Dakota has got some serious survivors guilt, and I can’t blame him. Early in the clip, he asked Jocko why he is losing his warrior mentality, I’ll do my best to answer that as clearly as possible. The reason why is because he feels guilty for being alive, plain and simple. He feels that he should be dead. Why would a person who thinks they should be dead fight anymore? It really is that simple. For him to heal there’s only one answer, moving past the deaths of his brothers. Obviously this is extremely hard, and even harder for a SF member because of the absolute and total importance of the team that is branded on our hearts, a bond so deeply instilled through months of training and years of brotherhood that letting it go becomes almost impossible. Keyword: “almost.” I pray Dakota finds the way through, whatever that may be, he deserves it. He has a uniquely difficult path to tread. He served more than most, paid more than was necessary, and he deserves to move past his team. Even if he wants to look at it like he’s at fault, that’s okay, he has still paid all his debts. He can apologize in the afterlife but until then, he survived, he is the last living remnant of his brothers. How he lives his life now as his team’s lone survivor is directly correlated to the memory of his team. His life is his team’s memory. On the off chance he ever reads this, I’m writing directly to you now Dakota, you are the last piece of your team, the only thing left of them in this life, whether you like it or not, you ARE them now. Whether or not your team’s memory lives on in strength, or lives on in weakness, that’s your sole power. So be strong, be a shining beacon, even if it’s just for their memory.
“Sometimes I think that the worst day of my life is someone else’s entertainment”. That quote from him says it all right there about what he had to go through. Couldn’t even fathom how hard that must’ve been. The fact he’s able to so eloquently express his thoughts about it years later is what is more telling and indicative to me of his strong character, not the fact that he was an absolute warrior on the battlefield. Despite losing his teammates and having to forever deal with that burden, I hope he knows how many people he’s inspired and the overall positive impact he’s had on people’s live, not only due to his actions in war, but because of how he dealt with the aftermath. A real role model, and I’m glad he’s still around to tell his story, because not many people in his shoes would have made it on the other side and/or actually be able to talk about it.
Jocko is a great host/interviewer. Other interviewers would feel pressured to fill in the empty spaces where Dakota is reflecting or asking rhetorical questions. The silences are more powerful than any words.
You can tell when he rambles and gets off topic how much of that still and will always affect him. Jocko does a great job of just listening and allowing his friend to just let it all out. What a powerful insight into someone else’s world even if it is just for a brief moment. Shows how powerful just listening can be ! Always support our troops & LEO!
Thank you for sharing this amazing story. My father and 5 of his 7 brothers served in WWII and Korea. One of his brothers was a KIA. None of them would every talk about the wars that took the innocence and laughter away. The price of war can’t be measured in today’s value system. My Dad including my Uncles served with honor and loyalty. 82nd Air Borne, 8th Air Force, And a variety of assignments within the branches of the military. My point is this, Soldiers carry these memories and unsettling thoughts right up to the grave. The way my father compartmentalized his experiences. Helped me to complete 29 years as a career firefighter. Thank You Dakota for your service 🇺🇸 you have my respect and a place at my table always. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I watched the first Dakota/Jocko podcast 3 times. No block of instruction, field manual or training could prepare anyone to go through what he did. The most compelling story I've ever heard. God bless those serving, those who served and those who gave all.
Man, I can't imagine the mental anguish Dakota goes through day in day out. War is hell, and the predicaments it can put you in dead or alive are tremendous. Hope he finds peace. Keep helping others, and please take care of yourself. You made a difference to many. Your an ass kicker just like all your bros. Can't imagine!! God speed
i am aware that I am sounding like any other asshole trying to feel good about them selves but feel genuine sorrow enough to almost make me cry. Dakota im sorry for your loss,of your friends and what you had to go through.
Great interview! As an army ranger I learned quickly that the most successful guys are calm and laid back. If its a calm environment. "Always fear the calmest man in the room". Goes in business aswell.
Hearing Dakota talk breaks my heart. Every person in America should hear this and remember that these men that answered their country's call are human.
Just because you are no longer in the battlefield you were accustomed to, does not mean that there isn't another one waiting for you somewhere. Life is a series of battles.
I was a navy corpsman that received the Navy Comm with V, and at the time when I received my medal I had a lot of these feelings, as an E-3 always talking to field grade officers and above and multiple ceremonies.. I can only imagine what it was like as a Medal of Honor recipient.. much respect
The Medal of Honor is not a medal given based on stats, it’s based on integrity and facing adversity in the presence of danger in which 99% of people will not do. You brother are the 1% and you deserve that medal hands down! Coming from a Navy Seabee who was out there twice!
Could not agree more. The fact my home town of Louisville attempted to talk shit on a subject they know nothing about and disparage his name is sickening to me.
There is also another way to look at it. While many choose not go half way around the world and invade someones homes he decided he needed to be a warrior and invade someone home.
I love how he recognizes his negative energy and translates into a productive force. Helping others really is the most important thing you can do. Being able to take negative circumstances and channel them into creating a positive is such an underrated and powerful skill. I'm trying everyday to do this, obviously on a smaller scale than warriors like them, but hearing dudes like Dakota and Jocko produce this energy keeps me going!
It's good to hear the real stories from the real people. I can't imaging the pain they go through, but it helps to hear their story. Hold your head high and with honor Marine; your brothers know the truth.
I find myself feeling like he does! I was a 20 yr firefighter/ paramedic........ ptsd brought me down. Never thought it would happen and I never dreamed my dept. wouldn’t back me.
@@blackhawkgilgamesh8228 That has never been confirmed. It is likely he said it, but he was not the creator of the term. Evidence suggests it came from China most likely or possibly Japan.
I received an award for actions taken in a life and death situation. Unfortunately the person still died. It was very hard for me to to think about. The award sat in a box for years, and a tear came to my eyes everytime I passed the memorial where it happened. I am able to deal with it by a change in prospective. I am proud I answered the call to action and reacted the way I did. Many believe they will act in the face of danger, few people are tested for real and know the true answer. It is that perspective that allows me to be proud that I know my answer.
Never served in the military, wasn’t mature enough or mentally adjusted enough at 18, but I’ve made it my mission in life to help people whenever they are in need and I can offer assistance. I feel a kinship to the attitude and humility you talk about, at 61yrs old I can honestly say I’ve acted to help my fellow humans and stand up against bigotry (and not talk about it except here lol) since I was 20. Thanks so much for your service, love the pod cast. Stay humble guys. RIP Dad, Korea Veteran
What? You would be exactly who they wanted. You were a lump of clay they could mold into what they wanted. The military matures you and disciplines you real fast.
Pain of losing squad/platoon members stays forever and ever. Its a subsurface anxiety that never goes away, ever. The MOH highlights the few who go do what needs doing no matter what the cost to themselves at that moment, without asking permission.. The world is better with you in it DM, never forget.
Very honest and humble! Sit back and think to your worst day and then try to put his shoes on. Impossible! We can be empathetic but for us the ordinary man on the street the only reality we know that comes anywhere close to his experience and that is a million miles apart is through movies and media! We all have experience of loss but not like this, not when your fighting to stay alive along with your team and your the last. I’m thankful for jocko and his show that allows for these great warriors to share. It’s so humbling to listen too. We owe our soldiers more than a cheer or applause! These guys deserve everything they need to come home and be part of our world again. Unfortunately that rarely happens.
Great words man. Agreed. If we’re sending our sons and daughters off to do what we will not.. can we not honor their humanity when they return unable to even describe the horror?
@@danford6947 I feel like Dakota would give so much to have someone TRULY understand his experience. I think Jocko redirecting was his way of saying, "I don't know...but I understand."
He honestly had a sense of desperation in his voice when he asked Jacko that question. It was the short silence after the question was posed that made me tear up.
social media will do anything at any cost to get views.. doesn't matter if it's making someone look better than they actually are, or kicking them at their absolute worst.. THEY-DONT-CARE.. because it's at someone else's expense.
@@sirKhO Absolutely! Reminds me of that old Don Henley song "dirty laundry". I very seldom watch mainstream media news anymore. I prefer to watch happy news or watch or listen to a podcast that I choose. I'm a much happier and better human being as a result.
At the end of the day, I understand what Dakota is saying,....I can only imagine what he must have went through, and is still going through....but fact of the matter is....he was there....and, most if not all of us weren’t.....he went there to do honorable things. Whilst half of us don’t get out of bed till 2 pm! For whatever it’s worth, he is still a true hero in my eyes. As well as every young man and woman who signed up to serve....fully aware they were going to war...to a hell hole of a place......Knowing that everyday,.........all they knew....is what they didn’t know......and still did it anyway!......Thank you for your service Dakota! .....and thank you to every warrior who lays it all on the line every time!....Semper Fidelis!
That question..."Do I still have it..." Huge question for some. The answer I have found is that "it" never leaves a person. But a real professional, a real warrior finds the way and means to demonstrate and us "it" in the ever changing arena(s). Of course the ultimate challenge and instantaneous proof of having "it" occurs while on deployment. But finding "it" and using "it" in your day to day to not only improve yourself but more importantly using "it" to help others and make them better....."It" never leaves... only manifests through different channels.
@The Right Side Of History it could be relevant in the instance that the op is an ozzie who wonders what nz has done for them, especially if they didnt fight in new guinea when it mattered the most.
@The Right Side Of History its hard to be sure what someone knows, but the kiwis should absolutely have been in new guinea as if oz fell, nz would’ve been in peril.
Honestly, I'd just tell people to read the book when someone wants to talk about the worse day of your life. I dont have that option when people ask me about the worst day of my life. You're a hero..because of your character and integrity...not that specific day. Dont forget it.
God Bless this kid. You can tell that day still affects him deeply and he has regret and anxiety about it which he is trying to deal with and work out. I hope the best for him.
I'm glad you are home, sir. Thank you for your continuing service to others. Amongst the great poignancy of your story, self-less service to others is the message I'm receiving most at this moment. Encouraging me to put myself out there and help others without expectations. Thank you for this.
Remember no one knows what we all did for others .. even just a good word or a ride maybe 💵. You know it it’s your integrity your ♥️. That’s what I learned many times over even now that I was forced to retire from ptsd 👨🏻🚒🇺🇸. Still standing proud ! Dakota you’ll meet some amazing people ! Don’t forget when you do. T pierce is a friend & 1 u can see , he did it no matter what the cost ! God bless you all. My sons a Usmc Office /aviator! who took my advice & is humble & fair
I'm under a minute watching this video, and the first part he talks about is grand! I think i know why he chose the profession he's in now. He talks about not being able to save his team. But now he's saved so many people, and they don't know who he is. He was destined to do what he does! He's ran to wrecks that happened in front of him, and made it happen! Saved lives!
He's voice so calm, healing voice... I'm listening second time this podcast, it helps fall in to sleep.... Sorry sound maybe disrespectful, but that what it is🙏
This is such a genuine conversation. There's another interview on here that covers some of the same ground but it's so stilted. Here, Meyer is talking to a brother. He speaks knowing he's being understood.
Those first 2 minutes hit me right in the feels because that’s exactly how I feel. I deployed back in 2013 and I look back and shit we did it feels like it wasn’t even me. I feel like I “was” a warrior and I’m not anymore and that hurts.
Yeah, I was a 12B and after I got out I did MMA and had some fights but then I got hurt and that was it. Sometimes I wish I wouldn’t have stopped because now I feel soft.
i feel for this young man. it is still very evident that he is struggling. as a clinical psychotherapist i've seen this from elite warriors and to a lesser extent from elite athletes. i hope that this young man is surrounded by the right people and finds his way through "the long dark tea-time of the soul" as it has been put. we can never go back. finding our way forward, defining and re-defining ourselves can be a tremendously difficult task. i can only imagine the burden this young man has been carrying to be so richly (and justifiably) awarded only to feel that deep down he failed at the task for which he has been so publicly praised.
I agree that this hero appears to be experiencing significant survivor guilt. I say appears because I’m following the American Psychological Association’s code of ethics about not providing clinical assessments to those we have not directly assessed. Clinical psychotherapist? What’s wrong with just using your most likely title… licensed clinical social worker, marriage and family therapist or licensed mental health counselor? Or is it masters degree in clinically counseling? When mental health providers use these psycho babble titles it’s confusing to lay people. Be proud of your degree.
Dakota Meyer recovered my Best friend HM3 Layton’s body. He was one of the last people to see him alive, I wish I had the chance to talk to Dakota about him.
The nazis also fought for what they believe in. That didnt turn out very good for planet earth did it? As a direct results of the nazis and Japanese empire fighting for what they believed in we came second from the total destruction of our civilization at least half a dozen times.
My Great grandfather was awarded a posthumous VC in 1917, I only found out three years ago, his picture is up in the “Union Jack club,” along with all other recipients of this award. I’ve walked past his picture for years as a member of the club. The award is not for you, it is for the lives you saved.. Be proud now, because you will be dead a real long time...
It really hits home about the worst day of your life. Ive been a firefighter for 12 years and ill get the question whats the worst thing you've seen. I know its nothing compared to anything you guys have seen but when people ask i give them the full detail. Yea i go back to those days i feel the same way they see it as entertainment but whats worked for me is 1) People dont know what we do 2) i have a duty to be open amd honest so people know what we really see and do at times to know what can happen and see where human. I think the average citizen see certain proffesions as robotic. They see us we do things without emotion and it doesnt effect us and thats why theres such a high rate of suicide and stuff. I mean Meyer said it perfect they put you under microscope and tear you apart when you make mistakes or do something wrong but they dont realize where human and sometimes cant compartilize things weve seen and done
Someone once said. You don't get the medal of honor because something went right...you get it because something went extremely bad and you did something honorable...just hearing about it it's an incredibly burdensome award.
I heard you say you weren’t proud for what you did. I understand. Humility and humbleness is a big part of being a hero. As our bodies give out we are obligated to impart on others what truly makes us warriors. It’s between the ears.
I used to care about the dumbest things in life like watching football, partying, etc and now I sit here watching these warriors that gave everything so regular ass people like me can go on about through the rat maize worrying about all the wrong things. I'll never know what it's like to have someone truly get your 6 but if shit went down it's guys like this that I would gladly risk it all for knowing that they would do the same. From the bottom of my heart I thank you and every service member that answered the call and those that sacrificed everything along with all of their family and friends!
As Dakota ages, I think he'll realize that that Medal is much more. I shot photos of Pearl Harbor Survivors for 12 years from 2000 thru 2012, including thousands of photos of John W. Finn, the first Medal of Honor of WW2. During those years, I met literally two dozen living MOH's and the one thing that stood out to me is that they actually wore their physical medal around their neck in public. So few Americans have ever seen real military medals and awards in public, be it on TV or on UA-cam. That's why for over 30 years, I've worn my awards on me wherever I go just to remind others what service to this nation means, for invariably, someone in the super market, ball game or pub will inquire about serving in the military, and I love helping others learn about the sacrifices other Americans have made on their behalf. Stay strong Dakota, and let your memories of the price paid for that Medal be your touchstone of purpose. With the greatest respect, Dana F. Harbaugh Former US Navy Aircrewman, 87-93 S-3 Viking Sensor Operator (SENSO) Callsign "Hardball" Operations Earnest Will, Desert Shield Desert Storm and the Defense of the Kurdish Peoples Life Honorary Member Pearl Harbor Survivors Assoc.
1. If you are not willing to risk you cannot grow. 2. If you cannot grow you can't become your best. 3. If you can't become your best you cannot be happy. 4. If you cannot be happy then what else is there? Best, Magnum Motivation
@@manhalen7046 THANKYOU, what you're trying to explain is (or at least as best as I can understand) is doing what someone has to do in order to save themself :)
@@hirumbiffidum9145 Yeah basically. Human beings have an innate instinct to just..........survive. or in this context to live. To break down that mental prison that you've built up in some fashion. This is all cliche stuff to the max but it is true. Mr. Miyagi had Daniela's ass out there waxing and buffing till his arms fell off. Was that lesson really about those tasks? Nope. It was about hitting walls and getting past them.
I wish I could tell this dude that ok fine... yes you did technically fail in your mission to save your friends, but the reason you got the medal was because you had the heart to risk your own life to at least try to save them when basically everyone else wouldn’t. Regardless of the outcome you showed the selfless love for your friends that everyone should have. That’s why you deserve the medal. Don’t beat yourself up so much. You need to give yourself the credit your due at times ya know?
He’s got real bad survivor’s guilt. My story never could compare to his, but I have it as well. I was a first responder and have had some people die. One of the worst things ever was when I “saved” someone, but I’m fairly certain he’s now vegetative due to how long he was clinically dead. I can’t be 100% sure though because we don’t follow up once we get them to an ER/OR. I remember we put in an OPA (artificial airway), someone was suctioning blood out of his mouth/airway, we were shocking him, it was just very bad, the man was super fucked up. Well I was up on the table giving him chest compressions when he regained a pulse. A male nurse next to me said, “You just saved him!” And everyone got excited and shit. But I knew the situation and knew he was not going to fully recover. I still think about those words and the images and it haunts me. Fast forward a few years later. I wrecked my 5.0 Mustang showing off, driving triple digits mph. I walked away with virtually no injuries. I should’ve died, I wasn’t even wearing a seatbelt and the top was down. Now, I think about the people who died. People in car accidents. We lost a goddamn 1 year old once. And here I am fucking around on UA-cam after doing something so stupid. It’s like Dakota said, It’s not a fair world. I still will find myself crying about this or dreaming about it. I’m about to go to therapy honestly. But I digress. I hope he finds peace, though I’m not very hopefully he ever will. It’s a tough life and things like this sometimes are irreversible. I just hope he eventually gets better and feels some sense of peace. Idk why I’m even writing all this
I hope he stops beating himself up for a situation that he didn't create and wasn't in control of. Too , getting older, you cant do the things you did when you were 21 , but then again my 50 year self can do things that you couldn't at 21, just different stuff.
the ambition to BE somebody/continue to be a warrior will end up eating Dakota alive if he doesn't understand that he doesn't have to BE anything and that the past needs to be let go
I can see why the Marines pulled him off the line when they knew he was up for the MOH. Survivors guilt. Dakota opens up about it but still in a lot of pain. I pray he finds peace. He was so young when this happened. He should find solace that he is helping so many people despite losing his team mates.
Every interview the comments always say they like how Jocko let's them talk and don't interrupt. You know why he's been there done that so he's fighting that war in his head too mad respect Jocko ty ALL for your service
"Going right back to that day..." is such a familiar refrain. Easier said than done, but retooling all of the anger (at senior leadership who failed that team / op) and frustration (I did not do enough) into support for and lauding those good men who aren't here now is the path. It has to be...
He needs to go live with Marcus Luttrell for a couple months. I think he could change his opinion. He may not of got his friends out but his acts were still heroic. If his teammates heard him say he's a failure I'm sure they would disagree.
15:52 nah man, the level of integrity and character that I see from this video alone let's me know you can succeed in whatever you do. You don't need to be perfect to achieve greatness, as you have with military service.
You have to respect his perspective. He did what he felt was necessary and most of the people he went to save died. It makes him feel like he failed. Plain and simple. And he hates when people like me and you who have never experienced that say " no man, don't talk like that you're a hero"
There are worse things in life than dying. The worst feeling a military combatants whatever service they are in whether they are regular SF Marines. The worst thing a soldier can do is let down their fellow soldiers they're more afraid of that then dying. Losing everybody I couldn't imagine. Sir thank you sir mr. Dakota Myers sir I am sorry for your loss you are very honourable man and that is not common unfortunately these days
The modesty in next level for our heros. Saying "was a warrior" if he can't still reflect the same performance as when he considered himself one..but to most of us, his spirit and mindset is a warriors and no less.
He says he got a medal for getting his ass kicked but you never stopped you never stopped fighting for not you but for your brothers your friends you never gave up you went till it was over you gave all and this is why you wear that medal for your friends for your brothers to show the Valor for the fight you fought and still fighting
It is a mentality, you will have it until your dying day. The body fades, but the will is strong, it is the aggressiveness, the sheer willpower until that fades. It will be a facet of your character, no matter what happens in your future. *Old soldiers never die, they slowly fade away*
LISTEN and SILENT are spelled the same way for a reason. Character speaks in many ways. I've had many nonstop mouths come at me, let them drone on, then discover what little they have to say. That's why followership is just as great as leadership.
Correct. Because they did not stay in the safety of the HUMMVEE while their teammates were getting slaughtered, like Meyer did. I do not think he deserves the MOH, not even a NAM.
I really like how jocko doesn't interrupt. Other interviewers would be interrupting and asking questions every 15 seconds
Yes very respectful. Guess cuz he's been there.
Absolutely beautiful🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@Joshua
aye, you said it!
Aye. Agreed.
Because he knows how to unpack.
Dakota has got some serious survivors guilt, and I can’t blame him. Early in the clip, he asked Jocko why he is losing his warrior mentality, I’ll do my best to answer that as clearly as possible. The reason why is because he feels guilty for being alive, plain and simple. He feels that he should be dead. Why would a person who thinks they should be dead fight anymore? It really is that simple. For him to heal there’s only one answer, moving past the deaths of his brothers. Obviously this is extremely hard, and even harder for a SF member because of the absolute and total importance of the team that is branded on our hearts, a bond so deeply instilled through months of training and years of brotherhood that letting it go becomes almost impossible. Keyword: “almost.”
I pray Dakota finds the way through, whatever that may be, he deserves it. He has a uniquely difficult path to tread. He served more than most, paid more than was necessary, and he deserves to move past his team. Even if he wants to look at it like he’s at fault, that’s okay, he has still paid all his debts. He can apologize in the afterlife but until then, he survived, he is the last living remnant of his brothers. How he lives his life now as his team’s lone survivor is directly correlated to the memory of his team. His life is his team’s memory.
On the off chance he ever reads this, I’m writing directly to you now Dakota, you are the last piece of your team, the only thing left of them in this life, whether you like it or not, you ARE them now. Whether or not your team’s memory lives on in strength, or lives on in weakness, that’s your sole power. So be strong, be a shining beacon, even if it’s just for their memory.
Very well said Sir. Wish I could have said it so eloquently. I hope Mr Meyer sees it.
Very well said. That’s now his main purpose, it defines him too.
Damn. I wish I could've read this answer a long time ago. I've been curious as to why things feel like chores.
survivor's guilt is a bitch.
Wow, this is the best UA-cam comment I’ve ever read.
“Sometimes I think that the worst day of my life is someone else’s entertainment”. That quote from him says it all right there about what he had to go through. Couldn’t even fathom how hard that must’ve been. The fact he’s able to so eloquently express his thoughts about it years later is what is more telling and indicative to me of his strong character, not the fact that he was an absolute warrior on the battlefield. Despite losing his teammates and having to forever deal with that burden, I hope he knows how many people he’s inspired and the overall positive impact he’s had on people’s live, not only due to his actions in war, but because of how he dealt with the aftermath. A real role model, and I’m glad he’s still around to tell his story, because not many people in his shoes would have made it on the other side and/or actually be able to talk about it.
Amen
Jocko is a great host/interviewer. Other interviewers would feel pressured to fill in the empty spaces where Dakota is reflecting or asking rhetorical questions. The silences are more powerful than any words.
Right but instead of relating or building him up he just goes with the hype train in this one? I don't understand why and its quite disappointing
it's always what interviewers do that wait for you to dig your own proverbial grave
You can tell when he rambles and gets off topic how much of that still and will always affect him. Jocko does a great job of just listening and allowing his friend to just let it all out. What a powerful insight into someone else’s world even if it is just for a brief moment.
Shows how powerful just listening can be !
Always support our troops & LEO!
Thank you for sharing this amazing story. My father and 5 of his 7 brothers served in WWII and Korea. One of his brothers was a KIA. None of them would every talk about the wars that took the innocence and laughter away. The price of war can’t be measured in today’s value system. My Dad including my Uncles served with honor and loyalty. 82nd Air Borne, 8th Air Force, And a variety of assignments within the branches of the military. My point is this, Soldiers carry these memories and unsettling thoughts right up to the grave. The way my father compartmentalized his experiences. Helped me to complete 29 years as a career firefighter. Thank You Dakota for your service 🇺🇸 you have my respect and a place at my table always. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank you for your service and that of the warriors in your family.
I watched the first Dakota/Jocko podcast 3 times. No block of instruction, field manual or training could prepare anyone to go through what he did. The most compelling story I've ever heard. God bless those serving, those who served and those who gave all.
Once a warrior, always a warrior. You are not forgotten.
Man, I can't imagine the mental anguish Dakota goes through day in day out. War is hell, and the predicaments it can put you in dead or alive are tremendous. Hope he finds peace. Keep helping others, and please take care of yourself. You made a difference to many. Your an ass kicker just like all your bros. Can't imagine!! God speed
i am aware that I am sounding like any other asshole trying to feel good about them selves but feel genuine sorrow enough to almost make me cry. Dakota im sorry for your loss,of your friends and what you had to go through.
George is getting upset
“Sometimes I think that the worst day of my life is someone else’s entertainment” so damn true!
Great interview! As an army ranger I learned quickly that the most successful guys are calm and laid back. If its a calm environment. "Always fear the calmest man in the room". Goes in business aswell.
Your team knows your heart brother. They knew how hard you fought for them. Please do not forget that.
Hearing Dakota talk breaks my heart. Every person in America should hear this and remember that these men that answered their country's call are human.
well jeez he spends every day whining about everything...eventually the pity party has to go. this guy SUCKS
@@drewfusaurusrexhash3970 what have you done or experienced to critisise him?? Unless you have walked ibhus shoes, you have no right.
@@femvetusa5263 I did the same thing he did...nothing
@@femvetusa5263 you dont get to invade someones home and then complain when someone tries to blow you up.
@@iraniansuperhacker4382 yall a bunch of terries lol. Go back to the sand
Just because you are no longer in the battlefield you were accustomed to, does not mean that there isn't another one waiting for you somewhere. Life is a series of battles.
thanks donkey kong
@@ardekakka No problem Spooderman
Quote of the day brother
“Life is a special operation...”
Not really the same thing stressful combat situations in a foreign country and your entire squad is dead but for you
I was a navy corpsman that received the Navy Comm with V, and at the time when I received my medal I had a lot of these feelings, as an E-3 always talking to field grade officers and above and multiple ceremonies.. I can only imagine what it was like as a Medal of Honor recipient.. much respect
This guy's humility is very honorable. Thank you both for your service and don't live in that day because you are much more then that
I remember seeing you while i was deployed, gave us motivation brother, shit was hard but seeing guys like you doin what you do made it worth it
The Medal of Honor is not a medal given based on stats, it’s based on integrity and facing adversity in the presence of danger in which 99% of people will not do. You brother are the 1% and you deserve that medal hands down! Coming from a Navy Seabee who was out there twice!
I agree, even as go as far as saying more than 99% wouldn’t.
99 percent of the 1 percent wouldn’t even do it. Tells your kids these men are legends
@@ronniecortez1460 these guys are legends, modern day Spartans
I like the way you think...have you heard about ghost Platoon by Campbell?
That goes for guys who didn't won a medal of Honor
Dude you volunteered for the infantry when everyone else chose to stay home, you have always been and will always be that warrior
Could not agree more. The fact my home town of Louisville attempted to talk shit on a subject they know nothing about and disparage his name is sickening to me.
Some people that chose to do that are straight up idiots.
There is also another way to look at it. While many choose not go half way around the world and invade someones homes he decided he needed to be a warrior and invade someone home.
Typical liberal run media outlets…the same ones who bitch about the police then cry for a cop when they get in trouble…
@@iraniansuperhacker4382 If you're invading a terrorist's home like he did, then it's perfectly justified.
I love how he recognizes his negative energy and translates into a productive force. Helping others really is the most important thing you can do. Being able to take negative circumstances and channel them into creating a positive is such an underrated and powerful skill. I'm trying everyday to do this, obviously on a smaller scale than warriors like them, but hearing dudes like Dakota and Jocko produce this energy keeps me going!
I think Marcus Luttrell said it best. Everyone he met wanted to talk about the worst day of his life. It gets old fast.
It's good to hear the real stories from the real people. I can't imaging the pain they go through, but it helps to hear their story. Hold your head high and with honor Marine; your brothers know the truth.
I find myself feeling like he does! I was a 20 yr firefighter/ paramedic........ ptsd brought me down. Never thought it would happen and I never dreamed my dept. wouldn’t back me.
Jocks, Charles, thanks for being there for our hero who needs friends that listen!
It is better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war - Chinese Proverb.
thats not a chinese proverb, thats a proverb from Miyamoto Musashi.
@@blackhawkgilgamesh8228 That has never been confirmed. It is likely he said it, but he was not the creator of the term. Evidence suggests it came from China most likely or possibly Japan.
Given the choice of the two, I'd rather have been a warrior, risky though it is. My vision wouldn't allow it.
I received an award for actions taken in a life and death situation.
Unfortunately the person still died. It was very hard for me to to think about. The award sat in a box for years, and a tear came to my eyes everytime I passed the memorial where it happened.
I am able to deal with it by a change in prospective. I am proud I answered the call to action and reacted the way I did.
Many believe they will act in the face of danger, few people are tested for real and know the true answer.
It is that perspective that allows me to be proud that I know my answer.
"Valor is a gift. Those that have it don't know they have it till the test comes." -- Carl Sandberg
Never served in the military, wasn’t mature enough or mentally adjusted enough at 18, but I’ve made it my mission in life to help people whenever they are in need and I can offer assistance. I feel a kinship to the attitude and humility you talk about, at 61yrs old I can honestly say I’ve acted to help my fellow humans and stand up against bigotry (and not talk about it except here lol) since I was 20. Thanks so much for your service, love the pod cast. Stay humble guys. RIP Dad, Korea Veteran
What? You would be exactly who they wanted. You were a lump of clay they could mold into what they wanted. The military matures you and disciplines you real fast.
Pain of losing squad/platoon members stays forever and ever. Its a subsurface anxiety that never goes away, ever. The MOH highlights the few who go do what needs doing no matter what the cost to themselves at that moment, without asking permission.. The world is better with you in it DM, never forget.
I love the mental image of Jocko standing in a glass-fronted box with "In case of war, break glass" painted on it.
Very honest and humble! Sit back and think to your worst day and then try to put his shoes on. Impossible! We can be empathetic but for us the ordinary man on the street the only reality we know that comes anywhere close to his experience and that is a million miles apart is through movies and media! We all have experience of loss but not like this, not when your fighting to stay alive along with your team and your the last. I’m thankful for jocko and his show that allows for these great warriors to share. It’s so humbling to listen too. We owe our soldiers more than a cheer or applause! These guys deserve everything they need to come home and be part of our world again. Unfortunately that rarely happens.
Great words man. Agreed. If we’re sending our sons and daughters off to do what we will not.. can we not honor their humanity when they return unable to even describe the horror?
I feel like when he says “do you know”he was actually asking jocko if he knew why which makes me sad for some reason....
Don't need to feel it. You got it right, he was asking a legit question. He needed answers.
@@danford6947 I feel like Dakota would give so much to have someone TRULY understand his experience. I think Jocko redirecting was his way of saying, "I don't know...but I understand."
He honestly had a sense of desperation in his voice when he asked Jacko that question. It was the short silence after the question was posed that made me tear up.
Thank you for sharing this story. Appreciate the honesty. This helped me and will unpack this over time. Glad you are able to move forward.
That newspaper thing has my temperature boiling.
social media will do anything at any cost to get views.. doesn't matter if it's making someone look better than they actually are, or kicking them at their absolute worst.. THEY-DONT-CARE.. because it's at someone else's expense.
@@sirKhO Absolutely! Reminds me of that old Don Henley song "dirty laundry". I very seldom watch mainstream media news anymore. I prefer to watch happy news or watch or listen to a podcast that I choose. I'm a much happier and better human being as a result.
At the end of the day, I understand what Dakota is saying,....I can only imagine what he must have went through, and is still going through....but fact of the matter is....he was there....and, most if not all of us weren’t.....he went there to do honorable things. Whilst half of us don’t get out of bed till 2 pm!
For whatever it’s worth, he is still a true hero in my eyes. As well as every young man and woman who signed up to serve....fully aware they were going to war...to a hell hole of a place......Knowing that everyday,.........all they knew....is what they didn’t know......and still did it anyway!......Thank you for your service Dakota! .....and thank you to every warrior who lays it all on the line every time!....Semper Fidelis!
That question..."Do I still have it..." Huge question for some. The answer I have found is that "it" never leaves a person. But a real professional, a real warrior finds the way and means to demonstrate and us "it" in the ever changing arena(s). Of course the ultimate challenge and instantaneous proof of having "it" occurs while on deployment. But finding "it" and using "it" in your day to day to not only improve yourself but more importantly using "it" to help others and make them better....."It" never leaves... only manifests through different channels.
Best wishes to the Aussie & Kiwi warriors out there this ANZAC day.
Lest We Forget
@The Right Side Of History there you go
@The Right Side Of History did the kiwis fight in new guinea?
@The Right Side Of History it could be relevant in the instance that the op is an ozzie who wonders what nz has done for them, especially if they didnt fight in new guinea when it mattered the most.
@The Right Side Of History its hard to be sure what someone knows, but the kiwis should absolutely have been in new guinea as if oz fell, nz would’ve been in peril.
Honestly, I'd just tell people to read the book when someone wants to talk about the worse day of your life. I dont have that option when people ask me about the worst day of my life. You're a hero..because of your character and integrity...not that specific day. Dont forget it.
Fuck the Courier Journal.
God Bless this kid. You can tell that day still affects him deeply and he has regret and anxiety about it which he is trying to deal with and work out. I hope the best for him.
I think in a way it's admirable he still constantly tests himself, rather than holding onto past experiences
David Goggins may say "Stay Hard" but what you're explaining is the very reason why I say "Stay Consistant".
@Jocko Podcast Sounds great, pray the uploaders of the video don't find out you either hacked into their account or cloned/counterfeited it.
This is something everyone should do. No matter what it might be.
@@bige2012 agreed
As a Navy Combat Veteran, Iraq 2004, I salute you. Thank you for your service.
I'm glad you are home, sir. Thank you for your continuing service to others. Amongst the great poignancy of your story, self-less service to others is the message I'm receiving most at this moment. Encouraging me to put myself out there and help others without expectations. Thank you for this.
This is too bad. I wasn’t proud of my service, PTSD was too bad, as therapy gave me some relief, the pride flooded back. I hope he gets to enjoy it.
Remember no one knows what we all did for others .. even just a good word or a ride maybe 💵. You know it it’s your integrity your ♥️. That’s what I learned many times over even now that I was forced to retire from ptsd 👨🏻🚒🇺🇸. Still standing proud ! Dakota you’ll meet some amazing people ! Don’t forget when you do. T pierce is a friend & 1 u can see , he did it no matter what the cost ! God bless you all. My sons a Usmc Office /aviator! who took my advice & is humble & fair
Thank you for the interview and perspective. Thank you Both!
Thank god America has Dakota and Jocko defending us. Never thought about from this perspective and you can see/hear this is 100%.🇺🇸
I'm under a minute watching this video, and the first part he talks about is grand! I think i know why he chose the profession he's in now. He talks about not being able to save his team. But now he's saved so many people, and they don't know who he is. He was destined to do what he does! He's ran to wrecks that happened in front of him, and made it happen! Saved lives!
He's voice so calm, healing voice... I'm listening second time this podcast, it helps fall in to sleep.... Sorry sound maybe disrespectful, but that what it is🙏
Most inspirational person ever..
This is such a genuine conversation. There's another interview on here that covers some of the same ground but it's so stilted. Here, Meyer is talking to a brother. He speaks knowing he's being understood.
Those first 2 minutes hit me right in the feels because that’s exactly how I feel. I deployed back in 2013 and I look back and shit we did it feels like it wasn’t even me. I feel like I “was” a warrior and I’m not anymore and that hurts.
Test yourself brotha. Every day.
SF
Yeah, I was a 12B and after I got out I did MMA and had some fights but then I got hurt and that was it. Sometimes I wish I wouldn’t have stopped because now I feel soft.
This dude is the best. Legit and honest to the bone.
i feel for this young man. it is still very evident that he is struggling. as a clinical psychotherapist i've seen this from elite warriors and to a lesser extent from elite athletes. i hope that this young man is surrounded by the right people and finds his way through "the long dark tea-time of the soul" as it has been put. we can never go back. finding our way forward, defining and re-defining ourselves can be a tremendously difficult task. i can only imagine the burden this young man has been carrying to be so richly (and justifiably) awarded only to feel that deep down he failed at the task for which he has been so publicly praised.
I agree that this hero appears to be experiencing significant survivor guilt. I say appears because I’m following the American Psychological Association’s code of ethics about not providing clinical assessments to those we have not directly assessed.
Clinical psychotherapist? What’s wrong with just using your most likely title… licensed clinical social worker, marriage and family therapist or licensed mental health counselor? Or is it masters degree in clinically counseling? When mental health providers use these psycho babble titles it’s confusing to lay people. Be proud of your degree.
Dakota Meyer recovered my Best friend HM3 Layton’s body. He was one of the last people to see him alive, I wish I had the chance to talk to Dakota about him.
honourable humble man - salute, brother
"Fighting was the only thing, the ONLY thing I was good at, but at least I always for what I believed in." Gray Fox, Metal Gear Solid
The nazis also fought for what they believe in. That didnt turn out very good for planet earth did it? As a direct results of the nazis and Japanese empire fighting for what they believed in we came second from the total destruction of our civilization at least half a dozen times.
Your best interview
Honest
Meyer and jocko. Wow
your truth is your commitment to endurance of pain
My Great grandfather was awarded a posthumous VC in 1917, I only found out three years ago, his picture is up in the “Union Jack club,” along with all other recipients of this award. I’ve walked past his picture for years as a member of the club. The award is not for you, it is for the lives you saved.. Be proud now, because you will be dead a real long time...
It really hits home about the worst day of your life. Ive been a firefighter for 12 years and ill get the question whats the worst thing you've seen. I know its nothing compared to anything you guys have seen but when people ask i give them the full detail. Yea i go back to those days i feel the same way they see it as entertainment but whats worked for me is
1) People dont know what we do
2) i have a duty to be open amd honest so people know what we really see and do at times to know what can happen and see where human. I think the average citizen see certain proffesions as robotic. They see us we do things without emotion and it doesnt effect us and thats why theres such a high rate of suicide and stuff. I mean Meyer said it perfect they put you under microscope and tear you apart when you make mistakes or do something wrong but they dont realize where human and sometimes cant compartilize things weve seen and done
This interview just changed my life. 🤘🇺🇸
Someone once said. You don't get the medal of honor because something went right...you get it because something went extremely bad and you did something honorable...just hearing about it it's an incredibly burdensome award.
So much love and Respect for you both!!!
🙏🏼🙏🏼🇺🇸🇺🇸🙏🏼🙏🏼
I heard you say you weren’t proud for what you did. I understand. Humility and humbleness is a big part of being a hero. As our bodies give out we are obligated to impart on others what truly makes us warriors. It’s between the ears.
I used to care about the dumbest things in life like watching football, partying, etc and now I sit here watching these warriors that gave everything so regular ass people like me can go on about through the rat maize worrying about all the wrong things. I'll never know what it's like to have someone truly get your 6 but if shit went down it's guys like this that I would gladly risk it all for knowing that they would do the same. From the bottom of my heart I thank you and every service member that answered the call and those that sacrificed everything along with all of their family and friends!
As Dakota ages, I think he'll realize that that Medal is much more. I shot photos of Pearl Harbor Survivors for 12 years from 2000 thru 2012, including thousands of photos of John W. Finn, the first Medal of Honor of WW2.
During those years, I met literally two dozen living MOH's and the one thing that stood out to me is that they actually wore their physical medal around their neck in public.
So few Americans have ever seen real military medals and awards in public, be it on TV or on UA-cam. That's why for over 30 years, I've worn my awards on me wherever I go just to remind others what service to this nation means, for invariably, someone in the super market, ball game or pub will inquire about serving in the military, and I love helping others learn about the sacrifices other Americans have made on their behalf.
Stay strong Dakota, and let your memories of the price paid for that Medal be your touchstone of purpose.
With the greatest respect,
Dana F. Harbaugh
Former US Navy Aircrewman, 87-93
S-3 Viking Sensor Operator (SENSO)
Callsign "Hardball"
Operations Earnest Will, Desert Shield
Desert Storm and the Defense of the Kurdish Peoples
Life Honorary Member Pearl Harbor Survivors Assoc.
I love the lighting in the room. It matches Jocko's brand very well.
1. If you are not willing to risk you cannot grow.
2. If you cannot grow you can't become your best.
3. If you can't become your best you cannot be happy.
4. If you cannot be happy then what else is there?
Best,
Magnum Motivation
Sometimes in life you find yourself along for the ride, as far as what others make of things.
I love goggins, I love jocko. They saved me, from me.
That's interesting because that's the same thing I keep saying that about the people at the Synagogue I'm a part of.
Exactly same for me
No, YOU did it. That's what they're trying to get across to you. It has to be you.
@@manhalen7046 THANKYOU, what you're trying to explain is (or at least as best as I can understand) is doing what someone has to do
in order to save themself :)
@@hirumbiffidum9145 Yeah basically. Human beings have an innate instinct to just..........survive. or in this context to live. To break down that mental prison that you've built up in some fashion. This is all cliche stuff to the max but it is true. Mr. Miyagi had Daniela's ass out there waxing and buffing till his arms fell off. Was that lesson really about those tasks? Nope. It was about hitting walls and getting past them.
I wish I could tell this dude that ok fine... yes you did technically fail in your mission to save your friends, but the reason you got the medal was because you had the heart to risk your own life to at least try to save them when basically everyone else wouldn’t. Regardless of the outcome you showed the selfless love for your friends that everyone should have. That’s why you deserve the medal. Don’t beat yourself up so much. You need to give yourself the credit your due at times ya know?
Its not about having it or doing it, its about speaking truth to life. Ones its gained its never lost
He’s got real bad survivor’s guilt. My story never could compare to his, but I have it as well. I was a first responder and have had some people die. One of the worst things ever was when I “saved” someone, but I’m fairly certain he’s now vegetative due to how long he was clinically dead. I can’t be 100% sure though because we don’t follow up once we get them to an ER/OR. I remember we put in an OPA (artificial airway), someone was suctioning blood out of his mouth/airway, we were shocking him, it was just very bad, the man was super fucked up. Well I was up on the table giving him chest compressions when he regained a pulse. A male nurse next to me said, “You just saved him!” And everyone got excited and shit. But I knew the situation and knew he was not going to fully recover. I still think about those words and the images and it haunts me.
Fast forward a few years later. I wrecked my 5.0 Mustang showing off, driving triple digits mph. I walked away with virtually no injuries. I should’ve died, I wasn’t even wearing a seatbelt and the top was down.
Now, I think about the people who died. People in car accidents. We lost a goddamn 1 year old once. And here I am fucking around on UA-cam after doing something so stupid. It’s like Dakota said, It’s not a fair world. I still will find myself crying about this or dreaming about it. I’m about to go to therapy honestly. But I digress.
I hope he finds peace, though I’m not very hopefully he ever will. It’s a tough life and things like this sometimes are irreversible. I just hope he eventually gets better and feels some sense of peace.
Idk why I’m even writing all this
This vid should be required viewing for anyone and everyone. It speaks volumes.
I hope he stops beating himself up for a situation that he didn't create and wasn't in control of. Too , getting older, you cant do the things you did when you were 21 , but then again my 50 year self can do things that you couldn't at 21, just different stuff.
Brother , you are a wise man .. so damn true ...👍🏻 great outlook on life
Incredible interview.
the ambition to BE somebody/continue to be a warrior will end up eating Dakota alive if he doesn't understand that he doesn't have to BE anything and that the past needs to be let go
I can see why the Marines pulled him off the line when they knew he was up for the MOH. Survivors guilt. Dakota opens up about it but still in a lot of pain. I pray he finds peace. He was so young when this happened. He should find solace that he is helping so many people despite losing his team mates.
And that my friends is REAL SHIT !!!! Massive Respect Sir !!!!
Every interview the comments always say they like how Jocko let's them talk and don't interrupt. You know why he's been there done that so he's fighting that war in his head too mad respect Jocko ty ALL for your service
Thank you for your sacrifice sir.
Thank you for your service gentlemen
"Going right back to that day..." is such a familiar refrain. Easier said than done, but retooling all of the anger (at senior leadership who failed that team / op) and frustration (I did not do enough) into support for and lauding those good men who aren't here now is the path. It has to be...
He needs to go live with Marcus Luttrell for a couple months. I think he could change his opinion. He may not of got his friends out but his acts were still heroic. If his teammates heard him say he's a failure I'm sure they would disagree.
Dekota meyer's do you need a hug bro
15:52 nah man, the level of integrity and character that I see from this video alone let's me know you can succeed in whatever you do. You don't need to be perfect to achieve greatness, as you have with military service.
You have to respect his perspective. He did what he felt was necessary and most of the people he went to save died. It makes him feel like he failed. Plain and simple. And he hates when people like me and you who have never experienced that say " no man, don't talk like that you're a hero"
There are worse things in life than dying. The worst feeling a military combatants whatever service they are in whether they are regular SF Marines. The worst thing a soldier can do is let down their fellow soldiers they're more afraid of that then dying. Losing everybody I couldn't imagine. Sir thank you sir mr. Dakota Myers sir I am sorry for your loss you are very honourable man and that is not common unfortunately these days
*What you want in your heart exists. Don't settle until you get it!*
*-Jay Shetty*
*I believe in you my friend!* 🙏🙏
Off topic I love the black and white filter combined with the lighting of Jocko’s stuff
Those same fools who try and tear down these men are vile creatures. They would never put them selfs in those situations
The modesty in next level for our heros.
Saying "was a warrior" if he can't still reflect the same performance as when he considered himself one..but to most of us, his spirit and mindset is a warriors and no less.
Humble Hero.
He says he got a medal for getting his ass kicked but you never stopped you never stopped fighting for not you but for your brothers your friends you never gave up you went till it was over you gave all and this is why you wear that medal for your friends for your brothers to show the Valor for the fight you fought and still fighting
It is a mentality, you will have it until your dying day. The body fades, but the will is strong, it is the aggressiveness, the sheer willpower until that fades. It will be a facet of your character, no matter what happens in your future.
*Old soldiers never die, they slowly fade away*
truth is not a set of circumstances that play out, actions are always up for interpretation but truth will always reverberate
Hope everyone is well
LISTEN and SILENT are spelled the same way for a reason. Character speaks in many ways. I've had many nonstop mouths come at me, let them drone on, then discover what little they have to say. That's why followership is just as great as leadership.
Dakota God bless you...
I have the same combat PTSD....
Most hero’s that receive this honor lost their lives saving others
Correct. Because they did not stay in the safety of the HUMMVEE while their teammates were getting slaughtered, like Meyer did. I do not think he deserves the MOH, not even a NAM.