Women Share Lessons They Learned The Hard Way In Their 20s 🤔| Things You Should Know 🤫- Part 1

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  • Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
  • Lately I've been trying to learn as much as I can to make navigating my 20s a better experience. This is opinionated advice from women that I found helpful & decided to share. Thanks so much for watching. Comment, Like, & Subscribe!!
    DISCLAIMER: I am NOT telling you to do or follow these exact things!!
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 81

  • @LadyLe-z7o
    @LadyLe-z7o 10 днів тому +180

    "do not chase boys, is never worth it" 🍻🥂💯

  • @babywhizzy
    @babywhizzy 6 днів тому +60

    Don't focus on the pain of how it feels in the moment rather think what's this pain teaching me... what's the lesson to be learnt. I learn lessons from my pains.

  • @hiraaltaf528
    @hiraaltaf528 4 дні тому +36

    An advice from my 23 year old self......
    The more you'll do for a man you'll get attached to him but he won't......
    In the long run he ain't gonna respect you either.....
    If you want commitment from a man let him do the most.....
    He'll get attached......

  • @FatimaL9294
    @FatimaL9294 5 днів тому +43

    If you're living at home, once you're working create a savings account and put atleast half your paycheck in. I can not stress how important this is because that helps you save up for big life events, holidays and eventually helping you get a place to live

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  5 днів тому +3

      Yess , wish I would’ve done this 😭!

  • @rosej5029
    @rosej5029 7 днів тому +62

    As usual with advice videos for women, rarely, if at all, managing her money to build financial security ISNT discussed. But time is given to dealing with males

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  7 днів тому +5

      We can do a video on the topic 💓

    • @chikamsoodume3601
      @chikamsoodume3601 7 днів тому +14

      Agreed .. planning fir retirement is something we should be really be talking about ..these 401ks are a joke

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  7 днів тому +5

      That is true , I’ve been hearing that lately .. I’ll definitely do a video 💓

    • @TheHestya
      @TheHestya 6 днів тому +21

      For me personally money can be a problem, but it has never fucked me up. It has never ruined my life. It has never purposefully tortured me. It has never abused or assaulted me. Men have harmed me more than money or lack of it. And I grew up poor, so it's not coming from a place of privilege. I can handle poor. I will not have to handle another narcissist ever again, because I know better now.

    • @ChunkHumunk
      @ChunkHumunk 4 дні тому +5

      I know it’s like cmon we get it you said they ain’t shit but we need real advice

  • @msJjbluematrix
    @msJjbluematrix 14 днів тому +44

    this needed to be done. thank you.

  • @Avrilranze
    @Avrilranze 6 днів тому +21

    Always lead with kindness and respect. Find yourself a good therapist now. It may take a while, but you will know when it's a good fit.

  • @gillybeans131
    @gillybeans131 4 дні тому +6

    Man, as a 28 yo, I WISH I had had an older female role model in my family to teach me all this when I was still a teen/ in my early 20s. You're dropping gems that I had to learn the hard way 🥲 Best of luck to all you early twenty-somethings 😘😘😘

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  2 дні тому

      Thank you & no seriously this advice has taught me so much as a woman 💓!

  • @jailynjackson7867
    @jailynjackson7867 9 днів тому +52

    The thing is I just turned 24 and I’m realizing I’m kinda wasting my early to almost mid 20’s already. Like I’m literally gonna be 25 next year and that’s gonna come by hella quick because these years are going by so fast. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life tbh. I have no money to travel and to just do the things I want to do for beauty maintenance or whatever. Any advice and tips would be greatly appreciated ❤

    • @nothingoutoftheordinary5217
      @nothingoutoftheordinary5217 9 днів тому +13

      Start now. You're too young.

    • @Bewise-gq4ru
      @Bewise-gq4ru 8 днів тому +3

      Do you live at home or alone?

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  8 днів тому +6

      It’s ok you’re not alone & it will get better 💓 I’ll make a video on the topic so stay tuned

    • @jailynjackson7867
      @jailynjackson7867 8 днів тому +1

      @@Bewise-gq4ru at home with family

    • @jailynjackson7867
      @jailynjackson7867 8 днів тому +4

      @@allurelanajay I’ll be keeping an eye out. I just subscribed

  • @gon3035
    @gon3035 4 дні тому +15

    For the young 20 year olds, the second girl doing her make up wearing back is talking shit most of the time. A lot of that advice is wrong and is filled with hate and will make you just lose people who may be good for you. ❤

  • @slippyredd
    @slippyredd 6 днів тому +18

    I love women

  • @jasmineyoungblood
    @jasmineyoungblood 8 днів тому +9

    I needed this! Thanks for compiling these ❤.

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  8 днів тому

      You welcome , I’m glad you enjoyed 💓

  • @gotamekanicole
    @gotamekanicole 5 днів тому +8

    Loved the First Lady

  • @greenfacere210
    @greenfacere210 5 днів тому +18

    I don’t agree with some of the stuff girl #2 is saying.

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  5 днів тому

      Understandable

    • @midnightgalaxy3793
      @midnightgalaxy3793 5 днів тому +8

      Yeah I’m not in a relationship rn but the advice of breaking up with your boyfriend is wild. Obviously if it’s abusive, or there’s no love, or you aren’t on the same path it’s fine, but breaking up with them just to be alone is self sabotage

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  5 днів тому +2

      @@midnightgalaxy3793 I can see that

    • @greenfacere210
      @greenfacere210 5 днів тому +7

      @@midnightgalaxy3793 Exactly, my bf treats me right. Also the move away from your family part. Everyone is different and has different motivations in life and family dynamics, I don’t see the point of isolating yourself from your family unless they treat you poorly. But I definitely agree with the sentiment of protecting your own peace

    • @greenfacere210
      @greenfacere210 5 днів тому +2

      @@midnightgalaxy3793 it’s wrong to paint all men under 25 as only caring about you know what. I could never generalize a group of people like that, everyone is different no matter their sex, race, class, etc.

  • @Sugar_Fatale
    @Sugar_Fatale День тому +2

    Imma need sis to get back on camera to tell me how broccoli and cauliflower is good for my boobs 😂. Put me on some game sis. What do my boobs need, tell me please!

  • @Clownmenship
    @Clownmenship 3 дні тому +5

    Can these changes no longer be made after 25? What happens after 25. I'm about to be in a few months

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  3 дні тому +4

      You have time , it’s never to late to improve 💓

  • @gotamekanicole
    @gotamekanicole 5 днів тому +1

    Loved the Second Lady

  • @godstransformation6129
    @godstransformation6129 5 днів тому +1

    Motivation 🫶🏻✨💐💐💐 I love this Video 💖💖💖💖💖

  • @missmonica7005
    @missmonica7005 4 дні тому +4

    No lies detected here🎯

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  4 дні тому +1

      Okk , all women need to tune in ! 💓

    • @missmonica7005
      @missmonica7005 4 дні тому +1

      @@allurelanajay period! I wish I would’ve had something like this to watch when I was growing up💗💗💗

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  4 дні тому +1

      @@missmonica7005 exactly why I do it 💓

  • @zithembisoshabalala3457
    @zithembisoshabalala3457 2 дні тому +1

    😊

  • @sawlty-suite5131
    @sawlty-suite5131 5 днів тому +3

    name of the track at the beginning

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  5 днів тому

      It’s called ok by jt, but it’s a UA-cam remix

  • @essohnalvine154
    @essohnalvine154 День тому +2

    I don't chase men anymore i delete

  • @tperrien
    @tperrien 4 дні тому +3

    I'm glad I didn't have to navigate this goofy nonsense when I was in my 20s. Ohh Jesus. Talk about silver plated turds.

  • @shylock5477
    @shylock5477 10 днів тому +37

    I'm 27 and this is good advice to women of all ages, you’ll be shocked how clueless some older women are
    But for me most of this info is general knowledge i figured in my teenage years.. some people need to hear this nonetheless

    • @allurelanajay
      @allurelanajay  9 днів тому +5

      That’s so true , I’ve met some women way older than me who seem so out of touch with life !

  • @artiswilkins306
    @artiswilkins306 7 днів тому +6

    Not trying to be mean, but the young lady that said that she turned 25, she looks like she’s pushing 40. 🫢