Ep. 20 | I CHEATED ON HER BECAUSE SHE SAID NO TO SEX, Marriage, Cheating, Love, Kids, Divorce.
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- Опубліковано 12 лют 2024
- We conversing with Brother Sbulele Ngumbela Ntando's Husband about his journey of marriage with Ntando. and Pastor Mkhulise is dropping some powerful advices on their journey of love and other couples at large.
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Watson kamandi mfundisi hope bazonxedakala babenoxolo.lwangapakathi, cheating yona iyayona shem imitshato. Umtshato yinto ka Thixo qwaba
There are many red flags with this guy...but very few will see because he has a sweet tounge
THANK GOD 4 THE FEW WHO CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH HIM
Thank you
He's a narcissist
I think according to both they need ukwelulekwa
This man never loved Ntando and, as a result, she was constantly frustrated.
Wona umshado between a Christian and a non-Christian uba nezinkinga eziningi kakhulu
uthethetha inyani mtanesekhaya n most of us asufhuni ukuli vuma eloqiniso
I beg to differ mem,ukushayisana kwama characters akudalwa ukuhluka kwezinkolo
I disagree we have high rate of devorce kubazalwane everyday.
They is nothing like Christian in this world.
But uNtando akasindiswanga😓
Anyway after watching this episode, I conclude that there was really no need for all the so called evidence. This guy never treated himself like he is married. And nje he is a narcissist who have a soft voice.
Mfundisi spoke so well
Angikuzwa...
@@sizwesamadinekamlambo9376read Sizwe, read
@@sizwesamadinekamlambo9376hayi nam andimva shame
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
ST I followed indaba ka Ntanto kule Chanell from scratch. And the picture she created in me when you interviewed her is complete different from what I start to see now, I won't count anything but I will be specific kwi dating life yakhe, aibo I remember saying pastors where coming left and right trying to marry her and she was praying for the right man until inbox show up from her husband. I remember you asked her if were they kissing or doing the deeds with her husband before marriage when she snitch him in church place.
She was so innocent like she was starting to do izinto, I was so shocked when I saw her in another Channel saying she got two kids that don't belong to this guy, I was so shocked izolo ukuva uba she even divorced before and that was never mentioned in her episode here.
I am not judging or choosing any side, I am just commenting as your best fan ST, I love your show. Tone here, not background music or anything... Just proffesional
What? I also thought this man was her first man because that's what she said. what platform is that where she disclosed that info?
@@londiweprincess3547 This is her Episote
ua-cam.com/video/9EaNb78kPNg/v-deo.html
It would be a crime I cannot reply on this comment. Ngane yakwethu ngyabonga. Your support 💞💞 thank so much, the growth of the podcast yenziwa yini.
Thank you million timesm
💯💯💯 wayibeka indaba
@@user-ei6pi3bh8u this shows us the importance of getting both sides of the story.
Hayi kodwa uNtando usikhohlisile naye wenza engathi iyngane zakhe uthole kulendoda kant umakade ebona abanye abantu bacasha ngenkolo
Red flag! There is no relationship that fails because of one person, the minute you can’t take responsibility of your own mistakes, awuthembakalanga
Lol so Thando decided not to come Huh.
I've been catching small snippets of this ongoing story but now im invested.
I cant wait for conclusion and this will disappoint a lot of women who were cheering for Thando.
if you ever loved her of if you have self respect, divorce her and leave with what you come with qha ngaloko uzihlisa isidima uchaza into engekho
I hope one day this guy will be liberated ngoba from the episodes he is a bit truthful and nga uyza nalodade maybe singazi why eyala to be divorced if he is truely abused.
Kwaaaaa
Powerful..mfundisi iinkolo ziyaqguzulana. Confusion nje eenganeni. Kuyathandazwa noba kuyiwa kwiinyanga. Bazalwane yekani ukushada nabantu abangakholwayo cz uThixo uyayiveza lonto ukuba akuyona eyakhe that is why kukho ama challenges amaningi.
Sana, I wish we could invest more in ourselves than other people.
Ukungezi kuka Ntando kwi show says it all 😎😎😎
😂😂😂😂 ehhena
Mxm
Its eaither u r acting dumb or u really are
Ufuna ukulandwa lowo sisi ukhuluma isi Zulu kodwa ngu Xhosa...akaxoki akaxoki.....
@@mmeme5861 izomlanda
Ladies if sizoba supportive into engekho kaNtando then kwathina we are sick. UNtando is one dillusional fake mzalwane. You will say niyabasaba abobhuti abathulayo what about ivoice kaNtando faking innocence. Some men will die innocently from their abusive female partners.
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Ave nithanda amadoda whats tangible in all this said here or u too stupid?
And the insults she sent to this guy Kodwa ungu mshumayeli?
@@pamelatshikilachigozie6606 fake lowa cc shame and simbonile bt late
I listened to this couple and my conclusion is that, the wife needs help or otherwise she is still going to destroy innocent souls. She has serious anger issues and a void to be loved and accepted. I have dated someone like Ntando and I had to end the relationship because she was a born again christian BUT a very toxic person at the same time. An advise to Ntando, never use what you have to control a person. In a love relationship, that is very dangerous let love flows. As for you husband, I think you were still immature because you seem to have danced to her tune and enjoying her money.
TATA if kuyabanda, go away, most of man killed themselves because of abusive women, I have a son he is in a abusive marriage, as a mother it's so painful
they both hv their mistakes but Ntando is spreading lies bcz she doesnt wnn appear as a bad person in the church!!
Why sisi Ntando doesnt mention the criminal matter yasemsebenzini which sent her to the sangoma
Hayi the whole seeing prophetess she went to a sangoma? Hayi ghel 😮
She did well by not coming abusers always defend themselves
This man has a smooth tongue.
Ohhh thought lwas the only one seeing that narcissist engakushiye jele ungena Cala smooth operator.justifying cheating no accountability nceeee yazini
Ohhh thought lwas the only one seeing that narcissist engakushiye jele ungena Cala smooth operator.justifying cheating no accountability nceeee yazini
U say that because the truth is on his side. U were already against him
Lol...yes,coz you have run out of things to say because you see that Thandos lies are about to come light😂😂😂
Where is the video with that Thando😂😂,don't know these people .
Don't come to umshado if you are not ready, ngena emshadweni when ni ready, and we need to pray for our kids, singo mama
Ntando she's so toxic and une problem zokukhula esemncane.
Uma ekhuluma ngokuthi Ntando unenkinga yokushawa. Ungikhimbuza ubhuti engake ngazwana naye, ethi ungihlukumeza ngoba vele into engikhule ngaphansi kwayo. So I shouldn't blame him, I feel sorry for sis Ntando. This guy is a narssist nje. 😢😢
So where is the blameless lamb Eliwu Ntando?
Don’t be quick to judge you will be shocked my sister .
As Thando wants this to be over she should be here in the podcast yonke lento izodlula she is not there because she knows a lot that will come out might not favor her now because she won’t be alone in the platform
Please don't get me wrong mtasekhaya. I was only commenting on the fact that he doesn't see anything wrong with him abusing Ntando. But instead he is justifying himself by using Ntando's abusive past. @@theanonymoustrader6852
@@MkitakaziI'm not judging anyone but all I am saying is that he is justifying his abusive traits using Ntando's past. As for Ntando not pitching up. I'm also worried because she should have came and supported everything she shared with us.
Imagine- so this means he had a right
The fact that Thando decided not to come she knows what she is running from . I’m not saying this guy is right but Thando is also a liar and she is scared the guy will disclose a lot about her and her lies .
I agree cc cha asikho muncu kodwa uphi Ngoba besizozwa 2side of story
Bt naye moss lobhuti zange Eze kuqala eceliwe ngoku xa sekuthanda yena fanele uThando axhume
@@SiphokaziMatshata here me out she invited the guy after saying so much bad things about him I’m sure he was still processing everthing ngoba once one says shit about you that part of it is not true you just wanna deal with your emotions first . This guy is ready to close this chapter akasamfuni uThando. Ngoku uThando ubaleka nesjungqu sentambo. Let’s learn to listen betuna i have followed this story from Thando’s first episode.
I don't know about Ntando lying, for all we know, her husband might be lying too. It's his words against hers and they are the only ones who know the truth. Another thing ive also learned about relationships is that people experience situations differently leading them to have different perspectives. This relationship was doomed from the get-go, labantu have both been vile and toxic towards one another. Mina ngibona ukuthi kade befosta vele, abakze bathandane labantu. With that being said, nami I wouldn't want to be in a room with someone who has hurt me the way uNtando feels she's been hurt by this guy. The husband knows her trigger points, it probably wouldn't take much for him to trigger her and cause her to lose her composure which i think is what Ntando was avoiding.
@@SiphokaziMatshata jonga I love u ❤
It's to take accountability on your own part,to both parties
I love this Pastor, he wise and Matured.
Kakhulu 🙌
Ayikho nje into ayishoyo. He is useless
Too much yhooo
When a man is fed up there's nothing you can do, you can tell ukuthi the guy is tired,he is fed up. Unfortunately now is too late for ntando to fix things
Whatever
Thes 3 side of the story come please mam and join the party we don't mind our data come and clear your name
UNtando appears not comfortable now about the comments and uphendula u 90 percent wazo and ubuye angaphenduli njengekholwa,sikzwile konke okshilo njengomuntu wesfazane ngyazwelana nawe and kubhlungu uku contribute kumuntu ongakthandi ube umthanda but le yokuphendula no ikbeka njengomuntu ongakholwa nhlobo
In law we have something called “Audi alteram Patem” that means hear the other side.
Good n fair
True Mfundisi cheating is not a mistake
No man of God or a Pastor comes before your Husband. The order of God is God first, then family ( our Spouses and family then the church. No man can come in my house without the presence of my husband no matter how stranded they are. There are guest house to sleep bagithi. Ntando must revisit her Christian journey and read her Bible she is not as perfect as she portrait to be.
Personally I see i pride as a main factor that destroyed this marriage. I am saying both parties bashawa i pride. They didn't have umoya wokwakha
....exactly! and from both sides....and victimhood.
UNtando unamanga ukhohlakele ufuna ukuzwelae ngamanga evika ngoNkulunkulu udlala ngomtanabantu ukhohlakele losisi uo
Thank you
Ukuqambele amanga wathin
If you dont know the couples the pride it is very difficult to solve them
“Okanye sihambe ngoheartbreak”
Already, there are two kings in this home, so they can not be peace lapha ekhaya
I guess so but which khaya?
This is really boring. I thought Thabani wanted both parties to share their stories and leave everything to them and the law. Hay lo back and forth.. iyadika
Vele abusers look innocent in such a way that no one will believe the victims when they cry for help… once I hear abuse I loose trust
Ngisabela usis wami mhla eshanda jeso coz backgrounds can destroy the future if you are not carefully
So true mfundisi let her come
Kuningi okungahlangani lapha Ntando kukhona ongazange ukusho washo into ezo favour uhlangothi lwakho.. Thnx ST ngokubiza ubhuti azochaza uhlangothi lwakhe.
She need help lowa cc shame qha akayiboni lonto
Kunjalo nje and kuzomsiza lokho
You are making sense my brother even though no one is perfect
Yet am not taking any side here but now this brother makes sense really from what I've heard and now wow .Iam not saying he is perfect though but he really shows that he knows what he is talking about ...maybe the interviewer failed to ask some sort of questions that would made him looks the way I looked him before
Indeed A lot of it In fact its too much sense😅
Marriage counsel , family members meeting,,,, I believe both of them they have to sit down and balungise umshado wabo
uWoaw uNtando waze wadlala nge emotions zethu
😂😂
Cabanga. Ndithuka umntana bantu.
When you hear someone having no faults in a relationship you must open your eyes....When I heard that she has no children with the husband I again opened my eyes....Still waiting for the car purchase proof from her.....Young man run ..run...this Ntando will put you in prison
Kanjan
@@mmeme5861 put him in prison for what
Yhooo hai ungayibhali ncwadi ngalo umtshato, kanti ayingomtshato wokuqala lo yhoo hai ndincamile.
Thando nje ngambona ukuth something is fishy here when she said akazwani nabo bhudi bakhe bonke bowu 2
Mxm wena uyazwana nnomnden wako konje
Noba echaza udaba lwakhe belunga landeleki okufana nalo bhuti. Mara why sizovala into ezimbi esinzeyo nge Bible. Akasa chazi ngengane UNtando ukuthi zino tata wazo, cha akunguye lobhuti. USile manje uNtando tjoo
I think ntando Ungene kulomshato enengxaki zokukhula kunye nomtshato or relationship Asuka kuzo
Yep I said it at first episode.
Kwalento yokhuma......
She needs therapy, she is in no position to shumayela to anyone.
Tyoo lendoda isazobaqeda abantu besifazane ngoba banje .ngoba uNtando engezanga sekunguyena onamanga .siphuma kuzo lezinkinga amadoda anje siyawazi .lobhuti usile lo
Cheating, cheating in marriage is not good, man or woman, it's bad
That's true Mfundisi wam umyeni wam ungumfundisi apha kwakhe nam ndingumfundisi akho ngabafundisi abatheni aba bangayi kwamanye amadoda uNtando unengxaki
Frm where I'm standing wena unengxak enkulu kabi , I swear
No this guy never loved his wife, thina syaxabana but ndimkhumbula ngk siqumbelene but ndimkhumbule esemsebenzini and even wish angathetha xaebuyile then sibe right. Wena ubuphola ungahlali naye?
where did he get the money to buy the car?
I think Sis Ntando she has never healed from the rape and trauma that she experienced when she was growing up. So now that she has money, she thinks she has power over other people. She wanted a man that she can control and walk over because it was obvious that this guy never loved her. She was also desperate for love since she didn't get enough love from her parents.I think she thought marrying a vownarable man would be a successful marriage.
You making sense
But abafundisi babengalala endlini lapho okulalakhona ingani hayi kwelenu inkamelo.
Ukhohlakele uNtando sbozi losisi unepride engekho udlala ngomtanabamti
,u
U Ntando unamanga wathi wayeqala ukushada kodwa manje wathi abantwana babhuti ababo bobabili,manje meth ubhuti eyakhe akazi wayenze njani ino 5 months yhoo
@@ladytpsishi9257wayesho kupi
Nawe ukhohlakele
Lixoki uNtando, infact she needs help. She ran away from Rhabe esindisiwe but married umntu ongasindiswanga, because efuna ukusela isavana, aye emagqirheni, ajole futhi, ejolela kwakhe
Ucc udinga usizo akekho right bandla. Yonke le podcast ingicabangisa leyakhe enza sengathi uyakhala listening to icomment kamama bashing lobhuti. Woza nama proof cc ay unamanga amaningi
Kanti kwamxaka kanje ukuthi uNtando akananto khange asho ukuthi urich tyoo nangu umuntu bo tsek amadoda afuna ukudla amandla wabafazi
THANK YOU !! 🙏🙏
i Yhooooo until sizwe inyani emsulwa xa sebebobabini hayi futhi kabi kodwa ngisoloko ngisitsho ngisithi abantu abazibiza ngegama loku-SINDISWA ngiyabesaba mina haaaaaa😮😢
Power
I smell adhd on Ntando and narcist on guy both of them need help . Ntando is worse she likes too much drama.
I trust him I know such people
Me too
😢😢😢mhhh childhood trauma 😢
Ngaze ngasithanda isiyalo sikamfundisi i cheating iyingozi kakhulu ngoba uthi usemshadweni kodwa khona ongekho ukuhlukumezeka emshadweni 💔
Bulela umdali uphume usaphila kula mama.
Shemm
This is tough aaaay
Kwazophezulu thina besingekho
Hayi ngempela Mfundisi! Ngifundile ukumamela 2 sides of the story. I repent my God
This is a proof that we women we can be cruel and heartless or let me put it this way a human being is a very dangerous animal that god created because he was given power and authority more than any other animals
And human beings are miss using that.
But God is still able bhuti
Well spoken uBabu Mfundisi. Oodadwethu bayayithanda lento yoshada nomuntu ongakholwayo. God doesn't approve that. Light and darkness doesn't goes together
Ngoba nabazalwan bakohlakele
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 Not the real saved ones, unless you're talking about pretenders or actors. Not labo babonakala ngeziqhamo zikaMoya Oyingcwele
Engingakusho ku sisi kuyi ngozi ukucabanga ukuthi imali iyona ezokwakhela uthando ngoba engcineni kuyavela ukuthi akakaze akuthande nangolulodwa usuku fanele understand lokhu sisi imali ayiluthengi uthando Love is a gift of God ❤you
Which money cz he says there was no money they survived by borroeing from his best friend 😅 FUNNY
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs32947:47
Umntu oneeda uncedo nguwe lo bhuti wam. Yhuuuuuu zange ndambona umntu olimenemene kanje.
Yherrrrr 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭 thanks cc 4 seeing right through this man
Limencu
Uyishayile mfundisi cheating, cheating, is dangerous, ukwabelana kwezingubo, isono
Uphi u cc Ntando.Hpmope uyamuzwa ubhuti uphendula uthini ngawe
Sambiza for months engezi Alinde naye shemm
Iyoooo iyoooo😮
I didn't know that she was married before
She made a story on her wall. She was married to an abusive man.
😅
@@thembekazwelibanzi1031thnx bby andaz aba bath m a liar
Why nilwa Tata, man must love the wife, wife must humble themselves
Wonder bapi abantwan kuyo yonke le ngqushu😢mental state yabo😢ithini?yhuu it's 2much maan😢
Abantwana are from Ntando first failed marriage. Sibulele has he's own kids from baby mama's.
Abantwana are from Ntando first failed marriage. Sibulele has he's own kids from baby mama's.
I believe the guy with all the proofs n worse the lady DDNT come n say her side together
Ntando une serious problem she need counseling
Uphi Sis Thando
For months simbiza kwi podcast engezi Weza ngeskhath sakhe Bazonglinda nami bbes Kamnandi kanjan
Heee lantando ingathi akayazi enyindoda like akayibali noyibala eyomtshato wokuqala no babe daddy oko kuvela lobhuti hai limenemenw la cc shame mayivalwe bhuti phuma awunatyala
He must go to a FEMALE PODCASTER i want to see something. She may hsve not been dn angel but this comes across as men understand each other. Im annoyed by this..can't even watch too long of it.
Yhooo hai
Ningaboshelwa ejokweni linye nabangakholwayo
Imoto niyikhethe nonke but akayazi nokba uyithenge phi? How?
Ngyazinikela esontweni lamfundisi ,ngyamthanda lomfundisi uneqiniso
I am sorry to say he is not that handsome the way Tando was portraying. To me he is just a man
Lol he is handsome though 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ai ntando noma unganakho konke kodwa umyeni uthotshelwa cc and ukukhuluma kakhulu kuyisichitho eskhulu endodeni
Ngiyawabona lama paper awaphethe thina sfuna ubfakazi Bama voice notes
Yhooo ukuhlolwa!!!!
They were supposed to be here both of them, unfortunately the one whom we believed first has not come
Where was he when we invited him to come ? Must I jump now ngoba kutanda nina
Izinkinga emshadweni zidla lubi.
Bekuzobangcono xa ebekhona uNtando azithethele naye ngoku ndisendaxakeka where is Ntando
Ahw kahlen bo miningi kabi imizi estable enabazali abahlukile ngenkolo
So pastors were supposed to sleep on your sheets, ay man there’s something wrong with this guy
“Nakumtshato asuka kuwo bebemnkula” this guy hates Ntando
He is evil xeim lomntu
He hates me with passion shemm
Uyibeka kakubi yhuu"bebemnkula"
Ntando akaze asindiswe tu,ufun udumo qho
Injalo
Angiwa understand lama proof mina. Except only for the first one
Well it none of your businesx
I dont understand any of them😅
This man won't account for anything, he's acting like victim in all of this. Pointing fingers is his thing, nothing could ever be fixed with this kind of character. He's a liar, Ntando made some mistakes too. This man needs to work on himself he's a total redflag from head to toe. Get help my brother before you go break another women's heart.
So he used her car b4 he owned " a car" ? Wooow Thnx nibhadle ninuka isirhogo