Signs: 1. When you desire to love them beyond their comfort level. 2. The relationship brings more withdrawals than deposits. You are driving this entire relationship and this person is not participating. Audit the relationship: what is being subtracted from me and what is being deposited into me? 3. When you check in with yourself you realise you are completed off-track regarding your purpose and personal journey. 4. When you experience wanting them and detesting them at the same time. You want them and you don't want them. Cognitive dissonance. 5. When the person makes you chase them. 6. When you know, you can sense, that this person isn't right for you.
I had to say good bye to a person I hoped to become my best friend. At some point I realized that this lady, who was initially very nice and friendly, created a dynamics of power play, in which she wanted to be chased, just to reject my efforts later on. We often connect "playing hard to get" with romantic relationships, but there are plenty of people, who attempt to cure their inferiority complex by being ostentatiously unavailable to their friends or relatives (but only after creating something resembling a friendly bond). Once they know you're hooked (you like them, care about them, want to be in touch with them) - they turn the switch off, and become cold, distant and "busy". Yeah, that's narcissistic. I am sad, because I thought I finally met a person I really wanted to befriend.Well, her loss. I can confirm that my relation with this person ended exactly for the reasons mentioned by RC Blakes. All of them.
RC BLAKESSSSS you don’t know how much you’ve helped me. It’s been almost a month now that I left my child’s dad after 8 years of narcissism, manipulation & cheating I thought my world was ending and I was operating out of fear of leaving once u said choose your pain and there was POWER in the women walking away I paused the video and immediately packed my bags left everything behind I didn’t even have two nickels to rub together and god has been blessing me left from right and everything I thought I lost god has given back to me 10X better thank you and you are greatly appreciated for your videos!
Wow! I have a narcissist man who I share a 16 month old daughter with. We recently broke up in September. He said we are not longer together because I moved out of our bedroom in September because he called me a Hoee and said that no man will ever love me and I’m only good for sex. I stayed in that room for almost a month before he addressed the situation, and his response to everything is “well I have no access to you so I’ll help you move if that’s what you’re going to do.” Mind you prior to this I’ve been going through constantly verbal abuse from him and him complaining about paying the mortgage (I pay the utilities.) we used to alternate paying the mortgage but since I had the baby and went back to work I wasn’t able to afford to do so. He even said he hates paying for me when we go out to eat and he’s the one who initiates going out to eat. I’ve been financially struggling for a year and he has made me feel unprotected, uncovered and unprovided for. Although I helped him get the home we share, which he publicly doesn’t give me credit for, I know I just need to leave the house behind and start a healthy life for my daughter and I.
You have to leave. Your life is in jeopardy. My ex narc husband tried to kill me. It only gets worse. In addition, you need to repent to the Lord for premarital sex. You need to break soul ties. RC addresses that in his videos.
It hurts so much. I can relate to all of what you said. I don’t wanna let him go but now I’m doing all the chasing all the sacrifices and I’m hurting so much. Please pray for me to help me heal. I need God so much right now. Three years gone to waste.
@sunshineyang89 - let go EVEN if it breaks your heart at first. You will get used to it, the pain of separation will wane and your self love and self esteem will skyrocket. Honey, if you stay you will be a shadow of yourself and STILL waste more years... But people'listen to this message, go about their lives without doing anything and they forget or out is aside and another 3yrs go by. Asking for prayers is not what you need. Though we will pray. What You need is to take ACTION.
Let go or you will find yourself still there another 5 yrs. So 8 wasted yrs. You hv to understand that men wont go until you let go-- many men will stay in toxic relationships just cos of sex and other benefits they get from you while you do all d work. They stick around till they find a replacement. He is not God so you will be fine without him. He is just a mere mortal
Nothing is wasted. I'm in the same situation, been with a guy 3yrs and giving him my love, support, encouragement etc.. I told him just yesterday I can't go on like this and I'm ready to walk with God.. asked him if was ready to take the walk with me and give me what I needed as a man after 3yrs.. He said No and God said Go!! But I'll take what I learned during these 3yrs and apply to my next relationship (Which will lead to Marriage!!) How to be more feminine, patience, how to let a good man lead etc.. I'm ready for my journey with the Most High and he will send our husband!!
@thelovelylife7451If you chase then he is not your man to begin with. A man chases his woman If he really genuinly loves her. He is toxic probably. If he is not making your life easier, run. The faster he is gone the more time you have saved. But be prepared for heartbreak and some pain. Do it when you are fed up. It will give you the push.
Today is the 1st night, I moved out & is appreciating the peace & quietness ☺️☺️☺️ i’m doing it all for my Heavenly Father I have to fulfill his assignment for me now❤❤❤
I'm in the exact same place. Had a convo with a man I've been seeing for over 3yrs yesterday. Told him I couldn't do things the way we've been doing things moving forward. Asked him if he can give me what I need (which I don't ask for much more affection, and time) after 3yrs that's pretty cheap. He said No! I prayed beforehand and got the clearest sign ever b4 hand. After he said No.. that solidified EVERYTHING! Today my journey begins. Told him I'm ready to live fir The Most High and start doing things His way.. he said he wasn't ready. So God said GO
#3 is really #1 for me. When your desire to be with or serve another person leads you to break covenant with God, it's a clear sign that this is not a relationship sent from God. That will lead you to feeling that love/hate toxicity from #4.
Choose the HURT!!! Choose your PAIN!!! and cut the soul tie!!! Wasted 2 years and been no contact for 3 months now "blocked" as they continually try to call...everyday gets easier and easier 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thanks Pastor Blakes as your video's have been providing me the guidance and the therapy that I need. God Bless and feel better🤗
The Holy Spirit talked to me the day before my marriage again. I didn't listen, i felt something i never felt so horrible but i said it was something else, after all the mess and the traumatic marriage i went through and now going through a divorce i understand it was the holy spirit trying to save me from this nitemare. I am grateful that, after all, God has been so mercyful that he kept me and literally saved my life. He has given me another chance that i dont deserve. God is so good. i am only here because of God's mercy .
I needed this. Many of us have no real-life guidance, and bothering loved ones with this type of stuff can cause you to feel like a burden on your loved ones. Thank you.
I’ve recently decided to grow an intimate relationship with God🙏🏽…He has been my strength to Endure the pain…I’m forever grateful…Ten month’s obedient 🙏🏽🤗
I can't wait to listen! This is so confirmation that I have to let this person and things go. I'm not bringing the same energy into the new year. Sorry, not sorry🙅🏾♀️
Every single point hit home. I am glad i found the strength to leave. It was very painful but im stronger now than before. My spirit knew, but i chose to ignore. Never again will i ignore my intuition
I just found out the man i like has a fiance!! He gave me all the signs of being interested..i was like finally a man who believes in god is showing interest. Moving on. I dont think its normal to seek attention from someone when you are in a relationship , maybe it is dont have enough experience. A good man will come my way :)
@@tarao4382I saw him at the gym , I started showing signs to show him I'm interested, had a conversation and he never moved towards me but he keeps looking at me and get jealous when other men talk to me so in general I don't think he Is doing anything wrong , he thinks I'm beautifull so he likes the attention but tonight I saw him again and he keeps staring and workout next to me haha strange anyway I know he has a fiance he does not know 😂 Ps.. I want to ad one more thing, I truly believe if a ma is happy with his wife or fiance he will not seek attention from other women, that to me is wrong on many levels.
Some men just like the attention and ego stroke. It's a very selfish & manipulative thing. I thought I was marrying 4 years ago. The man was saying he loved me. Wanted marriage. Wanted JESUS. He had a girlfriend the whole time. He was a lying witch. Thank the Lord I didn't get in a sexual relationship with him. Lesson learned? Listen to your gut, intuition. Even your body will alert you.
I went through most of these stages ,then i made up my mind to just walk away from this person that wasn't even worth it. It was the best decision I ever made. I am finally madly in love with my self....Its such a good place to be.
I’ve been guilty of some these toxic behaviors and been the victim. What really struck a chord with me was the sign that if you love and hate someone at the same time. I’ve been in this situation ship for years and the feelings of hate and resentment keep growing. I don’t want to be a bitter old lady and that’s where I’m headed if I don’t let this man go. Thank you Pastor! Merry Christmas to you and Lisa!
I cried the whole time and I'm at work 😭😭. I had to sit in my truck 😮. YOU HIT ALL POINTS THAT I'M IN NOW I UNDERSTAND I HAVE TO LET IT GO‼️‼️ NEW YEAR, NEW ME I DON'T WANT TO BECOME NO ONE SLAVE🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I'M A 56 YEAR OLD WOMAN AND HE'S 44 FROM NORFOLK,VA ( THANK YOU) JANUARY 5, 2024.
Not judging, but as a woman, I’ve never trusted nor felt comfortable dating anyone more than 5 years younger. It usually never works out, being that most guys that are way younger than the woman have an agenda. It’s for help, not love. Good luck Sis.
I struggle with this, but I never let him see me sweat. I stand firm and act unbothered. No chasing. Crying. Whining. I focus on taking care of myself and making money. This reaffirms that I was totally right to choose me over and over again even when it hurt. Thank you for endorsing common sense for women.,
“You cannot make an adjustment between a person’s ears”-Bishop RC Blakes This statement alone was so Freeing, thank you kindly Sir. Blessings to you and Lady Lisa.
I had to let go of few people they didn’t respect me and used me. One try to manipulate me back into their life. Some people can’t accept the new you. I told him we don’t have no connection and I can’t trust you. I told him I’m not same naive person that you know. Some people want relationships but good relationships pose to be reciprocal including family. I reached out but u don’t reach out to me in months that meant you don’t want to be bother no one is that busy esp when most people have their phone with them. You can click on hand to say hi.
AMEN Bishop Blakes!! It is very important to "audit the relationship" and see if the other person is an asset or liability. I did that almost 10 years ago and I had to let that liability go because I couldn't afford to become emotionally, spiritually, or mentally bankrupt trying to want more for someone than they want for themself. Thank you and Lady Lisa for your rich and timeless teaching.
Why do i feel so bad that i ended it tho.. Not for me but for him. He's still battling scars from his divorce almist 6yrs ago, which he admitted. Told me he didn't want to get married again and ghosted me for a month after i broke down after we argued about something stupid. In that argument i told him i deserve better because he was very loud and disrespectful. I took him back after the month in which he blocked me for that month smh. Got back together 2 1/2 months ago and i told him just yesterday about how im ready to walk with God and do things different moving forward.. asked him if he can give me what i needed and he said No.. after 3yrs. I was willing to put my joy of becoming a wife on the back burner to be with him. I ended things yesterday and i feel bad that i hurt him but i can't continue on thus way.
6 Signs To Let Them Go *1 When you desire to love them beyond their comfort level Proverbs 23:7 " Come on and have some more he says but he doesn't mean it .What he thinks what he really is" * 2 When you are sacrificing everything with no return every viable relationship can stand to be audited there should be more assets than liability Philippians 2:4 * 3When you check yourself and realize u are off track *4 When you experience part of you wanting them and detesting them at the same time James 1: 8 Double minded man is Undecided *5The Person makes you chase them Ref Mathew 10 ,11-14 6 When you know the spirit of God is Saying No
This was so powerful for me! I finally completely left my toxic relationship a month ago. So much of these points were true for me, but I needed to hear it. On to bigger and better things, by myself and with God. 🥰
The fourth sign really spoke to me. Recently let that person go (by going no contact). It is painful, but also a relief. Thank you for everything you do
I’m so embarrass to admit this I’ve checked 5 out of 6, I’m currently going through Hell I mean everything he’s saying I’m truly going through and it’s hurting me, I have to get off this emotional roller coaster
Wow.. I'm married, and I can totally relate to #4. I try not to say hate but he has broken me and I want to leave but I live in fear. Not sure why because he doesn't add to my life in any way. Given him 30 years of my life waiting for change, but the change is not what was expected. It's not about infidelity, it's so much more. When I'm away from him I feel free, when I'm around him, I feel heavy. He's become so "spiritual" that I can't relate to him and we are unequally yoked. Not to mention he has undiagnosed schizophrenia and won't go for an evaluation because he feels like he is normal. So I've been abused, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially, and I'm tired. I'm asking for prayer for strength and courage to do what's best for me to find my peace Thank you
Oh my God… this hit me. I really and truly pray that you get out of that feeling. It’s literally the worst place to be at. That feeling is horrible. And there’s nothing wrong with h for feeling what you’re feeling. Try to not neglect your feelings. It’s the only way
I’m struggling with leaving for good. I’ve been with him for three years and went through it all DV, cheating, lying, emotional abuse. It’s the cognitive dissonance of wanting him and hating him. I know god does not want me to be with this person. He has broken me. I have to chose my pain.
I'm now fully awaken from your preaching Bishop RC Blakes of not loving a person who never reciprocates with the love I give. God bless you Bishop Blakes and your family. Happy holidays🎉🎉
Thank you 🙏🏻 I am not religious and this is the first time I am asking for help ❤ I am listening to your words every day and I’m learning a lot. Please continue what you do ❤
1. they cant receive the level of love you wanna give 2. you give but receive not 3. distances you from your purpose and destiny 4. you wanna cleave but you hate or detest who they represent 5. when they make you chase them 6. you can sense that you are unequally yoked
I let go of a marriage that was toxic and abusive husband is a narcissist i take accountability for getting involved and ignoring the red flags unequally yoked Lord Jesus forgive me😑 🙏🏾.
He is speaking nothing but the truth. I love this message truly the best of his one of many best messages frfr❤!!! Thank you, Pastor RC Blake's and first lady Lisa ❤
I really want to say Thank you. You have validated SO much for me. It truly is a Blessing to come across this channel. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Jesus. Amen. Blessings to You and Yours.
He Ghosted me my Birthday weekend 😮 and show and say, I am here now and this message was for me to Let go and Let God 😊❤Tough women let go of anything that no longer serves them ❤
This was one Message i been living and needed to hear! 😢 I am not with this man anymore, but my questions stayed on my mind but now they have all been answered!😇
I took your advice and I cut ALL tides with this person on social media as well as block him on the phone. I’m not looking or turning back. Now, I will pray and ask God to help me move on for what He has always had in stored for me from the start before ALL my mess ups . Thank you Mr. Blakes !!!
I praise God for you and your teachings, For this is the will of God in all that you teach in this series. May the Lord continue to give u his knowledge and wisdom.❤️🙏🙏
Amen! I have to let someone go that keeps making up reasons that i am the problem. I have done nothing to this man but tried to love this man. He wants me gone, its time for me to go. He has been tearing me down for a while now and then hides behind other things and says he loves me. I love him but he just doesn't love me. Its time for me to give him something i wont give myself until now: i need to walk away and be at peace. I need to let him go so he can have this life he wants without me....
WORD. All relationships can be based on these signs. A relationship of any type needs reciprocity. In the non Christian realm there is always much talk about unconditional love , that you have to give and give and give. There's nothing wrong with having expectations about the others behaviour in terms of treatment,it's not always an equal playing field but it is never without the other person giving back with love and care. Then boundaries are just as important letting the other person that you have a relationship with, that you'll give them one chance if they muck up but only the one , no one should be the whipping post for someone to beat on spiritually,emotional,verbally and physically. Wishing Pastor Blakes,your family and this loving tribe here a joyful Christmas and a happy NY!
Listening to number one: it sounds like she wasn’t attracted to him and was letting him down nicely. This is great advice. Either way, it must be mutual / equally yoked.
I am Soo thankful to God for you Pastor.Ive followed you over 6 years and you are the only one I can count on to teach the Word Correctly. It's sad what's going on in some of these big churches 😔
Oh wow, you hit it!! You have 3’s desiring to love 10s or 8s excepting 4s based on societal norms. Nick- picking based on unrealistic expectations. Not excepting the person for who they are or where they are in life at the present time-misjudging them or demanding they be or become the desired. All the time becoming more bitter/ angry ( for some individuals), and unfulfilled. Just insane.
Good early morning Bishop R.C a time of Thanksgiving in praising our Almight. God is truly awesome. He's never let me down. The gratitude of His strength to walk away, and the courage to stand firm in my responsibility as His child. Thank God for sustaining us in mercy. Guarding us from self destruction . Although, I'm not in any physical relationship, but I thought about it and it was a struggle. I love who I am and I'm especially overwhelmed with the love God has for me. I'm grateful to have received this extraordinary blessing . God is always working on our behalf. His timing is everything . In Jesus name, I'm following peace. Blessings unto you Bishop. Amen
And that's what the Bible says. But when a man is toxic and God tells you once to leave. Than Go!!! God told me 3 times and l.finally left and l was dealing with a sickness at the time and people kept telling me you need to keep him because of the children.
Bishop I thank God for you!! You have such wisdom and grace when your speaking it hits straight to the heart of a person ! This was definitely what I needed better the end of a thing than the beginning!! Finishing strong 💪🏾 this year!
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RCBlake I have a question linking from this conversation..what if it your family members..what to do then?
@@zandy122 As harsh as it sounds sometimes it’s necessary. However this should not be taken lightly much prayer and thought.
Signs:
1. When you desire to love them beyond their comfort level.
2. The relationship brings more withdrawals than deposits. You are driving this entire relationship and this person is not participating. Audit the relationship: what is being subtracted from me and what is being deposited into me?
3. When you check in with yourself you realise you are completed off-track regarding your purpose and personal journey.
4. When you experience wanting them and detesting them at the same time. You want them and you don't want them. Cognitive dissonance.
5. When the person makes you chase them.
6. When you know, you can sense, that this person isn't right for you.
Thank you for taking the time to jot this down and share with us. Be 🙌 blessed
Thank you so much for writing these out for us ❤
Thank you so much for jotting these down 🙏🏻
I had to say good bye to a person I hoped to become my best friend. At some point I realized that this lady, who was initially very nice and friendly, created a dynamics of power play, in which she wanted to be chased, just to reject my efforts later on.
We often connect "playing hard to get" with romantic relationships, but there are plenty of people, who attempt to cure their inferiority complex by being ostentatiously unavailable to their friends or relatives (but only after creating something resembling a friendly bond). Once they know you're hooked (you like them, care about them, want to be in touch with them) - they turn the switch off, and become cold, distant and "busy". Yeah, that's narcissistic.
I am sad, because I thought I finally met a person I really wanted to befriend.Well, her loss.
I can confirm that my relation with this person ended exactly for the reasons mentioned by RC Blakes. All of them.
Thank you for that recap I thought I missed one❤❤
RC BLAKESSSSS you don’t know how much you’ve helped me. It’s been almost a month now that I left my child’s dad after 8 years of narcissism, manipulation & cheating I thought my world was ending and I was operating out of fear of leaving once u said choose your pain and there was POWER in the women walking away I paused the video and immediately packed my bags left everything behind I didn’t even have two nickels to rub together and god has been blessing me left from right and everything I thought I lost god has given back to me 10X better thank you and you are greatly appreciated for your videos!
Wow I feel you girl
I am proud of you! You are an inspiration to all. Stay blessed. Stay with Father God. ❤️
Always CAPITALIZE God and Jesus out of respect. 🙏🏿🙌🏿🕊️
@@jillwilliams7554 💗💗💗 Thank you so much!
Wow! I have a narcissist man who I share a 16 month old daughter with. We recently broke up in September. He said we are not longer together because I moved out of our bedroom in September because he called me a Hoee and said that no man will ever love me and I’m only good for sex. I stayed in that room for almost a month before he addressed the situation, and his response to everything is “well I have no access to you so I’ll help you move if that’s what you’re going to do.” Mind you prior to this I’ve been going through constantly verbal abuse from him and him complaining about paying the mortgage (I pay the utilities.) we used to alternate paying the mortgage but since I had the baby and went back to work I wasn’t able to afford to do so. He even said he hates paying for me when we go out to eat and he’s the one who initiates going out to eat. I’ve been financially struggling for a year and he has made me feel unprotected, uncovered and unprovided for. Although I helped him get the home we share, which he publicly doesn’t give me credit for, I know I just need to leave the house behind and start a healthy life for my daughter and I.
You have to leave. Your life is in jeopardy. My ex narc husband tried to kill me. It only gets worse. In addition, you need to repent to the Lord for premarital sex. You need to break soul ties. RC addresses that in his videos.
When they bring nothing, I mean nothing I mean " NO THING" it's time to let it go. THAT PART
I have realised yesterday we don’t miss a specific person. We miss the feeling which we have/had with this person.
It hurts so much. I can relate to all of what you said. I don’t wanna let him go but now I’m doing all the chasing all the sacrifices and I’m hurting so much. Please pray for me to help me heal. I need God so much right now. Three years gone to waste.
@sunshineyang89 - let go EVEN if it breaks your heart at first. You will get used to it, the pain of separation will wane and your self love and self esteem will skyrocket. Honey, if you stay you will be a shadow of yourself and STILL waste more years... But people'listen to this message, go about their lives without doing anything and they forget or out is aside and another 3yrs go by. Asking for prayers is not what you need. Though we will pray. What You need is to take ACTION.
Let go or you will find yourself still there another 5 yrs. So 8 wasted yrs. You hv to understand that men wont go until you let go-- many men will stay in toxic relationships just cos of sex and other benefits they get from you while you do all d work. They stick around till they find a replacement. He is not God so you will be fine without him. He is just a mere mortal
Nothing is wasted. I'm in the same situation, been with a guy 3yrs and giving him my love, support, encouragement etc.. I told him just yesterday I can't go on like this and I'm ready to walk with God.. asked him if was ready to take the walk with me and give me what I needed as a man after 3yrs.. He said No and God said Go!! But I'll take what I learned during these 3yrs and apply to my next relationship (Which will lead to Marriage!!) How to be more feminine, patience, how to let a good man lead etc.. I'm ready for my journey with the Most High and he will send our husband!!
This stems from childhood wounds that the Lord wants to heal. He will do it when you ask. Pray to find purpose. I'm praying for you.
@thelovelylife7451If you chase then he is not your man to begin with. A man chases his woman If he really genuinly loves her. He is toxic probably. If he is not making your life easier, run. The faster he is gone the more time you have saved. But be prepared for heartbreak and some pain. Do it when you are fed up. It will give you the push.
Hurting your way out of it - is way better than spending years and time still in it. Let it go!!
A.M.E.N🙏🏽
Love this.
It’s challenging to let some relationships go but it’s for your own sake. Some people come to interrupt your destiny.
Today is the 1st night, I moved out & is appreciating the peace & quietness ☺️☺️☺️ i’m doing it all for my Heavenly Father I have to fulfill his assignment for me now❤❤❤
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I'm in the exact same place. Had a convo with a man I've been seeing for over 3yrs yesterday. Told him I couldn't do things the way we've been doing things moving forward. Asked him if he can give me what I need (which I don't ask for much more affection, and time) after 3yrs that's pretty cheap. He said No! I prayed beforehand and got the clearest sign ever b4 hand. After he said No.. that solidified EVERYTHING! Today my journey begins. Told him I'm ready to live fir The Most High and start doing things His way.. he said he wasn't ready. So God said GO
This is my story!...we got this!
#3 is really #1 for me. When your desire to be with or serve another person leads you to break covenant with God, it's a clear sign that this is not a relationship sent from God. That will lead you to feeling that love/hate toxicity from #4.
Choose the HURT!!! Choose your PAIN!!! and cut the soul tie!!! Wasted 2 years and been no contact for 3 months now "blocked" as they continually try to call...everyday gets easier and easier 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thanks Pastor Blakes as your video's have been providing me the guidance and the therapy that I need. God Bless and feel better🤗
The Holy Spirit talked to me the day before my marriage again. I didn't listen, i felt something i never felt so horrible but i said it was something else, after all the mess and the traumatic marriage i went through and now going through a divorce i understand it was the holy spirit trying to save me from this nitemare. I am grateful that, after all, God has been so mercyful that he kept me and literally saved my life. He has given me another chance that i dont deserve. God is so good. i am only here because of God's mercy .
Praise YAH!!!
I like every message from Bishop RC Blakes Jr. His messages are always on point and true. Amen and Amen 🙏🏽
Bishop is the BEST
HE IS SO CONCERN ABOUT US.
And Amen again. ✝️
Frfr. Yes!!
I needed this. Many of us have no real-life guidance, and bothering loved ones with this type of stuff can cause you to feel like a burden on your loved ones. Thank you.
Yes so this is so true
Tell me about it. Heard my mom on the phone, telling someone that "she's just gonna have to learn how I did..." 😮👀😮💨 How cold and distant.
@@sunshinesunflowerz1647sometimes that's all tbey can say cuz we do not listen we just be so in love 🙄😔
I’ve recently decided to grow an intimate relationship with God🙏🏽…He has been my strength to Endure the pain…I’m forever grateful…Ten month’s obedient 🙏🏽🤗
I can't wait to listen! This is so confirmation that I have to let this person and things go. I'm not bringing the same energy into the new year. Sorry, not sorry🙅🏾♀️
ME TOO
AMEN AMEN AMEN, I just said that, Too🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@trulysensitive5620ME #3🎉
To let go of a useless person is not a loss, but a gain
Me too! ❤🤞🏽🙏🏾
Every single point hit home. I am glad i found the strength to leave. It was very painful but im stronger now than before. My spirit knew, but i chose to ignore. Never again will i ignore my intuition
My #1 sign that it is time to let a person go is the title of your video!
I just found out the man i like has a fiance!! He gave me all the signs of being interested..i was like finally a man who believes in god is showing interest. Moving on.
I dont think its normal to seek attention from someone when you are in a relationship , maybe it is dont have enough experience. A good man will come my way :)
Absolutely! I believe people come on our life to teach us a lesson. Sorry, how did you find out? How did you meet him? Sorry for the questions.
@@tarao4382I saw him at the gym , I started showing signs to show him I'm interested, had a conversation and he never moved towards me but he keeps looking at me and get jealous when other men talk to me so in general I don't think he Is doing anything wrong , he thinks I'm beautifull so he likes the attention but tonight I saw him again and he keeps staring and workout next to me haha strange anyway I know he has a fiance he does not know 😂
Ps.. I want to ad one more thing, I truly believe if a ma is happy with his wife or fiance he will not seek attention from other women, that to me is wrong on many levels.
Some men just like the attention and ego stroke. It's a very selfish & manipulative thing. I thought I was marrying 4 years ago. The man was saying he loved me. Wanted marriage. Wanted JESUS. He had a girlfriend the whole time. He was a lying witch. Thank the Lord I didn't get in a sexual relationship with him. Lesson learned? Listen to your gut, intuition. Even your body will alert you.
Just take your time
Take care of self always.
I went through most of these stages ,then i made up my mind to just walk away from this person that wasn't even worth it. It was the best decision I ever made. I am finally madly in love with my self....Its such a good place to be.
"Choose your pain!"💯 This was an awesome word! 🙌🏾 Thank you Bishop Blakes! 🙏🏾
My prayer and focus has been on not taking another thing into a new year that’s not God ordained or God approved🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’ve been guilty of some these toxic behaviors and been the victim. What really struck a chord with me was the sign that if you love and hate someone at the same time. I’ve been in this situation ship for years and the feelings of hate and resentment keep growing. I don’t want to be a bitter old lady and that’s where I’m headed if I don’t let this man go. Thank you Pastor! Merry Christmas to you and Lisa!
Amen. Gives us the strength and courage to LET GO!
Timely word. The Lord knows what we need and when we need it 🙏 ❤
very true
Right after he told me on last night. He knows what I deserve, but can’t give it to me right now…. Right on time as always Bishop. 🙌🏽❤
At least he told you. Dismantle soul ties and pursue the Lord.
I cried the whole time and I'm at work 😭😭. I had to sit in my truck 😮. YOU HIT ALL POINTS THAT I'M IN NOW I UNDERSTAND I HAVE TO LET IT GO‼️‼️ NEW YEAR, NEW ME I DON'T WANT TO BECOME NO ONE SLAVE🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I'M A 56 YEAR OLD WOMAN AND HE'S 44 FROM NORFOLK,VA ( THANK YOU) JANUARY 5, 2024.
Not judging, but as a woman, I’ve never trusted nor felt comfortable dating anyone more than 5 years younger. It usually never works out, being that most guys that are way younger than the woman have an agenda. It’s for help, not love. Good luck Sis.
Amen you got to let them even if it includes your family. Abraham did it and he was blessed with a new family. Hallelujah
AMEN
"You can not make adjustments between another person's ears". ❤️🙏🏼✝️ Absolute truth.
I struggle with this, but I never let him see me sweat. I stand firm and act unbothered. No chasing. Crying. Whining. I focus on taking care of myself and making money. This reaffirms that I was totally right to choose me over and over again even when it hurt. Thank you for endorsing common sense for women.,
“You cannot make an adjustment between a person’s ears”-Bishop RC Blakes
This statement alone was so Freeing, thank you kindly Sir. Blessings to you and Lady Lisa.
I had to let go of few people they didn’t respect me and used me. One try to manipulate me back into their life. Some people can’t accept the new you. I told him we don’t have no connection and I can’t trust you. I told him I’m not same naive person that you know.
Some people want relationships but good relationships pose to be reciprocal including family. I reached out but u don’t reach out to me in months that meant you don’t want to be bother no one is that busy esp when most people have their phone with them. You can click on hand to say hi.
AMEN Bishop Blakes!! It is very important to "audit the relationship" and see if the other person is an asset or liability. I did that almost 10 years ago and I had to let that liability go because I couldn't afford to become emotionally, spiritually, or mentally bankrupt trying to want more for someone than they want for themself. Thank you and Lady Lisa for your rich and timeless teaching.
Why do i feel so bad that i ended it tho.. Not for me but for him. He's still battling scars from his divorce almist 6yrs ago, which he admitted. Told me he didn't want to get married again and ghosted me for a month after i broke down after we argued about something stupid. In that argument i told him i deserve better because he was very loud and disrespectful. I took him back after the month in which he blocked me for that month smh. Got back together 2 1/2 months ago and i told him just yesterday about how im ready to walk with God and do things different moving forward.. asked him if he can give me what i needed and he said No.. after 3yrs. I was willing to put my joy of becoming a wife on the back burner to be with him. I ended things yesterday and i feel bad that i hurt him but i can't continue on thus way.
6 Signs To Let Them Go
*1 When you desire to love them beyond their comfort level
Proverbs 23:7 " Come on and have some more he says but he doesn't mean it .What he thinks what he really is"
* 2 When you are sacrificing everything with no return
every viable relationship can stand to be audited
there should be more assets than liability
Philippians 2:4
* 3When you check yourself and realize u are off track
*4 When you experience part of you wanting them and detesting them at the same time
James 1: 8 Double minded man is Undecided
*5The Person makes you chase them
Ref Mathew 10 ,11-14
6 When you know the spirit of God is Saying No
This was so powerful for me! I finally completely left my toxic relationship a month ago. So much of these points were true for me, but I needed to hear it. On to bigger and better things, by myself and with God. 🥰
I'm a living witness that Holy Spirit will speak to your heart to protect you from yourself and others. He's a keeper!
dude i cant even listen to this i cant stop crying
The part about double-mindedness hit me right in the chest. 100% on point.
The fourth sign really spoke to me. Recently let that person go (by going no contact). It is painful, but also a relief. Thank you for everything you do
I’m so embarrass to admit this I’ve checked 5 out of 6, I’m currently going through Hell I mean everything he’s saying I’m truly going through and it’s hurting me, I have to get off this emotional roller coaster
MY GOD this was my confirmation message for letting go! My soul & spirit is now FREE!! 🔥🙏🏼💃🏼
Thank you for helping me to heal from a toxic relationship.
Words straight from the Father come through you!!! Thank you and Lisa for being examples and transparent for our benefit. God bless you both!!!
Wow.. I'm married, and I can totally relate to #4. I try not to say hate but he has broken me and I want to leave but I live in fear. Not sure why because he doesn't add to my life in any way. Given him 30 years of my life waiting for change, but the change is not what was expected. It's not about infidelity, it's so much more. When I'm away from him I feel free, when I'm around him, I feel heavy. He's become so "spiritual" that I can't relate to him and we are unequally yoked. Not to mention he has undiagnosed schizophrenia and won't go for an evaluation because he feels like he is normal. So I've been abused, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially, and I'm tired. I'm asking for prayer for strength and courage to do what's best for me to find my peace
Thank you
Praying for you sister, may God be with you as you navigate your exit.❤
Oh my God… this hit me. I really and truly pray that you get out of that feeling. It’s literally the worst place to be at. That feeling is horrible. And there’s nothing wrong with h for feeling what you’re feeling. Try to not neglect your feelings. It’s the only way
Bishop Blakes, your lectures keep me on track. Thank you for what you do for women around the globe.
I can't wait to hear this segment! I value my peace, and I know my worth! 🙌🏾 👏🏽 ❤️ 🙌🏾 👏🏽 ❤️
AMEN AMEN AMEN, Sister, Me 2🎉
Yes yes SIS. I VALUE MY PEACE SPACE AND WORTH...HALLELUJAH IT TOOK A LONG MINUTE BUT GOD DID IT AS HE USED BISHOP R C BLAKES❤❤😊😅
Amen
@@RobetteRodgers-dq2vl AMEN AMEN,,Sister, Me 2❤️
I’m struggling with leaving for good. I’ve been with him for three years and went through it all DV, cheating, lying, emotional abuse. It’s the cognitive dissonance of wanting him and hating him. I know god does not want me to be with this person. He has broken me. I have to chose my pain.
3 years is too long. Your very life is in jeopardy. Your in dangerous terrain. My ex narc husband tried to kill me. No joke.
Love it, you can not make adjustments between another person’s ears, Amen! Pray pray pray and move on!
Merger of mindset ideas values and a shared future
So glad I don’t get attached and lose myself
You have a superpower sis because I was in a relationship once and when the break up happened I nearly Lost my mind.
I'm now fully awaken from your preaching Bishop RC Blakes of not loving a person who never reciprocates with the love I give. God bless you Bishop Blakes and your family. Happy holidays🎉🎉
I'm glad you specified authentic love. A lot of people with low self esteem are really obsessed about the person they think they love.
Thank you for the message. I never needed to hear this more than now. May we keep each other’s family in prayers. Thank you again!!!!!
Thank you 🙏🏻 I am not religious and this is the first time I am asking for help ❤ I am listening to your words every day and I’m learning a lot. Please continue what you do ❤
Pastor Blakes speaks to everyone with love,concern and compassion. Keep listening.
I'm hurting myself out of that kind of relationship.keep me in prayer I chose my pain😢 but I can see its worth it thank you again Bishop RC Blakes
1. they cant receive the level of love you wanna give
2. you give but receive not
3. distances you from your purpose and destiny
4. you wanna cleave but you hate or detest who they represent
5. when they make you chase them
6. you can sense that you are unequally yoked
Thank you so much Bishop for sharing all your wisdom and knowledge with us. God bless you and your beautiful family❤️❤️
I let go of a marriage that was toxic and abusive husband is a narcissist i take accountability for getting involved and ignoring the red flags unequally yoked Lord Jesus forgive me😑 🙏🏾.
Sacrificing with no return
He is speaking nothing but the truth. I love this message truly the best of his one of many best messages frfr❤!!! Thank you, Pastor RC Blake's and first lady Lisa ❤
I really want to say Thank you. You have validated SO much for me. It truly is a Blessing to come across this channel. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Jesus. Amen. Blessings to You and Yours.
Iam back on track thank you Jesus Christ Amen
He Ghosted me my Birthday weekend 😮 and show and say, I am here now and this message was for me to Let go and Let God 😊❤Tough women let go of anything that no longer serves them ❤
Iam going to watch it anyway , I have let everyone go already, ain't nobody left 😂😂😂😂😂. He always brings a good message
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Working on this too!!!
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Lord knows I need this before 2024
This was one Message i been living and needed to hear! 😢 I am not with this man anymore, but my questions stayed on my mind but now they have all been answered!😇
Powerful Powerful Powerful Powerful!
I took your advice and I cut ALL tides with this person on social media as well as block him on the phone. I’m not looking or turning back. Now, I will pray and ask God to help me move on for what He has always had in stored for me from the start before ALL my mess ups .
Thank you Mr. Blakes !!!
An on time WORD!!! I let him go on Sat for many of the reasons given. Thank you Lord for giving me the strength to do so!!!
Thank you! So valuable. When to know it’s not it, not chasing, & letting them go!🙏🏻 May we listen to Holy Spirit guidance
I praise God for you and your teachings, For this is the will of God in all that you teach in this series. May the Lord continue to give u his knowledge and wisdom.❤️🙏🙏
Amen! I have to let someone go that keeps making up reasons that i am the problem. I have done nothing to this man but tried to love this man. He wants me gone, its time for me to go. He has been tearing me down for a while now and then hides behind other things and says he loves me. I love him but he just doesn't love me. Its time for me to give him something i wont give myself until now: i need to walk away and be at peace. I need to let him go so he can have this life he wants without me....
I’m praying for you sister, that God allows you the strength to walk away and make a path for your escape. ❤
'We're not meant to fix everything which breaks'...
Confirmation. All I will say is "Yes Lord, Amen".
Thank you for giving and not feeling well. Make some tea with fresh ginger root, lemon and honey. Bless you!
You never cease to amaze me RC! Such wisdom! Truth be told. 🕊️✝️
WORD. All relationships can be based on these signs. A relationship of any type needs reciprocity. In the non Christian realm there is always much talk about unconditional love , that you have to give and give and give. There's nothing wrong with having expectations about the others behaviour in terms of treatment,it's not always an equal playing field but it is never without the other person giving back with love and care. Then boundaries are just as important letting the other person that you have a relationship with, that you'll give them one chance if they muck up but only the one , no one should be the whipping post for someone to beat on spiritually,emotional,verbally and physically. Wishing Pastor Blakes,your family and this loving tribe here a joyful Christmas and a happy NY!
Listening to number one: it sounds like she wasn’t attracted to him and was letting him down nicely. This is great advice. Either way, it must be mutual / equally yoked.
I am Soo thankful to God for you Pastor.Ive followed you over 6 years and you are the only one I can count on to teach the Word Correctly. It's sad what's going on in some of these big churches 😔
I just let go a person who shows me over and over that I mean nothing to her. For most people, this person in there lives mean everything. 💔
Number 6 was very necessary. Thank you for this episode R.C. Feel better.
Soo true.
I felt it when you said loving someone beyond what they are used to or how they love themselves is like Casting your pearls to Swine 😢
Your preachings are eye opening Bishop Blakes. Thank you for instilling such wisdom on us
I know i neeeed this one🙏🏽
Oh wow, you hit it!! You have 3’s desiring to love 10s or 8s excepting 4s based on societal norms. Nick- picking based on unrealistic expectations. Not excepting the person for who they are or where they are in life at the present time-misjudging them or demanding they be or become the desired. All the time becoming more bitter/ angry ( for some individuals), and unfulfilled. Just insane.
I can relate to this. I had gone so far praying 🙏 to find my way out. Thank you for your teaching. it's always a blessing 🙌 🙏
Wow this advice is priceless . Thank you holy spirit for speaking 🙏🙏🙏🔥
I love myself therefore I cannot love anyone that doesn’t see my value and treat me badly.
Hello Pastor and people of the God from Memphis, Tennessee ❤
Good early morning Bishop R.C a time of Thanksgiving in praising our Almight. God is truly awesome. He's never let me down. The gratitude of His strength to walk away, and the courage to stand firm in my responsibility as His child. Thank God for sustaining us in mercy. Guarding us from self
destruction . Although, I'm not in any physical relationship, but I thought about it and it was a struggle. I love who I am and I'm especially overwhelmed with the love God has for me. I'm grateful to have received this extraordinary blessing . God is always working on our behalf. His timing is everything . In Jesus name, I'm following peace. Blessings unto you Bishop. Amen
Wow! Number 4 just open my eyes!!😢
Makes a lot of sense. I wish I knew this 30 years ago and onwards. I would have done things a lot differently.
And that's what the Bible says. But when a man is toxic and God tells you once to leave. Than Go!!! God told me 3 times and l.finally left and l was dealing with a sickness at the time and people kept telling me you need to keep him because of the children.
So true pastor ❤️ I refuse to lose myself yet again! God speed!
Bishop I thank God for you!! You have such wisdom and grace when your speaking it hits straight to the heart of a person ! This was definitely what I needed better the end of a thing than the beginning!! Finishing strong 💪🏾 this year!
Filling the purpose God of Heaven and earth has for my life. Amen i was blessed by this message
Thanks bless u all who are listening and taking serious warning to what the man of God of Heaven and earth is saying all true. Amen
Good evening First Lady and Bishop Blakes 🎉
I was doing the most. Always the one planning the dates and planning things for us to do.
Thank you for sacrificing yourself for us today and many other days. Please get well soon Paps.