@@kathleenking47 Braids go back all the way to Africa, where there were unlimited styles of Braids that were not gender exclusive. I can understand if you mean certain hairstyles like the those big puffy twists with the bobos but if you’re talking about Braids in general, I think you’re a little bit crazy.
sis wasn't even wearing a wig cap and a wig grip to protect her hair...smh.... All my wigs are glueless and I remove them every night. my mom lost her hairline from old-school wigs rubbing in the 60s and 70s.
....why the hell would anyone wear a wig that looks like their actual hair?.....then they would just wear their hair and not the wig.....I agree with you on the other stuff tho.
I'm so tired of black women getting on social media crying to the world how much they hate their natural hair. That's a bad look. Many of us love our hair and glory in showing it off. The last thing we need is content creators out here spreading a false narrative that our hair is 'difficult' or 'ugly'. I'm type 4 and have been natural since 2008. Consistency is the key!
It's because no one ever taught them how to love, care and style their hair regardless of texture or length. This was me growing up because my hair was so different from everyone else around me. I finally managed to go to a trichologist at age 38 who explained to me what exactly my hair needed. and gel and edge control is not it!
I was just talking to my 16yr daughter about our natural hair. I told her our hair is beautiful, we have to learn how to care and style our hair. My daughter and I have locs, and we get stared at all the times, and I always notice that people stare at our hair and it's not a bad stare. It's something that seems very interesting to them. If only we could see how beautiful we look with our natural hair.
Cardi’s & Nicki’s come to mind 😂I remember cardi did a video saying alot of the celeb wigs we see online are retouched to hide to grid lines but in person it doesn’t look like that. That was just further confirmation I needed to stay away from them!
@@uncletea5632 Rihanna hardly wears lace fronts. Her hairstyles are usually classier, and more ethnic I've noticed. I think Rihanna when I see Bantu knots because of how well she rocks them.
The only reason they hate their hate is because they want it to look like a foreigner's hair. Once I stopped manipulating my hair and trying to slick it down and straighten it, it became very easy to style. We as black people need to understand that our hair shoots up to the sky to protect our scalp from UV rays. We have tight coils for body heat regulation so why are you trying to change the very hair texture that protected us and made black people the oldest living race on this planet? The same hair texture our ancestors put in sophiscated and complex styles that even Arab and European travellers journaled about it. Hating the same crown that makes us uniquely beautiful. No one else can have hair like ours no matter how much they tried. We have a beautiful garden of life on our heads and I encourage you to love and cherish it because in our hair lies our roots. Be true to yourself my dear, nothing is more beautiful than your hair in its natural state.
I agree that those with natural curly hair should embrace their features and love themselves first, but maybe it might make it a little bit easier to do so if the males of that group didn’t constantly bash the skin color, hair texture, and facial features of the women of their same ethnic group. Just a thought… 🤷🏽♀️
@@sammierose1150 I've noticed many women just don't like their hair because they live for male validation. I know people can't help who they are attracted to, but letting it dictate how you live your life can be damaging. And it's usually the low quality men that are colourist and texturist, mind you.
wrong, they hàté their hair bc it's a close hair texture to the hair texture of the actual foreigners yall hàté so much…yall only love western/american/nonßlàçk hair though.🤡🤷🏿♀️
I can only twist my natural hair. But I'm way older than you. I think I want to watch videos on how to style it, but I'm not sure where to start. Most of the time, my hair is in a fro. I very seldom go anywhere though
I’m 40 so old enough to be your mother, please do NOT assume. I tried but I’m not good with styling hair. I don’t even know how to braid. I can barely do twist and plaits. I wore my hair without chemicals for over 10 years. The reality is that every one does not know how to do hair. AND most natural hair salons styles only last for a few days (I use to spend a lot of money going to a salon for twist outs and braid outs and they only lasted a few days)
There's no way in hell or heaven, i as a 4c natural girly would wake up and decide to style my hair from the shrunken state, with 30 minutes on the clock before i need to be at work. She created that problem for herself so she can justify saying her hair is difficult. Stop fighting your hair and treat your hair as if you know it's different from other people's and requires different techniques. The only way I'm waking up witb 30 mins to style my hair before work is if all im doing in undoing my twists and fluffling it out. You have to create a base overnight to have such expectations of your kinky/coily hair.
@@mexme-me-2 it happens sometimes lol and if I have a tight time restriction, I do a pineapple. But hopefully she learns that keeping her hair stretched or in protective styles creates less tangles and makes it less time consuming to style.
It's possible! There's a young lady on UA-cam and her channel is called Glory OKings. She has beautiful stunning styles utilizing flat twists and many other different styles. Preparing the night before is best, but styling beautifully in 30 minutes is totally possible. We just need to learn more about our beautiful hair.. God bless 💕
She still could have just used some gel and water and wore her hair in a twa that wouldn’t even take 30 minutes but it was obvious she was not confident in her texture of hair which is why she thought it looked bad. Feminine hair accessories also make a simple hairstyle better so she could have also done that and just left the hair out or wore a head band push back style
I agree. It is so freeing when you realize you may be the problem and not your hair. Now I feel boujee knowing my hair needs extra pampering and attention 💜
This is the very reason I do not allow my daughters to wear any kind of fake hair. They must learn how to do their natural hair and recognise that this is what our God gave us, we must love it ❤❤
I love the blunt honesty. It's ridiculous that black women can't leave their house with their actual hair. Yes, styling isn't easy but it's a learning process and get's more comfortable over time
Speak for the women in America because not every black woman around the world is so insecure about their hair and can't leave the house without makeup or a wig
@@shalbec3232 yeah, in my country not long ago use fake hair was a "shame" because the high status is use your natural curly hair. The wigs are become commun nowdays. There's nothing wrong with use wigs but if you use your natural hair more often is easy take care and style it
How I look at it is when it is in its natural state it is quite normal for it to look “dry” but one product I love to moisturize even the most course hair is the TGIN green tea supermoist cream. It’s the bomb.
Our hair ain’t meant to be extremely moisturized due to where we evolved. Applying artificial oil, hot water, perm and chemical makes it more brittle, since in a hot climate we are supposed to retain water as much as possible and not excessive sweat or waste moisture. For people with naturally straighter hair (white, Asian m etc.), it gets quickly greasy and even slimy if they don’t wash it for even 1 day. Black people are lucky they don’t have to wash constantly.
Yes we apply grease now, but shea butter was used for hundreds of years in west africa. so no i disagree. our hair is definitely meant to be moisturized
She just needs someone to teach her how to style her own hair. Until then, she will stay frustrated. The good news is, those who wear wigs for (whatever reason(s)), they’re making more 4b/c units for BW.
Yes! After you shampoo and condition it, you don’t just let it shrink and tangle again. She might need a trim to give it a nice shape too. I think the styling part is tripping a lot of people up and unfortunately these days most of the girls on UA-cam aren’t showing many of the options available to us. They’re deep in the UA-cam archives though if you search. There are also a few channels that are doing it, like Glory Okings.
@@michelleej As long as I have my trim and I put leave-in conditioner and spray leave in detangler in it every day my hair does not tangle, even when it shrinks. But I have ultra-fine strands....I don't know what people with coarse strands do.
@@michelleejI think the issue is that people do not like those kind of styles like the glory oking styles. like they're good if classy trad wife or pastor's wife is your style, but if it's not you're going to feel mad uncomfortable wearing your hair like that. I actually hate that a lot of the styles that ppl do with natural hair are often so complicated. I usually just wear my hair in puffs, wash and goes, and twist outs but when I was trying to find easy protective styles I can do on my own hair none of them were easy. if requires braiding it's not easy. if it requires flat twists it's not easy. it's weird how pretty much all the styles are just either incredibly complicated or slicked back with gel.
When my natural hair was her length, i simply wet it during my shower and applied coconut oil, my coils looked moisturised and by the time i got on the train it would just sit in a round shape itself, make up and earrings and am gone for the day. No gel needed. Once you accept your hair in its natural form you are less stressed about it. It does take time depending on the person’s will power.
The problem is that she's trying to do things on her 4c hair that it DOESN'T want to do. Other things that work on other textures, won't work on hers. 4c hair wasn't made to slicked down into these styles.
Yeah I don't even bother to slick down my hair. It can be slicked but you need 6 different layers of 3 different types of gel, a scarf and a dryer and one hour or overnight. Lol! Oh and the got to be spray for any fly aways. My hair and my scalp do not like all of that product so I can't even remember the last time I slicked down my hair. If I want it flat, I flat twist it.
that and her hair is no offense, entirely too short for the pony. using a string or shoe tie, she could've just done a mini puff style that doesn't pull that far back.
I had a relaxer from 6 years old😟 not proud of that or happy about it but I never learned how to properly care for my hair Big chopped at 30, went to “natural hair” salons, only for my twist out or braid outs to look good for 3 days max… spent literally thousands of dollars on products. Watched all the natural hair tutorials and still could barely properly shampoo my type 4 hair Ten years later at 40 (last year)I went back to a relaxer and couldn’t be happier! Let people live. Do you and let people do whatever is best for them and their lifestyle.
I've noticed that these "love your natural hair videos" very rarely show short 4c hair, I think I counted one, or maybe two 4c TWAs in this entire 17 minute video. They always show long 4c hair or looser textures. It'd be nice if these channels can show more short 4c hairstyles and show how to overcome the "awkward" phase that so many women probably are avoiding.
I believe most of the hairs I displayed on screen especially for the first half of this video were short and in what you'd call the awkward length, and more importantly 4c hair types. What's your definition of long/loose textured? Cause I don't see what you see.
That wasn’t the issue. The issue is she doesn’t like her natural hair to wear in a Afro state. An Afro takes like 5 minutes to moisturize and fluff out.
@@actuallyjulieethey do, but those with short straight hair simply brush their hair out and leave it alone. No putting it up, trying to braid it and all that nonsense. They wear their hair as it is.
I am black creole female and have a huge hair wrap collection. My BLACK FEMALE manager told me I had to wear my natural hair. I pointed out that the other girls all have wigs and she did as well. I do wear my natural hair. An all black neatly wrapped scarf with the back bun and hoop earrings was very stylish. It looked better than the cruchy lace frontals. She told me to either remove the wrap or go home. I left and never went back. The whitefolk I've worked for never said a thing about how I did my hair, or if i wrapped it up. Thats when I realized we do have a problem.
But sis… wrapped up in a scarf (no matter how you dress it up) is NOT professional. I am sure that it did look better than “crunchy” ill fitted wigs BUT it’s still a scarf. Unless you are Muslim then that is not acceptable. And btw I do not like lace wigs but I’m just telling you the truth. I was a manager for American Express (the credit card company) and now I’m a flight attendant for a major US airline. I would never or is it allowed at either one of the companies that I worked for
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade I agree with you. Hopefully I can offer more context. I was a waitress. And if go out to eat I'd much rather have a server with her hair wrapped than a 30 inch buss down hanging by my food. I get what you're saying as well. Head wrapping is a part of CREOLE culture, not black culture. Wigs and Weaves are a part of BLACK culture, not Creole culture. The only issue I've ever had when I proudly wear something of cultural significance was with a black woman. Yet they had the audacity to serve historically Creole dishes, but when someone represented the actual culture it was a problem. All Creoles don't wrap their hair, just like all Muslims don't.
@@Chingchinglotto Africans were wearing wraps long before "CREOLE" was a thought. I love the way that black people practice division though. It's working well.
@Chingchinglotto head wraps are definitely a part or black culture (American, Caribbean, and African) and have been a part of the culture for hundreds of years. Especially as American blacks are starting to embrace our natural hair more, we see more head wraps. Ornate styles using wigs or weaves are also a part of the culture. It’s showcased our creativity for years, but it’s just that there has become an increasing dependence on these things instead of just using them for a style.
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadewhere are head wraps not professional? It’s one thing if it was a bonnet but I’ve seen head wars in many professional settings (I’ve worked in higher Ed).
I just seen a photo of a hbcu graduation and the amount of weaves I saw my heart just broke. Almost none of those young ladies had their natural hair and I just thought wow. We going to have a serious self representation problem when the next group of young women come.
THIS!!!!!!! After loving my hair, every washday feels like a privilege. I love the process of touching my hair and feeling how soft it is, detangling and washing. Deep conditioning is my favorite step because my hair feels as soft as a cloud😍 Also seeing the coils pop and that new growth? Whew you're making me want to wash my hair again despite my washday having been 2 days ago.
I love this! The wig lovers get angry because you put a mirror up to their faces. Wigs perpetuate the myth that textured hair isn’t beautiful. Same with us Caribbeans who are obsessed with relaxers.
Who is ‘us Caribbean’s’? In Trinidad the girls are natural, loc’d more and more. Braids also. The Caribbean is not a monolith. And there can never be an ‘us Caribbean’s’ as each island has its own set of trends.
@@LisePlansandJournals ok all Trinis are natural? I grew up with many Trinis in NYC and most were not. Let me go and google to see if relaxers or wigs are not a thing there. I know Caribbeans are not a monolith but colorism affected 99.9% of the islands. That’s what I meant obviously we are different down to our language and dialects. But thanks for stating the obvious I learned a ton.
@@MrsV2001.1you’re comparing Trinis who live in the states with the notoriety of making straight hair the standard vs Island Trinis? I can attest having been to few islands and lived in the Caribbean for most of my life Caribbean people are most definitely rocking natural hair more than relaxers
@@sayitasis8326 ok that’s fair. I did read that relaxers are being used less along with other Caribbean countries. BUT, I searched the estimated sales of relaxers in Caribbean countries.and here is how they ranked: 1. Jamaica 2. Trinidad and Tobago 3. Barbados 4. Bahamas 5. Dominican Republic 6. Haiti 7. PR 8. St Lucia 9. Grenada 10. Cuba 11. Antigua and Barbuda 12. St Kitts and Nevis
@@sayitasis8326lol they will say they are wearing it for a protective style but why choose a texture that looks absolutely nothing close to ur natural hair 😭 why do they not mostly wear kinky textured wigs 😩
And if you do wear wig...why not one that mimicks your own hair texture? Everyone wants to say "black girls don't wear their real hair and only wear wigs and weave". A lot of women in general worldwide wear extensions, weaves etc. The kick is they wear fake hair that mimicks their own texture...so you would never know. Black women are the only group of women who tine and time again choose textures of hair that is the comolete opposite of their natural hair texture...and thats why we have the label as a collective of "never wearing our own hair"
Remember the natural hair journey craze? Somewhere between 2012-2018? It was a very short period of time 😢then the lace fronts took over completely. So we stopped getting relaxers but slapped wigs over our natural hair.
@@actuallyjuliee exactly because that’s when all the “natural hair” products came out that catered to twist outs, coils, wash n go, and all that is alike became popular. I guess all that wasn’t enough 💰for them. They had to get creative. I remember during that time, suddenly all kinds of weaves evolved. Remember how crotchet evolved rapidly?! It was like when they saw us embracing our natural hair with styles, they quickly found ways for us to put more weave in “conveniently”. It was their way of saying “why spend time maintaining your own hair when you can slab this on quicker..?” And it worked!
Thank you! I too am sick of the wigs. We dont want to accept our hair isn't going to be "laid". It's not made to be that and there's nothing wrong with that.
I'm an Indian woman, and I recently found out that wigs made with Indian hair has a massive demand among black women. And now I'm in a deep dive about black women and their relationship with hair. This is so complex, I am not in any position to have opinions because I'm not in this situation. But seriously, so much history is woven into the kinks of black hair.
I knew i hated my hair when I refused to leave my house without a wig on. The one I had was old and tangled and I wasn't gonna have money for a new one for another 4 days so I stayed indoors and completely avoided going out until then. I even lied and said I was sick so people wouldnt come over or ask me out. The wig I bought was the last one i ever bought. I had to hold myself accountable for the condition of my natural hair so I chopped it off and vowed to never put a wig on again. I never disliked the way I looked with my natural hair but I knew I would be accepted with a wig on so I always wore them and my hair paid the price. After my big chop, I let it grow out and eventually got locs and have been growing them out since. Its been 4 years and my hair is full and thick and lon; its never been this healthy or long in my life. I love my hair more now than ever before and I look good at all times with my locs whether they're freshly retwisted or left undone for months. I love it here lol
Right! 💯 Black women would rather walk outside with a tacky wig on or a dusty bonnet than show their real hair but so many BW swear it's not about self hatred. SMH
As a Latina I think Afro hair is beautiful. I have curly wavy hair and wish I had fuller curly coils like my sister. My hair falls downwards. The only issue I see are other black women judging other black women for having kinkier hair and not wearing what I heard them call “bust downs” which is a wig? Point being no other groups judge black womens hair as harshly as black people do their own hair. That first girl was so beautiful, she could have any hair and she still would be. Hair is cute someone told her it wasn’t and it starts from home
I will say, here in the US we do still have institutions that are still punitive in nature, where they will punish you for you natural hair like some schools and workplaces. But, on the whole, I’ve found that regardless if a person or place likes my natural hair or not, when I walk confidently with my head held high, other have no choice but to accept me. On another note, when did a fro/twa not qualify as a style? Like, I feel for that young woman, but she could just shape her hair in a fro, add some accessories and keep it moving. Afros are gorgeous and appropriate for all occasions.
@@missluvableladii yes. I read up on the Crown Act. But whenever these discourses about hair discrimination happen online, I rarely hear about the person that got rejected by institutions because of their hairs, it's petty argument of whose hair is nappy and whose hair looks like Peruvian bundles. Just backwards and regressive. But, yes, nothing elevates ones total aura like confidence.
@actuallyjuliee lol, you’re not wrong 😂 online discussions about natural can be VERY regressive. At times I need to opt out of listening because, in all honesty, I’m happy with my kinky hair! It’s like, natural hair is what you make of it. I even found this to be true when I went natural 12 years ago. Like, for real, You can make political statement if you want, you can showcase your styling talents, or even project your soft girl life 🥰 pick something and have fun. We have a lot of info and tutorials to learn from. As you’ve mentioned before, we will put in all types of effort to finish college, learn make up, navigate the working world, but we forget how to put in the work to learn our natural hair.
@@savagestation5653 she's British...even more clueless on how to do Afro-centric hair than the black American diaspora. I've only worked with 2 black people. Myself and another girl who work afro-centric styles in 24 years of living in the UK. Not even the women raised in Africa or the Caribbean here wear their natural hair regularly. Straight hair is the standard. wigs, weaves, silk press and relaxer. Everyone is amazed when I do my hair....of all races I had a Fro-hawk last year and they were amazed. this year I did a flat twisted crocheted bun. Amazed. I now have short layered kinky twists....amazed...I think because it's so different from what all the other women wear.
6:17 nah I think this is the perfect day for this conversation. Bw trying to humble white girls saying “we don’t want your hair we wear Asian and Latina hair” as if that makes it any better? Lmao
Exactly. It’s so weird. It still ain’t OUR hair though. That’s the gag 😂 And I love extensions! I just wear kinky textured clip ins and ponytails from heat free hair and kinky kurly yaki. I don’t want any colonizer even THINKING that I want to look like them. No ma’am 💅🏾
I am a man who has had this issue for quite a while, I've used relaxers to before coming to terms with loving my natural afro textured hair. I'm really glad this video is out there. Fyi, there's nothing wrong with afro textured hair in its natural texture as long as it's clean.
I’m 18 and i lost a bit of my edges when i started wearing lace fronts this year. I don’t think I’m wearing a wig again like ever. I don’t get how people act like natural hair is a lot of maintenance when those wigs I wore were frustrating. I have been neglecting my hair for too long, it will even be a long time before I wear braid’s again. I just started watching natural hair videos about black women’s attitude to hair and I am so happy that my eyes have been woken at my age. Natural hair is fragile and needs to be moisturised a lot and we are every thing but gentle to our hair. Imma spend the rest of my life growing my 4cl hair out and I am going to make sure my daughter loves her hair too.
@@samilliesamillie7524 i love that for you! Too many people realise when it's much too late. In their younger years, they see it as an attack to be told certain hairstyles are destroying their hairs and confidence. I'm glad you're dedicated to taking better care of your hair now.
The lack of ethics in wig making is such a conversation to be had! I know it's a nuanced topic but I've volunteered in East and South Asia and the number of women who are forced by "pimps" to grow out their hair and chop it periodically so their controllers can make money while giving them a small fraction is insane! Women are also taken just for their hair. In one of the rural towns I visited, one of the family's said they don't allow their daughters to have hair below their chins so they won't get taken away. It's so sad
@@KBe-tk2kw If you'd pushed your straight-ass bangs aside to actually read the comment, you'd know I'm talking about those who are exploited. The only ones profiting off your insecurities are the big guns and I am fairly certain, none of them are run by said asians
@@KBe-tk2kw 1) You've read incorrectly, I said those who are EXPLOITED. 2) If in the off chance you did read correctly, you feel entitled to sympathy and understanding for your eurocentric insecurities over people who are exploited and treated inhumanely, get a grip! 3) As rude as I may sound, stop being insecure and learn to love yourself, no one is going to appreciate you if you don't appreciate yourself. You can wait more than a lifetime for change or you can be the change because deflecting "accountability" when faced with the unethicality of your consumerism is embarrassing for you. Have a nice day!
As a cosmetologist and a black woman I can assure you taking care of it is manageable. It DOES require more TLC but if you take care of it with shampooing every week or every 2 weeks depending on if you work out, trims, deep conditioning and covering when you sleep. The issue is lack of education on proper hair care and trying to attract the male gaze.
Black hair is not unmanageable. Some Black women just refuse to manage it and only think that straight yaki hair or loose curls are beautiful. The girl in the beginning of the video didn't even bother to try stretching her hair the night before, she wanted to try to style her coarse, dry hair 30 minutes before she had to be at work. You have to learn your hair and keep your hair moisturized. Some black women think that non-black women are so beautiful that they get upset when their hair doesn't do what non-black or mixed women's hair does.
I mean she did put a leave-in moisturiser in it but she should have just put it in an afro and a head wrap and kept it moving. Her hair looks like mine. Not coarse actually fine-textured. I can style my hair in 5 minutes without stretching or doing anything the night before.....that's a myth that they gave to black people that our hair must always be stretched and laid. My hair must always be moisturised so I put leave-in conditioner on it every day! if forms into its own little coils on its own with no gel when moisturised.
at least yaki/kinky straight hair matches our silk pressed hair…ßlàçk women still call yaki/kinky straight hair "low quality hair" compared to the asian/mixedrace/other nonßlàçk hair textures that got these hóød girls in a choke hold.😭
Don’t project on to some of us what YOU feel within yourself. A lot of simply do not know how to do our natural type 4 hair. It’s not as deep as yall are making it. I had a relaxer most of my life from 6 to 30, when I big chopped and wore my hair without chemicals, it was very expensive and time consuming. Once I had a little length and went to salons for braid outs and twist outs, it would only last for a few days… I spent thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours watching tutorials. I never knew how to braid, and still don’t.. I still couldn’t even properly wash my hair in its type 4 state I gave up at 40, went back to a relaxer and couldn’t be happier.
There's no other race of women that wear another race if woman's hair on they're heads besides us black women do you know how insecure of a message we're sending?!😭
@@s.m.7206 the do that for religious reasons and it's a small subgroup of jews that do it ,not to mention the fact that the wigs they wear mimick they're actually hair texture
This is so false. Every race of women wear extensions. Why would you spread false information, just like every other race of people think black women only wear weaves.
0:45 "I can't go like this" All she needed was a hair band in the front and she could have "gone like that". She's just not used to wearing her natural hair out so she thought it "should" look like something that's it's not.
Stretching should be incorporated as part of one's routine to make sure sebum is distributed easier. Styles like twists or braids that stretch the hair help do this. It doesn't necessarily have to be blow dried. But yes stretching is important.
The problem with stretching 4c hair is that it won't STAY stretched. I tried stretching my hair and the next day it shrinks right back up. Twists don't work. When I untwist my 4c hair it just sticks up all over the place.
Black women say it’s hard to style 4c hair or textured hair, but it’s only hard because your trying to make it do something it naturally doesn’t want to do. 4c is not a looser curl type, it’s not going to do what 3c or 3b is going to do. Trust me castor oil is your best friend 😃
I've realized that hair dysmorphia in the black community is so bad that particularly black women's self love doesn't even inculde our hair. We feel at our most feminine, classy, fine and overall whole when we're hiding our hair which is so bizarre to me. This is why this argument of "well other races wear extentions" is null and void because they don't wear wigs or extentions in order to hide their unique hair texture. And before someone says it has nothing to do with self hate or hair dysmorphia, why is it that black women think that their hair is not for upscale events and that a wig that is nowhere near our texture is better? Yeah. I'm not here trying to tell people what to wear on their head, but I'm encouraging yall to see what these wigs are doing to you. I wear wigs myself but if they were to disappear tomorrow i wouldn't go insane. Its possible to wear wigs without having a problem with your hair.
Who said that Any of us are Hiding behind A wig? Maybe that is How you feel About yourself And your own Hair But that doesn't mean That you can Speak for the Majority of us. Every woman Has a different Experience When it comes To there hair And also have There reasons Why they decided too To wear wigs Weave or extensions or locks? Some of you On here in the Comment Section. Seem to have A lot of Opinions especially when it comes To black women and their Hair. Stop trying to Make something more than what it is. Because it really isn't That serious.
@@MiaWhorton Saying that I'm hiding behind my wig when I'm natural 99% of the time is very rich coming from you who was writing essays and sob stories about how your wigs are your saving grace under my comments in other videos. If you refuse to see the contributions that wigs are making towards texturism and black women's overall well-being, that's on you.
@@ami-el7dg Speak for yourself What I think your Missing the point Some of use wear Wigs because Majority of us Really don't have A choice in the Matter . I know I can't Necessarily speak For other black Women let alone Biracial woman As well. The only reason I wear a wig Myself is because I have Alopecia So there for I Have too wear A wig believe me I wish I had my Own long beautiful hair like I use too have Back than. If it was up To me I would Never wear a wig But everbody has There own reason Why they wear a Wig but that doesn't mean You should get All bent out of Shape over it. Some of you Are making a Bigger deal out Of this then you Need to. If a woman wants Too wear a wig Then that's completely up To her if your Not buying the Wigs yourself Then why does It bother you so Much ? Believe me there Are other things That more Important things Going on in the World than Worrying about What another woman has on Her head .
I honestly don't have a problem with wigs, weaves and braided extensions as these can be protective styles. My only concern is if the hair underneath is neglected to the point it is in an unhealthy, broken state.
I limit my kinky twists braid extensions to 12 weeks a year and I limit my wigs to 12 weeks a year. The rest of the time I wear my afro, or my hair with added extra hair in afro-centric styles that I take down every week, or a scarf wrap. I need to shampoo my scalp every week otherwise I get scalp inflammation.
Honestly, I don't think you need to style your hair to make it acceptable. You can just leave your fro alone. But if anyone wants to style their hair, our traditional hairstyles (braids, african threading, cornrows and so on) are the best you can do. Hairstyles that requires to wear your hair out is something we probably learned from the Europeans.
This is a opinion I never thought of before ( I’m a black American woman) that wearing out our black hair might have a been a European thing pushed on us and people in the black diaspora that wore “unique” hairstyles (braids locs twist and etc too) are actually normal for us. Thank you lol
THANK YOU! This is a frustrating topic for me because I grew up in a Black church where natural hairstyles were shunned. I eventually left the church, but my parents are still in it, and they’re raising their grandchildren in it. My sister, who died in 2020, told me that she refused to relax her daughter’s hair because she didn’t want her to grow up hating her hair. I recently found out that my mother has started relaxing my sister’s baby’s hair for that awful church, and it pissed me off! Not only are you contributing to self hate in a 7-year old Black child, but you are going against her deceased mother’s wishes!
I wish I could like this video a million times. Very well put.”This show s beauty, indetity, roots, pride , diversity, culture ” is the most spoken truth and reminder of who we are, where we come from. This is going to be my hair mantra Thank you again
Its to the point I will see someone with blond hair and just casually assume its a white women...they turn around its a whole sista. Im like maam this is crazy
I actually been natural 2 years now and i can truly say i have never been happier and more confident. I have type 4 hair and it isn’t the easiest that is true but I’ve learned to just love it as is!
I was never a wig girly to start with but after seeing videos of how the hair is being obtained and how sweeped off the floor, it made the whole affair seem extra gross.
Same!! And I’m a Christian and recently saw a video about how a lot of the human hair companies get the hair from corpse or women who “sacrificed” the hair to pagan false gods I wear synthetic premium fiber u-part wigs with my own hair out, ponytail or crocheted styles BUT only with premium fibers not actually hair
Wow. Thank you for explaining this. I've always wondered why people don't like their natural hair. I personally think natural looks way better on everyone.
The first scene hurt my soul. I’ve been there so many times. I have good days and bad days, and just except my hair even on the bad days. It actually releases the stress about it. It eventually becomes very freeing.
My flex is: I know how to hand stitch an entire wig. However, it used to take me anywhere from 5-8hrs when I was first learning and it would take up my ENTIRE SATURDAY-the only day I had off when I was working multiple jobs! Even then i still had to prep, moisturize, and deep condition my real hair so add on another 2-3hrs. It was starting to drive me mad that I was spending soooo many hours on my off days on my fckin hair! And it was frustrating since I still felt like it didn’t look as natural as my real hair…and it wouldnt because it’s a wig & it’s a different texture💀I gave up closures & frontal completely after that and slowly got away from sew-ins not too long after. This is why when I hear Women who claim doing their natural hair takes too long compared to their wig maintenance I know they are full of PURE BS!!
I know how to hand stich it too....but I made myself kinky wigs, kinky half wigs and kinky extensions!! My hair is currently in kinky twists!! I do not like the edges on closures and frontal that much and I do not want to spend any time blending my hair, edges and baby hairs. With my kinky wigs/and weave I just untie my own edges smooth with my fingers and go!! I love the frizz and volume.
I don’t understand why you said that it’s “bs” to complain about the time to maintenance natural type 4 hair because you literally said it took up your entire day off😟🥴🤔 It definitely takes the WHOLE day to maintenance type 4 hair especially if you don’t know how to do hair. If the wigs is purchased and not homemade then there is ZERO extra time involved. So I’m not sure what the point of your comment is🥴 Btw I don’t wear lace wigs. I have a relaxer but when I was natural for 10 years, I wore crochet styles or u part kinky coily wigs.
I agree with you. Alot of black women dont like what they look like with a small shrunken afro. So they feel the need to "fight shrinkage" or "elongate the curl" i found i retained most length when i embraced my shrinkage. Like pat that thing down and get some cute earrings on cmon lol
As a Melenated N. American . I know many women with curly hair that take care of that wig better then their own hair. They refuse to practice up keep on their own hair.
Look. It's the texture. I am mixed race lady living in Nigeria. So my colleague was sitting near me and I was running my fingers through her wig. Nothing serious. Next thing she said is "your hair is like wig you don't need to wear wig" So is it that you can't wear your hair so you have to wear wig to feel presentable. Remember this is Nigeria. Body is against you wearing your natural hair. Just look clean and presentable to work. It's the texture.......
@@actuallyjuliee So glad I grew up in the Caribbean with multiple textures from 1a to 4c from thick to thin from bald-headed like Grace Jones to waist length like Beyonce or Cassie to locs like Lisa Bonet on the Cosby show and A different world in 1988. We been trying to break out of colonialism and slavery.
In Africa, self-hate is called "colonialism". In Black America or the Caribbeans, self-hate is called "colorism, featurism, and texturism". Black people of the African Diaspora are one and the same when it comes to self-hate. @@genevaxo
I am so sick of wigs and weaves… at what point do we stop using the excuse of protective styles and just put the effort into styling our hair. In the 80’s and 90’s hardly anyone wore wigs… that excuse just doesn’t fly anymore just learn how to do and love your own hair
My mom wore wigs and weaves in the 80s and 90s...it's just that people were not so open about it...and also it blended with people's hair...now.......Most people do not know how to style their hair ....and most styles start with hair care and they don't know how to do that....
@@marleyhill34 I grew up during that era and in the 80’s regular people weren’t really wearing wigs, only if you were a celebrity or modeling but not for everyday use. That was the time of the Jerri curl and press and curl, people were wearing their own hair. Weave and wigs were taboo or for the older ladies…The nineties is when weave started to slip into the scene people wanted to mimic celebrities and their hair secrets were being revealed but it still wasn’t mainstream… at least not where we lived
@@PjHanley-zt2kh it’s about loving how you were created and not succumbing to the beauty standards that weren’t created to include you. We are beautiful with our own hair and we need to learn how to love it, grow it and care for it. It’s fine to do things occasionally but all the time and despising what’s growing from your scalp is a form of self hate
I wore a wig one time and it looked a hot mess to me even though I got lots of compliments lol. I’m washing my hair once a week period. I don’t care what style I have in. Wigs stink to me and don’t get me started on the heat styling smell
This!!! I never hear anyone else talk about this… I was never into lace wigs either but I will wear a ponytail or u-part wig BUT yes sis, I have to wash my hair at least once a week. Sometimes more than that if I went to like a barbecue or something and it gets hot, sweaty or smell like food And don’t forget braids, sew in weaves, real locs and faux locs… that stale musty smell is disgusting🤮😷🤧😮💨
Natural hair is so exhausting, it makes me cry 😭😭But I still keep it cos I wanna learn how accept it and learn how to take care of my own hair, I know I'll be proud of my self one day ❤❤
I'm SO happy my parents neither let me relax my hair nor wear weaves. When I was a kid, I hated it bc I wanted to look like all the other Black girls. As an adult, I have a confidence many don't have. I can't even fathom attaching fake hair to my head. If I want it long, I'll grow it. If I want it straight, I'll blowdry it. I honestly can't even relate to the wig craze.
I agree afros are gorgeous afros get so many compliments. In the 1970s white women used to perm their hair into Afros, and then white men even started doing it 🤣 Everybody loves Afro. haha
@@kimberlyhicks3644 my mom wares afro and she said when she got a new job in the 70s a week after she started working there a white woman got a perm afro and with in another week every employee had gotten one even the men and the district manager came to evaluate the store and burst out laughing. And said, what did you do these people? They all have Afros now everyone of them 🤣 even the customers would just stare at all the employees like what the heck. people would look to my mom for an answer, as she always said 🤷🏽♀️ it was a record store. Full of a bunch of blonde Afros. And every time a new customer would come in. They would always look at my mom first and laugh. I wish I could’ve seen it.
I don’t understand the wig obsession. Other races also have thick, tightly curled, coarse or frizzy textures (maybe not exactly 4C but still time consuming) and they experiment until they figure out how to work with it, not cover it up with something that doesn’t look natural on them.
I feel that in situations like this is where the ugly phase need to be welcomed because when I started my locs it was so bad and frizz but me allowing it to be natural and still getting compliment showed me and allowed me to embrace my natural self slowly
Don’t be so quick to judge… I was raised with a relaxer… big chopped at 30 and spent the entire time being frustrated. Wasted money at “natural salons” and thousands on products… I got sick of it and relaxed 10 years later. I gave it ten WHOLE years and it just never worked for me🤷🏽♀️ I’m assuming a lot of you guys never had a relaxer or you know how to do type 4 hair because I never got the hang of it. It was frustrating🤦🏽♀️
The first clip made me so frustrated 😅😅🫠 all she has to do is spray some water on it fluff it and call it a day. Why forcing to lay the hair if it's that short and not stretched? The product she used isn't for her hair type. The way we are setting ourselves for failure and blame the hair for that 😭
I think something that’s incredibly embarrassing is sitting with your back facing a guy and you’re wearing a 30 inch bussdown. In his head, he’s thinking who’s this fine ass white girl/Latina. Then you turn around and they internally sigh. I choose my pride I choose myself. What you see is what you get! No disappointment here 😂
The gag is, celebrities used to wear wigs to events & photoshoots only. Normal people took this and thought this was an everyday thing and now everyone (even celebrities) think it’s the norm for everyday use. This is why people have bald hairlines now. Wigs arn’t bad, but using it everyday, glued to your skin, it’s healthy.
I love the beautiful natural hair God gave me. Someone once told me natural hair is not wearing, yet her hairline was gone and continued to recede due to wigs.
i love my natural hair, been natural since 2013... i've had two sets of locs, bald, fade, mohawk, silk blowout, and now currently growing my hair back after cutting off my color... NATURAL HAS ALWAYS BEEN IN
I have alopechia. So I have to wear a wig. When I was in my early thirties; my hair was down to my waist! Alpechia runs on the women’s side of my family.
My mom has alopecia all around her edges. She said her grandmother and aunts had it too. I wear Afro-centric styles mostly that I do myself and I do not glue down because I'm trying to keep as much hair on my head and as much follicles alive as possible. The afro centric styles with added kinky or marley hair blends with my hair so I do not have to use heat or chemicals to alter the texture and risk damage.
Alopecia runs in your family or certain hair care practices that are damaging to Afro-textured hair is being passed down in your family? I am not trying to insult just looking at what could be the deeper issue. Many of us are told certain cancers and lifestyle diseases ‘run in the family’ until someone in the family makes the decision to make dietary and lifestyle changes to put an end to the cycle.
Your commentary is absolutely amazing and in my opinion, completely spot on. I don't know if you write out scripts before you film, or if you just wing it. Either way, you are excellent at editorial journalism.
I am ashamed that the young lady would post a video of herself having a melt down about her hair. That was embarrassing. I agree with what you are saying about some peoples dependence on wigs but note that I said some, not all. I am "black" and I have never worn a wig, or or had my hair braided etc. i would rather spend my money on other things. There is a learning curve when kinky curly, curly, and wavy haired people start wearing their hair natural. This is for all cultures. I speak from experience as I am a curly girl and know and follow a lot of other curly girls of all races and it is always the same story. I know your video was referring to only kinky curly girls but there are a some curly girls that wear the wigs too just like the the women that you were talking about...i love to see all women loving the way that God has made them. They are all beautiful.
I don't think she should be judged too harshly tbh. Some people are post big chop, and learning something new in your adult years can be more challenging than if you started learning it as a child. I wish her the best in her hair journey though.
@@actuallyjuliee you are right about those posting their big chops. When I first started seeing those I was ashamed as well because of how some people acted about it. They made such a big deal about it. Some of the girls were very prideful and that is not beautiful. But youtube is a great place to get hair styling ideas. Perhaps she will look at the youtube and get some ideas lol. most curly and wavy hair girls don’t have parents that really know what to do with their hair. And when your hair is curly or wavy no matter what type sometimes you just have to work around it. I hope you have a great day or night, wherever you are located :)
I know every BW wants to hate on the honest feedback from BM, but I gotta say this: wear your natural hair. Like everyone else does. Don't be the only ones wearing wigs out here having them falling off and whatnot. Be free.
Life is too short for me to be living according to how ANYONE ELSE says I should. If I want to sport my natural hair, i will. If I want to relax or straighten it, I will. If i want to wear a wig/weave/braids/twists, etc...I WILL! Worry about you and yours. I'm an adult. I have earned the right to choose for myself and mine.
My hair is like hers -- I am a flight attendant -- I have to show up to work "presentable" and on-time or I will be fired. A TWA is gorgeous but there are some days when it WILL NOT cooperate and I will admit that I have mini meltdowns those days with the clock ticking. The struggle is real and we need to acknowledge that. Black women have to put in much more time in advance just to show up in an acceptable form to the world and not be devalued or ridiculed. Just keeping it real.
I was a flight attendant for a major airline until I retired…we were allowed to wear braids. I wore my Senegal Twist for years. And others that wore natural hair.
@@actuallyjuliee A protective style (braids, locs) would be a solution. To me, however, they feel like they're in the same class as wigs -- as in not my hair. I'm trying to work with what is growing out of my head versus having synthetic hair woven in every day of my life -- just so I can present well enough for the workplace.
What you said at 3:30 is the truth! I had the same thought. She was doing so good when she started applying product and combing her hair out, but then she kept trying to slick her hair back into a bun... Slick back buns take a lot of effort especially since her hair is shorter. She would looked great with her twa hair brushed out and then patted down in a moisturized afro
I was gonna say, at her length, she needed to spray some water and moisturizer in there, work it in, fluff it out and pin the hair behind the ears for a frohawk. Ten minutes and done
Hey girl,just discovered your channel.If your going to work in the morning,its going to be easier to condition the hair at night and style it in the morning.Definitely as a Nigerian woman,it may be appear hard but definitely doable.
Well, wearing wigs all the time appears as if black women are ashamed of their hair. Black women are too creative, so find a way to normalize natural black hair and exceptance. There is a style for everyone! Be kind to yourself ❤ it's like learning your hair from scratch. If you can, fry , dye, and lay to the side someone else's texure. Be 👏 proud of the fact that your hair is like no one else's on the planet. It's unique 😊
I remember I went to a friend’s concert w my afro (cause my twists were a MESS from sleep) and old AA women were staring at me- i still wear my afro occasionally I just recently started naturally but since i was young my mom REFUSED it she’d always say I wasn’t “black enough” despite literally not being mixed w anything but it hurt. Braids aren’t really fun now, Im doing dreads and though it is hard I work because I do like my hair I very much love my hair- i wouldn’t change it for anything or any type of :)
I love what you have to say about our hair and its texture. You're right, we should wear our own hair! Please know that many young women who say they don't know how to care for and style their natural hair are telling the honest truth. A large number of them have worn relaxers since they were little girls. Transitioning to natural hair is an uncomfortable look for them. This is especially true if these young women have been wearing wigs most of their adult life. Once the wig, or added hair is removed it makes their natural hair seem unmanageable, and the look can be down right shocking. Keep encouraging our beautiful women to embrace what God has given them, and stop comparing their hair to others. Black women, remember, we have the "different" hair! Embrace that difference and try not to see it as something negative. Please stop telling yourself and other black women that their hair is ugly in its natural state. Let's not do that to each other...and to hell with what other races of folk think about our natural hair.
They are putting them on little girls now it’s time to admit we have a problem.
@@kellygoodman6167 yes. Parents don't even want to learn to their kids' hair. It's straight to wigs and extensions that they don't need.
That's not good, HOWEVER, too many black men are wearing the styles, little girls used to wear:
Cornrows, and simple braids..we USED to wear😞
@@kathleenking47they’re literally hairstyles that protect natural hair and 80% of black men take better care of their hair than Bw
@@kathleenking47 Braids go back all the way to Africa, where there were unlimited styles of Braids that were not gender exclusive. I can understand if you mean certain hairstyles like the those big puffy twists with the bobos but if you’re talking about Braids in general, I think you’re a little bit crazy.
@@kathleenking47 black men wearing cornrows doesnt stop you from putting them on little girls wtf
Wigs aren’t the problem. It’s wearing them glued down for weeks at a time, and selecting wigs with hair types that look nothing like our hair.
sis wasn't even wearing a wig cap and a wig grip to protect her hair...smh.... All my wigs are glueless and I remove them every night. my mom lost her hairline from old-school wigs rubbing in the 60s and 70s.
Exactly! Kinky hair textures are paid dust! The point of extensions/weaves is to enhance what you already have, NOT look like another race!!
exactly...tired of those silky strands...I love the kinky or yaki texture cause my Kitchen is noticable...lol..lol..
Exactly!!! Many of them don't know how to wear them properly, that's why their hair looks f*cked up!!!😂😂😂😂
....why the hell would anyone wear a wig that looks like their actual hair?.....then they would just wear their hair and not the wig.....I agree with you on the other stuff tho.
I'm so tired of black women getting on social media crying to the world how much they hate their natural hair. That's a bad look. Many of us love our hair and glory in showing it off. The last thing we need is content creators out here spreading a false narrative that our hair is 'difficult' or 'ugly'. I'm type 4 and have been natural since 2008. Consistency is the key!
Honestly like why 😭 did she feel the need to film this and share to the world. Self preservation needs to be taught.
It's because no one ever taught them how to love, care and style their hair regardless of texture or length. This was me growing up because my hair was so different from everyone else around me. I finally managed to go to a trichologist at age 38 who explained to me what exactly my hair needed. and gel and edge control is not it!
@@kinkykoils6176because it’s true? What kind of dumb comment is this.
I was just talking to my 16yr daughter about our natural hair. I told her our hair is beautiful, we have to learn how to care and style our hair. My daughter and I have locs, and we get stared at all the times, and I always notice that people stare at our hair and it's not a bad stare. It's something that seems very interesting to them. If only we could see how beautiful we look with our natural hair.
Thank you this is why other races think we have no hair. Its exhausting
even celebrities lace fronts look a mess 🤣
True. 😭
Cardi’s & Nicki’s come to mind 😂I remember cardi did a video saying alot of the celeb wigs we see online are retouched to hide to grid lines but in person it doesn’t look like that. That was just further confirmation I needed to stay away from them!
You talking about Rihanna ?😭😭
@@uncletea5632 Rihanna hardly wears lace fronts. Her hairstyles are usually classier, and more ethnic I've noticed. I think Rihanna when I see Bantu knots because of how well she rocks them.
@@actuallyjuliee she’s actually been experimenting with more wigs recently
The only reason they hate their hate is because they want it to look like a foreigner's hair. Once I stopped manipulating my hair and trying to slick it down and straighten it, it became very easy to style. We as black people need to understand that our hair shoots up to the sky to protect our scalp from UV rays. We have tight coils for body heat regulation so why are you trying to change the very hair texture that protected us and made black people the oldest living race on this planet? The same hair texture our ancestors put in sophiscated and complex styles that even Arab and European travellers journaled about it. Hating the same crown that makes us uniquely beautiful. No one else can have hair like ours no matter how much they tried. We have a beautiful garden of life on our heads and I encourage you to love and cherish it because in our hair lies our roots. Be true to yourself my dear, nothing is more beautiful than your hair in its natural state.
I agree that those with natural curly hair should embrace their features and love themselves first, but maybe it might make it a little bit easier to do so if the males of that group didn’t constantly bash the skin color, hair texture, and facial features of the women of their same ethnic group. Just a thought… 🤷🏽♀️
@@sammierose1150 I've noticed many women just don't like their hair because they live for male validation. I know people can't help who they are attracted to, but letting it dictate how you live your life can be damaging. And it's usually the low quality men that are colourist and texturist, mind you.
Exactly. God doesn't make mistakes
What do you mean a 'foreigners hair'?
wrong, they hàté their hair bc it's a close hair texture to the hair texture of the actual foreigners yall hàté so much…yall only love western/american/nonßlàçk hair though.🤡🤷🏿♀️
i'm 14 and I can style my 4c hair. They complain it's hard yet they don't wanna learn it lol
I can only twist my natural hair. But I'm way older than you. I think I want to watch videos on how to style it, but I'm not sure where to start. Most of the time, my hair is in a fro. I very seldom go anywhere though
I’m 40 so old enough to be your mother, please do NOT assume.
I tried but I’m not good with styling hair. I don’t even know how to braid. I can barely do twist and plaits. I wore my hair without chemicals for over 10 years. The reality is that every one does not know how to do hair. AND most natural hair salons styles only last for a few days (I use to spend a lot of money going to a salon for twist outs and braid outs and they only lasted a few days)
Hey Lil sis thanks for writing this. If a 14yr can learn, I definitely can at my big age. I just need to dedicate more time to it.
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadePeople like you are the exact reason why young women don't have support.
Practice makes perfect.
There's no way in hell or heaven, i as a 4c natural girly would wake up and decide to style my hair from the shrunken state, with 30 minutes on the clock before i need to be at work.
She created that problem for herself so she can justify saying her hair is difficult.
Stop fighting your hair and treat your hair as if you know it's different from other people's and requires different techniques.
The only way I'm waking up witb 30 mins to style my hair before work is if all im doing in undoing my twists and fluffling it out. You have to create a base overnight to have such expectations of your kinky/coily hair.
@@mexme-me-2 it happens sometimes lol and if I have a tight time restriction, I do a pineapple. But hopefully she learns that keeping her hair stretched or in protective styles creates less tangles and makes it less time consuming to style.
It's possible! There's a young lady on UA-cam and her channel is called Glory OKings. She has beautiful stunning styles utilizing flat twists and many other different styles. Preparing the night before is best, but styling beautifully in 30 minutes is totally possible. We just need to learn more about our beautiful hair.. God bless 💕
She still could have just used some gel and water and wore her hair in a twa that wouldn’t even take 30 minutes but it was obvious she was not confident in her texture of hair which is why she thought it looked bad. Feminine hair accessories also make a simple hairstyle better so she could have also done that and just left the hair out or wore a head band push back style
I agree. It is so freeing when you realize you may be the problem and not your hair. Now I feel boujee knowing my hair needs extra pampering and attention 💜
That part
This is the very reason I do not allow my daughters to wear any kind of fake hair. They must learn how to do their natural hair and recognise that this is what our God gave us, we must love it ❤❤
Wonderful!
Not Even braids with extensions? 😮
@@unicornpower8975 🤣🤣No.
But it’s crazy because my daughter just asked me this morning if she could get them….I said I would think about it.😅
Amen 🙏
@@ccee1985braids are an our hair thing anyway, you can still love your hair in braids
I love the blunt honesty. It's ridiculous that black women can't leave their house with their actual hair. Yes, styling isn't easy but it's a learning process and get's more comfortable over time
Speak for the women in America because not every black woman around the world is so insecure about their hair and can't leave the house without makeup or a wig
@@shalbec3232 yeah, in my country not long ago use fake hair was a "shame" because the high status is use your natural curly hair. The wigs are become commun nowdays.
There's nothing wrong with use wigs but if you use your natural hair more often is easy take care and style it
The over dependence is killing our hair because it’s difficult to moisturize as much as we need to. It makes us lazy, hair be so dry underneath lol
But these wigs also need to be refreshed and sprayed and laid as well 😩
How I look at it is when it is in its natural state it is quite normal for it to look “dry” but one product I love to moisturize even the most course hair is the TGIN green tea supermoist cream. It’s the bomb.
Our hair ain’t meant to be extremely moisturized due to where we evolved. Applying artificial oil, hot water, perm and chemical makes it more brittle, since in a hot climate we are supposed to retain water as much as possible and not excessive sweat or waste moisture. For people with naturally straighter hair (white, Asian m etc.), it gets quickly greasy and even slimy if they don’t wash it for even 1 day. Black people are lucky they don’t have to wash constantly.
Yes we apply grease now, but shea butter was used for hundreds of years in west africa. so no i disagree. our hair is definitely meant to be moisturized
She just needs someone to teach her how to style her own hair. Until then, she will stay frustrated. The good news is, those who wear wigs for (whatever reason(s)), they’re making more 4b/c units for BW.
@@6100GG love to see more textured extensions for the girlies who want to use them.
Yes! After you shampoo and condition it, you don’t just let it shrink and tangle again. She might need a trim to give it a nice shape too.
I think the styling part is tripping a lot of people up and unfortunately these days most of the girls on UA-cam aren’t showing many of the options available to us. They’re deep in the UA-cam archives though if you search. There are also a few channels that are doing it, like Glory Okings.
I made my own wigs with kinky hair because the rest of the hair suppliers are too slow!! no combs not lace just my own hair in the front!!
@@michelleej As long as I have my trim and I put leave-in conditioner and spray leave in detangler in it every day my hair does not tangle, even when it shrinks. But I have ultra-fine strands....I don't know what people with coarse strands do.
@@michelleejI think the issue is that people do not like those kind of styles like the glory oking styles. like they're good if classy trad wife or pastor's wife is your style, but if it's not you're going to feel mad uncomfortable wearing your hair like that. I actually hate that a lot of the styles that ppl do with natural hair are often so complicated. I usually just wear my hair in puffs, wash and goes, and twist outs but when I was trying to find easy protective styles I can do on my own hair none of them were easy. if requires braiding it's not easy. if it requires flat twists it's not easy. it's weird how pretty much all the styles are just either incredibly complicated or slicked back with gel.
When my natural hair was her length, i simply wet it during my shower and applied coconut oil, my coils looked moisturised and by the time i got on the train it would just sit in a round shape itself, make up and earrings and am gone for the day. No gel needed. Once you accept your hair in its natural form you are less stressed about it. It does take time depending on the person’s will power.
Is it 4c hair!
@@cindychristian1700 🤣 yeah. that sounds like a bedtime story for non 4cers
@@eristotle2380 😅🤣!!
might be
I hate gel! It gives me a headache and it is hard
The problem is that she's trying to do things on her 4c hair that it DOESN'T want to do. Other things that work on other textures, won't work on hers. 4c hair wasn't made to slicked down into these styles.
Yeah I don't even bother to slick down my hair. It can be slicked but you need 6 different layers of 3 different types of gel, a scarf and a dryer and one hour or overnight. Lol! Oh and the got to be spray for any fly aways. My hair and my scalp do not like all of that product so I can't even remember the last time I slicked down my hair. If I want it flat, I flat twist it.
that and her hair is no offense, entirely too short for the pony. using a string or shoe tie, she could've just done a mini puff style that doesn't pull that far back.
When my hair was that short, I just wore a neat, moisturized fro.
Right she would’ve looked so cute with pretty hair accessories like a pin, bow, or hair band
I had a relaxer from 6 years old😟 not proud of that or happy about it but I never learned how to properly care for my hair
Big chopped at 30, went to “natural hair” salons, only for my twist out or braid outs to look good for 3 days max… spent literally thousands of dollars on products. Watched all the natural hair tutorials and still could barely properly shampoo my type 4 hair
Ten years later at 40 (last year)I went back to a relaxer and couldn’t be happier! Let people live. Do you and let people do whatever is best for them and their lifestyle.
And this why I loc'd my hair...I'll grow my own, we got hair at home😅
My mom would say the same thing to me “why do you need to go to the beauty supply when your head is full of hair” 😂
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Exactly
Ok!!! Get me
Is locs not still running away from your natural hair texture though? Not against locs just wondering
I've noticed that these "love your natural hair videos" very rarely show short 4c hair, I think I counted one, or maybe two 4c TWAs in this entire 17 minute video. They always show long 4c hair or looser textures. It'd be nice if these channels can show more short 4c hairstyles and show how to overcome the "awkward" phase that so many women probably are avoiding.
I believe most of the hairs I displayed on screen especially for the first half of this video were short and in what you'd call the awkward length, and more importantly 4c hair types. What's your definition of long/loose textured? Cause I don't see what you see.
Point me to a timestamp of these long loose textured you speak of. Even the protective styles were done with short natural hair. So I'm confused.
Or 4c hair that is not high density..
One does not wait until one has to be at work in a short time to style ones hair!
Yep. Even people with straighter hairs don't do that.
@@actuallyjulieethey definitely do
That wasn’t the issue. The issue is she doesn’t like her natural hair to wear in a Afro state. An Afro takes like 5 minutes to moisturize and fluff out.
@@actuallyjulieethey do, but those with short straight hair simply brush their hair out and leave it alone. No putting it up, trying to braid it and all that nonsense. They wear their hair as it is.
I am black creole female and have a huge hair wrap collection. My BLACK FEMALE manager told me I had to wear my natural hair. I pointed out that the other girls all have wigs and she did as well. I do wear my natural hair. An all black neatly wrapped scarf with the back bun and hoop earrings was very stylish. It looked better than the cruchy lace frontals. She told me to either remove the wrap or go home. I left and never went back.
The whitefolk I've worked for never said a thing about how I did my hair, or if i wrapped it up. Thats when I realized we do have a problem.
But sis… wrapped up in a scarf (no matter how you dress it up) is NOT professional. I am sure that it did look better than “crunchy” ill fitted wigs BUT it’s still a scarf.
Unless you are Muslim then that is not acceptable. And btw I do not like lace wigs but I’m just telling you the truth.
I was a manager for American Express (the credit card company) and now I’m a flight attendant for a major US airline. I would never or is it allowed at either one of the companies that I worked for
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade I agree with you. Hopefully I can offer more context. I was a waitress. And if go out to eat I'd much rather have a server with her hair wrapped than a 30 inch buss down hanging by my food. I get what you're saying as well. Head wrapping is a part of CREOLE culture, not black culture. Wigs and Weaves are a part of BLACK culture, not Creole culture. The only issue I've ever had when I proudly wear something of cultural significance was with a black woman. Yet they had the audacity to serve historically Creole dishes, but when someone represented the actual culture it was a problem. All Creoles don't wrap their hair, just like all Muslims don't.
@@Chingchinglotto Africans were wearing wraps long before "CREOLE" was a thought. I love the way that black people practice division though. It's working well.
@Chingchinglotto head wraps are definitely a part or black culture (American, Caribbean, and African) and have been a part of the culture for hundreds of years. Especially as American blacks are starting to embrace our natural hair more, we see more head wraps. Ornate styles using wigs or weaves are also a part of the culture. It’s showcased our creativity for years, but it’s just that there has become an increasing dependence on these things instead of just using them for a style.
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadewhere are head wraps not professional? It’s one thing if it was a bonnet but I’ve seen head wars in many professional settings (I’ve worked in higher Ed).
I just seen a photo of a hbcu graduation and the amount of weaves I saw my heart just broke. Almost none of those young ladies had their natural hair and I just thought wow. We going to have a serious self representation problem when the next group of young women come.
I've heard this same observation at big/formal events. Hardly a single head of natural hair in sight usually.
Wow you’re so right. It’s truly fear.
After I started to love my hair, I fell in love with caring for it properly by learning to make everything my hair needs in my kitchen.
THIS!!!!!!! After loving my hair, every washday feels like a privilege. I love the process of touching my hair and feeling how soft it is, detangling and washing. Deep conditioning is my favorite step because my hair feels as soft as a cloud😍 Also seeing the coils pop and that new growth? Whew you're making me want to wash my hair again despite my washday having been 2 days ago.
If she uses african threads, it will help hair a lot.
I love this! The wig lovers get angry because you put a mirror up to their faces. Wigs perpetuate the myth that textured hair isn’t beautiful. Same with us Caribbeans who are obsessed with relaxers.
Who is ‘us Caribbean’s’? In Trinidad the girls are natural, loc’d more and more. Braids also. The Caribbean is not a monolith. And there can never be an ‘us Caribbean’s’ as each island has its own set of trends.
@@LisePlansandJournals ok all Trinis are natural? I grew up with many Trinis in NYC and most were not. Let me go and google to see if relaxers or wigs are not a thing there. I know Caribbeans are not a monolith but colorism affected 99.9% of the islands. That’s what I meant obviously we are different down to our language and dialects. But thanks for stating the obvious I learned a ton.
@@MrsV2001.1you’re comparing Trinis who live in the states with the notoriety of making straight hair the standard vs Island Trinis? I can attest having been to few islands and lived in the Caribbean for most of my life Caribbean people are most definitely rocking natural hair more than relaxers
@@sayitasis8326 ok that’s fair. I did read that relaxers are being used less along with other Caribbean countries. BUT, I searched the estimated sales of relaxers in Caribbean countries.and here is how they ranked:
1. Jamaica
2. Trinidad and Tobago
3. Barbados
4. Bahamas
5. Dominican Republic
6. Haiti
7. PR
8. St Lucia
9. Grenada
10. Cuba
11. Antigua and Barbuda
12. St Kitts and Nevis
@@sayitasis8326lol they will say they are wearing it for a protective style but why choose a texture that looks absolutely nothing close to ur natural hair 😭 why do they not mostly wear kinky textured wigs 😩
" I've seen enough in real life to know that it's not giving scalp." I love you for that statement.
And if you do wear wig...why not one that mimicks your own hair texture? Everyone wants to say "black girls don't wear their real hair and only wear wigs and weave". A lot of women in general worldwide wear extensions, weaves etc. The kick is they wear fake hair that mimicks their own texture...so you would never know. Black women are the only group of women who tine and time again choose textures of hair that is the comolete opposite of their natural hair texture...and thats why we have the label as a collective of "never wearing our own hair"
@ariannawilliams6040 And that's that on that.
Remember the natural hair journey craze? Somewhere between 2012-2018? It was a very short period of time 😢then the lace fronts took over completely. So we stopped getting relaxers but slapped wigs over our natural hair.
The big capitalist machines had to think of something fast to keep black women buying hair. We are their biggest customers after all.
@@actuallyjuliee exactly because that’s when all the “natural hair” products came out that catered to twist outs, coils, wash n go, and all that is alike became popular. I guess all that wasn’t enough 💰for them. They had to get creative. I remember during that time, suddenly all kinds of weaves evolved. Remember how crotchet evolved rapidly?!
It was like when they saw us embracing our natural hair with styles, they quickly found ways for us to put more weave in “conveniently”. It was their way of saying “why spend time maintaining your own hair when you can slab this on quicker..?” And it worked!
Thank you! I too am sick of the wigs. We dont want to accept our hair isn't going to be "laid". It's not made to be that and there's nothing wrong with that.
I'm an Indian woman, and I recently found out that wigs made with Indian hair has a massive demand among black women. And now I'm in a deep dive about black women and their relationship with hair. This is so complex, I am not in any position to have opinions because I'm not in this situation. But seriously, so much history is woven into the kinks of black hair.
I knew i hated my hair when I refused to leave my house without a wig on. The one I had was old and tangled and I wasn't gonna have money for a new one for another 4 days so I stayed indoors and completely avoided going out until then. I even lied and said I was sick so people wouldnt come over or ask me out. The wig I bought was the last one i ever bought. I had to hold myself accountable for the condition of my natural hair so I chopped it off and vowed to never put a wig on again. I never disliked the way I looked with my natural hair but I knew I would be accepted with a wig on so I always wore them and my hair paid the price. After my big chop, I let it grow out and eventually got locs and have been growing them out since. Its been 4 years and my hair is full and thick and lon; its never been this healthy or long in my life. I love my hair more now than ever before and I look good at all times with my locs whether they're freshly retwisted or left undone for months. I love it here lol
Love that for you!
Right! 💯
Black women would rather walk outside with a tacky wig on or a dusty bonnet than show their real hair but so many BW swear it's not about self hatred. SMH
As a Latina I think Afro hair is beautiful. I have curly wavy hair and wish I had fuller curly coils like my sister. My hair falls downwards. The only issue I see are other black women judging other black women for having kinkier hair and not wearing what I heard them call “bust downs” which is a wig?
Point being no other groups judge black womens hair as harshly as black people do their own hair. That first girl was so beautiful, she could have any hair and she still would be. Hair is cute someone told her it wasn’t and it starts from home
Never seen a lace front that looks good. Not on celebrities, not on regular people.
I will say, here in the US we do still have institutions that are still punitive in nature, where they will punish you for you natural hair like some schools and workplaces. But, on the whole, I’ve found that regardless if a person or place likes my natural hair or not, when I walk confidently with my head held high, other have no choice but to accept me.
On another note, when did a fro/twa not qualify as a style? Like, I feel for that young woman, but she could just shape her hair in a fro, add some accessories and keep it moving. Afros are gorgeous and appropriate for all occasions.
@@missluvableladii yes. I read up on the Crown Act. But whenever these discourses about hair discrimination happen online, I rarely hear about the person that got rejected by institutions because of their hairs, it's petty argument of whose hair is nappy and whose hair looks like Peruvian bundles. Just backwards and regressive. But, yes, nothing elevates ones total aura like confidence.
Like?! I was so confused watching all of that. Just use a band to do a middle fro and it'd probably look better too.
@actuallyjuliee lol, you’re not wrong 😂 online discussions about natural can be VERY regressive. At times I need to opt out of listening because, in all honesty, I’m happy with my kinky hair! It’s like, natural hair is what you make of it. I even found this to be true when I went natural 12 years ago. Like, for real, You can make political statement if you want, you can showcase your styling talents, or even project your soft girl life 🥰 pick something and have fun. We have a lot of info and tutorials to learn from. As you’ve mentioned before, we will put in all types of effort to finish college, learn make up, navigate the working world, but we forget how to put in the work to learn our natural hair.
@@savagestation5653 she's British...even more clueless on how to do Afro-centric hair than the black American diaspora. I've only worked with 2 black people. Myself and another girl who work afro-centric styles in 24 years of living in the UK. Not even the women raised in Africa or the Caribbean here wear their natural hair regularly. Straight hair is the standard. wigs, weaves, silk press and relaxer. Everyone is amazed when I do my hair....of all races I had a Fro-hawk last year and they were amazed. this year I did a flat twisted crocheted bun. Amazed. I now have short layered kinky twists....amazed...I think because it's so different from what all the other women wear.
Girl stop making excuses some Bw just hate their own hair and hate on other bws hair
Saw and caption and said FACTS and came running!!!!
Same 😂
Yes me too!!!😂
6:17 nah I think this is the perfect day for this conversation. Bw trying to humble white girls saying “we don’t want your hair we wear Asian and Latina hair” as if that makes it any better? Lmao
😂😂😂😂
And some of their ancestors are still Europeans 😂😭💀
Exactly. It’s so weird. It still ain’t OUR hair though. That’s the gag 😂 And I love extensions! I just wear kinky textured clip ins and ponytails from heat free hair and kinky kurly yaki. I don’t want any colonizer even THINKING that I want to look like them. No ma’am 💅🏾
They goofy as fuk.
I know that’s the dumbest argument I ever heard. I get second hand embarrassment. Just wear your wig and go 😂
I am a man who has had this issue for quite a while, I've used relaxers to before coming to terms with loving my natural afro textured hair. I'm really glad this video is out there. Fyi, there's nothing wrong with afro textured hair in its natural texture as long as it's clean.
I’m 18 and i lost a bit of my edges when i started wearing lace fronts this year. I don’t think I’m wearing a wig again like ever. I don’t get how people act like natural hair is a lot of maintenance when those wigs I wore were frustrating. I have been neglecting my hair for too long, it will even be a long time before I wear braid’s again. I just started watching natural hair videos about black women’s attitude to hair and I am so happy that my eyes have been woken at my age. Natural hair is fragile and needs to be moisturised a lot and we are every thing but gentle to our hair. Imma spend the rest of my life growing my 4cl hair out and I am going to make sure my daughter loves her hair too.
@@samilliesamillie7524 i love that for you! Too many people realise when it's much too late. In their younger years, they see it as an attack to be told certain hairstyles are destroying their hairs and confidence. I'm glad you're dedicated to taking better care of your hair now.
The lack of ethics in wig making is such a conversation to be had! I know it's a nuanced topic but I've volunteered in East and South Asia and the number of women who are forced by "pimps" to grow out their hair and chop it periodically so their controllers can make money while giving them a small fraction is insane! Women are also taken just for their hair. In one of the rural towns I visited, one of the family's said they don't allow their daughters to have hair below their chins so they won't get taken away. It's so sad
You need to hold the asians who profit off our insecurities accountable
@@KBe-tk2kw you so in love with that straight hair you didn’t even read the comment properly
@@KBe-tk2kw If you'd pushed your straight-ass bangs aside to actually read the comment, you'd know I'm talking about those who are exploited. The only ones profiting off your insecurities are the big guns and I am fairly certain, none of them are run by said asians
@@KBe-tk2kw 1) You've read incorrectly, I said those who are EXPLOITED. 2) If in the off chance you did read correctly, you feel entitled to sympathy and understanding for your eurocentric insecurities over people who are exploited and treated inhumanely, get a grip! 3) As rude as I may sound, stop being insecure and learn to love yourself, no one is going to appreciate you if you don't appreciate yourself. You can wait more than a lifetime for change or you can be the change because deflecting "accountability" when faced with the unethicality of your consumerism is embarrassing for you. Have a nice day!
@@sanjanat1085 🤮 😢
As a cosmetologist and a black woman I can assure you taking care of it is manageable. It DOES require more TLC but if you take care of it with shampooing every week or every 2 weeks depending on if you work out, trims, deep conditioning and covering when you sleep.
The issue is lack of education on proper hair care and trying to attract the male gaze.
Black hair is not unmanageable. Some Black women just refuse to manage it and only think that straight yaki hair or loose curls are beautiful. The girl in the beginning of the video didn't even bother to try stretching her hair the night before, she wanted to try to style her coarse, dry hair 30 minutes before she had to be at work. You have to learn your hair and keep your hair moisturized. Some black women think that non-black women are so beautiful that they get upset when their hair doesn't do what non-black or mixed women's hair does.
I mean she did put a leave-in moisturiser in it but she should have just put it in an afro and a head wrap and kept it moving. Her hair looks like mine. Not coarse actually fine-textured. I can style my hair in 5 minutes without stretching or doing anything the night before.....that's a myth that they gave to black people that our hair must always be stretched and laid. My hair must always be moisturised so I put leave-in conditioner on it every day! if forms into its own little coils on its own with no gel when moisturised.
at least yaki/kinky straight hair matches our silk pressed hair…ßlàçk women still call yaki/kinky straight hair "low quality hair" compared to the asian/mixedrace/other nonßlàçk hair textures that got these hóød girls in a choke hold.😭
Don’t project on to some of us what YOU feel within yourself. A lot of simply do not know how to do our natural type 4 hair. It’s not as deep as yall are making it.
I had a relaxer most of my life from 6 to 30, when I big chopped and wore my hair without chemicals, it was very expensive and time consuming.
Once I had a little length and went to salons for braid outs and twist outs, it would only last for a few days… I spent thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours watching tutorials.
I never knew how to braid, and still don’t.. I still couldn’t even properly wash my hair in its type 4 state
I gave up at 40, went back to a relaxer and couldn’t be happier.
You have a point. This also seems like a life lesson everyone should learn before becoming adults. 🫤
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadealso gave up after 10 years of being natural to get a relaxer. Best decision for me
There's no other race of women that wear another race if woman's hair on they're heads besides us black women do you know how insecure of a message we're sending?!😭
@MNarta This is really what some women fail to understand. :-//
YUP! that’s why non blk women floss their hair at us 😂
Not true. Do better research on who wears wigs of what type. Not just black women. Check out Jewish wigs for one example.
@@s.m.7206 the do that for religious reasons and it's a small subgroup of jews that do it ,not to mention the fact that the wigs they wear mimick they're actually hair texture
This is so false. Every race of women wear extensions. Why would you spread false information, just like every other race of people think black women only wear weaves.
Our ancestors went through so much for us to be free. So do just that.. rock your natural hair humbly with pride. God bless everyone💖🙏🏽
0:45 "I can't go like this" All she needed was a hair band in the front and she could have "gone like that". She's just not used to wearing her natural hair out so she thought it "should" look like something that's it's not.
I am so happy when I see Nigerians UA-camrs make great video ❤
Thank you. Hope you drop by again sometime. :)
We can always use a blow dryer to help with the extreme shrinkage. Once you get your hair stretched any style is possible
our hair does not need to be stretched...but it does need to be moisturised...sometimes daily!!
Stretching should be incorporated as part of one's routine to make sure sebum is distributed easier. Styles like twists or braids that stretch the hair help do this. It doesn't necessarily have to be blow dried. But yes stretching is important.
Yall just want us to wear Afro everyday. Abeg rest. We can do whatever we want
@@Pookipak yet yall will cry when other races make fun of our hair cuz all you wanna do is parade around in other races hair
The problem with stretching 4c hair is that it won't STAY stretched. I tried stretching my hair and the next day it shrinks right back up. Twists don't work. When I untwist my 4c hair it just sticks up all over the place.
Why do so many ppl hate their blkness???? So sad
Gud question.
Black women say it’s hard to style 4c hair or textured hair, but it’s only hard because your trying to make it do something it naturally doesn’t want to do. 4c is not a looser curl type, it’s not going to do what 3c or 3b is going to do. Trust me castor oil is your best friend 😃
Periodd
I've realized that hair dysmorphia in the black community is so bad that particularly black women's self love doesn't even inculde our hair. We feel at our most feminine, classy, fine and overall whole when we're hiding our hair which is so bizarre to me. This is why this argument of "well other races wear extentions" is null and void because they don't wear wigs or extentions in order to hide their unique hair texture. And before someone says it has nothing to do with self hate or hair dysmorphia, why is it that black women think that their hair is not for upscale events and that a wig that is nowhere near our texture is better? Yeah. I'm not here trying to tell people what to wear on their head, but I'm encouraging yall to see what these wigs are doing to you. I wear wigs myself but if they were to disappear tomorrow i wouldn't go insane. Its possible to wear wigs without having a problem with your hair.
Who said that
Any of us are
Hiding behind
A wig?
Maybe that is
How you feel
About yourself
And your own
Hair
But that doesn't mean
That you can
Speak for the
Majority of us.
Every woman
Has a different
Experience
When it comes
To there hair
And also have
There reasons
Why they decided too
To wear wigs
Weave or extensions or locks?
Some of you
On here in the
Comment Section.
Seem to have
A lot of Opinions especially when it comes
To black women and their Hair.
Stop trying to
Make something more than what it is.
Because it really isn't
That serious.
@@MiaWhorton Saying that I'm hiding behind my wig when I'm natural 99% of the time is very rich coming from you who was writing essays and sob stories about how your wigs are your saving grace under my comments in other videos. If you refuse to see the contributions that wigs are making towards texturism and black women's overall well-being, that's on you.
@@ami-el7dg This whole comment is IT.
Facts
@@ami-el7dg
Speak for yourself What
I think your
Missing the point
Some of use wear
Wigs because
Majority of us
Really don't have
A choice in the
Matter .
I know I can't
Necessarily speak
For other black Women let alone
Biracial woman
As well.
The only reason
I wear a wig Myself is because
I have Alopecia
So there for I
Have too wear
A wig believe me
I wish I had my
Own long beautiful hair like
I use too have
Back than.
If it was up
To me I would
Never wear a wig
But everbody has
There own reason
Why they wear a
Wig but that doesn't mean
You should get
All bent out of
Shape over it.
Some of you
Are making a
Bigger deal out
Of this then you
Need to.
If a woman wants
Too wear a wig
Then that's completely up
To her if your
Not buying the
Wigs yourself
Then why does
It bother you so
Much ?
Believe me there
Are other things
That more Important things
Going on in the
World than Worrying about
What another woman has on
Her head .
I honestly don't have a problem with wigs, weaves and braided extensions as these can be protective styles.
My only concern is if the hair underneath is neglected to the point it is in an unhealthy, broken state.
I limit my kinky twists braid extensions to 12 weeks a year and I limit my wigs to 12 weeks a year. The rest of the time I wear my afro, or my hair with added extra hair in afro-centric styles that I take down every week, or a scarf wrap. I need to shampoo my scalp every week otherwise I get scalp inflammation.
Honestly, I don't think you need to style your hair to make it acceptable. You can just leave your fro alone. But if anyone wants to style their hair, our traditional hairstyles (braids, african threading, cornrows and so on) are the best you can do.
Hairstyles that requires to wear your hair out is something we probably learned from the Europeans.
@@Gabona3.0 I wholeheartedly agree.
This is a opinion I never thought of before ( I’m a black American woman) that wearing out our black hair might have a been a European thing pushed on us and people in the black diaspora that wore “unique” hairstyles (braids locs twist and etc too) are actually normal for us. Thank you lol
I don't like just plain fros. So that wouldn't work for MY self esteem. But, sure. You CAN just wear a fro.
I mean you can also do wash and go’s and twistouts, perm rod sets, flexirods. There are so many styles we can do
THANK YOU! This is a frustrating topic for me because I grew up in a Black church where natural hairstyles were shunned. I eventually left the church, but my parents are still in it, and they’re raising their grandchildren in it. My sister, who died in 2020, told me that she refused to relax her daughter’s hair because she didn’t want her to grow up hating her hair. I recently found out that my mother has started relaxing my sister’s baby’s hair for that awful church, and it pissed me off! Not only are you contributing to self hate in a 7-year old Black child, but you are going against her deceased mother’s wishes!
Natural hairstyles shunned in a church?
Ohh goodness. This is so sad.
@@IONov990 Yes! The church is called The United House of Prayer for All People. Don’t ever go there!
That's so awful
I wish I could like this video a million times. Very well put.”This show s beauty, indetity, roots, pride , diversity, culture ” is the most spoken truth and reminder of who we are, where we come from.
This is going to be my hair mantra
Thank you again
You're so welcome!
Okay so I’m not crazy 😂 it’s absolutely insane to wear a wig daily when you have a beautiful head of hair. It’s a shame really
Its to the point I will see someone with blond hair and just casually assume its a white women...they turn around its a whole sista. Im like maam this is crazy
I actually been natural 2 years now and i can truly say i have never been happier and more confident. I have type 4 hair and it isn’t the easiest that is true but I’ve learned to just love it as is!
You are so right lace front only looks nice in pictures
That penguin eating the pizza has me dead 😂
@@logenesis3108 penguins just wanna have fun.
I was never a wig girly to start with but after seeing videos of how the hair is being obtained and how sweeped off the floor, it made the whole affair seem extra gross.
Same!! And I’m a Christian and recently saw a video about how a lot of the human hair companies get the hair from corpse or women who “sacrificed” the hair to pagan false gods
I wear synthetic premium fiber u-part wigs with my own hair out, ponytail or crocheted styles BUT only with premium fibers not actually hair
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadewho do you suggest for premium fibers?
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadeI need what you’re smoking
Wow. Thank you for explaining this. I've always wondered why people don't like their natural hair. I personally think natural looks way better on everyone.
The first scene hurt my soul. I’ve been there so many times. I have good days and bad days, and just except my hair even on the bad days. It actually releases the stress about it. It eventually becomes very freeing.
My flex is: I know how to hand stitch an entire wig. However, it used to take me anywhere from 5-8hrs when I was first learning and it would take up my ENTIRE SATURDAY-the only day I had off when I was working multiple jobs! Even then i still had to prep, moisturize, and deep condition my real hair so add on another 2-3hrs.
It was starting to drive me mad that I was spending soooo many hours on my off days on my fckin hair! And it was frustrating since I still felt like it didn’t look as natural as my real hair…and it wouldnt because it’s a wig & it’s a different texture💀I gave up closures & frontal completely after that and slowly got away from sew-ins not too long after. This is why when I hear Women who claim doing their natural hair takes too long compared to their wig maintenance I know they are full of PURE BS!!
Sounds like you're a slave to your natural hair and to your wig.
I know how to hand stich it too....but I made myself kinky wigs, kinky half wigs and kinky extensions!! My hair is currently in kinky twists!! I do not like the edges on closures and frontal that much and I do not want to spend any time blending my hair, edges and baby hairs. With my kinky wigs/and weave I just untie my own edges smooth with my fingers and go!! I love the frizz and volume.
I don’t understand why you said that it’s “bs” to complain about the time to maintenance natural type 4 hair because you literally said it took up your entire day off😟🥴🤔
It definitely takes the WHOLE day to maintenance type 4 hair especially if you don’t know how to do hair.
If the wigs is purchased and not homemade then there is ZERO extra time involved. So I’m not sure what the point of your comment is🥴
Btw I don’t wear lace wigs. I have a relaxer but when I was natural for 10 years, I wore crochet styles or u part kinky coily wigs.
I agree with you. Alot of black women dont like what they look like with a small shrunken afro. So they feel the need to "fight shrinkage" or "elongate the curl" i found i retained most length when i embraced my shrinkage. Like pat that thing down and get some cute earrings on cmon lol
As a Melenated N. American . I know many women with curly hair that take care of that wig better then their own hair. They refuse to practice up keep on their own hair.
Look. It's the texture. I am mixed race lady living in Nigeria. So my colleague was sitting near me and I was running my fingers through her wig. Nothing serious. Next thing she said is "your hair is like wig you don't need to wear wig"
So is it that you can't wear your hair so you have to wear wig to feel presentable. Remember this is Nigeria. Body is against you wearing your natural hair. Just look clean and presentable to work. It's the texture.......
Unfortunately Nigeria and most African countries still feel the effects of colonialism and it's beauty standard. It's extremely sad.
Nigerians say things like that with their full chests and not see the problem. 😭
@@actuallyjuliee So glad I grew up in the Caribbean with multiple textures from 1a to 4c from thick to thin from bald-headed like Grace Jones to waist length like Beyonce or Cassie to locs like Lisa Bonet on the Cosby show and A different world in 1988. We been trying to break out of colonialism and slavery.
In Africa, self-hate is called "colonialism". In Black America or the Caribbeans, self-hate is called "colorism, featurism, and texturism". Black people of the African Diaspora are one and the same when it comes to self-hate. @@genevaxo
Why are Nigerians wearing wigs..they used to wear cornrows and afros
I am so sick of wigs and weaves… at what point do we stop using the excuse of protective styles and just put the effort into styling our hair. In the 80’s and 90’s hardly anyone wore wigs… that excuse just doesn’t fly anymore just learn how to do and love your own hair
@@Yougotthis1212 crazy when you see how much regression has happened.
My mom wore wigs and weaves in the 80s and 90s...it's just that people were not so open about it...and also it blended with people's hair...now.......Most people do not know how to style their hair ....and most styles start with hair care and they don't know how to do that....
@@marleyhill34 I grew up during that era and in the 80’s regular people weren’t really wearing wigs, only if you were a celebrity or modeling but not for everyday use. That was the time of the Jerri curl and press and curl, people were wearing their own hair. Weave and wigs were taboo or for the older ladies…The nineties is when weave started to slip into the scene people wanted to mimic celebrities and their hair secrets were being revealed but it still wasn’t mainstream… at least not where we lived
Why do they have to give you an excuse tho? It’s their hair
@@PjHanley-zt2kh it’s about loving how you were created and not succumbing to the beauty standards that weren’t created to include you. We are beautiful with our own hair and we need to learn how to love it, grow it and care for it. It’s fine to do things occasionally but all the time and despising what’s growing from your scalp is a form of self hate
I wore a wig one time and it looked a hot mess to me even though I got lots of compliments lol. I’m washing my hair once a week period. I don’t care what style I have in. Wigs stink to me and don’t get me started on the heat styling smell
A friend who stays in wig installs told me she shampoos once EVERY THREE MONTHS. I almost gagged when she said that mess.
@@delphineblue Sis....Bruh....this is why I have to wear wigs only for 12 weeks of the 52....bondage...and not the good kind.
This!!! I never hear anyone else talk about this… I was never into lace wigs either but I will wear a ponytail or u-part wig BUT yes sis, I have to wash my hair at least once a week.
Sometimes more than that if I went to like a barbecue or something and it gets hot, sweaty or smell like food
And don’t forget braids, sew in weaves, real locs and faux locs… that stale musty smell is disgusting🤮😷🤧😮💨
Natural hair is so exhausting, it makes me cry 😭😭But I still keep it cos I wanna learn how accept it and learn how to take care of my own hair, I know I'll be proud of my self one day ❤❤
I'm SO happy my parents neither let me relax my hair nor wear weaves. When I was a kid, I hated it bc I wanted to look like all the other Black girls. As an adult, I have a confidence many don't have. I can't even fathom attaching fake hair to my head. If I want it long, I'll grow it. If I want it straight, I'll blowdry it. I honestly can't even relate to the wig craze.
I agree afros are gorgeous afros get so many compliments. In the 1970s white women used to perm their hair into Afros, and then white men even started doing it 🤣 Everybody loves Afro. haha
Bob Ross is a classic example. LOL 😊😊😊😊
@@kimberlyhicks3644 my mom wares afro and she said when she got a new job in the 70s a week after she started working there a white woman got a perm afro and with in another week every employee had gotten one even the men and the district manager came to evaluate the store and burst out laughing. And said, what did you do these people? They all have Afros now everyone of them 🤣 even the customers would just stare at all the employees like what the heck. people would look to my mom for an answer, as she always said 🤷🏽♀️ it was a record store. Full of a bunch of blonde Afros. And every time a new customer would come in. They would always look at my mom first and laugh. I wish I could’ve seen it.
I don’t understand the wig obsession. Other races also have thick, tightly curled, coarse or frizzy textures (maybe not exactly 4C but still time consuming) and they experiment until they figure out how to work with it, not cover it up with something that doesn’t look natural on them.
I feel that in situations like this is where the ugly phase need to be welcomed because when I started my locs it was so bad and frizz but me allowing it to be natural and still getting compliment showed me and allowed me to embrace my natural self slowly
I agree about the lace fronts! I dislike those things, gooooossshhh . .. they look a mess in person, terrible
Wigs use to be a quick cover up in between styles......now they are the style. Lace wigs were meant for film and photos.
Relaxing your hair after getting your ideal length is insane 🥲
Right!!
I sort of see it as people loosing the weight and then going right back to their original eating habits 🤧
People just want to change. Stop projecting
Don’t be so quick to judge… I was raised with a relaxer… big chopped at 30 and spent the entire time being frustrated. Wasted money at “natural salons” and thousands on products…
I got sick of it and relaxed 10 years later. I gave it ten WHOLE years and it just never worked for me🤷🏽♀️
I’m assuming a lot of you guys never had a relaxer or you know how to do type 4 hair because I never got the hang of it. It was frustrating🤦🏽♀️
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMadeexactly!
The first clip made me so frustrated 😅😅🫠 all she has to do is spray some water on it fluff it and call it a day. Why forcing to lay the hair if it's that short and not stretched?
The product she used isn't for her hair type. The way we are setting ourselves for failure and blame the hair for that 😭
As an asian who loves to style hair, i would love to try to style natural 4c hair. I hope one day i can do that
I think something that’s incredibly embarrassing is sitting with your back facing a guy and you’re wearing a 30 inch bussdown. In his head, he’s thinking who’s this fine ass white girl/Latina. Then you turn around and they internally sigh. I choose my pride I choose myself. What you see is what you get! No disappointment here 😂
The gag is, celebrities used to wear wigs to events & photoshoots only. Normal people took this and thought this was an everyday thing and now everyone (even celebrities) think it’s the norm for everyday use. This is why people have bald hairlines now. Wigs arn’t bad, but using it everyday, glued to your skin, it’s healthy.
I love the beautiful natural hair God gave me. Someone once told me natural hair is not wearing, yet her hairline was gone and continued to recede due to wigs.
i love my natural hair, been natural since 2013... i've had two sets of locs, bald, fade, mohawk, silk blowout, and now currently growing my hair back after cutting off my color... NATURAL HAS ALWAYS BEEN IN
I have alopechia. So I have to wear a wig. When I was in my early thirties; my hair was down to my waist! Alpechia runs on the women’s side of my family.
@@devettewilliams9077 aw. sorry about that.
My mom has alopecia all around her edges. She said her grandmother and aunts had it too. I wear Afro-centric styles mostly that I do myself and I do not glue down because I'm trying to keep as much hair on my head and as much follicles alive as possible. The afro centric styles with added kinky or marley hair blends with my hair so I do not have to use heat or chemicals to alter the texture and risk damage.
@@marleyhill34edges, are from being pulled too tight
It runs in my family on my mom's side. My grandmother, my mom and two of my aints are bald. It hasn't come for me ... yet. 😂
Alopecia runs in your family or certain hair care practices that are damaging to Afro-textured hair is being passed down in your family? I am not trying to insult just looking at what could be the deeper issue. Many of us are told certain cancers and lifestyle diseases ‘run in the family’ until someone in the family makes the decision to make dietary and lifestyle changes to put an end to the cycle.
I really wasn’t interested in this video at 1st, but after watching I subscribed. Thank u♥️♥️
Welcome to the club. Glad you enjoyed it. 🥰
I deeply believe that a lot of women don’t necessarily like the texture of wigs, weaves, and extensions but it’s the length that is desired.
Your commentary is absolutely amazing and in my opinion, completely spot on.
I don't know if you write out scripts before you film, or if you just wing it. Either way, you are excellent at editorial journalism.
“ Now is it real? Eyebrows, fingernails, hair” - J. Cole
Such an informative video. Thank you!
I am ashamed that the young lady would post a video of herself having a melt down about her hair. That was embarrassing. I agree with what you are saying about some peoples dependence on wigs but note that I said some, not all. I am "black" and I have never worn a wig, or or had my hair braided etc. i would rather spend my money on other things.
There is a learning curve when kinky curly, curly, and wavy haired people start wearing their hair natural. This is for all cultures. I speak from experience as I am a curly girl and know and follow a lot of other curly girls of all races and it is always the same story. I know your video was referring to only kinky curly girls but there are a some curly girls that wear the wigs too just like the the women that you were talking about...i love to see all women loving the way that God has made them. They are all beautiful.
I don't think she should be judged too harshly tbh. Some people are post big chop, and learning something new in your adult years can be more challenging than if you started learning it as a child. I wish her the best in her hair journey though.
@@actuallyjuliee you are right about those posting their big chops. When I first started seeing those I was ashamed as well because of how some people acted about it. They made such a big deal about it. Some of the girls were very prideful and that is not beautiful. But youtube is a great place to get hair styling ideas. Perhaps she will look at the youtube and get some ideas lol. most curly and wavy hair girls don’t have parents that really know what to do with their hair. And when your hair is curly or wavy no matter what type sometimes you just have to work around it. I hope you have a great day or night, wherever you are located :)
I know every BW wants to hate on the honest feedback from BM, but I gotta say this: wear your natural hair. Like everyone else does. Don't be the only ones wearing wigs out here having them falling off and whatnot. Be free.
Life is too short for me to be living according to how ANYONE ELSE says I should. If I want to sport my natural hair, i will. If I want to relax or straighten it, I will. If i want to wear a wig/weave/braids/twists, etc...I WILL! Worry about you and yours. I'm an adult. I have earned the right to choose for myself and mine.
Havent wore a wig in over a year and dont intend to ever again.
Almost every girl in high school wears a wig
That's sad
This such a balanced opinion of hair love and appreciation. Thank you
Something never discussed is also black men’s dependency on waves to try copy other races hair which is straight or wavy
Girl, your video has me in my room talking to myself like I'm losing it XD
😭😭 lmao why?
My hair is like hers -- I am a flight attendant -- I have to show up to work "presentable" and on-time or I will be fired. A TWA is gorgeous but there are some days when it WILL NOT cooperate and I will admit that I have mini meltdowns those days with the clock ticking. The struggle is real and we need to acknowledge that. Black women have to put in much more time in advance just to show up in an acceptable form to the world and not be devalued or ridiculed. Just keeping it real.
Are you allowed to wear braids or other protective styles?
I was a flight attendant for a major airline until I retired…we were allowed to wear braids. I wore my Senegal Twist for years. And others that wore natural hair.
@@actuallyjuliee A protective style (braids, locs) would be a solution. To me, however, they feel like they're in the same class as wigs -- as in not my hair. I'm trying to work with what is growing out of my head versus having synthetic hair woven in every day of my life -- just so I can present well enough for the workplace.
What you said at 3:30 is the truth! I had the same thought. She was doing so good when she started applying product and combing her hair out, but then she kept trying to slick her hair back into a bun... Slick back buns take a lot of effort especially since her hair is shorter. She would looked great with her twa hair brushed out and then patted down in a moisturized afro
I was gonna say, at her length, she needed to spray some water and moisturizer in there, work it in, fluff it out and pin the hair behind the ears for a frohawk. Ten minutes and done
A lot of women look up to celebrities and Instagram influencers which makes them want to look like those people 😮
Hey girl,just discovered your channel.If your going to work in the morning,its going to be easier to condition the hair at night and style it in the morning.Definitely as a Nigerian woman,it may be appear hard but definitely doable.
Very true
Well, wearing wigs all the time appears as if black women are ashamed of their hair. Black women are too creative, so find a way to normalize natural black hair and exceptance. There is a style for everyone! Be kind to yourself ❤ it's like learning your hair from scratch. If you can, fry , dye, and lay to the side someone else's texure. Be 👏 proud of the fact that your hair is like no one else's on the planet. It's unique 😊
You are absolutely right ❤
I remember I went to a friend’s concert w my afro (cause my twists were a MESS from sleep) and old AA women were staring at me- i still wear my afro occasionally
I just recently started naturally but since i was young my mom REFUSED it she’d always say I wasn’t “black enough” despite literally not being mixed w anything but it hurt. Braids aren’t really fun now, Im doing dreads and though it is hard I work because I do like my hair I very much love my hair- i wouldn’t change it for anything or any type of :)
I love what you have to say about our hair and its texture. You're right, we should wear our own hair! Please know that many young women who say they don't know how to care for and style their natural hair are telling the honest truth. A large number of them have worn relaxers since they were little girls. Transitioning to natural hair is an uncomfortable look for them. This is especially true if these young women have been wearing wigs most of their adult life. Once the wig, or added hair is removed it makes their natural hair seem unmanageable, and the look can be down right shocking. Keep encouraging our beautiful women to embrace what God has given them, and stop comparing their hair to others. Black women, remember, we have the "different" hair! Embrace that difference and try not to see it as something negative. Please stop telling yourself and other black women that their hair is ugly in its natural state. Let's not do that to each other...and to hell with what other races of folk think about our natural hair.
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Until we Accept, and Love ourselves this will continue. Truly Sad don't we know who we Really are?💔
Thank you so much for this video.
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