I remember when guys were snatching off the wigs of black women, my sister was a the mall and some non black guy pulled her REAL hair so hard thinking her hair was a wig and just ran off. This, indeed, IS violence against black women.
This is crazy! So sorry for your sister. I remember in middle school a gay Black boy pulled my hair from the root and some of my beautiful strands fell out and he loudly scream "damn, I guess it is her real hair y'all" I was pissed and my head was hurting. He would regularly bully girls and one day another boy had enough of him bully girls and beat him down to the ground. He got what he deserved 🤭
I do believe ripping off the wigs is a type of assault. I just wonder if anything would be done about it if a woman tried to press charges, or if the police would laugh it off
Imagine pulling off the wig from a WW, and then being told she is battling cancer? Well, it's straight off to jail, for that person. The charge? Common assault. No questions about that, whatsoever. BW, really need to stop relaxing and stay alert at all times.
I agree, it should be seen as assault. The way bw apply these wigs and the glue that’s used, you can pull a Women’s skin off along with the wig by ripping it off her head.
Something about it is a bit disturbing. They paid money for that and it’s being stolen from them. You can’t rip a chain off of someone, you can’t cut a chunk off of someone’s hair, so idk why this would be acceptable behavior. I’m also more worried about someone attempting to “snatch a wig” and grabbing someone by the scalp 🤕
@@MiVidaBellisima It is not acceptable and is really disturbing. Even if it wasnt theft and assault, why are we trying to humiliate one another. If I saw that shit happen, I'd want to fkn fight them. People are such garbage.
Can't relate with your comment I'm African and proud to be African and I will not let the colonizer ppl make me hate who I am or where I come from. Be proud to be to who you are❤ no one else will care beside you will love you. These white ppl are just hating because they want to be black or even African😂. That why you see them trying to get their hair braided😂 girl you might hate being black but trust me all these white ppl want to be black and they would love to be in your place. They would love to have beautiful features,height everything
I'm old skool and was unaware of this being a new trend, but I recently had this white guy come up to me in the mall and pull my hair, thinking it was a wig, but to his surprise it's not. Unfortunately for him, I had my son with me, and he runs track, so when the guy took off my son caught him and beat his ass. The police was called and the guy tried to press charges on my son. If we hadn't had all the witnesses coming over supporting us, the police would've arrested my son for assault. They arrested the guy and we are currently suing his ass. He is 17 and his parents are saying he's just a kid. Idgaf they should've taught their "kid" some manners. He got his ass beat, and now I'm bout to beat them pockets 😂
Yes, the 17 year old should go to juvenile or at least be evaluated. He can't be going up and pulling people's hair. Tbh I'm not sure if it was a prank, because to me it sounds like he might have developmental delay or a substance misuse problem. 17 is pretty much grown, almost college age, so wig jokes shouldn't be funny 🥴
I was at a bar with my friend and a guy complimented my hair. His friend (black guy) proceeded to jump in, and say that I was wearing a weave, and that it wasn’t my real hair. As if I didn’t deserve to be complimented for my hair that I work hard to care for.
Being of a particular age, I don't give a damn, what anybody thinks.. I love wigs, I love changing up.. This generation has mental issues.....They have been raised, by wolves......
I'm a grown woman and I'm not proving squat to no one! Don't need anyone's approval to wear my hair the way I chose to wear it. Black hair has many textures and grows differently. We as Black Women shouldn't have to prove anything to anyone especially to Our Own People!
Thank you, nobody is making these women prove anything. Let’s be honest it’s for validation most times. I just wish we can learn society and social media isn’t life or how life is supposed to be.
@@meeka32ify Yep! Validation for sure because why do I need to prove that my hair is my hair. I'm a whole adult and don't owe anyone anything. Years ago, I began having a problem with people putting their hand in my hair when I realized my coworker pretended to be adoring my hair but was actually feeling my roots for tracks. I stopped her immediately. Up to this day, you may compliment me without touching me.
The gag is… nobody wears more extensions than non black women. Racism in our society has people in disbelief that we can grow long hair even though God’s free internet will obviously show you that it’s not a foreign concept. Even if a woman’s hair is fake, why does it matter? If they’re not advertising hair growth products then I couldn’t care less lol
I was in a social setting when this brother I never met before stuck his hand into my hair down to the scalp to see if my hair was real as I was sporting my wash and go curls. I yelled at him, " what the f*ck are you doing!". He said he wanted to see if my hair was real. This was done in front of everyone present. The last thing I expected was to be treated that way from a black man or any man for that matter. I was mortified! The utter disrespect !!
'Brother'? You mean total disgusting stranger. Stop claiming random people as family because you share a skin tone. He obviously didn't see you as 'sister'.
As a black girl who has long hair the only people who really know that my hair is real are black women because they understand everybody can grow hair. When I am around other races or black men they want to touch my hair and say stereotypical things. I would like to say sorry to the people that got mad about me saying bw understand the whole stereotype thing. I don't like that some of y'all are calling me a liar you could've said it nicer. I have had a classmate say that black people can't have long hair like them so in my brain I thought that bw with long hair can understand because they know hair can grow.
Black men just annoy me with their ignorance. A black man co worker last week asked to touch my hair and to pull my curl down to see how long is it. The only reason I let it fly is because he has a daughter with my hair type and said he wanted tips and help on she can grow her hair
I get it from everyone!.. but I do wear wigs so I kinda get it when my hair is out. It's the same length of the wigs I wear but it's a different texture. Either way it has gotten old. It's disrespectful. Black hairstyles always want to perm my hair and white people always want to touch it. Honestly I'm over it. Just let us black folk be great!
@@Tlowd2 That’s not the only reason. Even without outside influence the black community is toxic. Keep in mind our ancestors where sold as slaves by their own people first before outsiders started stealing them. Black people have historically not been as cohesive a community even without outsider influence.
Imagine being on the dancefloor and someone tugging on your hair only to find out it's NOT a wig.....Yep, this happened on me. I have long curly hair and I am dark skinned.Imagine his dissappointment..... So, I guess this was an assault gone wrong.... I should have filed charges against this piece of 💩
I swear this happens to me too and the thing is my hair is like mid length and I was wearing it naturally and this girl came up to me pulled it and was omg I thought this was fake hair at this point I was so mad I didn’t even knew what to do
Damn the self hate is real, I’ve been asked multiple times by other black people if my hair is real. Yes people we can grow long hair, we’re human too!!
Same here! I think it’s time that content creators make videos calling out & addressing this issue, WITHIN OUR OWN COMMUNITY! I’ve told WONCs not to touch my hair & they’d go away! I’ve asked my Sisters not to touch my hair & they’d continue to do it, as if they wanted to get a reaction outta me! 😤 It’s very sad & frustrating…..
@Styliani It's actually safer for her to wear wigs than her natural hair for performances. Plenty of black celebs have said their hair has been damaged from stylists constantly applying heat to it whether it be to straighten it, curl it, ect. Even white celebs experience hair problems from stylists constantly dyeing/bleaching their hair for red carpets, shows, ect. With wigs you can do whatever you want without fear of damaging your natural hair. Cardi B, Normani, Ciara, Nicki Minaj, etc also have really long natural hair but they wear wigs and extensions alot. With the choreography Beyonce does her hair will be all over the place too.
@Styliani I have long hair and wear my own most of the time, but I also wear wigs and weaves when I want a different look or to add color, or just because I want to. I don't think that should be a problem because it's my hair and my business. Not being being an ass, but real question, how does the way I choose to wear my hair affect anyone else?
@@Kat_Beezy Black people should stop with nonense calling other black women your sisters. I don't have any sisters I am an only child and I will enver call another black person my brotehror sister just ebcause we share the same skin color. That is so much nonense all the while Black people are mostly like to be your enemy because of the crab mentality. Nope I am nobody's sister. I have nother in common with other blck people from otehr countries other than the skin color we share nothing, not the culture, language etc... so much BS. Lot's of people share the same skin color. You see a Korean saying a Chinese is my brother or sister Hell NO. You call BM your botehr in the USA all the while they degegrate you daily and send you to meet your maker every 5 hours.
It’s not self hate only it’s disbelief. I truly think especially in American culture that they were just fed so much bullshit about Black people that they honest to God think it’s the truth. Even my own yournger sisters are confused how my hair is so long for my sister‘s hair is so long and it’s because nobody tells them that is possible because society is telling them it’s impossible
I just don’t want black women to feel the need to grow their hair long. If they prefer short or shoulder length hair due to this stereotype. The pressure to prove we can grow our hair takes away our freedom of choice.
I appreciate this comment, I agree with what you said. I recently cut my hair short after it being the longest it’s ever been. However it was damaged so I cut it short to let it grow out again healthy.I was hesitant because I finally had hair long enough to “prove” it could grow. It actually took me about a year to finally go through with it. I’m glad I did it though, people can mind their business, shouldn’t have to prove anything to anyone. Especially people that don’t even know you. I love it short! But that pressure is real for sure.
Even though I have proven to myself I can grow waist length hair I do intend to cut it pretty soon, and drastically too. I like pixie cuts, always have. I just wanted to prove to myself that I could grow it if I wanted too, and my husband also asked so I said "yeah why not" It was a learning process all about my hair and me. It was frustrating at times joyous, tiring, because you don't feel like doing your routine, then you stick too it and you can see the growth month by month, year by year. It lets you know that all this time you had the potential to have this long hair you never knew you could have? It makes you feel feminine and beautiful in a way I never had before, especially with my harsh demeanor lol! But people's positive reactions too it would be the only reason I'd want to keep it because they think your so beautiful when you look the same as you always had? It's weird, but I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.
Because usually when we wear them, it never matches our natural hair textures, which is probably because a lot of black women don’t like their natural hair texture.
Not necessarily true. I used to wear wigs to change up my look, much like women wear makeup. It had nothing to do with not liking the texture. Sometimes I didn't have time, so I'd pop a wig on. It's not that deep sometimes.
I work with a lot of Hispanic girls and majority of them wear clip ins and hair fusions. Their real hair be short and they thin from all the heat, manipulation, and bleaching. But everyone assumes it’s real because the hair matches their natural texture. So nobody questions it. I was amazed at how common this is.
I got to a PWI and so many white girls have tracks to extend their hair length sometimes it's quite obvious when u can see the tracks sometimes not so much but it's pretty common
@Watching The Background I agree with you but at the same time carefully read what she said, she said everyone assumes its the Hispanic girls hair because the extensions matches their texture. I think if black women would wear wigs and weaves that matched their hair texture, there would be significantly less to question. But majority of black women that wear wigs and weaves tend to wear Asian and Indian hair that is far from their natural texture.
@@keekssss nah people will still ask. I have naturally long hair that I prefer not to straighten or color so I wear kinky straight wigs when I want to have straight or colored hair and it always looks extremely natural and undetectable.. I have had a Mexican Man and Woman approach me and say "wow you are so beautiful if that's your real hair...is that your real hair?" I often throw my hair into a big lazy puff and I was in the checkout line at a store and an older WW asked "is that a piece on your head or your real hair?" I never give them the satisfaction of knowing if it is or isn't, but it started giving me a complex and I wondered why are people asking me this especially when it is my real hair? I have been questioned whether I am wearing my real hair or have natural texture extensions. I have even had people sneak up on me to touch my hair and I had to karate chop the heck out of them. People will question BW regardless and I don't even engage with that foolishness anymore.
Facts! Most WW do not have long hair. They wear weave and wigs like crazy and it be hecka obvious. They weave game just started getting stepped up after they started lurking on Black Hair content creators. I always have WW asking me what I use in my hair and will it work for their hair growth. Smh the Rapunzel delusion they spew is a whole lie!
I’m Hispanic and seen this happened. At my gym I complimented a Black girl that her hair looked pretty and right away she said thank you that it’s her real hair, I knew what that meant because another girl in my college class overheard Black girls in class saying something about her hair and she loudly said “it’s real.” Everybody looked 👀 but I knew what she meant. I’m half Caribbean and I remember how my Black cousins were pressured to iron their curly, kinky hair because long straight hair was considered beautiful in Panama. Luckily though things are changing in Panama and girls are now going natural and being more natural.
One of my best friends in middle school had her hair ripped off and thrown down the hallway. They used it like a football while she cried. Traumatized the shit out of us honestly. That was 2005.
The first time I remember a stranger approached me and asked if my hair was real and could they touch it, I was 11 years old. I don’t understand why people are so shocked that ANYONE can grow long hair! We as Black women are disrespected far too often. Horrible.
I was about twelve when a Mexican girl in junior high told this white boy to ask me if my hair was real. I said yes and I offered for him to pull it, maybe I shouldn't have done that. Anyways I had it styled differently, and to this day I'm confused why they assumed it was weave. My hair wasn't even that long.
I remember being in high school and going for lunch with a peer who was Black-Ethiopian, and she made a comment about how my hair, which has always been long was weave and that I had dyed it black. I remember thinking what, and saying my hair is not dyed it’s naturally jet black and I am not wearing a weave! She was like oh. I guess she thought because I was dark skinned, and a Black-Jamaican girl I couldn’t have long hair. This was back before instagram and TikTok existed. I also used to have girls come up to me and put their fingers on my scalp to see if my hair was real. Again this was done by other black girls.
I use to go thru the same thing when my hair was waist length. I had a white lady sit and watch me get my hair done because she couldn’t believe a black women’s hair was that long. I had a black woman put her hand up in my hair while my back was turned. It’s crazy how we are obsessed with hair.
I think it boils down to ignorance. It goes along with the “black ppl are less than” narrative and unfortunately a lot of people bought into it. Ever heard some of those older women call someone ugly by stating their features were more “black”. They haven’t let go of their ignorance and prejudice
@@AmyLeeAngelLove the woman who put her hand in my hair was a co-worker trying to feel for tracks. I told her that I would kick her azz if she ever touched my hair again. It was the white lady’s salon and it was great to prove her perceptions wrong.
I am a black woman with long hair, but I typically wear it curly. I am constantly asked if my hair is real. I have had co-workers and random people try to touch my hair as if they don't believe me, and one woman asked to see my roots! Thank you for bringing up this topic.
Yeah that happened to me. They ask, I smile and simply say "yeah it is" and they ask can they touch it, and the older women especially dig their hands all in it trying to find my scalp lol! I be like "damn Ok are you satisfied?" lol But it doesn't bother me because the next questions are how can they do it and I'm there ready to tell them that they certainly can!
This only happened to me when I moved back to American South. Living in the West and living in Europe I never dealt with this. The first month back (bc I was born in the South), I had a group of girls try to tell me my hair wasn’t real (it was shoulder length and permed) and pulled my hair; this was freshman year of high school, 2012. I punched the ring leader in her face and fractured her nose; the principal tried to give me ISS bc it was "unprovoked" and she was "just curious". My mom came, and when he told her the same thing about it being unprovoked and curious, my mom came around his desk and started opening drawers. He asked what the hell she was doing and she looked him dead in the eye and said in a monotone voice "oh I’m Sorry, I was just curious" He got the point and let me go and gave the other girl ISS. So I understand being tired of it; but I also understand there are very few BW I know personally that wear their natural hair, much less it’s healthy and taken care of instead of braided down in weaves/wigs for months. So I can see both sides, but it doesn’t give others permission to be disrespectful.
Same! I moved to Lousiana and experienced the same thing. The south is super weird, our people are awestruck or just down right bullies when it comes to long haired naturals
They won't even let us live in peace without doing or saying something to us or about us . They pinch their nose, hold a finger to their nose like we stink or move their hands wildly until you look at them so they can pinch their nose. I had to walk behind other black people or across the street from other black people just to catch proof of this. Sometimes I would just hold my phone up like I'm recording so that I can just walk peacefully down the street or wherever.
I hate that they feel they can humiliate us and get away with it. I remember in middle school an Afro Latino classmate literally pulled strands of my hair from my scalp bc he couldn’t believe that my hair was real bc it was bouncy and flowing after I had got a press and curl. Like wtf. I was so angry. I threw fists and he kept apologizing and I didn’t accept it. It was not okay. That’s assault and traumatizing whether it’s my own hair or a wig. Shoot even recently online a yt woman tried to attack me and say I was wearing a wig in my profile picture. I had to shut that lie down w a quickness and tell her sickly looking self off. It’s disgusting how they r convinced we aren’t capable of having nice looking, healthy hair.
i’m sorry you had to go through that. After reading some of the comments of how many black women have had similar experiences of people pulling their hair it really angers me and it’s absolutely disgusting! We simply cannot exist without being stereotyped and disrespected. I had a similar experience in high school where i was sitting in front of a group of boys in an auditorium. At the time my natural hair was pretty short so i wore a lot of extensions/clip ins. This time i wore clip ins in a ponytail. So while we were waiting for our teacher one of the boys decided to yank my ponytail so hard but luckily/surprisingly it didn’t come off (i had it bobby pinned down so good😭). it was sort of hanging down but you could clearly see the separation from my real hair and the ponytail. I was so embarrassed and everyone was laughing and everything.
Thank the racist media for this. Portraying only or mostly white women and the image of shiny, smooth, sexy hair as if BW didnt have naturally beautiful hair
My daughter has 4C down her back. Like 2 inches from her butt. I take care of it. I ordered real natural organic shea butter from Africa, castor oil, and other pure ingredients off Amazon.. melted it together and made my own products. Grew my daughters hair so fast! I also keep her hair in protective styles. I'm an about to order the Revair so she can get her Dianna Ross on!!!
Vitamin E is a natural preservative and jojoba oil.. I am currently away from my home, when I get there, i can let you know the other oils that i put in there.
This has happened to me as well on so many different occasions over my lifetime, by children and adults. I have never had the desire to deeply run my fingers through a stranger's hair, even if I thought it was beautiful or knew it was fake. So I don't truly get why they can't resist.
@@zhaystyle I can understand children but it often seems to be older women, men usually ask. One woman came up behind me in a restaurant ladies room and then ran away. When I followed her to her table and asked who she was and why she would do such a thing, she replied “I needed to know if it was real and thought that you would lie if I asked”. I responded, “will you lie when the police come to charge you with assault”. No apology, So I pretended that I was calling the police and she disappeared. I feel like it’s very obvious that my hair is real but I’m realizing that the wig game has progressed so much that obvious isn’t that obvious but people need to keep hands to themselves
@@andreaarchambeau9499 “People need to keep their hands to themselves” Oooo, say that again for the people in the back, LOL!! & the story of the lady who did a “touch and run”…If I wasn’t already sitting down I would’ve fell out of my chair! 😂🤣😂 Hope she learned her lesson though! That’s what she gets. Come to think of it the men do usually ask & women ARE usually the biggest offenders. Yes! The wig game is STRONG these days & Some people are amazingly TALENTED. So, Maybe they feel we will lie and because we’re female it’s okay to touch us? Anyway, I agree 💯 They should keep their hands to themselves, pay a compliment, & keep it moving!
Watching them rip off the hair enrages me. What makes people think it’s okay to grab someone like that??? :( my heart breaks for these women. They don’t deserve this 💔
As someone who wears wigs religiously I’ve lost count of how many people act like they are surprised that I have so much real hair . It always confuses me because I wear wigs to protect my hair & keep manipulation to a minimum so it continues to grow uninterrupted but people just see a wig & assume I’m bald 🤷🏽♀️
@Random User you are so uneducated, wigs equals uninterrupted growth. Hair grows. You have a prejudice against black people. If you saw a white woman wearing a hat you would not have these assumptions.
@Random User ‘If they never see your natural hair’ aka if you never disprove the stereotype. I hate being black because of people like you. I am human and my hair grows because of fucking biology. Your hair being under a wig means you don’t have any? GTFO. I don’t have to Prove I have FUCKING HAIR. I hate it here
Actually, black people's hair is more diverse and more versatile than theirs. Even with various types of 3 and 4 hair and texture it's really deceiving when it coily, but when it's perm or hotcomed out it's really long when taken care properly.
@Random User It's ironic, Europeans have a history of wearing wigs, horsehairs, weaves and hair extensions, especially during the 17th and 18th century when most of them were wearing powdered wigs to hide bladness, scares of syphilis, lice, and various diseases.
I hope we come to a point where long hair is NORMALIZED for black women in my life time. I have tail-bone length hair and luckily, I don’t get the “is that your real hair?” comment much (mainly because I barely leave my house). But it really upsets me that black women have to always prove people wrong on stereotypes.
It’s because wearing wigs is so common. It’s all I see personally. I have long hair of my own. I feel like I’m the only one not wearing a wig. Wigs are obvious. Wearers aren’t fooling anyone, especially if the hair is silky and straight. Until BW stop wearing them so much, it’ll never be normalized that we might have our own long hair.
@@Ladyhotfire78 exactly. But some women don't want to hear that. Unfortunately they'll assume it's a wig because a lot of black women are always wearing wigs. While that doesn't give them the right to pull or make nasty comments, it is obvious that's the conclusion they'd come to.
Another thing is long hair on BW doesn't look the same as anyone else because of the curly nature of our hair. I think alot of us have an obsession to prove the length of our hair by straight hair standards and I don't know why.
And it's sad cause most black girls had plenty of hair when I was growing up in the 80s and 90s. Relaxers broke off black girls hair and ruined the follicles from overuse.
I got weave checked by a dude I was dating. Mind you, I shaved my head three years prior and he saw the whole growth process after that. I was going to pick him up at the airport so I wanted to look cute and did a blowout. Nothing fancy, no flatiron, and pinned it half up half down. I never straighten it or add heat so it was pretty different to see it at mid back stretched out. When he got in the car, he kind of stroked my head in a caressing way, but then I felt his fingers slip through my hair onto my scalp. Did this joker just weave check me?! I must admit it gives you a sinking feeling to be checked like that. It’s as if despite you presenting yourself authentically as who you are, you are not believed. I think he wanted for it to be a wig so he could crack a joke about me later. I suspect (through my experiences with him) he was one of those deep down self hating types who pedestalize “others” for things like long hair and light skin. I’m just so glad my eyes have opened since then.
I am white and British, so I am appalled to hear of this wig-snatching thing. If a man does that to you, that is male violence against women and NO ONE should accept that. I do also feel that we as, human beings should reconsider where all this human hair is coming from, and try to stop exploiting each other.
India. They have different traditions for cutting off girls/women’s hair-some positive some negative, such as reaching a certain age or becoming a widow. In addition to that, women have also had their hair stolen, as in held at knife/gun point while someone cuts their hair in the middle of the street. It’s a very shameful experience because hair has a different meaning for women in the country.
I understand but I feel like we are on the horizon of a bigger issue. I brought this topic to the forefront due to the fact that this has actually affected many women in real life as well. Due to the natural hair movement, more and more black women are growing insanely long hair. I think we will begin to hear more black women being assaulted in real life (people grabbing their hair without permission, pulling, tugging) going forward. From what I can tell, what begins as a small online problem, begins to reflect itself in real life. Just look at the BBL trend. Thanks for commenting and stopping by! We appreciate your dialogue.
Absolutely stop proving your hair is yours. And people that pull hair hoping it's a wig to embarrass you for laughs-I had that happen to me in the Fourth grade by another female student who was also a black girl. Also, I am brown skinned, not fair complexioned. This girl who was in the Fifth grade done this in front of crowds of kids in the hallway. She first yelled out, " she's got on a wig," and I was telling that I didn't. Also this girl had been taunting me off and on a few weeks prior to this incident. Anyway I leaned over for to to gently pull my hair which was styled in curly ringlets, and she grabbed my hair rather hard, to where I winced, and all the kids were watching to see her pull off my "wig" which they quickly found out was my real hair. She looked real stupid. The next day I guess to try and make herself self not look ignorant she yelled in front of the other kids I was wearing a wig, but no one paid attention to her, and I never had a problem with her again.
I remember being excited to tell my former friend that I was starting to talk to this guy at work and that we were hanging out. I told her, "...he then complimented my hair." Her tone darkened and she said, "Liar." "Huh?" "You should've told him it wasn't your hair." "Um he KNOWS it's not my real hair." "You sure about that..." After some back and forth, she made me feel so bad that I told him it wasn't my hair the next time we hung out. He was like, "I know and I still like it." Smh...the stuff you tolerate in your 20s...
I remember back in school I had super long hair girls use to rub their hands in my scalp trying to see if it was some tracks in there. I wanted to be cute and got bleached my hair fell out and one of the girls in school was like "dang I'm glad your hair fell out" that's when I knew.
For reference I am a white woman, but one day I complimented an elder coworker's hair -- she responded (almost in a whisper) "it ain't mine, it's a wig" -- I said w/o hesitation you bought it didn't you? She looked confused and said yeah....I said "well then it's YOUR hair" (still truth in my mind!!) --- she laughed and was like you know what, you're right it is MINE!! I saw her actually stop herself over the years when others would compliment and simply say "thank you" instead -- what hurt was realizing over time and age, her initial reactions were almost ashamed or embarrassed, instead of proud/ happy or feeling GOOD -- as if she wasn't allowed to accept compliments on her hair. I was very young (maybe 19 or so) and had no idea how she must have felt at times, as my younger girlfriends didn't seem to feel bothered by their hair (whether extensions, wigs or natural). Anyways all that to say, I think it''s beyond rude for someone to ask if someone's hair is real (if it looks good, why not just say that?!!) -- but it's disturbing that anyone would feel they have to PROVE it.....I understand why, I just think it's sad. I truly believe future generations will be so different they find things like this unbelievable!!
When I was a young women my hair was pulled while I was getting off the subway. Before the incident, some young black men where talking about being tired of black women wearing wigs. My hair and is still is very thick and long. This hard me so much. It wasn’t physical but more mentally. I’m 66 and I still think about the disrespect I encountered
At 59 years old I still have to address this issue., even before I locked my hair, People would ask me “ Why do you wear braids if your natural hair is really long”. They couldn’t comprehend that I like braids and locs!🙄 now they assume that my locs are extensions. Especially young white women, they like to believe that tight kinky coiled hair can’t grow. The thought that that’s true, makes them feel special,superior. They’re very disappointed after I School them and tell them to tell their friends, because were tired of having this conversation.
I hate when I have braids or something and white women ask me questions like how long did it take, can you wash it, does it hurt like girl get tf out of my face 🙄
Ikr I have locs and they are down my back. What gets me is Locs can be washed and styled and I have had people come up to me Saying Oh what are you mixed with your hair is so long? Or Are these Extensions? I've been growing my hair for 6 years and never had to get Extensions. Black women hair can grow!
Just because our natural hair is long doesn’t mean we want to be dealing with it all the time😭😭. I’m always wearing a protective style because I want to protect my hair and leave it alone- which in turn helps it grow and strengthen. I don’t know why people haven’t grasped that concept yet and insist that we wear our hair out all the time.
Forcibly removing an article of clothing or a wig is sexual assault and women need to have the courage to call the police and press charges on anyone who does this. It is not funny and people who do this for laughs deserve a stronger punishment for their complete disrespect to a person’s bodily autonomy.
I reported the video the clips came from for racial harassment/ assault/ sexual harassment. I cannot believe that this type of video is still up. I feel awful for the women in the video.
I would just like to know why some people are so interested in everything black women do, and why we let them their opinion and comments affect how we view ourselves.
Sometimes they assume that it will affect you. A girl started to shove me against the wall in school because I wasn’t reacting to her racial micro aggressions… I also didn’t care because I never saw myself as “beautiful” anyway. So when she saw me, a black girl, as her competition, I didn’t know why she was hating out of the blue. I think one guy she liked was paying attention to me. So she thought racial “status” could “put me in my place”. I was just confused, a little mad that I’m not confrontational, but in the end it never affected how I saw myself because I didn’t care much about how I looked. Now I appreciate what I have.
I hate that you had to endure that crap. I'm sure you are beautiful. The thing about beauty it's not appealing to everyone. That doesn't mean you're not beautiful it's just that they have a different view of what's beautiful and appealing to them. It's not a mark on your type of beauty. Look at yourself see the beauty there, hold your head high and move on. As for the racial/bullying stuff it seems they are jealous of you. Your hair is yours if you grow it or have to buy it. Ask your creator for protection in his son's name. Good luck baby girl your whole life is ahead of you.
I’m mixed and I have long super tight curls. So I have my hair down in the grocery store and this white lady comes over and pulls my hair. I look at her and she says “just wanted to know if it was real” then proceeds to walk away. It surprised me that the world has come to this.🙁😓
You are seeing more and more BW and girls have their own natural hair down their backs. Our hair had problems growing because we relaxed it to death, only washed it every 2 weeks, and used the same products white ppl used. Now that we have a new understanding of our very unique hair, we're able to take care of it. I told my niece that our hair grows up and out towards God, heaven and the sun, while others grow down. It makes sense to treat it differently. And now, we realize that our hair can grow at Great lengths. Personally I'm starting to see long hair in our community more and more often and I'm loving it.
I use to wash my hair every week, but as I got older, scalp got drier, and my hair is almost completely white, so I'm back to almost every two weeks. I do the scalp scratch test: if it's white= no wash; not white it gets a wash. I let my scalp dictate when it needs to be washed or not. It's easier that way for me.
I stopped using shampoo 3 yrs ago. My reasoning : if shampoo is meant to cut through and REMOVE the greasy build up I DON'T GET.. then WHY am I using it?? I literally use a bar of raw black soap. It cleanses without removing ur natural oils. After I lather with the bar, I add a few drops of black Jamaican castor oil. When I rinse, it feels light, my curls pop, and there's no residue. Oil + an aloe leaf is a great conditioner. No problems growing length whenever the mood strikes now.
@@kfrancis1872 same, I stopped using shampoos a few years back because I notice my hair started thing a bit and it would get so much dryer even after conditioning. Now I actually let the oil build up on my scalp which takes some time and the only time I actually use a shampoo is if I have used too much gel in my hair which is rare. Also I noticed how much shinier and bouncer my hair was when I let the natural oils actually coat my scalp and hair. Sometimes I do put a tiny amount of argan oil on my ends just so they stay moisturized. But what a huge difference it has made
Referring to the others in the comments, I noticed every time my mom washed my hair with Pantene (shampoo) that it strips my natural hair of the moisture it NEEDS to have locked in to grow. I need to learn other ways to care for it. Especially instead of leaving it dry in a “protective” hairstyle
This kinda leads into why I was so distraught when my hair was damaged and I had to do the big chop! I was petrified that people were going to label me as the “bald headed BW” or the “BW that couldn’t grow hair”. Even though I know that BW can grow long hair like anyone else I knew for a fact that other people thought differently. Then I tried to wear wigs, but then I was afraid of being the “Bald BW that has to wear wigs because she has no hair”. I really don’t think we can win either way.
My college roommate said that after she cut her shoulder length hair she felt like a “regular” black girl😑 I also overheard her on the phone saying it must be short that’s why she’s wearing braids. When I took my braids out and my hair was twice as long as hers. She asked if she could flat iron it for me. No thanks ma’am.
This happened to me many times growing up. When I was in high school, a girl who didn’t wash her hands first, had the audacity to run her fingers through my scalp then turn around and say, “omgggg I’m so sorry it’s actually real”. This girl, keep in mind, was mean to be prior to this interaction. Smh so sad how we obsess over length.
And truth be told, MOST white women wear wigs, weaves, extensions, etc. They did this before we knew they existed. The issue today is we & our men discuss our inserts, while the white community keep it hush, hush. But we have always had beautiful hair.
Funny enough, i was having a conversation just yesterday about this Topic with a female co worker who's black herself. She said she's always been asked that if her hair was real cause its so long and beautiful. And she said that this is the first job shes been too that no one's asked if her hairs real or not. I never personally never saw the need to assume why black women had fake hair just cause it looks good and its long. That's petty/jealousy.
The topic is a bit confusing (I'm white). A few weeks ago I saw a UA-cam tutorial were a BW glued perls onto her straight hair. It was a cute look but me and other people were worried how she would get the perls off. Then several black women commented that we were clowning them pretenting not to know that it was a wig. Like no, I can't tell the difference between a wig, a weave, a perm or a silk press. So if you assume it's wig people will call you ignorant because black people can grow all kinds of hair. But when you think it's the real hair people think you are not educated on Black hairstyles. I would never say something in real life. But I was honestly curious how she would get the glue off. Kinda crazy that an innocent question like that started a war in the comments.
@@johanna2690 No people say that they are asking questions, but undercover trying to insult. Some questions just don't need to be asked. Like is that your real hair? Why care about something or someone that has nothing to do with you?
"You would think that by now, this type of stereotypes would have died out, but no! Thery are still ALIVE and WELL" 😂😂😂😂 . You nailed it queen. Soon, everyone will realise that black women's hair even grows more than any other type of hair. We're just getting started 💗💗💗💗
@@AnimalLover2400 I doubt the stereotypes will ever die even if blacks do away with wigs and weaves like you said. I mean, it's not a secret that the so called 'whites' wear wigs and different types of hair extensions yet, no one is making mockery of them.
@@AnimalLover2400 nah, wigs and weaves are a person's choice to wear whenever they want. I have long healthy hair, but there are days that I want to change up my look, or just not style my own hair, and that's my business. It will die out when ppl mind their own.....
It's so disgusting to bother women over however they wear their hair. I have 2 types of alopecia and I wear wigs sometimes, I would definitely look into pressing charges if anyone touched my wig. It's honestly bewildering to see people acting like feral animals over how others wear their hair
I'm sorry and that is sad that a lot of black girls have LOW self-esteem over hair and their looks. If someone teaches them from a young age how to take care of their hair it would grow and how a few changes in their dress habits can make them feel good because if you look good you feel good! I wish they had a teacher as I had in grade school.
My hair was cut in middle school by a girl with short hair. She actually complimented my hair, before secretly clipping, while stretching with scissors, next to me. I didn’t think much of it, until I saw a huge chunk of black straight hair outside that boys were playing with. Some boys were tossing it at each other and trying to get away. I was devastated and when I told the teacher, he asked her, she denied it and that was that. Being pretty is a privilege, but it’s a double edged sword.
@@EstelleCreativeDesigns thank you or actually answering this as an adult. I hate the way GROWN people vilify little Black girls. Like little Black girls didn’t also constantly get bullied by everyone.
Oh, I have to include this one: I was in the hospital about to have surgery and I asked one of the nurses if she had something I could tie my hair up with. The Filipino nurse, also in the room, said, “Yeah, she doesn’t want to damage them. That hair is expensive!” I stopped her and said, “Uh, noo, these are NOT extensions.” Then she starts going on about. How long it took me to grow and how she had to cut her hair, etc. As if I really cared. She didn’t apologize for her ignorant assumption.
When I had surgery last year, they had to put a pillow case on my head. The didn't have anything else smaller that my hair would fit in. I'm not trying to sound prideful...just stating my experience. They literally think we can't have a lot of hair. We were the first humans. The Most High equipped us with the best of it all
@@verlania7539 For my cancer surgery last year, I discovered a better way of putting my hair up in their largest cap. I put it in a long braid and wrapped it around my head. Then put the cap on over it. My locs are just past my butt, so the braid was long enough to wrap around and tuck in.
I repeatedly have to let women know my hair is God given. Both BW and WW. I have locs and they say the silliest things. “What are you doing, adding hair to it?” No, Sallie Sue, it’s growing 🙄 They’ll still give me the side eye in disbelief. 😩🤷🏾♀️
They know many of us have natural long hair, because they be checking all our videos we post doing our hair. They are jealous and trying to keep the one of many negative agenda's going about us. We stay showing our success, intelligence and beauty.
Same here, even before I locked my hair. They would ask me “ Why do you wear braids if your natural hair is really long”. They couldn’t comprehend that I like braids and locs!🙄 now they assume that my locs are extensions. Especially young white women, they like to believe that tight kinky coiled hair can’t grow. The thought makes them feel special,superior. They’re very disappointed after I School them and tell them to tell their friends, because were tired of having this conversation.
Yess! Yes!! It was a black couple standing behind me and my son in the check out line at home goods and the man was "trying" to whisper and talking junk about me saying my hair was fake and I was doing too much having all that fake hair in my head and said altleast make it shorter so it's believable.... well his woman kept telling him my hair was real bc she can tell from fake hair and real but he kept saying no it's fake. I was so annoyed and wanted to part the back of my head with my fingers so bad so my scalp could show but I didn't...I just couldn't understand why a man was so focused on talking about my hair,lol....(they only do that when they are with white women)🤔....but I had a fresh blowout and my hair was a couple of inches from my waist, it's longer now and I hear all kinds of things. I was just at an outdoor wedding with my fresh blowout and two girls were asking another girl if my hair looked real or not , my husband and I heard them ,they were sitting behind us...well let's say it began to drizzle (rain) and my hair got wet and turned into a huge fro so I guess my hair answered their question for them ,lol...
@@Sunny-tc3ul "Act like women"? Let's not pretend men don't gossip or badmouth others because there are those who absolutely do. And not just about hair either.
When I had relaxed long hair I was asked often if it was real. Now that my hair is short, natural and curly. I’m often asked is that my real hair meaning my texture 🙄. As black women we can’t catch a break. But I’m glad we keep proving the naysayers wrong even though in 2022 we shouldn’t have to. Queens of all hair lengths and textures. Wear your crowns proudly! 👸🏾👑💕
I’m half Asian, half aussie. My hair is slightly wavy and a lighter shade than you would expect from an Asian. It took me a while to grow my hair to my hips. The amount of times I’ve had women pull my hair asking it was real is unbelievable. And it’s not a gentle tug either. Maybe it’s time to flip the script. Next time someone pulls on my hair or asks me to prove it’s real, I’ll do the same to them.
I have waist length hair and people treat me like an endangered species I have wavy hair but I'm dark skinned. Even if you have the lose texture they think you still can't do it.
I had a friend with long hair like that. After convincing people it was actually her hair the next comment was "You must be mixed with something"...The self hate is real. Our hair comes in all kinds of textures but unfortunately we're so used to using chemicals to change the structure of our hair (relaxers) most people don't know.
Omg yes you put it perfectly. That’s exactly how I felt especially when I was younger, I felt like an endangered species. Although I am mixed (half black), I have dark skin and long 3b/a hair. During my childhood up until 13 yrs old I had waist/tailbone length hair, and legit every day majority adult black women would stop my mom in the street complimenting my hair, but always would follow it with the “and that’s all hers?” question. My mom would have to part my hair bc some didn’t believe it. It’s sad because you end up feeling like you don’t belong as a kid when people are constantly making your hair a circus attraction and then little black girls at school either spread lies about what’s growing out your scalp, or they give you dirty looks and don’t like you because you “think your all that”. It created so much divide and I blame the parents for perpetuating the whole good/bad hair.
I wear kinky curly extension and I always have ppl saying “oh is that all you’re hair it’s beautiful” I’ll say yes even tho it’s not just to see their reaction I’ve noticed they will look closer at my hair to see where my natural hair stops and were the weave is but my blending skills are on 1000…. 😂Asè
I did that too lol. Wore waist length tracks to work...black girl in Hawaii. My whole floor of co-workers came to ooh and ahhh. I didn't come clean cuz I felt the urge to debunk the myth we can't grow hair. My few black co-workers lifted sections and fanned it out....my blending was IMPECCABLE lol.
I've had long (waist length hair) basically my whole life. I'm 28 now and haven't had a relaxer in over 10 years. I get asked mostly by black women if my hair is mine and after i verify that it is they start asking what I'm mixed with. Now, I'm positive that if you trace my family tree back far enough you'll find something, but both of my parents are black. I'm black. I didn't realize how big of an issue this was until a few years ago. Thankfully I haven't had anyone try to snatch my hair assuming it was a wig.
Even before the natural hair movement when my hair was kinky and full and they asked if it's real. I find these questions to actually be personal and not your business. But yes it was even blk women especially in the perm days
@@sakhu8945 Oh yeah. It’s been a rare occurrence for a white woman to ask about my hair. It’s always been black women. I was ask by a lady once who wasn’t from the U.S. She was surprised black Americans could grow long hair. This cookout I went to for my boyfriend’s family was the worst I’ve had though. It took one older lady to ask if my hair was real and A-L-L the other women started swarming me trying to touch it! I’m not the greatest with stuff like that and I felt so awkward! It was so inappropriate! 😤😤😤
Although I am mixed (I’m half black), I have dark skin and long 3b/a hair. Between the ages of 5-13 I had waist/tailbone length hair, and legit every day me and my mom would be stopped by majority black women complimenting me on my hair, but they’d always follow it with the “and that’s all hers?” question. My mom would have to part my hair bc some didn’t believe it. I also would often get the what are you mixed with question as well. It’s sad because you end up feeling like you don’t belong as a kid when people are constantly making your hair a circus attraction, and then little black girls at school either spread lies about what’s growing out your scalp, or they give you dirty looks and don’t like you because you “think your all that”. It created so much divide and I blame the parents for perpetuating the whole good/bad hair.
This is the reason I don't even talk about hair anymore with anyone, especially BW or BP (no matter where they are from...US, UK, the Islands, an African country). I've been "natural" for many years and I don't try to bond with BW/BP over hair. I am particularly disgusted how black people are obsessed with length and perpetuate textur-ism.
Yep they automatically assume you must be mixed if your texture is a bit looser. I come from an African background and I have a much looser hair texture along with a few other people in my family. Had some random lady in a beauty supply store who was looking for a straightening iron pretty much tell me how much more nappier African hair is. I just side eyed her like... I'm African you know.
This !!!! My dad irks my soul bothering me about my children’s NATURAL hair. That’s how it grow out their scalp so it’s acceptable without the over manipulation
@@yeahno9380 isn't Africa like the continent with the most genetically diverse human population of them all? It's soo weird to think all Africans only have one type of hair curls.
It's not only men who question whether your long hair is real,its other women! I had another Black woman come up behind me at work and check my hair,and then she said "that is your hair!" She did it in front of a couple of other women, so I suspect that they were probably discussing it behind my back! So annoying!
People need to realize black women can have different hair 😮 rather it be curly or straight, we all have different genes, features, and body types of all sorts.
People are so weird…. My hair was long and thick when I was a child/teen… then I went to college and started doing all kinds of crap to my hair (bleach, home made quick weaves, tight braids, etc) and of course breakage occurred😕 now I’m getting back to caring about my hair One of my best friends from college has beautiful almost tail bone length thick hair. And many of my family and coworkers have long hair (mid back) Our hair can grow and does grow… there’s sooooooo many beautiful black women with long thick hair. I wish the ignorance and stereotypes would stop
It's not just about what they think, hearing something repeatedly most of your life if your hair goes out of the "concept" it gets freaking frustrating, and it can be physical. Like people being mean and touching your hair and snatching wigs. Like come on
@@confusedstar-cosmic5517 it's true what you say. I remember when I was a kid my mom never permed my hair but I got made fun off because everyone else had their hair permed and mine was natural so it was hard for others to do my hair and not because it was kinky but they just did not know how to work with natural hair. When I was finally old enough to perm my hair the hair dresser who did my hair was like you don't even need a perm and sure enough after I insisted on a perm my texture was exactly like when it was natural I never permed my hair again after that but started learning what actually works for my hair. Its gotten much longer . And people are always amazed when I tell them it's not permed or that I only use water and maybe gel. Also can't tell you how many people feel the need to touch cause they don't believe me. I once even had a girl literally run her fingers all the way touching my scalp because she thought it wasn't mine.
@@confusedstar-cosmic5517 literally this!! And no one speaks on that. During my childhood me and my mom were constantly asked if my hair was real, and when I say constantly I mean we were stopped outside at least once a day everyday by strangers. No one expected someone of darker complexion to have tailbone length 3b/a hair in the early 2000’s. As a kid it made me feel ostracized and like the odd ball out.
No one should feel entitled to know if anyone else's face, body, hair, nails, relationship, or entire life is "real." And absolutely NO ONE should be touching anyone for ANY REASON.
The experience I had was from another black woman who was jealous of my hair. I asked her to put a relaxer in my hair and she did but she deliberately overprocessed it , all I remember is going to the kitchen and washing it out of my hair in the sink and watching tons of my hair go down the drain I was so hurt and shocked I thought she was my friend I couldn't believe she had did that to me deliver early because she was jealous of me for no reason.
More salon horror stories should be shared. Some of the female stylists cannot be trusted when your hair is long. They become envious, and will sabotage and/or ruin your scalp so that it won't grow back. I ended up going to a male stylist and my hair grew even faster. He fingers were stronger, so his shampooing felt like a massage. My hair grew down to my waist in record time. Massaging is key.
@@aunaturale1805 A male hair dresser friend of mind told me he witnessed more than a few times the lady hairdressers, that he worked with, would get together and tell a client with beautiful long hair that she had split ends! They were experts and of course she believed them! She'd let them cut off unnecessary inches and after she left they would laugh and high five each other! Shameful behavior!!
She was jealous because your hair is beautiful. My friend did the same thing to me and she was in beauty school! She kept talking to someone next to her with the comb that she was smoothing my roots with. I had a 3 inch crusty scab burn band in the front of my head within 2 days. m over time, my edges turned white with little specks of my pigment in it. It looked a lot like chicken skin. It took 3 years for my hair to grow back.
I have also had men and women snatch at my real hair thinking it was fake, Also once when I straightened my hair in middle school I was cornered and accused of being "mixed and denying it" because my hair was too long and thick. I am an unambiguous black woman from the Caribbean. Having my hair suddenly pulled is painful. it is disturbing how obsessed strangers are with us
Honestly, for me, ripping wigs off women was the worst. So completely disrespectful! An action intended to shame a person. In my culture, it's wrong to even touch a stranger's head. It's almost unbelievable. Those guys should be very ashamed of themselves and those women deserve an apology. I don't wear wigs by the way because my faith doesn't embrace it but I still can't imagine doing that to someone.
I reported the 'prank' video for racial harassment/ assault. It's disgusting that this man has monetised a video where Black women are being racially assaulted.
I cut my hair in high school because I was bullied so bad by other girls with shorter. They always threatened to cut it so I kept it short and they found other things to talk about like the way I spoke or try to hurt my confidence. I then grew it out and it’s at my bra strap length. I wear it straight, curly, braids, twists. Im fine, it’s mine and I will never try and prove anything. Great video, thanks for shedding light on us!!!!
Sorry to be weird, but how did you grow it that length, and how long did it take? My hair is stuck at shoulder length and I don't know how I can exceed that length. My siblings all have long hair and they don't do anything special, (shampoo + conditioner), yet my growth seems to stagnate. Thank you x
@@rebeccaloggs457 products work differently on different types of hair. I think you have to find what works good for you. I personally don’t straighten or blow dry my hair. Not to say I won’t do it once in a blue moon. My mom passed away last September and wanted to see my hair in a style that she liked so I got it done august 2021 (straightened and styled). Just no heat and lots of moisture, (also find out your hair porosity) hope this helps u on your hair journey.
Which is why I don't like clip-ins, wigs or weaves. I'm fond of kinky braid extensions, but underneath my hair grows like crazy, because of protein treatments, hair growth oils, grease and moisture. We as black women *have* to try at least to grow our hair longer. I have given two African colleagues of mine samples of hair grease mixed with hair growth oils and a small bottle with hair growth oils. One of them was so glad that her hair was finally growing after decades. The other one was able to put braid extensions in her hair when she was on vacation in Nigeria. She says her hair is still growing. This all happened this year, June and August 2023 😊
What a time to be black!!! Man oh man. The products now has us living our best natural hair lives. When I was a kid and still natural everything stripped my hair making it dry and rough. I didn't even know my hair was curly. lol smh.
Same here. We really only had conditioner u left in wet hair in the '80s. Wasn't till I stopped relaxing that I discovered I had the texture I was RELAXING for!!!
Once my oldest daughter was obliviously walking home from school through a park when a group of about 3 girls came up behind her, pushed her face down in some grass and preceeded to pull off her long ponytail. After a tug or two, they realize it was her hair. One of them exclaimed, "oh $hit, it's real," and they all ran away like they were the daughters of Usain Bolt. When she arrived home, her light blue shirt was covered in dirt, I asked her what happened. I was so angry at first 😤but atleast she wasn't harmed. Later, as I pictured the girls trying to embarrass my daughter but ultimately embarrassing themselves because they were totally caught off guard, I had to laught at the situation. I hope they learned a valuable lesson that day about ASSuming.💯
I don’t find it amusing at all, I know we often like to find humor in everything even traumatic experiences but this was not funny at all and I would’ve been heated, like who wakes and say I’m gonna push someone down and try to pull their hair off cause I think it’s fake when there’s a chance it could actually be real, people are a-holes who be doing the absolute most for no reason smh
@@lovelydiva06 I was angry at first but as I said my daughter was not hurt. The girls who pushed her down were young Black girls no more than 12 to 13 years old. At that age they don't fully understand the consequences and possible repercussions of their actions.
I had to prove to my family that all of me is real. 😤 I loc'd my hair, 11 years ago, and had to prove that I wasn't wearing four year old braids like a homeless person might. I've even cut my locs five times and they, still, pass my bra line. 🙄 I had to prove that my nails and lashes were real and that I wasn't wearing a waist trainer and poking my behind out. They fixed into their own minds that I was ugly and too dark but never appeared that way, in person. It's like they were shocked to see beauty in me. It let me know that they thought I was ugly, growing up, and I feel nothing but hate around them. At every funeral, wedding, whatever, they're like, "she tryna poke out here butt... She thinks she's cute. Lemme pinch your waist." I've had a bbl shaped body since I was 13 and it's brought nothing but shame to me. Saddens me. I always get asked about my hair and body as if I paid for any of this. I'm just tryna exist, dang!
This insidious obsession with black hair is bordering on psychotic. I've never bought into length checks or wig snatching videos. And for some black women to be perpetuating it is a form of Stockholm syndrome for real 😔
Your right I think someone needs to send a psyche doctor to help them out. I have never seen so much time and attention invested in someone else’s scalp. And most of them are just prejudiced or demeaning. If I go through cancer or autoimmune diseases I would cancel someone’s subscription to move able legs if they did that to me.
I went to school with my hair partially blown out and it was mid back and everyone was saying my hair wasnt real even though it had some visible coils left. It was so annoying and out of all the black girls that should know about our type of hair a white guy was the only one that said my natural hair is my own and that it was beautiful. I have been friends with him since then.
That's the only way they get validated. Constantly body shaming black women. It's all JEALOUSY. They just can't deal with it. I am only sorry for some black women who totally forgot that they are fearfully and wonderfully made also by GOD ALMIGHTY
I am so sorry black women go though so much struggle and disrespect. I personally love curly black hair, I find it beautiful, it is pretty, do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You are gorgeous. Say it and believe it. 💖 Saludos desde México mis queridas hermanas bellas 🇲🇽💜
At my old job, my coworker who was black compared my straightened hair to my white coworker and literally said “why is her longer than yours and you’re white?” She was laughing and I was in complete disbelief… smh
I think she used you to take a jab at that white coworker like, "Ha take that!" Weird momemt. Why she felt compelled to do that? Idk only you could guess since you worked with the two of them.
its just jealousy. I remember when I was in uni, I always straightened my long wavy hair and put it in a pony tail. as we were all standing in the auditorium, someone behind me pulled my pony tail. probably thought it was fake and thought they'd be funny. joke was on them when they realised it was ALL REAL!! lol so I rubbed in the burn by taking out my rubber band, shaking my hair out and retying my pony tail hahahahaha
I had someone pull my ponytail in high school trying to pull it off, and when it didn’t come off they got mad. In college someone said “she thinks she looks cute with her weave.” Another time I went on a blind date and got weave checked. Then these two women were convinced I was Belizean. When I told them I wasn’t and I was Black American, they said it wasn’t possible because I’m pretty with long hair 🤬
Wow. This has got to be the best and worst comment I've seen. I've had to deal with the Belizean issue to and the "what are you mixed with" bs. I'm black...and very thankful
My ex boyfriend flirted with a pretty black woman as a joke to make me jealous, she joked with him and the first thing he said to me after realizing he went too far was: "don't worry her hair is probably fake and I don't even like girls with short hair" like wtf is wrong with him... ☠️
I used to wear braids many years ago. I took my hair down and decided to press it. Went to Monday morning and sat in my cubicle and a co worker walked pass and grabbed my hair and almost gave me whiplash. I asked why did you do that? Her answer.....I thought it was a wig. Well if it was you would have walked away with it in your hands. People were amazed my hair was as long as it was. At the time I was wearing braids to keep from damaging my hair and my hair got thicker and longer. The 3 perms I have had in my lifetime damaged my hair. I never had anymore perms and continued to wear my braids. I was also asked why do you wear braids if you have long hair.....because I chose to wear my hair low maintenance.... it works for me.
As a blk woman with natural hair that is waist Length I can say this video is SPOT on. When my hair is straightened I always get the "that can't be all of your hair" or the slick "can I feel it" then proceeds to run their hand from scalp to tip to feel for tracks. Ww and blk men do this the most but believe it or not even some sistas have done it.
I’ll never forget someone tried to snatch my wig off in middle school. But I wasn’t wearing one. They pulled my hair so hard I started crying. The teacher did nothing
Ladies if anyone rips your wig off instead of laughing or running after them I say play the soft feminine card and start crying. Slowly sit on the floor hands on head and cry. 100% victimize yourself and get these people canceled. Idc if it’s “not that big of a deal “ break down and cry make these mf look bad.
This exaggerated war of the sexes that goes on in the black community in the USA is so weird, from the outside, and this wig-pulling game is the kind of thing that would never happen in Brazil.
i wish someone would try me like that. people are so sickeningly pleasured by the humiliation of black women. i don't care if you think my hair is real or not, i don't owe you an explanation. i don't have to prove anything to ANYONE
There is a black youtuber with hair down to her knees. She goes by Indigenous Strandz. Anyone can have extremely long hair (butt or longer) no matter your race or hair texture. People think their hair is short because of genetics. Nope. The majority of the time, it's how you take care of it.
I had an ex friend with a super misogynistic and partially racist brother who said that black womens hair is meant to be short and we’re trying to meet European standards by growing our hair long.. meanwhile he’s black as well. Even after giving him every single detail I could he was willfully ignorant towards the topic. Some people just want to stay in their ways.
I think wanting long hair has to do with wanting power. I mean that’s partially what it means on a spiritual level. Idk bout that tryna be yt stuff that’s honestly a stretch
I also want to add that it’s okay to have short kinky coils hair too. Not everyone who has short natural hair is some sort of sell out who didn’t try hard enough to care for or grow out their hair. My self worth doesn’t have to begin and end with my looks and hair length. It’s not my job to school every negative assumption some ignorant bigot or self loathing misogynist has about me. Know your value and learn to be comfortable in your skin even when you aren’t slaying or meeting some fleeting beauty standard that will mean nothing in this wide expanse of time. Life is short, spend more time having more meaningful experiences, finding the joy from within.
Why are people always attacking the femininity of black woman? I've dealt with this since I was young and it's like I've had to double down on being as feminine as possible.
I remember when guys were snatching off the wigs of black women, my sister was a the mall and some non black guy pulled her REAL hair so hard thinking her hair was a wig and just ran off. This, indeed, IS violence against black women.
That is so messed up and disrespectful. I imagine the trauma that can cause her
It's the same vibe as pulling of someone's hijab
@@j___989 exactly, ppl have no respect for women of color
@@j___989 nah but it is bad
This is crazy! So sorry for your sister. I remember in middle school a gay Black boy pulled my hair from the root and some of my beautiful strands fell out and he loudly scream "damn, I guess it is her real hair y'all" I was pissed and my head was hurting. He would regularly bully girls and one day another boy had enough of him bully girls and beat him down to the ground. He got what he deserved 🤭
I do believe ripping off the wigs is a type of assault. I just wonder if anything would be done about it if a woman tried to press charges, or if the police would laugh it off
Imagine pulling off the wig from a WW, and then being told she is battling cancer? Well, it's straight off to jail, for that person. The charge? Common assault. No questions about that, whatsoever. BW, really need to stop relaxing and stay alert at all times.
I agree, it should be seen as assault. The way bw apply these wigs and the glue that’s used, you can pull a Women’s skin off along with the wig by ripping it off her head.
I just imagine them pulling a wig only to find it’s real hair. And then getting a big slap to the face.
Something about it is a bit disturbing. They paid money for that and it’s being stolen from them. You can’t rip a chain off of someone, you can’t cut a chunk off of someone’s hair, so idk why this would be acceptable behavior. I’m also more worried about someone attempting to “snatch a wig” and grabbing someone by the scalp 🤕
@@MiVidaBellisima It is not acceptable and is really disturbing. Even if it wasnt theft and assault, why are we trying to humiliate one another. If I saw that shit happen, I'd want to fkn fight them. People are such garbage.
It’s so tiring being a black woman. We don’t deserve this
Yes but I wouldn’t trade it for the world! Those ppl are pathetic
Can't relate with your comment I'm African and proud to be African and I will not let the colonizer ppl make me hate who I am or where I come from. Be proud to be to who you are❤ no one else will care beside you will love you. These white ppl are just hating because they want to be black or even African😂. That why you see them trying to get their hair braided😂 girl you might hate being black but trust me all these white ppl want to be black and they would love to be in your place. They would love to have beautiful features,height everything
But that's what they want!!!
I don't know any of this be happening because idc
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience lol sis same I be minding my business real bad 😁😂😩
I'm old skool and was unaware of this being a new trend, but I recently had this white guy come up to me in the mall and pull my hair, thinking it was a wig, but to his surprise it's not. Unfortunately for him, I had my son with me, and he runs track, so when the guy took off my son caught him and beat his ass. The police was called and the guy tried to press charges on my son. If we hadn't had all the witnesses coming over supporting us, the police would've arrested my son for assault. They arrested the guy and we are currently suing his ass. He is 17 and his parents are saying he's just a kid. Idgaf they should've taught their "kid" some manners. He got his ass beat, and now I'm bout to beat them pockets 😂
Get them dollar$, that’s how you beat them at their own game!
YES, OLD SCHOOL!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾You handled it adequately & appropriately.
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 my son is brutal about me too!!!
Yes, the 17 year old should go to juvenile or at least be evaluated. He can't be going up and pulling people's hair. Tbh I'm not sure if it was a prank, because to me it sounds like he might have developmental delay or a substance misuse problem. 17 is pretty much grown, almost college age, so wig jokes shouldn't be funny 🥴
@@queenprincess4life yes ma'am I certainly plan to.
I was at a bar with my friend and a guy complimented my hair. His friend (black guy) proceeded to jump in, and say that I was wearing a weave, and that it wasn’t my real hair. As if I didn’t deserve to be complimented for my hair that I work hard to care for.
Hater at best.
That’s not your friend
Ok. What did your friend say in response. Yall end these stories without solutions.
It’s always a dude 🙄like sir, go play football or something
Girl these dude say the darnedest things . They more obsessed with hair than we are .
I hate wigs with passion however pulling off a wig in public is cruelty. People need to press charges… enough is enough…
Being of a particular age, I don't give a damn, what anybody thinks.. I love wigs, I love changing up.. This generation has mental issues.....They have been raised, by wolves......
You would g.a.f if someone grabbed your wig off of your lid.
Women look insane with wigs on. I can understand if you have cancer or alopecia but besides that, it’s tacky, insecure, and ghetto. 🤢🤮
@@lindaavant4665Yup
the comment above yours did this exact thing
This is the first time I’ve heard about the wig snatching trend. Repulsive behavior.
Disrespectful at all levels
I saw this trend Eyawns ago
I've never seen that but that's assault to me. Could you imagine if someone was battling cancer?
Oh sh💩t I didn’t even know that was a thing !!!!! What if that was someone’s actual hair!! The hair on black women’s head isn’t always wigs…
absolutely hateful behavior
I'm a grown woman and I'm not proving squat to no one! Don't need anyone's approval to wear my hair the way I chose to wear it.
Black hair has many textures and grows differently. We as Black Women shouldn't have to prove anything to anyone especially to Our Own People!
Thank you, nobody is making these women prove anything. Let’s be honest it’s for validation most times. I just wish we can learn society and social media isn’t life or how life is supposed to be.
@@meeka32ify Yep! Validation for sure because why do I need to prove that my hair is my hair. I'm a whole adult and don't owe anyone anything. Years ago, I began having a problem with people putting their hand in my hair when I realized my coworker pretended to be adoring my hair but was actually feeling my roots for tracks. I stopped her immediately. Up to this day, you may compliment me without touching me.
I agree! Man, f*ck these people! Lmao. *excuse my french*
The gag is… nobody wears more extensions than non black women. Racism in our society has people in disbelief that we can grow long hair even though God’s free internet will obviously show you that it’s not a foreign concept. Even if a woman’s hair is fake, why does it matter? If they’re not advertising hair growth products then I couldn’t care less lol
Exactly. I don’t care what any trend or anyone is doing. I love myself, I love my hair and I do what I want ❤️💅🏽💁🏽♀️
I was in a social setting when this brother I never met before stuck his hand into my hair down to the scalp to see if my hair was real as I was sporting my wash and go curls. I yelled at him, " what the f*ck are you doing!". He said he wanted to see if my hair was real. This was done in front of everyone present. The last thing I expected was to be treated that way from a black man or any man for that matter. I was mortified! The utter disrespect !!
Yuck! 🤮
@@moniqueloomis9772 Why are you in black folks business? You all are so obsessed with us.
@@naynay747 I know this was a year ago but I think she meant 'yuck' towards the guy who did that.
'Brother'? You mean total disgusting stranger. Stop claiming random people as family because you share a skin tone. He obviously didn't see you as 'sister'.
As a black girl who has long hair the only people who really know that my hair is real are black women because they understand everybody can grow hair. When I am around other races or black men they want to touch my hair and say stereotypical things.
I would like to say sorry to the people that got mad about me saying bw understand the whole stereotype thing. I don't like that some of y'all are calling me a liar you could've said it nicer. I have had a classmate say that black people can't have long hair like them so in my brain I thought that bw with long hair can understand because they know hair can grow.
BM are wrong for that, they grew up around black girls and BW with naturally long hair so they should know better.
I remembered a German girl asked me if my hair was a wig , I told it was real and she rolled her eyes at me.
Black men just annoy me with their ignorance. A black man co worker last week asked to touch my hair and to pull my curl down to see how long is it. The only reason I let it fly is because he has a daughter with my hair type and said he wanted tips and help on she can grow her hair
@@kellygoodman6167 that’s is so ridiculous smh
I get it from everyone!.. but I do wear wigs so I kinda get it when my hair is out. It's the same length of the wigs I wear but it's a different texture. Either way it has gotten old. It's disrespectful. Black hairstyles always want to perm my hair and white people always want to touch it. Honestly I'm over it. Just let us black folk be great!
PEOPLE DONT REALIZE OUR COMMUNITY IS MOSTLY TOXIC SMH. THE RIPING OFF THE WIGS BROKE MY HEART.
Because y’all care for the opinion of outsiders
I think black women should wear their natural hair if they’re not suffering from hair loss or alopecia.
Very toxic
maybe the people you surround yourself around are toxic people
@@Tlowd2 That’s not the only reason. Even without outside influence the black community is toxic. Keep in mind our ancestors where sold as slaves by their own people first before outsiders started stealing them. Black people have historically not been as cohesive a community even without outsider influence.
That's why I can't stand pranks. Getting a giggle off of someone else's pain and humiliation is foolishness. Not funny at all, just shocking
Reaping off a woman's wig in public against her will, is same thing as striping her off her clothes that's extreme wickedness
True
Imagine being on the dancefloor and someone tugging on your hair only to find out it's NOT a wig.....Yep, this happened on me. I have long curly hair and I am dark skinned.Imagine his dissappointment..... So, I guess this was an assault gone wrong.... I should have filed charges against this piece of 💩
Yes, you should've. Or at least unformed security. The next time something like that happens, let security or law enforcement know.
I had one gay white guy hair stylist massage my scalp on the dance floor 😂😂 my hair wasn't even that long
Most of us as dark people have nice curly/wavy thick hair most mfs think it’s the light skin mixed looking ones but it really be us 💯
I swear this happens to me too and the thing is my hair is like mid length and I was wearing it naturally and this girl came up to me pulled it and was omg I thought this was fake hair at this point I was so mad I didn’t even knew what to do
OMG that happened to me *ALL. THE. TIME.* it's crazy that people feel entitled to do that.
The ripping off of wigs is such a vile and disgusting thing to do. At this point it’s assault and need to be treated as such.
Damn the self hate is real, I’ve been asked multiple times by other black people if my hair is real. Yes people we can grow long hair, we’re human too!!
Same here! I think it’s time that content creators make videos calling out & addressing this issue, WITHIN OUR OWN COMMUNITY! I’ve told WONCs not to touch my hair & they’d go away! I’ve asked my Sisters not to touch my hair & they’d continue to do it, as if they wanted to get a reaction outta me! 😤
It’s very sad & frustrating…..
@Styliani It's actually safer for her to wear wigs than her natural hair for performances. Plenty of black celebs have said their hair has been damaged from stylists constantly applying heat to it whether it be to straighten it, curl it, ect. Even white celebs experience hair problems from stylists constantly dyeing/bleaching their hair for red carpets, shows, ect. With wigs you can do whatever you want without fear of damaging your natural hair. Cardi B, Normani, Ciara, Nicki Minaj, etc also have really long natural hair but they wear wigs and extensions alot. With the choreography Beyonce does her hair will be all over the place too.
@Styliani I have long hair and wear my own most of the time, but I also wear wigs and weaves when I want a different look or to add color, or just because I want to. I don't think that should be a problem because it's my hair and my business. Not being being an ass, but real question, how does the way I choose to wear my hair affect anyone else?
@@Kat_Beezy Black people should stop with nonense calling other black women your sisters. I don't have any sisters I am an only child and I will enver call another black person my brotehror sister just ebcause we share the same skin color. That is so much nonense all the while Black people are mostly like to be your enemy because of the crab mentality. Nope I am nobody's sister. I have nother in common with other blck people from otehr countries other than the skin color we share nothing, not the culture, language etc... so much BS. Lot's of people share the same skin color. You see a Korean saying a Chinese is my brother or sister Hell NO. You call BM your botehr in the USA all the while they degegrate you daily and send you to meet your maker every 5 hours.
It’s not self hate only it’s disbelief. I truly think especially in American culture that they were just fed so much bullshit about Black people that they honest to God think it’s the truth. Even my own yournger sisters are confused how my hair is so long for my sister‘s hair is so long and it’s because nobody tells them that is possible because society is telling them it’s impossible
I just don’t want black women to feel the need to grow their hair long. If they prefer short or shoulder length hair due to this stereotype. The pressure to prove we can grow our hair takes away our freedom of choice.
Yes all hair length need to be celebrated.
I appreciate this comment, I agree with what you said. I recently cut my hair short after it being the longest it’s ever been. However it was damaged so I cut it short to let it grow out again healthy.I was hesitant because I finally had hair long enough to “prove” it could grow. It actually took me about a year to finally go through with it. I’m glad I did it though, people can mind their business, shouldn’t have to prove anything to anyone. Especially people that don’t even know you. I love it short! But that pressure is real for sure.
Even though I have proven to myself I can grow waist length
hair I do intend to cut it pretty soon, and drastically too. I like pixie cuts, always have.
I just wanted to prove to myself that I could grow it if I wanted too, and my husband also asked
so I said "yeah why not" It was a learning process all about my hair and me. It was frustrating at times
joyous, tiring, because you don't feel like doing your routine, then you stick too it and you can see the growth
month by month, year by year. It lets you know that all this time you had the potential to have this long hair you
never knew you could have? It makes you feel feminine and beautiful in a way I never had before, especially with
my harsh demeanor lol! But people's positive reactions too it would be the only reason I'd want to keep it because they
think your so beautiful when you look the same as you always had? It's weird, but I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.
YES!
Facts!
Women in every race wear wigs, extensions... but why do people only focus on black women?
Because usually when we wear them, it never matches our natural hair textures, which is probably because a lot of black women don’t like their natural hair texture.
Not necessarily true. I used to wear wigs to change up my look, much like women wear makeup. It had nothing to do with not liking the texture. Sometimes I didn't have time, so I'd pop a wig on. It's not that deep sometimes.
RACISM
AND DEEEEP ENVY
@@cressapellom4205True. So true
That is Soo rude and humiliating for a guy to snatch a wig off a woman
Facts.
Yes some may have alopecia
You trying getting tazed or shot snatching a wig
Those videos are scripted what it is more sad is black women and men are literally supporting these videos by being in the video .
@@omzy8700 it's very messed up. What are they teaching the masses?
I work with a lot of Hispanic girls and majority of them wear clip ins and hair fusions. Their real hair be short and they thin from all the heat, manipulation, and bleaching. But everyone assumes it’s real because the hair matches their natural texture. So nobody questions it. I was amazed at how common this is.
I'm seeing alot of white girls wearing weaves also.
I got to a PWI and so many white girls have tracks to extend their hair length sometimes it's quite obvious when u can see the tracks sometimes not so much but it's pretty common
@Watching The Background I agree with you but at the same time carefully read what she said, she said everyone assumes its the Hispanic girls hair because the extensions matches their texture. I think if black women would wear wigs and weaves that matched their hair texture, there would be significantly less to question. But majority of black women that wear wigs and weaves tend to wear Asian and Indian hair that is far from their natural texture.
@@keekssss nah people will still ask. I have naturally long hair that I prefer not to straighten or color so I wear kinky straight wigs when I want to have straight or colored hair and it always looks extremely natural and undetectable..
I have had a Mexican Man and Woman approach me and say "wow you are so beautiful if that's your real hair...is that your real hair?" I often throw my hair into a big lazy puff and I was in the checkout line at a store and an older WW asked "is that a piece on your head or your real hair?" I never give them the satisfaction of knowing if it is or isn't, but it started giving me a complex and I wondered why are people asking me this especially when it is my real hair?
I have been questioned whether I am wearing my real hair or have natural texture extensions. I have even had people sneak up on me to touch my hair and I had to karate chop the heck out of them. People will question BW regardless and I don't even engage with that foolishness anymore.
Facts! Most WW do not have long hair. They wear weave and wigs like crazy and it be hecka obvious. They weave game just started getting stepped up after they started lurking on Black Hair content creators. I always have WW asking me what I use in my hair and will it work for their hair growth. Smh the Rapunzel delusion they spew is a whole lie!
I’m Hispanic and seen this happened. At my gym I complimented a Black girl that her hair looked pretty and right away she said thank you that it’s her real hair, I knew what that meant because another girl in my college class overheard Black girls in class saying something about her hair and she loudly said “it’s real.” Everybody looked 👀 but I knew what she meant. I’m half Caribbean and I remember how my Black cousins were pressured to iron their curly, kinky hair because long straight hair was considered beautiful in Panama. Luckily though things are changing in Panama and girls are now going natural and being more natural.
One of my best friends in middle school had her hair ripped off and thrown down the hallway. They used it like a football while she cried. Traumatized the shit out of us honestly. That was 2005.
Damn....this was in america?
@@justimani4 yes 🥺 of course now those same boys are singing a different tune
@@JadetheGoober I hope that tune included suspensions, pressed charges, and apologies from those people. 😡 I'm sorry this happened to your friend.
@@Celery459 I don’t believe it did 🥺
Damn, I could explode reading this. This is so disgusting
The first time I remember a stranger approached me and asked if my hair was real and could they touch it, I was 11 years old. I don’t understand why people are so shocked that ANYONE can grow long hair! We as Black women are disrespected far too often. Horrible.
Telling The Truth 👍‼️👍‼️🤨
Don’t let anybody touch your hair…they pass spirits through their hands you should not let anybody touch you
I was about twelve when a Mexican girl in junior high told this white boy to ask me if my hair was real. I said yes and I offered for him to pull it, maybe I shouldn't have done that. Anyways I had it styled differently, and to this day I'm confused why they assumed it was weave. My hair wasn't even that long.
No y'all disrespect yourselves y'all just so clueless to realize it🤣🤣
They also act like they own us…
I remember being in high school and going for lunch with a peer who was Black-Ethiopian, and she made a comment about how my hair, which has always been long was weave and that I had dyed it black. I remember thinking what, and saying my hair is not dyed it’s naturally jet black and I am not wearing a weave! She was like oh. I guess she thought because I was dark skinned, and a Black-Jamaican girl I couldn’t have long hair. This was back before instagram and TikTok existed. I also used to have girls come up to me and put their fingers on my scalp to see if my hair was real. Again this was done by other black girls.
I use to go thru the same thing when my hair was waist length. I had a white lady sit and watch me get my hair done because she couldn’t believe a black women’s hair was that long. I had a black woman put her hand up in my hair while my back was turned. It’s crazy how we are obsessed with hair.
A woman actually put her hand in your hair?!?!? I would have snapped. You should have told the white lady to mind her damn business.
👍‼️agreeing 😉‼️
I think it boils down to ignorance. It goes along with the “black ppl are less than” narrative and unfortunately a lot of people bought into it. Ever heard some of those older women call someone ugly by stating their features were more “black”. They haven’t let go of their ignorance and prejudice
@@AmyLeeAngelLove the woman who put her hand in my hair was a co-worker trying to feel for tracks. I told her that I would kick her azz if she ever touched my hair again. It was the white lady’s salon and it was great to prove her perceptions wrong.
@Watching The Background hair is very important to the black community. Otherwise ‘we’ wouldn’t be talking about it and buying it like ‘we’ do.
I am a black woman with long hair, but I typically wear it curly. I am constantly asked if my hair is real. I have had co-workers and random people try to touch my hair as if they don't believe me, and one woman asked to see my roots! Thank you for bringing up this topic.
The audacity to see the roots.
Same. Sick of people wanting to touch my hair and pet me like I’m a fucking dog!
Yeah that happened to me. They ask, I smile and simply say "yeah it is"
and they ask can they touch it, and the older women especially dig their hands all
in it trying to find my scalp lol! I be like "damn Ok are you satisfied?" lol But it doesn't bother
me because the next questions are how can they do it and I'm there ready to tell them that they certainly can!
I am glad to hear I am not alone. I thought this was more of a small white town, only black family thing...apparently it's not. 😔
Tell them it's from Jupiter.
This only happened to me when I moved back to American South. Living in the West and living in Europe I never dealt with this. The first month back (bc I was born in the South), I had a group of girls try to tell me my hair wasn’t real (it was shoulder length and permed) and pulled my hair; this was freshman year of high school, 2012. I punched the ring leader in her face and fractured her nose; the principal tried to give me ISS bc it was "unprovoked" and she was "just curious". My mom came, and when he told her the same thing about it being unprovoked and curious, my mom came around his desk and started opening drawers. He asked what the hell she was doing and she looked him dead in the eye and said in a monotone voice "oh I’m Sorry, I was just curious"
He got the point and let me go and gave the other girl ISS.
So I understand being tired of it; but I also understand there are very few BW I know personally that wear their natural hair, much less it’s healthy and taken care of instead of braided down in weaves/wigs for months. So I can see both sides, but it doesn’t give others permission to be disrespectful.
I love your mum ❤😁
I love your mom, we all need that type of mom in our lives! Fr...👍🏾💐
@@yahismyrefuge1983 oh that's my ride or die 🥰🥰
@@radiantly_fatime same 😅🥰
Same! I moved to Lousiana and experienced the same thing. The south is super weird, our people are awestruck or just down right bullies when it comes to long haired naturals
Damn why can't we just have long hair in peace without being questioned smh
frr like tf
I concur wholeheartedly!
we are the only race of women whose hair is obsessed over this much. Stop touching, stop asking. Just leave me aloneeee!
Because a large number of black women wear weaves and wigs, even when they have long hair. That's why people wonder.
They won't even let us live in peace without doing or saying something to us or about us .
They pinch their nose, hold a finger to their nose like we stink or move their hands wildly until you look at them so they can pinch their nose.
I had to walk behind other black people or across the street from other black people just to catch proof of this.
Sometimes I would just hold my phone up like I'm recording so that I can just walk peacefully down the street or wherever.
I hate that they feel they can humiliate us and get away with it.
I remember in middle school an Afro Latino classmate literally pulled strands of my hair from my scalp bc he couldn’t believe that my hair was real bc it was bouncy and flowing after I had got a press and curl. Like wtf. I was so angry. I threw fists and he kept apologizing and I didn’t accept it. It was not okay. That’s assault and traumatizing whether it’s my own hair or a wig.
Shoot even recently online a yt woman tried to attack me and say I was wearing a wig in my profile picture. I had to shut that lie down w a quickness and tell her sickly looking self off. It’s disgusting how they r convinced we aren’t capable of having nice looking, healthy hair.
i’m sorry you had to go through that. After reading some of the comments of how many black women have had similar experiences of people pulling their hair it really angers me and it’s absolutely disgusting! We simply cannot exist without being stereotyped and disrespected. I had a similar experience in high school where i was sitting in front of a group of boys in an auditorium. At the time my natural hair was pretty short so i wore a lot of extensions/clip ins. This time i wore clip ins in a ponytail. So while we were waiting for our teacher one of the boys decided to yank my ponytail so hard but luckily/surprisingly it didn’t come off (i had it bobby pinned down so good😭). it was sort of hanging down but you could clearly see the separation from my real hair and the ponytail. I was so embarrassed and everyone was laughing and everything.
Thank the racist media for this. Portraying only or mostly white women and the image of shiny, smooth, sexy hair as if BW didnt have naturally beautiful hair
press charges his hands should not be touching you at all
They only say that because they know that black women are more beautiful than them with long hair
I bet they thought they was only fake black that grow hair
My daughter has 4C down her back. Like 2 inches from her butt. I take care of it. I ordered real natural organic shea butter from Africa, castor oil, and other pure ingredients off Amazon.. melted it together and made my own products. Grew my daughters hair so fast! I also keep her hair in protective styles. I'm an about to order the Revair so she can get her Dianna Ross on!!!
What other products do you order to grow hair please?
Vitamin E is a natural preservative and jojoba oil.. I am currently away from my home, when I get there, i can let you know the other oils that i put in there.
I’ve had strangers come up and run uninvited fingers through my hair. So creepy an rude.
This has happened to me as well on so many different occasions over my lifetime, by children and adults. I have never had the desire to deeply run my fingers through a stranger's hair, even if I thought it was beautiful or knew it was fake. So I don't truly get why they can't resist.
@@zhaystyle I can understand children but it often seems to be older women, men usually ask. One woman came up behind me in a restaurant ladies room and then ran away. When I followed her to her table and asked who she was and why she would do such a thing, she replied “I needed to know if it was real and thought that you would lie if I asked”. I responded, “will you lie when the police come to charge you with assault”. No apology, So I pretended that I was calling the police and she disappeared.
I feel like it’s very obvious that my hair is real but I’m realizing that the wig game has progressed so much that obvious isn’t that obvious but people need to keep hands to themselves
@@andreaarchambeau9499 “People need to keep their hands to themselves” Oooo, say that again for the people in the back, LOL!!
& the story of the lady who did a “touch and run”…If I wasn’t already sitting down I would’ve fell out of my chair! 😂🤣😂 Hope she learned her lesson though! That’s what she gets. Come to think of it the men do usually ask & women ARE usually the biggest offenders. Yes! The wig game is STRONG these days & Some people are amazingly TALENTED. So, Maybe they feel we will lie and because we’re female it’s okay to touch us? Anyway, I agree 💯 They should keep their hands to themselves, pay a compliment, & keep it moving!
Same
That’s creepy and “NOT” sanitary as well😡‼️
Watching them rip off the hair enrages me. What makes people think it’s okay to grab someone like that??? :( my heart breaks for these women. They don’t deserve this 💔
You're so sweet.
I wonder if it's considered self defense if you pull out on them?
@@sarcasticallyrearranged if someone grabs your hair, your body, etc it’s absolutely okay to defend yourself!!! Don’t let people do that to you!
That scene got me too.
As someone who wears wigs religiously I’ve lost count of how many people act like they are surprised that I have so much real hair . It always confuses me because I wear wigs to protect my hair & keep manipulation to a minimum so it continues to grow uninterrupted but people just see a wig & assume I’m bald 🤷🏽♀️
@Random User you are so uneducated, wigs equals uninterrupted growth. Hair grows. You have a prejudice against black people. If you saw a white woman wearing a hat you would not have these assumptions.
@Random User ‘If they never see your natural hair’ aka if you never disprove the stereotype. I hate being black because of people like you. I am human and my hair grows because of fucking biology. Your hair being under a wig means you don’t have any? GTFO. I don’t have to Prove I have FUCKING HAIR. I hate it here
@randomuser5736 Well you know what they say about people who 'assume'.
Actually, black people's hair is more diverse and more versatile than theirs. Even with various types of 3 and 4 hair and texture it's really deceiving when it coily, but when it's perm or hotcomed out it's really long when taken care properly.
@Random User
It's ironic, Europeans have a history of wearing wigs, horsehairs, weaves and hair extensions, especially during the 17th and 18th century when most of them were wearing powdered wigs to hide bladness, scares of syphilis, lice, and various diseases.
I hope we come to a point where long hair is NORMALIZED for black women in my life time.
I have tail-bone length hair and luckily, I don’t get the “is that your real hair?” comment much (mainly because I barely leave my house). But it really upsets me that black women have to always prove people wrong on stereotypes.
It’s because wearing wigs is so common. It’s all I see personally. I have long hair of my own. I feel like I’m the only one not wearing a wig. Wigs are obvious. Wearers aren’t fooling anyone, especially if the hair is silky and straight. Until BW stop wearing them so much, it’ll never be normalized that we might have our own long hair.
@@Ladyhotfire78 exactly. But some women don't want to hear that. Unfortunately they'll assume it's a wig because a lot of black women are always wearing wigs. While that doesn't give them the right to pull or make nasty comments, it is obvious that's the conclusion they'd come to.
Another thing is long hair on BW doesn't look the same as anyone else because of the curly nature of our hair. I think alot of us have an obsession to prove the length of our hair by straight hair standards and I don't know why.
Black women can wear wigs. At least the majority stopped getting relaxers. We are going thru a community healing.
And it's sad cause most black girls had plenty of hair when I was growing up in the 80s and 90s. Relaxers broke off black girls hair and ruined the follicles from overuse.
I got weave checked by a dude I was dating. Mind you, I shaved my head three years prior and he saw the whole growth process after that. I was going to pick him up at the airport so I wanted to look cute and did a blowout. Nothing fancy, no flatiron, and pinned it half up half down. I never straighten it or add heat so it was pretty different to see it at mid back stretched out. When he got in the car, he kind of stroked my head in a caressing way, but then I felt his fingers slip through my hair onto my scalp. Did this joker just weave check me?! I must admit it gives you a sinking feeling to be checked like that. It’s as if despite you presenting yourself authentically as who you are, you are not believed. I think he wanted for it to be a wig so he could crack a joke about me later. I suspect (through my experiences with him) he was one of those deep down self hating types who pedestalize “others” for things like long hair and light skin. I’m just so glad my eyes have opened since then.
That’s the worst you put an effort to look your best and a black men brings you down!
I am white and British, so I am appalled to hear of this wig-snatching thing. If a man does that to you, that is male violence against women and NO ONE should accept that.
I do also feel that we as, human beings should reconsider where all this human hair is coming from, and try to stop exploiting each other.
India. They have different traditions for cutting off girls/women’s hair-some positive some negative, such as reaching a certain age or becoming a widow. In addition to that, women have also had their hair stolen, as in held at knife/gun point while someone cuts their hair in the middle of the street. It’s a very shameful experience because hair has a different meaning for women in the country.
Black women need to stop trying to prove to others
I understand but I feel like we are on the horizon of a bigger issue. I brought this topic to the forefront due to the fact that this has actually affected many women in real life as well. Due to the natural hair movement, more and more black women are growing insanely long hair. I think we will begin to hear more black women being assaulted in real life (people grabbing their hair without permission, pulling, tugging) going forward. From what I can tell, what begins as a small online problem, begins to reflect itself in real life. Just look at the BBL trend.
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Absolutely stop proving your hair is yours. And people that pull hair hoping it's a wig to embarrass you for laughs-I had that happen to me in the Fourth grade by another female student who was also a black girl. Also, I am brown skinned, not fair complexioned. This girl who was in the Fifth grade done this in front of crowds of kids in the hallway. She first yelled out, " she's got on a wig," and I was telling that I didn't. Also this girl had been taunting me off and on a few weeks prior to this incident. Anyway I leaned over for to to gently pull my hair which was styled in curly ringlets, and she grabbed my hair rather hard, to where I winced, and all the kids were watching to see her pull off my "wig" which they quickly found out was my real hair. She looked real stupid. The next day I guess to try and make herself self not look ignorant she yelled in front of the other kids I was wearing a wig, but no one paid attention to her, and I never had a problem with her again.
I remember being excited to tell my former friend that I was starting to talk to this guy at work and that we were hanging out. I told her, "...he then complimented my hair." Her tone darkened and she said, "Liar." "Huh?" "You should've told him it wasn't your hair." "Um he KNOWS it's not my real hair." "You sure about that..." After some back and forth, she made me feel so bad that I told him it wasn't my hair the next time we hung out. He was like, "I know and I still like it." Smh...the stuff you tolerate in your 20s...
That just made me nauseous 🤢 Prople can be so jealous and hateful 😮
I remember back in school I had super long hair girls use to rub their hands in my scalp trying to see if it was some tracks in there. I wanted to be cute and got bleached my hair fell out and one of the girls in school was like "dang I'm glad your hair fell out" that's when I knew.
Can’t let anyone touch your hair, bad energy
Jealousy
That's terrible
@@marshmallow7640 amen to that forreal
I had the same issue.
For reference I am a white woman, but one day I complimented an elder coworker's hair -- she responded (almost in a whisper) "it ain't mine, it's a wig" -- I said w/o hesitation you bought it didn't you? She looked confused and said yeah....I said "well then it's YOUR hair" (still truth in my mind!!) --- she laughed and was like you know what, you're right it is MINE!! I saw her actually stop herself over the years when others would compliment and simply say "thank you" instead -- what hurt was realizing over time and age, her initial reactions were almost ashamed or embarrassed, instead of proud/ happy or feeling GOOD -- as if she wasn't allowed to accept compliments on her hair. I was very young (maybe 19 or so) and had no idea how she must have felt at times, as my younger girlfriends didn't seem to feel bothered by their hair (whether extensions, wigs or natural).
Anyways all that to say, I think it''s beyond rude for someone to ask if someone's hair is real (if it looks good, why not just say that?!!) -- but it's disturbing that anyone would feel they have to PROVE it.....I understand why, I just think it's sad. I truly believe future generations will be so different they find things like this unbelievable!!
I wish someone would touch my wig 🙄 this is definitely a form of violence
Someone will be sent to ER…honestly!
@@boitshokonengu7306 seriously 😂😂😂😂
It most definitely is! Thankful we share the same sentiments in regard to this Awful trend! Thank you for commenting and for stopping by!
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I don't care if someone's hair is real or fake. If they made an effort to do something with it, I applaud them. If it looks good, it just looks good.
When I was a young women my hair was pulled while I was getting off the subway. Before the incident, some young black men where talking about being tired of black women wearing wigs. My hair and is still is very thick and long. This hard me so much. It wasn’t physical but more mentally. I’m 66 and I still think about the disrespect I encountered
I'm so sorry that happened to you. 😢
At 59 years old I still have to address this issue., even before I locked my hair, People would ask me “ Why do you wear braids if your natural hair is really long”. They couldn’t comprehend that I like braids and locs!🙄 now they assume that my locs are extensions. Especially young white women, they like to believe that tight kinky coiled hair can’t grow. The thought that that’s true, makes them feel special,superior. They’re very disappointed after I School them and tell them to tell their friends, because were tired of having this conversation.
I hate when I have braids or something and white women ask me questions like how long did it take, can you wash it, does it hurt like girl get tf out of my face 🙄
Ikr I have locs and they are down my back. What gets me is Locs can be washed and styled and I have had people come up to me Saying Oh what are you mixed with your hair is so long? Or Are these Extensions? I've been growing my hair for 6 years and never had to get Extensions. Black women hair can grow!
thank you.
Just because our natural hair is long doesn’t mean we want to be dealing with it all the time😭😭. I’m always wearing a protective style because I want to protect my hair and leave it alone- which in turn helps it grow and strengthen. I don’t know why people haven’t grasped that concept yet and insist that we wear our hair out all the time.
If I had a dollar for every time someone thought my locs were braids. lol
To the people who are snatching off wigs i hope they get sued for assault.
Forcibly removing an article of clothing or a wig is sexual assault and women need to have the courage to call the police and press charges on anyone who does this. It is not funny and people who do this for laughs deserve a stronger punishment for their complete disrespect to a person’s bodily autonomy.
I reported the video the clips came from for racial harassment/ assault/ sexual harassment. I cannot believe that this type of video is still up. I feel awful for the women in the video.
I would just like to know why some people are so interested in everything black women do, and why we let them their opinion and comments affect how we view ourselves.
Sometimes they assume that it will affect you. A girl started to shove me against the wall in school because I wasn’t reacting to her racial micro aggressions… I also didn’t care because I never saw myself as “beautiful” anyway. So when she saw me, a black girl, as her competition, I didn’t know why she was hating out of the blue. I think one guy she liked was paying attention to me. So she thought racial “status” could “put me in my place”. I was just confused, a little mad that I’m not confrontational, but in the end it never affected how I saw myself because I didn’t care much about how I looked. Now I appreciate what I have.
I hate that you had to endure that crap. I'm sure you are beautiful. The thing about beauty it's not appealing to everyone. That doesn't mean you're not beautiful it's just that they have a different view of what's beautiful and appealing to them. It's not a mark on your type of beauty. Look at yourself see the beauty there, hold your head high and move on. As for the racial/bullying stuff it seems they are jealous of you. Your hair is yours if you grow it or have to buy it. Ask your creator for protection in his son's name. Good luck baby girl your whole life is ahead of you.
I’m mixed and I have long super tight curls. So I have my hair down in the grocery store and this white lady comes over and pulls my hair. I look at her and she says “just wanted to know if it was real” then proceeds to walk away. It surprised me that the world has come to this.🙁😓
You are seeing more and more BW and girls have their own natural hair down their backs. Our hair had problems growing because we relaxed it to death, only washed it every 2 weeks, and used the same products white ppl used. Now that we have a new understanding of our very unique hair, we're able to take care of it. I told my niece that our hair grows up and out towards God, heaven and the sun, while others grow down. It makes sense to treat it differently. And now, we realize that our hair can grow at Great lengths. Personally I'm starting to see long hair in our community more and more often and I'm loving it.
I use to wash my hair every week, but as I got older, scalp got drier, and my hair is almost completely white, so I'm back to almost every two weeks. I do the scalp scratch test: if it's white= no wash; not white it gets a wash. I let my scalp dictate when it needs to be washed or not. It's easier that way for me.
I stopped using shampoo 3 yrs ago. My reasoning : if shampoo is meant to cut through and REMOVE the greasy build up I DON'T GET.. then WHY am I using it??
I literally use a bar of raw black soap. It cleanses without removing ur natural oils. After I lather with the bar, I add a few drops of black Jamaican castor oil.
When I rinse, it feels light, my curls pop, and there's no residue. Oil + an aloe leaf is a great conditioner.
No problems growing length whenever the mood strikes now.
I agree, we’re finally doing what works for us; which is wearing our natural hair…Who would’ve thought 😭🤦🏾♀️😅.
@@kfrancis1872 same, I stopped using shampoos a few years back because I notice my hair started thing a bit and it would get so much dryer even after conditioning. Now I actually let the oil build up on my scalp which takes some time and the only time I actually use a shampoo is if I have used too much gel in my hair which is rare. Also I noticed how much shinier and bouncer my hair was when I let the natural oils actually coat my scalp and hair. Sometimes I do put a tiny amount of argan oil on my ends just so they stay moisturized. But what a huge difference it has made
Referring to the others in the comments, I noticed every time my mom washed my hair with Pantene (shampoo) that it strips my natural hair of the moisture it NEEDS to have locked in to grow. I need to learn other ways to care for it. Especially instead of leaving it dry in a “protective” hairstyle
This kinda leads into why I was so distraught when my hair was damaged and I had to do the big chop! I was petrified that people were going to label me as the “bald headed BW” or the “BW that couldn’t grow hair”. Even though I know that BW can grow long hair like anyone else I knew for a fact that other people thought differently. Then I tried to wear wigs, but then I was afraid of being the “Bald BW that has to wear wigs because she has no hair”. I really don’t think we can win either way.
Girl you captured it So well I’ve had the same dilemma
Great comment & u are right we can’t win no matter what we do
My college roommate said that after she cut her shoulder length hair she felt like a “regular” black girl😑 I also overheard her on the phone saying it must be short that’s why she’s wearing braids. When I took my braids out and my hair was twice as long as hers. She asked if she could flat iron it for me. No thanks ma’am.
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@@kiaj.d.5855
Good call cause you would’ve ended up with hair much shorter than hers and damaged beyond repair.
This happened to me many times growing up. When I was in high school, a girl who didn’t wash her hands first, had the audacity to run her fingers through my scalp then turn around and say, “omgggg I’m so sorry it’s actually real”. This girl, keep in mind, was mean to be prior to this interaction. Smh so sad how we obsess over length.
And truth be told, MOST white women wear wigs, weaves, extensions, etc. They did this before we knew they existed. The issue today is we & our men discuss our inserts, while the white community keep it hush, hush. But we have always had beautiful hair.
Exactly especially in England.
Ww probably wear added hair that is closer to their own texture than the Indian hair BW wear.
Funny enough, i was having a conversation just yesterday about this Topic with a female co worker who's black herself. She said she's always been asked that if her hair was real cause its so long and beautiful. And she said that this is the first job shes been too that no one's asked if her hairs real or not. I never personally never saw the need to assume why black women had fake hair just cause it looks good and its long. That's petty/jealousy.
Who gives a care about what people have to say about your hair because it's usually jealous or self hate
The topic is a bit confusing (I'm white). A few weeks ago I saw a UA-cam tutorial were a BW glued perls onto her straight hair. It was a cute look but me and other people were worried how she would get the perls off. Then several black women commented that we were clowning them pretenting not to know that it was a wig. Like no, I can't tell the difference between a wig, a weave, a perm or a silk press. So if you assume it's wig people will call you ignorant because black people can grow all kinds of hair. But when you think it's the real hair people think you are not educated on Black hairstyles. I would never say something in real life. But I was honestly curious how she would get the glue off. Kinda crazy that an innocent question like that started a war in the comments.
@@johanna2690 No people say that they are asking questions, but undercover trying to insult. Some questions just don't need to be asked. Like is that your real hair? Why care about something or someone that has nothing to do with you?
@@johanna2690 white people need to mind their business
Thank you and everyone for watching and for adding to the conversation!
"You would think that by now, this type of stereotypes would have died out, but no! Thery are still ALIVE and WELL" 😂😂😂😂 . You nailed it queen. Soon, everyone will realise that black women's hair even grows more than any other type of hair. We're just getting started 💗💗💗💗
The stereotype will only die out once wigs and weaves die out.
@@AnimalLover2400 unfortunately I agree with this, even though I also agree with the comment above
@@AnimalLover2400 I doubt the stereotypes will ever die even if blacks do away with wigs and weaves like you said. I mean, it's not a secret that the so called 'whites' wear wigs and different types of hair extensions yet, no one is making mockery of them.
@@AnimalLover2400 nah, wigs and weaves are a person's choice to wear whenever they want. I have long healthy hair, but there are days that I want to change up my look, or just not style my own hair, and that's my business. It will die out when ppl mind their own.....
@@AnimalLover2400 but wigs and weaves didn't start with black women. So I doubt that'll happen.
It's so disgusting to bother women over however they wear their hair. I have 2 types of alopecia and I wear wigs sometimes, I would definitely look into pressing charges if anyone touched my wig. It's honestly bewildering to see people acting like feral animals over how others wear their hair
I actually got bullied by other black girls when I was in high school because of my long hair. They used to threaten to cut it all off smh
I'm sorry and that is sad that a lot of black girls have LOW self-esteem over hair and their looks. If someone teaches them from a young age how to take care of their hair it would grow and how a few changes in their dress habits can make them feel good because if you look good you feel good! I wish they had a teacher as I had in grade school.
Im latina and had my ponytail pulled and slam to the ground was then jumped by a group of black teens.
My hair was cut in middle school by a girl with short hair. She actually complimented my hair, before secretly clipping, while stretching with scissors, next to me.
I didn’t think much of it, until I saw a huge chunk of black straight hair outside that boys were playing with. Some boys were tossing it at each other and trying to get away.
I was devastated and when I told the teacher, he asked her, she denied it and that was that.
Being pretty is a privilege, but it’s a double edged sword.
@@EstelleCreativeDesigns thank you or actually answering this as an adult. I hate the way GROWN people vilify little Black girls. Like little Black girls didn’t also constantly get bullied by everyone.
Oh, I have to include this one: I was in the hospital about to have surgery and I asked one of the nurses if she had something I could tie my hair up with. The Filipino nurse, also in the room, said, “Yeah, she doesn’t want to damage them. That hair is expensive!” I stopped her and said, “Uh, noo, these are NOT extensions.” Then she starts going on about. How long it took me to grow and how she had to cut her hair, etc. As if I really cared. She didn’t apologize for her ignorant assumption.
When I had surgery last year, they had to put a pillow case on my head. The didn't have anything else smaller that my hair would fit in. I'm not trying to sound prideful...just stating my experience. They literally think we can't have a lot of hair. We were the first humans. The Most High equipped us with the best of it all
@@verlania7539 For my cancer surgery last year, I discovered a better way of putting my hair up in their largest cap. I put it in a long braid and wrapped it around my head. Then put the cap on over it. My locs are just past my butt, so the braid was long enough to wrap around and tuck in.
@@judilynn9569 okay thank you ma'am
I repeatedly have to let women know my hair is God given. Both BW and WW.
I have locs and they say the silliest things. “What are you doing, adding hair to it?”
No, Sallie Sue, it’s growing 🙄
They’ll still give me the side eye in disbelief. 😩🤷🏾♀️
You don’t have to let anybody know SQUAT😉❤️
@@Peace-iz7gj it’s not what they think, it’s what they’re asking out loud. And you should question yourself cuz I clearly said SAY.
They know many of us have natural long hair, because they be checking all our videos we post doing our hair. They are jealous and trying to keep the one of many negative agenda's going about us. We stay showing our success, intelligence and beauty.
Same here, even before I locked my hair. They would ask me “ Why do you wear braids if your natural hair is really long”. They couldn’t comprehend that I like braids and locs!🙄 now they assume that my locs are extensions. Especially young white women, they like to believe that tight kinky coiled hair can’t grow. The thought makes them feel special,superior. They’re very disappointed after I School them and tell them to tell their friends, because were tired of having this conversation.
I have locs usually in a bun but when i let it loose idiots say the same thing to me 🙄 i don't even care to respond.
I think it is jealousy. We were mocked and now the Creator has given us back our hair! He is so good
Sis I’m wondering if bw are the original Israelites. Just because of the scorn against us. It is demonic- also the way we are rising is inspiring
Yess! Yes!! It was a black couple standing behind me and my son in the check out line at home goods and the man was "trying" to whisper and talking junk about me saying my hair was fake and I was doing too much having all that fake hair in my head and said altleast make it shorter so it's believable.... well his woman kept telling him my hair was real bc she can tell from fake hair and real but he kept saying no it's fake. I was so annoyed and wanted to part the back of my head with my fingers so bad so my scalp could show but I didn't...I just couldn't understand why a man was so focused on talking about my hair,lol....(they only do that when they are with white women)🤔....but I had a fresh blowout and my hair was a couple of inches from my waist, it's longer now and I hear all kinds of things. I was just at an outdoor wedding with my fresh blowout and two girls were asking another girl if my hair looked real or not , my husband and I heard them ,they were sitting behind us...well let's say it began to drizzle (rain) and my hair got wet and turned into a huge fro so I guess my hair answered their question for them ,lol...
Black men begin to act like women. Women use to discuss hair it’s bad when black men are so focused on our hair.
@@Sunny-tc3ul "Act like women"? Let's not pretend men don't gossip or badmouth others because there are those who absolutely do. And not just about hair either.
When I had relaxed long hair I was asked often if it was real. Now that my hair is short, natural and curly. I’m often asked is that my real hair meaning my texture 🙄. As black women we can’t catch a break. But I’m glad we keep proving the naysayers wrong even though in 2022 we shouldn’t have to. Queens of all hair lengths and textures. Wear your crowns proudly! 👸🏾👑💕
I’m half Asian, half aussie.
My hair is slightly wavy and a lighter shade than you would expect from an Asian. It took me a while to grow my hair to my hips.
The amount of times I’ve had women pull my hair asking it was real is unbelievable. And it’s not a gentle tug either.
Maybe it’s time to flip the script.
Next time someone pulls on my hair or asks me to prove it’s real, I’ll do the same to them.
I have waist length hair and people treat me like an endangered species I have wavy hair but I'm dark skinned. Even if you have the lose texture they think you still can't do it.
I had a friend with long hair like that. After convincing people it was actually her hair the next comment was "You must be mixed with something"...The self hate is real. Our hair comes in all kinds of textures but unfortunately we're so used to using chemicals to change the structure of our hair (relaxers) most people don't know.
Omg yes you put it perfectly. That’s exactly how I felt especially when I was younger, I felt like an endangered species. Although I am mixed (half black), I have dark skin and long 3b/a hair. During my childhood up until 13 yrs old I had waist/tailbone length hair, and legit every day majority adult black women would stop my mom in the street complimenting my hair, but always would follow it with the “and that’s all hers?” question. My mom would have to part my hair bc some didn’t believe it.
It’s sad because you end up feeling like you don’t belong as a kid when people are constantly making your hair a circus attraction and then little black girls at school either spread lies about what’s growing out your scalp, or they give you dirty looks and don’t like you because you “think your all that”. It created so much divide and I blame the parents for perpetuating the whole good/bad hair.
I wear kinky curly extension and I always have ppl saying “oh is that all you’re hair it’s beautiful” I’ll say yes even tho it’s not just to see their reaction I’ve noticed they will look closer at my hair to see where my natural hair stops and were the weave is but my blending skills are on 1000…. 😂Asè
I did that too lol. Wore waist length tracks to work...black girl in Hawaii. My whole floor of co-workers came to ooh and ahhh. I didn't come clean cuz I felt the urge to debunk the myth we can't grow hair.
My few black co-workers lifted sections and fanned it out....my blending was IMPECCABLE lol.
And thats a part of the problem 😂😂 but ima be quiet
@@dimeandbiggie353 I appreciate your silence
You one of the reasons why they don’t believe it’s natural hair. Stop lying tell the truth . It’s horse hair not your hair
Being a women of color is extremely hard, but so worth it ❤
I've had long (waist length hair) basically my whole life. I'm 28 now and haven't had a relaxer in over 10 years. I get asked mostly by black women if my hair is mine and after i verify that it is they start asking what I'm mixed with. Now, I'm positive that if you trace my family tree back far enough you'll find something, but both of my parents are black. I'm black. I didn't realize how big of an issue this was until a few years ago. Thankfully I haven't had anyone try to snatch my hair assuming it was a wig.
I expect that from insecure white women but never had a black woman do that.
Even before the natural hair movement when my hair was kinky and full and they asked if it's real.
I find these questions to actually be personal and not your business.
But yes it was even blk women especially in the perm days
@@sakhu8945 Oh yeah. It’s been a rare occurrence for a white woman to ask about my hair. It’s always been black women. I was ask by a lady once who wasn’t from the U.S. She was surprised black Americans could grow long hair. This cookout I went to for my boyfriend’s family was the worst I’ve had though. It took one older lady to ask if my hair was real and A-L-L the other women started swarming me trying to touch it! I’m not the greatest with stuff like that and I felt so awkward! It was so inappropriate! 😤😤😤
Although I am mixed (I’m half black), I have dark skin and long 3b/a hair. Between the ages of 5-13 I had waist/tailbone length hair, and legit every day me and my mom would be stopped by majority black women complimenting me on my hair, but they’d always follow it with the “and that’s all hers?” question. My mom would have to part my hair bc some didn’t believe it. I also would often get the what are you mixed with question as well.
It’s sad because you end up feeling like you don’t belong as a kid when people are constantly making your hair a circus attraction, and then little black girls at school either spread lies about what’s growing out your scalp, or they give you dirty looks and don’t like you because you “think your all that”. It created so much divide and I blame the parents for perpetuating the whole good/bad hair.
@@BlissfulMartini I live in a diverse area and never had a black woman ask about my hair. Shame on her.
This is the reason I don't even talk about hair anymore with anyone, especially BW or BP (no matter where they are from...US, UK, the Islands, an African country). I've been "natural" for many years and I don't try to bond with BW/BP over hair.
I am particularly disgusted how black people are obsessed with length and perpetuate textur-ism.
Same. I live in the Southeast of the U. S. The ignorance is appalling.
Yep they automatically assume you must be mixed if your texture is a bit looser. I come from an African background and I have a much looser hair texture along with a few other people in my family. Had some random lady in a beauty supply store who was looking for a straightening iron pretty much tell me how much more nappier African hair is. I just side eyed her like... I'm African you know.
This !!!! My dad irks my soul bothering me about my children’s NATURAL hair. That’s how it grow out their scalp so it’s acceptable without the over manipulation
Same here
@@yeahno9380 isn't Africa like the continent with the most genetically diverse human population of them all? It's soo weird to think all Africans only have one type of hair curls.
It's not only men who question whether your long hair is real,its other women! I had another Black woman come up behind me at work and check my hair,and then she said "that is your hair!" She did it in front of a couple of other women, so I suspect that they were probably discussing it behind my back! So annoying!
People need to realize black women can have different hair 😮 rather it be curly or straight, we all have different genes, features, and body types of all sorts.
Not only curly coil or straight it’s the length they can’t believe. They think we have short hair
People are so weird…. My hair was long and thick when I was a child/teen… then I went to college and started doing all kinds of crap to my hair (bleach, home made quick weaves, tight braids, etc) and of course breakage occurred😕 now I’m getting back to caring about my hair
One of my best friends from college has beautiful almost tail bone length thick hair. And many of my family and coworkers have long hair (mid back) Our hair can grow and does grow… there’s sooooooo many beautiful black women with long thick hair. I wish the ignorance and stereotypes would stop
It's not just about what they think, hearing something repeatedly most of your life if your hair goes out of the "concept" it gets freaking frustrating, and it can be physical. Like people being mean and touching your hair and snatching wigs. Like come on
So much bs going on in the world and ignorance about the growth of Blk women hair still in questioning🙄
@@confusedstar-cosmic5517 it's true what you say. I remember when I was a kid my mom never permed my hair but I got made fun off because everyone else had their hair permed and mine was natural so it was hard for others to do my hair and not because it was kinky but they just did not know how to work with natural hair. When I was finally old enough to perm my hair the hair dresser who did my hair was like you don't even need a perm and sure enough after I insisted on a perm my texture was exactly like when it was natural I never permed my hair again after that but started learning what actually works for my hair. Its gotten much longer . And people are always amazed when I tell them it's not permed or that I only use water and maybe gel. Also can't tell you how many people feel the need to touch cause they don't believe me. I once even had a girl literally run her fingers all the way touching my scalp because she thought it wasn't mine.
@@confusedstar-cosmic5517 literally this!! And no one speaks on that. During my childhood me and my mom were constantly asked if my hair was real, and when I say constantly I mean we were stopped outside at least once a day everyday by strangers. No one expected someone of darker complexion to have tailbone length 3b/a hair in the early 2000’s. As a kid it made me feel ostracized and like the odd ball out.
No one should feel entitled to know if anyone else's face, body, hair, nails, relationship, or entire life is "real." And absolutely NO ONE should be touching anyone for ANY REASON.
The experience I had was from another black woman who was jealous of my hair. I asked her to put a relaxer in my hair and she did but she deliberately overprocessed it , all I remember is going to the kitchen and washing it out of my hair in the sink and watching tons of my hair go down the drain I was so hurt and shocked I thought she was my friend I couldn't believe she had did that to me deliver early because she was jealous of me for no reason.
More salon horror stories should be shared. Some of the female stylists cannot be trusted when your hair is long. They become envious, and will sabotage and/or ruin your scalp so that it won't grow back. I ended up going to a male stylist and my hair grew even faster. He fingers were stronger, so his shampooing felt like a massage. My hair grew down to my waist in record time. Massaging is key.
@@aunaturale1805 A male hair dresser friend of mind told me he witnessed more than a few times the lady hairdressers, that he worked with, would get together and tell a client with beautiful long hair that she had split ends! They were experts and of course she believed them! She'd let them cut off unnecessary inches and after she left they would laugh and high five each other! Shameful behavior!!
It’s another example of why you can’t trust anyone!
She was jealous because your hair is beautiful. My friend did the same thing to me and she was in beauty school! She kept talking to someone next to her with the comb that she was smoothing my roots with. I had a 3 inch crusty scab burn band in the front of my head within 2 days. m over time, my edges turned white with little specks of my pigment in it. It looked a lot like chicken skin. It took 3 years for my hair to grow back.
This is TRUE! Someone I know went through this with a stylist. They burned her scalp😭
We need to talk about it.
Women can be the biggest haters of each other, from hair, to men & accomplishments.
self hatred and jealousy...will never change
Its not only women don't just blame women.
@@idk-vv5zu If the topic is specifically on women, then I said what I said. Signed, a black woman.
I have also had men and women snatch at my real hair thinking it was fake, Also once when I straightened my hair in middle school I was cornered and accused of being "mixed and denying it" because my hair was too long and thick. I am an unambiguous black woman from the Caribbean. Having my hair suddenly pulled is painful. it is disturbing how obsessed strangers are with us
Honestly, for me, ripping wigs off women was the worst. So completely disrespectful! An action intended to shame a person.
In my culture, it's wrong to even touch a stranger's head. It's almost unbelievable. Those guys should be very ashamed of themselves and those women deserve an apology.
I don't wear wigs by the way because my faith doesn't embrace it but I still can't imagine doing that to someone.
I reported the 'prank' video for racial harassment/ assault. It's disgusting that this man has monetised a video where Black women are being racially assaulted.
I cut my hair in high school because I was bullied so bad by other girls with shorter. They always threatened to cut it so I kept it short and they found other things to talk about like the way I spoke or try to hurt my confidence. I then grew it out and it’s at my bra strap length. I wear it straight, curly, braids, twists. Im fine, it’s mine and I will never try and prove anything.
Great video, thanks for shedding light on us!!!!
Sorry to be weird, but how did you grow it that length, and how long did it take? My hair is stuck at shoulder length and I don't know how I can exceed that length. My siblings all have long hair and they don't do anything special, (shampoo + conditioner), yet my growth seems to stagnate. Thank you x
I also cut my hair due to bullying when I was young (year 2000),
@@rebeccaloggs457 products work differently on different types of hair. I think you have to find what works good for you. I personally don’t straighten or blow dry my hair. Not to say I won’t do it once in a blue moon. My mom passed away last September and wanted to see my hair in a style that she liked so I got it done august 2021 (straightened and styled). Just no heat and lots of moisture, (also find out your hair porosity) hope this helps u on your hair journey.
I did the same thing and I'm mixed.
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Which is why I don't like clip-ins, wigs or weaves.
I'm fond of kinky braid extensions, but underneath my hair grows like crazy, because of protein treatments, hair growth oils, grease and moisture. We as black women *have* to try at least to grow our hair longer.
I have given two African colleagues of mine samples of hair grease mixed with hair growth oils and a small bottle with hair growth oils. One of them was so glad that her hair was finally growing after decades. The other one was able to put braid extensions in her hair when she was on vacation in Nigeria. She says her hair is still growing. This all happened this year, June and August 2023 😊
What a time to be black!!! Man oh man. The products now has us living our best natural hair lives. When I was a kid and still natural everything stripped my hair making it dry and rough. I didn't even know my hair was curly. lol smh.
Same here. As a 70s kid the shampoo as we used were harsh. These newer products along with more knowledge has made the difference in my hair.
Same here. We really only had conditioner u left in wet hair in the '80s.
Wasn't till I stopped relaxing that I discovered I had the texture I was RELAXING for!!!
Once my oldest daughter was obliviously walking home from school through a park when a group of about 3 girls came up behind her, pushed her face down in some grass and preceeded to pull off her long ponytail. After a tug or two, they realize it was her hair. One of them exclaimed, "oh $hit, it's real," and they all ran away like they were the daughters of Usain Bolt. When she arrived home, her light blue shirt was covered in dirt, I asked her what happened. I was so angry at first 😤but atleast she wasn't harmed. Later, as I pictured the girls trying to embarrass my daughter but ultimately embarrassing themselves because they were totally caught off guard, I had to laught at the situation. I hope they learned a valuable lesson that day about ASSuming.💯
This is disgustingly repulsive behavior. I am so very sorry that this happened to your precious daughter.
@@noble604 Thank you. 😊 She is a 30 year old gorgeous woman now who teaches school in West Philadelphia.
Janine - that’s wonderful! I am SURE the teaching she provides is much needed. Black teachers are so valuable. That’s fantastic!
I don’t find it amusing at all, I know we often like to find humor in everything even traumatic experiences but this was not funny at all and I would’ve been heated, like who wakes and say I’m gonna push someone down and try to pull their hair off cause I think it’s fake when there’s a chance it could actually be real, people are a-holes who be doing the absolute most for no reason smh
@@lovelydiva06 I was angry at first but as I said my daughter was not hurt. The girls who pushed her down were young Black girls no more than 12 to 13 years old. At that age they don't fully understand the consequences and possible repercussions of their actions.
I had to prove to my family that all of me is real. 😤 I loc'd my hair, 11 years ago, and had to prove that I wasn't wearing four year old braids like a homeless person might. I've even cut my locs five times and they, still, pass my bra line. 🙄 I had to prove that my nails and lashes were real and that I wasn't wearing a waist trainer and poking my behind out. They fixed into their own minds that I was ugly and too dark but never appeared that way, in person. It's like they were shocked to see beauty in me. It let me know that they thought I was ugly, growing up, and I feel nothing but hate around them. At every funeral, wedding, whatever, they're like, "she tryna poke out here butt... She thinks she's cute. Lemme pinch your waist." I've had a bbl shaped body since I was 13 and it's brought nothing but shame to me. Saddens me. I always get asked about my hair and body as if I paid for any of this. I'm just tryna exist, dang!
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This insidious obsession with black hair is bordering on psychotic. I've never bought into length checks or wig snatching videos. And for some black women to be perpetuating it is a form of Stockholm syndrome for real 😔
Your right I think someone needs to send a psyche doctor to help them out. I have never seen so much time and attention invested in someone else’s scalp. And most of them are just prejudiced or demeaning. If I go through cancer or autoimmune diseases I would cancel someone’s subscription to move able legs if they did that to me.
self hatred...
Rather u like it or not. Hair is a beauty standard. Girls do the same shit to men too. Its fair game 🤷🏾♂️
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Facts…Someone get it! Self acceptance is key for real!!!!
I went to school with my hair partially blown out and it was mid back and everyone was saying my hair wasnt real even though it had some visible coils left. It was so annoying and out of all the black girls that should know about our type of hair a white guy was the only one that said my natural hair is my own and that it was beautiful. I have been friends with him since then.
That's the only way they get validated. Constantly body shaming black women. It's all JEALOUSY. They just can't deal with it. I am only sorry for some black women who totally forgot that they are fearfully and wonderfully made also by GOD ALMIGHTY
I am so sorry black women go though so much struggle and disrespect. I personally love curly black hair, I find it beautiful, it is pretty, do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You are gorgeous. Say it and believe it. 💖 Saludos desde México mis queridas hermanas bellas 🇲🇽💜
Thank you so much 💓
Gracias bonita
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Jessica por favor no hables de lo qué no sabes.
@@sarcasticallyrearranged I guess we should stop supporting people. Ok
At my old job, my coworker who was black compared my straightened hair to my white coworker and literally said “why is her longer than yours and you’re white?” She was laughing and I was in complete disbelief… smh
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Ew, people can be so ignorant! Ugh
I think she used you to take a jab at that white coworker like, "Ha take that!" Weird momemt. Why she felt compelled to do that? Idk only you could guess since you worked with the two of them.
its just jealousy. I remember when I was in uni, I always straightened my long wavy hair and put it in a pony tail. as we were all standing in the auditorium, someone behind me pulled my pony tail. probably thought it was fake and thought they'd be funny. joke was on them when they realised it was ALL REAL!! lol so I rubbed in the burn by taking out my rubber band, shaking my hair out and retying my pony tail hahahahaha
Classic!!!!
I had someone pull my ponytail in high school trying to pull it off, and when it didn’t come off they got mad. In college someone said “she thinks she looks cute with her weave.” Another time I went on a blind date and got weave checked. Then these two women were convinced I was Belizean. When I told them I wasn’t and I was Black American, they said it wasn’t possible because I’m pretty with long hair 🤬
Madness!!! I’m Belizean and have 4C hair that grows out into a fro. We be the worse to ourselves, I swear.
Wow. This has got to be the best and worst comment I've seen. I've had to deal with the Belizean issue to and the "what are you mixed with" bs. I'm black...and very thankful
My ex boyfriend flirted with a pretty black woman as a joke to make me jealous, she joked with him and the first thing he said to me after realizing he went too far was: "don't worry her hair is probably fake and I don't even like girls with short hair" like wtf is wrong with him... ☠️
My hair is waist length and I honestly think divesting from all forms of toxicity helped to aid in my rapid hair growth 🤷🏽♀️
I remember girls in my class in middle school parting my hair to look for tracks. They were surprised, and jealous. It was horrible😮💨
I used to wear braids many years ago. I took my hair down and decided to press it. Went to Monday morning and sat in my cubicle and a co worker walked pass and grabbed my hair and almost gave me whiplash. I asked why did you do that? Her answer.....I thought it was a wig. Well if it was you would have walked away with it in your hands. People were amazed my hair was as long as it was. At the time I was wearing braids to keep from damaging my hair and my hair got thicker and longer. The 3 perms I have had in my lifetime damaged my hair. I never had anymore perms and continued to wear my braids. I was also asked why do you wear braids if you have long hair.....because I chose to wear my hair low maintenance.... it works for me.
The fact that ppl feel a need to “check” if ur hair is real is seriously disturbing
Honestly where the hell do you guys live that people are doing these things to you?
First of all why would you even let her walk away by pulling on your hair I would have grabbed her up real quick.
Oh girl I would have lost my job. She thought she was going to make you the laughing stalk.
@@vanessawhetstone4251 what you say!!! Facts.
As a blk woman with natural hair that is waist Length I can say this video is SPOT on. When my hair is straightened I always get the "that can't be all of your hair" or the slick "can I feel it" then proceeds to run their hand from scalp to tip to feel for tracks. Ww and blk men do this the most but believe it or not even some sistas have done it.
I’ll never forget someone tried to snatch my wig off in middle school. But I wasn’t wearing one. They pulled my hair so hard I started crying. The teacher did nothing
Ladies if anyone rips your wig off instead of laughing or running after them I say play the soft feminine card and start crying. Slowly sit on the floor hands on head and cry. 100% victimize yourself and get these people canceled. Idc if it’s “not that big of a deal “ break down and cry make these mf look bad.
Yes!!!!
Don't let your guy run after them, either. It makes the prankster look stupid if he runs off with a wig and no one chases him.
This exaggerated war of the sexes that goes on in the black community in the USA is so weird, from the outside, and this wig-pulling game is the kind of thing that would never happen in Brazil.
i wish someone would try me like that. people are so sickeningly pleasured by the humiliation of black women. i don't care if you think my hair is real or not, i don't owe you an explanation. i don't have to prove anything to ANYONE
There is a black youtuber with hair down to her knees. She goes by Indigenous Strandz. Anyone can have extremely long hair (butt or longer) no matter your race or hair texture. People think their hair is short because of genetics. Nope. The majority of the time, it's how you take care of it.
Thank you and I love her content
Yes using similar methods to her has helped my hair grow a lot
I had an ex friend with a super misogynistic and partially racist brother who said that black womens hair is meant to be short and we’re trying to meet European standards by growing our hair long.. meanwhile he’s black as well. Even after giving him every single detail I could he was willfully ignorant towards the topic. Some people just want to stay in their ways.
Wow! He was an extreme idiot.
I think wanting long hair has to do with wanting power. I mean that’s partially what it means on a spiritual level. Idk bout that tryna be yt stuff that’s honestly a stretch
Wow. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's so disappointing seeing other black people hate their own people and themselves.
Glad they're an ex-friend!
😭someone literally told me I’m tryna look European 😘because my hair is long like what this my real hair
I also want to add that it’s okay to have short kinky coils hair too. Not everyone who has short natural hair is some sort of sell out who didn’t try hard enough to care for or grow out their hair. My self worth doesn’t have to begin and end with my looks and hair length. It’s not my job to school every negative assumption some ignorant bigot or self loathing misogynist has about me. Know your value and learn to be comfortable in your skin even when you aren’t slaying or meeting some fleeting beauty standard that will mean nothing in this wide expanse of time. Life is short, spend more time having more meaningful experiences, finding the joy from within.
PROVING to a bunch of strangers that my hair is real? Couldn’t be me. Believe what you want idgaf
Why are people always attacking the femininity of black woman? I've dealt with this since I was young and it's like I've had to double down on being as feminine as possible.