that a lesson was learnt
Is there a chance for relationships for women and men over 70?
.
Very very good podcast Jonathan. You’re absolutely right on and all this needed to be said!! So often we compromise our standards, we justify tolerating behavior we don’t like …truth is we must question ourself…why the hell do we tolerate what we don’t want?? Self esteem, self love, inner strength, lack of faith ….we should blame
Our damn self!! I think I’d rather be alone , maybe get a cool
Medium size dog to walk with, rather than take any more shit from a man!
Amen 🙏
Amen. Don't put up with shit from anyone.
Lol my exact feelings.
Confusing indeed! I follow your very helpful advice, remain in my power and so far, I've been meeting men who expect me to integrate their existing life. Ah well, no choice but to keep going until the right one comes along. Your insight on the vetting process has been ô so precious in the circumstances. Thank you 😊
You got this!
When someone rejected me yes I did not feel worthy not valued anymore and his friends treated me differently as well. hurt so much! BUT I am on my journey with this and trying to grow and love myself and know I am worthy.
You always make me laugh at the toughest of times god bless you
Unpopular truth: I still feel like it is a man's world and women have to confirm to their life for the most part. My way or the highway is so many's men's mantra. I live in New York City and majority of the men think like this -- especially successful ones.
It's been my experience as well.
@@michellegagne540 I feel like most women feel like this - I love Jonathon's advice to empower women but it really is still a man's world (ego) and we have to bow down to their needs and desires.
it really doesn't matter where you live, I am out west, it is still a mans world I feel
Sad and true some of the time...
You do not have to do anything you don't want...
Really good content today, especially drawing attention to giving up pre-relationship life. I have friends who have done this and now they are lost. I did it in my last relationship. It took me a long time to find myself again. I’m reticent to get back out there because I don’t want to lose myself this next time around. How can someone else love us if we allow ourselves to get lost? I hope I stay grounded in my own power the next time around. 🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing!
This is a GREAT video. I gave away my power from the start for 20 years but he made every effort to keep all the power...
Great job!
Excellent timely advice Jonathan. 20yr relationship break up last year and straight into a relationship with a younger man. Been on and off for a year. Had enough now and off from yesterday. No more!! This video has helped so much with the way forward. One I will save and put on repeat!! 👍🙏🤗💖🌹
This was so amazing to hear today Jonathan! Finally ordered your "self love" book today X 2. My love of my life is moving back to his hometown in CA. So am making him a care package to take with him. Will keep listening to you & your love advice whether this works out or not, you're definitely preparing me for a healthy happy relationship! Thank you!!! ❤️
Hope it helps...
@@JonathonAslay me too ❤️
Been there.mine went back to Florida 10 yrs a GB o.i have strings here so what can I say.we still talk after all this time and noone has come in either of our lives to change vb our feelings.its weird.
My daughter had a new man grill her on her past relationships and dug into everything, now 4 years later he uses that information to attack her and tell her she’s cheating when he comes back from being on the road for 6-10 weeks at a time, when that was what he did to his ex. I told her going forward it’s ok to talk about failures in her marriage but a lady doesn’t kiss and tell about details of flings etc.
I don’t think it’s appropriate to tell all or be expected to tell all or else “you’re keeping secrets.”
That is quite nasty. Extortion. Sure she doesn't like it.
If a man was unhealed from his past relationships, which would cause them to sabotage they future relationships, would you want him to keep quiet?
Wow, this man sounds traumatized and narcissistic. He's gaslighting her.
@@JonathonAslay I think a man can ask about your past in a less hostile way - not attacking/grilling a person. I find when someone attacks or grills me about the past, it is turn off and makes me think the person is extremely INSECURE, jealous and a self-absorbed narcissist. The man wants to make sure you are going to be his servant.
@@JessicaPolman-i2p I agree... it should be done curiously.
If you don’t feel safe with a man you aren’t with the right man. Feeling safe with a man is paramount.
Excellent, Jonathon!
Thank you.
Good night.
God bless. 🙏🌠
I had a guy talk like he was really interested in me and had plans to meet for coffee on a Friday. It was Monday so there was time to really talk to him. He wanted me to come over to watch Netflix and cuddle and I told him I would like to meet in a public place before doing that. The next day I said good morning and never heard from him. About lunch time I got a text from him saying “I won’t be moving forward with this because I’m seeing someone now”. What the heck happened? He invited me over yet he’s now seeing someone and he blocked me on messenger.
He met someone
Appreciate your time, energy, and effort to provide yourself the gift of finding your way through to becoming the best you that you can be. It's truely refreshing, and inspiring to know that guy's can check themselves before wrecking themselves. You've recharged my views on the opposite side of the coin of humanity. Thank you! There's hope...😅
I appreciate that!
@@JonathonAslay my pleasure, and privilege.
That was me Jonathan a very long time ago…I’ve aged, am still hot as fuck! Accomplished Woman who Love Myself more now than Ever! I have a 24 Year Old son who has suffered greatly thru his father’s abandonment of us when he turned 21…We r both Better Off! Thank U 4 this One! ❤
Both sturbon Heart 💖💓 has their on way of journey and legacy nothing can change that no matter what..
Excellent as always! Thank you Jonathon! ☮️❤️😃
You are so welcome
Yes, I work from home 100 percent.
This means more effort is required to be seen... if you're interested in meeting a life partner.
Very good presentation. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for the affirmation.Ive always felt this way and I try to tell my daughters this when ever it comes up.Your awesome..
Love that!
I was told by the man that I was dry and like a pilgrim, at one point he event mocked/mimicked my boy language. It felt like contempt. He was not very warm and didn’t smile
Creep
Was this a first date?
I was once told by a man on a date that I seemed like "too much". I told him to go find someone too little and left in the middle of the date.
@@jenniferl1908 I love it! They don't like your standards and you're not compatible. Speaking your truth, Jennifer. 👍
@@jenniferl1908 I'd take it as a compliment..... At least you're interesting and developed and can't be accused of being boring 💕
Brilliant! Thank you, Jonathon!
I have good flirting skills. Too good. People often mistake my kindness for flirtation. I'm just vivatious can't help it
I understand
If two are really knowing eachother both individuals have to trust the other enough to speak up and be honest about how they feel . Women have to speak up or lose our for not speaking up . More than none if a woman speaks up then the problem can be resolved if it's going to .
So spot on. I will order your book. Thank you for what you are doing !
Hope you enjoy it!
Okay WHERE do i go to meet men? Besides dating apps?
Make effort to be around more people every day of the week... make yourself seen.
@@JonathonAslay Volunteering is great, as is museums. But meeting people-literally could be ANYWHERE. ❤
@@JonathonAslay i will try thank you
Ok. I am liking the topic of this video!😀
I'm so glad!
the more i watch all those dating advise videos the less i'm actually interested in dating men. i guess i'm fine without all this stress.
Exactly.
Very eye-opening video! 👍
It’s not going to be a two way street with men so distant and void of communications and connection. That really happens to us and it’s real. Nobody learns! 😡
And healthy relationship skills, Juke.
@@sherriflemming3218 and just who in the male population has those?
@@Juke582 Good question. There are some men. It's finding the rest of alignment that's challenging.
Hello Jonathan. I just started listening to your podcasts today. I am a 60 year old sober (one year 1month) woman. I was married 33 years now divorced 7 years. I have not dated since my divorce. My Wasband was the only man I have ever had an intimate relationship with.
I am emotionally/ relationship ready to begin dating.
What would you suggest as a venue for meeting relationship ready men.
I am also curious of what your fees are for coaching.
Thank you Mary Alice ❤
Verry good
Thank you
Well if the woman doesn’t like something she could say and leave
It resonates
Happy to hear... I hope you share this video.
He finished our 20 year relationship because he needed to sort his head out so I don’t know if to reach out to him or wait for him
Step back, he's asked for space, give it. It's respectful.
But equally get on with your life without him, you may find you like it.
@@Nikki-oz7nd found out he was sexing someone why we was together it’s not the first time, so bye bye to him
He won't change. Unfortunately some people won't settle and won't work on the relationship they have. Sometimes that relationship will never be enough, let them go and work on yourself and you'll meet someone who is right for you when the time is right
@@Nikki-oz7nd yes I totally agree
Jonathan, you are a sweet man. I'm sure that every woman falls in love ❤️ with you 💕
I will take a John Wick.... 😄!
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Interesting...
Glad you think so!
Hey Jonathon! Random comment….where’s Doug??
Doug who?
Who lives in Greensboro North Carolina isof
Can you elaborate?
I’m just thinking that it’s time for women to just be friends with other women, and enjoy their lives together rather than being in search of a man all the time. So if you live in Greensboro North Carolina, and you’re looking for a best friend to do things with movies, drinking sky, diving bowling, whatever I mean, let’s just lived and life to the fullest. Embrace being single and enjoy it.
I am sure you get tired of Tim and I. I don't give my power to Tim I give power. Tim and I are a couple. Tim is afraid of loosing his power
I am a witch i am on face book
✨️
@@JonathonAslay lol
What Ehen a man has seemingly un érection proplem? He sends hot Texts full of désire. No proposal for a meeting.i think it is related wirh this problem.