5 EMPTY PROMISES MEN USE TO KEEP YOU STUCK- The Wimpy Syndrome by RC BLAKES

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  • 5 EMPTY PROMISES MEN MAKE TO KEEP YOU STUCK - The Wimpy Syndrome by RC BLAKES
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  • @TheLifescasualty
    @TheLifescasualty 4 роки тому +1932

    “Don’t desire to be a wife so bad that you except less than a husband. “. Whoa!!!

    • @TeaWitcher
      @TeaWitcher 4 роки тому +41

      *accept

    • @sondrabrown2595
      @sondrabrown2595 4 роки тому +10

      Love You Pastor dont change a thing

    • @Weneed2talk
      @Weneed2talk 4 роки тому +36

      Don’t believe your delivery is harsh it only feels that way when people aren’t ready to receive it. Thankful for the message keep it going pastor

    • @tobitaonafowora8999
      @tobitaonafowora8999 4 роки тому +12

      Analise Casals he woke something up with that one! Praise God!

    • @tarao4382
      @tarao4382 4 роки тому +16

      That spoke directly to me. Total reminder, husband only!!!

  • @heatherL4834
    @heatherL4834 4 роки тому +1326

    Honestly, staying single is sounding better and better to me. I like my peace.

    • @lmc6868
      @lmc6868 4 роки тому +12

      🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @bluecollarlit
      @bluecollarlit 4 роки тому +66

      When single, you can have freedom and peace.

    • @marsaemusic2188
      @marsaemusic2188 4 роки тому +75

      Who you telling cause life is already hard and than people wanna make it harder smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @johnnyblaze2257
      @johnnyblaze2257 4 роки тому +10

      That’s why a lot of men went MGTOW!

    • @amandaashton4072
      @amandaashton4072 4 роки тому +11

      That's how I feel right now

  • @beautybarconn
    @beautybarconn 4 роки тому +761

    “A Phd woman will be managed by a GED man” 😩😩😩😩 lawd this just stopped me from crying over this mannnn

    • @Wealthybaby
      @Wealthybaby 4 роки тому +66

      Please don’t cry over a loser. Stay strong a real man wouldn’t make you cry

    • @Varietykreations
      @Varietykreations 4 роки тому +41

      Yas!!!!! A few of pastor Blake’s videos helped me to get some sense and moved past people that should of never even gotten my phone number. Queenology helped my whole life!!! and Father Daughter talked helped me rediscover the value in myself.

    • @tootiegreen4095
      @tootiegreen4095 4 роки тому +4

      Ha

    • @theresadaily126
      @theresadaily126 4 роки тому +7

      needed all this right here

    • @LoveNLife700
      @LoveNLife700 4 роки тому +8

      It takes a ged to get a phd

  • @maryw3989
    @maryw3989 3 роки тому +96

    He's faking a future with you to get what he wants from you in the present. He's a liar

  • @rosannefarley828
    @rosannefarley828 4 роки тому +254

    "Don't desire to be a wife so bad that you accept less than a husband." R. C. Blakes WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @stacyann5850
    @stacyann5850 4 роки тому +693

    Such a privilege to be single and watching these videos.

    • @jdstep97
      @jdstep97 4 роки тому +15

      Stacy Ann - Alright! For me, it's a privilege to be in a recent break-up and watching these videos. Fortunately, I lost only 11 months of my life. But I'd like to time travel and get this video to myself 12 months ago.

    • @chocolatenikki
      @chocolatenikki 4 роки тому +4

      Yess!!

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 4 роки тому +5

      @@jdstep97 why do you think.you lost anything ????
      What was the lesson?? That was the gem.in the robe ...we learn and we move on

    • @4LADYSWEET
      @4LADYSWEET 4 роки тому +3

      💯Say that 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @lwarfield52
      @lwarfield52 4 роки тому +2

      Iagree!👍

  • @MysticButterfly22
    @MysticButterfly22 4 роки тому +581

    Don't desire to be a wife so bad you Accept less than a husband!!💯

  • @earthreign
    @earthreign 4 роки тому +398

    The man who said they will "Hold you down" will literally do just that. He will hold you down under water and watch you kick and fight to breathe. I don't want anyone to hold me down ever ! Hold me up if anything, I'm not light weight either..impress me.

  • @jackirodriguez8673
    @jackirodriguez8673 2 роки тому +70

    It took me 20 years but I waited for the man that is absolutely perfect for me....and I'm perfect for him.....thank you God....we can't stop smiling

  • @lalalala3274
    @lalalala3274 4 роки тому +259

    I was 16 he was 32 “I’m going to leave her” he always said. 6 years later and we had 2 daughters and 1 miscarriage. He abused me controlled me, hurt me, and destroyed my life. Until I woke up, after that he never support his daughters or call them. Im still a single mother because I can’t trust any men. 2020 I’m 37 and my oldest 19 daughter is in college NYU doing pre-med and my youngest in doing well. I love your videos and I show it to them as well so they don’t make same mistakes. You are like a father WE never had. I’m recovering 🙏🏼Thank you!

    • @rendajohnson2978
      @rendajohnson2978 3 роки тому +10

      So glad your over it now it's good you left to teach your daughter's better and the best side of you so their future and your will flourish. God continues to bless you 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

    • @acemanifester1401
      @acemanifester1401 3 роки тому +46

      He should be in Jail - You were a child -
      I pray karma gets his ass 👏

    • @keana_iamwomban2579
      @keana_iamwomban2579 3 роки тому +3

      God bless you, Queen!

    • @Beauzesta
      @Beauzesta 3 роки тому +3

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @hope1416
      @hope1416 3 роки тому +3

      Proud of you!

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 4 роки тому +527

    I've been celibate almost 3 years. Thank God I can weed out men quickly & see if they're disingenuous.
    Ladies don't listen to a man words WATCH his actions. Yes I need a decisive man 😁

    • @chrissynicki5294
      @chrissynicki5294 4 роки тому +29

      Its been 5 months for me. My mind is try made up. It won't hurt me to abstain. I also refuse to rush to the alter to get intimate.

    • @joycewatt3443
      @joycewatt3443 4 роки тому +12

      Michelle McDonald
      Yes yes and yes!! I had to get to that point prior to meeting my husband. I decisively decided to observe his character above all else.

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 4 роки тому +22

      @@joycewatt3443
      Very good I'm praying to be married one day too. I pray for a spirit of discernment because people can put of fronts & pretend.

    • @Lacilove1991
      @Lacilove1991 4 роки тому +19

      I’ve been abstinent for about 9 months now and I feel great. Sexual immorality actually blocks your relationship with god because it’s an unforgivable sin. I got rid of all my soul ties and walking in the spirit now

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 4 роки тому +13

      @@Lacilove1991
      Good I had to get to that point as well, it's too many STDs/ venereal diseases out here. I pray to meet someone equally yoked with me. In the mean while I'll focus on my goals & endeavors ( getting a FHA loan, getting a promotion, ect). Be blessed.

  • @TiffanyFG
    @TiffanyFG 4 роки тому +497

    Your approach is not harsh. Sin is killing people. Play time been over.

  • @joanfolds476
    @joanfolds476 4 роки тому +270

    A man that has to make promises is either not available, not capable of fulfilling them; or is unwilling, and his only goal is to manipulate you. This is excellent teaching!!!

  • @keepingdivinepurposetv392
    @keepingdivinepurposetv392 3 роки тому +39

    “He may be a 6 figure bum … but he’s a Bum!” This the one!!!!!! I LOVE your coaching/teaching/wisdom and perspectives!!

  • @jillanderson3445
    @jillanderson3445 3 роки тому +19

    We as women do not willingly go into these situations, trust me. We are lied to from the start, once we find out the truth, we have invested so much time trying to maintain the relationship, that we do get caught up in the okee doke. It is far beneath us, we know that but watching you and listening to your words, brings us back to reality.

  • @haydeejohnson8290
    @haydeejohnson8290 4 роки тому +205

    "PHD woman has been managed by the GED man". Damn....💞

  • @carolynballerina5342
    @carolynballerina5342 4 роки тому +220

    Empty promises can also be described as "future faking" - it's emotionally abusive because you are constantly "on the hook", just waiting & staying in the (fake) one-sided relationship.

    • @bpassion4fashion581
      @bpassion4fashion581 Рік тому +6

      I lived with a sociopath for way too many years . This future faking was so abusive and did so much damage to my life !

  • @desireehall6156
    @desireehall6156 4 роки тому +211

    I only met two men in my life that were marriage material. They treated me with such respect. Unfortunately, I wasn’t ready to be married but I learned I was worth something.

  • @wildhorses6817
    @wildhorses6817 4 роки тому +146

    When they see you are successful, own a home, car, have money..... BEWARE !!!!!
    They do whatever it takes to take it ALL !
    I have been through it ! Divorced now.

    • @ritaaleksandrovna4518
      @ritaaleksandrovna4518 3 роки тому +24

      A woman should never revel to a man how successful she is that’s just asking for trouble.

    • @theah781
      @theah781 3 роки тому +7

      It weeds out the trash

    • @meditation8905
      @meditation8905 Рік тому

      It's true people project accordingly

  • @carolrabali2653
    @carolrabali2653 4 роки тому +54

    Pain is when you’ve heard all 5 promises from the same person💔
    Thank you for helping me wake up

  • @Lacilove1991
    @Lacilove1991 4 роки тому +194

    Only people you offend when speaking the way you do are the people who are falling for it and don’t want to change

    • @keisha2shoes
      @keisha2shoes 4 роки тому +11

      A hit dog will holla

    • @gloriousjohnson1807
      @gloriousjohnson1807 4 роки тому +2

      Speak on it! You're a woman after my own heart! I 'suga coat' NOTHING!😉

    • @Shamarie0328
      @Shamarie0328 4 роки тому +1

      Laci Davis Amen!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😊🙏🏾❤️

    • @Lacilove1991
      @Lacilove1991 4 роки тому +8

      Glorious Johnson shoot you can’t, I went through this and learned the hard way so I share these with the young women I talk to and my family members. But some of them are hard headed so I let them be. I ain’t letting no man make empty promises to me anymore.

    • @1msladyv
      @1msladyv 4 роки тому +8

      Right, there are no babies here. The truth always hurt. If it hurts, it's because he hit a nerve. Allow that pain to b the awakening you need. Keep love & hope alive❣ Thank u Man of God❣

  • @lisaanderson51
    @lisaanderson51 4 роки тому +740

    The 5 Empty Promises Men use to keep you Stuck 🔗⛓👹
    1). I'm going to leave her
    2). I got you covered financially
    3). I'm going to marry you
    4). I'm going to make us public when the time is right
    5). I'm going to change

    • @tianasharpe67
      @tianasharpe67 4 роки тому +5

      lisa Anderson common sense it’s all bull lol

    • @lisaanderson51
      @lisaanderson51 4 роки тому

      @Dorcas Deroneth you're welcome

    • @stacyann5850
      @stacyann5850 4 роки тому +5

      Thank you

    • @melokate_maDW
      @melokate_maDW 4 роки тому +3

      Appreciate you

    • @lionsimba723
      @lionsimba723 4 роки тому +35

      Number 6 should be “I can’t live without you”. It’s more like manipulation not a promise

  • @paulajenkinsminor1402
    @paulajenkinsminor1402 4 роки тому +125

    I'm 62 years old and I wish when I was growing up that someone would of talked to me and my friends this way. I love it and keep doing what your doing. God bless you.

    • @lwarfield52
      @lwarfield52 4 роки тому +2

      I agree!

    • @cassandrabowen9379
      @cassandrabowen9379 4 роки тому +2

      Im 64 in 1 month and my Sister talked to me about some of this but i didnt listen.!!!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @wildhorses6817
      @wildhorses6817 4 роки тому

      Yes, absolutely. God Bless you

  • @MrsLadylaw
    @MrsLadylaw Рік тому +22

    His commentary is called... REAL TALK. Some Queens just aren't ready for the truth. I've seen Pastor for many years-- yet never clicked the link. I clicked this summer, and listen to him approx 4 hrs a day. In my car while driving, relaxing, in my bed as I prepare to rest. I am HUNGRY for all the knowledge he has to share. He's helping me transition through a new Era in my life- without- my fiance. After 8 yrs the promises ring empty. Thanks Pastor.

    • @losmit2194
      @losmit2194 11 місяців тому

      Dang you were a fiance for 8 yrs ?? 😆😆😆 what the world

  • @feliciahinton-ramey7627
    @feliciahinton-ramey7627 2 роки тому +41

    I don't have a problem with your bluntness. Even when the truth hurts. Keep serving it in the manner that it resonates with us! Thank you, Bishop!

  • @hs-qk9qf
    @hs-qk9qf 4 роки тому +363

    These people are shoplifting in our stores (our lives), and I'm calling security (God) to remove them!

    • @gracenabagala3138
      @gracenabagala3138 4 роки тому +8

      AMEN!

    • @daniellejones1460
      @daniellejones1460 4 роки тому +9

      Hurt my feelings and save my life!

    • @gigiso-thankful8150
      @gigiso-thankful8150 4 роки тому +1

      AMEN!

    • @LynnT6904
      @LynnT6904 4 роки тому +2

      h shakoor l I ove this! Thank you for posting that! 💖💕

    • @mw7882
      @mw7882 4 роки тому +1

      Amen to that. Just yanking all the Tiffany necklaces and leaving a few Skittles replacements.

  • @angelinapuii4151
    @angelinapuii4151 4 роки тому +201

    When the Lord open my spiritual eyes the world looks like a zombie land.

  • @love_reka_8877
    @love_reka_8877 4 роки тому +301

    Keep being “harsh “ pastor ! We need that passion!

    • @toolboxevolution7456
      @toolboxevolution7456 4 роки тому +8

      Preach!

    • @Spiritual_876
      @Spiritual_876 4 роки тому +1

      _its_REKA_faye truth feels good to me...🎈

    • @t_aintbut1me416
      @t_aintbut1me416 4 роки тому +4

      Keep it real and raw. Sweetness is not needed.

    • @yondelangculu8117
      @yondelangculu8117 4 роки тому +2

      truth feels good to me 🙌🌷

    • @beverlyhall4578
      @beverlyhall4578 4 роки тому

      Once a physically abused you, it only gets worst. Worked. Domestic Violence Court for years. Too many black eyes and broken ribs to count.

  • @Pea218
    @Pea218 3 роки тому +76

    He is a spiritual father to many of us. He speaks the truth in love.

  • @yakineamarie8878
    @yakineamarie8878 4 роки тому +18

    A woke Queen is dangerous to deal with. You're PREACHING good Bishop.

  • @khakimay1505
    @khakimay1505 4 роки тому +219

    He has become my online dad that everyone needs and Tony Gaskin has been the online big brother. These two men have changed my life during this Quarantine. I now know that am a Queen, somebody's wife & NOT a punch bag, hold me down, Teddy bear for a Grown Boy👊🙏🤗 Thank you @rcblakes & please continue these wonderful teachings. The young generation need your words of WISDOM💞

    • @viva2pk
      @viva2pk 4 роки тому +3

      👏

    • @mw7882
      @mw7882 4 роки тому +10

      These are the top two that I listen to as well. Isn't God so good to give us this time to heal.

    • @enjoli9132
      @enjoli9132 3 роки тому +4

      Don't forget Stephan Speaks!!! Love them❤

    • @GoldenGraham25
      @GoldenGraham25 3 роки тому +2

      @@enjoli9132: Yes! Definitely love Stephan Speaks. I love how the Lord is calling young men. Even Pastor Blake’s is still young enough to reach the youth because he’s hip to the culture and he’s brutally honest which us young folk are ready for. We don’t want the usual. May God keep them.

    • @sachellelewis
      @sachellelewis 3 роки тому +2

      Same! I started w/ Tony gaskins about seven months ago and I just found his channel a few days ago and I've learned so much and really started to heal.

  • @KimmieJ1920
    @KimmieJ1920 4 роки тому +304

    My exhusband told his side piece the same thing. I left his behind and at the divorce he cried like a baby because he claimed he didn't want the divorce. I still divorced him and he of course ended up with her, because I left him. He wasn't gone ever leave and I knew that. She didn't she was posting all over FB that he was leaving me, until she saw them divorce papers that said I was the petitioner and he was the respondent.

    • @444LAAH
      @444LAAH 4 роки тому +39

      Good for you. Heal and be blessed

    • @jennehsmith8170
      @jennehsmith8170 4 роки тому +33

      Peace of mind is priceless 😌 my dear...good for you 👍

    • @cpoeticjustice5724
      @cpoeticjustice5724 4 роки тому +8

      Wow

    • @GoldenGraham25
      @GoldenGraham25 3 роки тому +11

      You know yourself and your worth. I’m still young in age but I want to learn to get there.

    • @sweetlikeme
      @sweetlikeme 3 роки тому +52

      He is with her because he has no other choice. Women think they win over somebody's man or husband over when they get him. No honey he has nowhere else to go.

  • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
    @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 4 роки тому +285

    "A promise is a comfort to a fool".

    • @sirnathanstorernbsn
      @sirnathanstorernbsn 4 роки тому +6

      My grandmother always used to say this 🙂

    • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
      @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 4 роки тому +3

      @@sirnathanstorernbsnour grandmothers always know best

    • @sirnathanstorernbsn
      @sirnathanstorernbsn 4 роки тому +2

      Ms. Perfectly Imperfect-absolutely 😇

    • @sharonanderson9584
      @sharonanderson9584 4 роки тому +2

      Pastor what about the guy who does wrong and won't apologize and try to make it your fault SMH

    • @namazziaisha2987
      @namazziaisha2987 4 роки тому +2

      @@sharonanderson9584 toxic relationship even if you get married to him he will always accuse you for nothing . never feel guilty when it's not your fault let him fix himself and give him space don't act you need him more

  • @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410
    @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410 3 роки тому +54

    I am so convicted, I am genuinely sorry for hurting my fiancé With empty promises, break her heart, lied to get her back and wanted the benefits of a husband. I was not even capable of even being responsible to fulfill the promises and I need God's help.. please pray

    • @stohandmadejewelrycraftcorner
      @stohandmadejewelrycraftcorner 3 роки тому +7

      Thank you so much for being honest. I pray that The Most God in Christ will guide you as well as deliver up your past transgressions.🙏🏾🙌🏾

    • @hymnodyhands
      @hymnodyhands 3 роки тому +1

      Much respect, and you have my prayers

    • @theurbanethnic3553
      @theurbanethnic3553 3 роки тому +6

      i hope karma catches up with you and all your kind. good day

    • @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410
      @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410 3 роки тому +8

      The things I spoke of are to bring accountability and acknowledgement of my wrong doings, I quickly learn from my mistakes and bounce back.. my ex and I are working it out... thankfully Jesus Christ is the center of it all..

    • @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410
      @purifyingtheprophetickimba7410 3 роки тому +2

      @@theurbanethnic3553its called the law of reap and sowing (reciprocity), I am not the man that fits in that category of men you may have encountered. I wouldn't have shared my business with the world had it not been for the Holy Ghost convicting me. Thanks for sharing, you have a better day.

  • @practicalitysensibility5592
    @practicalitysensibility5592 4 роки тому +70

    Glory to God! He knew I wasn't strong enough to make a decision, so Father God made an 'executive decision' to bring it to an end.

  • @powerfit111
    @powerfit111 4 роки тому +60

    This was me for 7 years! Thankfully GOD was able to get my attention!

  • @SuccessBug
    @SuccessBug 4 роки тому +194

    For future reference 😌🤥
    1. 15:35 "I'm going to leave her."
    2. 23:02 "I got you covered financially."
    3. 29:17 "I'm going to marry you."
    4. 33:55 "I'm going to make it public when the time is right."
    5. 37:42 "I'm going to change."

    • @katrinabeatty4372
      @katrinabeatty4372 4 роки тому +5

      True!
      I will make the right deciaion for my future.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +2

      💭💭💭

    • @carolyngaynor7177
      @carolyngaynor7177 4 роки тому +5

      Success Bug thank you so much... good info but could have been don in less time. Women get it. Some women stay in these relationships for company every now and then.

    • @SuccessBug
      @SuccessBug 4 роки тому +3

      @@carolyngaynor7177 You're welcome! Personally, I can listen to him talk forever on the "relationship" topics. (Especially "Soul-ties") This message was a refreshing reminder of what I already know to be true.

    • @mistyjones4816
      @mistyjones4816 4 роки тому +4

      @@carolyngaynor7177 EXACTLY Sis, not all the time a woman is BLIND & FOOLISH!! She may just be putting up w/it 4the "MEANTIME" as Inyala Vanzant would say in her book! She may be putting up w/his 💩 until she's ready to DIP and her MR. Right comes along!! She may be well AWARE and is NOBODY'S DAMN FOOL 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @SermonsSubtitled
    @SermonsSubtitled 4 роки тому +294

    This is why it's SO important to wait with sex until marriage! I guarantee you NO man will string a woman along for YEARS if he only can have sex within marriage

  • @hurleymichelle1
    @hurleymichelle1 3 роки тому +46

    You hit the nail on the head. We were dating for 10 months and wanted to keep his status on Facebook single. My gut was telling me that he wanted to keep his options open. I was not going to be an option so ended it and I am not going to be anyone's secret

    • @Wakka144
      @Wakka144 3 роки тому +2

      Been there done that too.

  • @jackieharrison848
    @jackieharrison848 2 роки тому +30

    As a young lady in her early 20s who grew up with no father figure present, & coming across your channel has impacted my life drastically, and has me reflecting on all relationships with men that are in my life; the standards I need to set, having to know my worth, and most importantly not allow a man to put me down to only uplift his ego.
    Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤️

  • @ronnice8386
    @ronnice8386 4 роки тому +182

    I’m finally a WOKE Queen! Thanks for this message Pastor!!!

    • @judithlwanga2878
      @judithlwanga2878 4 роки тому +1

      Amen

    • @ang5994
      @ang5994 4 роки тому +1

      Me 2 girl it's a shame, how they can use us or take advantage of us, but it's ok! Let them play themselves krazy right out the door bye bye

    • @ronnice8386
      @ronnice8386 4 роки тому

      Angela Thompson Yes! There is good in goodbye!

    • @Melly16yr10
      @Melly16yr10 3 роки тому

      What is WOKE?

    • @ronnice8386
      @ronnice8386 3 роки тому

      @@Melly16yr10 it means to know and love yourself, to be enlightened, aware and awake so you know longer accept less than you deserve. That’s what it means to to me

  • @daniellejones1460
    @daniellejones1460 4 роки тому +120

    Hurt my feelings and save my life!

  • @Silkyslim48
    @Silkyslim48 4 роки тому +234

    I love this message and it hit me straight up side the head. If a woman don't get it together she will become very bitter at herself and that person. 😶

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 роки тому +3

      Uncle Charlie oops upside my head Gap Band 80s🤣😂👍❤

    • @patriciapotter4729
      @patriciapotter4729 4 роки тому +10

      I know he's speaking too me I have been with my child father 10 years on and off I'm 39 he's 64 I left him he wanted me back and now back in the boat of leaving with my child starting over at going on 40 it hurts and I hurt for my child not having both parents together but I have too do what's best for us I know God got us

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 роки тому +8

      @@patriciapotter4729 you know I read on another ladies Channel those on and off relationship or the most emotionally dangerous and at times can be physically dangerous because when the man learns he's lost now he feels he has nothing to lose and he will end up hurting you. It's not over because you're very young, 40 years old is very young play close attention to your mind body and soul❗DO a makeover, the way you eat, SLEEP and please close attention to your INTUITION which is your gut in your stomach when you dealing with people THAT maybe TOXIC. Remember YOU eat an elephant one bite at a Time start today. DON'T wait any longer ARE you going to find yourself old and resentful.

  • @kimberlyblunt
    @kimberlyblunt 3 роки тому +51

    Well my dumb husband left me. And then tried to come back. I guess it didn't work out after all. I left him right out there.

    • @ASOnly1
      @ASOnly1 3 роки тому +1

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤸🏽‍♀️

    • @Lucy-ql7tt
      @Lucy-ql7tt 3 роки тому +1

      Yasssss!!!

  • @sondraferguson5183
    @sondraferguson5183 4 роки тому +7

    I dont have a PH.D BUT i am a very intelligent woman and one thing I have learned from you my spiritual father.keep my legs closed don't talk too much and listen I enjoy my season of being single. My heart is so hidden in God that a man must seek Him First in order to find me.

  • @christiansgrandma6812
    @christiansgrandma6812 4 роки тому +89

    BEEN THERE DONE THAT! YOUNG LADIES PLEASE LISTEN

  • @wonderfulblessings5463
    @wonderfulblessings5463 4 роки тому +127

    Anyone else getting a shirt made that says "I'm Woke Now"

  • @michellecarey1345
    @michellecarey1345 4 роки тому +100

    It’s very sobering to realize I’ve been robbed all these years by someone I trusted.

    • @bladerubber
      @bladerubber 4 роки тому +10

      You haven't been robbed of you take the lesson,never forget and adjust your future self. It's just life..we are never robbed.

    • @bettycarmella1127
      @bettycarmella1127 3 роки тому

      🙏🏽❤

  • @juliatripp2010
    @juliatripp2010 4 роки тому +48

    "A Phd woman managed by a GED man!!!" What a great line. Ive just broken the ties to this exact kind of character. I won't put myself down because I was genuine. Now, Im genuinely done

  • @cherankimiorak1739
    @cherankimiorak1739 Рік тому +2

    Empty promises can even come in the form of him just saying “ I love you” and have no intention to act on that “love” long term with you.

  • @jimmielgreen7296
    @jimmielgreen7296 4 роки тому +200

    I love it don't sugarcoat nothing this needs to be taught

    • @lolitaellis1377
      @lolitaellis1377 4 роки тому +1

      O9@9>)))>owok zero o
      Kkqm...aa)?2(..kokNJ 😂👑👑👑kkoklkookkkkjkkkikukjkkkkkkkkkwokkkkwk

    • @itajno8985
      @itajno8985 4 роки тому

      Agree.

    • @lourdescruz9516
      @lourdescruz9516 4 роки тому

      I so agree with you!

  • @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729
    @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729 4 роки тому +127

    I am more than a “CALL” I am a wife!! A QUEEN! YES!!!

  • @PinkWetKisses
    @PinkWetKisses 4 роки тому +140

    “He may be a six figure bum, but he’s a BUM!” 🤣 I needed this. Thank you! ❤️ all your videos are what I’ve been needing.

  • @Jlight127
    @Jlight127 4 роки тому +36

    “Why be a hamburger when you can be a quarter pounder with cheese” Got it. Been tired. Jesus fixed it. 🙌🏽

  • @hurleymichelle1
    @hurleymichelle1 3 роки тому +63

    It's only took me 54 years to finally want to be on my own. No more being used. Thank you so much for your videos which is helping me more than any councillors that I have spent a fortune on 🙏💓

    • @janiecunningham9435
      @janiecunningham9435 3 роки тому +1

      And even after all that you're still beautiful.

    • @hurleymichelle1
      @hurleymichelle1 3 роки тому

      @@janiecunningham9435 Aaaaw thank you 😊😊😊😊

  • @sherriepawlikowski4935
    @sherriepawlikowski4935 4 роки тому +81

    You give everything and demand nothing in return!

  • @ed000
    @ed000 4 роки тому +83

    "Don't worry about your job or school...I got you. You got to be careful with that"

    • @tipptoppjewelry639
      @tipptoppjewelry639 4 роки тому +1

      It's hard when it's not all bad....I just know I'm worth more than I'm settling for!

  • @everrealeuginia75
    @everrealeuginia75 4 роки тому +151

    Yes Pastor, I dealt with a narcissist who wanted to control using money and made promises like he was planning to marry me. I thank God that I broke free from that toxic relationship! Lots of love from Kenya!

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 4 роки тому +16

      I just got out of this BULL shit 2 weeks ago. I'm not backing down.

    • @Eliselove55
      @Eliselove55 4 роки тому +11

      I just came out of that less then a month ago . It's nice to know im not alone.

    • @RomyPidgin
      @RomyPidgin 4 роки тому +9

      We are not alone

    • @cgray5025
      @cgray5025 4 роки тому +11

      Almost 2 years Out of a horrific relationship with an abusive narcissist.

    • @tanyabyfaith
      @tanyabyfaith 4 роки тому +3

      Prom and Proper Same here, I have my peace back now and life is beautiful.🙌🏾❤️

  • @moniquewashington4319
    @moniquewashington4319 9 місяців тому +4

    I'm 57 year old no children, never desired to be married. I love my freedom and peace of mind. DON'T LET THE BEHAVIOR OF OTHERS DETROY YOUR INNER PEACE 🙌

  • @pauletteturner8728
    @pauletteturner8728 3 роки тому +14

    Love this!!!! A church mother told me years ago. If a man can commit to a dog or a car and not to you. Is a red flag that he is not you man anyway. This change my life since 1997 and I have never deal with this foolishness since. I love the term wimpy syndrome. A much needed word !!!! God bless you for sharing.

  • @monicagarcia5544
    @monicagarcia5544 4 роки тому +121

    "When a Queen is woke there are repercussions and consequences" that really resonated with me!

  • @stellakamau6994
    @stellakamau6994 4 роки тому +200

    Pastor your giving too much game!! Women who learn the game from a man can never lose

    • @maguiedossantos2925
      @maguiedossantos2925 3 роки тому +4

      💯💯💯

    • @sabrayawatkins630
      @sabrayawatkins630 3 роки тому +2

      So true!!

    • @annettecabezas6697
      @annettecabezas6697 3 роки тому +1

      its about time someone does

    • @katabakidd1337
      @katabakidd1337 3 роки тому +1

      💯🙌🙌❤🔥🔥

    • @Divine_ness022
      @Divine_ness022 3 роки тому

      Or he’s helping vulnerable women who wouldn’t know the signs otherwise…this is great content that’s gonna save somebody the heartache! I’d never wish for another woman to “learn it the hard way”

  • @hardcopy5730
    @hardcopy5730 4 роки тому +126

    You talk with a protectiveness tone. I hear you. We hear you in the way you intend it to be heard.

  • @RhinestoneEyes-
    @RhinestoneEyes- 4 роки тому +12

    I can't even explain how this video has not just opened my eyes.. But broken my heart. Why have I been so blind...

  • @deedarlene5633
    @deedarlene5633 4 роки тому +9

    " He's shopping at your store, taking your most valuable possession's' Now that's a check you can take to the bank and cash... Word!!!!!

  • @chellereaves
    @chellereaves 4 роки тому +48

    Lord have mercy. Deep down I knew this already. You’re just forcing me to really see it for what it is.

  • @purposepartner9601
    @purposepartner9601 4 роки тому +67

    So many women need to hear this message. But men need to realize the damage they're causing.

    • @sphinxkitty4951
      @sphinxkitty4951 3 роки тому +5

      They realize, they just don’t care enough. Honest truth

  • @workathomedynasty4020
    @workathomedynasty4020 4 роки тому +50

    its true! Your Self-Esteem grows weaker.......and so does your Heart.....Each day that you accept another Broken Promise and lingering un- fulfilled committments. 100%

  • @colettecoffey3641
    @colettecoffey3641 3 роки тому +35

    Bishop, I'm 67 years old and am not ashamed of the mistakes I made. But through your honest teachings, I've been made aware of how many of the things I did was done from a need to belong and of approval.

  • @rosierb852
    @rosierb852 3 роки тому +19

    Narcissist would do that to you. I’m glad to finally be healing from years of trauma going back to childhood at 28. Thank God I dont have kids now. And I promise to remain childless until the right person enters my life either way I’m good with my own happiness and the intimate relationship I have with God

    • @aprildanielle2693
      @aprildanielle2693 3 роки тому

      There is nothing like healing… I’m so happy to be healing as well from childhood trauma and other things at the age of 38. God is good!

  • @luzdubon8996
    @luzdubon8996 4 роки тому +142

    I lost my dad years ago, and you are a good substitute that is helping me get some sense into my pretty little brain.

    • @Shamarie0328
      @Shamarie0328 4 роки тому +8

      Luz Dubon I can relate! God placed Pastor Blakes in my life right after my father’s death 3.5 years ago. My dad was a good father and it’s nice to have Pastor Blakes wisdom in lieu of my Father’s absence.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +1

      🔥👑🔥

  • @MinaMina-mb7ev
    @MinaMina-mb7ev 4 роки тому +84

    Never dilute your messages Pastor RC Blakes. KEEP IT RAW! Anything less will diminish and minimize the effects of the TRUTH and your tone! Don't change! The TRUTH is necessary.Keep going on! God bless you sir! 🔥👍🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾❤👏🏾

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 4 роки тому +55

    Empty promises, I was once engaged for 7 years.😂 Looking back omg It’s sad what we tolerate and believe, when we lack self love and self respect. Thank God for awareness and change. Thanks for your wonderful and touching messages!🙏🤗

  • @meredithboswell4003
    @meredithboswell4003 3 роки тому +6

    😮I cry on the reality of this.i feel a fool.thank goodness' it's only been 2:5yrs and no children no ring so can run

  • @enousoroh8670
    @enousoroh8670 4 роки тому +17

    Oh my...this hits below the belt! Hard...I am not a call(girl). I am a Wife...a Queen! I am an HONOURABLE WOMAN! Preach it Pastor...thank you for all your messages...I have been binge watching, but this one has really hit me hard!!! Thank you sir...

  • @Natasher318
    @Natasher318 4 роки тому +129

    This hurts, however you're talking to me, empty promises from a single lying man.😭🙌 I needed this Truth...this Word! Thank you Lord💕

    • @therealone8628
      @therealone8628 3 роки тому

      Hey sis how is it going, nearly a year now, anything changed for real?

  • @jennifermorgan4527
    @jennifermorgan4527 4 роки тому +87

    I don’t take it that you are being harsh. I see concern and love.

  • @themela9showwithfulaniyira338
    @themela9showwithfulaniyira338 4 роки тому +64

    Omggg!!! Thank you for this message. I was a defeated woman by empty promises to the point I stop dating and never want to get married again. I got heart sick. This message just freed me. I forgive myself. I am 52 now. It took 30 years to hear this message. I will never allow my MBA self to be "managed by a GED poor mentality man".

  • @megab1857
    @megab1857 3 роки тому +42

    I KNOW I WASTED OVER 12 YEARS , KEEP SAYING WE WERE GOING TO GET MARRIED. FINALLY ONE DAY I SAID ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

    • @mzmrz4547
      @mzmrz4547 3 роки тому +4

      He did you a favor💙💙

    • @MaryHudson-dt4gu
      @MaryHudson-dt4gu Рік тому

      😮. I'm glad you finally let go of him

  • @nicolej8502
    @nicolej8502 4 роки тому +18

    A PHD with a GED man, that was me, LITERALLY

  • @josephineedward8233
    @josephineedward8233 4 роки тому +53

    "Don't desire to be a wife so bad that you accept less than a husband" ooooooweeee I almost fell off my chair, Preach Pastor!

  • @BS-wd7do
    @BS-wd7do 4 роки тому +101

    The example you used when speaking of whimpy was a perfect example of a thing narcissists like to do which is called “future faking.”

    • @peterpatton2867
      @peterpatton2867 4 роки тому +1

      BS 🤣LOL!

    • @denisekochon7473
      @denisekochon7473 4 роки тому

      I should have seen it coming

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 4 роки тому +4

      Yes and love bombing.

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 4 роки тому +1

      @@denisekochon7473 thing is you may NOT see it coming however when it does we have to be able to recognize..talk less listen more...and adjust ....as Iyanla would say ...that is the value in the valley ...

  • @Bianca-yo3ud
    @Bianca-yo3ud 4 роки тому +52

    Yup this my current situationship. Promised a business and all sorts, I fell for it and now I'm stuck. Praying doors open for me to get away from this Satan's spawn. Thanks Pastor🙏

    • @lavkyn
      @lavkyn 4 роки тому +1

      Stay in prayer and we stand with you.. you'll find the strength. 🙏🏿

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 4 роки тому +1

      You are not stuck ...this is your situation now ..don't believe that it will last forever ...pray ..meditate ... visualize where you see yourself....as I always say...talk less listen more ...pray more ...don't share everything with everyone...maybe have a counseling session with Pastor Blake .... Sending you prayers and light ...be safe 💕🙏🏿💕

  • @zjacquelinewofford5585
    @zjacquelinewofford5585 Рік тому +1

    If he didn’t talk with so much passion, I would not hear him nor would I even attempt to listen. It is truly like the father we didn’t have.

  • @ronadionneful
    @ronadionneful 3 роки тому +6

    I've had two men offer to be my sole provider and it scared me bc the words that were used were "Sugar Daddy". I RAN!

  • @jimmielgreen7296
    @jimmielgreen7296 4 роки тому +114

    AWESOME teaching Bishop. If you cheat on your wife for me you'll cheat on me for someone else.

    • @yourentrepreneurjourney
      @yourentrepreneurjourney 4 роки тому +3

      Girl...girl...girl!😳

    • @nodramallama4698
      @nodramallama4698 4 роки тому +2

      I have no idea how he treats his now, current wife, that he cheated on me with. We were married 22 years, he was with the other woman while we were married, he ended up married to that woman. They've been married for 10 years now. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @kaylifeisajourney1384
      @kaylifeisajourney1384 4 роки тому +7

      @@nodramallama4698 trust me eventually he will cheat on her. He probably won't never changed. Another woman problem ..

    • @jimmielgreen7296
      @jimmielgreen7296 4 роки тому +6

      @@nodramallama4698 Our situations are so similar, 22 yrs married but he cheated with and my so called best friend. I was devastated they have also been married 10+ years. I received a text message from her in February 2020 telling me how sorry she was for what happened, I let her know that I forgave her and had let go of that situation a long time ago. God will deliver us through anything, we just have to trust him and serve him. I have prospered and been blessed through my relationship with God.

    • @MidnightMoon88
      @MidnightMoon88 4 роки тому +3

      Facts, a cheater will always be a cheater specially if he cheats on his wife 👀

  • @CeanneLivingston
    @CeanneLivingston 4 роки тому +29

    So I have been listening to you a lot in the last 6 months ... I am 53 single and divorced from a worship leader who was living a double life. I am very encouraged by your message and love your message to young daughters. So needed! I am learning to live like a queen! I know I am much loved by the King. Thank you for your wonderful message on identity and worth.

    • @shanahscurry9937
      @shanahscurry9937 4 роки тому

      Yes, you are walking in your Queendom👏🏾

    • @lucykiraguri9354
      @lucykiraguri9354 4 роки тому +2

      You are not alone in this waiting am 53 will be 54 coming August and am single and happy after 5 years of empty promises thank God I still have the joy of salvation .

    • @sharonanderson9584
      @sharonanderson9584 4 роки тому

      Preach Pastor

  • @yineyenki8594
    @yineyenki8594 4 роки тому +24

    I love this "Don't desire to be a wife so bad that you ACCEPT less than a husband"
    I normally say, if you cant hold me out like a burning candle in public then that's reason enough for me quit - I simply can't handle your "Secrecy" and I beautifully walk away.
    God's children deserve the best. Thanks for this beautiful sermon

  • @queencrissy5980
    @queencrissy5980 4 роки тому +35

    You are giving us the tools to choose better men!!! I like this pastor !!!

    • @fancyface619
      @fancyface619 Рік тому

      I do too he's now my online dad I follow him on all platforms

  • @farwm6651
    @farwm6651 4 роки тому +24

    "...The Lord made an executive decision on your behalf..."

    • @ASOnly1
      @ASOnly1 3 роки тому

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤸🏽‍♀️💪🏾❤️

  • @davinityt.741
    @davinityt.741 4 роки тому +105

    Pastor, they also come as over grown boys in their late 60's and early 70's. The future faking and silent treatment never ceases.

    • @gailrosenberg48
      @gailrosenberg48 4 роки тому +20

      Davinity, you are so correct. As narcissists age, they just get more deep into their traits, like cement curing and getting more firm over time. We have to be fruit inspectors if we want to deal with the male gender. That's my take.

    • @davinityt.741
      @davinityt.741 4 роки тому +14

      @@gailrosenberg48 , exactly! I was in a transaction with a narc for three years, and I learned and am still learning, it goes deeper than face value . What u see, isn't always what you get. It goes much deeper than that!

    • @eltoncrawford9806
      @eltoncrawford9806 4 роки тому

      🙂really

    • @marniejohnson66
      @marniejohnson66 4 роки тому +1

      #EXACTLY! #ISMH4REAL

    • @marniejohnson66
      @marniejohnson66 4 роки тому +3

      @@gailrosenberg48 That's my take on the matter as well! You shall know them by their fruits!

  • @telesialoyd3181
    @telesialoyd3181 4 роки тому +266

    PRIVATE....SECRET....all the same. Do NOT...be his private or secret TOY!!!

  • @dbedazzling1
    @dbedazzling1 4 роки тому +80

    Ty for this message. I know it I just need confirmation bc I left someone a month ago that I was hoping to marry. Been with him 3.5 years. Told him 3 years was enough to decide if he wanted to marry me n he said yes. So 3.5 years came but still no talk of engagement or wedding. It's hard bc he proposed to a woman years ago only after 2 months. That's embarrassing n hurtful to me. I love myself n I deserve true love.

    • @Her_shey_bar
      @Her_shey_bar 4 роки тому +7

      As hurtful as that may have been he was not for you. I recently broke off an engagement after years of wasted time. When I became honest with myself I knew he was the right person for me.

    • @cupcakebabynurse3964
      @cupcakebabynurse3964 4 роки тому +32

      Hi your story is my story.Was with my dude for five years and waiting and
      hoping.He met a girl on fB, married within three months, separated three months after..now he is homeless..saw him on the street the other day with a sign up for money..Dry your tears and count your Blessings, God has better for you..

    • @margaretmejia672
      @margaretmejia672 4 роки тому +25

      A man knows right away if you're "the One." So if he doesn't move toward Marriage right away...within 2-7 months, I would be gone! I don't sleep around and I make that known right away. That weeds out the ones with only sex motives. Pray & wait. 🙂

    • @dbedazzling1
      @dbedazzling1 4 роки тому +3

      @@cupcakebabynurse3964 WOW thats serious. How did he become homeless. He clearly picked the wrong girl.

    • @timeisnow1673
      @timeisnow1673 4 роки тому +8

      @@dbedazzling1 it has nothing to do with the girl(s). He was fulfilling his own steps in his own journey of his decisions and actions in life.

  • @SheenaMarie05
    @SheenaMarie05 4 роки тому +46

    I’m only 19:23 minutes in and I’m holding back my tears! This message hit me soooo hard! Thank you man of God, for being so transparent and honest! TGBTG 🙌🏽

    • @gidbry
      @gidbry 3 роки тому +1

      me too on June 26, 2021 @ 10:47

  • @giftedone2day725
    @giftedone2day725 4 роки тому +9

    I was this woman 4 years ago. I finally got it. But then got with other bad relationships but since this self isolation. I've been working on me. Made a few shirt to keep me out of those bad situations. Now am getting closer to God , reading my Bible .And staying to myself.

  • @geebee1983
    @geebee1983 4 роки тому +77

    I wish I heard this before I got married. I had left him, but he convinced me to a church that then used every scripture against me, so I would stay. After 12 years, God gave me courage to flee his violence hands and I left for good, with my 6yr, 3yr and 10mth old boys.
    Your sermons are music to my ears, thank you so much xx

    • @alwaysv
      @alwaysv 4 роки тому +2

      Spiritual abuse is real. I am glad Jehovah opened your eyes.

    • @irenegaitho2603
      @irenegaitho2603 3 роки тому +1

      Waah,I can relate,Pastor also talked about nassistic religion and its very common nowdays.Thanks God you servived.❣️❣️

  • @nozimangasokana5404
    @nozimangasokana5404 4 роки тому +57

    Powerful message Pastor, honest and true.. 'dont desire to be a wife so bad that you accept less than a husband.' my take away..

  • @tinesha2105
    @tinesha2105 4 роки тому +62

    "Not only is it that he Can't fulfill it, but he Won't fulfill it, empty promises". RC Blakes I received that. 🙏🏾

  • @nishvaughan6854
    @nishvaughan6854 3 роки тому +2

    "You have delivered value without price, you have given everything you have" This level of being played and disrespected and manipulated is almost impossible to reconcile and get your self esteem back. Pastor plse do not change your delivery. You are the father I never had.

  • @meekainc
    @meekainc 4 роки тому +3

    BRAVO!!! I’m AWAKE! 13.5 YEARS - and I’ve FINALLY woken up!