"Sometimes you are not strong enough to kick people out your life so the Lord does it for you! Do not run behind them, Let them go"! Thank you so much! When he contacts me my only response is God is good! He has nothing to say after that! I keep my accomplishments to my inner circle and yes God has been blessing me over and over again since he left!
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1. They cannot celebrate others & always turn the convo back to themselves 2. Their facial expressions will change when YOU are being celebrated - ‘malignant resentment’. 3. They gradually disapprove of the important people in your life 4. They make your accomplishments seem insignificant- diminishing the moment 5. They’ll contradict your view of reality (gaslighting) 6. They disappear unexpectedly (ghosting) 7. They swing in and out of your life
I'm one of those women who keeps allowing narcissists into her life, along with disrespect. He'll be nice, then throw in little sly comments and insults, then play it off like it's a joke and I shouldn't be so serious. Really? No. It's not real attraction or the foundation for real love. I recently learned I need to say NO to these individuals. I deserve my own respect and love over any man's. By cutting this man off early, I'm telling myself I'm beginning to love myself.
blueascetic You described the so-called “friendly” Narc who begins his campaign of DISDAIN with the snide remarks on a daily. Cut to the chase and be done with the nonsense. They’ll try to WASTE your time...you know the drill. Blessings🌷
blueascetic 🙌🏽 a coworker of mine. She’s older than I am but always insults folks in a joking way when it’s really how she feels. A woman was promoted and prior to that had a bariatric surgery and was losing weight , the narcissist talked about her so badly for no good reason! If a person says anything to she, she gets butt hurt and says they treat her bad.
Those who disliked this video...the truth really does hurt when you realize you are the "Narcissist." 🤔 It's never to late to change....🤷🏾♀️😉 carry on Mr. Blakes we are learning and listening....😉
@@flamingsword777 "Re-evaluate what you have rather then relive the agony of what you once lost. Keep it moving!" -Bishop T.D Jakes Hopefully, this quote will rescinate with you once you make your move beautiful Queen. Pray about your steps, be smart and steadfast about whatever decision you make....#KeepItMoving Blessings to you.
1) The narcissist has nothing to say when in a convo about others. They always consistently change the convo back to them. It is impossible to celebrate others. There is no room in their soul to accomodate others. Love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. 2) Their facial expression will change when you are being celebrated. Malignant resentment. They will never be able to hide their disdain for your advancement. They are fundamentally incapable of supporting you. 3) They gradually disapprove of all the most important people in your life. Be aware when people talk against those who were with you from the foundation of life. 4) They make you feel bad when you are supposed to feel great. They take a massive moment and make it so small. Humiliation is intentional. Do not internalize the junk, call it as it is and keep celebrating. 5) They will constantly contradicting your view of reality. Intended to make you feel crazy. Make you not trust your sense of reality. Spiritual and psychological warefare. 6) They disappear suddenly without a word. Ghosting. Intended to rupture your self esteem. Rejection + abandonment. Approval from them is not necessary. When somebody leaves your life, change the locks and lock your door. 7) They swing in and out of your life. Don't have anybody disrespecting you. Hoovering. Do not entertain them. I'm not gonna love anybody so much that I fail to love myself. Start testing relationships. You're supposed to walk in love. You need the light of wisdom to test your relationships.
Lyn M, Thank you for 'sorting it out'. Because of you I can write it faster in my notebook, in dutch. We really have to engrave these kinds of texts in our mind .. Trust You, love You, be You, thank You. 🧡👍
Im so happy I found this channel now. I am 11 months into my celibacy journey and so in love with God. The holy spirit led me to this word today to upgrade my healing and glow up in 2023. These types of men HATE themselves and hate successful and happy women. NEVER allow them back because the always come back begging. Thank you so much pastor RC Blake ♥️🙌🏾
Narcissistic men will make you feel full of self doubt, almost to where you don’t even know who you are. You just go along with it. But ba-beee, when you finally wake up!
Amen! This is one of the realest things that I have ever heard! For most of my life I've dealt wit a narcissist, and what you've said is true Felicia C. I had givin up hope and on life as well.. To the point, you wished that you were dead.. Just so the suffering would end.... And like Pastor has said, the goal is to break you in all aspects of your life... As the many years had went by, I realized that all of my friends, family, and whoever else I cared about was completely out of my life... And the wild thing about it, she still had all of her friends, family, and other support connection fully intact.. And as the years when by, there were signs that they all despised me and wanted nothin more to destroy me... God tried many many years earlier in my life to break this tied with them by showing me all of the signs.. I regrettably ignored them and brought 4 beautiful lovely children into this world with this person.. So as the years went by, I became dependent on her family and friends.. All to no avail.. Everything that the Pastor had mentioned about the body language, false praises, and energy and mood sucking moments took place all the time.. Now since I know what to look for and look back on it.. And the worst thing of all is, that my kids are seriously suffering from brokenness and very confused and bein torn apart from all of the manipulation and deceit.. Three of the 4 of my children are bein turned against me right now to the point that they wished that I was dead or themselves... It is breakin my heart to be witnessing my kids go through the same things I did when I was heavy involved wit their mother and her inner circle... 2 of my children live wit me, one doesn't want to have anything to do wit any of them because she is smart and mature enough to pick on what's really goin on as all the things that Pastor has mentioned.. My other daughter that lives wit me is on the brink, because she goes back and forth to each home more So... And every time she comes back to my home.. She brings a piece of the negativity and evil ways of thinkin wit her... The tension is so thick, you can feel it and it causes severe headaches in me and my other daughter... I haven't givin up hope and I have faith in God that he will deliver us from this brokenness and negative soul-tie to a point that it is no longer causin strife, depression, anger, sickness, anxiety in our lives... I am oh so thankful and grateful that God had lead me to witness and receive this much needed powerful message... That I have shared wit my children and a few other relatives and friends... I pray that All will be so blessed as we all on here are to witness and receive this powerful, life saving message... In Jesus name I so humbly pray, AMEN!
This is so true! My granny was one of the wisest people you would ever meet. She would sit in on conversations with company or family ( or whoever ) and just listen. Barely making any remarks or suggestions , just listening and getting a feel for the conversation at hand. And she could ALWAYS pinpoint trouble , shadiness , or dishonesty!! 🎯 She opened her ears and closed her mouth! She was a very godly woman and trusted God 100%! And , she always told us " be sure your sin will find you out "! " You reap what you sow "!
I am free!!! Narcissistic abuse ended 2020 Chains are broken !!! I am saved thank you 🙏🏽 I pray for the new victim that I was replaced with , bless your soul Black Queen. I hope you have people in your life that see the evil inside of him , like my children and I ignored every red flag . Thank you Jesus for the opportunity to live and continue on a righteous path . I was lost and now I’m found .
Thank you for your eloquent and Godly explanation of the spiritual warfare we in. I can relate to your eye-opening message. God bless you and yours. 😇🙏🏿💝
Narcissists target the humble meek people and feed on them for their survival ,use them as a stepping stone to progress in their life. Everything happens so subtly that we wouldn't have realised it that we've been played so well , by then its too late to even regret.
That’s what he did to me , another lady as well used us for his Financially gain . I broke up with him , he went to prison he used this older lady to take care of him 30 days before he got out of prison he ghost her. Then he started calling me telling me that he changed and he want his family back and that he had time to reflect while he was locked up . Smh 🤦🏾♀️ my stupid a$& took him . The older lady Facebook me wanted to talk to me I didn’t know who she was , and he didn’t want me to talk to her. So the lady was driving pass my house , I walked up to her car she drove off . I told him he was wrong for using that lady like that , when you had no intentions of being with her . Low and behold he did me the same way , I didn’t think 🤔 he would bcuz I have a son by him . But that didn’t stop him, his mission was to use me to get on his feet and when he got his CDL became a truck driver I saw the change. Lack communication, lack of respect, didn’t want to pay nothing, he felt better sleeping in his truck over road then to pay bills . He cheated on me 10 years ago with a 19 year old girl he was 36 years old at the time , gotten that 19 years old pregnant 🤰🏾. I forgave him and I stayed, but every time that boy came around it was slap 👋 in my face of betrayal. Well fast forward the 10 year old and bad as hell . The baby mama had other kids after and now she didn’t want his son , so she told my ex come get him . My ex pick him up didn’t really sit down and talk to me about the situation. Instead he used that excuse to walk away from our relationship. When he had other stuff going on like cheating, and now that he gotten his credit up and license it was screw me . Pick his son up that was is exit . So it won’t look bad! It would like it was my fault, that’s what he want every one to believe . It no closure, so I gave myself closure I put in a 30 days notice and moved from the place that I’ve been for 19 years. Blocked his number it’s been six months now no contact. Our son don’t really talk to his dad because he knew what he was doing. My son’s said mamma we knew he was going to get on his feet and leave you . Mamma you’ve should’ve never took him back . All I can do cry but I take responsibility for my actions and the part I played . But I’d learned my lesson. I don’t ever want to talk him ever . Blocked his family and him. I since then I have peace ☮️ and energy I loses the 10 pounds I gained that I couldn’t losed for nothing while I was with him. It hurts 23 years off and on with him
@Chynadoll77 Cyn The JAILHOUSE Narc is one of the worst! I know spouses and women who have been PLAYED and betrayed by these lying, rotten and demonic subspecies when they become free. Blessings to you🌷
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Everything he said about a Narcissist is so true, spent years married to one without knowing understanding what a narcissist was until after, I wish I would have seen this video years ago.
@@Msaliehs92 Well done darling, for choosing to watch this video. I would advise you to watch alot more to protect yourself from this insidious demonic people. You never want this behaviour to be generational. Most times daughters mimic and model their mother's behaviour. Pray, be discerning and love yourself.
I was married to a narcissist. I showered him with love, honor and respect. He couldn’t receive it. I covered him in prayer. He didn’t cover me. I thank God my family foundation and support is so strong, I’m not scarred from the manipulation, control, malignant resentment, gaslighting and drama. I still cover him in prayer, from afar! I pray he doesn’t do this to anyone else’s daughter!!!
People listen to this man. I’ve studied narcissism 9 straight months. At least 6-7videos a week. 15+ Narcissistic Coaches , counselors, THIS IS MY 1st time hearing this from a Pastor. As a Christian man everything he’s saying. EVERYTHING IS TRUE.... Do not listen to these dating coaches that say the narcissist word is overrated.. It’s in a regular dating coaches best interest for knowledge like this not to get out to the masses. Especially dating coaches with a large Female following. Study Narcissism. It will open your eyes. You will be like NEO in the matrix to toxic men/women. You’ll see them coming from a mile away.
Don’t accidentally think you’re a narcissist if you’ve suffered at the hands , mind and spirit by being with one. They will turn you from sweet to sour and you can go back to normal once you’re away from Them. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!!! I questioned myself all the time....”am I a narcissist”. I know that I’m not but because I was with mine for 18 years and I suffer from PTSD and am healing I see when people are playing the game and I find myself questioning myself all the time. Pastor Blake’s validated something I was already thinking. America breeds narcissists, that’s the reason I encounter so many plus I’m an empath. I pick up on peoples emotions and feelings.
I agree narcissism is an epidemic. I was involved with 3 men who had personality disorders and was never set free emotionally and spiritually until I understood the disorder. Also like you said, the accountability on my end for letting the involvement deepen when I saw the red flags. The biggest thing I learned too is beauty is always skin deep, ugly is to the bone.
I experienced the same thing during my marriage to a narcissist. I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer and the rage, gaslighting and resentment got worse until I finally left while still receiving treatment for cancer. I didn’t know what I was experiencing but I knew it wasn’t right. I stumbled across this page and realized that I was battling a demonic spirit. I went straight no contact, filled for divorce and now focusing on a long road of healing. Although it’s still hard trying to piece my life back together again. I can truly say that I’m in a much better place. Thanks to powerful messages like this. Pastor Blakes is God sent!
I recently left my demonized narcissist. I was tired of his mind games, his inconsistencies, and his "greater than thou" mentality and behavior. Moving forward. I'm so grateful that I came across Pastor Blake. I definitely have my eyes open now. I refuse to believe anyone at his face value. AMEN.
Real disgusting character and Oh they over love themselves and believe everyone should cater to them. Hate being challenged and have a high sense of entitlement Run run Run
Yep my ex was this type always felt entitled and used multiple women and gets a way with it . When i used to call him out on his BS he’ll get mad 😡. Very selfish even towards his kids , I have one son by him and never really did sh&$ for my son unless you asked for it. My son is now 20 years old and now he see for himself. My ex had 4 baby mammas 5 kids very toxic person his whole family ratchet ghetto loud they fight among themselves . I never like to be around his family, his family use to tell him she stuck up because I don’t drink or smoke 💨 nor weed . He’s had no values or morals . He cheat and cheat with old ex’s and then some . 23 years I was with him
Wow hmm really disgusting human beings. My ex hmm was this exactly. They are often a womanizer or vice versa. When they are ready to Discard of you is one of the most horrible moment. Think I.am dealing with another now this spirit seems to be hunting me down. I refuse to accept such selfish self centred thinking and manipulative ignorant proud spirit. They cause such trauma if your not strong enough to run away from them it becomes a roller coaster of toxic emotions
@@chynadoll77cyn59 This is so crazy my child's father and his family are the same way. We have no contact with them because I don't trust and honestly I was embarrassed. But I'm praying for you all and blessings are coming your way.
I'm in 😢 tears because EVERYTHING he's saying is the truth, I couldn't believe how low I allowed myself to go dealing with a narc, everything my mother taught me I put it down 😢 I know she was turning in her grave, but I tell you God love me so much he gave me back everything that I lost. To God be the glory. But pastor you are the truth, I thank God for you. 🙏
@38:00 that house cleaning anecdote had me deep in my feelings. My mother is a covert narcissist. I graduated from Yale, then became a doctor, but the woman makes me feel like a complete failure of a human being because I’m not a domestic goddess. When she cussed me out because I bought her an SUV and paid off the note a year later (she wanted the cash not the paid off car), I decided I was DONE. SMDH… I just went no contact. Enough.
Wow...You were so good to your Mom..you work hard and you're smart! God made you perfect...Each of us fearfully and wonderfully made! God will bring you another Mom in the Body of Christ! Blessings!
They’re crazy he went from saying “ I plan on spending the rest of my life with you” to discarding me the next week , 3 months after that hovered me , called me and said, “hey I haven’t heard from you” as in nothing ever happened, I stopped entertaining him, praying and staying no contact, God please help me break the soul tie from my ex narc
Unfortunately many women are not ready. They are sitting in abuse and waiting for God to change their spouse. They convince themselves it's God's will.
@@fruitinspector8247 its not a gender thing! there are just as many possibly more men living in shame at the end of our ropes waiting for God to change our Covert Narcissistic Wives, trying to be faithful and not divorce
And what’s crazy about a narcissist is when they try to ghost you and you don’t feed into it, now they start to come after you. You block them and everything, now they at your front door. That is why never while dating someone invite them to your ave until you guys are serious and ready for marriage
grown 50 year old men do not want to have the necessary conversation concerning growth, learning, reading , inter personal maturity without getting defensive and condescending just for asking questions in a straight -nice manner.
No truer words have been spoken. I just couldn't understand this. Your words have been in my head for years. They are Narcs, I'm just now figuring it all out😪
He’s spot on when he said they gradually try to cut important people out of your life… I have 4 grown sons, and I dated a guy that was very intimidated by my sons… He would always tell me your sons are too old to be living with you… He was hell bent on this … every single day he was beating me upside the head with this… It was clear to me that he trying to divide and conquer by trying to get me to put my sons out, so he can have his way with me… I got rid of him quick!!
You're saw the RED FLAGS thank God you saw them,and got rid of him . He wanted to control you and take away your support team your son's. That's one of the first things they do are try to move you away from your family and friends. So you can just reply on him and depend on him. May God continue blessing you and your family ❤️♥️🙏
Wow, I’m glad you noticed that too. They are your sons and that is ultimately your decision on whether or not you want them to continue to live with you regardless of age. Having 4 sons was an added layer of protection that he didn’t want to deal with. Glad he is gone 😀
I’m SO GLAD you addressed that this nation BREEDS narcissists!! I’ve been saying this for as long as I can remember! Esp the black culture which is why the dating Pool for AA’s (African Americans) is low and extremely poor in quality selections! SO many males self-centered and toxic and pollute the waters anywhere they go. It’s such an epidemic. No one is trying to marry. Everyone is serial dating and stuck on self. Professing to want marriage but not conditioned and mature enough to know what it actually means moreover requires! THANK YOU BISHOP!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
My x controlled me and used my weight against me. I worked hard to loose weight and was so excited that I had lost 22 lbs and told him and he said nothing.... NOTHING! That was the catalyst that made me realize he was a narcissist and cared nothing about me. Single and happy now!
I was beaten severely 2 yrs ago almost lost my life he left me for dead and sped off. I had an angel intervention during the attack. He was over me and punching 25 to 30 punches. I am a disabled senior. I was left with 2 broken thumbs as well. It has been a very difficult recovery. God never left me. He is my everything. I will never worship any person again
We are grateful to God for your survival and recovery; thank you for sharing with us your experience and journey of healing. Never again! Hallelujah!!!!
Thank You Pastor You are on Point!!! I wish I would've had this knowledge years ago I'm recovering from Narcissist Abuse after been Married to a narcissist for 9 years I'm alive today only by God's grace I hope and pray that the Women listening to You apply all of this information and knowledge whenever they meet or date someone it can and will save them from pain, heartache and even death. Blessings 🥰
Man of God the Holy Spirit increases your anointing on this subject more and more, know that your labor is not in vain. I’ve grown mentally and spiritually and most of all my self love has increased
I’m willing to bet that the dislikes came from Narcissists. WHO ELSE would be mad at this Man of God for telling the truth but a LIAR??? “the only people who get mad at those telling the truth, are those living a LIE” -unknown
A powerful message! Thanks so much. You spoke of "malignant resentment." When I was married, it was almost impossible for my husband to acknowledge my accomplishments or gifts. He always seemed a bit resentful of what I able to do. Women (and men) can't live in an environment of constant resentment. I ultimately was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer and ovarian cancer. During my healing, I prayed that God would reveal the Truth to me. My husband left after my surgery from ovarian cancer, which devastated me. However, I knew it was God's will. Thirteen years later, I see the gift more and more. My lesson is to always love myself first. And to have the gift of discernment to recognize "toxic" people in my life. :)
How can one discern a narcissist without a relationship with Holy Spirit...ultimately that's the voice being ignored...I know firsthand that's how I was freed from a fool.
I agree with everything. But I will give one important note: sometimes the narcissist will give you lots of praise and they will genuinely be proud of you for your accomplishments, but really it’s just because they see you as an extension of them self and your accomplishments are kind of their property. But you better make sure you achieve what they want you to achieve lol. Thank you especially for the prayer at the end because we certainly need it.
Sara I remember in church I had a friend so I thought would complement me so kindly of how they liked my style and how I dressed little did I know about Narc abuse then of how she would work on people's kindness to get whatever she wanted from people she would cry at a drop of a hat and always spoke on how bad people treated her a true ploy to extort now she is sad in life and no one wants to be around her she made her own bed doing innocent people wrong Flatout
Sabrina Alston And then if you didn’t help her, she somehow made you feel like you were a bad person? I hope you are not interacting with this person anymore. God bless you.
R J Yes, set you up in order to knock you down and then present them self as the Savior. I went through that for 14 years and didn’t even realize that I was a good person and that he was not my savior but my villain
I had a guy that that I've known about 3 yrs we started a physical soultie and one day I was just tired of giving my body with no commitment. I told him we were done since you obviously dont see me as wife material. He begged to come back and he is going to work on this and work on that ok I let him back in my life but with no sex. Just wanted to see if we had anything between us besides sex. He came and changed the oil on my car fixed my printer bought breakfast for that particular morning after he was done he asked me can he be rewarded I'm like huh already knowing what he was getting at. I told him no were not in a relationship. After being with me all day he says I'm gonna go I said ok. He texted me soon after saying he feels like this is one sided that he's benefiting me but I'm not benefitting him...I still haven't responded.
Preach preacher!!! I just went through that kind of emotional abuse. He brought my self worth down so low, I was beginning to feel so worthless and thought about suicide. Im healing right now. I've cried a many nights but I know for a fact, that I will RISE! I had to remind myself of who i was...I am a soon to be graduate of thee Southern University, a single mother of twins, own a house & car....ima Bad Mama Jama!....his lost!😜💁🏽
Keep up the good work👍🏼☺ I just recently experienced the same. Husband left me with 5 children. He is messing around with two different women who also have children. Narcissist know who to prey on. I am working fulltime, homeschooling 4 of the five, and in school getting my master's degree. His lost and I pray for the next victim.
Yes sister, preach! My ex narc just black my eye for the second time in our 5 years relationship. He's 6'4, 230. I'm 5'3, 135. I was fighting him with everything in me. The Holy Spirit gave me strength. And of course, like the 1st time, it was my fault. He told some man was going to hurt/kill me (the devil is lie) because if man hits you should sit down. Well I'm not built like that. He you hit me, I'm picking what ever is available. However this is not how I want to live my life.
This is so true I suffered major depression and PTS since I met my narcissist ex it’s a very real spiritual warfare we are in, there nothing more is important then this topic I feel
All should be spreading the word and those early red flags to their friends/family. These videos aren’t just entertainment- they’re life saving. You might just help someone else out!
This is my mother ALL the way. I just woke up to her being a Narcissist 6 months ago, and now I can see when her demons are manifesting. She has a very demonic glare when she's upset. I'm her invisible/scapegoat child, and my life with her has been terrifying and abusive. This video is 100% accurate!
I wish I heard this 14 years ago . I ran after a man who ghosted me, twice no less! When he returned I thought I was the luckiest woman. Now I know it was a set up for a soul tie, and did I pay the price for it? Indeed I did. Thank you for these important talks to help people process, heal and not repeat these soul crushing mistakes!
I was with one for 2.5 yrs I didn't know until almost 1.5- 2 yrs he was a narcissist. I ghosted him and went no contact Sept 2022...and felt bad when he started calling and texting me from end Sept 2022 to Jan 2023... He finally stopped calling.and.texting.
I’m not sure if you look at all your comments, but on the chance that you do, Reverend Blakes I just wanted to say that this GOD ordained message was an amazing blessing and ministered to myself and my children on levels! Thank you so much for the work you do! 🙏🏽
@@RCBlakesJr. Thank you so much for this message. I had heard of a narcissist before, but I never really knew just how real narcissism was. I made the mistake of marrying a narcissist, and for almost 5 years now, I have been feeling dead on the inside, foolish, weak, and just overall CONTROLLED. He is extremely disrespectful, bold, and blackmails me very often. He pretended to be a believer in Christ before we got married. He was a perfect gentleman. But his true colors came out after I got pregnant with our now 3 year old son, and he realized that I was dependent on him for financial support. He has cheated on me with six different women that I know of, and the last one he was with got PREGNANT on purpose because for one, he asked her to have his baby, and secondly, he told her that I was pregnant, so that made her afraid that he would come back to me and she immediately stopped using birth control and TOLD him that she was ready to have his baby. I had no idea that he was cheating on me. When I found out, I pleaded with him not to destroy our marriage, but he refused to leave her, and the child that I was carrying fell into the toilet. My dilemma is that I can NOT AFFORD to take care of our son by myself. I don't make enough money. Also, the Bible says that if the non believing spouse wishes to remain in the marriage, that I should stay married to him. I want to know if I can stay married to him for ths sake of our son, and expect GOD to protect my emotions and my mental health from his abuse? I have other women in my family who stayed married for the sake of the children even when their husbands were having multiple affairs.
@@MsDera81 please read the book the 5 wounds. And watch Gabor Mate. Nobody can tell you what to do. You will end it when you will feel like. But try to find out why did you make the choice that you did or you will do and why are you continuing the family trauma
Pastor Blake's. I wish you knew how much of a blessing you are! I thank God for you! Let me tell you how good God is. I was in the cafeteria at work last month when I ran into someone I rarely saw...only communicated with via emails. We were talking and she mentioned listening to you. I told her to Skype me your name so I could look you up and she did. Turns out, I was terminated later on that day. But I was also escaping a very destructive relationship with a covert narcissist. God is so good to lead me to you thru her right before He knew I would be terminated!
At my wedding reception, in the late 1980s, as my husband and I were so happy and all were smiling, we were about to cut the cake together. My younger sister looked over to me and said out loud, " Ugly thing!" I heard her boyfriend ask her, " why did you say that"? I will never forget that incident. She's still the same today. She can't see others have anything good. She has to see the negative in everything. I'm a Christian, and I try to preach the gospel to her, but i realise now, that only God can change her. 😌🙏
I went through this with my ex husband. All of this is so true. I will never deal with a jealous man again. I wish this teaching was around 17 years ago. Thank you.
I love the way you find a scripture for everything and how it makes sense. I dated a narcissist and I did not realize it ... I knew something wasn't right I just couldn't put my finger on it, until I left. Another characteristic of a narcissist is they cannot and will not accept the word "NO" A normal person can hear the word no and say OK no problem we don't like it but we move on; however, a narcissist takes that "NO" to another level ...to the 10th power...bent out of shape and literally have a temper tantrum ALL THE TIME. I also realize me and narcissists don't get along so I'm good lol. Thank you so much.
They are demons, we are angels, that is why we do not get along with them. All of you on this thread are so powerful, and you do not know it. And all the power you have within you was given to you by God himself. He has been our shield, and protector during the his, our dark assignment. You have years ahead of you my sista to live and enjoy the good life God has already planned for you.
Someone out there will need these words, I didn’t think I could get this far, last year I tried to end my life, thank you Lord for saving me. To anyone out there broken and crushed, day by day I kept going, the very hardest time of my life.. thank you Lord for bringing me here away from harm and continuing to heal me fully
@@helencathleen oh my! Mines said my parents were not as great as I say they are etc etc yet his daddy died a heroine addict and his mom was a crack head and many other tasteless things.. I just shook my head like ok what is your point of reference??!!
I had no idea I was dating a narcissist for 7 years until I started listening to this pastor. A soultie with the devil. Literally evil and abusive. I knew he was bad for me but I had always felt addicted to him even though he mad me cry daily,made me not even know myself . He sucked all of the happiness from me. I thank God I am aware but it is a daily battle being without him but I refuse to keep doing this.
Bad thing is.. the person I was entangled with for over 12 years is a pastor. I knew the signs but I thought I could change him. I left that nut alone!!!
This has been the last 26 years of my life. To a T. I cannot believe how spot on you are. Down to the examples. I am no longer married to the narcissist, it feels so good! Praise God!!
Kesha, My heart aches for you. Mine discarded me for my friend. It was a blessing but oh so painful to process. However, God does not want His daughters being a used like this. Malachi talks about how the Lord is the witness to the wife of his youth. God care more for your wellness than aything else. The guilt you are feeling is from the enemy to keep you trapped. God cares more about you the individual than He does the false marriage. It's hard to realize its false bc it's real to you. But the narcissists doesnt see it that way. Stay in your knees for God's guidance. He wil speak to you.
U preached my life story... My children father is a Nararassit he's from women to women.. Always about his self. Heartless, mean, Abusive.. As the years goes on he gets worse. I left him 4 years ago had a nervous break down. Tried to kill him because he would fight me and always cheated on me. I stayed gone 1 year. That was the happiest time in my life.. He started Hovering stocking me. I went back. The biggest mistake of my life he's 2,000 times worse. He puts me down. He believe in Witch craft... Looking at him i see the Devil in human form... Now I'm moving me and my children as far away from him as I can.. My soul and freedom and peace is worth so much more. God has blessed me threw it all. To keep my mind and looking forward to my new future. Thank u so much for that word...❤💕💕💕
I am identifying narcissists in my life now. I have been tolerating them for hurting me. Now it's my turn to have some self love and also confront them. I am tired of these kind of people.
Have you ever talked about the narcissistic evil grin? When they know that they wounded your soul the have this grin on there face. They can be dangerous and are capable of the lowest of the lowest behavior and then turn around and deny their actions. I also believe that this spirit can possess their children.
So much wisdom here! You hit the nail on the head with all of these points! The only time your accomplishments might matter to the narcissist is when they are basking in the glow of your achievements when talking to others they are trying to impress. They might “brag” then, as if they should be revered because of what you’ve accomplished...perhaps implying they are special, by association, because of what you’ve done that’s positive. But one on one, to your face, they have no interest in discussing, seeing or offering even the most meager praise for anything positive you’ve done or achieved.
🤮🤮makes me sick when they do this and the continuously calling out names of famous ppl they know or have been friends with the crave for attention is so unattractive makes me want to Puck
Stay away from narcissist your heart will be shattered beyond what you thought was possible. I pray that there’s a healing to remove this affliction from the earth. So no other person ever has to feel this level of pain. But If you believe God will get you through it.
I realized that when I was Ghosted by my cheating boyfriend because I wasn’t strong enough to leave the relationship he was removed out of my life but it was all for my own best interests. It was time for the relationship to END even though it did hurt
This is absolutely what I experienced Pastor and it nearly broke my spirit! But by the grace of God I was about to get out of that hell hole!! It was definitely the holy spirit that got me out and then many blessings came after 🙏 it was by far the worst situationship I ever encountered to say the least! But 3 yrs later and counting I'm on way to a great Victory! 💪🏽 It isn't easy but I'll get there 😊💯 all I can say at the end of the day is I wish him the best! ✌🏾
All of these points are so true! Wow! I'd also add a couple of other things. A) Their relationships with many other people in their life can be rocky ("I don't get along with a lot of my family members." B) They admit that people say they're arrogant or they make it a point to highlight how sarcastic they can be. C) They don't talk about what's presently going on with them often. They mostly talk about the past. Because they don't have a lot of things going on now, they talk about the "good old days" a lot! They also talk about future goals a lot but have no plan to make things happen. Point is, it's all about them!
Oh yes, God himself will step in and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! OhHallelujiah, I will always remember the day he RESCUED ME. Thank you Jesus, Thank you Lord.
Amen Pastor Blakes, I can’t lie, I have to start asking the Holy Spirit for better guidance. I’ve encountered these situations and it didn’t turn out well for me in the end. Definitely have to protect myself better moving forward.
45:00 Intend of ghosting : Rejection and abandonment creates soul tie and need of approval of the very person that had rejected you. The only way you can feel whole again is for that person to come back and treat you well- addiction to approval they will never give you . They reposition you emotionally where they take reigns of your life and you are steered by them. Demonic spirit breaking your spirit So well explained 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
my dad was a narc, cut him out of my life 14 years ago; That malignant resentment part gave me chills thinking back to my dad as a child. The more I achieved as a child the more he despised me. Gave me great incentive to do even better as an adult knowing how much he hated it. But I’ll always remember those facial expressions and that ‘look’ Me, mam and dad were on holiday when I was 15, and there was a strong demonic presence on that holiday. My dad would be staring at me for uncomfortably long periods in my bikini just to make me feel uncomfortable. One night, we were all drunk. I was allowed to drink that night. In our apartment. Mam and dad were in single beds, I was asleep on the sofa. At around 3am dad was snoring heavily, I awoke feeling utter sheer terror, so terrified I was scared to move even a millimetre. Knew I was being watched. Moments later, a demonic spirit was standing behind my head, moved around the corner of the sofa and leaned over me. It’s snarling face only a foot away from mine. I’ve never felt such hated and contempt towards me in my life. It was pure evil. It felt half human half animal. I instinctively knew not to move or it would attack. It didn’t even occur to me to pray in that moment as the fear was in every cell of my body. Too long to explain whole incident but since learning about narcissism in last 5 years I’ve felt that demon was linked to dad. Maybe he was so drunk and in such a deep sleep it detached from him and came to me to either torment or possess me. After hearing this video, I’m now convinced of it. My whole life I thought that apartment was haunted, now I realise it was a demon attached to dad. When it was showing it’s hatred to me my whole childhood it was filtered through the meat suit of my dads physical body so slightly limited. That night as it detached from him and attacked me I felt the full wrath of the demon unleashed. And everything it displayed, that intense loathing and evil is exactly the same as what narcissists display and try to hide. I think I was confronted that night by the raw spirit that fuels the legion of narcissists that roam the earth. It was the most terrifying night of my life. In the years following this my mam had issues with alcohol and bulimia and I lost her presence and support due to this. I had a nightmare one night that she was crouched on the floor crying, I walked up to her and as I approached she looked up and her face showed ‘that smirk’ and she morphed into a hideous demon. It was only a dream and 30 years ago but I can still see it and feel it. It was the demon telling me in my dream it had her too. A few years later, I’d been saving to get out of that house. It’s all I thought about. Then I had a vax and within 2 weeks became paralysed and in excruciating agony head to foot. I won’t explain the hell I went through but for a decade I was bedridden and trapped under their roof and couldn’t escape. It’s almost like it was designed to keep me there. When I finally escaped, still Ill and removed my dad from my life for good. I had a few months of freedom before it found me again in a partner and I had 10 years battling it all over again. I’ve been free for 3 years now. That relationship unlocked the knowledge on narcissism and my childhood so it was a blessing in disguise. After 3 years of blissful peace, God is all I need. Many have circled and tried to prey on me since. But I’m aware now and vigilant and with God’s help will remain free. Pastor Blake’s is a large part of that. I’ve watched lots of narc channels over last 5 years but the others generally don’t intertwine the knowledge with the Bible and don’t have the paternal presence/wisdom. Other narc channels enabled me to free myself. Pastor Blake is helping to keep me free. Thank you 🙏
Spent way too many years with one now I truly can see why he never had a solid relationship.I broke it off his family Wished him well in JESUS and never looked back.I will never get those years back but I count it as ministry GOD knows how to restore.
...the discernment was real!!!...this is a testament to what was revealed to me...Thank You, Holy Spirit...for I am at peace!!!...only YOU LORD, only YOU!!!...☝️❤🙏
I like this man. Literally been watching every narcissist video on youtube to heal from emotional and physical abuse from my past ex girlfriend who made me feel so terrible and called me selfish and said I don't know what love is and these videos help me snap back to reality! I was raised by two christian loving parents and saw their examples of love so I knew I wasn't who she said and she was trying to gaslight me but didn't even know what she was doing it's just natural for her. Out of all of those videos this one is the most helpful and entertaining, also being easily understandable! Great Vocabulary too man! PREACH
"Sometimes you are not strong enough to kick people out your life so the Lord does it for you! Do not run behind them, Let them go"! Thank you so much! When he contacts me my only response is God is good! He has nothing to say after that! I keep my accomplishments to my inner circle and yes God has been blessing me over and over again since he left!
Oh please. God will remove narcissists from someone's life. Just ask God. So stop your lying!!!!
Amen All the Time He is Good
This is so true...God is sooooo good!
I want to reach where u are in life one day. I am so heart broken right now.
Excellent response 👌
Don't love anybody more than you love yourself. Preach Pastor!
Amen
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"Do not retrieve somebody that the Lord has kicked out of your life..." That resonates. Amen!
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏🏾 and AMEN 🙏🏾 AGAIN.
Amen. God knows what he's doing
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1. They cannot celebrate others & always turn the convo back to themselves
2. Their facial expressions will change when YOU are being celebrated - ‘malignant resentment’.
3. They gradually disapprove of the important people in your life
4. They make your accomplishments seem insignificant- diminishing the moment
5. They’ll contradict your view of reality (gaslighting)
6. They disappear unexpectedly (ghosting)
7. They swing in and out of your life
This is so true. Once you experience a narcissist, your whole world changes until you wake up.
very true
This is true, I had a roommate who was a narcissist. I packed up and ran, and never looked back!
Towards the end of the relationship I started recording our conversations because I honestly thought I was going crazy!! I’m single and he is gone!
I'm one of those women who keeps allowing narcissists into her life, along with disrespect. He'll be nice, then throw in little sly comments and insults, then play it off like it's a joke and I shouldn't be so serious. Really? No. It's not real attraction or the foundation for real love.
I recently learned I need to say NO to these individuals. I deserve my own respect and love over any man's. By cutting this man off early, I'm telling myself I'm beginning to love myself.
blueascetic You described the so-called “friendly” Narc who begins his campaign of DISDAIN with the snide remarks on a daily. Cut to the chase and be done with the nonsense. They’ll try to WASTE your time...you know the drill. Blessings🌷
@blueascetic Sounds like a toxic person.
Shortly after you stopped the intimate relationships with the narc, God will lead you. But you have to do the first step which is NO sleeping with him
Ditto! 😘
blueascetic 🙌🏽 a coworker of mine. She’s older than I am but always insults folks in a joking way when it’s really how she feels. A woman was promoted and prior to that had a bariatric surgery and was losing weight , the narcissist talked about her so badly for no good reason! If a person says anything to she, she gets butt hurt and says they treat her bad.
Those who disliked this video...the truth really does hurt when you realize you are the "Narcissist." 🤔 It's never to late to change....🤷🏾♀️😉 carry on Mr. Blakes we are learning and listening....😉
Yup and they never dated one either. Its a dangerous deal.
Thankfully I have never dated one but have been in the prescence of many; work, family, associates, etc.
@@preciousjewel5323 God bless you...ive been surrounded by them for a total of 41 years. 25 years married and planning my escape RIGHT NOW......
@@flamingsword777 "Re-evaluate what you have rather then relive the agony of what you once lost. Keep it moving!" -Bishop T.D Jakes Hopefully, this quote will rescinate with you once you make your move beautiful Queen. Pray about your steps, be smart and steadfast about whatever decision you make....#KeepItMoving Blessings to you.
Narcissists NEVER change.
1) The narcissist has nothing to say when in a convo about others. They always consistently change the convo back to them.
It is impossible to celebrate others. There is no room in their soul to accomodate others. Love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant.
2) Their facial expression will change when you are being celebrated. Malignant resentment. They will never be able to hide their disdain for your advancement. They are fundamentally incapable of supporting you.
3) They gradually disapprove of all the most important people in your life. Be aware when people talk against those who were with you from the foundation of life.
4) They make you feel bad when you are supposed to feel great. They take a massive moment and make it so small. Humiliation is intentional. Do not internalize the junk, call it as it is and keep celebrating.
5) They will constantly contradicting your view of reality. Intended to make you feel crazy. Make you not trust your sense of reality. Spiritual and psychological warefare.
6) They disappear suddenly without a word. Ghosting. Intended to rupture your self esteem. Rejection + abandonment. Approval from them is not necessary. When somebody leaves your life, change the locks and lock your door.
7) They swing in and out of your life. Don't have anybody disrespecting you. Hoovering. Do not entertain them. I'm not gonna love anybody so much that I fail to love myself.
Start testing relationships. You're supposed to walk in love. You need the light of wisdom to test your relationships.
Lyn M, Thank you for 'sorting it out'. Because of you I can write it faster in my notebook, in dutch. We really have to engrave these kinds of texts in our mind .. Trust You, love You, be You, thank You. 🧡👍
@@mdmmalou Amen!🙏💫💖
And Thankyou very much for The Detailed Outline!🤗
Thank you!
SO TRUE!
YOU NAILED IT!
Im so happy I found this channel now. I am 11 months into my celibacy journey and so in love with God. The holy spirit led me to this word today to upgrade my healing and glow up in 2023. These types of men HATE themselves and hate successful and happy women. NEVER allow them back because the always come back begging. Thank you so much pastor RC Blake ♥️🙌🏾
❤ I thank you Dr. RC. Most pastors aren't qualified to be real with people. Life is so great..when behaviors are in tact. Living God's life...❤
Narcissistic men will make you feel full of self doubt, almost to where you don’t even know who you are. You just go along with it. But ba-beee, when you finally wake up!
A soul tie with a narc, is like digging your own grave,you will eventually feel like you are dead.
Very Deep! True..
Felicia C: I agree. I felt like
I,with time, dug my own
Grave and went to hell.
Felicia Carrington truth!
Amen! This is one of the realest things that I have ever heard! For most of my life I've dealt wit a narcissist, and what you've said is true Felicia C. I had givin up hope and on life as well.. To the point, you wished that you were dead.. Just so the suffering would end.... And like Pastor has said, the goal is to break you in all aspects of your life... As the many years had went by, I realized that all of my friends, family, and whoever else I cared about was completely out of my life... And the wild thing about it, she still had all of her friends, family, and other support connection fully intact.. And as the years when by, there were signs that they all despised me and wanted nothin more to destroy me... God tried many many years earlier in my life to break this tied with them by showing me all of the signs.. I regrettably ignored them and brought 4 beautiful lovely children into this world with this person.. So as the years went by, I became dependent on her family and friends.. All to no avail.. Everything that the Pastor had mentioned about the body language, false praises, and energy and mood sucking moments took place all the time.. Now since I know what to look for and look back on it.. And the worst thing of all is, that my kids are seriously suffering from brokenness and very confused and bein torn apart from all of the manipulation and deceit.. Three of the 4 of my children are bein turned against me right now to the point that they wished that I was dead or themselves... It is breakin my heart to be witnessing my kids go through the same things I did when I was heavy involved wit their mother and her inner circle... 2 of my children live wit me, one doesn't want to have anything to do wit any of them because she is smart and mature enough to pick on what's really goin on as all the things that Pastor has mentioned.. My other daughter that lives wit me is on the brink, because she goes back and forth to each home more So... And every time she comes back to my home.. She brings a piece of the negativity and evil ways of thinkin wit her... The tension is so thick, you can feel it and it causes severe headaches in me and my other daughter... I haven't givin up hope and I have faith in God that he will deliver us from this brokenness and negative soul-tie to a point that it is no longer causin strife, depression, anger, sickness, anxiety in our lives... I am oh so thankful and grateful that God had lead me to witness and receive this much needed powerful message... That I have shared wit my children and a few other relatives and friends... I pray that All will be so blessed as we all on here are to witness and receive this powerful, life saving message... In Jesus name I so humbly pray, AMEN!
Wow! So that explains why I feel like I’ve been buried alive....
Never settle for someone who cannot learn to celebrate or appreciate you for you.
Holy spirit, show me the hearts of the people I am dealing with.
🙏Yes Lord...💞
SHOW US
The True Heart
and intent of ALL
PEOPLE!
Amen!🙏💜
Its always there ask to stop choosing to be blind.
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This is so true! My granny was one of the wisest people you would ever meet. She would sit in on conversations with company or family ( or whoever ) and just listen. Barely making any remarks or suggestions , just listening and getting a feel for the conversation at hand. And she could ALWAYS pinpoint trouble , shadiness , or dishonesty!! 🎯
She opened her ears and closed her mouth! She was a very godly woman and trusted God 100%! And , she always told us " be sure your sin will find you out "! " You reap what you sow "!
Still learning to sit back and zip the lip!!!!!!! Many people are NOT who you think they are!!!!!
I am free!!! Narcissistic abuse ended 2020 Chains are broken !!!
I am saved thank you 🙏🏽 I pray for the new victim that I was replaced with , bless your soul Black Queen. I hope you have people in your life that see the evil inside of him , like my children and I ignored every red flag . Thank you Jesus for the opportunity to live and continue on a righteous path . I was lost and now I’m found .
I was baptised today thanks to my narc 🙏🏻
Please pray for me
"I'm not going to let my love for you make me hate me (or the spirit of God in me)" Thanks for teaching the truth.
Amen, I'm going to type that comment out to carry with me. My x Narc did that to me.
Thank you for your eloquent and Godly explanation of the spiritual warfare we in. I can relate to your eye-opening message. God bless you and yours. 😇🙏🏿💝
WOW
yes, so very accurate.
Narcissists target the humble meek people and feed on them for their survival ,use them as a stepping stone to progress in their life. Everything happens so subtly that we wouldn't have realised it that we've been played so well , by then its too late to even regret.
That’s what he did to me , another lady as well used us for his Financially gain . I broke up with him , he went to prison he used this older lady to take care of him 30 days before he got out of prison he ghost her. Then he started calling me telling me that he changed and he want his family back and that he had time to reflect while he was locked up . Smh 🤦🏾♀️ my stupid a$& took him . The older lady Facebook me wanted to talk to me I didn’t know who she was , and he didn’t want me to talk to her. So the lady was driving pass my house , I walked up to her car she drove off . I told him he was wrong for using that lady like that , when you had no intentions of being with her . Low and behold he did me the same way , I didn’t think 🤔 he would bcuz I have a son by him . But that didn’t stop him, his mission was to use me to get on his feet and when he got his CDL became a truck driver I saw the change. Lack communication, lack of respect, didn’t want to pay nothing, he felt better sleeping in his truck over road then to pay bills . He cheated on me 10 years ago with a 19 year old girl he was 36 years old at the time , gotten that 19 years old pregnant 🤰🏾. I forgave him and I stayed, but every time that boy came around it was slap 👋 in my face of betrayal. Well fast forward the 10 year old and bad as hell . The baby mama had other kids after and now she didn’t want his son , so she told my ex come get him . My ex pick him up didn’t really sit down and talk to me about the situation. Instead he used that excuse to walk away from our relationship. When he had other stuff going on like cheating, and now that he gotten his credit up and license it was screw me . Pick his son up that was is exit . So it won’t look bad! It would like it was my fault, that’s what he want every one to believe . It no closure, so I gave myself closure I put in a 30 days notice and moved from the place that I’ve been for 19 years. Blocked his number it’s been six months now no contact. Our son don’t really talk to his dad because he knew what he was doing. My son’s said mamma we knew he was going to get on his feet and leave you . Mamma you’ve should’ve never took him back . All I can do cry but I take responsibility for my actions and the part I played . But I’d learned my lesson. I don’t ever want to talk him ever . Blocked his family and him. I since then I have peace ☮️ and energy I loses the 10 pounds I gained that I couldn’t losed for nothing while I was with him. It hurts 23 years off and on with him
@Chynadoll77 Cyn The JAILHOUSE Narc is one of the worst! I know spouses and women who have been PLAYED and betrayed by these lying, rotten and demonic subspecies when they become free.
Blessings to you🌷
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Everything he said about a Narcissist is so true, spent years married to one without knowing understanding what a narcissist was until after, I wish I would have seen this video years ago.
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Wow you just summed up my husband
Being christian you try to see the best in ppl but God also teaches us to guard our hearts everything we do flows from it
@@Msaliehs92
Well done darling, for choosing to watch this video. I would advise you to watch alot more to protect yourself from this insidious demonic people.
You never want this behaviour to be generational. Most times daughters mimic and model their mother's behaviour. Pray, be discerning and love yourself.
Raven, you said it just right for me
I was married to a narcissist. I showered him with love, honor and respect. He couldn’t receive it. I covered him in prayer. He didn’t cover me.
I thank God my family foundation and support is so strong, I’m not scarred from the manipulation, control, malignant resentment, gaslighting and drama.
I still cover him in prayer, from afar! I pray he doesn’t do this to anyone else’s daughter!!!
“If U want to live well, U have to live right”. Mercy! That’s good!! Glory to God!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
People listen to this man. I’ve studied narcissism 9 straight months. At least 6-7videos a week. 15+ Narcissistic Coaches , counselors, THIS IS MY 1st time hearing this from a Pastor. As a Christian man everything he’s saying. EVERYTHING IS TRUE.... Do not listen to these dating coaches that say the narcissist word is overrated.. It’s in a regular dating coaches best interest for knowledge like this not to get out to the masses. Especially dating coaches with a large Female following. Study Narcissism. It will open your eyes. You will be like NEO in the matrix to toxic men/women. You’ll see them coming from a mile away.
Yes look at my comment. He is soooo wise about this. 🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓
Very well said.
My thoughts exactly
Which dating coaches say that narcissism is overrated?
My ex narc was a great pretender! He played a role the entire time! I am so grateful i escaped that toxic relationship!
💞 AMEN SIS! 💞
🙏 Good for you!🙏
God helped you
to dump him!
You did it! Binge watch Lisa A Romano too❣️
Yes mine played one for 8 years. I'm aware. He was not my only narcissist. He was the worst covert.
I'm aware!!!!!
Me too sis it took me eight years but thank God I am free🙏
Don’t accidentally think you’re a narcissist if you’ve suffered at the hands , mind and spirit by being with one. They will turn you from sweet to sour and you can go back to normal once you’re away from
Them. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!!! I questioned myself all the time....”am I a narcissist”. I know that I’m not but because I was with mine for 18 years and I suffer from PTSD and am healing I see when people are playing the game and I find myself questioning myself all the time. Pastor Blake’s validated something I was already thinking. America breeds narcissists, that’s the reason I encounter so many plus I’m an empath. I pick up on peoples emotions and feelings.
Yes
I needed this, sister. ♥️ I don’t feel like myself anymore.
Thank you. 🙏
I felt this because I feel like I am the narcissist.
I agree narcissism is an epidemic. I was involved with 3 men who had personality disorders and was never set free emotionally and spiritually until I understood the disorder. Also like you said, the accountability on my end for letting the involvement deepen when I saw the red flags. The biggest thing I learned too is beauty is always skin deep, ugly is to the bone.
Holy Spirit, show me the hearts of the people I am dealing with, in Jesus Christ's name. Amen.
Amen!!!🙏🙌🏾
Me too.
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Amen.
🙏 Amen.
Amen 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Pastor you should be on every schools curriculum for how to live as you are extremely valuable with information and wisdom 💜
Adolescents and young adults need this information.
Agreed! 🙌🏼🙏🏼
Absolutely!! This should be
Taught in our schools. USA has
High rate of divorce.
Absolutely x
Yep because if you let those types,they will hurt and destroy you and quality of life.
Amen....you must leave the narsissist in the hands of God!! Leave them alone!
Faccccts!!!! Alone with God!!!!
Someone will be delivered after hearing this message 💜
Amen
In the process of healing now
Myself. I am getting persecuted extremely now for even listening to this video.
So true. Wish I had seen this last year.
And Is🙏🏽😌
I experienced the same thing during my marriage to a narcissist. I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer and the rage, gaslighting and resentment got worse until I finally left while still receiving treatment for cancer. I didn’t know what I was experiencing but I knew it wasn’t right. I stumbled across this page and realized that I was battling a demonic spirit. I went straight no contact, filled for divorce and now focusing on a long road of healing. Although it’s still hard trying to piece my life back together again. I can truly say that I’m in a much better place. Thanks to powerful messages like this. Pastor Blakes is God sent!
I recently left my demonized narcissist. I was tired of his mind games, his inconsistencies, and his "greater than thou" mentality and behavior. Moving forward. I'm so grateful that I came across Pastor Blake. I definitely have my eyes open now. I refuse to believe anyone at his face value. AMEN.
God's Voice: Stills You, Leads You, Reassures You, Enlightens You, Encourages You, Comforts You, Calms You, Convicts You.
Satan's Voice: Rushes You, Pushes You, Frightens You, Confuses You, Discourages You, Worries You, Obsesses You, Condemns You
I cannot take credit for this message.
Absolutely agree. When he says "You should never 'love' or create soul ties with someone who builds doubt in your spirit."😔💕
My Word!!!! Amaze sis!!!!!
I believe you i have first hand experience on this
🔥 🔥 On Point!!!!!
Thank you so much for this 🥺😵🤯💓🙏
Real disgusting character and Oh they over love themselves and believe everyone should cater to them. Hate being challenged and have a high sense of entitlement Run run Run
Yep my ex was this type always felt entitled and used multiple women and gets a way with it . When i used to call him out on his BS he’ll get mad 😡. Very selfish even towards his kids , I have one son by him and never really did sh&$ for my son unless you asked for it. My son is now 20 years old and now he see for himself. My ex had 4 baby mammas 5 kids very toxic person his whole family ratchet ghetto loud they fight among themselves . I never like to be around his family, his family use to tell him she stuck up because I don’t drink or smoke 💨 nor weed . He’s had no values or morals . He cheat and cheat with old ex’s and then some . 23 years I was with him
Wow hmm really disgusting human beings. My ex hmm was this exactly. They are often a womanizer or vice versa. When they are ready to Discard of you is one of the most horrible moment. Think I.am dealing with another now this spirit seems to be hunting me down. I refuse to accept such selfish self centred thinking and manipulative ignorant proud spirit. They cause such trauma if your not strong enough to run away from them it becomes a roller coaster of toxic emotions
WOW! I too have been advised -
R U N !
Wow you are so right.
@@chynadoll77cyn59 This is so crazy my child's father and his family are the same way. We have no contact with them because I don't trust and honestly I was embarrassed. But I'm praying for you all and blessings are coming your way.
I'm in 😢 tears because EVERYTHING he's saying is the truth, I couldn't believe how low I allowed myself to go dealing with a narc, everything my mother taught me I put it down 😢 I know she was turning in her grave, but I tell you God love me so much he gave me back everything that I lost. To God be the glory. But pastor you are the truth, I thank God for you. 🙏
Forgiving myself was the first step to moving on. Also forgive them as Jesus forgave those that did what they did to him
The narcissist can take a person to the depths of hell and you wouldn’t even realize it until you get there.
Girl me too.... The crap I put up with shames me🤦🏿
Yes right 😊 👍👍👍👍👍👍
@38:00 that house cleaning anecdote had me deep in my feelings. My mother is a covert narcissist. I graduated from Yale, then became a doctor, but the woman makes me feel like a complete failure of a human being because I’m not a domestic goddess. When she cussed me out because I bought her an SUV and paid off the note a year later (she wanted the cash not the paid off car), I decided I was DONE. SMDH… I just went no contact. Enough.
Wow...You were so good to your Mom..you work hard and you're smart! God made you perfect...Each of us fearfully and wonderfully made! God will bring you another Mom in the Body of Christ! Blessings!
Sister- she was jealous of your success!!!
God bless you! You tried but had to protect your spirit and peace. Good for you!! I wish I could do the same 😞
Are u still n/c with ur mother? I've been n/c 23 years. What did she do 4 a living? She was indeed jealous of u.
@@October3074 Controlled contact. Bean counter. Subconsciously yes.
They’re crazy he went from saying “ I plan on spending the rest of my life with you” to discarding me the next week , 3 months after that hovered me , called me and said, “hey I haven’t heard from you” as in nothing ever happened, I stopped entertaining him, praying and staying no contact, God please help me break the soul tie from my ex narc
First stop claiming him as “yours!”
You’re on the path of healing. I pray God heals you in the name of Jesus!
@@JM-kj7ek thanks ❤️❤️
When you ask God to help... You have to be ready!!!
Unfortunately many women are not ready. They are sitting in abuse and waiting for God to change their spouse.
They convince themselves it's God's will.
Very very very true.
@@fruitinspector8247 its not a gender thing! there are just as many possibly more men living in shame at the end of our ropes waiting for God to change our Covert Narcissistic Wives, trying to be faithful and not divorce
Yes you are so right
mecseki agnes Amen! Then, GO! AND NEVER LOOK BACK! Only look up, to Jesus!
And what’s crazy about a narcissist is when they try to ghost you and you don’t feed into it, now they start to come after you. You block them and everything, now they at your front door. That is why never while dating someone invite them to your ave until you guys are serious and ready for marriage
True!
So true everytime i get over the narcissist and move on here he comes back.after him ghosting me for months.thats crazy.
You are soooo right!
Also applies after divorce..when you Block them, you ignore and take their control away..the lack of power will anger them!
❤❤❤❤
grown 50 year old men do not want to have the necessary conversation concerning growth, learning, reading , inter personal maturity without getting defensive and condescending just for asking questions in a straight -nice manner.
Amy Morale I thought that it was just the men I knew. You are SO, SO, SOOOOO, CORRECT.
@@Stargazer9933 OMG I thought it was just me too.... I'm so relieved I was right all this time about this. Thank God for the confirmation
No truer words have been spoken. I just couldn't understand this. Your words have been in my head for years. They are Narcs, I'm just now figuring it all out😪
Yes!!!
Omg really?
He’s spot on when he said they gradually try to cut important people out of your life… I have 4 grown sons, and I dated a guy that was very intimidated by my sons… He would always tell me your sons are too old to be living with you… He was hell bent on this … every single day he was beating me upside the head with this… It was clear to me that he trying to divide and conquer by trying to get me to put my sons out, so he can have his way with me… I got rid of him quick!!
You're saw the RED FLAGS thank God you saw them,and got rid of him . He wanted to control you and take away your support team your son's. That's one of the first things they do are try to move you away from your family and friends. So you can just reply on him and depend on him. May God continue blessing you and your family ❤️♥️🙏
Wow, I’m glad you noticed that too. They are your sons and that is ultimately your decision on whether or not you want them to continue to live with you regardless of age. Having 4 sons was an added layer of protection that he didn’t want to deal with. Glad he is gone 😀
I’m SO GLAD you addressed that this nation BREEDS narcissists!! I’ve been saying this for as long as I can remember! Esp the black culture which is why the dating Pool for AA’s (African Americans) is low and extremely poor in quality selections! SO many males self-centered and toxic and pollute the waters anywhere they go. It’s such an epidemic. No one is trying to marry. Everyone is serial dating and stuck on self. Professing to want marriage but not conditioned and mature enough to know what it actually means moreover requires! THANK YOU BISHOP!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
My x controlled me and used my weight against me. I worked hard to loose weight and was so excited that I had lost 22 lbs and told him and he said nothing.... NOTHING! That was the catalyst that made me realize he was a narcissist and cared nothing about me. Single and happy now!
Yep, tin ,thin ,lamb
@@mangosteena yes ma'am loved porn
@@mangosteena sex crazed maniacs!! Rape style!! No emotions!!
Wow what a jerk
I was beaten severely 2 yrs ago almost lost my life he left me for dead and sped off. I had an angel intervention during the attack. He was over me and punching 25 to 30 punches. I am a disabled senior. I was left with 2 broken thumbs as well. It has been a very difficult recovery. God never left me. He is my everything. I will never worship any person again
Yep Anna da body won't last, but your spirit , thanks fer endurance
No! God loves you. He promised in his word. He WILL take care of you. Peace! God Bless you.
T P Jesus loves YOU, honey! ❤
Wow I’m so glad you’re ok now
We are grateful to God for your survival and recovery; thank you for sharing with us your experience and journey of healing.
Never again! Hallelujah!!!!
GOD WILL SEND A MESSENGER WHEN YOU ARE READY TO HEAR HIM..THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE..GOD BLESS YOU💖🙏
Me too!
"I am not going to make my love for you make me hate me!" Truth!
In the last days, men would be lovers of themselves and money and pleasure (2 Timothy 1-5).
Thank You Pastor You are on Point!!! I wish I would've had this knowledge years ago I'm recovering from Narcissist Abuse after been Married to a narcissist for 9 years I'm alive today only by God's grace I hope and pray that the Women listening to You apply all of this information and knowledge whenever they meet or date someone it can and will save them from pain, heartache and even death. Blessings 🥰
Ingrid Marrero Amen Sis 😊
🙏🏼I’m stepping out and letting go with blind faith HE IS WHO HE IS❣️❣️
Amen to that
@@daliendelafosse-brooks9543
May the Lord go before you.
Praying for you Ingrid ❤️🙏💐
Man of God the Holy Spirit increases your anointing on this subject more and more, know that your labor is not in vain. I’ve grown mentally and spiritually and most of all my self love has increased
🙏Yes Lord...💞
Keep on pouring
into Pastor Blake
and enlightening
us Queen's and
King's!
Me too!
AMEN!!!!
Yes Amen!! This man is the truth! I love him! He’s helping me so much!
I’m willing to bet that the dislikes came from Narcissists. WHO ELSE would be mad at this Man of God for telling the truth but a LIAR???
“the only people who get mad at those telling the truth, are those living a LIE”
-unknown
I can create a video where I just say: “hello, you’re amazing” and they would give me a thumb down 😂
Facts of Life Rev 😭🤦🏾♀️
@@RCBlakesJr. Anna da darkness, stands it not
A powerful message! Thanks so much. You spoke of "malignant resentment." When I was married, it was almost impossible for my husband to acknowledge my accomplishments or gifts. He always seemed a bit resentful of what I able to do. Women (and men) can't live in an environment of constant resentment. I ultimately was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer and ovarian cancer. During my healing, I prayed that God would reveal the Truth to me. My husband left after my surgery from ovarian cancer, which devastated me. However, I knew it was God's will. Thirteen years later, I see the gift more and more. My lesson is to always love myself first. And to have the gift of discernment to recognize "toxic" people in my life. :)
Breeding narcissism here in USA sounds like a completely true statement. Scary now that I have clarity and understanding.
How can one discern a narcissist without a relationship with Holy Spirit...ultimately that's the voice being ignored...I know firsthand that's how I was freed from a fool.
Aki Scott The holy spirit let you KNOW right away who you were dealing with. No doubts about it. You did the right thing and broke free. Great 👍
I was re born today and baptised
The fool made God seek me for salvation and now I can’t go back
I belong to Jesus 🙏🏻
Follow what Pastor is saying. He is right on target just pay attention. The love bombing, arrogance, hyper sensual, back biting.
YES!! HALLELUJAH.
My heart ❤️ was so heavy before I watch your video BUT after I watched your video i👀 MY HEART ❤️ IS MORE AT EASE 🙏🏾. I just want to thank you 😊
Vernita Thank you 🙏🏾
I agree with everything. But I will give one important note: sometimes the narcissist will give you lots of praise and they will genuinely be proud of you for your accomplishments, but really it’s just because they see you as an extension of them self and your accomplishments are kind of their property. But you better make sure you achieve what they want you to achieve lol. Thank you especially for the prayer at the end because we certainly need it.
This is very true
Sara I remember in church I had a friend so I thought would complement me so kindly of how they liked my style and how I dressed little did I know about Narc abuse then of how she would work on people's kindness to get whatever she wanted from people she would cry at a drop of a hat and always spoke on how bad people treated her a true ploy to extort now she is sad in life and no one wants to be around her she made her own bed doing innocent people wrong Flatout
Sabrina Alston And then if you didn’t help her, she somehow made you feel like you were a bad person? I hope you are not interacting with this person anymore. God bless you.
R J Yes, set you up in order to knock you down and then present them self as the Savior. I went through that for 14 years and didn’t even realize that I was a good person and that he was not my savior but my villain
@@saracowherd3539 Sara No Way do I have dealings with them I wish her Salvation and a strong relationship with JESUS only HE can change her
I had a guy that that I've known about 3 yrs we started a physical soultie and one day I was just tired of giving my body with no commitment. I told him we were done since you obviously dont see me as wife material. He begged to come back and he is going to work on this and work on that ok I let him back in my life but with no sex. Just wanted to see if we had anything between us besides sex. He came and changed the oil on my car fixed my printer bought breakfast for that particular morning after he was done he asked me can he be rewarded I'm like huh already knowing what he was getting at. I told him no were not in a relationship. After being with me all day he says I'm gonna go I said ok. He texted me soon after saying he feels like this is one sided that he's benefiting me but I'm not benefitting him...I still haven't responded.
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😂😂
That guy is so dumb
I cried at the end when he said we are loved and he is praying for us.
Thank you pastor. I've given 2 years to a narcissist. 2 years to many. Please keep me in prayer please
Preach preacher!!! I just went through that kind of emotional abuse. He brought my self worth down so low, I was beginning to feel so worthless and thought about suicide. Im healing right now. I've cried a many nights but I know for a fact, that I will RISE! I had to remind myself of who i was...I am a soon to be graduate of thee Southern University, a single mother of twins, own a house & car....ima Bad Mama Jama!....his lost!😜💁🏽
Keep up the good work👍🏼☺ I just recently experienced the same. Husband left me with 5 children. He is messing around with two different women who also have children. Narcissist know who to prey on. I am working fulltime, homeschooling 4 of the five, and in school getting my master's degree. His lost and I pray for the next victim.
Same.... I was so confused and didn't wanna live anymore! So sad!!!! I'm back to me NOW slowly, but surely
Good job dear, thats the spirit!
Yes sister, preach! My ex narc just black my eye for the second time in our 5 years relationship. He's 6'4, 230. I'm 5'3, 135. I was fighting him with everything in me. The Holy Spirit gave me strength. And of course, like the 1st time, it was my fault. He told some man was going to hurt/kill me (the devil is lie) because if man hits you should sit down. Well I'm not built like that. He you hit me, I'm picking what ever is available. However this is not how I want to live my life.
I know how you feel it's horrible 😞 Get well soon pray and exercise daily
This is so true I suffered major depression and PTS since I met my narcissist ex it’s a very real spiritual warfare we are in, there nothing more is important then this topic I feel
tanya 4everloyal me too I’m really trying get my life back to normal
I was in therapy for 2 years after divorcing the Narc I was with. It REALLY helped. I no longer have the health issues I was having and I lost weight.
All should be spreading the word and those early red flags to their friends/family. These videos aren’t just entertainment- they’re life saving. You might just help someone else out!
This is my mother ALL the way. I just woke up to her being a Narcissist 6 months ago, and now I can see when her demons are manifesting. She has a very demonic glare when she's upset. I'm her invisible/scapegoat child, and my life with her has been terrifying and abusive. This video is 100% accurate!
I wish I heard this 14 years ago . I ran after a man who ghosted me, twice no less! When he returned I thought I was the luckiest woman. Now I know it was a set up for a soul tie, and did I pay the price for it? Indeed I did. Thank you for these important talks to help people process, heal and not repeat these soul crushing mistakes!
Thank you. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 5 years. Got discarded and have been blessed.
@Stacia Davis....you didn't get discarded, you got FREEDOM
I was with one for 2.5 yrs I didn't know until almost 1.5- 2 yrs he was a narcissist.
I ghosted him and went no contact Sept 2022...and felt bad when he started calling and texting me from end Sept 2022 to Jan 2023... He finally stopped calling.and.texting.
I’m not sure if you look at all your comments, but on the chance that you do, Reverend Blakes I just wanted to say that this GOD ordained message was an amazing blessing and ministered to myself and my children on levels! Thank you so much for the work you do! 🙏🏽
Thank you. It is my honor. 🙏🏽❤️😊
@@RCBlakesJr.
Thank you so much for this message. I had heard of a narcissist before, but I never really knew just how real narcissism was. I made the mistake of marrying a narcissist, and for almost 5 years now, I have been feeling dead on the inside, foolish, weak, and just overall CONTROLLED. He is extremely disrespectful, bold, and blackmails me very often. He pretended to be a believer in Christ before we got married. He was a perfect gentleman. But his true colors came out after I got pregnant with our now 3 year old son, and he realized that I was dependent on him for financial support. He has cheated on me with six different women that I know of, and the last one he was with got PREGNANT on purpose because for one, he asked her to have his baby, and secondly, he told her that I was pregnant, so that made her afraid that he would come back to me and she immediately stopped using birth control and TOLD him that she was ready to have his baby. I had no idea that he was cheating on me. When I found out, I pleaded with him not to destroy our marriage, but he refused to leave her, and the child that I was carrying fell into the toilet. My dilemma is that I can NOT AFFORD to take care of our son by myself. I don't make enough money. Also, the Bible says that if the non believing spouse wishes to remain in the marriage, that I should stay married to him. I want to know if I can stay married to him for ths sake of our son, and expect GOD to protect my emotions and my mental health from his abuse? I have other women in my family who stayed married for the sake of the children even when their husbands were having multiple affairs.
@@MsDera81 please read the book the 5 wounds. And watch Gabor Mate. Nobody can tell you what to do. You will end it when you will feel like. But try to find out why did you make the choice that you did or you will do and why are you continuing the family trauma
Pastor Blake's. I wish you knew how much of a blessing you are! I thank God for you! Let me tell you how good God is. I was in the cafeteria at work last month when I ran into someone I rarely saw...only communicated with via emails. We were talking and she mentioned listening to you. I told her to Skype me your name so I could look you up and she did. Turns out, I was terminated later on that day. But I was also escaping a very destructive relationship with a covert narcissist. God is so good to lead me to you thru her right before He knew I would be terminated!
A new door will open for you! Blessings....
🎉🎊yes
At my wedding reception, in the late 1980s, as my husband and I were so happy and all were smiling, we were about to cut the cake together. My younger sister looked over to me and said out loud, " Ugly thing!"
I heard her boyfriend ask her, " why did you say that"? I will never forget that incident. She's still the same today. She can't see others have anything good. She has to see the negative in everything. I'm a Christian, and I try to preach the gospel to her, but i realise now, that only God can change her. 😌🙏
God always gives the best to those who leave the choices up to Him!❤
I went through this with my ex husband. All of this is so true. I will never deal with a jealous man again.
I wish this teaching was around 17 years ago. Thank you.
I love the way you find a scripture for everything and how it makes sense. I dated a narcissist and I did not realize it ... I knew something wasn't right I just couldn't put my finger on it, until I left. Another characteristic of a narcissist is they cannot and will not accept the word "NO" A normal person can hear the word no and say OK no problem we don't like it but we move on; however, a narcissist takes that "NO" to another level ...to the 10th power...bent out of shape and literally have a temper tantrum ALL THE TIME. I also realize me and narcissists don't get along so I'm good lol. Thank you so much.
Good sales,no not an answer,two
YES!!
They are demons, we are angels, that is why we do not get along with them. All of you on this thread are so powerful, and you do not know it. And all the power you have within you was given to you by God himself. He has been our shield, and protector during the his, our dark assignment. You have years ahead of you my sista to live and enjoy the good life God has already planned for you.
@@patriciawhite9509 ?
Yes!!! So true!!!! Dealing with that as we speak!
We need strong discernment to pick up on Narcs💯
Agreed.
My father said that A Lot....."Look deep before you leap". Its so true to the core. You can get tied up with someone that can ruin your life forever.
Someone out there will need these words, I didn’t think I could get this far, last year I tried to end my life, thank you Lord for saving me. To anyone out there broken and crushed, day by day I kept going, the very hardest time of my life.. thank you Lord for bringing me here away from harm and continuing to heal me fully
❤
Malignant resentment, this is very real.
Cat O Sadly, their hearts are dark.
Yes! At first he was so proud of me and bragging on me, then he started criticizing those very things he said he loved about me.
Yessss lord it’s very real
I’ve gone ghost on narcissists when I recognize who they are so this can go both ways.
"They have something bad to say about your mama!?" I am so grateful for you Pastor Blakes!
Omg always. They want you with No one in your corner so they can really destroy you
Mines got drunk and called me and my mother a b@&$!
Mine said, “Your family has the collective intelligence of a pea.” What a jerk! So happy to be free.
@@helencathleen oh my! Mines said my parents were not as great as I say they are etc etc yet his daddy died a heroine addict and his mom was a crack head and many other tasteless things.. I just shook my head like ok what is your point of reference??!!
I asked my husband to tell me a funny joke, his respnce was your Mother, my mum passed away 7 years ago 😢
I had no idea I was dating a narcissist for 7 years until I started listening to this pastor. A soultie with the devil. Literally evil and abusive. I knew he was bad for me but I had always felt addicted to him even though he mad me cry daily,made me not even know myself . He sucked all of the happiness from me. I thank God I am aware but it is a daily battle being without him but I refuse to keep doing this.
Bad thing is.. the person I was entangled with for over 12 years is a pastor. I knew the signs but I thought I could change him. I left that nut alone!!!
Don't believe everything you see, don't believe everything that you hear!!
000
They LIE on credit
Fake news is real on do many levels...
This has been the last 26 years of my life. To a T. I cannot believe how spot on you are. Down to the examples. I am no longer married to the narcissist, it feels so good! Praise God!!
Miriam Matthews I feel this is my path, but fear I’d be going again God if I divorced.
Kesha,
My heart aches for you. Mine discarded me for my friend. It was a blessing but oh so painful to process. However, God does not want His daughters being a used like this. Malachi talks about how the Lord is the witness to the wife of his youth.
God care more for your wellness than aything else. The guilt you are feeling is from the enemy to keep you trapped. God cares more about you the individual than He does the false marriage. It's hard to realize its false bc it's real to you. But the narcissists doesnt see it that way. Stay in your knees for God's guidance. He wil speak to you.
@@miriammatthews2202 yep ,garbage is garbage,it's nuttin else
Good for you 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Me too, 26 years. Working on breaking free.
U preached my life story... My children father is a Nararassit he's from women to women.. Always about his self. Heartless, mean, Abusive.. As the years goes on he gets worse. I left him 4 years ago had a nervous break down. Tried to kill him because he would fight me and always cheated on me. I stayed gone 1 year. That was the happiest time in my life.. He started Hovering stocking me. I went back. The biggest mistake of my life he's 2,000 times worse. He puts me down. He believe in Witch craft... Looking at him i see the Devil in human form... Now I'm moving me and my children as far away from him as I can.. My soul and freedom and peace is worth so much more. God has blessed me threw it all. To keep my mind and looking forward to my new future. Thank u so much for that word...❤💕💕💕
Don't go back
I am identifying narcissists in my life now. I have been tolerating them for hurting me. Now it's my turn to have some self love and also confront them. I am tired of these kind of people.
I have allowed them into my life to almost wreckage beyond repair. God, please show me the hearts of men, give me the power to flee...
Have you ever talked about the narcissistic evil grin? When they know that they wounded your soul the have this grin on there face.
They can be dangerous and are capable of the lowest of the lowest behavior and then turn around and deny their actions.
I also believe that this spirit can possess their children.
One day I asked him what was the sinister smile about when I tell him he's hurting me? His reply, he did the sinister smile....
Yesss. The smirk and the stare is something u will never ever forget
Wow!!!!!! Soooo true!!!
Oh my gosh, YES. I've seen that grin! My ex would grin like he was amused or pleased with himself when he saw how upset he had me. It was evil.
A sinister grin from decades ago that I will never be able to unsee.
So much wisdom here! You hit the nail on the head with all of these points! The only time your accomplishments might matter to the narcissist is when they are basking in the glow of your achievements when talking to others they are trying to impress. They might “brag” then, as if they should
be revered because of what you’ve accomplished...perhaps implying they are special, by association, because of what you’ve done that’s positive. But one on one, to your face, they have no interest in discussing, seeing or offering even the most meager praise for anything positive you’ve done or achieved.
🤮🤮makes me sick when they do this and the continuously calling out names of famous ppl they know or have been friends with the crave for attention is so unattractive makes me want to Puck
Tree people's in won,wit udders,wit u ,Anna in secret
God bless you this isn't just for single dating, I'm married and every video on the subject helps me tremendously!!! Love you pastor
Stay away from narcissist your heart will be shattered beyond what you thought was possible. I pray that there’s a healing to remove this affliction from the earth. So no other person ever has to feel this level of pain. But If you believe God will get you through it.
I realized that when I was Ghosted by my cheating boyfriend because I wasn’t strong enough to leave the relationship he was removed out of my life but it was all for my own best interests. It was time for the relationship to END even though it did hurt
Same
Same here also
This is absolutely what I experienced Pastor and it nearly broke my spirit! But by the grace of God I was about to get out of that hell hole!! It was definitely the holy spirit that got me out and then many blessings came after 🙏 it was by far the worst situationship I ever encountered to say the least! But 3 yrs later and counting I'm on way to a great Victory! 💪🏽 It isn't easy but I'll get there 😊💯 all I can say at the end of the day is I wish him the best! ✌🏾
I called my wedding off because I realize he was a narcissist
Great! Go NO CONTACT! RUN!!!! God loves you. The narcissist never will!
HAVE MERCY GOD
So glad that you recognized and took instant action.
Heal Sister
Wow I’m inspired by your courage.....binge watch Lisa A Romano too❣️💙
wow you were really brave.
I wish I had this knowledge to call my wedding off
Sir....I literally JUST met someone and started seeing these EXACT same tendencies you just spoke about. Ima take me some runners and be out asap
Good for you sis. Just RUN!!!!
All of these points are so true! Wow! I'd also add a couple of other things. A) Their relationships with many other people in their life can be rocky ("I don't get along with a lot of my family members." B) They admit that people say they're arrogant or they make it a point to highlight how sarcastic they can be. C) They don't talk about what's presently going on with them often. They mostly talk about the past. Because they don't have a lot of things going on now, they talk about the "good old days" a lot! They also talk about future goals a lot but have no plan to make things happen. Point is, it's all about them!
I wish I could like this a 1000 times. All praises to the most high. Thank you Jesus for this word 💯🙏🏾❤
She walked out so many times. Then one day years later God stepped in and covered me with His protection and opened up my eyes.
Oh yes, God himself will step in and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! OhHallelujiah, I will always remember the day he RESCUED ME. Thank you Jesus, Thank you Lord.
Who could thumb this down but a narcissist.
I know, right!!!!?
Let them go,and don't let them,back in,ur,life
Yeah that's very true. Light has come and they hate the light. God has all the power.
Amen 🙏🏻
Thank you so much, this is the situation I was in I have now closed the door and LOCKED it and threw away the key!
Amen Pastor Blakes,
I can’t lie, I have to start asking the Holy Spirit for better guidance. I’ve encountered these situations and it didn’t turn out well for me in the end. Definitely have to protect myself better moving forward.
45:00 Intend of ghosting : Rejection and abandonment creates soul tie and need of approval of the very person that had rejected you. The only way you can feel whole again is for that person to come back and treat you well- addiction to approval they will never give you .
They reposition you emotionally where they take reigns of your life and you are steered by them. Demonic spirit breaking your spirit
So well explained 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
my dad was a narc, cut him out of my life 14 years ago; That malignant resentment part gave me chills thinking back to my dad as a child. The more I achieved as a child the more he despised me. Gave me great incentive to do even better as an adult knowing how much he hated it. But I’ll always remember those facial expressions and that ‘look’
Me, mam and dad were on holiday when I was 15, and there was a strong demonic presence on that holiday. My dad would be staring at me for uncomfortably long periods in my bikini just to make me feel uncomfortable. One night, we were all drunk. I was allowed to drink that night. In our apartment. Mam and dad were in single beds, I was asleep on the sofa. At around 3am dad was snoring heavily, I awoke feeling utter sheer terror, so terrified I was scared to move even a millimetre. Knew I was being watched. Moments later, a demonic spirit was standing behind my head, moved around the corner of the sofa and leaned over me. It’s snarling face only a foot away from mine. I’ve never felt such hated and contempt towards me in my life. It was pure evil. It felt half human half animal. I instinctively knew not to move or it would attack. It didn’t even occur to me to pray in that moment as the fear was in every cell of my body.
Too long to explain whole incident but since learning about narcissism in last 5 years I’ve felt that demon was linked to dad. Maybe he was so drunk and in such a deep sleep it detached from him and came to me to either torment or possess me.
After hearing this video, I’m now convinced of it.
My whole life I thought that apartment was haunted, now I realise it was a demon attached to dad.
When it was showing it’s hatred to me my whole childhood it was filtered through the meat suit of my dads physical body so slightly limited.
That night as it detached from him and attacked me I felt the full wrath of the demon unleashed. And everything it displayed, that intense loathing and evil is exactly the same as what narcissists display and try to hide. I think I was confronted that night by the raw spirit that fuels the legion of narcissists that roam the earth. It was the most terrifying night of my life.
In the years following this my mam had issues with alcohol and bulimia and I lost her presence and support due to this. I had a nightmare one night that she was crouched on the floor crying, I walked up to her and as I approached she looked up and her face showed ‘that smirk’ and she morphed into a hideous demon.
It was only a dream and 30 years ago but I can still see it and feel it. It was the demon telling me in my dream it had her too.
A few years later, I’d been saving to get out of that house. It’s all I thought about. Then I had a vax and within 2 weeks became paralysed and in excruciating agony head to foot. I won’t explain the hell I went through but for a decade I was bedridden and trapped under their roof and couldn’t escape. It’s almost like it was designed to keep me there.
When I finally escaped, still Ill and removed my dad from my life for good. I had a few months of freedom before it found me again in a partner and I had 10 years battling it all over again.
I’ve been free for 3 years now. That relationship unlocked the knowledge on narcissism and my childhood so it was a blessing in disguise.
After 3 years of blissful peace, God is all I need. Many have circled and tried to prey on me since. But I’m aware now and vigilant and with God’s help will remain free.
Pastor Blake’s is a large part of that. I’ve watched lots of narc channels over last 5 years but the others generally don’t intertwine the knowledge with the Bible and don’t have the paternal presence/wisdom.
Other narc channels enabled me to free myself. Pastor Blake is helping to keep me free. Thank you 🙏
I learn so much from your discussions on narcissism. Thank you!
Was married to one for 13 years....was naive in thinking I could change him. Not so! Very sad.
You learned a lot. Congratulations! I have never understood trying to change someone, what a great loss of energy.
Kami Clabaugh This tells me they NEVER change. Always a one way street .... sigh.
Spent way too many years with one now I truly can see why he never had a solid relationship.I broke it off his family Wished him well in JESUS and never looked back.I will never get those years back but I count it as ministry GOD knows how to restore.
...the discernment was real!!!...this is a testament to what was revealed to me...Thank You, Holy Spirit...for I am at peace!!!...only YOU LORD, only YOU!!!...☝️❤🙏
The world needs more people like you, clever people with a good heart who care, people who are not afraid to tell the truth. Keep up the good work.
I like this man. Literally been watching every narcissist video on youtube to heal from emotional and physical abuse from my past ex girlfriend who made me feel so terrible and called me selfish and said I don't know what love is and these videos help me snap back to reality! I was raised by two christian loving parents and saw their examples of love so I knew I wasn't who she said and she was trying to gaslight me but didn't even know what she was doing it's just natural for her. Out of all of those videos this one is the most helpful and entertaining, also being easily understandable! Great Vocabulary too man! PREACH