i hate how I'm transgender. it's something i want to get rid of. i just want to be a cis male. i guess some guys have it easier/harder than others. just gotta keep fighting. thanks for all of ur help. ur videos are a lifesaver.
as a trans person i couldn't care less if was made a cis male or a cis female. just cis in any direction. of course the fact that i feel gross about my body because i dont have male sex characteristics make me want to be a cis guy but if i was a cis woman i would be ... cis so i wouldn't care less about it
Trust me, that pain helps, accept this part of you your trans and you cant change that sure disphoria sucks i understand but being trans means you have a different perspective. Even when people be a dick to you that just shows you why you should never do it, so many of my morals were found by what i have been through, we learn what it is like to be judged by what we were born or who we are because we have been judged we can see those who hate themselves due to the way they are because we have been through it. Personally while i know it would have been easier to have been born a male to fit who i am i wouldnt chose it because that has helped me grow and learn, i have learnt to force myself up in a morning even when i hate my own body and look in the mirror, tell myself that im a good looking guy and get on with my day through my disphoria and that pain and yes its hard, its so dam hard but i wouldnt change who i am because of what i have learnt i hope you learn this too. Good luck.
No point in hating it... Everyone has a burden to carry in life... Some are heavier than others... There are many heavier than being trans... Point is, life is inherently a challenge and the point, as you say, is to fight... Own your burden and learn to enjoy life in your particular way.
“Are you on hormones?” “What made you think you’re trans?” “Are you going to get surgery?” “Which bathroom and locker room do you use?” “Why don’t you run and test with the guys?” “Why do you wear a bra if you’re trans?” These are the things I hear
Well, you hear those because you decided that it’s somehow relevant to other people that you’re trans and decided to tell them. That already is you bringing up personal things so people are going to ask, especially since they are literally just asking normal non-oppressive questions because they don’t know a lot about it.
Not true. "I identify as " is all the needs to be said. If you bring up the fact that you are transgender, you are quite literally inviting people to ask you shit and exposing a lot of personal detail on your own that I HIGHLY DOUBT anyone was asking about beforehand, because no one gives a fuck about what you identify as or what your gender story is, unless it was brought up.
Kronks In my case, everyone in my school thought I was a girl, so of course I corrected them. However, even when I didn’t say yes or no to the trans question, word got around school. I get strange questions every day from people I had never talked to in my life. Things aren’t so black and white as you say. Nor are they easy.
Yeah, my friend asked me one day randomly "So are you going to get a penis?" and well I mean yes I probably am but I just didn't know what to say to that because it had absolutely nothing to do with what we were talking about xD I'm not mad at her but it was a pretty weird situation because the guestion really came out of nowhere
I dont understand why people would hate you or trans in general. Hate is an ugly feeling that requires too much maintenance. Your videos are very enlightening and you inspire confidence in others. You are a wonderful person and a good influence onto others.
I come out to my cousin as ftm... That was basically the conversation: Me: "Bro...I have something to say..." He: "What is it?" Me: "I am... transgender... I want to be a boy..." He:"Eh, no problem! There is nothing wrong with it!" Me: "Wow thanks!...But don't tell to anyone, ok?" He: "Sure" Me: "Does this change the Friend relation between us?" He: "No way. Is like you are already a boy. Like you play games like Assassin's Creed, Watch Dogs and more...you like literally "boy stuff" so nothing will be different, really!" Me: So cool! I'm glad you understand me!
During my senior year of high school somebody left a note on the front windshield of my car. The note simply said "there's only two genders" (ironically, I identified as one of them so like...ok??). Anyway , one week later my back windshield was smashed on a rainy day . Yes, it happened on school property and no, the school did n o t h i n g. Had to replace the thing out of pocket 🙃
@@JA-nc9ym Right??? I hate how shit like this happens to peaceful people that have done nothing wrong. Like damn, who hurt you b/c it *certainly* wasn't me 😒
@@_PlentyofPancakes_ it was a month after I came out and had a lot of issues with my parents too. 🤔 I wasn't even open about it... I brought it up once when the subject was being discussed.
I’m transgender I’m pretty sure but I could never come out to my teachers and I did to my parents tho by saying I wanna have surgery don’t to be a boy and have male parts well let’s just say it went bad like really bad🤬😭😤
That was a rant but I liked it, I'm not trans but suspect my child could be from a few hint here and there but I could be wrong. I subs to you channel because I just like you and the lovely Shaba I binged all your vids when I was ill and you both make me feel happy when I watch your vids. I have read lots of statistics on "translyness" and I'm mosty happy you was born in the wrong body... I don't want that to come across rude I just happy someone like you it out there giving trans people support because that is part of what your doing here right and I'm happy that your giving people information and raising awearness and reducing ignorance, your doing amazing things 😘
LauraToGwiazda97 yeah same, i watched the whole video thinking "he just looks so good", he's handsome in every video but in this one there is something I can't figure out that makes him look particularly good ahahah
In late september, I'm cutting my hair short. I don't want to do it, I like having long hair, like,... I honestly love long hair. I love long hair on people, be it others or myself. But this whole "proving your identity" to people,... I am entirely invalidated if I have it long. Nobody will ever take me seriously because long hair is a "female" trait I retain. So it's gotta go away. I wanna see if that makes a difference. I feel like I've lost. I'm giving in.
Don't cut your hair if you personally don't want to. If it will make you feel awful about yourself, don't do it. Several cis guys with very long hair go to my school and it isn't a strictly feminine trait at all. Screw their opinions man. Rock long hair if you wanna rock long hair
You could try out a wig to see how short hair makes you feel, personally. I hope that the urge to pass won't destroy your self worth in the process. You're valid. You're you. You're awesome!
Nexus Akayuki here's the thing - it's not about proving anything to anyone. Because honestly you never will. I thought I was trans for most of my life until several years ago when it turned out I'm a hemophrodite which honestly people know nothing about and still call me trans. And I tried to prove so hard I was a REAL GUY. Then one day I was carrying several really heavy huge bags and my brother had none so I asked him "hey how come you aren't carrying any?" and he told me with utter contempt "because you are a freak who must prove he has a right to live and I was born normal and have value just because I exist". And that was my brother! And it just hit me what was I doing, why didn't I value myself because let's be honest, we hate ourselves. And we will never be free until we learn to accept ourselves and love the fact that we were born this way. And btw I had long hair too. I didn't like it but I kept it just in spite to everyone saying if I was a guy I had to cut it ; Hang in there, it gets better
Don't cut your hair if you don't want to! People will be terrible, and they can fuck off. Cutting your hair wont change them at all, and their almost certainly going to try and find something else thats "feminine" about you. It's hard, but try to think about whats going to make you happy, not them.
Here's the thing: Even cis guys with long hair get misgendered a lot. As a trans guy it's suuuper hard to pass with long hair. Maybe you'll be surprised and like the short hair look on you - approaching it being 100% against it makes no sense tho. Maybe passing as male is more important to you than having long hair - and honestly, it's JUST hair - so you make this "sacrifice". It can be a temporary thing, when you're on T and start looking male, you can grow your hair out again. With a beard you will be less likely to be misgendered even with long hair. Other options could be: Wearing your long hair always up in a bun for now, the "transitional phase". This looks more masculine imo than open hair, the man bun should be a little messy and low man buns look a bit more masculine. Wearing your hair short AND long at the same time - have a sidecut or undercut! You can shave your sides and the back of your head and have short, masculine hair there. But leave a long mane on top! When you let your hair down, it still looks like you have long hair. When you wear it up in a bun, it looks more like a masculine hairstyle. Wearing some type of hat that you can hide your top hair in and only your short sides being visible you could even fake having an all-short hairstyle, bc people won't know it's longer on top. Just a few ideas. Because really, if you hate this so much, it's not worth it. You CAN have long hair and be a (trans) guy. It will just be a bit harder to pass. So it depends on what's more important to you. If it completely destroys your self worth to have your hair cut short then it's NOT worth it, in my opinion.
I just want to say thanks so much for your videos. You probably don't remember but I met you at SitC, your videos really help me understand my trans friends perspectives, and help me to support them and it's also lovely to see your chill videos where you and Shaaba are just being wholesome and adorable. Wishing you the absolute best! Gabi 😊
I think these videos are important and helpful. I have not read all the comments but I have read many of them. Really wonderful people are part of this Jamie and Shaaba community. My heart goes out to the young people really at the start of their trans journey. Stay true to yourself. Keep connecting with supportive people. Don't let anyone judgmental and thoughtless ruin your day or get in your head.
I love how you're very positive about anything and even tho the video is called "Problems..." you mostly said good things! I really like you and your videos lol! You're great! I really hope someday our society changes and start to respect and accept people no matter what. Thank you for this videos and for many more. LOVE YOOOU
this definetly gives me hope, im currently 17 living at home with abusive and unaccepting parents. But in a few days my T will arrive at the door and things can start changing :) im lucky i have such lovely friends, and people like you to watch.
As always, thank you for being so candid and willing to put yourself out here on the UA-cams!
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Good advise for everyone in every situation. Remove negative and toxic people. A super important step for anyone moving toward success in any and every area of life. Great job Jammi.
My closest friends know I'm trans and they're super chill. My family still doesn't know (it's been a year and a half since I realized), but I've still got support. And one of my teachers specifically doesn't know yet but is super supportive about whatever makes me comfortable (she was willing to fight people if they didn't let me wear the men's outfit for the yearbook) so I still feel grateful for them, even though it's hard to come out in a very religious city (I live in Utah, everyone around me including my family is Mormon). I used to think that I was the only queer kid in my entire extended family. Turns out I'm one of 2 gay guys, and one of 2 trans people. My cousin who is trans doesn't come around because our family is unsupportive of her. I'm hoping to build up a relationship with her though. If anyone has advice for coming out and rebuilding relationships with family you don't know well, lemme know. Life is hard and help is always appreciated.
Preach! Everybody's journey is different, thankfully there are folks like yourself who share and help those just beginning their journey or discovering who they are 🙂
I have always loved your outlook on life and how you are true to yourself. To the other people who are going through a hard time, I am so very sorry people are treating you badly. You deserve better than that. Have faith that things will improve.
I'm trans and I've been out for quite some time but my family just will not respect me, and it's really taking a toll. I feel constantly judged by the people surrounding me, and freedom just seems such a long way off, as I am still in school. Thank you so much for making videos, you're really inspiring and you help reassure me that things change for the better.
I’m not trans but I love your videos - you & Shaaba seem so lovely. Reading some of the comments breaks my heart. What happened to empathy? Stay strong everyone xxx
My current big issue is fitting in, most of my friends no longer talk to me (not necessarily because im trans) but i feel like an outsider at school and I don’t know what to tell my gym teacher about locker rooms because I don’t think i want to be in the boys, but obviously the girls isn’t right :/ the struggle is real
Haters are going to hate , ignore them and carry on with your life :) you are a role model for people too .. Keep doing what you are doing and continue to grow as a person :)
Im trans and 14 but my Brother isn't oké with it so it kinds got a tradition that every night before my birthday he curses and insults the shit out off me, ive been out for 10 year..
Grote kans dat hij later nog bijdraait en dan veel spijt heeft, maar tot die tijd lekker links laten liggen, voor zover dat lukt. Hopelijk heb je steun in je naaste omgeving/andere familieleden... Sterkte 💕
Holy shit.... woah im sorry :(. My lil brother accepts me but my lilsister sometimes annoys me by saying you are just normal girl. But she is ok with that. And mom accepts but idk about my dad.
You are awesome just the way you are. It grows balls to change your identity. Stay positive no matter how much negative vibes surround you. We are all human and we're all NOT perfect.
Question, anyone can answer. My older brother and I are both transmen and we live under legal custody of our grandparents. When my older brother came out, they accepted him perfectly fine. They got his name and documentation changed, ordered him 4 binders, and he's been on testosterone injections/T shots for years now. I came out as trans to my grandparents in March and I got shut down. They told me they don't believe I'm trans because I don't act like my brother and they made me cry, then failed to understand why I was crying. I try really hard to pass but my grandparents won't help and my relationship to my brother is abusive. I have a doctor appointment September 12, which is 7 days from now. I am going to tell her and also ask for anti-depressants for my depression (that my grandmother told me no to because she doesn't like that I'm depressed). Edit: I'm 15 and I have Cystic Fibroses, so I can't leave even though I have a good friend willing to take me in. What do I do?
Please move in with someone who is safe I'd love for you to be safe you deserve so much and you deserve the be validated and be who you are, so personally I think you should take the safest option, keep yourself safe I'm also trans so please you are valid. Be safe and if you need someone please comment back and we can talk ❤ Btw I'm also 15 and I just came out as trans so I can help.
Your videos have genuinely helped me learn to accept myself as trans (ftm). I know who I am now, I just need to come out to parents. My parents aren’t rude or disrespectful to trans people (at least, to their face) and I definitely don’t think I’m in any danger...but they’re not very accepting of the LGBT community, either. They’re loving, but my dad is pretty stuck on the whole “if you have a dick, you’re a dude” thing. I might have more luck with my mom, I might not. Anyone got any advice on how to come out? I don’t think I can really stand being in the closet much longer with my dysphoria. I hope y’all have a good day, especially you Jamie, you’re doin’ the world good with everything you do :’)
Great video of a much mature man. I love those last 4 minutes because as an older transitioner I feel like that: “it’s others problem not mine anymore. “😉
I've known that I'm trans since 13 and a half, it's now almost 2 years later (I'm 15 now) and I've been out to my parents and school since about March. I was out to my friends before, but it's so different having my family refer to me by my preferred name. My mom's said she's gonna get my name legally changed for my 16th birthday and honestly that's one of the best things I've ever been told
I honestly think you and your fiance are amazing people! You both seem so in love, and genuine! Would love to meet you both one day as you both seem really nice! Love watching your videos all the best 😙 xxx
I'm transmale and it's really hard sometimes. My parents think I'm being disrespectful and my sister beats me up over it. But every time my friends call me a boy and Evan instead of my deadname (Gillian) it's worth it.
I went to a school where I had many people talking about me behind my back, specifically about being trans. After some time (and when my ex soon became one of the people I feared) I decided, it may be time for me to leave this toxic place. So i searched the internet and found this arts academy about half an hour away from where I live. This is my current school. It is much smaller (1300 vs 130 students jniefrdusfhiuerh) and a large amount of the schools population is LGBT. And if not, they're at least supportive if those who are. I obviously still have some people in my life who are not okay with me being trans and the kids from my first school haven't just gone away, but it really has helped a lot. Sorry if this seemed like an unnecessary rant. Its just that I haven't been doing the greatest for the past month or so so watching Jamie and his transition videos and his positivity really helps me and I've been doing a lot of negative ranting lately so I decided to try out a positive one :)
my boy is trans and it breaks my heart when he downs himself because he doesn’t like a lot and he never really understands i see him wholly as who he is; a male and it really is upsetting. handsomest man out there, as well.
You are such a great person with a beautiful soul and I hope for the best for you in the future! I would also love to meet you one day and just give you a hug to say thank you because I absolutely love your videos! ^_^
Schools been so crazy and amazing lately. I talked to the school about being trans and now everyone calls me Alexander/Alex and he/him. They even let me have a locker in the boys room instead of the girls. Life is getting better with time. I remember not even a year ago when I completely hid myself away and was so depressed and anxious. Even though I still have a long way to go (ex.cut my hair, surgeries, hrt) life right now is good. It's gotten so much better and I am so much more happy.
Last week I got my hair cut cus I’m trans and I’ve never been happier and l deal with all of these especially the first on oh and I see u got ur beard back
I think a lot of people forget that just because something makes up a big part of who a person is, it doesn't mean that's all that they are. I don't know...sexuality, gender-identity, etc. It's all incredibly important and is sometimes a huge part of who we are, but it's just a part. Writing people off for those reasons or having a problem with them just because of a fraction of who they are is crap. People miss out on knowing a lot of great people just because they have a bias about that person. Anyway, I definitely think dealing with any negativity from other people gets easier the more you learn to accept yourself, even the parts you'd like to (and, perhaps, some day will) change. Once you accept yourself and learn to be patient with yourself, other people's opinions don't matter. At least, not as much. All I can say is that it's a good thing there are videos (and channels) like this around to help people who are struggling
I'm 13 and I'm starting to think about starting to work as an Illustrator. My mom wouldn't accept me for nothing in this world. She always tried to hide it from everybody, like if I'm a freak. Recently I was having some self defence classes (Krav Maga) and everybody called me by my preferred name and my teacher called me a he, even if I was clearly AFAB and I loved it. But then my mom started having the same classes with me and now she calls me a female and by my birth name to everybody, and she's ruining it all. I'm seriously thinking about working and paying her every month so she can call me by my pronouns...
Someone I knew from school (who I subsequently unfriended) posted some transphobic shit on Facebook, I called them out and we then had an argument via the comments section. It really made me feel crap about myself because of what they and another person said, so I then went and made a post of my own, essentially telling everyone I am trans as not everyone in my life knew, and it completely lifted me up with all the lovely positive comments I got from my friends and family. For me I think that people do make it hard, but they can also make it better, for example when we are out one of my friends will often come to the bathroom at the same time as me to make me feel more confident, or correcting other people who use the wrong pronouns before I even have to, little things like that I think make everything so much easier even if other people are making things hard.
being an older transguy (45), my main issue is with bureaucracy. I'm Greek and have been living in the UK since 2000 (working and paying taxes). Unfortunately, being Greek means I cannot change my name here in the UK without forgoing my right to travel, so I'm stuck with old name on ALL my legal, financial, medical documentation. It's becoming more and more difficult to convince people, even with a letter provided from the Gender Identity Clinic (it means I have to out myself EVERY time i need to do anything at all...). And, yes, you're absolutely right - most issues come from other people and how they choose to perceive you once they know you're trans. I've been told I should expect to be treated like crap because I "chose" to be this way...
I’m going to a new school and my mom surprised me with registering me into the new school and the sports program with my new name :))) The one thing I’m terrified of is when I’m in gym or playing basketball and somebody seeing my binder. I’m also scared that If I get really close to someone and we’re interested in each other that when I come out they’re gonna leave me.
My mom finally found out I was trans but refuses to call me by my preferred name and pronouns unless I'm diagnosed. I'm glad she's accepting, but at the same time, I just really wish I told my therapist about being trans sooner so I can get a diagnosis cause I like... Can't handle it anymore . being trans absolutely sucks
You are such a handsome man....for real You are super cut ☺️ and you seem to be such a nice person 😊 I love to watch your Videos, because i want to understand how trans-People feel... I‘m a socialworker form germany and i work with a lot of Trans-men and women. 🍀
He really showcases what it's like to be a trans person 🙂 but I can give you one thing: your stomach churns every time you are misgendered. But don't trip over yourself saying sorry if you accidentally misgender someone, just say "whoops, [correct pronoun]" and move on. You seem like a very good person 💞
Hear hear! Life's too short for hate of different. Celebrate the difference. "Vive la difference" p.s. if people feel the need to hate then hate poverty, ignorance, child abuse....
I did not realise you also have M.E. (I have to assume when you say you had it when you were younger you mean you were more affected by it when you were younger as it is a lifelong illness/disability). I have had M.E. for 15 years and my partner (who is trans) is so supportive, yet she continually says how surprised she is that I'm supportive of her. She has family and friends who do their best to be supportive, yet she is continually worried about being judged which shows what a negative world the place can be (though my trans brother hasn't mentioned this issue, I know at the beginning especially he was worried about being judged for using the men's loos etc). So glad to know others like you have positive experiences (not meaning to downplay the negatives of course) and are willing to share it with the world.
My BF is Trans. And I have been asked on multiple occasions "what is his girl name?" Or "what is his real name?" It frustrates the hell out of me. I was straight up like "you don't need to know. It's none of your business."
@@maorinattydread1916 i agree. And then they started having a discussion about what it could be. I was like "does it fucking matter?" He is the best boyfriend I have ever had. It shouldnt matter what his name is or anything like that. But no. People always want to be nosey.
No one wants to go through transgenderism. I've despised my body and being a girl since I learnt about it and I still have to wait a lot of years till I'm able to decide for myself or come out, because it also might be just a phase I'm going through right now, but still. You also have to prepare for the pain once you come out and your relatives and other people around won't be accepting of you... so yeah. I wish you all the best of luck.
Being transgender is especially hard on me since I live with a mother who is religious, Jehovah’s Witness to be specific. Anyway, several months after I was about to transition she became a Jehovah’s Witness and decided to skip my transition because of the belief that it’s temporary and God will fix me along with everyone else. I know she has a right to her decisions, but it still hurts me deeply because I feel like my dreams of being the man I always wanted was thrown in the trash. On top of that my dysphoria has gotten way stronger and causes me to cry have suicidal thoughts. Whenever I tell my mother how bad my dysphoria is affecting me she says, “It’s only temporary and when all hell breaks loose on the earth you won’t be caring about what’s not dangling between your legs”. That’s a very shitty thing to say to a depressed, suicidal person tbh, but you get the picture. I personally don’t believe in what she believes and she drags me to church twice a week in a skirt. Anyway, can anyone relate or give me some advice? I’m under 18, can’t drive, and don’t have a job so moving out and transitioning on my own isn’t an option right now. My father is kind of out of the picture also so he’s not really on option either.
I can't say I relate because I'm not trans. The only advice I have is to remind yourself in the darkest times that it will only be a few short years until you are 18 and can make those decisions for yourself and take control of outwardly becoming the person you are inside. I can't imagine the pain of dysphoria, but I can send a hug from a stranger who wants you to be happy, healthy and whole. *hugs*
I feel really sorry for you. Your mother has been sucked away by what an ex-witness has proven to be a cult using the BITE model (Behaviour Information Thought and Emotional control). I don't know how to help other than sending you a virtual hug and cake **hug** _______ | ~~~ |
G Singh hey, I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your mom and situation. My mom isn't a Jehovah's Witness but she's expressed similar beliefs since I came out to her and has tried for over a year to convince me not to transition through emotional manipulation and telling me that god hates trans people. I'm 18 now and at college and things are much, much better now that I have some distance between me and her. I understand how awful it can be to be stuck living with someone like that, but once you are away from them things improve so quickly it's hard to believe. I got through my senior year of high school by staying away from my mom/her house as much as possible (getting supportive friends to pick me up and hang out with me elsewhere, going to a lot of activities where I felt safe). I also looked up a lot of trans health clinics and resources nearby so I could plan how to start my transition asap once I moved out. Fortunately I have access to insurance so I can cover the cost for T, so that might look different for you. But that's my advice: if your mom is harassing you for being trans, try and find out a way to be more independent/around her less so that you can keep a clear head. Try and find a group of supportive friends, see if you can go see an affirming counselor or someone to talk to, and if you know what you want to with your transition, look into resources nearby to see if it will be possible/when it will be possible. I hope things get better for you soon. It's much easier said then done, but please hold on until you're able to be more independent. Things really do get better
born2bug Thank you for your advice. She’s not harassing me and she accepts that I’m trans. She doesn’t force me to wear dresses, makeup, or girly shit outside of church thankfully. I’m mostly hurt by both dysphoria and the feeling of having the best moment of my life thrown in the garbage. I didn’t just want testosterone I needed it and I still do. My mom is taking me to psychiatrist but, doesn’t want me to bring up my dysphoria which is the main problem. Now I’m not sure to what to say to the psychiatrist because I can’t talk about my real problem. Ugh, hopefully the medication works on me and sorry for involving random strangers like you in my mess.
You don't have to be sorry :) I'm glad shes not pressuring you too bad, but im still sorry you arent getting the help you need. The chance to take T wont be gone forever, you'll be able to get the help you need eventually. and maybe check if your psychiatrist will keep the things you share confidential. even if your mom doesnt want you to, having someone to talk to about dysphoria can help a little bit
im a transguy i started in a new school ystd, and passed as a guy pretty much most of the time and my voice is too high and it cracks all the time ): i wonder what would happen if they find out im not cis male aaaaaaah
Being trans is awful, I get so angry at myself because of it. It's just something that has caused so many problems for me. I look at others and see how comfortable they are with themselves and I envy them so much. I tried so hard to be comfortable in my biological gender but it just caused so much stress to my mentality that it's actually crazy. Yesterday I went to a mental health professalist and he was asking me questions that was related to me being trans and I cried so hard. I imagined myself to be well put together and just talk about everything but because of my nerves and emotional state, my mind just went blank. I don't think i said everything I wanted to say but considering my state, I think i did a good job. I'm supposed to be getting a letter posted soon, i hope it will take me a step closer to where I want to be.
Glad to hear you're thinking about kids I think you'd my great parents. About acceptance if you a can accept yourself than that's all that really matters and people will be people. I had to defend be gay and now it seems I'm going to have to defend being white! Your always going to have to defend something in you life. Seems like you've got your head together.
I wish we trans people in the world could form a truly empowering network to become more independent of cis people. Something strong enough to compensate for the disadvantages we usually have. Each of us should become at least 1.5x better than the average at what we do professionally. And then invest a part (or the entirety) of this ability in the trans community. More networking, tech products, research funding, etc. It's tiring to be an underdog and it's something that can be changed, it just needs to be aggressively addressed.
This will differ for everyone, and for me it will be when I've completed lower surgery (2 more stages left). But for some people it may just be top surgery, or just Testosterone, and some people may see their transition as a life long thing. Hope this helps! :)
Hey um I just wanted to Say I also experience hate You know, for being trans But You know I also Kinda Wanted to say something We are all worth love And compassion And life And those bigots Who waste their life Commenting hate Aren't worth it They're the only ones Who aren't worth it
Today was the first full day of school and I came out to all my teachers :) The biggest problem was my mom, who yelled at me and didn't talk to me for two days after she found out that I emailed my teachers. Other than that, all my teacher used the correct pronouns and called me Trevor, and everyone was supportive. I feel like this was a big step forward for me
My number one problem about being a trans boy is just not feeling 'manly' enough and that I have to proof people I'm a man and not a butch lesbian (... )
I had felt this a lot early on in my transition. I felt pressured to prove myself as man enough and changed my mannerisms etc. to fit in. But as time has gone on, I've realised that there's no such thing as manly enough, and I'm just myself. It's hard in the beginning, but it gets easier as time goes on.
@@Jammidodger You have no idea how happy I am that you actually answered me :)!!! and thank you for your advice, I've been feeling down by this a lot since I started accepting my real self. But your words and videos are always a reminder to me that you don't have to be that stereotypical man to be a real man, instead, you demonstrate me that, the way you are, kind and positive is what makes us more of a human and not only a gendered person. And because of that, you're one of my roll models and my 'hero' especially in tough days. Once again thank you. I will always remember your words.
I have ME and I’m thinking of transitioning. I’m a bit worried that my body won’t cope with the recovery from surgery. I’d appreciate any thoughts you have on this. I’m really enjoying your channel Xx
What is the “M.E.” you mentioned? I don’t know what that stands for. Thanks. Also, I would like to know more about dysphoria - what does it mean and how do you experience it? What helps - for example, did you have a lot of therapy? I learn so much from you, Jamie. Thanks.
M.E. Stands for Myalgic Encephalomyalitis, otherwise known as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It has a lot of symptoms in different people, the most common ones being fatigue and pain. It can be debilitating and makes everyday tasks exhausting and overwhelming.
In his August vlog he was talking about how there were issues with getting T in his area or something, but he managed to get it fixed. So probably that.
I think I’m trans and I’m 11 I know I have gender dysphoria and I told my parents I wanted to have surgery to be a boy and have male parts not girl parts well my mom cried and yelled at me like it was rude to say and that made me cry 😢 then my dad said that I’m his “Little Girl”😔😓
my #1 problem is when people find out I'm trans and they become completely blindsided by it. i'm not just "a transgender". I have a personality.
@Fleur Laser Who is "you all"? Do you think each transgender person makes video blogs?
my family doesn't Evan know yet
i hate how I'm transgender. it's something i want to get rid of. i just want to be a cis male. i guess some guys have it easier/harder than others. just gotta keep fighting.
thanks for all of ur help. ur videos are a lifesaver.
im FTM trans. so sorry if this is confusing.
memeshibe me too
as a trans person i couldn't care less if was made a cis male or a cis female. just cis in any direction. of course the fact that i feel gross about my body because i dont have male sex characteristics make me want to be a cis guy but if i was a cis woman i would be ... cis so i wouldn't care less about it
Trust me, that pain helps, accept this part of you your trans and you cant change that sure disphoria sucks i understand but being trans means you have a different perspective. Even when people be a dick to you that just shows you why you should never do it, so many of my morals were found by what i have been through, we learn what it is like to be judged by what we were born or who we are because we have been judged we can see those who hate themselves due to the way they are because we have been through it. Personally while i know it would have been easier to have been born a male to fit who i am i wouldnt chose it because that has helped me grow and learn, i have learnt to force myself up in a morning even when i hate my own body and look in the mirror, tell myself that im a good looking guy and get on with my day through my disphoria and that pain and yes its hard, its so dam hard but i wouldnt change who i am because of what i have learnt i hope you learn this too. Good luck.
No point in hating it... Everyone has a burden to carry in life... Some are heavier than others... There are many heavier than being trans... Point is, life is inherently a challenge and the point, as you say, is to fight... Own your burden and learn to enjoy life in your particular way.
I've had the best week ever. I got my preferred name put on my college ID card and I've ordered my first binder. I'm so excited!
That's so awesome! Happy for you :D
Jammidodger Thankyou. I love your videos!
💕💕💕💕💕
“Are you on hormones?”
“What made you think you’re trans?”
“Are you going to get surgery?”
“Which bathroom and locker room do you use?”
“Why don’t you run and test with the guys?”
“Why do you wear a bra if you’re trans?”
These are the things I hear
Yeah I hate those like seriously you don't need to be so personal!
Well, you hear those because you decided that it’s somehow relevant to other people that you’re trans and decided to tell them. That already is you bringing up personal things so people are going to ask, especially since they are literally just asking normal non-oppressive questions because they don’t know a lot about it.
Not true. "I identify as " is all the needs to be said. If you bring up the fact that you are transgender, you are quite literally inviting people to ask you shit and exposing a lot of personal detail on your own that I HIGHLY DOUBT anyone was asking about beforehand, because no one gives a fuck about what you identify as or what your gender story is, unless it was brought up.
Kronks In my case, everyone in my school thought I was a girl, so of course I corrected them. However, even when I didn’t say yes or no to the trans question, word got around school. I get strange questions every day from people I had never talked to in my life. Things aren’t so black and white as you say. Nor are they easy.
Yeah, my friend asked me one day randomly "So are you going to get a penis?" and well I mean yes I probably am but I just didn't know what to say to that because it had absolutely nothing to do with what we were talking about xD I'm not mad at her but it was a pretty weird situation because the guestion really came out of nowhere
I dont understand why people would hate you or trans in general. Hate is an ugly feeling that requires too much maintenance. Your videos are very enlightening and you inspire confidence in others. You are a wonderful person and a good influence onto others.
I'm having so many issues right now related to being trans ugh. I just really need to start transitioning it's awful. Thanks for making videos Jamie!
Sorry you're having issues right now, I hope you can start transitioning soon! It will be worth the wait
Jamie, your hair is darn on point in this video!
I come out to my cousin as ftm...
That was basically the conversation:
Me: "Bro...I have something to say..."
He: "What is it?"
Me: "I am... transgender...
I want to be a boy..."
He:"Eh, no problem!
There is nothing wrong with it!"
Me: "Wow thanks!...But don't tell to anyone, ok?"
He: "Sure"
Me: "Does this change the Friend relation between us?"
He: "No way.
Is like you are already a boy.
Like you play games like Assassin's Creed, Watch Dogs and more...you like literally "boy stuff" so nothing will be different, really!"
Me: So cool! I'm glad you understand me!
I wish
During my senior year of high school somebody left a note on the front windshield of my car. The note simply said "there's only two genders" (ironically, I identified as one of them so like...ok??). Anyway , one week later my back windshield was smashed on a rainy day . Yes, it happened on school property and no, the school did n o t h i n g. Had to replace the thing out of pocket 🙃
@@JA-nc9ym Right??? I hate how shit like this happens to peaceful people that have done nothing wrong. Like damn, who hurt you b/c it *certainly* wasn't me 😒
@@_PlentyofPancakes_ it was a month after I came out and had a lot of issues with my parents too. 🤔 I wasn't even open about it... I brought it up once when the subject was being discussed.
Soo you didn’t have car insurance?
@@MineCraftFul Unfortunately I do not have full coverage, so because the perp was never found, I had to pay for it myself.
okay just making sure! some people didnt know their plans covered windows.
I came out to 2 teachers as trans today😊
How did it go?
Well done on taking that step! I hope it went well :)
I did, too! Did it go well?
@@raynepatterson5531 one of them were so understanding but the other one wasn't so sure
I’m transgender I’m pretty sure but I could never come out to my teachers and I did to my parents tho by saying I wanna have surgery don’t to be a boy and have male parts well let’s just say it went bad like really bad🤬😭😤
That was a rant but I liked it, I'm not trans but suspect my child could be from a few hint here and there but I could be wrong. I subs to you channel because I just like you and the lovely Shaba I binged all your vids when I was ill and you both make me feel happy when I watch your vids. I have read lots of statistics on "translyness" and I'm mosty happy you was born in the wrong body... I don't want that to come across rude I just happy someone like you it out there giving trans people support because that is part of what your doing here right and I'm happy that your giving people information and raising awearness and reducing ignorance, your doing amazing things 😘
is it just me or he looks very handsome in this video 😍
LauraToGwiazda97 yeah same, i watched the whole video thinking "he just looks so good", he's handsome in every video but in this one there is something I can't figure out that makes him look particularly good ahahah
His hair is cool
In late september, I'm cutting my hair short.
I don't want to do it, I like having long hair, like,... I honestly love long hair. I love long hair on people, be it others or myself. But this whole "proving your identity" to people,... I am entirely invalidated if I have it long. Nobody will ever take me seriously because long hair is a "female" trait I retain. So it's gotta go away. I wanna see if that makes a difference. I feel like I've lost. I'm giving in.
Don't cut your hair if you personally don't want to. If it will make you feel awful about yourself, don't do it. Several cis guys with very long hair go to my school and it isn't a strictly feminine trait at all. Screw their opinions man. Rock long hair if you wanna rock long hair
You could try out a wig to see how short hair makes you feel, personally. I hope that the urge to pass won't destroy your self worth in the process. You're valid. You're you. You're awesome!
Nexus Akayuki here's the thing - it's not about proving anything to anyone. Because honestly you never will. I thought I was trans for most of my life until several years ago when it turned out I'm a hemophrodite which honestly people know nothing about and still call me trans. And I tried to prove so hard I was a REAL GUY. Then one day I was carrying several really heavy huge bags and my brother had none so I asked him "hey how come you aren't carrying any?" and he told me with utter contempt "because you are a freak who must prove he has a right to live and I was born normal and have value just because I exist". And that was my brother! And it just hit me what was I doing, why didn't I value myself because let's be honest, we hate ourselves. And we will never be free until we learn to accept ourselves and love the fact that we were born this way. And btw I had long hair too. I didn't like it but I kept it just in spite to everyone saying if I was a guy I had to cut it ; Hang in there, it gets better
Don't cut your hair if you don't want to! People will be terrible, and they can fuck off.
Cutting your hair wont change them at all, and their almost certainly going to try and find something else thats "feminine" about you.
It's hard, but try to think about whats going to make you happy, not them.
Here's the thing: Even cis guys with long hair get misgendered a lot. As a trans guy it's suuuper hard to pass with long hair. Maybe you'll be surprised and like the short hair look on you - approaching it being 100% against it makes no sense tho. Maybe passing as male is more important to you than having long hair - and honestly, it's JUST hair - so you make this "sacrifice". It can be a temporary thing, when you're on T and start looking male, you can grow your hair out again. With a beard you will be less likely to be misgendered even with long hair.
Other options could be: Wearing your long hair always up in a bun for now, the "transitional phase". This looks more masculine imo than open hair, the man bun should be a little messy and low man buns look a bit more masculine.
Wearing your hair short AND long at the same time - have a sidecut or undercut! You can shave your sides and the back of your head and have short, masculine hair there. But leave a long mane on top! When you let your hair down, it still looks like you have long hair. When you wear it up in a bun, it looks more like a masculine hairstyle. Wearing some type of hat that you can hide your top hair in and only your short sides being visible you could even fake having an all-short hairstyle, bc people won't know it's longer on top.
Just a few ideas. Because really, if you hate this so much, it's not worth it. You CAN have long hair and be a (trans) guy. It will just be a bit harder to pass. So it depends on what's more important to you. If it completely destroys your self worth to have your hair cut short then it's NOT worth it, in my opinion.
I just want to say thanks so much for your videos. You probably don't remember but I met you at SitC, your videos really help me understand my trans friends perspectives, and help me to support them and it's also lovely to see your chill videos where you and Shaaba are just being wholesome and adorable.
Wishing you the absolute best!
Gabi 😊
It's just hard in general tbh
Nice video! I love hearing from people further on in their transition that things will get better.
I think these videos are important and helpful. I have not read all the comments but I have read many of them. Really wonderful people are part of this Jamie and Shaaba community. My heart goes out to the young people really at the start of their trans journey. Stay true to yourself. Keep connecting with supportive people. Don't let anyone judgmental and thoughtless ruin your day or get in your head.
I agree with every point you said, personal private questions seem to be a popular issue I face. the usual response is just to walk away
I love how you're very positive about anything and even tho the video is called "Problems..." you mostly said good things! I really like you and your videos lol! You're great! I really hope someday our society changes and start to respect and accept people no matter what. Thank you for this videos and for many more. LOVE YOOOU
this definetly gives me hope, im currently 17 living at home with abusive and unaccepting parents. But in a few days my T will arrive at the door and things can start changing :) im lucky i have such lovely friends, and people like you to watch.
As always, thank you for being so candid and willing to put yourself out here on the UA-cams!
Good advise for everyone in every situation. Remove negative and toxic people. A super important step for anyone moving toward success in any and every area of life. Great job Jammi.
My closest friends know I'm trans and they're super chill. My family still doesn't know (it's been a year and a half since I realized), but I've still got support. And one of my teachers specifically doesn't know yet but is super supportive about whatever makes me comfortable (she was willing to fight people if they didn't let me wear the men's outfit for the yearbook) so I still feel grateful for them, even though it's hard to come out in a very religious city (I live in Utah, everyone around me including my family is Mormon).
I used to think that I was the only queer kid in my entire extended family. Turns out I'm one of 2 gay guys, and one of 2 trans people. My cousin who is trans doesn't come around because our family is unsupportive of her. I'm hoping to build up a relationship with her though.
If anyone has advice for coming out and rebuilding relationships with family you don't know well, lemme know. Life is hard and help is always appreciated.
Preach! Everybody's journey is different, thankfully there are folks like yourself who share and help those just beginning their journey or discovering who they are 🙂
I'm currently thinking bout cutting out some toxic people in my life for that very reason. Thank you so much. This video helps me thank you.
Well said Jamie!!! I wish I knew a way to change the outside sooner than I did. Thanks Brother for all the help!! Much Love!!
Just keep on being the beautiful person that you are and tell your haters to stuff it. You're better than the people that try to drag you down.
I have always loved your outlook on life and how you are true to yourself. To the other people who are going through a hard time, I am so very sorry people are treating you badly. You deserve better than that. Have faith that things will improve.
If it weren't for you and your vids idk where I'd be. Especially the last 3 years of my transition. I genuinely appreciate you 🤙
truly mean people don't need an excuse to hate, they just need an opportunity
I'm trans and I've been out for quite some time but my family just will not respect me, and it's really taking a toll. I feel constantly judged by the people surrounding me, and freedom just seems such a long way off, as I am still in school. Thank you so much for making videos, you're really inspiring and you help reassure me that things change for the better.
I’m not trans but I love your videos - you & Shaaba seem so lovely. Reading some of the comments breaks my heart. What happened to empathy? Stay strong everyone xxx
My current big issue is fitting in, most of my friends no longer talk to me (not necessarily because im trans) but i feel like an outsider at school and I don’t know what to tell my gym teacher about locker rooms because I don’t think i want to be in the boys, but obviously the girls isn’t right :/ the struggle is real
thanks for that, I really needed that today. you're absolutely right
Haters are going to hate , ignore them and carry on with your life :) you are a role model for people too .. Keep doing what you are doing and continue to grow as a person :)
I'm not trying to throw shade or anything and I know there was good intent behind that comment but doing that is a lot harder said then done
Im trans and 14 but my Brother isn't oké with it so it kinds got a tradition that every night before my birthday he curses and insults the shit out off me, ive been out for 10 year..
Just remember, you aren't obligated to love family if they bully you. Slap him if you've got to. But I'd just settle for spitting back haha.
Grote kans dat hij later nog bijdraait en dan veel spijt heeft, maar tot die tijd lekker links laten liggen, voor zover dat lukt. Hopelijk heb je steun in je naaste omgeving/andere familieleden... Sterkte 💕
@Adrian Kearney I just hope that you are okay too💪💪
Holy shit.... woah im sorry :(. My lil brother accepts me but my lilsister sometimes annoys me by saying you are just normal girl. But she is ok with that. And mom accepts but idk about my dad.
You are awesome just the way you are. It grows balls to change your identity. Stay positive no matter how much negative vibes surround you. We are all human and we're all NOT perfect.
You deserve to be angry, hon, your feelings are valid! Much love!
Question, anyone can answer.
My older brother and I are both transmen and we live under legal custody of our grandparents.
When my older brother came out, they accepted him perfectly fine. They got his name and documentation changed, ordered him 4 binders, and he's been on testosterone injections/T shots for years now.
I came out as trans to my grandparents in March and I got shut down. They told me they don't believe I'm trans because I don't act like my brother and they made me cry, then failed to understand why I was crying. I try really hard to pass but my grandparents won't help and my relationship to my brother is abusive. I have a doctor appointment September 12, which is 7 days from now. I am going to tell her and also ask for anti-depressants for my depression (that my grandmother told me no to because she doesn't like that I'm depressed).
Edit: I'm 15 and I have Cystic Fibroses, so I can't leave even though I have a good friend willing to take me in.
What do I do?
Please move in with someone who is safe I'd love for you to be safe you deserve so much and you deserve the be validated and be who you are, so personally I think you should take the safest option, keep yourself safe I'm also trans so please you are valid. Be safe and if you need someone please comment back and we can talk ❤
Btw I'm also 15 and I just came out as trans so I can help.
Man, he looks great in this video!! Best hairstyle and facial hair tbh
Your videos have genuinely helped me learn to accept myself as trans (ftm). I know who I am now, I just need to come out to parents. My parents aren’t rude or disrespectful to trans people (at least, to their face) and I definitely don’t think I’m in any danger...but they’re not very accepting of the LGBT community, either. They’re loving, but my dad is pretty stuck on the whole “if you have a dick, you’re a dude” thing. I might have more luck with my mom, I might not. Anyone got any advice on how to come out? I don’t think I can really stand being in the closet much longer with my dysphoria. I hope y’all have a good day, especially you Jamie, you’re doin’ the world good with everything you do :’)
Great video of a much mature man. I love those last 4 minutes because as an older transitioner I feel like that: “it’s others problem not mine anymore. “😉
I've known that I'm trans since 13 and a half, it's now almost 2 years later (I'm 15 now) and I've been out to my parents and school since about March. I was out to my friends before, but it's so different having my family refer to me by my preferred name. My mom's said she's gonna get my name legally changed for my 16th birthday and honestly that's one of the best things I've ever been told
Saw the title and saw the length of the video and as a fellow trans man, *it should be much longer.*
I honestly think you and your fiance are amazing people! You both seem so in love, and genuine! Would love to meet you both one day as you both seem really nice! Love watching your videos all the best 😙 xxx
I'm transmale and it's really hard sometimes. My parents think I'm being disrespectful and my sister beats me up over it. But every time my friends call me a boy and Evan instead of my deadname (Gillian) it's worth it.
I went to a school where I had many people talking about me behind my back, specifically about being trans. After some time (and when my ex soon became one of the people I feared) I decided, it may be time for me to leave this toxic place. So i searched the internet and found this arts academy about half an hour away from where I live. This is my current school. It is much smaller (1300 vs 130 students jniefrdusfhiuerh) and a large amount of the schools population is LGBT. And if not, they're at least supportive if those who are. I obviously still have some people in my life who are not okay with me being trans and the kids from my first school haven't just gone away, but it really has helped a lot. Sorry if this seemed like an unnecessary rant. Its just that I haven't been doing the greatest for the past month or so so watching Jamie and his transition videos and his positivity really helps me and I've been doing a lot of negative ranting lately so I decided to try out a positive one :)
my boy is trans and it breaks my heart when he downs himself because he doesn’t like a lot and he never really understands i see him wholly as who he is; a male and it really is upsetting. handsomest man out there, as well.
Don't let yourself down because of this haters
Don't let the Muggles get you down.
I love your happy wholesomeness
100% like a real man
You are such a great person with a beautiful soul and I hope for the best for you in the future! I would also love to meet you one day and just give you a hug to say thank you because I absolutely love your videos! ^_^
Schools been so crazy and amazing lately. I talked to the school about being trans and now everyone calls me Alexander/Alex and he/him. They even let me have a locker in the boys room instead of the girls. Life is getting better with time. I remember not even a year ago when I completely hid myself away and was so depressed and anxious. Even though I still have a long way to go (ex.cut my hair, surgeries, hrt) life right now is good. It's gotten so much better and I am so much more happy.
Last week I got my hair cut cus I’m trans and I’ve never been happier and l deal with all of these especially the first on oh and I see u got ur beard back
I think a lot of people forget that just because something makes up a big part of who a person is, it doesn't mean that's all that they are. I don't know...sexuality, gender-identity, etc. It's all incredibly important and is sometimes a huge part of who we are, but it's just a part. Writing people off for those reasons or having a problem with them just because of a fraction of who they are is crap. People miss out on knowing a lot of great people just because they have a bias about that person. Anyway, I definitely think dealing with any negativity from other people gets easier the more you learn to accept yourself, even the parts you'd like to (and, perhaps, some day will) change. Once you accept yourself and learn to be patient with yourself, other people's opinions don't matter. At least, not as much. All I can say is that it's a good thing there are videos (and channels) like this around to help people who are struggling
I'm 13 and I'm starting to think about starting to work as an Illustrator. My mom wouldn't accept me for nothing in this world. She always tried to hide it from everybody, like if I'm a freak. Recently I was having some self defence classes (Krav Maga) and everybody called me by my preferred name and my teacher called me a he, even if I was clearly AFAB and I loved it. But then my mom started having the same classes with me and now she calls me a female and by my birth name to everybody, and she's ruining it all.
I'm seriously thinking about working and paying her every month so she can call me by my pronouns...
Someone I knew from school (who I subsequently unfriended) posted some transphobic shit on Facebook, I called them out and we then had an argument via the comments section. It really made me feel crap about myself because of what they and another person said, so I then went and made a post of my own, essentially telling everyone I am trans as not everyone in my life knew, and it completely lifted me up with all the lovely positive comments I got from my friends and family. For me I think that people do make it hard, but they can also make it better, for example when we are out one of my friends will often come to the bathroom at the same time as me to make me feel more confident, or correcting other people who use the wrong pronouns before I even have to, little things like that I think make everything so much easier even if other people are making things hard.
being an older transguy (45), my main issue is with bureaucracy. I'm Greek and have been living in the UK since 2000 (working and paying taxes). Unfortunately, being Greek means I cannot change my name here in the UK without forgoing my right to travel, so I'm stuck with old name on ALL my legal, financial, medical documentation. It's becoming more and more difficult to convince people, even with a letter provided from the Gender Identity Clinic (it means I have to out myself EVERY time i need to do anything at all...).
And, yes, you're absolutely right - most issues come from other people and how they choose to perceive you once they know you're trans. I've been told I should expect to be treated like crap because I "chose" to be this way...
I wish I had a positive attitude like you
I’m going to a new school and my mom surprised me with registering me into the new school and the sports program with my new name :))) The one thing I’m terrified of is when I’m in gym or playing basketball and somebody seeing my binder. I’m also scared that If I get really close to someone and we’re interested in each other that when I come out they’re gonna leave me.
I love your face, it was difficult to concentrate on what you said I had to watch the video twice x)
My mom finally found out I was trans but refuses to call me by my preferred name and pronouns unless I'm diagnosed. I'm glad she's accepting, but at the same time, I just really wish I told my therapist about being trans sooner so I can get a diagnosis cause I like... Can't handle it anymore . being trans absolutely sucks
I'm coming out to my mother today. I came out to my dad nd he accepts but, my mother doesn't. I'mma come out today. Wish me luck. 😊
There’s only one gender and it’s mine and I don’t feel like sharing! You can’t have it!
You are such a handsome man....for real You are super cut ☺️ and you seem to be such a nice person 😊
I love to watch your Videos, because i want to understand how trans-People feel...
I‘m a socialworker form germany and i work with a lot of Trans-men and women. 🍀
He really showcases what it's like to be a trans person 🙂 but I can give you one thing: your stomach churns every time you are misgendered. But don't trip over yourself saying sorry if you accidentally misgender someone, just say "whoops, [correct pronoun]" and move on. You seem like a very good person 💞
Wenn du Fragen hast, hau raus =)
Hear hear! Life's too short for hate of different. Celebrate the difference. "Vive la difference" p.s. if people feel the need to hate then hate poverty, ignorance, child abuse....
I did not realise you also have M.E. (I have to assume when you say you had it when you were younger you mean you were more affected by it when you were younger as it is a lifelong illness/disability). I have had M.E. for 15 years and my partner (who is trans) is so supportive, yet she continually says how surprised she is that I'm supportive of her. She has family and friends who do their best to be supportive, yet she is continually worried about being judged which shows what a negative world the place can be (though my trans brother hasn't mentioned this issue, I know at the beginning especially he was worried about being judged for using the men's loos etc). So glad to know others like you have positive experiences (not meaning to downplay the negatives of course) and are willing to share it with the world.
My BF is Trans. And I have been asked on multiple occasions "what is his girl name?" Or "what is his real name?" It frustrates the hell out of me. I was straight up like "you don't need to know. It's none of your business."
They are idiots being idiots. that's just rood of them asking a question like that to you about your man.
@@maorinattydread1916 i agree. And then they started having a discussion about what it could be. I was like "does it fucking matter?" He is the best boyfriend I have ever had. It shouldnt matter what his name is or anything like that. But no. People always want to be nosey.
No one wants to go through transgenderism.
I've despised my body and being a girl since I learnt about it and I still have to wait a lot of years till I'm able to decide for myself or come out, because it also might be just a phase I'm going through right now, but still.
You also have to prepare for the pain once you come out and your relatives and other people around won't be accepting of you... so yeah.
I wish you all the best of luck.
Being transgender is especially hard on me since I live with a mother who is religious, Jehovah’s Witness to be specific. Anyway, several months after I was about to transition she became a Jehovah’s Witness and decided to skip my transition because of the belief that it’s temporary and God will fix me along with everyone else. I know she has a right to her decisions, but it still hurts me deeply because I feel like my dreams of being the man I always wanted was thrown in the trash. On top of that my dysphoria has gotten way stronger and causes me to cry have suicidal thoughts. Whenever I tell my mother how bad my dysphoria is affecting me she says, “It’s only temporary and when all hell breaks loose on the earth you won’t be caring about what’s not dangling between your legs”. That’s a very shitty thing to say to a depressed, suicidal person tbh, but you get the picture. I personally don’t believe in what she believes and she drags me to church twice a week in a skirt. Anyway, can anyone relate or give me some advice? I’m under 18, can’t drive, and don’t have a job so moving out and transitioning on my own isn’t an option right now. My father is kind of out of the picture also so he’s not really on option either.
I can't say I relate because I'm not trans. The only advice I have is to remind yourself in the darkest times that it will only be a few short years until you are 18 and can make those decisions for yourself and take control of outwardly becoming the person you are inside. I can't imagine the pain of dysphoria, but I can send a hug from a stranger who wants you to be happy, healthy and whole. *hugs*
I feel really sorry for you. Your mother has been sucked away by what an ex-witness has proven to be a cult using the BITE model (Behaviour Information Thought and Emotional control). I don't know how to help other than sending you a virtual hug and cake
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G Singh hey, I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your mom and situation. My mom isn't a Jehovah's Witness but she's expressed similar beliefs since I came out to her and has tried for over a year to convince me not to transition through emotional manipulation and telling me that god hates trans people. I'm 18 now and at college and things are much, much better now that I have some distance between me and her. I understand how awful it can be to be stuck living with someone like that, but once you are away from them things improve so quickly it's hard to believe. I got through my senior year of high school by staying away from my mom/her house as much as possible (getting supportive friends to pick me up and hang out with me elsewhere, going to a lot of activities where I felt safe). I also looked up a lot of trans health clinics and resources nearby so I could plan how to start my transition asap once I moved out. Fortunately I have access to insurance so I can cover the cost for T, so that might look different for you. But that's my advice: if your mom is harassing you for being trans, try and find out a way to be more independent/around her less so that you can keep a clear head. Try and find a group of supportive friends, see if you can go see an affirming counselor or someone to talk to, and if you know what you want to with your transition, look into resources nearby to see if it will be possible/when it will be possible. I hope things get better for you soon. It's much easier said then done, but please hold on until you're able to be more independent. Things really do get better
born2bug Thank you for your advice. She’s not harassing me and she accepts that I’m trans. She doesn’t force me to wear dresses, makeup, or girly shit outside of church thankfully. I’m mostly hurt by both dysphoria and the feeling of having the best moment of my life thrown in the garbage. I didn’t just want testosterone I needed it and I still do. My mom is taking me to psychiatrist but, doesn’t want me to bring up my dysphoria which is the main problem. Now I’m not sure to what to say to the psychiatrist because I can’t talk about my real problem. Ugh, hopefully the medication works on me and sorry for involving random strangers like you in my mess.
You don't have to be sorry :) I'm glad shes not pressuring you too bad, but im still sorry you arent getting the help you need. The chance to take T wont be gone forever, you'll be able to get the help you need eventually. and maybe check if your psychiatrist will keep the things you share confidential. even if your mom doesnt want you to, having someone to talk to about dysphoria can help a little bit
im a transguy i started in a new school ystd, and passed as a guy pretty much most of the time and my voice is too high and it cracks all the time ): i wonder what would happen if they find out im not cis male aaaaaaah
Being trans is awful, I get so angry at myself because of it. It's just something that has caused so many problems for me. I look at others and see how comfortable they are with themselves and I envy them so much. I tried so hard to be comfortable in my biological gender but it just caused so much stress to my mentality that it's actually crazy. Yesterday I went to a mental health professalist and he was asking me questions that was related to me being trans and I cried so hard. I imagined myself to be well put together and just talk about everything but because of my nerves and emotional state, my mind just went blank. I don't think i said everything I wanted to say but considering my state, I think i did a good job. I'm supposed to be getting a letter posted soon, i hope it will take me a step closer to where I want to be.
I get you. If less people were buttholes it’d be easier for EVERYONE.
Well said sir...
Glad to hear you're thinking about kids I think you'd my great parents. About acceptance if you a can accept yourself than that's all that really matters and people will be people. I had to defend be gay and now it seems I'm going to have to defend being white! Your always going to have to defend something in you life. Seems like you've got your head together.
I wish we trans people in the world could form a truly empowering network to become more independent of cis people. Something strong enough to compensate for the disadvantages we usually have. Each of us should become at least 1.5x better than the average at what we do professionally. And then invest a part (or the entirety) of this ability in the trans community. More networking, tech products, research funding, etc. It's tiring to be an underdog and it's something that can be changed, it just needs to be aggressively addressed.
I've got a question: when do you stop transitioning? As in at what point do you feel as if you've fully transitioned? :)
This will differ for everyone, and for me it will be when I've completed lower surgery (2 more stages left). But for some people it may just be top surgery, or just Testosterone, and some people may see their transition as a life long thing. Hope this helps! :)
@@Jammidodger thank you for explaining that! ^__^
Hey um
I just wanted to
Say
I also experience hate
You know, for being trans
But
You know
I also
Kinda
Wanted to say something
We are all worth love
And compassion
And life
And those bigots
Who waste their life
Commenting hate
Aren't worth it
They're the only ones
Who aren't worth it
Today was the first full day of school and I came out to all my teachers :)
The biggest problem was my mom, who yelled at me and didn't talk to me for two days after she found out that I emailed my teachers. Other than that, all my teacher used the correct pronouns and called me Trevor, and everyone was supportive.
I feel like this was a big step forward for me
Melisa Ransford I notice your channel name is Melinda? Change that maybe. ❤️
My number one problem about being a trans boy is just not feeling 'manly' enough and that I have to proof people I'm a man and not a butch lesbian (... )
I had felt this a lot early on in my transition. I felt pressured to prove myself as man enough and changed my mannerisms etc. to fit in. But as time has gone on, I've realised that there's no such thing as manly enough, and I'm just myself. It's hard in the beginning, but it gets easier as time goes on.
@@Jammidodger You have no idea how happy I am that you actually answered me :)!!! and thank you for your advice, I've been feeling down by this a lot since I started accepting my real self. But your words and videos are always a reminder to me that you don't have to be that stereotypical man to be a real man, instead, you demonstrate me that, the way you are, kind and positive is what makes us more of a human and not only a gendered person. And because of that, you're one of my roll models and my 'hero' especially in tough days. Once again thank you. I will always remember your words.
I didn't figure out if was trans till early this year. I'm 20.
I have ME and I’m thinking of transitioning. I’m a bit worried that my body won’t cope with the recovery from surgery. I’d appreciate any thoughts you have on this. I’m really enjoying your channel Xx
Hay Jammie could you please do a video on how to except it if you're trans?
I absolutely hate the haters
some people are just jerks
Why do ppl hate on trans people I have never understood why..
What is the “M.E.” you mentioned? I don’t know what that stands for. Thanks. Also, I would like to know more about dysphoria - what does it mean and how do you experience it? What helps - for example, did you have a lot of therapy? I learn so much from you, Jamie. Thanks.
M.E. Stands for Myalgic Encephalomyalitis, otherwise known as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It has a lot of symptoms in different people, the most common ones being fatigue and pain. It can be debilitating and makes everyday tasks exhausting and overwhelming.
God bless you
When people find out I'm trans, they call me by the wrong pronouns as if I'm suddenly a girl (I go by he/him pronouns)
and they just outed themselves as transphobes smh. you should drop anyone who does that
You're such an ispiration :)
did your voice drop a bit?
i was thinking the same, it sounded different compared to some other videos the last month or so.
In his August vlog he was talking about how there were issues with getting T in his area or something, but he managed to get it fixed. So probably that.
Loved it
People can be douchemuffins. Know that we love you Jamie.
What is ME I googled it but nothing came up
It stands for Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (hopefully I got the spelling close enough!)
Jamie... you seem like such an INFP. You know, MBTI personality type (I'm INTJ) Are you? This helped me figure out who I am other than trans.
Intp-t trans guy here
Now we have the same hair style :-)
I think I’m trans and I’m 11 I know I have gender dysphoria and I told my parents I wanted to have surgery to be a boy and have male parts not girl parts well my mom cried and yelled at me like it was rude to say and that made me cry 😢 then my dad said that I’m his “Little Girl”😔😓
Thanks for sharing. Glad to see the scruff too. Lol
Love you
Can Anyone tell me what “Emmy/mne” is, please?
It's M.E. which is another term for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Jammidodger thank you! (:
wolf mol
I had the same question...lol