Do you feel like fleeing ..when practicing mindfulness?
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- Опубліковано 14 гру 2019
- Here’s some context for today’s new vlog:
Below you’ll see some mentions of an upcoming drop-in (online) class and my other online offerings that are impacting many people’s worlds around the globe in a good healing way...and with this very specific kind of learning, healing, and becoming more in tune with the body, mind, and maybe more importantly, THE PHYSIOLOGY, we can start to feel ALL the survival fight-flee instincts that are stored up and have been sitting ‘on deck’ for eons just waiting to ooze out, release, and have a party in our insides! These ‘instincts’ (read: terrifying and unfamiliar sensations and emotions) can be like those long distance relatives we kind of wish stayed away and yet...we know they are ours because they showed up, someone gave them our address, email and phone number. But we have no clue what to do with them because nothing taught us what to do when this happens.
Sound familiar? So when we enter into this learning and practice of being with our nervous system and the somatic components that connect with it, and we are not used to it and what it has to tell us and show us, it is VERY possible we might feel like exiting this new found sense of being and awareness. This would be considered fleeing from the sensation and reality of what is.
The other side of this is shutting down, looking for distractions, and feeling bored because the intensity of the unknown and uncomfortable is too darn much to feel, and truth to be told, defaulting to this level of boredom and shutdown shows that we are even more ill-prepared for what our body has to tell us because the history is actually that bad and that painful (even when we had that ‘good’ childhood) This side of the coin I will cover in NEXT week’s vlog!!!! So don’t unsubscribe just yet! ;).
Enjoy the learning within this 12 minute video on why we might feel the desire to flee and ‘get the heck out of dodge’ when we start doing the practices that everyone is telling us are good for us.
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Resources I mention in this vlog:
► Drop-In (Online) Classes:
irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1
► What the heck is orienting? (and why is it so important?!):
• What the heck is orien...
► What do you do when you have unresolved trauma? Two types of orienting:
• What do you do when yo...
► Ancient anxiety medicine:
• DIY: Ancient anxiety m...
► Ebook:
irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm...
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My website is a wealth of free resources and information on how to start this work, so here it is one more time: irenelyon.com
Love! Love! Love!
It's not about inducing a shaking response but rather letting your body do its intuitive thing!
Brilliantly explained Irene 💚🌟💚🌟
Glad to hear someone describe this sensation; and relates it closely with not just an abusive person, but just the trauma of everyday life.
The words you use to describe the sensations and the explanations of what and why they are happening really help me to understand them better and thank you for your unique mentorship towards healing ❤
Thanks for being part of the community and sharing Diana!
Nicole - Team Lyon
I love love somatic work. Thanks Irene. This explained the sensations and feelings I sometimes get perfectly. 🙏
Real emotion body/mind work. Very well explained.
Yes, I do feel like escaping. I realized I’m not grounded, and too much in my head, not truly sitting in the feeling body. Thank you for doing this video. 🙏🏽💜
Thanks for sharing your experience. Those are big realizations.
If you're looking for some resources I would suggest starting with the 7 Steps to De-Stress. Hopefully it helps you start to ground, be less in your head and that you start sitting in the feeling of your body a bit more!
irenelyon.com/7-steps-opt-in-IL
Nicole - Team Lyon
This happened to me last week and it was so scary. Thank you for talking about this. 🤗
Sorry to hear! And I'm glad you came across this video ✨
Nicole - Team Lyon
You are a treasure!
Thanks Irene! I appreciate your important reminder to stay with ourselves as we experience fear. I'm learning that fearing fear is the hard part & induces anxiety. Being with the fear as it passes is part of being human & healing my past wounds. It's sometimes challenging to trust this because the fear can feel so intense & permanent. Yet, when i allow the feelings to move through, they do, and i have the opportunity to clear my way for more ease & acceptance. You have helped me to understand this on a deep level. Much gratitude 🙏
Thanks for sharing this Tamar! So great to hear about your experience and that you are understanding things on a deeper level.
Wishing you ongoing insight and shifts!
Nicole - Team Lyon
This was incredibly helpful and practical for what I'm going through, thank you.
Feeling This RIGHT NOW..feeding Homeless people...but Feel like Fleeing..😞
Ur doing goodwork for them n personal growth for you 🖒
As someone who was once homeless, thankyou very much
@@kimwarburton8490 ..i was Just having some Aniexty..long Busy week..tired From Being In Baja yesterday..I think I'm Just REALLY TIRED Today..👍❤🙏..GOD BLESS YOUR LIFE
Yes. That feeling can show up in so many places. I hope you were able to get some rest. And that this video has brought some curiosity into the response.
If you're looking for a resource, I suggest starting with this... irenelyon.com/7-steps-opt-in-IL
Wishing you ease.
Nicole - Team Lyon
This sensation of terror and panic and needing to escape often comes over me when I have nowhere to move like driving on a freeway or flying. I’m now always in anticipation of it which I think makes it worse
Dawn Lowe, Jen here from team Lyon. The sensation of terror and panic you described sound like they could be intense at times. I hope that listening to Irene's video helped to plant seeds of hope that this can change as you learn this nervous system work (if you choose to do so).
I'll link to Irene's Field Guide to the Nervous System and to a few related Success Stories in case you want to learn more.
Field Guide to your Nervous System - irenelyon.com/field-guide-to-your-nervous-system
Coming out of functional freeze and healing anxiety. Ellie's SBSM Success Share. - ua-cam.com/video/pdWhF2vrwGY/v-deo.html
Healing the dysregulation of domestic violence & cellular unsafety. Isabelle's SBSM Success Story. - ua-cam.com/video/YnBmCEULmX8/v-deo.html
Thank you for this video. This explains alot. I feel a lot of relief, I haven't known what this is, and it kept happening, I was fearful this was my new state of being. Happy to find I am 'detoxing' old symptoms. I was trying all kinds of things, how can I fix it, etc... Love I can just do this. Thank you 🙏💜🌸
So glad this was helpful for you Kuruflower! This is Seth from Team Lyon. If you want even more really great education, definitely consider checking out Irene's free, 3-part Healing trauma video training. Happening now! irenelyon.com/healing-trauma-youtube/
ThAnk you.
I think I'm very literal in following Irene's course (21 day) and these videos. I don't actually feel like running (though I have), I usually just turn off the video or the app and turn on something else to escape. This of course is going to be why I've never tried the drop-in videos! Fear of fear again... But it's all good stuff, and I'm making good progress! Many thanks to Irene and the team for all your brilliant work.
Hi,
Nicole here from Team Lyon.
It's so great to hear that you're making good progress and listening to what it is you're needing by turning off the video or app. So important 💪🏼
It will be interesting to see how things evolve as you build capacity. It may be that at one point you find yourself choosing not to escape as quickly. Or maybe there will be some space to be with the fear to explore a drop-in class. I look forward to hearing how things go for you!
@@teamlyon3109 Many thanks for your reply, Nicole. This is an ages old reaction of mine - I've often bought books, for example, which I thought might be tremendously helpful, but when it's arrived, I haven't dared look at it! And then, sometimes I've actually picked it up and had a look, and found that it wasn't particularly good, or was aimed at people totally unlike me! Not at all to be said about the 21 day course. I would hug you, Irene, and the rest of the Team for all your support and advice, if I could, maybe I will in fact some day!
@@annyspb1 ✨❤️
Yes yes yes that is me!!! I feel threatened when noticing my body, I don’t feel safe at all and I start to get emergency alarm bells in my brain 🚨 and then my mind starts to tell me I’m so so so sick and I HAVE to do something about it ASAP. I did endure extreme trauma consistently and on occasions of enormous traumatic events, so it’s very interesting. I’m unbearably exhausted on a consistent basis. So the reaction would be to nurture ourselves and tell ourselves that we are safe? Will have a look at the ebook for sure. Thank you!!!
Me too. It's not our bodies that are dangerous, it was the environment/life situations/people around us. Our bodies did everything right in trying to protect/defend.
@@annemurphy8074 absolutely. That comment was 2 years ago and I’m healed now after weekly somatic experiencing sessions and lifestyle shifts 🤍 I even have a beautiful 5 month old baby boy!
How do you process the brace/freeze response when you want to relax but get terrified? So that happens when you want to sleep and relax?
When we have trauma and our body is "stuck" in these survival patterns it's hard to truly relax. Our bodies are pretty amazing and will still find ways to sleep and "relax" but it's not to our fullest potential.
I would suggest watching this video... ua-cam.com/video/9EyqPOI3auk/v-deo.html
Let us know if you have more questions afterwards!
Nicole - Team Lyon
So is bracing a type of shutting down? I'm confused
HI Elysia, Jen here from Team Lyon. Yes, bracing often accompanies shutting down. If you picture sensation, motion, movement, and more coming through system in ways that are too intense and feel like too much (not consciously), the system does what it can to disconnect from these experiences. Bracing is a way to feel less and often accompanies shutting down. Hope that helps to clarify.
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Listening to this is making me really uncomfortable.
When our body speaks it speaks. I hope those uncomfortable sensations led to some insight for you.
Nicole - Team Lyon