Natural Hair Jealousy Is Real
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2024
- Today I will be addressing the hair jealousy surrounding Type 4 hair🤎
Timestamps🤎:
0:00 Intro
1:10 Definition Of Jealousy
1:20 “Nice Nasty” Compliments
4:08 Negative Comments
7:02 Insults
9:08 Staring
10:36 Hairstyles
16:16 My opinions
18:58 Subscriber Comments
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Sometimes they're just mad you have the audacity to wear your hair. They don't even want it, but they can't understand why you do. I had a preteen biracial ask me, "You really like wearing your hair like that?" When she found out I was going to cut my afro, she was so excited. I was indecisive for a few months, and she would be disappointed when I'd come back to visit and still had my fro. When I finally did get my low cut...Chile the disturbingly, relieved, smile that crept across her face 👀
I think long 4b hair is beautiful, I love it! Not saying short hair is not beautiful
That’s DEEP!
WOW! interesting
Sweetheart I would’ve told her my hair goes with ALL of features and it compliments me!!
I've seen that smile before as well
I’m a black American woman who has always wore my natural 4C hair texture. My inspiration was taken from watching 1970s black American culture. I loved the femininity, grace, and beauty of black American women in that era especially the natural 4C Afro.
I love that era as well…who were some of your favorite inspirations? I may have to incorporate this in my beauty standards video🤎
One of my favorite inspirations was Pam Grier in her afro as Foxy Brown during the 70's.
@@kristlejackson1990 I love her too 🤎🤎🤎
I❤❤❤❤❤❤❤my hair and people hate when they can't tear you down. Mo hair and don't give a care!!!
Yall seen old 70s and 80s photos of Chaka Khan? Let me tell ya WHEEEEEEW!!!
Our natural hair is a connection to nature
I agree 🤎🤎🤎
It's because our hair is exotic.
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No one else has it!!!!
I have long thick 4a natural hair and I dealt with a lot of nice nasty hair stylists in the past. They will make comments about my hair being too long, too thick, and blamed me because it took them a long time to do my hair. They would often overcharge me as well. They would also cut a lot more than what I asked for off. I also had a really bad experience with a stylist earlier this year where she not only talked bad about about my hair being too long and thick, she braided my hair too tight to the point that I was in pain and couldn’t even sleep at night. I was getting faux locs but she put my real hair in cornrows before attaching the faux locs to my hair. I took the style down and some of my hair came out. It wasn’t a lot but I literally cried when I saw that some of my hair came out after a DAY of wearing faux locs. Fortunately I started going to my sister in law to do my faux locs, twists, and braids. I wash, detangle, and trim my own hair now. I can do plaits which is what I do to my hair after I wash it but I can’t do other braid hair styles so that’s why I go to my sister in law. I also came across nice nasty strangers and ex friends who would ask me if my hair was real or if it was a wig. I have also been denied jobs in the past for wearing my natural hair. When I first did my big chop, I got nothing but nasty comments of people comparing me to Side Show Bob and calling me “ bald headed “. I was literally bullied when my hair was a TWA and I use to get a lot of stares and people would laugh at me with their friends. That motivated me to grow my long hair and now I just get nice nasty comments. I still get stares now after I grew my hair long and often times I’m the only one rocking my natural hair when I walk into a room.
lol girl look in the mirror and see if you look like me 😂 this is my story to the Tea!
Ngl when I see a black woman wear her hair out, I tend to stare (in awe because it's grogeous). But I also wear my natural hair soooo... I have an excuse? 🙈
I'm glad you wear your hair with pride
So true, I have had stylists do the same, and I started doing my own hair.
Omg this is literally my life 😩 I got teased in school for being bald headed, pointing fingers at me, and yes laugh with their friends. My hair is long now I get hate from black preteens, teenagers and adults (I’m 24) the stares I receive are just .. out of spite. Damn if you do have hair damn if you don’t 🤷♀️
Yes, the only one in the room wearing my natural hair.😮
Has anyone ever had non Black women start playing and tossling their hair when you are around? I have gotten the masculina comment when Im minding my business, nothing masculine about me..they feel intimidated and want to humble you.
I notice it all the time. If your hair looked bad, they wouldn't care.
I like to let them all see how easily my hair moves: It's bouncing & behaving hair!! (That's a line in a shampoo commercial from the 1970s.) 😉
Yes I have noticed this smh 🤦🏾♀️ thanks for mentioning this one…and it definitely is an attempted humbling tactic 🤎
I get it all the time and come to realize, wow my hair doesn’t get lice!!
I most definitely noticed it. As soon as I see them do it, it makes me thankful for my hair that it doesn’t get lice.
I believe there is jealousy towards black women who wear their natural texture hair because they stand out compared to other races of women. Sonia Barbie Tucker truly radiates exoticness, femininity, grace, elegance, class, and pride with her natural textured afro. She is the woman who encouraged me to embrace my natural beauty. There is an earthy and ethnic beauty that radiates when a black woman wears her natural hair. 🖤
I love Sonia Barbie Tucker. She is an absolute beauty.🌷🙏🏾
We absolutely do stand out especially when we wear it in a fro. I stopped wearing my afro in high school because I got so much attention and then random people started to touch it (I was a teen who didn't know how to establish boundaries).
When I'm around other American Black women who usually wear weave, false eyelashes, and chemical covered nails, they never make any comments about me wearing my natural hair in twists up in my natural hair protective style. So I continue to wear my natural hair, make DIY hair care products, and wash, dry, and set my own hair without giving a damn who likes or dislikes me for embracing how the Natural Organic Divine Source Creator and Mother Earth created me.
Same. It’s SO quiet around the baddies. BUT, I salute them because I also know that they are still in their heart space about what we are doing and who we all are as sisters.
The naysayers will realize one day that weaves,braids ,wigs, and perms will be their detriment!
I agree🤎🤎🤎
Braids are cultural expression. Wigs/weaves though we created them no longer are. We hide behind them. Relaxers. No comment.
When a whole group of women assimilates (forced or otherwise) to your aesthetic, I imagine it inflates one's ego. You can say "I'm the best in the world. Everyone loves me or wants to look like me" what a jarring experience when that same assimilating group starts to say, actually no, I love my look the best in the world, and that look happens to be something that cannot be duplicated and is the antithesis of the status quo. So many people's ego boosts are predicated on deflating or keeping in check blk women's self worth/esteem.
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I agree 💯 percent 🤎
Hairstylists are the worst. Like you said go to a stylist who knows what they are doing. Also long thick hair is very enviable. Regardless of texture.
A woman's hair is her glory, Scripture teaches us. Be cautious about who you allow to get that close to you. 💡
I agree🤎
Go to a stylist that LOVES Afro hair.
Blk American n proud to rock my 4c I can careless about these haters . Y’all cannot ever shame me with god blessed me with a head full of super thick king 4c hair .
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I have small size locs that I have been taking care of for 5 years 5 months now I started with ear length hair now my locs are armpit length & still growing I get stares some ask if my hair is real I guess because I am Carmel brown skin tone I’m not supposed to have long hair it is ridiculous
I really would like to do a video highlighting locs. If you want to share your experiences please email me at coffeecuties777@gmail.com
Yes please share your experience 😊
19 years old here. I stopped wearing weaves in 11th grade. I wear my hair in an afro basically everyday if not then it's twist. Tell me why every now and then at my job I have mostly foreign African black women who have in weaves majority of tims coming up to me saying "oh you wear hair natural, yknow I can do braids, lace fronts, crotchet, etc" or when I keep my twist in for a long time and it gets into the dreading phase (which I personally love) some older black women come up to me saying stuff like "Oh don't dread up that pretty hair". It's really disgusting tbh, I guess to them wearing my hair natural means I can't afford or find anybody to put a weave in it and if I want my hair to look like locs it's my business.
Thanks for sharing your experience and smh it’s really sad that a lot of people assume we all want a weave and if we don’t wear them we must be broke …it’s actually the opposite for a lot of us because we are saving so much money by embracing our natural hair🤎
I am a Black woman. I am everything.
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I can definitely relate to the people constantly accusing you of having weave. Women typically know but black men and nonblack people constantly be trying me lol. I don’t know if it’s envy but people definitely don’t expect black darker skinned women to have long hair.
It's an insult
They just mad because they cant fit you in the “bald headed” stereotype.
I actually feel like I want to do an act of vi0lence when blk men pull that bull ish.
@@444lex yeeeep!! They always want something to look down on.
I’ve learned that this world operates in a hierarchal mentality. Someone, which is usually a black woman, as to remain at the bottom of the hierarchy for others to remain at the top. A lot of people gain a sense of “self esteem “ by seeing black women, especially dark skinned women, remain at the bottom. When black women start living themselves, embracing their natural beauty, leveling up, etc then it will cause a shift in the hierarchy.
Girl, no matter I’m gonna show up and shine in my natural hair that’s in my DNA..look or not look, compliment or not, I really don’t care. I love complimenting my beautiful sisters rocking their natural hair. Walk in confidence with any style you wanna rock. Keep your head held high and embrace your crown. Enjoy the journey.
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Trying to humble black women by downgrading our hair will never work. Our hair is definitely our antenna/connection to spirit. As Halle Bailey said in her song “Heaven wears your halo. They know you’re an Angel.” 🤎
I remember 2004 to 2006, in Seattle at a Black church I faced bullying from our pastor wife the first Lady. She was light skinned and wore perms and sow in weaves with occasional wigs. During those years I was wearing short dreads in a bob,, two or 4 inch afro that I pinned into a French roll. It was a women's night service and the first lady was preaching in the pulpit talking about. She made remarks like , " some of you all wo dwr why you haven't met you husband yet. You need to do something with your hair. I'd you can't afford to get a perm from the salon go buy a box perm" I was like what is going on. She talking about me. It was not an issue of money, but I wanted healthy natural and to preserve it. I had 2 grandmother's both lived beyond 90 years one never permed her hair. The other permed her hair and heat pressed it too. The one with no perm ever but pressed it for occasion She had hair . The other grandmother who used excessive heat and chemicals did not have any hair on top. I didn't want to be bald in the top in the age of 40's from relaxing hair. I stop perms in 2002. Thank Jesus I been 20 plus years without a perm
straightening hair to keep black men that don't like black women is crazy. Lightskin bw self esteem relied on skin/hair back then. Today, latin/white women are more accessible and that lady husband is most likely cheating on her today with the women she straightens her to emulate. Our natural hair is appreciated by everyone else but our own.
In my city they want you bald. I stopped letting anyone touch my hair here. " I have to cut your hair or else I cant do it"
Me:🖕🏾
Smh 🤦🏾♀️ I guess this is a problem everywhere 🤎
Yep. Don’t go to hair stylists with dry heads. They will cut all your hair off.
I agree smh 🤦🏾♀️
Yesss! I recently began wearing my long, type 4 hair out again and I feel the most beautiful and confident with my own hair. I think this says a lot because I feel beautiful and confident most of the time, regardless of how I wear my hair (I thank my upbringing and family for this) 😂😂
I do think our hair can
easily make those close to us a bit jealous. Our hair is an attention grabber, and if you’re around people who crave attention… you know the rest. It’s all good though. Just don’t let anyone dim your light, because they will try. ✨
When I did the big chop in the early 2000s, I was surprised at how many black beauticians said they didn't do natural hair. Many just didn't want to switch over. I, now, see more and more naturals and I think it's due to seeing these natural styles more on tv. Truth is, what is often shown in the media is what people gravitate towards.
The woman in the visuals of this video are BEAUTIFUL 😍
Yess! That's right, you better tell em' ! Get some sunglasses bc we're SHINING over here!!
The woman who said white and asian women come up to her and ask if her hair is real. I cannot help but laugh. They probably are genuinely concerned but it comes off as funny.
I had a Mexican woman ask was my hair real I don’t find it funny at all because they also believe blk women can’t grow hair
@@fatimamanneh9432 ...And so do many black people... 🙄
@@fatimamanneh9432Any time a nonblack woman asks that question, I just respond with “thank you.” Doesn’t matter what my hair is at that moment “thank you”.
@@fatimamanneh9432Honestly you even have black folks who say black women cant grow long hair. That is worse in itself.
@@gmcmim1 I dont like that and if someone that look like them wanna touch....watch me go from quiet to nUtZ
I learned how to do my own 4c hair and it has saved me money!!!!
It saved me so much money as well🤎🤎
Thank you for your bold commentary & what a great channel! Today my natural hair is in menopause but making a comeback. When I was working, I had a black woman urge me to straighten my hair for a promotion! I didn't get the job, but I kept my pride, dignity & afro!
That’s awesome and thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
My puff is HUGE AND BEAUTIFUL. I don't like when certain people touch it. Don't let me straighten it ...they think that I'm a sucka! Til I open my mouth. I rocks ruff and stuff with my afro puff. Straight up 😶
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My own mother spent the first 3-4 years (I went natural in 2013) of me being natural calling it ugly, messy and ghetto in order to bully me back into the creamy crack. My mom suffers from self hate and absolutely hates being a dark skin black woman (which I understand because people around her made her feel ugly by bullying her due to her features. It took her to stop using relaxers due to major hair loss for me to have peace about my hair. Most of the time when I wear my natural hair out, women tend to glare at me, no matter the race. Natural hair jealousy is definitely real
Okay they say natural hair is childish but usually when a woman wears her natural hair she tends to look younger, like if you always wear wigs and stuff you tend to look older than your actual age
Love this video. Very true.
Thank you 🤎🤎🤎
I agree with you 💯💯
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My hair is better. My puff is huge huge and my hair is longer than most of these white girls in my area. I like my hair more than rhan i like most people
Thank You,😍 Coffee Cuties With Blessings Overflowing.
That’s right!! Exposure is also sharing information!❤❤❤💯💯🥰🥰
African girl here, I started my hair journey last year July 1 and it’s been one year. My Afro has gotten bigger!!!? 😊😊❤
I was shocked when I saw my Afro.
Thanks for commenting and that’s so awesome 🤎👑👑
@@CoffeeCuties777 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
We are speaking of all black women,no matter what complexion, right?
I hope so, because my family has a lot of skin colors.
But I think I get the point.
Thanks for commenting and yes I include monoracial black women with all shades and features on my channel. I also have lighter skin family members who are full black as well🤎
BLACK 100%✨
@@CoffeeCuties777the facts that you have to explain that is ridiculous
Keep shining bright! 😎
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Love the video. Such beautiful images.
Thank you 🤎🤎🤎
I been knew there was jealousy of long, type 4 hair.
Coffee Cutie, I absolutely love and adore your community even though I consider myself to be a healthy divested black American woman. See my image uplifted brings me joy, peace, and happiness.
Thank you 🤎🤎🤎
Thanks for this video. Our hair issues need to be in our talks all the time.❤❤
Thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
Quite frankly, people aren't jealous of short type 4 hair, only when it's big and/or long.
Not sure about this. I remember whenever I was in 9th grade, I shaved my head and decided to wear my natural hair for the first time. Everyone liked it except these black girls who would laugh and make fun of me for wearing my natural hair out. I think she was jealous that I was brave enough to embrace my short natural hair.
@@trahadbad To me, your story *definitely* doesn't sound like jealousy, but plain ignorance. If they were jealous they would give you evil looks, like many black women are doing when they're being envious of other black women.
Short natural hair is not being seen as feminine.
Since 2020…..I retired……No more Relaxed hair,…..so liberating,……I love it I wear it in twisted Style,,,..it is growing,,,.and I’m loving it,…..and yes it is Growing,….,❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My friend said I’m fake when I wore my big puffy ponytail after taking my wig install out???
Confused me.
Wow smh 🤦🏾♀️
Friend? 😬
That's not your friend.
Hi I'm new to your channel but I'm glad to hear you talk about this topic I had a experience just the other day I was out running errands I had just done my hair in a twist out it😊 was full and fluffy and difined yt women walk past me look at my hair i glanced back and caught patting and running her fingers through her hair it was clear to see she was insecure after she saw my hair i love showing off my hair so theres not many natural women where i live so alot of people are shocked to see me with long natural hair
Thanks for commenting and yep a lot of people get insecure seeing a black women embrace their natural hair and beauty 🤎
Another excellent video
Thank you 🤎
Omg YES! 😭15:20 - 15:39
Okay here’s my similar story on that.
Last summer ago I had got my first sew in in the month of June to August and after that first time I realized when I washed my hair the front of my hair was longer and straight from the rest of my original hair texture and It was heat damage and then I have gotten a second sew in from last August to October I didn’t get that much heat damage and now recently I just took out my sew in and….I had more heat damaged so I just decided to stop getting sew ins, bc the tracks I had was called Empire and my hair wasn’t even matching with the tracks that’s why I was always putting heat everyday to blend in the tracks, but I also put heat protection on it but I guess that ain’t work so now I’m just gonna let it grow to its texture that is supposed to be. And I have a head full of hair as well and ppl was jealous of my hair especially other black girls when I was in school.
Also I subscribe to your channel ✨🤎
Thanks for subscribing and the front heat damage is the WORSE but doing a lot of braid/twist downs will get you through that phase until it grows back 🤎🤎🤎🤎
New here 🙋🏾♀️. It’s sad we even have to have this conversation in 2024. I’ve been natural for 20 years now…loose and now loc’ed. I can careless what people think especially when they rock their insecurities on their shoulders. Life is too short to entertain ignorance.
I agree that unfortunately there hasn’t been more progression up until this point but that’s what pages like this is focused on changing so we can move forward 🤎
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ they jealous. The end. This video should have been you saying just that.😂. 2 seconds.
Have you noticed how eEEEveryone is "curly" today?
My hair is better
When we cover up our hair as much as we do, people are simply shocked to see it 🤷♀️
I can see that and I understand being enamored by our hair but I don’t understand why you have to display characters of jealousy simply because a black woman is embracing her own beauty 🤎
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Idk what is natural hair jealousy but I've seen some girls calling natural girls pick mes for not wearing wigs all the time
The next time someone comes “side ways” about my God Given Hair, I’m going to tell them to take it up with the creator!
Good one🤎🤎🤎🤎
It's very different than there's
I agree 🤎
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Right they Jelly
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Crown of fur, brillo pad 🤮🦧🍌
Huh 🤔
Track test? Wth is that
Showing your scalp to prove you don’t have any weave in your hair🤎
👑 Song of Solomon 7:5 👑
They Be so bothered.
I agree 🤎🤎🤎
There used to be human zoos.
lol 😂 who use to be zoo animals
@@CoffeeCuties777 I don't understand why you are laughing. Google it. They put us Black people in human zoo exhibits in the 1900s. Why is that funny?
@@CoffeeCuties777 I don't understand why you are laughing, and what is funny about us being in human zoo exhibits. The last one closed in 1958. Google it.
@@CoffeeCuties777 I replied to this out in the comments since it kept disappearing here.
@@CoffeeCuties777 Black men and women and children
three words : societal beauty standards