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Before even watching , I instantly am in tears. The journey has not been easy for me , 14 years clean now ...
Congratulations ❤
That’s awesome 😁
Congratulations! From one internet stranger to another, I'm so proud of you! That's a very hard thing to do, and thats amazing you've been able to do that and stay clean!
That's amazing. You're existence in the world makes the world a better place to live in. I mean that. Stay awesome 💘
Congrats!
I just wanna give props to Steven. This is a hard thing to talk about. Hearing how you hurt the ones you love, even at a time when you were sick, is not an easy thing. You two are such a strong, understanding, loving couple and your stories inspire me constantly. I feel like we are friends even though you have no clue I exist. UA-cam is weird like that.
I feel this exact same way!
So do I...
Anyone who may think laura is heartless or selfish doesn’t understand what it’s like to be around someone going through addiction.
I agree. She's clearly got a great heart and is so loving toward him. He is toward her too. I hope they can get back together again now like they did then.
She is also in recovery. It's extremely important that she protects her sobriety by any means necessary
You both inspired me to take stock of my life and I've been sober for 38 days. I've been drinking for 20 years. Thank you for talking about addiction and helping me to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I will never meet you in person, but you have truly changed my life.
That's amazing! Keep fighting because you are worth it ❤️
Thanks for the nice replies. It feels good to not have to hide from the world.
Are you feeling better physically or is it atill quite rough? I don't really drink except on nights out which are rare so i wouldn't know. Buy i imagine 20 yrs of your body being used to alcohol did you go through horrible withdrawals? How long does the bad bit last? 38 days though that's an amazing starting point. You should be really proud of yourself xx
@@alicenmccaulay315 I feel better both emotionally and physically. I would say that my drinking was much more binging rather than drink daily, but the binges were getting closer and closer together.
That is absolutely incredible! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 I'm so glad you've started this path for a better you! Just goes to show it's never to late to change! Wishing you all the best as you continue to move forward. You've got this!
i once messaged you on instagram to tell you but very briefly ill put it here. you saved my life. your videos truly saved my life, ill always be grateful.
I lost my 28 year old son to drugs. He was a passenger in a car that was running from the police. Driver hit a tree, my son was ejected and subsequently ran over by the chasing cop. He was a good kid when he wasn't using and he said he wanted to get help but he never made the effort. He left behind a wife and 2 kids, one of who was 4 months old. She will never know her daddy except through pictures. Keep working your program, Stephen. Thank you both for sharing this deeply personal story and I hope it helps 1 person ❤❤
I am so very sorry. I know that doesn't help at all but honestly I wish you & his family so many blessings for the future. Please let his babies know even though they can't see him anymore, every time they think of him he will be right there with them always.
That's horrible. I hope you've been able to find some peace. Shit like that should never happen. My mom tells me everyday she is so happy I'm clean . I thought something like this would happen. 7 years later just had our first baby.
Thanks for sharing just reminded me how grateful I am.
I hope his story can help more people
So so so sorry got bless her.
🙏🏻🌈❤️❤️❤️
So sorry for your loss.
After many years of opiate addiction, I’ve been clean now for about 5 months...to God be all the praise, honor and glory. Without His help, I couldn’t have done it.
As an employee in the medical field, I am absolutely ashamed and appalled at how you both were treated at that first hospital. Addiction is normally triggered by bad choices, but it is a medical disease. Despite a lack of knowledge, that doctor should lose his license and be in jail for malpractice. Not just for the initial negligence, but again for having you drive with him in that state. You are both so inspiring, even to someone like me who hasn’t dealt with addiction personally. I’m truly so grateful that both of you made it through that together, you are amazing 💜💜
Agreed. Having her drive him in that state is mind blowing to me.
Is it always triggered by bad decisions?
I have alcoholism in my family, and people have described being addicted since their first drink. It didn’t spiral out if control right away, but the way it made them feel was too good for it not to eventually become a problem. The first drink was like a trigger, and after it was pulled, their brains changed to want more and more over time, in spite of their better judgment. I understand that’s pretty common…In that case, I wouldn’t consider it a result of bad decisions, as having that first drink isn’t such a bad decision for most people. Am I wrong?
@@susanelizabethbrown2506 Some people are more inclined to having addictive tendencies. It’s totally normal to have a drink. It’s also totally normal to notice that doing something makes you happy, and to keep doing that thing. Addiction is not the persons fault and it’s not a result of bad decisions. Lots of times it’s an escape from feeling things you don’t have the tools yet to cope with. So it’s when someone who naturally has addictive tendencies has an experience with something that’s addictive and maybe they’re not aware that they’re an addict and then they’re addicted to a substance. It could be a child who eats a lot of sugar for example. Is the child addicted to sugar because they made bad choices? No. Most kids eventually try sugar. The important thing is not to shame the person struggling with addiction because that will fuel their need to escape. ❤
Opening up yourself on YT take a huge amount of courage. You are both strong people and you can overcome this.
Its in her book
I’m one year sober today!
Great job! I’m proud of you 😊
Yes!!! Step by step.. One day at a time 🙏🙏🙏💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
You're doing amazing!!!
Woohooo,congratulations
Amazing!! ❤️❤️
All I can say is Thank You! My son is now sober 2 1/2 years. YEARS. I never thought he would have a day, or week, or longer. He Overdosed so many times and was saved so many times. The last time something changed. He got sober. I still worry as a Mom it's part of breathing. I was able to let go. Thank You so very much. Your morning prayer is wonderful. I am so Proud of both of you. Love to you both and your family !!!!!!!
We flew my husbands 29 year old brother’s cremated remains back to his mother in November. Congratulations on your sons sobriety. That is absolutely beautiful .
My ex husband was a recovering alcoholic who started abusing opiates when our son was 7. I took our son and left he chose the opiates. One of the hardest things I ever had to do for my mental health and for my son. Thank you for sharing you guys are stronger than you know and congrats for making it work for you both.
Similar, but my kiddo was 4
I was on heroin for ten years. I am now just shy of 14 years sober. Great fun for everyday. Well done thanks for sharing.
I am helping my dad get sober from alcohol and you two are an inspiration. He is 3 weeks sober now and I’m so proud of him
I've never understood so clearly, having no familiarity with this in my life personally, until now. Thank you for sharing your experience. And educating in the process. You're amazing. Both of you.
I love this...I'm just over 2 years sober again after my relapse. And in truly believe I needed that relapse to get me fully on my right path...I love you both so much
Oh my God.
Laura and Steven ❤️ u both are really two beautiful souls..God bless you both 😀
I did what you did Lara and he just couldn’t change and the thing is I lost him completely and he past away. But even though I look back at everything it was a blessing I came out of it on the other side, with more faith then I have ever had.
I love this. I love that you guys talk about addiction. I’m 26 years old 2 years in recovery from heroin, my boyfriend who is 43 years old just hit 9 years in recovery from alcohol. We have a age gap like you both, but having someone next to me that understands addiction and to have someone to go to meetings with and understands that I need a drug an alcohol counselor makes our relationship so strong. A lot of people don’t understand addiction and I honestly didn’t see all the red flags when I had overdosed at 15 years old and was pronounced dead because I never knew what addiction was. They never talked about it in schools, they only said stay away from drugs but never why? I honestly feel grateful that I am in recovery and that I was a drug addict who lived in the streets ate out of dumpsters because I truly believe that anyone in recovery sees life in a whole different light. We are more grateful for life, we have a strong bond with our higher power, and so much more that we have learned threw our journeys to recovery and threw the 12 steps.Those who have never struggled will never understand or appreciate the things like we do. I am grateful you both are here to tell your stories and to help others and Im also grateful that myself and my boyfriend are here to tell ours. Thank you!
My son’s dad is an addict and he chose his addiction over us. I couldn’t stay in the toxic situation for my safety and my son’s safety. I tried for about 5 years and he wouldn’t get clean. He threatened to kill me almost daily and I wasn’t sure if the threats would become real. My son asked me when he was 4 years old “ Why is my daddy a monster?” I knew I had to leave. My son is almost 13 years old now. Sadly he still won’t change.
Omg that's terrible 😢😢 I'm so sorry
I had to leave my abusive husband because for 1. Well, he was severely abusive to me. 2. He wasn't ready to get clean and I was and still am. If I hadn't of left him u would have ended up dead one way or another. Or both. I dont look back. I'm happy and I feel wonderful. I've been sober for 2 years 8 months and 27 days.
Congratulations Raven!
I was taking a scary, scary amount of Oxy’s (like 160mg 6-8 times a day) for nearly 20 years. I’ve been clean 3 years as of January 5th. Hardest thing I ever did, but the most worthwhile, for sure. For me and my son, who is turning 19 next month and is currently in university. Thanks for sharing your story.
I speak out against drugs because my husband was murdered over drugs.
I am so incredibly sorry your husband was taken from you in such a way! I can't imagine! I hope justice was served.
@@perfectlyimperfect2368 nope. The guy got off on all charges
"Help me to be of service in any way you see fit" He answered your prayers. You have a very strong message to share. Thank you!
My sister is in her late 20s and shes been an addict since she was like 14. I used to enable her because i didnt know what else to do honestly I just thought at least this way i still have her in my life and i can help her. which of course wasnt actually helping her. when i got pregnant with my daughter (who is 7 now) i thought my sister was finally getting through her addiction and i was having her over and my daughter bonded with her. When Ellie turned 3 that all changed. I remember my sister coming by one day drenched in sweat because shed ridden her bike from clear across town. had been riding for like 3 hours just to get to my house to ask for money. at this point id already started the process of keeping away from her and keeping her away from my child. I told her that day that i couldnt be around her anymore, that i loved her more then shed ever know but i couldnt have her being a roll model for my child. She said she wanted to change then not to long after she went to jail for drug possession and i visited her there i thought if she had someone who would support her that shed be ok when she got out. but i was so very wrong and i finally told her point blank that i just couldnt do it anymore. I've seen her around town a few times since then and my daughter still asks about her all the time. I miss her so very much but i know this is the best thing to do. I wish she would hit her rock bottom and see that light. and thank you for this. you are both such amazing people and i love hearing your stories and seeing your goofy videos!
My dad started his recovery when my parents split when I was 13. My sisters and I went to Alateen (Al Anon for ages 13-18) and it was such a great support. Thank you for sharing your stories and helping others!
This is just an honest conversation of everyday people, with real life issues. So many people resonate with this same scenario every moment of the day. Thank you for your raw openness.
Unfortunately not everyone wins the battle. Lost my dad almost 5 years ago to an overdose. Worst day of my life. He was only 44 years old. He never got to meet my son and daughter. He’ll never get to walk me down the isle. I still struggle with guilt because I couldn’t help him and wasn’t enough for him to get sober. I miss him everyday.
I'm so sorry 😞 That's so hard! 💔 I wish I had words to comfort you
It was NOT your fault, it is sad that it happened, but not your fault at all
This was so great to hear. My husband died five year’s ago from a overdose and I totally lost it. I hit rock bottom and just kept digging but eventually I realized I was going to die if I didn’t stop and I’ve been clean a few years now. I’ll always wish things could have been different but I’ve learned to accept all parts of my past and am very grateful for the blessed life I have now.
To be honest, depression and anxiety are extremely difficult to fight. I have cried a lot because no one understands me. I thought people just hate me with no reasons. My current job was disastrous. Mangers and bosses are harassed me because I am Deaf and disabled. I loved my job very much. They made excuses for cover up and lay me off. Forwarding, I cried because I felt as similar to Stephen. It is about to fight against depression and anxiety. I don't drink at all. I have thought to hurt myself. I went to the treatment centre like 8 years ago. After that, I went back home. I was scared. Now, I am still struggling and asking for help. I found my therapist this time. I am ready. Thank you so much for the video. I have learnt so much from you both. I truly am grateful for that.
Keep fighting. It's good you found a therapist. You aren't just your disabilities, you are a person who deserves respect. It might be a struggle but life is worth it.
This hits home so much, I dealt with my husband being an alcoholic before we ever got married. He would get very belligerent, falling all over the place, blaming me for his issues & just being very mean. It was so difficult for me loving someone who is an addict, at one point we separated for 6 months due to a domestic situation where he blacked eye & I had a hand print on my neck. It really hurt me being apart from him, he's quit drinking and doing everything else he had been using for a whole year. He picked up cannabis again but has been sober for 5yrs, he uses cannabis for PTSD & anxiety which helps him stay sober. I try to not be a point of stress for him, sometimes it's really hard because I have flashbacks of the past. Sometimes I wonder if he really loves me, I remind him to breathe now when he gets stressed out & remind him that certain things aren't worth getting so worked up about it. I'm glad he's sober, I love him so much & I've never met anyone that gets me like he does. He's such a big softie, strong, stubborn, sweet, loving, irritating pain in my ass but I wouldn't have him any other way. I've been introduced to new things with him & have grown a spine to defend myself from things that don't make me happy. My dad is still not happy that we are married & my mom is wary of him but they support us being married. We celebrate our 1yr anniversary 03-14-2021... I can't wait to tell him happy anniversary and happy birthday just a day apart. I joke now that I'm the best birthday gift he ever had 😂😂😊😊.
I watched this and threw away the alcohol i had i wanna get sober
Pray for u
Proud of you!
You've got this!! I believe in you!
It's not easy but you've got a virtual family rooting for your success❤️
Reach out for help! Don’t try to take it all on by yourself!
I totally get having to “walk away” and not making their problem yours but I think it’s even harder when it’s your child that’s the addict. Too many parents just can’t do it. I’ve seen this struggle but I’m blessed to not have had to deal with this personally. Thanks for being real and I’m so glad you two worked through it. Much love.
Everyone in this life deserves to find their Laura or their Steven. I’d only ever seen their comedy before this and thought they were the perfect couple, now I understand that they are the perfectly imperfect couple which is so much better. This raw honesty in this video is amazing.
“He probably won’t”, my God. How is our system so broken?
It's heartbreaking to think how many people have been harmed by doctors who allow their personal prejudice to dictate patient care.
I'm not an addict but my father was your videos get me through the day and keep me from cracking a bottle open and drowning my sorrows like my old man
It’s good that you had the clarity to look after yourself and separate yourself from the situation. Some people don’t have the strength to walk away!! It’s great that you have come through this together and going strength to strength xx
You all telling your story is going to help so many! I appreciate your candor and honesty!
THIS IS THE KINDA TALKING WE NEED TO PUSH FOR. AND ALWAYS KNOW HUGS, HAND HOLDS, BACKRUBS, A SMILE OR A KLEENEX IS ALWAY JUST A CALL AWAY💙💙💙💙💙
I would love to be able to say that I was clean but after watching this I am putting down the pills and I am going to get clean. Thank you for sharing ❤️
As someone whose husband is an alcoholic and tryin to get sober .....this means a lot
I'm a recovering addict from opiates almost 3 years. I'm in complete tears right now esp. At 15 minutes into your video. 😭
Stay strong and keep fighting Deb! ❤️ The world needs you. You are amazing
@@AllTheButtons87 thank you that is so sweet. Im actually struggling right now too, but determined not to relapse. Just told my therapist if we could go twice a week..lol . Your comment touched me and I truly mean that from the bottom of my heart ❤ you have a kind soul
Thanks for sharing your journey's.
I have been lucky to not deal directly with addiction, but you have opened up my eyes to the disease. You are helping so many people with sharing these things on UA-cam, in your book, and on social media. It's so admirable. And the perspectives you bring along with the mindset are universally helpful too. I agree that humility and giving are so important. I'm not even an addict or related to one (that I know of) and you are changing my life. Thank you for all that you do 💗
And your story brought me to tears like a good movie would. 🥲
Thank you Laura, thank you. I have been dealing with separation from my husband and could not pull through. Felt my life was over. I was laying in my bed, decided to put this video on as background noise. Thinking my world was falling apart. And u said the words that immediately changed my spirit as if God was speaking through you. "Stop making it about me" "I am exactly where I need to be" "trust" "surrender" "accept" I hope this is the boost I need to get through it. Thank you
I can only imagine how it feels to talk about such a dark time in your past. I could see it in your faces. But what light it brought to your lives after all of the hard work you both put in. You both are an inspiration to everyone having a hard time. I remember reading this part in your book! Such a great book.
Thank you for always being open and sharing your story. It helps to lessen the shame. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
strangely everything i needed to hear tonight... obsessing over addiction and helping my partner this last year.. he died in october to drugs/suicide.. our son was born 2 month after, he is 1,5 month now.. things is clearer. Our son is named Syd Alfie btw i call him Alfie.. been watching you for a long time thoigh your relationship were something like were we were headed.. anyway screaming bby on my arm and time to sleep here, much love 2 u guys
Addiction is terrible…just no words for how you were treated! That’s why people a lot of times don’t get help..because of the treatment and shame!
I'm a recovering addict and I honestly loved everything you had to say. You cannot force an addict to get clean if they arent ready, they have to hit their bottom or nothing will ever change. So happy to hear your story, take it one day at a time that is all you can do. ❤
Man if only my mom can get off the stuff, I really wouldn't want to pick my phone to hear my mom went to a early grave..
I lived that and I hope it doesn't happen to you love
I hear you... my mom used basically all her life and just passed july 12th 2020 she was only 56 🥺 she was at her rock bottom and just couldn't get out of it. Its so sad. Addiction is so hard. I'm clean 5 years! Its been a long and hard road but im happy to be here and just take it 1 day at a time! Thoughts and prayers for you and your mom 💗
@@jordyn87 I’m so sorry girl ! My heart hurts for you
I’m on my husbands UA-cam channel but I wish this had been posted back in December :( Maybe my uncle would still be here if I knew how to help him. I miss him everyday
I'm so sorry for your loss. 💜
I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how you feel my partner took his own life in Oct 2020. Its the most horrendous pain you could ever feel. I hope you can stay strong ❤️❤️❤️
I am sooooo sorry for your loss. Forgive yourself my love. You did all that you could.
praying for you!
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you xx
Nar’anon is amazing! When my friend had his brother who was addicted to heroin living with him, I brought him to those meetings. He wouldn’t listen to me about how to handle his brother, so I brought him to those meetings hoping he would see it more hearing from others not just me. They helped him a lot. Really great people there. We learned of other similar organizations and went to those meetings too. Amazing!
I’m reading a book about this called codependent no more and how to recover for yourself while living w a addict and it’s just really eye opening in a codependents perspective being the addict in the relationship.
It’s really powerful and this video relates to my book. Really eye opening
I cried so much. That is so hard to go through that and on top of the help and all the sobering up. I am glad to known that y’all are better and y’all still stuck with each other!💙✝️🙏🏼
I'm going through something right now, loving an addict. My dear friend sent me this video and it truly brought so much peace, comfort and serenity to my soul. To remind me that I can let go, trust, and have faith that whatever happens now is what is meant to happen for me.
This is one of the best, most genuine, most needed videos I’ve watched in a long time. Thank you so much for sharing yours and your husbands story. You are both amazing and a testament of faith, courage and love. God bless xx
Thank you for sharing this. I appreciate you both. And Laura you were one of the only constant, stable figures in Stephen’s life that remained by his side, even if you were separated. He knew he had your love which kept him going aside from his will to live a full life, I am sure, even if he didn’t say that.
I was reminded today about my own rock bottom and to keep going, thanks to you both. Best wishes to you both and your children.
Thank you so very much for sharing your story! I had to make the tough decision to walk away from my dad, because he wasn't able/willing to get sober. I can't even begin to describe the feelings I had and the hateful comments I would get from some of his friends and family. I had to take care of myself because I was an adult and didn't have to live with his drinking anymore. Unfortunately, in the beginning, this meant that he was homeless. He stayed at a shelter for several months until he decided it was time. He found an amazing program, ARC Addiction Recovery Center, and went to all of the meetings and asked me to go to the family group several times before I finally decided that I was in a place where forgiveness was possible. That was the absolute best thing I've ever done. He did move in with me and my roommates for a few months before he ended up passing away. Those were the best months I can remember, I had my dad back. He died from cirrhosis of the liver and Hep C, he was only 46 and not very long before that he passed his one year mark. His coin is one of my most prized possessions. Thank you again for being vulnerable enough and strong enough to share.
36:17 Reminded me of two passages, 1."Do not busy yourselves in your own concerns; let your thoughts be fixed upon that which will rehabilitate the fortunes of mankind and sanctify the hearts and souls of men."
2."Happiness consists of two kinds; physical and spiritual. The physical happiness is limited...Spiritual happiness is eternal and unfathomable."
Uncontrolled tears flowing. You have made me laugh thru so many low days. Today you make me cry. Thank you sooooo much for being authentic!!!!! I love both of you and love watching your beautiful family!
So much wisdom in this video! I feel like I need to watch a few time and make notes for my wall to read every morning! Thank you!
I can't like this video enough. My life is the story you told. Love you for telling us, your story. I have been married for almost 30 years and 3 kids, you told my story and I am thankful💗
I’ve never heard the recovery process explained like this. I’ve never understood how practical AlAnon is. I haven't struggled with drugs or alcohol, but that surrender and commitment to change is so relevant to so many areas of my life. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have watched your channel for about 2 yrs now. I have laughed, cried, been grossed out while lol.
I love how you do life in front of us!! I thank you for both of you being so real & vulnerable to us who are mostly perfect strangers. Thank you!!
This for me was your best video I have watched. No I have not watched all of them. But many. Sharing this with people was a huge blessing for us on the receiving end. I don’t have a spouse who had any addictions or immediate family who does. But I know without a doubt I will not forget what I learned here & I know this video will help many in need to know how to deal with this type of situation that many deal with in life. Your words were full of wisdom love & support. Thank you for sharing from your hearts once again. I pray you both stay close to God as he will give you direction & strength in your daily lives. What you also said about not being focused on self, but service is huge in bringing joy to our lives. But of course you were right in the priorities you set for sobriety!! We are no good to others if we are not well ourselves. God Bless You both!!
I’m not a spiritual person but it’s amazing that even though she already had an exit plan it seems like she stayed right until he needed him (the night he quick and went to the ER). Imagine if he had been alone? The timing of everything was very lucky.
My heart is so full watching this
So proud of you both. I’m studying to be a doctor and hearing your journeys is such a potent reminder we 100% can never assume to understand and judge or make assumptions… it’s just patience and focus and commitment and support in autonomy and capability along with self care..
My father lost his life through an accident, he felt down the stairs. He was drunk.
My mother lost ten years later her life through inner bleedings, because of alcohol.
Both were addicted to alcohol.
I wished they would see grow their grandchildren.
It was not an easy childhood
*hugs * you can turn the pain and loss into how not to be to your own kids and know even when you feel like your not the best that you're not putting them through what you went through. We all have our demons some are just impossible to overcome nomatter what or who you have. But remembering how you feel without helps to hold on. Best wishes
Thank you for sharing! NO ONE is immune to addiction! And relapse is an important part of recovery! You have such a supportive and loving relationship.
I don't understand how anyone can give you two thumbs down.😡 You both poured you heart and soul into opening up and in turn will help others❤️ thanks guys!
Anyone else sobbing through this whole thing? I have no one in my life who is battling addiction like this, but you would have to have a heart of stone to not be moved by this story. Amazing to hear both sides of your story, how you worked together and independently to find health and healing. What a story to share -- can you even fathom the impact you are making on people? I love that. Bless you both for sharing such a personal journey with us all. Greatly appreciate the work you do.
Wish I had this video when going through a relationship with an alcoholic a few years ago. BEAUTIFULLY made!! ❤️❤️❤️ joined some AlAnon groups on Reddit which helped me immensely. Gaining your own confidence and establishing your own worth changed my life. Fast forward years later and we weren’t meant to be. But I am happier and at peace with his path and my path to recovery. Happily married with a kid on the way and SO grateful to AlAnon which saved my life! 💕
I also went to Tarzana treatment centers quite a few times in detox and lived in Residential a total of two years with 3 stays. I went on to work there!! So happy that you two are sharing your experience strength and hope!! Blessings!
You guys are inspirational! I have alcoholism and addiction in my family and I withdrawn from drinking alcohol and taking addictive medication.
Yes, I drink one vodka lemonade once a year if I feel like it or i'm somewhere they don't serve non-alcoholic drinks after 8 pm.
As a 15 year old I started drinking a beer every Thursday and I saw how dark my mind became after each Thursday and then as I was returning from school and I was revising for my English exams the air blew my papers in the middle of the road and I was picking them up and I really thought;
"I wish a car run me over! I want to die!"
A thought I haven't thought since I was 13 years old and then I'm almost run over by a bus!
In that moment I knew I had to stop going out on Thursdays and drinking alcohol because I would become my uncle and grandpa if I didn't. I lost my friend because I was "too boring" and I disappointed my family by not joining the family tradition of drinking and making or help make wine and Ouzo.
But now at 21 I couldn't be prouder of my choice! I control when and if I drink and only at home where I know that i have one beer or a small bottle of Vodka or something. It's very freeing. I do miss on the opportunity to experience getting drunk but I prefer missing out than being a drunk.
Omg you two are the cutest 🥰 I just came across this video , I’m almost 30 months sober my husband isn’t an addict at all and when you “ Laura “ said “hopefully he will see threw me how living sober is good,and hopefully he will stop“ .... after years of seeing my husband sober and me waking up sick everyday I hit my bottom my wanted to see what he was seeing now I do and it’s awesome I always loved my husband but I truly fall in love with him everyday !!! I already know I’ll be watching your videos daily .... much love Juliette 🙏💕
This is such a beautiful story of true love and overcoming the difficult things we sometimes have to. All the while trusting in your higher power ;whatever that is for you. And coming out the other side stronger and smarter then you began. Thank you for this beautiful love story. 💕
What a powerful video!❤ My husband did the bravest thing 14 months ago and told I had a drinking problem and I needed to get help. I am incredibly grateful...he saved my life. He has supported me on my recovery journey through AA. Thank you for sharing your story.
We’ve had an addict come back into our life after initiating adoption by my husband of our daughter after 8 years of having to deal with the addict and this video could not have come at a better time on my feed. Thank you for sharing!
Just found you and so happy that I have. That story was raw, honest and so informative. I love how in the end Laura, you mention that just because your family member continues to use, it does not mean your life is over! That one hit deeply! Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. So many things you shared resonated so deeply with me. My daughter is now seven years sober, but her boyfriend is still in his addiction. Trusting and praying is crucial;; accepting is tremendously difficult, but possible. It’s not a one-off, but a daily decision. Thank you so much for sharing this!
That walk through the storm and rain is very symbolic.
Thank you for sharing this. It’s a beautiful but hard love story. One that’s not glamorous but it’s your own and it’s beautiful in its own way. That’s how I feel about my husband and I. We both battled severe opiate addictions to pain pills and we’ve been through it all together! From using together, his away in prison for almost 2yrs to both of us getting sober on our own while he was gone and staying together when he got home to starting a family and getting married. We beat the odds just like you guys did. We just celebrated 12yrs together and clean for 8 and a half almost for me and him 10yrs. Our love story is nothing glamorous but again beautiful on its own way and it’s our story and it’s made our bond the strongest ever!
This has really touched me. I wrote your daily prayer down because I feel like that could help me daily as well. I got clean December 21st 2019 so I am just about 18 months clean. I overdosed and died with my 3 week daughter at home with me alone. Her dad, brother and grandparents were out Christmas shopping and I was on a facetime call with my 13 year old son and when he noticed I became unresponsive he hung up and immediately called my boyfriend and told him something happened with me, please get home ASAP! He found me completely unresponsive, not breathing... in a seated position on the couch with my head completely on the floor at my feet. I was folded in half. He drug me to the ground and by the grace of God there was already a police officer at the top of the road looking for someone else. He came and administered 2 things of Narcan and I still was not coming to. He radioed for another officer with more Narcan and another officer showed up almost immediately and administered another one and I finally took a breath but wasn't responsive still. The officer that had given me the first 2 was giving me CPR. My boyfriend said he was pushing so hard on me that every time he pushed down my feet and legs jumped up. I finally came to and couldn't remember where I was, what my birthday was or who the president was for a bit. I finally came to all the way and they had an ambulance take me to the ER to monitor me to make sure I didn't go back out once the Narcan wore off because I had shot enough heroin to kill several grown men!! I had already had an open DCF case with my children for delivering my daughter born addicted to drugs and continuing to fail drug screens. They kicked me out of my house that night when I got back from the ER. My mom and stepdad had drove down from Alabama (3 hours) as soon as my boyfriend had called my mom and told her that I had overdosed and they were trying to bring me back. They got there as soon as I was released from the ER. So we had to stay at a hotel that night and drive back to Alabama together the next day. DCF allowed me to go inside my home to get some clothes and personal belongings and say bye to my children. My then 2 year old was sleeping (he is about to turn 4 June 11th) and my daughter was awake. I cried my eyes out as soon as I kissed them both goodbye because I had no idea what was going to happen and when I would get them back. IF I got them back! I stayed with my mom for 2-3 months in Alabama driving down to visit with my children at the DCF office once a week until my boyfriends parents had to return home to Mississippi and they had to take my children with them because my boyfriend worked. I was they're main caretaker. He couldn't do it by himself and work. So I was finally able to move back home because they weren't in the home. I dove into Narcotics Anonymous. I began working the 12 steps. I got a wonderful sponsor. I worked my ass off on my case plan and passed every drug test they gave me. I got custody of my children back after being separated from them for 10 1/2 months. The case officially closed April 29th 2021. The judge congratulated me and said he doesn't get to do that often. My guardian ad litem is a saved contact in my phone and I send her updated pictures of the kids regularly because she is a blessing that I got the pleasure of meeting to both me and my kids and she says that I am her poster mom. She hopes every mother with any addiction can come out of it and be an even better mother as I have. She has and always had so much faith in me, even when I didn't. I celebrate a year and a half clean & sober on June 21st 2021 and will be getting my grey 18 month key tag from my sponsor. There is so much that I look back on and I'm like holy shit... I did that? I went through that? I said that? I caused that? But like you said, you have to let that shit go! You have to forgive yourself and move forward. Making myself feel bad for all the things I've done is only gonna make me resentful towards myself and make me feel like I'm not worthy of recovery and I AM, damn it! I busted my ass to get to where I am today and I still have a long road to go! I stay clean one day at a time and that's okay with me! I watch ALL of your videos and this one is my favorite. I haven't ever commented on any of your stuff but I just felt like I had to tell my story on this one. Even if you or Steven never read it... it felt good to get out. I am so happy that the two of you have gotten through your addictions and are clean & sober today. I'm so glad I have you to watch on social media too because you make me smile and laugh on the hard days. I've also recently ordered your book off of Amazon and girl... PLEASE come on with that second book! I finished your book in just a few short days. I couldn't put it down!! I turned it over to my friend whom shares a daughter with my boyfriend. She is 4 years clean. I love your story. I love you! I love you also Steven :)
I feel like we are now best friends! What an amazing story. I'm so happy for and proud of you. I love that you are friends with your boyfriends babies Mom. I love you. I think you are just amazing. Phenomenal. I'll have you in my thoughts and prayers and I honestly hope you'll have me in yours. My name is Renee, I live in Massachusetts and I have 2 and a half hours sober. ❤️
I'm currently dealing with loving an addict and it was a blessing that this video came on my home page 💖 thank you SO MUCH for sharing this.
Laura I just flipped when you said DG. I grew up in Downers Grove. That's home and I miss it. I loved my life and my friends there. I'm 61 and live in Missouri now. There's not a day that passes that I don'tthank God for my life there. It was the best!
These lessons apply to more than just addiction. I needed to hear them.
I completely agree!
Thank you for sharing your journey. It's beautiful. I had to let go of my ex husband. I got sober and he didn't. I am sober 9+ yrs and he is not. I now have a beautiful man who loves me and accepts me and my past and knows I always hold myself accountable for my own actions and we both have such huge faith in something greater than ourselves. Life is good.
Thanks guys.. much love from sudbury Ontario Canada 🇨🇦❤
I enjoy your comedy skits, but sometimes these more serious and down to earth conversations are my favorite of yours. Thanks for sharing.
Love these videos! Hubby & I have been together 15yrs & married 12yrs. We're recovering addicts w/5yrs sobriety. We were addicts together for 10years. We got sober as soon as we became parents. Our family together ment more then our addiction, which @ the time was all we knew.
I needed this..it feels good to know were only human..we fall..but we also get right back up..working on my 4th year of sobriety!!
Always good to hear you talk Alanon! "Remove my fear and replace it with faith" I love it!!
I may not know anyone who is battling addiction, but the part about faith Laura talked about was eye opening for me. I am in a stage of depression where I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel stuck and there is no way out. No that doesn't mean I am suicidal, but I don't know where to turn. I learned that I need to accept what I cannot control. I am excited to talk with a therapist and get my life where it needs to go. Thank you both for being vulnerable and helping other people in the process.
Thank you guys for having the courage to share this story with people. There were many things I needed to hear in this one.
I love hearing your testament, living with sobriety, growing a family. Truly wonderful to watch.
I don't know who either of you are, I'm not an addict and I don't have an addict in my life but this video was recommended and I just felt curious... so I watched it all the way through and let me tell you, I've always had compassion for those struggling with addiction... but this video taught me a lot and if I found it to be valuable to me... even though I'm not an addict or know an addict, I can't even begin to imagine how helpful and hopeful it would be for someone who is an addict or knows an addict... so thank you for sharing this deeply personal and deeply moving account.
This should be the real definition of "Nothing is impossible"
God bless you all❤
This was just so refreshing and real and I loved it. Thank you for sharing. There is so much focus on the addict(as there should be), but hearing how the people who love the addict can cope and manage is so very important too! God bless you and your family.
I wish Facebook had an award show--THIS would win....Hearfelt....Authentic
Oh, how amazing. This will help so many. I plan to share with my son who lost his husband from multi organ failure due to alcoholism 4 months ago. He was only 30 years old and so very loved by so many. None of us knew how bad off that he was. I think that even though his beloved spouse has passed from his addiction, that my son can still benefit from your words. Thank you for your words and desire to help others. You two have truly made a difference in this life.
This was the speaker meeting I needed tonight! I'm going through some stuff and I needed that reminding to be of service and to have faith and keep the serenity prayer in mind. We hear what we need to hear when we need it. God is amazing.
8 years clean and this journey never ends. U guys are awesome
This was amazing to hear. My husband is 2 years sober and I had so many plans on my head to leave and it hurt so bad but he made the decision to get help. Thank you for sharing!