Podcast Yabazalwane Eps 7 | My Marriage Failed 2 Times | NJ Sthole | Suicide | Pregnancy | Part 1

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  • Опубліковано 31 лип 2023
  • We Chatting with Ma'am Nozipho Mabaso sharing her experiences about her marriage

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  • @CarolNgobese
    @CarolNgobese 11 місяців тому +6

    Sad when she says "Kade umshado waphela", and I'm thinking Azange ubekhona to start with

  • @jowie4156
    @jowie4156 11 місяців тому +11

    Such a smart lady, why subject yourself to this suffering. I am glad you did not proceed with the suicide

  • @lesibamashaba3898
    @lesibamashaba3898 11 місяців тому +12

    A man's heart is desperately wicked who can know it

  • @latitaabuti8057
    @latitaabuti8057 11 місяців тому +5

    Yhooo 🙆🏾‍♀️
    This thing of bekezela is not working,red flags were there my lady.l thank God ngokuthumela umlayezo wakhe ngo Pastor NJ Sithole.ungangathandwa ngabanye abantu kodwa UNkulunkulu uyakuthanda ngothando lweqiniso.futhi nathi kumele sifunde ukuzithanda kuqala b4 sithande omunye umuntu.,loko kuyasiza empilweni

  • @tlhologelomakotanyane427
    @tlhologelomakotanyane427 11 місяців тому +14

    I couldn't stop saying yooooo while watching this podcast, Haibo mama you are very strong woman of God.

  • @zikhonazish8546
    @zikhonazish8546 10 місяців тому +4

    Tjoooo 🙆‍♀️ did God confirm this marriage from the beginning? I'm scared to get married lord have mercy and grant us grace of wisdom, coz I want family in my life..... Tjoooo sorry mama from being a virgin to marry such kind of a men, but God of heaven will wipe your tears

  • @phindimabunda9102
    @phindimabunda9102 10 місяців тому +4

    I also suffered 😢in my marriage until I divorced him such is life.

  • @conquererforchrist
    @conquererforchrist 10 місяців тому +4

    Red flags, the guy has two children from different mothers as a christian lady never been exposed to men will be a question. Ladies we need to pray and get confirmation from God if we are getting in to a courtship. Most of the time we marry wrong people because of pressure. What I know God will show you red flags but we avoid them because of desperation.

  • @nokuthuladhlamini6391
    @nokuthuladhlamini6391 10 місяців тому +5

    Isbindi salomuntu wesfazane... I'm so sorry mama for what you went through, my mother went through the same thing..

  • @ntokozohadebe
    @ntokozohadebe 11 місяців тому +19

    Men don’t mind marrying you even when they don’t love you.

    • @sbongisenindwandwe
      @sbongisenindwandwe 11 місяців тому +1

      Because marriage is not about love

    • @patiencesanelisiwe5845
      @patiencesanelisiwe5845 11 місяців тому +2

      @@sbongisenindwandwe
      I didn't know
      Kanti it about what brother

    • @sbongisenindwandwe
      @sbongisenindwandwe 11 місяців тому

      @@patiencesanelisiwe5845 it’s about having a partner to share life experiences with, nibe ndawonye, nibe munye,nenze izinto ndawonye

    • @siyabongamahaye3946
      @siyabongamahaye3946 11 місяців тому +5

      When the abuser has a bible! There are very good and loving men out there, they are not celebrated. This man and his family are evil, they deserve each other. They tried to break her and failed. Purity culture inkinga nayo

    • @nkululekongwenya7859
      @nkululekongwenya7859 10 місяців тому +2

      Same as women I have experience of that for me it simply means there are evil people from both sides and they're the ones who always get married

  • @FezileLaNkambule
    @FezileLaNkambule 10 місяців тому +4

    I once counseled umama mfundisi who went through similar situation and worse, I almost had an heart attack

  • @zolacaine4799
    @zolacaine4799 10 місяців тому +3

    God will use.u in a special way mtanam
    Awusona isilima,No Nkulunkulu wazi i end from the beginning
    Be still and know that He still is God
    You are engraved in the palms of His Hands
    He knows you
    You are a strong woman of God
    Take courage

  • @bathobilenqoko8564
    @bathobilenqoko8564 10 місяців тому +2

    Jyooo mntase wabuva ubuhlungu kodwa ngibonga into eyodwa ukuba uyazana no Thixo uyokukhulumela cc methembe njalo 🙏👏🙌😭

  • @sibongileshabangu3943
    @sibongileshabangu3943 10 місяців тому +4

    Those were red flags, you are really a strong woman i salute you🙌🙌

  • @mologadi-acceptedinthebelo2923
    @mologadi-acceptedinthebelo2923 11 місяців тому +5

    TikTok brought me here🎉🎉🎉

  • @MerriamMashele
    @MerriamMashele 10 місяців тому +3

    Oneday he wil feel the pain double .Don't worry ..Yu do the right thing to forgive him

  • @khumbuzileshabalala3042
    @khumbuzileshabalala3042 11 місяців тому +4

    Obhedayo, yilo wesifazane owehla enyuka nendoda yomuntu ekholwa, bangcolisa ivangeli bobabili nalendoda bakhohlakele, abamusu kucasha ngevangeli

    • @Sheilzdarlingz
      @Sheilzdarlingz 10 місяців тому +1

      Worse usisi wase sontweni yhooooooooo hayini Mani 😢😢😢

  • @ntofontofo6819
    @ntofontofo6819 10 місяців тому +3

    You are strong ngoba amadoda ayosifica isono wayefuna nje ukuthatha ubuntombi bakho losatane

  • @mafrikaranqabang9689
    @mafrikaranqabang9689 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you mama, thank sharing for this story

  • @nontlemabotja2655
    @nontlemabotja2655 10 місяців тому +1

    Thanks god wangipha umamazala oneqiniso waze wangithannda umama ongendazi nam ngashata ndimncane kodwa uthando owandiphapha lona may yr soul continue rest in peace Raisibe Elizabeth Mabotja still love u mamazala wam .

  • @user-nb7ep5np9j
    @user-nb7ep5np9j 10 місяців тому +3

    Ay yabuhlungu into😢😢

  • @victoriasomtyato4400
    @victoriasomtyato4400 11 місяців тому +4

    Such a painful experience that you went through kodwa nkosyam 😢😢😢

  • @sunflawa
    @sunflawa 11 місяців тому +13

    Thank you for creating this platform, siyabonga nakumama for sharing.
    There is an issue that umama talks about from 3:05, her first sexual experience. This issue yiskhalo sosisi abaniiiingi, not all though, kodwa abaningi abakholwayo; a traumatic first-sexual experience.
    This does not need an episode and I'm not blaming anyone.
    I just wish that the church can create a safe space for health and sexual education for abasha abakhulile... Ibe ngendlela ehlakaniphile, that allows health professionals, ABASINDISIWE, to come and teach... So that umuntu omusha osindisiwe abe well equipped in the things that concerns his or her body... Ngendlela ekholwayo!
    This responsibility must not be left to the matron osiza umuntu uma eyoshada... Ku late kakhulu lapho... It must be in the environment yokukholwa (very important).
    Umuntu omusha osindisiwe abe ne knowledge ngomzimba wakhe... Ayithola endaweni akhonza kiyo.... Ngoba baningi abafundisayo ngalokhu... Kodwa sometime bayaphambana nenkolo yethu.

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому +2

      Thank you so much for your input 😊😊❤️❤️. We believe the episode it's gonna help many

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 11 місяців тому +1

      Uyazi nje unfortunately I gentleness ivele ingabikho kubafowethu even nisazama ukwazana kangcono. Ngihlala ngisola ukuthi nokuba overly serious kube nzima ukukubiza ngamagama amnandi is a serious problem nje. Nako kukhomba ukuthi Uma sekuyisikhathi sokwenza "inkonzo" ngeke kube kuhle.
      This hurts seriously and it's an insult to God. Cause Uma uziphethe kahle empeleni kungoba kusho uNkulunkulu. Iyacasula le nto.
      Ukudlala ngobuntombi or ubunsizwa bomuntu ukukhohlakala, futhi sekufanele kube negama eli serious.

    • @sunflawa
      @sunflawa 10 місяців тому

      ​@@LukeRev480eish 💔
      True... Ukuba serious/strict kakhulu kuyalimaza when it comes to izinto zothando. Khona it is high time zibakhona lezinkulumo kubasha... God is love... The author of love... His children must master lomkhakha lo.

    • @sunflawa
      @sunflawa 10 місяців тому

      ​@@thabanistdlaminithank you

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 10 місяців тому

      @@sunflawa True

  • @GuguSunenhlahla-sh6rq
    @GuguSunenhlahla-sh6rq 11 місяців тому +9

    Thank you for being strong as a woman and stand for your self, ekugcineni syafunda singabesifazane

  • @user-hm8vc8bi8z
    @user-hm8vc8bi8z 11 місяців тому +2

    Ngeba ndawushiya kwalomzi soze 😢😢😢 yhooooo wakwazi unyamezela

  • @gugumpanza3665
    @gugumpanza3665 10 місяців тому

    😢😢Ey nkosyami u sis Nozipho, abamthandanga nje from the beginning, she was been used kabuhlungu, nasekhaya kubo pho 😢😢😢ew yaze yabuhlungu lendaba.

  • @noxolojacobs1917
    @noxolojacobs1917 11 місяців тому +1

    Umfazi ngokuzwisa omunye umfazi ubuhlungu, yhoooo uworse lomazala

  • @ndilekamomoza4538
    @ndilekamomoza4538 11 місяців тому +1

    Yhoo yabuhlungu intliziyo yam uxolo Mama

  • @nomvulakhoza3056
    @nomvulakhoza3056 11 місяців тому +5

    Istha somuntu wesfazane umuntu wesfazane kwaze kwabuhlungu😢😢😢😢😢

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому

      Very painful 😣

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 11 місяців тому +1

      I don't understand!!!! Leya ndoda yavula umnyango we mimoya emibi emzini wayo but you are blaming the woman!!

  • @peartentertainment7912
    @peartentertainment7912 11 місяців тому +2

    Joooh Ngaze ngasaba...

  • @petronellamasina4091
    @petronellamasina4091 10 місяців тому +3

    It's a very painful testimony but we give God all the glory. Our God is so faithful He's got good plans for you mama not to harm but to prosper you

  • @methymothol30
    @methymothol30 11 місяців тому +9

    Thanks for creating this for abazalwane

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому

      And thank you for your endless supports

    • @methymothol30
      @methymothol30 11 місяців тому +2

      You must go deeper many sisters and brothers are hurt inside the church time to cough out

    • @mapuseletsomareka4385
      @mapuseletsomareka4385 10 місяців тому +1

      True abazaloane are dying inside 😢

    • @methymothol30
      @methymothol30 10 місяців тому

      @@mapuseletsomareka4385 kakhulu cc Siya fihla

  • @ntokozomore2021
    @ntokozomore2021 10 місяців тому +1

    Please include English subtitles

  • @gailtshehla5368
    @gailtshehla5368 10 місяців тому +1

    Eish, very painful, i know the pain my dear Yeah

  • @Sheilzdarlingz
    @Sheilzdarlingz 10 місяців тому +2

    I am young divorcee ,yhooo mama I don't think amadoda ayasindiseka nje cz these people are insensitive 😢😢😢😢😢

    • @apotrehonorempongo6008
      @apotrehonorempongo6008 10 місяців тому

      Do not loose hope my daughter, there is a man that created for you be patient and pray

  • @noxy3409
    @noxy3409 10 місяців тому

    Iqiniso nje ukuthi imishado eminingi inje. Abaningi bathi awuhambi ngani. Ama logistics okuhamba awalula.Usuka ufuna kodwa kweisnye isikhathi usazama to get finances. At times ure waiting on the right time esp with kids.ngoba ucabanga ukuthi nizolala phansi kwebridge. Usuka ususithathile isinqumo. Uyazama indlela.

  • @manakemanamela4462
    @manakemanamela4462 11 місяців тому +3

    Mama u went thru hell but God will fight your battle 🙏 Psalm 46:10

  • @kholiswamapeyi6262
    @kholiswamapeyi6262 8 місяців тому +1

    I wonder umtshato is really worthy it

  • @phindimabunda9102
    @phindimabunda9102 10 місяців тому +3

    Painful memories
    😢

  • @apotrehonorempongo6008
    @apotrehonorempongo6008 10 місяців тому +1

    I always tell sisters, girls and ladies if it is not a will of God don't get married, especially if you a Christian . Many ladies keep their husbands by muthi which is not good

  • @peartentertainment7912
    @peartentertainment7912 11 місяців тому +4

    I wonder baphi namhlanje

  • @lupawu
    @lupawu 11 місяців тому +3

    Hayi cha nalentombi ikhona boo

  • @victoriasomtyato4400
    @victoriasomtyato4400 11 місяців тому +3

    Kwaze jwabuhlungu eeeeeu😭

  • @user-np5ug2xu6h
    @user-np5ug2xu6h 10 місяців тому +4

    I went through the same in my marriage, even today i hate marriage, yooh sorry sisi i feel your pain

    • @sakhilemnkandla9412
      @sakhilemnkandla9412 10 місяців тому +1

      Iam in tears 😢😢😢😢😢my heart is 😢😢

  • @snhlakah4782
    @snhlakah4782 9 місяців тому

    2 children from different mothers, kwakuyi red flag yokuqala nje leyo. Obaba nomama ababephethe izindaba zakho zomshado ngyabasola mina mama abayiphathanga neze ngendlela nje indaba yakho.

  • @AyandaDlamini-bw7pz
    @AyandaDlamini-bw7pz 10 місяців тому

    Hawu Jesu

  • @nomfundombhele7863
    @nomfundombhele7863 11 місяців тому +6

    Tjo. You Are very Brave My Sister.
    You Are Called For Great Things
    Mina Cha Ngeke Ngilunge..
    Andizi🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому

      😀😀😀 we are tested in different ways

  • @peartentertainment7912
    @peartentertainment7912 11 місяців тому +5

    I think he married u mah because she was a virgin but he loved the other woman

    • @victoriasomtyato4400
      @victoriasomtyato4400 11 місяців тому +1

      And that she was a church person

    • @siyabongamahaye3946
      @siyabongamahaye3946 11 місяців тому

      Mmmh. He is evil! I hope she knows that not all men are like this. They tried to break her and failed!

  • @lethukuthulaphungula7428
    @lethukuthulaphungula7428 11 місяців тому

    First 10 mins ishubile 😮 yoooh

  • @lihlesabelo3949
    @lihlesabelo3949 8 місяців тому +1

    Akusilo ikholwa lelo yazi ave besiphoxa bantu besilisa

  • @fikilekhanyile9162
    @fikilekhanyile9162 11 місяців тому +1

    Kubuhlungu ukuzwa into enjena sisacela U part 2

    • @sthembilecindi1506
      @sthembilecindi1506 11 місяців тому +2

      We need part 2 please...ibuhlungu kodwa lendaba.Wasizakala kanjani u cc.

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому +1

      Part 2 broadcasted hope you've seen it

  • @n_mahlambi
    @n_mahlambi 11 місяців тому +2

    Ei amanye amadoda ayahlukumezana.

  • @hlobsiletsabedze8905
    @hlobsiletsabedze8905 11 місяців тому +1

    Hey Yoo ngekeeeee

  • @user-rd5bo9gm6e
    @user-rd5bo9gm6e 9 місяців тому

    Mmmmm cc wami phephisa sthandwa 💔💔💔💔😢

  • @BulumkoWolobile-nu7os
    @BulumkoWolobile-nu7os 9 місяців тому +1

    Yhoo😢

  • @LukeRev480
    @LukeRev480 11 місяців тому +3

    Why are you saying "isibindi kubantu besifazane" ngendoda e disrespect umkayo?

    • @user-np5ug2xu6h
      @user-np5ug2xu6h 10 місяців тому

      He is referring to the other woman for having to come to another woman’s home worse of all being umzalwane

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 10 місяців тому

      @@user-np5ug2xu6h I hear that, but who opened the gates? Who gave that woman keys? Who granted her the right to insult the wife?
      The host is just enjoying pointing a fingure to women. He should be balanced .

    • @user-np5ug2xu6h
      @user-np5ug2xu6h 10 місяців тому

      @@LukeRev480 hence i said they are all equally responsible the husband for cheating on his wife, the girlfriend for opening her legs to a married man and the wife for staying with the cheater, and the wife was an independent financially independent working woman i don’t know why she stayed with him

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 10 місяців тому +1

      As for the wife, I think she kept giving him the benefit of the doubt, maybe a little too long. It's really hard when you are trying to apply what the Bible says which is trying to love people and dealing with just evil people. It takes time to realise that this person is actually not just mean, he is evil. I can empathize with her cause maybe initially she thought she was loved. The husband would have a special punishment a ccording to me, he targeted her, he never ever saw her as a person, let alone love her.

    • @user-np5ug2xu6h
      @user-np5ug2xu6h 10 місяців тому

      @@LukeRev480 you are right but Bible or not as Christian’s we must learn once a person shows you who they really are, believe them (eg bringing another woman in your marital home) that’s just inexcusable to me and reveals a person’s character and that they don’t care about you at all

  • @nomthandazotshabalala6512
    @nomthandazotshabalala6512 11 місяців тому +3

    Cha lomama akanalo iqiniso ubeyivumela kanjani into embi kangaka?💔

  • @thotyelwatshutshe8982
    @thotyelwatshutshe8982 11 місяців тому +2

    Hyoooo 🙆🙆🙆

  • @phodzoravhudzulo6959
    @phodzoravhudzulo6959 11 місяців тому +1

    yooh!

  • @lindelwa2903
    @lindelwa2903 11 місяців тому +2

    Mmm kwaze kwabhlungu 😭

  • @marthamolepo1216
    @marthamolepo1216 11 місяців тому

    Wow wow wow isibindi za kgona. Wickedness of the highest disorder

  • @rebeccathugwane1882
    @rebeccathugwane1882 11 місяців тому +2

    😢😢😢kinin ngith yooo

  • @pfunzo1
    @pfunzo1 11 місяців тому

    💔💔💔💔💔💔 Yoh aiy bandla

  • @philiswadyan6580
    @philiswadyan6580 11 місяців тому +2

    Maye yint eyenzek ngempela lento or kuyaxoxwa nj indaba

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому

      My Cc ❤️❤️ it's a true story indeed

  • @user-ge1tx1wr3x
    @user-ge1tx1wr3x 11 місяців тому

    😢😢😢😢

  • @vumelanii
    @vumelanii 11 місяців тому +3

    This is painful

  • @noxolojacobs1917
    @noxolojacobs1917 11 місяців тому

    You’ve been through hell sisi angekhe

  • @nomthandazomthimunye462
    @nomthandazomthimunye462 10 місяців тому +1

    Hhay bo😭😭😭😭haw loMamezala waze waba yiSatanist Kanye neNdodana yakhe yoooh😭😭😭😭🚮🚮🚮kodwa Nkulunkulu wami😭

  • @mpumelelomabanga7993
    @mpumelelomabanga7993 10 місяців тому

    😢😢😢

  • @phindimabunda9102
    @phindimabunda9102 10 місяців тому

    Jeso silekelele

  • @lulamaborwane7409
    @lulamaborwane7409 10 місяців тому +1

    What mama

  • @simie9038
    @simie9038 11 місяців тому

    Ngisho kukhona into ewa phansi ngisathuka ngalokho kuthuka😄.....ewwww ncese mama, its worse being done like this by isigebengu esicashe behind church.

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 10 місяців тому

    😢😮💔🙏

  • @lindomsomi86
    @lindomsomi86 10 місяців тому +1

    Phephisa

  • @user-zy1uo2mu9r
    @user-zy1uo2mu9r 10 місяців тому

    Ahh jehova

  • @sbourmcetywa5015
    @sbourmcetywa5015 11 місяців тому

    Oko ndilinde upart 2 haykengok😌💔 it seems like this podcast is failing us

    • @thabanistdlamini
      @thabanistdlamini  11 місяців тому +1

      😂😂 how is it failing you now? You are so impatience.
      It's gonna be Broadcasted today at 19hrs

  • @mapuseletsomareka4385
    @mapuseletsomareka4385 10 місяців тому +2

    Zulu Men some of them are disgusting what is that to bring a girlfriend to your wife s home 😅😅

    • @Sheilzdarlingz
      @Sheilzdarlingz 10 місяців тому +1

      Man in general basile

    • @phumlamazibuko3003
      @phumlamazibuko3003 9 місяців тому

      Not Zulu man only but men in general make no mistake. There are only few good men.

    • @Tvzwane
      @Tvzwane 9 місяців тому

      Saze saduma kabi ezweni bakithi🙄

    • @khanyisanimkhize4690
      @khanyisanimkhize4690 9 місяців тому

      The man is not Zulu, he's Swati

  • @zanele-up1ls
    @zanele-up1ls 11 місяців тому +1

    Mmmm niyapila boh 🤔🤔

  • @noxolosakang6547
    @noxolosakang6547 11 місяців тому +2

    Yhoo indoda esontayo? people are playing church

    • @jobesithole5590
      @jobesithole5590 10 місяців тому +3

      Ukusonta nokuba nobudlelwane no Thixo izinto ezimbili ezehlukene. Umuntu owazi uJehova ( hayi osontayo) akayigili imikhuba.

    • @Sheilzdarlingz
      @Sheilzdarlingz 10 місяців тому

      Inkinga bathi bathole uJesu, mntu azeze nto egeyiyo ,Tsotsi babazalwana

    • @jobesithole5590
      @jobesithole5590 10 місяців тому

      @@Sheilzdarlingz kukhona abantu abathola uJesu bese bephila impilo enjalo. Bese kuba khona abathi bathole uJesu bese beba otsotsi bezibiza ngama kholwa. Azifani lezinto noma sekuba engathi kunjalo.

    • @Sheilzdarlingz
      @Sheilzdarlingz 10 місяців тому

      @@jobesithole5590 I agree,what I've notice abafana abasindiseki maybe by choice andazi ,kodwa labantu abomoyiki uThixo n they very insensitive, even our congregations are failing them cz as girls we get a lot of teaching yet they don't or get minimal....Hayi soncedwa nguThixo ngabayeni abasifanele cz kuningi

    • @jobesithole5590
      @jobesithole5590 10 місяців тому

      @@Sheilzdarlingz Kunzima Noma. Ingakho ubona imishado yabantu abasindisiwe ibhidlika. Indaba isekumoyikeni uThixo. Umoyika njani ? Ulandela izwi. Kolunga ngenye imini.

  • @user-qq7vt6gl5d
    @user-qq7vt6gl5d 10 місяців тому

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