WHY I'M NOT GETTING BOTTOM SURGERY- TRANSGENDER FTM | NOAHFINNCE

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  • @NOAHFINNCE
    @NOAHFINNCE  6 років тому +2450

    WHATS YOU GUYS’ OPINION ON BOTTOM SURGERY?

    • @kittyp0g978
      @kittyp0g978 6 років тому +245

      Definitely depends on the person.

    • @dang6477
      @dang6477 6 років тому +158

      NoahFinnce i think it depends really but I wouldn’t personally have it because the results don’t currently seem worth it to me?

    • @isaaccarroll9590
      @isaaccarroll9590 6 років тому +63

      Good for whoever wants it or whatever like you do you but I'm not one of those people.

    • @mysoxx7071
      @mysoxx7071 6 років тому +44

      My opinions are the same as the ones stated in the video.

    • @uhoh3564
      @uhoh3564 6 років тому +38

      Doesn’t seem worth the risk for me

  • @sugarcoateddeerhorns898
    @sugarcoateddeerhorns898 4 роки тому +3000

    *Why I'm not getting bottom surgery*
    "I'm already a bottom"

  • @SupraMan38
    @SupraMan38 6 років тому +6380

    ok i agree 100% like let’s see where it is in 10 years

  • @lulubelle3924
    @lulubelle3924 6 років тому +2409

    “I guess this is my coming out as a bottom video”

  • @inexperiencedlad
    @inexperiencedlad 6 років тому +2133

    Not getting bottom surgery is completely fine and understandable. Do what’s right for you. Your body, your decision. We’ll always support you.

  • @shawnleo6042
    @shawnleo6042 6 років тому +3727

    I want male genitals but I find the current options too risky and not worth it, so I don't want bottom surgery. I plan on getting top surgery in the future, though.

    • @ekkocell6870
      @ekkocell6870 6 років тому +14

      Same

    • @greysoncreates776
      @greysoncreates776 6 років тому +6

      Same for me too

    • @mattihansson5616
      @mattihansson5616 6 років тому +51

      I agree.. I feel like I’m all good with what I have currently but if the technology gets better and people get a lot better results I would reconsider getting bottom surgery😊✌️

    • @dannysho4693
      @dannysho4693 6 років тому +14

      Well I hope they get better by the time I can get it

    • @iwannabeacowboybaby9066
      @iwannabeacowboybaby9066 6 років тому +1

      Same

  • @zoeydawn5052
    @zoeydawn5052 6 років тому +2910

    i look forward to being insulted by noah with every intro

  • @jordanvansteenderen6334
    @jordanvansteenderen6334 5 років тому +422

    Noah: “I guess this is my “coming out as a bottom” video
    Me: *chokes on my toast*

  • @yowysyoungg7715
    @yowysyoungg7715 6 років тому +702

    *Someone meeting a trans person*
    Brain: Don’t say it
    Don’t say it
    Don’t say it
    Person: So have you had... *THE* surgery

    • @benfarmer-webb1016
      @benfarmer-webb1016 6 років тому +41

      Yes. I always wonder like what is the magical power of Trans people's genitals that everyone wants to know about them

    • @dutchyshawdm154
      @dutchyshawdm154 5 років тому +7

      well bc if you say you're a transgender man you would think that person no longer has a vagina and now has a penis. Correct me if I'm wrong though. I just don't understand how changing your appearance and taking testosterone makes you no longer a female.

    • @yowysyoungg7715
      @yowysyoungg7715 5 років тому +65

      Dutchy & Shaw D&M This might not make much sense but I’ll try. Trans people suffer from what’s called gender dysphoria which, in short, means your brain and body are different. In your brain you develop as one gender but your body has developed differently to that. Because of this trans people often start to hate their bodies, dislike their voice, etc. To alleviate some of the hatred/discomfort that trans people feel about the difference between their mind and body you need to make them match each other in one way or another. (Make the outside match the inside basically). Currently there is no known way to change the way that your brain is, so it’s easier for trans people to change their appearance, take hormones and sometimes get surgery to change their body to match their brain. While technically a trans mans body was female, his mind never really was. Trans men aren’t really “no longer a female” because their mind was never female anyway

  • @Nikolas42069
    @Nikolas42069 6 років тому +773

    Noah-fication squad where you at?

  • @nana-ig2fe
    @nana-ig2fe 6 років тому +432

    Noah, an achiever: would be nice to have a willy but i am too fussy
    Me, an underachiever: haha silly willy for a fussy wussy

    • @theharshtruthoutthere
      @theharshtruthoutthere 10 місяців тому

      Doctors, therapist, psychiatrist, nurses and psychologist:
      Lies, and lies, they are sharing you their lies. And you believe them daily, as you go and ruin your own lives.
      Lies, oh lies, they know not how to care. They know not how to love, what its to have a heart warmly beating in your chest.
      They have lost their mind, they have gone mad and they drag you with them into the outer darkness of insanity.
      Seek ye GOD and get your mind back, get back your life and your will to live, escape the madness.
      Your are not trans or any other lie, which you daily believe.
      You are FOOLS, who are deceived daily.
      You reject the BIBLE - the only source of truth, thats why lies you buy and suffer thereafter.
      To believe trans lies, one must got to forget, why was gender given in the 1st place.
      Genesis 9:7
      And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.
      Sexual abuses every soul has lived through, every one carries the traumas.
      It is not GOD, toward whom we should be angry. Its the ones amongst us, who have once lost their minds:
      through the same abuse, that you are suffering, carrying all the damaged form the birth to the death, haven`t been cared for.
      And the influences of this world, are as strong as these are, no child is kept safe.
      Marriages have changed, many in love with bottles, eating away their brains.
      Many love smoking, burning away their lungs.
      Many love fornication and abusements.
      They all hate their skin, in which they live, cause they allowed the world in.
      Lies stay lies, no matter how often given. If the end result is death or a lifelong suffering, you`re then missing love.

  • @jamiedodger483
    @jamiedodger483 4 роки тому +655

    I’m 11 and trans (girl to boy) and I am having trouble like living day to day life as a guy not a girl and I get depressed almost everyday. But u have helped ALOT and I know a lot more than I did thank you
    Jamie

    • @lulianjuliuswassbach
      @lulianjuliuswassbach 4 роки тому +30

      You can't get depressed everyday, either you are depressed or not.

    • @krimmAnims
      @krimmAnims 4 роки тому +144

      @@lulianjuliuswassbach I think they mean they're depressed everyday (all the time)

    • @sleepygene
      @sleepygene 4 роки тому +32

      i’m 14 n ftm, we should be friends!

    • @kinglunarchy9417
      @kinglunarchy9417 4 роки тому +61

      @@lulianjuliuswassbach okay bipolar erasure hours lol

    • @jamiedodger483
      @jamiedodger483 3 роки тому +6

      @@sleepygene well hi you trans?

  • @abigailrice7804
    @abigailrice7804 6 років тому +65

    Seeing how much you are changing feature wise is soooo amazing. Like you can see your shoulders getting wider and your jaw and it’s great to experience

  • @reubenoreilly7513
    @reubenoreilly7513 6 років тому +1094

    ...so the underachievers thing really stuck huh

    • @steffigomes9326
      @steffigomes9326 4 роки тому +8

      Really... I rewatched it couple of times to confirm... Y start a video with negative line. Although I agree you say it sarcastically or may be trying to be funny or less serious... Wat ever.. Let's spread positivity in this negative world

    • @lemiin_
      @lemiin_ 4 роки тому +3

      You have no idea lmao

    • @Router-we2eh
      @Router-we2eh 4 роки тому

      I know lots of people on the internet say this, but...you're at 666 likes.

    • @steffigomes9326
      @steffigomes9326 4 роки тому

      @@Router-we2eh what u do mean dear

    • @steffigomes9326
      @steffigomes9326 4 роки тому

      @@lemiin_ can u explain the joke... So that I could enjoy it as well

  • @lightning2367
    @lightning2367 6 років тому +1378

    *Kalvin Garrah has left the chat*

  • @godhatesme6990
    @godhatesme6990 4 роки тому +86

    I’m just getting into the journey of transitioning (I’m still pre-T) and I’ve just been having SO MANY doubts about bottom surgery, this definitely helped me understand what I want a lot more and cleared my mind, specially since I’m such a coward haha, it also kinda made me realize it’s ok to be trans without a bottom surgery

    • @zaas8360
      @zaas8360 3 роки тому

      I’m too young for T And it’s really annoying lololl

    • @bscottb8
      @bscottb8 2 роки тому

      Be a masculine transman WITHOUT bottom surgery and you will be in demand.

    • @Sonofdio2019
      @Sonofdio2019 Рік тому +1

      please dont, i dont even think it will help you in many cases it can make you so much worse, down there doesnt define you please

  • @andream1636
    @andream1636 6 років тому +43

    This is actually really interesting to hear someone talk about their thoughts on, like one of my close friends is trans and I know he has similar views on this topic but isn’t like hella comfortable talking about it which is obviously understandable but like go off Noah we stan an informative king

  • @reneericci1398
    @reneericci1398 2 роки тому +22

    "It's not my favorite thing, but it works" WOW I relate to that so much. It does the job, I'm not too thrilled, but it is what it is 😅

  • @lknordi6031
    @lknordi6031 5 років тому +120

    Noah coming out as a bottom: "I don't... top"

  • @genderpunktheo
    @genderpunktheo 5 років тому +17

    I think it's really great to see you and other trans UA-camrs talk openly about this! Transition can look so different for everyone for a huge variety of reasons and sometimes the media seems to only give us that one "every surgery possible" narrative. Thanks for always being so honest!

  • @shelby6075
    @shelby6075 6 років тому +523

    *tea*

    • @lisabrudermann6698
      @lisabrudermann6698 6 років тому +13

      i didn‘t know reading this comment and hearing sassy josh say *tea* in my head is what i needed but it absolutely fucking is

    • @buttercupfinn5496
      @buttercupfinn5496 6 років тому +1

      Hello josh

    • @Leviiiiiii
      @Leviiiiiii 6 років тому +4

      I love your profile pic ||-//

    • @besos2you
      @besos2you 6 років тому

      😂

    • @bubsmybeloved
      @bubsmybeloved 6 років тому +2

      ||-//

  • @evij126
    @evij126 6 років тому +118

    damnnnn your voice really is doing things

  • @maxjr5447
    @maxjr5447 6 років тому +73

    I'm hoping that by the time I can actually get bottom surgery there will have been improvements to make it safer. Regardless of that though, I am going to get it when I can because I can't live with this dysphoria.

  • @peepmam
    @peepmam 4 роки тому +13

    this was one of the first videos that I've watched from Noah like in may 2019 and as a 13yo cis girl who had just stumbled upon a trans channel for the first time i was confused of why would "ass surgery" be a step in transitioning lmao, and don't even get me started on all the names and definitions, i pretty much deleted all of them the moment i heard them because of being total unknown for me. well, the beginning of an amazing journey discovering all the lgbtq+ stuff in depth and realizing that i might be a bit part of it haha. stay safe

  • @carmelocampo6332
    @carmelocampo6332 4 роки тому +7

    Loved this video! I’m FTM as well and you hit the nail on the head on why I don’t want Bottom surgery as well! Glad to see there is someone else out there that feels the same way as me! I will be getting my Top Surgery soon! I have my consolation next week!

  • @llawliet8338
    @llawliet8338 5 років тому +6

    God im so glad theres someone else who shares the same views as me, I was starting to think there wasnt any other trans person who would choose to not have bottom surgery and I started to feel invalidated because of that, but hearing you say these points makes me feel so much better and like its completely reasonable. Thanks Noah!

  • @JLongb
    @JLongb 6 років тому +370

    Wait wait wait Noah has merch??? Sorry be right back

    • @JLongb
      @JLongb 4 роки тому +6

      シSady no

  • @morgangibson2261
    @morgangibson2261 4 роки тому +3

    I stumbled upon you somehow here on the interwebs and I gotta say, I am a cis woman and I enjoy your videos because you are easy to listen to and learn from. I have trans and non-binary friends that I don’t know well enough yet to really talk about any of this personal stuff, and I absolutely appreciate the education you are putting out there. So thanks!

  • @tsicby
    @tsicby 3 роки тому +14

    Yeah, if I were a trans guy, especially a gay trans guy, I think I would just keep the original equipment. Top surgery seems like a no brainer. It doesn't seem that complicated. As long as you reach a point that you're comfortable and happy with your life. Take it one step at a time and measure your happiness along the way, weight the pros and cons.

  • @spencerbashford6559
    @spencerbashford6559 5 років тому +5

    They have improved over the years with function and complication rates. So here's hoping they will continue to improve. Especially with the scar. That arm scar is definitely something that holds me back because scars are stories and I don't want the story I'd carry to be like oh you weren't born right so you had to take a chunk out of your arm to fix it.

  • @maria-xq8yw
    @maria-xq8yw 6 років тому +210

    4:51 dem cheekbones tho

    • @kennymccormic5025
      @kennymccormic5025 6 років тому +9

      OOH IM LOOKING AT THEM RIGHT NOW AND GURL MY PANTS ARE *WET*

    • @bluejohnson6250
      @bluejohnson6250 6 років тому +18

      Before he started T he was worried he would keep his chubby cheeks and he wanted the carved ones... oh well. Guess he had what he wanted after all☺️

    • @lunarsystem
      @lunarsystem 5 років тому +8

      @@kennymccormic5025 ew wtf?

    • @lunarsystem
      @lunarsystem 5 років тому +1

      @@bluejohnson6250 yessss

    • @kennymccormic5025
      @kennymccormic5025 5 років тому +1

      @@lunarsystem e

  • @shalicgraw5280
    @shalicgraw5280 4 роки тому +14

    You are adorable. Best of luck! You have a great attitude and you are helping people by sharing your story. ooo

  • @EditsByLyra
    @EditsByLyra 5 років тому +27

    This is super interesting and informative.
    As a cis woman, I've never had to consider these surgeries but I did think about what it would be like to need them. It makes sense that not everyone would be willing to go through all that, with the risk of not being 100% happy with the results (looks, sensations...).
    Obviously, many trans men have had the surgery and are very content with it, but I feel like it's important to hear your take on it. You're a man, botton surgery or not.

  • @BekkiUndSo
    @BekkiUndSo 4 роки тому +29

    Me, for 2 decades: having a dink would be great
    My history with multiresistant, borderline chronic bladder infection: I‘m about to ruin this mans whole career

  • @irismouran9652
    @irismouran9652 4 роки тому +13

    I'm really happy to know that someone feels like me. I don't like this part of my body but I would not be satisfied with the phaloplastie cause of the danger and the result. It's a personal opinion and I know that this surgery helped many men to feel better but I think it's not for me. Maybe one day we'll find a good solution.

  • @LGBTR3naissance
    @LGBTR3naissance 2 роки тому +2

    Totally respect your decision and of course love hearing your opinions on stuff. Stay you Noah, we certainly appreciate you to infinity and beyond.

  • @chrisantoniscountryman-pur9954
    @chrisantoniscountryman-pur9954 3 роки тому +5

    This would be a great video for you to revisit in a couple more years as you’ve already evolved so much since this was made.
    Keep on being yourself!

  • @carlacampossalazar2936
    @carlacampossalazar2936 6 років тому +292

    The noah adams apple is showing! Ps: u look skinnier...like less fat more muscle? idk just saying

  • @bellamarie445
    @bellamarie445 6 років тому +36

    I'm so proud of you for coming out as a bottom, you're so brave 💖 #stopbottomoppression2k18

  • @lillyshapero7933
    @lillyshapero7933 6 років тому +242

    last time i was this early my mom still loved me

  • @dkuiv
    @dkuiv 3 роки тому +11

    You are just delightful!! I wish you a wonderful life!

  • @twistedmind3323
    @twistedmind3323 3 роки тому +3

    I totally understand where you're coming from. I honestly wish I didn't want bottom surgery- but as soon as I got top, the bottom dysphoria hit me like a brick wall. Honestly, the more I look at surgeries, the more I'm amazed that I even live in a time in history where I have access to surgery, you know?
    HOWEVER, we really need to stop centering being trans around wanting/getting specific surgeries or medical treatments. We all have a different relationship with gender and our bodies, and its not your business how someone wants to live in their body.

  • @judgejudyslover
    @judgejudyslover 4 роки тому +53

    I was born with a disability that has no cure etc. I don’t have options and that’s ok with me, I guess it helps to become comfortable with my disabledness. Lol

  • @GCreez
    @GCreez 6 років тому +66

    Thank you for not bashing bottom surgery results saying it “doesn’t look real”. All your points are valid, but I’d like to touch on the last one from my point of view. It is of course your opinion, but here’s the thing, having a cis penis just isn’t possible. I’m not trying to trigger anyone, but expecting it to be like that is just wrong. Top surgery results are not cis, and sensation is not guaranteed either. Both surgeries are attempting to look as “cis” as possible but it’s never going to be cis. Knowing that it has made it easier for me to accept getting bottom surgery. At the end of the day it is a dick, not a cis dick but that’s all that matters. Aside from that I can totally understand why someone wouldn’t want to go through a major surgery due to recovery/complications and the whole skin graft situation.

    • @gatorfan556
      @gatorfan556 5 років тому +18

      Actually youre not entirely correct. They are currently figuring out ways to give a trans man a cis mans penis. Literally. Like an organ donor, but. A penis donor? Theyve had succesfull cis man to cis man transplants, so theyre figuring out how they can go cis man to trans man. Everything is possible with out technology as its only getting better and better

    • @Imnotallergictopeanuts
      @Imnotallergictopeanuts 5 років тому +20

      I don’t care about being cis as long as a I have a well enough functioning dick that I can insert into people

    • @potapobob3769
      @potapobob3769 4 роки тому +7

      @@gatorfan556 Yeah they are doing that but it means being on immunosuppressants for the rest of your life, so it's not really this great solution it's made out to be.

    • @hanakosan4404
      @hanakosan4404 3 роки тому

      @@Imnotallergictopeanuts Beautifully said

    • @Imnotallergictopeanuts
      @Imnotallergictopeanuts 3 роки тому +2

      @@hanakosan4404 thank you papi

  • @notdog1996
    @notdog1996 6 років тому +135

    Honestly, I feel the same way. I'm not too dysphoric about my genital area anymore since T made it way more bearable, but yeah, if I could, I would get a penis, but I'm not satisfied witht the current options.
    I don't want to mess up my arm. I don't want to have anything foreign in my body (like a pump). I don't want to have intensive surgery with high risks of complications. I don't want a penis that can't do half the things the real one does. I'm just not into it.
    I'm personally waiting for them to developp the stem cells route, so they could grow a penis form our cells. That would be fantastic. Unfortunately, seems like that's not happening any time soon.

    • @tealkerberus748
      @tealkerberus748 5 років тому +11

      Notdog1996 we'll keep fighting for it. And working gonads, producing both viable sperm *and* testosterone, so you don't need to keep taking synthetic T.

    • @Taviou
      @Taviou 2 роки тому

      Woah growing a penis out of my cells is interesting

  • @Jp-ml8dm
    @Jp-ml8dm 3 роки тому

    I think your reasons are perfectly valid and truly makes a ton of sense. A 50% chance of complications is truly quite high. Obviously the choice is your choice. Its your body and as long as you are happy then thats all that matters. I started watching your vids a couple of days ago and I personally want to thank you for educating me and for your absolute honesty. I personally have nothing against trans, gay, bi, etc and you have truly expanded my knowledge base so thank you so much.

  • @brunobucciaralick3914
    @brunobucciaralick3914 5 років тому +37

    It's not even just about looking at the arm scar and being reminded you're trans (for me), but I've already got a bunch of self-harm scars, and scars in all forms are very triggering for me, plus hating my body and having such a visible scar possibly giving me more reasons to hate myself - man.. Being trans and also gay sucks. I'm honestly happy for when I'll finally be in testosteron, but I'm scared of possible future boyfriend's because I'm as gay as one can be and for them to break up because dowm there I'm not..well, what a cis gay man would want to see😕

    • @bingbong9238
      @bingbong9238 3 роки тому +11

      i can safely say that a lot of cis men will be fine without you having bottom surgery. im ftm and have been with quite a few cis men, and the majority haven't cared because they knew i didn't have bottom surgery. there's lot of cis men that are okay with that, you just have to look for them :).

  • @GigiAcor
    @GigiAcor 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you Noah for being so honest and brave. Because you talk about these topics so openly, people who have doubts can solve them. I’m just so curious about all this stuff because for me it’s like unknown and I want to know more about it so I can understad better people in situations like this.

  • @WhimsicalASMR60
    @WhimsicalASMR60 6 років тому +226

    How many times has Noah called us underachievers?

  • @paulalisauskaite7719
    @paulalisauskaite7719 6 років тому +2

    Im sorry if you felt forced to talk about it, being asked so many times! Either way thanks for edumacating me about bottom surgery, im glad youre in a relatively healthy state of mind (dysphoria wise) to decide that you dont want to risk the complications. Hope your dysphoria gets better though after top surgery! Im excited for you :D

  • @calamityrabbit9011
    @calamityrabbit9011 6 років тому +8

    Honestly I’m the same, vaginoplasty while, probably better when it comes to how tough it can be to recover, but I feel like now science isn’t far enough for me to be able to get it.
    Big mood. Relatable 110%

  • @danadamson5418
    @danadamson5418 4 роки тому +1

    Always enjoy your chats especially because you are so honest and funny. I learn much about the things I don’t have any personal connections to. Thanks for that. You are an inspirational person.

  • @julianjovanni
    @julianjovanni 6 років тому +6

    I feel exactly the same! I’m a straight trans male and even though my bottom dysphoria is horrible I don’t think I can put myself through it to possibly have complications and not be satisfied. And as you said, life without being able to nut, NOT FOR ME THANKS

  • @patrickevans8737
    @patrickevans8737 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you and this is what I was wanting answers on bottom surgeries for MTFs.

  • @PernillaArtistic
    @PernillaArtistic 4 роки тому +5

    It’s a good topic to talk about and I think you’re brave to talk about it. If I was a trans man I would probably think along those lines as well, have the same thoughts as you. When they improve the skin graft possibilities it might be worth it, synthetic skin or grafted from an animal, that wouldn’t include nerves so maybe it’s not ideal anyway. Blessings from Sweden 🇸🇪

  • @dakotadennie5035
    @dakotadennie5035 6 років тому +922

    “I have dysphoria.. obviously I’m a trans man”
    Don’t make the transtrenders tRiGgErEd

    • @shinx6668
      @shinx6668 6 років тому +11

      @Eden Borgerdinggoogle shall do the trick..

    • @JolieElouise
      @JolieElouise 6 років тому +2

      Oml😂😂😂

    • @anya3266
      @anya3266 6 років тому +37

      Eden Darleen basically someone who "transitions" because they like the "aesthetic", or look of the idea or something. someone will be able to explain better than me lol

    • @thegenus
      @thegenus 5 років тому +15

      Eden Darleen someone (mostly girls) so claim that theyre trans to get attention

    • @dandylion1313
      @dandylion1313 5 років тому +18

      Hey, just a quick comment here to say it's not required to have dysphoria to be trans (:

  • @elliot6805
    @elliot6805 6 років тому +80

    nah I don't want bottom surgery. I mean I kinda rarely experience bottom dysphoria unless I'm in the shower, but like nah I don't want that surgery. I didn't know you could loose your ability to nut? I don't want that.

  • @rileynavarra7652
    @rileynavarra7652 6 років тому +16

    1:36 bOI YOURE GETTING TOP SURGERY ON MY BIRTHDAY AHHH THATS SO COOL

  • @ryantodayirl6988
    @ryantodayirl6988 6 років тому +14

    I'm so dysphoric about my *that area that I want it at any cost. No matter how it goes. But I know how hard it is right now. Hope the surgery process will improve in the coming years. Btw, I'm 14 right now and maybe it will take almost 30 for me to getting bottom surgery. That's a huge time. I hope things will change then. ^_^

  • @alaynaroseee949
    @alaynaroseee949 5 років тому +1

    I’m watching this after you’ve gotten the surgery, I’m so happy for you you’re so strong❤️

  • @sica6221
    @sica6221 6 років тому +78

    Where my fellow underachievers at 👏

  • @yikes865
    @yikes865 6 років тому +2

    IM SO EXCITED AND HAPPY AB UR TOP SURGERY ILY🤝💓

  • @merlin8046
    @merlin8046 4 роки тому +10

    I don't have dysphoria about my genitals cuz I'm asexual and I don't want to use it for obvious reasons, but I HATE periods. And this is my main reason for feeling uncomfortable with it. Thank you for all the info

    • @mx.maniac7521
      @mx.maniac7521 3 роки тому

      You can get like birth control it makes your period stop or make it very light

    • @merlin8046
      @merlin8046 3 роки тому

      @@mx.maniac7521 lmao you must be joking. I'd never take that just to make my periods stop. It's way too dangerous.
      Also, if I'm gonna make my body go crazy with hormones - I'd take testosterone, please haha
      Now, after a year I finally made that happen and in like a month or less, I'm starting T 😍

    • @mx.maniac7521
      @mx.maniac7521 3 роки тому +1

      @@merlin8046 that’s amazing! Also I didn’t know that shit made you crazy thanks for the heads up

    • @merlin8046
      @merlin8046 3 роки тому

      @@mx.maniac7521 well birth control does all sorts of things to your body, I just called it "making the body crazy"

  • @laurayeesnover631
    @laurayeesnover631 4 місяці тому

    Good! You did your research and you know what you do NOT want to do. Kudos to you. I'm not knocking bottom surgery, but I am saying that it's so refreshing that you thought this through and you know what you want (don't want).

  • @Monsterrous
    @Monsterrous 4 роки тому +4

    I'm still young, but I'm pretty sure I'm never going to be getting bottom surgery. Except my reason is that I actually don't have bottom dysphoria. In fact, I like that down there, I'm happy with that part of my body. The main thing that gives me dysphoria is my chest, feminine face, and voice. Everybody is different!

  • @adrixheart316
    @adrixheart316 6 років тому +1

    honestly you’re so amazing for talking about these things, i look up to you in many ways bc of your confidence (especially if you’re in a bad mood) i’ve been in a bad mood all day and if i had to talk about this today...i wouldn’t be cool about it at all 😂😂😂💕💕💕

  • @Kate-ue6ek
    @Kate-ue6ek 5 років тому +34

    He reminds me a lot of Troye Sivan

  • @AidenExists
    @AidenExists 6 років тому +1

    i agree 100% with this. i would want bottom surgery, but i'm not going to get it because of all the reasons in this video. you pretty much took the words out of my mouth.

  • @kendallmartin7829
    @kendallmartin7829 5 років тому +18

    BOH-UMM surgery sounds painful.

  • @Its.doubtful
    @Its.doubtful 6 років тому +2

    I have always felt the same way and wondered if it made me any less trans so thank you for making me for making me more confident in my choice

  • @fonopig
    @fonopig 6 років тому +79

    "So I'm a gay man" Shocker.

    • @TheThesmyths
      @TheThesmyths 5 років тому +4

      He? she? has a pussy and comes out as a gay man. What does the gay boyfriend do with the pussy?

    • @Xtramedium1961
      @Xtramedium1961 5 років тому +4

      Michael Cooke gets sick into it I suppose!

    • @elliottferreras4461
      @elliottferreras4461 4 роки тому +14

      Michael Cooke he’s clearly a guy and his boyfriend is bi and also people are open minded 🙄

    • @felipevasconcelos6736
      @felipevasconcelos6736 4 роки тому +17

      Michael Cooke, his boyfriend is bi and had had plenty of experience. However, many gay guys have sex with trans guys who have vaginas. Some trans guys don’t want to involve their genitals in sex, preferring to penetrate their partner with their fingers or toys, or to be penetrated through a different hole. Some don’t like penetration at all. If he’s comfortable with involving his genitals in sex, a gay guy wouldn’t have more trouble than an inexperienced straight guy. If the trans guy is on T the other dude might actually find the clitoris.
      Gay guys are generally not scared of vulvas. It’s just a body part.

    • @conlon4332
      @conlon4332 4 роки тому +2

      @@felipevasconcelos6736 Haha! "If the trans guy is on T the other dude might actually find the clitoris."

  • @miloplogger4673
    @miloplogger4673 6 років тому +1

    hank you so much for speaking out on this. i feel the same way about a lot of the things you've said and i've felt entirely guilty for my thoughts and opinions and such.. tysm, ily!

  • @arrow_ar
    @arrow_ar 4 роки тому +3

    You know I get that. My friend is getting put on testerones and he is getting top surgery and I have known him for like 10 almost 11 years and I support him. Hes everything to me and i dont wanna see him hurt.

  • @pamelaJoyce384
    @pamelaJoyce384 6 років тому +1

    Excellent video. Thanks for sharing. The art work on your new merch is FANTASTIC!

  • @icarrioncarrion
    @icarrioncarrion 4 роки тому +13

    I found your music on Spotify, but I found you here now! Hi! I didn’t know you were trans, but I am as well!

  • @alicaradec8545
    @alicaradec8545 6 років тому

    Those are pretty much the exact same reasons why I don’t want bottom surgery either. Thanks :) nice to see I’m not alone. Also congrats on getting your top surgery done! Still waiting for my “letter” for it... *sighs and tries to remain patient*

  • @oceanstaiga5928
    @oceanstaiga5928 5 років тому +9

    Me: has a left arm that is half numb because of previous surgeries, is right handed
    Phalloplasty: joke’s on you

  • @johnwalter2159
    @johnwalter2159 5 років тому +1

    Its interesting because im in the thinking process to decide whether or not i want bottom surgery myself. Im MTF and ive made the decision of getting top surgery (if that still applies to transgender women. Not 100% sure of the terminology) but if you want it then i support u 100%. And even if u dont then i still support u. 💕

  • @izmckenna
    @izmckenna 6 років тому +3

    As someone with lots of medical knowledge, the procedures offered today definitely seem to have risks outweighing results. That being said, because medicine is ever evolving, and has come so far in even the last decade, I do believe a more advanced and safe procedure will be developed with far better results. As we know, a penis doesn't make a man, so it really does depend on the person if they are willing to go through it.

    • @hhhshdgshysy4653
      @hhhshdgshysy4653 3 роки тому

      It’s been two years and I’m wondering, have there been any advancements if you know?

  • @jacksnostril
    @jacksnostril 6 років тому +25

    the insult hurts more every time

  • @theflowerhead
    @theflowerhead 2 роки тому +1

    I can imagine seeing the wrong genitals everyday is rough, but surgery is terrifying.

  • @sbileks
    @sbileks 6 років тому +5

    holy shit i haven’t watched your videos ina while and your voice shocked me

  • @alicialovesbeauty
    @alicialovesbeauty 5 років тому +1

    The way you talk/ your mouth moves is mesmerizing.

  • @matty.does.things
    @matty.does.things 6 років тому +35

    don’t die that’s my only request

  • @robertdemitro1520
    @robertdemitro1520 5 років тому

    I think the reasons for not having bottom surgery are quite valid ! The male to female is almost perfected ! But femake to male has a long way to go ! When I did my medical training a very long time ago ,female to male surgeries always has horrific complications , with multiple follow up surgeries ! Your a good looking guy and have a great attitude , I don't see any girl not bei g attracted to you ! Hopefully transitioning from female to male will become safer and less complicated sooner than later ! Cheers !

  • @mynamesbrobeebitch2070
    @mynamesbrobeebitch2070 6 років тому +4

    omg your voice when i clicked on this video *shook* its so deep-

  • @AllanLovesEddie
    @AllanLovesEddie 3 роки тому +2

    I like your reasoning. I would feel exactly the same. But, I also don’t top. So I agree that you can lead a good life as a trans guy without the bottom surgery.

  • @Momc2k
    @Momc2k 4 роки тому +24

    My ex had bottom surgery. He thought he was having 4 surgeries. So far it's been 12! I also have a friend who is married to a straight female who is not having bottom surgery. He says that he values his health and his life more than that.

  • @katie327
    @katie327 6 років тому +2

    OMG youre getting top surgery the day before my birthday:) so excited for u:):)

  • @esainty666
    @esainty666 6 років тому +21

    You shouldn’t feel so embarrassed to talk about your sex life , break that barrier
    Hey you’ve not got the genitals you want but you can still get pleasure from it and that’s so empowering , this stigma needs to be broken !,
    Keep doing what you’re doing 😋

  • @JaysJourney
    @JaysJourney 6 років тому +2

    Can completely understand the reasoning behind not wanting bottom surgery, everyone’s different & it’s gonna be a *loooong* time before we’re gonna have anything functionally close to a cisgender penis.
    Personally I want at least meta just because it’s better than what I have now, phallo would be more ideal in results but the complication rate to the results aren’t what I’m happy with rn. Plus, even though I know meta won’t completely alleviate my dysphoria, it leaves room later for phallo if I feel I’d benefit from it / if methods change & make that easier later too after having meta.

  • @zataiyo6738
    @zataiyo6738 Рік тому +2

    My bf ain't getting bottom surgery either
    And I support him in whatever he thinks is best for him

  • @kytesparks
    @kytesparks 5 років тому +1

    yeah, i've thought about what it would be like and how it would happen and the outcomes and literally questioned my gender identity (male) and stuff because i don't want bottom surgery because of the risks and this video makes be feel so much better about not wanting bottom surgery!! or at least for now haha, thank you!

  • @ash-nh6pp
    @ash-nh6pp 6 років тому +5

    Your voice is so deep it’s crazy

  • @hayleyblackwood4723
    @hayleyblackwood4723 5 років тому

    I know this is very serious and touchy and I respect it and you 100% but when you were talking ab the arm part I couldn’t help but laugh you’re personality is amazing lol

  • @eothamec2427
    @eothamec2427 4 роки тому +16

    When your’e a bi transman and like topping 😭😓😫

    • @bingbong9238
      @bingbong9238 3 роки тому +7

      that's why i thank the gods for straps

  •  4 роки тому +1

    Thanks for allowing us the get an insight into your thoughts!:)

  • @casebycase7750
    @casebycase7750 Рік тому +4

    I like this guy

  • @jamiemartin6987
    @jamiemartin6987 6 років тому

    THANK YOU FOR BRINGING UP THAT SOME TRANS PEOPLE DON'T WANT SURGERY!!!! I'm a trans dude and I'm kinda on the fence about bottom surgery bc like it'd be nice to have a penis if it worked fully like a cis man's and looked extremely like a cis man's and didnt come with skin grafts needed but thats not possible and also willies are muy expensive

  • @meganhannah4036
    @meganhannah4036 6 років тому +3

    ‘coming out as a bottom’ i’m SCREAMING