The Fake "Science" Behind Self Help (and how it's destroying your life)

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  • @stephenpetro411
    @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

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  • @edkalski2312
    @edkalski2312 6 місяців тому +2

    Reality doesn't change, people change. Also, focus and applying reason to problems matter. Jim Rohn said something like: thinking without action is delusion. Finally, David Goggins shows what is possible when taking action in the face of obstacles. He doesn't care how much he doesn't want to do something. He takes grit to an extreme.

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

      Well said, Ed! My main problem with most self help, though, is that it's mainly argued for through anecdotes and imagination - not evidence and logic.

    • @edkalski2312
      @edkalski2312 6 місяців тому

      Faith over reason. Emotions over reason. Not good. Evidence is much better.@@stephenpetro411

  • @wehelpmen
    @wehelpmen 6 місяців тому +1

    No action needed! What? You mean I have to do work?

  • @mohibquadri4053
    @mohibquadri4053 6 місяців тому +1

    Brilliant research ⭐

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

      Thank you, Mohib! I hope you took away some new ideas about how to analyze self help claims!

    • @mohibquadri4053
      @mohibquadri4053 6 місяців тому +1

      @@stephenpetro411 Yes 😊 also i came to know the difference between psychological and scientific data which is something i never thought of new for me !

  • @rayj.1825
    @rayj.1825 6 місяців тому +1

    Probably it's a good idea to buy science-backed books ? For example the book Influence by Robert Cialdini. But usually books written by academicians are a bit hard to read.

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

      Yes haha you're right! Ideally, we would all be reading peer-reviewed academic texts on these topics with citations on each line. Cialdini's book is a great one. For most people though - to just get enough momentum to start the process of change - it's useful to read something that is accessible yet also accurate in terms of science.

  • @oliver_siegel
    @oliver_siegel 6 місяців тому +1

    Interesting video and good points!
    Survivorship bias seems a related concept.
    How do we know what was the determining factor that allowed some to succeed and others to fail?
    Should we reinforce the damaged parts of the survivors?
    Or should we double down on the flawless properties of the survivors?
    Science shows that doubling down is usually the way to go.
    In the context of mindset and socioeconomic success there are indeed many factors.
    But can we boil it down to 3 major factors, such as "believe in yourself, never give up, and adopt a positive growth mindset" ?
    Or is this a bad strategy ?

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому +1

      Great point about survivorship bias here - that's definitely a factor. I believe in a "balanced" and conceptually "conservative" viewpoint when it comes to "believe in yourself, never give up and adopt a growth mindset". There are undoubtedly elements of these ideas that are empowering, but when we don't consider ideas like these carefully and with healthy skepticism, we can easily end up falling into an echo chamber of ideology. Bottom line? Hold principles you believe in, but forever be open to being proven wrong.

    • @oliver_siegel
      @oliver_siegel 6 місяців тому +1

      @@stephenpetro411 makes sense! And I liked how you gave a nuanced overview of the pros and cons of each attitude or belief in your video, hedging against blind buy in into those mantras.
      But I have to wonder: What are the negative consequences of these echo chambers and ideologies?

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

      @@oliver_siegel Much appreciated 👍 I did give some concrete reasons they could be problematic, but what do you think?

    • @oliver_siegel
      @oliver_siegel 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@stephenpetro411 oh true, I'm sorry I remember now that you did mention that some of these beliefs may lead to lack of action taking, an inability to tolerate negative emotions, or falling into the gambler's/sunk cost fallacy!
      So in that case the winning formula might be "act to take control of your situation, prepare yourself for adversity, but be mindful when to cut your losses and give in to the adversity". Hard balance to strike!

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому +1

      @@oliver_siegel Great insights here - yeah, one of the most important ways to avoid that sunk cost fallacy (which is extremely tempting) is to define the parameters ahead of time before starting any new opportunity, like I did in the video.

  • @WayStead_Talent
    @WayStead_Talent 6 місяців тому +1

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    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому

      Hey, thanks! Yes, I am - I enthusiastically recommend VidIQ coaching. The coaches are professional, kind, and genuinely helpful. Hope this helps!

  • @tekkanno
    @tekkanno 6 місяців тому +1

    I’m curious on what you disagree with Jordan Peterson 🤔

    • @stephenpetro411
      @stephenpetro411  6 місяців тому +1

      Well, based on everything of his that I've read and listened to, I don't see how his views on religion and gender follow from the premises he's laid out. This doesn't mean I'm ideological one way or the other - I just don't think he's sufficiently justified his views using his current premises. He would need a bit more context and a bit more evidence to ground many of the claims he's making.