There used to be this dude in my gym, he was yoked. He’d come in with his reading glasses on and a book, between massive sets he’d sit there and read while resting. Talk about yin and yang, dude balanced both worlds of intellectualism and manliness.
I’m 34 with a 5 week old daughter. A year ago I started power lifting to be strong for her and my wife. A year before that I started motorcycling to fulfill a personal goal. 4 years before that when I bought my first house I learned on my own how to fix it and maintain it, I’m still learning. Now Im studying ownership and leadership so I can be a better father, husband, friend, coworker and son for my family and peers. Get after it.
As a single mother, I recommend you develop the skills of a spiritual leader and a financial leader also. I work mostly with women, and their husbands often phrase it this way "What's OUR plan honey?" And.... That's why I'm still single. Where is a man who can help answer the adult questions? I don't need to marry a grown man with access to my credit, retirement savings, and the ability to spend next months money before we make it, if he doesn't have financial self control and a basic understanding of investments. Also, I can't respect a man whose thoughts have never lifted above today's video game or 2020 politically correct view. I believe the term is NPC. Try reading the great minds of past centuries. It's not enough to help the kids with homework. The bigger question is, what school should they attend? What should they be learning? How can you be an example of a "man of character" if you have no foundation for your morals? How will you pass on your moral compass to your children, if you give them no reason to believe what you believe. Is it just tradition? Or preference? Can you give an explanation and a defence for what you believe? It takes a while to read a book on apologetics and digest it. As the leader in the home, you should be able to answer these questions when your children ask. And if you can't answer them, your wife may be excused for wondering if the"leader" in her home doesn't know why or where he is going.
Summary Points : 1. Be physically strong 2. Do technical skills - regardless expertise, just start, follow how to do 3. Read about world - challenges + solution 4. Follow Tutorials - if you dont have mentors Simplified concept : Read, Study, Do
“The Nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools.” - Thucydides
That’s true, but there’s only so much time in a day and no smart man is putting himself in harm’s way if he doesn’t have to, especially for a meagre wage and vane desires of heroism.
@sturmgewehr357 Indeed he is, what makes you better is not warrying nor fighting, but the pursuit of strength and power. Things that we all can do safely with barbells, pull-up bars and books! And BJJ too
As a widow w/o a man around living out in the country for the past 10 years, I watch UA-cam videos. Just yesterday, I changed the oil in my riding mower for the first time and I am 66! Last month, I dropped the deck and thoroughly cleaned it AND put it back together! Saved $180 that I used to spend for annual maintenance. If I can do it, a man can learn. Builds self esteem!
@Dominic Zanger Jocko is a dude that has commanded men in combat, you would be wise to educate yourself on his teachings. He knows whats coming down the pipe.
Motivation does... the acceptance of failures existence and possibility and being comfortable when it knocks on your door.. embrace it, learn from it, get off your ass and do it again, until you achieve success. What you don't accept is defeat.. remove phrases like "I can't" "it's impossible" from your vocabulary. It's power of will, that's the secret. Self esteem is attributed to social situations vs you.... will power, is you vs yourself.
I'm not sure about self-esteem, but certainly self-confidence. Once you try something you didn't think you could do, even if you don't do it right, you gain self-confidence to do it again
Yes it does. Self confidence comes from ones own VALUE of themselves. Do they believe they’re useful or useless? Blaming it on “looks” is just an excuse your brain makes to avoid facing the fact that you believe you’re useless. If you had all these skills, looks wouldn’t matter, you’d love yourself because you’d know you can “fix anything”. You would take pride in the fact that you can do more than almost anybody you know.
Learning how to fight is a very important skill. It builds an insane amount of confidence. The better boxer and wrestler I became, the less I postured and quieter I became. Ironically, as I got more confident and quieter, the more intimidating I was to loud Alpha males in social settings. They were constantly looking to me for validation. “Right bro? Right bro?” When I spoke to my squad mates on serious matters, my words held more weight because I never wasted words on bullshit or bragging. They were like, “Hey Rod might have a point.” All this came from learning how to fight properly.
@@MDAM12716 I’ve been boxing/ kickboxing and doing Jiu Jitsu for about 8 months and I’m “comfortable” but the knowledge and technique I have to learn is exciting. So don’t worry about the time frame just take a step and do it, I promise it’s worth it
I love how a conversation on developing man skills always, without fail, turns in to a Jiu Jitsu love fest with these guys. Bless Jocko and Echo’s hearts.
I studied jujitsu all through highschool and college, took about 10 years to get a black belt. It is the best thing I ever did and I never had to fight someone. Confidence affects everything you do every day.
I relate to this so much. My father died when I was ten. My uncle tried to take me under his wing best he could but I was acting out all the time. He ended up getting murder shortly after I turned 18 and I wandered far from the reservation after that. Very far. I’ve always wanted a father or a positive male role model (mom never remarried or dated). I never had one until recently when I found people like Jocko, Jordan Peterson, even a certain comedian I really related to. I started taking their advice and I can happily say that I’m doing really good now and actually look forward to tomorrow. Hell im looking forward to the day I have a family now really and can be for my son what I never had. I used to want to die real talk. Thanks for all the content Jocko I listen to it on the daily and also, I wake up at 2:45 everyday for the gym before I go to work. Thank you!
"Do some plumbing" I love it :D It is amazing how some good honest constructive work builds the soul, not even manual labour. Just the act of creating something, standing back and thinking "I did that". The satisfaction that you didn't have to call in a more competent man to do it for you.
When you mentioned being embarrassed about not knowing how to do something. A great thing about developing a skill in any area is that as you grow in experience, you find that not knowing something is a big part of learning. Admitting that you don't know something actually becomes a comfortable part of the job. It feels good when I don't know how to do something because it gives me an opportunity to learn something about this area that I didn't before. And you know what? You only don't know something once. As soon as you solve that problem you will know how to solve it for the rest of your life and your toolbox has just become that much more kitted out. So at the end of the day, being ok with not knowing how to do something is a skill in itself.
@Michael Garrett that's a lot easier said than actually done. I've been thinking about beating this asshole distantly talking shit and taunting me. He's twice my size but what I'm really scared of is that I might lose and make a fool out of myself. That I don't think I can handle.
@@neomileft3409 You may think that the man thing to do is to act in your anger and attempt to beat the shit out of him, but that just isn't true. Learn how to not give a fuck and let the words and taunts pass through you, be a bigger and better person. Learning martial arts is a great idea too, and the funny thing is that learning martial arts will teach you to avoid fights and act with responsibility. Go join a Jiu Jitsu gym and lift weights, soon youll feel so confident and sure in yourself that the asshole in question wont even bother you anymore.
Neomi Left I think that even if you did fight and say you do lose, you stepped up to the plate with ball , guys and courage and bravery. Just train and learn how to fight. Yea it’s easier to say then do but for me I was on the same situation years ago and I just got tired bro, I got tired of being tired of being tired. I was already in boxing it was my 3rd I was told to not fight outside the gym so I told the guy to come to the damn boxing gym !; true enough he showed up him and his boys and his friends and some from the school. I got hit a a lot but it’s a part of fighting plus he was 245 pounds I was 212lbs. I won but it wasn’t easy but it felt good getting hit back not gonna lie, but it felt even better landing a punch!!! Especially hooks and a few uppercuts. But back to you bro I don’t know you but I believe in you. I want you to try and fight, watch a boxing video . Search 1-5 punching combos it’ll show you each punch and how to throw em and then do push ups , hold canned goods and shadow box it’ll get your hand speed up and when you feel ready!!! Call up ole boy who was talking shit and tell him to meet you somewhere but bring some friends with you for back up just in case he brings back up. I guarantee you’ll feel better rather than sitting and letting that scum get the satisfaction of down talking you thinking he’s better. My name is Quay btw I hope this will help you.
This is a very real conversation for me. Boxing liberated me in a lot of ways. It teached me so much and gave me new perspectives in a lot of things in life. Combat sports are a great learning tool for "intellectual types", as jocko put it, to get out and live the world. It can actually be the most enlightening experience someone can get, especially if they read philosophy. So many concepts of stoicism, cynicism, taoism, pre-socratic thought get real while training. Doing combat sports is like getting all these teachings in philosophy and squeeze them in a single moment. It will complete an "intellectual type" that lacks purpose.
As an army infantry veteran I took this approach to my life. I didn’t have people teaching me technical skills growing up but I was taught hard work ethics. After my first deployment I realized the more skills you have the more valuable you are to your team. After the army I realized many skills I gained didn’t correlate to civilian life so UA-cam and books have been my friend. I’ve learned so many skill sets I’ve been able to do most things alone. Currently been fishing and hunting is my next chapter. If you keep yourself open minded to accepting knowledge you’ll be a life long student. Good stuff men and thanks for the great advice.
Get ACTION!! Go do things! Awesome advice from Jocko. I myself am one of those who had an absentee father and missed the whole series manhood lessons from him. So what did I do? I went out, picked up boxing, picked up bow hunting, picked up fishing, and with these hobbies came new friends , new social circles, and new women to mingle with and ask out, talk to, date etc. I learned this lesson late, around age 28, but now 2 years later I am seeing the positive results of going out and doing things!
In my line of work I've seen my fair share of "do it yourself electricians" and it's terrifying. Especially when whole families live in such homes. It's good to learn different things, but also good to know your limits. Theres licenses to be had for doing certain kind of jobs and there's reasons for it.
Absolutely spot on. I'm a HVAC tech now and I've seen the DIYers. Granted some of them are fine but a lot of these guys and gals need to stay away. There's a lot of safety issues that can come to the surface without the proper training and knowledge.
The part where he talks about getting a book called "how to do plumbing" rings so close to home. So many times I'll do something and a friend will have the same problem down the line. When I suggest they fix it themselves they say they "arent like me, they don't know how to do that stuff..." neither did I, until I went to Google and searched "how to fix...." there's a reason they teach you how to read and follow directions in elementary school.
As an IT guy for a small company, this is all my job really is. I go, hmm this is a problem. Idk how to fix this ..google "what is error ..." And 9 times out of 10, problem is fixed. That "1" time though, I just call the product company's customer support
Really? If you're arguing with someone who has an IQ score of 140 and yours is 100 but you know how to plumb your toilet, that means you've beat him on an intellectual level? Not sure about that one.
Thank you Jocko, never had a father, no one to teach anything in life, I had too father myself n teach myself things, most was learned the hard way but I go through it. Hearing speak and talk 💯
Many skilled people are willing to teach, but a lot of people don't want to learn. I saved a ton of money helping the plumber install my hot water heater last year. It was in my attic and we hauled it up together. He then showed me how to install it while he worked. I had another guy come to fix the fridge at my mother's house and he straight up told me I could do it myself and then showed me how for free.
There's two big advantages to learning them, regardless of what your time is worth. 1. You can accomplish the tasks when there isn't another choice... 2. You can inspect the job after a contractor is "finished" to see if it was done both correctly and well. As far as the whole time/money issue... It's a balance. You have to make the judgment call. Hire out when it's worth it, but be responsible when it should only cost about 20 bucks and an hour to do it on your own... versus 50 bucks and sitting around for three hours at some busy shop... waiting. ;o)
@@OTPpride Exactly why any knowledge is also power. You can't even bring the contractor to court if you don't know you have a case. There's also a third point in these skills. You can TEACH someone else to do the task at hand, and then show him how much it's worth to have him do it instead of doing it yourself... Whether a child for "chores to earn allowance" OR just a guy "with a hard time" who only has certain trade skills... and no market for them. Hot water's always on the left. Everything runs down hill. NEVER chew your finger nails. ...congrat's, you are now a plumber... Class of Saturday, 2AM. ;o)
Damn. I’m in my mid 40s and more and more, I’m grateful that I grew up with the father I have. The man doesn’t have a college degree. He grew up very poor an was one of 6 kids (the 2nd youngest, he was born in ‘42). He doesn’t have a college education. HOWEVER...he was a heavy equipment diesel mechanic for 33 years, a welder (US Navy Certified) at a local shipyard, and can build, fix and troubleshoot just about anything that’s ever been made. And odds are, it’ll be done right and better. As one of 5 kids I grew up doing yard work, and dad would “farm us out” to the neighbors to do their yard work. I helped him fix things since I was 7-fetching wrenches, hammers and “here, Hold this.” Fishing. Hunting. How to tow a trailer. It didn’t make sense at the time, but now? I’ve got skills. I can fix and maintain my home. I can repair my car. I know how to move stuff in and out of houses. Windows, doors, siding, drywall, painting, etc. I know how to build, fix and maintain things. The money I’ve saved and the confidence it builds is immeasurable. Also-my dad was a fighter. Even if he knew he’d lose, he’d make you work for it. Stand your ground, don’t back down. Choose your battles wisely and die on that hill if needed. Let people know when they’ve crossed that line-consequences are a real thing. “ “Be a man;” treat women with respect, be firm but caring with your kids, be kind to the cats and dogs. Respect your elders. Do what needs to be done, and help your neighbors. Stand up for yourself and for those who can’t-and when you see/hear bullshit, you call it out. You don’t gain the skills overnight and odds are, your first attempt is going to take forever and look awful. But, YOU did it and you’ll do it again and you’ll get better and more efficient at it. Much like a muscle, these skills need exercise to get strong. All of this is considered “toxic” by most today and it saddens me.
Apart from self-reliance, it gives you a good feeling deep down inside that makes you feel better knowing that YOU DID IT! It's all in the mind, really.
I just want to say that this video really hit home for me, I did not grow up with any positive role models. My father was in the picture but was more interested in random snatch than he was raising his son. It took me well into my twenties to realize how poorly prepared for the world I was and until I was almost 30 to stop making excuses and pull my head out of my ass. Now I have grown into a well-rounded man, learning new skills all the time with the example put forth by people like yourselves.
The important thing to remember with training in self-defence like Jiu Jitsu is that it not only gives you confidence to stand up for yourself but others will talk of you and your training telling people not to mess with that guy "cause he does Jiu Jitsu." Bullies go after the weaker ones because they know they are somewhat tougher than them, they will never test their strength against those who know how to defend themselves. But through your confidence in self-defence, it becomes more so your obligation to help those who are preyed on by others; stand up not just for yourself in times of distress but for those who continue to face the bullies just as you did before your training. Jordan Peterson wrote it better saying "learn good by experiencing evil. A bullied boy can mimic his tormentors. But he can also learn from his own abuse that it is wrong to push people around and make their lives miserable." Be the better man. Always. Side Note: I found this wisdom through Michael P. Murphy, a former Navy SEAL, who was known as "The Protector" in his high school for standing up for his fellow classmates who were being bullied.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can benefit from them as well. All the best to you!
One of my favorite quotes. " A society that separates its Warriors and Scholars has its thinking done by cowards and fighting done by fools". Be balanced
@Ferd Dorst Translated literally, Musashi said: With so much drama in the L-B-C It's kinda hard being Snoop D-O-double-G But I, somehow, some way Keep coming up with funky ass shit like every single day May I, kick a little something for the G's And, make a few ends as I breeze, through
Confidence doesn't come from knowing how to do things, but the realization that you have the capacity to figure out how to do things. Learning how to learn is the most valuable skill you can develop. It makes you adaptable and feel like you can take on the world as you embrace the feeling of not knowing
To me a lot of this comes from fear of leaving individuals comfort zones. I had a lot of problems with my comfort zones until I joined the Army and it completely changed me. Great video guys!
"Learn how to defend yourself" is unironically the best advice for anyone struggling with a lack of direction or confidence. It can be a martial art or becoming proficient with a weapon, there's both a confidence and a spirituality associated with each method of self defence. Even shooting. There's a mindset both for explosive, controlled reaction, and the serenity of stoic confidence in the craft. I convinced a guy to learn how to shoot since they didn't have "the physicality" for martial arts or lifting. Dude walks around with a revolver on his hip and a big ass cowboy hat. Chillest dude I know.
The embarrassment thing is real. I have felt it, my friends have felt it....and generally, there is no reason for it. Its self imposed. Most of the time the experts at Home Depot, Auto Zone, etc WANT to help and don't see you as "less manly". On the physical strength issue, it reminds me of a line from Act of Valor..." the worst part of growing old is that other men stop seeing you as dangerous "
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This is true, but so few men actually bother to make themselves more dangerous... so if you DO make the effort you can still be 60 and be more dangerous than most 30 year old men.
The last part of your comment hit me hard. As a 42 year old occasionally people try to fuck around with me and I'm thinking "I used to kick chips of brick out of walls and break ice cubes with my elbows...FOR FUN, the mellow old boomer guy you see is not all I am". Part of me wishes I was young again when you could throat slam people or kick their legs out from under them without having to worry about HR breathing down your neck or other adult consequences.
@@Leifler I did Japanese Jujitsu back in the 90's. (Back then the only way to do BJJ was to go to Brazil and show up at the Gracies house, wasn't the widespread thing it is now)
I'm amazed! I have some of the Jocko DNA. I wanted Adirondack chairs, bought a book and made some. Wanted bookshelves and bought a book and made some. I now have books on wiring, plumbing and the repair manuals for my car and truck. So many projects look overwhelming until you get started on them. Great advice.
Learned how to change my oil last month, and changed a friend's brakes yesterday... as someone who didn't have his license to drive until age 24, and didn't have any confidence that I could ever learn how to work on my car... I'm telling you it's possible. Be humble and ask someone for help. Learn on UA-cam. Go out and do it, like Jocko said. You aren't going to learn if you don't go try.
This is actually the mentality I had when first approaching game development. Worked at a software company and showed some colleagues my code on the project's I was working on. They ripped those things apart and i was constantly being shown SIGNIFICANTLY better ways of doing things. But the best part of it was it opened doors into other areas of development and also helped with networking as well. I quite frankly don't have the time to do game development at the moment, but I have been doing front end development (UI/UX, etc.) with a startup company and those fundamentals that were ingrained into me early on (from having looked at it objectively and not taking things personally) have been the saving grace. Moral of the story is 'never be afraid to try thing's before you're "ready to do them."' Because some lessons are best learned in the frying pan.
I think the feminine mindset tends to be based around "who will sit me down and teach me how to.. who will give me..." and in my opinion there is only one "man skill" and that's basic confidence in your ability to face a challenge. You *know* nobody will hold your hand and give you any skills or resources - or at the very least that you will have to go ask/trade or struggle for them in some way. You also know that the process of fighting for information and competence is a large part of the value of the exercise. There's a few reasons I say this - one is just from plainly observing how (competent) men go about things, the other is rooted in observing men's role, treatment and value within society throughout history and to present day. To me, "man" means "hands". For better or worse we are defined by what we *do* (literally or figuratively) with our *own* hands. Even if someone else does it bigger and better what counts is that you took the issue into your own hands. That's my two cents - I haven't listened to Jocko's opinion yet so maybe he'll teach me something new.
I think this is what Jocko isn't explaining well, and maybe it's more of an intellectual's job (Jordan Peterson for example) to explain in the way some may understand better, but the underlying confidence to do things when there are no other options is not taught. It is given. (think of the book "The Giver". It is passed down to you from sacrifice from someone who has sacrificed before and for those who have no father figure like myself growing up, it is natural to lean against anything and everything that helps you in their naivety of such wisdom. To learn how to be a man you have to psychologically go through a death of sorts and grieve the loss of that part of you that wants to lean on others or even substances. This is so hard for boys in fatherless homes. You have to create a father figure within yourself and be scared and fearful to disappoint that father figure within yourself. To tell yourself "stop being a little bitch, have some honor, and give yourself to the world". Yes, Jocko is right in the end result: "do things", and learn fearlessly. However, the psychological portion of this is the barrier to entry for "do things". Reading about honor, respect, and charity is vital to being a man.
@@worldpowereddesigns5990 I've never thought of this sort of skill as a gift that has to be given, but I suppose you are right. I'll keep it in mind and maybe pass that on.
1:00 Hit the nail right on the head. Both my parents are academics. I've run into the same problem. As a young man nobody taught me how/when I should defend myself should the need arise. I was never taught to change a tire or use tools. The male role models in my family lived too far away for me to effectively learn from them. Luckily the internet has taught me a lot of what I need to know.
Jiu Jitsu helped me in adult life. I’ll explain… I learned how to relax under pressure, to escape holds calmly, to have strength, and endurance. I didn’t know it at the time, but all those battles with my buddies, prepared me to be a single dad of two daughters for 20 years. To be a Grandpa to 4 kids with my daughters having issues. Of course Christ was the center, but Jiu Jitsu was a gift I learned at a young age, that helped me in ways I never thought. Maybe through a higher power. But it had its purpose.
It doesn’t seem to be the weight lifting and fitness that’s lacking, it’s the ability to fix things. Cars, home repairs, etc. It’s so rare nowadays.. and ATTRACTIVE.
100% I've trained in martial arts since i was 9, jiu jitsu, muay thai boxing and karate. However I am completely useless at fixing things and doing DIY jobs and my wife hates it.
C G Agreed! Didn’t realize how rare it is until other women were complimentary towards my husband and our grown sons. Slow your roll there sister...that’s my hunk of man meat and he still turns my crank! GRATEFUL!
Yea even fitness is not that super real men, I hit the gym 3 years and got super big and lean but after i started training boxing godamn that felt better i lost a lof of muscle mass due to cardio but i still feel great.
'When you *know* enough to handle the situation, it's also very tolerable to be able to remove oneself from said situation prior to it 'it' becoming a 'situation' in the 1st place. But, if it's a inescapable situation, you're more aware of what to do also. Win-win. "
Pragmatic Optimisty May 2013 - 2020 never I'd ever think the very breath Cary breathes that a family Lawyer and his wife of criminal defense took and take for granted mrs t you think Winwin ? God the Spirit of truth and justice and I assure that your mistaken
I totally agree with “doing things.” From growing up in a very spicy childhood hood-murdered mom, rape, dad in hooscal, etc etc. I have skill & proud of it! Actually skill! Albeit, oftentimes-most time, it’s slower. I kept at it, until I was proficient. I operate heavy equipment-quite good, as I asked the owner I’d work for free to get taught. I know how to cook, sew, decorate beautiful wedding cakes, properly weed eat, use chain saws, change toilet guts, whatever. UA-cam takes away all excuses. Figure it out. Keep at it. Remember-everyone has to learn, doesn’t come out the gate knowing & a black belt. I’m every bit a contender...and I’m a girl. (Older now...still proud!)
As abstract and or shallow as "work out" may sound, its actually a very encompassing skill. It does more than make someone more capable combatively. It makes building easier; easier to turn the wrench, grip the pliers, etc. It makes you less likely to get injured (same for stretching lol). Not only for the forms you learn, but it gives you more gross (big) motor control. It also gives you more go go juice (testosterone, endorphins, etc.) which also helps drive brain function.
Correct, also just learning how to properly lift weights is just like any other skill. Putting in consistent effort, learning proper form, mind-muscle connection, finding what works best for you etc. And quite honestly, it's just fun as well.
"It's good to have good tools." Damn right Jocko. One of the wisest things I've ever been told was "I am too poor to buy cheap tools." Those are words to live by.
Learning to be self reliant, especially around the house, made a clear and drastic change in how I approach every challenge moving forward. Love this podcast 👊🏼
I am a woman and had to learn man skills after I had to leave someone years ago. Because I had to "man up." The love of my life died at age 57 in January after an accident. "Cabrones" we were: He was a retired Mexican paratrooper and trained assassin. I've reached a new level of challenges, which is why I'm here. Thanks, Jocko and friends.
Things that made me stronger: Jiu Jitsu Learning from my failures and their consequences (like getting choked out in Jiu Jitsu) Shooting (with strong wrists bc Jiu Jitsu) Crushing puss (with a good stroke game/hip grip bc Jiu Jitsu) Watching motivational videos by dudes who did a lot of Jiu Jitsu. This is half a joke half not, but things like martial arts and failure in that lay a strong foundation of discipline. Pushing 21 and graduating the police academy, long road ahead. To all the older dudes, thanks for paving the way. For all my young brothers, let’s fucking get to it.
I have been blessed to only be around men that knee how to fix things, build things, I have never felt like I was good at the stuff but the more time I spent around other people I realized I know a shit ton more than the average "guy" .
I don't come to this channel often, but when I do, I am consistently glad I did. Really love even the most mundane of topics covered Jocko. Thanks man! :)
Build model kits (if it catches your interest).teaches alot of patience, build imagination,paint skills etc,the outcome is rewarding and its a great mental work out
@@cakesnatcher4541 Look I found the troll. A lot of my buddies are into models, my buddy that leads an Iran Intelegence team for I believe CENTCOM in Tampa, plays WarHammer 40K, and loves making models. Not something that I'm into myself, but I play video games a ton. Everyone destresses with something. I played video games during my entire time in the Marines, Law Enforcement Accademy, when I worked corrections, and was an armed contractor for DHS/FPS. (I don't carry a firearm to work anymore, left that life behind.) I thought video games were fucking rad when I was a kid and I still think they are rad now as an adult. People like Twig are just acting "hard" , or he's just ignorant. Keep working on the models man.
It shouldn't be understated that almost every man most dude’s can name were the type of dudes who taught in some form or fashion. They knew shit and were self-reliant, yes, but they also taught the people around them. Even if they weren’t great, they still taught what they knew and encouraged others to keep learning. At least this was my personal experience. There’s the humility of learning, bit also the humility of teaching.
Today, day 2 of getting back to running after a big break. No more excuses. Jocko got me going, Goggins got me to lengthen my stride, Uncle Jake got me to huddle running up the hill. I'm working on my house listening to Jocko and Echo. I'm 42, no more excuses. There are mentors everywhere, Lynne Blacks book is sitting in my car, just arrived in the post. And I'm reading the 3rd Warrior Kid book. I got them for my kids, but they are worth reading.
My Dad was a hand surgeon that worked on his own cars, and did his own home repairs. I was blessed. He instilled in me the confidence that I could do stuff myself. Heading out to do the brakes on my truck after this. If you didn't have a Dad like that, start hanging out with guys who are like that. My Sensei in Aikido inspired me to learn to weld.
@Dominic Zanger True, but generally you feel an urgency to be more productive. Even if you get the same amount of hours, the late sleeper will probably spend more time on their phone and shit
Confidence through doing, teaching my children that idea atm. Self-reliance leads to self-confidence equally valid for both my son and daughter. Interesting that in times of the "perfect image" that people do less; too afraid to fail, too afraid to admit weakness, too afraid to learn.
Accomplishments and failures is what builds a man. Do things that are hard, easy, and in between and you'll get some confidence. The sooner you start the better. Failure hurts less when you are younger because you have so much more time to get success.
So funny thing is I’m an electrician apprentice, got into the program about a year ago. Before that I worked in a white collar job. It’s amazing how I feel when I come home at the end of a hard days work of physical labor. I 100% feel more manly. Not to say working a white collar job makes you any less of a man, it’s just amazing in the difference of how I feel
Jocko was dead on with the drywallers. I’ve seen the guy that works with me drywall a 2,000 sq ft home by himself ceiling and walls in 16 straight hours he’s an absolute machine
Randomly started watching this episode as I was building a carport by hand from scratch with a goddamn book laying beside me. 😂 just got done rewiring my entire house last week. Installed my own wood stove and chimney last winter as well. Couldn’t be more truthful. You can definitely do it.!
Learn to laugh it off and make a big joke of it! "Hey, do you actually have any idea what the hell you're doing, Gnarth?" "NOT A F***ING CLUE! BUT IT AIN'T GONNA F*** ITSELF UP!" OR "Well, no, BUT this thing ain't worth a f*** as it is, so what damn difference it make???" ;o)
There used to be this dude in my gym, he was yoked. He’d come in with his reading glasses on and a book, between massive sets he’d sit there and read while resting. Talk about yin and yang, dude balanced both worlds of intellectualism and manliness.
Dominance asserted.
I listen to audiobooks and podcasts similar to Jocko’s while I work out. It’s pretty commonplace.
The mistake you made was thinking those two are different worlds
Damn.
Intelligence is a trait of manliness, but I got what you meant. Cool story.
I’m 34 with a 5 week old daughter. A year ago I started power lifting to be strong for her and my wife. A year before that I started motorcycling to fulfill a personal goal. 4 years before that when I bought my first house I learned on my own how to fix it and maintain it, I’m still learning. Now Im studying ownership and leadership so I can be a better father, husband, friend, coworker and son for my family and peers.
Get after it.
Trump TheTerrorist no
@Trump TheTerrorist
Why
Good luck with fatherhood man wish you the best keep working ✊🏾💯
As a single mother, I recommend you develop the skills of a spiritual leader and a financial leader also. I work mostly with women, and their husbands often phrase it this way "What's OUR plan honey?" And.... That's why I'm still single. Where is a man who can help answer the adult questions? I don't need to marry a grown man with access to my credit, retirement savings, and the ability to spend next months money before we make it, if he doesn't have financial self control and a basic understanding of investments. Also, I can't respect a man whose thoughts have never lifted above today's video game or 2020 politically correct view. I believe the term is NPC. Try reading the great minds of past centuries. It's not enough to help the kids with homework. The bigger question is, what school should they attend? What should they be learning? How can you be an example of a "man of character" if you have no foundation for your morals? How will you pass on your moral compass to your children, if you give them no reason to believe what you believe. Is it just tradition? Or preference? Can you give an explanation and a defence for what you believe? It takes a while to read a book on apologetics and digest it. As the leader in the home, you should be able to answer these questions when your children ask. And if you can't answer them, your wife may be excused for wondering if the"leader" in her home doesn't know why or where he is going.
@@ludwigvonmiseswasright4380 this is such well said post Sarah! Im saving it.
Summary Points :
1. Be physically strong
2. Do technical skills - regardless expertise, just start, follow how to do
3. Read about world - challenges + solution
4. Follow Tutorials - if you dont have mentors
Simplified concept :
Read, Study, Do
Learn, master, achieve!
thank you sir!
also: "learn to shoot, thats a nice skill also" - Jocko
thank you!
When the military applied for Jocko...he was skeptical at first. But decided to give them a chance.
LOL
Love it!
Can we turn chuck norris jokes into jocko jokes please 😂😂
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“The Nation that makes a great distinction between its scholars and its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools.”
- Thucydides
That’s true, but there’s only so much time in a day and no smart man is putting himself in harm’s way if he doesn’t have to, especially for a meagre wage and vane desires of heroism.
@@theaverageitaliandon998 you’re missing the point
@sturmgewehr357 Indeed he is, what makes you better is not warrying nor fighting, but the pursuit of strength and power. Things that we all can do safely with barbells, pull-up bars and books! And BJJ too
Based and warriorphilosopherpilled
still valid
Step 1. Be your own electrician, learn to do your own electrical work.
Step 2. Be your own firefighter, learn to put out electrical fires.
Made me laugh
Good one.
Hahaha ha good one 👍
😂 😂 😂
Worked on my dryer once and it caught on fire. Can confirm both steps lol
"Be a smart ass guy with a big deadlift" - Jocko
Roger that.
Gurashish singh Be William Smith (the guy from Red Dawn, not Fresh Prince)! Read his bio.
Sounds like my son
Julie Anderson thanks dad
Jocko wins 2020
Speak softly, but carry a big stick
Jocko's Wife: Hey honey i can't open this pickle jar, can you help m-
Jocko: *Have you tried learning jiu-jitsu??*
You gotta use a little mental warfare on that lid
Jiu jitsu is the answer to everything.
Any man who doesn't practice jiu jitsu is a bitch and is no man to me.
I think you mean: “Good. Learn to love Olives.”
@@georgegiesbrecht8224 😂😂
😂😂
As a widow w/o a man around living out in the country for the past 10 years, I watch UA-cam videos. Just yesterday, I changed the oil in my riding mower for the first time and I am 66! Last month, I dropped the deck and thoroughly cleaned it AND put it back together! Saved $180 that I used to spend for annual maintenance. If I can do it, a man can learn. Builds self esteem!
Nice, good on you👌👍
Awesome!!
Hell yeah!
Go girl! My mum taught me how to wire a plug with a bread knife. Single mother with attitude! 🏆
Very badass. Respect.
“When you know that you can destroy someone. Then it doesn’t matter. You just think they’re an idiot.”- Jocko
Best
I read the quote as he said it by accident
@@cochwithchrist3889 it wasn't an accident. That was Jocko exercising mind control
G G yes, the best way to win is to win without violence. The last resort is *violence*
Moronic statement lol
Jocko looks like testosterone if testosterone was a person
I heard testosterone takes Jocko to try and be more manly
Lmfao 💀🤦🏻♂️
That shit made me laugh so hard
Dominic Zanger at least one 😍😍😍
@Dominic Zanger Jocko is a dude that has commanded men in combat, you would be wise to educate yourself on his teachings. He knows whats coming down the pipe.
Self esteem comes with developing skills.
No, it really does not.
Motivation does... the acceptance of failures existence and possibility and being comfortable when it knocks on your door.. embrace it, learn from it, get off your ass and do it again, until you achieve success. What you don't accept is defeat.. remove phrases like "I can't" "it's impossible" from your vocabulary. It's power of will, that's the secret. Self esteem is attributed to social situations vs you.... will power, is you vs yourself.
I think it comes from doing hard things.
I'm not sure about self-esteem, but certainly self-confidence. Once you try something you didn't think you could do, even if you don't do it right, you gain self-confidence to do it again
Yes it does. Self confidence comes from ones own VALUE of themselves. Do they believe they’re useful or useless? Blaming it on “looks” is just an excuse your brain makes to avoid facing the fact that you believe you’re useless. If you had all these skills, looks wouldn’t matter, you’d love yourself because you’d know you can “fix anything”. You would take pride in the fact that you can do more than almost anybody you know.
Me: Jocko, how can I be a nuclear physicist?
Jocko: Do Jiu-Jitsu.
😂😂😂😂
🤦🏽♂️
Haha!!!
Lol!
Haha
Learning how to fight is a very important skill. It builds an insane amount of confidence.
The better boxer and wrestler I became, the less I postured and quieter I became. Ironically, as I got more confident and quieter, the more intimidating I was to loud Alpha males in social settings. They were constantly looking to me for validation. “Right bro? Right bro?”
When I spoke to my squad mates on serious matters, my words held more weight because I never wasted words on bullshit or bragging. They were like, “Hey Rod might have a point.”
All this came from learning how to fight properly.
How long did it take to get comfortable?
Exactly why I got my son in Boxing
Thank you brother - this was motivating 🙏
@@MDAM12716 I’ve been boxing/ kickboxing and doing Jiu Jitsu for about 8 months and I’m “comfortable” but the knowledge and technique I have to learn is exciting. So don’t worry about the time frame just take a step and do it, I promise it’s worth it
I love how a conversation on developing man skills always, without fail, turns in to a Jiu Jitsu love fest with these guys. Bless Jocko and Echo’s hearts.
I studied jujitsu all through highschool and college, took about 10 years to get a black belt. It is the best thing I ever did and I never had to fight someone. Confidence affects everything you do every day.
How old were you when you started? I want to do it but I worry about dealing with previous injuries or potential injuries
That's right, a predatory person sees your posture and tries to capitalize on it or gtf out the way
@@JitinMisra same bro im worried about gruesome injuries... @cybrcow any thoughts on how to mitigate that risk?
@@yandhi4202 Is Jiujutsu the best Martial Art to learn or can you name the top 3 best martial art?
@@Rama_Rama_Rama I think you meant to reply to someone else - I’m not sure.
"Do things" - Jocko
*applause*
(PS: you're not going to be great at it)
*standing ovation*
HughRGlen 😂🙏🏾
No one:
Joe Rogan: have you ever tried DMT?
Jocko: have you ever considered Jiu Jitsu?
This is true
Ben Warner haha haha. What is the basis for this comment
Goggins : WHOS GONNA CARRY THE BOATS AND THE LOGS ?!
Sounds like Jocko is questioning Joe Rogan’s MMA credentials...
Also
Pat Macnamara: [Does something on Camera] “BASIC DUDE STUFF”
Red 7 brother 🤘🏻🔥
I relate to this so much. My father died when I was ten. My uncle tried to take me under his wing best he could but I was acting out all the time. He ended up getting murder shortly after I turned 18 and I wandered far from the reservation after that. Very far. I’ve always wanted a father or a positive male role model (mom never remarried or dated). I never had one until recently when I found people like Jocko, Jordan Peterson, even a certain comedian I really related to. I started taking their advice and I can happily say that I’m doing really good now and actually look forward to tomorrow. Hell im looking forward to the day I have a family now really and can be for my son what I never had. I used to want to die real talk. Thanks for all the content Jocko I listen to it on the daily and also, I wake up at 2:45 everyday for the gym before I go to work. Thank you!
How old are you now if you don't mind me asking?
Was it uncle Joey? That's mine, for better or for worse. Lol
@@well_as_an_expert_id_say fuck yeah it is bro!!
Bill burr or Joe Rogan?
David Goggins look him up
"Do some plumbing" I love it :D
It is amazing how some good honest constructive work builds the soul, not even manual labour.
Just the act of creating something, standing back and thinking "I did that".
The satisfaction that you didn't have to call in a more competent man to do it for you.
When you mentioned being embarrassed about not knowing how to do something. A great thing about developing a skill in any area is that as you grow in experience, you find that not knowing something is a big part of learning. Admitting that you don't know something actually becomes a comfortable part of the job. It feels good when I don't know how to do something because it gives me an opportunity to learn something about this area that I didn't before. And you know what? You only don't know something once. As soon as you solve that problem you will know how to solve it for the rest of your life and your toolbox has just become that much more kitted out. So at the end of the day, being ok with not knowing how to do something is a skill in itself.
@Michael Garrett that's a lot easier said than actually done. I've been thinking about beating this asshole distantly talking shit and taunting me.
He's twice my size but what I'm really scared of is that I might lose and make a fool out of myself. That I don't think I can handle.
Great stuff here, especially the “you only don’t know something once” part, thank you for putting it that way!
@@neomileft3409 You may think that the man thing to do is to act in your anger and attempt to beat the shit out of him, but that just isn't true. Learn how to not give a fuck and let the words and taunts pass through you, be a bigger and better person. Learning martial arts is a great idea too, and the funny thing is that learning martial arts will teach you to avoid fights and act with responsibility. Go join a Jiu Jitsu gym and lift weights, soon youll feel so confident and sure in yourself that the asshole in question wont even bother you anymore.
Neomi Left I think that even if you did fight and say you do lose, you stepped up to the plate with ball , guys and courage and bravery. Just train and learn how to fight. Yea it’s easier to say then do but for me I was on the same situation years ago and I just got tired bro, I got tired of being tired of being tired. I was already in boxing it was my 3rd I was told to not fight outside the gym so I told the guy to come to the damn boxing gym !; true enough he showed up him and his boys and his friends and some from the school. I got hit a a lot but it’s a part of fighting plus he was 245 pounds I was 212lbs. I won but it wasn’t easy but it felt good getting hit back not gonna lie, but it felt even better landing a punch!!! Especially hooks and a few uppercuts. But back to you bro I don’t know you but I believe in you. I want you to try and fight, watch a boxing video . Search 1-5 punching combos it’ll show you each punch and how to throw em and then do push ups , hold canned goods and shadow box it’ll get your hand speed up and when you feel ready!!! Call up ole boy who was talking shit and tell him to meet you somewhere but bring some friends with you for back up just in case he brings back up. I guarantee you’ll feel better rather than sitting and letting that scum get the satisfaction of down talking you thinking he’s better. My name is Quay btw I hope this will help you.
"I don't know what to believe."
"A statement that possesses more wisdom than it implies."
Jocko brings me peace when I’m stressed. He’s gives the answers men need to move forward.
This is a very real conversation for me. Boxing liberated me in a lot of ways. It teached me so much and gave me new perspectives in a lot of things in life. Combat sports are a great learning tool for "intellectual types", as jocko put it, to get out and live the world. It can actually be the most enlightening experience someone can get, especially if they read philosophy. So many concepts of stoicism, cynicism, taoism, pre-socratic thought get real while training. Doing combat sports is like getting all these teachings in philosophy and squeeze them in a single moment. It will complete an "intellectual type" that lacks purpose.
“It taught you so much”😉
As an army infantry veteran I took this approach to my life. I didn’t have people teaching me technical skills growing up but I was taught hard work ethics. After my first deployment I realized the more skills you have the more valuable you are to your team. After the army I realized many skills I gained didn’t correlate to civilian life so UA-cam and books have been my friend. I’ve learned so many skill sets I’ve been able to do most things alone. Currently been fishing and hunting is my next chapter. If you keep yourself open minded to accepting knowledge you’ll be a life long student. Good stuff men and thanks for the great advice.
Get ACTION!! Go do things! Awesome advice from Jocko. I myself am one of those who had an absentee father and missed the whole series manhood lessons from him. So what did I do? I went out, picked up boxing, picked up bow hunting, picked up fishing, and with these hobbies came new friends , new social circles, and new women to mingle with and ask out, talk to, date etc. I learned this lesson late, around age 28, but now 2 years later I am seeing the positive results of going out and doing things!
Jocko's pipes burst, so he taught it Jiu Jitsu to defend itself
He probably put that water pipe in a choke hold.
Comments are killing me. 😭
No one:
Jocko Rogan: Have you tried doing Jiu Jitsu on DMT?
“That was the first time I’ve ever choked out a cyclops.”
...Jocko Rocko
Jock Rockan
Jogan Rockan
In my line of work I've seen my fair share of "do it yourself electricians" and it's terrifying. Especially when whole families live in such homes. It's good to learn different things, but also good to know your limits. Theres licenses to be had for doing certain kind of jobs and there's reasons for it.
Fair point.
Same, nightmare-ish wiring hidden behind walls!!
You do not need a license to be good at something most mechanic don’t have an electrical license but they re wire cars everyday perfectly
Absolutely spot on. I'm a HVAC tech now and I've seen the DIYers. Granted some of them are fine but a lot of these guys and gals need to stay away. There's a lot of safety issues that can come to the surface without the proper training and knowledge.
I work in plumbing doing service work, and we have to fix screwed up stuff by ‘do it yourselfers’ every week.
The part where he talks about getting a book called "how to do plumbing" rings so close to home. So many times I'll do something and a friend will have the same problem down the line. When I suggest they fix it themselves they say they "arent like me, they don't know how to do that stuff..." neither did I, until I went to Google and searched "how to fix...." there's a reason they teach you how to read and follow directions in elementary school.
same, man. we’re masters in the art of Googlefu
We live in an age where you can do just about anything starting from nothing. You just have to have patience and discipline.
As an IT guy for a small company, this is all my job really is. I go, hmm this is a problem. Idk how to fix this ..google "what is error ..." And 9 times out of 10, problem is fixed. That "1" time though, I just call the product company's customer support
Exactly man the amount of times I have to tell my friends this 🤦🏻♂️
Baconator? Really? Lol
The holy trinity of dominance. Intellect, Strength and know-how.
When you stand against someone and you've more skills than him.. you've already conquered at intellectual level
Develop skills.
I liked this comment simply because you said “you’ve more”. More people need to properly conjugate words like this.
Or they take out a gun and pop ya :/ be ready.
Really? If you're arguing with someone who has an IQ score of 140 and yours is 100 but you know how to plumb your toilet, that means you've beat him on an intellectual level? Not sure about that one.
Jocko is everyone’s tough uncle. Thank you,Sir.
Thank you Jocko, never had a father, no one to teach anything in life, I had too father myself n teach myself things, most was learned the hard way but I go through it. Hearing speak and talk 💯
"Be a smart ass guy with a big dead lift".
Love it..
Many skilled people are willing to teach, but a lot of people don't want to learn. I saved a ton of money helping the plumber install my hot water heater last year. It was in my attic and we hauled it up together. He then showed me how to install it while he worked. I had another guy come to fix the fridge at my mother's house and he straight up told me I could do it myself and then showed me how for free.
I learned a lot of "man" skills because i wasn't willing to spend money on stuff😂 thankfully i realized my time's worth more
😆 I didn't realize my time was worth more till I had kids, lol
There's two big advantages to learning them, regardless of what your time is worth.
1. You can accomplish the tasks when there isn't another choice...
2. You can inspect the job after a contractor is "finished" to see if it was done both correctly and well.
As far as the whole time/money issue... It's a balance. You have to make the judgment call. Hire out when it's worth it, but be responsible when it should only cost about 20 bucks and an hour to do it on your own... versus 50 bucks and sitting around for three hours at some busy shop... waiting. ;o)
gnarth d'arkanen number two is really important. So many people have NO idea how much they should pay for a repair or fix OR if the job was done well.
@@OTPpride Exactly why any knowledge is also power. You can't even bring the contractor to court if you don't know you have a case.
There's also a third point in these skills. You can TEACH someone else to do the task at hand, and then show him how much it's worth to have him do it instead of doing it yourself...
Whether a child for "chores to earn allowance" OR just a guy "with a hard time" who only has certain trade skills... and no market for them.
Hot water's always on the left.
Everything runs down hill.
NEVER chew your finger nails.
...congrat's, you are now a plumber...
Class of Saturday, 2AM. ;o)
I see you’ve learned the manly art of frugality 👍🏻
Damn. I’m in my mid 40s and more and more, I’m grateful that I grew up with the father I have.
The man doesn’t have a college degree. He grew up very poor an was one of 6 kids (the 2nd youngest, he was born in ‘42).
He doesn’t have a college education. HOWEVER...he was a heavy equipment diesel mechanic for 33 years, a welder (US Navy Certified) at a local shipyard, and can build, fix and troubleshoot just about anything that’s ever been made. And odds are, it’ll be done right and better.
As one of 5 kids I grew up doing yard work, and dad would “farm us out” to the neighbors to do their yard work. I helped him fix things since I was 7-fetching wrenches, hammers and “here, Hold this.” Fishing. Hunting. How to tow a trailer.
It didn’t make sense at the time, but now? I’ve got skills. I can fix and maintain my home. I can repair my car. I know how to move stuff in and out of houses. Windows, doors, siding, drywall, painting, etc. I know how to build, fix and maintain things. The money I’ve saved and the confidence it builds is immeasurable.
Also-my dad was a fighter. Even if he knew he’d lose, he’d make you work for it. Stand your ground, don’t back down. Choose your battles wisely and die on that hill if needed. Let people know when they’ve crossed that line-consequences are a real thing. “
“Be a man;” treat women with respect, be firm but caring with your kids, be kind to the cats and dogs. Respect your elders. Do what needs to be done, and help your neighbors. Stand up for yourself and for those who can’t-and when you see/hear bullshit, you call it out.
You don’t gain the skills overnight and odds are, your first attempt is going to take forever and look awful.
But, YOU did it and you’ll do it again and you’ll get better and more efficient at it. Much like a muscle, these skills need exercise to get strong.
All of this is considered “toxic” by most today and it saddens me.
He sounds like a good man.
Your father imbibed great values in you. He sounds like a great man. God bless you and your family.
Apart from self-reliance, it gives you a good feeling deep down inside that makes you feel better knowing that YOU DID IT! It's all in the mind, really.
I just want to say that this video really hit home for me, I did not grow up with any positive role models. My father was in the picture but was more interested in random snatch than he was raising his son. It took me well into my twenties to realize how poorly prepared for the world I was and until I was almost 30 to stop making excuses and pull my head out of my ass. Now I have grown into a well-rounded man, learning new skills all the time with the example put forth by people like yourselves.
To hear "I'm not there yet, but I'm working on it" from Jocko Willink is a powerful thing.
Humility is power
A big part of developing it, yes
The important thing to remember with training in self-defence like Jiu Jitsu is that it not only gives you confidence to stand up for yourself but others will talk of you and your training telling people not to mess with that guy "cause he does Jiu Jitsu." Bullies go after the weaker ones because they know they are somewhat tougher than them, they will never test their strength against those who know how to defend themselves.
But through your confidence in self-defence, it becomes more so your obligation to help those who are preyed on by others; stand up not just for yourself in times of distress but for those who continue to face the bullies just as you did before your training.
Jordan Peterson wrote it better saying "learn good by experiencing evil. A bullied boy can mimic his tormentors. But he can also learn from his own abuse that it is wrong to push people around and make their lives miserable."
Be the better man. Always.
Side Note: I found this wisdom through Michael P. Murphy, a former Navy SEAL, who was known as "The Protector" in his high school for standing up for his fellow classmates who were being bullied.
Well fucking said.
Awesome.
*To be the man you got to be the man.*
Skull J2 truth said somewhere in the comment
Jocko: “Be a smart ass guy with a huge dead lift” Words of wisdom right there.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can benefit from them as well.
All the best to you!
I absolutely LOVE how these guys literally give the best advice EVER on any subject. Period!
Sending y’all love from Kentucky! 💪🏻
One of my favorite quotes. " A society that separates its Warriors and Scholars has its thinking done by cowards and fighting done by fools". Be balanced
Myamoto Musashi said “the first time is hard. Keep doing it till you master it”
@Ferd Dorst Translated literally, Musashi said:
With so much drama in the L-B-C
It's kinda hard being Snoop D-O-double-G
But I, somehow, some way
Keep coming up with funky ass shit like every single day
May I, kick a little something for the G's
And, make a few ends as I breeze, through
Confidence doesn't come from knowing how to do things, but the realization that you have the capacity to figure out how to do things. Learning how to learn is the most valuable skill you can develop. It makes you adaptable and feel like you can take on the world as you embrace the feeling of not knowing
Jocko is all of the Chuck Norris jokes rolled into one, but in real life.
Jocko isn't about chuck Norris jokes.
Chuck Norris jokes are all about him.
To me a lot of this comes from fear of leaving individuals comfort zones.
I had a lot of problems with my comfort zones until I joined the Army and it completely changed me. Great video guys!
"Learn how to defend yourself" is unironically the best advice for anyone struggling with a lack of direction or confidence. It can be a martial art or becoming proficient with a weapon, there's both a confidence and a spirituality associated with each method of self defence. Even shooting. There's a mindset both for explosive, controlled reaction, and the serenity of stoic confidence in the craft. I convinced a guy to learn how to shoot since they didn't have "the physicality" for martial arts or lifting. Dude walks around with a revolver on his hip and a big ass cowboy hat. Chillest dude I know.
The embarrassment thing is real. I have felt it, my friends have felt it....and generally, there is no reason for it. Its self imposed. Most of the time the experts at Home Depot, Auto Zone, etc WANT to help and don't see you as "less manly". On the physical strength issue, it reminds me of a line from Act of Valor..." the worst part of growing old is that other men stop seeing you as dangerous "
This is true, but so few men actually bother to make themselves more dangerous... so if you DO make the effort you can still be 60 and be more dangerous than most 30 year old men.
The last part of your comment hit me hard. As a 42 year old occasionally people try to fuck around with me and I'm thinking "I used to kick chips of brick out of walls and break ice cubes with my elbows...FOR FUN, the mellow old boomer guy you see is not all I am". Part of me wishes I was young again when you could throat slam people or kick their legs out from under them without having to worry about HR breathing down your neck or other adult consequences.
@@fredfredburger5150 Have you tried Jujitsu? 😁
@@Leifler I did Japanese Jujitsu back in the 90's. (Back then the only way to do BJJ was to go to Brazil and show up at the Gracies house, wasn't the widespread thing it is now)
@@fredfredburger5150 What’s the difference between BJJ and Japanese Jujitsu
I'm amazed! I have some of the Jocko DNA. I wanted Adirondack chairs, bought a book and made some. Wanted bookshelves and bought a book and made some. I now have books on wiring, plumbing and the repair manuals for my car and truck. So many projects look overwhelming until you get started on them. Great advice.
Learned how to change my oil last month, and changed a friend's brakes yesterday... as someone who didn't have his license to drive until age 24, and didn't have any confidence that I could ever learn how to work on my car... I'm telling you it's possible. Be humble and ask someone for help. Learn on UA-cam. Go out and do it, like Jocko said. You aren't going to learn if you don't go try.
Good job man!
This is actually the mentality I had when first approaching game development. Worked at a software company and showed some colleagues my code on the project's I was working on. They ripped those things apart and i was constantly being shown SIGNIFICANTLY better ways of doing things. But the best part of it was it opened doors into other areas of development and also helped with networking as well. I quite frankly don't have the time to do game development at the moment, but I have been doing front end development (UI/UX, etc.) with a startup company and those fundamentals that were ingrained into me early on (from having looked at it objectively and not taking things personally) have been the saving grace.
Moral of the story is 'never be afraid to try thing's before you're "ready to do them."' Because some lessons are best learned in the frying pan.
I think the feminine mindset tends to be based around "who will sit me down and teach me how to.. who will give me..." and in my opinion there is only one "man skill" and that's basic confidence in your ability to face a challenge. You *know* nobody will hold your hand and give you any skills or resources - or at the very least that you will have to go ask/trade or struggle for them in some way. You also know that the process of fighting for information and competence is a large part of the value of the exercise.
There's a few reasons I say this - one is just from plainly observing how (competent) men go about things, the other is rooted in observing men's role, treatment and value within society throughout history and to present day.
To me, "man" means "hands". For better or worse we are defined by what we *do* (literally or figuratively) with our *own* hands. Even if someone else does it bigger and better what counts is that you took the issue into your own hands.
That's my two cents - I haven't listened to Jocko's opinion yet so maybe he'll teach me something new.
I think this is what Jocko isn't explaining well, and maybe it's more of an intellectual's job (Jordan Peterson for example) to explain in the way some may understand better, but the underlying confidence to do things when there are no other options is not taught. It is given. (think of the book "The Giver". It is passed down to you from sacrifice from someone who has sacrificed before and for those who have no father figure like myself growing up, it is natural to lean against anything and everything that helps you in their naivety of such wisdom. To learn how to be a man you have to psychologically go through a death of sorts and grieve the loss of that part of you that wants to lean on others or even substances. This is so hard for boys in fatherless homes. You have to create a father figure within yourself and be scared and fearful to disappoint that father figure within yourself. To tell yourself "stop being a little bitch, have some honor, and give yourself to the world". Yes, Jocko is right in the end result: "do things", and learn fearlessly. However, the psychological portion of this is the barrier to entry for "do things". Reading about honor, respect, and charity is vital to being a man.
@@worldpowereddesigns5990 I've never thought of this sort of skill as a gift that has to be given, but I suppose you are right. I'll keep it in mind and maybe pass that on.
asic confidence in your ability to face a challenge... why is this supposed to be a man skill? It can work for everyone
1:00 Hit the nail right on the head. Both my parents are academics. I've run into the same problem. As a young man nobody taught me how/when I should defend myself should the need arise. I was never taught to change a tire or use tools. The male role models in my family lived too far away for me to effectively learn from them. Luckily the internet has taught me a lot of what I need to know.
Jiu Jitsu helped me in adult life. I’ll explain… I learned how to relax under pressure, to escape holds calmly, to have strength, and endurance. I didn’t know it at the time, but all those battles with my buddies, prepared me to be a single dad of two daughters for 20 years. To be a Grandpa to 4 kids with my daughters having issues. Of course Christ was the center, but Jiu Jitsu was a gift I learned at a young age, that helped me in ways I never thought. Maybe through a higher power. But it had its purpose.
It doesn’t seem to be the weight lifting and fitness that’s lacking, it’s the ability to fix things. Cars, home repairs, etc. It’s so rare nowadays.. and ATTRACTIVE.
100% I've trained in martial arts since i was 9, jiu jitsu, muay thai boxing and karate. However I am completely useless at fixing things and doing DIY jobs and my wife hates it.
C G Agreed! Didn’t realize how rare it is until other women were complimentary towards my husband and our grown sons. Slow your roll there sister...that’s my hunk of man meat and he still turns my crank! GRATEFUL!
Yea even fitness is not that super real men, I hit the gym 3 years and got super big and lean but after i started training boxing godamn that felt better i lost a lof of muscle mass due to cardio but i still feel great.
Your attractive. What’s your number
Its amazing how much I’ve learned about things by simply admitting “I don’t know” be humble and people who know more will usually gladly help.
The level of Humbleness Jocko & Echo carry, Too Good.
'When you *know* enough to handle the situation, it's also very tolerable to be able to remove oneself from said situation prior to it 'it' becoming a 'situation' in the 1st place.
But, if it's a inescapable situation, you're more aware of what to do also. Win-win. "
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I totally agree with “doing things.” From growing up in a very spicy childhood hood-murdered mom, rape, dad in hooscal, etc etc. I have skill & proud of it! Actually skill! Albeit, oftentimes-most time, it’s slower. I kept at it, until I was proficient. I operate heavy equipment-quite good, as I asked the owner I’d work for free to get taught. I know how to cook, sew, decorate beautiful wedding cakes, properly weed eat, use chain saws, change toilet guts, whatever. UA-cam takes away all excuses. Figure it out. Keep at it. Remember-everyone has to learn, doesn’t come out the gate knowing & a black belt. I’m every bit a contender...and I’m a girl. (Older now...still proud!)
What's being a girl have to do with it.
vincent rando it was presented as “man skills!”
Mad respect, grrl.:-) Proud of you!!
That's fine.
Damn, that's mad skills. Respect. I wanna be like you when I grow up :)
As abstract and or shallow as "work out" may sound, its actually a very encompassing skill.
It does more than make someone more capable combatively.
It makes building easier; easier to turn the wrench, grip the pliers, etc. It makes you less likely to get injured (same for stretching lol). Not only for the forms you learn, but it gives you more gross (big) motor control.
It also gives you more go go juice (testosterone, endorphins, etc.) which also helps drive brain function.
Correct, also just learning how to properly lift weights is just like any other skill. Putting in consistent effort, learning proper form, mind-muscle connection, finding what works best for you etc. And quite honestly, it's just fun as well.
„Be a smart ass guy with a big deadlift“ I was laughing so loud sitting here in a train. Cheers from Germany
I enjoy the black and white filter at all times, when I'm in a public place listening and watching I can also glance at what's behind me with ease
"It's good to have good tools." Damn right Jocko. One of the wisest things I've ever been told was "I am too poor to buy cheap tools." Those are words to live by.
Learning to be self reliant, especially around the house, made a clear and drastic change in how I approach every challenge moving forward. Love this podcast 👊🏼
I am a woman and had to learn man skills after I had to leave someone years ago. Because I had to "man up." The love of my life died at age 57 in January after an accident. "Cabrones" we were: He was a retired Mexican paratrooper and trained assassin. I've reached a new level of challenges, which is why I'm here. Thanks, Jocko and friends.
Things that made me stronger:
Jiu Jitsu
Learning from my failures and their consequences (like getting choked out in Jiu Jitsu)
Shooting (with strong wrists bc Jiu Jitsu)
Crushing puss (with a good stroke game/hip grip bc Jiu Jitsu)
Watching motivational videos by dudes who did a lot of Jiu Jitsu.
This is half a joke half not, but things like martial arts and failure in that lay a strong foundation of discipline.
Pushing 21 and graduating the police academy, long road ahead. To all the older dudes, thanks for paving the way. For all my young brothers, let’s fucking get to it.
I have been blessed to only be around men that knee how to fix things, build things, I have never felt like I was good at the stuff but the more time I spent around other people I realized I know a shit ton more than the average "guy" .
I just realized that I have a book called "The Illustrated Art of Manliness" that I have been meaning to read but never did. I'll read it now.
Have you started reading it yet?
Bully: *tries to take Jocko's lunch money*
Jocko: No you
Bully: Ok
Hahahaha
Lol
🤣😂😅
Who would walk up to jocko and demand his lunch money? The mountain from game of thrones?
“I took electricity class.... with.. Scotty..” 😂😂 sounds so made up
He probably meant electrical. When I was in middle school we still had wood shop and electrical.
Scotty doesn't know.
So don’t tell Scotty
Whole thing sounds
Oh you guys don’t know Scotty? Dang.
Read history, be humble, get a mentor even if it is in a book . . . This is GOLD!!! Man up, men. Read, study and do! Yep!
I don't come to this channel often, but when I do, I am consistently glad I did. Really love even the most mundane of topics covered Jocko. Thanks man! :)
When Jocko was talking about how great of a mentor Hackworth was to him, I wonder if he realizes what a mentor he has been to millions of people.
Build model kits (if it catches your interest).teaches alot of patience, build imagination,paint skills etc,the outcome is rewarding and its a great mental work out
Gay.
@@cakesnatcher4541 Look I found the troll. A lot of my buddies are into models, my buddy that leads an Iran Intelegence team for I believe CENTCOM in Tampa, plays WarHammer 40K, and loves making models. Not something that I'm into myself, but I play video games a ton.
Everyone destresses with something. I played video games during my entire time in the Marines, Law Enforcement Accademy, when I worked corrections, and was an armed contractor for DHS/FPS. (I don't carry a firearm to work anymore, left that life behind.)
I thought video games were fucking rad when I was a kid and I still think they are rad now as an adult.
People like Twig are just acting "hard" , or he's just ignorant. Keep working on the models man.
It shouldn't be understated that almost every man most dude’s can name were the type of dudes who taught in some form or fashion. They knew shit and were self-reliant, yes, but they also taught the people around them. Even if they weren’t great, they still taught what they knew and encouraged others to keep learning. At least this was my personal experience. There’s the humility of learning, bit also the humility of teaching.
A few months ago someone described me as "The toughest guy at any book club" and honestly? I'll take that as a compliment.
Today, day 2 of getting back to running after a big break. No more excuses. Jocko got me going, Goggins got me to lengthen my stride, Uncle Jake got me to huddle running up the hill.
I'm working on my house listening to Jocko and Echo.
I'm 42, no more excuses.
There are mentors everywhere, Lynne Blacks book is sitting in my car, just arrived in the post. And I'm reading the 3rd Warrior Kid book. I got them for my kids, but they are worth reading.
"Read. Study. Do."
*Rodger that.*
Reading is totally underrated...
John Doe: "What's the meaning of life?"
Jocko: "Learn JuJitsu"
Jocko and Echo are my mentors right now.
I don't know why but the way he says "how to do plumbing" cracks me up every time.
My Dad was a hand surgeon that worked on his own cars, and did his own home repairs. I was blessed. He instilled in me the confidence that I could do stuff myself. Heading out to do the brakes on my truck after this. If you didn't have a Dad like that, start hanging out with guys who are like that. My Sensei in Aikido inspired me to learn to weld.
I wont do brakes, Good man knows his limitations!
@@Dr.Pepperdave I won't do transmissions! Lol
Beautiful ! Thank you for making this video !
The only guy who motivated me to wake up at 4:30 am
I'm up at 3:30 am everyday, I'm there bro. Now I have to be up that early for work, but listening to jocko, def helps lol
@@ChaosTheoryProductions Some jobs require it
@@sergiofernandez4566 I'll tell you, it's a long day, 10hrs, when it's all said and done. And one hell of a work out to. Best of both worlds.
become a baker like me, Im up at 3am every day and I have no cheat days, because If im not up at 3 then i become homeless with no money......
@Dominic Zanger True, but generally you feel an urgency to be more productive. Even if you get the same amount of hours, the late sleeper will probably spend more time on their phone and shit
Confidence through doing, teaching my children that idea atm. Self-reliance leads to self-confidence equally valid for both my son and daughter. Interesting that in times of the "perfect image" that people do less; too afraid to fail, too afraid to admit weakness, too afraid to learn.
Accomplishments and failures is what builds a man. Do things that are hard, easy, and in between and you'll get some confidence. The sooner you start the better. Failure hurts less when you are younger because you have so much more time to get success.
True quote
So funny thing is I’m an electrician apprentice, got into the program about a year ago. Before that I worked in a white collar job. It’s amazing how I feel when I come home at the end of a hard days work of physical labor. I 100% feel more manly. Not to say working a white collar job makes you any less of a man, it’s just amazing in the difference of how I feel
Nobody:
Jiu Jitsu: have you ever tried Jocko?
Jocko was dead on with the drywallers. I’ve seen the guy that works with me drywall a 2,000 sq ft home by himself ceiling and walls in 16 straight hours he’s an absolute machine
Randomly started watching this episode as I was building a carport by hand from scratch with a goddamn book laying beside me. 😂 just got done rewiring my entire house last week. Installed my own wood stove and chimney last winter as well. Couldn’t be more truthful. You can definitely do it.!
One of the most important videos for young men everywhere !!
"It's very beneficial to hit it hard." - Check.
I think I just found homeschool curriculum for my Jr. High boy. 😉
You're going to teach him Jiu Jitsu?
@@MagisterWigbo i would hope so
He better be smart as hell with a massive deadlift.
Hope you did this
So what happened? Is your kid buff and smart now?
5:08 I'm not embarrassed to admit what I don't know, but I am embarrassed every moment when I look like I don't know what I'm doing
Learn to laugh it off and make a big joke of it!
"Hey, do you actually have any idea what the hell you're doing, Gnarth?"
"NOT A F***ING CLUE! BUT IT AIN'T GONNA F*** ITSELF UP!"
OR
"Well, no, BUT this thing ain't worth a f*** as it is, so what damn difference it make???" ;o)
what I get from Jocko is that training is more for confidence in conflict than actually fighting people
Yeah I’d say more self confidence, like you have more competence and control over yourself.
Learning martial arts was by far the best thing I ever did in my life to build confidence.