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I really didn't have a good feeling about Marie from the beginning I have strong intuition....sorry I relate and getting older you don't want to be alone it's lonely....but you can feel lonely in a room with a partner. Oh Jonathon your right .... The dark night of the soul on the east coast has struck!!
Jonathan ❤you are such a blessing to me and so many! I am single, 63 and a dental hygienist. I work and have girl friends. I want to try and date, but it’s a tuff job trying to find a healthy relationship. I have learned so much from you! Ignore those people who are mean and nasty! Put a hedge of protection around you, you are an amazing human being! I hope to have you as a coach when I’m ready to get out there and date!
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through...
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Jonathan, initially I was a bit taken aback by your phrasing. Now you make me laugh. More importantly, you provide sound advice, for both men and women. Thank you! 🙌
A bad relationship is the worst thing that can happen to ANY WOMAN. Men in general have not been taught by their parents how to treat a woman because in today's modern world fathers are absent from the families. They are not teaching children good principles and living selfish lives doing their own thing. The result ...a sick society 😮
That is not a selfish life. It’s a choice to marry and/or reproduce. I don’t begrudge anyone that life. The problem is when they’re don’t want a relationship and mentally destroy others because they were in a relationship(s) they didn’t want. I have no interest in men, and a time in my 20s, rejected all of them because I wouldn’t be there for them. Therefore, I would never lead them on that I actually cared. I’d rather have a society where both genders were honorable. We don’t have that anymore.
Well this explains a lot. The information on vetting a person is what I need to focus on. I didn’t realize how clueless I was apparently. I appreciate the way you do these videos. I find them entertaining and holds my interest
I'm happy to hear you use the word nervous system with regards to emotions. I have been a mental health therapist for many years and nobody talks about the nervous system and how we can help ourselves if we pay attention....
For me it is difficult to live alone for long periods of time ! Roommates are an option and they don’t have to be the opposite sex! I don’t think we are meant to be alone! Yes , the country is rather depressing and true friends are not always easy to find but there are good people out there somewhere! Sending Love and Hope!
I tried it for 4 days and deleted everything. It felt like an alternate reality. I know it works for some. My niece married her online man and is SO happy.
I thought I was comunicating with a very accomplished & caring person, he was younger however that does not always mean disaster. After 4 mo's he became manipulative , he did it in a clever way however soon I caught on & then he needed help with money. I thought I would play his game & see where he was going & then I just started asking very direct questions & he got very defensive & I ended it in a very clever way. I told him I would rather think about the good relationship we have had & walk away. I was sure he would find someone who could afford him,I could not. THE END.
If you start a relationship by planning, inviting, and paying, that will be the dynamic of the entire relationship. Some men are ‘SITTING BACK’ and taking advantage of this so-called woman’s empowerment' and expect women to make the first move, cook, clean, pay for them and please them sexually. Best if they have ‘ big balls, are responsible and courteous’ to start with. Men see taking initiative and taking the lead as desperate, if they are traumatized by divorce, scared or broken, not worth it. be careful. just my 2c.
Love your posts. You encourage and practice vulnerability. Open heart and open hands. I appreciate your counsel and I've learned so much from you. I've read many of the books you've suggested. I met my current guy online, and from the beginning we've practiced "radical honesty" and so much more that I've learned from you. I appreciate your talent.
I have no issue living alone with my ferrets,they make me happy. My last relationship,the ex drove the damn wheels right off the bus,crashed and burned.😂
Hi Jonathan, what I can share is something with a beautiful man who respected me and I did him. I was 24 and he was 73. I loved him and he said he loved me but if he were younger he would marry me. I went to his house and he came to mine. He had cancer and died in 2010. I'm 44 'now and having a friendship with my painting group. He invites me to coffee at his house, he's 45. And we're both Sicilian lol
Most people want to be single and being in a relationship without a commitment although they say they want a commitment until somebody comes along. I keep this in mind. Therefore, I keep my options open.
Do we feel the most lonely when we haven't taken the time to love ourselves is that why we became lonely because we needed to connect with ourselves? Is it through my loneliness that I find myself? Is it for me to learn I am the only guarantee in my life and how our mine set will determine our creative reality food for thought.
Fortunately for me my somatic treater is, I believe getting divorced as his wife has found a same sex partner. He knows me backwards and keeps me emotionally safe, but as he is of course very frightened to break professional boundaries with the chiropractic profession and he could be disqualified by Allied Health Board. Bit of a conundrum. But I am starting to think he would be great for me in many ways. I do hope we can eventually get together. It takes maturity to know what will suit you. So I have to be patient
Fortunately for me my somatic treater is, I believe getting divorced as his wife has found a same sex partner. He knows me backwards and keeps me emotionally safe, but as he is of course very frightened to break professional boundaries with the chiropractic profession and he could be disqualified by Allied Health Board. Bit of a conundrum. But I am starting to think he would be great for me in many ways. I do hope we can eventually get together. It takes maturity to know what will suit you. So I have to be patient We have both shown each other our strong affection for each other.
Yes ,there’s a lot of singles not only older but yuo too but if yuo don’t put yourself out there go talk to people ask yuo gonna end up single and yes it’s a dangerous situation yuo meet people then yuo open yuor life they hurt yuo it’s bad out there dating it’s so difficult
Kind of off course, but I used to say the F word in front of my mom. She hated it. After I got older, she showed me that side of word and she used it. I most definitely don't mind your swearing and cussing. There is so much more to you than that
Yes ,there’s a lot of singles not only older but yuo too but if yuo don’t put yourself out there go talk to people ask yuo gonna end up single and yes it’s a dangerous situation yuo meet people then yuo open yuor life they hurt yuo it’s bad out there dating it’s so difficult and yuo can’t make friends I’m lonely people hurt people
Jonathon yes women have a lot of issues. Men certainly don’t know how care emotionally for women as men don’t know how to connect emotionally even if women gives him a lot of sex. Jonathon as a sexual assault survivor like many other women, I am terrified of being raped again. Please acknowledge this. Women need to be able to recognise a safe man who will not abuse her. I think for safety reasons you need to tell women how to recognise, if this is possible, a man who is likely to be a serious sexual abuser.
God has blessed me with true love. We don’t take it for granted at all. Thank you Lord Jesus Christ ❤ Pray on it! I did and He answered my prayers. Have faith!
Sometimes, i am reminded of Marie saying that you are exhausting. 😂 i thibk you should look for a woman in a dance therapy or one of your process groups, at keast they'll be on the same page 😂
Firstly we should love God our Creator and trust His holy spirit to lead and guide us. We cannot read minds and should not assume. We don't have the same values or needs and not enough is taught on that.
@@Bb-k4gd never the wrong place or time to testify about God Almighty. Everyone believes in a god. Sometimes their God is money or themselves sometimes it's your job or somebody or something else but you "worship" something. The question is....is it the kind of God that can give you eternal life? If not, perhaps you want to rethink ...because this life on this earth is limited to less than 100 in most cases😯
@@mariannaoosthuizen9639 This is not about me, but why not respect other people's religions or beliefs. Why tell them what to do?... that's a personal choice. And not everyone believes in God "the creator", Most people that brag about God, the Bible or religion are some of the worse people I've met. They talk about it but they don't act accordingly. Btw I sent you a nice message giving you tips on how to attract active men 50+ but you decided to ignore that message and not this one, Have a nice day!
@@Bb-k4gdpeople are good and bad no matter their religion. I didn't make it about you at all. If that is what you thought then...oops no you got it wrong. If you stick your neck out here then expect people like me to voice their opinions too. Don't be touchy. You didn't expect someone to mention God on this channel perhaps. People don't change other people...only the Spirit of God has the Power to do that. Have a good day. The tips...i don't need them but thank you anyway for trying to sell them. Feel free to voice your opinion on things and never be afraid to do so.
I can relate! What's the point of dating? After enough emotional trauma... It's scary to open up emotionally again. Lonely yes but today's Narc infested waters you put urself in danger going swimming😮😢😂
@@JonathonAslayHi Jonathan, is this excitement always driven by the desire for sex? I am facing such men in dating. They all do love bombing and then show inconsistencies after. How to break this pattern? Any advice would be appreciated.
I am so sorry that you are very lonely. If you try the Son of God Jesus the Christ. He can make you happy. He cam give you joy if you receive Him as your Savior.
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I really didn't have a good feeling about Marie from the beginning I have strong intuition....sorry I relate and getting older you don't want to be alone it's lonely....but you can feel lonely in a room with a partner. Oh Jonathon your right .... The dark night of the soul on the east coast has struck!!
Jonathan ❤you are such a blessing to me and so many! I am single, 63 and a dental hygienist. I work and have girl friends. I want to try and date, but it’s a tuff job trying to find a healthy relationship. I have learned so much from you! Ignore those people who are mean and nasty! Put a hedge of protection around you, you are an amazing human being! I hope to have you as a coach when I’m ready to get out there and date!
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through...
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
You are Welcome
Exactly!
@@sherryj738 Scammers.
Jonathan, initially I was a bit taken aback by your phrasing. Now you make me laugh. More importantly, you provide sound advice, for both men and women. Thank you! 🙌
Wow, thanks!
A bad relationship is the worst thing that can happen to ANY WOMAN. Men in general have not been taught by their parents how to treat a woman because in today's modern world fathers are absent from the families. They are not teaching children good principles and living selfish lives doing their own thing. The result ...a sick society 😮
That is not a selfish life. It’s a choice to marry and/or reproduce. I don’t begrudge anyone that life. The problem is when they’re don’t want a relationship and mentally destroy others because they were in a relationship(s) they didn’t want. I have no interest in men, and a time in my 20s, rejected all of them because I wouldn’t be there for them. Therefore, I would never lead them on that I actually cared. I’d rather have a society where both genders were honorable. We don’t have that anymore.
Well this explains a lot. The information on vetting a person is what I need to focus on. I didn’t realize how clueless I was apparently.
I appreciate the way you do these videos. I find them entertaining and holds my interest
Not everyone on the internet are healthy people Jonathon. As you know. Don't take personally what the haters have to say. You have an important job. ❤
I know... thank you 😊
I'm happy to hear you use the word nervous system with regards to emotions. I have been a mental health therapist for many years and nobody talks about the nervous system and how we can help ourselves if we pay attention....
Love your "but Jonathan" statements... it continues to capture my attention and you know we need to hear it over and over again so thank you
Thanks for listening
Jonathon I hold you in very high esteem. But men, don’t understand how frightened many women are of assaults.
Indeed
So many people are lonely because we don’t know how to how to connect
I agree with you Margaret 😊
Older single women are not fragile. Every single one I know is strong and capable AF.
Both men and women tell me this..
For me it is difficult to live alone for long periods of time ! Roommates are an option and they don’t have to be the opposite sex! I don’t think we are meant to be alone! Yes , the country is rather depressing and true friends are not always easy to find but there are good people out there somewhere! Sending Love and Hope!
I hear ya..
Some humans are fine with their own company and some are not. Both are valid. So many people like to project their own unhappiness on others.
After my divorce, I thought I needed someone in my life. I took 5 years taking care of me, loving ❤️ myself, it's the best gift I gave myself
I hate online connection, this makes no sense to me
Thanks!
Thank you 😊
Will never do online dating ever again. I am OK with living with my cats as opposed to a bad relationship.
I tried it for 4 days and deleted everything. It felt like an alternate reality. I know it works for some. My niece married her online man and is SO happy.
Why?
I thought I was comunicating with a very accomplished & caring person, he was younger however that does not always mean disaster. After 4 mo's he became manipulative , he did it in a clever way however soon I caught on & then he needed help with money. I thought I would play his game & see where he was going & then I just started asking very direct questions & he got very defensive & I ended it in a very clever way. I told him I would rather think about the good relationship we have had & walk away. I was sure he would find someone who could afford him,I could not. THE END.
If you start a relationship by planning, inviting, and paying, that will be the dynamic of the entire relationship. Some men are ‘SITTING BACK’ and taking advantage of this so-called woman’s empowerment' and expect women to make the first move, cook, clean, pay for them and please them sexually. Best if they have ‘ big balls, are responsible and courteous’ to start with. Men see taking initiative and taking the lead as desperate, if they are traumatized by divorce, scared or broken, not worth it. be careful. just my 2c.
We have a lot sexual assaults in Australia due to online dating
Love your posts. You encourage and practice vulnerability.
Open heart and open hands.
I appreciate your counsel and I've learned so much from you.
I've read many of the books you've suggested.
I met my current guy online, and from the beginning we've practiced "radical honesty" and so much more that I've learned from you.
I appreciate your talent.
I'm a Taurus and I am what a Taurus represents. Jonathan, you are totally a Leo.
Jonathan...my thought process on this topic is, it always take 2 people. It is never one sided. Thank you 💕 for what you do.
You are so welcome
It is attainable, co creating is absolutely the goal! Love your dream! Keep the flow in ease ❤
Yes! Thank you!
I have no issue living alone with my ferrets,they make me happy.
My last relationship,the ex drove the damn wheels right off the bus,crashed and burned.😂
Oh, I love Grace Kelly ❤
Hi Jonathan, what I can share is something with a beautiful man who respected me and I did him. I was 24 and he was 73. I loved him and he said he loved me but if he were younger he would marry me. I went to his house and he came to mine. He had cancer and died in 2010. I'm 44 'now and having a friendship with my painting group. He invites me to coffee at his house, he's 45. And we're both Sicilian lol
Enjoying these celebrity chats brilliant different strokes for different folks ❤ it. Jonathon you and all your❤ crash so adorable
Yes! I got value out of this podcast. I am learning from you to love but still hold onto my power. Eventually the trust and love will grow in time
Wonderful!
Most people want to be single and being in a relationship without a commitment although they say they want a commitment until somebody comes along. I keep this in mind. Therefore, I keep my options open.
I'm feeling that loneliness too and dating a lot less than I ever have. 😟
Yes did find value to this discussion Jonathon thank you sending big hugs your way
John Wayne...I remember sitting in front of the black and white TV watching all his movies
I sooooooo lonely, I am so sad. I pray every night
Sending you light and love ❤️
Sending hugs and light ✨💗 We are all connected in this universe 💫
Same 😢
My lord... you are so wise. I feel for you.. so many lonely people ...
Awe... thanks ☺️
Do we feel the most lonely when we haven't taken the time to love ourselves is that why we became lonely because we needed to connect with ourselves? Is it through my loneliness that I find myself? Is it for me to learn I am the only guarantee in my life and how our mine set will determine our creative reality food for thought.
Yes we do
😂😂😂
Thank you next!! Agreed! Stop waiting !!! You will know if they want you!!!
Exactly
I love this
Thank you 😊
I have always loved Marilyn Monroe. Did a report on her when I was in 6th grade
Fortunately for me my somatic treater is, I believe getting divorced as his wife has found a same sex partner. He knows me backwards and keeps me emotionally safe, but as he is of course very frightened to break professional boundaries with the chiropractic profession and he could be disqualified by Allied Health Board. Bit of a conundrum. But I am starting to think he would be great for me in many ways. I do hope we can eventually get together. It takes maturity to know what will suit you. So I have to be patient
Fortunately for me my somatic treater is, I believe getting divorced as his wife has found a same sex partner. He knows me backwards and keeps me emotionally safe, but as he is of course very frightened to break professional boundaries with the chiropractic profession and he could be disqualified by Allied Health Board. Bit of a conundrum. But I am starting to think he would be great for me in many ways. I do hope we can eventually get together. It takes maturity to know what will suit you. So I have to be patient We have both shown each other our strong affection for each other.
Best wishes ❤️
Yes ,there’s a lot of singles not only older but yuo too but if yuo don’t put yourself out there go talk to people ask yuo gonna end up single and yes it’s a dangerous situation yuo meet people then yuo open yuor life they hurt yuo it’s bad out there dating it’s so difficult
Kind of off course, but I used to say the F word in front of my mom. She hated it. After I got older, she showed me that side of word and she used it. I most definitely don't mind your swearing and cussing. There is so much more to you than that
Jonathon!
24:42 I watch you on 1.5 or 1.75 speed and it IS blalalaala! Haha 😅
I know... it's fun at double speed.
I need to do a vision board of my future life partner.
We also have to remember we are not mind readers, just say what needs to be said about your feelings and be on the same page if not next please 😂😂.
Yes ,there’s a lot of singles not only older but yuo too but if yuo don’t put yourself out there go talk to people ask yuo gonna end up single and yes it’s a dangerous situation yuo meet people then yuo open yuor life they hurt yuo it’s bad out there dating it’s so difficult and yuo can’t make friends I’m lonely people hurt people
Such a fun video. I loved the hall of fame who do you think is hot section! Pierce Brosnan, Remington Steele with his gorgeous blue eyes…wow!
I know, right 🤩
Connection is a huge problem in Western Society today. Jonathon The World has changed but men have not.
Jonathon yes women have a lot of issues. Men certainly don’t know how care emotionally for women as men don’t know how to connect emotionally even if women gives him a lot of sex. Jonathon as a sexual assault survivor like many other women, I am terrified of being raped again. Please acknowledge this. Women need to be able to recognise a safe man who will not abuse her. I think for safety reasons you need to tell women how to recognise, if this is possible, a man who is likely to be a serious sexual abuser.
Wish I had a man like you!
Awe... thank you 😊
I live by the ocean too. I am in Florida
People don’t emotionally connect with others especially in this country dating its very disfuncional
I love Liam Neeson. He's such a great man.
God has blessed me with true love. We don’t take it for granted at all. Thank you Lord Jesus Christ ❤
Pray on it! I did and He answered my prayers. Have faith!
Amen 🙏
I never met a man who was a provider protector. I was always my provider protector.
How is that?
Sometimes, i am reminded of Marie saying that you are exhausting. 😂 i thibk you should look for a woman in a dance therapy or one of your process groups, at keast they'll be on the same page 😂
Cybil Shepherd and Bruce Willis had great chemistry together. Very rare. ❤️
Indeed
Love Paul Newman
👏👏👏 so true
Firstly we should love God our Creator and trust His holy spirit to lead and guide us. We cannot read minds and should not assume. We don't have the same values or needs and not enough is taught on that.
Not everyone believes in God, wrong channel.
@@Bb-k4gd never the wrong place or time to testify about God Almighty. Everyone believes in a god. Sometimes their God is money or themselves sometimes it's your job or somebody or something else but you "worship" something. The question is....is it the kind of God that can give you eternal life? If not, perhaps you want to rethink ...because this life on this earth is limited to less than 100 in most cases😯
@@mariannaoosthuizen9639 This is not about me, but why not respect other people's religions or beliefs. Why tell them what to do?... that's a personal choice. And not everyone believes in God "the creator", Most people that brag about God, the Bible or religion are some of the worse people I've met. They talk about it but they don't act accordingly. Btw I sent you a nice message giving you tips on how to attract active men 50+ but you decided to ignore that message and not this one, Have a nice day!
@@Bb-k4gdpeople are good and bad no matter their religion. I didn't make it about you at all. If that is what you thought then...oops no you got it wrong. If you stick your neck out here then expect people like me to voice their opinions too. Don't be touchy. You didn't expect someone to mention God on this channel perhaps. People don't change other people...only the Spirit of God has the Power to do that. Have a good day. The tips...i don't need them but thank you anyway for trying to sell them. Feel free to voice your opinion on things and never be afraid to do so.
A: You are much more tolerable on double speed.
I can relate! What's the point of dating? After enough emotional trauma... It's scary to open up emotionally again. Lonely yes but today's Narc infested waters you put urself in danger going swimming😮😢😂
John Ham in Mad Men 🔥
Indeed
Commutation goes both ways.
Exactly
Does an emotional healthy man love bomb
Yes, sometimes it's called excitement
@@JonathonAslayHi Jonathan, is this excitement always driven by the desire for sex? I am facing such men in dating. They all do love bombing and then show inconsistencies after. How to break this pattern? Any advice would be appreciated.
Yes it’s sinking in
When yuo open yuor emotionally well being to a man he can destroy yuo it’s a risk yuo take
Rita is and was beautiful
Cybil Sheppard
I’m 59:00 in and nobody said Jason Statham?!?!?
…..and as always an excellent video!
Somebody did say him, and I said it out loud
Jeff, The Fly
Can relate😓
Me too
Dangerous? What? STD and murder only dangers align with narcs…
Those too
Phil Collins..
😀Thank you Jonathon✌️👍🌈🫠
🥳
Jonathan 🤣🤣🤣🤣 too cute ❣️
Awe... thanks ☺️
👍
What happened to yuor girlfriend Marie ??!
Monica Bellucci Gorgeous!!!
Yes she is...
❤
Matthew has a hot voice!!! Cute personality also!!!
Which Matthew?
❤hi Sweetie Sweetly Blessed Sweetly ❤
Hi back ☺️
What is fainted heart? Is that the same as faint of heart?
Thats what I meant
I’d date you. I just don’t think you would date me 😂
Awe... thank you 😊
Hot actor - Timothee Charlamet
Oh yeah.. I like him
🥺😔😑
🙏
STOP SWEARING!!!!!!!!!!
Noted
Check his community page in this channel , he talked about the swearing. a few months ago.
I am so sorry that you are very lonely. If you try the Son of God Jesus the Christ. He can make you happy. He cam give you joy if you receive Him as your Savior.
Thanks!
Welcome!
Jeff, The Fly
What happened to yuor girlfriend Marie ??!
She ended things 11 months ago and moved out. 😢
@@JonathonAslay oh no I’m sorry to hear that