Hi sir....you are telling the narcisist tactics...but tell how to respond their behaviours in every situation....example: they are using triangulation technique to abuse victim...how to perfectly respond st that situations.. ..please make a video thank u.....
I would like to book a seat, how much is it? Many people out there who need help but can't afford it. I wish someone replied to my message, help needs to be more accessible. Just my request if someone can reply, but I never usually get a reply, I feel very depressed and not heard.
Research about blood groups and understand that narcissists are not made, neither are good people just made, these are mysteries formed in blood, that's why not all children of the same parent can be narcissist, at the same time, two imperfect parents can give birth to a really good child or is far much better than both parents cos a child gets some genes from either parents and the child who gets only the bad genes ends up a narcissist and while another child will get both good and bad but since good gene is dominant, this child will have empathy and ability to be truly good more often meanwhile other children only inherit the good genes from either parents that's if non of the parents have pure narcissistic genes and end up a very good child that everyone admires not Just the parents. So in the physical world, narcissistic people will be seen seeking attention etc because to them it's a way of being with others and in their heads it's normal while normal people view this abnormal and this also confuses the narcissist thinking the world is just being rude and cruel as they only believe in perfection and do opposite of others expectation. They are not only mean to others but also to self without even noticing in most cases. So, in my opinion, only God can heal them cos even when they realize this, it's very hard to change, it's like telling a bad person to become a narcissist when going through trauma or pampering.
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
I’ve been going thru this for so long that I’m at the point where Silence is Golden. Any day where I don’t have to hear his voice is a much more tolerable day.
My dad always looked like he was thinking "How do I make people around me look like sh*t while making myself the victim/hero? What trap will I set? What pit shall I dig?" 🤔 My friends would say "What's up with your dad? He's weird. He doesn't move like a human." 😂
@@JustMe-uu3bh I agree. They say that the narcissist has "trauma" in childhood. So many of us have trauma, but we don't choose to be candy-coated nice in public and abusive in private. It's a CHOICE. Matthew 19:29-30
@@mvbigmagic4048 I agree, isn't this the way in life? the choice is good vs. evil, to follow after God or choosing to embrace evil? and why would they try to hide their evil actions? Evil actions are done in secret, in darkness. why is this? KJV John 3:20: “For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.”
Satan is the master of deception. People need to learn to recognize the embodiment of evil. Denying that a family member could be tangible evidence of the evil that walks among us is destroying Christians. It isn't "nice" to say what we see. I'm convinced most Christians wouldn't recognize a demon if it bit them on the butt at the family reunion 😆 cuz they do...
I was first told about narcissistic behaviour in about 2001. I was being treated for depression following a horrible marriage to a woman who's behaviour I had never encountered before. I told the psycologist, ' She was not a psychopath or a sociopath but there was always something I couldn't put my finger on to, about her. When I did not do exactly as she wanted, the abuse would start. Silent treatment weekly was a favorite. Blaming me for everything, while she could do no wrong. Disrespecting me and humiliating me in public or in front of my friends. Constantly searching through my private papers. Avoiding physical contact. The manipulation and lies. And she told me she had married beneath her standing. She was a bank teller. I am a farmer with 1000 acres!. Its all designed to destroy a person. Me.
Just the same treatment my father was getting from my mother. Plus instances of physical violence. He has moved out but only after retirement. Unfortunately he does not believe what I say.
It's quite illogical that narcissists blame you for being sensitive but they abuse you for being so. In logical thinking any healthy person would be nicer or at least would try not to be harsh when dealing with a sensitive person but in the contrary, being sensitive it's a reason for them to be more abusive like parents who think mistreatment builds up character.
Exactly! This thought is what finally draw my attention to my narcissistic covert relatives whose treatment made me feel so pathetic, stupid, simply sick in my head. Now, after the latest phone call from my aunt each and every her statement is like a mathematical formula to me which equals to a simple solution ‘Can you please express your thoughts and views in another way, more respectful and kind?’ And if it was me, would I talk like this to any other person? In the end your inner genuine light and kindness will be the tool that will make you see how toxic is everything that comes out of the narc’s mouth.
In my experience the narc came from parents who think that abuse creates character. It’s pretty obvious why he believes abuse of a sensitive person is ok.
That last one is so true and the worst of all is that other people say: oh but that person did so much for you, how can you be so ungrateful." Those "favours" were all a trap.
I used to think my mother helped me buy a house with >$100,000, and later i learned she stole that money from a mutual fund that I'd been paying taxes on the dividends and capital gains on for nine years. :( She never told me. I had to figure it out myself after she developed dementia, and I found paperwork that proved it. They are all liars. Everything she told me... lies.
I’m married to one I’m doing all I can to remove myself I lost my job due to medical issue an I hate it to my soul I’m praying things get better for me
My brother continuously told me “you’re old” and “you’re going to die” and “you’re finished” and “you’re crazy”. Hundreds of times he said those terrible things to me and haven’t even mentioned the horrible things the rest of my “family” said to me every day. Now, as a retired person, finally no contact with all of my family has given me peace of mind for the first time
"Deep psychological trance." Which is why you go on automatic and your brain stops working. "Psychological strangulation." Disregulates you to the point of not being able to function in a normal way. And people say, "Well why did you stay?" You literally are not able to make calm, rational decisions and you fail to see any way out. I mean it's literally like you don't have a choice.
Definately experienced the last point. Person is highly manipulative but does "favors" you didnt ask for and when I say I didnt ask for a particular favor/or fidnt need the information they respond saying thats why nobody wants to help you(who everybody is I dont know" Then the person asks me a favor involving hours and hours and when I answer I cant for some reason because I' have previous plans/committments they respond saying I always help you and you never help me when I need it.
They know what you like. The things you love. They offer them up to hook you, then they withhold them to punish you when you don’t obey. Everything they do is calculated. They are constantly plotting and planning to control all situations.
one of the scariest things is my mom would commit tons of financial & emotional abuse…but she acts like nothing happened when we’re together..but when she’s “alone” or think im gone..that evil smirk comes out right on her face…her arms crosse..she knows everything she’s doing..😬😬..but the second i come back…she’s the “normal” mom she was 10 minutes ago…and she had the nerve to say i have DID..crazy
@@SoothingBrez i could get into all the red flags… there’s at least 20.. but for some reason whenever i’m with her… i almost completely forget all the pain she put me in.. and act like it never happened…once i leave..my heads spinning again
@@SoothingBrez i trust my ears and my eyes… she may say “she never said those things..” and i’m seeing things… nope i saw it clear as can be.. i see exactly what she’s doing but it almost seems impossible to wrap my head around the idea
my mom gives me the silent treatment when i do/say something she doesn’t like or agree with. even if i breathe funny she will give me the silent treatment but doesn’t really do that to her other children. she will also buy me things instead of apologizing and then guilt me and make me feel bad when i don’t want to do something she wants me to do. if narcissism had a competition she would be the reigning champ
I have been married for 33 years and I am just opening my eyes, learning that my husband is a narcissist. He is lying, cyber cheating, and his past betrayals are lining up. I don't know what to do, where to go...I don't have family anymore and I don't have friends since we moved to a new city. I don't want to live this way anymore!
There are also decent shelters that can help protect you and get you back on your feet. Mainly cry out to God. He is A present help in times of need. He will guide you out and heal you. Help you not be attracted to these types of people.
Don't let him isolate you. :( My mother isolated my dad for 52 years. She alienated all his family (sisters) and even me towards the end (accusing me of trying to control her money, when SHE's the one who's been financially stealing from me for decades and then blowing all that money at the casinos). The only reason I'm surviving no-contact is because I've always had friends separate from my corrupt family of origin. Look into your local library. They usually have groups that meet there -- book clubs, writers, musicians, photographers, etc. Think of a hobby that your husband HATES or cannot be involved in (ex. women's groups..... crocheting groups? although I know some men crochet! LOL!). But do not let him isolate you. Find friends who are SEPARATE from him, and do not share your friends. Jealously guard your friendships. That is how I am surviving no-contact. Financial independence is so important too. Do whatever you can do -- teach guitar lessons, sell quilts, sell homemade greeting cards at local bookstores (There's a woman in Bremerton, Washington who sells the most beautiful handmade greeting cards in Port Orchard. Susan.... I can't remember her last name. But they are absolutely beautiful and she makes them from scratch paper.) But do not let him isolate you!
I was married for 47 years we had 2 beautiful children a son and a daughter 1 NIGHT I WAS working at home , the police knocked on my door with a warrant in hand , the wife had filed a false protection order so I left my of 39 years 6 months in to my recovery from a Liver Transplant , I had nowhere to go , I was homeless for a month with no direction so for the last 18 years, So at this point Iam in poor health because the liver transplant didn't work out like I imagined, Liver Transplants last , 5 ,10 15 no more than 20 years but in my case I developed Type 2 diabetes, Hipertention and a thyroid condition, the surgergens at University of Colorado HOSPITAL lied to me , I strongly feel in my heart that I only have 2 years left to live , The medical industry is bought and payed for by BIG Pharma , and all the elite medical universities are financed by you guessed it BIG PHARMA Tests standards for Surgeons have been lowered , Which explains all the medical mistakes you hear about in the national news , Ladies & Gentlemen, Don't kid yourselves it's all a Sinister Medical Monopoly , Patient beware ... K
He would break up with me for the weekend and then love bomb me till I came back. He would go days and weeks of not talking to me when we got married. The most hurtful things he has done and denied is say he never wanted all our kids,he tried to choke me and then gaslight me. He did all the damage to the relationship with his cheating and belittling me and worked against me when raising the kids. He was always blaming me for his poor behavior. He would use my trauma of my parents divorce against me and tell me my family didn't love me. He would mention all he worked and threw in my face everything he did for me. The month before my surgery for a mass on my kidney he was kicking me out of the house knowing I have no one else to depend on or no other forms of medical care. I was a shattered mess for many years and now I am learning how to begin a new life in many ways.
My remaining narc relatives have been giving me silent treatment for a year or so only contacting me with short messages for some official reasons. Perhaps they think im suffering but im already beyond that. With God’s support I dont feel lonely anymore, Im not afraid to be in a crisis and left with no support from them, I trust God wont let me go through crisis until Im getting better. They still come into my nightmares but I dont care.
The longest silent treatment I experienced was 3 days and nights. We lived in the same house. I did everything I was asked. I was kicked in the back until I left our bed the first night and was only allowed back in when the "punishment" was over. The first thing that was said at the end of this time was "If you would just do what I say I wouldn't have to punish you like that. Just obey me and we can live together peacefully."
It will be 3yrs since my husband died, and I'm sharing that I'm just barely getting a grip on ME again. But I'm having a hard time getting in the mindset to get a job. I'm wondering if I can apply for disability. I'm 63yrs old and went through this abuse forever 20yrs of my 40yrs of my marriage. This is Soo scary. I'm getting shaky just typing this. Thank you for your channel💜
@@summerbrooks9922 I agree. Volunteering for film sets led to several jobs for me. I also started teaching piano lessons for free, and now I'm getting paid hundreds per month, and growing. It's nice to be financially independent from a woman who financially abused me for decades. If you think a mother cannot financially abuse her daughter.... think again. I found evidence she's been financially abusing me for years.
Yes my husband did all, including the last worst one. Bringing food food all the time when i never asked for it, but when i asked him to get my antibiotics? He was raging about not having time. Something i truly needed.
1-silent treatment 1:20 2-hyper-suggestibility 3:12 3-use honesty to build rapport 5:32 4-when taking responsibility instead of using "I" they use "we" (pseudo-reflection) 7:21 5-indebt you with a lot of favors you didn't ask for so they can use it against you later 9:05 Thank you Danish❤
I've had a whole life full of Narc's most of it didn't stick! Stronger and More Powerful than ever at Being Myself.Wasn't easy!Always getting better and stronger everyday and everyway.🙏💜🙏❤️
Such an excellent presentation Danish. The traumatizing narcissist did all of these things to me (1) pressuring me to buy a mountain bike that I never considered buying on the pretext of it being a "loan" (2) pressuring me to write a fraudulent tax receipt for $1200 for consulting services that I never provided and then saying, "After all I've done for you." (3) using his directorship at a charity that provided housing support to those in need to intimidate men who were on the waitlist for support to abandon their friendship with me (4) threatening to call my family if I didn't cooperate with his dirty schemes (5) calling the police to evoke a mental health check when I tried to go no contact (6) calling my landlord on the pretext of his concern for me, when I tried to go no contact.........and on and on....... These people are paranoid, delusional, and dangerous.
God bless you danish, I think you are the only person who understands narcissists and narcissism so deeply in the true sense. Good work keep going. Thanks a lot 😊
They give silence when you do what they want as well. They may speak with you with no real connection. It is very manipulative. They guard from showing you any appreciation. They wouldn't want you to be comfortable. They don't want you to be healthy and self-confident.
I was under the illusion that they were regular, kind persons. My scant proof for this was their harsh judgment of my faults or anything thing about me. I was confused, being lied to routinely. No one needs to tell me I should have gotten out sooner. I see it now. Happy healing, all. ❤ Thanks for giving us the chance to heal, Danish Bashir. 🧡
The silent treatment😮 and talk the whole day to other people besides you...texting colleagues you are in my thoughts but no empathy for me I have to support myself emotionally..
He tried to tell me I was damaged. I quickly told him I’ve never said that especially about myself. But he did try to tell me that nothing happened the way I thought and said it did.
Hi Andrea. I just read your message and I feel like crying. I am so sorry that you were called Damaged when you are not. I am a Born Again Christian who has detached myself from my best friend of over 10 years. I have not spoken to her in months because God started showing me who she really is. I was not sure for a long time because I kept feeling sorry for her. But thank God that God pulled me out at the right time and since then God has been healing me little by little, and He's recently starting to put people in my life that love me for real and are full of love, patience, kindness and understanding which I never got from my ex- best friend, only in small short doses which looking back now I can see the majority of it was not real. How are you doing today? Are you still with this narcisstic person?
#5 except he stole thousands of dollars from me and then expected gratitude he got a small refund on another card! Listening to you Danish a second time on this video. 🙏🏼
Same mine never bought me one thing in our two and half years of dating but I spent over thousands of dollars and he would make statements like you don’t make a lot of money when he didn’t have a job
Thank you Danish, you have such a a way that explains things but also imparts such wisdom. I'm going through the stages of grief realizing both my parents were narcissistic. My mom is definitely the altruistic type. I now realize why I feel so sick after holidays and my birthday. She has used these platforms to uplift herself while subtly downgrading mine. Keep up the awesome videos. You have changed my life.
I know you read a lot of comments an cant remember my story but you been with me for 5 months ❤ and just to let you know .. he came back .. first started to try to impress me .. i wasn't impressed 😊 next started the bullying...ok 😃😊 thats nice.... I pulled out my list of boundaries 😊😊😊 then all of a sudden like a fart in the wind 🌬️ 🍃 .. gone... Just gone... Its been 4 days now..... Thanks for all the great advice ❤❤❤❤ i dont think he will be back❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
Danish, I became a hypnotherapist as a victim of narcissistic abuse and scapegoating from my whole childhood and a series of narcissistically abusive romantic relationships in adulthood. I was trying so desperately to rationalize what must be going on in the minds of these people and now using the same tactics for good and not evil has been the most healing experience for me… I understand so much more now and that understanding is the only closure I feel I can truly enjoy. Thank you for doing this important work in sharing this vital information about narcissistic personalities and their abuse tactics…. Growing up, no one understood this or spoke about it… we have to be the difference. Speak up, Truth Tellers!
Danish, listening to you there will be Not Much Leftovers who act in a so called Human Way. The people who never expierenced Narcissitic abuse can not understand where you have bin gone true. And they will give you such answers. I personal don,t talk about it at all decided its the best way to do.
Yes! In the beginning he was very honest even about things most people wouldn't be honest about. Little by little he would mix honesty with little lies or half truths that would make me go hmm - but I had gotten so used to his refreshing honesty I never doubted his word or questioned it. Then he got more dishonest in which it was so blatant I started doubting everything he said which infuriated him. He got to the point where all he did was lie. I'll never forget when I first met him, another woman who knew him said to me, "Just ask him, he is very honest, he will tell you." Due to this and his honesty in the beginning it took me a while to acknowledge he was starting to lie a lot.
I have to open my eyes to this so I am glad you are talking about being broken and how they actually do it to you. I am still on medication from when I was completely down and out and could not get away.
My experience with narcissistic abuse, has woken me up , taught me too many lessons, and most certainly helped me with personal growth, knowing my reality, shaping my identity and much more, healing is a slow process
Everything mentioned in this video is accurate! Thank you so much Danish for bringing awareness to the many different tactics Narcissists use against us.
Thank you Danish, these thoughts help me to the place of total acceptance, with no blame or shame to myself for "staying so long." I am moving in two months, looking forward to being closer to my support system.
I wish. Danish I would listen such videos in early 1992...he used me all the way..I was just 18 the most lovely beautiful girl..and in the the end I experienced each of your word...and that experience bit by bit shattered me into pieces..but now of 32 years...I'm trying together myself with the help of such videos and asking and bow down towards Allah SWT...Omg I sacrificed my life my personality ..my high morals..my son not wanna be involved in this drama so I stopped talking about..in this world if a person is married to such narcissist...it's hell it's hell it's hell....may God protect us from such evil..may they vanished away from this world.but unluckyly they have long lives..then sensitive people! Thanks Danish pls keep this work on a thousands of people would be helped and think to live again❤
He used to repeat how honorable a man he was like trying to convince himself. So interesting to watch. I left last week I respect myself more than that.❤Thank you
I was gifted with spiritual gifts my entire life. I am always always right about the things I know. However whenever I know something about them… they tell me it’s wrong. My feelings are not right. I can’t just take my imagination as facts. Here’s the thing though.. every time I knew someone was going to die they really die. Every time I knew someone was a sexual predator they actually ended up getting arrested for SA. I can’t explain these things but I know… the narc is the only person ever who tells me that I am wrong.
II’ve been through everything you talked about in this video but here is my share: I realized that when he gave me the silent treatment I use that as my me time and a break from the chaos, which he would always come back like a little boy and apologize. This happens every 28 days like a woman’s cycle. He would use sleep deprivation to get his way, but otherwise cause drama just to get a high he needed. Thank goodness for my head finally found my way out. Now I have peace in my life.
Feeling sorry for the narcissist may hurt a lot sometimes because, clearly, they do not care you are giving them care, but it really matters a lot and in reflection it feels great to know that it wasn't your fault and you did the right thing at the time back then.
Yes, they used these against me all the times... It's like you said if they say I'm crazy or a c-nt was just once or twice it would be so hurtful. And that "We" crap it's just creepy to me...
Danish you are brilliant. I learn something every time. It was thru your insight I was able to identify my families problems. The 3 of them- parents plus sister. Mother overt narc father and sister covert narc. I have experienced all 5 at one time or another between the 3 of them. I am now 64-parents are dead and my younger sister is a covert narc. I live my life without her and her manipulation quite well!
Spoken with the most knowledge and insight. It's a different kind of trauma to heal from, and it is important to have the trauma informed resources and care. Unfortunately, most systems, especially the justice system, are not designed for the complexity of trauma.
My ex was a narcissist and used the money angle to try to keep me with them longer through guilt and obligation. When I did finally leave they said how I was the one who took advantage of them financially, when it was their idea to give me the money and gifts that I never even asked for or wanted even. I took them so they wouldn't get their feeling hurt by my not accepting their gifts.
You are saving my life! I have always been blessed and cursed by being extremely empathetic for my entire life. I cannot stand seeing people or even animals in fear or pain. I’ve struggled with abuse from a narcissistic sibling, a “best friend” of 40 years and now a daughter in law who has turned my son against me, using my grandchildren as hostages. I’ve come to hate myself and feel best when I’m isolated. It all came to a head 10 mos. ago after a very traumatizing incident where I was demonized & abused for an act of loving kindness. I discovered your channel about 4 mos. ago. As soon as I am triggered by memories or have any contact with these people, I listen to you for education & advice. Today I decided that this is the moment for healing to begin. I know it won’t be easy, but I can do it with your help. THANK YOU!!!!
I just need to thank you from the very depth of my soul for your content. There is no scale of measure to truly define how Your content has helped me work through the trauma bond and every other issue that came along with moving on and recovering from the abuse. You are doing the lords work. ❤
Ohh so so true ! I've learnt to receive the best gifts without feeling a steach of guilt. It's a way of bamboozling you as Danish said. They don't know that you know why they are doing it.
You can try making a video on how the narcissists want you to take responsibilty for their decisions...using various manipulation tactics to trap you into such situations
Thank you Danish You nailed this species . No3 hyper suggestibility is juuuuuuust unbearable . No 5 unwanted unconsensual favours is 🚩 red flag whoever needs to hear that
He walked around the house, punching his fist into the other palm while saying the words, " I will crush you, I will break you." He hated me! He'd interrupt my sleep as soon as I'd fall asleep up until 7 am. He bullied and taunted me when I'd eat food. He began to say and do all the things I shared, hurt me from past partners and my abusive parents. He even got mad when I'd slow down while driving if a person was crossing. It began right after we were married and progressed.
Thank you so much. Without knowing the kind of information you are putting out it is impossible to heal from narc abuse. Thank you also for your end comments. So many people don't get it, including counsellors who try to make you see the abuser's point of view! It is a very lonely form of abuse because there are no physical bruises and a lonely and isolating recovery because not many people get it.
All five. All the time. Every day. Every night. 24/7/365. I don't know if I am the narcissist, or my husband is. Either way, I'm stuck in this nightmare that's been going on for over thirty years of my life as I claim to have too much invested if I leave. I never used to suffer with depression until he came into my life, then the separation started. Then the lies. And now I am isolated from everyone I ever knew, and I don't know if it's my fault or his. I have been watching your videos for a while now, some are helpful, and others provoke feelings I haven't had for years. Thanks for the helpful videos.
You've really helped me see the facts in what I went through. How does a person know if they have recovered from the narcissist accuse aspect of life? Thank you, always!
I believe if you live in a calm peacefull enviroment where you are calm and the people around you are calm. And if you do not have the constant desire to prove yourself to others and yourself. Also being authentic is a big sign of healing.
You feel healthy and energetic in your body and psyche, your sleep is deep, you wake up enthusiastically to a new day, you feel harmony inside, you dont get too swayed by stress, you feel yor mind is clear and gunctioning properly, you can build new healthy relationships and healthy positive people see you reapectfully and kindly. And much more… you feel it in your mind and body, you feel lightness and peace and hope and love.
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Hi sir....you are telling the narcisist tactics...but tell how to respond their behaviours in every situation....example: they are using triangulation technique to abuse victim...how to perfectly respond st that situations.. ..please make a video thank u.....
I would like to book a seat, how much is it?
Many people out there who need help but can't afford it.
I wish someone replied to my message, help needs to be more accessible.
Just my request if someone can reply, but I never usually get a reply, I feel very depressed and not heard.
Research about blood groups and understand that narcissists are not made, neither are good people just made, these are mysteries formed in blood, that's why not all children of the same parent can be narcissist, at the same time, two imperfect parents can give birth to a really good child or is far much better than both parents cos a child gets some genes from either parents and the child who gets only the bad genes ends up a narcissist and while another child will get both good and bad but since good gene is dominant, this child will have empathy and ability to be truly good more often meanwhile other children only inherit the good genes from either parents that's if non of the parents have pure narcissistic genes and end up a very good child that everyone admires not Just the parents. So in the physical world, narcissistic people will be seen seeking attention etc because to them it's a way of being with others and in their heads it's normal while normal people view this abnormal and this also confuses the narcissist thinking the world is just being rude and cruel as they only believe in perfection and do opposite of others expectation. They are not only mean to others but also to self without even noticing in most cases. So, in my opinion, only God can heal them cos even when they realize this, it's very hard to change, it's like telling a bad person to become a narcissist when going through trauma or pampering.
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️
I explain it like this they promise you a dream and deliver a nightmare in every area of your life.
Perfect way of putting it.
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That's it! It's a big nightmare. It's unfortunate there is no cure.
Excellent and very accurate!
True
I’ve been going thru this for so long that I’m at the point where Silence is Golden. Any day where I don’t have to hear his voice is a much more tolerable day.
I totally agree!!
If only...
You might find yourself at home more than ever just to have peace
“Narcissists gives you the silent treatment.”
This is music to my ears because I’m a massive introvert. That’s called a favor 🤣
Yup..finally they stfu
Comprehension is key ..we are speaking of narcissists not friends..lol
Exactly 💯
Evil instinct is their mental base!
My dad always looked like he was thinking "How do I make people around me look like sh*t while making myself the victim/hero? What trap will I set? What pit shall I dig?" 🤔
My friends would say "What's up with your dad? He's weird. He doesn't move like a human." 😂
Exactly! They can ooze the evil so much that just remembering how their nauseaous touch felt makes go 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮😱😱😱😱😱
they CHOOSE evil, no one made them, everyone has free will.
@@JustMe-uu3bh I agree. They say that the narcissist has "trauma" in childhood. So many of us have trauma, but we don't choose to be candy-coated nice in public and abusive in private. It's a CHOICE. Matthew 19:29-30
@@mvbigmagic4048 I agree, isn't this the way in life? the choice is good vs. evil, to follow after God or choosing to embrace evil? and why would they try to hide their evil actions? Evil actions are done in secret, in darkness. why is this?
KJV John 3:20: “For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.”
Narcissists are demons 👿 Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👋
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Satan is the master of deception. People need to learn to recognize the embodiment of evil. Denying that a family member could be tangible evidence of the evil that walks among us is destroying Christians. It isn't "nice" to say what we see. I'm convinced most Christians wouldn't recognize a demon if it bit them on the butt at the family reunion 😆 cuz they do...
My experience of narcs has changed my entire life. I do not even have d energy to deal with humans
Sorry to hear this.. if you have children concentrate on them.........they're innocents bring peace!
I can relate. Even after years of no contact, they still hunt my thoughts while they are out there moving on with their life. So malicious.
Yes you do.
Don’t give him that satisfaction of destroying
The Wonderful loving person you really are. ❤️
Same here
It's unbelievable how they continue on and on and on.....
The secret is do not allow their evil to get in! Refuse to believe it!
1. Silent treatment
2. Hyper-suggestibility
3. Honesty - to build rapport
4. 'we' language - to dump responsibility
5. Indebting with unasked favours
Score: all 5!
All but 4 :( 😠
YES! 🤮
This 5 is also a form of lovebomb, with gifts that you can't say 'no' to, for fear of appearing rude or hurting their feelings
@@Ikwilgeennaamme too
I was first told about narcissistic behaviour in about 2001. I was being treated for depression following a horrible marriage to a woman who's behaviour I had never encountered before. I told the psycologist, ' She was not a psychopath or a sociopath but there was always something I couldn't put my finger on to, about her. When I did not do exactly as she wanted, the abuse would start. Silent treatment weekly was a favorite. Blaming me for everything, while she could do no wrong. Disrespecting me and humiliating me in public or in front of my friends. Constantly searching through my private papers. Avoiding physical contact. The manipulation and lies. And she told me she had married beneath her standing. She was a bank teller. I am a farmer with 1000 acres!. Its all designed to destroy a person. Me.
Just the same treatment my father was getting from my mother. Plus instances of physical violence. He has moved out but only after retirement. Unfortunately he does not believe what I say.
I am so sorry God bless you all 🙏🏽
This is why the best selling book in the world is “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES.” 🤷🏼♀️
Prayers and blessings ❤️ 🙏
I wish I knew about narcissism. I married him in 2001.
It's quite illogical that narcissists blame you for being sensitive but they abuse you for being so. In logical thinking any healthy person would be nicer or at least would try not to be harsh when dealing with a sensitive person but in the contrary, being sensitive it's a reason for them to be more abusive like parents who think mistreatment builds up character.
Exactly! This thought is what finally draw my attention to my narcissistic covert relatives whose treatment made me feel so pathetic, stupid, simply sick in my head. Now, after the latest phone call from my aunt each and every her statement is like a mathematical formula to me which equals to a simple solution ‘Can you please express your thoughts and views in another way, more respectful and kind?’ And if it was me, would I talk like this to any other person? In the end your inner genuine light and kindness will be the tool that will make you see how toxic is everything that comes out of the narc’s mouth.
In my experience the narc came from parents who think that abuse creates character. It’s pretty obvious why he believes abuse of a sensitive person is ok.
Sounds like my mother.
So true
That last one is so true and the worst of all is that other people say: oh but that person did so much for you, how can you be so ungrateful." Those "favours" were all a trap.
Exatly.
I used to think my mother helped me buy a house with >$100,000, and later i learned she stole that money from a mutual fund that I'd been paying taxes on the dividends and capital gains on for nine years. :( She never told me. I had to figure it out myself after she developed dementia, and I found paperwork that proved it. They are all liars. Everything she told me... lies.
Spot on Danish! Brilliantly described. Narcisists are evil hypnotists.
I despise my narcissistic family.
I have a narcissistic family as well. My siblings and father not my mom though
Plan for your future to become strong independent financially and mentally, once you have resources and job you can leave anytime
I have one too. I haven't seen them in over 35 years.
@Ark-ys2up oh my wow I am sorry to hear that
I’m married to one I’m doing all I can to remove myself I lost my job due to medical issue an I hate it to my soul I’m praying things get better for me
My brother continuously told me “you’re old” and “you’re going to die” and “you’re finished” and “you’re crazy”.
Hundreds of times he said those terrible things to me and haven’t even mentioned the horrible things the rest of my “family” said to me every day. Now, as a retired person, finally no contact with all of my family has given me peace of mind for the first time
NEVER ACCEPT THE HOOVER
Why
Well unless you want to keep disrespecting yourself, yes❤❤
AMEN
@@lemaxx2638it is creepy with a narcissist
Twice I was hoovered
I am done with that full blown narcissist, he was physically, emotionally, mentally abusive. Now i need to recover from this huge anxiety i am facing.
All 5, Danish! In the middle of a dark triad narc cult family 😫😫😫
We did not choose it but we can leave.
ME TOO ! F THESE PEOPLE!
"Deep psychological trance." Which is why you go on automatic and your brain stops working.
"Psychological strangulation." Disregulates you to the point of not being able to function in a normal way.
And people say, "Well why did you stay?" You literally are not able to make calm, rational decisions and you fail to see any way out. I mean it's literally like you don't have a choice.
Definately experienced the last point. Person is highly manipulative but does "favors" you didnt ask for and when I say I didnt ask for a particular favor/or fidnt need the information they respond saying thats why nobody wants to help you(who everybody is I dont know"
Then the person asks me a favor involving hours and hours and when I answer I cant for some reason because I' have previous plans/committments they respond saying I always help you and you never help me when I need it.
They know what you like. The things you love. They offer them up to hook you, then they withhold them to punish you when you don’t obey. Everything they do is calculated. They are constantly plotting and planning to control all situations.
What the narcissist meant for evil towards you, God intends to use for blessing.
Wow ! You are exactly right 🙏Let’s keep the Faith 💕
Agree 💯
one of the scariest things is my mom would commit tons of financial & emotional abuse…but she acts like nothing happened when we’re together..but when she’s “alone” or think im gone..that evil smirk comes out right on her face…her arms crosse..she knows everything she’s doing..😬😬..but the second i come back…she’s the “normal” mom she was 10 minutes ago…and she had the nerve to say i have DID..crazy
Exact same evil psychology of father. All narscis behave exactly the same.😮
@@SoothingBrez i could get into all the red flags… there’s at least 20.. but for some reason whenever i’m with her… i almost completely forget all the pain she put me in.. and act like it never happened…once i leave..my heads spinning again
@@SoothingBrez i trust my ears and my eyes… she may say “she never said those things..” and i’m seeing things… nope i saw it clear as can be.. i see exactly what she’s doing but it almost seems impossible to wrap my head around the idea
wow, the evil smirk and crossed arms while talking about how all my brothers and sisters are losers.
@@ChosenOne1967 family drama..one thing i don’t get myself in..
my mom gives me the silent treatment when i do/say something she doesn’t like or agree with. even if i breathe funny she will give me the silent treatment but doesn’t really do that to her other children. she will also buy me things instead of apologizing and then guilt me and make me feel bad when i don’t want to do something she wants me to do. if narcissism had a competition she would be the reigning champ
I have been married for 33 years and I am just opening my eyes, learning that my husband is a narcissist. He is lying, cyber cheating, and his past betrayals are lining up. I don't know what to do, where to go...I don't have family anymore and I don't have friends since we moved to a new city. I don't want to live this way anymore!
Get help from behavioral health organizations and make new friends. Go to church and get counseling from them. Reach out.
There are also decent shelters that can help protect you and get you back on your feet. Mainly cry out to God. He is A present help in times of need. He will guide you out and heal you. Help you not be attracted to these types of people.
Don't let him isolate you. :( My mother isolated my dad for 52 years. She alienated all his family (sisters) and even me towards the end (accusing me of trying to control her money, when SHE's the one who's been financially stealing from me for decades and then blowing all that money at the casinos). The only reason I'm surviving no-contact is because I've always had friends separate from my corrupt family of origin. Look into your local library. They usually have groups that meet there -- book clubs, writers, musicians, photographers, etc. Think of a hobby that your husband HATES or cannot be involved in (ex. women's groups..... crocheting groups? although I know some men crochet! LOL!). But do not let him isolate you. Find friends who are SEPARATE from him, and do not share your friends. Jealously guard your friendships. That is how I am surviving no-contact. Financial independence is so important too. Do whatever you can do -- teach guitar lessons, sell quilts, sell homemade greeting cards at local bookstores (There's a woman in Bremerton, Washington who sells the most beautiful handmade greeting cards in Port Orchard. Susan.... I can't remember her last name. But they are absolutely beautiful and she makes them from scratch paper.) But do not let him isolate you!
Start planning your escape to safety.
I was married for 47 years we had 2 beautiful children a son and a daughter 1 NIGHT I WAS working at home , the police knocked on my door with a warrant in hand , the wife had filed a false protection order so I left my of 39 years 6 months in to my recovery from a Liver Transplant , I had nowhere to go , I was homeless for a month with no direction so for the last 18 years, So at this point Iam in poor health because the liver transplant didn't work out like I imagined, Liver Transplants last , 5 ,10 15 no more than 20 years but in my case I developed Type 2 diabetes, Hipertention and a thyroid condition, the surgergens at University of Colorado HOSPITAL lied to me , I strongly feel in my heart that I only have 2 years left to live , The medical industry is bought and payed for by BIG Pharma , and all the elite medical universities are financed by you guessed it BIG PHARMA
Tests standards for Surgeons have been lowered , Which explains all the medical mistakes you hear about in the national news , Ladies & Gentlemen, Don't kid yourselves it's all a Sinister Medical Monopoly , Patient beware ...
K
He would break up with me for the weekend and then love bomb me till I came back. He would go days and weeks of not talking to me when we got married. The most hurtful things he has done and denied is say he never wanted all our kids,he tried to choke me and then gaslight me. He did all the damage to the relationship with his cheating and belittling me and worked against me when raising the kids. He was always blaming me for his poor behavior. He would use my trauma of my parents divorce against me and tell me my family didn't love me. He would mention all he worked and threw in my face everything he did for me. The month before my surgery for a mass on my kidney he was kicking me out of the house knowing I have no one else to depend on or no other forms of medical care. I was a shattered mess for many years and now I am learning how to begin a new life in many ways.
And they are always projecting themselves on you
My remaining narc relatives have been giving me silent treatment for a year or so only contacting me with short messages for some official reasons. Perhaps they think im suffering but im already beyond that. With God’s support I dont feel lonely anymore, Im not afraid to be in a crisis and left with no support from them, I trust God wont let me go through crisis until Im getting better. They still come into my nightmares but I dont care.
Stand strong. You are the winner.
The longest silent treatment I experienced was 3 days and nights. We lived in the same house. I did everything I was asked. I was kicked in the back until I left our bed the first night and was only allowed back in when the "punishment" was over.
The first thing that was said at the end of this time was "If you would just do what I say I wouldn't have to punish you like that. Just obey me and we can live together peacefully."
It will be 3yrs since my husband died, and I'm sharing that I'm just barely getting a grip on ME again.
But I'm having a hard time getting in the mindset to get a job. I'm wondering if I can apply for disability. I'm 63yrs old and went through this abuse forever 20yrs of my 40yrs of my marriage. This is Soo scary. I'm getting shaky just typing this. Thank you for your channel💜
Start volunteering to get into the mindset.
@@summerbrooks9922 I agree. Volunteering for film sets led to several jobs for me. I also started teaching piano lessons for free, and now I'm getting paid hundreds per month, and growing. It's nice to be financially independent from a woman who financially abused me for decades. If you think a mother cannot financially abuse her daughter.... think again. I found evidence she's been financially abusing me for years.
Yes my husband did all, including the last worst one. Bringing food food all the time when i never asked for it, but when i asked him to get my antibiotics? He was raging about not having time. Something i truly needed.
He just bought himself food & didn’t want to eat alone. Heard it before
1-silent treatment 1:20
2-hyper-suggestibility 3:12
3-use honesty to build rapport 5:32
4-when taking responsibility instead of using "I" they use "we" (pseudo-reflection) 7:21
5-indebt you with a lot of favors you didn't ask for so they can use it against you later 9:05
Thank you Danish❤
He has used number 5 against me.
I've had a whole life full of Narc's most of it didn't stick! Stronger and More Powerful than ever at Being Myself.Wasn't easy!Always getting better and stronger everyday and everyway.🙏💜🙏❤️
Yes ! He would do something wrong and say "we" need to fix this get help with that. So sick.
Such an excellent presentation Danish. The traumatizing narcissist did all of these things to me (1) pressuring me to buy a mountain bike that I never considered buying on the pretext of it being a "loan" (2) pressuring me to write a fraudulent tax receipt for $1200 for consulting services that I never provided and then saying, "After all I've done for you." (3) using his directorship at a charity that provided housing support to those in need to intimidate men who were on the waitlist for support to abandon their friendship with me (4) threatening to call my family if I didn't cooperate with his dirty schemes (5) calling the police to evoke a mental health check when I tried to go no contact (6) calling my landlord on the pretext of his concern for me, when I tried to go no contact.........and on and on.......
These people are paranoid, delusional, and dangerous.
God bless you danish, I think you are the only person who understands narcissists and narcissism so deeply in the true sense. Good work keep going. Thanks a lot 😊
Gifts I never wanted over and over again.. travel and going out to dinner!
ALL THESE ARE LURES ! BIG TIME ! Thank you Danish'
The silence, is the worst.
They give silence when you do what they want as well. They may speak with you with no real connection. It is very manipulative. They guard from showing you any appreciation. They wouldn't want you to be comfortable. They don't want you to be healthy and self-confident.
I was under the illusion that they were regular, kind persons. My scant proof for this was their harsh judgment of my faults or anything thing about me. I was confused, being lied to routinely. No one needs to tell me I should have gotten out sooner. I see it now. Happy healing, all. ❤ Thanks for giving us the chance to heal, Danish Bashir. 🧡
The silent treatment😮 and talk the whole day to other people besides you...texting colleagues you are in my thoughts but no empathy for me I have to support myself emotionally..
He tried to tell me I was damaged. I quickly told him I’ve never said that especially about myself. But he did try to tell me that nothing happened the way I thought and said it did.
Hi Andrea. I just read your message and I feel like crying. I am so sorry that you were called Damaged when you are not. I am a Born Again Christian who has detached myself from my best friend of over 10 years. I have not spoken to her in months because God started showing me who she really is. I was not sure for a long time because I kept feeling sorry for her. But thank God that God pulled me out at the right time and since then God has been healing me little by little, and He's recently starting to put people in my life that love me for real and are full of love, patience, kindness and understanding which I never got from my ex- best friend, only in small short doses which looking back now I can see the majority of it was not real. How are you doing today? Are you still with this narcisstic person?
I went no contact with my ex narcissist we lived together and in two week breakup she's already sleeping around...
I've heard something similar said to me too but I asked " if I am XYZ , then what does that make you for being with me ?" And the person got angry 😂
#5 except he stole thousands of dollars from me and then expected gratitude he got a small refund on another card! Listening to you Danish a second time on this video. 🙏🏼
Same mine never bought me one thing in our two and half years of dating but I spent over thousands of dollars and he would make statements like you don’t make a lot of money when he didn’t have a job
Thank you Danish, you have such a a way that explains things but also imparts such wisdom. I'm going through the stages of grief realizing both my parents were narcissistic. My mom is definitely the altruistic type. I now realize why I feel so sick after holidays and my birthday. She has used these platforms to uplift herself while subtly downgrading mine. Keep up the awesome videos. You have changed my life.
Experienced all of this! So true
All of these happened to me with covert narcissist and my mother covert narcissist 😂😂😂😂
Those last words to keep out the rest who give free advice...that's Spot-on
Experienced all of this, it's absolutely true .. actually experiencing on daily basis..
I know you read a lot of comments an cant remember my story but you been with me for 5 months ❤ and just to let you know .. he came back .. first started to try to impress me .. i wasn't impressed 😊 next started the bullying...ok 😃😊 thats nice.... I pulled out my list of boundaries 😊😊😊 then all of a sudden like a fart in the wind 🌬️ 🍃 .. gone... Just gone... Its been 4 days now..... Thanks for all the great advice ❤❤❤❤ i dont think he will be back❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
Danish, I became a hypnotherapist as a victim of narcissistic abuse and scapegoating from my whole childhood and a series of narcissistically abusive romantic relationships in adulthood. I was trying so desperately to rationalize what must be going on in the minds of these people and now using the same tactics for good and not evil has been the most healing experience for me… I understand so much more now and that understanding is the only closure I feel I can truly enjoy.
Thank you for doing this important work in sharing this vital information about narcissistic personalities and their abuse tactics…. Growing up, no one understood this or spoke about it… we have to be the difference.
Speak up, Truth Tellers!
Danish, listening to you there will be Not Much Leftovers who act in a so called Human Way. The people who never expierenced Narcissitic abuse can not understand where you have bin gone true. And they will give you such answers. I personal don,t talk about it at all decided its the best way to do.
💎💎💎💎💎Exceptional video
Yes! In the beginning he was very honest even about things most people wouldn't be honest about. Little by little he would mix honesty with little lies or half truths that would make me go hmm - but I had gotten so used to his refreshing honesty I never doubted his word or questioned it. Then he got more dishonest in which it was so blatant I started doubting everything he said which infuriated him. He got to the point where all he did was lie. I'll never forget when I first met him, another woman who knew him said to me, "Just ask him, he is very honest, he will tell you." Due to this and his honesty in the beginning it took me a while to acknowledge he was starting to lie a lot.
Thank you for these videos. You are helping here, to exactly understand what was the life lived...
God heal all of the victims 🙏
I have to open my eyes to this so I am glad you are talking about being broken and how they actually do it to you. I am still on medication from when I was completely down and out and could not get away.
Thanks, each n every word in your speech is true. Deep analysis of evil human behaviour.
You are too good Danish. My sister has all these evil traits. I always thought she practiced black magic.
My experience with narcissistic abuse, has woken me up , taught me too many lessons, and most certainly helped me with personal growth, knowing my reality, shaping my identity and much more, healing is a slow process
Everything mentioned in this video is accurate! Thank you so much Danish for bringing awareness to the many different tactics Narcissists use against us.
Thank you Danish, these thoughts help me to the place of total acceptance, with no blame or shame to myself for "staying so long." I am moving in two months, looking forward to being closer to my support system.
I wish. Danish I would listen such videos in early 1992...he used me all the way..I was just 18 the most lovely beautiful girl..and in the the end I experienced each of your word...and that experience bit by bit shattered me into pieces..but now of 32 years...I'm trying together myself with the help of such videos and asking and bow down towards Allah SWT...Omg I sacrificed my life my personality ..my high morals..my son not wanna be involved in this drama so I stopped talking about..in this world if a person is married to such narcissist...it's hell it's hell it's hell....may God protect us from such evil..may they vanished away from this world.but unluckyly they have long lives..then sensitive people!
Thanks Danish pls keep this work on a thousands of people would be helped and think to live again❤
Thank you Danish .for your guidance and support..God bless
He used to repeat how honorable a man he was like trying to convince himself. So interesting to watch. I left last week I respect myself more than that.❤Thank you
I felt number 4 with my narcissistic mother.
Wow. Hypersuggestability. I was told my hobbies werent important. It effected me in deep ways.
Danish is ground breaking in his insight into narcissistic abuse, just brilliant. Thank you.
I was gifted with spiritual gifts my entire life. I am always always right about the things I know. However whenever I know something about them… they tell me it’s wrong. My feelings are not right. I can’t just take my imagination as facts. Here’s the thing though.. every time I knew someone was going to die they really die. Every time I knew someone was a sexual predator they actually ended up getting arrested for SA. I can’t explain these things but I know… the narc is the only person ever who tells me that I am wrong.
II’ve been through everything you talked about in this video but here is my share: I realized that when he gave me the silent treatment I use that as my me time and a break from the chaos, which he would always come back like a little boy and apologize. This happens every 28 days like a woman’s cycle.
He would use sleep deprivation to get his way, but otherwise cause drama just to get a high he needed. Thank goodness for my head finally found my way out. Now I have peace in my life.
Feeling sorry for the narcissist may hurt a lot sometimes because, clearly, they do not care you are giving them care, but it really matters a lot and in reflection it feels great to know that it wasn't your fault and you did the right thing at the time back then.
You're awesome THANK YOU FOR BEING ON OUR SIDE❤❤❤❤❤
So much understanding, very grateful!!!!!
Yes, they used these against me all the times... It's like you said if they say I'm crazy or a c-nt was just once or twice it would be so hurtful. And that "We" crap it's just creepy to me...
This is so true. Sadly they prey on caring, loving people. I left and he has found another victim. I hope she will see the signs and free herself.
So correct! Thank you❤️
Wow! Thanks for validating me. Dealt with all points made.
Danish you are brilliant. I learn something every time. It was thru your insight I was able to identify my families problems. The 3 of them- parents plus sister. Mother overt narc father and sister covert narc. I have experienced all 5 at one time or another between the 3 of them. I am now 64-parents are dead and my younger sister is a covert narc. I live my life without her and her manipulation quite well!
Your right. Once you’ve allowed them into your inner circle…..
Thank you Danish! These relationships are SO complicated and your channel helps clear it up a bit.
I love your simple eloquence
Spoken with the most knowledge and insight. It's a different kind of trauma to heal from, and it is important to have the trauma informed resources and care. Unfortunately, most systems, especially the justice system, are not designed for the complexity of trauma.
Undergone all silent treatment making me feel guilty the last one
I think all..but mostly these three
Thank you
My ex was a narcissist and used the money angle to try to keep me with them longer through guilt and obligation. When I did finally leave they said how I was the one who took advantage of them financially, when it was their idea to give me the money and gifts that I never even asked for or wanted even. I took them so they wouldn't get their feeling hurt by my not accepting their gifts.
Always helpful, thank you Danish.
You are saving my life! I have always been blessed and cursed by being extremely empathetic for my entire life. I cannot stand seeing people or even animals in fear or pain. I’ve struggled with abuse from a narcissistic sibling, a “best friend” of 40 years and now a daughter in law who has turned my son against me, using my grandchildren as hostages.
I’ve come to hate myself and feel best when I’m isolated. It all came to a head 10 mos. ago after a very traumatizing incident where I was demonized & abused for an act of loving kindness.
I discovered your channel about 4 mos. ago. As soon as I am triggered by memories or have any contact with these people, I listen to you for education & advice. Today I decided that this is the moment for healing to begin. I know it won’t be easy, but I can do it with your help.
THANK YOU!!!!
The taking me out to places I didn't normally go , then turn around and use it to justify their abuse
I just need to thank you from the very depth of my soul for your content. There is no scale of measure to truly define how Your content has helped me work through the trauma bond and every other issue that came along with moving on and recovering from the abuse. You are doing the lords work. ❤
Number 2 was horrific
When they say something really unbelievable over and over.
"I'm a very deep person" 🤣🤣🤣
Yep, I experienced all of this! Prayers for all of us narc survivors♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
flying monkey step dad tried to take me out to dinner multiple times… i’m done with my mom, i can’t anymore
Ohh so so true !
I've learnt to receive the best gifts without feeling a steach of guilt.
It's a way of bamboozling you as Danish said. They don't know that you know why they are doing it.
If you don’t have the law of Almighty God, you can be governed by any demon!!!!!!!!!
You can try making a video on how the narcissists want you to take responsibilty for their decisions...using various manipulation tactics to trap you into such situations
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you Danish
You nailed this species .
No3 hyper suggestibility is juuuuuuust unbearable .
No 5 unwanted unconsensual favours is 🚩 red flag whoever needs to hear that
Yes, so true! They will never understand what we've gone through... :(
He walked around the house, punching his fist into the other palm while saying the words, " I will crush you, I will break you." He hated me! He'd interrupt my sleep as soon as I'd fall asleep up until 7 am. He bullied and taunted me when I'd eat food. He began to say and do all the things I shared, hurt me from past partners and my abusive parents. He even got mad when I'd slow down while driving if a person was crossing. It began right after we were married and progressed.
Thank you so much. Without knowing the kind of information you are putting out it is impossible to heal from narc abuse. Thank you also for your end comments. So many people don't get it, including counsellors who try to make you see the abuser's point of view! It is a very lonely form of abuse because there are no physical bruises and a lonely and isolating recovery because not many people get it.
All five. All the time. Every day. Every night. 24/7/365. I don't know if I am the narcissist, or my husband is. Either way, I'm stuck in this nightmare that's been going on for over thirty years of my life as I claim to have too much invested if I leave. I never used to suffer with depression until he came into my life, then the separation started. Then the lies. And now I am isolated from everyone I ever knew, and I don't know if it's my fault or his. I have been watching your videos for a while now, some are helpful, and others provoke feelings I haven't had for years. Thanks for the helpful videos.
You've really helped me see the facts in what I went through. How does a person know if they have recovered from the narcissist accuse aspect of life?
Thank you, always!
I believe if you live in a calm peacefull enviroment where you are calm and the people around you are calm.
And if you do not have the constant desire to prove yourself to others and yourself.
Also being authentic is a big sign of healing.
Sam Vaknin posted an excellent video on the subject.
You feel healthy and energetic in your body and psyche, your sleep is deep, you wake up enthusiastically to a new day, you feel harmony inside, you dont get too swayed by stress, you feel yor mind is clear and gunctioning properly, you can build new healthy relationships and healthy positive people see you reapectfully and kindly. And much more… you feel it in your mind and body, you feel lightness and peace and hope and love.