And yes black women are held to ridiculous standards but it's usually us upholding them. Until we could accept afro hair in states of low or no manipulation then the standard will probably stand.
I started a new job 2 weeks ago with my natural hair. I was so nervous my first week that someone will call me out or comment on my hair. But no one did. It finally made me feel like it's just hair. I wash my hair in less than an hour because i don't wash in sections. I still haven't started losing any hair. Anyway I feel free..I'm even toying with washing my hair more that once a week.
That’s why so many black women can’t grow their hair past a certain length, they’re not comfortable with not looking like an ig model 24/7. All the women I see with long hair allow their hair to just be. It’s not always perfect, edges are not always laid, sometimes it’s frizzy….I’m only saying this because a lot of black women are frustrated about not being able to grow their hair and they don’t get why. Maybe leave it alone and stop trying to look picture perfect all the time. Maybe stop holding other black women to unrealistic beauty standards.
This!☝🏽 sweetheart this was me until I gave up and decided to do whatever I wanted to do. So I big chopped all of heat trained hair and went bad to large box braids. Now my hair is thriving!
Bw need to be urged to grow their hair organically and stop wearing weave it really doesn't look good on them especially when it gets snatched on in public and they become a laughing stock. Grow to love your curls and all other hairstyles that are native to you.
Whew! This was me 🥲 I decided to let my relaxed pixie cut grow out naturally and it took all I had to not relax or cut it when it got to that awkward length. I don’t wear weave so I had to learn to love it and push through it.
That's actually true. My hair would be considered long and I rarely have my hair "fixed to tye nines" or slicked back and styled. I do a lot of natural hairstyles and barely bother with my hair too much
Also when black women decide we want to wear our natural hair you still get judged by other black folks, your edges have to be laid and swooped, your curl pattern has to be perfect, etc it’s so annoying to be judged so harshly. It’s just hair
My dad took me to a Dominican salon at 9 without talking to my mom first. My hair is wavy and very puffy/frizzy. They straightened my hair to DEATH! My waist length hair cracked all the way up to my breast and my mom tried to fix it and cut it to my collar bones. I was so sad because that was my hair from birth, I never had a haircut before that. The Dominicans can be hard on Afro hair.
They put relaxer in your hair without telling you. It's mixed into the products they use to wash hair with. I found this out after having my hair destroyed by them. Once I noticed my hair wouldn't go back to it's natural state (4c) I cut off the dead parts and never went back 😭
It’s true that we are expected to have perfect hair days. Every time I have bad hair days, I have panic attacks because I know that someone is going to have something to say. I started wearing hats hiding my hair when I’m having a bad hair day. I will never forget when I went to the store with my hair in a messy bun and I saw a black family and started hiding and panicking. I usually do my hair especially when I’m going to do the store but that day I was just quickly running to the store to grab one thing because I ran out of sauce when I was cooking. I’m so tired of the unrealistic expectations placed on black women.
Had a regular stylist that promised to grow my thick hair long and healthy. He instead gave me horrible heat damage. I fired him. Started my hair journey by doing my own large box braids with minimal add in. After a year or so went to a “stylist” and the 🚩 should’ve been her own hair that was trash. She jacked my hair up and cut 3” off trying to trim. Haven’t went to another stylist since then. It’s been a year and a half. It takes about 10+ hours to wash, finger detangle, and braid my hair. NO HEAT. My hair is healthy, thick long and beautiful! Learn to maintain your own hair and stop trusting “stylists” they are just that and only for looks!
The blowout one is heart wrenching yo wow… imagine that): I do sometimes wonder if these hairstylists hate their clients. Like a spiritual jealousy. Not Dominicans but just any hairstylists in general. Has anyone ever had a hairstylist be blasé w their hair or downright rough/damaging?
I had a hair stylist that was recommended by someone's hair that looked really good so I went to her and in the shampoo bowl this stylist said she wanted to cut my hair and I said no "because you guys are usually very scissor happy" Mind you this is the first time I ever went to her and she said to me "well it's just going to break if you don't" and so I still refused. I had not been to a hair stylist in years because I know how they can really mess your hair up and then make their clients dependent on wigs and weaves and losing the edges of their hairlines. This girl was unusually rough with my hair after I said what I said. She was combing my hair out my coils really fast. I unconsciously knew she was taking her anger out on me because I didn't let her do what she wanted to do with my hair and charge me more for the cut of course; and she's going to "show me she was right." When coming out very curly hair you have to take your time but I was thinking " Oh she's probably got the right tools and I'll be okay, she's a professional. That's what I was thinking. I was supposed to get spirals and she kept talking about the girl that recommended me how this girl's hair was and it was longer than mine and all this junk. Mind you, she had fake blue hair all the way down to her butt. I noticed it seemed like she was applying the the spirals tubes way too tight and I told her so but she only listened her grip just a little but she was still way too heavy-handed with my hair. I was actually in extreme pain but I had had braids before and those are painful so I said to myself " Maybe this is what this is supposed to be like." I'm thinking she's knowing what she's doing but she still seemed angry to me because I wouldn't let her cut my hair. She wasn't really conversational with me until the end of the process. I get home and I noticed that my hair is breaking off all over my head a lot and that I had to cut it myself (mind you I never had this problem when I was doing my own hair) Fast forward to today and it's been a year over a year since I had this terrible experience in the salon. After this experience with the stylist I had a head full of single single strand knots. I've been snipping them off gradually for a whole year. She just damaged every single strand on my head deliberately. My hair is in the worst shape and it's ever been. I didn't know that it was possible for a so-called trained professional to be so evil. I went to this woman and good faith & I paid the price for not speaking up and walking out.... ...And now I wonder if I have traction alopecia from her pulling my hair so tight in those rods to get that spiral look. This experience makes me never want to go to a salon again. I'm thinking that I probably need to go to a dermatologist now cuz my hair has never been the same since I went to this evil/unprofessional girl. My first thought when she was so rough with my hair was to leave the salon and walk out. It was a crowded salon I should have went with my first thought now my hair has suffered possibly for life...
@@kimmcfadden7679 hey Kim, I feel for your experience. I know how it feels to realize a salon experience messed your hair up. It is so disheartening. But take heed, so long as you’re breathing, your hair can be renewed and perfectly healthy again. You tried being kind and giving the benefit of the doubt. What ifs do no good because it was not your fault! She didn’t take care of you like she should’ve. Pray and ask God to heal it fr. I can testify he revitalized my hair after it was in a very bad state. Kept breaking after a salon visit. I asked Jesus, Lord help me. Idk what to do. My hair is healthier than ever now about two years later. That’s just my testimony though, God can move differently in your life w timing. My point is don’t give up. It ain’t over yet!!!!! ♥️♥️ thanks for sharing your experience luv.
@@godiswithyou.5358 Believe you me it has taken me over a year and a half to get my hair back in shape but I've learned a lot since then on how to take care of my own hair since that awful experience. I could write a book...
I use to be in the modeling industry and would have to keep my hair out of the way. There were many times where designers, scouts, etc., would request that I shave my head to either be bald or cropped low enough to be considered a fade. And there were also those that wouldn't want it out unless it looks 3b, 3c. Which would usually involve them wetting my hair and putting mousse on getting a curling iron. Now I just do my own hair or have them pin it for me
Went “natural” so as to AVOID those torturous blowouts at salons that are obsessed with European standards. After 10 years, the biggest takeaways include: Divest in others opinions 🤣. Do what you want with your hair. Feel free to not like your hair. Feel free to rock a powered wig. This is about where your time and energy goes. Your choice.
A good tip I have is using a shower cap along with your bonnet or scarf for oils or any leave in products. At night, I noticed that my bonnet would be a darker color after any product I would put in my hair. So, I started using a plastic shower cap underneath and it was a life changer! It'll hold all of the excess product that slides off your hair at night.🙌🏾
This!☝🏽 when I use my heat protectant, (the l'oreal spray) i spray my hair and mix it in with my leave-in conditioner, then I blow dry. After my hair is blown dried, if I'm pressing my hair for a trim, I spray some more and let it set before I press it out. I noticed that mixing it in my leave-in and spraying it right before the blow drying step saved my hair.🙌🏾
In response to that last clip, there is this girl I work with and she *literally* has that " anything you can do, I can do better" attitude. She "sneak dissed" me once, I let it slide because the guys are around gotta keep it cute! 🤭 But one day she tried it again and I confronted her right away. She tried to clean that mess right away because this time we were alone, and she knows I could mop the floor with her if I wanted to. She still does little stuff for attention like a child. And we're in our 30s yaw! 🤦🏾 If you are struggling with any childhood trauma I pray for healing in your mind in spirit. Peace be with you on your journey to a clear and positive mindset. In Jesus' name amen
I just big chopped for the 3rd time after growing it out to bsl, thick and healthy. Finally figured out how to care for my hair properly and it grew the longest it had ever been. Decided to get a silk press last year professionally (whenever I did it I never got it silky but my curls always came back) and home girl burnt tf out of my hair, severe heat damage and thinning. I transitioned this past year and cut all the damage off. Starting all over again. I don’t hate hairstylists but literally EVERY time I have gone to one, they have fucked up my hair in some way. This is once again a pledge to myself to never go to a stylist 😅 Edit: after hearing what you said at 29:00 girl I swear off all stylists lmao I’ve made this pledge before but after trying stylist after stylist with undesirable results, I’m sticking to my hands only lol
Btw your smile is radiant. Beautiful woman. And yes doing your own hair is a God given gift. I love doing mine. Saves so much $$$ and your hair thrives.
I don't get it... Why straighten hair in the modelling industry. Put a wig on and it saves a shit ton more time. Then you're not wasting time, damaging hair and black women can have their hair how they want. Plus you can switch it up through campaigns.
I remember reading that the Mean Girl’s wig cost that most. I was like “but that’s not even a lot of hair!!! Why would it cost that much?” And I don’t GAD about having fuzzy braids or my hair being a bit messy sometimes. Nobody cares for my hair but me and my stylist, so bump what anyone says
The actual cost was $10,000 while insuring it for 20K. The hair color was light, making it rarer and more expensive. And if they used a contracted studio wig maker to make it by hand, then it would cost even more.
I'm sure a lot of work went into that wig and she wanted it to look like her real hair growing out of her head and not fake looking. It takes a lot of work to make it look realistic with "close ups) for the part she was playing in the movie.
Halle Bailey's little mermaid hair cost 150,000 dollars and then they used editing for it under water The lesson I learned is that in big budget productions, what may look like normal hair to the average people like us, the directors (mostly because it's not their money) spend tons on it. Also maybe because production lasts for so long and the hair must be maintained and changed.
My hair is not necessarily heat trained, but the only time I get a silk press is when I need to cut my ends. I hardly wash my own hair anymore, and since being pregnant, my hair has grown a lot due to the prenatal vitamins. It's hard to find a natural hair stylist nowadays that wash style n does braids. I'm glad I stuck to the stylist that has been doing my hair for the longest.
My forever stylist flat ironed my already flat ironed hair (for a cut) a couple years ago and I decided to limit the straightening after seeing some heat damage. Now I just dust my twists and it’s been easier to detangle. We don’t need to straighten our hair (with tons of heat) to cut it.
@@cmg25 I know I don't need to straightened it, I have dry cuts before because I'm natural. But I have a natural hair stylist that knows what she's doing, I don't have no heat damage at all. I straightened my hair twice a year. In between there are dry cuts. And remember everyone does what they want with their hair, it's their choice whether they straightened for a cut or not.
I got my hair burnt off for years with modeling. I said enough was enough when the next day after a show, I washed my hair and my edges literally fell out in my hands. I wear box braids now and my hair has absolutely flourished
My hair was sooooo damaged from getting the Dominican blow outs and they didn't tell me. One day I did it myself and my hair was so choppy all the way throughout it.
I literally got my hair straightened there as a teen and as my hair has grown out more I realized how crappy the layers are. My hair is still uneven as hell!
I absolutely love your videos. They’re so in-depth and I love how you tackle multiple topics in one video. It gives me insight on the hair journeys of other women & keeps me updates on hair topics on tiktok(since I don’t have TikTok). ❤️❤️ my new favorite model is Adut Akech. And the question of heat protectants being a placebo is definitely something to explore
I have never once cared about the opinion of some who has nothing to do with my hair. The easiest hair style is my puff. I don’t put gel to slick it down. I go to work with it fuzzy some times. Normalize what you like.
Amen ! I am all for women being elegant and put together, but the standards for black women are way too high: be natural, but only if you have "good" hair, wear straight weave/wigs but it should look natural if we know damn well it's not your real wear, glue your wig so well that you get alopecia, wear straight wear but only if it's your natural hair straightened, wear straight hair but be ashamed if you hair fake hair, wear your natural 4c hair but only if you have a twist out or some kind of curls defined hair style, edges must be laid, messy buns are a no-no if you have type 4c, no bad hair day allowed, yes even if you are a kid. Let's not even talk how children, CHILDREN are bullied by grown ass people because their hair looked not "good" enough. I am talking of Blu Ivy and the H&M girl.
Chile I remember I threw my hair into two curly pigtails and this girl I knew( frienemy- no we not cool) was staring way to hard to say “ your part crooked”. I said “ I know I wasn’t aiming for if to be perfect, just needed to throw it up”. It wasn’t even mad crooked she was one of those types Also I had a stylist from hell ( empire beauty school student). Who purposely cut my hair short- hair was arm pit length walked out shoulder length. Oh I was convinced by my mom who didn’t want me natural at first to get a texturizer yeah she told the lady to relax instead. And the girls said I needed one. But had a client before me who’s hair is just like my hair present day. But when they analyzed my hair they’re shocked to see it soft but thick. They knew my texture was more in the 3s but living in the south since I’m dark skinned presumed in the type 4 range until grown out. Fast forward to 10 yrs later present I see them and they’re shocked to see the growth and pattern. Yeahhhh smh that’s why I don’t trust ppl with my head outside of my family who are licensed and myself. Regarding heat protectant Quality matters along with your hair type . ❤️If you’re low porosity I wouldn’t recommend a water based one( THE spray Pantene or chi thermal guard is WATERY ) seeing as though your hair repels water. I’d recommend a low intense protein treatment and a serum based protectant( ic Fantasia thermal heat protectant). ❤️Medium to high porosity = medium to high intensity protein treatment and water based or serum based. Im medium porosity 3c4a who uses heat all fall winter ( roller sets, presses, flexi rods, twist/braid outs. Non direct more than direct heat. ) regarding my heat protectant I use the chi thermal guard and silk infusion. Aphogee two step protein treatment And of course quality shampoo conditioner and deep conditioner with my steamer REDKEN ALLSOFT. No damage. And a follow up protein treatment after. I also regular alternate between prioritizing my protein moisture balance pre Silkpress season. My haircare routine is on my channel.
@Naiya Nicole Do you or have you ever used Biosilk? After you stated the certain ones like Chi and Aphogee I’m wondering if I should switch over. Cause like you said it can’t be too watery.
@@adbc1f72 I’ve used bio silk and I love bio silk, but I use small amount since it can be heavy on my strands. But chi and Aphogee are my ultimate preps for heat usage.
@Blue bubbles yes I’m aware of jealous ppl . And Thank you, for the compliment 😊, and I’m not mixed. But I do have a few mixtures not too far down the line from me( black white, native Cherokee west African Cuban and Dominican ( Hispanic) ) from great and great great grandparents. But I’m majority black but I might do an ancestry and genealogy test to see my exact percentages
@@adbc1f72 also I’m medium porosity so my hair can use the chi silk infusions to smooth my hair as well as bio silk serum . But the thermal gurd is watery heat protectant as wel and the ic Fantasia serum is oily so ivan use both. But it depends on your hair’s porosity. If you’re high porosity: ic Fantasia heat protectant serum is great. Or you can the chi silk infusion serum to smooth and lock in moisture and a leave in the thermal guard for added moisture and protection since it’s water. Since this type has a hard time holding moisture in. Cuticle is OPEN usually a character of damaged hair but ppl natural have this type of hair( literally seems to suck up every product ) Low porosity: this repels moisture so I don’t recommend a watery heat protectant, so a good leave in conditioner for moisture is good and a oily like heat protectant serum to make the protectant adhere is better. Cuticle is tighhttllyyy closed Medium porosity: really doesn’t discriminate and isn’t picky since it’s considered the healthiest and most balanced due to it hold on enough moisture and release moisture that’s not needed with a semi-lifted cuticle.
my hair is naturally uneven and has multiple textures too! i got loose curls overall but if we're going with that awful hair typing chart- then i'm probably a 3b/c and 4a/b. the back shrinks up, compared to the rest of my hair. it's frustrating to look at, so i rarely wear my hair out. and when i do, it's blown out. on a daily basis however, i braid it up and put it under a headscarf.
Hi Imanuella! I’m just here to support you and say let your hair be ! Why? I have the same issue and I cannot even type my hair because it’s too many! I absolutely love my hair though and I know it was made for me! I wear my hair OUT 98% of the time with a switch only for buns or mini twists. I might straighten my hair twice a year and that’s usually just to trim. My husband is Dominican and he has complimented my hair from day 1 before we even started dating! I could think I am having a “bad hair day” and he will tell me it is beautiful and he loves it natural. Even with the frizz and the poof that sometimes makes an appearance. The more you wear your true hair the more you fall in love with it. I can barely stand braids or twists with added hair anymore because I love to look at my own hair and I love how my love and support system adores it as well. Love your hair sis, you good! 🤗
You're not in Kim's head and you don't know what she wants people in our culture to do. You can't speak for her only she can... Have you ever been told "Hating is bad"...?
I feel this in my soul. Once, I was told that my hair made me look like I had just been in a fight…in our office…from one of us (who had a fingerwave fade btw)…like I wasn’t working full time, in school, full time, and a caregiver for a cancer patient full time. Sometimes Ima let my hair do what it do and I shouldn’t be judged for letting it rest! (Yea I’m still mad lol)
I'm Dominican with 4a/4b hair, high porosity, almost no curl pattern, and a fluffy cotton-like finish shine wise. Here's what has given me my desired length and manageability, in case this sounds like your hair: 1- Do not go to salons, specially Dominican ones that might sneak a relaxer into their conditioners. If you do go for the blowout, but arrive with your hair washed and detangled with a leave-in. 2- Stop relaxing, texlaxing and using keratin or botox. They're all terrible in the acidity levels. Did you know bleach has a lower acidity level than all of these? Bleach when using 10 volume only lightens your hair by 2-3 shades and stretches your natural pattern just enough to make combing easier. Combined with a good hair bonder like Olaplex, this might be your ideal solution. DO NOT ever, place any bleach, lightner or high-lift hair color over previously processed hair, specially relaxed or texlaxed. 3- Learn about hair porosity, PH levels and/or acidity levels in hair products. Yes, science is your friend. It's also important to learn about acidity levels for your skin. 4- You have to wash your hair at least once a week, no buts no ifs. It's okay to maybe have a braided style for 3 weeks to month once or twice a year, but every time you do, you are ruining your hair's and scalp PH balance, and it is KEY to worry about that more than anything else!!! 5- If having natural hair PREVENTS YOU from being able to keep your porosity, hydration and ph balance in check, then being a natural is NOT FOR YOU, and you should be worrying about what services will make it maneageable enough to wash and detangle AND DRY PROPERLY on a weekly basis. Best recs: bleaching at low level, heat training, and heatless stretching. Braids are great too, but only if you plan to take them down every week. Best of Luck! PS: OILS DO NOT PROTECT YOUR HAIR! It only works as a sealant. Stay safe!
I’m MGM with two black parents but I have mostly 3a hair. It’s long now and I blow it dry with a round brush. I have a large section of 2c hair and occasionally I’ll find a 4b hair growing there. Also have a smaller section of 3b curls which give a beautiful wave even when I blow dry. Therefore it’s an effort to get my hair to look uniform. And humidity will turn the 3b into ringlets and make the 2c frizz. We are mixed, as is our hair pattern. Not complaining, it’s pretty hair, but not easy. I have photos taken on a humid day where one side does not shrink but has frizz (2c) and the other side (3b) has some shrinkage but goes into beautiful shiny waves or curls. If my hair dries naturally the 2c doesn’t shrink and dries in waves but the 3a/b will shrink and dry in ringlets. It’s easier to straighten the 3b side with a blow dryer and avoid frizz on the 2c side by blow drying. Welcome any suggestions. ❤ I definitely wrap my hair.
This is way I’m getting microlocs beautiful all year, all mine home grown, water rain and shine can’t “ruin” locs, wakeup and go little maintenance and timeless. Tbh after my hair grew 10 inches I was done and started wigging her up and realistically I need to care for her so a new journey awakes
I once shaved my hair which is something I do from time to time without batting an eye and usually most people compliment it by saying they didn't think a bald head suits women but it looks really good on me. That's usually cause they dont see bald women regularly so they never think that it could look good just that it's not done by women so it probably doesn't suit them. After receiving such a compliment on this occasion this woman looks me dead in the eyes and says she doesn't care of it suits me women shouldn't be bold. Because a woman should not leave her house without doing her hair in the morning. How dare a woman think she can leave the house like a man does without styling her here. I was flabbergasted to be honest. Like da fuq...
New sub here! I really enjoy your videos and all the hard-work you put into them, especially the editing. Could you please make a video talking about weaves and sew-ins and its origins and maybe how some women prefer wigs now instead of a "traditional sew in" because wigs are more trendy? Maybe you can dive into the new ways black women install weaves now with frontals/closures and all that! Thanks for considering my idea. :)
If she wore those armenian braids you would STILL have bp screaming from the rooftops about it. And if a Tibetan girl wore those traditional braids, same thing. If we spent even a 1/3 of time that we spend freaking out about how non bp wear their hair actually focusing on ourselves we'd have damn near taken over the world by now. Gatekeeping hair needs to stop being a part of the culture. I cannot be the only one tired of it...
Stop going to OTHERS for your hair care. Please please please they don’t like you baby please. My hair flourished under the care of a blk woman. And not one who does not wash hair and can only lay a wig.
I love crochet and worn it for a long time but I normally wore synthetic hair and I liked it, I would give the human hair more a try. I’m just use to going to my local beauty store buying the synthetic ones.
Most white hairstylists in fashion and showbiz can only do straight and slightly wavy hair, they can put heat waves/curls in straight hair but that's not the same as dealing with real wavy or curly hair. So if they can't even deal with the curly side of Caucasoid hair, they would have NO IDEA of what to do with Afro hair, except damage it. It's sad. I think this is because from the 90s onward very straight or slightly wavy hair were the only acceptable hair textures for these hairstylists, so the only way they have learned to deal with curly hair is to straighten it....and then maybe put some fake heat wavy curls in it...😩. This in contrast with the previous period from the 50s to the 80s where curls ranged from okay to preferred, and even type 4 hair had its moment in the disco/funk era.
Excuse me but do you not appropriate white culture when you straighten and color your hair blonde?? Besides, isn't that the best form of flattery? Mad when society won't accept black hair and mad when they do!
Thats assimilation. A whole Act had to be passed so that black people were not discrimated against for wearing thier natural hair in schools and workplaces. Its called the crown act.
Straight hair is not a culture. And unlike afro-textured hair, straight/wavy/loosely curled hair is something most people in the world have anyways. Afro-textured hair is almost always exclusive to those with dominant African ancestry, whether it's recent or distant.
can you explain how black women straightening or dyeing their hair is appropriation? not only are you using this term incorrectly (as are many ppl) but what is white culture? white ppl don't have a collective culture. they have different individual cultures. moreover, straight hair is genetic. not every white person has straight hair and many non white ppl have straight hair. finally, if blonde hair is appropriation- then does that mean everyone with non blonde/non light coloured hair shouldn't dye their hair light colours? hair colour is not cultural. it's genetic or simply stylish.
And yes black women are held to ridiculous standards but it's usually us upholding them. Until we could accept afro hair in states of low or no manipulation then the standard will probably stand.
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I started a new job 2 weeks ago with my natural hair. I was so nervous my first week that someone will call me out or comment on my hair. But no one did. It finally made me feel like it's just hair. I wash my hair in less than an hour because i don't wash in sections. I still haven't started losing any hair. Anyway I feel free..I'm even toying with washing my hair more that once a week.
That’s why so many black women can’t grow their hair past a certain length, they’re not comfortable with not looking like an ig model 24/7. All the women I see with long hair allow their hair to just be. It’s not always perfect, edges are not always laid, sometimes it’s frizzy….I’m only saying this because a lot of black women are frustrated about not being able to grow their hair and they don’t get why. Maybe leave it alone and stop trying to look picture perfect all the time. Maybe stop holding other black women to unrealistic beauty standards.
This!☝🏽 sweetheart this was me until I gave up and decided to do whatever I wanted to do. So I big chopped all of heat trained hair and went bad to large box braids. Now my hair is thriving!
Bw need to be urged to grow their hair organically and stop wearing weave it really doesn't look good on them especially when it gets snatched on in public and they become a laughing stock. Grow to love your curls and all other hairstyles that are native to you.
Whew! This was me 🥲 I decided to let my relaxed pixie cut grow out naturally and it took all I had to not relax or cut it when it got to that awkward length. I don’t wear weave so I had to learn to love it and push through it.
That's actually true. My hair would be considered long and I rarely have my hair "fixed to tye nines" or slicked back and styled. I do a lot of natural hairstyles and barely bother with my hair too much
Perfection predates Instagram. Naomi’s edges been left the building.
We are not Instagram pictures. We're human-beings.
lets please normalize unkempt hair. you don't have to look snatched all the dang time!
Also when black women decide we want to wear our natural hair you still get judged by other black folks, your edges have to be laid and swooped, your curl pattern has to be perfect, etc it’s so annoying to be judged so harshly. It’s just hair
My dad took me to a Dominican salon at 9 without talking to my mom first. My hair is wavy and very puffy/frizzy. They straightened my hair to DEATH! My waist length hair cracked all the way up to my breast and my mom tried to fix it and cut it to my collar bones. I was so sad because that was my hair from birth, I never had a haircut before that. The Dominicans can be hard on Afro hair.
They put relaxer in your hair without telling you. It's mixed into the products they use to wash hair with. I found this out after having my hair destroyed by them. Once I noticed my hair wouldn't go back to it's natural state (4c) I cut off the dead parts and never went back 😭
@@MsElizaRae You just have to be careful which dominican salons you go to.
@@elizabethdejesus6674 ..Imma stay at home lol It's been working so far since 😂
@@MsElizaRae 🎀That is so messed up.🎀
It’s true that we are expected to have perfect hair days. Every time I have bad hair days, I have panic attacks because I know that someone is going to have something to say. I started wearing hats hiding my hair when I’m having a bad hair day. I will never forget when I went to the store with my hair in a messy bun and I saw a black family and started hiding and panicking. I usually do my hair especially when I’m going to do the store but that day I was just quickly running to the store to grab one thing because I ran out of sauce when I was cooking. I’m so tired of the unrealistic expectations placed on black women.
I am fascinated by how hair stylists transform ladies with alopecia with amazing hairdos!
Had a regular stylist that promised to grow my thick hair long and healthy. He instead gave me horrible heat damage.
I fired him. Started my hair journey by doing my own large box braids with minimal add in.
After a year or so went to a “stylist” and the 🚩 should’ve been her own hair that was trash.
She jacked my hair up and cut 3” off trying to trim.
Haven’t went to another stylist since then. It’s been a year and a half.
It takes about 10+ hours to wash, finger detangle, and braid my hair. NO HEAT.
My hair is healthy, thick long and beautiful!
Learn to maintain your own hair and stop trusting “stylists” they are just that and only for looks!
The blowout one is heart wrenching yo wow… imagine that): I do sometimes wonder if these hairstylists hate their clients. Like a spiritual jealousy. Not Dominicans but just any hairstylists in general. Has anyone ever had a hairstylist be blasé w their hair or downright rough/damaging?
I had a hair stylist that was recommended by someone's hair that looked really good so I went to her and in the shampoo bowl this stylist said she wanted to cut my hair and I said no "because you guys are usually very scissor happy"
Mind you this is the first time I ever went to her and she said to me "well it's just going to break if you don't" and so I still refused. I had not been to a hair stylist in years because I know how they can really mess your hair up and then make their clients dependent on wigs and weaves and losing the edges of their hairlines. This girl was unusually rough with my hair after I said what I said.
She was combing my hair out my coils really fast. I unconsciously knew she was taking her anger out on me because I didn't let her do what she wanted to do with my hair and charge me more for the cut of course; and she's going to "show me she was right."
When coming out very curly hair you have to take your time but I was thinking " Oh she's probably got the right tools and I'll be okay, she's a professional. That's what I was thinking.
I was supposed to get spirals and she kept talking about the girl that recommended me how this girl's hair was and it was longer than mine and all this junk. Mind you, she had fake blue hair all the way down to her butt. I noticed it seemed like she was applying the the spirals tubes way too tight and I told her so but she only listened her grip just a little but she was still way too heavy-handed with my hair. I was actually in extreme pain but I had had braids before and those are painful so I said to myself " Maybe this is what this is supposed to be like."
I'm thinking she's knowing what she's doing but she still seemed angry to me because I wouldn't let her cut my hair. She wasn't really conversational with me until the end of the process.
I get home and I noticed that my hair is breaking off all over my head a lot and that I had to cut it myself (mind you I never had this problem when I was doing my own hair)
Fast forward to today and it's been a year over a year since I had this terrible experience in the salon.
After this experience with the stylist I had a head full of single single strand knots. I've been snipping them off gradually for a whole year. She just damaged every single strand on my head deliberately.
My hair is in the worst shape and it's ever been. I didn't know that it was possible for a so-called trained professional to be so evil.
I went to this woman and good faith & I paid the price for not speaking up and walking out....
...And now I wonder if I have traction alopecia from her pulling my hair so tight in those rods to get that spiral look.
This experience makes me never want to go to a salon again. I'm thinking that I probably need to go to a dermatologist now cuz my hair has never been the same since I went to this evil/unprofessional girl. My first thought when she was so rough with my hair was to leave the salon and walk out. It was a crowded salon I should have went with my first thought now my hair has suffered possibly for life...
@@kimmcfadden7679 hey Kim, I feel for your experience. I know how it feels to realize a salon experience messed your hair up. It is so disheartening. But take heed, so long as you’re breathing, your hair can be renewed and perfectly healthy again. You tried being kind and giving the benefit of the doubt. What ifs do no good because it was not your fault! She didn’t take care of you like she should’ve. Pray and ask God to heal it fr. I can testify he revitalized my hair after it was in a very bad state. Kept breaking after a salon visit. I asked Jesus, Lord help me. Idk what to do. My hair is healthier than ever now about two years later. That’s just my testimony though, God can move differently in your life w timing. My point is don’t give up. It ain’t over yet!!!!! ♥️♥️ thanks for sharing your experience luv.
@@godiswithyou.5358 Believe you me it has taken me over a year and a half to get my hair back in shape but I've learned a lot since then on how to take care of my own hair since that awful experience. I could write a book...
More often than not unfortunately
I use to be in the modeling industry and would have to keep my hair out of the way. There were many times where designers, scouts, etc., would request that I shave my head to either be bald or cropped low enough to be considered a fade. And there were also those that wouldn't want it out unless it looks 3b, 3c. Which would usually involve them wetting my hair and putting mousse on getting a curling iron. Now I just do my own hair or have them pin it for me
How do you wear your hair now?
My hair is natural and shoulder lenght, I usually wear it as either in a puff when I go to auditions or in braids (but the braids is pushing it tbh)
Went “natural” so as to AVOID those torturous blowouts at salons that are obsessed with European standards. After 10 years, the biggest takeaways include: Divest in others opinions 🤣. Do what you want with your hair. Feel free to not like your hair. Feel free to rock a powered wig. This is about where your time and energy goes. Your choice.
A good tip I have is using a shower cap along with your bonnet or scarf for oils or any leave in products. At night, I noticed that my bonnet would be a darker color after any product I would put in my hair. So, I started using a plastic shower cap underneath and it was a life changer! It'll hold all of the excess product that slides off your hair at night.🙌🏾
I also think we don’t use enough heat protectant on out hair. We would likely need to use 1/4 or 1/2 a bottle each time for it to actually work
This!☝🏽 when I use my heat protectant, (the l'oreal spray) i spray my hair and mix it in with my leave-in conditioner, then I blow dry. After my hair is blown dried, if I'm pressing my hair for a trim, I spray some more and let it set before I press it out. I noticed that mixing it in my leave-in and spraying it right before the blow drying step saved my hair.🙌🏾
In response to that last clip, there is this girl I work with and she *literally* has that " anything you can do, I can do better" attitude. She "sneak dissed" me once, I let it slide because the guys are around gotta keep it cute! 🤭 But one day she tried it again and I confronted her right away. She tried to clean that mess right away because this time we were alone, and she knows I could mop the floor with her if I wanted to. She still does little stuff for attention like a child. And we're in our 30s yaw! 🤦🏾
If you are struggling with any childhood trauma I pray for healing in your mind in spirit. Peace be with you on your journey to a clear and positive mindset.
In Jesus' name
amen
Omg! I didn’t know they did their hair 10 times in one day!!😮😮😮 That is INSANE. Just get everyone a lace at that point
Testing out variously priced heat protectants under the scope would be a dope video!
I just big chopped for the 3rd time after growing it out to bsl, thick and healthy. Finally figured out how to care for my hair properly and it grew the longest it had ever been. Decided to get a silk press last year professionally (whenever I did it I never got it silky but my curls always came back) and home girl burnt tf out of my hair, severe heat damage and thinning. I transitioned this past year and cut all the damage off. Starting all over again. I don’t hate hairstylists but literally EVERY time I have gone to one, they have fucked up my hair in some way. This is once again a pledge to myself to never go to a stylist 😅
Edit: after hearing what you said at 29:00 girl I swear off all stylists lmao I’ve made this pledge before but after trying stylist after stylist with undesirable results, I’m sticking to my hands only lol
Btw your smile is radiant. Beautiful woman. And yes doing your own hair is a God given gift. I love doing mine. Saves so much $$$ and your hair thrives.
I love your screen name! Amen!
I don't get it... Why straighten hair in the modelling industry. Put a wig on and it saves a shit ton more time. Then you're not wasting time, damaging hair and black women can have their hair how they want. Plus you can switch it up through campaigns.
Maybe this is another reason why the buzzcut is preferred 🤷🏾♀️
Great video. I LOVE crotchet and would love a human hair install. Crotchet I think is healthy than a sew in and definitely healthier than silk presses
I remember reading that the Mean Girl’s wig cost that most. I was like “but that’s not even a lot of hair!!! Why would it cost that much?”
And I don’t GAD about having fuzzy braids or my hair being a bit messy sometimes. Nobody cares for my hair but me and my stylist, so bump what anyone says
The actual cost was $10,000 while insuring it for 20K. The hair color was light, making it rarer and more expensive. And if they used a contracted studio wig maker to make it by hand, then it would cost even more.
I'm sure a lot of work went into that wig and she wanted it to look like her real hair growing out of her head and not fake looking. It takes a lot of work to make it look realistic with "close ups) for the part she was playing in the movie.
Halle Bailey's little mermaid hair cost 150,000 dollars and then they used editing for it under water The lesson I learned is that in big budget productions, what may look like normal hair to the average people like us, the directors (mostly because it's not their money) spend tons on it. Also maybe because production lasts for so long and the hair must be maintained and changed.
My hair is not necessarily heat trained, but the only time I get a silk press is when I need to cut my ends. I hardly wash my own hair anymore, and since being pregnant, my hair has grown a lot due to the prenatal vitamins. It's hard to find a natural hair stylist nowadays that wash style n does braids. I'm glad I stuck to the stylist that has been doing my hair for the longest.
My forever stylist flat ironed my already flat ironed hair (for a cut) a couple years ago and I decided to limit the straightening after seeing some heat damage. Now I just dust my twists and it’s been easier to detangle. We don’t need to straighten our hair (with tons of heat) to cut it.
@@cmg25 I know I don't need to straightened it, I have dry cuts before because I'm natural. But I have a natural hair stylist that knows what she's doing, I don't have no heat damage at all. I straightened my hair twice a year. In between there are dry cuts. And remember everyone does what they want with their hair, it's their choice whether they straightened for a cut or not.
@@Shannafai I was being general. Some people feel they have to straighten to cut because that’s what they’ve been told.
@@cmg25 oh okay, yea the hair dressers make them feel that way sometimes.
I got my hair burnt off for years with modeling. I said enough was enough when the next day after a show, I washed my hair and my edges literally fell out in my hands. I wear box braids now and my hair has absolutely flourished
Do you still model with the braids?
My hair was sooooo damaged from getting the Dominican blow outs and they didn't tell me. One day I did it myself and my hair was so choppy all the way throughout it.
I literally got my hair straightened there as a teen and as my hair has grown out more I realized how crappy the layers are. My hair is still uneven as hell!
I absolutely love your videos. They’re so in-depth and I love how you tackle multiple topics in one video. It gives me insight on the hair journeys of other women & keeps me updates on hair topics on tiktok(since I don’t have TikTok). ❤️❤️ my new favorite model is Adut Akech. And the question of heat protectants being a placebo is definitely something to explore
I have never once cared about the opinion of some who has nothing to do with my hair. The easiest hair style is my puff. I don’t put gel to slick it down. I go to work with it fuzzy some times. Normalize what you like.
Amen ! I am all for women being elegant and put together, but the standards for black women are way too high: be natural, but only if you have "good" hair, wear straight weave/wigs but it should look natural if we know damn well it's not your real wear, glue your wig so well that you get alopecia, wear straight wear but only if it's your natural hair straightened, wear straight hair but be ashamed if you hair fake hair, wear your natural 4c hair but only if you have a twist out or some kind of curls defined hair style, edges must be laid, messy buns are a no-no if you have type 4c, no bad hair day allowed, yes even if you are a kid.
Let's not even talk how children, CHILDREN are bullied by grown ass people because their hair looked not "good" enough. I am talking of Blu Ivy and the H&M girl.
Yeah, Haitians. But Dominicans and Haitians share a lot in common
they dont hold their hair to this high standard because if its a wig it matches with their natural hair unadulterated texture... which is straight
I was just thinking the same thing 💯
Chile I remember I threw my hair into two curly pigtails and this girl I knew( frienemy- no we not cool) was staring way to hard to say “ your part crooked”. I said “ I know I wasn’t aiming for if to be perfect, just needed to throw it up”. It wasn’t even mad crooked she was one of those types
Also I had a stylist from hell ( empire beauty school student). Who purposely cut my hair short- hair was arm pit length walked out shoulder length. Oh I was convinced by my mom who didn’t want me natural at first to get a texturizer yeah she told the lady to relax instead. And the girls said I needed one. But had a client before me who’s hair is just like my hair present day. But when they analyzed my hair they’re shocked to see it soft but thick. They knew my texture was more in the 3s but living in the south since I’m dark skinned presumed in the type 4 range until grown out.
Fast forward to 10 yrs later present I see them and they’re shocked to see the growth and pattern. Yeahhhh smh that’s why I don’t trust ppl with my head outside of my family who are licensed and myself.
Regarding heat protectant Quality matters along with your hair type .
❤️If you’re low porosity I wouldn’t recommend a water based one( THE spray Pantene or chi thermal guard is WATERY ) seeing as though your hair repels water. I’d recommend a low intense protein treatment and a serum based protectant( ic Fantasia thermal heat protectant).
❤️Medium to high porosity = medium to high intensity protein treatment and water based or serum based.
Im medium porosity 3c4a who uses heat all fall winter ( roller sets, presses, flexi rods, twist/braid outs. Non direct more than direct heat. ) regarding my heat protectant I use the chi thermal guard and silk infusion. Aphogee two step protein treatment And of course quality shampoo conditioner and deep conditioner with my steamer REDKEN ALLSOFT. No damage. And a follow up protein treatment after. I also regular alternate between prioritizing my protein moisture balance pre Silkpress season. My haircare routine is on my channel.
@Naiya Nicole
Do you or have you ever used Biosilk? After you stated the certain ones like Chi and Aphogee I’m wondering if I should switch over. Cause like you said it can’t be too watery.
@@adbc1f72 I’ve used bio silk and I love bio silk, but I use small amount since it can be heavy on my strands. But chi and Aphogee are my ultimate preps for heat usage.
@Blue bubbles yes I’m aware of jealous ppl . And Thank you, for the compliment 😊, and I’m not mixed. But I do have a few mixtures not too far down the line from me( black white, native Cherokee west African Cuban and Dominican ( Hispanic) ) from great and great great grandparents. But I’m majority black but I might do an ancestry and genealogy test to see my exact percentages
@@adbc1f72 also I’m medium porosity so my hair can use the chi silk infusions to smooth my hair as well as bio silk serum . But the thermal gurd is watery heat protectant as wel and the ic Fantasia serum is oily so ivan use both. But it depends on your hair’s porosity.
If you’re high porosity: ic Fantasia heat protectant serum is great. Or you can the chi silk infusion serum to smooth and lock in moisture and a leave in the thermal guard for added moisture and protection since it’s water. Since this type has a hard time holding moisture in. Cuticle is OPEN usually a character of damaged hair but ppl natural have this type of hair( literally seems to suck up every product )
Low porosity: this repels moisture so I don’t recommend a watery heat protectant, so a good leave in conditioner for moisture is good and a oily like heat protectant serum to make the protectant adhere is better. Cuticle is tighhttllyyy closed
Medium porosity: really doesn’t discriminate and isn’t picky since it’s considered the healthiest and most balanced due to it hold on enough moisture and release moisture that’s not needed with a semi-lifted cuticle.
my hair is naturally uneven and has multiple textures too! i got loose curls overall but if we're going with that awful hair typing chart- then i'm probably a 3b/c and 4a/b. the back shrinks up, compared to the rest of my hair.
it's frustrating to look at, so i rarely wear my hair out. and when i do, it's blown out. on a daily basis however, i braid it up and put it under a headscarf.
Hi Imanuella! I’m just here to support you and say let your hair be ! Why? I have the same issue and I cannot even type my hair because it’s too many! I absolutely love my hair though and I know it was made for me! I wear my hair OUT 98% of the time with a switch only for buns or mini twists. I might straighten my hair twice a year and that’s usually just to trim. My husband is Dominican and he has complimented my hair from day 1 before we even started dating! I could think I am having a “bad hair day” and he will tell me it is beautiful and he loves it natural. Even with the frizz and the poof that sometimes makes an appearance. The more you wear your true hair the more you fall in love with it. I can barely stand braids or twists with added hair anymore because I love to look at my own hair and I love how my love and support system adores it as well. Love your hair sis, you good! 🤗
@@bigsteppa1928 thank you so much for the encouragement! i appreciate that you shared your perspective with me.
Kim doesn't want people to do to her culture what she does to ours.
You're not in Kim's head and you don't know what she wants people in our culture to do. You can't speak for her only she can...
Have you ever been told "Hating is bad"...?
Kim and most other people really don't care
I feel this in my soul. Once, I was told that my hair made me look like I had just been in a fight…in our office…from one of us (who had a fingerwave fade btw)…like I wasn’t working full time, in school, full time, and a caregiver for a cancer patient full time. Sometimes Ima let my hair do what it do and I shouldn’t be judged for letting it rest! (Yea I’m still mad lol)
Yeah the hair heat protectant experiment sounds like a great idea
I just seen a vid on how another one of our sista's couldn't graduate because of her braids, this is terrible we all need to go on strike for real!
Wow this is horrible! It saddens me to see that this is still happening! 😥
I'm Dominican with 4a/4b hair, high porosity, almost no curl pattern, and a fluffy cotton-like finish shine wise. Here's what has given me my desired length and manageability, in case this sounds like your hair:
1- Do not go to salons, specially Dominican ones that might sneak a relaxer into their conditioners. If you do go for the blowout, but arrive with your hair washed and detangled with a leave-in.
2- Stop relaxing, texlaxing and using keratin or botox. They're all terrible in the acidity levels. Did you know bleach has a lower acidity level than all of these? Bleach when using 10 volume only lightens your hair by 2-3 shades and stretches your natural pattern just enough to make combing easier. Combined with a good hair bonder like Olaplex, this might be your ideal solution. DO NOT ever, place any bleach, lightner or high-lift hair color over previously processed hair, specially relaxed or texlaxed.
3- Learn about hair porosity, PH levels and/or acidity levels in hair products. Yes, science is your friend. It's also important to learn about acidity levels for your skin.
4- You have to wash your hair at least once a week, no buts no ifs. It's okay to maybe have a braided style for 3 weeks to month once or twice a year, but every time you do, you are ruining your hair's and scalp PH balance, and it is KEY to worry about that more than anything else!!!
5- If having natural hair PREVENTS YOU from being able to keep your porosity, hydration and ph balance in check, then being a natural is NOT FOR YOU, and you should be worrying about what services will make it maneageable enough to wash and detangle AND DRY PROPERLY on a weekly basis.
Best recs: bleaching at low level, heat training, and heatless stretching. Braids are great too, but only if you plan to take them down every week. Best of Luck! PS: OILS DO NOT PROTECT YOUR HAIR! It only works as a sealant. Stay safe!
I’m MGM with two black parents but I have mostly 3a hair. It’s long now and I blow it dry with a round brush. I have a large section of 2c hair and occasionally I’ll find a 4b hair growing there. Also have a smaller section of 3b curls which give a beautiful wave even when I blow dry. Therefore it’s an effort to get my hair to look uniform. And humidity will turn the 3b into ringlets and make the 2c frizz. We are mixed, as is our hair pattern. Not complaining, it’s pretty hair, but not easy. I have photos taken on a humid day where one side does not shrink but has frizz (2c) and the other side (3b) has some shrinkage but goes into beautiful shiny waves or curls. If my hair dries naturally the 2c doesn’t shrink and dries in waves but the 3a/b will shrink and dry in ringlets. It’s easier to straighten the 3b side with a blow dryer and avoid frizz on the 2c side by blow drying.
Welcome any suggestions.
❤ I definitely wrap my hair.
I freaking love this channel! I’m so mad I haven’t found it sooner! 😅❤
This is way I’m getting microlocs beautiful all year, all mine home grown, water rain and shine can’t “ruin” locs, wakeup and go little maintenance and timeless. Tbh after my hair grew 10 inches I was done and started wigging her up and realistically I need to care for her so a new journey awakes
I once shaved my hair which is something I do from time to time without batting an eye and usually most people compliment it by saying they didn't think a bald head suits women but it looks really good on me. That's usually cause they dont see bald women regularly so they never think that it could look good just that it's not done by women so it probably doesn't suit them. After receiving such a compliment on this occasion this woman looks me dead in the eyes and says she doesn't care of it suits me women shouldn't be bold. Because a woman should not leave her house without doing her hair in the morning. How dare a woman think she can leave the house like a man does without styling her here. I was flabbergasted to be honest. Like da fuq...
Yes please do the experiment with different types of heat protectant! That would be an interesting watch
Loved this video! So refreshing
I’m just going to ignore the world lol
Yes, truth 💖
She's right. I wear my natural hair
Thats so true what the first young lady said
New sub here! I really enjoy your videos and all the hard-work you put into them, especially the editing. Could you please make a video talking about weaves and sew-ins and its origins and maybe how some women prefer wigs now instead of a "traditional sew in" because wigs are more trendy? Maybe you can dive into the new ways black women install weaves now with frontals/closures and all that! Thanks for considering my idea. :)
i prefer wigs cause sew ins are too tight for me
@@LilithsCosmicLounge saaaaame
What ever their hair color and hair type. God know the best n be grateful😊. Love from Indonesia. Let's be friend🤝🇮🇩
The first & second girl was talking straight facts lol they funny.
Thank you so much for this💕💕
Is she suing? She needs t! This is some BS… every time I see these stories it solidifies why I don’t go to hairstyles or whatever they are today
this is why i switched to bangs
I was born in 90 so I suppose I can’t adopt that rule since I am forever and always messing with my hair
Who would do 100 passes on their hair😮😅
- new subscriber here. i love your videos and can’t wait to see more content on these subjects. ♡🤞🏽
why are they hiring people who don't know how to do hair?
This video is all over the place
Great video!!
Imagine struggling with your hair because you don't know who you truly are... 😢😮
If she wore those armenian braids you would STILL have bp screaming from the rooftops about it. And if a Tibetan girl wore those traditional braids, same thing. If we spent even a 1/3 of time that we spend freaking out about how non bp wear their hair actually focusing on ourselves we'd have damn near taken over the world by now. Gatekeeping hair needs to stop being a part of the culture. I cannot be the only one tired of it...
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You are so right! It's like a mean girl syndrome with these black girls hating on everybody...
I don’t have a problem with non black wearing our hairstyles I just can’t stand when they try to rename them
No Black people would give a damn about some Armenian braids or Dutch milkmaid braids😕 be fr
Stop going to OTHERS for your hair care. Please please please they don’t like you baby please. My hair flourished under the care of a blk woman. And not one who does not wash hair and can only lay a wig.
Crochet styles aren't an easy hairstyle.
I love crochet and worn it for a long time but I normally wore synthetic hair and I liked it, I would give the human hair more a try. I’m just use to going to my local beauty store buying the synthetic ones.
uhm this is why im selective with my friends. never experienced half the drama yall complain about cus i dont fck with anybody
Most white hairstylists in fashion and showbiz can only do straight and slightly wavy hair, they can put heat waves/curls in straight hair but that's not the same as dealing with real wavy or curly hair. So if they can't even deal with the curly side of Caucasoid hair, they would have NO IDEA of what to do with Afro hair, except damage it. It's sad. I think this is because from the 90s onward very straight or slightly wavy hair were the only acceptable hair textures for these hairstylists, so the only way they have learned to deal with curly hair is to straighten it....and then maybe put some fake heat wavy curls in it...😩. This in contrast with the previous period from the 50s to the 80s where curls ranged from okay to preferred, and even type 4 hair had its moment in the disco/funk era.
Bw do what you want ! F everybody else !
Like... 👍
As soon as black just stop wearing hairhat and braids we can change the attitude with action
My aunt she can help fix my was teen young hair . I look cool hair . My aunt she story hair . I don't tell my aunt she don't think ?
the girl should have gotten a protien treatment
Excuse me but do you not appropriate white culture when you straighten and color your hair blonde?? Besides, isn't that the best form of flattery? Mad when society won't accept black hair and mad when they do!
Thats assimilation. A whole Act had to be passed so that black people were not discrimated against for wearing thier natural hair in schools and workplaces. Its called the crown act.
Straight hair is not a culture. And unlike afro-textured hair, straight/wavy/loosely curled hair is something most people in the world have anyways. Afro-textured hair is almost always exclusive to those with dominant African ancestry, whether it's recent or distant.
ohh trolls
can you explain how black women straightening or dyeing their hair is appropriation?
not only are you using this term incorrectly (as are many ppl) but what is white culture? white ppl don't have a collective culture. they have different individual cultures.
moreover, straight hair is genetic. not every white person has straight hair and many non white ppl have straight hair.
finally, if blonde hair is appropriation- then does that mean everyone with non blonde/non light coloured hair shouldn't dye their hair light colours?
hair colour is not cultural. it's genetic or simply stylish.
"Right on!"