Dealing with being the friend that was never approached | EP: 002 BELLÈESPEAKZ

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  • @1love847
    @1love847 Місяць тому +38

    More options doesn't necessarily mean better ones. Quality over quantity.

  • @peacebenedicto4010
    @peacebenedicto4010 4 місяці тому +123

    Generally, especially with this generation, 80% of guys are threatened by smart women. It has nothing to do with your physical appearance, it's the intimidation and the fact that you know exactly what you want. Now if you are experiencing that, wait for God's time, because God is saving you for something good. Tomorrow is unknown, so is your blessing. You are made for great things and if you were picked by the wrong one, your future is destroyed. Now, the best way is to focus on your life goals, once you have achieved your goals, a man that wants a successful woman will find you. You are beautiful ❤

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  4 місяці тому +12

      THANK YOU SO MUCHH WELL SAID!💕💕

    • @duanen2337
      @duanen2337 4 місяці тому +15

      Not true, nobody is intimidated by a smart person. If a guy is intimidated, it's only by beauty, period.

    • @photogeNK
      @photogeNK 4 місяці тому +3

      Nah..

    • @danieljoe4728
      @danieljoe4728 Місяць тому

      The delusion modern women have is astonishing. Only a weak immature man feels threatened by a smart woman, the vast majority just don't give a damn... The dating scene is a disaster and mature men no longer want anything to do with y'all entitled and egotistical a*ses no matter how beautiful you maybe.

    • @yaneznayoui1597
      @yaneznayoui1597 Місяць тому

      Alot of men aren't intimidated by educated women, they're apprehensive that a woman can use her being a woman as a means of capitulation, and in the event you disagree automatically be consigned a misogynist, or "talking over her," or told you're not emotionally evolved enough to sympathize with her point of view. There's little room for disagreement or the consideration that you as a woman can be wrong too. Many men know that if they dissent against something a woman does or says it can always be used to make him look bad even when it's a rational position. Apprehension isn't the same as being intimidated.

  • @kelseymay4791
    @kelseymay4791 18 днів тому +8

    I’m glad most of these comments passed the vibe check bc YES! No one can convince me I’m ugly but guys never approached me in school. I’m glad society is changing a little bit bc being dark skinned in 2005 😮‍💨 You’re beautiful and not alone ❤

  • @elizabethsodimu9457
    @elizabethsodimu9457 4 місяці тому +45

    Clicked on this video right away because this was exactly my experience. Loved my friends but guys always came up to them and not to me in hs or college and it made me feel really insecure, especially because I didn't see myself as pretty. And I was the same way in hs, trying to chase the groups of my more popular friends instead of sticking with the ones who liked me and actually invited me to things and checked on me. I'm not proud of how I was but thank God I didn't continue that way. I met my best and most reliable friend in college, and now I'm trusting that God will put someone in my life when the time is right. I'm just gonna keep working on myself to be ready for it💜

  • @KrissyFizzle
    @KrissyFizzle Місяць тому +14

    Just wanna say, I always held this same opinion as you and on a lot of levels still do.
    But what I also found is that where Im from I was never approached or found attractive but whenever I've travelled and gone somewhere different I've been so much more well received.
    So I feel like as a darker skinned black girl, sometimes you're not always gonna get love where you're at so you need to go other places

  • @bravingthehallways8169
    @bravingthehallways8169 2 місяці тому +6

    I opened this video and just loved you right away! Your personality shines through! I also see myself in you...black women, ethnic nose, dark skinned! And yes i am never approached either!

  • @anitalior9085
    @anitalior9085 3 місяці тому +10

    Yep, always the single one in a relationship. But tbh I would rather spend my free time taking care and thinking of myself without having to worry about someone else. …and I’m waiting for a man, I don’t want a boy.
    Ur “the one” is out there :)

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  3 місяці тому

      Yasss🙌🏾❤️❤️

  • @kalopsias
    @kalopsias 3 місяці тому +10

    girlll we are the SAME!! like i feel like you're literally telling my life story - also i have that shirt so i was like oh we're really on the same wavelength lol !! but it's so hard to hear from relatives that a lot of my experiences probably come down to the fact that i'm "confident" or "know what i want". as much as i hate it, i know that's part of the reason, but it never gets completely easy being the single friend! it's hard because even if you feel you're doing what you're supposed to you feel like you're missing out on certain milestones, even if they do come along in the future. this was so well put! don't get me started on the friends who are always in relationships and yet say things like "don't worry relationships are overrated" like girl -

  • @EmpressClay
    @EmpressClay 4 місяці тому +28

    Me either girlie 😅 technically only the dusty ones approach me… ugh gross. I got this boost of confidence one day nd I asked my crush out - now bf and it’s actually pretty darn awesome going on 5yrs soon to be married 🎉
    Also I’m a lightskin girlie well golden brown nd honestly I’ve never been picked by the girlies to be friends. Always had a tough time in school, bullied regularly pretty bad, to the point of having to eat my lunch in the bathroom . I don’t think it’s about the color scheme, but more about the energy we hold.

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  4 місяці тому +3

      @@EmpressClay Awww 🥰 Congratulations!!🎊

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  4 місяці тому +4

      I definitely agree we can’t stop the bullies no matter how we look 🙃

    • @G2SH
      @G2SH 4 місяці тому

      Only the dusty ones approach you? What do you mean by dusty?

  • @asamabry
    @asamabry 3 місяці тому +33

    why do dark skinned men make fun of dark skinned women!? this is so questionable to me!!

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  3 місяці тому +18

      IKR It’s literally their own insecurities being projected on to us…

    • @CloudTribe
      @CloudTribe 2 місяці тому +7

      Low self esteem

    • @MsWambui-hu4ws
      @MsWambui-hu4ws 8 днів тому +2

      And the gag is, they end up marrying light skinned women and have dark skin daughters …

  • @jameschilds1760
    @jameschilds1760 4 місяці тому +8

    Love the honesty & confidence in your video! I agree the right people will appear will know your worth. Looking forward to your next video!

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  4 місяці тому +2

      Thank you!! I will definitely do more commentary videos in the future❤️❤️

  • @nikitakumari4600
    @nikitakumari4600 3 місяці тому +5

    You are such a soft spoken person I truly want to be friends with someone like you and let me tell you in my eyes you are pretty to me 💓 I have been through same situation and I feel so unworthy of everything no guy ever liked me my friends tell me that I'm pretty obviously because they pity me but they are the only ones who are approached I'm happy for my friends and just sad for myself I have no beef with them I just hate myself from the bottom of my heart no one in this world can change my that mindset untill I die but still you're videos are very dear to me 💗

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  3 місяці тому +3

      Thank you so much!❤️ And Pick yourself up, because the right person will find you!

  • @danieldesousa4797
    @danieldesousa4797 4 місяці тому +6

    amazed to hear your story, you are most definitely gorgeous. Remind yourself that in our days is hard to fit in and be part of so what not percentage. Great video btW

    • @Bellrosee
      @Bellrosee  4 місяці тому

      Thank you so much!💕💕

  • @camerooniangyal
    @camerooniangyal 12 днів тому

    You are gorgeous ❤ Trust me it's better to not be approached by every guy, it's not serving you...

  • @robertcox8575
    @robertcox8575 4 місяці тому +5

    maam you are stunning!! If you were in NC you’d be in trouble

  • @kelseymay4791
    @kelseymay4791 18 днів тому +5

    Stop saying we should approach guys when other girls don’t either. Some of y’all missing the point! Listen!

  • @God.is.good.
    @God.is.good. 2 місяці тому +6

    Hey I just wanted to tell you that God loves us so He send His Son so we can have eternal life with Him and be saved, Jesus did it out of love and wants us all to accept it! ❤

  • @MechieNk
    @MechieNk 23 дні тому

    I usually see men and women being bitter about not being that person. I remember in uni i had this friend who had it in their head that every guy wanted me. And they said "Cheap stuff have many buyers." Bro i don't talk to any of those guys.

  • @grass6740
    @grass6740 5 днів тому

    subscribed.

  • @N3VLYNNN
    @N3VLYNNN 7 днів тому

    Girl where do you live that a pretty girl like you has never been approached or asked out? Idaho? Wisconsin? Because I could not imagine this being the case for you in a place like Brooklyn or Atlanta. Especially nowadays that dark skin women are celebrated in these areas. Please travel and spend time in other communities if your beauty is not celebrated where you are. Good on you that you have this self-loving attitude but it's also helpful to receive affirmation from other humans and folks in your dating pool. Go where you are loved! 🌺

  • @gabesgevity
    @gabesgevity 3 місяці тому +1

    New subscriber🎉🎉🎉

  • @brianfreckles8542
    @brianfreckles8542 Місяць тому +4

    Well - just going on appearance- if I were younger and single-i definitely would have approached you as you definitely would have been my type. Never had an attraction to lightskn womn as i found drkskn womn more feminine. I guess we've all had life lessons- I've learned during my single days, choose from the pool who likes you - it's that simple. We may make mistakes in that pool, but nonetheless, that's where we should choose from

  • @princ3charming
    @princ3charming 24 дні тому

    I’ll be Ya first hmu😂 Yuh lil yea yea

  • @Canoncorey
    @Canoncorey 8 днів тому

    It's definitely your environment because you are definitely not an ugly girl. Move somewhere else.

  • @michelleoller1649
    @michelleoller1649 2 місяці тому +5

    You are pretty but men can read confidence vs insecure

  • @genovasquez8361
    @genovasquez8361 23 дні тому +1

    I was always rejected by dark skin girls.
    Especially any girl who was darker than me.
    Most of my all my girlfriends were high yellow or another race.
    By the time I was 19 I just accepted I'm not dark skin girls type..
    By 25 I completely gave up on dating a dark skin girl.
    By 35 that's when dark skin girls started showing interest in me in mass..
    Sometimes you just have to realize your type. I attract some dark skin girls now I'm older. But I know that lighter skin girls just vibe with more.
    Like light skin monoracial black girls and mix high yellow girls still flirt or approached me more
    An I'm a black man

  • @Timius.the.Memeus
    @Timius.the.Memeus 2 місяці тому +3

    How many guys have you approached? Did you invite anyone on a date?

  • @Ali01007
    @Ali01007 Місяць тому +8

    lol ain’t nobody intimidated just not into you. Simple.

  • @badge5575
    @badge5575 Місяць тому

    😂😂😂😂😂 why dont you approach men and get a taste of what rejection feels like

  • @dumbsurvivor1
    @dumbsurvivor1 2 місяці тому +2

    Cope...

    • @AzetheReal
      @AzetheReal 2 місяці тому +6

      Toxic…

    • @nagyuz
      @nagyuz 14 днів тому

      you are your username. dumb survivor